I appreciate y’all being transparent cause marriage should be something we work on with great intentions on being a good husband/wife in the eyes of the Lord. May the Lord continue to bless your union! #TheStews. #marriageworks
I can't tell you how this warms my heart that a young couple who knows marriage always needs worked on and always needs attention.. you don't just throw your hands up and quit after one problem. I think it is so sweet you both are consciously trying to make sure the other gets what their heart needs to feel loved. You two are the cutest couple and I wish you nothing but the best. Tough times will happen but together you will build a solid foundation and your house will be unbreakable
By the time you're our ages, 72, you'll have it all figured out, lol. We've learned that things we used to fight over just aren't worth it. We never fight anymore, we disagree sometimes but it never escalates into a fight. At our ages each day together is just a blessing. You have to put in the time, learn as you go but if you allow God to be in charge, not either of you, it's always about the love. I pray you two still love each other when you're our ages & still showing it openly. We still hold hands when we walk, we hold hands in church, we kiss multiple times a day especially before leaving alone, we kiss & say we love you. We never go to sleep without kissing & saying we love you to each other. Now this isn't a little peck on the cheek either. No, we still love kissing as much as you two do. We all grow old, but our love doesn't have to. God bless you three.
We did “the power of a praying wife and the power of a praying husband.” It is so important to utilize the tools that are out there. Thank you for sharing.
The 5 love languages is a great book. My husband and I have been married 36 years and love to hold hands, take walks and are still madly in love. The 5 languages are: 1. Words of affirmation 2. Quality time 3. Gifts 4. Service 5. Physical touch
I am 65 been married for 41 years today. You two are so far ahead of the game. Keep doing what you are doing. You are blessed to have each other. Stay focused keeping God close and on those love languages. Prayers for your family, that the Lord continues to bless you all.
Don’t Worry about the arguments.. your still communicating, don’t ever stop talking ❤️ touch is lovely and I’ve found after 23 years of blissful marriage.. I still love to laugh, cook, cuddle with my husband.. we’re still friends and love to hangout together 🥰🥰❤️❤️ Evan cleaning is one of the loving things you can do for your wife.. it’s the small acts of love everyday that make my heart sing!
The Five Love Languages is a great book! My husband and I read it when we were dating and it was really helpful. The online quiz is fun to take it helps you narrow down what your top three love languages are. I also recommend reading Love and Respect.
You guys are doing great!!❤ Yes marriage is work!!!❤ I've been with my hubby for 26 years and married for 23 years!!❤ We have been through more then most and learn and grow still everyday!!❤ Real Love comes after the newness wears off!!!❤ When you start being real and the real you Comes out! There will be rough roads ahead and storms and even floods!! Be a team! Commit to always listen and never judge! You should feel safe enough to say anything! You should be each others safe place! You have amazing examples around you!! Your family should get together weekly or monthly and do a marriage day merging and learning from each other with God at the center!! I love y'all so much your a cute little sweet family and you will do fine just keep putting in the work!! Like I always say y'all are my favorite and sending much Love!!❤
You guys are really setting a great example of what every marriage should do... You two are just meant for one another God knew you were the perfect match for one another, He’s Good like that...
My husband and I took the 5 love language class through our church during our “honeymoon stage” and it was THE BEST thing for our marriage. I find that ours have changed through each season - especially now that 2 kids are involved - so make sure to re-visit often. I love that you guys have shed light to this. I also love the “car dates” I would like to see more videos how you put that *spark* in your marriage. We love you guys!!
My husband and I have been married for 18 years and we’re still learning every day about each other. You two our truly wise beyond your years God bless you both and your beautiful baby girl and I hope you have many many years of happiness in your marriage and life God bless🙏🏻
I have been with my husband for 43 years almost 44. Marriage is hard but if you work at it and don't give up it will work. I love the wooden toys you have for Layla. Thanks for sharing! Have a great night!
Definitely not easy but everything worth having is. You have to work for what you want. There will always be bad days but we pray the good will always out weigh the bad. ❤🙏 my family loves you and thank you for allowing us to follow your story.
My husband and I read this book years ago! Such a goodie! A good way to find out your love language is in how you give love. If you buy him gifts because you thought about him when you saw it that’s a good sign you want the same treatment or when you make him coffee and breakfast make his day easier In anyway it may be a sign you’re acts of service. Same with all the others! Happy you guys are sharing this real journey of marriage! Marriage is not easy and has its trials! Going on ten years and currently pregnant with our 5th baby! It’s been a journey that’s for sure!
