"People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own souls. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious." ~Carl Jung Nothing worse than a lie we tell ourselves. As long as an individual cannot step into that pain, nothing will change for the better.
I agree completely! My ex husband cheated so many people said I should do it back but I'm not that person and didn't want to become that person. He did it more than once and we divorced in the end but that's on him and I didn't have to lower myself to his level.
NO ! As a woman i can tell you it's a low self esteem often caused by men in the past breaking her heart. It's a need for love/attention and validation. However, if a woman has a man who shows up for her, shows her his love, at least for me, no need to do it.
@@aries84151 but when a man shows you his love and attention, you get bored and lose attraction for him and eventually cheat the same. So as you can see, it's always a lose lose situation.
It will take time to create a safe space for her to tell the truth without you, screaming or yelling at her. Even if you don't want to be with her anymore, please make her feel comfortable enough to tell you without you flipping out.
@@Blueivy2345 So I need to make HER comfortable enough, for speaking about her doing the bitch on socials? And what about me? Did she by any chance think about making me comfortable, when she posted her ass all over the internet? It's crazy, I swear, crazyy.
I'm in my second and final marriage and I'm not on social media at all now because I'm secure with him and his approval is enough. This is a huge change from my behavior on social media during my first (unhappy) marriage.
When I'm finally in a happy and loving relationship I realized I never liked showing or posting any pictures in my social media anymore especially my man never uses social media so there's no reason I'll post so he can see it.ill just send directly to him😂
Were living in a weird world all these women with thousands of photos of themsleves selfies nudes bikini shots allsorts on social media its crazy ...imagine meetin a woman amd going in her house n she had hundreds or thousands of pictures of herself u would think she is crazy!!! But some how its all ok n normal on a social platform....the world has gone mad...ppls egos are huge and looks are all ppl are bothered with...never mind havin a good heart and soul n spirit its mostly pure validation its sad and its annoying ....looks dont last forever personality and good heart do...if only ppl realised this instead of been so self obsessed
I have heard is the equivalent of sex to men so it’s pretty strong. In the past girls used to give sex to recieve male attention and now they just get attention for free
If u are in a relationship & posting half nude pictures online. Imo, that is extremely disrespectful to him. Or even posting half nude selfies in general shows a lack of self-esteem. I have posted pictures of myself in my bathing suit. However, I was most likely at the beach, etc. Not just lounging around my home. I definitely agree with her.
@@jeanannedupratt7075 So rather than communicate her needs. shed rather sexually market herself in social media? if she doesn't want to be with him anymore why stay and disrespect him when she can just leave?
Try changing your tone and prefix the question with a softner so it doesn't sound accusational or judgemental. In other words they know they are doing something wrong and will be defensive, so try preempt that
If a woman is looking for constant attention or validation from people she doesn’t even know then there’s a problem with her. Healthy individuals don’t need others constantly to be happy.
If u r married or u r in a committed relationship both must understand follow that the attention is just between you n him. Don’t mix the internet it can cause chaos
Whats sad is that if you ask men or women this, they assume you're just jealous. Doesn't matter what the psychological reasoning is behind it. Gym rats take pictures of themselves all the time to show their progress and you won't get any of them to think that's a problem even though they are half naked in those pictures as well.
Social validation is a normal part of people’s lives now due to social media. It’s not just posting bikini pics, it’s posting about everything in their lives and both men and women are doing this. I know couples who cheat on each other but are constantly posting happy couple pics on social media and it is for social validation. Social validation is more important to people now.
What is a relationship without trust? Without it, it would just be what it'll be. Respect is something earnt through your actions a decision. Shouldn't doubt your connections. Hard as it maybe the truth shall set you free.
I was honest when an old boyfriend asked me the question "You hurt me and I am hurting you." the next day I broke off the relationship. I was 19 and dumb
Being beautiful is hard enough on a guy. And you just want to make it harder? Are you nuts? When you're in love with a beautiful woman It's hard When you're in love with a beautiful woman You know it's hard (it's hard, you know it gets so hard) Everybody wants her, everybody loves her Everybody wants to take your baby home When you're in love with a beautiful woman You watch your friends (You watch your friends, you better watch your friends) When you're in love with a beautiful woman It never ends (it never ends, you know it never ends) You know that it's crazy, you wanna trust her Then somebody hangs up when you answer the phone When you're in love with a beautiful woman You go it alone Maybe it's just an ego problem Problem is I've been fooled before By fair-weather friends and faint hearted lovers And every time it happens, it just convinces me more When you're in love with a beautiful woman You watch her eyes (watch her eyes, baby, watch her eyes) When you're in love with a beautiful woman You look for lies (keep lookin' for lies, baby, look for lies) Everybody tempts her, everybody tells her She's the most beautiful woman they know When you're in love with a beautiful woman You go it alone When you're in love with a beautiful woman You watch your friends (you watch your friends) (You better watch your friends, you better look out) When you're in love with a beautiful woman Oh, it never ends (it never ends, you know it never ends) When you're in love with a beautiful woman You watch her eyes (watch her eyes, baby, watch her eyes) (You better watch her eyes) When you're in love with a beautiful woman Keep lookin' for lies (keep lookin' for lies, keep lookin' for lies) When you're in love with a beautiful woman...
