*FULL* What WOMEN need to KNOW about MEN - Yasir Qadhi - Like A Garment!!!
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7 important factors that women need to know and understand about men & male psychology in order to ensure a successful relationship
Sisters (and brothers)..I did not put the annoying background on..sorry :/
And plz try not to flood the comments about it..it puts others off you know..
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A great talk for both Muslims and non-Muslims. You are a great speaker, Sheikh Qadi!
Secondly, regarding your point on men finding other women attractive: Here are the facts : If husbands wish to be respected by their wives, THEY TOO ought to respect their wives. One of the greatest disrespects to a woman is for her to know that her husband finds another female attractive,especially in her presence. Brothers,please keep your thoughts to yourself and keep your gazing for when you are out on your own. A WOMAN WANTS TO FEEL LIKE A WOMAN TOO...You can do this by making her believe that she is the only attractive female in the world- WE HAVE EGOS TOO!
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Wrong. A wife must respect husband because he spends on her and its not vice versa. and Offcourse husband will respect wife when he is respected, he is not a mad person.
Its sad to see that so many people left negative comments. May Allah reward this shaikh, he has highlighted some main issues which create arguments within a marriage. Be it silly or not but they make sense. U will only understand when your actually in that situation.
Why is it when Muslim sheikhs try & make lectures on how woman should be in relationships to make it work there are a thousand critiques quick to slander him but if it's a female [non-muslim or muslim] writing marital/relationship books on how women should be, there is nothing but applause. Most of what he says here is the exact same thing I've read in a book [WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES] which is a best seller in the US.
background NOISE (humming noise) is so annoying........
You shouldn't have mentioned it, after your comment it made even more noticeable and annoying-_-
Talha Temuri so so annoying
Talha Temuri
As salam muhaleikum brother... I accept the fact that you find it disturbing, but try to focus on the point of the video and not the 'side aspects'. In sha Allah, it wont disturb you that much anymore...
halima k I don't agree. If you understand the beauty of Islam then you would find everything annoying but ISLAM, if you are Muslim and makes NG this hideous comment then you will die as a munafik.
halima k
Okay,
Surah al Kafiroon:
"Lakum deenukum, waliya deen."
"For you is your religion, and for me is my religion."
its really a great lecture. May Allah reward the shaikh for sharing these important advices
And women often don't spend much time to beautify themselves for their husband because he often doesn't show as much appreciation for it, as her friends do at sisters only events.
Also, what if the man constantly wants alone time and it takes over most of their time?
+ShakirahIbaad I think you are mistaken, men have beauty paraded around them openly in non-muslim countries and are often disappointed when they do not have their visual desires catered to, not all men like the same thing, of course, but all men do like clean, effort made, a good smell, a bright smile, some love make-up and his wife to dress up at times in nice clothing etc... and vice versa.
+sham star Women like good looking men as well...maybe the guy should put in just as much effort as the women. I don't get why a woman has to cater to a man's desire without discussing the needs and desires of a woman equally. He talks entirely about men without discussing how a woman might require some romance, seduction and foreplay to get into the mood. Just taking your opinion as an example, lets say a housewife cleans the house, cooks and looks good on a daily basis. Her husband comes home and she's looking all nice and great. She's fulfilling his visual desires but what about hers? Is her husband fit, does he wear nice clothes, keeps himself groomed etc? Remember prophet yousuf had girls chasing him enough to land him in prison because the queen wanted to seduce him. Girls are just as visually lustful as men; if not more so.
It's incredible to me when men talk about women and desires when statistically 70 to 80% of women don't even achieve orgasm during sex. Maybe a dude would get laid more if he thought of pleasing her first!
Farah Hafeez Yes my sister, you are so right. These Scholars love talking about the rights of men at the expense of the wives.
This was not the case with our beloved Prophet pbuh. Muslim men would do well to emulate his character, particularly when it came to interacting with his wives...
darulfiqh.com/the-romantic-prophet-how-to-be-romantic-your-spouse/
As for 70% of women not getting 'ultimate' satisfaction, that is a problem across the World in all cultures. Men should be 'linguistically' schooled, or in the very least 'handy' to have around to avoid being left high and dry ;)
sham star I agree that it is not a Muslim men problem. I think we need to stop using religion to differientiate between people. We are all human beings and prone to good and bad behavior. The problem is when we try to use religion as an excuse for our behaviors. I think both men and women should try to be mature adults. I don't like this man's perspective because he is describe boys rather than a real man.
