No.. this simple. A western women don't make good wives. Japanese men are about family and bringing a wholesome woman around the family is really important to them.
@@amarii9916 you definitely want to take the right steps for that. It’s very different there, good for the most part. And Japanese is tough. I am learning it now, the alphabet is the hardest 😂
I'm more like she's brave for showcasing the girls. I'm all for that but Japan is a culture that is more conservative. However the equivalent to showing the girls would be showing more of her legs. Maybe that's part of the reason why she's not being taken seriously...? But I know it's mainly the disconnect between cultures and how men are intimidated of us.
"When he came to America, he really wanted to meet my family, but they don't speak Japanese..." 😭😭😭 learning to speak your girlfriend's language to talk to her mom?? So wholesome I'm dying
This was really interesting! But I think you'll probably get more clear answers around why Japanese guys don't seem to date foreign women by asking Japanese guys, not the women. All my foreign female friends in Japan always said they were interested in dating Japanese guys, but all of them consistently said that the dates never went anywhere.
There are two kinds of guys in my experience here in Japan. The kind that only wants sex and isn’t interested at all (or dates you only out of curiosity) and the kind that is too shy to even bring up the fact that they like you. It’s so frustrating 😭
there are two type of energy masculine and feminine masculine men are more straight forward because they do it more often chances are that if he i asking you he is asking other chicks too if you want him all for yourself ask the guys out it is what it i s
@@jyaten3191 Unfortunately here in Japan that doesn’t work as well. Men are often intimidated by women who are direct with their feelings and make the first move. Several of my friends have experienced this. It’s just a side effect of the culture here.
@@zergilli9719 Please see my above comment. Many Japanese guys do not like this approach. It works overseas, but it does not always work in Japan in my experience. Everyone is different so of course it’s possible with some guys here. But I am referring specifically to my dating experience in Japan where the majority have not been receptive to an active approach. I’m not asking for dating advice guys, I was sharing my experience so far because it lines up with the experience of the girls in the video.
@@MsAllykat23 fair enough. I lived in Japan, outside of Tokyo in Saitama for 1 year in 2009. And yes, the culture is vastely different. I can see what you're saying.
Even without the better camera , there is no comparison. Cleanliness of Japanese streets cannot be compared even with most developed 1st world countries which look shabby.
I lived in Japan. The streets maybe clean but there are a ton of Shabby buildings around. Mine you this is probably a nice area within the Yamanote-line.
My son has been interested in Japanese culture since he was a child. (he’s 24 now) I wanted to gift him a trip to Japan but he doesn’t want to go, he worries that he might offend people without knowing it. We’re Native American Indigenous and in our culture our elders are very important to us. We are quiet and sometimes considered shy. I would really like for him to experience your country but I don’t know what kind of experience it would be for him.
Definitely go. I went with my daughter and cousin and we are from Canada and also Indigenous. Never had any issues and I’m sure there is an understanding that coming from foreign place it’s to be expected. As long as you’re respectful of others using common sense like not littering and not being overly loud etc it’s fine. But I can honestly say that people there are quite private but are also very kind and curious about you too. What I found interesting was the similarities I saw in our cultures. They pray and light up incense which reminds me of smudging and you can tie up prayers you write down on in a tree and it’s open to everyone. Your son will definitely enjoy the experience and beauty of it all. We left Japan with a great lasting impression. ❤
Japan is a safe, developed country. Travelling is important for personal development and he can see his elders when he gets back. He should definitely go. People who do not travel miss out on life and it creates problems long term culturally at a collective level, see here:
I think the fact that he is so conscious of offending someone, he is all the more unlikely to offend someone. I've been to Japan multiple times and unless you are super obnoxious, it's really difficult to offend anyone there. The closest I came to anger was trying to open a taxi door manually (they are automatic), the driver looked pretty annoyed. But if your son goes there and acts like a normal person he will get along just fine. Just like anywhere, 98% of the population isn't going to pay any attention to you most of the time.
@@moominsean my son is Native American Indigenous, and knows there is a way to be around the elders, and it can be easy to offend people if you don't know their ways.
Does someone want to give him the bad news? (the bad news is that Asian men are one of the LOWEST %'s of men to be right swiped in the "west." (aka, foreign women))
The Indian girl is very articulate and I think what she said was quite accurate. Japanese me are a bit shy to begin with but then when they do date foreign women they do not take them seriously. But I will also add that the same applies foreign men who date Japanese girls. They are mostly there for hookups and do not take them that seriously.
Hmmm, it depends, but not as much though. I've seen many more foreign men in long term relationships with Japanese women than foreign women with Japanese men, including long distance relationships. It just seems like foreign men are more willing to either compromise or adjust to their Japanese partner's culture and personality. It's one of the main reasons why I think Japanese men don't really pursue foreign women, because they probably think she wouldn't adjust to Japanese culture. Another reason, I've seen in other videos of Japanese men being interviewed about this topic, is that the one's who had foreign girlfriends kept insisting on westernizing the Japanese guy's personality. For example, she wouldn't want to learn Japanese but expected her Japanese partner to use English all the time. Another, was that they didn't like their Japanese boyfriends hiding their emotions or not being straightforward.
I can tell you this for sure....japanese men sometimes get intimidated when they see caucasian/white dudes dating or married to japanese women (they often think they are NOT good enough).....so they simply shy away.....maybe eventually becoming hikkimori..... your last statement about hookups....my thoughts would be "why then pursue mixed relationships or even marriage (they want to become american citizens by marriage and/or have biracial kids who tend to have natural mixed looks.
bullshit. japanese women are more traditional so we dont treat them like that. of course there will always be hookups and all of that but japanese women tend to be more traditional unlike western women bring their woke sl4t culture to japan and then they wonder why they cant get a relionship.
@@brianc21324 exactly she is coping. western women bring their western woke values to japan and no man on planet earth likes a feminazi. this is why men are going overseas to date and marry a woman because western women have become crassy
The last interview gave really good insight into the question and it was very heartwarming to see Takashii and the interviewee connect through speaking Japanese 😄
I agree, Takashii, it demonstrates how important it is for foreigners to try to learn to speak Japanese. I watched a lot of foreign language films in A LOT OF DIFFERENT LANGUAGES (using subtitles to understand) but what I found was each language has it's own "feeling" and "sounds" and those are as much a part of the communication between people as the actual meaning of words conveyed ! The saying that "80% of language is body-language" sort of illustrates some of this importance ie not just what is said but how it is said?
Yeah, her Japanese was amazing. I'd love to see more interviews with foreigners who speak fluent Japanese and learn what methods they used to learn Japanese.
you find the most funny , interesting people for interviews ... is so so simple but the feeling obtained and the informations are so authentic , natural , unique
I would say there is another huge issue behind this and it´s the ethnicity of the foreigner person. I have been in Japan already for 7 months and I realized that blonde and white-skin girls get way more attention than dark haired and dark-skin girls. There is some sort of idolization for this "kind" of foreigner. So that also adds up to the equation when we contemplate dating. Sometimes even if you receive some sort of attention from men, they do not go further into something serious and it can be very difficult sometimes to find an honest man when they tend to think you are "easy" just because you do not share the "Japanese social standards".
I hear that often in comment sections that if your not white with blonde hair 1. You will find a hard time getting dates and 2. People will think you're promiscuous. I've seen this on both genders and it's sad to see. I've seen a lot of couples that met in Japan and were both foreign to it because they couldn't find dates with Japanese people so they met other foreigners.
Now you know how Mexicans and Asian guys feel in the US. In the US if you aren’t White or Black you will get the boot, woman will make back handed comments about Hispanics and Asian men as well. It was crazy seeing the opposite in Japan when I lived there
Asian American man here who dated a lot of woman of all races and nationality. Japanese guys seems to be more attracted to *blonde white girls* more due to the sexual value that they view white girls as being more saucier. That's how I saw it when I was a U.S. military guy based in Japan.
@@TeppiaxD However, looking at the percentage of international marriages in Japan by country, Chinese, Koreans, and Filipina make up the largest percentage, with Westerners making up only a few percent. So in reality, there are far more Asian-Japanese couples than Caucasian-Japanese couples.
@@user-qm7jw I didn't say they weren't ? When i said foreign what I meant was Foreign westerners are meeting and getting together with other foreign westerners while in Japan instead of meeting or dating locals.
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I am a foreigner in Japan married with a Japanese guy. We have dated for around 1 year and half and then we got married. I came here for work as researcher and then met my husband. But he is someone that already lived abroad and he speaks Spanish and English besides Japanese. I think Japanese guys that spent some time abroad have more open mind. Also, I never tried to fit in Japanese culture, I was just myself and he accepted me. His family also accepted me and this is amazing. If someone lives in Japan and wants to know more about us on 22/01 we will be on the Japanese show “shinkosan irasshai” on ABC TV😊
I am married to a japanese man and I have to say it can be difficult sometimes 😁🤣 but I can be also difficult for him I guess - nevertheless we are together since over 10 years now and have a baby🎉😁
Well it can be difficult for all married couples but try to have good life-work balance personally, have high quality family time and finally keep telling the other, how much you value their values that make them them and how special that is to you. Then tell them how you try to live up to their values and are trying all the time to improve... Then, the both of you: If you are raising a child how you share values to help your child grow to be a good person and happy in the world. For practical matters: Try to be a part of wider extended family and share the work of raising children more!! It helps everyone so long as you ensure your child can be respectful to others.
As a foreign woman living in Tokyo I've had experienced dating both Japanese and foreign guys. My current boyfriend is a Japanese, and personally one thing that Japanese guys do differently is that they really are caring about their partner's well being and VERY attentive too. Just a tiny sneeze, and he will fussing over you non stop lol.
It's funny, in the West we often stereotype Japanese people as being indirect communicators who make you read between the lines to figure out what they mean, but when it comes to dating unlike here in the West, the transition to being a couple is something that has to be explicitly communicated - you don't just drift into being in a relationship with someone as often happens here in Western countries. Goes to show the limitations of stereotypes like that.
I'm not sure that disproves it because it also means if that person doesn't communicate (as the first girl suggested) then the relationship remains undefined for a long time. In that case, the foreigner may believe it's more than it is while the Japanese person hasn't communicated anything so they believe it's still just casual.
I will say one thing I noticed as a foreign guy living in Japan who works in education and used to go to things like language exchange events, I find in general there are way more girls interested in English and foreign cultures than men. From my experience, the students who are most interested and most active participants in my elementary English classes are girls, I also judged a high school English speech contest that had nearly 40 girl students and less than 5 guys who were participants, and found both language exchange events and language exchange apps had predominantly Japanese women users.
@Jonah Whale You forget that domestic violence in Asia is infamously underreported and under-prosecuted. If you’re seriously taking their crime statistics at face value, you’re a sucker.
Stay safe from next time Tulip 🌷 i have been following ya on insta from like 6 months....we all want the best for you...Hope you "Rise" in love next time....not Fall 💙 tc
Takasii's last interview was very impressive. All the interviews were great, I was personally impressed with her studying Japanese and Kanji. Very nice!