Most of Instagram and other social media seems to be people seeking validation (hits, likes, comments). Artists and photographers do it all the time. We don't have a conversation or sale (like in an exhibition). Does this "validation" signal insecurity, immaturity? And why do we need it? Cus, it certainly wastes a lot of time when we could be living life.
And what’s so wrong about looking sexy on the internet? lol who cares .. it’s nice when ur partner loves seeing u out there and loves showing u off to everyone !!
oh ma real issue huh.. Ambition requires a lot of energy, and while it can lead to material success, it may come at the cost of personal fulfillment. This is especially true when ambition operates at a lower frequency or less focused purpose, resulting in an imbalance between quality and quantity.
This is a very good video. When your man decides to take a 3rd wife just ask him, what makes you want to do that? What are your motives? And after learning his reason think about whether this is a deal breaker
They will know already where your going and lie. Women wonder why they get treated so badly. And it's because they don't respect honesty. They manipulate constantly. And when you see all that. You by pass paying attention to them. And then they get mad. But all you see is a manipulator and a liar and it's hard to respect someone who is a bad person like that
For me, i was always judged on my size, that id never look good in a bikini, so i bought myself a bikini and i love wearing it, helps me feel safe and free So its not for anyone, its for myself I want to feel pretty and share that beautiful energy of confidence out in the world that if you feel awesome and pretty dont be afraid to show off that love you have for yourself If a man or anyone gets offended for a woman trying to find peace within herself and feel great, then their opinion should not matter You can not give a partner that much power over you on how to look thats controlling behavior, if my partner doesn't like my dress or swimsuit then he ain't the right partner A good partner would be like" yea thats my girlfriend ^^" and actually be proud of her ❤️
The same thing that motivates you "lady" to pose for every word you speak. this woman is so aware of her own position in space she is doing everything she can to maximize her pose.
Everyone has need for social validation. Whats weird is dating someone who posts bikini pictures and coming to disturb their peace with faux philosophies
So men just ask them - "Are you advertising yourself for better opportunities showing your body? Do you have a attention addiction and need therapy?"....by the way the answer to both are YES 90% of the time.
Certainly I would Love to ask many things, in getting to know who she is. If I could certainly know that it is who I am communicating with. On the grounds that she should feel comfortable in sharing with me her mindset and being comfortable to be completely herself in all aspects. I wouldn't need to look for my other half thinking being in a relationship would make us one whole. She should be herself and should there be something that I don't agree with, certainly we should be able to come to an agreement or be willing to compromise. Which shouldn't be a problem for the person that you fall in love with.. All this being said I really do hope that the right person would read this. As it is directed towards one person in particular. Should she still want to proceed towards what it originated from. If not I would think that some form of decency would persuade her to be honest with me. That in itself would clear up all issues that have been overly negatively focused upon out of this experience and perhaps through algorithm or intent apeard on different platforms.... My apologies for ranting perhaps. 😬
Imagine it's a dealbreaker for you that your woman wants to post bikini pictures ... she is a free human being and is allowed to post almost whatever she wants if she doesn't disturb others ... On the other hand I also would be happy to see, that my shaped body is found attractive by other women, it doesn't mean that I will start something with them ... let's chill more people
Women want to be desired by all men while having the loyalty and security of one man.
Proverbs 31:10 (NKJV)
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies
She wants to feel like his only option while he is just an option. Shes non commital
Please don't put all women in that bubble. I have been married for 22 years and would never behave in this manner.❤
Bro facts 💯 👏🏾
@@amyshomesteadanimalswell then, she’s not talking about you. You are a virtuous woman! 😊
They will lie about it. People that do this will lie because they want to justify it.
Then you have your answer
It's insane
"People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own souls. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious." ~Carl Jung
Nothing worse than a lie we tell ourselves. As long as an individual cannot step into that pain, nothing will change for the better.
