Yupp! It just happened 3 minutes ago Even my phone knows what's up 😉 Very helpful feature, and I'm ok with it You need Ai to fight with you against these creatures
Oh my gosh, Danish, this is 💯 true! "They love to hear their own voice!" He doesn't shut up! It is non-stop chatter! Constantly talks! I feel like I am living with live commentary! He comments on everything, states the obvious 😂 I am so sarcastic all the time because it is exhausting. He knows everything. He is always right. He must give his opinion about everything, and he must tell you what to do and how to do it. Looking forward to being free from all of it! Stay strong ✨️ 💪🏻 fellow survivors!!
I'm tryna tell ya...that's exactly what they do! One time the narc I had to escape talked for a whole hour and half straight on a car ride. The whole time he was telling me that I need to be down for him before we got raided🙄🙄
My dad would call me over at friend's houses to cuss me out for hours. I would place the phone down and just say "yeah" or "okay" every 10 minutes or so. My friend's laughed their asses off. He seriously didn't have a clue he was talking to himself only. 10 minutes and no clue. So pathetic! especially the vile crap he said to a child. Worse is family saying "Listen to your dad!" without taking 2 seconds to figure out WHAT he was saying. XXX rated things. Very vile and filthy! Too filthy to repeat here. Penthouse is mild compared to his speech.
Thank you Danish. You are a gift to humanity. I have been away from my exhusband for years and I thought I have healed, but listening to you I realise that every time I listen to you I recover a little bit more. Always a little more to heal. Thank you so much!
Plus, they will get a kick out of interrupting you, while at the same time telling you to "go ahead and talk". They will also smirk at you with full contempt all the while you are trying to talk to them. They know exactly what they are doing because they make sure the conversation goes absolutely no where.
So true! I've basically given up on having conversations with my narcissistic spouse. He talks at me, not with me. He constantly interrupts if I try to speak. I only converse with him if it's absolutely necessary. Otherwise, I try to avoid him altogether.
Same here when we have discussed things then he changes it and I bring it up what we talked about he yells and then his rage angry comes out and when I am explaining my side he will talk loudly over me and shut me down then tell me I pushed him over and that changes are coming he has tried to walk out on me and our last child together lots of times
100% correct based on my experience. As soon as they are clued on my topic, they hi-jack my conversation and shut down 5 of my attempts when I try to tell them they are talking about something unrelated to what I am saying. HOWEVER, if I manage to make a quick statement finished, I can watch them transform into a mighty warrior in opposition of what I said. Different narcs have told me the same: "I don't believe that!!!!!"
I can absolutely relate This is what happens to me all time and i feel like i m absolutely choked like my words doesnt come out. I am baffled absolutely at the craziness of narscisdist thanks danish your creativity is so good
And they starting to shout so when you speak back you speak loud to let youre self heard. And they can suddenly be calm and say you dont have to shout at me, i dont llet me treet this way and walk away when they began to lose this conversation.
My father perfectly described. He would gripe for days that I should be social and talkative but if I did he would do absolutely ANYTHING to silence me.
This is so true !! The frustration and anxiety that builds up before confrontation is hell. They feed off your distress and you’re left with the futility of trying to make sense of what they are ranting about….
Yes! But I still speak. I decided that he was not going to silence me any longer. He talks over me so that he doesn't have to hear me...at least until I say something pertaining to his maturity.
It's either they don't let you speak and shut you down, or they completely ignore you and look at their phone the entire time. Leaving you crying and ignoring you more.
I have banged my head at a point and I have been so pushed to my limits and beyond that I did start taking over the conversation because I had heard the same song and dance so many times. Victims can be pushed to and beyond. So if you’re hearing this! You could also be a victim and acting out. I just want to stop victims from thinking they are the narcissist because of the way they are pushed.
Such an accurate a simple sum up of when a dialogue is not even a dialogue. And after the end of such a 'dialogue' the narcissist sees that they imparted such prolific, wisdom, compassion, detailed help. And you are left wondering, what did I do wrong. It's me, only. The problem. Vs any workable/ actionable steps towards resolution of what your original share or issue was
Yes totally true with a Grandiose Narcissist. I find the opposite with the Covert Narc that I know. He is incapable of slinging two sentences together and I have to create and carry every conversation.
I experienced what you said Denis. In 1 of my conversations with my boss, I was so frustrated because he didn’t let me talk. I just started to say something he immediately talked over me and cut me off. When I stopped, he also stopped, when I started he also started. At the end either he or I can’t complete what was intended to be said. It’s frustrating because I felt I wasted my time communicating to the deaf ears, I thought I rather talked to my little kid who has much more ability to communicate properly. I then realised after that incident that the reason he tried to stop me because I was saying something that tickled his narcissistic injury. This is my experience.
