Traditional Expectations From A Desi Husband | Ask Ganjiswag #89
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00:00 - Intro
02:58 - Traditional expectations of a husband in a desi community.
21:24 - Outro
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Ye controlling log se bach k rahein. Akalmand log aapko career pursue krne denge.
You did right
It varies from person to person, my wife runs a side business and works as well and helps me out in almost everything.
I got divorced and then decided to marry a Lebanese who I met in Dubai. Together we moved to UK and I can’t thank Allah enough for my second marriage. I feel Non-Pakistani women are much more appreciative of love n care.
Couldn’t agree anymore
Pakistani women are brought up that way.. they need to progress from this mentality.
That's literally my own opinion about pakistani men. xD
100% agree
Pakistani Woman here! Pakistani women are much deserving of all the love, not all think the same. You got a partner which Allah (SW) had written for you. That doesn't mean that a caring, loving and financially independent woman doesn't exist because you weren't able to get one.
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I think he will find a Uk Pakistani girl to marry. Most work and get paid maternity leave. Then they can move to part time working to raise family. He needs to try harder to find a UK Pakistani girl. Good men are hard to find. Marrying another culture might sound glamorous but it’s not.The people that have married outside Pakistani culture end up missing Pakistani people and culture. Pakistani people snd culture is beautiful, but we complain a lot. Other cultures don’t complain about their cultures but once you get involved with other cultures you realise the grass is not greener, is a lot of work and they come with their own set of problems because you have to deal with all their siblings / parents etc plus they tend to have slight racism toward brown people. Best to pick the path that is more straightforward because most of the stresses come after marriage and you need a nice spouse to talk to and spend your time with.
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Congratulations on 100K
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This man talks like an inner core of a someone who is facing bad days over and over again. Thank you Junaid Akram for understanding and talking to people like us. Koi baat hi ni karta haa yaha. I am from Lahore Pakistan. yaha pe sab 1 dosry ki tang khainchnii ma hi laggy hotay haan. Koi issue resolve karny k lia baat hi ni karta, but thank you for talking to us. Maan ka booj halka hojata ha kuch had tak.
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kitne din se wait kar raha tha! Love from an Indian subscriber! And congrats for 100k subscribers!
Smaller video I like this. Back to old days of 45 mins videos and more frequency. That is better strategy I guess
Congratulation on 100k...
make a seperate video about this
what to ask
what to expect
etc
Junaid bhai As Salam O Alikum, suggestion from a regular viewer please make more content regarding your travel experiences.
Congratulations 🎊 sir for 100k subs may allah bless you
Yes, I agree,
I don't endorse the imported spouse concept either. It's a high-risk move.
You can’t change the fact that Allah make you responsible for financial provision. The solution is your wife should spend within the means you will provide.
Or Kia hi ideal baat ho you’ll get the type of wife you want who will share your responsibilities.
we want long videos ✌🏻
Simple advice to this guy. Bahi pesa banany py focus kro if you can't afford to properly marry right now. Why marry when you don't have the proper means.
Exactly ek taraf accommodating ban raha hai dusri taraf he is looking for an earning goose. Pregnancy/post-pregnancy mei bhi kaam kerwayega ke inflation mei baby expenses ne kamar torh di hai. He should marry when he can afford it. Aur larki nhi chahti bahar kamana to usko papa ki princess ke taunts marega.
When you have money
Buying a milk from a shop is the best thing
No need to buy A cow
@@a.bmin-ki3946 I do not like it but you are absolutely right if I have money why should I go buy a cow.
@@ahmedraza7749 like it or don't like it
But don't get trap to women ever
If Yu get money
Yu don't need women
Just eat a burger from KFC or macdonald
Never make a sandwich at home
@@a.bmin-ki3946 you are right brother now a days woman are just nothing but headache and they will cause you mental illness etcetera.
You don’t know how much that question speaks to me. UK pakistanis are way too conservative for me. Back home pakistanis have their issues like you said. Best would be to not just limit myself to Pakistanis but according to all relatives that’s not a possibility 🤣
while living Australia, I saw most of my Pakistani or non Pakistani friends who married to Pakistani woman. They all say same that there wives do not wanna work.
That means their wives are working at home. You have any idea how taxing it is for women to deal with repro issues, raising children, house chores without days off.
@@sg9889 I understand, but most of my friends don't have kids.
@@jawbrekaa but obviously their wives would be doing all the housechores NOT just because that's what they chose to but mainly because men esp. Pakistani men know nothing about house chores since their mothers and our society brought them up so that if you are doing 9 to 5 you can't help out your wife at all it is not your responsibility but your wife's looool but let me tell you one thing in Islam house chores are "Ihsaan" from a wife to his husband NOT wife's responsibility but our culture messed it up, if women are given relaxation and are told both of us will equally take care of chores we will do laundry together clean rooms dust off mop the floors wash bathroom cook daily TOGETHER she will have plenty of time to think about her career unless she was a barely passed student. Believe me EVERY human loves freedom Women are human they too like it when they earn for themselves they like it when they go out have a job and be productive. If only their minds weren't fed with you are the house taker your man knows nothing about house chores so focus on ghardaari rather than your career.
