Dr. Phil - The Malignant Narcissist (Part 3)
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NEVER give a narc information about your personal life! Always paint a rosey picture. Be upbeat and always in a great mood, even if you have to fake it!
Yup!!
Be boring = grey rock
Its always been used against me.
excactly and namely NOT on your first date with somebody..but if it's a narc he/she tells some pathetic story (lies) of their past trying to catch your emotional reaction..interest in him
My ex husband definitely this type
Words to remember: "If you take them into your confidence, you're giving them ammunition."
100%. They use EVERYTHING against you. They twist it and beat you down with it.
So true. Got suspicious of a sister years ago after I confided in her.
I was married to one of those. It took a restraining order to get him away from me. I never knew so much evil. And he’s not done with me yet. People like that should come with a warning label.
Be happy that restraining order helped. In many cases it's just a paper!
@@tyyneviljakainen5108 I could probably use one but feel it will only make them worse.
@@Coalforfun I recommend getting one. If not for yourself, for the woman after you. I feel it's the right thing to do. He should be branded.
@@tyyneviljakainen5108 Even if it’s a piece of paper, it’s on his record. He will think twice repeating his evil towards another woman.
@@samanthatruong8390 I put my foot down he's scared to answer me I gave it to him he knows if he ever says anything that will be his last word to me because out he goes and I mean it I took abuse from him but I had enough remember that movie Enough with Jennifer Lopez that's where I'm at and he knows it
"They put their personal pleasure above the safety and well-being of others." There simply are no words to describe the utter destruction and devastation caused by these individuals while they go about their business as if it's another day. Meanwhile we're sifting through the physical and emotional wreckage to see what can be salvaged, at the same time, concerned for our health, safety, financial future, living arrangements, children, grandchildren, pets, etc. I've seen abandonment, abuse and neglect of people, animals and property. I've seen animals and people put in life or death situations so that a narcissist can have what they're entitled. These individuals are dangerous and must be recognized. The problem is that this behavior is so unthinkable to the average person that we can't or don't see it.
My mother
Every word true …. This just happened to me !!!! They all should be arrested !!!!!! Our country must do something about these people they are true con artists !!!!!
So very literally true. They will Destroy you if given the chance. Believe it, please. I was forced back under their control when I thought I had escaped forever.
They actually get a kick out of playing other people.
Get away from them ASAP. Have nothing to do with them.
I've spent 11 years with a narcissist. The Mental part of abuse is the most horrible experience ever. I've spent 11 years in tears.
You need to get out but do it quietly
Those who have survived narcissist abuse are stronger than most. Take heart in this. You have lost your blinders and you have survived.
You only get one life ! Thats WHY they break you down mentally (so your not thinking streight enough nor mentally strong enough to say, enough is enough goodbye) - I left with a suitcase,my son + my dog. Leaving behind the family home of 15yrs + my families items of sentimental value. I had psychotherapy, 6mth of Trauma therapy, food + clothing donations from strangers but strangers from charities that cared + understood. I never thought i,d get out of it alive but here i am mentally +physically well (6stone 4 before i fled) now (8stone 4) Always remember - (its not your fault /you are not to blame) - 11yrs Tammy in tears is way to long. There is alot of help out there . PLEASE - dont give up on you. May you always have an Angel by your side to give you strength + guide you out of darkness. You are not alone you have all of us here.
Awww, bless you! Sending you lots of love ❤️
I stayed for 17 years
You have to leave them mentally
That's the only way it will stick
I left 4 times before physically
We have 2 children together
The more empathy that you have with them the more abuse with them! It will get you totally abused by these people! You are their victim!!! TOTALLY HORRIBLE
Im living it now...
@@lisamurphy7918 So sorry, me too 🙏🙏✝️🙏🙏
Wow! Seems to me that if you follow the tactics of what narcissists do is very similar to the methods most of our world leaders are applying right now.🌿
They prey on empaths. They crave for them. That’s where I finally understood why I was hurt by so many people I trusted because they knew I’m an empath and they wanted to control me. Not anymore. Boy do they get very angry. I don’t care. I’m done with their abuse.
DONT SHOW THEM ANY EMPATHY OR KINDNESS. ITS THEIR CLUE TO ABUSE YOU ALL THE MORE.
They can hold on the trauma that happened to them in their childhood, but expect you to forgive and forget all of the demonic, destructive, evil, convincing, disrespecting,
used, abused and misused things they did to you. It like, forget about that, let's start from here.
Only to do worse. It never over. Same mess, different day.
Hi there? Hope you’re fine and staying safe???
When you realize how someone REALLY operates, it can be shocking. When someone slowly dismantles your life, piece by piece, it is clinically insane and CRIMINAL ! Time for justice and financial restitution ! No one should ever go through this, because there is NO point or purpose, except to destroy someone ! Thank you for posting this !
Absolutely, they are terrified of being exposed as the monsters they are and what better place for that than in a court.
The US legal system is light years behind other first world countries like the UK where emotional abuse is now illegal.
@@goldilocks3593 France also recognizes financial and psychological abuse as offences.
@@jengable4888 I did not know about France. Thanks for the information.
