How refreshing!! I hate how birth is made out to be dreamy and then at the same time everyone tells you all the horror stories. So SO nice to see something in the middle, like it is hard but there’s lots of love and happy moments slotted in between the tough parts. Shows the full picture and makes it seem doable! Well done guys! Congratulations and thanks for the great video xx
I love how real and raw this video is. I’m so sick of other people making it look like birth and recovery is always perfect. This is exactly how my experience was as well and how my husband and I felt with each other during that hard time. Took me right back to those days and they are HARD. Thanks for keeping the hard stuff in. It’s realistic and it’s just life
Keep it up and with family around let them help you Abby. I had 2 c section 17 months apart with no family around. My second child was a demanding baby for feeding don't discourage yourself.
Agree. Abby was on point when she said that there is so much focus on the baby & physical needs of the mom -that sometimes moms are struggling with emotional needs. Also,how the nurses go do vitals every hour, I understand it’s needed ,but “Annoying “.
Oh Abby's face of pure exhaustion made me feel for her. She's absolutely incredible for having a baby, pushing herself to get up and about, socialize with friends and family, feed her baby, not kill her husband, and also do her job / participate in the vlog at once. You're a champion
Especially not killing him! He comes off like a tool! You can see that from one video. If he’d shut up (instead or worrying about “content”) maybe she would have gotten sleep.
@@mxxnlightt Yeah I think all people who give birth are absolute champs. I personally would not be able to socialize with family/friends or work that soon after so I was feeling both empathetic and amazed
I love how you don't shy away from showing how real and tough this experience is. You fight and disagree, and get stressed out and sleep deprived and that's ok. You just made a life and it's their first hours here it's not an easy thing
Yeah, that's why this should be private. Extremely private things are shown and I'll never understand people who say "I love how you're showing us everything" it's really weird of you. They have to do this for the money, so I'm sure they wouldn't be doing this if they didn't have to.
I struggled really bad with my second baby with nursing and I was so bound and determined to do it that I hated when anyone suggested anything else. I am so glad things are improving with that, don’t hesitate to work with lactation consultants as many times as you need. And as her husband, go with. They teach so much and it’s helpful for both of you to get that information so that you can help when she is discouraged.
Yeah. I get that people are just wanting to give permission to make it easier on yourself as the mom, but sometimes you just want to be allowed to try and press through it for a little while.
From a mom of a 21 and 17 year old.... those first 48 hours (esp of my first born) were the most horrible and hard of my life. It does stay hard for a bit but it gets immensely better. Thank you for being real and not sugar coating how it is.
I took it as a personal attack when my husband wanted to feed the baby formula. I felt like a failure or defeated. We had a few heated nights because of sleep deprivation and a screaming newborn. You got this Abby!! You’re doing a great job 💪
OMG so true. I was exhausted and in pain but I was very determined to breastfeed my second baby. My biggest support was my husband. So when he suggested to feed the baby formula, my heart and brain didn't love it at all.
I think its how its viewed. For me breastfeeding my daughter was the worst mistake i ever made. She fed well. Don't get me wrong. But when it came to weaning she literally stopped eating. She didn't want antrhing else and I was unable to produce enogh for her and had to undergo a surgery to repair my wrist. She was put on a ng-tube for a few weeks before she decided she wanted to eat with her mouth via spoon or bottle. I felt like breastfeeding her caused all the feeding issues she has had since. I felt like a failure too. My mom was the one who kept pushing me to breastfeed since that the only way she would ever be healthy. Even though i had 3 other kids who literally bottle fed and were totally fine. But mom knew how to play on my feelings. Never feel like a failure cause something doesn't qork out. In my case i wish i listened more to my husband when he said hey lets just bottle feed. That way i got rest and she could eat and not have issues later. Idk its how one views it. But never take it as an attack. We all want whats best for our kids. And sometimes bottle feeding is it. Even if u just pump and not give formula.
@@RareManiac18 I'm sorry this was your experience, but I'm not sure how breastfeeding caused weaning issues? I know tons and tons of breastfed babies that wean just fine. Isn't it possible she would have had trouble weaning from a bottle as well? I've just never heard of this before, and I'm wondering if you are blaming breastfeeding when it was actually caused by something else. Breastfeeding is extremely healthy and has tons of good things that help them build immunity. I just feel sad that you feel like it was a mistake and caused all these problems. But I really can't see how that's possible? And how bottle feeding would have been any different. Oh and lots of babies have allergies to formula and struggle with it. So formula feeding could have given a whole host of different issues. So don't feel bad for breastfeeding! I highly doubt it was the cause of these problems with eating.
Hormones are crazy, you did great Matt! Abby you're a trooper, IT WILL GET EASIER!! I had 2 under 1, they are now 19 & 20, I survived, they survived, my marriage survived, and my boobs survived.
I just love how raw, real, and emotional Abby is! She reminds me of myself and I nearly cried seeing her upset 😢 Having a baby is a lot!! On your body, mind, soul, emotional etc I could go on and on
I just had my second baby two months ago. And I just want to thank you for showing how beautiful and challenging it can be. Neither of my hospital experiences were dreamy. Being a parent is hard. Being a mom is hard. Carrying a baby in the womb for 9 months and delivering a baby is hard. I had a c section for both. The recovery is hard and dealing with all the emotions after having a baby is hard.
I’m so happy for you guys! It’s just good that you guys get to use all of Griffin’s baby stuff for Auggie. That way you won’t have to buy new baby clothes or buy new baby toys. Just use hand me downs. Which is better than buying new it saves money now that everything in the economy is going up. I’m so proud of you Abby! Enjoy the baby phrase because they grow up fast. I have a 14 year old nephew and it seems like he was a baby just yesterday and then in a blink of an eye he was 14. Can’t wait to see him meet griffin make sure you video it. They will be the best friend since they are close in age.
Abby is 100% on point about sticking it out for the breast feeding and not breaking down giving a bottle. Its so important that Augie latch every time he is hungry because that's what tells her milk to keep coming. It took 3 days for my milk to come in so my baby was constantly at my breast until it did but she barely dropped any weight at all and piled the weight on when my milk came in.
“Breaking down giving a bottle”. It’s okay to give your baby a bit of formula to keep them comfortable while your milk comes in. It won’t ruin your milk supply.
I loved this video!! My daughter is now 12 weeks and I just had so many flash backs watching this. Wow, very similar experience but wouldn’t change it for the world because baby girl and I came out of there healthy! So proud of you guys, thank you for sharing.
Seeing all the newborns meet each other was adorable! Also thank you guys for being so real with your journey because that shows both of your strength during this. Proud of you both and so happy that you guys have Auggie in your arms 🩵
My husband and I experienced something like this for the first 2 weeks of our daughters life. Seeing this made me feel so validated and seen. We also stayed married and she turns 1 in October, but those 2 weeks were intense and hard. We’re so much closer now. Thank you for sharing your story, proud of you guys for getting through it 🤍
This video makes me realize how I had absolutely no one, no village. Just my partner. Didn’t hit me until your family was singing happy birthday to auggie. You all are blessed ❤️
@courtneyp1578 It is tough when you don't have family around to share the experience and get emotional support. I was the same as we moved around. I suppose, though, even couples who do have family around are still mostly doing the tough stuff on their own. Your family isn't there for middle of the night crying, sick kids, cracked nipples and stuff. But yes, it would have been lovely to have family share in the ups and downs.
💔 I was the same as you. My mother was even hostile. My husband became very distant and it got ugly. I was so alone and under fire. Be good to you, as no one else will be and because you deserve it. ❤️
I agree. Seeing how genuine they both are 🫶🏻. Sharing some “parts” of their hospital experience to help make anyone out here feel less alone…..TRULY AMAZING.☺️😊
After losing both of my parents at such a young age and watching you both over the years becoming yourselves and becoming new parents warms me up inside, makes me happy and whole to experience this with you and to think this is going to be me one day and it excites me more than life. Congratulations
I’m a medical student and I read a lot all of this. I’m also a female in a healthy relationship with my boyfriend who I wish to marry soon but the thing that scares me is the whole pregnancy and postpartum I do want a baby but to go through all of this, recovering from all of this is very intense and hard! All the mothers in the world have my respect for doing this.
