HOW TO PICK A MAN OR WOMAN WHO YOU CAN TRUST
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If you haven't chosen someone who can take the wheel, you've effectively adopted a son that you didn't choose. OOOOF. This is that painful true moment of questioning the life choices. 😅 There's a line between allowing the growth of potential in someone, and carrying someone who does not want to grow up.
No. You adopted a son that you DID choose. Probably BECAUSE he can’t/wont challenge you for control. The problem is that you eventually lose attraction to, and respect for YOUR choice.
The real issue is that many of you want the power that comes with leadership, but none of the responsibilities that come with. You want him to give up the power… but keep the responsibility. That is crazy-making and paralyzing. Trying to be responsible for something or someone you have no authority over. Trying to lead someone who only follows when she feels like it…
Agree 100% ,
A man and woman in a relationship need to be equally yoked. Meaning, share the same beliefs, values and life goals.
meh.... nobody is equally yoked
@@TheMightyWalk You don't even know the meaning of the phrase, but that didn't prevent you from speaking up
@@kuramobay2445 - as i said.... nobody is equally yoked. Even if you are both christians you sin different and there is absolutely no way two people are raised the same.... shit even twins show difference
@@TheMightyWalkYou don't understand the meaning of the phrase. Use your dictionary or try Google.
@@kuramobay2445 you just said it above and on top of that its a blanket phrase. as i said... NOBODY is equally yoked. which is why its garbage advice. if it was this simple you wouldnt be watching sadia
Boss babes need to see Dolly Parton as an example. She's one of the most successful and wealthy musicians of all time, with a successful marriage for almost 60 years. She openly admits her husband is the leader/boss in their relationship.
Yes she is a very smart woman on many levels, she was smart enough to respect his wishes to maintain his privacy 👍 , a lot of famous men and women just want a show pony on their arms at awards night, not a real living mutually respectful relationship 🤷♀️
I would also like to admit my partner leads. That's what I see as masculinity and that is rare these days.
She can say anything she wants and we have no way to verify it but looking on the outside. The way she flashes her body about, you can be SURE she is the boss. Psychology tells.
The first thing that strikes me about this lady is her stunning beauty and then the security she talks with shows how strong she is. Being so pretty I bet she's had to deal with both men AND women discarding her speech and points of view because most people focus on her beauty and would only see in her what they fear or what they desire, a threat or a sexual toy. You can tell she's had to put her foot down A LOT to protect her intelligence, her sanity, her dignity and her confidence and stay strong in her boundaries.
Not sure if true but another relationship site claimed she has been married a couple of times and is currently a single mum. They were also disputing her advice to men.
@@damo5701 good on her for divorcing if it doesn't work. I just hope she learned the lesson and stops marrying altogether!
Looks have nothing to do with what she says. If that distracts you, then the problem is YOU. Someone's looks doesn't make them an expert.
I am unatractive ordinary woman and I like to click on her videos, listen her humble opinions with open mind....maybe because all my female and male cousins have very open personaliy humble attitude, smilling and smart personality, soe are religious, ...so I see such qualities in others online.
and i am glad some people also with beauty create some balance in society with their mindset, thereforE i feel happy for their ability to share it....because it makes the world better and less confused.
tv shows are polarizing people´s mindset, so we assume everybody thinks the same.
Bottom line, it is how you are raised, we have been love, not sexual abuse, mentally and emotionally mistreated! If you have received unconditional love, kindness, self respect, communication is major, that is what you give back and broke don't work! I know this sounds perfect to many that have serious work to do, thank you guys so much for having such great conversations, have a magical New Year, stay blessed and let's go! 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Yeah well ppl with sexual or any trauma might need a good relationship to become better.
@@britt6084not without professional help
Bullshit
I have been happy all my life, never abused never mistreated etc and i don t want any body because i Fell complete and happy with myself....
If you can't love yourself you cannot love other's period love yours
Women love to submit to men who make them feel safe and respected. Men, if you don’t provide a safe and healthy environment, women won’t submit to you. And women, use your discernment to choose men who are providers.
You left out the obvious prerequisite... physical attraction
You also forgot to include if a woman is suffering from previous unresolved trauma she's not in a position to submit.
Backwards. You cannot protect what you have no authority over. Which is why this whole notion of “conditional submission” doesn’t work.
