story 1: the reason the "nanny" didn't get fired, was because the nanny position was only a cover. her REAL job was to be Karen's drinking buddy and companion and thought she'd score a paid vacation on boss's dime. and boss knew it. he likely has childcare arrangements down in florida already in place which is why he took the kids with him instead of sending them to the hotel
Right? Especially when you consider they didn't originally arrange for her to come with them. They had to add her to the flight last minute, and the Boss doesn't seem the type to leave the wellbeing of his kids as an afterthought.
For the last story, op's husband canceling the flight behind her back and the repeated calls later that day could be a pretty good starting point for an abuse case for a divorce. Remember, abuse isn't always and often isn't physical. Controlling behavior like refusing the get a babysitter so op has to watch the kids at home while he makes money sounds like textbook financial abuse, trying to make op reliant on him.
by the time it gets physical, there's usually at least one other type that's been laying the ground work to help manipulate the victim into staying through the physical.
A person doesn't need a reason to get a divorce. The problem in cases of abuse is that their self esteem is so low that they're convinced that they cannot make it without the user. When there's a big wage discrepancy, it's particularly difficult. Having children and distancing their partner from family and friends is another tactic used by abusers. They should give a class in healthy relationships in middle and high school since many families are toxic, and those behaviors are often repeated in subsequent generations.
Story 4: This was all to isolate OP. He says not to believe that the babysitter did nothing wrong, but he has no evidence to say that she did steal, and considering his behavior afterwards, which included canceling tickets behind OP's back and trying to guilt her afterwards, I'm more inclined to believe the babysitter. The husband and mom need to go, and OP needs to take the kids and run so far away
I agree, and while the mother didn’t have to explain, her explanation left much to be desired in explaining. My grandson has autism you don’t just say I can’t hold onto him. Lots of kids that aren’t on the spectrum are like that. I refuse to engage anyone who’s as ignorant as that woman. I would’ve left before she pulled the give me the cart crap.
What???!? This guy is a terrible jerk! He thinks of you and the kids as his property and under his control. He will get worse. Leave now while you still can! And to previous commenter... number62...women must think for themselves or be stuck in a bad situation! You sound like a jerk, too!! 😡😡😡
There's a difference between wild and toxic. Demanding that your wife not go to her sister's wedding because you want her there to take care of the kids, that's wild. Canceling her plane ticket behind her back that's toxic. For all these challenges life throws your way thank God there are divorce attorneys
Some time ago, a post here or elsewhere described the perfect put-down for an entitled Karen who demanded that a disabled teenage girl should give up her own wheelchair for the Karen to use: K: You don't look disabled! G: You don't look stupid, yet here we are.
If you’re ever in a confrontation with a Karen just say “lady this isn’t Burger King, you can’t have it your way.” If you work in a Burger King, sorry you’re on your own 🤷♀️
Karen's are super easy to deal with. The correct response is, "No." followed by walking away. If she grabs you, have her cited for assault. Since they have no issue doing that on camera, it works every time.
I'm with everybody else on the last story. OP needs to take the kids and not look back, she married a really toxic man, and also one that sounds like a perv
Oh I honestly believe the babysitter considering what the husband has done with his wife. OP needs to divorce him because it clearly shows financial abuse. she needs to leave him and the babysitter needs to press charges for sexual harassment.
If the babysitter kept the sleazy texts from him on her phone, his wife could use those as evidence in a divorce case. And if the babysitter was a teenager, the deadbeat husband could get charges placed on him for soliciting a minor.
The babysitters testimony will defiantly help determining custody! He knows what he tried to do to the babysitter can blow up his whole life and that is why he was getting super angry so he can try to scare her into silence!
Garage sale - I've read stories about the need to lock up EVERYTHING at sales, as attendees will demand to go inside to see what else they might want, rummaging around to their hearts content. Massive, massive rudeness and entitlement.
James Davy -- you've just told me you're ignorant about the world without saying you're ignorant about the world. In large parts of the world if it's not nailed down or behind bars it gets stolen. In the US we can leave out lawn furniture and decorations without expecting it to disappear overnight. Plus, Americans are privately more charitable than other nations.
Glad I haven't experienced that in our area. We've been fortunate everyone has been very respectful. I even had one older lady that got a beanie baby and it seemed so important to her but she didn't have money. I think she was just walking by, not intentionally garage saling. She said she'd mail me the money and it was so late in the sale I just let her have it. Months later I had forgotten about it, and I got a hand written letter from her with the money in it.
Well in the case of the nanny it looks more like his wife has hired her to be a drinking buddy rather than a child care giver. Man I wish someone would hire me as they're drinking buddy, as long as you're paying me, I'll sit by your side and drink with you all day
Final Story - Yeah OP needs to get the kids, hire a Divorce Lawyer and get away from that psychopath ASAP! After hearing the husband openly admit that he canceled her plane ticket to go to her sister’s wedding and demanded that she stay home and come home immediately makes me scared for OP. OP if you’re seeing this… RUN!
I hate certain people. I had a loser demand to cut me in a long line at a thrift store because his uncle is waiting for him. I show him my cane and say sorry I'm disabled and I need to get back to my car as soon as this line thins. He had the nerve to say, "You look like you're walking fine to me," when I put the cart back. At that point I told him to pay my medical bills if he thinks so and he says F but the actual word YOU at me. I'm almost in tears by this point because I rarely go out alone, due to this type of behavior. So I just go sit in my car and he comes out and walks over to his family. That's when I go off from the handicap parking space I'm legally parked in. His uncle comes over to me and I tell him he's harassing handicap people inside the store. I could see the look on the guys face when his uncle and I spoke. Someone was in BIG trouble. Leave people alone, we don't want to be sick, it's not something we request or get off on, my life has been hard, shopping leaves me ill.
It’s always good when entitled D words have responsible family members who punish them for their nonsense. My props to that uncle for standing up for you.
Story 3: Disabled people really get the worst of it. A lot of people fail to recognize that disabilities are not exclusively physical. "You don't look disabled" doesn't mean there is no disability.
Yup, people have NO idea how bad it is. I also have autism, but was refused any sort of medical care growing up because I looked "normal" and am a girl. It's very scary and traumatizing to become so overwhelmed that you fully lose control over your body. Many people don't remember their meltdowns, but I am forced to watch myself say and do things that cause others pain while I'm internally screaming at myself to stop. And I will be held accountable as if I did it knowingly and intentionally due to the fact I don't look/act how they think a disabled person should. Even after I finally figured out why I was this way in my 20s, people think I'm using the label for attention and that I either dont have it or can fully control it. It's near impossible to recieve any accomodations or care as an adult with an invisible disability because the assumption is that if you can hide it, you aren't disabled.
My brother had a work accident about 12 years ago, as a result he has pins in his foot which means he can walk, but standing causes discomfort which gets worse the longer he puts weight on his foot. But because he's an otherwise healthy 40 year old who doesn't need crutches or a wheelchair people act like he's just lazy when he would rather sit on the floor than stand at a bus stop if there's no seats or similar. It sucks that people need to explain their situation for people to take them seriously and not just always assume the worst.