The first girl was very articulate gave a very good insight of her experience dating from a girl's perspective. Also she was gorgeous actually all the ladies are gorgeous
Honestly dating with Japanese men as a foreign girl might be difficult and often very slow, in my experience which i personally like because i have huge trust issues and I need months for even a normal friendship which is why I struggle dating with people in my own country but I’m very comfirtable with the slow process with Japanese men. But it’s hard to know how they really feel about you since they often aren’t very expresive when it comes to emotions. But all of it is something That’s for me very comfortable. But these are just my experience and not every Japanese is the same. Basically some are willing to be open to foreign relationship which as an international couple will need a lot of mutual learning and understanding and some just won’t bother. It’s still an experience and even though I’m with my Japanese man for 2 years it’s still a lot of learning.
@Barthoven valid response. たしかに。 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16. Have good rest of year Barthoven
One secret you need to learn about the asian language and it might be surprising it is more based on the feeling behind the words. In western culture words are more about ideas and thought processes.
What I've learnt from all these videos is that a key element to a person success in Japan, in any area of their life is actually learning the japanese language, you'll do much much better!
I lived in Japan in the 90s for several years and even dated a Japanese man. He wanted to get married eventually though and his family were very working class traditional and he was the oldest (and only) son so that meant I would have to look after his parents eventually (maybe even have them live with us). Although I loved his parents, it wasn't really the life I saw for myself. I dated another lovely man for a while but I eventually broke up with him when I came back to my country and he didn't speak English so I didn't feel that he knew me well enough to come with me. All the foreign men in Japan were only interested in partying/casual relationships or relationships with Japanese women (because let's just say they tolerate a lot more than foreign women do).
I loved this video. Nice and sincere girls. The topic was very interesting and the interviews reach an ever-increasing quality. This theme particularly struck me and my impression is that there are more Japanese women with foreign men instead of the other way around because perhaps some Japanese men are very shy or sometimes too rational and maybe sometimes they should rely more on the feelings and emotions they feel more than rationality. However I think that the union between two different cultures brings enrichment and inner growth and conflicts can be overcome with love, clarity and honesty. I look forward to the next video. A warm greeting from Italy. 🤗
The harsh reality is that a lot of Japanese men don't want to date foreign women because Japanese women are considered more beautiful, they already speak their language and they're less likely to have strong opinions or wanting to break free if the stereotypical Japanese housewife thing. That being said, a lot of Japanese women actually like to embrace their femininity and a lot just want to be housewives. Moreover, the Japanese men who do want to be with foreign women often times are just after the novelty of it, not necessarily because they love them. They just want to show off their blonde haired, tall foreign girlfriend.
Actually, you're wrong. According to 2016 statistics, 70% of all international marriages that year were couples between a Japanese man and a foreign woman.
You know what? It's truly unfortunate that many people can't find someone to grow old with whether they live in their own country or another, because we often can't understand why we're not good enough for someone we like. It gets very lonely out there and it's definitely unfair to many women and men from foreign countries who want to date someone outside their own. In this case, I personally believe that having an ideal type is a waste of time, because the ideal type is extremely rare and no one is perfect. If I ever moved to Japan, the idea of not being able to get a boyfriend wouldn't have been a surprise. Quite frankly, I don't really fit the ideal type of many guys who I would find attractive. I probably would've had rotten luck, hence why I wasn't so sure if I wanted to learn to speak Japanese. No one should have to feel like they aren't worthy of love anywhere in the world. I believe there is someone for everyone out there, even if you can't find that special someone right now. I hope many foreign women who live in Japan can find their special person eventually. And it obviously doesn't have to be in just Tokyo. Just know that you are loved and important to those who care for you, and it may not be the person you tried to date.
It's interesting, I've chosen to stay single for a few years now for that very reason. There is no perfect mate out there but you also see a lot of failed relationships and marriages. I personally don't think where I'm from I will find anyone interesting so I just don't waste the time. I think because we're all so connected now on a global scale that often ppl feel that they belong or feel like they belong to places that may be half way across the world. That's why I think traveling is really important for anyone's development and also you never know what you might discover
The reality is there isn't someone for everyone. We do more harm than good with fairy tale romance stories. Attraction is based on sexual selection. Love is based on attraction first, it's rare to find personality attractive first, especially for guys. Marriege is based on economics, love is a very new concept. People who have disability either mental of physical are fated to be alone, so are people who are deemed ugly. We pretend we are superior but human are stupid animals nothing more. And life is trully bullshit.
part of it is because as a society (especially towards women) we're told that we're perfect just the way we are and that we don't need to improve. That's why you meet so many lazy, fat, boring and entitled people. Really our culture just infantilizes us and keeps us in the mind frame of teenagers
well I mean, if women stopped falling for the whole material competition thing, more relationships would flourish. It's not like it's the GUYS that are holding back the sex gates. As it stands , many girls are being taught that men are evil rapists and are not worth your time if they can't cover all your expenses and then some. They're also being taught that being a woman ... is bad ???? You have to be a male woman ! So they're trying to do male jobs, while male psychos are dressing up as women and taking THEIR jobs. My god, you can't help but facepalm at this generation, they are a total fuckin mess.
Living for a year in Japan with my girlfriend, we wondered the same thing. The explanation we came up with was that many single foreigners are men. Working holiday visa or tech jobs for 30 years old engineers seem to be mostly done by men, and so there is simply just way more men than women living abroad. When we came back to Paris, we also thought that we saw way more Japanese men going out with french women than Japanese girl with french men. So if our theory is right, it's just that binational couples usually start in the girl's country. As for now, I do have in my close friends two couples with a french man and a Japanese woman living in France (Paris and Nantes), but they all met in Tokyo, in Shimokitazawa 😉
Nah, there is plenty of teachers who are women. It s same in China reasons, are more superficial actually: 1. Men with yellow fever, easy girls. 2. Japanese men might be not as tall/attractive/sex is weird (not only japanese, but chinese as well), also attitude, so foreign women ask for much more than a D and when it s D it s gotta be goood. While foreign men can F whatever asian girl around, mostly it s abt sex and a bit relationship.
@@lsdstrawberry6260 I think what you said is part of it, but also what the original comment said I think is also part of it. Also, I think cultures believing that men should be the approachers contributes to the skewdness as well. Typically, a traveller is often a bit more outgoing and willing to meet strangers and in a world where men are usually viewed as the person who asks out someone, it leads to a bunch of men going to places who are meeting strangers and are culturally allowed to ask girls out. Meanwhile, a girl traveling is more culturally expected to wait to be approached so I think they are less likely to ask people out and therefore likely to have less results
@@al1999 I personally don't care about that and I think mixed races can be a great thing. The main thing is having similarities when it matters and differences when it can be beneficial, but also remembering no one is perfect. For me, what matters is a catholic woman who can handle my humor and conversations and has similarities in terms of what our family and finances would look like. I'm hispanic and European descent, but I'm open to dating any race if I like her and we meet the essential requirements of each.
Im married to a Japanese Man who was born and raised in Japan. I met him here in the States years back. I know him for 10 years as friend and got married last year. My InLaws live on Japan.
I have been dating Japanese and Korean men for most of my dating life. I am in a long term relationship with my Japanese partner. I would say that, from many conversations with these men, there is an aesthetic. Even in these countries, lighter skin, high noses and big eyes are popular. I would also say that some men have the fantasy about what it is like to be with a foreigner but they wouldn’t be confident to take that girl home to their parents. They wouldn’t be confident to embark on marriage and kids because they might not be able or willing to make cultural concessions. I have been super lucky that my partner is interested in other cultures and is flexible and his parents are accepting - although they’re not super traditional. My partner has also had issues with dating Japanese women in terms of how they are less likely to communicate about issues they have in the relationship as he is quite an up-front person. I have noticed that Asian men who date foreigners have similar experiences and find dating foreigners in a way easier. So I do think that sexual preference, the ability to mix two cultures and family pressures all come in to play. I have had quite a lot of interesting experiences because I don’t date within my own culture, and would say that the biggest determinant of a second date is not only connection but the other persons interest and ability to foresee that there will be cultural differences and they’re confident to communicate through them. That said, dating cross-culturally is super fun when two people are right for each other but there are more complications!
This topic seems to be recurring in your videos Takashi, not to say it is not interesting, but can you interview more Japanese guys and try to dig deeper into their motives for not wanting to date foreign women? Also it also seems to me that there is a very strong stereotype around what type of women Japanese men are only interested in. Like usually they will say: blond, petite, big blue eyes etc. Yes, there are many foreign women who look like that but there's also many many more who don't.
They like who they like . Not every has to or wants to date other races.. if white girls n Japanese girls is what they like I can't blame them their beautiful but latina woman are also the most beautiful too me
🎉❤😊 In my humble personal option - by the way, I was born and raised in Japan like regular Japanese people up to college and got the first two jobs here, and I moved to NY to live for 12 years working for a global firm - the reason why foreign women have hard time finding Japanese boyfriend is three-fold: 1) Japanese cultural aspect: Japanese education, either informal or formal, teaches us the traditional roles of man and woman and their “normal” relationship. These days we younger generation feel differently, but only until recently, the stereotype that men are bread winners and protect his family was (still is?) shared very widely. 2) Stereotype: This comes from “island nation mentality”. It is researched for decades that island nation people tend to anticipate too much difference from foreign countries. This could lead to the mindset of Japanese guys that foreign woman think and behave totally different from Japanese counterpart. 3) Japanese sensitivity: Again, we have been taught throughout whole education system that harmony is very important in the society, we should not stick out, we must not bother others, etc. So when it comes to dealing with foreign girls, the first thing that comes to our mind is, “I don’t want to do anything insensitive to this foreign girl. I got to be very careful because she is from a total different culture.” Then we could end up moving so slow that it would frustrate them. Conclusion: How did you take all the above? Do you think Japanese guys are weirdos? Japanese guys hate foreign girls? I hope you didn’t feel that way. They (we) are willing to date with foreign girls, but lots of things like above surrounding us hinder us from speaking straight, taking things forward, or doing things that foreign girls expect. But look. We all are just trying to do the right thing…maybe little bit too Japanese way, but still it all is coming from a good place. Maybe I hope you understand what’s going on Japanese guys mind, be little (more) patient and push gently so that you can foster precious relationships. I promise! 😉
Why has Japan adapted to the slave muzzle so quickly!? I can't understand. We were not designed to breath this way and serious health complications can and will arise. Please make it make sense!
I think i am getting better at understanding Japanese becuase I can understand parts of the sentences without looking at the subtitles and that's exciting even if it's just a really small improvement. Really great content.
I'd assume it's easier for foreign men to ask out and date japanese women because of how direct and confrontational they are. Men are usually the ones who initiate the relationship and so it makes sense that foreign men initiate relationships vs foreign women who don't.