AMEN
The most important thing and also very hard for most people to accept is that malignant narcissist know exactly what they are doing and chose to do it on purpose, there is no excuse .
This all is right on target. It is SO sad that you have to defend yourself from these evil people. Yes, I consider them EVIL.
I agree. They are Evil.
It sucks when it’s your family. Ugh, getting away from my aunt.
Yes most definitely evil minded!
They truly are! Can end up in incarceration.
But how is a personality disorder evil?
My father and my sister are malignant narcissists. My little sister is a covert narcissist and my mother was a covert narcissist. I am 66 years old and it has taken me all of my life to understand this.
My mother and brother are narcissistic. My mother was born in 1916. My brother was born 15 months after I was born and now we’re in our ninth decade. Just this last nine months has given me insight into why I married a supreme narcissist the first time and finally have stopped suffering the indignities. I am able to take care of my brother in a helpful manner without involving myself and my ego (or lack of it) at all. In his old age he has lost it all and he doesn’t even understand it. Isn’t it funny that our families tried so hard to destroy us and now we’re getting better? It’s not funny it’s wonderful that we can recover all very own selves in our older age.
@@DeborahCaldwell77 🤗
Intellectual Understanding any phenomena is a world away from acting on it. Best wishes and keep on walking.....
@@tundrawomansays5067 🤗Thank you
I remember the day I first heard the words narcissist and gaslighting. I started googling and a lot of things started making sense. There's part of us in our innocence that believe that deep down everyone is the same as us but they're misguided. Now I know that's not true
I have just end a 21 years marriage because of this. I decided I didn’t want to be a door mat the rest of my life to this man. I am 69 & going threw a divorce because he had me beat down. No more.
Good for you!!! It's hard but not too late. I pray you heal and enjoy the rest of your life.
Good for you.
Congratulations!
I applaud you for having the guts to admit it. It’s not easy these abusers know how to beat one up and then make nice. Not a true friend
Connie, God bless you and KNOW THAT IT IS NEVER TOO LATE!!!
I left after 25 years of abuse and moved 3000 miles away to start a new life. In retaliation, My ex started a TH-cam smear campaigns claiming to be a narcissistic abuse life coach and named me an abuser, he stalks me, financially abuses me by not paying on the house he stayed in post divorce to ruin my credit, filed false charges on me. Had me audited by the IRS and this is just to name a few . My ordeal has been so horrific and life changing, I wrote and released a novel about it.
Goodness grateful you got out the situations, may I ask you what your books called please and thank you.
What the hell........
He filed charges against you and than had the IRS follow .
follow you omg...
I am glad you got out of there alive. Praise God!
So sorry. Glad you're alive to share your story. I'm certain it will help others who can relate.
Thank you for a very accurate description of malignant narcisists. They are to be avoided at all costs.
Yeah but they sneak up on you, looking for another victim.
For SURE
They are HIGHLY manipulative and convincingly likeable when they want to be.
Yes they are!!
Was married to one. They are dangerous.
I hate how sometimes they get ANGRY without you doing anything. They can just WAKE UP angry and rub off their energy on YOU! EVEN when you did nothing and that SHIT makes me SICK!
They want power and CONTROL
Hi there? Hope you’re fine and staying safe? ?
Yes, they will dismantle your life. It’s hard to wrap your head around. Even the most trivial conversations will be used to get you. It’s hard to believe that others want to destroy you because you are authentic and have empathy. The damage they can do is really beyond comprehension.
They want to destroy everyone they come across. It’s nothing personal.
Absolutely true.6 months I've been heartbroken. It was almost a deadly situation. Been alone and staying that way. Take care
Spot on, Scott!
Especially when it's your husband..
Generation Alpha kids have terrible parents, they clearly don't know about morality and the outcomes and they create that type of kid. This is why Generation Z needs self-discipline and even the slightest, smallest, and most possible amount of dignity. I was born in 2006 and it's just cringing seeing my own school have fragments and the same mentality of a 9-year-old.
It's like half of the world today... Sadly.
I agree, there's an EXTREME RUSE in narcisism,; more than ever before.... It probably is half of the world today, and who knows if it's even more than half..
God help us all
It's because they are LIARS....tell 100 lies a day it starts to become your truth! We are all NATURALLY narcissists but then PERSONAL ENVIRONMENTAL CONDITIONS DICTATE & for some Monkey See Monkey Do... trauma's, drama's etc all play a part of these conditions & then THEY DECIDE LYING IS THEIR SALVATION, THEY ARE ENTITLED & EVERYONE OWES THEM....ive witnessed it happening & the PATTERNS are the SAME...I HAVE NEVER MET A NARC THAT LIKES THE TRUTH & THEY WILL LIE JUST TO BE RIGHT even when they KNOW THEY ARE
It seems way more than half.
Not a mystery to me the reasons why = 2 Timothy 3 👀
Isaiah 53 🎯
John 16:33 💯
Daniel 7:13,14 🙌
80% of the population is higher on the narcissistic spectrum than is considered normal.
