Story 1. Shame on the dad for not listening to op when she went to him. Maybe I’d he hadn’t been so eager to pacify Kyle, he wouldn’t be the creep he is
...and they prepped the dad to distrust the daughter by lying groundwork of how she was so unhappy. Stepmom had to be in on it for this much. Which means this was likely a long term plot to separate the daughter from farher, so they get all the inheritance. Typical bloodline theft con.
My kids got movie tickets once. I really hate movies, so I ushered them in, got their snacks, and waited outside until the movie was over. I picked them up in the lobby, and they felt like "big kids." Free movie vouchers generally do not expire.
Sounds like something I would do, lol. When my kids were older, like ten, my bff and I would take them all to a movie we would all like, but then we said we would be at the movie next door. We sat way in the back, since most kids like to sit up front, and they never knew we were there. I like to think it made them a little more independent.
Never write anything down you don't want to be made public. OP should retell the story to everyone her brother meets for the rest of his life for what he's done.
Second story. Stop pushing your kid on MIL. She doesn't want to babysit. Why do you want your kid to be with someone who doesn't want to take care of them. Your poor kid is suffering. Take a hint.
Tell them that you’ll remember next time that they don’t want the free ticket & that you’ll be sure & inform the other parents that these women are the reason you won’t be giving tickets nor inviting any to the free movie night.
Story 1, NTA! The stepbrother is evil, cruel and vile to treat op like he did. The lie he tried to tell op's fiance wasn't a joke it was try to make op look bad and break up her awesome relationship. Op had every right to expose that vile ahole like she did. Update 1, he's only begging for forgiveness because he didn't want to be divorced, he should have thought about that before cheating several times and even had the audacity to brag about it to everyone at the wedding. So happy that stepmom and dad doesn't want anything to do with him and now see him for the monster he really is. Update 2, not surprised that he went on a rampage that cost him his job. And it's on HIM if he now can't get a job in his field due to horrid behavior.
I'm so confused with the ESH comment on the last story. Classes go on trips all the time. Lunches are not always provided, so theres that. Which also does not include siblings. The parents can help chaperon if they want their other children too go .
Story 1: "You are never going back. You've just been Spring-trapped." That song lyric is the best way I can describe stepbrother's karma. It's one thing to read someone's diary and reveal it, but it's another to try and blackmail to get a kiss from her. I don't care how unrelated biologically they are, the law states that's incest and good on OP for not wanting to get involved with either that crap or the prev. I really hope the father and stepmother are ashamed of themselves because OP warned them, her dad especially, what kind of person the stepson was.
Damn it OP, how dare you cheat on your fiancé in France with your fiancé during your friend’s bachelorette trip. How else will your creepy step-brother ruin your life and marriage with a cheating lie if you take your partner with you on trips like this. 😝
My mother, me , daughter, husband all had car seats in our car. My mother had a crib , clothes, diapers, chest , etc n her house for her great granddaughter & kept her days at a time. She also had cribs for my youngest son & her other great grandson. This is a true grandmother. We all supported the 2 grandchildren. Never regretted it.
It’s your child, YOU need to buy the car seat, either purchase a lightly used one for mil’s car or switch the one in you or your husband’s car to her car.
So stepmom and dad believe he’s a cheater but not the sexual harassment of their teenage daughter? They are disgusting. 2- She wants to STEAL grandmas car seat?
The story with the 78-year-old grandma, whatever it was that was babysitting the little one and people apparently getting upset over that OPS is forcing the grandmother to babysit. I know a woman who is babysitting her great grandchildren and she says it is what keeps her young is watching the little ones. She’s basically raised her children, her grandchildren and now she’s raising her great grandchildren. I have lots of fond memories of when I was a kid and my grandmother watching us and my parents would go out. Those were some of the best times of my life and she loved watching us too. I remember during the daytime getting to go over there and go to the park with grandma, I think every child should be able to have those wonderful memories to look back on
Story 2, Opinion 1 One of the best excuses by a similiarly stellar example of a grandmother. Talk about projecting excuses for someone, perhaps as for yourself...
Movie tickets) If you can't afford to take your other kids, don't use the ticket or gift it to another person. The entitlement of thinking someone is suppose to treat the entire family. Next year give the entitled parents kids a candy bag instead.