When I was in Japan last month, I noticed a lot of Japanese women with foreign men, but not the vice versa. I didn’t think I’d plan to re-visit Japan next year.
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These videos are very helpful, I’ve never been to Japan before, but I do want to visit & see what it’s like . The videos help me understand how people are in Japan so I can better prepare myself .
My whole school age, there have always been some girls in my class who have been crazy about Japanese and Korean men because of j and kpop. I know a couple of Japanese men who have Finnish women and live here in Finland.
Hey, Takashii. I've been watching your videos and I have one curiosity about Japan and Japanese culture: what preconceptions we foreigners have that aren't actually true about Japan? For example I always thought that working there would mean to sacrifice a lot of your personal life. Does that still apply in current times? Thank you for your videos and your eventual answer.
6:30 "do you speak japanese with your partner?" * sigh * Takashi * laughs * 😂😂 very informative and fun video as always 👌actually in my case im from portugal and i've had two "boyfriends" (not quite) one from finland and one from venezuela but i never had dates or anything with portuguese guys , i find that they kind of play hard to get and it's easier to vibe with foreigners. Maybe Japanese girls think the same
I always enjoy these videos. From experience I think it’s extremely hard to date a Japanese guy if you’re foreign. Not impossible, but way harder than it is for guys here. ESPECIALLY especially if you aren’t white. A lot of guys just want to show off that they’re dating a foreigner…. And maybe girls have the same idea. But it’s pretty rare to meet a Japanese guy who will be serious with you. At least in my experience.
Been living in Japan for 24 years in various prefectures including Tokyo and the most common reasons I get from my japanese friends on why they don't really want to date a foreign woman are because of the language barrier, cultural differences, preferences for the average japanese woman's body type/attitude. A lot of their shyness in being expressive towards a foreign woman comes mostly from the fact of the language barrier being the primary concern rendering them unable to communicate their thoughts and expressions articulately in a way that their foreign partner would understand, cultural differences play as a crucial factor too in making them overthink what you may like during a date since both were raised in a different culture and a different environment. Too much effort plays into the game of dating a foreign woman that most that I know just settles down for a japanese woman and lives happily. This line of thought also applies for japanese women as well but as far as i'm concerned, there happens to be more gaijin hunters for japanese women as compared to japanese men, that's why there's way too many cases of japanese women dating foreign men for a period of time before settling down with a japanese guy, dating him and eventually leading to marriage. A lot of them do it for clout within their social group, and more reasons.
Yes my J-hubby thought it'd be ok with me cuz I'm half-Japanese but born in NY, I don't speak much Japanese though. He didn't date much so when we butted heads he'd get so upset and say his next wife will be Japanese. I have more a voluptuous Western body and he was often telling me he prefers Japanese body but not too skinny. His first wife was Romanian and he said was an animal that screamed and swore and hit and punched and kicked him BUT after one year with him, he can be so aloof, arrogant and blunt I can understand her feelings, especially the Japanese man that shows no emotion and when mad is cold as ice and ready to divorce you in a heartbeat if you don't agree with him. Luckily, after dueling with my hubby and trying to stay present he has grown up some and we have grown closer and warmer BUT he still has this scary side that's hard to understand but its getting less and less. They are so f# secretive and independent, some of them at least. I heard of that vegetable type and wonder if that'd be a better match BUT what I like about mine is he will speak up and express. One of my ex friends hubby couldn't say anything if they got delivered the wrong meal. One thing I notice is Japanese men seem to be willing to wonder lost for hours vs asking for directions.
My thoughts exactly. It's a combination of things but the root of it lies with the language barrier. It definitely makes a difference if the guy in question has had a lot of experience going or living abroad, though. Those Japanese guys are much more likely to take dating a foreigner seriously.
"preferences for the average japanese woman's body type/attitude." Western and European women are considered "fat" in Japan. I'd say that's a no-win situation.
Very informative and really good topic that can give an insight not just for Foreigner Girls itself but generally for "some" other Girls outlook in terms of relationship hehe
It's also funny to see the Washington girl talk about how well planned the date went. Japanese people like to plan everything, every detail so you know exactly what you'll be doing and when, to have the best experience. It seems they have no understanding of things like "chilling" or "hanging out" (spontaneously)
In the 90s when I was young and lived in Japan, I dated Japanese men. Some were very sweet, and I was so stupid to dump them (I really regretted it later). Others, I asked out and they said no, saying they're not interested in foreigners (I remember one guy said there was too much culture difference). I think back then one problem was the gender roles. A direct, opinionated foreign woman who doesn't know how to cook etc. was a put off for some Japanese men. I remember one guy, a coworker, whose apartment I was visiting, asked me to make tea. I didn't know how to and didn't. He hated me after that day, LOL! But I think things are getting better now in that aspect. ALSO, many Japanese men are very shy. Vs foreign men less shy and more easily ask Japanese women to date.
This is how I felt dating in Japan. I was very “モテる” as in popular in Japan but I never felt they took me seriously, I was just the token pretty foreigner girl who they wanted to drink and party with but not show off to mom lol. I had one serious relationship in my 4yrs living in Japan with a Japanese guy but that’s because he lived in America for 4yrs and was open minded and spoke English.
@@nikolavojnovic6552 I went back to the states and he wanted to stay in Japan. I didn’t feel like my husband was there, I feel I have better & more options in the US.
Great video, Takashi; you should make a video interviewing people on how they got their jobs in Japan since almost everyone who watches your video all wanna one day live In japan
seeing the non-japanese people speaking a little bit of Japanese is really inspiring! It makes it seem like I could learn even though I think the language is impossible!
the only difficult part of japanese is the written part. The grammar is very easy and most of the time you will just waste hours trying to remember the formal version of a phrase
If you think like that then it will be impossible. It IS very difficult though due to kanji but you can learn to speak well w/out it, just likely won't reach fluency. Gambatte!
I had the same thought. I speak German fluently,Born and raised in Namibia 🇳🇦, but lived in Austria ,was married to an Austrian. My kids speak German,obviously, but I think it won't hurt to learn Japanese. Getting more interested by the day.
Wonderful topic and well done. One thing that you must keep in mind here are the statistical numbers of foreign men to women in Japan. In the US, more Japanese woman come to the US than men. In Japan there are more western men than western women. So it would statistically make sense that there would be more western men with Japanese women couples . However, when I was working as a high Japanese teacher in the US, we had a lot of US moms with Japanese husbands. I went in a lot of nomikai with these men. They all worked at Japanese companies around the area. So that area had a lot of Japanese men with US wives.
I haven't gone to Japan yet but I have been in South Korea. As a brown woman, I went on dates but they just wanted to have a "fun, exotic" experience. I would see other white expats like Americans, French, or other Europeans have more success in getting attention, dating and relationships. I will just say it white women have it easier in foreign dating and so I am not surprised watching this video that the white women are the ones in relationships. Unlike brown and black women, we are beautiful too but we aren't the ideal beauty over there unfortunately.
Aren't we talking about gender roles here? I feel like Japanese people in general are more shy than Westeners or at least perceived like that because of height and style. A woman that's more shy than her partner is "cute" because he can take care of her. I've heard that Japanese men are raised to take the lead and girls to be led. So if their bias is that foreign women are assertive and dominant it's not going to work beyond sex. Also beauty standards. Even slim Western women could be perceived as fat in Japan.
I've been wanting to move to Japan as an English teacher, but the salary holds me back. Your videos motivated me to say "f&%k it, let's do it!" Money comes and goes, but you only have a certain amount of time to live your dreams. I'd rather take a paycut while crossing off an item off my bucket list, than be miserable and bored in my 9-5
I did it and I highly recommend the experience! Working in Japan sucked, and stressed me out ngl. But after work hours I had the best time of my life just exploring the streets, the culture, and the language. It really opens up your world. I would do it again.
I've worked and lived in Japan for a few years and honestly, the work life sucks and I mean really bad. My first job was extremely bad, but my second job was actually okay but the pay was awful. I worked both in an Eikaiwa (an after school English conversation business) and as an ALT (Assistant Language Teacher) in public schools. For me I'd recommend working as an ALT. The pay isn't great but you get a lot of downtime, less stressful than an Eikaiwa, more holidays, the hours are better if you don't like leaving work late at night, and sometimes you get a personal car depending on your placement. Learn as much Japanese as you can though because it will definitely make things easier especially since they usually place you to work in countryside areas. It's fun though, depending on your job, and you'll either want to come back home or never want to go back to your home country.
I think most international marriages are foreign bride Japanese groom. Many of them were in rural areas: the Japanese oldest son inherits the farm, and they "import" a wife from a neighboring SEA country. As a result in the local 公民館 you often hear more Tagalog or Chinese than Japanese spoken. Is this not still the case?
Good videos and great interviewing. Many of us in the west are very curious about Japanese culture and it's interesting to see foreigners sharing their experiences there in Japan.
I literally watch your videos just cause of how clean the streets are and beautiful it is don't get me wrong the videos are good too but god damn Japan is beautiful
Actually in fact, more Japanese males have foreign marriage partners than Japanese females. You can google for the data. Anyway, Japanese guys tend to date/marry other East Asian women than Western women. BTW for Takashii's foreign female viewers, you should also have interview sessions with nice-looking Japanese guys. haha
thx for making this video for Takashi. As a japanese teenager guy this topic is really interesting. actually i'm interested in having relationship with foreign girls but i always wonder if they cah have interesting to me as well . then i really tend to be shy and not to try to talk to them. i don't have opportunity or brave to make foreign friends. but i think i should try to speak to them more open or extrovert earlier😅
Dude your videos are always really good quality! I love your content and also your question you put are very informative! Also how respectful you are as an interviewer!!! Keep it on ‼️‼️
I started loving Japan just after this work performance, though I’ve been a fan Of the Samurai history (especially the 47Ronin). I love your Culture and working on my Japanese Lol.
This is very interesting Takashii... it's informative and insightful about the genders in your country. Thanks for using subitiles where the conversation swithed to Kanji. You are going in like a studied academician into each of your interviews, in pro-mode 👍
As a fellow Asian man, although not Japanese, I always appreciate the contents of this topic. Recently, I've been very pessimistic about how foreigners, particularly foreign women, think about Asian men. Even though I've yet to travel to other countries, live in a city with lots of foreigners, or am actively looking for a partner, seeing more and more women of my ethnicity getting western partners while the other way around rarely happens both in real life, in most western media and even some eastern media makes me feel conscious about being an Asian man. What if, one day, I have to go abroad and live in a western country? Will I not be able to find a partner at all? I always assume for myself that women, regardless of their ethnicity, find Asian men to be less attractive or not as masculine as men of other ethnicities. This always let me down, and as I mentioned, the media, mostly the western one, might have solidified the stereotypical idea of the western man-Asian woman couple. This video, however, has given me some new insight and thoughts that make me feel more relieved, and seeing foreign women with an Asian partner always raises my hope and faith in humanity as it brings us closer to achieving ethnicity, or, should I say, racial equality.