Hey Carlin to know your love language...generally you act out your most prominent love language to your hubby. So like if your always asking Evan to spend time with you then quality time is first, or if words of affirmation...if your asking Evan "how am I doing" then your words of affirmation. Hopefully that makes sense. We read 5 love languages during premartial counseling. Great book and totally helped us....21 yrs still strong.
Read that book several years back. It’s a great book and helps you understand more about your love language and your spouse’s. My husband is acts of service! My main one is quality time, but I’m like Carlin, all of them show me! I love words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch, and acts of service! Love watching y’all! Blessings to you both!
I just love that you guys love each other so well. You have a very sweet family. Keep up the good work! My husband and I just celebrated 18 years of marriage in June. We have 3 teenagers and I can honestly say that our family of 5 is the best thing of my life. It's worth every effort and that effort is not wasted. It does reward us with fulfilling and whole relationships. It just makes me so happy to see you guys putting all that effort in for each other and Layla. It is so worth it.
❤... you guys are awesome ... Marriage is work ... holding each other with a conscious effort to make each other smile is the key 🔑. Appreciation, gratitude and being kind 🙏 is a gift. Continuing blessings upon you. ❤
I love that book! Such a great tool for marriages and everyone should read it! You guys are the cutest thing ever and so encouraging to other married couples.
Love languages change over the years too I think Evan. Mine used to be physical touch and now it is definitely words of affirmation and acts of service (somewhat). :) That was definitely a hi (or at least the start of one)! Good job Layla! :) I love that y'all are such a God fearing family! It's so wonderful! :)
I agree. I use to hate physical touch but then mine changed to physical touch. I think it depends on the season of life you are in. A couple years ago I had an accident that left me disabled. During that time I felt very alone. So physical touch and quality time became my dominant languages. Maybe it changes based off what you need most at that time.
Anything worth having, is worth working for. Sometimes are harder than others. My hubby & I just celebrated 20yrs, and I'd still marry him any day of the week. You've got this ❤
Last one is gifts, but I only know that because it's my love language lol. I love receiving gifts, but I just as much love to give them. All the planning and thought that goes into giving a gift- love it!
Something to mention for ya'll. The love languages are amazing. Totally recommend. However, in this process of serving each other with them, it can lead to the mentality that if I speak your love language, you have to speak mine. It can become an entitlement,along the mindset "I'm doing exactly what she wants but she's not doing it as well in return" and therefore becomes a manipulation and selfseeking love. The 5 love languages are great, don't get me wrong!! But how we use them is just as important. With a desire how we can serve each other better. Great job guys!!
I have not read through all of the comments to see whether someone else has suggested this, so forgive me if they have. There is a quiz that you can take that helps you determine which is your primary love language. For instance, through a quiz with the "5 Love Languages" book, I learned that my primary love language is quality time and my secondary love language is physical touch. God bless you both and your little darling Layla! ❤️❤️❤️
As long as your willing to try to figure each other out that's what is going to keep your marriage strong.And I have all the faith in world that you two will always be willing to work on your marriage.
I Love that you all are reading that book, I recommend it to "everyone." It's not just good for couples in teaching them how to Love one another, but we can learn the Love language of everyone in our lives, especially our children, so we can Love them how they receive Love versus how we want to Love them. There is a "Five Love Languages" single edition that teaches this. I guess neither of you like "gifts," because that's the one you left out...lol. However, I believe there are six Love languages, because my Love language is "protection." Also, if you still don't know each others Love language, you can usually tell a person's Love language by what they do for "you," usually we Love how we want to be Loved. If someone always gives you gifts, it's because they like receiving gifts, their Love language is "gifts." Or, you can tell by what someone complains about. If someone always complains about needing help around the house, their Love language is "acts of service." You guys are great, goodbye.
GREAT, AWESOME, WONDERFUL BOOK! 👌 📚 I’m like Carlin: it's HARD for me to figure out my top love language or 2!!! I think I’m truly a mixture of all 5, because people have done all 5 to/for me in the past at separate times, & I still look back on memories for each love language, & STILL feel extremely touched & appreciative of that person showing deep love & care for me in that particular way! 💜 🤷🏽♀️ Evan, Carlin’s right: you are pretty perfect!! I recall in your vlog from a couple weeks earlier, when you all we're leaving your parents’ house at the end of your Labor Day Weekend there, that you helped her into the car & then shut the door for her!!! Most men FORGET to continue those ”tiny” chivalrous gestures after dating their special ladies for awhile! 😮 😪 So great job! 👌 💜
Also buy Carlin a roomba! I have a eufy off Amazon and it is AMAZING! the best thing I've ever bought myself. I felt so guilty spending that money on myself and my husband said...that's like me trying to rake the whole yard and not using a blower...when you put it like that hubs makes total sense!