@@hafsahjawed.s9224 I agree with you partially. I don't blame woman only for choosing this way of life. Its our culture which divide commitments between both genders plus as a man who want to help his wife gets discouragement from our society. But when you have chance of living in different why our people don't follow what they want.
@@jawbrekaa I think it is the mental conditioning men cant do ghardari women cant do 9 to 5 after marriage my own family has this example despite living abroad because none of the men can think of doing house chores regularly bc theyr too tired so women give up their dreams n look after the houses and also maids are a bit too expensive abroad, and later women too start thinking that why do i bother myself and do hectic job and come back and cook and do laundry too and also look good for my husband who himself look like dead bushes but he is a man so it doesnt matter for him lol .. i think men should change and should learn if you dont want to be considered walking atm atleast let your woman have enough freedom she can do it herself and this can NOT be done by just saying yeah you can go get a job BUT actually supporting her by dividing house chores BUT again men dont know ghar k kaam because when we are 5 girls are taught every house chore and she does it even for her brother while boys .. not so much, desi people will forever be desi no matter the country
Wah bhai tommy ki shirts happy for your success
Yes this is good.
8:17 this case is from Germany block account and 10500 Euros wahi chahiye hotay hai.
The idea of talking to the guy/girl before marriage is simply not practical. People don't speak truth. Specially if girls try to talk about their future plan, guys run away and tell their parents who get offended. I talked to guys for 5 years for arrange marriage and most of them dont like girls with an individual personality. They want someone who is adaptable. So there is simply no point.
Isn't that a red flag itself :)
@@toxica6491 lol not a flag. It is a red sea.
Red sea😂😂😂, but yup, girl spittin' facts
@@Notsurewhattopick I am trying to say that there is no use of arrange marriage anyway, even if you try to understand each other. You are likely to get turned off.
@@aljaff2697 I wouldn’t say there is no use, because people do get great partners, it’s just that those people are very few.
I haven’t even gotten the chance to talk to anyone and wasted 5 years because the rishta aunty would only find 1 suitable person per year and out of those 5 people in 5 years only 2 were interested to talk and out of those 2, 1 was forced by his mother he had few gfs on the side.
The one I talked to, I had to say no within few mins because like you said guys want someone so adaptable, he wanted someone to remain in his (not state) but specific city, forever! 😳 Now I will be 35 so I just called it quits and told the aunty to not bother me any further. I wouldn’t waste time dating either from what I heard it’s far more scary.
Why don't you make a compilation of all the videos each Sunday.
بالکل علط۔ جیسے شوہر کا پیسہ میاں بیوی دونوں کا ہونا ہے ویسے ہی بیوی کا پیسہ بھی میاں بیوی دونوں کا ہوتا ہے۔
Kahan likha hai bhae, refference do
@@zarishgul6828 وہیں لکھا ہے جہاں یہ لکھا ہے کہ شوہر کا پیسہ میاں بیوی دونوں کا ہے۔
Love you Junaid Akram for 100 K
Great 👍
this is good roz ka aik sawal
Germany ka case hai,,,, bro same scenario and dilemma with me here in Germany
Bro desperately need help with the exact same dilemma that I am facing right now. Can you kindly suggest how you tackle this ordeal. 🙏🏻
You guys need to stop watching Netflix and video games. All the good ladies are out there.
Junaid Bhai late marriage sy bachun or parents ( especially father) main bohat Bara generation gap ho jata hy or un main bonding bhi bohat mushkil ho jati hy.
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scams of marriages. plz make video on that
After a long time I have again start watching your videos,while making fish & fries 😂 (kunna wunna phir kisi din) but absolutely love your content ❤
Islam allows meeting between girl and boy before marriage under the supervision of a ward from the girl's side
Everyone who is unmarried or about to marry reading this comment kindly apni family pressure mai aa kr bath na manai jis sai apka dil mutmaein ho wahan jain, cuz sadly most of the men and women of our parents age in Pakistan are mentally brain washed and frustrated. These frustrations will lead to a control behavior they will have and they will do everything to control you uper sai humari society nai chutyapay kai usool banai hua hain kindly parents ki baaton ko itni value na dein you have enough brain to choose a right partner for you or agr ap bohath conversative family sai hain to tora confidence lain apnai andr develop your personality have some hobbies career. When you evolve as a person you will know what to look in partner. And by all of this I don't mean marriage as late as you want but do it early but these were the factors important to keep in mind.