I honestly don’t understand Grandparents who don’t want to be around their grandchildren, second story, I’m a grandmother of three amazing grandchildren, I absolutely love having them and building memories as I never had a grandmother, I babysit I take them to school and pick them up a couple of times a week and I work but the thought of my daughter not asking me first to look after them would definitely hurt me, they are literally the best thing to happen to me after my children ❤I always bought items to keep at my house so it was easier ❤
The MIL has no obligation to care for your child! You need to buy another car seat and find another relative or friend or paid caregiver for the times you need help. I was overjoyed to be able to help with my grandkids but your MIL apparently is not!
What good is it going to do to buy MIL a car seat if she doesn’t want it in her car and she’s not willing to learn to put it in/take out of her car? Is OP or her husband gonna have to go to MIL’s house every time they need her to pick up the baby to install and take out the car seat? 🤦🏼♀️
I would have been thrilled to receive a free movie ticket for my child!! & would have cut back somewhere to be able to afford another ticket. Matinees in our area aren’t as expensive as other times. I think you need to stop inviting them to the client movie nights too. If anyone asks, you can say, “Oh, I’m sorry. I will no longer be doing this for the foreseeable future. Too many people took advantage of it. & complained whenever I did something nice. So nobody will be able to be gifted with free movies.
S1: In today's world, you have to give back what you receive with interest, or else you will have to suffer. So allow the devil in you to unleash its potential. Standing up for yourself and your loved ones is in no way wrong. If anyone tries to guilt you, ask them to suffer for you by paying for the mistakes caused by the others.
NTA. I mean seriously what parent complains about a free gift 🤦 entitled people just suck. The parent can just suck it up and find the time and money to do something with their kids. Good grief it a freaking private school, you have to have some kind of money to send a child there. It won't break the bank nor kill the parents to spend $20 flipping dollars to hang out and have a good time with their child.
What is it with people having children they cannot afford and expecting other people to look after them 73 is too damn old to be caretaking young children either rearrange your work loads and look after your own kid or do not bother having them
I couldn’t see bringing those bad vibes into my wedding. This guy had been a thorn in her back for years. Why give him the stage now even if it was negative. I would’ve done it, just chosen a different time.
Movie ticket story: Wow, the audacity of these women to demand more tickets. If they can afford an “au pair” for their children, then they can afford their own tickets! 🤦🏼♀️ Edit to add: after all those nasty comments, from now on, I would save my money (and yes, she spent money…she said discounted tickets) and never do anything nice for these parents/kids anymore! They are extremely ungrateful and rude!! So, you are telling me that these moms never take their children to the movies…get real 🤣
Take away all the tickets and be sure to blame it on the kids mother. Those parents bought their entire families in the past, thus abusing their privilege. Stop inviting them to anything, all OP is doing is showing off how well off his is and going out of his way to do so and now it's backfiring on him.
@@IzzyPR2010 OP is NOT showing off, they’re all part of a “private school,” (expensive) these ungrateful parents have reaped the rewards from OP in the past and are now insisting on repeating their greed.
Car seat story. We provide a car seat to my mother-in-law for our son whenever she agrees to drive us to appointments when my husband can not take time off work. I can not drive. He even goes to her house to fit the seat into her car the day before so that she doesn’t have to. After all she is doing us a favour so we are mindful to minimise the inconvenience to her. That means she shouldn’t be left with the cost of the seat. My mother in law doesn’t do babysitting either, but it’s our child so our responsibility and no one owes us babysitting. The parent in the story sounds so entitled.
Story 2. ESH. MIL or any other family members are not obligated to babysit. Also, I would not leave my child with someone who shows a disinterest in my child. MIL should not have kept grandma's car seat. Also, if the child is ill, MIL has no right to go against doctor/moms orders. Husband needs to grow a spine and step in and tell both wife and mother that their behavior is childish. The only people that are NTA are the child and grandma. Lastly, it is ridiculous that some people are scolding OP for having grandma babysit. Just as in everything else, no two people are the same. My husbands granny was very healthy and fit. Until 85, she rode her bicycle to the YMCA 5 days a week (in Boston no less) so she could do laps in the pool. She lived to see 3 centuries, as she was born in 1898, and passed away in 2003. Grannys mother was 99 when she passed.. Now, onto my MIL. She is 76 and is probably healthier and more fit than her children. She gardens, swims, jogs, and still works 2 days a week at the library. If anyone ever told her she was too old to babysit her grandkids, she would be insulted, and probably give them a roundhouse kick in the head seeing as 2 years ago she achieved 2nd degree black belt in American Freestyle Karate ! Some must imagine that OPs grandma is like my mother. Mom is 70 and has to use a walker, and needs assistance with a lot (she didn't live the healthiest life style for the first 50 years) She is also in the beginning stages of Alzheimer's. So yeah, if OPs grandma was like my mom, then I would question her decision, but from what it seemed, OPs grandma seemed in good health for her age.
