i dropped out of university... now what?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 ม.ค. 2023
- Dropping out of university was one of the hardest decisions I've ever made, but I definitely think I made the right choice. Last September I decided to completely un-enrol in my University and take time to really figure out what it is that I want in life. I hope that you find some comfort in my story and you feel a little less alone if you're going through the same thing.
Much love,
Michelle:)
hello my lovely people!! loooong time no see🥺 im so sorry for the time away, i miss you and i hope everyones been having a great holiday season. maybe not the update you were expecting to see, but heres what's been going on with me lol, hope you all enjoy
I’m really happy your family is supporting you in this, I know people who can’t drop out of university even though they’re miserable because of their parents pressure
I feel like sharing my story because it feels so much like yours (in the sense I’m not even sure of what I want to study even now), but at the same time so different… but it just goes to show how our experiences shape our opinions and views in life
My father fought for me and my siblings custody because my mother was very cruel to us, my siblings are the ones who suffered the most, I was separated from her when I was 1.5 years old. My father always supported us in whatever we decided to study, but always warned us we needed to study something, and be prepared as early in life as we could, because unfortunately, at least in out country “they don’t ask you what can you do but rather how old are you”.
My father didn’t have money to pay for the degree that I wanted to study, which was only available in a private school, so after I finished school I spent 2 years looking for a job to be able to study what I thought I liked.
A year after I got a job, I was able to finally enroll. Around the same time I applied for a promotion at work trying to run away from the suffering that customer service was causing me. What I thought would save me was the end of me. I had never suffered so much in my entire life (even though I suffered so much at home because of the ugly relationship I had since I was a kid with my father and my schizophrenic brother), that promotion got me so burned out I was falling behind in my studies, so I had to quit studying because I was paying for something I didn’t have the mental strength for. Even though I suffered, I still I needed the money from my job, I tried to push through, I hardly held for 6 months, feeling like I would quit every single day, I couldn’t take it anymore, it got to the point I’d cry at least once or twice a week, publicly in my station at work, because I couldn’t keep the tears in. My anxiety had gotten so bad I’d shake every single time I cried even at home, which is not something I used to experience. And I would shake and sweat, and almost burst crying every time I saw my boss, because he always treated me so badly. I always wanted to do things right, to not cheat or do something bad knowingly, but other managers played the dirty way, and I didn’t put up with it, so they started trying to get me in trouble and taking trash behind my back, I even went through a crisis feeling like I couldn’t trust anybody in there because of this.
I had to quit my job, but I had a plan to be able to study what I wanted from home.
My father had gotten diagnosed with pancreatic cancer about 4-5 months prior, everyone said that type of cancer was very rough and that those who had it died within 2 months of it being diagnosed. I thought he was recovering, that he would get better, he thought that as well. Until the last day at the hospital he thought he’d go back home… he died this past 17th of December, 2022, 6 months after getting diagnosed. I think he was in denial and I kind of was too.
He was the one paying the bills, I only had him. Now, I don’t have a degree or even someone who’ll support me on studying, I can’t even pay the bills, and I’m relying on my boyfriends parents to let me stay at their house.
I’d give anything to be near graduation, to have a roof over my head and to be able to count on my parents to support me while I prepare for life.
Even though I’m not even close to understanding your particular situation, and oftentimes what’s done it’s already done, if you still had a chance to finish your degree now, that would be my advice.
I’m just 23 and I have no parents, I never thought this would happen until I was like 40. My family turned its back on me to even impose what they wanted to do with my own dads corpse. You never know what could happen, or who will turn its back on you. My father used to say “las personas se ven en los malos momentos” or “you get to know people when you’re in a bad situation”-ish.
It’s possible I’m imposing my own insecurities on you as a way to prevent you from experiencing what I have, or that I just want to share this thing I haven’t shared with anyone. But if something good can be taken from my experience, even a second opinion on things, then I’m glad I shared it.
You said it yourself best, we all have our own pace, timing, and even story. I wish good things your way and hope the decision you’ve taken takes you to a better place 💞
"Everybody's timing is different." Thank you so much for this. This vid was literally what i needed right now.
So glad to hear🥹❤️
@@MichelleGiaI am scared telling my parents of dropping out, what i have proposed telling is while being in collg, i will take an online school / course and if the course does better than my collg, then i am going to convince my parents that this school fits better for me since it gives me better resylts, then drop out, its just i am scared if things dont go the way my parents want.
@@jirehla-ab1671Hey, I feel the same way. I want to tell my parents that I dont believe that university is for me but I do not know how to tell them. Can you share your experience if you have discussed this certain situation with your family. Thanks 🙏🏻
@@guko278 i didn't do it yet BUT what i did is try to tell them the alternative school I wanted to take which is great BUT i didn't tell them yet to stop college.
NORMALIZE COMMUNITY COLLEGE!!!!!! People will judge you for going, but you can graduate with less debt.
Yess!!
I never understood why people judged others for going to community college. But that’s exactly where I’m going this fall even tho I graduated high school almost a year ago lol.
@@nyamariee4877Same goes for me dang. Don't worry about the age gap thou, small stuff doesn't matter here.