I have said conversations w narcs are like bad international phone calls. They dont understand the concept of turn taking in conversation, constantly talk over you...
Just want to tell you your hair looks really good and your spot on that you can’t get a word in with a narcissist. It’s only their logic their world and it’s exasperating how much responsibility is put upon you by the narcissist that will not let you have any opinion that is different from them
YES! And when I try to talk or respond, He would say, "You are so Disrespectful. Stop interrupting me!" Then when I would talk, he'd constantly interrupt me! And people witnessing this (our kids as teens or adults) would take his side too, leaving me feeling crazy, wrong and delusional.
Thank you!! Danish, you’re so Amazing and such a blessing!! God Bless You!! Keep Shining your beautiful bright light and making the world a better place helping so powerfully bc he help us to heal and encourage us to do the hard work regaining our power and working towards reestablish a healthy happier more fulfilling life!! God Bless You!! Toni xoxo
He doesnt even let me reply to his mails! He writes in the end of mail.. Solicit closure on this discussion hereafter. Thank your very much for your kind understanding and cooperation.
So much so that started having breathing issues....suffocation and curbing my voice inside,mostly so as to avoid any arguments where I know that he will win anyways😢
They also like to dominate any conversation in general. They can talk for 5 hours straight and tell 500 stories about themselves but if you say one thing they act like you interrupted and tried to one up them. Or they won't stop talking, they will just talk louder over you.
And when they ask you "How are you?" it's a monolog too. You never get an answere. It seems like speaking to a big wall. Silence with a cruel smile is their answere. I don't know, what of both non-dialogs is the ugly one.
And “I’m cutting her off” when I try to get a word in edge wise after an entire rant about the same thing for the 12th time. Definitely can’t ask clarifying questions in “the middle of her talking” or try to respond to something (typically completely inaccurate) after she says it cause she was “still talking”. Yet really she is just repeating herself over and over again, usually adding points from previous fights I have already acknowledged and apologized for or just completely useless information to the topic at hand.
"it's better to bang your head against the wall than to have a conversation with a narcissist." I had to laugh out loud, it is so true! I was having a conversation with one, he realized I was actually agreeing with him, and he did a 180, just so he could keep arguing. LOL Funny when you realize what they are doing, but not funny when you are in the middle of it.
Its a SOLILOQUY, never a real conversation. Literally, he interrupts EVERY sentence i start, TALKS OVER ME, cuts me off...its confusing and exhausting, you lose your train of thought, and the "conversation " is just wasting your time and stressing you out.
I think Tucker Carlson has had the same problem. Here is why. I attempted to have a conversation with a neighbor about a new theory about the pyramids. Someone had found evidence that blocks were ground up & poured into forms. The claim used for validating the theory was because of the analyzed content of blocks. My neighbor got really upset & said what I said was not true. He acted like an expert on pyramids. I tried explaining it was just theories. He did not back down. Afterwards, I went around grumbling about how my neighbor is stupid. Shortly thereafter, I saw Tucker on a podcast talking about having a conversation with another "pyramid specialist" who acted just like my neighbor. He said there are only theories about the pyramids & the person was acting stupid. Later, on another podcast, he talked about the event again. This time, he discussed the irrational behavior without mentioning the word stupid. I kept thinking about gratitude to Tucker after that. He was on my side about the stupid behavior of my neighbor. There is no point in talking to my neighbor. He has constantly interrupted me & disagreed with me on things for years. What I say is not important to him. He comes up with something irrational that does not apply to what I said. He does a rant to contradict me. It is useless talking to him. At least Tucker agreed with me. 😆
He always starts by saying , "Let's have a little chat. Then, it's verbal abuse for 3 hours. I think it's because he knows I'm right and doesn't want to hear it.
I mean, as always yes to Danish❤ still, I have developed such a fear due to my mother narc. that even seeing this video got me so scared, because it is just as it is
I get "treated" to the monolog when a friend calls. On & on & on & on. None of it making sense. Just enjoy the yammering show they put on and really with these narcs we shouldn't hope for much. Lower those expectations and you're clear.
How dare you speak! lol They look like they are going to pass out when they feel forced to listen. I use to drag out my words just to watch them implode. This is after I recovered from abuse of course.
No cause when I get the chance I would go and it would def come off that way but I was just so desperate to be heard. In the end it didn't matter so I could have saved my voice cause he was already out cheating and gaslighting and making me believe it was my fault
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How incredibly accurate!
