BTT # 19 - No More Mr. Nice Guy - Dr. Robert Glover
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No more Mr. Nice Guy? Bought it. Thank you, start reading it tomorrow. 😁✌️😀😎👍
I read the whole book every start to run smoothly and then it
The old habit just hunt me back again, like I get to read it few times
Who viewer say read it 9times.
I get to read it few times
Brilliant conversation. As a man you take 100% responsibility for everything and everyone you tolerate. This man has lived a life and learned from mistakes.
“Do not work harder than they are willing to work to solve their own problem.” Brilliant!
Yep I was the fixer and pleaser and somehow never felt valued nor respected.
As soon as I started living for me and learned to say NO, everything changed.
These are the conversations our fathers and older brothers should have with us in our teens; thank you Rich for your work.
Men, stay strong and keep moving forward.
You don’t even capitalize your own name, why would anyone respect you, when you don’t even respect yourself?
He makes some good points. I liked the statement of “choose the woman that chooses you”, it really clicked in my head. So many of us probably have some chick wanting to please us, but we are too busy chasing other to notice. Or maybe we notice but we give too much attention to the one that least wants it. The more I grow old, the more I realize that being choosy is just not for men. The wisdom of being a man is just that, to literally be the man you’re trying to hide from. The man you’re trying to change or reject. The man that women tell you not to be, what do they know about being a man when every single piece of advice women give about relationships seems to be counter-intelligence. They only know what they like and that reflects on who they let in.
They only relate to counter-intelligence ....thats deep
Great point, this clicked in my head too
Well i was with a woman that actually chose me, and she wanted to please me but also folowing her target, making me more and more distant to my family and close to hers, plus frequent useless fights. So after 18 years and a child i couldn't make it anymore and i left. Now i have 3 trials but i believe she will win at least child custody and child support (we were not married but she still threatened me that she will ask thecourt money for her). Every day i am happier that i left
As a rule of thumb I’ve always let the woman pursue me. You don’t get as many dates but I don’t like to date anyway. If the girls chasing you that means she’s into you and wants to be with you. it’s just up to you to choose if you’re attracted to her.
For men having trouble getting past things that have left a negative imprint, understand, you aren't remembering the event from who you are today. You're reconstructing a mental event from the man you were AT THAT TIME.
Go back, write down the event, and reanalyze it from the man you are today. If you look hard enough, you'll find where you either messed up, or it was out of your control. Either way, both situations are much easier to move on from
Great advice!
OMG this guy and I lived parallel lives. As a man you have to say no when it doesn’t make sense or your logical brain says this is not going to work. I spent 25 years with a woman who was never satisfied. I would do or get her what she wanted and then she would get bored and onto something else. Sex started out slow and finally almost became nonexistent. That’s tough when you’re a young husband in your 20s and early 30s. I wasn’t bright enough to understand what was going on. It was always my fault and even when it was obviously her fault she would just ignore it and act like it never happened. Her affair with her HS boyfriend at age 48 (go figure) broke the camels back. I don’t even know if there where more men. Didn’t notice while raising my kids. Too busy. After watching these video all became clearer and clearer and I recognized so many red flags and symptoms so similar to my life. There should have been a course all young men should take before dating like this channel. Some Women are like children and need boundaries and need to learn what the word NO means. Had I realized I was too nice and put my foot down when we were younger I may not be in the situation I am now. Sure I would have suffered in the short term but at least I would have been true to myself and maybe she would have learned to be a good and decent woman. At the very least we’d have gotten divorced before we had kids and I could have moved on.
keep informing young men with your videos 👍.
Or better yet, saying NO may have made her respect and love you more.
I only say this because I am going through divorce and have similar sentiments to you.
I did everything she asked me to do. I was the lover. I was the one who always tried to make her happy. She took this for granted and got sick and tired of me.
I was TOO AGREEABLE and TOO AVAILABLE.
Dr. Robert Glover is basically a wise American elder for the modern American. Thank you
46:38 "I told her no in spanish" No in spanish is exactly the same as in english
Claro que si 😁
Met her at the massage parlour and then married her.....a true happy ending 😁
I caught that too lol!
Donde esta la biblioteca?
LoL, nice observation
I am guilty of all 3 covert contracts. I sincerely wish this book had been out in 1980. Every father should require his sons to read this book!
Great talk, I really liked Dr. Glover’s approach, he’s brilliant. Will look into his work.
I like what Shawn says about "What is your mission in life?" This is how most of us get derailed because we have yet to define our mission and stick to it.
My mission is to suck a tit down the street.
@@matthewbaumann630 you complete the mission?
@@roninhubbard9059 Yes!
Brilliant statement
Cold approaching gives them the power. When they give us choosing signals, we have the power. Excellent.