I came from the poor class neighbors no parents who get a free movie ticket for one kid wait until their child is invited out with their friends for a movie night. The other parents drive but your folks pay your ticket and treat. Then you use your pass. Or worse case parents take you on a discount movie night where they pay half price or less for going at 5 pm. And you get your snacks free. I had friends . Who would buy books of movie passes. Then give you one your birthday card. The Idea was you saved it. Then all the friends could go to the movie together even if we had to walk.
I had no help whatsoever when my son was born he was born with a clubfeet. If it she needed surgery everything I went through with the boy with me him and that’s it. When my daughter came along it was my son, my daughter and myself alone I would cute I would give them one of my fingers to somebody come and take care of my kids for three hours even an hour day to give me a break I would have absolutely killed. You may not see it that way right now because you have the convenience of your grandmother open that you’re gonna be put in the position of a show you things will look quite differently to you then, and you’ll understand how the rest of us feels.
The first story: I have one word - Karma! Second story - MIL should not be required to purchased anything she doesn't want to. She only babysits about "five" times a year, for "emergencies". Why the hell should she purchase a carseat for OP's child? Why should she bother to learn how to install a carseat, she only uses 5 times a year for a few hours? Maybe, she forgets? Who knows? OP's child, OP"s problem. Ridiculous! All great-grandmas and grandmas are not created equally. OP's grandma obviously enjoys what she's doing, while her MIL is not into the whole "grandmother(ly) shtick". OP should consider herself lucky that MIL even helps in an emergency. Especially, if she does a good job, for those few hours. OP's husband has the correct idea. OP needs to grow up and get over herself. OB! The last story - The three moms are crazy. These are kindergarten children, they don't know who gave them what and don't care. If the moms can't use the vouchers, due to circumstances, they could have passed them on to family, friends, etc who could use them or toss them. It is not OP's job to supply vouchers for the mothers entire family unit. I agree that the gift would have been great for older children. Well, you live and learn! * Let's be real, even game shows don't cover a contestant's entire family. They have a set amount of tickets, etc for vacation/trip prizes everything else is from the winner's pocket. OP should brush it off. She knows better next time. If the gang of three, feel better having complained, good for them. It's their circus! OP needs to let it go and keep it moving! The only a-holes are those 3 mothers, who felt entitled to complain. The children don't care and OP shouldn't either. Like I said, " Lesson learned, " hopefully. What entitlement! Lol! SMH!
Not even the a for not buying the car seat, but the comment about "I make sure it is a safe one before I let my son on it" so she waits for the mil get the car seat before agreeing to anything? How many car seats she thinks mother in law should be buying before she can take the son from daycare? She sounds really petty and sounds like she would not be agreeing mil buying anything but the most expensivest one of them before agreeing to it, just to be petty, just because mil is not willing to be used as a free babysitter.. yes I could understand if she would want to agree with it BEFORE anyone is buying anything, but check it after it is bought is too much and even better they should buy it or have one extra, does the father have a car seat? Why she can't use it while mil gets herself to give the seat back? And yes the mil is not good either "I can't take it off my car so you can't get it back is ridiculous, it's not so hard to take off, maybe putting it in right way might be little harder but taking it off, not so much.. so both of them are little bit ridiculous, but OP's thinking that mil should be unpaid babysitter or the 80-years old grandma is his main caregiver while they work is so so wrong, both of them have done their parenting duties so either should not be demanded/waited to be the main care giver of OP's and the fathers child!
And yes I have great childhood memories with my grandma, but it doesn't mean the great grandma should be the main caregiver or the MIL should be unpaid babysitter... There is difference between spending time with grandparents and demanding the grandparents (and even less great grandparents) to be caring the child every day day after day
You know what about the mother-in-law and the car seat I race two of my grand or three of my grandchildren I had no help from either parent and I'll be damned if I want money back from watching my grandchildren they are my family my blood my tribe I don't care what you think you are off the wall
While it's not mil responsibility including the car seat. It's also not her responsibility to take care of your child then make sure you make the point that you won't inconvenience her so don't let her see the kid. That way she doesn't have to worry about the child and giving the child otc pain relieve and feed them the food you preferred then don't even have your child around her she's so wrapped up in her life let her alone and bite the bullet and hire a sitter and after a few years she might decide that it not such a pain. She not scared of taking care of her grandchild she raised at least one kid so piss on her and forget about her. If she were my mil she wouldn't see the child until she begged to.
