ma'am, my wife has done many kinds of social work. When I told her the little of your story I'd learned a few days ago, she said "thank God she had the courage to do that! many kill themselves in her place". I just wanted to say God bless you and whatever it was that gave you the courage to choose to live.
As a Generation X ER I believe we paved the way for people to live their lives authentically however it's scary to me how this generation is so easily led by what others outside of themselves think of themselves why do you think this is alternative gen-xers tried to work tirelessly for social change and I don't think we did much in the end
I'm really connected and thankful for my femaleness and I always have been I don't understand gender dysphoria I love being a woman I just often think how painful it must be to be gender dysphoric and I think we need to realize that transition is not always the answer to this problem kudos to you for coming to an acceptance of yourself
It's literally like how Anorexia or bulimia works (Body dysmorphia) . They don't see the reality, they only see in place of a healthy body part as flaws they're projecting onto themselves. It's manageable through Cognitive Behavioral therapy and Dialectical Behavioral therapy.
I've been a tomboy my whole life. I'm almost 30. They never thought i was a guy, but growing up in the 90's, people did think I was a lesbian. I'm straight, getting married to my best friend next year and i'm still a tomboy! As a teenager I did use tons of make-up to be more feminine but I don't care anymore. Hope you are well.
Funny you mention that, I was born in 1980 and was very tomboyish growing up. In Cuba you are labeled as lesbian or gay just for doing some gender non-conforming things as a child, it’s insane. I always dated boys and had a serious BF from age 17 to 19, but still called a lesbian. It’s hilarious that, 21 years an 2 marriages later (I left that hellhole at 19), people who knew me then but have not seen me or spoken to me since I left, still think i’m a lesbian 😂
I feel you! As an adult tomboy myself I finally realized 1. Masculinity isn't better than femininity 2. I don't have to love all the feminin things like makeup 3. I don't have to love football to impress the guys. lol My wonderful husband actually gets annoyed when I occasionally put on makeup for special events. It's a little refreshing.
I'm 51 and 100% tomboy (my entire life). Happily married with 3 children. I love guns, motorcycles, tractors, off roading. It's a shame in this day and age that if a girl likes doing boy stuff, she must be a he in a girl body and vice versa and something needs to be done about it. Very sad.
I’m cisgender female, age 63. I was known as a tomboy growing up and by the 1990’s, lots of people around me kept urging me to experiment with being lesbian. It didn’t interest me because I was not am not sexually attracted to females. This was also because I was a “weird” child and socially rejected by other females during adolescence and young adulthood because I wasn’t boy crazy or eager to have sex. The idea of following the expected route, college, career, settling down, getting married and raising the typical 2.7 kids, a house in the suburbs, a minivan or SUV, swimming pool, and a dog--did not appeal to me. Instead, I traveled throughout the USA, Canada, and Mexico, teaching and tutoring elementary level school, to kids, to teens, to adults. I did so in all sorts of communities, a one room schoolhouse in Appalachia with eight grades, a men’s maximum security prison, led a women and baby’s transitional group, prison to the outside world, inner city middle school and primary grades, tutor in the suburbs, etc. In many places, I had to work second or third jobs to survive, or board with the people I was serving, live in an RV, and once in an Army tent back of someone’s property. Throughout the 2010’s, people insisted I was either asexual or non-binary. Well, I’m just myself, not an artificial category of sexual identity. My sexuality is NOT at the center of my existence. Instead, my center is my spirituality, creativity, and intellect.
that's based on old data. There are more detrans people than actual trans people at this point. literally the most destructive fad in society today. We really need to implement a process that allows people to get a taste of what it's like to present as another gender, and make sure that they are insistent in their dysphoria long enough to judge that there isn't another solution to their mental health issues before making permanent changes to their bodies that might damage them for the rest of their lives. There are people killing themseleves by the thousands over this BS trans over-affirmation and not enough talking about it.
@@ericb5273 True, she willl likely be recognized as part of the majority as more people realize the error, and especially as transitioning is being pushed on more and more children and youths.
You are fabulous. My daughter has ROGD and we are hoping that she will be patient and allow herself to “grow up”. She told us detransitioners don’t exist, so I introduced her to your channel. I just want her to see both sides of the story. Thanks for putting it out there.
@@mickrozycki451 Transitioning is a huge market now for doctors, and it has also gotten huge as a political weapon for the lgbt movement. So there are many people eager to see children and people in general transition and join their cult. Its incredibly dangerous. Here in my school district, I had found out in both my kids school's they were teaching gender identity politics to my 7 and 9 year old. It took a massive lawsuit for it to stop. These school boards have immense power. Parents have no say or power anymore. It is really scary times we live in. I found out that over a dozen girls under the age of 17(at our local High School) were mutilated and had certain body parts removed by doctors here. These were 15 and 16 year old girls. I am terrified.
@@mickrozycki451 It terrifies me. I have 3 young girls and a boy. I now have to homeschool all of them. I also have to go above and beyond to censor the internet and phones they use. Without a Herculean effort on the parents part, your kids are so easily exposed to corruption online and in games. Most of the people in my age bracket are not super Tech-Savvy, so it is not easy to allow your kids some access, but also filter all the garbage. Many of the parental filters do not work. I have to supervise ALL of their online and gaming activity.
@@mickrozycki451 You are absolutely right. Growing up as a kid in the 80's and 90's, we were all so innocent and pure. We had so little worries, and we NEVER thought about color or gender or really anything like that other than just playing and having fun. Now, adults are thrusting so much onto small children that they are just not capable of handling or processing. And children are SO easily influenced and corrupted. The smallest exposure or suggestion can steer them in a direction that is hard to return from. I have recently been playing Call of Duty with a few of my High School buddies that we play rarely. But we use discord to communicate and Im telling you, the amount of children in these discords that are completely unsupervised and exposed to so much adult material is crazy to me. There are predators everywhere. It is a completely different world now.
@@mickrozycki451 There is absolutely good people out there, and I absolutely want my children to experience the good it has to offer, just not at young ages. I am praying that I can teach them enough responsibility and enough strength and confidence in themselves, that when they do come across temptation, they can brush it aside with ease. I feel MOST of this stuff is the product of very lonely, insecure, and vulnerable youths who are looking for an outlet. Specifically, with a 16 year old girl on my block, she got into the lgbt thing online because she said she felt accepted and she felt a part of something, as well as having victimhood status and "protections". She said she never had gender confusion until getting involved in these online social circles. I am guessing this can very very appealing to insecure kids looking to fit in and find something they can be a part of. Her parents are both working parents and are rarely home, and she is also an only child. This is why I am going to emphasize a lot of my parenting on character and strength building so my children are confident in themselves and secure in their identity. I am also glad we have multiple children so they have brothers and sisters to bond with.
You are not a minority of detransitioner. There are going to be so many children who will grow up and wonder why the adults in their life didn’t protect the sanctity of their life, mind and body.
I guess because humans are social animals we tend to latch on to trends. If we have problems we quite often look to see what other humans in the same position are doing about it. If people with a set agenda bleat on about it enough (especially now with social media) they will be perceived by some as credible. I suspect the real winners in all this will be the lawyers.
I'm really glad that around 18:30ish that you were talking about being a woman but also not applying gender to that. I have a lesbian friend who presents very masculine, and she is always irritated by people trying to put her into the label of trans, when it's a label she doesn't want. She is a woman, wants to be a woman, but expresses herself in a masculine way. I have also run into this as I am not very feminine and go back and forth with my expression in a more non-binary way, but I still identify as a woman. I have had people argue with me about being able to call myself a woman or female because they feel I need to have the label of non-binary. Like WHY CANT I BE A WOMAN!?!? I consider myself a cisgendered woman who occasionally buzzes her hair and wears mens clothes. I also love my body the way it is and don't want to change it. *shrugs*. Your commentary on the issue made me feel really validated. I don't see many people this day and age with the same viewpoint of it being OK to be a Man or a Woman and present however one wants to without having to change labels. Thank you.
You convey the flaw of the gender fluid and nonbinary argument. See, I am 53, and what we were fighting during my younger days for was the idea that "a woman can be whoever or whatever she wants" and the same for men. Having a woman be very masculine was a sign of a woman being a "tom boy" and that definition was never considered a bad thing. And yes, when I personally could see that a woman wasn't being feminine, you knew you had someone there that would love to go dirt bike riding or perhaps work on a car. It wasn't something where gender entered the discussion. The other side of this is there are guys that are attracted to women like this and yes, there are times when there are feminine men and masculine women that get together. Now the other side of the coin was back then, the idea of someone being gay or transgender was not something that was talked about, at least not in mainstream society. It seems that while now it is, the common sense pendulim has swung to the opposite side way too far. What I mean is the gender identification argument is not liberal at all. In fact, it's anti-liberal. It's saying "if you act like this and talk like this, dress like this, then this is your gender." By the strict definition as presented these days, I would have been a non binary. But alas, I am a man in every way that is important. I was back then and I am today. But the way things are these days, it's little wonder why so many kids feel the need to transition or be nonbinary. They obviously aren't "men" or "women" because they don't fit the very strict stereotype as defined by the very people that call themselves liberals.
My step brother who is in his 50s is mtf. He was not always trans but was gay and in the lifestyle since I can remember. As a result, I grew up around the LGBT community. What throws me off these days is that back then NObody I knew cared about pro nouns or changing their gender. They knew very well what they were, didn't have a problem with their birth gender and was comfortable being that but living as the opposite sex. The women very much knew they were women and didn't want to be anything other than that. I remember LGBT community being much more comfortable with who they were and how they chose to live, they seemed much more stable emotionally and mentally in comparison with those of today. My experience always caused me to question the validity of the new ideologies since LGBT seemed so much more put together prior. It's all been very confusing and disturbing to witness.
I'm a woman, and some days I feel more masculine while other days I feel more feminine. I don't think there's anything wrong with trans people, but I do think that the skyrocketing rates of trans kids (I'm using that as an all-encompassing term to include non-binary and gender fluid as well) should be every reason for people to slow down and take a hard look at the movement. Being a teen is tough for everyone, and having confusing feelings about who you are is 100 percent normal. I firmly believe that many (not all of course, but many) of the kids undergoing hormone therapy (and surgery) right now will end up regretting it and would have otherwise outgrown it with time and maturity.
I transitioned, but as an adult. I was mortified at how pushy they were to me, and I fought for a therapist that worked WITH me not pressured me, took years to reach that point. I can't imagine what it would be like for a minor, the pressures, the lack of understanding of what is being pushed. I think every damn therapist, doctor, parent, teacher or the like pushing children to transition should be jailed.
@@stardustgirl2904 There is too much money to say no, and too high a risk to their careers to fight the madness. You stand up and say "this is wrong" Then you have protests, suddenly no insurance company will support you, many of your clients go poof... It's EVIL.
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I just want to say that you are truly a beautiful and strong woman, with a beautiful voice. The courage it takes to face whatever emotional and/or mental challenges you have/had, and to move past feeling a need to identify as something or someone other than who and what you are is incredible, and frankly beyond my comprehension, since I haven't gone through it. Also, no, your nose is not noticeably bigger now than before based on the pictures you displayed. Please don't let hateful people tear you down.
I'm a gay girl that have been a tomboy her whole life. I did question in my teen years if I was trans or not, and I figured I just wasn't. I had gender dysphoria but I figured out that what I needed was to learn loving myself as I am, not run from it. Today I love my body more than ever, thankfully. Congratulations for being strong and to share your story with the world and not let yourself be silenced by these trans cultists!!! Good job! ❤
yes, like me i don’t think i’m trans i’m just very insecure about my buddy and it’s just something i’ll have to work on to wear more girlie clothes n getting out my comfort zone. i’m super happy someone is thinking just like me 😁 thank you!!
