When they realise that they can't take your self respect (dignity, pride etc.) Despite all their best efforts - I think that's when it hits home to them that they've wasted their lives targeting the wrong individual.
I agree with you 💯. They want to become you to get rid of their false self but then they despise you for who you are and the characters you have and your happy self they then find as a threat to their false self.👈🏻
LET ME TELL YOU HOW TO GET IT. NARCISSISTIC PEOPLE ARE NOT PSYCHOLOGICALLY DISORDERED HUMANS. THEY ARE SINNERS, AGAINST THE LAWS OF GOD, AS EXPRESSED IN HIS WORD THE BIBLE. YOU SEE, NOT ONLY ARE THEY SINNERS, BUT ALL OTHERS, NOT MANIFESTING THEIR BEHAVIOR, ARE SINNERS. ROMANS 3 23 SAYS ALL HAVE SINNED AND COME SHORT OF THE GLORY OF GOD. PSALM 51 5 STATES I WAS SHAPEN IN INIQUITY AND IN SIN DID MY MOTHER CONCEIVE ME. ECCLESIASTES 7 20 SAYS THERE IS NOT A JUST MAN ON EARTH THAT DOETH GOOD AND SINNETH NOT. NARCISSISM IS SIMPLY THE NAME OF A PARTICULAR TYPE OF SIN. FINALLY THIS: ONLY WHAT GOD SAYS MATTERS AND HE MEANS WHAT HE SAYS HE MEANS! YOUR ARMS ARE TOO SHORT TO BOX WITH GOD AND YOUR LEGS TOO WEAK TO OUTRUN HIM!
But for the newbies here. Stick with Joe. It gets so much better 😊. He's helped me and I know he can help you 🙏. Hang in there. Love yourself more ❤️ Because The Narcissist doesn't love you.
The lack of empathy or explanation or compassion left me devastated, confused hurt , I thought I married a loving caring woman , it’s like my brain won’t understand that she is not the person I married, I have seen her true face now and I know I don’t want to see her or talk to her but it’s been so difficult to let go of this rejection and confusion, to let go of my marriage so I made a fool of myself trying to repair my marriage, got roped into reactive abuse because of the things she says , the coldness , our wedding vows were not really promises she says ????that was devastating and made me re evaluate everything she ever said ,,, talking to me like a child ,the push and pull , and I’m felt even worse and more confused every time we tried to communicate , , thanks Joe always spot on , the way she try’s to fake caring and her choice of words are the hardest part to understand then the victim playing to all her family ,and I feel as if nobody understands what really happened,,
@randallglatt9115 lol yeah , I know that ,,, I don’t know when i turned into that man , chronic stress at work , mother in a coma with brain trauma I was struggling dealing with that and my wife turned on me like a viper ,, and she was the one person I thought I could rely on , I was shocked and and burnt out from years of dealing with her chipping away at my soul , I know if I had been stronger to walk away cleanly the first time I would have saved myself a lot of trouble ,, , I am not that man now , I am awake and recognise my own actions and hers ,, and walking away without closure and going no contact was the toughest part ,, bought myself a new home , doing brilliant at work , mother recovered , my life improved so much when made a clean break , my health recovered,I got my shit together and changed my own internal narrative, no longer a victim of life or a narc wife , I am in charge of my own life now , ,, so you were spot on , I found my strength and moved on , but being addicted to a woman that scorns you Is a painful process , 12 years we were together not an easy thing to walk away from ,, she made everything difficult
@caligirl9403 yeah thanks for your comment ,, I think mine is more covert/, it’s a confusing experience that’s for sure , in hindsight I see so many red flags I ignored because the love bombing was so intense , she got on her knees and asked me to marry her , it’s only after we married that the devaluation started , constantly complaining, even down to the way breathe ,. nothing I did was ever good enough , criticism was never ending , never a praise for anything ,,backhand compliments, never a true apology, (I’m sorry you feel that way , I’m sorry you wanted to be loved ), , and when I did stand up for myself she would cause a fight then play victim , never accept any responsibility,,, i ended up apologising for fights I know she started 🤯I think I just got tired of it all ,, and my health suffered,,,, but when in public she had this completely different persona just like your guy , ,, Only I ever saw her true face ,,,, , six months now mindful practice , meditation, Wim hof breathing and some counselling has helped me so much ,, I thought I was a strong willed guy and never even realised until the end how broken down I had become,, in hindsight I have recognised so much behaviour that I ignored , and I try not to be annoyed at myself ,, looking after myself now and my life and health improved dramatically it’s like I was being slowly poisoned the last few years , now I’m cured of the poison I just need to recover. We are completely separate now , we sold the family home and I bought myself a nice place that suits me so finally all the legal stuff is done and dusted , she has a home and I purposely have no idea where it is and deleted all contacts, I can’t call her even in a moment of weakness , it’s easier that way , I have no interest in any communication with her , , I’m just annoyed at myself for putting up with that shit for years , letting myself be ground down til I was a shell of who I was
I went through it too. She refused to help me with our kids and the daily chores. She got so hateful towards all of us. If I asked for some help, she would have a temper tantrum. After 10 years, she left us after obtaining a dirtbag boyfriend. Get out and move on. There is no other way. These creatures do not get better.