Story 1…Right at first you should have Recorded the threats of your stepbrother. If Dad still wouldn’t do anything, tell dad you will call CPS and demand your dad do something to stop it. This might have stopped stepbrother from starting any of these past issues.
OP and her husband enjoyed their day it seems so as it was their wedding, their special day, it doesn’t seem to have been tainted for them at all and nothing suggests the rest of their life will be adversely affected by it in any way. So far the only person to be adversely affected is the stepbrother 😅😅😅
1st story : OP, had you considered the overall effect to your guests at the wedding of your, doubtless, deserved revelation about your stepbrother? The new knowledge and how and when they acquired it would for ever overshadow their memory of your wedding. Might have been better to reveal the situation, perhaps, at the reception or even privately to the wife? If you had not thought of all this then YTA.
Story 1. Shame on the dad for not listening to op when she went to him. Maybe I’d he hadn’t been so eager to pacify Kyle, he wouldn’t be the creep he is
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Following around like a lost puppy.
No, he was learning your patterns and thoughts to destroy you.
...and they prepped the dad to distrust the daughter by lying groundwork of how she was so unhappy. Stepmom had to be in on it for this much. Which means this was likely a long term plot to separate the daughter from farher, so they get all the inheritance. Typical bloodline theft con.
OP is lucky he only wanted a kiss and didn't end up trying to get more at night. Her father wouldn't have cared from the sound of it.
Sneak behind her like a predator after his prey.
Like a lost puppy , yes the mask - that ones who look innocent and harmless are allways the worst.
Parents should stop waiting so long to introduce kids.
Kyle edged around and found out. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes! Good for you OP.
My kids got movie tickets once. I really hate movies, so I ushered them in, got their snacks, and waited outside until the movie was over. I picked them up in the lobby, and they felt like "big kids."
Free movie vouchers generally do not expire.
Sounds like something I would do, lol. When my kids were older, like ten, my bff and I would take them all to a movie we would all like, but then we said we would be at the movie next door. We sat way in the back, since most kids like to sit up front, and they never knew we were there. I like to think it made them a little more independent.
Never write anything down you don't want to be made public. OP should retell the story to everyone her brother meets for the rest of his life for what he's done.
NTA serves that stepbro right! And the op saved the wife from being tied to an evil manipulative man.
Second story. Stop pushing your kid on MIL. She doesn't want to babysit. Why do you want your kid to be with someone who doesn't want to take care of them. Your poor kid is suffering. Take a hint.
Tell them that you’ll remember next time that they don’t want the free ticket & that you’ll be sure & inform the other parents that these women are the reason you won’t be giving tickets nor inviting any to the free movie night.
Last story: never invite the greedy mothers to any of your movie nights again.
Story 1, NTA! The stepbrother is evil, cruel and vile to treat op like he did. The lie he tried to tell op's fiance wasn't a joke it was try to make op look bad and break up her awesome relationship. Op had every right to expose that vile ahole like she did. Update 1, he's only begging for forgiveness because he didn't want to be divorced, he should have thought about that before cheating several times and even had the audacity to brag about it to everyone at the wedding. So happy that stepmom and dad doesn't want anything to do with him and now see him for the monster he really is. Update 2, not surprised that he went on a rampage that cost him his job. And it's on HIM if he now can't get a job in his field due to horrid behavior.
I'm so confused with the ESH comment on the last story. Classes go on trips all the time. Lunches are not always provided, so theres that. Which also does not include siblings. The parents can help chaperon if they want their other children too go .
School trips generally don't include the child's sibling as these mother's are demanding.
Story 1: "You are never going back. You've just been Spring-trapped."
That song lyric is the best way I can describe stepbrother's karma. It's one thing to read someone's diary and reveal it, but it's another to try and blackmail to get a kiss from her. I don't care how unrelated biologically they are, the law states that's incest and good on OP for not wanting to get involved with either that crap or the prev. I really hope the father and stepmother are ashamed of themselves because OP warned them, her dad especially, what kind of person the stepson was.