Please stay off social media. That is the source of the trans ideology that gave gullible adolescents, teenagers and even some grown adults this false answer to their problems. Idk what it feels like to identify with the current, AMERICAN LGBTQXYZ crowd (boy I’m glad that I’m not American), but the ones that do seem to suffer a lot of issues of self esteem and are generally girls.
I grew up in the 70s and we were all about trying to disconnect gender roles from actual gender. My mom was a lesbian and I was raised to be exactly as I am with no expectations to dress or act any particular way just because I happen to have been born a woman. It is a little worrisome that many youth feel the need to become so preoccupied with the gender they present. I have no issue with kids wanting to do away with gender and go as gender neutral, but the minute I hear about people going through great lengths to meet society's expectations of what a man or woman are, regardless of whether this matches their birth gender or not, this strikes me as a set-back, not progress.
Wow! I grew up the exact opposite in a nuclear family with an older Down syndrome brother and a delinquent of a sister who was on drugs and always in trouble... But the fact is I had a father that kept the family together he was a patriarchy and when he died that was it... He was the last one left to carry on the blood name
Me replying to your comment might not be appreciated, as I do believe in traditional gender to a degree, but I had an epiphany that sounds alot like what you are saying. I was arguing with someone online (a pointless enterprise I know) about how I viewed a certain actress raising her son as a girl as disgraceful as I felt it was harmful. I have 3 children and during the exchanges I explained that gender while kids are kids is pointless as kids will be interested in whatever they like and as a parent you let them go. Most parents I know don't actually try and force their kids interests one way or another as they tend to work it out themselves often along the lines of traditional gender. What I started to realise is that deep down that actually forcing a boy to be universally a traditional female due to having some traditionally female interests was the actual root problem that I had with this. Kids can become the adults they wish to be, forcing them in formative years is the issue. My wife is 6' tall tomboy you could say, very physically strong, drives semi trucks, was the eldest daughter of a farmer and can operate every piece of machinery one can imagine, but she still loves getting dressed up and wearing makeup once a year lol. She is also an awesome mother and loving wife and I can't help but wonder nowadays if she was born now to progressive parents fixated on gender with that attention seeking edge, if she would have been forced down the route of irreversible surgery and infertility at a young age.
I'm detransitioning. Took my last estrogen shot Friday. I know the first week or two is gonna suck. But I was not on long thankfully so no major physical changes. I'm just happy to be on my back to my old self. Affirmation of gender has become in my opinion dangerous. All love and no scrutiny. Sometimes it's love to tell someone something may not be for them
@@BIGALIENSHAFT hey, sir. i hope youre adjusting ok. my uncle has just started taking estrogen, and i wonder if he will go off it too. i hope youre going ok. 💕❤️🧡👋
i feel like society's idea of gender/gender roles makes gender for this generation of kids so much more confusing, cause it's so easy to look at what society views as a woman and feel like it doesn't fit and assume you aren't a woman just cause you don't fit that definition, like i'm ftmtf detrans and i feel like that impacted a lot on why i thought i was trans, idk, all this gender stuff seems like we are going backwards in a different direction
as a trans person I am not mad at people who detransition. this is your life. your journey. nothing wrong with anyone of us in it. do you, i respect you and you're beautiful in all forms. You're still Cat in all forms.
well there does seem to be a difference between most "trans" people.. and a vocal minority - the "trans lobby" who claim to speak on behalf of all "trans" people but who are much more doctrinaire and intransigent..
@@frankzappaspussy7362 i agree. i can't speak for everyone. let me clarify i only speak on behalf of myself. thank you for clarifying this and my apologies for the misunderstanding.
@@lx9037 i don't think that there was much of a misunderstanding - i was just clarifying that some of us will be very concerned/paranoid about how "t" lobby push their agenda - without that needing to involve any animosity towards most "trans" people..
@@lx9037 Don't apologize to someone blathering on about the "t lobby". When they say agenda, they think Joe Boden is personally petitioning to transition their kids. And that's only a little bit of an exaggeration.
The last part about coming to terms with 'woman being an adult human female' and about how freeing it is not to have any expectations attached to it...that is now a controversial topic. It's tragic so many young people are coming out about de-transitioning and the community is throwing them under the bus. Keira Bell's story is going to be talked about for years to come I think.
Intersex women are women even though they are XY because they have female Anatomy and female secondary characteristics, please realize that definition only covers women born with no condition.
It's so sad. I'm a woman, and every other woman I've talked to about this hates that it is now politically incorrect to define a woman (most of us are downright offended by it). In reality, it's a very simple definition based on very basic biological truths. But what many of the loudest voices today don't seem to realize is that your biological sex is just one aspect of you-- it doesn't define who you are as a person.
Exactly! 20 or so years ago, we were told that there should be much fewer expectations about what a man or woman should have to look and act like, and that’s true! I’m very tomboyish myself, and I wouldn’t change that. I love being a girl, because that’s what I am. If girls like me want to be more “boyish” by liking mens clothing or media or whatever it may be, that’s fine. If a boy is interested in fashion, or hair, there are plenty of men fashion designers and hair dressers out there that are uber successful! By getting rid of the clear definitions set by our biology, though, we end up further trapping ourselves in a confusing mess of not knowing who or what we are. It’s sickening, and will only serve to hurt people.
I didn't see the whole thing but Matt Walsh's documentary "What is a Woman?" addresses that issue well, that if you can't define what a woman is but just say it's whoever identifies themselves as a woman, that's circular logic.
The minute someone tells you how to speak, what to say, what to read, watch, or listen to, run the other way. Anyone threatened by learning is trouble. I’m very glad you saw that and did not let yourself be controlled. You are on an amazing journey that we hear little to nothing about so it is kind for you to share it with the world. I hope you continue to grow and learn and find peace.
Well done for being true to yourself. No one alive can say they have never made a mistake, but having the courage to work on this is incredible. Best wishes. Cute cat too
I'm sorry that people were attackig you for detrasitioning. Sometimes it seems like they are threatened by detrasitioners. It cracks their own belives about themselves but they fight it and want to stay in the illusion really bad so they are mean to people who woke up from it. I wish you good luck on your life journey.
I think you're right in that it does lead them to question themselves, but you are very wrong about people being in some kind of illusion. There are MANY trans people who are completely happy and comfortable with their transition. It's human nature to be unsure about ourselves and for a minority of people that uncertainty leads them to make life-changing decisions they come to regret. Most others that go through the transitioning process are happy with it.
@@ijustneedmyself of course they are, but they are not the one's attacking a bullying detransitioners. I know only one trans person who isn't this crazy activist type, and that is my best friend. He isn't pretending to have a "man's brain", he isn't living in the illusion, he just wants to live as a man, that's all, and he isn't up in everybody elses bussiness. To me this is a trans person who lives, the people who make it their whole personality and make it some sort of a battle against society are tools, and these are the people we are talking about.
I thpught i was born or become,(??) A lesbian...did not like it..but everybody said do not mind we love you as you are..i was very active. Then at 55, i met Jesus...and by Gods love i started to change...because i read the bible: man and female God created us???? What????? Jesus showed me how i had become...and he took me out of this kind of feelings, thoughts..and lifestile. Now i am 73...changed , in the image of God...as a woman. This is good. No one can force us how to think, how to feel...what to do. JESUS KNOWS US ALL, PERSONALLY. HE loves us, each of us so.much.... Thnx for your testimony...what a character and courage!! Love from Holland!
I’ve worked with young people for a long time and I know a story like yours will help many. Thank you for being willing to share it. I wish you the best as your journey continues.
I have respect for you detransitioning, it must been so difficult to walk backwards, tell the doctors, and get out of it. I'm a trans man myself on T, it's been the best decision in my life and feels natural, but I can imagine how scary it is for someone going through it and feels wrong. It's good you realised quickly into 3 and a half months to stop it
Thank you for being kind and supporting someone who detransitioned. It seems like a lot of trans people who have successfully transitioned feel very threatened by people who detransitioned, which I can understand that they might worry that it will invalidate their decision to people who may not understand gender dysphoria and the need to transition. But I think it is really important to support people who are brave enough to admit this was the wrong choice for them especially from people who have happily transitioned- because otherwise they are being rejected from the community that once supported them and that is a lot on top of the mental and physical stress of detransitioning. Thank you for being a kind man. A cyber hug to you!
@@ttthecat I can understand your body changing and it doesn't feel normal to you, I have intense gender dysphoria and testosterone helped me tremendously. But I can see how a detransitioner feels too going through the unwanted change. I think gender dysphoria is a rare case and I've noticed people mainly women confuse it for something else. Also respect goes both ways, she is believes transgender and gender dysphoria does exist and I applaud her even after she went through that. I think what you are talking about of some successful transitioned people feel threatened by detransitioners is because some detransitioners completely think trans people are very ill and shouldn't transition while speaking their views on conversative channels, giving ammo to transphobes. I think that's where I draw the line. Like I said respect goes both ways and if we trust eachothers decisions on our own and it is ideally the best for the individual and acknowledge that your mistake is not a mistake for someone else. It is amazing she knew it was wrong as quickly as she did and was able to stop, for me I could not stop a female puberty while as a child - but that's alright, I can't really be hell-bent on it when I have choices of surgery and happily on testosterone now. I think testosterone is worse than estrogen in terms how much it changes. Anyway didn't mean to make this a long post but your lovely response made me think some things thank you for being nice. Cyber hug 🤗
Did you experience vaginal atrophy and enlarged clitorious aka micro penis from testosterone? What has it done for/to your sexuality or sex drive ? Do you desire sex or are you asexual? Is gratification physical orgasim or psychosomatic? Sorry for the personal questions you don't have to answer. I'm not trying to gaslight or troll you I'm really just researching
@@diannabrownridge6618 Yes to your first question, second it has increased my sex drive, in the first few months of testosterone I was having a lot of sex dreams and erections. Not asexual at all, I've always been attracted to women and still am. I will plan to have bottom surgery for sure
17:53 "after letting go of the concept of gender identity completely, i feel so much more comfortable in my skin" this was the same exact thought process i had when i started detransitioning but i didn't know it yet, sorry for all the comments i've left i'm just going through the motions of accepting this and your story i've related to the most out of the other detrans videos i've watched
I hope you find all the happiness in the world. It is the most brave thing to be yourself... coming from a 50 year old man, with 4 children and 1 grandchild. As a young man growing-up in the early 1970s from divorced parents, living with my mom, I was awkward, skinny and really dorky... it took many, many years for me to "grow into my own skin". I was mediocre at school and didn't have much direction. I joined the military at 20, grew up allot, learned what being a responsible man was and gained the discipline and self confidence I never got. It might have been because my dad was never around and I just didn't have a good role model, who knows. But regardless of what others think of the military, and soldiers in general. The Army took me in, broke me down to my basic core, then built me back up, piece by piece by instilling confidence, personal courage, and responsibility in me. They taught me the basics of not just being a man, but a good human-being. I have served two tours in combat, and am a disabled veteran, so I have seen courage in action. I think what you are doing is extraordinarily brave and I admire your courage. Again, to be brave enough to let yourself find yourself and be honest about who you are, and then have the strength to be happy with that... true courage. We are always telling people to be happy in their own skin and accept themselves for who they are... We need to do that regardless of whether that persons sees themselves the way we see them.
This comment warmed my heart. Thank you for opening up about your life experience. I feel like I just got a life lesson. Thank you sir, wish you the best.
What a breath of fresh air. As a father or four im proud of you for speaking out. Id assume this journey is the hardest thing to do but we’re here with you along the way. Please keep talking on this. Your voice is being heard. Your beautiful
You are beautiful. And you are part of a growing community-detransitioners. People need your story. I believe you will save people so much pain. I love seeing people embrace who they were born to be and their God given identity
At 18:00 you say something so important! I am glad I watched through to the end. Thanks for the thoughtful video. I am really concerned with what KIDS are dealing with right now in terms of pressure to medicalize their identity. Real words based in physical reality can set us free.
