I think the groom feels guilty because the bride didn't want him to invite the ex, he fought her too and the ex did what she did. He feels stupid and bride was right not to want her there. He could have cheated, but I think he would be more defensive. He feels like an idiot and he should.
This alone is reason enough for the bride to stay broken up with the groom. His family (as well as hers) are a bunch of AH’s for blaming her for this mess that the ex caused. But his mother is downright psycho, and would make her life a living hell if they got married.
2nd update- aita for defending a bride who left her husband at the alter? Okay so I decided to send this to bride, I also told my mother in law who I’m super close with what was going on. I’ll start with bride first. So as I predicted she was a little mad I put her buisness online. I called her and we made small talk for a couple on minutes avoiding the elephant but then I told her I posted about this on Reddit. I sent her the link while we were in call. She didn’t yell or anything but she told me I shouldn’t have done that. I assured her I didn’t use any names or defining descriptions and she hung up the phone. A few minutes later she called me back and told me she scrolled through the comments and stuff and it made her feel a bit better. Then she apologized for “snapping” at me but I don’t feel like she did. She told me that she felt like a lot of the comments were “blowing things out of proportion” when it comes to how you guys speak of the mother in law and groom. She said MIL isn’t evil like the post made her out to be, she also said she understands why MIL insisted on ex being bc at wedding and that when MIL threatened to burn down the house she wasn’t being serious and it was taken out of context. When I asked stuff like are you still gonna get married to groom she just kept saying idk and she sounded sad so I dropped it. She also told me she doesn’t think groom cheated on her and that my husband just has a bad perception of groom because he has a “hard shell to crack.” After we hung up me and my husband called his mother to update her on what’s happening because she couldn’t make it to the wedding. My husbands mother told us that the ex never really saved MILs life, basically all she did was inject her with an epi pen for a mild allergy. My Mil feels like saying “she saved her life” was just for dramatics to guilt the bride into letting ex attend wedding. My MIL also feels like the brides MIL had nothing to do with the ex sabotaging the wedding. She said that the brides mil isn’t an idiot and even if she did love the ex that much she would never purposely ruin her son’s wedding cuz she’s one of those boy moms.
@@suet.r.4815 exactly. I have what's considered a mild allergy to raspberries and penicillin and I don't have an EpiPen. An EpiPen is for those deathly allergies
@SabrinaBoyette-fy9vg people can have several allergies, only 1 or 2 would need the use of an epi pen. An EMT should know the difference between mild allergic reaction and anaphylaxis.
No you aren't. I would have left too if there was video evidence that seemed recent enough. Not only that but who insists that someones ex should attend their wedding?! That is beyond disrespectful and rude.
At the beginning it was stated that the groom and his ex are still on good terms therefore its resoanable that they remained friends after splitting. Which makes it not rude to invite her. Since there seems to be an hour long period between actual wedding and reciption, the bride could have easily confronted the groom, cleared it up and thrown the ex out of the wedding for trying that stunt. If the groom didnt change much in appearance the tape would always look recent which makes it really irational to just throw away your relationship about something that has happened before they got together
@@luckas221a when there was nothing going on before how would he know that his ex would plan something like that. I heard many storys where familie members proposed on the wedding of another member which is also hella rude. still they were invited, you cant always know what people are doing
@@miguelwinkel1910 no yeah, I don't mean they're in bad terms necessarily, I was more hopping onto what you said. They're on REAL good terms. Porkin' with the ex level of good terms
The Dude is a HUGE RED FLAG, glad she left him at the alter for one even wanting his ex there let along it being pushed, The Bride was right to not want the ex there IT was HER WEDDING not the ex's
The MIL keeps pushing it, because she wants to make sure bride and groom split for good. She wants the ex back with her son. Otherwise, she would have apologized for the ex's behavior, instead of doubling down that the bride humiliated her son.