My love language is definitely acts of service and my husbands is touch. Yes I'm sure your all say shocking, his is touch but this has been something we both have realized how different we are and what we both need
She favors Alyssa so much! Glad there being honest YT young family and spouses. Soo many YT make things are juts so perfect. Marriage is beautiful but it’s also work!!
I have loved 5 languages principles for my marriage (31 years and counting) and for my children too. If you can't remember 5 things, a wise church mentor told me 2 - men crave s*x and women crave intimacy, make sure your marriage partner is full up before you think of your own needs. God bless you all xx
You three are adorable!! Have you thought about doing the Love Dare? It's a book and I think it was a movie too. Working on yourselves and your marriage can only help all of you and Layla.
Actually, there have been numerous studies that say marriages where the husband helps with the housework are more likely to end in divorce.www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/9572187/Couples-who-share-the-housework-are-more-likely-to-divorce-study-finds.html#:~:text=Couples%20who%20share%20the%20housework%20are%20more%20likely%20to%20divorce%2C%20study%20finds,-Couples%20may%20share&text=In%20what%20appears%20to%20be,did%20most%20of%20the%20work.
Jennifer Lokken Iam saying house work shouldn’t be done just the wife like a lot of people think. Meaning it make sense if the husband helps out when he’s not at work.
Jennifer Lokken I meant every one in the house should pitch in for house work which means parents and kids when the kids are able to learn to clean up after themselves. Families work a lot better when everyone pitches in and does their jobs.
That book is very good. It helped me to understand a lot of things my husband does which is a good thing. When you stop working on your marriage that is when divorce comes in. Never stop working on your marriage and making sure the lines of communication are open. We are coming up on 36 years of marriage and still work on it every day.
You forgot "Gifts" lol! We are all of them but which one can you not live without? That advice helped me narrow it down to words of affirmation as my number one love language. Tell me you love me, need me, want me and why. Fills my love tank hearing encouraging thoughtful kind supportive words of what I'm good at or how I best love on others! But truly we need all of them to varying degrees to feel fully loved and received.
This is awesome love their nightly routine that’s a foundation to build on prayer reading a book not giving them a phone to go to sleep with I love it for them to be so young & grounded
Communication is one of the best ways to a good marriage. No marriage is easy but if you work together you can have a good marriage. We have been married 47 years and every year is still work.
Hey Carlin and Evan! I love your transparency, and also seeing the efforts you're making to show your love for one another. Shows Your marriage is important to you. You're off to a great start! Try hard not to let that get old. When you have time, check out MARRIAGE TODAY. It's a marriage ministry lead by Jimmy Evans. Lots of sound and helpful info.. You can find on TH-cam, or TV on Daystar. Oh and btw, if you didn't know already They have one (5 love languages) for the kids/ teens too! I love that you are doing this TOGETHER bc one person definately cant make the marriage be fruitful alone. There's a whole host cheering for you guys!! And I'm glad to be one of them! May the Lord bless your lives abundantly!❤
It’s so nice to see how you guys as a young couple are working on ur marriage. It’s nice to see that u guys keep it really and fun. Layla is adorable 😍 she is growing up so fast..:
There is actually a test on their website to find out which love language you are! Loved this video, thank you for being so open and honest guys. God Bless!
If everything Evan does makes her feel loved, her love language might just be quality time. Sounds like, ultimately, she simply wants to be with you, Evan ;)
Okay so I can totally relate to Carlin! I feel like I have seasons of a different love language being prominent. I just have to speak up and tell my husband what I need the most in each season. I love watching the effort and learning! Best of luck!!!
2 tips for finding yours, 1 take the quiz and 2, think about what you NATURALLY do to make him feel loved. you generally try to make other people feel loved by what makes you feel loved
Just recently watched your courtship episode of bringing up Bates. You and your family are such good singers you should do more singing on these vlogs you are amazing 🎶😍❤️
Very sweet!❤️ Many people don't want to put forth the effort to make their marraige better. You guys are doing some very wise things early on that will pay off later.
I just love you guys 🤗 You are the cutest little family. I look forward to seeing your videos. Laila is the cutest little girl. 🤗 God bless you all. Love you guys ❤
Marriage isn,t a bed of roses but god showed us if work on it everyday and one thing my mother told me never let the sun set on marriage.Saying sorry is a bad thing,thank you for your vedios .Your on the right path stay to God and read word and like your doing pray ,and pray again until you have an heard from the lord.Stay walking him ,I like watching you and Evan you or a blessing to me.