I think it is just as important to be supportive of individuals who are detransitioning as it is to be understanding of those who are transitioning. Both are valid choices. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
I think one of the most overused words in the past decade has been "valid." Throwing that out there gives people a pat on the back and the go ahead to do whatever and that's a danger. We have no idea where they're coming from and what their intentions are. We have no idea about their past or present life. We don't know if they've had trauma, are dealing with PTSD or any other kind of mental illness. People are not automatically "valid" according to their choices or their plans or because today they announced that they are something different than we knew them as yesterday. Some no doubt told this woman she was valid the day she announced she was starting T. She knew her voice would change but as a singer she did not know specifically how it would. So was that decision valid after all? Being a singer don't you want to know all the ways your voice can change when taking opposite sex hormones? This is not meant to shame in any way, it's just to point out flaws in our group think and thinking we're doing something positive when we tell virtual strangers that they are valid when we don't know them at all.
@@ohthelovelypoems l have no doubt that the changes in one's voice or any other differences that may emerge along the way (resulting from choices we make) will vary from person to person. Having a unique metabolism myself (based on experience over the years) l understand that nothing in life is guaranteed. The only way she could definitively know the outcome was to pursue it. Luckily she was wise enough to recognize that these changes were not worth the personal cost to her and she changed course.
@@ohthelovelypoems exactly what I was going to say sorry but transitioning isn't a valid choice I'm all for each their own but still that doesnt mean whatever they choose to do is a "valid choice" we can't use that term so losely
@@heyhey8528 Obviously it wasn't the right choice for her or many people. And while people have to make their own choices, encouraging someone to change their gender or saying things'll be simple for them is not good, because you won't regret it but they might.
Thank you for this video. I am also EXTREMELY concerned about that huge surge in young girls who are confused by puberty and decide they are trans. It's HARD to adjust to the changes from being a little girl to a woman with curves and power. I seriously admire you for speaking up about this.
It's not just the physical aspects that push young girls to transitioning - it's social aspects- the way teen girls are treated horrendously (at school, on the streets, at home etc). Male life is shown to be easier than female life, and males are priority. This pushes many tomboy girls or even lesbians to transition. And masculine women are often misgendered and called 'men' - so this can confuse young girls.
Back in 1980-something, I got dragged to a therapist for poor grades. One of the things he latched on to was my masculine presentation. He said all kinds of unprofessional, critical things and it was terrible. I had been suicidal and never said a word to anyone. Not parents not teachers, nobody. My parent sat there and said nothing. It became evident neither of tgese people really cared if I lived or died. I stopped getting into the car to facilitate my own abuse, after that. My parent was not at all accepting of gay or lesbian people, and made it plain that anyone with a different gebder was also not acceptable. Nothing but heterosexual feminine female would have been acceptable. That was the template I was left to shoehorn myself onto all life long. So much for informing parents. I would have had a much less depressed, broken existence if I had been allowed to live in the way I wanted. I'm 58 now, have lived as a man over 20 years, and have zero regrets. Except for having wasted years I don't get back, attempting to play the hand I'd been dealt.
@@samsara-summermooncomehome5881 Parents are part of the issue. I know four mothers I work with and every single one of them take their kids to the salon for hair coloring, eye brow enhancing, etc, and I mean, these are early teens. My daughter can't be bothered and I am sure honestly, a good percentage of girls don't give a damn either. So does that make them not women? Well, I could see some of these parents thinking so. I could see the so called "liberal" folks pressuring these kids to either be a woman in the strictest sense of their so called "liberal" definition or force them to pick another gender.
I’m so happy you shared your experience. Quite a few people have gone through what you have, you’re not much smaller a community than the trans community, and it’s such an important discussion to have. Good for you for not only taking care of yourself, but also speaking up for your beliefs.
Cat, your experiences in your relatively short life will serve you well. You are lovely (beautiful smile, by the way), you are a musical artist who has already recorded, you have this TH-cam channel with thousands of subscribers (helping others who are in your situation, and helping those of us who don't understand what the whole transitioning and detransitioning world entails), you are almost done your studies (a very challenging area of study in science and medicine); you have done more in your time on earth than many have done in their lives. You're doing great things and providing a great service onto others who need help and support. I would go as far as saying that you are saving lives. Also, be aware that there has come a tipping point in society, an awakening. You are a part of that. I'm praying for you and all who are going through this struggle, both physical and emotional. You are stronger now. This is YOUR life, and no one can dictate how you need to think, or communicate. You are a free woman, you do you.
@@ALinn-vr3nl "Individuals commit the sunk cost fallacy when they continue a behavior or endeavor as a result of previously invested resources (time, money or effort) (Arkes & Blumer, 1985). This fallacy, which is related to loss aversion and status quo bias, can also be viewed as bias resulting from an ongoing commitment."
It great you chose to detransition. Acceptance of self is a step towards happiness. You tell your story... you may help others by sharing it. You are a beautiful, intelligent woman. Embrace that and you'll be fine.
Really interesting video, thank you for sharing your experiences Cat. I’m glad you’ve found a bit more clarity and wish you all the best of luck in your future.
This is one of the most sane videos I have come across on this topic, thank you for sharing your honest, thoughtful and deeply reflective perspectives; I had GD for a lot of my life but worked through it in myself and due to the timing, missed this wave of “must transition” thought. But I realised I would never feel like the opposite sex because I wasn’t that, simple logic, and also that not fitting the societal stereotypes and expected roles didn’t mean anything except that the roles n ideas didn’t fit. In accepting my birth sex and then building my life, hobbies, interests etc, and as you said, being focussed on character and meaning, I found peace. It sounds as if you have too and I genuinely wish you the best life in embracing all you are from the inside out. Thanks so much for your open share , and your grace and poise on it all.
Im here first to congratulate you on your studies. I'm so new to this topic of detrantioning. Thank you for using your voice and channel to protect children. Continued success!!
It is so good to have all views expressed. Good on you for talking about your experience. Nobody should be censored on such an important and life changing topic.
I am so glad you didn't listen to that community telling you to shut up - my goodness they were so wrong to tell you those things and treat you that way! Thank you so much for being your own person 🏆💪🔥
I would encourage anyone tempted to undergo transition to really sit with the idea that transitioning is an incredibly fundamental rejection of self, and an affirmation of wishful thinking. To really sit with this and lovingly accept The physical body that you are gifted with instead of submitting it to, potentially, a lifetime of medicalization. The expression of what we call masculine and feminine does vary throughout the eras of human history, and there are inborn qualities that fall in those categories that are so common as to be associated in those categories, but it doesn’t make it true across-the-board. Remember that there is a positive for every negative, and it’s a human choice as to which is expressed. A woman can be a doormat, or a champion or a facilitator, etc. A man can be an aggressor in inappropriate ways, or a protector par excellence, a warrior for good. And vice versa. When personality leads a man to be gentle, Sensitive, aware, intuitive, That is the kind of leader that he will be. When personality leads a woman to be strong, decisive and assertive, that’s the kind of leader that she will be. And we can replay scenarios like this for every situation in life. It is part of being unique individuals. Embrace your biology and love it. Embrace your personality, because while it may SEEM to be gender specific (statistically speaking), it is not truly gender specific. When a person can fundamentally accept themselves, body and personality, they will save themselves a lot of anxiety and self loathing/hatred/frustration, and save a lot of time, money, grief.
This was a great video! I’m glad you’ve kept up with singing and found comfort in your own skin. You stated your current views in a clear fashion. I cheered when you said that you found some sort of relief by accepting that woman = just who you are. Adult. Human. Female. GCs *are* concerned and I’m glad that you explored that side of the gender discussion. Keeping an open mind and being able to analyze contrasting opinions/perspectives are two vital skills that will serve you well moving forward. Wishing you well.
I have never seen any of your videos. This is my first time hearing your story. Seeing ones' self outside the identity of a group is something few people ever become aware of. God speed in your journey and good luck.
I’m a senior who has precious granddaughters. I’m so much behind you and thank you for your kind, open and honest character to share such complex experiences. You are wonderful. Love you, Carol
Don't know why the algorithm recommended this video, but I'm thankful. You seem to be heading towards a healthier place emotionally and physically from the past you described. I'm a Christian white male and don't think I always empathize as well as I should with people facing these particular struggles, so I thank you for sharing your perspective. I always aim to love, listen, and care for people in their journeys, but understanding others without enough context is hard. I'll pray for you to continue finding strength, truth, and love. P.s. digging your music on Spotify right now :) Shalom
You were exactly what i was looking for. Ur right that testosterone changes your anatomy in a completely new way and i needed to hear that it wasnt true that it was impossible to sing comfortably again
i think it just depends on your body, i was on testosterone for about 1yr and 7months and have been off of testosterone for about 3 months? my singing voice was pretty much ruined by testosterone but i'm starting to get my range back and sing higher, which honestly i thought i was going to loose
The trans community and "gender warriors" in general will attempt to keep your story and many like you suppressed. I do wish you well in your efforts and stand ready to support you any way I can. Much love.
I agree actually alot of these detransitioning videos get deleted I think we need to show this more attention instead of the ones transitioning it can save alot of young people
Thanks for the comment. I feel no negativity towards trans people, and neither do any other detransitioners I've spoken to. Rather, we tend to question the ideology that led us down a destructive path. Gender identity theory is a belief system, not fact, and medical transition is objectively bad for health. Now if other adults want to choose that path at their own risk, that's not up to me, but I don't have to support it. Even people who are psychologically satisfied with their transition will often experience serious side effects from hormones or failed surgeries that destroy their quality of life. I'm speaking out about these things not because I dislike trans-identified people, but because gender identity theory and the affirmative care model is dangerous and harming a lot of people, including trans-identified people themselves.
Great video! glad u managed to undo most of the changes, specially the scary liver issue. It must have been such a strange experience to suddenly have part of the community u identified with suddenly trying to silence u precisely bc the way u choose to identify as! So crazy.
Happy that you are happy! I wish more folks received rounded treatment for their concerns before being suggested or pushed to take medical action. Your experience about letting go of gender concepts could be so helpful for others!
The algorithm sent me your vid. My daughter is your age and is also in the last semester of college. You are so strong and I am amazed by you. As a member of the bisexual community I've watched so many detransitioners coming out and the community is growing exponentially. A lot of older trans are coming out in full support of detrans because as they are saying...transitioning should be the last resort not the first choice. You are so beautiful but the most important thing is - your mental health and if you are regaining that back then you've got this. Lastly, your hair is awesome, I love the cut and take that low voice and rock it; you'll get it back it will just take time and retraining. Keep speaking up - DETRANSITIONERS MATTER and their voice is VERY IMPORTANT, especially to the younger set coming up.
Beautiful testimony! Thanks for sharing and standing up for your beliefs. Everyone should absolutely know the health consequences. You are a beautiful young lady!
It’s great that you left that evil stuff behind you and are accepting yourself as the brave and talented woman that you are and were created by God to be. I don’t know how I came across your TH-cam channel, but I’m glad I did. I hope that you have any amazing life and I will be checking out your music as a new subscriber. Hope you have a blessed weekend! Peace!