In the story it was stated that the groom and ex still have a good relationship, therefore him inviting her isnt unreasonalbe. And the bride just leaving without giving the groom a chance to explain is simply stupid. If he really is cheating thats a different story but otherwise op and the bride both a assholes for jumping to conclusions. After what the ex accused the groom of she should be thrown out of the wedding but the bride should have at least spoken to the groom first
@@miguelwinkel1910 i mean she had video evidence of them having sex even if it’s old his appearance didn’t change much so she couldn’t tell it was old.Also the family that just started making posts about going off on the bride apparently had good reason
That may be true, but if he doesn't apologize if he doesn't make a mistake, it can be true/there is more to it. Videos also have hidden information behind them, so she can also check that. It says the date, time, place(ip) and device.
She’s gonna check that on her wedding? With everyone siding with the ex after she intentionally tried to turn their wedding? What kind of logic is that? Yall have no back bone or brains
@@daveo1808 honestly I'd not be able to trust someone if they didn't stop their fam to invite an ex. But I'd still hope that I was wrong. That's just how ppl in love are.
I am curious about the situation with the ex, how long since they dated, was she a family friend before they got together, are the families friends, does the mother still want them together?
NTA. He's guilty of something if he's not the type to apologize on command. The ex was super out of line and for people to get mad because she is under the assumption that something went on that breaks up marriages? They're getting mad at the victim here. Even if the cheating was a lie, she may feel the trust is gone and it's going to take time IF the bride even wants to take the effort since all this started because he didn't take her side in the first place.
I am still friends with several of my exes. If the bride doesn't want me at the wedding, Imma stay home. No woman should purposefully put another woman through that kind of nonsense.
NTA because the groom's ex girlfriend was beyond disrespectful with her actions and the groom shouldn't have invited her in the first place but the groom himself isn't being honest with this situation and there could be more to this scenario than meets the eye down the line for sure.
My take. I feel like (only based on what OPs husband said) if he didn't cheat then he would have had some hurt behind is apology for inviting her and kinda causing this mess but would be hurt about her believing it so readily. So in my mind that would kind of balance out and they'd both just work on moving on from her, but instead... he's allowing his family to come after the bride's family and is profusely apologizing as if something did happen. It's merely the fact that he didn't show much hurt at all that she would believe it. OPs husband has the type of response that's very justified. Anger and/or hurt would be the plausible response but overly apologetic? I don't know.
The MOTHER knew her son loved his ex, and was trying to warn the bride. It wasn’t a lie at all! Why would he be “friends” with an ex who would stop his literal wedding day!! What woman stops a man’s wedding day? They are definitely closer than friends. The bride was TOTALLY in the right for leaving. Why didn’t the groom just state upfront that he slept with her and made a video? So he was already hiding something.
The bride should've talked to the groom before humiliating him in front of his friends and family, BUT, I mean, I would be crushed and not able to even look at him if this happened to me. Also, shame on the groom and his family for letting the ex come and then getting mad at the bride for believing "evidence" of him cheating.
NTA. BUT why’d the mother insist on inviting the ex and why would the ex even have an old video? I mean.. that’s some serious drama. I’d walk away from that family… and NOT get married. Any man I marry, even if his family insists, that his ex be invited, isn’t the man for me, especially if it bothers me or I’m against it. Nope.. that’s a big red flag. Don’t walk, run! Also, just stay out of it. Don’t show her the Reddit post. Go home to your child and leave it at that. I’m sure she’ll stumble across the post some day. Fingers crossed she doesn’t marry the guy..
Yeah that’s wtf they get. No one GAF if she saved your life once she is an EMT that’s her job. Why would you let an ex come to the wedding after she specifically said she didn’t want her there? It’s her wedding so her choice. I would’ve left too. If you are moving on to the future why tf are you trying to bring the past with you? She did the right thing by ditching every last one of you. Who wants to be in a relationship with someone that constantly has their ex around all up in their faces. If you guys loved her so much why tf didn’t he stay with her and marry her then? It’s their fault the ex ruined the wedding because they should’ve never invited her. They allowed her to ruin the special day for them the moment they decided to invite her. The ex and them are to blame for what happened.