I like community college but it looks so frowned upon, that it makes me think twice about applying to it. Still it's cheap thou lol 😅
Went to uni to do chemistry when I was 18, failed 2nd year, then at 25 decided to pay £9000 to go back and do animal conservation science. In the midst of my placement year now and dreading going back for my final year. I am realising academia destroys my mental health and I want a more creative career. Never thought I'd seriously consider dropping out after all the money I paid but here I am 🙃 any advice?
Yes recent graduate here in a different subject [sociology]
1. Talk to your professors, this is something that they have seen before and they can guide you in terms of grades [i.e. if you need to tidy up anything] or even reduce course load
1.5 visit other departments there maybe something that is the perfect fit that you just didn't know existed
2. There are creative elements to every field, since you did chemistry try to go into something like paint mixing or art material development , as you will be using, your chem degree and doing something creative at the same time
3. You haven't failed if your keeping on trying at something
4. Take courses on free course sites such as future learn as you may pick up something that will invigorate you
find an apprenticeship or internship in the summer to give yourself something to look forward to0
5. Academia destroyed my mental health too! after two years of rest. I think I got some of it back. The way I did this was watch alot of cartoons and tv shows, discovered new music and shows , rediscovered things I enjoyed in this case children's fantasy, dragons,learning to draw for the fun of it by following tutorials and rested ate well and slept well
5.5 went on a social media cleanse, unsubscribed for channels that made me stressed for me it was video-essays and news content
6. You are doing fine. We are sold this myth that we need to sort our lives out by 25, and we really can't To quote Leena norms [TH-camr] "In your 20's you are collecting data about yourself, just that data collecting"
7. Good luck!
Hey Rebekka, I hope you didn’t drop out by now. One piece of advice I’d like to give you is to just hang in there, since you’ve already invested so much time and money into it. Ik it’s hard but you got it. Try balancing uni & social life, then it’ll work out. Maybe also try going to therapy for your mental health in between. You got this !!!
Take care of your mental health like going to a therapist. Anyways u have what it takes, trust me
The most important is that you love your career, money is the least important
I can relate, I'm also 25 and tried a second course...it's so tough. I just want to get a full-time job
I relate. Your story hits different. every year i feel further , too old to still have no idea what I’m doing with my life. No career , no skills, no degree, no passion just utterly lost and completely useless. Feel like I’m letting everyone down while drowning in the judgement and criticism of people around me.
you’re not letting anyone down for doing what’s best for you, it’s best to de- center other people’s perception who can’t see your perspective.
literally same
Same, but honestly reading your comment and knowing that I’m not the only one in this situation helps tremendously
My God, I felt this 🥹
I remember telling myself a degree was not a guarantee to success ... I didn't really believe it back then, I was just kinda self-soothing, but after a few years I managed to reach 23-year-old me's goals 5-6 years later without the damn degree. Passion definitely helps but damn were there some doubtful days...
What was your career/career goals and how did you reach it?
I dropped out. I kind of mourned not being a student anymore & found comfort in realizing that I can learn anything at anytime. I got my degree, but halfway through post grad, I decided I didn't want to make maps anymore & had a complete meltdown.
Lots of us who were straight As students 'til HS, do struggle on college.
I dropped out after i lost financial support, because my grades lowered because i couldn't cope (with the schedules, hard topics, etc)...
Trying to look forward and find something profitable i can do, of the hundreds of topics i am good at. 🤣 But i am also an introvert with rejection aversion 😅
we have the same story
Woah same my sponsor said that i have one last chance before they pick my scholarship and give it to somebody else but.... Tbh idk I don't really care anymore genuinely thinking of dropping out
I relate to this so much. I am doing very badly and my tuition is slowly going up. Everything else you said is exactly whats wrong with me. How are you in terms of life right now. have you found out what you want to do? God bless you for sharing your experience. It means a lot to me
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In the past, a degree used to guarantee you access to well paid professional jobs, not anymore. If you're going into a STEM field or law/business etc. ofc it's a no brainer, a degree is needed, valued and everything you learn in your course will directly transfer over to your career. Anything else eg. arts, humanities, media, communication etc. you could go through blood, sweat and tears for 3-4 years, doing tons of essays and attending lectures on things that you will most likely forget afterwards and not even use in your career, end up thousands in debt with no guarantee it will ever pay off in the end. Internships, connections, work experience and practical skills will almost always be much more valued by employers than a degree in these fields.
I finished community college and was going to transfer but decided to take a break. During that break, I found what I was actually passionate about. My advice, explore and take every opportunity given to you. You never know what can happen!
i can really relate with your story, especially the situation you're in right now. I dropped out because i failed my 2nd year of art school for many personal reasons. The pressure i feel right now, and for the past few months is really overwhelming. My parents keep saying that i have to find another school or university for next september to have a degree and a certification because they really believe that it is essential to built a carreer. And they don't undertsand my opinion on that. All the friends i had during these 2 years in school don't talk to me anymore and i feel like i'm just not normal anymore. I dont feel i belong somewhere and this feeling is terrifying.
Right now their only preocupation is me to get a job, just to make money and do something with my life.
I have to live with them because i dont have a studio no more, so im back in my old town. The only thing i do is making dinner, cleaning the house, car for all of my siblings, and i feel like i owe them all that things just because i live with them and i'm not into studies anymore.
I feel terribly depressed and i dont know what to do with my life. Living with my family again makes me feel like i dont really have time for myself to deeply think about my future, my life and my goals.