Just came here to subscribe and support u after seeing the way u were treated by people for choosing to live ur way, on ur terms. Im a straight, white, right leaning 32 year old woman from east TN and i believe what ur doing with sharing ur experience is extremely important. I also think u look beautiful and ur voice sounds like a girl's, i have a deeper voice too even tho i think our voices always sound deeper when we hear it as we talk . What u r sharing needs to be heard by anyone who is thinking about transitioning, they should be fully informed. I feel like someone is born a woman or a man but on the day someone turns 18, they can do whatever they want to with their body and with their money, it bothers me none. Historically, when a society has come down to putting gender and sex/ sexual activity at the forefront of issues and what it cares about, it falls. I am so proud of u, even tho i dont actually know u, for standing up for urself. It was an easy decision to search for ur channel and support the right for someone to be fully informed before they make such a major, life altering decision. I still find it odd that some r against being fully informed before going thru with it. I think u r a beautiful person, inside and out , and u r also very caring and brave for sharing what u r going thru so that others wont be put in the position u were.
In a free society a person is free to have their own thoughts, emotions and beliefs...without being attacked or demeaned by any person or group. It sounds like you are in touch with your inner voice and are expressing yourself in a way that is true to you AND is not harming anyone. How others respond to your truth is not something you can control. How others respond is their issue, not yours.
It takes a lot of courage to be public about the detransitioning; this is such an important narrative to share. Thank you for your courage. It is much appreciated and you will inspire others. When I was young I wanted to become trans but it was too difficult at the time. Now that I'm older and I've health conditions, I'm so glad that I didn't. My natural body is difficult to deal with enough. It is also OK to be young and not have all of the answers. And I feel like the mainstream LGBT community now is shutting down this narrative. Transition is OK and D transition is OK. I wish everybody could just be themselves. Even if they change their mind on who that should be. People evolve. We all make mistakes or become someone different when we're older. This should be celebrated not shamed and silenced.
I'm so glad -- for you and the world -- that you saved yourself. You are so beautiful as a woman. You have so much more to offer us a woman than you ever could have pretending to be something you weren't. Bless you.
You have such a beautiful voice, your music is now in my likes. I love the Just Fly OG version! Wish I heard it sooner. Thank you for sharing your story. I think it's important for people to understand the risks and I applaud you for speaking out. Keep singing with that beautiful voice and please continue to help educate our younger generation on the risks. ❤️
Do not give up on speaking out. You are beautiful and you have a right to express your opinions. Your story is inspiring to others who may be afraid right now, you are giving them the courage to come out with their own journey and explore what is troubling them.
So sad people would not allow your truth. Pray you've found it and will be happy. Glad you get support from many communities. Most people pretty decent.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. Your feedback is valuable to me - this is a huge issue right now. All of our children need to be protected and encouraged, you are right on point.
I’m so glad you are finding the peace settling into who you are and the simplification of the idea of man and woman. I grieve for the incredible unrest that must come with trying to figure out who you are and not being able to be who you are without questioning who that really is. You truly are the beautiful adult human female you were made and that is a wonderful discovery. I hope the remaining physical symptoms continue to heal and that you are able to strengthen your voice. God bless you, Cat.
You are doing great with the end in sight, no matter how far it seems. Stay strong ! Life isn't always easy or good but always worth the journey. You will be happy with the future because the past is only a memory.
You are an eloquent speaker and beautiful the way you are! Very happy that you are using your situation to educate others from person experience. Don't ever change that. You are "you" for a reason. 🤗
Way to stand in your truth! I admire your decision to accept the vulnerability of sharing your experience, despite the resistance you have and will meet. A "red-pill" awakening can shift our axis mightily when we have them, and it sounds like yours hit closer to home than most. To have someone as articulate and measured in their words as you are, willing to speak on this, is important to young gay and lesbian kiddos who may be confused by the gender trends, terms and expectations being imposed on their journey of self-discovery. We are not defined by stereotypes, or cultural norms, but rather, what we do in spite of them. And if their truth is so self-evident, then your truth wouldn't threaten to undermine theirs so.
For whatever my input is worth, here it goes. I was recently referred to as a TURF. I'm not entirely sure what the criteria is for that label though I know the label is not positive. From the beginning of this... movement(?), I have been neutral about the right of an individual to choose their identity. I still am. I honestly believe a person can be free to call themselves a tire, a tree, a man, a sea snail, a woman, or a helicopter and it has no effect on how I live my life or the life of anyone else. It's some of the other things that have piggybacked with this movement that I have and will continue to oppose. Shared bathrooms or changing areas that should come with the expectations of privacy, for example. As a child who suffered years of heinous abuse, my whole self feels such revulsion at the thought that a penis would EVER be accepted around little girls. No matter who it's attached to or their mental state. Not because of trans people. Not ever because of trans people. But because I grew up surrounded by monsters. I know monsters. Intimately. There are no honorable rules of engagement for monsters. They do not view inclusion and acceptance as specific. For those who hurt children, there is only ease of access and opportunities. ANY part of ANY law or ANY movement that might afford more opportunities for monsters to hunt their prey is and always will be a hill I'm willing to die on. No one's feelings or beliefs will ever be more important to me as an adult survivor. If that classifies me as a TURF, then so be it. As to the medical, mental, and social ramifications of transition in either direction... medically, I imagine the danger is there. I believe taking drugs to alter or interfere with biological functions are potentially deadly. I also fully support a person's right to do that as an adult. Period. I am fully against doing that to children. Mentally, it must be incredibly difficult to transition in either direction. I salute the dedication and mental fortitude it must take. Socially, we're all being a bit victimized by everything being politicized, cancel culture, and the stirring shit pot that is media. Humans want to be accepted. They want to "fit in". If you're now being ostracized by a community that preaches inclusiveness, I'm sorry. I don't know how many of me there are in this world but I assure you that I and people like me only care what kind of person you are. People like me don't care if you're a man, a woman, or a steam engine. We care if you're kind to those who can do nothing for you. We care if you're compassionate toward others. What you look like, identify as, or are attracted to mean absolutely nothing compared to who you are and what you do. Sorry for the novella.
Hi! I just Subbed ; ) went through a phase of gender dysphoria between the ages of 11-23 and continued to suffer from facial dismorphia which I have slowly recovered from since.. these topics are important for me. I also want everyone to love themselves the way they are, and also to love each other with less judgement, as I went through so many years not loving myself, I lost my confidence and my dream. I have a lot I could say as I was sort of red-pilled on the topic early, but I definitely am glad I stayed myself and was able to met my husband and have my two precious kids! P.S. you're such a cute girl, but I am happier for how you feel now on the inside!
as simply a fellow human being, i sincerely applaud your courage and thoughtful insight on such a complex subject (also, enjoy your music very much). wishing you well on your most interesting & unique journey.
Thank you for your bravery and for coming forward and speaking YOUR truth! I think it is so important that young people who are making these irreversible decisions know that transitioning is the answer for some people but not everyone and that there are many many ways to be male and female and to present your gender to the world! You can be the most masculine tomboy girl ever or the most effeminate lovely boy and there is nothing wrong with that and nothing that needs to be changed or altered! Thank you for putting yourself out there and being so honest about your experience it could make all the difference in someone's life and potentially save someone regret and heartache. I wish you the very best! You are a beautiful PERSON!
Your story is so important. Thank you for sharing! I agree with your message I’ve seen you say on tik tok: woman isn’t how you identity. It’s who you just ARE.
Absolutely love your courage in making this video and talking openly about your experience. And you have beautiful eyes. Just thought someone should let you know.
This is a fantastic detailed account of your detransitioning. I've learned so much. I am so glad that you are in a happier place now. Thank you for sharing your story.
You are so raw and authentic ! Thank you! A breath of fresh air! Keep moving forward, it can only get better from here! I am a Christian female and love people who are authentic and real. Jesus embraced those who weren't afraid to confront societal norms to bring health and healing. You are well on your way! I have subscribed and will continue to follow your journey.
stay strong Cat, remember its ok to take care of yourself and focus on those things that you need too e.g. getting your degree. don't forget to stop and smell the flowers and enjoy life/ nature. Have a wonderful holiday season
Seeing vids like this really makes me glad I've never transitioned. Had the dysphoria, but I don't think I would be able to get over the decision of transitioning
I loved hearing your perspective! the way you spoke was so honest and genuine, and i really agree with so many of your points and perspective. Thanks for sharing your journey!
This is a very important message. You show remarkable courage. These doctors are not honest. You will have to ignore the people using coercion regarding your choices. Brainwashing going on. My ex husband identifies as female and has impersonated me, when with our sons. Too many excuses for the dishonesty. Glad you got out of the agenda.
Honey. In the old days what you did is what therapist called the real life test. Transgender people used to be required to spend a year living in their target gender before anything more than hormones could be given. You thought it might be for you. You tried it and did not feel better. This just means you are not trans just a bit different. That's OK. What bothers a lot of transgender people is that many detransition then become anti trans as if no one else could have a fundamentally different experience than theirs.
Thank you for sharing. Having the humility to look up the “other side of the argument” is a great thing! That’s hard for many of us to do. I hope that people considering making these changes see videos like yours. There is so much information that these younger people are completely unaware of, things that many adults aren’t even aware of. It’s a blessing that you were not on testosterone for long, and that your changes have not seemed to be permanent. Unfortunately, many other detransitioners do seem to be so fortunate.
Wow thats was lovely to hear! I am very happy to hear that you are more confortable in your skin and doing better and that you are thinking for yourself. Questions and dialogue are never a bad thing, unless a dogma is being protected which is religion/cult like. Thank you for sharing
This is very interesting and informative. I feel like this is a side to the story that isn’t explained. Thank you for putting yourself out there like this! I’m so glad you had the immense inner strength required to not only make the decision to de-transition but to follow through with it. Much love from Texas 💛
ma'am, my wife has done many kinds of social work. When I told her the little of your story I'd learned a few days ago, she said "thank God she had the courage to do that! many kill themselves in her place". I just wanted to say God bless you and whatever it was that gave you the courage to choose to live.
Best reply ever, what a kind and loving person you are. We need more like you. Thank you.
As a Generation X ER I believe we paved the way for people to live their lives authentically however it's scary to me how this generation is so easily led by what others outside of themselves think of themselves why do you think this is alternative gen-xers tried to work tirelessly for social change and I don't think we did much in the end
I'm really connected and thankful for my femaleness and I always have been I don't understand gender dysphoria I love being a woman I just often think how painful it must be to be gender dysphoric and I think we need to realize that transition is not always the answer to this problem kudos to you for coming to an acceptance of yourself
It's literally like how Anorexia or bulimia works (Body dysmorphia) . They don't see the reality, they only see in place of a healthy body part as flaws they're projecting onto themselves. It's manageable through Cognitive Behavioral therapy and Dialectical Behavioral therapy.
Among other types of therapies.
I've been a tomboy my whole life. I'm almost 30. They never thought i was a guy, but growing up in the 90's, people did think I was a lesbian. I'm straight, getting married to my best friend next year and i'm still a tomboy! As a teenager I did use tons of make-up to be more feminine but I don't care anymore. Hope you are well.
People thought you were a lesbian in the 90s? You were like 5 years old
Funny you mention that, I was born in 1980 and was very tomboyish growing up. In Cuba you are labeled as lesbian or gay just for doing some gender non-conforming things as a child, it’s insane. I always dated boys and had a serious BF from age 17 to 19, but still called a lesbian. It’s hilarious that, 21 years an 2 marriages later (I left that hellhole at 19), people who knew me then but have not seen me or spoken to me since I left, still think i’m a lesbian 😂
I feel you!
As an adult tomboy myself I finally realized 1. Masculinity isn't better than femininity 2. I don't have to love all the feminin things like makeup 3. I don't have to love football to impress the guys. lol
My wonderful husband actually gets annoyed when I occasionally put on makeup for special events. It's a little refreshing.
I'm 51 and 100% tomboy (my entire life). Happily married with 3 children. I love guns, motorcycles, tractors, off roading. It's a shame in this day and age that if a girl likes doing boy stuff, she must be a he in a girl body and vice versa and something needs to be done about it. Very sad.