Damn it OP, how dare you cheat on your fiancé in France with your fiancé during your friend’s bachelorette trip. How else will your creepy step-brother ruin your life and marriage with a cheating lie if you take your partner with you on trips like this. 😝
My mother, me , daughter, husband all had car seats in our car. My mother had a crib , clothes, diapers, chest , etc n her house for her great granddaughter & kept her days at a time. She also had cribs for my youngest son & her other great grandson. This is a true grandmother. We all supported the 2 grandchildren. Never regretted it.
It’s your child, YOU need to buy the car seat, either purchase a lightly used one for mil’s car or switch the one in you or your husband’s car to her car.
So stepmom and dad believe he’s a cheater but not the sexual harassment of their teenage daughter? They are disgusting.
2- She wants to STEAL grandmas car seat?
The story with the 78-year-old grandma, whatever it was that was babysitting the little one and people apparently getting upset over that OPS is forcing the grandmother to babysit. I know a woman who is babysitting her great grandchildren and she says it is what keeps her young is watching the little ones. She’s basically raised her children, her grandchildren and now she’s raising her great grandchildren. I have lots of fond memories of when I was a kid and my grandmother watching us and my parents would go out. Those were some of the best times of my life and she loved watching us too. I remember during the daytime getting to go over there and go to the park with grandma, I think every child should be able to have those wonderful memories to look back on
Story 2, Opinion 1
One of the best excuses by a similiarly stellar example of a grandmother.
Talk about projecting excuses for someone, perhaps as for yourself...
Movie tickets) If you can't afford to take your other kids, don't use the ticket or gift it to another person. The entitlement of thinking someone is suppose to treat the entire family. Next year give the entitled parents kids a candy bag instead.
Story #1: I feel bad for the wife, but it's called Karma for the stepbrother
I honestly don’t understand Grandparents who don’t want to be around their grandchildren, second story, I’m a grandmother of three amazing grandchildren, I absolutely love having them and building memories as I never had a grandmother, I babysit I take them to school and pick them up a couple of times a week and I work but the thought of my daughter not asking me first to look after them would definitely hurt me, they are literally the best thing to happen to me after my children ❤I always bought items to keep at my house so it was easier ❤
It could be worse - grandparents who are eager to be around their grandchildren only to be able to hurt them.
The MIL has no obligation to care for your child!
You need to buy another car seat and find another relative or friend or paid caregiver for the times you need help. I was overjoyed to be able to help with my grandkids but your MIL apparently is not!
Esh, for protecting the cheater
What good is it going to do to buy MIL a car seat if she doesn’t want it in her car and she’s not willing to learn to put it in/take out of her car? Is OP or her husband gonna have to go to MIL’s house every time they need her to pick up the baby to install and take out the car seat? 🤦🏼♀️
I would have been thrilled to receive a free movie ticket for my child!! & would have cut back somewhere to be able to afford another ticket. Matinees in our area aren’t as expensive as other times. I think you need to stop inviting them to the client movie nights too.
If anyone asks, you can say,
“Oh, I’m sorry. I will no longer be doing this for the foreseeable future. Too many people took advantage of it. & complained whenever I did something nice. So nobody will be able to be gifted with free movies.
S1: In today's world, you have to give back what you receive with interest, or else you will have to suffer. So allow the devil in you to unleash its potential. Standing up for yourself and your loved ones is in no way wrong. If anyone tries to guilt you, ask them to suffer for you by paying for the mistakes caused by the others.
NTA. I mean seriously what parent complains about a free gift 🤦 entitled people just suck. The parent can just suck it up and find the time and money to do something with their kids. Good grief it a freaking private school, you have to have some kind of money to send a child there. It won't break the bank nor kill the parents to spend $20 flipping dollars to hang out and have a good time with their child.
What is it with people having children they cannot afford and expecting other people to look after them 73 is too damn old to be caretaking young children either rearrange your work loads and look after your own kid or do not bother having them
I couldn’t see bringing those bad vibes into my wedding. This guy had been a thorn in her back for years. Why give him the stage now even if it was negative. I would’ve done it, just chosen a different time.