Literally spot on!🎯
Yupp!
It just happened 3 minutes ago
Even my phone knows what's up 😉
Very helpful feature, and I'm ok with it
You need Ai to fight with you against these creatures
Oh my gosh, Danish, this is 💯 true! "They love to hear their own voice!" He doesn't shut up! It is non-stop chatter! Constantly talks! I feel like I am living with live commentary! He comments on everything, states the obvious 😂 I am so sarcastic all the time because it is exhausting. He knows everything. He is always right. He must give his opinion about everything, and he must tell you what to do and how to do it. Looking forward to being free from all of it! Stay strong ✨️ 💪🏻 fellow survivors!!
You're only allowed to "parrot"🦜 them or agree with them 🙄
I’ve even taken a shower and went back to the phone and they were still talking and didn’t even notice I was gone🤣🤣🤣
😂😂
I'm tryna tell ya...that's exactly what they do! One time the narc I had to escape talked for a whole hour and half straight on a car ride. The whole time he was telling me that I need to be down for him before we got raided🙄🙄
My dad would call me over at friend's houses to cuss me out for hours. I would place the phone down and just say "yeah" or "okay" every 10 minutes or so. My friend's laughed their asses off. He seriously didn't have a clue he was talking to himself only. 10 minutes and no clue. So pathetic! especially the vile crap he said to a child. Worse is family saying "Listen to your dad!" without taking 2 seconds to figure out WHAT he was saying. XXX rated things. Very vile and filthy! Too filthy to repeat here. Penthouse is mild compared to his speech.
Omg 😂😂
😂😂😂😂
Let this be a part of education in schools to identify and correct before damage occurs. This is very very important.
Schools are narc factories that teach only image matters.
Well said
Along with mandatory swimming education
Thank you Danish. You are a gift to humanity. I have been away from my exhusband for years and I thought I have healed, but listening to you I realise that every time I listen to you I recover a little bit more. Always a little more to heal. Thank you so much!
Yes Darnish you ARE a gift to humanity ❤
they want you to listen to them and if you ask question that you don't understand, you will be insulted etc.. so true..
Yes are say I not answering no stupid question
Plus, they will get a kick out of interrupting you, while at the same time telling you to "go ahead and talk". They will also smirk at you with full contempt all the while you are trying to talk to them. They know exactly what they are doing because they make sure the conversation goes absolutely no where.
You got it! 💯👍🙌
“Better to bang ur head against a wall!” Totally loved that!!😂😂❤️❤️ Yeah at least I will have something to show where it hurt!
I loved when he said that too and how he said it! 😂. I'm going to remember that! (As well as this video of course....🙂👍💯). Thank you Danish.....🤗❤️
So true! I've basically given up on having conversations with my narcissistic spouse. He talks at me, not with me. He constantly interrupts if I try to speak. I only converse with him if it's absolutely necessary. Otherwise, I try to avoid him altogether.
Same here when we have discussed things then he changes it and I bring it up what we talked about he yells and then his rage angry comes out and when I am explaining my side he will talk loudly over me and shut me down then tell me I pushed him over and that changes are coming he has tried to walk out on me and our last child together lots of times
100% correct based on my experience. As soon as they are clued on my topic, they hi-jack my conversation and shut down 5 of my attempts when I try to tell them they are talking about something unrelated to what I am saying.
HOWEVER, if I manage to make a quick statement finished, I can watch them transform into a mighty warrior in opposition of what I said. Different narcs have told me the same: "I don't believe that!!!!!"
Uggggh......they are soooo mentally exhausting.......just add that to the list......💯👏👏
Monolog not dialog. So true!
Yes!!!! Thats 100% whats going on for years in my marriage!!! Omg... i am so sad...
Yessss...they don't let you speak😂 I'm laughing, when I remember...
I can absolutely relate
This is what happens to me all time and i feel like i m absolutely choked like my words doesnt come out. I am baffled absolutely at the craziness of narscisdist thanks danish your creativity is so good
Yes...exactly 💯
💯 truth....well portrayed Danish... they never allow us to speak.....no interaction only monologue....they don't bother at all 😢
And they starting to shout so when you speak back you speak loud to let youre self heard.
And they can suddenly be calm and say you dont have to shout at me, i dont llet me treet this way and walk away when they began to lose this conversation.
Damn gaslighters!
The main one hovering around my life goes totally silent when cornered. It's like they're trying to go invisible! Lol
It's better for me to change for better than worrying about it.
My father perfectly described. He would gripe for days that I should be social and talkative but if I did he would do absolutely ANYTHING to silence me.
"I don't want to talk about it!" The conversation is over after they have told you what you did.
