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As someone who spent most of my 20’s in public and tried to justify working 80 hours a week, I feel you on this. Nothing is worth sacrificing your mental health. Hang in there, you’re almost through your first busy season.
Please keep up the week in my life videos (as long as your enjoy making them). I really enjoy them as a 25 year old who does not have a glamorous life. Like you I’m striving to romanticize the little thinks in my life to incorporate joy into my day. Also post college is a weird time, your not alone. University is so fast paced and so structured I feel like once it’s done for the first time in our lives we have to look ourselves in the mirror and decided how we fell about the person we see. We can’t hid behind college life and avoid our issues anymore, the struggle is real. We got this 👏👏💗
I agree with this!!!!!!
I started at a Big 4 back in August, had 2 weeks of training and then jumped right into our busy season for IT Audit. I cried pretty much every day for 6 weeks because it was so hard to transition from college and having so much "free" time and ability to do what I wanted when I wanted to working full time (still having moments of struggle with it). It's so hard, especially when you see your Senior working what seems like twice as hard/as long as you, almost effortlessly (I know it's not effortlessly, but it can seem like that a lot). It makes you feel like you aren't doing enough, even though you're constantly on the brink of a breakdown/exhaustion/burnout. I've had so many people tell me that the first busy season is the worst, so hopefully, for the both of us and everyone else struggling through their first Big 4 busy season, that is true! Just continue to keep putting yourself first! Nothing we do at work is worth destroying ourselves over
So relatable. Moving from TX to CA on my own and working a 9-5 in tech was super rough after college. So many nights crying and I totally get the feeling of being homesick. Don’t forget to rest and take care of yourself ❤️
Post college life is HARD and really lonely, we worked so hard and did what we were supposed to do- and now we are left to make our structure and the reality of a “9-5” is actually draining. I actually quit my post college job last month and stayed at my restaurant job because it was better money, better flexibility, and better for my mental health at the moment. I feel a strong resistance to the life I thought I wanted to post college, you are not alone in these feelings. I am happy you felt comfortable sharing and I hope you are doing better today :) (I also just started my period after an emotional week lol)
Oh I just want to hug you! I just turned 30 last July and in August I had the biggest mental breakdown in my life, I felt very similar emotions like you to where my loved ones realized I am not ok. Please be kind to yourself you’re still very young and just passed a huge mile stone in your life. There is nothing wrong with seeing a therapist and even going on medication. You are going to get through this. 💪🏽💕
I understand how you feel! Im in big four as well and it could be because we are embarking such a new area, despite having the education. I know at my company it is overwhelming because seniors are always online and you want to show yourself approved. You are worth more than work and the hustle and bustle! The cycle contributes to the overwhelming feeling and I understand that to. I know this was a month ago, so you probably feel better! Hang in there ❤️
life right now for everyone seems to be in a transitional phase. it’s really frustrating and i appreciate that your being so open and real about all of this. i relate to a lot of your feelings wow especially the comments relating to missing home and feeling unfulfilled:/ love you Abby , we got this
I am going through something soooo similar to you and I was feeling so alone. Thank you for being so vulnerable and opening up about your struggles. You are so strong willed and I wish you all the luck with finding a therapist to help you out!! I’ve been through that process before and it’s so frustrating at times but so worth it!!
Very relatable. The transition to post-grad life can be difficult. It can be hard not to be hard on yourself, but hang in there! Post-grad was harder than I had anticipated. It was a time to be patient with myself and slow growth-which was difficult in the beginning. Thank you for your honesty and transparency. You are helping so many people to feel their feelings are valid and that they are not alone.
Trust me I have been feeling the same recently. Your study videos have helped me so much in college and even your exam study videos have helped me study for my insurance exam. You are a ray of light ❤️ Take the time you need & remember your feelings are always valid.
"it's my responsibility to create that time for myself and show up for myself" YESSSS okay i needed to hear this i LOVE THAT
it’s so important to remind yourself of that yessss!!!
Oh my goodness Abby! Again, I am feeling EXACTLY what you've been feeling. I literally told my dad how sad I was waking up and just dreading going to work and how I've never felt like that in my life before...kinda like living for the weekend and time off. But you are doing AMAZING! I think keep looking forward to the small things, pursue therapy, and before you know it your job and Houston will feel like home. Girl, I feel you! The transition from grad school to the work force is just awkward/hard, especially in a new space! Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable so that those of us going through the same things in life don't feel so alone in it all
Abby! I just found your channel! I am also in my first busy season and am struggling. Some mornings I wake up and just lay there and have no motivation or energy to move any part of my body. The thing that has been helpful to me is to make little goals for everyday and cross them out. I make a fun weekend plan every Saturday so I have something to look forward to! You’ll get through it. It’s all a change but eventually it will be the norm for you
This is so relatable. Struggling with such a long and difficult transition like this is just overwhelming sometimes. Romanticizing the small things and fine tuning my routines that make me happy has made such a difference. You are definitely not alone and I’m sending you all the love and support, you’ve got this!