Sorry for my endless comment, and my bad english (i'm actually french)
loved the video
bye :)
i pray things get easier for you, dont lose hope! :))
maybe try to work (as a waitress or whatsoever) for traveling my volunteering. im currently in a middle of a gap year and since i want to go into sciences (agronomy and environment) next year, volunteering in a farm is a great opportunity for me and i would say for everyone who wants to see an other part of the world and reconnecting to themselves . Check on worldpackers, there are a lot of opportunities in so many fields as farming, social impact, art… I wish you the best, i feel you it’s really hard to be misunderstood and feeling stuck because of your own choice but i promise you, you’re a human, you have made the choice to go into art school bc you were thinking that is the best choice for you at the time, but guess what? we change, things change, you’re redirected :) please keep trying to change your situation if it doesn’t makes you happy or at least, at peace.
i feel really bad for u, hope u can reach the right path as soon as possible. sending love
Hi❤️I hope you’re feeling better. Please be easy on yourself, trust me you are not alone even though it feels like it. I promise one day you will figure it all out!
That's sad to hear , but of course you're gonna find a solution . Actually it's not the end of the world so you can always try😁
I’m so glad you put this video out. I relate to this SO much. Thank you
Felt this😭 10:00
Anyone who is considering college, give community college a chance than going to a four year university!! At least you'll be able to explore a little more during those two years of community college, be able to get an associate's degree or transfer to purse your bachelor's!! Best luck to whoever is reading this
I dropped out of graduate school over 10 years because my mother passed away. I can definitely relate to you. Don't worry you'll be fine.
I’m so sorry to hear❤️I hope all is going well for you
Girl GOD bless you for this . Thank YOU! Great luck for anything you do in the future 🙏🏾🙏🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🖤
I cannot express how much your video resonates with me. I'm a sophomore in university and I've never felt so lost in life. If it weren't for my good grades, I would have already dropped out of school. I would never have imagined that what I devoted all my time to would end up displeasing me, even disgusting me so much. I never projected myself elsewhere than in academia and the only thing that allows me to cling to my studies is the feeling they give me of being useful.
Dang, your story is so relatable to the point that it feels like it would be the same way I would narrate my own situation. Just know that you are not alone, there are many people out there on the same boat. I hope that you find the thing that you've been looking for and that truly makes you happy.
Hey Michelle, nice to see you back! Thanks for sharing your story with us. I'm in a very similar boat where I've been in school for a while chasing something I thought I wanted just to leave it and keep coming back to it because I feel like I have "no choice." This upcoming semester I will be taking a temporary leave from uni and hopefully things become clearer. I already took a year to explore different subjects but I haven't found anything that resonates enough with me. Hopefully we both find something soon! Wishing you all the best and it's so nice knowing there are so many people out there just as confused as you. It's normal and we shouldn't beat ourselves up about it!
recently discovered your channel and i love how genuine you are with your words. i graduated uni last year and started working full-time and honestly have been feeling so lost because i feel like i have no passion for my work, so a degree def is what you make out of it. it's also hard because academics seems to be so tied to your worth esp in the viet community and i pursued a non-stem career which my mom was disappointed about. but i'm learning to be more gentle on myself and not seek external validation through school / a degree :') wish you all the best on your future journey
This video helped provide a lot of insight into why I was feeling a lot of the same things you were - thank you greatly for sharing how you feel, it means a lot to me
this articulated Exactly what i’m going through wow! thank you for putting words to what’s only been felt for me
I relate to this a lot, I honestly think you're making the right decision. I stuck through university and got my degree only to realize It isn't at all what I wanted to do and for some reason I didn't see it or didn't want to see it. It takes a lot of courage to step into the unknown, It's probably why I didn't.
i dropped out last fall semester and I’m glad I did because i have time to think about what i truly want to do w/ my life. i wish you nothing but good luck in your journey!
this video came at a perfect time for me.
i've been in a similar position. i was working hard towards my plan a but realized that it wasn't for me and was going to cause a lot more problems for me down the road if i continued and i knew i would not be happy. i felt, and still feel, quite lost. i'm very lucky that my parents are encouraging me to take my time and tell me that it is okay but it is hard seeing your friends that you went to high school with go through the rings and college and realize they will probably graduate before you do. for me, i always envisioned myself graduating early. so taking a semester off and waiting to transfer to uni has just lowered my spirits so much.
at the same time, i've done a lot of thought about the life i want postgrad and my ideal traits in a job and lifestyle. it makes me more confident in the sense that knowing this, i now know that there was no way my plan a would have worked out for me and it has helped me move on. but now i struggle with taking any step forward because im afraid nothing will make me happy, whether it be my plan b, c, d, etc.
hoping 2023 brings us all the clarity and hope we desire
how is it that you drop another video right when i needed it the most? graduating this upcoming spring and i still don’t exactly know what i want to do. had multiple career path changes and i think these past four years have been just me trying to figure things out. i wish it didn’t have to be that way because as a result, it feels like i’ve been lost while navigating through college, not doing the things that i genuinely want to do. but i hope after post grad i’ll have some time to catch my breath a bit and have the time to figure things out, which i feel like i didn’t have these past few years. happy new year michelle! i hope we both figure out what makes us happy this year
I agree with all the points you spoke about in the video. Honestly I've been pondering the thought myself of dropping out and it's really comforting to see that despite being so set on the decision of going to university you ended up dropping out because it wasn't the right choice for you. I really correlated with you saying that cannot be my story and honestly I agree. I can see myself in your story and I feel like now I'm even more set on my decision of not pursuing this because it isn't what I want from life. It scares me a lot but the opportunity cost of what I could be is way too steep for me to not even try anything "out of the norm"
You real af for this video . The best one I’ve seen speak on this . Too many people try to motivate and still find a way to tear you down in the process . I never heard a perspective like this from a studious perspective. I never gave af about school but I am a mother and want to take care of my child and break generational curses . You will go far for your honesty and vulnerability.