This is very good and informative video mashaAllah. Since i am child of an environment of divorces , and i have observed three marriage relationships while i grew in that condition it leads me to search more about this knowledge. And wallahi, i am telling you everything that this sheikh said is subhanaAllah true. So you have to ask Allah so much to help you. like to respect someone, you need Allah so much to help you. and all the lists you need Allah so much and for all the things you need Allah so much. So if you feel you cant do it, yes guess what we cant except with Allah 's help. and knew that if your niah is good Allah will definitely help you. Even i am not married yet, i trust so much Allah on this. and i hope my comments will bring some of eye opening to people who read it. thank you. May Allah bless us with happiness and love and rahmah marital relationship
this is an honest lecture. sisters follow his advice, it may save your marriage iA
thebachu786 yes itss honest.i didnt like it but it makes a lot of sense
Asc TABARAKA-ALLAH what a beautiful lecture for those of you who listen and disagree I MAY ALLAH OPEN YOUR HEART TO THE TRUTH AND UNDERSTANDING AAMIN AL MALIK
This is all very true.
Islamic marriages are great because we follow and understand these rules.
We take relationships seriously. The man is going to be a father, a protector, if I chose him as a husband I have to trust him completely and let him be my guide.
Muslim men are like this exactly, especially about the respect and work.
Sisters, this is how males are created. Follow these rules. And you will have a successful marriage.
Point #4 does not depress me. You have to understand that Allah created men this way. Women should never degrade husbands because of this, because doing so you're degrading Allah's creation.. Be good to your husband and he will never do any harm with this burden.
Men are simple.
In Sha Allah you can have a successful marriage.
Haha what? Your response changed completely 😂
Okay lady..
Oh God you're so dumb... 😖
It hurts to read your comments. Seriously
Yeah. Muslim men follow all these rules, for a good marriage, also follow these rules. have four so-called wives, and whores on the side. you are obligated by allah.
Carmen T you don't know what you're talking about.
+Hannah Hurst Don't get mad because the truth hurts.
I feel exactly the same.. it broke my heart and I actually cried while listening to this:(
May Allah help alllllllllll women
why did you
I'm a still a young man not married yet, but I truly ask allah to bless me with the best wife for me, and a wife that understand and implement these things, ameeen
and I ask allah the same for my muslim brothers.
Give this guy a medal!!!! Loved it.
The thing about the "not correcting your husband" is as follows...
It could be that your husband makes a mistake. But the reason why many men don't like to get corrected is not because they don't like to get corrected, but it's because they want to be respected.
I'll explain.
Whenever you're talking to someone, and you're trying to explain him something, and the person you're talking to cuts you off in the middle of your explanation and tells you how "wrong" you are and how you're mistaken. Isn't that annoying?
There is no problem in the fact that this person disagrees with you. That's not the problem. The problem is that this person doesn't even let you finish your explanation and just cuts you off in the middle. That's very annoying.
Why would someone do this? For several reasons actually...
It could be a person cuts you off because he doesn't respect you. He sees you as dumb person, or at least he thinks you're just not smart/responsible/mature enough. Thus he will try to correct you.
If a person "actually respects" you, than he, would let you finish your explanation/talk and after that he would maybe correct you or disagree with you.
But if he doesn't even give you the chance/time to finish what you're saying/doing, and cuts you off and "corrects" you, it shows this person isn't respecting you as an intelligent human being that can think for him-/herself.
I honestly find it annoying as well.
If I would drive in my car to the store for example. And I know the neighborhood very well. And for certain reasons I take a different road to go to the store and my wife (sincerely/patiently) asks me "where are you going?" or "isn't the store that way?", then I obviously don't have a problem with that. But if she decides to "cut me off" in the middle of what I'm doing and tries to thus correct me, it shows she doesn't trust me enough to 'not make' an obvious mistake like that. If my wife knows that I know this neighborhood, and I know exactly which way to go, in order to get to the store, than she shouldn't be impatient and "cut me off" by saying that I'm taking the wrong way. She should know better and realize that I'm most likely taking another way for a certain reason. For example, to avoid traffic jam or something like that.
The fact that my wife would "cut me off" in the middle of what I'm doing shows she doesn't "really believe" in me or "trust me enough". And that's annoying.