I’m cisgender female, age 63. I was known as a tomboy growing up and by the 1990’s, lots of people around me kept urging me to experiment with being lesbian. It didn’t interest me because I was not am not sexually attracted to females. This was also because I was a “weird” child and socially rejected by other females during adolescence and young adulthood because I wasn’t boy crazy or eager to have sex. The idea of following the expected route, college, career, settling down, getting married and raising the typical 2.7 kids, a house in the suburbs, a minivan or SUV, swimming pool, and a dog--did not appeal to me. Instead, I traveled throughout the USA, Canada, and Mexico, teaching and tutoring elementary level school, to kids, to teens, to adults. I did so in all sorts of communities, a one room schoolhouse in Appalachia with eight grades, a men’s maximum security prison, led a women and baby’s transitional group, prison to the outside world, inner city middle school and primary grades, tutor in the suburbs, etc. In many places, I had to work second or third jobs to survive, or board with the people I was serving, live in an RV, and once in an Army tent back of someone’s property. Throughout the 2010’s, people insisted I was either asexual or non-binary. Well, I’m just myself, not an artificial category of sexual identity. My sexuality is NOT at the center of my existence. Instead, my center is my spirituality, creativity, and intellect.
Just because you're a ' minority " doesn't mean you story shouldn't be heard. Thanks for everything you do you are brave.
Hard to tell how much of a minority. That's the issue. There is an awful lot of money to be made off of these impressionable people transitioning.
that's based on old data. There are more detrans people than actual trans people at this point. literally the most destructive fad in society today.
We really need to implement a process that allows people to get a taste of what it's like to present as another gender, and make sure that they are insistent in their dysphoria long enough to judge that there isn't another solution to their mental health issues before making permanent changes to their bodies that might damage them for the rest of their lives. There are people killing themseleves by the thousands over this BS trans over-affirmation and not enough talking about it.
@@ericb5273 True, she willl likely be recognized as part of the majority as more people realize the error, and especially as transitioning is being pushed on more and more children and youths.
You are fabulous. My daughter has ROGD and we are hoping that she will be patient and allow herself to “grow up”. She told us detransitioners don’t exist, so I introduced her to your channel. I just want her to see both sides of the story. Thanks for putting it out there.
@@mickrozycki451 Transitioning is a huge market now for doctors, and it has also gotten huge as a political weapon for the lgbt movement. So there are many people eager to see children and people in general transition and join their cult. Its incredibly dangerous. Here in my school district, I had found out in both my kids school's they were teaching gender identity politics to my 7 and 9 year old. It took a massive lawsuit for it to stop. These school boards have immense power. Parents have no say or power anymore. It is really scary times we live in. I found out that over a dozen girls under the age of 17(at our local High School) were mutilated and had certain body parts removed by doctors here. These were 15 and 16 year old girls. I am terrified.
@@mickrozycki451 It terrifies me. I have 3 young girls and a boy. I now have to homeschool all of them. I also have to go above and beyond to censor the internet and phones they use. Without a Herculean effort on the parents part, your kids are so easily exposed to corruption online and in games. Most of the people in my age bracket are not super Tech-Savvy, so it is not easy to allow your kids some access, but also filter all the garbage. Many of the parental filters do not work. I have to supervise ALL of their online and gaming activity.
@@mickrozycki451 You are absolutely right. Growing up as a kid in the 80's and 90's, we were all so innocent and pure. We had so little worries, and we NEVER thought about color or gender or really anything like that other than just playing and having fun. Now, adults are thrusting so much onto small children that they are just not capable of handling or processing. And children are SO easily influenced and corrupted. The smallest exposure or suggestion can steer them in a direction that is hard to return from. I have recently been playing Call of Duty with a few of my High School buddies that we play rarely. But we use discord to communicate and Im telling you, the amount of children in these discords that are completely unsupervised and exposed to so much adult material is crazy to me. There are predators everywhere. It is a completely different world now.
@@mickrozycki451 There is absolutely good people out there, and I absolutely want my children to experience the good it has to offer, just not at young ages. I am praying that I can teach them enough responsibility and enough strength and confidence in themselves, that when they do come across temptation, they can brush it aside with ease. I feel MOST of this stuff is the product of very lonely, insecure, and vulnerable youths who are looking for an outlet. Specifically, with a 16 year old girl on my block, she got into the lgbt thing online because she said she felt accepted and she felt a part of something, as well as having victimhood status and "protections". She said she never had gender confusion until getting involved in these online social circles. I am guessing this can very very appealing to insecure kids looking to fit in and find something they can be a part of. Her parents are both working parents and are rarely home, and she is also an only child. This is why I am going to emphasize a lot of my parenting on character and strength building so my children are confident in themselves and secure in their identity. I am also glad we have multiple children so they have brothers and sisters to bond with.
@@JonHop1 Sounds like your kids have no privacy or ways to connect to others
You are not a minority of detransitioner. There are going to be so many children who will grow up and wonder why the adults in their life didn’t protect the sanctity of their life, mind and body.
Because those adults would have been thrown in jail for opposing.....
i dont think so.
i dont think so.
I'm a nanny. 80% of parents don't know what the hell they are doing....
I guess because humans are social animals we tend to latch on to trends. If we have problems we quite often look to see what other humans in the same position are doing about it. If people with a set agenda bleat on about it enough (especially now with social media) they will be perceived by some as credible. I suspect the real winners in all this will be the lawyers.
I'm really glad that around 18:30ish that you were talking about being a woman but also not applying gender to that. I have a lesbian friend who presents very masculine, and she is always irritated by people trying to put her into the label of trans, when it's a label she doesn't want. She is a woman, wants to be a woman, but expresses herself in a masculine way. I have also run into this as I am not very feminine and go back and forth with my expression in a more non-binary way, but I still identify as a woman. I have had people argue with me about being able to call myself a woman or female because they feel I need to have the label of non-binary. Like WHY CANT I BE A WOMAN!?!? I consider myself a cisgendered woman who occasionally buzzes her hair and wears mens clothes. I also love my body the way it is and don't want to change it. *shrugs*. Your commentary on the issue made me feel really validated. I don't see many people this day and age with the same viewpoint of it being OK to be a Man or a Woman and present however one wants to without having to change labels. Thank you.
You convey the flaw of the gender fluid and nonbinary argument. See, I am 53, and what we were fighting during my younger days for was the idea that "a woman can be whoever or whatever she wants" and the same for men. Having a woman be very masculine was a sign of a woman being a "tom boy" and that definition was never considered a bad thing. And yes, when I personally could see that a woman wasn't being feminine, you knew you had someone there that would love to go dirt bike riding or perhaps work on a car. It wasn't something where gender entered the discussion. The other side of this is there are guys that are attracted to women like this and yes, there are times when there are feminine men and masculine women that get together. Now the other side of the coin was back then, the idea of someone being gay or transgender was not something that was talked about, at least not in mainstream society. It seems that while now it is, the common sense pendulim has swung to the opposite side way too far.
What I mean is the gender identification argument is not liberal at all. In fact, it's anti-liberal. It's saying "if you act like this and talk like this, dress like this, then this is your gender." By the strict definition as presented these days, I would have been a non binary. But alas, I am a man in every way that is important. I was back then and I am today. But the way things are these days, it's little wonder why so many kids feel the need to transition or be nonbinary. They obviously aren't "men" or "women" because they don't fit the very strict stereotype as defined by the very people that call themselves liberals.
My step brother who is in his 50s is mtf. He was not always trans but was gay and in the lifestyle since I can remember. As a result, I grew up around the LGBT community. What throws me off these days is that back then NObody I knew cared about pro nouns or changing their gender. They knew very well what they were, didn't have a problem with their birth gender and was comfortable being that but living as the opposite sex. The women very much knew they were women and didn't want to be anything other than that. I remember LGBT community being much more comfortable with who they were and how they chose to live, they seemed much more stable emotionally and mentally in comparison with those of today. My experience always caused me to question the validity of the new ideologies since LGBT seemed so much more put together prior. It's all been very confusing and disturbing to witness.
YES!!!
we use to call that a tomboy, not only was that fine but many of us embraced it
I'm a woman, and some days I feel more masculine while other days I feel more feminine. I don't think there's anything wrong with trans people, but I do think that the skyrocketing rates of trans kids (I'm using that as an all-encompassing term to include non-binary and gender fluid as well) should be every reason for people to slow down and take a hard look at the movement. Being a teen is tough for everyone, and having confusing feelings about who you are is 100 percent normal. I firmly believe that many (not all of course, but many) of the kids undergoing hormone therapy (and surgery) right now will end up regretting it and would have otherwise outgrown it with time and maturity.
I transitioned, but as an adult. I was mortified at how pushy they were to me, and I fought for a therapist that worked WITH me not pressured me, took years to reach that point. I can't imagine what it would be like for a minor, the pressures, the lack of understanding of what is being pushed. I think every damn therapist, doctor, parent, teacher or the like pushing children to transition should be jailed.
Doctors no longer keep the oath they make,to truly care for the patients they have.
@@stardustgirl2904 There is too much money to say no, and too high a risk to their careers to fight the madness. You stand up and say "this is wrong" Then you have protests, suddenly no insurance company will support you, many of your clients go poof...
It's EVIL.
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@@stardustgirl2904
@@Casra76 That's a perfect summation of what's going on in the medical community regarding trans people. Well said!
“Those Who Can Make You Believe Absurdities, Can Make You Commit Atrocities”
~Voltaire~
I think most everyone can agree here that protecting the children comes first yes I strongly agree with u on that.
🙏🏽 above all else
@@Floatineye leave your genitals be
@@okaycola2 I don’t think its your business to ask others about their genitalia. And you think trans individuals are pervs
@@Floatineye surgeons need to stop playing god
@@Floatineye what question you take offense at? Every adult is a pervert that’s just a burden we all have to learn to live with IMO
You are so well spoken, intelligent, and beautiful. You did an amazing job detailing your experience.
I just want to say that you are truly a beautiful and strong woman, with a beautiful voice. The courage it takes to face whatever emotional and/or mental challenges you have/had, and to move past feeling a need to identify as something or someone other than who and what you are is incredible, and frankly beyond my comprehension, since I haven't gone through it. Also, no, your nose is not noticeably bigger now than before based on the pictures you displayed. Please don't let hateful people tear you down.
I love how natural and real you look as a woman! SO happy you came to discover your authentic self!
I'm a gay girl that have been a tomboy her whole life. I did question in my teen years if I was trans or not, and I figured I just wasn't. I had gender dysphoria but I figured out that what I needed was to learn loving myself as I am, not run from it. Today I love my body more than ever, thankfully. Congratulations for being strong and to share your story with the world and not let yourself be silenced by these trans cultists!!! Good job! ❤
yes, like me i don’t think i’m trans i’m just very insecure about my buddy and it’s just something i’ll have to work on to wear more girlie clothes n getting out my comfort zone. i’m super happy someone is thinking just like me 😁 thank you!!
Please stay off social media. That is the source of the trans ideology that gave gullible adolescents, teenagers and even some grown adults this false answer to their problems.
Idk what it feels like to identify with the current, AMERICAN LGBTQXYZ crowd (boy I’m glad that I’m not American), but the ones that do seem to suffer a lot of issues of self esteem and are generally girls.
You are not gay....
@@Mint-kj9kw i am though🧍🏾♀️i’m a lesbian
@@Mint-kj9kw What do u mean by that? Yeah I am.
I grew up in the 70s and we were all about trying to disconnect gender roles from actual gender. My mom was a lesbian and I was raised to be exactly as I am with no expectations to dress or act any particular way just because I happen to have been born a woman. It is a little worrisome that many youth feel the need to become so preoccupied with the gender they present. I have no issue with kids wanting to do away with gender and go as gender neutral, but the minute I hear about people going through great lengths to meet society's expectations of what a man or woman are, regardless of whether this matches their birth gender or not, this strikes me as a set-back, not progress.