All a man can do is demonstrate that he’s trustworthy and consistent…and some of you are so broken that you actually find signs of sound character to be a turn-off.
IOW, I can’t protect you if you won’t LISTEN…or you refuse to trust my judgment. Most of you under 30 can’t do that because you are simply too self-absorbed to be in a healthy relationship and cooperate with anyone.
Fantastic chat, Fantastic questions,we all learn every day (for those of us that want to learn)💯🙏🏽
Great comments on dealing with the effects of past trauma in a relationship.
It's interesting that they come after looks and morality when they disagree. When people disagree with me online, they typically insult my intelligence and qualifications rather than addressing the data I just brought up.
Also, great conversation on submission. I know that, in order for marriage to be peaceful, my wife has to submit to my leadership, but I didn't have a clear picture of why until this video. I realized as I was listening that the opposite of submission, in my experience, is angry, nitpicking micromanagement.
Thabk you! I totally agree with everything! I've learnt that be the partner you want. The right one will come along. And even if they don't, you won't feel lonely coz you feel whole alone.
This is one of the most powerful conversations I heard yet..Sadia you have a balance on both your personal conviction and nuances of your profession. We need more of you. Also like the genuine efforts of the host to accommodate the difference in views! I enjoyed this!
Appreciated
You are being manipulated, she doing the same thing Derek Jackson did women but to men,she say what you want to hear not reality
@@LordDoma-jg6og What is reality to you?
@@fatherlucid4995 everyone knows what reality is, (deep down inside) they know what they can do and what they can't, (limits ,potential,skill ,genetics etc) .delusion is dangerous, that what sadia and Derek Jackson sell/spread
Not many - less than 50% - of people these days know what a successful relationship even looks like.
Agree
Most people have extremely limited choices and have to make major compromises, particularly on physical attraction
If you listen to Sadia, she says you must compromise on the type of people that are attracted to you. If you are going after someone and they are doing certain things, you picked wrong. Most people over estimate their looks.@@yourlogicalnightmare1014
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Hey dope value on your page!! Keep winning & shining.
Thank you! Will do!
True true true, everything excellent.... the interview was not long enuff.... I'd like to listen to the rest of it, I was loving it, thank you.
Glad you enjoyed it more is coming from this one
Great information as always. Sadia! Thank you!😊
Unfortunately, some men emotionally, mentally and spiritually are consistently attacking their partners and you wind up reacting in a very frustrated manner… until eventually hopefully you leave. No one talks about that.
Such an interesting conversation. I don’t agree with everything she says but I can’t believe people attack her for her physical appearance or education… 🤦♀️ Thank you Sadia for your humanity regarding 🇵🇸🍉💛🙏
Wonderful discussion. Pls we want the rest of it
One of your best, big fan, this one really "hit home" with me and my failed 30 year marriage ... did not find out about her childhood until year 26 (C0VID) hit, she had a meltdown and it all came out. Sure explained MANY "odd" things since eloping in 1993. Served her divorce papers this past June, it's a long process. CHEERS, will be listening more in 2024.
I’m curious if the entire 30 years was all bad?
@@1BlkBarbie1 It was not all bad but it was all difficult
How did you manage to stay that long? She will miss you, just wait.
If she wants you back and wants to reasonably restore your marriage: consider having pity on her for your both's sake and the sake of potential past and or future kids and or society.
I freaking love this and agree wholeheartedly
I loved watching this full video on Impact Theory :)
Submitting sounds like a relief for sure, but finding someone you can trust enough to do that...hmmm. She is so right of men needing to remove women’s fears/provide safety.
All this is nice. No one should completely take over the other person's life. When ot comes down to one controlling the other's life, then it is not a partnership. A marriage, whether it is the husband controlling the wife or the wife controlling the husband.
But, it is hard to pick or find a woman to be with that you can trust when one is treated as an option.
I wish I could hit the like button more than once.
Happy New Year!
Hi Sadia!
I like your talk shows, especially the ONE in one of your shows where you defined the ideal role of men and women in terms of a 'caveman', being natural and instinctive in what we both did back then, as 'humans'. I loved it. I thought I was the only one who was stuck to this 'caveman' style of life. I was wondering and always hoping for someone still alive on this planet to bring this up, who follows this logic and was very very happy when I heard that from you. My instant reaction was a grin face. I was actually expecting another 'man' I would come across one day would define this kind of lifestyle, but it was a woman (you), which makes you a 'human'. It was very unexpected. I am triple happy!