There are people born into this situation. Whole families dealing with this. I didnt realize how dangerous my dad was until my mom died and he had to "abuse" someone else....I happed to get cancer, and I believe he thought I was the weakest empath of his harum; therefore boy, did I ever pay! He has done such damage and hurtful things to me with full intention even though he denies it. And the whole time he spins it all around and makes it look like I hurt him... My family sticks up for him no matter what, even though they know full well who he is and what he does. I have known for three years now, and I am just starting to recover from mourning the loss of my family. Meaning I can get out of bed now, and I do not cry every single day.
Distance urself.
I was born into a narcissistic family too. It was hell on earth!
I understand this. I’m glad you are doing better!
@Coleta: I am sorry to read about the abuse you experienced in your family and that your father abused you after your mother died. It is hard to “lose” one’s family. I am in a similar situation…my malignant narc “mother” tricked and poisoned me after I went no contact with her. I have an autoimmune disease. I didn’t realize how dangerous she is, although I know she is sadistic and vindictive. Two years later I am still recovering physically, mentally and financially. Loads of lies and smear campaigns from narc and flying monkey sisters (I did it to myself etc) I wish you all the best with your healing journey.
Yes its so painful and sad, but you've got this, God is with you every step of your day.
I had a horrible childhood because my mother was a malignant narcissist. When I was around her, I had to walk on eggshells. I never knew what would set her off. Looking back I realized that I was always in the flight or fight mode. My house was never peaceful because her and my dad was always arguing about anything and everything. I hated to sit at the table to eat supper with them because they would always talk about how bad of a day they had at work. They were never interested in how my day at school went. In their eyes, I could never do anything right. My dad was not a narcissist, but he did have an anger problem. I would get in trouble over the stupidest things like when I had to peel fresh potatoes out of the garden with a paring knife, I was yelled at because I was wasting to much potato on the peel. I had to wash dishes everyday and if I didn't clean a fork or spoon good enough, I would get yelled at and told to rewash it. When I got home from school, housecleaning came first before homework. The only peace I got was when I went to visit my sweet grandmother, my older sister and get to sleep over at my best friends house. I would never want to relive my childhood again.
The Enlightened Target has video's about Narcissism,she grew up with two Malignant Narcissists as parents. JazzyT.
Mix it with an Alcoholic temper
My husband's mother is a malignant narcissist. She is constantly collecting information to throw darts during family gatherings. She even secretly records people. I've cut her out of my life.
Once a person shows you their true colors, don't think they will change or become a better person. Keep everything to yourself and don't let anyone have your power or peace. I live by this because of personal experience, my mother and sister are narcissists. When they say they love me...I don't believe them because love shouldn't hurt nor intend to hurt on purpose.
Hi there? Hope you’re fine and staying safe?
Truth.
Often referred to as "The Destroyer" & official members of "The Dark Triad." My mother's a Malignant & I'm I considering getting her w/ a gift card for an exorcism for the holidays.
I feel your pain
I went full no contact nearly 30 years ago with my mom. Holidays are so much better without her.
I'm so sorry . . . but your ability to find some humor makes me smile. 😌
Lol
This is the twice impeached former president
I lived with this person for 30 years, wish this information was available back then, couldn't even get police help when he was so drunk he ruined me, my 4 children and his 7 children. Hard to explain to other people, he was so kind to everyone else, he was a licensed electrician, elementary school teacher, licensed social worker/ therepist, even an ordained minister, an abuser in EVERY sense of the word to me and mine and our children, finally taking back my life, I'm almost 70
It's never too late
No one believes the victim..we are criticized because they are loved by others..
My Father most Definitely was a Narrsicest. Me worshipped his Mother, pure Polish . And they would sit and Degrade every one they Could think of !! So sad that my Mom stayed with Him ! In her mind she had NO choice!! So for the Last 35 years or so They slept apart !! SAD
Sally Walden you're talking about an alcoholic. Narcissistic personality disorders or statistically 1 + 200 I personally believe they're 1 + 5,000
@sally Walden; you are a star, girl. A very strong woman. Our stories are mirror images. Proud of you.
I graduated from a top university in their medical/nursing program. The narc/sociopath said, "give me a break, your just a rookie RN". Attorneys who represented me during our contentious divorce said he was the most arrogant human being they had ever encountered. You're right Dr. Phil, he collected information for years to use against me before his discard of me for his friend's wife.
Yes, this is exactly what they do. Hurt as many people as they can on the way out. Sadly the friends wife won’t be seen as the victim until he drops her and she realizes that she was better of where she was. Be glad you’re free because nothing about them that was good is real.
If my Narc ex-husband ever asked “how are YOU doing”? I would immediately know that another episode in hell is imminent. And then he would scream “ but you were fine just yesterday, you are crazy, ridiculous, manic, etc…”
When he tries to ask me how am I doing he's not being real so I tell him straight up don't ask me shit about myself and don't speak to me I don't want to hear nothing you have to say because all he is doing is testing me for something about himself if he asks me something its its something for him to gain it should be illegal for him to speak to anyone
By the way I meant to tell you he sounds just like my husband
I was with a narcissist for 8 years that did the very same thing! It esculated to physical violence and that's when I made myself leave. It was absolute torture 😫
@@Leo-mr1qz he tried to hit me but I promise you he will never try it again because I put a ass kicking on him he will never forget
@@ecunningham2062 Good for you.