Thank You So Very Much For Sharing This I Needed To Hear This I Was Discarded Just Recently Used Then Cruelly Discarded. This Person Always Made Me Feel Not Good Enough. This Person Has Destroyed My Self Worth And Self Esteem. He Treats Me Like I Don’t Exist..I’m Struggling Jus To Block Delete Detach. Narcissistic Abuse Is Brutal
@@lioubovgrant1935 Thank You So Very Much for Sharing You Are Absolutely Right Each Time I Went Back The Abuse Got Even Worse. I Will Never Go Back I’m Struggling To Keep My Abuser Blocked Do I Have To Keep Him Blocked To Start Healing?
Very helpful thanks Joe. I think rejection is especially painful with narcissists because it often comes packaged as something else. I’ve been through rejections from healthy people who aren’t narcissists, and although it hurts, it is a clean process where you can detach and go through the healing process. With narcs, they like the fact that you’re in pain, and they want to give you false hope so they can pick you up and drop you when they’re in need of an ego boost. Having someone wanting them gives them tremendous power and a sense of importance, and they don’t want to let that feeling go. What keeps us entangled is the false hope they dangle in front of us - the breadcrumbs, and the illusion that if we just say or do the right thing, they’ll reciprocate. That day never materialises. We just spend all our energy and time walking towards a mirage that looks so alluring, but never gets any closer.
Recognize that being rejected by a FIGMENT of your imagination is merely a learning curve in your own personal development. Think of 'figment' as pond scum. Raise your vision to embrace your higher, true self.
Yeah , exactly,, my own cognitive dissonance kept me going back , addicted to a woman that scorns me , It’s not easy to break those bonds , I know I will be a better man once I do , ,,, meditation and breathwork and a bit of counselling has helped me tremendously,,
@@joebhouseI wonder what Freud would say about that 🤣 BTW I love your voice, I hope you have considered professional narration in addition to TH-cam! Peace to you and yours☮️
Sounds resonates different scenario... like not wanting to address things that bother you and letting them build a bit....hoping u don't let go of the wrecking ball....but hold back ... someone an old flame whose supposedly back in pic is the so called catalyst... practice self control and pray for patience and above all don't talk this out with the other woman there with u and ur platonic relationship
These vids on " why" are fantastic!!!!! Once you understand the reasons its so easy to navigate and escape. I've net toxicity in all manner of dynamics and read somewhere we go to the same characters if we've had a Narcissist parent to prove to ourself we can get that from another person in any dynamic and now you've said it! Spot on,thankyou!!!
This video is the one that’s most meaningful to me out of all of your videos because this has been the enigmatic answer the elusive answer that I’ve been looking for as to why being rejected specifically by her is so traumatizing and why I only need her approval. I thank you so very much for this. Be blessed because you are giving many blessings to me and to others.
And when that days comes…the Narcissist slithers back into your aura… is the day the head separates from their body and their mind. Ding Dong the witch is…! Fortify your boundaries and forever more defend them at all costs. Rebuild your sanctuary and live love and laugh in peace with purpose and the path your were once on until that demon slithered in with malicious intent. Thanks Joe! 🙏
I have a hard time wrapping my head around people that once they figure them out they either want them back and or still need closure. Makes zero sense to me 🤡👈🏻
🙏, thank you Joe, Much Respect.. it a Long, Long Haul, isn't it, the Recovery Process 4 US ALL.. , Specially the 2nd time around!! 🙏 everything you Tell us is HELPFULL! 🧐
Discard. I said "Okay." Expecting hoover anytime soon. To ignore it. I will not entertain her. Problem is, she works nearby and keeps spying on me, also ignored. This stuff is really funny.
No one cares for being rejected, but rejection from narcissist is a good thing , we are having our lives back , horror movie is ended !!! Two videos today !!! 👍👍👍 Thank you Joe, great as always ! 🤗❤
'Horror movie is ended' how v v true that is! I use to refer to my ex female covert as 'The Monster'. I started saying that without realising what she was, by the end I realised it was such an apt name.