I have a question about girls and women in general and hopefully the answer from you helps boys and men!
What does it mean when an unmarried, educated, and a working woman whose age is 24, 25, or 26 who is proposed to by a guy for love and marriage and when asked, she tells him that she is not in a relationship with someone, but she is in love with someone?
love yr intel..would listen u everyday..
Easier said than done! There is literally not many high value men .
Certainly not many you would be attracted to
Loyalty,Honesty, not controlling,Share similar interests NOT Difficult
Hello Sadia. I'll be thankful for your guidance ☘️ What if the only problem between a couple is his job! I mean he doesn't have a constant job yet & even doesn't make an effort... after 2.5 years he still expects me to wait for him (& his empty promises) . (I wanted to add that he's so nice & mature in every aspect. That's why I can't understand why he's doing this to us!)
Instead of the word “submit “…how about “relied on,” or “depend on.”
I feel we all need this eye opening information what an amazing professional woman. I need her as my psychologist. 😊😊😊
if i do everything to have a sex with normal women, am i crazy
and she may cheat on me because i forgot to do somethig , all is bs
women must low their expectation from men
Your host got hypnotized..
1. That they are Sadia.
2. That they are Sadia.
3. That they are Sadia.
😍😍
such an intelligent woman!!
Sadia is amazing
You can't change people unwilling to change for their own good. Seeing "potential" in someone is not who they are, it's what they might become in their own time, not yours.
😁😁❤️love listening and learning from the beautiful Sadia ❤ yes to being looked after and taken care of 😁😁 let the man lead. be valuable to him
If you have found that men want control over you then you need to examine that.
Interviews with Sadia always teach me so much and end too early. I could listen to her for hours and hours.
Something in her voice that makes it easy to listen to her
Sadia is exactly the person that everyone needs to listen to if they want to build a meaningful relationship with a partner.
The latter message 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
EXACTLY! 🔥🥰 17:10 18:20 22:19
I knew a man with a daughter who married a woman with 2 sons. This man brought gifts for his daughter but not the sons of his wife. That was open discrimination.
He spent in his hobbies, but not in the needs of the house.
He even talked once about what would happen if she was not among us, and that was a deal breaker. The message she got was that he wanted to seize her house. She started the process of divorce and she is divorced by now.
Sadia you are amazing and beautiful! I love your content:)
We SHOULD want to be submissive to our men or why are you choosing them?
I have a Psychology degree also :)
Sadia is incredible 🤔
Self soothe first so partner can help you if needed.
If you depend on men giving you anything, thats not "independence"
"Validations" are overrated
Hello Sadia, I appreciate your views on relationships. It does feel a bit daunting your views on single woman with children ,as I am ( divorced) with two boys that I mainly brought up on my own. And I see the nessecity for a masculin example , unfortunately their father was and is not up to that, which has pushed me into a very masculine energy of dealing with everything on my own.
How would you deal with this. I want them to know how to be a good man for a good woman.
Trust yourself...and save yourself a lot of disappointment by not trusting anyone else...
WHOM you can trust.
Wow! I can’t believe women attack you on your beauty!!!! 😮 They must be so insecure and not attractive. Because you are so gorgeous! Completely perfect! How can deny that?!! 😃👍👍👏👏👏 And also so intelligent and an expert in your field!
24:23 crux - capable to lead yet support women's desires
I do use anger cause I have learned it works. people dismiss you when you try to negotiate or try a healthy riot . Anger works
The people who got the least love in childhood, get no love in adulthood…the people got most love in childhood get and give more love in adulthood
It’s pretty cruel when you think about it
Gosh. This is disheartening to say the least. I am pretty sure now, and I always feared that was the reason, now Sadia confirmed it (19:00), I lost the love of my life because I couldn't keep it up during our first close encounter, I got into my head and lost it after a great start. Some three weeks later after that, she broke up with me. She was head over heals into me for two months before and I really started to love her. A lot. If I heard what Sadia is saying here back then in 2018 after the breakup I don't know if I still would be here. =(
It can be a tough world, stay strong. Seek greatness within yourself.