If you are going to take the word of anyone over the person you are about to marry then you should not marry that person. Without trust you have nothing to build on
So much pressure was being put on the bride to let the ex attend. If the fiance was also on board with the ex's presence, perhaps the bride already had suspicions. So believing the ex's story and the video wasn't a stretch.
@@hydeparkacademy7107 Again though if you doubt your soon to be husband, wife, etc.. then they should not your soon to be anything you should not be with them period. Trust is the first and most basic foundation of a relationship.
Word? It is video evidence… Secondly, she did not want the ex attending and she was still practically forced into allowing it. Both these things implying that there still must be something going on between the guy and his ex. Also, she did not doubt her him before this. She only doubted him because of the events that happened.
@@racheal4186 It doesn't matter, if someone showed me something about my SO I would immediately ask my SO what this is about. This is 2024 you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do, if you don't want someone at your wedding bad enough you don't get married, if you do get married anyways then you don't get to whine about it later. People really should stop getting married period they are marrying the wrong people and marrying for dumb reasons.
@@daveo1808 I said practically forced. If she has not done so she would had been shunned by her in laws, so via peer pressure she was forced into doing something she clearly did not want to do. It would had made sense to ask her SO, but considering the IL reactions right now I do not think that would had been the right move. Her ex to be husband would not have defended her or stood by her side as seen as in the case of her saying she did not what the ex at the wedding and he didn’t care for her opinion. Just a reminder she was threatened with arson for not showing up. I do not believe she willing walked into this marriage for the wrong reasons, she clearly loved this man a lot of she was able to put up with his seen behaviour. You assuming she did not is quite bold of you.
id say op ITA. Putting the suspicions aside, first of its accaptable that the groom invited his ex since the start of the story said that they a still on good terms which might even mean they stayed friends after breaking up (its not unheard of), if you want to Marry someone they should be pretty far up on your trust scale (Yeah trust is a scale not a yes no thing, you can not say you simply trust someone or you dont) since that person is so far up your first response should be confronting them and clearing the situation. They had an entire hour to clear up the lie instead of throwing away their relationship based on a video that might have been taken when they were together. If the dude did cheat its clear that the response would have been fine but since she didnt attempt to clear up the situation it makes op and the bride the a**hole
If you’re whole family is close to your ex to the point you feel comfortable inviting them to your wedding and that said ex shows a video of them having sex then ya imma believe the ex, you can’t say that the bride is wrong for trusting his ex when he also trusted the ex not to ruin his relationship
@@paigemcquillen671 people can stay friends after breaking up, if she never seemed hostile to his bride he would have no reason to believe she would try something that ridicoulus. And if you marry someone that one should be higher on your trust scale than his ex that you dont like :D. And i can say that the bride is wrong for not confronting the groom before running away. If i hate someone or dislike them, their word will always be taken with a grain of salt, especially if they accuse someone close to me. So i think my assesment of her and OP beeing assholes for their burn the village type of reaction, is reasonable
@@miguelwinkel1910 I wouldn’t want to marry a man who’s friend has a sex video of him, he knew her longer he knew what type of character she was and still decided to be friends with her, you can’t act like he isn’t an idiot for being friends with an ex who obviously has no problem in showing his nudes. Not to mention after knowing all that he still decide to be friends with the ex.
Bro its not jst “girl power”, if u were forced to let your fiancé’s ex come to your wedding, and they had proof of your fiancé cheating on u would you not want someone to stick up for you when both families start ganging up on you?? ☠️
@@Ghostlyaffection this happen to be a lie, and OP took a stance with the bride. You have to deal with people shaming you for gassing up the situation. Now one asked OP to pick a side for a girl she barely knows.
@@Ghostlyaffection OP and the bride to be sided with a woman who wanted to ruin the event, and successfully did with the help of OP's gaslighting. Whether he cheated in Genaral, is a whole different issue. The Proof that ruined the wedding was old pics prior to meeting the bride. Keep in mind, OP herself said she barely knows that girl, hence my original comment about women blindly defending women they don't know under the guise of "girl power" just to end up looking stupid in the process when they're proven to be wrong.