It's a very good question. I have middle eastern background from both parents and I am living in Norway. Many of my foreign friends are dating their own ethnicity in Norway. It's not always we see so many mixes between local ethnicities and foreigners compared to foreigners with dating their own ethnicities.
@@clarencegilkie7369 I think people under 30s dont judge after race no more. It's more your nationality. I'd think a Asian woman have a higher chance of falling in love with a black american man compared to an african man from Nigeria.
I lived in Tokyo a long time ago. I have so many, many stories of Western women dating or married to Japanese men, including me. I wonder what changed.
It's hard to tell if this is about "race" when there is no interview of women who are the same race as Japanese. For example, one of the largest group of foreigners in Japan is from China. The Chinese and Japanese are the same race right? So what is it like for Chinese women dating Japanese men in Japan?
Takashii-san: may I say: you do an excellent job as an interviewer-you stimulate interesting, thoughtful and honest answers from people-both Japanese and foreigners!
The Californian girl was the best of all in the interview, period! So inteligent, calm, smiley and the way she speaks and explains about her achievements in Japan, specially in Japanese, is so gracious! Her Japanese boyfriend is so lucky!
She's rare for a western woman. Not getting a tattoo because her boyfriend doesn't like tattoos. Most western woman will simply get one with a middle finger to boot.
Thank you TAKASHii!!! Your videos are awesome man, I always love watching your videos and I always watch them from start to finish. You have a great interviewer personality
This is a really good interview, enjoyed it and was very informative. I liked all the women that were interviewed and what they had to say. Would like to see a more in depth interview of Japan men dating foreign women. Also the type of women they like to date, are drawn to and why?
Yeah, I'm more curious to hear from non-white men because so many of Foreign Dating videos for Men just show white men, who have completely different experiences compared to non-white men.
Thank you for this video. Great content & VERY relatable! I agree that it is very difficult to date Japanese men as a foreign women in JP. I am from the U.S. and have been in JP, (Okinawa),for over 6 yrs. In that 6 yrs, I have been on many dates, but only ONE of those with a Japanese man. All the other dates have been either half Japanese, half American or Filipino. As an American woman very much attracted to Asian men, this has been frustrating for me. I don’t know if it is a language barrier issue, or if I come off as intimidating or unapproachable as an American. (I hope not) So yeah, I think it is MUCH easier for foreign men to date Japanese women than the reverse. But I’m hoping it will get easier since I plan to remain in JP. Such a beautiful culture & people! :)
that's why I don't like going on dates. If you are looking for a serious and straightforward relationship, you should start being friends with them first. Knowing them as a friend can give you an insight into them as a partner. I'm 26 but it feels like I am so old already, I don't want to have a relationship lol
Have you noticed that almost every one them tries to answer the question from the the perspectives of Japanese men? Example: "Maybe THEY are not comfortable with their English", "Maybe THEY do not envision a future with you" etc. If you are going to answer a question from the perspective of someone else, by logic your answers cannot be honest as you are speculating on someone else's thought which is impossible for you to know for certain. Maybe those women haven't really reflected on why they struggle to date in Japan from their own perspective, and that is probably why they are going to continue to struggle. Just by common sense, if you are a foreigner you are going to struggle in just about anything you do compared to the locals - dating, living, working, etc. You want to struggle less? Try to learn the local ways of doing things, and try to be like a local as much as possible - speak their language, follow their customs, follow their DATING CULTURE, and so on, and that is about as much as you can do. It sounds like these women prefer to follow their ways of dating (their preference in looks, habits, languages etc) in Japan, and there is actually nothing wrong with that. They will just have to accept that they will continue to struggle, because their dating pool will be limited to the very small minority of Japanese men that are willing to show deference to the foreign women's preference.
I’m a half Japanese half American female who grew up in the US and currently living in Japan. I was on a dating app before meeting my partner and I’d match with both foreign and japanese men but the Japanese men were very formal so it was hard to become friendly with them online. In the meantime, I had several dates with foreigners I met online and had dates with Japanese men I met at speed dating. They were pretty serious and seemed interested but we never got far since the Japanese men were very busy! They were very sweet and polite. in the end, I met my partner online, who I instantly fell for. He is Polish and maybe I am the Japanese girl in this situation 😂
8:05 she's right! A foreigner in Japan has more in common with other foreigners in Japan than with Japanese, especially those who have never lived outside their own country!
Been really finding these videos interesting since discovering your channel. I definitely fully understand the feelings of the first girl you interviewed so its always nice to know I am not alone in having these feelings. Dating in Japan is hard! XD
Can't say specifically about Japanese, but the question of AFWM and AMWF difference in prevalence is universal. One of my exes is Asian-American ( I am white) and the complex he had about obviously Western (aka white) males dating Asian females was a palpable problem in our relationship. He was very offended due to the stereotypes, and couldn't even handle his own friends dating any girls in Korea (where we lived first before we both moved back to the States). He would point out and stare at AFWM couples. I know it's a bad double standard based on racism issues of the past that are SLOWLY changing. However, I was like BUT you are here with ME! Can we not be bitter and negative all the time? Can I spend a day with you in public in a diverse area and not have to deal with this?! I don't want to notice it...I shouldn't have to, THEY have nothing to do with US! He thought every AFWM couple was based upon Western preconceptions about Asian females and a bad attitude of the AF towards her own male counterparts (plus being greedy?). Can we not gawk and stare at STRANGERS we've never met though?! That plus his being ungrateful for staying at my place for virtually nothing, complaining about EVERYTHING, and hoarding my apartment out ruined us. One less AMWF relationship in the world as he couldn't appreciate what he had.
This is so true, they cant take white men date with Asian girls. And that was so f ed up, because why does he take that responsibility on girls that are not his, if you know what i mean. And it was not even only his country girls, it was ALL girls that looked Asian. It looks very ugly tbh. It made me feel like i was less than Asian girls. Its funny, Asian girls seems to prefer white guys over Asians, and Asian guys seem to prefer Asian girls.
That is just his lack of self confidence. East Asian men in general have that kinda problem but please don't blame them. It is our society that drives them this way. Too much negative things happened in the past that had to do with their history. I myself have even heard stuff like "Asian guys are not my cup of tea" and "Asian girls are easy." All these things don't ever happen to white males so they would think it is unfair.
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A guy that goes to all that effort to learn his woman’s native language so that he can meet her parents is a keeper.
tell that to my ex
Agreed. I thought that was super sweet.
@@mydreammaltamt okay give me her number
I love how they were both so into each other from the get go. That level of commitment, that's true love there...
No.. this simple. A western women don't make good wives. Japanese men are about family and bringing a wholesome woman around the family is really important to them.
Takashi’s journalism, camera, and English skills get noticeably better each video. Go Takashi!!!
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I’m jealous I wanna move to Japan but am very worried about learning Japanese
@@amarii9916 you definitely want to take the right steps for that. It’s very different there, good for the most part. And Japanese is tough. I am learning it now, the alphabet is the hardest 😂
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the first woman interviewed was hilarious.
"At least he wasted my time for two weeks and not two years" lmao
Well, it is kind of true.
Omgawd! Ikr?! That gave me a chuckle. Our gurl just keeping it real tho! 😭🤣🤣🤣
I'm more like she's brave for showcasing the girls. I'm all for that but Japan is a culture that is more conservative. However the equivalent to showing the girls would be showing more of her legs. Maybe that's part of the reason why she's not being taken seriously...? But I know it's mainly the disconnect between cultures and how men are intimidated of us.
She was qt
@Jonah Whale Yikes, you wanna go there?? Yeah that's definitely a possibility
"When he came to America, he really wanted to meet my family, but they don't speak Japanese..." 😭😭😭 learning to speak your girlfriend's language to talk to her mom?? So wholesome I'm dying
I love him and I hope he has an amazing day
that's what we call a keeper and if you didn't notice she reciprocated she didn't get a tattoo thou she wants one she respects the relationship more
This was really interesting! But I think you'll probably get more clear answers around why Japanese guys don't seem to date foreign women by asking Japanese guys, not the women. All my foreign female friends in Japan always said they were interested in dating Japanese guys, but all of them consistently said that the dates never went anywhere.
I’m seriously wondering if they would answer truthfully
@@bUtLUtu I think Japanese in interviews are always very honest in their answers (seemingly/convincingly).
I guess I would feel uncomfortable if asked such a question on camera, and I'm a Westerner 😉
@@syesye9489 everyone would honestly
cauz foreign girls r not into japanese men
There are two kinds of guys in my experience here in Japan. The kind that only wants sex and isn’t interested at all (or dates you only out of curiosity) and the kind that is too shy to even bring up the fact that they like you. It’s so frustrating 😭
there are two type of energy masculine and feminine masculine men are more straight forward because they do it more often chances are that if he i asking you he is asking other chicks too if you want him all for yourself ask the guys out it is what it i s
@@jyaten3191 Unfortunately here in Japan that doesn’t work as well. Men are often intimidated by women who are direct with their feelings and make the first move. Several of my friends have experienced this. It’s just a side effect of the culture here.
Morpheus: what if I told you... you can hit on the shy guy and get to know him... ?
@@zergilli9719 Please see my above comment. Many Japanese guys do not like this approach. It works overseas, but it does not always work in Japan in my experience. Everyone is different so of course it’s possible with some guys here. But I am referring specifically to my dating experience in Japan where the majority have not been receptive to an active approach.
I’m not asking for dating advice guys, I was sharing my experience so far because it lines up with the experience of the girls in the video.
@@MsAllykat23 fair enough. I lived in Japan, outside of Tokyo in Saitama for 1 year in 2009. And yes, the culture is vastely different. I can see what you're saying.
Just noticed the camera quality improved dramatically. Really makes you appreciate the cleanliness of Japanese streets.
Even without the better camera , there is no comparison. Cleanliness of Japanese streets cannot be compared even with most developed 1st world countries which look shabby.
It's cleaner even than in a computer openworld videogame 🤣
I lived in Japan. The streets maybe clean but there are a ton of Shabby buildings around. Mine you this is probably a nice area within the Yamanote-line.
My son has been interested in Japanese culture since he was a child. (he’s 24 now) I wanted to gift him a trip to Japan but he doesn’t want to go, he worries that he might offend people without knowing it. We’re Native American Indigenous and in our culture our elders are very important to us. We are quiet and sometimes considered shy. I would really like for him to experience your country but I don’t know what kind of experience it would be for him.