BUT... if I made a mistake, and my wife has been patient enough to wait and see what I'm doing, and than decides to sincerely and genuinely correct me, than I see no problem in that.
If she tries to correct me just because she's an impatient person that doesn't respect me, than that's annoying.
If she sincerely and genuinely tries to correct me, I don't necessarily see a problem with that. I just believe a person should be given the chance and time to make clear what he is doing or saying before he gets corrected.
thank you for the information! It's very useful, hopefully I'll remember to keep these tips in mind for future references
No wonder the western world say, 'Muslim women are oppressed.' I have married for 19 yrs and I tell my husband when he is wrong and I respect him to the utmost. A married couple is not as boss and a servant, and marriage responsibilities is not for the husband alone. Marriage responsibilities is a division of labor.
i'm a woman, i need some "cave time" too.
I had lots of laughter when I watched this... not because it's funny but because how true it is... and awkward but true.
I have a few things to say about the driving examples that i feel i should point out:
1. My country is at war. There is no petrol/ gasoline available. My husband would have to wake up really early drive to another city to fill his tank and maybe sneak in 6 liters extra. Then he would come back home at night tiered. So when he does drive us to a place and take the wrong turn i will speak up.
2. If there is an emergency there is no way that rule applies.
3. How would he feel if he found out that i knew he was going the wrong way and i let him. That would just drive the person mad.
I am sorry if i sound rude or bossy but there are circumstances that would not allow me to keep quiet.
Maa Sha Allah
I love you my brother in Islam. May Allah Taalah bless you and your family in this dunya and in the akhiraa ... Ameen x
I don't agree with what was said about the man gazing at other women, that it doesn't mean he loves you any less. Listen to Mufti Menk's lecture and he says everytime your husband looks at other women the wife's value drops 5%, so true because now he's looking at something better than what he has. Everytime our husbands eyes are wandering it makes our value drop. So hard on us muslimahs living in the West because there's "eye candy" everywhere and which man isn't going to look. Insha Allah May ALLAH grant all us sisters the Jannah for having to deal with this.
I loved both of the talks about men and women. Great insight! Just wonderint though why was the men's lecture 45 mins and only 28mins for the women....? I could be wrong but it seemed like he spent more time explaining more and going into much more detail with this talk....your thoughts?
Don't get me wrong here, but I think it's because women have a more difficult time accepting facts. Just look at the comments. He constantly has to "explain" why things are.
While in the other video he seems to be able to explain stuff to men, and men "get it". Without being so emotional about it.
Okay I'm single but in the future I'm going to follow everything this guy said because I first listened to the female version and it's everything I hope my future hubby will follow. This guy knows his stuff... pray I get a riotous husband so I can dress up for him lol (or not 😏)
I found the lecture is quite hard to give but sheikh yasir did it beautifully.
The fourth one made me so sad.
May Allah swt bless you and your family and thank you for making these videos. I'll pray for you. You're simply amazing!
Jazakallahu khir brother. May Allah bless u in the earth and hereafte.
Masha Allah just beautiful and we'll explained
Thanks for such great explaination about men. I came to know some new things today. InShaAllah I'll take care of this things in future. :)
This is the fact. Hope women will learned from this. Very few women could take heed from this.
Masha Allah I love your videos they are so informative may Allah reward your efforts ameen
Poor men, fragile little darlings, I was about to cry watching this video... not!
They want to control the world, but yet so sensitive.
Aylah Balasco ii
Only sensitive to their wives. No one else. Because they care.
lol, this reminds me of that episode of married with children when Al and Ted are trying to install a workbench while the woman watch in the sidelines and they couldn't do it and after a long night of maiming and Kelly comes in and hooks it up in under 5 seconds.
A wife refusing her husband on and on and doesn't love her husband causes by doing that, that she doesn't deserve to be called a wife anymore nor does she deserve any attention or endeavor from her husband. It has to be talked to her. If she keeps up with this behavior she DESERVES to be divorced and replaced by a better and more loving wife!!!
Assalamu alaikum sisters....... how can you be a good judge to yourself and a bad judge to others. it is fine if your mind couldn't understand his lectures, his job is well done. those who want to learn from it is OK and those who don't want to accept it is OK too.