Movie ticket story: Wow, the audacity of these women to demand more tickets. If they can afford an “au pair” for their children, then they can afford their own tickets! 🤦🏼♀️
Edit to add: after all those nasty comments, from now on, I would save my money (and yes, she spent money…she said discounted tickets) and never do anything nice for these parents/kids anymore! They are extremely ungrateful and rude!! So, you are telling me that these moms never take their children to the movies…get real 🤣
Take away all the tickets and be sure to blame it on the kids mother. Those parents bought their entire families in the past, thus abusing their privilege. Stop inviting them to anything, all OP is doing is showing off how well off his is and going out of his way to do so and now it's backfiring on him.
@@IzzyPR2010
OP is NOT showing off, they’re all part of a “private school,” (expensive) these ungrateful parents have reaped the rewards from OP in the past and are now insisting on repeating their greed.
She’s only the A because Kyles wife shouldn’t have been publicly humiliated because he sucks
Car seat story. We provide a car seat to my mother-in-law for our son whenever she agrees to drive us to appointments when my husband can not take time off work. I can not drive. He even goes to her house to fit the seat into her car the day before so that she doesn’t have to. After all she is doing us a favour so we are mindful to minimise the inconvenience to her. That means she shouldn’t be left with the cost of the seat. My mother in law doesn’t do babysitting either, but it’s our child so our responsibility and no one owes us babysitting. The parent in the story sounds so entitled.
Story 2. ESH. MIL or any other family members are not obligated to babysit. Also, I would not leave my child with someone who shows a disinterest in my child. MIL should not have kept grandma's car seat. Also, if the child is ill, MIL has no right to go against doctor/moms orders. Husband needs to grow a spine and step in and tell both wife and mother that their behavior is childish. The only people that are NTA are the child and grandma. Lastly, it is ridiculous that some people are scolding OP for having grandma babysit. Just as in everything else, no two people are the same.
My husbands granny was very healthy and fit. Until 85, she rode her bicycle to the YMCA 5 days a week (in Boston no less) so she could do laps in the pool. She lived to see 3 centuries, as she was born in 1898, and passed away in 2003. Grannys mother was 99 when she passed.. Now, onto my MIL. She is 76 and is probably healthier and more fit than her children. She gardens, swims, jogs, and still works 2 days a week at the library. If anyone ever told her she was too old to babysit her grandkids, she would be insulted, and probably give them a roundhouse kick in the head seeing as 2 years ago she achieved 2nd degree black belt in American Freestyle Karate ! Some must imagine that OPs grandma is like my mother. Mom is 70 and has to use a walker, and needs assistance with a lot (she didn't live the healthiest life style for the first 50 years) She is also in the beginning stages of Alzheimer's. So yeah, if OPs grandma was like my mom, then I would question her decision, but from what it seemed, OPs grandma seemed in good health for her age.
@2:41 step brother did OP a favor by reading her diary. She ended up with her crush and step brother has a thing for OP. Gross 🤮
I came from the poor class neighbors no parents who get a free movie ticket for one kid wait until their child is invited out with their friends for a movie night. The other parents drive but your folks pay your ticket and treat. Then you use your pass. Or worse case parents take you on a discount movie night where they pay half price or less for going at 5 pm. And you get your snacks free. I had friends . Who would buy books of movie passes. Then give you one your birthday card. The Idea was you saved it. Then all the friends could go to the movie together even if we had to walk.
I had no help whatsoever when my son was born he was born with a clubfeet. If it she needed surgery everything I went through with the boy with me him and that’s it. When my daughter came along it was my son, my daughter and myself alone I would cute I would give them one of my fingers to somebody come and take care of my kids for three hours even an hour day to give me a break I would have absolutely killed. You may not see it that way right now because you have the convenience of your grandmother open that you’re gonna be put in the position of a show you things will look quite differently to you then, and you’ll understand how the rest of us feels.
The first story: I have one word - Karma!
Second story - MIL should not be required to purchased anything she doesn't want to. She only babysits about "five" times a year, for "emergencies".
Why the hell should she purchase a carseat for OP's child? Why should she bother to learn how to install a carseat, she only uses 5 times a year for a few hours? Maybe, she forgets? Who knows? OP's child, OP"s problem. Ridiculous!
All great-grandmas and grandmas are not created equally. OP's grandma obviously enjoys what she's doing, while her MIL is not into the whole "grandmother(ly) shtick". OP should consider herself lucky that MIL even helps in an emergency. Especially, if she does a good job, for those few hours. OP's husband has the correct idea. OP needs to grow up and get over herself. OB!