I feel the exacttttt same way as you lately. I moved to a new city for a surgical tech program to make my future brighter..But it’s hard being away from my family and fiancé during this time and makes me feel so alone and sad ALL the time. It Sucks worrying about your decisions everyday and overthinking everything! I appreciate your vulnerability in this video 💕
Your feelings are always valid. Please do what makes you happy; life’s too short❤️
It’s not boring for me because I worked in public accounting too!! I totally feel your pain and it’s cool to be represented in vlogs❤️🔥
this video was such a perfect reflection of everything i’ve been feeling lately so tysm for being so real w us💗you’re not alone girlie
Aw Abby🥺 you’re working so hard and it’s absolutely understandable that you’re feeling this way! You motivated me to start therapy too when you mentioned it a while ago and it has been a great help so I definitely think it’s worth it to continue searching for one. I hope you can find a way to rest and to find peace again, thinking of you xxx
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I completely understand where you’re coming from! Hopefully soon you’ll find the peace and clarity to help you work through this season of life! ❤️
I love watching your days in the life they're very relaxing!
I also get stressed and in my head so I watch sad videos on TH-cam so I cry and then feel less stressed lol. But busy season is almost over and I believe in you, when summer comes you won't be even working 40 hours a week trust me. You can see the finish line, I always tell myself I am capable of more than I know and so are you ❤
LOL! I think it all depends on your office and firm and also service line. I was in Audit in a midsize BIG 4 southeast office and it was busy season Jan- March, April break. May - Nov got put on yet another busy. Dec slow.
@@bby7073 yeah and it also depends on what year end your client has
@@peilin44 1st audits are the worst :/
your videos, podcasts, and content are such a HIGHLIGHT of my weeks!!! ❤️❤️❤️
I struggled through this transition too. I still have bad days, but it gets better. Therapy helped a lot ❤️ hang in there, you’re not alone
Your mental health talk about 13 minutes into the video is exactly how I feel. This is why I want to retire early. Save as much as I can to retire super early. I want to live life without feeling drained, but I also want to apply what I have learned in school at the same time. But not for longer than my sanity will allow. You’ve got this!
Queen I have missed you…. College has been kickin my butt but big congrats on passing the CPA!!!! Been watching you since your sophomore year 🥲 and have definitely loved seeing you grow as your own person 🥳❤️
Omg the more into this video I get, the more I can relate. I totally relate to trying to make each moment count and doing something intentional. Also with waking up a little early and trying to “have your day” before actually starting work. You are so not alone!
So happy for you! When I took the series exams I was dying. & when it comes to mental health, I totally get it. I studied finance and had a great job at JPM. I was so drained from the job and my whole world revolved around it. I realized so quickly that the prestige of the name wasn’t worth me feeling unfulfilled in my job. I totally switched careers and am so happy I did. I feel like I have my life back.
Been struggling with the transition from university to work and just working way too much as well so I feel with you 💞
I felt exactly the same when I first started my career. It’s a super tough time. My advice is to give it a year before you make any big decisions or changes - give yourself time to adjust. All the best!
don't think your life is boring. it's not, it's reality. and so sorry you're struggling. i just started a new corporate job and it's remote and been hard to feel full-filled and happy. i hope things get better for u
your job sounds so stressful and i can't even imagine working that many hours! stay strong!
Your videos are awesome Abby, I'm so grateful for you! I graduated with my master's and a few months afterward started my job in healthcare. I can relate to the transition part and try my best to give myself the grace to ease into rather than get it "right" with the adjustment. I expected myself to be thriving five months into my job, but that's honestly not the case and some days are rough. But like what you've said, there are also good days that make up for those crappy ones. Transitions aren't easy because they're not easy. Rooting for you Abby! Thanks for your lovely video... ^_^
LOL Why are we so similar. 😭 When you were talking about how you've been feeling, I was thinking "girl me too, but I only get like this right around my period." Then you put up that your period came right after. I would look into PMDD and see if any of those hopeless feelings/thoughts occur specifically around your cycle to see if you can learn to better handle them. I know it's definitely helped my way of thinking and understanding that its not just me, but my hormones as well. Your weekly vlogs really help me to ground myself halfway through the week because its very easy to get lost in the sauce and forget how much you've accomplished. You're doing amazing by the way, so much better than you think!
Seriously your videos always made my day 100% of the time ❤️❤️❤️
This amount of work sounds SO tough!!! I am just wondering (I am not from the US) - are part time job a thing, or even 40hr work weeks?? Because there is no way these hours are sustainable :o I am so confused as to, do you have to work this much or are there tax jobs where the hours are more humane? :( xx
Part time jobs are a thing but 1) they can be hard to find in specific fields (or simply not offered) 2) living in the US is expensive as heck and or lots of people have excessive student loans to repay so the need the money. Plus even if you have a 40h work week job lots of times people end up working 50h weeks. It’s the good old American dream….the best part we still end up broke😂
Yayyyyy congratulations 🎉 on passing!!!!!!!!!