It takes experience in getting involved with these demons to develop your skills to spot them. Teach people the skills they need on how to spot narcs that's coming. Seems that narcs are everywhere and getting worse these days. Narcissism is a pandemic with no end in sight.
I promise me I would never again in my life get another narc I would rather die
@@wildbulbasaurappeared9679
2 Timothy 3 👀🎯💯
Which is why I avoid people often because narcs seems to be sneaking up everywhere I go. These crazy people out there. Scary!
I believe they are on the earth at this time in such great numbers is for the purpose of destroying empaths. The world needs empaths now more than ever. We instinctively see narcissists as damaged or wounded (as we are damaged or wounded) and we have a belief that by healing them we heal ourselves. It’s not possible. They are dark pits of rage who only want to destroy us.
Indeed. Seems to be . Social media, politics, polarization. Open discussion seems rare. Watching people comply is difficult for me. I feel for people around the globe right now. I do a lot of chi gong. This helps me to unplug and go inward for some self-soothing sanity. Blessings to all!💞🌍🌞
"If you get a promotion.... They take it personal.... You may not even work at their company!" SPOT on Dr Phil! My mother to a T
She was so envious of every success and loved to gloat on failures. Freedom comes when the parent does pass away. Just make sure there's not another one waiting to take their place! Rest in peace mother...we all are now too
I told a psych nurse something my mother had said to me, that my mom had couched as "caring", that made that nurse wince like I'd stuck a lemon in her mouth. That was my 2nd big clue that began my slow wake-up call.
They notice everything you are doing or what you are buying, then either they'll be trying to one up you (steal your ideas), make choppy passive aggressive remarks or question "oh, a new this or that? Oh, did you get a new this and that?" and just have to give their unwanted opinion. They are envious/jealous and can't stand for you to accomplish something or to have anything new, because in their evil and twisted mind they believe that you are not worthy or deserving of anything unless they say so.
That statement hit home for me. My sister was checking off boxes every. time something happened to me or I did something. She was ecstatic about my eye and facial injuries because I was always considered the beautiful one in the family. Then when I went to an emergency room I was given a shot that caused seizures. She stood right over my bed and mocked my face as it and my entire body went into spasms. I finally, decades later, realized how envious she always was and that she’s a narcissist just like the rest of the family and everyone I knew.
No One:
My Dad: You're never gonna make it.
Same. I hope you've found peace of mind.
I, unfortunately met this kind: envious girl-“friend(s)”, relatives, bosses and ex-partner. They work in a very covert manner, they fake they care about you, but they only want to know what are you up to so they can go ahead and sabotage you. I have been dealing with this for years now, isolated from any social support, while they go behind your back slandering you. All, out of jealousy.
Hi there? Hope you’re fine and staying safe?
Diagnosed PTSD on the count of a malignant narcissist with ASPD. Still recovering going on 6 years!
Hi there? Hope you’re fine and staying safe?
Even in the bible, we're not asked to forget what someone has done to us! We must forgive for our own sanity & happiness! We've been given a self protective mechanism, to avoid putting ourselves into a vulnerable position with the offender again! Forgive & move through! ❤
Thank You for this - so true
Agree wirh you. Let go.
This has happened to me over and over again now I stay alone I am 77 years old and I finally got it. It hurts very bad especially when it is your grown children.
Same here! I am older, too, and I totally understand! God bless and keep you.
@@repentjesusiscomingsoon1529 Thank you say a prayer for my peace of mind.
It's nearly 20 years since I distanced myself from my mother.
Her sucking vibe never diminished.
She believes I'm her property.
Lying and whitewashing never embarrasses her, it's like a sport.
Her character truly disgusts me,and my only ambition is to never be like her.
They revel in the power they have over their own children. Nightmare people.
I know this person.
I have not seen him for two years.
Then here he comes.
But l close that door and he knows this.
When God get u out stay out.
Pull your your self up and live l will never go back.
Absolutely Not!!!!
I’m leaving Friday! This time I’m never going back. I refuse to live the one life I have like this
This is scary true
Great video Dr.Phil!!
My Ex Malignant Narcissist is everyone of these points that you stated!! I traded my car in back in 2016 and got a Cadillac and my Ex first accused me with rage of flirting with the guy at the dealership because he didn’t want to go with me to go get the car in the first place🙄🙄!! Then when I came back home with my new car, he all of a sudden said that he deserves him a new car because he works hard!! Mind you that He never kept a consistent job driving trucks but I guess he was going to get that car anyways. One month later, he got him a BMW that he had trouble keeping up the payments 😬😬😬!! At first, I stepped in to help him pay the insurance on the car 🙄🙄🙄!!
Malignant Narcissist are “Very Evil”, “Very Paranoid”, “Very Envious”, Sexual Predators, Full of Rage, Stockers and “Very Delusional Individuals”!! Bipolar Too!!