Story 1 - OP should’ve told Karen that he’s not a damn babysitter and he should’ve gotten a bonus for doing the Nanny’s job while she was getting wasted with Karen.
“Boys will be boys”?! That’s the most ridiculous statement I’ve ever heard! They’re stupid brats and Karen should’ve never brought them especially when Op isn’t really a babysitter! The audacity sometimes
Op already has all the evidence and proof she needs all she has to do is realize her husband canceling her flight to go to her sister's wedding that's controlling narcissistic behavior.
We need more stories like Story 3. All these Entitled People stories can drain your faith in humanity if you’re not careful. So it’s good to hear of the kind hearted people who stand up for the victims and do what they can to be helpful.
Story 1: Those 2 entitled idiots, I'd rather be late to or miss my reservation than dead. Story 2: Ah, the classics race card. Story 3: I've seen the Caroline cart. I work at a grocery store. So glad that kind older woman was there and was so nice to help OP out. Story 4: OP was definitely not in the wrong and should divorce him. The husband sounds like a controlling man. My thoughts are to divorce that man, take full custody of the kids, and make him pay child support.
I work at a disability center. The number of times I've had people able bodied or otherwise say they don't look disabled , would Kill a Rhinoceros , it's so offensive.
In situations like the autism story, do not try to explain things to aggressive people. Instead of answering the question about whether or not her daughter can walk, it is more effective to just repeat that you will not be giving it up. Don't explain, don't try to convince, just firmly say no repeatedly.
I keep thinking if the scene from the Sheldon spin off. Guy with Shotgun: You in the wrong appartment. Older brother: Not a burgler! A dumbass! Im trying to help my girlfreind move her stuff out of her apartment thats locked up.
Last story: he sounds like a narcissist. You need to secretly read books on narcissists and get your decks all in a row before you leave him. Once you leave him, make sure to have a therapist to keep your head straight because your soon-to-be ex will try to play with your head, so much that you'll think you're going crazy. He'll maje you doubt reality, and will make your life pure he'll. Get ready for the fight of your life, but it is SO worth if once you are on the other side!!!!!
@fancyquebecoise4550 yes, this does seem to most probably be the case. I’d go so far as to say abusive narcissist. These people can be extremely dangerous, especially when a partner is splitting with them. So to your excellent comment I’d add that when she leaves she should make sure that her husband does not know where she is going, and that she does not share online accounts or banking with him. Communicate only via a trusted intermediary or if absolutely necessary, by a cell phone. It’s a pain but if he annoys her by cell phone, she should change numbers and not tell him the new one. Be certain that her phone is not sharing her location with him. Be sure that she is not being followed. (If so, drive to a police station.) Make sure the kids at first have no contact with him-including cell phones. It will probably be easy for him to convince or trick one of them to share information (location, address, her/their phone number, etc.) with him. If and when he tries to get to her through the kids, she needs to get a lawyer and explain all of her concerns, especially safety concerns for herself and her children. For that matter, she should also thank the babysitter profusely and advise her to block him if he tries contact and to change her number if he goes around the block (with another number, say). She should not take the threat her husband poses lightly. She should contact local support organizations and find information about leaving controlling spouses. This may be a slight overreaction to the current situation but these kinds of situations can rapidly escalate. Better safe than sorry.
Last story: Honey get the heck out NOW! That's domestic violence. He doesn't have to hit you to abuse you. Believe me I lived through it myself and if you stay and allow it it will only get worse! The threats, the manipulation, the lies, the name calling etc. He's the horrible person not you. You've done nothing wrong. PLEASE Save yourself while you have the chance!
Babysitter story: The way the husband is acting is downright SCARY. OP needs to get as far away from him as she can as fast as possible and get a restraining order pronto!! Then she and the babysitter both need to press charges!
that last one with the Husband trying to stop OP from attending her sister's wedding.....OP should divorce him....he is the AH.....how dare you try to forbid/prevent someone from attending their relatives wedding....especially a sibling's wedding....that is grounds for a divorce and take his behind for all he's worth too
The last story, I speak from personal experience so ill give the advice of leaving. He seems manipulative mentally and emotionally. The abuse is subtle which makes it harder to see and there's never a way to prove things so that in your mind it's 100% proof you want. To the put side view point, he's abusing you and no one deserves to be abused in amy way by any one. If you wont do it for you then do it for your kids. You all deserve to be happy. I hope somehow this message gets to you.
My suggestion to her is get evidence of his manipulation and entitlement, if he's willing to go to great lengths to forbid his own wife from doing what she wants, then there is something really wrong with him.
Story 1: Considering how strict airlines are with their flights the two two drunk got off lucky that they aren't getting banned because I heard my share of stories on how Karen's get arrested and are put on a 'No Fly List' for their behavior's. The one story I still remember is how a Karen expect the pilot's to take care of his spoil child and got a felony for attempted hijacking.
Story 2 - Imagine if that EM did go through with the threat of getting a Lawyer only to have it blow up in her face and she gets charged for trespassing and false discrimination.
Last story, Divorce Lawyer is a Great person to talk with, explain everything to him, and show proof of him canceling the ticket, and have the babysitter there in case this goes to court as a witness and give statements, with that she will have a lot of people looking at the husband as someone using his status of the breadwinner to control everything about his wife life and ruin others people lives like the babysitter.
I'm a bit of an aviation fan. I decided to look up the Merlin - it is indeed a very small twin engine aircraft. OP did not understand the severity of the changes made by the Karen and why overloading the tail was bad. It's not a tail strike on takeoff that could happen, it could be a complete loss of control authority and fatal crash. Between the change in passengers, the drunkenness, etc OP's Dad should refuse to have those two on another flight.
There's a reason why pilots need to calculate the centre of gravity and airplane cargo loaders need to have clear communication with the pilots. There have been a few accidents showcased on _Mayday_ about overweight tails.
Story 3: This annoys me so much. People telling others that they dont look disabled is so rude. My son has high functioning autism, ADHD, and Cerebral Palsy. If he is sitting down being quiet, he looks normal too. He can walk, but he walks with an obvious limp. If someone were to tell me that my son doesn't disabled and wanted me to give my cart to them for their tired child, I would tell them, "Well, being tired isn't a disability."
To the wonderful woman with the autistic daughter, I recommend you get a Hidden Disability lanyard (it has sunflowers - you can also get a specific card that outlines her disability and needs (I have one for a chronic pain+ condition). ) It’s not bulletproof, but it certainly helps in these situations. (Many places staff are trained to recognise it).
I feel like people who immediately jump to claiming discrimination when they're in the wrong have never actually dealt with it for real before. I had a friend in college who was a cis white dude but gay. He would always say he was gonna "pull the gay card" just to get his way. Like if he didn't want to go to work he just wouldn't show up, without telling anyone. And he said that if they tried to fire him he'd claim discrimination for being gay. Our friend group was mostly queer and we all yelled at him to stop his nonsense because many of us and other queer people all over the world have to deal with it for real, sometimes even losing their lives over it. He was just an entitled brat with a really easy life. It's the same thing like "Oh you're not gonna force your kid to give me their tablet? I bet it's because I'm (insert thing) isn't it?!" Um, no, it's because the tablet belongs to my kid, not you. WTF?