I am actually just pushing through this first semester of freshman year until the second semester, just so when I think I feel like going back, my options aren't closed? Going through this first year of uni, I really got to know that tertiary education is just not for me. It's too draining, and I get burnt out all the time. It's so stressful, and I want to spare myself all that trouble.
Thank you for sharing your story because decisions like this is really difficult especially after getting all those straight As from elementary to secondary school then deciding not to go to college.
thank you for this video!! I recently droppedout as well. Dropping out always feels like you wasted time in school, but there is no such thing as wasted time. I'd rather have made this decision now then in a year!
Thanks for sharing such an uncertain moment with us, Michelle. ❤️ I am totally opposite you (hated school and performed poorly) yet lots of your feelings here resonate with me now as I’m trying to figure out should I go to school, join the military, build my current career.. so many options, so much confusion. I look to your videos for comfort.
Not to mention, you seem quite grounded, I am not even worried for you. 🤣 You carry such a light, anywhere is lucky to have you. Can’t wait to see what the future holds for you! 💫
seems like we drop out for the same reason and we share same thoughts I'm really glad I found your video now while going through it + it scary af to start your life from zero or at least this is how it feels rn I just know architecture isn't my place
You helped me calm down, I do believe it's not the right time for me. Thank you ❤️
I dropped out of computer science this month. Man do I really relate with ya here. I'm going to join the Air Force now.
Wishing you all the best on your new journey!
@@MichelleGia thank you! I know you'll do great as well!
How has it gone for you? I'm thinking of doing the same
@@mexigamer9825 after some time off, I'm back in school now.
I'm actually quite glad I was able to drop stuff and come back as I desperately needed to work through some issues and no school helped me immensely with that.
So, my advice would be: it could be beneficial to drop out, but try not to burn any bridges if you do.
If you've got any specific questions feel free to comment again!
@@fezii9043Drop out because of burn out. I did all things b4 leaving though. After I dropped out, I got to work at a retail store. Not a fun time, but at least it will do for my spare income.
Coming back to university in a few months perhaps. I still don't know what tf I'm doing. The only thing I know right now is to get that damn certificate 😢
Such a relatable video, since I've been on and off with college since I graduated HS in 2016 (drop out of community College get work experience for a year, enroll back to college the next year, and the cycle continues.) Thanks for posting this video. Appreciate you sharing your thoughts. Great video as usual!
Graduating in summer 2023 (UK based) and I'll be real with you these past 4 years have been a battle !!
Had a close friend from high school tell me she was dropping out in her final year (3 months back), I couldn't believe it at the time but shit happens and like you said you need to do what makes sense for you right now.
Imma send this video to her since it has loads of value
Ty for sharing !!
All the best :)
Your channel randomly appeared on my subscribe list so welcome to the crew, I believe in you :)
I was so happy to get this notification (both for the title n bc I missed you :)). Happy New Year Michelle, I hope it's filled with a lot of meaning. You really hit the nail on the head with this one. My story is very similar, been school focused until the 10th grade where I started to realize that going to classes everyday to learn about stuff that really didn't interest was more draining than fulfilling. Regardless, after high school I still decided to pursue 2 years of sixth form in hopes of finding something I was passionate enough about to study in university. It never came, at least the stuff I'm interested in don't require uni. And while I share the same views on uni/degrees, I have to admit that most days it's hard to stay positive about it, both due to societal pressure and the fact that it can feel so alienating. It's exactly like you said, it feels like being throw in the middle of the ocean n being told you can go anywhere but not knowing where to go. Nevertheless, I really resonated with this video so thanks a lot and keep up the good work
relating this as i just decided to withdraw/ drop out of uni :")
started out my first year, last year in august. Did a course similar to what i studied in college, but I was super overwhelmed and wasnt passionate about it. I really tried and trying stay afloat in university. I really felt what u are feeling :") thank you for sharing this and I'm glad I'm not alone ❤️
Cheering you on 🎉!!
I absolutely LOVE your videos😭 love the way you tell your story, love how your videos are simple yet engaging🤍 you go girl 🔥
Omg that means so much coming from you🥹🫶🏼 I love what you do! Sending you so much love❤️
So glad I'm not the only one going through this! loll Fr I've been in this phase myself except I didn't actually go to school. Thanks for this vid, I appreciate yuh :))
You said towards the end that there are times when you are at peace with your choice to drop out and other times you panic a bit about your future, but then you remember the necessity of presence and making the best choice you can make for yourself right now. That's honestly key to everything, even a happy life. We stressfully plan our lives and mistakenly believe that the goals we move towards are going to make us happy. But happiness is only found NOW rather than in some imaginary future. University or no university, being at one with the present moment is all any of us will ever need :) Inspiring video as always, especially given your consistent honesty. All love
This video was so relatable - I too also dropped out of university, was getting straight As but was just not sure about my degree. I just took it as it was seen as the standard “next step”. I now work in digital marketing, after freelancing as a content creator :)
Ngl I still have my doubts - I don’t “feel as smart” or feel like I have that higher status.