They will Spit on you, try to undermine you, isolate you from all your family and friends, hurt you physically and emotionally, hold grudges, user’s, serial cheaters, pathological liars, very envious of other people always say that they deserve things that they don’t, never pay child support, lazy as hell, will steal from you, will manipulate you, gaslight you, triangulate you with other people, ruin any and every event and holiday, and put you in very bad and very dangerous situations!! Also lie about and try to downplay there childhood and family when entering any relationship or friendships. Malignant Narcissist in my opinion are the ones who always say that they have “Problems” with Mommy🙄🙄🙄!! Some of them wet the bed in childhood to there teen years too!!
I have experienced everything I listed above and more!!
These individuals are your worst nightmare hands down ‼️‼️
I agree with everything you said except wet in the bed. Adults who have been molested may wet the bed or people with diabetes who sugar is high may wet the bed. Other than that, you nailed it.
@@Rose-ez2fm I agree with you as well but I stated that Malignant Narcissists have been known to wet the bed in early childhood to teenager years. I know 3 individuals who have all Malignant Narcissistic traits and 2 of them wet the bed until they were 13 and 14 years old. Neither one of them were molested nor have diabetes to my knowledge. Bed wetting up to your teenage years is a sign of behavioral disorders. The bed wetting stops around 13-16 years of age. If bed wetting continues pass that time frame on up into adulthood then yes I think it would probably be something else like diabetes or something of that nature.
You are a very strong person
@@tammycooper7569 Yes she is and she nailed the narcissist like no other.
All of this and more. They lie and cheat even when the truth is documented, they forge names, changes expense numbers, and falsify anything for an extra buck. To the narc there is no moral compass and it all belongs to them. Then when you out them, be prepared for a full blown swear campaign of lies.
i am greatful i met a narcissist, it was a tumultuous, energy draining, mentally exhausting 6 years but I learnt, valuable lessons about the evil nature of human beings. Never again will i allow anyone to use, abuse my kindness again...
amen!!!
YES YES YES YES YES! The woman I dealt with in 2020, a "friend" and then turned straight evil. NO joke. She came for me, came after my family, my standing in my community, she reached out to my friends, former coworkers and future possible jobs. It was awful.
Going through this right now. It's just unfathomable that people like this exist. How did things turn out for you? Were you able to make it stop or is it still on going? I just don't know what to expect next!
Funny you should ask! This past week, yep, she had karma show up in a big way. Someone let me know because she is dead to me. Yep. Truth always comes out! @@joancampbell4180
I got suckered in by a malignant religious covert Narcissist. All these videos are spot on. You think you're confiding in a FRIEND, when all the while she's ascertaining vulnerabilities/weaknesses, as points at which to exploit and manipulate you. I got taken for $16 grand by her, for her son's "ministry." And I was a disabled veteran in a powerchair. I'm more angry at myself than HER, that I was so gullible.
They are wolves in sleep clothing.
You were not gullible, you were weak. Your physical condition made you vulnerable and that person took advantage of it. Seek out a spiritual source of strength to help you face these people in future. Unfortunately, they will keep coming. But so will good people. Learn to tell them apart
@No Turning Back Please don't be angry at yourself, these people are slick and they are wicked!!!! Take care, God bless you.
Yep you are describing my mother.
I had no idea Dr. Phil was studying my family... 100% spot on...
LoL! He was studying my mother, son and estranged husband too.
He's studying my family too.. yr not alone
Why do we acknowledge this in our loved ones but we can't see all this in Donald trump
@@estherfarris3802 Speaking for yourself? I have no delusions about DJT...
Lol nd sad but liked ur comment
If you say you're going to farmer's market with your mother, they take it personal.
I was married to one for 30 years!I have been single for 11 years now and I still get flashbacks from time to time!
Hi there? Hope you’re fine and staying safe?
Get away from them people thy are very toxic
Nailed him, Dr. Phil. I escaped over 25 years ago. Sadly, the kids didn't.
What I want to know is why after 25 year ago you, and 15 years ago me, we, are still looking at narcissistic abuse video's trying to find out any information of why we are still looking at video's years later. I want to know is there ever a time that victims heal and feel nothing toward the abuser?
Hi there? Hope you’re fine and staying safe? ?
This whole series on Narcissistic personalities has just described a few of my family members. Can it run in families like that??? Its almost scary how on point this information is.
My x fiancé tortured me Valentines Morning for 7 hrs. He became so paranoid when he knew I knew. He strangled me, smothered me, put my head through a wall and that’s not the worse. Please don’t allow them to do that to you. They use everything against you! I’m still going through the court system as victim/ witness but I am a survivor! The things he’s being charged with is a life sentence and he still chooses to go through a jury trial! That’s how he is getting his Joy right now! And I will tell you that ever since covid it seems that narcissist are so out there. I can look at a person and tell. Continue to get knowledge and understanding listen to Dr. Phil
You can't look at a person and tell. Also, sounds like your ex was a psychopath versus a malignant narcissist. Im so very sorry that happened to you. Good luck on your continued healing and success.
Gid Bless you! May you heal peacefully. 🙏
This is so spot on. Does Karma ever get these people? They cause so much suffering a damage and a lot of them seem to do quite well in life. Thanks Dr. Phil.
Yes. But they don't RECOGNIZE KARMA...THEY ARE NOT HUMAN, DO NOT THINK AS A HUMAN BEING THEY ARE DEMONS.