Story 4: OP needs to bailout, see if she can get the court to handle child support payments after getting both her and the children’s names changed. Her husband may be dangerous to probably is very dangerous. Bail rtf now!!!
Oh my god OP with a controlling husband, he such a narcissist and terrifying. He was totally gaslighting her when he said that the babysitter was lying . She needs to get away from that man as soon as she can.
1) Wow, that is one awful woman and a worthless nanny who should have been fired. 2) Oh good grief, some people must have an IQ that matches their shoe size and at attitude that outdoes most. 3) So sorry OP had to deal with this, but glad she had someone nice come to her aid. 4) OP, needs to contact a good attorney and file for divorce, then also reach out to a women's advocacy group and see about getting counseling to understand why she thinks manipulation, financial and emotional abuse, over controlling and isolation is acceptable and she feels guilty when she is NTA at all. After update: I'm glad OP contacted the babysitter and I hope she realizes she should believe the sitter and nothing her husband says. I'm glad OP will be taking the kids and leaving. What she needs to think is that she needs to stay away, contact a divorce attorney and let them do the talking to her husband.
OP has plenty of proof of her husband trying to prevent her from attending a MAJOR event for her family. Trying to keep her under his thumb with his mother backing him, up? That is a scary situation, and I was glad to hear that she was taking the kids and getting out of there.
Story 4: OP is NTA. Honestly I would have re-booked the ticket (at the highly increased day-of rate) put my ringers for him & his mom on silent and enjoyed the shit out of myself. Update: OP really REALLY needs to contact a divorce lawyer and start the procedures...hopefully the babysitter would testify in OP's behalf for what was done to her by the husband. If the babysitter is underage...there can be charges filed against him for that too...if she is willing. Her text messages would be a bonus either way. I really hope OP is never going back to that asshole.
On the story about the Sister's wedding and the babysitter, I would ask the babysitter if she still had those texts and have her send them to you and print them out.
Story 3: UGHHH!!! I absolutely HATE people like this Karen 😡 “ Well, you don’t LOOK disabled! What’s wrong with you? “ Geez, Karen, maaybeee not ALL disabilities are visible! Also, MIND YOUR OWN DARN BUSINESS!!! If somebody like this were to tell me, “ Well, you don’t look disabled! “ I’d probably say back, “ Well you don’t look stupid, but you don’t hear me bugging YOU about it! “ I probably wouldn’t really say it, per se… but it’s something to keep in mind. Edit: Excuse me?! 😡 I have autism too, Karen! It’s a very REAL thing! Ugh, I really hate people like that Karen
If my late husband had EVER done anything so controlling as cancel my flight ticket,( or anything else) behind my back. Especially going to my sister’s wedding, he’d have preferred to die a lot younger than he did! And there WOULD have been a divorce.
We got one of those carts for disabled kids and adults at our store. The managers told us to say something to the customer if they were using it and their kid wasn't disabled. Well I once saw a kid in the seat that didnt look or act disabled at all at first. I just observed instead of jumping to conclusions. By the way the kid spoke, which only a little was barely understandable, i could tell there was a disability. Just because its not obvious, doesn't mean that someone doesn't have a disability.
Story 4: OP, you are NTA, but your husband is a controlling, verbal abusing AH. Get out of there, with your children, before his behaviour escalates to physical abuse.
Story 3: as someone who is autistic, the little girl would have enjoyed shopping so much more with ear protection of some kind. There are many different forms if she doesn't like the big ones & could even use the ones that go through your bones with music. It makes no sense to distract over providing prophylactic/protection. Definitely a good goal/DIY if there are other reasons she can't/won't use ear protection. Its one of the most common autistic gear & a top location to use them is grocery stores, for me especially Wal-Mart with its high ceiling acoustics!
Just don't shop at Walmart or Target-those two places are Karen magnets. I don't have that problem as neither of those two stores operate in my home country the way they do in Wackyland.
The Boss may Own the Plane, but OP's Dad is the MASTER of the Plane as Captain/Pilot and is Legally Responsible for what happens in/on/with the Plane when he's making a Flight...
What Karen didn't care to learn was the fact that a lot of the bureaucratic red tape that goes into flying was built on the deaths of many people. The FAA itself was formed as a result of a mid-air collision in the Grand Canyon back in the 1950's.
Back when I was in the Army and deployed I ran an entry control point where my job was to check IDs and enforce other entry and exit rules and there was a certain group of people who consistently tried to violate the rules. Unfortunately many of them were fairly high ranking in the realm of captain, major, Sergeant First class, master sergeant.. all ranks that would possibly be considered middle management but still much higher ranking than me as an E4 in one case it was a guy who was a major who should know better tried to play the race card on me. The response I came up with is when I have used many times since then: If you're using the fact that you're black as an excuse to violate the rules that's on you, I'm enforcing these rules because that's my job and they're the rules
Story 4: The husband is in the wrong. 1000%. He is married to OP, not OP's parent while OP is a minor. He does not get to dictate to OP what she can and can't do.
It's "he said she said". We can't judge OP's husband on that point. He's a dick, though. I still can't find logical reason why he insisted OP should not went to her family's wedding.
Last story. Just from this one post I am thinking OP has been through a lot. This story was just the tip of the iceberg. OP do what's right for your mental well being and your children. Good luck.
Last story, OP needs to go ahead and leave. She needs to check again with the baby sitter and see if she my chance, saved the text her husband was sending!! I'm sure a lawyer would like to see them!!
Story 1) the dad is a self made man, worked hard to get where he is in order to afford all these things. So he will understand and listen to other hardworking people. Story 2) that mom is the actual racist as she brought up the topic first. Story 3) no all disabilities are visible, also disabled kid trumps tired kid Last Story) toxic husband, get away and file for divorce.
Story 1: Never hire a friend to be a nanny and never cultivate a friendship with a nanny. It blurs the lines between friendship relaxation and on the clock paid responsibilities. Hired employee will become lax and neglectful in their duties.
I listen to these all day at work, and I'm so thankful to have the entertainment! I wasn't sure about it at first, but I really like how you add "and this lady says," and "so I told her," as opposed to using the initials usually written into posts. Much easier to understand while I'm running around at work! :]
I have an autistic child. She's nearly a teen now and years of work has been done so she's doing great now, but when she was younger shopping could be a nightmare sometimes. People suck and you definitely get judged sometimes.
@@gorilladisco9108 Pilot got pre-approval from Bossman to bring OP on the flight. If anyone's hitchhiking, it's Steph, the so-called nanny who can't even do the minimum of her job.
Story #1, OP should have been paid for the time spent watching the children. It is definitely work, and it looks like the kids might have either been hurt or broken federal law without OP. Story #3, We need people like the older woman, people who make life a little better for those around them. I hope that she gets all the good karma she deserves. Story #4, the husband is 100% in the wrong. It's toxic and gaslighting. She should leave immediately.
Im a mother of two autistic children they are now teens but i have been thru what this mother did in the story 18:40.i cant stand some people . 21:13 this wife needs a divorce attorney
OP doesn’t even need to believe the babysitter to know that she should dump her husband. He canceled her plane ticket without permission and expected to get away with it? All because he couldn’t be bothered to watch his own kids?