Love love love that you guys kept it real enough for everyone to understand that those days in the hospital are anything but easy and beautiful all the time. My husband and I just had our first baby 3 months ago and I resonated all too well with the tense arguments, breastfeeding struggles, lack of sleep and constant interruptions. It’s so so hard but it’s a normal part of learning how to be a new parent.
I love how real this video is. No one talks about the struggles of BFing or the fights and lack of sleep. This brought back lots of memories of when I had my twins almost a year ago. But you guys are doing awesome! Much love ❤️
I love how raw and real this video is. Thank you for being vulnerable and transparent with us. I also appreciate how tense the breastfeeding situation was for you both but also how supportive and loving y’all are towards each other throughout this video. Y’all are such a great team!
Congratulations and Wishing Mommy, Daddy, and Baby All the Most Wonderful Blessings During This Special Time♡♡~Luv, Holly in the Desert of Broiling Arizona☆☆:)
Accurate! Just had our second baby on Aug 18th and we totally understand the sleep deprivation / feeding the hungry baby when it feels like you have absolutely nothing left! God is good and always praising Him for providing the strength it takes physically, mentally and emotionally to be a mama. To God be the Glory!
The first 3 weeks with a newborn are extremely tough!! Breastfeeding is a new experience each kid. Give yourself and each other grace!! You both are doing an incrediable job!!! Proud of you Abby!! You are incrediable mama!! Congrats to you both!!
I’m so thankful for this video. I’m due November and I’ve been a little worried that hubby and I won’t have a “dreamy” experience. I know we will both be so happy to meet our baby, but I also know I have a tendency to try to power through the hard stuff even when I need to take a second for my emotional needs. This video gave me the unspoken permission to have a labor and delivery experience that isn’t just sunshine and rainbows without feeling like it’s the end of the world. I feel better going into parenthood knowing that my marriage isn’t doomed just because we may have disagreements at the hospital.
It’s easy to see the positives from other’s experiences but that’s cause it’s easy to hide the hardships. No one wants to see that, but it’s often a very real part of the process. It’ll be hard and good… but won’t last forever. ❤ Such a special season many dream of experiencing.
As somebody who LOVES her husband and has had 3 c-sections and all three times, baby didn't want to latch, I am so grateful for your honesty in depicting how these moments can be. You guys are so lovely to one another and your audience. Marriage is not always rainbows and butterflies. There are hard moments. But when you choose to commit your best self to somebody else, that means getting through those moments together. God bless you guys and your sweet growing family 💙
We just had our first baby 8 weeks ago…my husband has only had one day off since we left the hospital. Taking care of a baby is so rough yet so rewarding. Congrats y’all! 🤍
Important notes about breastfeeding: 1.) If a child is struggling to latch, hold off on pacifiers (which can cause "nipple confusion"), or try a nipple shield to help stimulate the suck reflex. Hospitals can provide nipple shields. 2.) "Milk coming in" is a misnomer. The first form of breast milk, collostrum, is already present before birth. It comes out in drops at a time and is sufficient for the newborn as it is super rich in everything the baby needs. 3.) If the child is struggling with a latch, you can ask a nurse for a syringe or a dropper to hand-express breastmilk into in order to feed the child while mom and baby figure out a good latch. There are so many options and steps to take to help with the first 3-5 days before the milk transitions other than formula!
I read somewhere that a mother produces different milk at night compared to the day; night milk has more melatonin to help the baby sleep. It might help to keep night milk supply separate from morning/day milk to help develop the baby’s circadian rhythm :)
there wasn't an need to keep insisting on brestfeeding auggie the first two days. a little formula wouldn't have done anything bad. you could have gotten to relax a little bit on these earliest hours after birth. just felt like it wasn't right to disregard matt's opinion about giving a bottle to calm him down
True but it is her choice at the end of the day as long as shes not killing herself i dont see the issue personally. An issue to consider when you give a baby formula or a bottle especially in the early stages is they may develop strong preferences. Im not saying its the case for all but its not uncommon for babies to have a bottle once and prefer it of the breast, then they refuse to take the other due to it’s different shape (in some cases taste too). Babies are going to cry regardless, soothing via bottle/breast/dummy isnt always something all parents allow theyd rather just push through. Its not harming either of them at the end of the day so i really dont see the issue
@@_Hollie_ baby would've stopped so Abby could sleep, Matt was trying so hard to help the baby so she could rest, but in stead she refused (her choice I know), but the baby would've stopped. I'm not saying ignore the baby's cry, I'm not but think how much harder it is for the baby, in momma's tummy for 9 months & then BAM he's in a world he knows nothing about, & can't tell momma or daddy he's hungry or its something else. I understand the 1st 48 hours are hard. I wish them the best I really do, but you also have to think she had Matt's help the WHOLE time, she got to sleep anytime she wanted, take time out for herself, Matt did it all with their 1st baby, & took on 2 that first night, (yes, she had a c section), but think about this, single mom's don't even have that. And I know my parents (even though there gone now), wouldn't have packed up to move to help them. My parents would've said, you made those baby's thats on you both. We'll baby sit here & there but to do what there doing. Grandma & Grandpa already did there duty. Also Matt's brother just became a daddy too, I feel for their baby too as they don't get to see that grand baby as much. A lot of single parents don't even have what they have yes, I know they feel grateful, not saying they don't, but both parents should help each other, I see Matt doing most of it. That's not fair to Matt. Matt was frustrated & needed mommy's help & instead of helping him & the baby she got upset. Baby could sense daddy was trying ot ehlp sooth him, but could hear it in momma's voice she was upset. Babies can pick up on these things.
I don’t blame you guys for having an argument. You were both sleep deprived, poor Abby went through major surgery after cooking a 9 pound baby for months, the postpartum hormone changes must have started hitting, Matt was trying to help settle a screaming new born and support his wife through everything she’s going through. Tempers rise in less pressured circumstances, and sometimes you snap because you’re overwhelmed and JUST NEED TO SLEEP! Glad the nurse came to save the day so you both could get some uninterrupted sleep before going it alone with a newborn and a toddler.
Oh sweet Abby, I feel your pain in hearing your baby cry. I know how hard breastfeeding can be, especially in the early days, but I commend you for fighting on for baby Auggie! You guys are great parents; so excited to see your little family grow. 😊
Those first days in the hospital are literally the worst you get no sleep with hospital staff in and out of the room constantly it’s so overwhelming!! thanks for shining a light on reality and making the rest of us in baby parent mode feel less alone. You guys are doing great hugs to Abby from one mama of almost 2 under 2 to another ❤
Love how honest this video was. Brought a lot of memories back to me. I think sometimes dads prefer bottle feeding as they feel more in control. But Mothers are so strong and know what's best for baby.
I love that you showed this because it was SO hard in the hospital after my c-sections. My husband and I were cranky. I barely got sleep before my C-section because I was so nervous. My milk was not coming in. I didn't sleep for like two days and it felt like everytime the baby and I finally fell asleep someone came in and woke us up. Then they had the audacity to insinuating that we were like in an unhealthy relationship or something because we were quietly bickering in our room like whisper fighting but we were just exhausted!!!! And I didn't want to be mad at the nurses because they were just doing their job but I wanted to be like can you just leave me alone for awhile. Hospital stay was the worse part of each birth I could not wait to go home. With my last pregnancy I kept asking about going home and they could tell I didn't want to be there long.
For me, staying together with my fiancé once our kids were born was easy. He's been my person for 11 years now and our oldest is now 4 as of yesterday and everytime I have gone through delivering a baby, I always want him right there holding me and making sure I'm okay. He comforts me more than anyone else ever could so the only way we would end up separated is him leaving
Abby im so sorry. You love him so much and know YT is his dream. You do everything to allow him to film when you probably dont want to and days after birth he has a camera in your face and is doing high fives and asking your opinion...camera in face. Girl the best thing you ever did is put that boundary to not show your children online and i support you. Im sorry you didnt get a private birth with your husband and family and care. You deserved a week without cameras at all.