Yes. My cheating ex husband (NPD) was shot to death by his affair partner. It took about 18 years for Karma to come around.
I don't feel like it was justice served for all the mental abuse I suffered, but I did feel relieved. Almost giddy. I actually laughed when I heard about it. I guess you could say, I got the last laugh.
@@thetrainwreck1469 I was with one for 17 years
2 kids
I don't think that's funny that a narcissist got shot to death
And you can't say I don't know what that's like to be with one
That was the first sentence I wrote
I've heard people say they live their karma everyday. Can you imagine having to do the nasty crap they do everyday to prop up your fragile ego. Constantly consumed with how to f with people manipulate and control them. It's all they know and all they will ever know. They are in the mud trying to drag their targets in there with them. Pathetic.
@@thetrainwreck1469 keep laughing and smiling everyday, it's good for the soul 😁
It look me a bad health condition to identify the kind of people that I was surrounded with. I am thankful for what I went through because it showed me that I was in bad company. There were people who used to visit me often and spend 4-5 hours at my home. But when they knew I was severely unwell, they vanished! There were no more visits, no more calls, no messages ..absolutely nothing. Then after 2-3 months. when they needed something from me, contacted me acting completely oblivious to my condition. Nope. Not happening. I cut them out. And I am so happy that I did. On the other side of the coin, I also came to realize who were my real friends..who really cared about me..with whom I was able to develop deeper bonds. Thank you life for helping me to choose between the light and the darkness.
Hello, your experience sounds identical to mine. The best thing about the worst time in your life is that it gives you an opportunity to work out who is a real friend and who is just a user and abuser. I wish you all the very best and may you be blessed with good health.
This has nailed it on the head perfectly! Been living with one for 25yrs. Now I’m 40 with two young children, he is nearly 50. I’ve been actively trying to safely exit for 2yrs. We own a home and have money but I’m unable to access any financials or information. It has nearly broken me completely so many times. I’m 5 months sober after many yrs of alcoholism escaping reality as it always was made and seemed impossible to get out of a finely crafted web that was of course my fault. Ruining the childrens lives because I ruined the relationship etc.. anyway these evil people are real and will take every last part of your soul. Still trying to get out…. 🇦🇺🇦🇺
Keep trying. DO NOT GIVE UP. 🙏
thanks Dr. Phil... still dealing with my ex malignant narc husband... now a retired cop...psychopath is more like it. 8 years post separation, having to hire another lawyer because he is financially trying...yet again... to control me and our daughter .. all the while pretending to the world he is super Disneyland dad.... its frightening how dark he is.
Hire a forensic attorney. They usually hide $$.
@@suzanneadamson1306 oh he is!! so far refusing to disclose his financial documents despite that it's in our court order.... dragging it out big time....
You have them pegged. Everything you said has my father (thankfully deceased) written all over it. I criticized him as a very young child and he had a vendetta against me for the rest of his life! The man was dangerous and I hadn’t heard of narcissism so he got the best of me for almost 60 years. The only good narcissist is a dead one.
This describes my ex husband to a tee! Exactly! And I lived like this for 15 years with him! I left him 1 & 1/2 years ago and I am still hurting and weaning myself! I go to church meetings and therapy just to continue to gain back my self worth! It’s so psychologically abusive and controlling that you lose ALL of your self worth! I continue to pray for recovery and peace! I am working HARD to get over, past and through this marriage and divorce.
If you think you may be involved with someone that is a narcissist, run away! Do not allow yourself to get involved with this person! They are tricky! They are manipulative and controlling! You will NEVER change them or fix them! You will be abused in every way possible and it will take years to get over the trauma of being involved with a man like this! Walk away! It took me years and years to finally cut ties. We have a son so I will forever be tied to this person but I am free and I am better off and growing and recovering by the grace of God and my family and friends who all saw what I wouldn’t see for so long!
Careful with the "church" crowd...its a cesspool of narcissism.
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Narcissists are everywhere! Ive learned how to gage and I’m very comfortable with my “church” crowd! They’re amazing people. 💗✝️💗
@@susanwolfe6914 good. But be careful...they are rampant in that crowd...but as you have stated...they are everywhere and it's getting worse and worse each day. I think the lockdown last year really unleashed them to a greater extent than usual.
Stay safe! 😊
@@susanwolfe6914 or should I say...the church groups can be filled with narcissists...or the more dangerous crowd, the ones who suffer from the "Pollyanna complex!"
Again, Good luck...
You think your family and friends don't see and know??? Not so , they DO.
This is my ex to a tee!!! 10 years of marriage wore me out, plus the fact he is a full fledged alcoholic!! I left, never looked back. Peace now in my own home, continuing to heal daily!
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So happy you opened up the comment section, Dr. Phil! It helps to hear other’s stories. We love you❣️
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Thank you Dr Phil. I hope millions listen to this.