Last story: OP, if you do not leave this toxic man right away, you deserve a smack on the noggin. He's playing his hand, and honestly, his actions are not only pages taken out from textbook DV types, but he is also a creep for inappropriate advances on the sitter AND twisting what happened to his advantage. The longer you stay, the more emboldened he will be to try and control your everything.
The husband cancelling the plane tickets? I'd be ready for divorce by the time the plane landed at the destination. I would have taken some time to be alone and reach out to a few lawyers. Absolutely nobody gets to control me like that.
I have a malfunctioning heart, not able to walk very far at all. Nothing is more disheartening then seeing people using the electric carts for joy riding, racing each other & whooping it up while the person who really needs it stands helplessly watching
13:50 - I wonder who Caroline is/was, that this cart was named after her? The disabled daughter of the inventor? 17:01 - Kudos to this older woman for coming to OP's defense! 20:44 - This guy is a controling assshole and I hope OP finds a way to take the kids and leave him. (NOT easy I realize.)
In the last story, the husband sounded very controlling, borderline narcissistic. If I were OP, I would be very careful around him moving forward. He might have started the process of trying to insulate her from her family and friends, and he thought that she wouldn't push back against his efforts. If you see this kind of behavior in your partner, you should immediately run for the hills and never look back
@mbyerly9680 Yeah, that probably is the case. I was just being a bit conservative with how I said it. I have a feeling that if there were more stories from their marriage, it would definitely confirm it.
Last story: He's a narcissist and a malignant one at that! She needs to have a good think about other incidents in the past - she'll soon see a pattern.
Last OP: Grab your kids, grab your stuff, and run! Do not look back. He is trying to gaslight you into staying. It is only a matter of time until he starts the true abuse. Saying the babysitter is lying, calling you crazy. These are classic signs of bad things to come. He is trying to isolate you from your support system. Once he has you convinced that he's the only one you can rely on, the physical abuse will start. He has already started trying to degrade your self-confidence. Run now and don't look back.
Last story: not only did the husband tried to make op a prisoner in her own home. He also tried to cheat on his own wife with the babysitter. And tried to make the babysitter the bad guy all because, she doesn't want to have an affair with a married man.
As a mother to an autistic child, story 3 hits home so many times over. I HATE IT when people go "they don't look disabled" - yeah... because disabilities are always people in a wheelchair or missing a limb...
While I agree that OP needs to take the kids and RUN, she needs to do it very, Very, VERY carefully in order to prevent her Manipulative, Over-Controlling BASTARD of a Spouse (I refuse to call him a Husband or Significant Other) from calling the Police and having OP Arrested for Parental Kidnapping and Custodial Interference... If the babysitter has Proof of what he did, she needs to go to the Police...that would help both her AND OP... OP needs to talk to a Divorce Lawyer right freaking NOW!!! and have that Lawyer sic a Private Investigator on the Husband to find things that will help OP in the Divorce...
OMG, I hope the woman with the wedding goes to a counselor. That's straight on emotional abuse this man is handing out. She's not wrong for going, she handled the babysitting with someone they knew and trusted, she booked her own flight and his reaction was way over the top. And getting mommy involved shows how immature and petty he is. I hope she thinks about this and gets her own life back. This guy's abusive and a lot of times emotional abuse and gaslighting turns physical. Yes, voice of experience here.
Charter Flight Story: What I'm curious about is OP and the 2 Hellions were in an Airport...while the Hellions were running around, invading Offices and trying to run onto the Taxiway, WHERE THE HELL WAS AIRPORT SECURITY???
story 1: the reason the "nanny" didn't get fired, was because the nanny position was only a cover. her REAL job was to be Karen's drinking buddy and companion and thought she'd score a paid vacation on boss's dime. and boss knew it. he likely has childcare arrangements down in florida already in place which is why he took the kids with him instead of sending them to the hotel
Right? Especially when you consider they didn't originally arrange for her to come with them. They had to add her to the flight last minute, and the Boss doesn't seem the type to leave the wellbeing of his kids as an afterthought.
What about the baby? Please someone think about the baby!
I am going to say it’s safe to say the baby was taken with them as one of the kids.
For the last story, op's husband canceling the flight behind her back and the repeated calls later that day could be a pretty good starting point for an abuse case for a divorce. Remember, abuse isn't always and often isn't physical. Controlling behavior like refusing the get a babysitter so op has to watch the kids at home while he makes money sounds like textbook financial abuse, trying to make op reliant on him.
by the time it gets physical, there's usually at least one other type that's been laying the ground work to help manipulate the victim into staying through the physical.
A person doesn't need a reason to get a divorce. The problem in cases of abuse is that their self esteem is so low that they're convinced that they cannot make it without the user. When there's a big wage discrepancy, it's particularly difficult. Having children and distancing their partner from family and friends is another tactic used by abusers. They should give a class in healthy relationships in middle and high school since many families are toxic, and those behaviors are often repeated in subsequent generations.
Story 4: This was all to isolate OP. He says not to believe that the babysitter did nothing wrong, but he has no evidence to say that she did steal, and considering his behavior afterwards, which included canceling tickets behind OP's back and trying to guilt her afterwards, I'm more inclined to believe the babysitter.
The husband and mom need to go, and OP needs to take the kids and run so far away
Story 4: You can't divorce this guy fast enough Op! There are so many red flags, you might as well be at a circus.
Or at a Communists' gathering-a lot of countries (not all, but some) use a red field for their national flag when they go Communist.
Yeah it turns out he was bat shit insane
Right. OP is the AH for still being married to that jerk.
@@JamesDavy2009 Hoes have to bring politics into EVERYTHING
Story 3 - The elder woman was a godsent to OP. And you’re right we need more people like that.
I agree, and while the mother didn’t have to explain, her explanation left much to be desired in explaining. My grandson has autism you don’t just say I can’t hold onto him. Lots of kids that aren’t on the spectrum are like that. I refuse to engage anyone who’s as ignorant as that woman. I would’ve left before she pulled the give me the cart crap.
Last one, toxic husband. Nope, leave this evil son of a gun. - This behaviour is unacceptable, and these people never change.
He's a jerk but women should listen to thier husbands.
What???!? This guy is a terrible jerk! He thinks of you and the kids as his property and under his control. He will get worse. Leave now while you still can! And to previous commenter... number62...women must think for themselves or be stuck in a bad situation! You sound like a jerk, too!! 😡😡😡
@@Censoredbyfscistsokay grandpa, time to get off of TH-cam and take your nappie.
@number62
No, they don’t.
@@Censoredbyfscists You have much in common.
There's a difference between wild and toxic. Demanding that your wife not go to her sister's wedding because you want her there to take care of the kids, that's wild. Canceling her plane ticket behind her back that's toxic. For all these challenges life throws your way thank God there are divorce attorneys
Oy, yes!
Husband is the a-hole. Cancelling a ticket without OP knowing or agreeing??
She needs the screen shots of his texts to the babysitter. Evidence
i'd say demanding that she not go because it gets her out from under his thumb constitutes as toxic.