This video made me feel a little better.
Wishing you all the best Michelle! It can be tough not knowing what’s head of you, but I know you’ll go places ❤️
I know now why you're my favourite youtuber , Recently I've been struggling with the same idea of myself too
I was a decent student , never been failed my whole life and I'm 22 doing my masters last year . I've felt for past couple of months that this is not who I am .. though I always wanted to be a professor but recently things been messed up but still my family wants me to persue academics ... But where I live job situation getting impossible to hold onto and my life long dream and plan backfired ... I totally understand the situation but family couldn't specially my mom , and the problem is I love her so much even if I try to confront her I just can't ... She just want me to pass out get the degree then went on for NET examination and get the freaking PhD done but I'm lacking and I know it .... Your video really helped me now I can think clearly about both ends even from families prospective .
And yeah I've subscribe you from my old ID which I changed cause I know I need a big change so I'm leaving every old things behind ...
Always love you
This video couldn't have found me during a better time...thank you Michelle!
Thanks for being so open :) you’re on to doing great things Michelle!!
Love you❤️❤️
this is so relatable
~ genuinely rooting for you in this new phase!
😭that means so much thank you
"I was chasing title more than actuall carrier" 😮 Thank you for sharing, I feel the same, I have two more semesters to go at UNI, but I just cannot continue, because I feel so empty and depressed. You gave me courage to change it ❤
Thanks for sharing Michelle. I dropped out of school 9 months ago, I've been at the lonely phase where it seems like I didn't know what I was doing. I believe in taking the unconventional path. It was a hard decision for me, I had been in university for over 5 years before dropping out. But I am glad I made the choice. It will work out well soon enough.
I agree 100% at 6:52. Can definitely relate to the entire video. Cheers to being untraditional!
Always gonna love and support you Michelle 💜 this year will be awesome for you and there’s so much stuff coming into your life
Thank you so much love❤️ I am eternally grateful for you!!
Due to financial problems, I was force to drop out of school after I graduated and at first it was dreadful since I was finally getting my shit together since I struggle a lot with mental health. The pandemic was a double edge sword since it made me spiral through burn out which made my mental health worse but it also gave me time to think through things personally and one of them is if going to college is worth it, and I would be lying if I say I don't feel extreme FOMO or jealousy when I see people my age thriving and living life but seeing people like you and others who takes a step back and re-access everything then proceed to go on their own pace (regardless of how slow) is reassuring and comforting.
I'm in a place where I don't really mind taking my time since I'm in my 20s therefore I have so much to explore and room to navigate in terms of adulthood/what I want in life. And just like what you said "everybody's timing is different", like no need to rush things babes. We're all figuring things out.
Omgg
I feel soo related 😫😫, I’m so tired from school, and I’m really liking my business -and it doing well🙏🏻- and my life that I have out of school, I’m soo happy that I can relate to someone, I can’t talk about leaving school to my family or friends because they think it’s sooo important to have a degree…
What I’m thinking about know is instead of being A+ person, I would do the minimum, I ENJOY MY FREAKING LIFE 😂🫣, no one will argue with me, and I’ll be happy..
However my BRAIN does not want me to do the minimum, I feel like I have to be my BEST at school or I leave it, there is no between in my BRAIN 😂💔..
But thank you very much for sharing this video with us, it really helps 🙏🏻💓💓💓
Went through the same thing as you last year, taken a year off now, and planning on going back this year hopefully to find my true passion.
Hey Michelle i watched your video and I have to say I’m so happy I’m not the only one that feels the same exact way, I see that there are hundreds of students in the same boat as me. I’m 20, I have been going to Community college since 2020 taking online asynchronous classes, and when I started I didn’t even know what I was going into college for, I liked computers, so I thought computer information systems would be right for me, well after the 2nd year I hated it, but I felt stuck and didn’t know what to do… now I’m stuck with a $3K bill for classes I took only half of this spring semester, and hopefully after this is cleared up, I will feel so much happier! I feel that god felt this school wasn’t right for me, and that there’s a different path he’s guiding me to🙏🙏🙏
I like how you seem comfortable and confident about sharing your experience of dropping out. It makes me feel better about dropping out. I transferred to UCLA as a Physics major from community college in Fall 2021. I was enrolled in 3 classes but the quarter system was super stressful and I had a terrible Professor for Physics 17 and withdrew from it on my 6th week so I was down to 2 classes. I still completed the fall semester with B’s. I thought Physics would be for me but it wasn’t. It was super stressful and too much math for me. I was only at UCLA for 1 quarter and then decided to drop out on my winter quarter in 2022. I took 6 months off school and then went back to community college to pursue Electrical Engineering in Fall 2022. I transferred somewhere else the next semester and am doing much better. I’m 25 gunna be 26 in September and I hope I finally earn my bachelors degree but I’m confident I will.