I used to wonder what is wrong with me. I used to want to better myself for the narcissist. But he never gave a fuxx😢. Then I found out it wasn't me. It was him😅. So I began to love me 😍. And care about me 😌
The narcissist knows full well that it won't last. It gives them a feeling of superiority from Day One. They keep you on board for a long as it suits them. A relationship with a narc is never horizontal. You are never on the same emotional level as them. It is like a see-saw but they are up in the air which means that you are down on the ground.
Yes. They were rejected too in their childhood but their response to the trauma was different than those who became co-dependent only, they are more dependent than co-dependent. The difference is they look for their supply in a variety of sources, not one. They don't have a Self.
That was me. Looking for closure that I wasn't going to receive. So I stopped caring. Because now I know they play games, and they're very immature. Soooooooo fuxx his!!!😂. closure. I've closed it myself😅
The only closure you are going to get with these creatures is from yourself. Stop putting in the effort and leave quietly. They have nothing to give you. They are a bottomless pit.
So tell us what type of credentials you have, to be able to provide information about Narcissism and tell empathic people they are broken. That is more interesting than any of your videos. Let's get down to your core Joe. If you can...??
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When they realise that they can't take your self respect (dignity, pride etc.) Despite all their best efforts - I think that's when it hits home to them that they've wasted their lives targeting the wrong individual.
I agree with you 💯. They want to become you to get rid of their false self but then they despise you for who you are and the characters you have and your happy self they then find as a threat to their false self.👈🏻
LET ME TELL YOU HOW TO GET IT. NARCISSISTIC PEOPLE ARE NOT PSYCHOLOGICALLY DISORDERED HUMANS. THEY ARE SINNERS, AGAINST THE LAWS OF GOD, AS EXPRESSED IN HIS WORD THE BIBLE. YOU SEE, NOT ONLY ARE THEY SINNERS, BUT ALL OTHERS, NOT MANIFESTING THEIR BEHAVIOR, ARE SINNERS. ROMANS 3 23 SAYS ALL HAVE SINNED AND COME SHORT OF THE GLORY OF GOD. PSALM 51 5 STATES I WAS SHAPEN IN INIQUITY AND IN SIN DID MY MOTHER CONCEIVE ME. ECCLESIASTES 7 20 SAYS THERE IS NOT A JUST MAN ON EARTH THAT DOETH GOOD AND SINNETH NOT. NARCISSISM IS SIMPLY THE NAME OF A PARTICULAR TYPE OF SIN. FINALLY THIS: ONLY WHAT GOD SAYS MATTERS AND HE MEANS WHAT HE SAYS HE MEANS! YOUR ARMS ARE TOO SHORT TO BOX WITH GOD AND YOUR LEGS TOO WEAK TO OUTRUN HIM!
But for the newbies here. Stick with Joe. It gets so much better 😊. He's helped me and I know he can help you 🙏. Hang in there. Love yourself more ❤️ Because The Narcissist doesn't love you.
The lack of empathy or explanation or compassion left me devastated, confused hurt , I thought I married a loving caring woman , it’s like my brain won’t understand that she is not the person I married, I have seen her true face now and I know I don’t want to see her or talk to her but it’s been so difficult to let go of this rejection and confusion, to let go of my marriage so I made a fool of myself trying to repair my marriage, got roped into reactive abuse because of the things she says , the coldness , our wedding vows were not really promises she says ????that was devastating and made me re evaluate everything she ever said ,,, talking to me like a child ,the push and pull , and I’m felt even worse and more confused every time we tried to communicate ,
, thanks Joe always spot on , the way she try’s to fake caring and her choice of words are the hardest part to understand then the victim playing to all her family ,and I feel as if nobody understands what really happened,,
@randallglatt9115 lol yeah , I know that ,,, I don’t know when i turned into that man , chronic stress at work , mother in a coma with brain trauma I was struggling dealing with that and my wife turned on me like a viper ,, and she was the one person I thought I could rely on , I was shocked and and burnt out from years of dealing with her chipping away at my soul , I know if I had been stronger to walk away cleanly the first time I would have saved myself a lot of trouble ,, , I am not that man now , I am awake and recognise my own actions and hers ,, and walking away without closure and going no contact was the toughest part ,, bought myself a new home , doing brilliant at work , mother recovered , my life improved so much when made a clean break , my health recovered,I got my shit together and changed my own internal narrative, no longer a victim of life or a narc wife , I am in charge of my own life now , ,, so you were spot on , I found my strength and moved on , but being addicted to a woman that scorns you Is a painful process , 12 years we were together not an easy thing to walk away from ,, she made everything difficult