Good content! Keep focusing on Jesus and sharing what it’s like to follow Him and it will always be this real! Love you two love birds! And yes! Marriage is hard and work but so awesome in Christ!!!
Yup marriage is a job! You gotta work at it!! 26 years of ups and downs. Just think about the issue. Is it going to matter in 5 years?? Keep working at it! You guys are awesome.
I love that book. So good. Carlin let me tell you that your style is the best. You have changed the way I like to dress. I love your dresses and sneakers.... adorable.
I’m obsessed with 5 Love Languages. They have one for figuring out kids Languages and they have one for singles that’s all about different kinds of relationships. So use this knowledge for loving your friends & family better too. That’s what I do 👍🏻 There is a quiz in the physical book you can take to help you figure it out. I don’t know if they have it in the audio book though.
Gary Chapman came to our church back around 2002 and we did this book study with him. As I recall, we have a tendency to practice the love language toward our mate in the way WE ourselves like to be shown love. My husband loves clean car interiors, so he’ll clean out my car and expects me to get excited. But how do I show HIM my love for him?? By cleaning out my own car myself...so he doesn’t have to do it for me. ☺️💕
Love that book and it is kinda confusing to figure out the love languages. I kinda think they change by season of life. Before we had kids things were easier around the house. Less housework etc. Now with kids it's a whole different ballgame to keep the house/family afloat.
Never argue in your bedroom. That should be your safe place of comfort ♥️🙏 and "arguing is normal...it's "how" you argue that makes it worthwhile, or hurtful.
I've read The 5 Love Languages many years ago and it's a great tool for any relationship!!! We use the tools in our everyday life!! You will see!! Best of love!!!❤❤
Loved this vlog. Marriage isn’t easy you need to always work on it. I have heard about the 5 love languages but never tried it with my husband. You guys just gave me a great idea. After 17 years of marriage I think I have an idea but it would be nice to explore that with him. I love your vlog. Be blessed!!!
Marriage is definitely work. You have good and rough times. If you have people in your life with good marriages, they often make it look easy, effortless and like a thing of beauty. It’s definitely not for the faint of heart.
You can narrow your options down on your love language by seeing how you feel by others and not just Even. Sometimes when our hubby’s do things we jut eat it up because of who it is. Love you two!
Carlin, you can take an online quiz and it will help you figure out which love language or two is yours! It asks questions that don’t just pertain to your significant other. It helped me.
I appreciate y’all being transparent cause marriage should be something we work on with great intentions on being a good husband/wife in the eyes of the Lord. May the Lord continue to bless your union! #TheStews. #marriageworks
I can't tell you how this warms my heart that a young couple who knows marriage always needs worked on and always needs attention.. you don't just throw your hands up and quit after one problem. I think it is so sweet you both are consciously trying to make sure the other gets what their heart needs to feel loved. You two are the cutest couple and I wish you nothing but the best. Tough times will happen but together you will build a solid foundation and your house will be unbreakable
By the time you're our ages, 72, you'll have it all figured out, lol. We've learned that things we used to fight over just aren't worth it. We never fight anymore, we disagree sometimes but it never escalates into a fight. At our ages each day together is just a blessing. You have to put in the time, learn as you go but if you allow God to be in charge, not either of you, it's always about the love. I pray you two still love each other when you're our ages & still showing it openly. We still hold hands when we walk, we hold hands in church, we kiss multiple times a day especially before leaving alone, we kiss & say we love you. We never go to sleep without kissing & saying we love you to each other. Now this isn't a little peck on the cheek either. No, we still love kissing as much as you two do. We all grow old, but our love doesn't have to. God bless you three.
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The five Acts of affirmations are:
Words of affirmation
Quality time
Receiving gift
Acts of service
Physical touch
I love the Bates girls way more than the Duggar’s! I feel like they keep it real and talk about the normal relatable stuff.
Vianka ❣️ love their vlogs!
I knows its mean to say this but in my opinion the Bates girls are way more prettier.
They are also more relatable
We did “the power of a praying wife and the power of a praying husband.” It is so important to utilize the tools that are out there. Thank you for sharing.
Janice Moore I’m starting that book & study with my women’s bible study
The Power of A Praying Wife is an excellent book
Marriage is work! Too many think that they don't need to try.
The 5 love languages is a great book. My husband and I have been married 36 years and love to hold hands, take walks and are still madly in love.