Some time ago, a post here or elsewhere described the perfect put-down for an entitled Karen who demanded that a disabled teenage girl should give up her own wheelchair for the Karen to use:
K: You don't look disabled!
G: You don't look stupid, yet here we are.
That last story...divorce him.
If you’re ever in a confrontation with a Karen just say “lady this isn’t Burger King, you can’t have it your way.”
If you work in a Burger King, sorry you’re on your own 🤷♀️
Karen's are super easy to deal with. The correct response is, "No." followed by walking away. If she grabs you, have her cited for assault. Since they have no issue doing that on camera, it works every time.
Burger King staff can just say McDonald’s
I'm also a fan of "ma'am, this is a Wendy's"
@@loganthomas3575 Except McDonalds uses a different catch phrase. "Ma'am, this isn't a McDonalds, your behavior, I ain't loving it."
Nice _Court Cam_ reference.
I'm with everybody else on the last story. OP needs to take the kids and not look back, she married a really toxic man, and also one that sounds like a perv
"Just because he's ____"
Absolutely typical, the kid knew exactly what he was doing, probably rehearsed it.
Oh I honestly believe the babysitter considering what the husband has done with his wife. OP needs to divorce him because it clearly shows financial abuse. she needs to leave him and the babysitter needs to press charges for sexual harassment.
The babysitter? She never said anything.
@@mammasan303did you not listen to the update? The OP contacted the babysitter and told them her side of the story.
completely agree!
If the babysitter kept the sleazy texts from him on her phone, his wife could use those as evidence in a divorce case. And if the babysitter was a teenager, the deadbeat husband could get charges placed on him for soliciting a minor.
The babysitters testimony will defiantly help determining custody! He knows what he tried to do to the babysitter can blow up his whole life and that is why he was getting super angry so he can try to scare her into silence!
Garage sale - I've read stories about the need to lock up EVERYTHING at sales, as attendees will demand to go inside to see what else they might want, rummaging around to their hearts content. Massive, massive rudeness and entitlement.
It's certifiably insane. Like, WTF is actually wrong with people?!
@@lisadgingersnaps9843 Greed is prevalent in the American culture.
James Davy -- you've just told me you're ignorant about the world without saying you're ignorant about the world. In large parts of the world if it's not nailed down or behind bars it gets stolen. In the US we can leave out lawn furniture and decorations without expecting it to disappear overnight. Plus, Americans are privately more charitable than other nations.
@@rcrawford42 I guess you weren't born when "Greed is good" was being thrown around.
Glad I haven't experienced that in our area. We've been fortunate everyone has been very respectful. I even had one older lady that got a beanie baby and it seemed so important to her but she didn't have money. I think she was just walking by, not intentionally garage saling. She said she'd mail me the money and it was so late in the sale I just let her have it. Months later I had forgotten about it, and I got a hand written letter from her with the money in it.
I clutched invisible pearl necklace hearing that Steph the nanny didn't look after the child. Doesn't her job started once they leave the house?
Sounds like me that the wife just wanted someone around and if that person happened to deal with the kids great.
It did start by saying Steph was the wife's friend that got hired. The actual job is not important to her. She is not a professional nanny.
She's the mother's nanny. The kids have to take care of themselves.
@mbyerly9680 If she's the mother's nanny, then she's not doing her job.
Well in the case of the nanny it looks more like his wife has hired her to be a drinking buddy rather than a child care giver. Man I wish someone would hire me as they're drinking buddy, as long as you're paying me, I'll sit by your side and drink with you all day
Final Story - Yeah OP needs to get the kids, hire a Divorce Lawyer and get away from that psychopath ASAP!
After hearing the husband openly admit that he canceled her plane ticket to go to her sister’s wedding and demanded that she stay home and come home immediately makes me scared for OP.
OP if you’re seeing this… RUN!
I hate certain people. I had a loser demand to cut me in a long line at a thrift store because his uncle is waiting for him. I show him my cane and say sorry I'm disabled and I need to get back to my car as soon as this line thins. He had the nerve to say, "You look like you're walking fine to me," when I put the cart back. At that point I told him to pay my medical bills if he thinks so and he says F but the actual word YOU at me. I'm almost in tears by this point because I rarely go out alone, due to this type of behavior. So I just go sit in my car and he comes out and walks over to his family. That's when I go off from the handicap parking space I'm legally parked in. His uncle comes over to me and I tell him he's harassing handicap people inside the store. I could see the look on the guys face when his uncle and I spoke. Someone was in BIG trouble. Leave people alone, we don't want to be sick, it's not something we request or get off on, my life has been hard, shopping leaves me ill.
It’s always good when entitled D words have responsible family members who punish them for their nonsense. My props to that uncle for standing up for you.
Story 3: Disabled people really get the worst of it. A lot of people fail to recognize that disabilities are not exclusively physical.
"You don't look disabled" doesn't mean there is no disability.
Agreed!
I would reply that here I am looking at a complete moron, and yet, till you opened your mouth, you also looked normal.
Absolutely. My disability is invisible, and that doesn't mean it's any less valid than one which is visually obvious.
Yup, people have NO idea how bad it is.
I also have autism, but was refused any sort of medical care growing up because I looked "normal" and am a girl.
It's very scary and traumatizing to become so overwhelmed that you fully lose control over your body. Many people don't remember their meltdowns, but I am forced to watch myself say and do things that cause others pain while I'm internally screaming at myself to stop.
And I will be held accountable as if I did it knowingly and intentionally due to the fact I don't look/act how they think a disabled person should.
Even after I finally figured out why I was this way in my 20s, people think I'm using the label for attention and that I either dont have it or can fully control it.
It's near impossible to recieve any accomodations or care as an adult with an invisible disability because the assumption is that if you can hide it, you aren't disabled.
My brother had a work accident about 12 years ago, as a result he has pins in his foot which means he can walk, but standing causes discomfort which gets worse the longer he puts weight on his foot.
But because he's an otherwise healthy 40 year old who doesn't need crutches or a wheelchair people act like he's just lazy when he would rather sit on the floor than stand at a bus stop if there's no seats or similar.
It sucks that people need to explain their situation for people to take them seriously and not just always assume the worst.
Story 3: Gods bless that woman!! What a wonderful way to help out other people and spread kindness into this world.
Story 4: Yeah that marriage is over and OP should probably be ready for the worst. Her husband is a straight up abuser.
Story 1 - OP should’ve told Karen that he’s not a damn babysitter and he should’ve gotten a bonus for doing the Nanny’s job while she was getting wasted with Karen.
“Boys will be boys”?! That’s the most ridiculous statement I’ve ever heard! They’re stupid brats and Karen should’ve never brought them especially when Op isn’t really a babysitter! The audacity sometimes
Op already has all the evidence and proof she needs all she has to do is realize her husband canceling her flight to go to her sister's wedding that's controlling narcissistic behavior.
We need more stories like Story 3.
All these Entitled People stories can drain your faith in humanity if you’re not careful.
So it’s good to hear of the kind hearted people who stand up for the victims and do what they can to be helpful.
Glad the Entitled woman didn't slap the child or call her the "R" word in front of OP...That would have gone South pretty quickly...