@caligirl9403 yeah thanks for your comment ,, I think mine is more covert/, it’s a confusing experience that’s for sure , in hindsight I see so many red flags I ignored because the love bombing was so intense , she got on her knees and asked me to marry her , it’s only after we married that the devaluation started , constantly complaining, even down to the way breathe ,. nothing I did was ever good enough , criticism was never ending , never a praise for anything ,,backhand compliments, never a true apology, (I’m sorry you feel that way , I’m sorry you wanted to be loved ), , and when I did stand up for myself she would cause a fight then play victim , never accept any responsibility,,, i ended up apologising for fights I know she started 🤯I think I just got tired of it all ,, and my health suffered,,,,
but when in public she had this completely different persona just like your guy , ,,
Only I ever saw her true face ,,,, , six months now mindful practice , meditation, Wim hof breathing and some counselling has helped me so much ,, I thought I was a strong willed guy and never even realised until the end how broken down I had become,, in hindsight I have recognised so much behaviour that I ignored , and I try not to be annoyed at myself ,, looking after myself now and my life and health improved dramatically it’s like I was being slowly poisoned the last few years , now I’m cured of the poison I just need to recover.
We are completely separate now , we sold the family home and I bought myself a nice place that suits me so finally all the legal stuff is done and dusted , she has a home and I purposely have no idea where it is and deleted all contacts, I can’t call her even in a moment of weakness , it’s easier that way , I have no interest in any communication with her , , I’m just annoyed at myself for putting up with that shit for years , letting myself be ground down til I was a shell of who I was
I went through it too. She refused to help me with our kids and the daily chores. She got so hateful towards all of us. If I asked for some help, she would have a temper tantrum. After 10 years, she left us after obtaining a dirtbag boyfriend. Get out and move on. There is no other way. These creatures do not get better.
Expecting his child and I recently walked out in silence.. after seven days he has a new supply
Thank You So Very Much
For Sharing This I Needed To Hear This
I Was Discarded Just Recently Used Then Cruelly Discarded.
This Person Always Made Me Feel Not Good Enough.
This Person Has Destroyed My Self Worth And Self Esteem.
He Treats Me Like I Don’t Exist..I’m Struggling Jus To Block Delete Detach.
Narcissistic Abuse Is Brutal
Same story I'm going through right now
@@marwabahgat1330
I’m So Very Sorry 🙏
Hang in there , it will hurt for while , but not forever , but if you stay or now go back, he would keep hurting you forever. 🤗🤗🤗🙏
@@lioubovgrant1935
Thank You So Very Much for Sharing You Are Absolutely
Right Each Time I Went Back The Abuse Got Even Worse.
I Will Never Go Back I’m Struggling To Keep My Abuser Blocked
Do I Have To Keep Him Blocked To Start Healing?
Very helpful thanks Joe. I think rejection is especially painful with narcissists because it often comes packaged as something else. I’ve been through rejections from healthy people who aren’t narcissists, and although it hurts, it is a clean process where you can detach and go through the healing process. With narcs, they like the fact that you’re in pain, and they want to give you false hope so they can pick you up and drop you when they’re in need of an ego boost. Having someone wanting them gives them tremendous power and a sense of importance, and they don’t want to let that feeling go. What keeps us entangled is the false hope they dangle in front of us - the breadcrumbs, and the illusion that if we just say or do the right thing, they’ll reciprocate. That day never materialises. We just spend all our energy and time walking towards a mirage that looks so alluring, but never gets any closer.
Recognize that being rejected by a FIGMENT of your imagination is merely a learning curve in your own personal development. Think of 'figment' as pond scum. Raise your vision to embrace your higher, true self.
Yeah , exactly,, my own cognitive dissonance kept me going back , addicted to a woman that scorns me , It’s not easy to break those bonds , I know I will be a better man once I do , ,,, meditation and breathwork and a bit of counselling has helped me tremendously,,
F the narc, seriously, F the narc. He now wonders…
You look like the lady in the thumbnail
@@joebhouseI wonder what Freud would say about that 🤣 BTW I love your voice, I hope you have considered professional narration in addition to TH-cam! Peace to you and yours☮️
And he keeps wondering it doesn’t stop but you could care less.