The 5 languages are:
1. Words of affirmation
2. Quality time
3. Gifts
4. Service
5. Physical touch
I am 65 been married for 41 years today. You two are so far ahead of the game. Keep doing what you are doing. You are blessed to have each other. Stay focused keeping God close and on those love languages. Prayers for your family, that the Lord continues to bless you all.
You guys should check out The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller, it's an amazing book! God Bless you guys and fun video! ❤️
Don’t Worry about the arguments.. your still communicating, don’t ever stop talking ❤️ touch is lovely and I’ve found after 23 years of blissful marriage.. I still love to laugh, cook, cuddle with my husband.. we’re still friends and love to hangout together 🥰🥰❤️❤️ Evan cleaning is one of the loving things you can do for your wife.. it’s the small acts of love everyday that make my heart sing!
The Five Love Languages is a great book! My husband and I read it when we were dating and it was really helpful. The online quiz is fun to take it helps you narrow down what your top three love languages are. I also recommend reading Love and Respect.
Yes! Love and Respect is so so good!!!
You guys are doing great!!❤ Yes marriage is work!!!❤ I've been with my hubby for 26 years and married for 23 years!!❤ We have been through more then most and learn and grow still everyday!!❤ Real Love comes after the newness wears off!!!❤ When you start being real and the real you Comes out! There will be rough roads ahead and storms and even floods!! Be a team! Commit to always listen and never judge! You should feel safe enough to say anything! You should be each others safe place! You have amazing examples around you!! Your family should get together weekly or monthly and do a marriage day merging and learning from each other with God at the center!! I love y'all so much your a cute little sweet family and you will do fine just keep putting in the work!! Like I always say y'all are my favorite and sending much Love!!❤
I love that yall are authentic and don't put a filter on your lives!!!
Never give up dating each other and remembering what brought you together! Your family is precious
You guys are really setting a great example of what every marriage should do... You two are just meant for one another God knew you were the perfect match for one another, He’s Good like that...
My husband and I took the 5 love language class through our church during our “honeymoon stage” and it was THE BEST thing for our marriage. I find that ours have changed through each season - especially now that 2 kids are involved - so make sure to re-visit often. I love that you guys have shed light to this. I also love the “car dates” I would like to see more videos how you put that *spark* in your marriage. We love you guys!!
Aww. Layla's little pout at the end. Precious baby girl.
My husband and I have been married for 18 years and we’re still learning every day about each other. You two our truly wise beyond your years God bless you both and your beautiful baby girl and I hope you have many many years of happiness in your marriage and life God bless🙏🏻
I cannot get over how great Carlin’s hair looks! I love it straight and wavy!
I have been with my husband for 43 years almost 44. Marriage is hard but if you work at it and don't give up it will work. I love the wooden toys you have for Layla. Thanks for sharing! Have a great night!
You two are awesome! Working hard on making the other happy pays big dividends. Keep at it and keep reading/listening! 💕
Definitely not easy but everything worth having is. You have to work for what you want. There will always be bad days but we pray the good will always out weigh the bad. ❤🙏 my family loves you and thank you for allowing us to follow your story.
My husband and I read this book years ago! Such a goodie! A good way to find out your love language is in how you give love. If you buy him gifts because you thought about him when you saw it that’s a good sign you want the same treatment or when you make him coffee and breakfast make his day easier In anyway it may be a sign you’re acts of service. Same with all the others! Happy you guys are sharing this real journey of marriage! Marriage is not easy and has its trials! Going on ten years and currently pregnant with our 5th baby! It’s been a journey that’s for sure!
Hey Carlin to know your love language...generally you act out your most prominent love language to your hubby. So like if your always asking Evan to spend time with you then quality time is first, or if words of affirmation...if your asking Evan "how am I doing" then your words of affirmation. Hopefully that makes sense. We read 5 love languages during premartial counseling. Great book and totally helped us....21 yrs still strong.
Read that book several years back. It’s a great book and helps you understand more about your love language and your spouse’s. My husband is acts of service! My main one is quality time, but I’m like Carlin, all of them show me! I love words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch, and acts of service! Love watching y’all! Blessings to you both!
I just love that you guys love each other so well. You have a very sweet family. Keep up the good work! My husband and I just celebrated 18 years of marriage in June. We have 3 teenagers and I can honestly say that our family of 5 is the best thing of my life. It's worth every effort and that effort is not wasted. It does reward us with fulfilling and whole relationships. It just makes me so happy to see you guys putting all that effort in for each other and Layla. It is so worth it.
No one should expect you to be perfect. Our 'imperfections' is what makes us individuals. Thank you for an honest glimpse into your world.
❤... you guys are awesome ...