I hope you go and listen to the women side too and see if that applies to you then you can come and make comments because by doing so you will probably know whom he is in favour for. May Allah grant us all jannatul firdaws. ameen
So nice.and beautife lectures.thanks lot
ALLAHU AKBAR....LA IL LAHE IL ALLAHU....LA HAVLE VE LA KUVVETE ILLA BILLAHIL ALLIL AZIM!!!!!!
Change the word man to child and what you say will make a little more sense
Josie Maran you just made men feel like they can’t be a man to the world which is what the fellow is trying to tell you to prevent this action😂😂 (sorry for laughing male😶). Aren’t you a boy/man though? If not then it makes sense but if it is yes..then I’m confused because this way you rejected everything what the fellow has been saying (sorry for speaking a lot😶..that’s one of the woman’s habits😅).
Josie Maran that’s so funny!!
Omar ibn khetab says be a child to your wife but when she needs you be a man for him now this is the beauty of islam .
Assalamu alaikum sisters....... how can you be a good judge to yourself and a bad judge to others. it is fine if your mind couldn't understand his lectures, his job is well done. those who want to learn from it is OK and those who don't want to accept it is OK too
I hope you go and listen to the women side too and see if that's true in you. May Allah grant us all jannatul firdaws. ameen
Also, while they’re at it, get over hearing “no”, because sometimes I’m not in the mood!
Nice to know, but I'm not concerned about an ego because I don't have an ego, single and chaste for eternity. Even in the Hereafter I won't loose my chastity. We live in the 21st century, not during the 7th century anymore. My books, nature, etc is enough to fill my heart and natural desires of this temporary dunya. Amen!
Everyone has an ego and everyone has nafs, perhaps you're too young to experience what the Sheikh is saying. One day you'll desire marriage, a spouse and then this lecture will become relevant! The NABI SAW didn't stay single forever he got SAW got married and had children, why not follow his sunnah and do the same? We're Muslim we're meant to increase the ummah.
Lovethe Deen No I'm not too young, first of all you don't know who I am and what I've experienced in life, so be careful when you discriminate wrongfully, for Allah is Severe in Punishment! For you is your way and for me is my way. Allah (swt) is NOT going to ask you about your wife, and children and money in the grave rather gravely, He will ask you about your deeds!
Jazakallah Shehyk, much appreciated :)
JazakAllah for this brother.
If a woman knows the way better than the man, why can't the man just let down his ego and pride and accept that being male doesn't automatically mean you know everything? Just like women are willing to listen to the man, men should be okay with listening to the women. Its pride and arrogance on the man's part, not disrespect from the women's part. I will respect a man much more if he isn't a know-it-all.
My future wife needs to see this
that's exactly how you dont know because you are a woman not a man. FOr a man sometimes the urges become absolutely uncontrollable. Yet the signs of a pious man is that even though he has urges he controls them and refrains from sins/zinna
Why it is necessary to have some kind of music on the background of every Islam video I watch? The music in the background is disturbing, annoying, and takes away the attention from what actually he is saying. Please consider this point when you want to post videos.
Thank you,
I'm a muslim sister. I think this video applys to sisters whose husband are following the laws of Allah towards the wife. if he is abusing her weather psychology. or physical. does not deserve respect.
I'm sure women are not bothered about a leaky tap . grow up
Why the background music? Distracting!
common sense only a wise woman would actually understand and already use this logic!!!! its called being wise
This is kinda true. If only I take this course seriously........... so sad. For sisters who wants to married, think again. Unless he is so rich that he can distract you by his wealthiness Hahahahahaha. I'm serious.
Myself and my husband are non practising catholic,we were thinking of divorce after 5 years of marriage. This has saved my marriage, I understand now why he is always at work, I am by no means subservient but I consider my husbands feelings before I nag him.we now have a much nicer home environment and romance has returned
Kelly Mcnamara That is wonderful news Kelly, I would consider you to look more into Islam it will save your marriage until eternity.😌
Yes, I am that wife that is telling my husband before he gets to the mistake because the mistakes that he makes would either land us in jail, kill us, or murder our marriage.. I don't know that I can whole heartedly agree for my own situation lol
Great advice. As a well educated british woman I agree with the points raised. Will implement these points more into my life.