Story 3: OP, I am so glad that you got to meet and interact with Grandma Angel.
Story 1: Those 2 entitled idiots, I'd rather be late to or miss my reservation than dead.
Story 2: Ah, the classics race card.
Story 3: I've seen the Caroline cart. I work at a grocery store. So glad that kind older woman was there and was so nice to help OP out.
Story 4: OP was definitely not in the wrong and should divorce him. The husband sounds like a controlling man. My thoughts are to divorce that man, take full custody of the kids, and make him pay child support.
I work at a disability center. The number of times I've had people able bodied or otherwise say they don't look disabled , would Kill a Rhinoceros , it's so offensive.
In situations like the autism story, do not try to explain things to aggressive people.
Instead of answering the question about whether or not her daughter can walk, it is more effective to just repeat that you will not be giving it up. Don't explain, don't try to convince, just firmly say no repeatedly.
Yup. No is a complete sentence. Don't engage any further.
Karen's son is VERY lucky that he did not wander into a house where someone would use the right of self defence.
Against prepubescent? No judge/jury will side with you on that.
@@gorilladisco9108 Teens are tried as adults all the time.
I keep thinking if the scene from the Sheldon spin off.
Guy with Shotgun: You in the wrong appartment.
Older brother: Not a burgler! A dumbass! Im trying to help my girlfreind move her stuff out of her apartment thats locked up.
@@michaelcaldwell2090 and adults get so much worse in prison when they hurt a kid. The aunt did the right thing and brought the boy outside
He was a little boy!
With that last story, the husband is totally gaslighting the wife. She should leave sooner than later.
Last story: he sounds like a narcissist. You need to secretly read books on narcissists and get your decks all in a row before you leave him. Once you leave him, make sure to have a therapist to keep your head straight because your soon-to-be ex will try to play with your head, so much that you'll think you're going crazy. He'll maje you doubt reality, and will make your life pure he'll. Get ready for the fight of your life, but it is SO worth if once you are on the other side!!!!!
FYI, the phrase is to get all one's 'ducks' in a row. If that was just a typo never mind, lol.
@fancyquebecoise4550 yes, this does seem to most probably be the case. I’d go so far as to say abusive narcissist. These people can be extremely dangerous, especially when a partner is splitting with them.
So to your excellent comment I’d add that when she leaves she should make sure that her husband does not know where she is going, and that she does not share online accounts or banking with him. Communicate only via a trusted intermediary or if absolutely necessary, by a cell phone. It’s a pain but if he annoys her by cell phone, she should change numbers and not tell him the new one. Be certain that her phone is not sharing her location with him. Be sure that she is not being followed. (If so, drive to a police station.) Make sure the kids at first have no contact with him-including cell phones. It will probably be easy for him to convince or trick one of them to share information (location, address, her/their phone number, etc.) with him. If and when he tries to get to her through the kids, she needs to get a lawyer and explain all of her concerns, especially safety concerns for herself and her children.
For that matter, she should also thank the babysitter profusely and advise her to block him if he tries contact and to change her number if he goes around the block (with another number, say).
She should not take the threat her husband poses lightly. She should contact local support organizations and find information about leaving controlling spouses.
This may be a slight overreaction to the current situation but these kinds of situations can rapidly escalate. Better safe than sorry.
THESE PEOPLE SOUND LIKE THEY KNOW WHAT THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT! GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS! ❤
Last story: Honey get the heck out NOW! That's domestic violence. He doesn't have to hit you to abuse you. Believe me I lived through it myself and if you stay and allow it it will only get worse! The threats, the manipulation, the lies, the name calling etc. He's the horrible person not you. You've done nothing wrong. PLEASE Save yourself while you have the chance!
Babysitter story: The way the husband is acting is downright SCARY. OP needs to get as far away from him as she can as fast as possible and get a restraining order pronto!! Then she and the babysitter both need to press charges!
Story 1.... i am willing to bet that this wasn't the first time Wife and Steph got drunk while with the kids.
Op needs to get the screen shots of the texts her husband sent the babysitter. That's all the evidence she needs.
that last one with the Husband trying to stop OP from attending her sister's wedding.....OP should divorce him....he is the AH.....how dare you try to forbid/prevent someone from attending their relatives wedding....especially a sibling's wedding....that is grounds for a divorce and take his behind for all he's worth too
The last story, I speak from personal experience so ill give the advice of leaving. He seems manipulative mentally and emotionally. The abuse is subtle which makes it harder to see and there's never a way to prove things so that in your mind it's 100% proof you want. To the put side view point, he's abusing you and no one deserves to be abused in amy way by any one. If you wont do it for you then do it for your kids. You all deserve to be happy. I hope somehow this message gets to you.
My suggestion to her is get evidence of his manipulation and entitlement, if he's willing to go to great lengths to forbid his own wife from doing what she wants, then there is something really wrong with him.
Last OP needs to lawyer up and run.
Story 1: Considering how strict airlines are with their flights the two two drunk got off lucky that they aren't getting banned because I heard my share of stories on how Karen's get arrested and are put on a 'No Fly List' for their behavior's. The one story I still remember is how a Karen expect the pilot's to take care of his spoil child and got a felony for attempted hijacking.
Private flights are somewhat different.
@@SeanBZA they still fall under FAA Rules and Regulations
Banned? By her own husband? That would be epic. 😅
@@JohnH20111 Outside of the U.S., there's also ICAO.
Story 2 - Imagine if that EM did go through with the threat of getting a Lawyer only to have it blow up in her face and she gets charged for trespassing and false discrimination.
Smolletter be smolletting. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Story 4: You're only in the wrong if you DON'T file for divorce!
Last story, Divorce Lawyer is a Great person to talk with, explain everything to him, and show proof of him canceling the ticket, and have the babysitter there in case this goes to court as a witness and give statements, with that she will have a lot of people looking at the husband as someone using his status of the breadwinner to control everything about his wife life and ruin others people lives like the babysitter.
I'm a bit of an aviation fan. I decided to look up the Merlin - it is indeed a very small twin engine aircraft. OP did not understand the severity of the changes made by the Karen and why overloading the tail was bad. It's not a tail strike on takeoff that could happen, it could be a complete loss of control authority and fatal crash. Between the change in passengers, the drunkenness, etc OP's Dad should refuse to have those two on another flight.
OP's dad professional responsibility was to tell his boss and the replacement pilot about it. He couldn't do anything beyond that, professionally.
There's a reason why pilots need to calculate the centre of gravity and airplane cargo loaders need to have clear communication with the pilots. There have been a few accidents showcased on _Mayday_ about overweight tails.
Story 3: This annoys me so much. People telling others that they dont look disabled is so rude. My son has high functioning autism, ADHD, and Cerebral Palsy. If he is sitting down being quiet, he looks normal too. He can walk, but he walks with an obvious limp. If someone were to tell me that my son doesn't disabled and wanted me to give my cart to them for their tired child, I would tell them, "Well, being tired isn't a disability."
Yeah like well, you're just waiting with your extremely tired kid for a cookie. Just skip that and take her home. Who's the one who can't parent.