What's your mission....? Are you getting derailed from your mission....?
Internal locus of control.
Dr Glover is a master of understanding human nature and the crazy world we live in, kudos sir!
I was in a 7 yr relationship and held my frame, didn’t play her games and held a higher standard for the relationship, my giving was genuine and not expecting anything in return. She left after 7 years because I wasn’t the nice guy and she saw all these other guys kissing their woman’s ass. So the nice guy image screws everyone. And not being a nice guy isn’t always going to work out either. I held strong to my values and morality and tried to bring her up to a higher level. All for nothing left with only 7 wasted years in the end. Life is fickle
I just told my wife no for the first time in a long time last night.
I felt morally inferior.
And she looked at me different.
First day of the rest of my life boyos!
Hi it’s 5:15 AM so super early for me I was just going to the bathroom for a night stop and turn on my iPad and started watching Rich.
I’m so out of it that when I looked at the board behind him I thought it said “for a chance for a free cocaine call with Rich Cooper? I need to go back to bed to sleep 😴
Dr. Glover's book was foundational knowledge, for me. It was my first foray into shedding my blue pill conditioning and going down the rabbit hole of red pill awakening.
Literally the best and most enlightening episode (across all manosphere channels) I’ve viewed since being red pill 2yrs ago. The level of knowledge and understanding passed on the entire panel esp Dr Glover who I listened to for the first time here, was second to none. I really feel like my awakening has now taken a really positive and in some ways new turn such that I can navigate beyond just understanding female nature and now focus on what I actually want for myself out of life in all other aspects. Excellent excellent video Rich..I will be sharing this with a few friends.
This episode is top notch. Thanks for keeping the show going, gents.
I bought a copy of 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' and it opened my eyes really wide. There is just so much to digest and do. When you do the 'do' , it really is amazing how positive the reactions of people can be. Those who know(read-know how to use you) you turn on you real quick. The latter, you dispose of quickly. No loss by the way.
Rich Cooper has changed the trajectory of my life. Started reading his material in September 2021. Life changing.
Just bought the audiobook. First 30 minutes so far is spot on. Describing even my parents and upbringing to a "T"
Thank you to all three of you for this vid. It’s something all men need to hear.
Nice guy or not, EVERYBODY should read “No More Mr Nice Guy”. It’ll show you that being nice isn’t who you are, it’s just a strategy you’ve adopted to get what you want and it doesn’t work at all. Being a nice guy is a recipe for not getting what you want and feeling butthurt about it.
I'm a huge fan of Dr Glover's
I will tell you first hand, if they are not feminine women, run like hell, because my wife is the woman with the cigarette hanging out of her mouth, and tells me i will smoke my cigarettes until I'm dead, hard cord, not feminine, and will punch you in the face, because she thinks she is tough, 23 years later, i just can't do it no more, i have been the nice guy, the pleaser for long enough, I'm fucking DONE
@Young Yoda well I'm in control now, so has gotten a bit better
Rủ
Run
Any update on this? I ran from something similar 😅
Time to get the f*** out! If you’re miserable, get out. It takes people an average of 7 times to get out of a relationship. Make the move and take control of your life
This is great, I love all 3 of you, and you guys answered a lot of great questions, every one of them had value. I especially appreciate knowing that "dating" is not in our DNA, as I have felt lonely, and not appreciative of my self validation. Thank you!
Don't Get Married, I have maybe 4 friends who have decent marriages ,every one else is MISERABLE, and thier jealous of me and being single ,the girl who I wanted to marry is divorced now and over 300 pounds, I didn't dodge a bullet I dodged a battle ship
This is a brilliant conversation - thank you to all of youb
Good shit man...I guess the lesson here, don't be "Captain Save a Hoe "
Such a Gem, found 5 years after. Thanks Robert, Rich and the team
I think the trick is to not really care what a woman wants. The moment you realise that you'll only find someone worthwhile by being your true self, not trying to fit some random's personal standards, the more likely you are to attract someone who likes your real qualities and fits with them best
Best video ever! Man, I needed this video. These three are like the perfect moderator circle for me.
This is a great and very informative video. Thanks so much Rich.
Time well spent. Thank you gentlemen.
I really enjoyed this episode. 👍🏻
Great time listening to you guys. Thanks for sharing!
I’m dying at 45:05 and Rich’s laugh 😂. Amazing ep by the way! Thanks Rich
Excellent program!
Dr Robert Glover's work on his discovery is amazing 🏆👏 his book No More Mr Nice Guy is a life changer! I've just ordered his new book Dating Essentials.
very profound, Dr. Robert Glover! ThanXXX
Hes the MAN.... Love to hear him talk to Jordon Peterson.... Excellent show!!!! GREAT usable contant
Awesome Session! Have learned so much from this session. Makes sense.