Definitely go. I went with my daughter and cousin and we are from Canada and also Indigenous. Never had any issues and I’m sure there is an understanding that coming from foreign place it’s to be expected. As long as you’re respectful of others using common sense like not littering and not being overly loud etc it’s fine. But I can honestly say that people there are quite private but are also very kind and curious about you too. What I found interesting was the similarities I saw in our cultures. They pray and light up incense which reminds me of smudging and you can tie up prayers you write down on in a tree and it’s open to everyone. Your son will definitely enjoy the experience and beauty of it all. We left Japan with a great lasting impression. ❤
Japan is a safe, developed country. Travelling is important for personal development and he can see his elders when he gets back. He should definitely go. People who do not travel miss out on life and it creates problems long term culturally at a collective level, see here:
I think the fact that he is so conscious of offending someone, he is all the more unlikely to offend someone. I've been to Japan multiple times and unless you are super obnoxious, it's really difficult to offend anyone there. The closest I came to anger was trying to open a taxi door manually (they are automatic), the driver looked pretty annoyed. But if your son goes there and acts like a normal person he will get along just fine. Just like anywhere, 98% of the population isn't going to pay any attention to you most of the time.
@@moominsean my son is Native American Indigenous, and knows there is a way to be around the elders, and it can be easy to offend people if you don't know their ways.
I have lived with American indigenous family for more than two years in the U.S. I had blasting time with them and still in contact after 20 years ❤
I wonder if these videos are Takashii’s way of getting relationship advice so he can date foreign women.
Hahaha 🤭🤭
Does someone want to give him the bad news?
(the bad news is that Asian men are one of the LOWEST %'s of men to be right swiped in the "west." (aka, foreign women))
naa he wouldnt want to get depressed.
You know too much😏
SHAME on you, Takashii!!!
The Indian girl is very articulate and I think what she said was quite accurate. Japanese me are a bit shy to begin with but then when they do date foreign women they do not take them seriously. But I will also add that the same applies foreign men who date Japanese girls. They are mostly there for hookups and do not take them that seriously.
Hmmm, it depends, but not as much though. I've seen many more foreign men in long term relationships with Japanese women than foreign women with Japanese men, including long distance relationships. It just seems like foreign men are more willing to either compromise or adjust to their Japanese partner's culture and personality. It's one of the main reasons why I think Japanese men don't really pursue foreign women, because they probably think she wouldn't adjust to Japanese culture. Another reason, I've seen in other videos of Japanese men being interviewed about this topic, is that the one's who had foreign girlfriends kept insisting on westernizing the Japanese guy's personality. For example, she wouldn't want to learn Japanese but expected her Japanese partner to use English all the time. Another, was that they didn't like their Japanese boyfriends hiding their emotions or not being straightforward.
I can tell you this for sure....japanese men sometimes get intimidated when they see caucasian/white dudes dating or married to japanese women (they often think they are NOT good enough).....so they simply shy away.....maybe eventually becoming hikkimori..... your last statement about hookups....my thoughts would be "why then pursue mixed relationships or even marriage (they want to become american citizens by marriage and/or have biracial kids who tend to have natural mixed looks.
bullshit. japanese women are more traditional so we dont treat them like that. of course there will always be hookups and all of that but japanese women tend to be more traditional unlike western women bring their woke sl4t culture to japan and then they wonder why they cant get a relionship.
@@brianc21324 exactly she is coping. western women bring their western woke values to japan and no man on planet earth likes a feminazi. this is why men are going overseas to date and marry a woman because western women have become crassy
That's just a stereotype. It's also pretty racist to say. It's not as real as you may think
The last interview gave really good insight into the question and it was very heartwarming to see Takashii and the interviewee connect through speaking Japanese 😄
I agree, Takashii, it demonstrates how important it is for foreigners to try to learn to speak Japanese.
I watched a lot of foreign language films in A LOT OF DIFFERENT LANGUAGES (using subtitles to understand) but what I found was each language has it's own "feeling" and "sounds" and those are as much a part of the communication between people as the actual meaning of words conveyed ! The saying that "80% of language is body-language" sort of illustrates some of this importance ie not just what is said but how it is said?
I found the last interview also very compelling and interesting. Also, her command of the language obviously helps. Even Takashii was a bit smitten.
@@richardkleinberger7031 すごい / Sugoooiii !
Yeah, her Japanese was amazing. I'd love to see more interviews with foreigners who speak fluent Japanese and learn what methods they used to learn Japanese.
you find the most funny , interesting people for interviews ...
is so so simple but the feeling obtained and the informations are so authentic , natural , unique
I would say there is another huge issue behind this and it´s the ethnicity of the foreigner person. I have been in Japan already for 7 months and I realized that blonde and white-skin girls get way more attention than dark haired and dark-skin girls. There is some sort of idolization for this "kind" of foreigner. So that also adds up to the equation when we contemplate dating. Sometimes even if you receive some sort of attention from men, they do not go further into something serious and it can be very difficult sometimes to find an honest man when they tend to think you are "easy" just because you do not share the "Japanese social standards".
I hear that often in comment sections that if your not white with blonde hair 1. You will find a hard time getting dates and 2. People will think you're promiscuous. I've seen this on both genders and it's sad to see.
I've seen a lot of couples that met in Japan and were both foreign to it because they couldn't find dates with Japanese people so they met other foreigners.
Now you know how Mexicans and Asian guys feel in the US. In the US if you aren’t White or Black you will get the boot, woman will make back handed comments about Hispanics and Asian men as well. It was crazy seeing the opposite in Japan when I lived there
Asian American man here who dated a lot of woman of all races and nationality. Japanese guys seems to be more attracted to *blonde white girls* more due to the sexual value that they view white girls as being more saucier. That's how I saw it when I was a U.S. military guy based in Japan.
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However, looking at the percentage of international marriages in Japan by country, Chinese, Koreans, and Filipina make up the largest percentage, with Westerners making up only a few percent. So in reality, there are far more Asian-Japanese couples than Caucasian-Japanese couples.
@@user-qm7jw I didn't say they weren't ? When i said foreign what I meant was Foreign westerners are meeting and getting together with other foreign westerners while in Japan instead of meeting or dating locals.
I am a foreigner in Japan married with a Japanese guy. We have dated for around 1 year and half and then we got married. I came here for work as researcher and then met my husband. But he is someone that already lived abroad and he speaks Spanish and English besides Japanese. I think Japanese guys that spent some time abroad have more open mind. Also, I never tried to fit in Japanese culture, I was just myself and he accepted me. His family also accepted me and this is amazing. If someone lives in Japan and wants to know more about us on 22/01 we will be on the Japanese show “shinkosan irasshai” on ABC TV😊
Asian girls don't like black men
@@clarencegilkie7369 why did you say that on my comment?
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@ I'm just speaking the truth
@@clarencegilkie7369 but doesn’t make any sense
I am married to a japanese man and I have to say it can be difficult sometimes 😁🤣 but I can be also difficult for him I guess - nevertheless we are together since over 10 years now and have a baby🎉😁
Glad to see someone like you here!
Well it can be difficult for all married couples but try to have good life-work balance personally, have high quality family time and finally keep telling the other, how much you value their values that make them them and how special that is to you. Then tell them how you try to live up to their values and are trying all the time to improve...
Then, the both of you: If you are raising a child how you share values to help your child grow to be a good person and happy in the world.
For practical matters: Try to be a part of wider extended family and share the work of raising children more!! It helps everyone so long as you ensure your child can be respectful to others.
As a foreign woman living in Tokyo I've had experienced dating both Japanese and foreign guys. My current boyfriend is a Japanese, and personally one thing that Japanese guys do differently is that they really are caring about their partner's well being and VERY attentive too. Just a tiny sneeze, and he will fussing over you non stop lol.
What's your ethnicity?
@@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx a mix of Chinese and white
@@azabujuban-hito8085 ajjjj never got issues regarding the Chinese / Japanese hate to each other?
@@HermanWillems Personally? Never.
this is so sweet
It's funny, in the West we often stereotype Japanese people as being indirect communicators who make you read between the lines to figure out what they mean, but when it comes to dating unlike here in the West, the transition to being a couple is something that has to be explicitly communicated - you don't just drift into being in a relationship with someone as often happens here in Western countries. Goes to show the limitations of stereotypes like that.
I'm not sure that disproves it because it also means if that person doesn't communicate (as the first girl suggested) then the relationship remains undefined for a long time. In that case, the foreigner may believe it's more than it is while the Japanese person hasn't communicated anything so they believe it's still just casual.
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I will say one thing I noticed as a foreign guy living in Japan who works in education and used to go to things like language exchange events, I find in general there are way more girls interested in English and foreign cultures than men. From my experience, the students who are most interested and most active participants in my elementary English classes are girls, I also judged a high school English speech contest that had nearly 40 girl students and less than 5 guys who were participants, and found both language exchange events and language exchange apps had predominantly Japanese women users.
When I was in South Korea. I saw many foreign girls with korean men. I guess Korean men are more interested in foreign women than japanese men
@Jonah Whale truly sad
The way the genders treat each other there is just so unnatural that a number of Japanese women don’t mind going outside the country. Simple as that
@Jonah Whale You forget that domestic violence in Asia is infamously underreported and under-prosecuted. If you’re seriously taking their crime statistics at face value, you’re a sucker.
My guess is high academic achieving women usually wouldn't be there.
Glad to be a part of this! Thank you for the opportunity ❤
Thank you too!
Excited to upload the video I interviewed you about anime!
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Takasii's last interview was very impressive. All the interviews were great, I was personally impressed with her studying Japanese and Kanji. Very nice!
The first girl was very articulate gave a very good insight of her experience dating from a girl's perspective. Also she was gorgeous actually all the ladies are gorgeous
The lack of background music is a plus, I really like your videos, natural conversations are the best. Greetings from Chile, South America!
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Honestly dating with Japanese men as a foreign girl might be difficult and often very slow, in my experience which i personally like because i have huge trust issues and I need months for even a normal friendship which is why I struggle dating with people in my own country but I’m very comfirtable with the slow process with Japanese men. But it’s hard to know how they really feel about you since they often aren’t very expresive when it comes to emotions. But all of it is something That’s for me very comfortable. But these are just my experience and not every Japanese is the same. Basically some are willing to be open to foreign relationship which as an international couple will need a lot of mutual learning and understanding and some just won’t bother. It’s still an experience and even though I’m with my Japanese man for 2 years it’s still a lot of learning.
do you think most japanese men want an "experience" with foreign woman rather than a serious relationship?
@Barthoven valid response. たしかに。
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16. Have good rest of year Barthoven
@@seikothechildofGod They want it just like foreign people want to experience a Japanese person. Doesn’t apply for most.
@@ganndalf202 I see, alright then
One secret you need to learn about the asian language and it might be surprising it is more based on the feeling behind the words. In western culture words are more about ideas and thought processes.
What I've learnt from all these videos is that a key element to a person success in Japan, in any area of their life is actually learning the japanese language, you'll do much much better!
I lived in Japan in the 90s for several years and even dated a Japanese man. He wanted to get married eventually though and his family were very working class traditional and he was the oldest (and only) son so that meant I would have to look after his parents eventually (maybe even have them live with us). Although I loved his parents, it wasn't really the life I saw for myself. I dated another lovely man for a while but I eventually broke up with him when I came back to my country and he didn't speak English so I didn't feel that he knew me well enough to come with me. All the foreign men in Japan were only interested in partying/casual relationships or relationships with Japanese women (because let's just say they tolerate a lot more than foreign women do).