After graduating with my masters, I feel the same. I'm not happy at my job and I'm not learning bc I'm so resistive of this mundane bs 💔😭
your cpa reaction was me when i passed nclex lol
i love the long week vlogs
Aww Abby you are awesome I struggle with those feelings too. I love my home and I am so attached to it. I can’t imagine how you feel thinking of you girl and I am always here to chat if you need someone. I am still a part time worker since I am still a student.
genuine question - how come you have to work so many hours, especially on the weekend? that seems incredibly draining :(
Good morning happy Thursday morning and I just wanted to say that your vlogs is sooo good and you are sweetheart because you are amazing Supporter I'm proud of you
Hi I had the same feelings after I graduated from nursing school. I suffered from “imposter syndrome “ and anxiety. My job is so demanding and stressful. It took me a little bit to find my new normal. These feelings are totally valid. You do have to take time off from work and TH-cam to reset your battery. Even if it’s just a couple of days. My niece is a CPA and I know it’s tax season but find some time for just you. I’m sorry buddy. You’re doing amazing!
I died at the little cut in talking about the flo app 😂😂 but I know exactly what you mean! I also am mid-transition from college to adult life and I hate it SO. MUCH.
Would you be able to move the light and sound machine into the living room when griffin is sleeping? Then you could have your unwind time without waking him up!
I related so hard to this I just graduated and started my first "big kid" job in January at a not for profit and end of fiscal year is absolutely insane for us too. I've started talking walks around the block for 10 minutes with my smoothie in the morning just for some quality ~me time~
Very productive, aesthetic & cool vlog!!!
I appreciate your vulnerability in this video. The transition of adulthood is so hard. I obviously don't know the accounting life, but have you reevaluated if a Big 4 firm is for you? Are there smaller firms that you could be getting the same opportunities? I've been working from home during the whole pandemic and it is draining. Can you go in the office more? Maybe that would help a bit or going to your apartments business center/common area. I'm sure staying in your apartment all day is draining.
After my MBA - I jumped into a retail job for about 2/3 months until I found the “IT” job. When I got into my big girl job in marketing it was the most…. Demanding experience… and I’m still learning to “shut it down”.
I have a wonderful job and strived everyday to SHOW that I was worth being there… I still always feel like I have to prove my worth & reasoning behind my salary…and when I did that I created more work - and no home life for myself. Now, I’m trying to learn killing myself with 55+ hours of work a week (not compensated for overtime) is not worth my mental sanity or risking the time “left” with my life.
That doesn’t mean I don’t work just as hard…. But I have been having stricter “times” dedicated to work. The theory “work smarter not harder” is a day in and day out trial atm.
I want to read the “4 hour workweek” book. My mentor (business owner pharmacist) said it’s worth the while”.
Good luck dear! Cheers with the kombucha
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Maybe take a day trip to Galveston Beach on an off day.
20s are hard girl lol idc what anyone says. Also, you don’t know what type of lifestyle suits you best, until you try them out! “This too shall pass” & it really will. You got this. I’m currently in a season of crippling anxiety, but it’s been getting better (so I know that it’s easier said than done).
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It honestly sounds like you're experiencing a burnout, which seems logical also, how you jumped straight into work after crazy studying period. Hope you can find a therapist asap. And perhaps take some vacation days. ❤❤❤
Just the video I needed to get my mind off of this earthquake that just hit here in Japan 🥺
Hi! I had a dream we were best friends.
So happy to see your new vlog. Lots of love 💕 💓
PS you’re allowed to feel how you feel. Yes, people in the world are struggle too but never let that take away from how you feel. You’re entitled to every emotion you feel. Also, I hate when that happens.. questioning my life and my existence come to realize my period is on its way. But it doesn’t mean those feelings aren’t still deep down and are easier to suppress day to day.. I’m not sure why we’re all feeling this way but I’ve heard a lot of young people feeling the same way. Finally getting into their adult life and careers and trying to come to terms with the fact that this is what you’re expected to do the rest of your life. How did our parents do this and their parents do it without having these feelings?
Your videos always make me feel so relaxed 💖
Former Big4 auditor here and my first year at the firm out of college destroyed me and my mental health. I felt the same exact way. You kind of get used to it? I just left for industry and my life and mental health have improved 10000% At my happiest since leaving college 3 years ago. Big 4 is awesome and a great experience I am grateful for, but not sure I would sacrifice my mental and physical health if I had to do it again
I’m sure she has answers this but why does she have to work weekends! Just curious!
She works in tax. It’s called busy season. Tax time for individuals and businesses is January-Apr so the hours you work in public accounting are doubled trying to meet deadlines. Working on the weekend helps spread out the hours
Costco has a pretty good deal for that protein!
Can you not do your night routine even with Griffin in the room? Is he a light sleeper and the sounds / light will wake him?
Working at a Big 4 in general is debilitating. Get your experience 1-2 years and go to a smaller firm. Your living to work and not working to live. Hang in there.
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