She wasn't the love of your life if she left you
use the word alignment
Starting at 7:00 minutes ive heard the same thing from Rollo Rational Male. This is the first woman ive heard to state this as well.
Self regulation....is key ..... especially when there's no father figure present when shes growing...a female can be a narcissist in her up bringing
And it's worse when they had father figures who were abusive. They suffer from misandry. It's sad.
@@jackthere I agree that having an abusive father is worse than having no father growing up.
It's better to be alone
100% agree except I believe it’s God’s design. Many choose to misunderstand her words.
Hi sadia what way would you advice an introvert men in his 20's to find a date ( dating app, asking out a girl in the street,etc.... ).
Thanks for your answer.
She probably wouldn’t have the best advice for this, but what I have to say is that you need to take direct concrete actions to stop being so introverted and closed off. A great piece of advice I received is that you need to actively initiate with people more often, every day if possible. It doesn’t have to be anything big or monumental, but you can just drop a complement on somebody and basically walk away. But if you do it, repeatedly, eventually, that will become part of who you are, and although you will still be an introvert by nature, in some sense you will have changed your personality.
Great places to meet good women include volunteer opportunities, church, hobby groups. The club and bars are not a good idea if you want a high quality woman.
@@jessiesheldon-huffey1824
High quality and physically attractive rarely go together
What is an advice when you love your babies under 7 but ur heart is telling u ur partner, she’s disrespecting u behind ur back?
Such genius
Who?
@@SkywalkerPaul Dr. Khan
@@alexfafoutakis She's not a doctor
It happened to me more than once, that my first time with a girl I had problems with keeping an erection. And it was because I was worrying about it and wanted to impress a bit too much I guess.
Pretty much always after that it was getting much better.
Never been into hook ups, so that was always some kind of relationship
is life more beautiful dependent on one another or more chaotic & stressful?
Codependence or independence are two extremes, interdependence is key to a better life imo.
Who said women can move on quickly from one man to another? Very strange statement. It takes months and sometimes years for me.
Men don't "pick" what they want, they pick what makes itself an option
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Been in 2 relationships where my man had ED over health reasons and while it was alarming, I absolutely did not find them unattractive at all. I still desired them. I suppose if a man can never be erect for his woman that would be a different story.
No submission between sexs doesn't last when it's mental. Submission works best when it's primal
it cut off.. where's part 2?
boy this woman is a genius she has women figured out to a T!
My brother and I have the same upbringing, yet he is happily married with two kid, while I get mist insulted and otherwise rudely treated, just by approaching. The difference is, my brother is between 6'3" and 6'4" and rather good looking, while I am 5'8" and wish I was at least average looking. Some people can't even choose a partner, if no one is interested.
Very sad but y don't u go for ugly or less attractive woman
@@deepakds4142 That's what I have always done, like women my size that weighed over 50 pounds more, etc. I have literally gone for women considered 3s. To high standards has never been a problem. I was even in a match making institute (which was a thing in my 30s), where I got 0 interested women during 1 year.
With modern day woman it’s hard to find a true hearted mate…it depends where yer looking I suppose…get out of the bars and clubs and get in a good church…find a mate that you have a definite chance of being equally yoked with…let God lead you to the right one…and she will be the “one”
Everyone feels frustrated at times. The difference between my frustration and yours is that mine is 100% your fault, lol!
What happened to your instagram?
My woman is most definately a narcissist. Maybe I did something to offend this woman 10 years ago.
Like she wanted me to buy a bigger house and I said no.
It made no sense because the mortgage will be 4 - 5 times what we are currently paying.
But everything has been downhill since then.
Talk about she attacked me, called the cops on me so I slept in a cell. She said sorry but 2 days later she was gone.
That was over a year ago now.
The worst thing is friends and family that advise them.
How can you be talking advise from an unmarried 35 year old woman because she is your sister. If she could handle a home - she will be married. Or your single mother friends - who are obviously not happy That you are in a happy loving relationship.
Wonders will never cease in this life.
awesome
Men born to lead. N responsible. N respectful n to love to in charge to be a Boss, n finance his woman n children n family. Always as Asian Chinese vietnamese cultures for millions years
And super expensive
What a woman!