Just because your baby gets formula a few times not to starve doesn't mean you won't be able to nurse later. You just have to pump until your milk comes in and then try again. I did it with my NiCu baby. He stayed there 2 months there because he was very premature. He had a feeding tube and later I fed him my milk with a bottle. Then I managed to get him to nurse. He is now 9 months and I still breastfeed.
I can understand Matt getting overwhelmed for Auggie to eat yet he is forgetting how incredibly crucial it is to establish enough supply there should be no formula given as far as I know for the first 6 week; as breastmilk is produced when feeding on demand. I feel so much for Abby cos I was in that position when I was sleep deprived and wanted to feed my girl and my hubby suggested to give formula I was so hurt.
Abby I love you guys but you need to take into consideration about matt's feelings also. He's having a tough time with it to. I love you all and just want the best for you as a mum of two myself it won't hurt your breastfeeding and it will give more time for you to rest and Matt to bond. I really hope you don't take this the wrong way I would just like to help. Sending you all positive vibes x
I had two babies boys within 12 months and it was so hard on my body! BUT you guys are doing INCREDIBLE and killing it! You can do this! ☺️❤️ I love seeing Bella and Abby sharing their new babies with each other. 😍
It’s important to note that even if you can’t breastfeed it’s okay a fed baby is the best baby i stopped breastfeeding for my mental health and it was the best decision ever
Fought with my husband after I had my second at home. He was being a jerk and only thinking about his lack of sleep instead of me, and I broke down sobbing when typically I never ever ever cry. Also he never DARED suggest bottle feeding my babies. He took the new parent class at the birth center with me and he KNEW that every suckle needed to go to mom to stimulate milk production, and that the baby was not starving on colostrum. Using formula in the first days is what sets breastfeeding up for failure.
This is exactly how it was with me , 22 first time mom , had to have a C-section , both of us first time parents and we didn’t know what we’d were going but we’re so grateful for the nurses we had for our 4 day stay , there was even a point where we sent baby to the nursery for one night just to get some sleep and so I could pump enough for her , she didn’t latch at all even with a lactation specialist, turned out she had a tongue tie but even after it was clipped she wouldn’t latch I didn’t want to give her formula but she was starving ! Love how raw and real this video is❤️❤️
This is what both of our hospital stays looked like. This is the kind of stuff that needs to be shared. My husband and I have never been more pissed off with each other than those two days in a hospital 😂. But honestly, no one prepares you for that! Good on y’all for sharing the truth on hospital stays. Dad’s role is most important in those first 2 days than most of the recovery, IMO, so the mom can recover as she needs to. She’s done the hard work for 9 months and then to have to deliver a baby, either vaginally or via c section, takes everything out of you. Well done.
My son is 9 months, I also had a c-section, and I watched this so that I could remember what those first few days were like. Utter shock, feeling like you want to/are going to die from exhaustion, and the constant worrying about feeding….I feel your experience on a deep level. Thanks for keeping it real.
I'm a Nutrition student and I'm so proud of Abby for sticking to breastfeeding because it is soo important, if you're lucky enough to be able to breastfeed and have a decent supply just stick to it, because it is crucial for the baby and the mother and even more because your children are only 1 yr apart. They need the milk! ❤❤❤
Hmmm, but fed is best and if parents choose to bottle feed to allow them to share the load and responsibility then that is also important. Happy well-slept people with good mental health is crucial for baby, mother and father. Do not shame others for making other feeding choices. Thank you.
@@missp3252 Overall fed is best. But nutritionally breast milk is still better than formula. So it makes sense a nutrition student would make a comment like that. A social worker would probably see it differently and would mention the arguments you made.
@@johanna2690true I’m a social work student and I think just keeping the baby fed is a better choice if you can’t produce enough breast milk. I would recommend formula milk if the baby isn’t latching on no matter how hard you try. But breast milk should be the first choice
Your authenticity and honesty will help more young adults than you realize. More people need to be honest about the good AND the "bad." I put it in quotes because most times, when you look back at those moments later in your marriage, you realize that getting through those together, were the most strengthening for your marriage and make the good times, that much sweeter. My hubby and I just celebrated 25 years of marriage and looked back at the years we've been together and were kind of shocked to realize this. It's just another moment of realizing just how true the words, "He never promised it'd be easy, He only promised it'd be worth it." are. You guys are in our thoughts and prayers. Remember to celebrate even the smallest of victories and enjoy the seemingly small moments, because they each moment only happens once. Just to let you know, as crazy as it seems, I had 3 kiddos at your age and was getting a hysterectomy because I had horrible endometriosis. Being empty nesters in our early 40's has allowed us to go through a second courtship and resolution to enjoy everyday together. I used to wish that we'd had more time, with just the two of us in the beginning but now I'm glad that we have that time now. Especially before our family of 5 expands with weddings and then grandchildren!! I will DEFINITELY have my daughter and future daughter-in-laws watch these videos so they're more prepared for the ups and downs of the birthing process.
@@maciekoerschner Privacy and lifestyle under the radar. August, just like you and me, deserves a normal lifestyle as a normal person, not a celebrity or influencer. He can opt in once he gets older ofc, but it's best if his face is hidden as he grows.
I loved those sleepless nights with my little man. I just put myself in his position of him being scared and hungry and just wanting his momma there to comfort him. It didn't seem like such a hassle, but more of an honor that he trusted me and wanted me there with him. I feel like so many people complain (NOT SAYING THEY DO THIS) about not sleeping and having to tend to the baby at all times. That's what parenthood is about - sacrificing luxuries - and in return you get a beautiful child that loves you unconditionally. I guess i just changed my perspective at the time, otherwise i would have been miserable.
Great job you two!❤❤ Thanks for showing the reality of child birth. It's not always easy, and people need to see that to be prepared for when things aren't always peachy
30 years later I still have my c section scar and every time I see it I remember that time..don't stress out over the feeding every baby is different if you have to supplement with a bottle there is no shame .
First of all. I want to congratulate you guys and hope your having the best time possible with your babies. Not gonna lie, being a big fan of yours i was a little dissapointed the way Abby reacted when Matt wanted to give baby bottle. Look. Believe me or not. I also had my second baby last month on the 29th and wanted to breastfeed so much but baby has a tongue tie so it was very hard for her to latch. Although i felt like a total failure we had no choice as baby was getting dehydrated. So with no hesitation we introduced formula. No hate. Honestly. Mommy milk is the BEST of all. But forcing things this way is never a good idea. The way you reacted made me feel judged for giving my baby formula. No one should ever feel like that. You too.. But Abby, you have a husband who helps you so much and it blows my mind that you still felt overlooked. My husband NEVER EVER once stayed the whole night with the baby so i could get sleep. I am doing everything for my babies. I honestly felt attacked because Matt wanted to feed the baby bc he was crying and needed milk. Instead of being grateful of your husband and the way he cared for you in the hospital you got in an argument with him about him wanting to FEED YOUR BABY. The day i gave birth my husband didnt even stay with me at the hospital, he had to take care of our 1 year old. Please be more considerate with Matt. A lot of women dont get to have your luck. I gave birth here in the UK and didnt even have my own room.. let alone complain about the size.. Love you guys, and hope the best
A fed baby is best. And rested parents is a necessity. I beat myself up about not being able to successfully breast feed. We now have 3 adult children and not breast feeding them made no difference. Parenting is tough enough. No need for added social pressure.