Marriage is work ... holding each other with a conscious effort to make each other smile is the key 🔑. Appreciation, gratitude and being kind 🙏 is a gift.
Continuing blessings upon you. ❤
I love that book! Such a great tool for marriages and everyone should read it! You guys are the cutest thing ever and so encouraging to other married couples.
Love languages change over the years too I think Evan. Mine used to be physical touch and now it is definitely words of affirmation and acts of service (somewhat). :)
That was definitely a hi (or at least the start of one)! Good job Layla! :)
I love that y'all are such a God fearing family! It's so wonderful! :)
I agree. I use to hate physical touch but then mine changed to physical touch. I think it depends on the season of life you are in. A couple years ago I had an accident that left me disabled. During that time I felt very alone. So physical touch and quality time became my dominant languages. Maybe it changes based off what you need most at that time.
Anything worth having, is worth working for. Sometimes are harder than others. My hubby & I just celebrated 20yrs, and I'd still marry him any day of the week. You've got this ❤
Last one is gifts, but I only know that because it's my love language lol. I love receiving gifts, but I just as much love to give them. All the planning and thought that goes into giving a gift- love it!
Something to mention for ya'll. The love languages are amazing. Totally recommend. However, in this process of serving each other with them, it can lead to the mentality that if I speak your love language, you have to speak mine. It can become an entitlement,along the mindset "I'm doing exactly what she wants but she's not doing it as well in return" and therefore becomes a manipulation and selfseeking love. The 5 love languages are great, don't get me wrong!! But how we use them is just as important. With a desire how we can serve each other better. Great job guys!!
the fifth love language is gifts ❤️
I have not read through all of the comments to see whether someone else has suggested this, so forgive me if they have. There is a quiz that you can take that helps you determine which is your primary love language. For instance, through a quiz with the "5 Love Languages" book, I learned that my primary love language is quality time and my secondary love language is physical touch. God bless you both and your little darling Layla! ❤️❤️❤️
As long as your willing to try to figure each other out that's what is going to keep your marriage strong.And I have all the faith in world that you two will always be willing to work on your marriage.
I Love that you all are reading that book, I recommend it to "everyone." It's not just good for couples in teaching them how to Love one another, but we can learn the Love language of everyone in our lives, especially our children, so we can Love them how they receive Love versus how we want to Love them. There is a "Five Love Languages" single edition that teaches this. I guess neither of you like "gifts," because that's the one you left out...lol. However, I believe there are six Love languages, because my Love language is "protection." Also, if you still don't know each others Love language, you can usually tell a person's Love language by what they do for "you," usually we Love how we want to be Loved. If someone always gives you gifts, it's because they like receiving gifts, their Love language is "gifts." Or, you can tell by what someone complains about. If someone always complains about needing help around the house, their Love language is "acts of service." You guys are great, goodbye.
GREAT, AWESOME, WONDERFUL BOOK! 👌 📚
I’m like Carlin: it's HARD for me to figure out my top love language or 2!!! I think I’m truly a mixture of all 5, because people have done all 5 to/for me in the past at separate times, & I still look back on memories for each love language, & STILL feel extremely touched & appreciative of that person showing deep love & care for me in that particular way! 💜 🤷🏽♀️
Evan, Carlin’s right: you are pretty perfect!! I recall in your vlog from a couple weeks earlier, when you all we're leaving your parents’ house at the end of your Labor Day Weekend there, that you helped her into the car & then shut the door for her!!! Most men FORGET to continue those ”tiny” chivalrous gestures after dating their special ladies for awhile! 😮 😪 So great job! 👌 💜
Marriage is ever changing with so much more joy then sorrow love ur little family u are blessed
Also buy Carlin a roomba! I have a eufy off Amazon and it is AMAZING! the best thing I've ever bought myself. I felt so guilty spending that money on myself and my husband said...that's like me trying to rake the whole yard and not using a blower...when you put it like that hubs makes total sense!
My love language is definitely acts of service and my husbands is touch. Yes I'm sure your all say shocking, his is touch but this has been something we both have realized how different we are and what we both need
She favors Alyssa so much! Glad there being honest YT young family and spouses. Soo many YT make things are juts so perfect. Marriage is beautiful but it’s also work!!
I have loved 5 languages principles for my marriage (31 years and counting) and for my children too. If you can't remember 5 things, a wise church mentor told me 2 - men crave s*x and women crave intimacy, make sure your marriage partner is full up before you think of your own needs. God bless you all xx
Love that Book! So helpful. Glad you two are going through it. A must read/study for every engaged or married couple. Thanks for sharing!