This is so true !!
The frustration and anxiety that builds up before confrontation is hell.
They feed off your distress and you’re left with the futility of trying to make sense of what they are ranting about….
Yes! But I still speak. I decided that he was not going to silence me any longer. He talks over me so that he doesn't have to hear me...at least until I say something pertaining to his maturity.
it's kinda scary how accurate you describe the biggest narc in my life 😮.
Sir Danish you have no idea but you saved my life!! I will be eternally grateful
It's either they don't let you speak and shut you down, or they completely ignore you and look at their phone the entire time. Leaving you crying and ignoring you more.
Or they walk away when it's your turn to talk. Often this is the case at my house.
Same here
And when you do speak....it pisses them off !
Literally hours of him arguing with himself. He would ask a question then answer for me because he knew me better than myself. So insane!
I have banged my head at a point and I have been so pushed to my limits and beyond that I did start taking over the conversation because I had heard the same song and dance so many times.
Victims can be pushed to and beyond. So if you’re hearing this! You could also be a victim and acting out.
I just want to stop victims from thinking they are the narcissist because of the way they are pushed.
Such an accurate a simple sum up of when a dialogue is not even a dialogue.
And after the end of such a 'dialogue' the narcissist sees that they imparted such prolific, wisdom, compassion, detailed help.
And you are left wondering, what did I do wrong. It's me, only. The problem. Vs any workable/ actionable steps towards resolution of what your original share or issue was
So true. Danish, thank you. The podcasts you create are supportive, informative and beautifully presented.
The accuracy of this message is frightening and validating. Wow, just wow
This is the absolute truth! And if I get to talk, the narcissist does a lot of dramatic yawning. They're not listening anyway.
Yes totally true with a Grandiose Narcissist. I find the opposite with the Covert Narc that I know. He is incapable of slinging two sentences together and I have to create and carry every conversation.
Validating my descision once again!
This is why you just need to avoid then at all costs
I experienced what you said Denis. In 1 of my conversations with my boss, I was so frustrated because he didn’t let me talk. I just started to say something he immediately talked over me and cut me off. When I stopped, he also stopped, when I started he also started. At the end either he or I can’t complete what was intended to be said. It’s frustrating because I felt I wasted my time communicating to the deaf ears, I thought I rather talked to my little kid who has much more ability to communicate properly. I then realised after that incident that the reason he tried to stop me because I was saying something that tickled his narcissistic injury. This is my experience.
I have said conversations w narcs are like bad international phone calls. They dont understand the concept of turn taking in conversation, constantly talk over you...
Just want to tell you your hair looks really good and your spot on that you can’t get a word in with a narcissist. It’s only their logic their world and it’s exasperating how much responsibility is put upon you by the narcissist that will not let you have any opinion that is different from them
YES! And when I try to talk or respond, He would say, "You are so Disrespectful. Stop interrupting me!" Then when I would talk, he'd constantly interrupt me! And people witnessing this (our kids as teens or adults) would take his side too, leaving me feeling crazy, wrong and delusional.
Thank you!! Danish, you’re so Amazing and such a blessing!! God Bless You!! Keep Shining your beautiful bright light and making the world a better place helping so powerfully bc he help us to heal and encourage us to do the hard work regaining our power and working towards reestablish a healthy happier more fulfilling life!!
God Bless You!! Toni xoxo
He finished every sentence of mine yet never could repeat back what was talked about. Very scary control freaks.
And he always capped every conversation with I Know What I'm Talking About.
And they are ALWAYS right. They will gladly proclaim this, too. NO HUMILITY
He doesnt even let me reply to his mails! He writes in the end of mail.. Solicit closure on this discussion hereafter. Thank your very much for your kind understanding and cooperation.
💯💯💯💣 when I can talk they walk away.
That's spot on 100%. 😢
Danish,You are so smart and funny with this example!❤
So much so that started having breathing issues....suffocation and curbing my voice inside,mostly so as to avoid any arguments where I know that he will win anyways😢
OMG. How many hours I wasted trying to to get a word in. Always without any success. It’s a crazy roller coaster , every time.
Lol, I almost fell out laughing at this!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I can laugh at it now because I been there and done that and guess what, NEVER AGAIN!!
Oh, yeah!
Yuup😮. I do remember making that noise because I don’t get a chance to say anything to explain myself why I did what I did if I did anything. Lol.😅
They also like to dominate any conversation in general. They can talk for 5 hours straight and tell 500 stories about themselves but if you say one thing they act like you interrupted and tried to one up them. Or they won't stop talking, they will just talk louder over you.