Assalamu Alaikum Everyone
ive recieved a lot of comments & msgs about the humming/nasheed in the background, please forgive me coz i cant remove it...the video was produced by TheDiscoverULife and they put the nasheed in the background: i was just compiling the series into one video for your ease..am very, very sorry my sisters & brothers, i cant do anything...plz make dua for my forgiveness inshallah, Jazaks
He is absolutely correct about everything. I married twice and I am a women. I have lived all this and saying from my experience.
My life changed for good after hearing and following his advice . I advices most of my believing friends and sisters to watch this video. I keep hearing it quite often . I agree with his advice . Only a true believer agrees with his advice. I request all believers who are getting married or already married to hear and follow his advice. I
@Maryiam Gani shut up fool
point 4 really broke my heart. It's really hard to deal with it as a (very jealous) woman :'( on the other hand, it explains why hijab and modesty uplifts the Muslim woman, and gets men to respect her.
But seriously this is really heart breaking :'( understand where we come from also, women are very competitive, and it is hard to know that we will never be "enough" for our husband, that there are still other women getting his attention. HasbiAllah wa ni'mal wakeel :'(
Brutally honest yet admirably eloquent.
I think people are getting yasir wrong. He is simply telling us how men here. He is not justifying it or applauding how men are. It is all about understanding the other
Respect is EARNED not given. Be a man and your wife will want to be with you. What a lot of bad advice and justification for men not to be men. Any man who can't be a man because can't have sex is thinking with his wrong head. Be conscious and you will have not problem with women especially his wife. This is teaching men to be immature little boys. Grow up and become real men.
That humming in the background is soo annoying. Can't even concentrate on the content of this video.
Agree, i dont like the humming myself.
Ps..54th person to tell me that ^^
Zulfiqaar Media 56th person. who thought of the annoying humming when someone is giving advise.
Im guessing its by the people who recorded the seminar, they probably thought it would go well with the theme, but didnt realise the video would be much much better off without it..
i was lucky to have the wife i had lol...she gave me what i wanted most of the time. i have to work on my romance though, i had the most wondeful wife ever.i was lucky to have her
...what happened then? :O
You are just a nice guy who appreciates people, a lot of guys have good wives but they just don't appreciate them.
moha1900
Mashallah❤❤
Menk
what happened
i wish i could put these words in a cup and mix it with zam zam and get my wife to drink it..!!...wallah, she needs it....i still love her though, but this is vital. Ya Allah show all male and female the right path and to stay steadfast & in their rights and obligations.....sister dont mind my joke please, sence of humor is also vital..!!!!
Amin
@@Kamal_AL-Hinai so having a shahadah flag automatically makes you ISIS ?
qash maz if it's their flag then yes. No matter where I'm it, you're raising their flag
@@Kamal_AL-Hinai no it's not. Delusional
LLMFAOOOOO yo yall still married>
This just plain disgusting tbh especially #3 and #4, I'm actually horrified right now.
Dont worry. He isnt right. He is speaking about how he and men like him are. I know many men who dont apply to #3 and #4.
What I see is that you do understand the need of men, you seem to not understand that much of what you say equally apply for women too, with a more affectionate approach and kindness. Kindness is the key to intimacy, including healthy sexual intimacy, take away kindness, be grumpy, be critical and the heart is crushed and the desire will ebb away, till she performs, not engages. That is a terrible loss. Just be kind!
if my husband was going the wrong way and I didn't tell him and he found at that I knew the right way he'd be pissed lol! My Muslim husband recognizes that's he not always going to be right and he appreciates my advice. I never tell him in a condensing way but we both listen to each other because we can both be wrong and right. I'm never going to let him do whatever always cause men make dumb mistakes just like women and as a married women both me and my husband understand that and we help each other to try and make the best decisions. If your always belittling your husband and are mean to him then yes but just telling him the right way to go isn't not going to damage his ego and if it does then he needs to go do some soul searching cause that's too much! I couldn't be married to someone like that what a baby! And just saying if you know the right way somewhere tell him you'd save a lot of time and money on gas!
😂😂 right. Mash'Allah you have been blessed by both a good husband and a good sense of humour sister.
P. S. I loved the part of your personality I could see through this comment.
I'm a guy, but my Ego isn't fragile at all...
Men shouldn't act like pussies, thats just not right xD
Zain A.
Yes, indeed, but a man's ego can be very fragile towards a wife.