Then that’s your deal breaker. She said it in the video. Don’t justify your wrong judgements bro. Everything you need to know is in this video.
Pick women who behave in ways you respect
Good luck. Pray for reincarnation
@@johnathanabrams8434 🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾
Attention is their oxygen
Validation is their currency
Accountability is their Kryptonite
Ohhh shit , this needs a million likes 😂
Deep!!!
Red pill sentiments! Women are not monolithic.
Never let yourself be blinded by beauty. Keep your eyes open to actions, not words.
_Your faithfulness to the man you're dating isn't favour to him,But an integrity to yourself as a woman🤵👰
I agree completely! My ex husband cheated so many people said I should do it back but I'm not that person and didn't want to become that person. He did it more than once and we divorced in the end but that's on him and I didn't have to lower myself to his level.
The answer is AWAYS... You are NOT her first choice.
No one is
Her first choice is her childhood celebrity crush after that? No one stands a chance
NO ! As a woman i can tell you it's a low self esteem often caused by men in the past breaking her heart. It's a need for love/attention and validation. However, if a woman has a man who shows up for her, shows her his love, at least for me, no need to do it.
@@aries84151 but when a man shows you his love and attention, you get bored and lose attraction for him and eventually cheat the same. So as you can see, it's always a lose lose situation.
@@aries84151it's not the job of gooden to fix the issues losers caused. If you would not date the losers in the first place would be no problem
This lady is the only sensible female I’ve ever heard speak & im 55👏
If you cannot validate your own self, no amount of outside validation will suffice.
I love how you explains everything in details ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
She really think they will tell the truth🤣
She will
Ifykyk
It will take time to create a safe space for her to tell the truth without you, screaming or yelling at her. Even if you don't want to be with her anymore, please make her feel comfortable enough to tell you without you flipping out.
@@Blueivy2345 So I need to make HER comfortable enough, for speaking about her doing the bitch on socials? And what about me? Did she by any chance think about making me comfortable, when she posted her ass all over the internet? It's crazy, I swear, crazyy.
If you are with a woman that doesn't tell you the truth then you are a loser
Well put and excellently articulated
It IS a deal breaker ..
Thank u...
Pre cheating
Most like post cheating lmao 🤣☠️🗿
I love this woman 🥂
Proverbs 31:10 (NKJV)
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies
I'm in my second and final marriage and I'm not on social media at all now because I'm secure with him and his approval is enough. This is a huge change from my behavior on social media during my first (unhappy) marriage.
Not every has this mentality, some really needs to be taught and enlighten about some things
When I'm finally in a happy and loving relationship I realized I never liked showing or posting any pictures in my social media anymore especially my man never uses social media so there's no reason I'll post so he can see it.ill just send directly to him😂
Were living in a weird world all these women with thousands of photos of themsleves selfies nudes bikini shots allsorts on social media its crazy ...imagine meetin a woman amd going in her house n she had hundreds or thousands of pictures of herself u would think she is crazy!!! But some how its all ok n normal on a social platform....the world has gone mad...ppls egos are huge and looks are all ppl are bothered with...never mind havin a good heart and soul n spirit its mostly pure validation its sad and its annoying ....looks dont last forever personality and good heart do...if only ppl realised this instead of been so self obsessed
Attention is a hell of a drug
I have heard is the equivalent of sex to men so it’s pretty strong. In the past girls used to give sex to recieve male attention and now they just get attention for free
If u are in a relationship & posting half nude pictures online. Imo, that is extremely disrespectful to him. Or even posting half nude selfies in general shows a lack of self-esteem. I have posted pictures of myself in my bathing suit. However, I was most likely at the beach, etc. Not just lounging around my home. I definitely agree with her.
😂😂
@@feboptopt What's so funny. Lol. ♤♤♤
There is levels to it, even posting pictures of you at the beach is not ok, even being almost naked at the beach is not ok
@@amandalidey329 that you should think it was disrespectful to HIM, ha, ha. When probably HER needs were not being met.
@@jeanannedupratt7075 So rather than communicate her needs. shed rather sexually market herself in social media? if she doesn't want to be with him anymore why stay and disrespect him when she can just leave?
Whenever i question a woman on anything on any level they instantly get pissed off
Cool
Then you have your answer
thats an answer on its own isnt it?
That’s deflection and means you’re right about the question in my experience
Try changing your tone and prefix the question with a softner so it doesn't sound accusational or judgemental. In other words they know they are doing something wrong and will be defensive, so try preempt that
Most females see this as toxic masculinity instead of boundaries.
If a woman is looking for constant attention or validation from people she doesn’t even know then there’s a problem with her.