To the wonderful woman with the autistic daughter, I recommend you get a Hidden Disability lanyard (it has sunflowers - you can also get a specific card that outlines her disability and needs (I have one for a chronic pain+ condition). ) It’s not bulletproof, but it certainly helps in these situations. (Many places staff are trained to recognise it).
she wasn't really a nanny, just mommy's friend getting paid to hang out with her
I feel like people who immediately jump to claiming discrimination when they're in the wrong have never actually dealt with it for real before. I had a friend in college who was a cis white dude but gay. He would always say he was gonna "pull the gay card" just to get his way. Like if he didn't want to go to work he just wouldn't show up, without telling anyone. And he said that if they tried to fire him he'd claim discrimination for being gay. Our friend group was mostly queer and we all yelled at him to stop his nonsense because many of us and other queer people all over the world have to deal with it for real, sometimes even losing their lives over it. He was just an entitled brat with a really easy life. It's the same thing like "Oh you're not gonna force your kid to give me their tablet? I bet it's because I'm (insert thing) isn't it?!" Um, no, it's because the tablet belongs to my kid, not you. WTF?
Even today, homosexual people can get killed in some countries for being as such.
Story 4: OP needs to bailout, see if she can get the court to handle child support payments after getting both her and the children’s names changed. Her husband may be dangerous to probably is very dangerous. Bail rtf now!!!
Story 3: OP certainly had a guardian angel looking out for her.
Oh my god OP with a controlling husband, he such a narcissist and terrifying. He was totally gaslighting her when he said that the babysitter was lying . She needs to get away from that man as soon as she can.
1) Wow, that is one awful woman and a worthless nanny who should have been fired.
2) Oh good grief, some people must have an IQ that matches their shoe size and at attitude that outdoes most.
3) So sorry OP had to deal with this, but glad she had someone nice come to her aid.
4) OP, needs to contact a good attorney and file for divorce, then also reach out to a women's advocacy group and see about getting counseling to understand why she thinks manipulation, financial and emotional abuse, over controlling and isolation is acceptable and she feels guilty when she is NTA at all.
After update: I'm glad OP contacted the babysitter and I hope she realizes she should believe the sitter and nothing her husband says. I'm glad OP will be taking the kids and leaving. What she needs to think is that she needs to stay away, contact a divorce attorney and let them do the talking to her husband.
OP has plenty of proof of her husband trying to prevent her from attending a MAJOR event for her family. Trying to keep her under his thumb with his mother backing him, up? That is a scary situation, and I was glad to hear that she was taking the kids and getting out of there.
Gee, I wonder where the husband got his narcissism? 🙃
Story 4: OP is NTA. Honestly I would have re-booked the ticket (at the highly increased day-of rate) put my ringers for him & his mom on silent and enjoyed the shit out of myself.
Update: OP really REALLY needs to contact a divorce lawyer and start the procedures...hopefully the babysitter would testify in OP's behalf for what was done to her by the husband.
If the babysitter is underage...there can be charges filed against him for that too...if she is willing. Her text messages would be a bonus either way.
I really hope OP is never going back to that asshole.
I often wonder if the Karens in these stories read them and recognize themselves…
That would require some level of self-awareness... which would mean they wouldn't be Karen's in the first place 😂 so I'm guessing no 😂
That would require the stories to be real
A lot of them are. At least the ones on the threads. The ones crazy enough to be read out by TH-camrs it's probably half an half. @@f687sNFM
Makes me wonder if they do, what do they think about the comments.
@@f687sNFM And which ones are fake? Don't forget to cite your sources!
On the story about the Sister's wedding and the babysitter, I would ask the babysitter if she still had those texts and have her send them to you and print them out.
Story 3: UGHHH!!! I absolutely HATE people like this Karen 😡 “ Well, you don’t LOOK disabled! What’s wrong with you? “ Geez, Karen, maaybeee not ALL disabilities are visible! Also, MIND YOUR OWN DARN BUSINESS!!! If somebody like this were to tell me, “ Well, you don’t look disabled! “ I’d probably say back, “ Well you don’t look stupid, but you don’t hear me bugging YOU about it! “
I probably wouldn’t really say it, per se… but it’s something to keep in mind.
Edit: Excuse me?! 😡 I have autism too, Karen! It’s a very REAL thing! Ugh, I really hate people like that Karen
Exactly. Look closely at them and say "That's odd... You don't LOOK stupid?"
If my late husband had EVER done anything so controlling as cancel my flight ticket,( or anything else) behind my back. Especially going to my sister’s wedding, he’d have preferred to die a lot younger than he did! And there WOULD have been a divorce.
We got one of those carts for disabled kids and adults at our store. The managers told us to say something to the customer if they were using it and their kid wasn't disabled. Well I once saw a kid in the seat that didnt look or act disabled at all at first. I just observed instead of jumping to conclusions. By the way the kid spoke, which only a little was barely understandable, i could tell there was a disability. Just because its not obvious, doesn't mean that someone doesn't have a disability.
Story 4: OP, you are NTA, but your husband is a controlling, verbal abusing AH.
Get out of there, with your children, before his behaviour escalates to physical abuse.
Story 3: as someone who is autistic, the little girl would have enjoyed shopping so much more with ear protection of some kind. There are many different forms if she doesn't like the big ones & could even use the ones that go through your bones with music. It makes no sense to distract over providing prophylactic/protection. Definitely a good goal/DIY if there are other reasons she can't/won't use ear protection. Its one of the most common autistic gear & a top location to use them is grocery stores, for me especially Wal-Mart with its high ceiling acoustics!
Just don't shop at Walmart or Target-those two places are Karen magnets. I don't have that problem as neither of those two stores operate in my home country the way they do in Wackyland.
Story 4 -- Get away from that so-called "man" immediately!
Last story… he is definitely trying to manipulate her. She really needs to get out of that relationship ASAP!!
The Boss may Own the Plane, but OP's Dad is the MASTER of the Plane as Captain/Pilot and is Legally Responsible for what happens in/on/with the Plane when he's making a Flight...
What Karen didn't care to learn was the fact that a lot of the bureaucratic red tape that goes into flying was built on the deaths of many people. The FAA itself was formed as a result of a mid-air collision in the Grand Canyon back in the 1950's.
last story No she should not feel guilty. Her husband needs to rethink his attitude and apologise. The up date screams potential divorce.
Wedding story. NTA. OP should only feel guilty about staying with her husband.
Story 3: thank you random kind person. That's heartwarming. The world does indeed need more people like you
Back when I was in the Army and deployed I ran an entry control point where my job was to check IDs and enforce other entry and exit rules and there was a certain group of people who consistently tried to violate the rules. Unfortunately many of them were fairly high ranking in the realm of captain, major, Sergeant First class, master sergeant.. all ranks that would possibly be considered middle management but still much higher ranking than me as an E4 in one case it was a guy who was a major who should know better tried to play the race card on me. The response I came up with is when I have used many times since then:
If you're using the fact that you're black as an excuse to violate the rules that's on you, I'm enforcing these rules because that's my job and they're the rules
Story 4: The husband is in the wrong. 1000%. He is married to OP, not OP's parent while OP is a minor. He does not get to dictate to OP what she can and can't do.