I love how real and raw you guys always keep it. Birth is HARD. It’s not always rainbows and sunshine and I think it’s so important to show that!! So glad everyone is healthy and safely back home!❤️
You are not less of a mom if you do not breastfeed. Remember that fed is best and if you’re both really frustrated formula is a great fix for one feed so you can calm down and try again on the next feed. Considering the dad’s frustration as well with a crying baby, he feels helpless especially if you tell him to wait 10 minutes with a screaming baby that he can’t feed. Both of you are important in this situation and you have to think if not using formula is more important than not fighting with your spouse. I understand to pick your battles and you want to breastfeed but ultimately a happy baby makes a happy parent and vise versa. Your strength as a mother does not depend on breastfeeding. It’s great and all, but it’s not worth the sake of your marriage and happiness of the baby. Give yourself and Matt grace.
this is makin me on the verge of tears. y’all are so strong and i’m so proud of you for everything 🫶🏻 my best friend had an EXTREMELY similar hospital experience to y’all, and it was so hard to watch her go thru everything she did. Y’all are absolutely wonderful parents 🫶🏻
If you are doing this and can get atleast 1 person to help, please do so. Childbirth needs 3 people. The mom to have the baby, heal, recover and take care of the baby. The dad to support the mom and take care of the baby. And a third selfless human being to ensure that the mom and dad gets some food and sleep in the first few weeks.
This vlog took me right back to after I had my c-sections. It’s so bloody tough but you did amazing Abby. Make sure you rest up as much as you can and enjoy your precious boy xxxx
But you’re writing this video cutting them down but on the other you’re protecting them and messaging back to peoples comments that are against formula waste. you’re weird.
Hospital must get its act toghether and let the mother sleep after delevery, espesially when c section or other complications. It is not possible to be a parent if no sleep.
I’m pretty sure he knows that, but it’s the fact that he wants his kid fed and not hungry. If he’s not nursing well Matt was just wanting the best for him, and I’m sure if Abby’s hormones weren’t so high she would’ve understood that too.
Matt i just wanted to say, i am SO impressed with the way you were still able to capture all of this and still keep your baby private 😩 you’re doing SUCH a good job with these videos!
I'm so glad you mentioned the nurses coming in EVERY HOUR!!! It made that 48 hours hell. Every time I'd get the baby latched, someone was coming in to do something. Love the nurses and hospital staff but this is something that needs to be talked about and maybe changed.
No he didn't.. watch the podcast and he literally tells how he ignored her for the first 48 hours of the baby being born.. because of his career goals being set aside?? To raise his own baby!! And support his wife!! He's a jerk. Don't believe what he puts out. If you pay attention he's always trying to make Abby look bad.
@@sourflower3727 I found him to be incredibly annoying and not helpful at all. At first I thought "Wow how lucky to have dad be able to stay in the room and help." Then nope. He was not helpful especially on her about giving him a bottle.
Appreciate this video. We are due with baby number 2 with a possible c-section. Our first baby was a month and a half early so we had nothing planned at all. No hospital bag, nursery half done. Spent weeks in the hospital years ago it feels like being a new new mom. This video was a good reminder of things to come. Thank you and congratulations so much! ♡ Keep up the good work momma and dad! ❤
I haven't seen anyone else mention it but I really appreciated how they censored the baby's face. It's a nice change of pace. Best of luck to both of you
I’m a postpartum RN and an IBCLC (lactation consultant). I’ve been seeing a number of comments talking about the struggle with breastfeeding and I think it’s something that isn’t discussed a lot. Babies often don’t latch a lot the first 24 hours and are sleepy. We call it the birthday nap. They will often make up for lost time on the secondary day/night. We refer to this as second night syndrome. There is little sleep to be had. You can hand express colostrum and finger feed it to the baby if they aren’t latching. You don’t have to give formula if it isn’t medically necessary. However, it is also a personal choice. If you have good production in those first few days you can ask for a breast pump if you need to get some sleep and your partner can give the expressed milk. If you don’t want to give a bottle ask about syringe and cup feeding options but it is better to learn the cup feeding before going home if the baby still is not latching. Of course, if you’re simply too tired, do what you need to do for you. No one has the right to make you feel guilty for your choices.
I feel like you guys are literally the only ones who genuinely keep it real on here. You guys share the ups and the downs. The good and the bad. Thank you guys for doing so.
Matt gets off on making Abby uncomfortable and shaming her for everything she does. she grew a new organ (placenta), and an entire life inside of her, but because she got a C section, he shamed her for “cheating”. All he did was BARELY keep it in his pants for 6 weeks after G.
I get that breastfeeding is important and not being able to can make you feel like a failure as a mom, at least I did when I wasn’t producing enough or wouldn’t latch. I think it’s important to remind people that supplemental formula feedings as your trying to get your baby to latch or waiting for your milk to drop isn’t a bad thing and to learn that it’s better than putting that unnecessary stress to both you, your partner, or your baby. It was something that took me a long time to accept and embrace with my second baby and I wish more people talked about that online. It definitely made my first few days with my newborn a lot easier and more enjoyable without the pressure.❤
Dear Abby and Matt! I cannot be thankful enough for you to share those precious moments. I have a three months old born in Hungary. I had an amazing delivery because of the professional staff but I wish I could have this kind of postpartum room which you showed us in the video. Because the hospital was fully packed, I could not get a single room, but I stayed in a 3 bed postpartum room, with the other moms (who were very nice). There was no bathroom in the room. Even the single room would have been much smaller than yours, and there is no way for the dad to stay. I probably don't have to mention it but the food was extremely bad and not enough in the hospital. Please appreciate your circumstances! Much love! Klara
Being honest here, I appreciated you showing us that argument about the bottle. Having been through that situation with my husband, it brings a whole new perspective seeing this from the outside looking in.
Thank you for sharing this. You two are such good parents & seem to support each other really well. I absolutely hated my hospital experience. I begged to go home as soon as I could. They wanted to keep me one more night, but I just wanted to go home as soon as I was cleared to do so. My son's father wanted to push formula & we definitely had a fight about it. He thought he was helping by pushing it so much & I felt like he was not giving me a chance to even try before pushing the bottle.
It’s crazy how hospitals do things so differently in different places like I had dissolving stitches and my nurses were in every 3ish hours instead of every 1! I’m still so happy for y’all!
How refreshing!! I hate how birth is made out to be dreamy and then at the same time everyone tells you all the horror stories. So SO nice to see something in the middle, like it is hard but there’s lots of love and happy moments slotted in between the tough parts. Shows the full picture and makes it seem doable! Well done guys! Congratulations and thanks for the great video xx
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@@ThedodgerproI hadn’t noticed! Wow! Thanks!
I love how real and raw this video is. I’m so sick of other people making it look like birth and recovery is always perfect. This is exactly how my experience was as well and how my husband and I felt with each other during that hard time. Took me right back to those days and they are HARD. Thanks for keeping the hard stuff in. It’s realistic and it’s just life
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Keep it up and with family around let them help you Abby. I had 2 c section 17 months apart with no family around. My second child was a demanding baby for feeding don't discourage yourself.
Agree. Abby was on point when she said that there is so much focus on the baby & physical needs of the mom -that sometimes moms are struggling with emotional needs.
Also,how the nurses go do vitals every hour, I understand it’s needed ,but “Annoying “.
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Oh Abby's face of pure exhaustion made me feel for her. She's absolutely incredible for having a baby, pushing herself to get up and about, socialize with friends and family, feed her baby, not kill her husband, and also do her job / participate in the vlog at once. You're a champion
Is it normal or c section??
Especially not killing him! He comes off like a tool! You can see that from one video. If he’d shut up (instead or worrying about “content”) maybe she would have gotten sleep.
This is what all pregnant people go through?? And it was c section.
@@MountainPearlsthank you for seeing past his facade. he pouted and ignored his wife and newborn for TWO days except when he “needed” content.
@@mxxnlightt Yeah I think all people who give birth are absolute champs. I personally would not be able to socialize with family/friends or work that soon after so I was feeling both empathetic and amazed
I love how you don't shy away from showing how real and tough this experience is. You fight and disagree, and get stressed out and sleep deprived and that's ok. You just made a life and it's their first hours here it's not an easy thing
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Yeah, that's why this should be private. Extremely private things are shown and I'll never understand people who say "I love how you're showing us everything" it's really weird of you. They have to do this for the money, so I'm sure they wouldn't be doing this if they didn't have to.