Ok so all of this is the Ex's fault. As far as the fiance begging for forgiveness I apologize too if I let the enemy in the wedding doors wide open. Yes these were the EX's actions but I'm supposed to protect my partner. The ex was allowed yes do to pressure but basically on the fiance's vouching that they have a good relationship. The Ex's behavior reflects on him. I wouldn't want him bringing her or just anyone to my house cuz he thinks they are legit.
2nd update- aita for defending a bride who left her husband at the alter? Okay so I decided to send this to bride, I also told my mother in law who I’m super close with what was going on. I’ll start with bride first. So as I predicted she was a little mad I put her buisness online. I called her and we made small talk for a couple on minutes avoiding the elephant but then I told her I posted about this on Reddit. I sent her the link while we were in call. She didn’t yell or anything but she told me I shouldn’t have done that. I assured her I didn’t use any names or defining descriptions and she hung up the phone. A few minutes later she called me back and told me she scrolled through the comments and stuff and it made her feel a bit better. Then she apologized for “snapping” at me but I don’t feel like she did. She told me that she felt like a lot of the comments were “blowing things out of proportion” when it comes to how you guys speak of the mother in law and groom. She said MIL isn’t evil like the post made her out to be, she also said she understands why MIL insisted on ex being bc at wedding and that when MIL threatened to burn down the house she wasn’t being serious and it was taken out of context. When I asked stuff like are you still gonna get married to groom she just kept saying idk and she sounded sad so I dropped it. She also told me she doesn’t think groom cheated on her and that my husband just has a bad perception of groom because he has a “hard shell to crack.” After we hung up me and my husband called his mother to update her on what’s happening because she couldn’t make it to the wedding. My husbands mother told us that the ex never really saved MILs life, basically all she did was inject her with an epi pen for a mild allergy. My Mil feels like saying “she saved her life” was just for dramatics to guilt the bride into letting ex attend wedding. My MIL also feels like the brides MIL had nothing to do with the ex sabotaging the wedding. She said that the brides mil isn’t an idiot and even if she did love the ex that much she would never purposely ruin her son’s wedding cuz she’s one of those boy moms.
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I think the groom feels guilty because the bride didn't want him to invite the ex, he fought her too and the ex did what she did.
He feels stupid and bride was right not to want her there.
He could have cheated, but I think he would be more defensive.
He feels like an idiot and he should.
Excuse me? Threatening to burn the house down?
yeah... like thats not something you just brush over!!!
This alone is reason enough for the bride to stay broken up with the groom. His family (as well as hers) are a bunch of AH’s for blaming her for this mess that the ex caused. But his mother is downright psycho, and would make her life a living hell if they got married.
That's what got me like...for real? It's NEVER that deep
Coming from the mom whonwanted the ex at the wedding, tell you all you need to know about how she think 'my way or you'll all burn in hell" mentality.
2nd update- aita for defending a bride who left her husband at the alter?
Okay so I decided to send this to bride, I also told my mother in law who I’m super close with what was going on. I’ll start with bride first.
So as I predicted she was a little mad I put her buisness online.
I called her and we made small talk for a couple on minutes avoiding the elephant but then I told her I posted about this on Reddit. I sent her the link while we were in call. She didn’t yell or anything but she told me I shouldn’t have done that. I assured her I didn’t use any names or defining descriptions and she hung up the phone. A few minutes later she called me back and told me she scrolled through the comments and stuff and it made her feel a bit better. Then she apologized for “snapping” at me but I don’t feel like she did.
She told me that she felt like a lot of the comments were “blowing things out of proportion” when it comes to how you guys speak of the mother in law and groom.
She said MIL isn’t evil like the post made her out to be, she also said she understands why MIL insisted on ex being bc at wedding and that when MIL threatened to burn down the house she wasn’t being serious and it was taken out of context.
When I asked stuff like are you still gonna get married to groom she just kept saying idk and she sounded sad so I dropped it.
She also told me she doesn’t think groom cheated on her and that my husband just has a bad perception of groom because he has a “hard shell to crack.”
After we hung up me and my husband called his mother to update her on what’s happening because she couldn’t make it to the wedding.