Example: if some random person says he or she does not love you, it doesnt hurt you at all. But if your own mother says she doesnt love you, it would hit you hard, because love is something very important in a bond between you a your mother..,
An ego of a man wont be damaged that quickly by any person. But for a male it is very important to have a ego in order to get female attention. This is basic biology. And if a male has a female partner, and that female partner, for which the male is most important to show a strong ego to, suddenly bashes that ego, the ego will be damaged severely.
so it the bridge is closed a wife should just let him go to the closed bridge and make a u-turn.... riiight....wrong. smh.
Nadia Darlington men are not as stupid as you think
I am a 22 years old female and I love male psychology. I want to be a wife in which my future husband will find complete tranquility in. and I look up to Khadija RA. In syaa Allah.
I don't want my wife to treat me like a child!!! That's not respecting me that's disrespecting me!
If I am wrong than she should tell me in a respecting manner as I will tell her when she is wrong!
A woman can NEVER respect a man who are full of himself as a man can never respect a women who are full of herself. Ask your sisters or mums if they can respect a stupid husband or a man who has a big ego! I
If we respect women they will give us their love and respect in return
+Yousafzai Khan Shhhhhh don´t question things. Muslims don´t like that lol
If my wife knew that I was driving in the wrong direction but didn't tell me out of "respect", then I would be PISSED at her for not trying to help.
The whole problem with this video lies in the idea of "respect", which is clearly overrated. What one needs to focus on is LOVE because out of love will a couple become physically, mentally, and spiritually stronger. To love means to help correct your partner, and to ALLOW being corrected when wrong about something.
What if one only wants what they want, leaving the other one with no other choice but to walk away.
I think there are différences between arab, Asian men and western men. WHAT Hé explained is more for men of arabic or a sian culture.
Men, I got news for you...women also have desires, women also want you to take care of yourself and look good for her, and we DEFINITELY need our alone time as well. Pretty much ALMOST everything this guy said is the same for women.
I agree on all three fronts, but there are definitely things in the psyche of both sexes which are more important for each sex. For example, a woman would also be offended if disrespected, but not as much as a man would be. And a man would also be hurt if made to feel unattractive, but not as much as a woman would be.
Of course these are generalisations, and of course you don't need to treat either a man or woman exactly like this for a marriage to work. But I think these are good rules of thumb, especially if a person has no idea why his/her spouse is upset
can you guys calm down, you do realize that there is another video of him explaining what men need to know about women right
yes. And that's more appalling
No i dont agree with you at all. I mean its even psychologly proven that men and women arent the same and also dont desire the same things as much. I think that society/people these days forget that men and women arent the same in how they think(mentally). People only think that the difference between gender is physical. We're slowly forgetting the differences of men and women which goed against our morals and values. :(
Kindah : Never go out your way or force yourself to give a man sex if you don't really want to or if you are not in the mood. Men need to learn about how to be strong without sex, they need to know that sex is not every thing......
Sometimes it is too late :( inna lilah wa inna ilayhee raja'oon I wish I would've seen this lecture and got over my anger before my divorce
Now I understand the marriage breakdown of my parents. Thank you brother!
Really good video please lose the music at the background it's annoying
This is still even after 8 years, the best video I’ve seen on this topic. It’s a must watch for all women.
Brother! I could not move past the first point of your lecture. This is ridiculous. get your islamic facts right! what do you mean by that the wife should be shut and not tell her husband if he is going the wrong direction? what rubbish is this? dear viewers, this is not islam!
+Sarah Zahed he is right, from a psychological perspective. I don't mind it once in awhile but when I am constantly challenged on directions it is very frustrating, especially when half the time they are telling me the wrong direction. I am driving, I am looking at the GPS let me use it. Especially when they are taking the wife somewhere, or going to a dinner party for the wifes sake, and then they are constantly challenged.
He is telling you what will make a man happy and in return he will treat you much better. But the problem is we have been indoctrinated by western values, so these concepts seem alien to us.
03:50 I would be *extremely* infuriated if I learned that the woman I love and trust did not inform me or at least at minimum suggest that I was going the wrong way. That is time and precious resources being wasted that could have been prevented.
04:05 In fact, I would also be 100% ok with following my lady's directions and suppositions and it turns out to be wrong. It's not my fault, and if I'm following her it means I'm unsure of it myself. I will gladly do it dozens of times and only if each and every time she is wrong will not not trust her sense of direction.