Wow! I grew up the exact opposite in a nuclear family with an older Down syndrome brother and a delinquent of a sister who was on drugs and always in trouble... But the fact is I had a father that kept the family together he was a patriarchy and when he died that was it... He was the last one left to carry on the blood name
Me replying to your comment might not be appreciated, as I do believe in traditional gender to a degree, but I had an epiphany that sounds alot like what you are saying. I was arguing with someone online (a pointless enterprise I know) about how I viewed a certain actress raising her son as a girl as disgraceful as I felt it was harmful. I have 3 children and during the exchanges I explained that gender while kids are kids is pointless as kids will be interested in whatever they like and as a parent you let them go. Most parents I know don't actually try and force their kids interests one way or another as they tend to work it out themselves often along the lines of traditional gender. What I started to realise is that deep down that actually forcing a boy to be universally a traditional female due to having some traditionally female interests was the actual root problem that I had with this. Kids can become the adults they wish to be, forcing them in formative years is the issue. My wife is 6' tall tomboy you could say, very physically strong, drives semi trucks, was the eldest daughter of a farmer and can operate every piece of machinery one can imagine, but she still loves getting dressed up and wearing makeup once a year lol. She is also an awesome mother and loving wife and I can't help but wonder nowadays if she was born now to progressive parents fixated on gender with that attention seeking edge, if she would have been forced down the route of irreversible surgery and infertility at a young age.
I'm detransitioning.
Took my last estrogen shot Friday.
I know the first week or two is gonna suck.
But I was not on long thankfully so no major physical changes.
I'm just happy to be on my back to my old self.
Affirmation of gender has become in my opinion dangerous.
All love and no scrutiny.
Sometimes it's love to tell someone something may not be for them
@@BIGALIENSHAFT hey, sir. i hope youre adjusting ok. my uncle has just started taking estrogen, and i wonder if he will go off it too. i hope youre going ok. 💕❤️🧡👋
i feel like society's idea of gender/gender roles makes gender for this generation of kids so much more confusing, cause it's so easy to look at what society views as a woman and feel like it doesn't fit and assume you aren't a woman just cause you don't fit that definition, like i'm ftmtf detrans and i feel like that impacted a lot on why i thought i was trans, idk, all this gender stuff seems like we are going backwards in a different direction
as a trans person I am not mad at people who detransition. this is your life. your journey. nothing wrong with anyone of us in it. do you, i respect you and you're beautiful in all forms. You're still Cat in all forms.
Amen ! ♥️
well there does seem to be a difference between most "trans" people.. and a vocal minority - the "trans lobby" who claim to speak on behalf of all "trans" people but who are much more doctrinaire and intransigent..
@@frankzappaspussy7362 i agree. i can't speak for everyone. let me clarify i only speak on behalf of myself. thank you for clarifying this and my apologies for the misunderstanding.
@@lx9037 i don't think that there was much of a misunderstanding - i was just clarifying that some of us will be very concerned/paranoid about how "t" lobby push their agenda - without that needing to involve any animosity towards most "trans" people..
@@lx9037 Don't apologize to someone blathering on about the "t lobby". When they say agenda, they think Joe Boden is personally petitioning to transition their kids. And that's only a little bit of an exaggeration.
The last part about coming to terms with 'woman being an adult human female' and about how freeing it is not to have any expectations attached to it...that is now a controversial topic. It's tragic so many young people are coming out about de-transitioning and the community is throwing them under the bus. Keira Bell's story is going to be talked about for years to come I think.
Intersex women are women even though they are XY because they have female Anatomy and female secondary characteristics, please realize that definition only covers women born with no condition.
It's so sad. I'm a woman, and every other woman I've talked to about this hates that it is now politically incorrect to define a woman (most of us are downright offended by it). In reality, it's a very simple definition based on very basic biological truths. But what many of the loudest voices today don't seem to realize is that your biological sex is just one aspect of you-- it doesn't define who you are as a person.
Exactly! 20 or so years ago, we were told that there should be much fewer expectations about what a man or woman should have to look and act like, and that’s true! I’m very tomboyish myself, and I wouldn’t change that. I love being a girl, because that’s what I am. If girls like me want to be more “boyish” by liking mens clothing or media or whatever it may be, that’s fine. If a boy is interested in fashion, or hair, there are plenty of men fashion designers and hair dressers out there that are uber successful! By getting rid of the clear definitions set by our biology, though, we end up further trapping ourselves in a confusing mess of not knowing who or what we are. It’s sickening, and will only serve to hurt people.
I didn't see the whole thing but Matt Walsh's documentary "What is a Woman?" addresses that issue well, that if you can't define what a woman is but just say it's whoever identifies themselves as a woman, that's circular logic.
The minute someone tells you how to speak, what to say, what to read, watch, or listen to, run the other way. Anyone threatened by learning is trouble. I’m very glad you saw that and did not let yourself be controlled. You are on an amazing journey that we hear little to nothing about so it is kind for you to share it with the world. I hope you continue to grow and learn and find peace.
Yes! Especially to your first sentence, as well as to the rest :)
Well done for being true to yourself. No one alive can say they have never made a mistake, but having the courage to work on this is incredible. Best wishes. Cute cat too
I'm sorry that people were attackig you for detrasitioning. Sometimes it seems like they are threatened by detrasitioners. It cracks their own belives about themselves but they fight it and want to stay in the illusion really bad so they are mean to people who woke up from it. I wish you good luck on your life journey.
Detransitioners are treated like ppl who leave a religion.
@@coreaccount4376 Completely agree. Which suggests that the people who stick with it possibly see it that way.
I think you're right in that it does lead them to question themselves, but you are very wrong about people being in some kind of illusion. There are MANY trans people who are completely happy and comfortable with their transition. It's human nature to be unsure about ourselves and for a minority of people that uncertainty leads them to make life-changing decisions they come to regret. Most others that go through the transitioning process are happy with it.
@@ijustneedmyself of course they are, but they are not the one's attacking a bullying detransitioners. I know only one trans person who isn't this crazy activist type, and that is my best friend. He isn't pretending to have a "man's brain", he isn't living in the illusion, he just wants to live as a man, that's all, and he isn't up in everybody elses bussiness. To me this is a trans person who lives, the people who make it their whole personality and make it some sort of a battle against society are tools, and these are the people we are talking about.
I thpught i was born or become,(??) A lesbian...did not like it..but everybody said do not mind we love you as you are..i was very active.
Then at 55, i met Jesus...and by Gods love i started to change...because i read the bible: man and female God created us???? What????? Jesus showed me how i had become...and he took me out of this kind of feelings, thoughts..and lifestile. Now i am 73...changed , in the image of God...as a woman. This is good.
No one can force us how to think, how to feel...what to do. JESUS KNOWS US ALL, PERSONALLY.
HE loves us, each of us so.much....
Thnx for your testimony...what a character and courage!! Love from Holland!
I’ve worked with young people for a long time and I know a story like yours will help many. Thank you for being willing to share it. I wish you the best as your journey continues.
I have respect for you detransitioning, it must been so difficult to walk backwards, tell the doctors, and get out of it. I'm a trans man myself on T, it's been the best decision in my life and feels natural, but I can imagine how scary it is for someone going through it and feels wrong. It's good you realised quickly into 3 and a half months to stop it
Thank you for being kind and supporting someone who detransitioned. It seems like a lot of trans people who have successfully transitioned feel very threatened by people who detransitioned, which I can understand that they might worry that it will invalidate their decision to people who may not understand gender dysphoria and the need to transition. But I think it is really important to support people who are brave enough to admit this was the wrong choice for them especially from people who have happily transitioned- because otherwise they are being rejected from the community that once supported them and that is a lot on top of the mental and physical stress of detransitioning. Thank you for being a kind man. A cyber hug to you!
@@ttthecat I can understand your body changing and it doesn't feel normal to you, I have intense gender dysphoria and testosterone helped me tremendously. But I can see how a detransitioner feels too going through the unwanted change. I think gender dysphoria is a rare case and I've noticed people mainly women confuse it for something else. Also respect goes both ways, she is believes transgender and gender dysphoria does exist and I applaud her even after she went through that. I think what you are talking about of some successful transitioned people feel threatened by detransitioners is because some detransitioners completely think trans people are very ill and shouldn't transition while speaking their views on conversative channels, giving ammo to transphobes. I think that's where I draw the line.
Like I said respect goes both ways and if we trust eachothers decisions on our own and it is ideally the best for the individual and acknowledge that your mistake is not a mistake for someone else. It is amazing she knew it was wrong as quickly as she did and was able to stop, for me I could not stop a female puberty while as a child - but that's alright, I can't really be hell-bent on it when I have choices of surgery and happily on testosterone now. I think testosterone is worse than estrogen in terms how much it changes. Anyway didn't mean to make this a long post but your lovely response made me think some things thank you for being nice. Cyber hug 🤗
Did you experience vaginal atrophy and enlarged clitorious aka micro penis from testosterone?
What has it done for/to your sexuality or sex drive ? Do you desire sex or are you asexual? Is gratification physical orgasim or psychosomatic?
Sorry for the personal questions you don't have to answer.
I'm not trying to gaslight or troll you I'm really just researching
Oh and female castration aka "bottom surgery "
Is that in the plans as apart of your transition?
@@diannabrownridge6618 Yes to your first question, second it has increased my sex drive, in the first few months of testosterone I was having a lot of sex dreams and erections. Not asexual at all, I've always been attracted to women and still am. I will plan to have bottom surgery for sure
17:53 "after letting go of the concept of gender identity completely, i feel so much more comfortable in my skin" this was the same exact thought process i had when i started detransitioning but i didn't know it yet,
sorry for all the comments i've left i'm just going through the motions of accepting this and your story i've related to the most out of the other detrans videos i've watched
I hope you find all the happiness in the world. It is the most brave thing to be yourself... coming from a 50 year old man, with 4 children and 1 grandchild.
As a young man growing-up in the early 1970s from divorced parents, living with my mom, I was awkward, skinny and really dorky... it took many, many years for me to "grow into my own skin". I was mediocre at school and didn't have much direction. I joined the military at 20, grew up allot, learned what being a responsible man was and gained the discipline and self confidence I never got. It might have been because my dad was never around and I just didn't have a good role model, who knows. But regardless of what others think of the military, and soldiers in general. The Army took me in, broke me down to my basic core, then built me back up, piece by piece by instilling confidence, personal courage, and responsibility in me. They taught me the basics of not just being a man, but a good human-being.
I have served two tours in combat, and am a disabled veteran, so I have seen courage in action. I think what you are doing is extraordinarily brave and I admire your courage. Again, to be brave enough to let yourself find yourself and be honest about who you are, and then have the strength to be happy with that... true courage.
We are always telling people to be happy in their own skin and accept themselves for who they are... We need to do that regardless of whether that persons sees themselves the way we see them.
So this isn't really that related to your comment but, thank you for your service!
God bless you sir and thank you for your service 💙
This comment warmed my heart. Thank you for opening up about your life experience. I feel like I just got a life lesson. Thank you sir, wish you the best.
Thank you for sharing. Your thoughts are as important as Cats. And I also humbly thank you for your service to our country.
What a breath of fresh air. As a father or four im proud of you for speaking out. Id assume this journey is the hardest thing to do but we’re here with you along the way. Please keep talking on this. Your voice is being heard.
Your beautiful
Thank you for your courage to speak the truth. It's more important than ever...may God protect you, continue blessing and healing you ❤
I think your hair is stunning. It fits your face beautifully. The length and cut and style is perfect.
so glad you are doing so well
Thanks! I'm very grateful to be in a good place. Appreciate you watching!
You are beautiful. And you are part of a growing community-detransitioners. People need your story. I believe you will save people so much pain. I love seeing people embrace who they were born to be and their God given identity
You’re a role model. Keep it up. Kids are paying attention to your story.