For you, it sounds like your a really good student and your study skills are strong but you never figured out what you wanted to major in. I can understand that it’ll be stressful taking random classes because you feel like you don’t know what your working towards. It’s great that you spend a lot of time studying so you can master the material but you don’t wanna spend 100% of your time studying. You should find a hobby that you can use outside of school. If you spend all your outside time studying, it causes more stress and then you can get burnt out which can cause your grades to decline. Also, since university is very expensive, you should not enter university not knowing what you wanna do. In the meantime you could go to community college since you don’t have to pay for tuition and the classes are cheaper. You could go there while commuting from home. You could work on your required GE’s and maybe you’ll figure out what you want to major in.
I’m sorry you never figured out your identity. I think I was sort of like that too. I had trouble making friends in high school and felt like I didn’t fit in so I relied on high grades for me to feel validated but I wasn’t even a straight A student, lol.
If you decide that you don’t wanna go to college, you could consider being a TH-camr. I herd they get paid pretty well.
I am so gald that you stuck with your gut and made that choice, even if it was hard. I can't wait to see where you go in the near future! We are cheering you on girly!!!
so glad to see you in my subscriptions again Michelle! :)
I remember being in class with you and really looking up to you because you were so intelligent and smart and it's crazy that years later, I still really look up to you and admire all the hard decisions you're making for yourself. thank you for reminding us that we all have a long life ahead and that there is no rush to follow this 'timeline' that we may have set for ourselves years ago. circumstances and what is best for us changes, and it's okay to take a step back and re-evaluate where we want to head in life
Awe Jenn🥹❤️❤️ you’re literally going to make me cryyy!! I miss you and Ill always cherish the time that I spent with you:) I know we only had that year together but you felt like the little sister I always wanted, and I was so proud when I saw how well you always accomplished the things you set your mind to! I know you’re still doing the same now and I hope everything work out for you no matter where you go!
Sending you so much loveee🫶🏼
Happy New Year Michelle :) Forever proud of you!
Our journeys are usually not linear, although they can be. Rooting for you always!!
Happy new year girly I love you sm❤️ I can never thank you enough
she’s back ✨ thx for being so vulnerable with us!
i can see myself in your story. for me, i loved doing everything and did well in school, but i didn’t excel nor was there one particular subject that i loved like all of my friends who knew what they wanted to do and did extremely well in. i decided to go into chemistry bc that’s what i 1. thought i wanted to do, and 2. i thought that if i chose a “science subject,” then i’d get the satisfaction of approval from my parents, friends, society, and even convince myself that i’d be successful if i chose this route. lots of doubts, a few failed classes, and taking a year gap later, i am going back to school for something that i love. i definitely have had family member’s tell me that my subject is an art subject and felt doubtful, but i am so much more motivated to go back to school! i don’t blame my family for any their comments and their influence bc i know that at the end of the day, they just love me. to my surprise, my parents have been supportive throughout. i also was in a period of my life where my confidence was at a all-time low and that’s just to say that being in your 20s is about figuring yourself out, so… with all of that being said, i am in a better place now and so excited to go back to school after a loooong break. yes, i will prob graduate when i’m 27, but that’s okay! i can’t wait to see what the future holds for me✨
so glad to be back🥰its a pleasure
Very unrelated but you have a GREAT singing voice oh my god.
I love Dijon also
Very typical of me 😅😅 I really love to see people out there same as me , thk u for sharing your story 🙌🙂😌
i relate to this so hard ! The universe got you don’t worry, keep trying new things !
Thank you🥺same goes to you🫶🏼 things will all work out
I’m going through the exact same thing and listening to you I felt so comprehended, thank you. I really can relate to the fear of letting go of something you know and planned your entire life. I’m taking a break this year and even if I’m scared, I’m excited too! I’m from Italy, but I think that students do all have similar issues.
Don’t worry I’m taking break from going to uni this year as well
I really appreciate your videos. I love how vulnerable you are. It takes real courage to do that. I'll be nice if you make a videos about regrets
Thank you so much🤭it means a lot
@@MichelleGia yeah ofc np
I’m happy that you made this decision Michelle! 🧡 I dropped out once before, on the first year of my studies because I was miserable and I hated the path I was taking. A lot of my family and friends were against it and judged me for that, but I didn’t really care. Then I went out of my way to actually pursue something that I always knew would be perfect for me, and I enrolled in Japanese language and culture studies! I wasn’t sure if I could make it but I was really determined. This year I’m getting my bachelor’s degree and I’m so proud of myself for not letting go :D I don’t really know what I want from my life or what I want to do in the future, but I learned to just enjoy the journey and not worry too much. Stay strong Michelle 🧡🧡🧡 If your new life plan includes traveling the world, you’re most welcome here in Warsaw! 😉🧡
thank you so much Jules❤️ its always so nice hearing your perspective:) i always feel less alone. Im so happy and proud of you for doing what felt right to you regardless of what other people may have said🥰 that sounds so cool and awesome im rooting for you no matter where you decide to go next
I literally relate to this sooo much although am not the mind space to make the huge change I commend you for doing what’s right for you and hopefully oneday am as brave as you
Thank you! this help me a lot, i hope u doing amazing
Hey you mentioned that while growing up school Was your identity. I am still growing up (i'm 15 years old) and for the things you needed the school, i need the Sport. If i hadn't found the right Sport for me in my life, i wouldn't know what to do with me know because i always struggled finding a Sport that makes me happier. But a few months ago i found taekwondo and it is the greatest. The people are very nice and also when i'm there i can forget any other struggles in my life. That is also Important because i don't really have friends in school just because i understand better with people who are 2 or 3 years older than me.