This was one of the most excellent podcasts I've seen from Rich, highly informative and very congenial and humorous, really good and I am MGT*W so, we are 99.9% on board. Excellent Rich, Shawn and Robert. Robert looks a bit like the Ultimate Warrior when he got a little older lol.
Thank you guys
Yes ...this book started it all for me. Just the introduction made me think he used me as an example.
A great community of men willing to take care of themselves!!
Good panel discussion. You were kind to the woman who called in asking about how to find the right alpha male. As kids were making noise and interrupting her. I don't think alphas are looking for women with children. Enough said.
I needed to hear and this. Just ordered both book and work book..
The most weakest men I met in my Life are those who allow their wives to sleep around, they don't understand how nasty that is... it's a matter of time before they bring home something nasty to their husbands that they can't get rid of.
Excellent. About time to get the book.
This was a real nice conversation and very to the point.
Thank you for this absolutely amazing podcast. Men need your influence. The boys will follow
i read his book a while ago, but it didn't really connect with me. I think i need to go back to it cos a lot of what he said really made sense. Love your stuff guys. And as people have said you 3 have great chemistry, the 80 minutes felt like 10!!!
Good stuff. My favorite book of all time, tsung su the art of War. I found out early in life it applies to life, work, split tail, business, all of it. Enjoy fellas
I am happy to have found this video. I’m new to red pill. I was a serious nice guy with ONEitis but since I got serious about making me the priority I have seen improvements. So much more work to be done, so wish me luck
Good luck, dude.
Michael Henry
Likewise. Very much a work in progress. Fear it could take a long time after being pre-conditioned by society to act beta for 45 years.
Well done and good luck
Good luck broski
He's also left the country, moved to Mexico, where being white and not being an abusive prick will put you in favor of a LOT more desirable women than your average, psychotic train wrecks we have in America. He doesn't bring this up enough
This book changed my life
I must read this book.
You get out of life what you tolerate. Yes, but the problem is that so many young men are lacking positive masculine role models who could teach them not to tolerate the intolerable. Our sick society is indoctrinating men to tolerate the intolerable and there is a general lack of awareness of this among men. Some of us are, however, taking the Red Pill and awakening.
Thank you. This video helps loads!
Glad it helped!
Great post and great book for men.
Great interview
You guys are the gems of my searching the redpill community. Thrilled to see ya'll together!
WOW, the part about covert contract, that was me you talked about, it has been such a nightmare to be in, i never learned about being social, and i was mr nice guy, im still learning to get out of it
I was just reading this book and getting back into Robert Glover’s Work , I’ve identified with this Nice Guy Syndrome. Can’t wait to make some real growth !
Thank you for having him on. Great show!
Get rid of Donovan and add one of these docs to the rmg.
I agree. Donovan is pretty high on the narcissistic spectrum. Proof: he is rude to everyone (both women AND men who call in) and dismissive to even the slightest disagreement. And he thinks he's a 10 and talks about himself being a "prize"!! I mean seriously, right? Has he no mirrors in his home? Haha :) He's no better than those rabid feminazi-type women... just plain yuck 🤢
Excellent show
Glover is a legend.
Robert Glover is archetypical ladysman. Nice to hear his somehow beatifull way of thinking.
Great show!
Simply awesome.
Everything you bring up, both in this show and in your other posts, are right on, and I had to experience them personally at a time when Red Pill mentality was not on the radar. And the results are exactly what you say. Even when my wife or female associates are with me I get targeted by those 9-10 females. You said it in a recent video. The females are at the finish line waiting. Leo Durocher said it - Nice guys finish last.
Great book!!
True peace comes with an understanding that we are 100% responsible for our lives as men. There is no other human being or group of human beings specifically focused on our well being. So to whine & complain to others about our particular plight in life gets us no where
Doc!! @1:05:59 this video completely VERIFIED the space and place I’ve been in x 8 months. I too, functioned in formal Ministry as a Licensed Minister.
Yet, I have been “out of Ministry” for 2.5 years. And I finally do indeed “See The Light”
Some around me don’t understand nor want to understand this new, improved, version of the Masculine ME, operating in my scripturally supported Dominion- as I AM created in “Our image and likeness” per the voice of God.
This version they cannot accept!
I can testify about what you say at 35 min : I got told by an ex - who ended the relationship - that I was listening too much to her non-stop depressive complaining (about her work in that case) and leaving too much space to her crappy headspace. Too much of a patient listener. Not setting enought boundaries. Not telling her enought to shut up. Screw Mr Nice Guy.
Covert contracts...great info for All of us. Forgive me for thinking its good to know men feel & think the same "nagical" things as women. Leaning to know what I want and need, and how to meet my own needs has been challenging, but thrilling as I go. I want to send this book to some of my favorite men in my life. Thank you for educating the generations.