You're right, can relate to all this. Whoever is on this journey just know we aren't alone and we deserve better ❤
Thank you
Btw are you an actual shei
Sheik
Sounds resonates different scenario... like not wanting to address things that bother you and letting them build a bit....hoping u don't let go of the wrecking ball....but hold back ... someone an old flame whose supposedly back in pic is the so called catalyst... practice self control and pray for patience and above all don't talk this out with the other woman there with u and ur platonic relationship
Focus on your new goals and dreams... forgive yourself and move on with life.
This analysis is exactly correct. So helpful to hear. Thanks!
These vids on " why" are fantastic!!!!! Once you understand the reasons its so easy to navigate and escape. I've net toxicity in all manner of dynamics and read somewhere we go to the same characters if we've had a Narcissist parent to prove to ourself we can get that from another person in any dynamic and now you've said it! Spot on,thankyou!!!
I've genuinely moved on😊. It took over two-and-a-half years but I'm good😅
Absolutely ❤🎉
This video is the one that’s most meaningful to me out of all of your videos because this has been the enigmatic answer the elusive answer that I’ve been looking for as to why being rejected specifically by her is so traumatizing and why I only need her approval. I thank you so very much for this. Be blessed because you are giving many blessings to me and to others.
And when that days comes…the Narcissist slithers back into your aura… is the day the head separates from their body and their mind. Ding Dong the witch is…!
Fortify your boundaries and forever more defend them at all costs.
Rebuild your sanctuary and live love and laugh in peace with purpose and the path your were once on until that demon slithered in with malicious intent.
Thanks Joe! 🙏
U r the best at breaking this down ‼️‼️💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎
I have a hard time wrapping my head around people that once they figure them out they either want them back and or still need closure. Makes zero sense to me 🤡👈🏻
Very helpful; thank you Joe ❤
Excellent content!
Ty 🕊️✨🙏🪽🫶
🙏, thank you Joe, Much Respect.. it a Long, Long Haul, isn't it, the Recovery Process 4 US ALL.. , Specially the 2nd time around!! 🙏 everything you Tell us is HELPFULL! 🧐
Thanks Joe
Must disappear and love you 🎉❤
Discard. I said "Okay." Expecting hoover anytime soon. To ignore it. I will not entertain her. Problem is, she works nearby and keeps spying on me, also ignored. This stuff is really funny.
💫 I'm at Peace and healed, I don't never want ex narc back in my life. Ex narc was a well lesson learned for me. Nolalower9Ward ⚜️⚜️
No one cares for being rejected, but rejection from narcissist is a good thing , we are having our lives back , horror movie is ended !!! Two videos today !!! 👍👍👍 Thank you Joe, great as always ! 🤗❤
'Horror movie is ended' how v v true that is! I use to refer to my ex female covert as 'The Monster'. I started saying that without realising what she was, by the end I realised it was such an apt name.
@@paddyh6530 Yes this is who they are Monsters !
We weren't rejected, they were beginning to get sussed out and they knew it!
I used to wonder what is wrong with me. I used to want to better myself for the narcissist. But he never gave a fuxx😢. Then I found out it wasn't me. It was him😅. So I began to love me 😍. And care about me 😌
Rejection is God protection
So so true ✝️🕊❤️🙏
Thank you 💔😢
@@dawnhandelman308 anytime ❤️🙏
The narcissist knows full well that it won't last. It gives them a feeling of superiority from Day One. They keep you on board for a long as it suits them.
A relationship with a narc is never horizontal. You are never on the same emotional level as them. It is like a see-saw but they are up in the air which means that you are down on the ground.
I’ve rejected narcissists and they’ve become obsessed stalking me
Whew !!!😅. I remember those days. Glad I'm over that shit.😂
Do they know their rejection feeds obsession? Do you think, Is the a plan to make you submissive?
Yes. They were rejected too in their childhood but their response to the trauma was different than those who became co-dependent only, they are more dependent than co-dependent. The difference is they look for their supply in a variety of sources, not one.
They don't have a Self.
This video is so valuable, I have to listen to it a second time ..thank you Joe ❤
That was me. Looking for closure that I wasn't going to receive. So I stopped caring. Because now I know they play games, and they're very immature. Soooooooo fuxx his!!!😂. closure. I've closed it myself😅
The only closure you are going to get with these creatures is from yourself. Stop putting in the effort and leave quietly. They have nothing to give you. They are a bottomless pit.
So tell us what type of credentials you have, to be able to provide information about Narcissism and tell empathic people they are broken.
That is more interesting than any of your videos. Let's get down to your core Joe. If you can...??
This is a great video again! 🙂
Your spreading high quality information about narcissism is very useful.
Thank you! ❤