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I struggled really bad with my second baby with nursing and I was so bound and determined to do it that I hated when anyone suggested anything else. I am so glad things are improving with that, don’t hesitate to work with lactation consultants as many times as you need. And as her husband, go with. They teach so much and it’s helpful for both of you to get that information so that you can help when she is discouraged.
Yeah. I get that people are just wanting to give permission to make it easier on yourself as the mom, but sometimes you just want to be allowed to try and press through it for a little while.
From a mom of a 21 and 17 year old.... those first 48 hours (esp of my first born) were the most horrible and hard of my life. It does stay hard for a bit but it gets immensely better. Thank you for being real and not sugar coating how it is.
I took it as a personal attack when my husband wanted to feed the baby formula. I felt like a failure or defeated. We had a few heated nights because of sleep deprivation and a screaming newborn. You got this Abby!! You’re doing a great job 💪
OMG so true. I was exhausted and in pain but I was very determined to breastfeed my second baby. My biggest support was my husband. So when he suggested to feed the baby formula, my heart and brain didn't love it at all.
I think its how its viewed. For me breastfeeding my daughter was the worst mistake i ever made. She fed well. Don't get me wrong. But when it came to weaning she literally stopped eating. She didn't want antrhing else and I was unable to produce enogh for her and had to undergo a surgery to repair my wrist. She was put on a ng-tube for a few weeks before she decided she wanted to eat with her mouth via spoon or bottle. I felt like breastfeeding her caused all the feeding issues she has had since. I felt like a failure too. My mom was the one who kept pushing me to breastfeed since that the only way she would ever be healthy. Even though i had 3 other kids who literally bottle fed and were totally fine. But mom knew how to play on my feelings. Never feel like a failure cause something doesn't qork out. In my case i wish i listened more to my husband when he said hey lets just bottle feed. That way i got rest and she could eat and not have issues later. Idk its how one views it. But never take it as an attack. We all want whats best for our kids. And sometimes bottle feeding is it. Even if u just pump and not give formula.
@@RareManiac18 I'm sorry this was your experience, but I'm not sure how breastfeeding caused weaning issues? I know tons and tons of breastfed babies that wean just fine. Isn't it possible she would have had trouble weaning from a bottle as well?
I've just never heard of this before, and I'm wondering if you are blaming breastfeeding when it was actually caused by something else. Breastfeeding is extremely healthy and has tons of good things that help them build immunity. I just feel sad that you feel like it was a mistake and caused all these problems. But I really can't see how that's possible? And how bottle feeding would have been any different.
Oh and lots of babies have allergies to formula and struggle with it. So formula feeding could have given a whole host of different issues. So don't feel bad for breastfeeding! I highly doubt it was the cause of these problems with eating.
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Hormones are crazy, you did great Matt! Abby you're a trooper, IT WILL GET EASIER!! I had 2 under 1, they are now 19 & 20, I survived, they survived, my marriage survived, and my boobs survived.
I'm sure there was some hard times. But it does take strong people to make it work so it sounds like you and your partner put in the time and effort!
I just love how raw, real, and emotional Abby is! She reminds me of myself and I nearly cried seeing her upset 😢 Having a baby is a lot!! On your body, mind, soul, emotional etc I could go on and on
and Matt is profiting off of her raw, real emotions by shoving a camera in her face.
I just had my second baby two months ago. And I just want to thank you for showing how beautiful and challenging it can be. Neither of my hospital experiences were dreamy. Being a parent is hard. Being a mom is hard. Carrying a baby in the womb for 9 months and delivering a baby is hard. I had a c section for both. The recovery is hard and dealing with all the emotions after having a baby is hard.
You guys are the best parents ever! Your boys are so lucky to have you guys
I’m so happy for you guys! It’s just good that you guys get to use all of Griffin’s baby stuff for Auggie. That way you won’t have to buy new baby clothes or buy new baby toys. Just use hand me downs. Which is better than buying new it saves money now that everything in the economy is going up. I’m so proud of you Abby! Enjoy the baby phrase because they grow up fast. I have a 14 year old nephew and it seems like he was a baby just yesterday and then in a blink of an eye he was 14. Can’t wait to see him meet griffin make sure you video it. They will be the best friend since they are close in age.
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its for privacy reasons auggies just a baby and doesnt need to be exposed to social media@MadisynEugene
@MadisynEugene because they said not too long ago they need to start blurring out the babies faces for protection.
Abby is 100% on point about sticking it out for the breast feeding and not breaking down giving a bottle. Its so important that Augie latch every time he is hungry because that's what tells her milk to keep coming. It took 3 days for my milk to come in so my baby was constantly at my breast until it did but she barely dropped any weight at all and piled the weight on when my milk came in.
“Breaking down giving a bottle”. It’s okay to give your baby a bit of formula to keep them comfortable while your milk comes in. It won’t ruin your milk supply.
I loved this video!! My daughter is now 12 weeks and I just had so many flash backs watching this. Wow, very similar experience but wouldn’t change it for the world because baby girl and I came out of there healthy! So proud of you guys, thank you for sharing.
Seeing all the newborns meet each other was adorable! Also thank you guys for being so real with your journey because that shows both of your strength during this. Proud of you both and so happy that you guys have Auggie in your arms 🩵
How dare u take the piss out of Connor and Liana and Molly mae!! Then call your child Auggie🥴
My husband and I experienced something like this for the first 2 weeks of our daughters life. Seeing this made me feel so validated and seen. We also stayed married and she turns 1 in October, but those 2 weeks were intense and hard. We’re so much closer now. Thank you for sharing your story, proud of you guys for getting through it 🤍
This video makes me realize how I had absolutely no one, no village. Just my partner. Didn’t hit me until your family was singing happy birthday to auggie. You all are blessed ❤️
I don't even have a partner. A tragedy happened in my personal life, and I am so alone in the world I couldn't even get a simple hug.
@@amym1460 That is so sad to read. Hope you're doing okay. How old is your little one?
@courtneyp1578 It is tough when you don't have family around to share the experience and get emotional support. I was the same as we moved around. I suppose, though, even couples who do have family around are still mostly doing the tough stuff on their own. Your family isn't there for middle of the night crying, sick kids, cracked nipples and stuff. But yes, it would have been lovely to have family share in the ups and downs.
💔 I was the same as you. My mother was even hostile. My husband became very distant and it got ugly. I was so alone and under fire. Be good to you, as no one else will be and because you deserve it. ❤️
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Here’s a hug ❤️. God is with you. Believe that and hold your head up.
Thank you guys so much for being so vulnerable in sharing your experience ❤ Y'all are doing so amazing!!!
I agree. Seeing how genuine they both are 🫶🏻. Sharing some “parts” of their hospital experience to help make anyone out here feel less alone…..TRULY AMAZING.☺️😊
After losing both of my parents at such a young age and watching you both over the years becoming yourselves and becoming new parents warms me up inside, makes me happy and whole to experience this with you and to think this is going to be me one day and it excites me more than life. Congratulations
I’m a medical student and I read a lot all of this. I’m also a female in a healthy relationship with my boyfriend who I wish to marry soon but the thing that scares me is the whole pregnancy and postpartum
I do want a baby but to go through all of this, recovering from all of this is very intense and hard! All the mothers in the world have my respect for doing this.
Love love love that you guys kept it real enough for everyone to understand that those days in the hospital are anything but easy and beautiful all the time. My husband and I just had our first baby 3 months ago and I resonated all too well with the tense arguments, breastfeeding struggles, lack of sleep and constant interruptions. It’s so so hard but it’s a normal part of learning how to be a new parent.
I love how real this video is. No one talks about the struggles of BFing or the fights and lack of sleep. This brought back lots of memories of when I had my twins almost a year ago. But you guys are doing awesome! Much love ❤️
I love how raw and real this video is. Thank you for being vulnerable and transparent with us.
I also appreciate how tense the breastfeeding situation was for you both but also how supportive and loving y’all are towards each other throughout this video. Y’all are such a great team!
Congrats! I’m due with my first baby in a month and am trying to prepare for all the possibilities. Thank you for keeping things 100% real!