At 18:00 you say something so important! I am glad I watched through to the end. Thanks for the thoughtful video. I am really concerned with what KIDS are dealing with right now in terms of pressure to medicalize their identity. Real words based in physical reality can set us free.
You look great. Congrats on being a senior now!
Thank you! Yes, it feels so good to see graduation on the horizon 🎓
I think it is just as important to be supportive of individuals who are detransitioning as it is to be understanding of those who are transitioning. Both are valid choices. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
I think one of the most overused words in the past decade has been "valid."
Throwing that out there gives people a pat on the back and the go ahead to do whatever and that's a danger. We have no idea where they're coming from and what their intentions are. We have no idea about their past or present life. We don't know if they've had trauma, are dealing with PTSD or any other kind of mental illness. People are not automatically "valid" according to their choices or their plans or because today they announced that they are something different than we knew them as yesterday. Some no doubt told this woman she was valid the day she announced she was starting T. She knew her voice would change but as a singer she did not know specifically how it would. So was that decision valid after all? Being a singer don't you want to know all the ways your voice can change when taking opposite sex hormones? This is not meant to shame in any way, it's just to point out flaws in our group think and thinking we're doing something positive when we tell virtual strangers that they are valid when we don't know them at all.
@@ohthelovelypoems l have no doubt that the changes in one's voice or any other differences that may emerge along the way (resulting from choices we make) will vary from person to person. Having a unique metabolism myself (based on experience over the years) l understand that nothing in life is guaranteed. The only way she could definitively know the outcome was to pursue it. Luckily she was wise enough to recognize that these changes were not worth the personal cost to her and she changed course.
@@ohthelovelypoems exactly what I was going to say sorry but transitioning isn't a valid choice I'm all for each their own but still that doesnt mean whatever they choose to do is a "valid choice" we can't use that term so losely
@@ramsshelbs6536 it is a valid choice.
@@heyhey8528 Obviously it wasn't the right choice for her or many people. And while people have to make their own choices, encouraging someone to change their gender or saying things'll be simple for them is not good, because you won't regret it but they might.
Thank you for this video. I am also EXTREMELY concerned about that huge surge in young girls who are confused by puberty and decide they are trans. It's HARD to adjust to the changes from being a little girl to a woman with curves and power. I seriously admire you for speaking up about this.
Yes, me too. It worries me that the powers that be are trying to take away parents right to know if a child is contemplating a change. It's not right.
It's not just the physical aspects that push young girls to transitioning - it's social aspects- the way teen girls are treated horrendously (at school, on the streets, at home etc). Male life is shown to be easier than female life, and males are priority. This pushes many tomboy girls or even lesbians to transition.
And masculine women are often misgendered and called 'men' - so this can confuse young girls.
Back in 1980-something, I got dragged to a therapist for poor grades.
One of the things he latched on to was my masculine presentation. He said all kinds of unprofessional, critical things and it was terrible. I had been suicidal and never said a word to anyone. Not parents not teachers, nobody.
My parent sat there and said nothing. It became evident neither of tgese people really cared if I lived or died.
I stopped getting into the car to facilitate my own abuse, after that.
My parent was not at all accepting of gay or lesbian people, and made it plain that anyone with a different gebder was also not acceptable. Nothing but heterosexual feminine female would have been acceptable. That was the template I was left to shoehorn myself onto all life long.
So much for informing parents.
I would have had a much less depressed, broken existence if I had been allowed to live in the way I wanted.
I'm 58 now, have lived as a man over 20 years, and have zero regrets. Except for having wasted years I don't get back, attempting to play the hand I'd been dealt.
@@samsara-summermooncomehome5881 Parents are part of the issue. I know four mothers I work with and every single one of them take their kids to the salon for hair coloring, eye brow enhancing, etc, and I mean, these are early teens. My daughter can't be bothered and I am sure honestly, a good percentage of girls don't give a damn either. So does that make them not women? Well, I could see some of these parents thinking so. I could see the so called "liberal" folks pressuring these kids to either be a woman in the strictest sense of their so called "liberal" definition or force them to pick another gender.
@@Ri57490 EXACTLY!!!!
I’m so happy you shared your experience. Quite a few people have gone through what you have, you’re not much smaller a community than the trans community, and it’s such an important discussion to have. Good for you for not only taking care of yourself, but also speaking up for your beliefs.
Cat, your experiences in your relatively short life will serve you well. You are lovely (beautiful smile, by the way), you are a musical artist who has already recorded, you have this TH-cam channel with thousands of subscribers (helping others who are in your situation, and helping those of us who don't understand what the whole transitioning and detransitioning world entails), you are almost done your studies (a very challenging area of study in science and medicine); you have done more in your time on earth than many have done in their lives. You're doing great things and providing a great service onto others who need help and support. I would go as far as saying that you are saving lives. Also, be aware that there has come a tipping point in society, an awakening. You are a part of that. I'm praying for you and all who are going through this struggle, both physical and emotional. You are stronger now. This is YOUR life, and no one can dictate how you need to think, or communicate. You are a free woman, you do you.
Yass! Love this. I think we all have masculine and feminine energy. And we all present them in different ways.
I'm so glad you didn't get lost in the "sunk cost" fallacy. Detransitioners are some of the smartest and wisest young people I know.
What does the "sunk cost" fallacy refer to, please?
@@ALinn-vr3nl "Individuals commit the sunk cost fallacy when they continue a behavior or endeavor as a result of previously invested resources (time, money or effort) (Arkes & Blumer, 1985). This fallacy, which is related to loss aversion and status quo bias, can also be viewed as bias resulting from an ongoing commitment."
It great you chose to detransition. Acceptance of self is a step towards happiness. You tell your story... you may help others by sharing it. You are a beautiful, intelligent woman. Embrace that and you'll be fine.
Really interesting video, thank you for sharing your experiences Cat. I’m glad you’ve found a bit more clarity and wish you all the best of luck in your future.
This is one of the most sane videos I have come across on this topic, thank you for sharing your honest, thoughtful and deeply reflective perspectives; I had GD for a lot of my life but worked through it in myself and due to the timing, missed this wave of “must transition” thought.
But I realised I would never feel like the opposite sex because I wasn’t that, simple logic, and also that not fitting the societal stereotypes and expected roles didn’t mean anything except that the roles n ideas didn’t fit.
In accepting my birth sex and then building my life, hobbies, interests etc, and as you said, being focussed on character and meaning, I found peace.
It sounds as if you have too and I genuinely wish you the best life in embracing all you are from the inside out.
Thanks so much for your open share , and your grace and poise on it all.
Im here first to congratulate you on your studies. I'm so new to this topic of detrantioning. Thank you for using your voice and channel to protect children. Continued success!!
"protect children" yeaaa, suuuuuuuuure
It is so good to have all views expressed. Good on you for talking about your experience. Nobody should be censored on such an important and life changing topic.
I am so glad you didn't listen to that community telling you to shut up - my goodness they were so wrong to tell you those things and treat you that way! Thank you so much for being your own person 🏆💪🔥
I would encourage anyone tempted to undergo transition to really sit with the idea that transitioning is an incredibly fundamental rejection of self, and an affirmation of wishful thinking. To really sit with this and lovingly accept The physical body that you are gifted with instead of submitting it to, potentially, a lifetime of medicalization. The expression of what we call masculine and feminine does vary throughout the eras of human history, and there are inborn qualities that fall in those categories that are so common as to be associated in those categories, but it doesn’t make it true across-the-board. Remember that there is a positive for every negative, and it’s a human choice as to which is expressed. A woman can be a doormat, or a champion or a facilitator, etc. A man can be an aggressor in inappropriate ways, or a protector par excellence, a warrior for good. And vice versa. When personality leads a man to be gentle, Sensitive, aware, intuitive, That is the kind of leader that he will be. When personality leads a woman to be strong, decisive and assertive, that’s the kind of leader that she will be. And we can replay scenarios like this for every situation in life. It is part of being unique individuals. Embrace your biology and love it. Embrace your personality, because while it may SEEM to be gender specific (statistically speaking), it is not truly gender specific. When a person can fundamentally accept themselves, body and personality, they will save themselves a lot of anxiety and self loathing/hatred/frustration, and save a lot of time, money, grief.
This was a great video! I’m glad you’ve kept up with singing and found comfort in your own skin.
You stated your current views in a clear fashion. I cheered when you said that you found some sort of relief by accepting that woman = just who you are. Adult. Human. Female.
GCs *are* concerned and I’m glad that you explored that side of the gender discussion. Keeping an open mind and being able to analyze contrasting opinions/perspectives are two vital skills that will serve you well moving forward.
Wishing you well.
I’m so proud of you for seeing the truth; it sets you free. Keep posting, you are helping to set others free as well ❤
Thank you for telling your story. Thank you for being brave.
I have never seen any of your videos. This is my first time hearing your story. Seeing ones' self outside the identity of a group is something few people ever become aware of. God speed in your journey and good luck.
You have a new sub for being so brave and doing the right thing. I commend your decision ma'am and happy Thanksgiving to you and your family.
I’m a senior who has precious granddaughters. I’m so much behind you and thank you for your kind, open and honest character to share such complex experiences. You are wonderful. Love you, Carol
I'm so sorry you went through all that 😢 congratulations on your continuing journey to health
Don't " shut up". Ever. The world needs you to help restore balance and sanity.
Don't know why the algorithm recommended this video, but I'm thankful. You seem to be heading towards a healthier place emotionally and physically from the past you described.
I'm a Christian white male and don't think I always empathize as well as I should with people facing these particular struggles, so I thank you for sharing your perspective. I always aim to love, listen, and care for people in their journeys, but understanding others without enough context is hard.
I'll pray for you to continue finding strength, truth, and love. P.s. digging your music on Spotify right now :)
Shalom
You were exactly what i was looking for. Ur right that testosterone changes your anatomy in a completely new way and i needed to hear that it wasnt true that it was impossible to sing comfortably again
i think it just depends on your body, i was on testosterone for about 1yr and 7months and have been off of testosterone for about 3 months? my singing voice was pretty much ruined by testosterone but i'm starting to get my range back and sing higher, which honestly i thought i was going to loose
The trans community and "gender warriors" in general will attempt to keep your story and many like you suppressed. I do wish you well in your efforts and stand ready to support you any way I can. Much love.
I agree actually alot of these detransitioning videos get deleted I think we need to show this more attention instead of the ones transitioning it can save alot of young people
@@1Emanresu well said
Thanks for the comment. I feel no negativity towards trans people, and neither do any other detransitioners I've spoken to. Rather, we tend to question the ideology that led us down a destructive path. Gender identity theory is a belief system, not fact, and medical transition is objectively bad for health. Now if other adults want to choose that path at their own risk, that's not up to me, but I don't have to support it. Even people who are psychologically satisfied with their transition will often experience serious side effects from hormones or failed surgeries that destroy their quality of life.
I'm speaking out about these things not because I dislike trans-identified people, but because gender identity theory and the affirmative care model is dangerous and harming a lot of people, including trans-identified people themselves.
@@CatCattinson So well said!
Great video! glad u managed to undo most of the changes, specially the scary liver issue. It must have been such a strange experience to suddenly have part of the community u identified with suddenly trying to silence u precisely bc the way u choose to identify as! So crazy.
Happy that you are happy! I wish more folks received rounded treatment for their concerns before being suggested or pushed to take medical action. Your experience about letting go of gender concepts could be so helpful for others!