They dont tolerate more than foreign women at all
This was long ago and as you can see in this vid there's wonderful men in Japan as well.
Did you eventually marry? Do you still think of him and maybe how it would have been?
I loved this video. Nice and sincere girls.
The topic was very interesting and the interviews reach an ever-increasing quality.
This theme particularly struck me and my impression is that there are more Japanese women with foreign men instead of the other way around because perhaps some Japanese men are very shy or sometimes too rational and maybe sometimes they should rely more on the feelings and emotions they feel more than rationality.
However I think that the union between two different cultures brings enrichment and inner growth and conflicts can be overcome with love, clarity and honesty.
I look forward to the next video. A warm greeting from Italy. 🤗
The harsh reality is that a lot of Japanese men don't want to date foreign women because Japanese women are considered more beautiful, they already speak their language and they're less likely to have strong opinions or wanting to break free if the stereotypical Japanese housewife thing.
That being said, a lot of Japanese women actually like to embrace their femininity and a lot just want to be housewives.
Moreover, the Japanese men who do want to be with foreign women often times are just after the novelty of it, not necessarily because they love them. They just want to show off their blonde haired, tall foreign girlfriend.
More Japanese men should date foreign women.
I found it is challenging dating Japanese girls here for the same reason you mentioned. They are too shy and you never know what they really think.
@@VanillaCoke1956 It is also the case for Japanese girls here. They just want to have that experience not necessarily go the long distance.
Actually, you're wrong. According to 2016 statistics, 70% of all international marriages that year were couples between a Japanese man and a foreign woman.
You know what? It's truly unfortunate that many people can't find someone to grow old with whether they live in their own country or another, because we often can't understand why we're not good enough for someone we like. It gets very lonely out there and it's definitely unfair to many women and men from foreign countries who want to date someone outside their own. In this case, I personally believe that having an ideal type is a waste of time, because the ideal type is extremely rare and no one is perfect.
If I ever moved to Japan, the idea of not being able to get a boyfriend wouldn't have been a surprise. Quite frankly, I don't really fit the ideal type of many guys who I would find attractive. I probably would've had rotten luck, hence why I wasn't so sure if I wanted to learn to speak Japanese.
No one should have to feel like they aren't worthy of love anywhere in the world. I believe there is someone for everyone out there, even if you can't find that special someone right now.
I hope many foreign women who live in Japan can find their special person eventually. And it obviously doesn't have to be in just Tokyo.
Just know that you are loved and important to those who care for you, and it may not be the person you tried to date.
It's interesting, I've chosen to stay single for a few years now for that very reason. There is no perfect mate out there but you also see a lot of failed relationships and marriages. I personally don't think where I'm from I will find anyone interesting so I just don't waste the time. I think because we're all so connected now on a global scale that often ppl feel that they belong or feel like they belong to places that may be half way across the world. That's why I think traveling is really important for anyone's development and also you never know what you might discover
The reality is there isn't someone for everyone. We do more harm than good with fairy tale romance stories. Attraction is based on sexual selection. Love is based on attraction first, it's rare to find personality attractive first, especially for guys. Marriege is based on economics, love is a very new concept. People who have disability either mental of physical are fated to be alone, so are people who are deemed ugly. We pretend we are superior but human are stupid animals nothing more. And life is trully bullshit.
Natalie, you have written the wisest thoughts I've ever come across on the Internet!
I tip my hat off to you!
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Best wishes to you 👍👍
part of it is because as a society (especially towards women) we're told that we're perfect just the way we are and that we don't need to improve. That's why you meet so many lazy, fat, boring and entitled people.
Really our culture just infantilizes us and keeps us in the mind frame of teenagers
well I mean, if women stopped falling for the whole material competition thing, more relationships would flourish. It's not like it's the GUYS that are holding back the sex gates.
As it stands , many girls are being taught that men are evil rapists and are not worth your time if they can't cover all your expenses and then some.
They're also being taught that being a woman ... is bad ???? You have to be a male woman ! So they're trying to do male jobs, while male psychos are dressing up as women and taking THEIR jobs.
My god, you can't help but facepalm at this generation, they are a total fuckin mess.
Thank you for posting both perspectives! This has been helpful and fascinating to see.
I LOVED these interview partners, such a great variety India, USA, Balkans/ Turkish, Italy... so different cultures :D love it
Living for a year in Japan with my girlfriend, we wondered the same thing.
The explanation we came up with was that many single foreigners are men. Working holiday visa or tech jobs for 30 years old engineers seem to be mostly done by men, and so there is simply just way more men than women living abroad.
When we came back to Paris, we also thought that we saw way more Japanese men going out with french women than Japanese girl with french men.
So if our theory is right, it's just that binational couples usually start in the girl's country.
As for now, I do have in my close friends two couples with a french man and a Japanese woman living in France (Paris and Nantes), but they all met in Tokyo, in Shimokitazawa 😉
Nah, there is plenty of teachers who are women. It s same in China reasons, are more superficial actually:
1. Men with yellow fever, easy girls.
2. Japanese men might be not as tall/attractive/sex is weird (not only japanese, but chinese as well), also attitude, so foreign women ask for much more than a D and when it s D it s gotta be goood. While foreign men can F whatever asian girl around, mostly it s abt sex and a bit relationship.
@@lsdstrawberry6260 I think what you said is part of it, but also what the original comment said I think is also part of it.
Also, I think cultures believing that men should be the approachers contributes to the skewdness as well. Typically, a traveller is often a bit more outgoing and willing to meet strangers and in a world where men are usually viewed as the person who asks out someone, it leads to a bunch of men going to places who are meeting strangers and are culturally allowed to ask girls out. Meanwhile, a girl traveling is more culturally expected to wait to be approached so I think they are less likely to ask people out and therefore likely to have less results
@@al1999 I personally don't care about that and I think mixed races can be a great thing. The main thing is having similarities when it matters and differences when it can be beneficial, but also remembering no one is perfect.
For me, what matters is a catholic woman who can handle my humor and conversations and has similarities in terms of what our family and finances would look like. I'm hispanic and European descent, but I'm open to dating any race if I like her and we meet the essential requirements of each.
There are way too many arrogant French men in Japan(Tokyo especially) that think they can get every Japanese girl.
you dont see more japanese men with french women in france than french men with japanese women
Im married to a Japanese Man who was born and raised in Japan. I met him here in the States years back. I know him for 10 years as friend and got married last year. My InLaws live on Japan.
I have been dating Japanese and Korean men for most of my dating life. I am in a long term relationship with my Japanese partner. I would say that, from many conversations with these men, there is an aesthetic. Even in these countries, lighter skin, high noses and big eyes are popular. I would also say that some men have the fantasy about what it is like to be with a foreigner but they wouldn’t be confident to take that girl home to their parents. They wouldn’t be confident to embark on marriage and kids because they might not be able or willing to make cultural concessions. I have been super lucky that my partner is interested in other cultures and is flexible and his parents are accepting - although they’re not super traditional. My partner has also had issues with dating Japanese women in terms of how they are less likely to communicate about issues they have in the relationship as he is quite an up-front person. I have noticed that Asian men who date foreigners have similar experiences and find dating foreigners in a way easier. So I do think that sexual preference, the ability to mix two cultures and family pressures all come in to play. I have had quite a lot of interesting experiences because I don’t date within my own culture, and would say that the biggest determinant of a second date is not only connection but the other persons interest and ability to foresee that there will be cultural differences and they’re confident to communicate through them.
That said, dating cross-culturally is super fun when two people are right for each other but there are more complications!
So you're saying have a fetish?! 🤣
@@d.auge21 what a Dumb response
I think your response is very insightful and thoughtful. Ignore the comment of the idiot dauge21
Don't lie you never dated a single Japanese person
This topic seems to be recurring in your videos Takashi, not to say it is not interesting, but can you interview more Japanese guys and try to dig deeper into their motives for not wanting to date foreign women? Also it also seems to me that there is a very strong stereotype around what type of women Japanese men are only interested in. Like usually they will say: blond, petite, big blue eyes etc. Yes, there are many foreign women who look like that but there's also many many more who don't.
Yeah I gotta do this with Japanese men next time!
I mean Asians usually go after white people they don’t like other ethnicities
They like who they like . Not every has to or wants to date other races.. if white girls n Japanese girls is what they like I can't blame them their beautiful but latina woman are also the most beautiful too me
@@angelgomez7081 That too, it must be hard for ethnicities other than white to date in some of the Asian countries.
The answer is in-group preference. Just is what it is bro. Most people date ppl that look like them.
🎉❤😊 In my humble personal option - by the way, I was born and raised in Japan like regular Japanese people up to college and got the first two jobs here, and I moved to NY to live for 12 years working for a global firm - the reason why foreign women have hard time finding Japanese boyfriend is three-fold:
1) Japanese cultural aspect: Japanese education, either informal or formal, teaches us the traditional roles of man and woman and their “normal” relationship. These days we younger generation feel differently, but only until recently, the stereotype that men are bread winners and protect his family was (still is?) shared very widely.
2) Stereotype: This comes from “island nation mentality”. It is researched for decades that island nation people tend to anticipate too much difference from foreign countries. This could lead to the mindset of Japanese guys that foreign woman think and behave totally different from Japanese counterpart.
3) Japanese sensitivity: Again, we have been taught throughout whole education system that harmony is very important in the society, we should not stick out, we must not bother others, etc. So when it comes to dealing with foreign girls, the first thing that comes to our mind is, “I don’t want to do anything insensitive to this foreign girl. I got to be very careful because she is from a total different culture.” Then we could end up moving so slow that it would frustrate them.
Conclusion: How did you take all the above? Do you think Japanese guys are weirdos? Japanese guys hate foreign girls? I hope you didn’t feel that way. They (we) are willing to date with foreign girls, but lots of things like above surrounding us hinder us from speaking straight, taking things forward, or doing things that foreign girls expect. But look. We all are just trying to do the right thing…maybe little bit too Japanese way, but still it all is coming from a good place. Maybe I hope you understand what’s going on Japanese guys mind, be little (more) patient and push gently so that you can foster precious relationships. I promise! 😉
Why has Japan adapted to the slave muzzle so quickly!? I can't understand. We were not designed to breath this way and serious health complications can and will arise. Please make it make sense!
First few mins into the video, I just love the way the first girl talks!! She's so eloquent and puts her thoughts so nicely :D
I think i am getting better at understanding Japanese becuase I can understand parts of the sentences without looking at the subtitles and that's exciting even if it's just a really small improvement. Really great content.
I'd assume it's easier for foreign men to ask out and date japanese women because of how direct and confrontational they are. Men are usually the ones who initiate the relationship and so it makes sense that foreign men initiate relationships vs foreign women who don't.