Congratulations and Wishing Mommy, Daddy, and Baby All the Most Wonderful Blessings During This Special Time♡♡~Luv, Holly in the Desert of Broiling Arizona☆☆:)
Accurate! Just had our second baby on Aug 18th and we totally understand the sleep deprivation / feeding the hungry baby when it feels like you have absolutely nothing left! God is good and always praising Him for providing the strength it takes physically, mentally and emotionally to be a mama. To God be the Glory!
The first 3 weeks with a newborn are extremely tough!! Breastfeeding is a new experience each kid. Give yourself and each other grace!! You both are doing an incrediable job!!! Proud of you Abby!! You are incrediable mama!! Congrats to you both!!
I’m so thankful for this video. I’m due November and I’ve been a little worried that hubby and I won’t have a “dreamy” experience. I know we will both be so happy to meet our baby, but I also know I have a tendency to try to power through the hard stuff even when I need to take a second for my emotional needs. This video gave me the unspoken permission to have a labor and delivery experience that isn’t just sunshine and rainbows without feeling like it’s the end of the world. I feel better going into parenthood knowing that my marriage isn’t doomed just because we may have disagreements at the hospital.
Know that if it turns out you can't breastfeed you are NOT a failure as a mama. Sometimes it's just not in the cards and that's ok
It’s easy to see the positives from other’s experiences but that’s cause it’s easy to hide the hardships. No one wants to see that, but it’s often a very real part of the process. It’ll be hard and good… but won’t last forever. ❤ Such a special season many dream of experiencing.
As somebody who LOVES her husband and has had 3 c-sections and all three times, baby didn't want to latch, I am so grateful for your honesty in depicting how these moments can be. You guys are so lovely to one another and your audience. Marriage is not always rainbows and butterflies. There are hard moments. But when you choose to commit your best self to somebody else, that means getting through those moments together. God bless you guys and your sweet growing family 💙
We just had our first baby 8 weeks ago…my husband has only had one day off since we left the hospital. Taking care of a baby is so rough yet so rewarding. Congrats y’all! 🤍
I love how real this video is! So similar to my husbands and my experience at the hospital with both our girls. You guys are doing awesome!!!!❤
Important notes about breastfeeding:
1.) If a child is struggling to latch, hold off on pacifiers (which can cause "nipple confusion"), or try a nipple shield to help stimulate the suck reflex. Hospitals can provide nipple shields.
2.) "Milk coming in" is a misnomer. The first form of breast milk, collostrum, is already present before birth. It comes out in drops at a time and is sufficient for the newborn as it is super rich in everything the baby needs.
3.) If the child is struggling with a latch, you can ask a nurse for a syringe or a dropper to hand-express breastmilk into in order to feed the child while mom and baby figure out a good latch.
There are so many options and steps to take to help with the first 3-5 days before the milk transitions other than formula!
Matt: “…And stay married to me.”
Abby: “That was the hardest part”
Matt: “Hey, watch it!”
Took me out 🤣
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Agreed 😂
Hilarious😂😂.
I read somewhere that a mother produces different milk at night compared to the day; night milk has more melatonin to help the baby sleep. It might help to keep night milk supply separate from morning/day milk to help develop the baby’s circadian rhythm :)
I've never heard this before! Our bodies are amazing!!!
You two are amazing parents, Griffen and August are very blessed. Congratulations 🎉
I developed PPD with psychosis the first 48 hours. It was hell for an entire month. My son is now 8 months and it’s been better. ❤
there wasn't an need to keep insisting on brestfeeding auggie the first two days. a little formula wouldn't have done anything bad. you could have gotten to relax a little bit on these earliest hours after birth. just felt like it wasn't right to disregard matt's opinion about giving a bottle to calm him down
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True but it is her choice at the end of the day as long as shes not killing herself i dont see the issue personally. An issue to consider when you give a baby formula or a bottle especially in the early stages is they may develop strong preferences. Im not saying its the case for all but its not uncommon for babies to have a bottle once and prefer it of the breast, then they refuse to take the other due to it’s different shape (in some cases taste too). Babies are going to cry regardless, soothing via bottle/breast/dummy isnt always something all parents allow theyd rather just push through. Its not harming either of them at the end of the day so i really dont see the issue
@@_Hollie_ baby would've stopped so Abby could sleep, Matt was trying so hard to help the baby so she could rest, but in stead she refused (her choice I know), but the baby would've stopped. I'm not saying ignore the baby's cry, I'm not but think how much harder it is for the baby, in momma's tummy for 9 months & then BAM he's in a world he knows nothing about, & can't tell momma or daddy he's hungry or its something else. I understand the 1st 48 hours are hard. I wish them the best I really do, but you also have to think she had Matt's help the WHOLE time, she got to sleep anytime she wanted, take time out for herself, Matt did it all with their 1st baby, & took on 2 that first night, (yes, she had a c section), but think about this, single mom's don't even have that. And I know my parents (even though there gone now), wouldn't have packed up to move to help them. My parents would've said, you made those baby's thats on you both. We'll baby sit here & there but to do what there doing. Grandma & Grandpa already did there duty. Also Matt's brother just became a daddy too, I feel for their baby too as they don't get to see that grand baby as much. A lot of single parents don't even have what they have yes, I know they feel grateful, not saying they don't, but both parents should help each other, I see Matt doing most of it. That's not fair to Matt. Matt was frustrated & needed mommy's help & instead of helping him & the baby she got upset. Baby could sense daddy was trying ot ehlp sooth him, but could hear it in momma's voice she was upset. Babies can pick up on these things.
I don’t blame you guys for having an argument. You were both sleep deprived, poor Abby went through major surgery after cooking a 9 pound baby for months, the postpartum hormone changes must have started hitting, Matt was trying to help settle a screaming new born and support his wife through everything she’s going through. Tempers rise in less pressured circumstances, and sometimes you snap because you’re overwhelmed and JUST NEED TO SLEEP! Glad the nurse came to save the day so you both could get some uninterrupted sleep before going it alone with a newborn and a toddler.
Oh sweet Abby, I feel your pain in hearing your baby cry. I know how hard breastfeeding can be, especially in the early days, but I commend you for fighting on for baby Auggie!
You guys are great parents; so excited to see your little family grow. 😊
Those first days in the hospital are literally the worst you get no sleep with hospital staff in and out of the room constantly it’s so overwhelming!! thanks for shining a light on reality and making the rest of us in baby parent mode feel less alone. You guys are doing great hugs to Abby from one mama of almost 2 under 2 to another ❤
Love how honest this video was. Brought a lot of memories back to me. I think sometimes dads prefer bottle feeding as they feel more in control. But Mothers are so strong and know what's best for baby.
I love that you showed this because it was SO hard in the hospital after my c-sections. My husband and I were cranky. I barely got sleep before my C-section because I was so nervous. My milk was not coming in. I didn't sleep for like two days and it felt like everytime the baby and I finally fell asleep someone came in and woke us up. Then they had the audacity to insinuating that we were like in an unhealthy relationship or something because we were quietly bickering in our room like whisper fighting but we were just exhausted!!!! And I didn't want to be mad at the nurses because they were just doing their job but I wanted to be like can you just leave me alone for awhile. Hospital stay was the worse part of each birth I could not wait to go home. With my last pregnancy I kept asking about going home and they could tell I didn't want to be there long.
For me, staying together with my fiancé once our kids were born was easy. He's been my person for 11 years now and our oldest is now 4 as of yesterday and everytime I have gone through delivering a baby, I always want him right there holding me and making sure I'm okay. He comforts me more than anyone else ever could so the only way we would end up separated is him leaving
Most wholesome video on the internet. Period. Good job Matt & Abby! Yall are doing amazing showing the real & rawness of parenthood!
Abby im so sorry. You love him so much and know YT is his dream. You do everything to allow him to film when you probably dont want to and days after birth he has a camera in your face and is doing high fives and asking your opinion...camera in face. Girl the best thing you ever did is put that boundary to not show your children online and i support you. Im sorry you didnt get a private birth with your husband and family and care. You deserved a week without cameras at all.