Healthy individuals don’t need others constantly to be happy.
I'm 54 I think this women is fabulous.. she is spot on...
If u r married or u r in a committed relationship both must understand follow that the attention is just between you n him. Don’t mix the internet it can cause chaos
She is superb great
It's low self-esteem and you really should want somebody who has high self-esteem. So it's up to you if you tolerate that.
Not easy to stop them
I really love how and what you explain...Brains and Beauty❤❤❤
Run if she is posting or has IG don’t try to figure out what she is doing just run….
Absolutely a deal breaker for me
Be prepared to walk away
Ur so grt... Ur into my head coz whatever u say touch my heart n soul. U say so straight and direct... Real politic
Codependency, low self-worth - this is very it often comes from. Even narcissism too.
Vanity. But we are all guilty of this, men first.
Whats sad is that if you ask men or women this, they assume you're just jealous. Doesn't matter what the psychological reasoning is behind it. Gym rats take pictures of themselves all the time to show their progress and you won't get any of them to think that's a problem even though they are half naked in those pictures as well.
The worst part is when a woman starts doing this after 12 years of marriage and you have kids.
Supply and demand. If there was no demand the supply slows then stops. Men want to be leaders but not examples, stop the simping.
Social validation is a normal part of people’s lives now due to social media. It’s not just posting bikini pics, it’s posting about everything in their lives and both men and women are doing this. I know couples who cheat on each other but are constantly posting happy couple pics on social media and it is for social validation. Social validation is more important to people now.
Great advice Sadia 👍 Thank you and bless you 🙏
Rest of your life? Most couples don't last that long. The relationship with a phone today is a longer lasting relationship.
What is a relationship without trust? Without it, it would just be what it'll be. Respect is something earnt through your actions a decision.
Shouldn't doubt your connections. Hard as it maybe the truth shall set you free.
Its always for validation
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Yes! I love this!
Just her posting that photo is a deal breaker. Bringing shame to my house! What would my mothersay had she seen my girl on the internet in a bikini!!!
OMG. I looove what you just said and how you said it
I love this lady
Right 🤔🤞✌️🫶
I was honest when an old boyfriend asked me the question "You hurt me and I am hurting you." the next day I broke off the relationship. I was 19 and dumb
Being beautiful is hard enough on a guy. And you just want to make it harder? Are you nuts?
When you're in love with a beautiful woman
It's hard
When you're in love with a beautiful woman
You know it's hard (it's hard, you know it gets so hard)
Everybody wants her, everybody loves her
Everybody wants to take your baby home
When you're in love with a beautiful woman
You watch your friends
(You watch your friends, you better watch your friends)
When you're in love with a beautiful woman
It never ends (it never ends, you know it never ends)
You know that it's crazy, you wanna trust her
Then somebody hangs up when you answer the phone
When you're in love with a beautiful woman
You go it alone
Maybe it's just an ego problem
Problem is I've been fooled before
By fair-weather friends and faint hearted lovers
And every time it happens, it just convinces me more
When you're in love with a beautiful woman
You watch her eyes (watch her eyes, baby, watch her eyes)
When you're in love with a beautiful woman
You look for lies (keep lookin' for lies, baby, look for lies)
Everybody tempts her, everybody tells her
She's the most beautiful woman they know
When you're in love with a beautiful woman
You go it alone
When you're in love with a beautiful woman
You watch your friends (you watch your friends)
(You better watch your friends, you better look out)
When you're in love with a beautiful woman
Oh, it never ends (it never ends, you know it never ends)
When you're in love with a beautiful woman
You watch her eyes (watch her eyes, baby, watch her eyes)
(You better watch her eyes)
When you're in love with a beautiful woman
Keep lookin' for lies (keep lookin' for lies, keep lookin' for lies)
When you're in love with a beautiful woman...
Nice Dr.Hook reference. Spot on👌🏻
Brilliant 👍
Dont ask crap
Walk out
Should be obvious
If I don't like it...bye. No hard feelings.
Deal breaker …. Straight facts my opinion … and no I’m not. Insecure .. but every person is different ….
True
Everyone is naked now..gross really....everyone
Posting pictures of yourself, was the beginning of the end. A photo used to mean something.
Most of Instagram and other social media seems to be people seeking validation (hits, likes, comments). Artists and photographers do it all the time. We don't have a conversation or sale (like in an exhibition). Does this "validation" signal insecurity, immaturity? And why do we need it? Cus, it certainly wastes a lot of time when we could be living life.