Beautiful.sadia What. Type. Of. Man. do u. like. What. Must. He. Possess, what. Must. be his. criteria
Try to be the man she can control and you will rapidly turn into the boring husband she cheats on
So true. I have girlfriends who continuously cheat on their husbands & w no remorse whatsoever!!
@@Love2Love927when you are emotionally solipsistic, you are by default ammoral
Idk the way america is going being a boss is the mindset till death good discussion doe
He doesn't need to "earn" submission. If it is agreed to, then it is expected.
INDEED. It's IN, the "vows..." (And for good reason!)
@@williamtiffee3799 Even without marriage too. I wealthy so no need for my gf to work. And so I SAVED HER FROM THE NEED TO BE A WORKER SLAVE in life.
You know...solved the ULTIMATE problem for her....and so we had an agreement. She gets breakfast lunch and dinner ready and respects me "upward" (not egalitarian respect...but respect like her father gets....he listens, but his word is final).
She just absolutely failed to do it.
Shes a poor Vietnamese girl living in a 150 USD per month CONCRETE ROOM. So, logically she should take the deal and do well in life.
But noooooooo....she wanted to yell at me? Raise her voice at me? Attack me with crasse language?
Man....she had so much going for her bro...and when I release this new product to the global hotel marketing industry, we MAY (a BIG may) end up living the billionaire lifestyle.
Like...for real....not millionaire like now.
And she had it all...all she had to do was keep her ego in check and do what she's told. To hold up to get end of the bargain.
Instead, even I love her dearly....she is again living in a rat hole with concrete floors. well...floor. It's just one room.
And she has nobody to blame but herself. Of course, she blames me somehow....but every single conflict we had was due to get overstepping her boundaries. Not following the agreements we have.
Once twice three times a lady 😊
Her values/faith, the nobility of her family, her beauty, and her wealth. Out of those 4 things, her values/faith is the most important thing - the prophet Muhammad (pbuh). I agree with this man, hence I converted to Islam. Alhumdulilah
Does anyone know what happened to her Instagram account?
14:10 I mean doesn't even men also get tired?
Another thing absent from Sadia's videos is links to the TH-cam channel of those interviewing her. The world does not evolve round you... No matter how hard you try
Is it just me or do all of Sadia’s videos end suddenly, often mid-sentence?
Yes.
Yes the rest will be uploaded in a day
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She laughs like Jay Z 😅
Love her videos but the title doesn’t make sense. Everyone trusts differently.
Nope there are universal characteristics that make us trustworthy
am a blindman what that i look 🙂 yeah my name is dj suraman i can see now sura world 🥰😇
Women that hit are often REACTING to emotional abuse
Sadia deleted both of my comments. She simply cannot handle criticism as it seems ... If this gets deleted I will continue commenting again and again. Till you start respecting your audience.
What did you say?
I’ll delete you again you little stalker
@@sadiapsychology
You can call me what you like Sadia. You just cannot accept that the world does not revolve round you.
@@sadiapsychology
Not accepting criticism and not providing a link to the TH-camr giving you a platform to speak is very very petty.
@@sadiapsychology
And you are also a disrespect to your Muslim brothers and sisters.
OK I clicked on this video because I like her information I’m not familiar with the host is he a feminist?
They all are
This is a bad advice. Many guys dont have a desire to lead. I know a woman who trusted a guy with all family money because he was a businessman. He screwed all the savings through gambling. He abused her trust despite being married to her and having kids. She didnt see it coming. Rather awful!
I wouldn't say it's bad advice, you just have to be careful and aware that all guys are not leader material and vet accordingly. Maybe test them gradually with leadership in small areas to see how they handle until you're sure of them and their consistency. And always have your own separate stuff as well just in case
Ok you lead the marriage then.
@@calliefalls3325 if men were actually men they could have led it
Good leaders delegate. They recognize what they are not good at and either learn to succeed in those areas or delegate to another. I am typically better with financial choices than my hubby so he has delegated a lot of those decisions to me. He always takes the lead on big projects and final decisions and I am grateful for his wisdom in these areas. Submission is a well thought out choice, not blind stupidity.
One man had a gambling passion, so now trust noone!!!😂
I totally disagree that a woman or anyone has to summit to their partner . I feel both are equals . I do agree relationships should be based on a respectful and secure dinamic .