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Just because your baby gets formula a few times not to starve doesn't mean you won't be able to nurse later. You just have to pump until your milk comes in and then try again. I did it with my NiCu baby. He stayed there 2 months there because he was very premature. He had a feeding tube and later I fed him my milk with a bottle. Then I managed to get him to nurse. He is now 9 months and I still breastfeed.
I can understand Matt getting overwhelmed for Auggie to eat yet he is forgetting how incredibly crucial it is to establish enough supply there should be no formula given as far as I know for the first 6 week; as breastmilk is produced when feeding on demand. I feel so much for Abby cos I was in that position when I was sleep deprived and wanted to feed my girl and my hubby suggested to give formula I was so hurt.
Abby I love you guys but you need to take into consideration about matt's feelings also. He's having a tough time with it to. I love you all and just want the best for you as a mum of two myself it won't hurt your breastfeeding and it will give more time for you to rest and Matt to bond. I really hope you don't take this the wrong way I would just like to help. Sending you all positive vibes x
I had two babies boys within 12 months and it was so hard on my body! BUT you guys are doing INCREDIBLE and killing it! You can do this! ☺️❤️
I love seeing Bella and Abby sharing their new babies with each other. 😍
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Agggh I never thought of that!! Story and Auggi are going to be besties ❤
It’s important to note that even if you can’t breastfeed it’s okay a fed baby is the best baby i stopped breastfeeding for my mental health and it was the best decision ever
You guys rock. Thank you for being so raw & genuine.
Fought with my husband after I had my second at home. He was being a jerk and only thinking about his lack of sleep instead of me, and I broke down sobbing when typically I never ever ever cry. Also he never DARED suggest bottle feeding my babies. He took the new parent class at the birth center with me and he KNEW that every suckle needed to go to mom to stimulate milk production, and that the baby was not starving on colostrum. Using formula in the first days is what sets breastfeeding up for failure.
How you stand this man I don’t understand… all these comments praising him 😢
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This is exactly how it was with me , 22 first time mom , had to have a C-section , both of us first time parents and we didn’t know what we’d were going but we’re so grateful for the nurses we had for our 4 day stay , there was even a point where we sent baby to the nursery for one night just to get some sleep and so I could pump enough for her , she didn’t latch at all even with a lactation specialist, turned out she had a tongue tie but even after it was clipped she wouldn’t latch I didn’t want to give her formula but she was starving ! Love how raw and real this video is❤️❤️
You know Aggie was once the Youngest person in the world for like 1 second
This was such an accurate, refreshing example of what the hospital stay is like after your baby is born. Thanks for being real and raw!!! 💕😊
This is what both of our hospital stays looked like. This is the kind of stuff that needs to be shared. My husband and I have never been more pissed off with each other than those two days in a hospital 😂. But honestly, no one prepares you for that! Good on y’all for sharing the truth on hospital stays. Dad’s role is most important in those first 2 days than most of the recovery, IMO, so the mom can recover as she needs to. She’s done the hard work for 9 months and then to have to deliver a baby, either vaginally or via c section, takes everything out of you. Well done.
My son is 9 months, I also had a c-section, and I watched this so that I could remember what those first few days were like. Utter shock, feeling like you want to/are going to die from exhaustion, and the constant worrying about feeding….I feel your experience on a deep level. Thanks for keeping it real.
I'm a Nutrition student and I'm so proud of Abby for sticking to breastfeeding because it is soo important, if you're lucky enough to be able to breastfeed and have a decent supply just stick to it, because it is crucial for the baby and the mother and even more because your children are only 1 yr apart. They need the milk! ❤❤❤
Hmmm, but fed is best and if parents choose to bottle feed to allow them to share the load and responsibility then that is also important. Happy well-slept people with good mental health is crucial for baby, mother and father. Do not shame others for making other feeding choices. Thank you.
@@missp3252 Overall fed is best. But nutritionally breast milk is still better than formula. So it makes sense a nutrition student would make a comment like that. A social worker would probably see it differently and would mention the arguments you made.
@@missp3252She’s encouraging Abby to breastfeed, not shaming anyone. Chill
@@johanna2690true I’m a social work student and I think just keeping the baby fed is a better choice if you can’t produce enough breast milk. I would recommend formula milk if the baby isn’t latching on no matter how hard you try. But breast milk should be the first choice
It important but also has similar outcomes to formula sooooo how is it sooooo important again?
Your authenticity and honesty will help more young adults than you realize. More people need to be honest about the good AND the "bad." I put it in quotes because most times, when you look back at those moments later in your marriage, you realize that getting through those together, were the most strengthening for your marriage and make the good times, that much sweeter. My hubby and I just celebrated 25 years of marriage and looked back at the years we've been together and were kind of shocked to realize this. It's just another moment of realizing just how true the words, "He never promised it'd be easy, He only promised it'd be worth it." are. You guys are in our thoughts and prayers. Remember to celebrate even the smallest of victories and enjoy the seemingly small moments, because they each moment only happens once.
Just to let you know, as crazy as it seems, I had 3 kiddos at your age and was getting a hysterectomy because I had horrible endometriosis. Being empty nesters in our early 40's has allowed us to go through a second courtship and resolution to enjoy everyday together. I used to wish that we'd had more time, with just the two of us in the beginning but now I'm glad that we have that time now. Especially before our family of 5 expands with weddings and then grandchildren!! I will DEFINITELY have my daughter and future daughter-in-laws watch these videos so they're more prepared for the ups and downs of the birthing process.
Mad props that you're keeping August's face blurred.
why do people blur babies faces?
@@maciekoerschner Privacy and lifestyle under the radar. August, just like you and me, deserves a normal lifestyle as a normal person, not a celebrity or influencer. He can opt in once he gets older ofc, but it's best if his face is hidden as he grows.
@@KevinEnjoyer what abt griffin? they don’t blur his face and he his definitely not old enough to decide that
I loved those sleepless nights with my little man. I just put myself in his position of him being scared and hungry and just wanting his momma there to comfort him. It didn't seem like such a hassle, but more of an honor that he trusted me and wanted me there with him.
I feel like so many people complain (NOT SAYING THEY DO THIS) about not sleeping and having to tend to the baby at all times. That's what parenthood is about - sacrificing luxuries - and in return you get a beautiful child that loves you unconditionally. I guess i just changed my perspective at the time, otherwise i would have been miserable.
Great job you two!❤❤ Thanks for showing the reality of child birth. It's not always easy, and people need to see that to be prepared for when things aren't always peachy
When I grow up, I want to have a relationship like this 🫶🏻💗 you guys where made for each other ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
“My wife got mad at me”
*proceeds to film wife*
30 years later I still have my c section scar and every time I see it I remember that time..don't stress out over the feeding every baby is different if you have to supplement with a bottle there is no shame .
First of all. I want to congratulate you guys and hope your having the best time possible with your babies.
Not gonna lie, being a big fan of yours i was a little dissapointed the way Abby reacted when Matt wanted to give baby bottle.
Look. Believe me or not. I also had my second baby last month on the 29th and wanted to breastfeed so much but baby has a tongue tie so it was very hard for her to latch.
Although i felt like a total failure we had no choice as baby was getting dehydrated. So with no hesitation we introduced formula.
No hate. Honestly. Mommy milk is the BEST of all. But forcing things this way is never a good idea. The way you reacted made me feel judged for giving my baby formula. No one should ever feel like that. You too..
But Abby, you have a husband who helps you so much and it blows my mind that you still felt overlooked.
My husband NEVER EVER once stayed the whole night with the baby so i could get sleep. I am doing everything for my babies.
I honestly felt attacked because Matt wanted to feed the baby bc he was crying and needed milk.
Instead of being grateful of your husband and the way he cared for you in the hospital you got in an argument with him about him wanting to FEED YOUR BABY.
The day i gave birth my husband didnt even stay with me at the hospital, he had to take care of our 1 year old.
Please be more considerate with Matt. A lot of women dont get to have your luck.
I gave birth here in the UK and didnt even have my own room.. let alone complain about the size..