They will say I do it for myself
And what’s so wrong about looking sexy on the internet? lol who cares .. it’s nice when ur partner loves seeing u out there and loves showing u off to everyone !!
oh ma real issue huh.. Ambition requires a lot of energy, and while it can lead to material success, it may come at the cost of personal fulfillment. This is especially true when ambition operates at a lower frequency or less focused purpose, resulting in an imbalance between quality and quantity.
This is a very good video. When your man decides to take a 3rd wife just ask him, what makes you want to do that? What are your motives? And after learning his reason think about whether this is a deal breaker
This lady pretty good
Yeah guys whattya doin? Just have a conversation with her 😂😂😂 women LOVE having their motivations questioned 😂😂😂😂
lmao! yep! it's their MOST FAVORITE thing!
Insecurity Is A Terrible Thing...
The simplord is here.
Waaa.waaa .waaa
She's doing the same thing. Look at her whole persona
A large deal breaker!!!!!
The girl I loves said she likes to see herself in it and feels good. I asked, what's the point of showing the World then. That's all
They will know already where your going and lie. Women wonder why they get treated so badly. And it's because they don't respect honesty. They manipulate constantly. And when you see all that. You by pass paying attention to them. And then they get mad. But all you see is a manipulator and a liar and it's hard to respect someone who is a bad person like that
For me, i was always judged on my size, that id never look good in a bikini, so i bought myself a bikini and i love wearing it, helps me feel safe and free
So its not for anyone, its for myself
I want to feel pretty and share that beautiful energy of confidence out in the world that if you feel awesome and pretty dont be afraid to show off that love you have for yourself
If a man or anyone gets offended for a woman trying to find peace within herself and feel great, then their opinion should not matter
You can not give a partner that much power over you on how to look thats controlling behavior, if my partner doesn't like my dress or swimsuit then he ain't the right partner
A good partner would be like" yea thats my girlfriend ^^" and actually be proud of her ❤️
I love her eyes. Like she looks in a direction and one eyes look slighty to other direction. I just love that. What the heck
The same thing that motivates you "lady" to pose for every word you speak. this woman is so aware of her own position in space she is doing everything she can to maximize her pose.
Very true
Why do you need a black belt? So that everyone knows im good. You know that you are good. That is all that matters.
^^this one gets it.
What show is this please?
Insecurities is the reason and I can accept almost anything as long as it's for her joy work and our greater good
And single most important thing in the world right now, Globally no 1 trending
What's the background music playing in the background....anyone please...!!!??
What is the name of the podcast
Everyone has need for social validation. Whats weird is dating someone who posts bikini pictures and coming to disturb their peace with faux philosophies
But if a girl decides not to respect his husband or spouse it's a deal. break because respect both ways
WE DANCED ON UNIVERSES AND STAR SYSTEMS AND GAVE CRYSTAL MY LION A HUG ON THE FLOOR OF LIGHT,
A beautiful woman that she is much insight
The same goes for the man, right ? It can be a need to be visible, to have a voice.
Beautiful
Boundaries
So true,
Men ask woman to send pics. Never again
What are the causes of Exhibitions psychologically?
So men just ask them - "Are you advertising yourself for better opportunities showing your body? Do you have a attention addiction and need therapy?"....by the way the answer to both are YES 90% of the time.
This is a fast way to lose a good man.
There is no valid reason to showing yourself dressing half naked to other people, especially while you’re married to your husband.
These pros for the streets 👠
Certainly I would Love to ask many things, in getting to know who she is. If I could certainly know that it is who I am communicating with. On the grounds that she should feel comfortable in sharing with me her mindset and being comfortable to be completely herself in all aspects. I wouldn't need to look for my other half thinking being in a relationship would make us one whole. She should be herself and should there be something that I don't agree with, certainly we should be able to come to an agreement or be willing to compromise. Which shouldn't be a problem for the person that you fall in love with.. All this being said I really do hope that the right person would read this. As it is directed towards one person in particular. Should she still want to proceed towards what it originated from. If not I would think that some form of decency would persuade her to be honest with me. That in itself would clear up all issues that have been overly negatively focused upon out of this experience and perhaps through algorithm or intent apeard on different platforms....
My apologies for ranting perhaps. 😬
True
Imagine it's a dealbreaker for you that your woman wants to post bikini pictures ... she is a free human being and is allowed to post almost whatever she wants if she doesn't disturb others ... On the other hand I also would be happy to see, that my shaped body is found attractive by other women, it doesn't mean that I will start something with them ... let's chill more people
This woman could be the Surgeon General
No, you don't ask her anything. You just show her the door
Why waste time with that woman?
IT'S A DEAL BREAKER, BIG TIME. RUN AWAY