Are you going to ignore how the husband referred to the babysitter as a kid so in his mind he was making movies on a kid?
It's "he said she said". We can't judge OP's husband on that point.
He's a dick, though. I still can't find logical reason why he insisted OP should not went to her family's wedding.
@@gorilladisco9108 we can say that his other behavior lends credibility to the babysitter though.
Story #2 I'm so sick and tired of hearing people yelling "Is because we're black??!! " COME ON REALLY?!!!
Last story. Just from this one post I am thinking OP has been through a lot. This story was just the tip of the iceberg. OP do what's right for your mental well being and your children. Good luck.
Last story, OP needs to go ahead and leave. She needs to check again with the baby sitter and see if she my chance, saved the text her husband was sending!! I'm sure a lawyer would like to see them!!
Story 1) the dad is a self made man, worked hard to get where he is in order to afford all these things. So he will understand and listen to other hardworking people.
Story 2) that mom is the actual racist as she brought up the topic first.
Story 3) no all disabilities are visible, also disabled kid trumps tired kid
Last Story) toxic husband, get away and file for divorce.
Story 1: Never hire a friend to be a nanny and never cultivate a friendship with a nanny. It blurs the lines between friendship relaxation and on the clock paid responsibilities. Hired employee will become lax and neglectful in their duties.
you can have a friendship but still have clear boundaries regarding the job.
I listen to these all day at work, and I'm so thankful to have the entertainment! I wasn't sure about it at first, but I really like how you add "and this lady says," and "so I told her," as opposed to using the initials usually written into posts. Much easier to understand while I'm running around at work! :]
"That sounds like bad parenting to me" coming from a bad parent will always be funny
I have an autistic child. She's nearly a teen now and years of work has been done so she's doing great now, but when she was younger shopping could be a nightmare sometimes. People suck and you definitely get judged sometimes.
Agreed. Get the kids, get an attorney, and run.
that last story SCREAMS divorce
The drunk nanny didn’t just leave the kids with a 15yr old… she left them with an unqualified and unpaid 15yr old.
OP was hitchhiking, so he's the lowest in totem pole for that flight. 😅
@@gorilladisco9108 Pilot got pre-approval from Bossman to bring OP on the flight. If anyone's hitchhiking, it's Steph, the so-called nanny who can't even do the minimum of her job.
Last story belongs in r/insane people, that husband is way beyond entitled.
Those type of people belong in a psych hospital. Oh, right, they already are: the U.S.
That last story… oh my god. I hope she’s out and safe, she and her kids. I hope she stays out. That man is terrible and abusive.
Story #1, OP should have been paid for the time spent watching the children. It is definitely work, and it looks like the kids might have either been hurt or broken federal law without OP.
Story #3, We need people like the older woman, people who make life a little better for those around them. I hope that she gets all the good karma she deserves.
Story #4, the husband is 100% in the wrong. It's toxic and gaslighting. She should leave immediately.
Re: Story #3: "So shines a good deed in a weary world." -Willy Wonka
Im a mother of two autistic children they are now teens but i have been thru what this mother did in the story 18:40.i cant stand some people . 21:13 this wife needs a divorce attorney
OP doesn’t even need to believe the babysitter to know that she should dump her husband. He canceled her plane ticket without permission and expected to get away with it? All because he couldn’t be bothered to watch his own kids?
Last story: OP, if you do not leave this toxic man right away, you deserve a smack on the noggin. He's playing his hand, and honestly, his actions are not only pages taken out from textbook DV types, but he is also a creep for inappropriate advances on the sitter AND twisting what happened to his advantage. The longer you stay, the more emboldened he will be to try and control your everything.
_And then the entire supermarket clapped_
The husband cancelling the plane tickets? I'd be ready for divorce by the time the plane landed at the destination. I would have taken some time to be alone and reach out to a few lawyers. Absolutely nobody gets to control me like that.
I have a malfunctioning heart, not able to walk very far at all. Nothing is more disheartening then seeing people using the electric carts for joy riding, racing each other & whooping it up while the person who really needs it stands helplessly watching
13:50 - I wonder who Caroline is/was, that this cart was named after her? The disabled daughter of the inventor?
17:01 - Kudos to this older woman for coming to OP's defense!
20:44 - This guy is a controling assshole and I hope OP finds a way to take the kids and leave him. (NOT easy I realize.)
In the last story, the husband sounded very controlling, borderline narcissistic. If I were OP, I would be very careful around him moving forward. He might have started the process of trying to insulate her from her family and friends, and he thought that she wouldn't push back against his efforts. If you see this kind of behavior in your partner, you should immediately run for the hills and never look back
Borderline? I'd say full on from the story.
@mbyerly9680 Yeah, that probably is the case. I was just being a bit conservative with how I said it. I have a feeling that if there were more stories from their marriage, it would definitely confirm it.
Last story: He's a narcissist and a malignant one at that! She needs to have a good think about other incidents in the past - she'll soon see a pattern.
Last OP: Grab your kids, grab your stuff, and run! Do not look back. He is trying to gaslight you into staying. It is only a matter of time until he starts the true abuse. Saying the babysitter is lying, calling you crazy. These are classic signs of bad things to come. He is trying to isolate you from your support system. Once he has you convinced that he's the only one you can rely on, the physical abuse will start. He has already started trying to degrade your self-confidence. Run now and don't look back.
Fourth Story: OP should divorce her husband as what he has done is a clear sign of an abusive relationship.
Last story: not only did the husband tried to make op a prisoner in her own home. He also tried to cheat on his own wife with the babysitter. And tried to make the babysitter the bad guy all because, she doesn't want to have an affair with a married man.
As a mother to an autistic child, story 3 hits home so many times over. I HATE IT when people go "they don't look disabled" - yeah... because disabilities are always people in a wheelchair or missing a limb...
While I agree that OP needs to take the kids and RUN, she needs to do it very, Very, VERY carefully in order to prevent her Manipulative, Over-Controlling BASTARD of a Spouse (I refuse to call him a Husband or Significant Other) from calling the Police and having OP Arrested for Parental Kidnapping and Custodial Interference...
If the babysitter has Proof of what he did, she needs to go to the Police...that would help both her AND OP...
OP needs to talk to a Divorce Lawyer right freaking NOW!!! and have that Lawyer sic a Private Investigator on the Husband to find things that will help OP in the Divorce...
OMG, I hope the woman with the wedding goes to a counselor. That's straight on emotional abuse this man is handing out. She's not wrong for going, she handled the babysitting with someone they knew and trusted, she booked her own flight and his reaction was way over the top. And getting mommy involved shows how immature and petty he is. I hope she thinks about this and gets her own life back. This guy's abusive and a lot of times emotional abuse and gaslighting turns physical. Yes, voice of experience here.
Charter Flight Story: What I'm curious about is OP and the 2 Hellions were in an Airport...while the Hellions were running around, invading Offices and trying to run onto the Taxiway, WHERE THE HELL WAS AIRPORT SECURITY???
That's what I was wondering.
Love the Caroline cart. So helpful for my special needs granddaughter.