Thank you! Thank You! Thank you! I am a woman and this is information that should NOT be ignored!!! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE these tips!! He is keeping it real and I am glad he was free to share this! Take it straight from the source -- Men--and stop asking your friends (women) the nature of a man! Thanks a bunch!!! May Allah increase your knowledge.
this is fucking bullshit. he's speaking as if all men are the same, which is obviously incorrect.
+Jai Laine WOW..., how utterly sad and undermining of women. The mind boggles. All the more reason to pay homage to my Mother who passed on her sense of self-worth for both herself and her daughters. Please, I don't mean to be patronising..., but look around you... observe, listen, watch the news, read a book or two and educate yourself for the benefit of all women! Many of us have a more global perspective which means having a CHOICE!
"Belive or not - most of man are not idiots" - alhamdulillah :-)
But really I love point 4.
its kind of absurd, to say to women to not tell no to their husband judgement, cause sometimes, men' judgement can be wrong too..
I don't think he meant to be completely submissive and blindly agree to whatever ur man says. I think it's more of having to pick and choose ur battles. If it's insignificant it might be a wiser choice to let him make a mistake than start something. I feel it would be better in the long run.
Salimah ash Shadri
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Exactly.
I listen both parts of this. Truth is men and women primary needs are different but on the other hand we want same things. We just have to learn to understand each other. Both men and women. Love is the key.
Please can you repost this without the background music?
Wa Alaykum Assalam Akhi!!!
Its truly awesome to hear your enthusiasm, but im sorry i havent got any such files for the matter..and i still havent got round to captioning the lectures yet.
If however you do decide to manually add text in a video editor, then please send me the project file (veg, aep, wlmm) and ill have the captions done in english too
A better option is to create a caption file for youtube integration, and i can sync it with this video..and add other languages too
Jazakallah :)
This is th best lecture about women and men in islam I've ever heard! JazakAllahu khair!!!
WARNING!
Dear brother in islam, from what I understood:
1. Respect:
= don't hurt a man's ego.
2. men are created to provide.
= less time spent with wife and children, to get money is showing love.
3. Sex needs.
= the key to make a man, feel like a man.
= the key to ignore woman's flaws.
But, wife saying no.
= not making him feel like a man.
4. Men find all women attractive.
= the attraction to other woman is without control.
= use your wife to satisfy your sudden urge to have sex.
5. Romance ----> sex
= wife can never criticize what man does to romance her.
= reward will be sex.
6. Beauty is the attempt to look beautiful.
= wife must care about her looks, to care about her husband feelings.
7. cave time:
= husband cuts himself off from family for specific problems and time.
In conclusion:
This is not love... this is an insecure man, making a wife a silent follower.
I advise EVERYONE to learn more about love from the quran and from the prophet PBUH.
Thank you.
Yasmine Almomani: sister did you ever even marry? All of what he said is correct. Actually a bitter truth! You like it or not. Even western marriage expert say the same thing just in a more hidden words. He is bluntly honest.Keep your ego in the corner and reflect for a minute. I am a women and I have seen these things in both of my marriages.
Unfortunately some men ask exactly for what he explains :(
Not some but a lot of them :(
You are another woman who wants man like a machine, wife should follow unless can lead herself ?
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yasir qadhi too much generalizing going on here, most of the women in my family are in control of the finances, the men in my family have no idea how to budget, save or the future of the family. you need to stop generalizing and get over this male ego bullocks
Wish I could have seen this video 20 years ago, then I would've understood my husband better.
Wow how old then are you like 100
Zecariah Aden Can I please ask you not to be offensive, it isn't portrayal of good mannerism that a Muslim should have.
Carbon Based Life Form that is very childish and rude...you should probably ask how old your parents are and do the maths.
Hmm I don't agree with what the brother is saying because like someone pointed it out its sort of covering male insecurities and ego problems.
If a man has a big ego and does dumb stuff the solution isn't let him it's guiding him. I'm a man I make mistakes and I enjoy being corrected because I learn before causing any harm or damage.
The example about the leaking pipe. I wouldn't attempt to fix it because I'm a man. That is not a good enough prerequisite, I am not a plumber therefore I should leave it.
I'm sorry but all that is required is a good heart, manners, love, sense of humor and no pride and you will be fine.
Salam
Unfortunately many men are the way he describes...