When I was in Japan last month, I noticed a lot of Japanese women with foreign men, but not the vice versa. I didn’t think I’d plan to re-visit Japan next year.
its mostly the left over women the Japanese guys don't want or dont care about.
Immigration should be quickly banned. No need for anyone to come.
When you say foreign men, do you only mean white men? Or did you see a lot of black or brown men dating them too? Just curious.
@@gimi2395 i’d say white men for the most part, but I did witness other ethnicities with Japanese women as well.
It's wrong. According to 2016 statistics, 70% of all international marriages that year were couples between a Japanese man and a foreign woman.
very articulate interviewees and varying ranges of experiences make this interview interesting
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These videos are very helpful, I’ve never been to Japan before, but I do want to visit & see what it’s like . The videos help me understand how people are in Japan so I can better prepare myself .
Great video! I especially liked the last interviewee. Always enjoy your videos. Thank you for making them!
My whole school age, there have always been some girls in my class who have been crazy about Japanese and Korean men because of j and kpop. I know a couple of Japanese men who have Finnish women and live here in Finland.
We admire your improvement over time. We hope to see this channel get further recognition along the way.
This dude manages to hit every good and helpful videos everytime. Keep it up🤝🏻
Hey, Takashii. I've been watching your videos and I have one curiosity about Japan and Japanese culture: what preconceptions we foreigners have that aren't actually true about Japan? For example I always thought that working there would mean to sacrifice a lot of your personal life. Does that still apply in current times? Thank you for your videos and your eventual answer.
Please more videos of this subject! Soon I'm traveling to Japan for 4 years and I need to know
6:30 "do you speak japanese with your partner?"
* sigh *
Takashi * laughs * 😂😂
very informative and fun video as always 👌actually in my case im from portugal and i've had two "boyfriends" (not quite) one from finland and one from venezuela but i never had dates or anything with portuguese guys , i find that they kind of play hard to get and it's easier to vibe with foreigners. Maybe Japanese girls think the same
A onde é que moras?
Madeira? Japão?
I love this channel and how polite and elegant both you and the people being interviewed are
I always enjoy these videos. From experience I think it’s extremely hard to date a Japanese guy if you’re foreign. Not impossible, but way harder than it is for guys here. ESPECIALLY especially if you aren’t white. A lot of guys just want to show off that they’re dating a foreigner…. And maybe girls have the same idea. But it’s pretty rare to meet a Japanese guy who will be serious with you. At least in my experience.
The Italian girl is so easy to talk to, wise and pretty, I'm in awe!
Been living in Japan for 24 years in various prefectures including Tokyo and the most common reasons I get from my japanese friends on why they don't really want to date a foreign woman are because of the language barrier, cultural differences, preferences for the average japanese woman's body type/attitude. A lot of their shyness in being expressive towards a foreign woman comes mostly from the fact of the language barrier being the primary concern rendering them unable to communicate their thoughts and expressions articulately in a way that their foreign partner would understand, cultural differences play as a crucial factor too in making them overthink what you may like during a date since both were raised in a different culture and a different environment. Too much effort plays into the game of dating a foreign woman that most that I know just settles down for a japanese woman and lives happily. This line of thought also applies for japanese women as well but as far as i'm concerned, there happens to be more gaijin hunters for japanese women as compared to japanese men, that's why there's way too many cases of japanese women dating foreign men for a period of time before settling down with a japanese guy, dating him and eventually leading to marriage. A lot of them do it for clout within their social group, and more reasons.
You dont understand,the girls that go to Japan think they're going to find some bad ass anime character 😭😂😭and they totally dont
Yes my J-hubby thought it'd be ok with me cuz I'm half-Japanese but born in NY, I don't speak much Japanese though. He didn't date much so when we butted heads he'd get so upset and say his next wife will be Japanese. I have more a voluptuous Western body and he was often telling me he prefers Japanese body but not too skinny. His first wife was Romanian and he said was an animal that screamed and swore and hit and punched and kicked him BUT after one year with him, he can be so aloof, arrogant and blunt I can understand her feelings, especially the Japanese man that shows no emotion and when mad is cold as ice and ready to divorce you in a heartbeat if you don't agree with him. Luckily, after dueling with my hubby and trying to stay present he has grown up some and we have grown closer and warmer BUT he still has this scary side that's hard to understand but its getting less and less. They are so f# secretive and independent, some of them at least. I heard of that vegetable type and wonder if that'd be a better match BUT what I like about mine is he will speak up and express. One of my ex friends hubby couldn't say anything if they got delivered the wrong meal. One thing I notice is Japanese men seem to be willing to wonder lost for hours vs asking for directions.
My thoughts exactly. It's a combination of things but the root of it lies with the language barrier. It definitely makes a difference if the guy in question has had a lot of experience going or living abroad, though. Those Japanese guys are much more likely to take dating a foreigner seriously.
@@johnkin7219 That's not even remotely true...
"preferences for the average japanese woman's body type/attitude."
Western and European women are considered "fat" in Japan. I'd say that's a no-win situation.
Very informative and really good topic that can give an insight not just for Foreigner Girls itself but generally for "some" other Girls outlook in terms of relationship hehe
It's also funny to see the Washington girl talk about how well planned the date went. Japanese people like to plan everything, every detail so you know exactly what you'll be doing and when, to have the best experience. It seems they have no understanding of things like "chilling" or "hanging out" (spontaneously)
Asian women don't like black men
In the 90s when I was young and lived in Japan, I dated Japanese men. Some were very sweet, and I was so stupid to dump them (I really regretted it later). Others, I asked out and they said no, saying they're not interested in foreigners (I remember one guy said there was too much culture difference). I think back then one problem was the gender roles. A direct, opinionated foreign woman who doesn't know how to cook etc. was a put off for some Japanese men. I remember one guy, a coworker, whose apartment I was visiting, asked me to make tea. I didn't know how to and didn't. He hated me after that day, LOL! But I think things are getting better now in that aspect. ALSO, many Japanese men are very shy. Vs foreign men less shy and more easily ask Japanese women to date.
This is how I felt dating in Japan. I was very “モテる” as in popular in Japan but I never felt they took me seriously, I was just the token pretty foreigner girl who they wanted to drink and party with but not show off to mom lol. I had one serious relationship in my 4yrs living in Japan with a Japanese guy but that’s because he lived in America for 4yrs and was open minded and spoke English.
Why did you break up, what happened?
@@nikolavojnovic6552 I went back to the states and he wanted to stay in Japan. I didn’t feel like my husband was there, I feel I have better & more options in the US.
sorry to say but its because you're not white/japanese so not considered serious prospect
@@CWalthallBrand Lets meet halfway, come to Europe.
@@CWalthallBrand There's your answer as to why foreign women aren't taken to be serious relationship material in Japan
Lowkey I hope I run into Takashii someday while roaming Tokyo 🤣 he’s one of the best casual honest interviewers on YT right now
Great video, Takashi; you should make a video interviewing people on how they got their jobs in Japan since almost everyone who watches your video all wanna one day live In japan
seeing the non-japanese people speaking a little bit of Japanese is really inspiring! It makes it seem like I could learn even though I think the language is impossible!
the only difficult part of japanese is the written part. The grammar is very easy and most of the time you will just waste hours trying to remember the formal version of a phrase
If you think like that then it will be impossible. It IS very difficult though due to kanji but you can learn to speak well w/out it, just likely won't reach fluency. Gambatte!
I had the same thought. I speak German fluently,Born and raised in Namibia 🇳🇦, but lived in Austria ,was married to an Austrian. My kids speak German,obviously, but I think it won't hurt to learn Japanese. Getting more interested by the day.
Tulip ❤ no worries ma’am, I hope Japan is treating you well :)
Wonderful topic and well done. One thing that you must keep in mind here are the statistical numbers of foreign men to women in Japan. In the US, more Japanese woman come to the US than men. In Japan there are more western men than western women. So it would statistically make sense that there would be more western men with Japanese women couples . However, when I was working as a high Japanese teacher in the US, we had a lot of US moms with Japanese husbands. I went in a lot of nomikai with these men. They all worked at Japanese companies around the area. So that area had a lot of Japanese men with US wives.
It’s kinda similar when foreigners especially non west born Asians are in the West. Cultural differences
Asian women don't like black men
Following Western women's logic, Western women do not actively approach Asian men living in the West simply because they are shy and lack confidence.
You should ask Japanese women/men about their dating styles (how they approach dating and love) in Japan! :)
I haven't gone to Japan yet but I have been in South Korea. As a brown woman, I went on dates but they just wanted to have a "fun, exotic" experience. I would see other white expats like Americans, French, or other Europeans have more success in getting attention, dating and relationships. I will just say it white women have it easier in foreign dating and so I am not surprised watching this video that the white women are the ones in relationships. Unlike brown and black women, we are beautiful too but we aren't the ideal beauty over there unfortunately.
Aren't we talking about gender roles here? I feel like Japanese people in general are more shy than Westeners or at least perceived like that because of height and style. A woman that's more shy than her partner is "cute" because he can take care of her. I've heard that Japanese men are raised to take the lead and girls to be led. So if their bias is that foreign women are assertive and dominant it's not going to work beyond sex. Also beauty standards. Even slim Western women could be perceived as fat in Japan.
I've been wanting to move to Japan as an English teacher, but the salary holds me back. Your videos motivated me to say "f&%k it, let's do it!" Money comes and goes, but you only have a certain amount of time to live your dreams. I'd rather take a paycut while crossing off an item off my bucket list, than be miserable and bored in my 9-5
I did it and I highly recommend the experience! Working in Japan sucked, and stressed me out ngl. But after work hours I had the best time of my life just exploring the streets, the culture, and the language. It really opens up your world. I would do it again.
I've worked and lived in Japan for a few years and honestly, the work life sucks and I mean really bad. My first job was extremely bad, but my second job was actually okay but the pay was awful. I worked both in an Eikaiwa (an after school English conversation business) and as an ALT (Assistant Language Teacher) in public schools. For me I'd recommend working as an ALT. The pay isn't great but you get a lot of downtime, less stressful than an Eikaiwa, more holidays, the hours are better if you don't like leaving work late at night, and sometimes you get a personal car depending on your placement. Learn as much Japanese as you can though because it will definitely make things easier especially since they usually place you to work in countryside areas. It's fun though, depending on your job, and you'll either want to come back home or never want to go back to your home country.
@@brianc21324 go back to your country. Garbage
going to japan? to work? I have only heard other people's experiences but they all mostly say that work culture over there will take a toll on you
@@yourlocalhuman3526 not just to work. To experience life and culture
Tulip is a nice name. In Hebrew for example it's common to name after flowers, for example רקפת Rakefet could be Cycla (Wild Cyclamen persicum).
I think most international marriages are foreign bride Japanese groom. Many of them were in rural areas: the Japanese oldest son inherits the farm, and they "import" a wife from a neighboring SEA country. As a result in the local 公民館 you often hear more Tagalog or Chinese than Japanese spoken. Is this not still the case?