The last story - The three moms are crazy. These are kindergarten children, they don't know who gave them what and don't care. If the moms can't use the vouchers, due to circumstances, they could have passed them on to family, friends, etc who could use them or toss them. It is not OP's job to supply vouchers for the mothers entire family unit. I agree that the gift would have been great for older children. Well, you live and learn!
* Let's be real, even game shows don't cover a contestant's entire family. They have a set amount of tickets, etc for vacation/trip prizes everything else is from the winner's pocket.
OP should brush it off. She knows better next time. If the gang of three, feel better having complained, good for them. It's their circus! OP needs to let it go and keep it moving!
The only a-holes are those 3 mothers, who felt entitled to complain. The children don't care and OP shouldn't either. Like I said, " Lesson learned, " hopefully.
What entitlement! Lol! SMH!
Op husband needs to grow a backbone
Not even the a for not buying the car seat, but the comment about "I make sure it is a safe one before I let my son on it" so she waits for the mil get the car seat before agreeing to anything? How many car seats she thinks mother in law should be buying before she can take the son from daycare? She sounds really petty and sounds like she would not be agreeing mil buying anything but the most expensivest one of them before agreeing to it, just to be petty, just because mil is not willing to be used as a free babysitter.. yes I could understand if she would want to agree with it BEFORE anyone is buying anything, but check it after it is bought is too much and even better they should buy it or have one extra, does the father have a car seat? Why she can't use it while mil gets herself to give the seat back? And yes the mil is not good either "I can't take it off my car so you can't get it back is ridiculous, it's not so hard to take off, maybe putting it in right way might be little harder but taking it off, not so much.. so both of them are little bit ridiculous, but OP's thinking that mil should be unpaid babysitter or the 80-years old grandma is his main caregiver while they work is so so wrong, both of them have done their parenting duties so either should not be demanded/waited to be the main care giver of OP's and the fathers child!
And yes I have great childhood memories with my grandma, but it doesn't mean the great grandma should be the main caregiver or the MIL should be unpaid babysitter... There is difference between spending time with grandparents and demanding the grandparents (and even less great grandparents) to be caring the child every day day after day
Why don’t you just go over & get the car seat from her?
You know what about the mother-in-law and the car seat I race two of my grand or three of my grandchildren I had no help from either parent and I'll be damned if I want money back from watching my grandchildren they are my family my blood my tribe I don't care what you think you are off the wall
Is the book series Witcher? I am curious.
OP's wedding will be remembered as Kyle's comeuppance, not OP and her husband's celebration of love and family. Ultimately, OP played herself.
While it's not mil responsibility including the car seat. It's also not her responsibility to take care of your child then make sure you make the point that you won't inconvenience her so don't let her see the kid. That way she doesn't have to worry about the child and giving the child otc pain relieve and feed them the food you preferred then don't even have your child around her she's so wrapped up in her life let her alone and bite the bullet and hire a sitter and after a few years she might decide that it not such a pain. She not scared of taking care of her grandchild she raised at least one kid so piss on her and forget about her. If she were my mil she wouldn't see the child until she begged to.
Story 1: SB was in love with her.
Story 1…Right at first you should have Recorded the threats of your stepbrother. If Dad still wouldn’t do anything, tell dad you will call CPS and demand your dad do something to stop it.
This might have stopped stepbrother from starting any of these past issues.
Are people really saying that the MIL not knowing how to put in a carseat isn't a big deal ? WTF??
Story1 blasting your step brothers wife’s business to a whole church makes your revenge pointless
Yes, you are the ah. Tainting your own wedding with such silliness. That was the theme of the rest of your own life. Very bad
OP and her husband enjoyed their day it seems so as it was their wedding, their special day, it doesn’t seem to have been tainted for them at all and nothing suggests the rest of their life will be adversely affected by it in any way. So far the only person to be adversely affected is the stepbrother 😅😅😅
@@shirleyanneyoung955 bringing out dirty laundry is not appropriate at a happy occasion. And wedding memories will forever include the ugly stuff
@@elsajones6325 Stepbro should have thought of that before making OP miserable.
@@elsajones6325 in this case the party is the one that did it, and they were happy, so no harm done and everybody in the family knows.
This story is bullshit but I like it anyway.
1st story : OP, had you considered the overall effect to your guests at the wedding of your, doubtless, deserved revelation about your stepbrother? The new knowledge and how and when they acquired it would for ever overshadow their memory of your wedding. Might have been better to reveal the situation, perhaps, at the reception or even privately to the wife? If you had not thought of all this then YTA.