I am also happy that i found this channel because it helps me a lot and i also like to Listen to you because your voice is very calming ❤❤
currently contemplating taking a break from college because i feel like it brought out the worst in me ): this makes me feel better
this is genuinely the best and most relatable video I've seen in a while... I'm so glad to have seen this ... thank you :)
I’m so glad to hear❤️You are never alone:) wishing you all the best!
Girl! She real af for this video . Ion think I ever seen such a honest video
2 years in and in debt. I’m trying to purse TH-cam as I want to inspire young girls in my country. I feel such a disappointment to my parents. But I couldn’t take it anymore. I tried and I still failed. I will keep trying to pursue my TH-cam and your video just motivated me. Thank you ☺️
you so amazing this is a big decision especially when you compare whether things will stay the same or change in life. i love you're video so keep it up and doing the best of you also enjoy life
thank you so much❤️ you as well!
Keep up the good work. Happy New Year.
Thank you Sophia😭❤️happy new year!!
Watching this, because I have been dealing with these thoughts for a very long time actually since I started university. It is going to be my third year of university tomorrow and I am mentally so drained because it gives me instant anxiety and tbh not a single class I have taken actually interested me. I failed 2 classes and now I am aware that I am behind and it also stresses out me more. Watching this actually and crying because the words you say is so true. When I actually say I am gonna dropout all the AP classes that I have taken comes to my mind during high school. I used to be a great student but after covid everything changed and I don’t even feel like studying since the first year of uni I actually could not. I mean I did study for chemistry but I failed it and this even mentally drained me more than anything. My major is biology and I have no clue what will be doing after I graduate there is not a single job that interests me only psychological research other than that nothing. I am so lost and school starts in 2 days. I don’t know what to do. If I go back and thinking that studying can change everything, I don’t know. I actually don’t know anything and this scares me more. Thank you for making me realize some stuff you are amazing!!! I’m hope you are doing wonderful.
Hey, hope you are doing well. whatever you just said described me perfectly. I pray that everything goes well for you.
I think you did right if you couldn't find your passion or at least something you were very interested in. I stopped my master to enter acting school. Finished it and then found the motivation to finish my master as well. I've thought so many times about dropping out, but in the end I didn't want to lose all the effort and money I had put into it and it's still a degree which may come in hand in the future. I'm now having a hard time to write the final dissertation but it's the last step. It'll be a huge relief when it's over. The initial idea was to teach but then I found out that I still have many exams to go in order to become one and it was just too long. I might still do it but in the meantime I want to work. I also started a YT channel. I would love to be able to provide for myself while pursuing acting. I like the idea of having multiple possibilities ahead cause I dread being stuck in one thing for too many years.
I'm going through the same thing, and it's really comforting knowing that someone else is going through the same thing.
Of course❤️❤️wish you all the best
I love you!
Omgg I love you❤️thank you for always supporting me!!
Im also at this crossroad where I feel more burned out then happy in my MSW degree. No motivation to do these assignments when I thought being in the mental health field would be great.I have another year left and that feels so far away. Im going to make a final decision at the end of this semester.I have other interests in tech and plan on developing skills in Data Analytics.
so relatable this is what I'm dealing rn. I don't know and not sure on the course I'm taking rn. Don't don't what I want and what I'm passionate about. feel so lost... Don't know if I will enroll this semester :
I haven’t watched this video, but this is crazy bc I decided to take a break from school for a quarter or take one class bc, well, I don’t like my major, but I know I have to finish it, or my parents will freak out, but I need a break and figure out things but before I watch this video thank u for making this video ❤
I got tired of questioning what I was doing with my life everyday.
Why would I force myself to stay in a situation I'm unhappy in? It is my choice and my life at the end of the day. Dropping out takes courage because you're plunging yourself into the unknown. But if you believe in yourself, you will achieve your goals one way or another.
love youuu , so proud of you
I love you❤️thank you sm!!
so inspiring 😭😭✨
Yeahey!! You're back 💗
Yess queen💅🏻❤️
Thank you for this video. I resonate with your thoughts very deeply.
I was a straight A student and for a very very long time wanted yo pursue art. It's was my life's dream. But life happened and after a year of focusing on exams (something like American SAT's I think) I slipped on art and didn't get the results I wanted on one of the exams. One thing led to another, my parents refused to let me take a gap year and suddenly I'm in a journalism course. Well, turns out I hate journalism. I'm currently so miserable and trapped by trying to convince my parents to let me drop out, failing exam and feeling like a failure in general. But seeing other people facing similar situations helps a lot. I hope I'll be okay soon :,) I'll edit this with an update later maybe
Edit: I dropped out, it's great🎉
So incredibly proud of you michelle!!!
Hehe I love u
Thank u for this! I have just decided to quit my engineering job and I have no idea what I’m doing but I feel just like you - I want more out of my life than just a job and a house and kids :) good luck to u on ur path
Okay I know u think ur so cool but u don’t need to brag about being an engineer.