Love you guys, and hope the best
A fed baby is best. And rested parents is a necessity. I beat myself up about not being able to successfully breast feed. We now have 3 adult children and not breast feeding them made no difference. Parenting is tough enough. No need for added social pressure.
I love how real and raw you guys always keep it. Birth is HARD. It’s not always rainbows and sunshine and I think it’s so important to show that!! So glad everyone is healthy and safely back home!❤️
You are not less of a mom if you do not breastfeed. Remember that fed is best and if you’re both really frustrated formula is a great fix for one feed so you can calm down and try again on the next feed. Considering the dad’s frustration as well with a crying baby, he feels helpless especially if you tell him to wait 10 minutes with a screaming baby that he can’t feed. Both of you are important in this situation and you have to think if not using formula is more important than not fighting with your spouse. I understand to pick your battles and you want to breastfeed but ultimately a happy baby makes a happy parent and vise versa. Your strength as a mother does not depend on breastfeeding. It’s great and all, but it’s not worth the sake of your marriage and happiness of the baby. Give yourself and Matt grace.
This solidifies my decision to not have children. I love my sleep, peace, and quiet lol
Working and caring for a newborn y’all are doing AMAZING.
These moments are so hard but y’all fall on eachother and make it work. ❤️
this is makin me on the verge of tears. y’all are so strong and i’m so proud of you for everything 🫶🏻 my best friend had an EXTREMELY similar hospital experience to y’all, and it was so hard to watch her go thru everything she did. Y’all are absolutely wonderful parents 🫶🏻
If you are doing this and can get atleast 1 person to help, please do so. Childbirth needs 3 people. The mom to have the baby, heal, recover and take care of the baby. The dad to support the mom and take care of the baby. And a third selfless human being to ensure that the mom and dad gets some food and sleep in the first few weeks.
Time is so fluid in the newborn stage. Postpartum is so hard. You guys are doing great! Thanks for keeping your content real and raw.
Abby was right about the bottle/breastfeed and that it is critical breastfeeding time. But I can see as a dad feeling helpless wanting to feed
This vlog took me right back to after I had my c-sections. It’s so bloody tough but you did amazing Abby. Make sure you rest up as much as you can and enjoy your precious boy xxxx
“Thanks for feeding him” that’s SO sweet to say to your breastfeeding wife. So simple but so sweet.
YALL he admitted to IGNORING HER FOR TWO DAYS AFTER SHE GAVE BIRTH
But you’re writing this video cutting them down but on the other you’re protecting
them and messaging back to peoples comments that are against formula waste. you’re weird.
When did he say this? Everywhere i See people write, that he ignored her. Now i am curious.
Hospital must get its act toghether and let the mother sleep after delevery, espesially when c section or other complications. It is not possible to be a parent if no sleep.
Call me old fashioned, but mama gets to make feeding decisions-it’s not ‘we’ when talking breast feeding.
I’m pretty sure he knows that, but it’s the fact that he wants his kid fed and not hungry. If he’s not nursing well Matt was just wanting the best for him, and I’m sure if Abby’s hormones weren’t so high she would’ve understood that too.
Matt i just wanted to say, i am SO impressed with the way you were still able to capture all of this and still keep your baby private 😩 you’re doing SUCH a good job with these videos!
You guys are such incredible parents. Auggie and griffin are the cutest xxx
I'm so glad you mentioned the nurses coming in EVERY HOUR!!! It made that 48 hours hell. Every time I'd get the baby latched, someone was coming in to do something. Love the nurses and hospital staff but this is something that needs to be talked about and maybe changed.
Dad- you did a great job supporting mom and baby too! Congratulations you two! 🎉
No he didn't.. watch the podcast and he literally tells how he ignored her for the first 48 hours of the baby being born.. because of his career goals being set aside?? To raise his own baby!! And support his wife!! He's a jerk. Don't believe what he puts out. If you pay attention he's always trying to make Abby look bad.
@@sourflower3727 I found him to be incredibly annoying and not helpful at all. At first I thought "Wow how lucky to have dad be able to stay in the room and help." Then nope. He was not helpful especially on her about giving him a bottle.
I have to say my husband and I had 5 kids and I dont remember everything being so over thought and torturous. Enjoy while you can.
Appreciate this video. We are due with baby number 2 with a possible c-section. Our first baby was a month and a half early so we had nothing planned at all. No hospital bag, nursery half done. Spent weeks in the hospital years ago it feels like being a new new mom. This video was a good reminder of things to come. Thank you and congratulations so much! ♡ Keep up the good work momma and dad! ❤
How come Bella holding august is the first time I’ve seen her hold a baby correctly 😂😂
You guys are so strong so glad Abby and the baby are healthy❤
I haven't seen anyone else mention it but I really appreciated how they censored the baby's face. It's a nice change of pace.
Best of luck to both of you
Can I just dedicate Abby for putting on her makeup the hole time and for being and great parent and Matt.
I’m a postpartum RN and an IBCLC (lactation consultant). I’ve been seeing a number of comments talking about the struggle with breastfeeding and I think it’s something that isn’t discussed a lot. Babies often don’t latch a lot the first 24 hours and are sleepy. We call it the birthday nap. They will often make up for lost time on the secondary day/night. We refer to this as second night syndrome. There is little sleep to be had. You can hand express colostrum and finger feed it to the baby if they aren’t latching. You don’t have to give formula if it isn’t medically necessary. However, it is also a personal choice. If you have good production in those first few days you can ask for a breast pump if you need to get some sleep and your partner can give the expressed milk. If you don’t want to give a bottle ask about syringe and cup feeding options but it is better to learn the cup feeding before going home if the baby still is not latching. Of course, if you’re simply too tired, do what you need to do for you. No one has the right to make you feel guilty for your choices.
I feel like you guys are literally the only ones who genuinely keep it real on here. You guys share the ups and the downs. The good and the bad. Thank you guys for doing so.
Matt gets off on making Abby uncomfortable and shaming her for everything she does. she grew a new organ (placenta), and an entire life inside of her, but because she got a C section, he shamed her for “cheating”. All he did was BARELY keep it in his pants for 6 weeks after G.
I get that breastfeeding is important and not being able to can make you feel like a failure as a mom, at least I did when I wasn’t producing enough or wouldn’t latch. I think it’s important to remind people that supplemental formula feedings as your trying to get your baby to latch or waiting for your milk to drop isn’t a bad thing and to learn that it’s better than putting that unnecessary stress to both you, your partner, or your baby. It was something that took me a long time to accept and embrace with my second baby and I wish more people talked about that online. It definitely made my first few days with my newborn a lot easier and more enjoyable without the pressure.❤
y’all are going to be such good parents with 2 kids!!💗
I agree ❤
Dear Abby and Matt! I cannot be thankful enough for you to share those precious moments. I have a three months old born in Hungary. I had an amazing delivery because of the professional staff but I wish I could have this kind of postpartum room which you showed us in the video. Because the hospital was fully packed, I could not get a single room, but I stayed in a 3 bed postpartum room, with the other moms (who were very nice). There was no bathroom in the room. Even the single room would have been much smaller than yours, and there is no way for the dad to stay. I probably don't have to mention it but the food was extremely bad and not enough in the hospital. Please appreciate your circumstances! Much love! Klara
If you think the first 48 hours are going to be the most challenging part of their life your about to be in for a life of surprises.
Being honest here, I appreciated you showing us that argument about the bottle. Having been through that situation with my husband, it brings a whole new perspective seeing this from the outside looking in.
Thank you for sharing this. You two are such good parents & seem to support each other really well. I absolutely hated my hospital experience. I begged to go home as soon as I could. They wanted to keep me one more night, but I just wanted to go home as soon as I was cleared to do so. My son's father wanted to push formula & we definitely had a fight about it. He thought he was helping by pushing it so much & I felt like he was not giving me a chance to even try before pushing the bottle.
Matt just told 357k people that he hasn’t showered in two days and then told us not to tell anybody
It’s crazy how hospitals do things so differently in different places like I had dissolving stitches and my nurses were in every 3ish hours instead of every 1! I’m still so happy for y’all!