Dr. Phil you are so right about those evil demons 🎯🎯🎯
I learned years ago never to share a confidence or an insecurity with my dear ole mother. Because the moment she ever got upset with me, she would throw what I told her in my face, and would then deny that she ever had. She is a TOTAL CHRISTIAN OF CONVENIENCE who uses the Bible as a weapon (or tries), can always justify her shortcomings while highlighting mine and others'. I have disengaged since eight months ago, and I've never enjoyed so much peace in my entire life.
Naracistic christian
That's me with my mother-in-law. After 20 years I've cut off all contact. But there is trouble brewing...
@@stefaniacalabrese2400 Yip....I'm waiting for it👀
@@wildbulbasaurappeared9679 I do not trust anyone. 2 people know a secret, and one of them is dead
A friend of mine did the same thing. She went off on me then made post using a Bible verse against me to make herself look good and she’s an atheist! Such a fake! I can’t stand people like that. Cut her off and unfriend her on Facebook.
I wish i had known this for 40 years ago. Was together with a narcissist for almost 30 years, moved to another country to get some distance. But still after 10 years he will do everything in his power to get me back under his control, gather information about me and use it against me. I still have to be very careful. Still need to use no contact. The move was the best thing i did in my life. Now learning to live without the abuse and learning to love life again
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My son and daughter in law fit the description of this type. It’s like a constant fight so bad that I had to refuse to be around them when they start fighting. The saddest thing is they have a child that has to live in it. I don’t know anything I can do to help them.
DR PHIL THEY ARE AWFUL PEOPLE, I GOT HIM ,THEN HE DIED, I SO WON IN THE END !!!🖤😊
I grew up trying to understand the narcissistic mind and this helps immensely. There is much food for thought here, thank you very much.
I've dealt with this personality in a much other sister, friends, bosses, and a horrible ex husband.
As time went by, I learned to stop being a people pleaser, a personality flaw I had stemming from early childhood prolonged abuse. I was afraid of displeasing anyone, afraid of anger. I had actually attracted these narcissists by always being too nice, never having personal boundaries.
Since I learned to stop the people pleasing, narcissists are not attracted to me. I can recognize what they are, but they leave me alone. It's fabulous.
Thank you DR PHIL ! My Father was a Narrsicest and My Brother and Myself Paid for it!! I always knew thier was Something Wrong with Dad he just got Mad and Lost it ! His Black heart was Eivil ! I'm 65 and Finally found Out what his Problem was! God Bless you Dad and I forgive you!! RIP
This was the worst experience of my life. I am 100% out of the relationship and have gone no contact. My fear however, is that he will come after me. He constantly would say "I don't get mad, I get even and I wait until the opportune time to get even". I feel I will have to live the rest of my life looking over my shoulder.
Don't loose your faith. 🙏
my ex husband was all those things
My ex boyfriend invited me to a concert at a dinner theater. When we came in the hostess said follow me. I followed her and when I turned around he was still in the doorway and came in by himself.
When I asked him why he did this he tried to gaslight me, started screaming at me, and threatened to have committed in a hospital!
Where was this information 3 years ago? Better late than never.
You are spot on! It’s been 11 years with him and idk how to go forward. I don’t know how to become more insignificant in his eyes. Thank you for these videos.
Just got out!! Your life will never be better with him. God didn't make you too live like this!!!!!!
Get out
@@marylouise1078 thanks 🎯🎯🎯
@@marylouise1078 I'm out in the name of Jesus 🎯🎯🎯
@@ecunningham2062 Amen! Good to hear you got out safely.
Thank you Dr Phil, Getting aware of it . Knowledge about this topic is very Important to heal 🙏
Yes indeed, talking about holding a grudge for a long time. Try being punished by one of them for 28 years and not a sign of my Mom letting it go . And I did nothing to or against her at all and never have and never will. It's beyond me, how so much spitefulness can fit into one person. I just figured my mom was meaner than all my friends mom's . I said that in front of one of my friends about a month or two ago and he hollered, "She is, Tex !" I have just recently found out about narcissists. The first video I ever saw on narcissists was one about "gas lighting" , and finally I knew, there was a lot more to it than just plain meaness. I always felt that there was. I thought to myself, dang, these folks know my mom ! Then I watched more and more vids on narcissist and EVERY single one is spot on so far. She's done exactly as they've described, in Spade's to me, more times than I can count. But still I love her.and I have a very strong feeling that the love is not mutual. Every day. And that ain't easy on my heart, mind or Spirit. And it feels like she wants me to know that, that is the way she wants for me to hurt. Nope, it ain't easy a'tall.
Thx, Dr. Phil.
I would share this with her but I know better. It wouldn't help a thing.
@@texherrell1821 Hi , So sorry to hear . Same with me . My mom and oldest sister . found out also later in live . my eye"s went open when I got knowledge about Narcissistic abuse . ( Brain Fog ) the whole time . now I am healing and learn how to cope with it and find out how far my complex trauma is in Therapy . Stay strong . God bless ;-)
Exactly my mother doesn’t let me answer to her fake question because she says oh…. let me tell you this about me or about her golden child ( my sister ) , thank you Dr. Phill !
Those times when a couple of my friends that have narcissistic traits have tried to control me I did what I wanted, just without telling them. They had to learn that noone controls me - they never got angry and threw a fit, but everytime they show that they were disappointed. Not in words, but in their tone.