Good videos and great interviewing. Many of us in the west are very curious about Japanese culture and it's interesting to see foreigners sharing their experiences there in Japan.
I literally watch your videos just cause of how clean the streets are and beautiful it is don't get me wrong the videos are good too but god damn Japan is beautiful
Actually in fact, more Japanese males have foreign marriage partners than Japanese females. You can google for the data. Anyway, Japanese guys tend to date/marry other East Asian women than Western women. BTW for Takashii's foreign female viewers, you should also have interview sessions with nice-looking Japanese guys. haha
I’d be interested to see the same interview with foreign women who can actually speak some decent Japanese. Would be more relatable for me
thx for making this video for Takashi. As a japanese teenager guy this topic is really interesting. actually i'm interested in having relationship with foreign girls but i always wonder if they cah have interesting to me as well . then i really tend to be shy and not to try to talk to them. i don't have opportunity or brave to make foreign friends. but i think i should try to speak to them more open or extrovert earlier😅
All the best for your dating life plus your road to being able to an extrovert .👍🏻
From all asian countries i find Japan as the most Wanted in my interests in every aspect of culture food and people
That was really good one my friend. I from Burma i always want to visit to Japan but till now it just a dream.
Dude your videos are always really good quality! I love your content and also your question you put are very informative! Also how respectful you are as an interviewer!!! Keep it on ‼️‼️
I started loving Japan just after this work performance, though I’ve been a fan Of the Samurai history (especially the 47Ronin). I love your Culture and working on my Japanese Lol.
This is very interesting Takashii... it's informative and insightful about the genders in your country. Thanks for using subitiles where the conversation swithed to Kanji. You are going in like a studied academician into each of your interviews, in pro-mode 👍
The last person you interviewed seemed the most intelligent and self-aware. Thanks for these interviews.
As a fellow Asian man, although not Japanese, I always appreciate the contents of this topic. Recently, I've been very pessimistic about how foreigners, particularly foreign women, think about Asian men. Even though I've yet to travel to other countries, live in a city with lots of foreigners, or am actively looking for a partner, seeing more and more women of my ethnicity getting western partners while the other way around rarely happens both in real life, in most western media and even some eastern media makes me feel conscious about being an Asian man. What if, one day, I have to go abroad and live in a western country? Will I not be able to find a partner at all? I always assume for myself that women, regardless of their ethnicity, find Asian men to be less attractive or not as masculine as men of other ethnicities. This always let me down, and as I mentioned, the media, mostly the western one, might have solidified the stereotypical idea of the western man-Asian woman couple. This video, however, has given me some new insight and thoughts that make me feel more relieved, and seeing foreign women with an Asian partner always raises my hope and faith in humanity as it brings us closer to achieving ethnicity, or, should I say, racial equality.
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It's a very good question. I have middle eastern background from both parents and I am living in Norway. Many of my foreign friends are dating their own ethnicity in Norway. It's not always we see so many mixes between local ethnicities and foreigners compared to foreigners with dating their own ethnicities.
@@TrulyEminent Asian women don't like black men
@@clarencegilkie7369 I think people under 30s dont judge after race no more. It's more your nationality. I'd think a Asian woman have a higher chance of falling in love with a black american man compared to an african man from Nigeria.
@@TrulyEminent most immigrants date with their own ethnicity. All people tbh
I lived in Tokyo a long time ago. I have so many, many stories of Western women dating or married to Japanese men, including me. I wonder what changed.
wokeness happened
@@lordbetty4806 Definitely the men at that time were assertive and unafraid to approach a non-Japanese woman.
Feminism and social media.
@@lordbetty4806 that's the film industry. There is no correlation
@@VictoriousSage care to elaborate?
It's hard to tell if this is about "race" when there is no interview of women who are the same race as Japanese. For example, one of the largest group of foreigners in Japan is from China. The Chinese and Japanese are the same race right? So what is it like for Chinese women dating Japanese men in Japan?
Takashii-san: may I say: you do an excellent job as an interviewer-you stimulate interesting, thoughtful and honest answers from people-both Japanese and foreigners!
6 hours EVERYDAY?! amazing what people will do to get achieve what they want.
The Californian girl was the best of all in the interview, period! So inteligent, calm, smiley and the way she speaks and explains about her achievements in Japan, specially in Japanese, is so gracious! Her Japanese boyfriend is so lucky!
She's rare for a western woman. Not getting a tattoo because her boyfriend doesn't like tattoos. Most western woman will simply get one with a middle finger to boot.
MAYBE she left her woke bs values at home and that is why she got a boyfriend.
@@frkzoid lol sure but what would happen if she already had one. Would that be a deal breaker for him? He's very lucky for sure
@@frkzoid My thoughts exactly. Nonetheless the man is very lucky.
I felt the same when I tried to date in Japan, no one wants to have something serious 😅
Thank you TAKASHii!!! Your videos are awesome man, I always love watching your videos and I always watch them from start to finish. You have a great interviewer personality
I love your channel..Im learning japanese right now and everytime i fell like quiting your channel motivates me..
This is a really good interview, enjoyed it and was very informative. I liked all the women that were interviewed and what they had to say. Would like to see a more in depth interview of Japan men dating foreign women. Also the type of women they like to date, are drawn to and why?
I just subscribed to your channel! Also find the comment section interesting.🙂🤔😏
Interesting video! Looking forward to hear on what have men have to say on the dating culture as well.
Stay tuned!!
Yeah, I'm more curious to hear from non-white men because so many of Foreign Dating videos for Men just show white men, who have completely different experiences compared to non-white men.
Thank you for this video. Great content & VERY relatable!
I agree that it is very difficult to date Japanese men as a foreign women in JP.
I am from the U.S. and have been in JP, (Okinawa),for over 6 yrs. In that 6 yrs, I have been on many dates, but only ONE of those with a Japanese man. All the other dates have been either half Japanese, half American or Filipino.
As an American woman very much attracted to Asian men, this has been frustrating for me. I don’t know if it is a language barrier issue, or if I come off as intimidating or unapproachable as an American. (I hope not)
So yeah, I think it is MUCH easier for foreign men to date Japanese women than the reverse. But I’m hoping it will get easier since I plan to remain in JP. Such a beautiful culture & people! :)
How's it going now?
that's why I don't like going on dates. If you are looking for a serious and straightforward relationship, you should start being friends with them first. Knowing them as a friend can give you an insight into them as a partner. I'm 26 but it feels like I am so old already, I don't want to have a relationship lol
Asian girls don't like black men
Once you're in the friend-zone, you never proceed beyond that.
Guys should not be encouraged to pursue that route.
@@independentvoter8710 yea. she jsut wants to have a rotation of guys around and choose the best. very nice female tactic from the west lmao.
Have you noticed that almost every one them tries to answer the question from the the perspectives of Japanese men?
Example: "Maybe THEY are not comfortable with their English", "Maybe THEY do not envision a future with you" etc.
If you are going to answer a question from the perspective of someone else, by logic your answers cannot be honest as you are speculating on someone else's thought which is impossible for you to know for certain. Maybe those women haven't really reflected on why they struggle to date in Japan from their own perspective, and that is probably why they are going to continue to struggle.
Just by common sense, if you are a foreigner you are going to struggle in just about anything you do compared to the locals - dating, living, working, etc. You want to struggle less? Try to learn the local ways of doing things, and try to be like a local as much as possible - speak their language, follow their customs, follow their DATING CULTURE, and so on, and that is about as much as you can do. It sounds like these women prefer to follow their ways of dating (their preference in looks, habits, languages etc) in Japan, and there is actually nothing wrong with that. They will just have to accept that they will continue to struggle, because their dating pool will be limited to the very small minority of Japanese men that are willing to show deference to the foreign women's preference.
lmao what an incel
I’m a half Japanese half American female who grew up in the US and currently living in Japan.
I was on a dating app before meeting my partner and I’d match with both foreign and japanese men but the Japanese men were very formal so it was hard to become friendly with them online. In the meantime, I had several dates with foreigners I met online and had dates with Japanese men I met at speed dating. They were pretty serious and seemed interested but we never got far since the Japanese men were very busy! They were very sweet and polite. in the end, I met my partner online, who I instantly fell for. He is Polish and maybe I am the Japanese girl in this situation 😂
Definitely because you are a Japanese girl lolol
Asian women have white fever
8:05 she's right! A foreigner in Japan has more in common with other foreigners in Japan than with Japanese, especially those who have never lived outside their own country!
Been really finding these videos interesting since discovering your channel. I definitely fully understand the feelings of the first girl you interviewed so its always nice to know I am not alone in having these feelings. Dating in Japan is hard! XD
I love your questions! They are so insightful. I wonder if it’ll be easier to learn Japanese as a native Spanish speaker
The pronunciation will be easy. I speak Japanese and learnt Spanish afterwards and it helps, ¡suerte!
HE STUDIED A WHOLE OTHER LANGUAGE SO HE COULD TALK TO HER FAMILY....IM GONE IN TEARS😭💗
Can't say specifically about Japanese, but the question of AFWM and AMWF difference in prevalence is universal. One of my exes is Asian-American ( I am white) and the complex he had about obviously Western (aka white) males dating Asian females was a palpable problem in our relationship. He was very offended due to the stereotypes, and couldn't even handle his own friends dating any girls in Korea (where we lived first before we both moved back to the States). He would point out and stare at AFWM couples. I know it's a bad double standard based on racism issues of the past that are SLOWLY changing. However, I was like BUT you are here with ME! Can we not be bitter and negative all the time? Can I spend a day with you in public in a diverse area and not have to deal with this?! I don't want to notice it...I shouldn't have to, THEY have nothing to do with US! He thought every AFWM couple was based upon Western preconceptions about Asian females and a bad attitude of the AF towards her own male counterparts (plus being greedy?). Can we not gawk and stare at STRANGERS we've never met though?! That plus his being ungrateful for staying at my place for virtually nothing, complaining about EVERYTHING, and hoarding my apartment out ruined us. One less AMWF relationship in the world as he couldn't appreciate what he had.
This is so true, they cant take white men date with Asian girls. And that was so f ed up, because why does he take that responsibility on girls that are not his, if you know what i mean. And it was not even only his country girls, it was ALL girls that looked Asian. It looks very ugly tbh. It made me feel like i was less than Asian girls. Its funny, Asian girls seems to prefer white guys over Asians, and Asian guys seem to prefer Asian girls.
That is just his lack of self confidence. East Asian men in general have that kinda problem but please don't blame them. It is our society that drives them this way. Too much negative things happened in the past that had to do with their history. I myself have even heard stuff like "Asian guys are not my cup of tea" and "Asian girls are easy." All these things don't ever happen to white males so they would think it is unfair.
Sorry to break it to you he saw you as a trophy or some object of revenge
@@erdibulku6848 It doesn't matter, he was a narcissistic loser without anything to show for the last 10 years living abroad.
@Halloween All Year Round Thanks for that, I like your sn. LOL