The algorithm sent me your vid. My daughter is your age and is also in the last semester of college. You are so strong and I am amazed by you. As a member of the bisexual community I've watched so many detransitioners coming out and the community is growing exponentially. A lot of older trans are coming out in full support of detrans because as they are saying...transitioning should be the last resort not the first choice. You are so beautiful but the most important thing is - your mental health and if you are regaining that back then you've got this. Lastly, your hair is awesome, I love the cut and take that low voice and rock it; you'll get it back it will just take time and retraining. Keep speaking up - DETRANSITIONERS MATTER and their voice is VERY IMPORTANT, especially to the younger set coming up.
Beautiful testimony! Thanks for sharing and standing up for your beliefs. Everyone should absolutely know the health consequences. You are a beautiful young lady!
It’s great that you left that evil stuff behind you and are accepting yourself as the brave and talented woman that you are and were created by God to be. I don’t know how I came across your TH-cam channel, but I’m glad I did. I hope that you have any amazing life and I will be checking out your music as a new subscriber. Hope you have a blessed weekend! Peace!
Just came here to subscribe and support u after seeing the way u were treated by people for choosing to live ur way, on ur terms. Im a straight, white, right leaning 32 year old woman from east TN and i believe what ur doing with sharing ur experience is extremely important. I also think u look beautiful and ur voice sounds like a girl's, i have a deeper voice too even tho i think our voices always sound deeper when we hear it as we talk . What u r sharing needs to be heard by anyone who is thinking about transitioning, they should be fully informed. I feel like someone is born a woman or a man but on the day someone turns 18, they can do whatever they want to with their body and with their money, it bothers me none. Historically, when a society has come down to putting gender and sex/ sexual activity at the forefront of issues and what it cares about, it falls. I am so proud of u, even tho i dont actually know u, for standing up for urself. It was an easy decision to search for ur channel and support the right for someone to be fully informed before they make such a major, life altering decision. I still find it odd that some r against being fully informed before going thru with it. I think u r a beautiful person, inside and out , and u r also very caring and brave for sharing what u r going thru so that others wont be put in the position u were.
In a free society a person is free to have their own thoughts, emotions and beliefs...without being attacked or demeaned by any person or group. It sounds like you are in touch with your inner voice and are expressing yourself in a way that is true to you AND is not harming anyone. How others respond to your truth is not something you can control. How others respond is their issue, not yours.
It takes a lot of courage to be public about the detransitioning; this is such an important narrative to share. Thank you for your courage. It is much appreciated and you will inspire others. When I was young I wanted to become trans but it was too difficult at the time. Now that I'm older and I've health conditions, I'm so glad that I didn't. My natural body is difficult to deal with enough. It is also OK to be young and not have all of the answers. And I feel like the mainstream LGBT community now is shutting down this narrative. Transition is OK and D transition is OK. I wish everybody could just be themselves. Even if they change their mind on who that should be. People evolve. We all make mistakes or become someone different when we're older. This should be celebrated not shamed and silenced.
I'm so glad -- for you and the world -- that you saved yourself. You are so beautiful as a woman. You have so much more to offer us a woman than you ever could have pretending to be something you weren't. Bless you.
Thank you for sharing your story. We need this more than ever.
Just subscribed, love your music! It takes a lot of courage to de-transition. Your beautiful!
You have such a beautiful voice, your music is now in my likes. I love the Just Fly OG version! Wish I heard it sooner. Thank you for sharing your story. I think it's important for people to understand the risks and I applaud you for speaking out. Keep singing with that beautiful voice and please continue to help educate our younger generation on the risks. ❤️
I definitely hear the difference listening to the music. But you hit a high note!
Do not give up on speaking out. You are beautiful and you have a right to express your opinions. Your story is inspiring to others who may be afraid right now, you are giving them the courage to come out with their own journey and explore what is troubling them.
So sad people would not allow your truth. Pray you've found it and will be happy. Glad you get support from many communities. Most people pretty decent.
Glory to God! May you fully heal and be blessed abundantly
Thank you for sharing your experiences. Your feedback is valuable to me - this is a huge issue right now. All of our children need to be protected and encouraged, you are right on point.
I’m so glad you are finding the peace settling into who you are and the simplification of the idea of man and woman. I grieve for the incredible unrest that must come with trying to figure out who you are and not being able to be who you are without questioning who that really is. You truly are the beautiful adult human female you were made and that is a wonderful discovery. I hope the remaining physical symptoms continue to heal and that you are able to strengthen your voice. God bless you, Cat.
You are brave, courageous and loved. No matter what❤️
You are doing great with the end in sight, no matter how far it seems. Stay strong ! Life isn't always easy or good but always worth the journey. You will be happy with the future because the past is only a memory.
You look great. Glad to see you’re finally getting to a place where you realise this.
You are an eloquent speaker and beautiful the way you are! Very happy that you are using your situation to educate others from person experience. Don't ever change that. You are "you" for a reason. 🤗
Thank you for your courage. Your story is needed to be shared.
Way to stand in your truth! I admire your decision to accept the vulnerability of sharing your experience, despite the resistance you have and will meet. A "red-pill" awakening can shift our axis mightily when we have them, and it sounds like yours hit closer to home than most. To have someone as articulate and measured in their words as you are, willing to speak on this, is important to young gay and lesbian kiddos who may be confused by the gender trends, terms and expectations being imposed on their journey of self-discovery. We are not defined by stereotypes, or cultural norms, but rather, what we do in spite of them. And if their truth is so self-evident, then your truth wouldn't threaten to undermine theirs so.
For whatever my input is worth, here it goes. I was recently referred to as a TURF. I'm not entirely sure what the criteria is for that label though I know the label is not positive. From the beginning of this... movement(?), I have been neutral about the right of an individual to choose their identity. I still am. I honestly believe a person can be free to call themselves a tire, a tree, a man, a sea snail, a woman, or a helicopter and it has no effect on how I live my life or the life of anyone else. It's some of the other things that have piggybacked with this movement that I have and will continue to oppose.
Shared bathrooms or changing areas that should come with the expectations of privacy, for example. As a child who suffered years of heinous abuse, my whole self feels such revulsion at the thought that a penis would EVER be accepted around little girls. No matter who it's attached to or their mental state. Not because of trans people. Not ever because of trans people. But because I grew up surrounded by monsters. I know monsters. Intimately. There are no honorable rules of engagement for monsters. They do not view inclusion and acceptance as specific. For those who hurt children, there is only ease of access and opportunities. ANY part of ANY law or ANY movement that might afford more opportunities for monsters to hunt their prey is and always will be a hill I'm willing to die on. No one's feelings or beliefs will ever be more important to me as an adult survivor. If that classifies me as a TURF, then so be it.
As to the medical, mental, and social ramifications of transition in either direction... medically, I imagine the danger is there. I believe taking drugs to alter or interfere with biological functions are potentially deadly. I also fully support a person's right to do that as an adult. Period. I am fully against doing that to children. Mentally, it must be incredibly difficult to transition in either direction. I salute the dedication and mental fortitude it must take. Socially, we're all being a bit victimized by everything being politicized, cancel culture, and the stirring shit pot that is media. Humans want to be accepted. They want to "fit in". If you're now being ostracized by a community that preaches inclusiveness, I'm sorry. I don't know how many of me there are in this world but I assure you that I and people like me only care what kind of person you are. People like me don't care if you're a man, a woman, or a steam engine. We care if you're kind to those who can do nothing for you. We care if you're compassionate toward others. What you look like, identify as, or are attracted to mean absolutely nothing compared to who you are and what you do.
Sorry for the novella.
I'm glad for you and glad you're sharing this info. I hope it reaches the right folks
Hi! I just Subbed ; ) went through a phase of gender dysphoria between the ages of 11-23 and continued to suffer from facial dismorphia which I have slowly recovered from since.. these topics are important for me. I also want everyone to love themselves the way they are, and also to love each other with less judgement, as I went through so many years not loving myself, I lost my confidence and my dream. I have a lot I could say as I was sort of red-pilled on the topic early, but I definitely am glad I stayed myself and was able to met my husband and have my two precious kids! P.S. you're such a cute girl, but I am happier for how you feel now on the inside!
as simply a fellow human being, i sincerely applaud your courage and thoughtful insight on such a complex subject (also, enjoy your music very much). wishing you well on your most interesting & unique journey.
Thank you! 💕 Wish you the best of luck too, and have a beautiful day 🥰
Thank you for your bravery and for coming forward and speaking YOUR truth! I think it is so important that young people who are making these irreversible decisions know that transitioning is the answer for some people but not everyone and that there are many many ways to be male and female and to present your gender to the world! You can be the most masculine tomboy girl ever or the most effeminate lovely boy and there is nothing wrong with that and nothing that needs to be changed or altered! Thank you for putting yourself out there and being so honest about your experience it could make all the difference in someone's life and potentially save someone regret and heartache. I wish you the very best! You are a beautiful PERSON!
Your story is so important. Thank you for sharing! I agree with your message I’ve seen you say on tik tok: woman isn’t how you identity. It’s who you just ARE.
Absolutely love your courage in making this video and talking openly about your experience. And you have beautiful eyes. Just thought someone should let you know.
This is a fantastic detailed account of your detransitioning. I've learned so much. I am so glad that you are in a happier place now. Thank you for sharing your story.
You are an incredible person. Thank you so much for this. You have helped me. Peace and plants from Canada.❤️🌱❤️🌱❤️🌱❤️🌱❤️
You are so raw and authentic ! Thank you! A breath of fresh air! Keep moving forward, it can only get better from here! I am a Christian female and love people who are authentic and real. Jesus embraced those who weren't afraid to confront societal norms to bring health and healing. You are well on your way! I have subscribed and will continue to follow your journey.
You are truly beautiful inside and out! Glad you were able to find some peace.
stay strong Cat, remember its ok to take care of yourself and focus on those things that you need too e.g. getting your degree. don't forget to stop and smell the flowers and enjoy life/ nature. Have a wonderful holiday season
Seeing vids like this really makes me glad I've never transitioned. Had the dysphoria, but I don't think I would be able to get over the decision of transitioning
I loved hearing your perspective! the way you spoke was so honest and genuine, and i really agree with so many of your points and perspective. Thanks for sharing your journey!
This is a very important message. You show remarkable courage. These doctors are not honest. You will have to ignore the people using coercion regarding your choices. Brainwashing going on. My ex husband identifies as female and has impersonated me, when with our sons. Too many excuses for the dishonesty. Glad you got out of the agenda.
This is the first video I've seen of yours and you seem so happy. I hope you grow in appreciating the beautiful person you are and that God made you.
Honey. In the old days what you did is what therapist called the real life test. Transgender people used to be required to spend a year living in their target gender before anything more than hormones could be given. You thought it might be for you. You tried it and did not feel better. This just means you are not trans just a bit different. That's OK. What bothers a lot of transgender people is that many detransition then become anti trans as if no one else could have a fundamentally different experience than theirs.
I say bring back the one year test
Thank you for sharing. Having the humility to look up the “other side of the argument” is a great thing! That’s hard for many of us to do.
I hope that people considering making these changes see videos like yours. There is so much information that these younger people are completely unaware of, things that many adults aren’t even aware of.
It’s a blessing that you were not on testosterone for long, and that your changes have not seemed to be permanent. Unfortunately, many other detransitioners do seem to be so fortunate.
Wow thats was lovely to hear! I am very happy to hear that you are more confortable in your skin and doing better and that you are thinking for yourself. Questions and dialogue are never a bad thing, unless a dogma is being protected which is religion/cult like. Thank you for sharing
Thank you fo speaking up for children!!!
I am so happy for you.
WELCOME BACK TO THE SISTERHOOD!!
This is very interesting and informative. I feel like this is a side to the story that isn’t explained. Thank you for putting yourself out there like this! I’m so glad you had the immense inner strength required to not only make the decision to de-transition but to follow through with it. Much love from Texas 💛
Just finished listening to "Talk" and am just about to tuck into the rest of the Powerdown EP. You sound fantastic!