Well being single is best to live
Alhamdulillah I'm having a wonderful life
Marriage is a stress
I seen my brothers
They are in stress due to their wives
Can't divorce due to kids
Thank God I'm not in this marriage bullshit
I'm 26 I decided not to marry ever in my life
Once you don't have any relation wether it's halal or haram
There will be no chikh chikh and no tu traak
@@a.bmin-ki3946 it's not practical just look after some years and you will turn to 40 but your brothers kids will grown up and now they will live thier balanced life and you Will end up soon as a depressed and alone person you can't live your whole life alone after certain age it's a nature rule so plzz be practical
@@hassanmalik7331 bro you are right.
Bilkul , totally agree.. app jaha hai wahi k larka ya larki se shadi karai :)
big fan Sir
providing is masculinity instinct, there's certain joy in providing for family Allah have designed men that way & made him capable for it ofc that doesn't justify putting pressure on potential spouse and expecting that huge amount of money even before marriage its so wrong and greedy
Watching Landay Kay Angrez discussing thier problems is my new favourite mashgala
Ok Boomer
@@Billalr818 yes chooomer
Please make a video on Pakistani marriage scam for those living abroad
Congratulations for 100k
Seriously i was thinking the saaaame that day.
K orat ko wo admi chahye jo ghr k kam me saath de ya maid arrange krke de . Lekin orat ko khud admi ko financially support nahi krna.
Love big videos
Slaam!
Thanks
Mashwara : if that Girl is working woman and already got enough exposure tab that wouldn't be hard guiding her yaa samjhane me yes agar kisi ko Job experience nahi hai usky lye hard hoga na,, if you can Convince that Girl k wo yahan aaky Freelancing karlein Online working or home based job yaa badd me part times karlein Babysitting etc kaafi log Cosmetic products bhi Pakistan import karke Sell karte or As a husband ap help kardein or baqi kam wo dekhle tab shyad kuch hojaye hope this helps
Inter-cultural marriage, sadly, is considered a taboo among most Pakistani families. The lines have blurred but are still there among ethnic lines, such as Punjabi marrying a Bihari. This needs to stop.
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Only women, children and dogs 🦮 are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved, under the condition that he provides something. Chris Rock.
Bro ap aik hi upload Karan large length mei bhalay time lagay it's ok bro
haha one girl said no to me as she found me too religious.. is offering namaz too religious ?
Entitled piece of sh*t hogi. Agar sirf namaz pr chora to 1000 lanat us pr.
What?? She said no to you bcz you're doing what your supposed to do , the era we living in where people follow basic regulations of religion people find them conservative & too religious & judge them weird
I was thinking of marrying a girl from another nation
How are girls from Sudan/Somalia
What do you think
How do I get married to a foreign women whilst living and working in Pakistan, koi tareeqa ya totka hai to get foreign women?
I don't understand why a person who understands Pakistani mentality will go for marriage with a Pakistani Woman
Ikr. Same is the problem with pakistani women, these fools too looking for pakistani men.... like girl you better not marryyy than marrying a conservative pakistani dude
Turkish women can be an option😍(kabhi socha nhi ab bahar jane ki tayari kareyn😆)
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Pak me traffic to dono side se atta😂😂😂
Looks like an old recorded episode. You used to have this beard style a while back
Bhai shoro main kia bola us nay?
@@an_orange8911 Ik. I meant to say it looks like one of the old episodes
Make a simple marriage where you are, put that hard earned money in business to grow.
welll in many households don't even allow their girls to communicate with men. she simply doesn't know how to. so how will she do talk about such complex topics
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I was an Indian. I live in Sweden. Here we have a very negative opinion about Pakistanis, in particular.
Indians and Pakistanis always have negative views about eachother it's not a new thing but people in England are much more open minded I've seen Indian and Pakistani students living together
Change your background this one is not looking good.
Bhai background ko chor kr audio pr dheyan do
Agr koi uk m aik achi ladki jo whan Shadi k liy baat karskty hen,tu contacat kar saktyh
I agree with 1 video a day
But timing can be improved like 7-8
Koi faida Nahi dscus krny..most of the ppl baad mein Kuch bhi pora Nahi .uswaqt larki Achi lagrahi Hoti ahi tu HR cheez pr agree krlety hain baad mein HR chez hi Alag hojati hai
The title of the video should be "Exploitation of Desi Husband".
aj ek new perspective learn kiya k larki waly bhi islam k naam pe kuch zyada hi demand kr lete hain
Behn agar 10.5 hazar euro bhi maangrhe shaadi k kharcho k ilawa, upar se alag paise, tou ye faida hi uthaya jaraha hai. Sirf basic cheezon ka kharcha mard pe lazim hai, har do hafte ka jora lena islami haqq nai.
Junaid bhie in my opinion.
"The best person in the world is he who is religious While the worst person is the one who is a religious extremist"..
Therefore, in the matter of religion, we should be limited to our limits and continue to perform the basic duties of religion
Otherwise, in the matter of religion, to go so far as to force these beliefs on another minority or sect and consider them inferior, which will cause great harm to the society and humanity.
Being a religious fundamentalist and being a religious extremist are based on two very different philosophies and ideologies.
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