And they won’t stop talking. ! 😭. With a few insults and put downs in the mixed up word salad.
They really walk you off at the middle of the conversation, very painful
My mother's always like this when she's watching tv and i wanted to tell her something.
YES CORRECT Danish
I have counted sentences before there is a insult or dig or put down. Got to 5 one day!
And when they ask you "How are you?"
it's a monolog too. You never get an answere. It seems like speaking to a big wall. Silence with a cruel smile is their answere. I don't know, what of both non-dialogs is the ugly one.
Mine always said I was interrupting him. Funny how I was interrupting him through the whole conversation
By the time you can finally speak, they are already walking away.
Literally walking away or looking bored but definitely NOT listening.
@@velvetgardenia exactly
Exactly 💯
And “I’m cutting her off” when I try to get a word in edge wise after an entire rant about the same thing for the 12th time.
Definitely can’t ask clarifying questions in “the middle of her talking” or try to respond to something (typically completely inaccurate) after she says it cause she was “still talking”. Yet really she is just repeating herself over and over again, usually adding points from previous fights I have already acknowledged and apologized for or just completely useless information to the topic at hand.
And that's why you disengage completely. Don't talk with or to them
"it's better to bang your head against the wall than to have a conversation with a narcissist." I had to laugh out loud, it is so true! I was having a conversation with one, he realized I was actually agreeing with him, and he did a 180, just so he could keep arguing. LOL Funny when you realize what they are doing, but not funny when you are in the middle of it.
Yup mind games run around no accountability
Its a SOLILOQUY, never a real conversation. Literally, he interrupts EVERY sentence i start, TALKS OVER ME, cuts me off...its confusing and exhausting, you lose your train of thought, and the "conversation " is just wasting your time and stressing you out.
You can speak but if you try opposing then it ends in their lectures their ways or it could get violent if you dont let them 'win'
i experience that to my ex partner . he use to talk all about him self i cant talk how i feel..
I think Tucker Carlson has had the same problem. Here is why.
I attempted to have a conversation with a neighbor about a new theory about the pyramids. Someone had found evidence that blocks were ground up & poured into forms. The claim used for validating the theory was because of the analyzed content of blocks.
My neighbor got really upset & said what I said was not true. He acted like an expert on pyramids. I tried explaining it was just theories. He did not back down.
Afterwards, I went around grumbling about how my neighbor is stupid.
Shortly thereafter, I saw Tucker on a podcast talking about having a conversation with another "pyramid specialist" who acted just like my neighbor. He said there are only theories about the pyramids & the person was acting stupid.
Later, on another podcast, he talked about the event again. This time, he discussed the irrational behavior without mentioning the word stupid.
I kept thinking about gratitude to Tucker after that. He was on my side about the stupid behavior of my neighbor.
There is no point in talking to my neighbor. He has constantly interrupted me & disagreed with me on things for years. What I say is not important to him. He comes up with something irrational that does not apply to what I said. He does a rant to contradict me. It is useless talking to him. At least Tucker agreed with me. 😆
They don't no who an what they are allegedly😮
And the next day she thanked me for a great conversation 😂
He always starts by saying , "Let's have a little chat. Then, it's verbal abuse for 3 hours. I think it's because he knows I'm right and doesn't want to hear it.
Exactly!!!! Wow !!!!!
💯
You nailed it
Why is this so true
Very true!
I mean, as always yes to Danish❤ still, I have developed such a fear due to my mother narc. that even seeing this video got me so scared, because it is just as it is
All my discussions withy sister after I saw the videos I get to understand she reached her final limit
ive done that too...its so funny.
Ur life ur choice don't let anyone's thought
Everytime you draw a breath they chime in and dont stop. How can they all behave the same? It has to be demonic possession.
That is true!
I get "treated" to the monolog when a friend calls. On & on & on & on. None of it making sense. Just enjoy the yammering show they put on and really with these narcs we shouldn't hope for much. Lower those expectations and you're clear.
True
Me in a nutshell 😂
💯% true
So true 😢
How dare you speak! lol They look like they are going to pass out when they feel forced to listen. I use to drag out my words just to watch them implode. This is after I recovered from abuse of course.
They won't give chance n they won't let you speak
❤❤❤❤❤❤
No cause when I get the chance I would go and it would def come off that way but I was just so desperate to be heard. In the end it didn't matter so I could have saved my voice cause he was already out cheating and gaslighting and making me believe it was my fault
U r so true
amen!
Yep!!!!
1,000% !!
True❤
Amen
At least the Narcs made you develop your humor...🎉😅
Oh! That explains the brain damage… 🤦♀️
They mess your head up