THEN LEARN HOW TO FIX IT
This is very nicely done, good for a western muslim audience, and thanks to global hedgemony, the muslim audience. And he's right, a man has a place in islam just like a woman has her own place, i see no problem in not interfering with his decisions and letting him take the final shot. I love how islam, values women to be women, and does not encourage them or force them to act like men. Alhamdulillah. I am a muslim woman.may Allah inspire our men to be real manly men :).
AMIN...AMON...AMIN...YA RABBI!!!!
I think everyone in the comments here is getting worked up over nothing. Yes, he is generalising a lot. Yes, there probably isn't one man who needs to be treated exactly as he's said, or vice versa. And perhaps he over-states or goes overboard with his remedies sometimes
But, I think he's trying to talk to people who haven't been in a relationship before and so aren't familiar with the clear and striking differences between men and women. I think it's good advice for people who are in that position - If you start off treating your spouse like this, and gradually get to know exactly how much you have to adhere to these rules for the person you're with, there's no problem. Or, if you're a spouse who can't understand why his/her spouse is continually getting upset, this highlights some of the core reasons.
Basically, his framework and principles are sound, even though the details are sometimes excessive. He's probably just emphasising each point too much, in an effort to get its importance across to people who would just dismiss these parts of their spouse's psyche :)
i thought porn is haram
this guys full of shit, hs probly got issues with his wife wanting to sleep with him.
this is just to get women to do what men want.
a real man wouldnt be so selfish since
"the best of you are those who are best to your wives"
total contradiction
Sisters we should be more loving, patient and cooperating with our husbands. Try harder to understand them better because they were created by our Greatest Majesty Allah s.w.t.
It's humiliating to listen to this
This give sex to a man whenever he wants is not as easy as is being suggested here. Women don't always refuse sex for no reason, if a woman is tired from working and cleaning and organising the home, taking care of the kids etc, is she really expected to be ready for this too? Also, many women don't enjoy their sex life and find it more difficult to enjoy then men do, why would someone want to do something that they find uncomfortable. Also, women need to sort out any emotional or communicative or medical issues before having sexual relations, but if that is ignored then women will not want that part of this aspect of the relationship. What if a couple is experiencing infertility and she has no desire anymore, because infertility and similar issues can severely affect her self esteem, emotions and desire. If sex is unlikely to produce a pregnancy, and if it is not enjoyable, then where is the incentive for a woman in these circumstances? What if a woman is on medication that takes away her libido? Is she supposed to just go ahead with it all the time? What if a woman is abused and mistreated by her husband, is she supposed to just be with him even before he changes and improves his faults? What if her husband is not very good with his personal hygiene? is she supposed to just pretend she doesn't smell his smell, and accept the possibility of getting infections.
Interesting. Jazaak Allah khair... Sisters who find this demeaning please remember that you do this to please Allah first and foremost so put your ego's aside. Allah has ordained that your husband is one of your keys to entering Jannah, as long as you are good to him and observe the duties Allah has set out for you - then in shaa Allah Jannah will be written for you. Subhan Allah. May Allah allows us to please our husbands and grant us Jannah, ameen.
Ameen
enjoy being a servant to your husband for the rest of your life only to find out theres no heaven..
I understand why men buy these bullshit but why are women brainwashed? all islam does to women is devalue and mentally torture them.. wake up muslim women.. have some common sense
this is so sad!! :(
+Goli H lmao leave our sisters alone go talk to miley Cyrus and Kim k wannabes their free right? not brainwashed at all by the TV?
Amina Alisha Amin Ya Rabbi ❤
well thats good.. Thats what God wants from us . Simple love marriage where there is difference of opinions.
Just so you know...women find physicality of man attractive. And if she has a husband who demands rights and knows nothing of romance, she is also struggling to lower her gaze, and stop her mind from wondering would life have been more fulfilling for her had she divorced and sought elsewhere? I sometimes think that this stamping of rights between the sexes, make for women a sense of hopelessness, a sense of her husband not making effort or giving back. And, I have heard this so many times from so many sisters, the no expectation, just the submission. Complaints that the men do not even realise that a muslim wife has a sexual identity, need, arousal etc... but that somehow non-muslim women are more sexually tuned, it is both wrong and unjust. Give what you want back!
observe the arrogance in the tone
Point 4 nearly killed me --'
Jazak Allah khair for such deep knowledge brother