I have a high self respect and they know - sometimes I cut them off when they step over the boundaries I set before them; they often do it on purpose. I just go underground, no contact at all - and I don't even tell them upfront that I will cut them off - I just do it. It has worked until now.
Thank you for educating folks. When I cut off contact his exact words were “I’m going to destroy you. I’m going to ruin your family, make you lose your job and home. I’m going to take everything you care about”. Scariest time in my life. He was sentenced to 3 years in prison for stalking me, served 1 year. Within 2 weeks of getting out, he broke parole because “You have to talk to me. I thought about the fear in your eyes ever night in prison before I went to bed”. called the cops when he showed up and he said it was worth going back to prison “. These are sick sick people
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You are describing my mother.
I said the same thing! He’s describing my mother!
When they try brainwashing your spouse it's just as well as any attempt to seduce your spouse and this is beyond crossing boundaries.
Oh yeah I’m married to one as well... I keep thinking that I am crazy... can’t do anything right... and then using anything against me... even what others do I get blamed... someone did this or that so I must be too.. and using my beliefs against me
Hooray! Enough is Enough!
I've been waiting so long to hear Dr. Phil speak to us on these matters in a language easily followed and understood. Somehow I knew that he would recognize and respond to our great need for more wisdom. You truly are a stand-out, sir. Thank you.
Once again- Thank You Dr Phil. Thank you for speaking clearly- and without theatrics. You are full of life saving information which I am in need of
100% right I have a family member that is the poster child and it's drained me to the point of suicide,all narcissist have demons in them there not human...please God open a door so I can breath again
This is my father. He hasn’t broken the law but he’s threatened to “make you sorry; I don’t care the consequences, I’ll make you sorry”; perhaps a mix of malignant, grandiose, communal; he’s a real character (to put it nicely) and has erupted in a verbal rage in public; he has an advanced degree in psychology, without which, I don’t know what he would be; but he’s very very manipulative and has been caught in lies he doesn’t even know my wife and my have caught him in
Dr. Phil, this is very on point. It is too short. I want to hear more. I am seeking help with my situation.
jo: you listen to dr.ramani & lisa a romano, right? and dr.les carter
Pray to God he helps you out of this situation and make plans for your escape without giving him any idea. NO CONTACT IS THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN GET RID OF THESE EVIL PEOPLE. I pray God guides you and protects you🙏🙏🙏
@@lifewithapurpose237 I watch Romani & Carter. I will check out the 3rd you recommended
@@joannajohnson696 📺 "Growing up Walking on Eggshells: Hypervigilance"
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Stay blessed 🙏
Spent 27 years with one of these creeps...I lost my home, my siblings and my children (now adult)....They are totally manipulated and just can't see through him.
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THIS Is SOOOOOOOOOOO TRUE.
When I had the narcissist listen to this with me via phone they freaked out.
They knew that was them.
I needed them to understand why I will never ever be their friend ever ever ever again.
Dated a malignant narc for 2 1/2 years. He actually used to tell me when I would ask why he was being so hostile, “I guess I have this drive to try to get other people before they get me”. Eerie! Dr. Phil it gives me chills that he used to say those exact words.
Love your podcast! Thank you!
I am praising God for these wise words. Thank you Dr Phil.
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This describes my malignant neighbours. A small clique who back each other up in their lies.
Attempt running a volunteer organization (church, agency (etc.)) with a spectrum of narcissists competing for the highest positions!
Absolutely. My dad is such a text book narcissist and my mom an enabler I bought a home on the other side of the next city, because I was done. I always thought he was jealous of me, his only child, which was such a stupid notion...then I realized oh, he's a narcissist. He would give us things, take them back and say, its mine. I'm talking birthday presents lol. I walked in to their home literally to say hello he looks at me and says lol...I have nothing for you. You can pawn stuff, but you aren't getting anything from me. I was like...when have I asked for anything, but okay. My 3 children are distanced from him because he refused to share my mom with ANYONE, even me as mother or them as grandmother. I had to leave, and I've been healthier for it.
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How do you get passed the abuse once you leave? Been gone 3 years and I can’t move on with my life. Trauma is life stopping.
Don't say that. You can cling to that idea and you won't get over it. YOU ARE A BETTER PERSON THAN THAT. let go of the baggage. It was NOT YOUR FAULT. LET GO.
i had the same experience than you. It's over. You want to carry a bag with stones up a mountain?? You do? I don't think so. Let go, girl. ❤❤❤
They prey on the weak.
So so true they take everything personal and they think they disserve the best they are extremely jealous of other people they feel people should bow down to them
Thank you Dr. Phil. Fascinating video.
I should have known about that sentence “Get you before you get me” which my daughter in law said to me right after her wedding. It was a beginning to all what you describe in this video.
My sister in law was the same nasty. Now my brother is going thru a bitter divorce
My narcissistic elderly sister made me develop high blood pressure before I could start avoiding her, the experience is terrible when ever she sends me a voice message, my heart starts beating fast fast.
My husband is one…..he will not even take care of his own medical needs….for instance hearing…..unless I go in first and I am WORSE than he is! He has to be better than anyone!