Went to uni at 18 and I ended up taking a gap year after my second year, so now I’m 20 and going to go back in September to finish off my final year of uni. I’m nervous and hope I can make it through this year, otherwise I might take another year off..but I’m determined to get it done this time and graduate^^
What the fuck. how do you only have 1 year left at Uni wen ur only 20 and took a gap year off? I’m 25 and for some reason I still have like 2 fucking more years to go😞. I was supposed to be an engineer like 3 fucking years ago. This is fucking horse shit dude.
I'm graduating this year (1st degree) and have to decide if I want to do the master or not. Honestly I do not. I have my dreams, plans and ambitions and I know that I can spend these 2 years better. But my entire family is pressuring me and saying I will regret it. It makes me kinda anxious. But I don't wanna break and regret it later. I can do master anytime. And I wanna try to do what I want to now. I wanna rent an apartment with my best friend and find a customer-service oriented job (ideally airport or travel agency) to gain some experience. During this next year I want to focus on the languages because that is something I am passionate about and something I want to work with in the future (I want to master English, Spanish, Japanese, Portuguese and French). I also want to master driving lol (I have a license but wasn't using it since I gained it😅). And I want to save some money. And then there are 3 possibilities I am considering: 1 year as an au pair in USA, 1 year working in Spain (I'm in EU so it's easy), 1 year work and travel in Japan. And after I come back, my dream is to work as a flight attendant for some big company. It's been my dream since highschool and still is. Some ppl say it's stupid and "below" my possibilities but I wanna TRY. I would be able to use my languages, travel the world (it's my BIGGEST goal in life). And I just love flying. And I know I would die in an 8hours office job. And at least in my country , the pay is good. Maybe I will not get in. Then I will try again. Maybe it would turn out not being a job for me. Then I will try something different. I just know I want to work with languages/travel industry. I'm young. I am 22 for god's sake! This is the best time to experiment, make mistakes and live a carefree life.
I just dropped out uni after a few times I did, I’m not quite sure if this is what I want or if I’m just doing it for pressure, I work a full time job then I have to study, I didn’t have a life more than being busy, and the fact that I don’t know if I will get a job in this area once I get a degree disappoints me even more😢, a part of me wants but something deeply inside tells me that it’s not for me, I’m trying other ways to learn new skills, earn money and not just the basic, but the fact that my family keeps asking for that degree and tells me that I won’t get anywhere without that piece of paper makes me doubt of what I want and believe them, even if it’s not true at all since there are many people outside with 10 degrees and unemployed
i love listening to you speak!
Thank you❤️
Thank you so much for this video, I literally could not have related more to every word you have said.. 🥺
I love your videos, they are very authentic ❤
Thank you🥹🫶🏼
Thx for this , I did medical assisting and worked hard and passed my test and finished the school part I only have 6 weeks of my “community” hours or externship and my graduation is in 2 weeks. I’m deciding to drop out to do nursing and I feel so harsh on myself and embarrassed 😢
Love your content😊
Im on the verge of dropping out too... I don't think business is for me,but i don't know how to take that step
Thanks for sharing your story with us.. 🥺.
How did you handle criticism, how did you face nosy people??
needed this video so so much !!!
So glad to hear
i’m 21. i failed. i hate my life so much
Hey success is relative and as long as you are still here. You're a champion, change your narrative, be just a little optimistic and I promise everything will fall into place
Me too, but I flunked out of college sophmore year 1990. Welcome to the "mediocre underclass" of college dropouts ... 40 million of us 'strong' (actually weak) in the US. We're just 1 notch above HS grads who never went to college. Trade school grads are 1 notch in class above us.
We're smimming just a couple inches above pond scum.
Join the military if you have no other options ... or your parents disown you (this is actually quite common. Many parents think college is "everything", and if their children don't graduate university, they're failures bringing shame onto the family ... especially asian parents).
Welcome back Michelle, can’t wait to watch 🌹
Thank you Brandon🥹🫶🏼
My father passed away and I looked after him on my year out (before my final year). I don’t think I can go back an graduate after everything, but I’m hopeful that I’ll be able to see success beyond a degree.
I’m so sorry❤️I hope you’re doing okay and I wish you all the best
During Spring Break in March of 2020, it was my junior year, my dad got very sick. After taking him to the VA hospital, he ended up having pneumonia which turned into Covid. Those 3-4 weeks while he was in the hospital was incredibly difficult. Spring Break was extended because of the virus and that's when everything became "Zoom University" which was frustrating because my major (Digital Media Technology) was very hands on. I was feeling so stressed trying to deal with school, keep my grades up, trying to comfort my mom and family, and worrying about my dad. He passed away in April of 2020, in the middle of finals week. I thought about taking time off, but I fought through it and graduated when I was supposed to. I felt so drained and defeated like a piece of my education got taken away with the end of my junior year and all of senior year being online. Back in October of 2022, I started taking online courses to go for an Associate's in marketing. I thought yes, I have my Bachelor's Degree, but maybe I can add on to this and make up for what was taken in a way. Currently working a fulltime job in my field, and handling everything else in life, I started feeling burned out last month and decided I have to take a break... I'm not sure if I should quit or continue the when the next term starts.
Sorry for the long reply, but your comment resonated with me, and I feel your pain. I wish you the best and I know you'll be very successful.
currently doing law in uni and i kinda feel like this sometimes, i really do think it's interesting and enjoy it but i can't help feeling like dropping out. The problem is i have no clue what i want to do outside it and i'm just so scared of letting my parents down for everything they've done for me