I cant!! Sweet lil Layla has the cutesttt hat I've seen on a baby! 💖💖
I'm so proud of you guys. I look up to you so much. God bless you and love you all. I will be checking this book out
You three are adorable!! Have you thought about doing the Love Dare? It's a book and I think it was a movie too. Working on yourselves and your marriage can only help all of you and Layla.
Husband doing housework is EVERY woman’s love language 😜
Actually, there have been numerous studies that say marriages where the husband helps with the housework are more likely to end in divorce.www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/9572187/Couples-who-share-the-housework-are-more-likely-to-divorce-study-finds.html#:~:text=Couples%20who%20share%20the%20housework%20are%20more%20likely%20to%20divorce%2C%20study%20finds,-Couples%20may%20share&text=In%20what%20appears%20to%20be,did%20most%20of%20the%20work.
Jennifer Lokken that shouldn’t be right though since woman are not slaves
@@Megz1794 No, what is not right is that you think house work of the home is for slaves and not just something that needs to be done.
Jennifer Lokken Iam saying house work shouldn’t be done just the wife like a lot of people think. Meaning it make sense if the husband helps out when he’s not at work.
Jennifer Lokken I meant every one in the house should pitch in for house work which means parents and kids when the kids are able to learn to clean up after themselves. Families work a lot better when everyone pitches in and does their jobs.
Love the 5 Love Languages! Y'all have the sweetest little family. I always look forward to your videos.😊❤
I have been married 35 years and am still learning. Much love and blessings from Kansas city Missouri. Hug that sweet baby Layla.💖💖💖
That book is very good. It helped me to understand a lot of things my husband does which is a good thing. When you stop working on your marriage that is when divorce comes in. Never stop working on your marriage and making sure the lines of communication are open. We are coming up on 36 years of marriage and still work on it every day.
Awww that moment when Evan startled Layla by saying her name was sooooo cute!
You forgot "Gifts" lol! We are all of them but which one can you not live without? That advice helped me narrow it down to words of affirmation as my number one love language. Tell me you love me, need me, want me and why. Fills my love tank hearing encouraging thoughtful kind supportive words of what I'm good at or how I best love on others! But truly we need all of them to varying degrees to feel fully loved and received.
This is awesome love their nightly routine that’s a foundation to build on prayer reading a book not giving them a phone to go to sleep with I love it for them to be so young & grounded
Communication is one of the best ways to a good marriage. No marriage is easy but if you work together you can have a good marriage. We have been married 47 years and every year is still work.
Hey Carlin and Evan!
I love your transparency, and also seeing the efforts you're making to show your love for one another. Shows Your marriage is important to you. You're off to a great start! Try hard not to let that get old. When you have time, check out
MARRIAGE TODAY. It's a marriage ministry lead by Jimmy Evans. Lots of sound and helpful info.. You can find on TH-cam, or TV on Daystar. Oh and btw, if you didn't know already They have one (5 love languages) for the kids/ teens too!
I love that you are doing this TOGETHER bc one person definately cant make the marriage be fruitful alone. There's a whole host cheering for you guys!! And I'm glad to be one of them!
May the Lord bless your lives abundantly!❤
It’s so nice to see how you guys as a young couple are working on ur marriage. It’s nice to see that u guys keep it really and fun. Layla is adorable 😍 she is growing up so fast..:
my husband and i have read that book 2 times now and every time we learn something new... Good for you guys its a great way to grow together.
There is actually a test on their website to find out which love language you are!
Loved this video, thank you for being so open and honest guys. God Bless!
Evan, your folding is so neat and tidy! Tbh-I just stuff my unfolded laundry in the drawer-push it closed, and forget it😂
Y'all are the sweetest! (love your pj's Carlin!)
Car dates are amazing!!! My husband and I have been doing tons of those since covid
You guys are inspiring to others your age...and all of us..thank you.
Marriage definitely takes work. After 30 plus years and 2 kids we are still working on it. Many blessings
YOUR BABY MADE MY DAY. KIDS CAN INCREDIBLY LIFT UP OUR SPIRITS WITH ONLY A SMILE ! !
If everything Evan does makes her feel loved, her love language might just be quality time.
Sounds like, ultimately, she simply wants to be with you, Evan ;)
Okay so I can totally relate to Carlin! I feel like I have seasons of a different love language being prominent. I just have to speak up and tell my husband what I need the most in each season. I love watching the effort and learning! Best of luck!!!