Alice Cooper’s got a hell of a song bout this.....
BamBam Bigelow Poison
No more Mr. do do do do!
I am beta male Jewish guy mid forties. I am not good looking & not much money. Grew up secular whereby hypergamy rules. I then became an orthodox religious Jew and joined that environment and never looked back. It is like the 1950s where the men are respected and not judged on finances or physicality like before feminism and tinder. I have never been so happy. You can be a nice guy.
You are putting religion first. So as an oj your wife's goal would be to do everything else so you can put God first. Essentially your wife is put last. God, you, kids then her. It is a simple life that is calm. But if all the women left your kids would be alone and you would be hungry. So men arent all powerful. Dont be a fool. It's a balance that needs proper respect for both parties.
Come on callers. Articulate your questions better. Goodness gracious.
Keep Going They should formulate them in their heads or write them down before they call.
I’m a young guy I’m 19 and this resenates with me
Crime scene investigators and Coroner's can indentify the race of a skeleton by more than 60 different ways. But as a presupposition of western culture we cannot even speculate that such differences could possibly extend to the brain. Race is not a social construct, multiculturalism is a social construct. I'm not saying that we do not have a obligation to love those who are different than us, but rather that diversity is not a political ideal. Unity is a political ideal. Because you wont go looking for war, war always comes looking for you. You may not be looking for racism, racism always comes looking for you. Diversity should be preserved by permitting the self determination of all people's in independent nation states.
The solution to racism is monogamy. Most of people killing each other, both inter and intra race, is men competing for resources/status to gain attaction from women. Jordan Peterson has a 10 minute video called "Does poverty cause crime? No. the Gini Coefficient explained" where he describes the most duplicateable law in all of the social sciences (the Gini Coefficient): as economic inequality increases in a given geographic area, the male on male homicide rate will increase exponentially. The reason why is because as economic inequality increases women mostly flock to the top men. The solution to the gini coefficient dilemma? Jordan Peterson says its forced monogamy. That's how you balance unity with diversity so that society doesn't rip itself apart....
Whites shooting up mosks in New Zealand? Would he have done it if he was married and loved and appreciated? Blacks killing each other in Chicago? Would they be doing that if they would have been married with loving appreciative wives in their lives?
Well said.
@@AtheismF7W Thank you!
Covert contracts are based on Societal driven Assumptions. 58:00
34:07 Yeah there's the ladies joke "All women are crazy-- and it's men that make 'em so!!" Got that from an Italian friend. Had a good laugh.
Third wife is a jealous Latina? That’s not going to end well either. Sounds like Robert can attract women but needs to learn what to do with them. The last thing I’d want living in my home is a jealous Latina woman.
Glover is that uncle you wish you had
It seems pickup has changed since the time he last checked. At least some guys like Rsd is about self-improvement, getting rid of insecurities and getting more "doors" opened for you rather then trying get through the closed ones
@ageofbogyo that's true. What I was saying is that at least some pua schools AFAIK went from faking alpha to actually becoming someone close to one
Where is the challenge in going through open doors?
Bro dropping bars and more bars 👏🏾
What an amazing video, its just a shame with all the Technical issues.
I missed the details about Dr. Glover's new book, can you run that by us again?
Who dislike this video? It’s absolutely valuable
Classic episode.
I regard my failure in marriage as blessing in that I learned about the red pill. Although I miss my family unit “ideal”, I don’t miss being plugged in and unaware of the real world. Since unplugging due to the catalyst of a terrible divorce, my life has improved dramatically. Having the truth can hurt, having the knowledge can be depressing. But once you find your groove...which can take years btw, I don’t judge guys that have failures in marriages or otherwise. In many situations these men realized their mistakes and actually made changes up to and including divorce. Who is better? The guy who has two or three divorces and has the life he has crafted and wants due to his experience/knowledge? Or the guy who has unhappy marriage and has stuck it out for the various reasons guys stay?
My girlfriend would tell me her happiest time in her life wad when she was married, he did everything she wanted ,took her everywhere she loved to go ,let her quit her job cause he made good money ,yet when he would come home drunk she would scream at him and kick him and yell at him I HOPE YOU DIE, and that was the happiest time of her life??? WTF, im still running 🏃♂️, when a woman tells you something like that run away guys run fast run far
After reading No more Mr nice guy, the rage went full steam and has not subsided after one year of being redpill.
Finally passed for me a little while ago, the biggest factor I think is just time. Your brain is taking in a totally new way of seeing the world.
I didn't do much differently before when I was pissed vs after, think I just finally had enough time to let it sink into my personality.
Give it time brother
I love how he said he told her no in Spanish
Your content is top notch since cutting ties with Rolo and the other poser. The calibre of your callers has also improved.