2 tips for finding yours, 1 take the quiz and 2, think about what you NATURALLY do to make him feel loved. you generally try to make other people feel loved by what makes you feel loved
Just recently watched your courtship episode of bringing up Bates. You and your family are such good singers you should do more singing on these vlogs you are amazing 🎶😍❤️
Very sweet!❤️ Many people don't want to put forth the effort to make their marraige better. You guys are doing some very wise things early on that will pay off later.
Layla is getting so big!!
I just love you guys 🤗 You are the cutest little family. I look forward to seeing your videos. Laila is the cutest little girl. 🤗 God bless you all. Love you guys ❤
Y’all are so cute I love watching your beautiful family grow. Btw, beautiful location!
Marriage isn,t a bed of roses but god showed us if work on it everyday and one thing my mother told me never let the sun set on marriage.Saying sorry is a bad thing,thank you for your vedios .Your on the right path stay to God and read word and like your doing pray ,and pray again until you have an heard from the lord.Stay walking him ,I like watching you and Evan you or a blessing to me.
You two are amazing beautiful parents 🥰 I just love watching your sweet family!
My husband and I have read 5 love languages devotional. VERY GOOD! Y’all are so cute!
Good content! Keep focusing on Jesus and sharing what it’s like to
follow Him and it will always be this real! Love you two love birds! And yes! Marriage is hard and work but so awesome in Christ!!!
Yup marriage is a job! You gotta work at it!! 26 years of ups and downs. Just think about the issue. Is it going to matter in 5 years??
Keep working at it! You guys are awesome.
I love that book. So good. Carlin let me tell you that your style is the best. You have changed the way I like to dress. I love your dresses and sneakers.... adorable.
Great videos! Y'all are a blessing. I would love to hear about how you guys learned how to manage finances.
I’m obsessed with 5 Love Languages. They have one for figuring out kids Languages and they have one for singles that’s all about different kinds of relationships. So use this knowledge for loving your friends & family better too. That’s what I do 👍🏻
There is a quiz in the physical book you can take to help you figure it out. I don’t know if they have it in the audio book though.
Its also available online I super suggest taking the quiz online.
Gary Chapman came to our church back around 2002 and we did this book study with him. As I recall, we have a tendency to practice the love language toward our mate in the way WE ourselves like to be shown love. My husband loves clean car interiors, so he’ll clean out my car and expects me to get excited. But how do I show HIM my love for him?? By cleaning out my own car myself...so he doesn’t have to do it for me. ☺️💕
Love that book and it is kinda confusing to figure out the love languages. I kinda think they change by season of life. Before we had kids things were easier around the house. Less housework etc. Now with kids it's a whole different ballgame to keep the house/family afloat.
Mine have totally changed throughout the seasons of life.
I just retake it once a year or after a major life change. For the last four years, I've had constant major life changes hence the once a year
Never argue in your bedroom.
That should be your safe place of comfort ♥️🙏 and "arguing is normal...it's "how" you argue that makes it worthwhile, or hurtful.
I've read The 5 Love Languages many years ago and it's a great tool for any relationship!!! We use the tools in our everyday life!! You will see!! Best of love!!!❤❤
5 love languages is such a good book! I use it with my marriage clients to help them learn to love each other appropriately!
Loved this vlog. Marriage isn’t easy you need to always work on it. I have heard about the 5 love languages but never tried it with my husband. You guys just gave me a great idea. After 17 years of marriage I think I have an idea but it would be nice to explore that with him. I love your vlog. Be blessed!!!
Y'all are just the cutest most wholesome couple ever!! Thanks for sharing your lives with all of us!!
You can be more than 1 love language 😊. I’m the same as you- words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch
Marriage is definitely work. You have good and rough times. If you have people in your life with good marriages, they often make it look easy, effortless and like a thing of beauty. It’s definitely not for the faint of heart.
some of my favorite vloggers!! there vlogs are so fun to watch!
You can narrow your options down on your love language by seeing how you feel by others and not just Even. Sometimes when our hubby’s do things we jut eat it up because of who it is. Love you two!
Driving around looking at houses has been my husband and i favorite thing to do when we just need to get out of the house.
LOL I tell people about this book all the time and I can never remember the fifth one either! Thanks for sharing!
Carlin, you can take an online quiz and it will help you figure out which love language or two is yours! It asks questions that don’t just pertain to your significant other. It helped me.
You two are really sweet!!! Oh, there’s a singles edition to the 5 love languages too, I haven’t read it yet though.
You guys are the Best,many Blessings ...
You guys are an adorable couple.. i love watching your videos...Stay safe and God bless ..
I just love you guys, Evan you are a great husband, yet you continue to work on your family relationship, this is great. Much love you.