My husbands mother told us that the ex never really saved MILs life, basically all she did was inject her with an epi pen for a mild allergy. My Mil feels like saying “she saved her life” was just for dramatics to guilt the bride into letting ex attend wedding.
My MIL also feels like the brides MIL had nothing to do with the ex sabotaging the wedding. She said that the brides mil isn’t an idiot and even if she did love the ex that much she would never purposely ruin her son’s wedding cuz she’s one of those boy moms.
It can't be a "mild allergy" if she has to have a EpiPen
@SabrinaBoyette-fy9vg Absolutely. - An Epi-Pen is an emergency rescue medication that requires additional medical care after administration.
@@suet.r.4815 exactly. I have what's considered a mild allergy to raspberries and penicillin and I don't have an EpiPen. An EpiPen is for those deathly allergies
Yeah I watch the full story on another post bout this story plus update
@SabrinaBoyette-fy9vg people can have several allergies, only 1 or 2 would need the use of an epi pen.
An EMT should know the difference between mild allergic reaction and anaphylaxis.
No you aren't. I would have left too if there was video evidence that seemed recent enough. Not only that but who insists that someones ex should attend their wedding?! That is beyond disrespectful and rude.
At the beginning it was stated that the groom and his ex are still on good terms therefore its resoanable that they remained friends after splitting. Which makes it not rude to invite her. Since there seems to be an hour long period between actual wedding and reciption, the bride could have easily confronted the groom, cleared it up and thrown the ex out of the wedding for trying that stunt. If the groom didnt change much in appearance the tape would always look recent which makes it really irational to just throw away your relationship about something that has happened before they got together
@@miguelwinkel1910 they're on such good terms the ex would try to implode his new marriage lmaoooo
@@luckas221a when there was nothing going on before how would he know that his ex would plan something like that. I heard many storys where familie members proposed on the wedding of another member which is also hella rude. still they were invited, you cant always know what people are doing
Recent enough at least allow him to explain. That wasn't a real relationship
@@miguelwinkel1910 no yeah, I don't mean they're in bad terms necessarily, I was more hopping onto what you said. They're on REAL good terms. Porkin' with the ex level of good terms
The Dude is a HUGE RED FLAG, glad she left him at the alter for one even wanting his ex there let along it being pushed, The Bride was right to not want the ex there IT was HER WEDDING not the ex's
NTA. Even if the dude wasnt cheating, he still invited his nasty ex to the wedding, and didnt stand up to his mom.
Yea. If he decided not to invite the ex and stand up to his mom, she wouldn't have left
The MIL keeps pushing it, because she wants to make sure bride and groom split for good. She wants the ex back with her son. Otherwise, she would have apologized for the ex's behavior, instead of doubling down that the bride humiliated her son.
In the story it was stated that the groom and ex still have a good relationship, therefore him inviting her isnt unreasonalbe. And the bride just leaving without giving the groom a chance to explain is simply stupid. If he really is cheating thats a different story but otherwise op and the bride both a assholes for jumping to conclusions. After what the ex accused the groom of she should be thrown out of the wedding but the bride should have at least spoken to the groom first
@@miguelwinkel1910 i mean she had video evidence of them having sex even if it’s old his appearance didn’t change much so she couldn’t tell it was old.Also the family that just started making posts about going off on the bride apparently had good reason
@@miguelwinkel1910 Thats... even worse. Why would you be friends with someone that hates your SO?
That may be true, but if he doesn't apologize if he doesn't make a mistake, it can be true/there is more to it. Videos also have hidden information behind them, so she can also check that. It says the date, time, place(ip) and device.
She’s gonna check that on her wedding? With everyone siding with the ex after she intentionally tried to turn their wedding? What kind of logic is that? Yall have no back bone or brains
@@yaoilover0 She should have asked her soon to be husband or she should not be marrying someone she doesn't even trust in the first place
@@daveo1808 honestly I'd not be able to trust someone if they didn't stop their fam to invite an ex. But I'd still hope that I was wrong. That's just how ppl in love are.
I am curious about the situation with the ex, how long since they dated, was she a family friend before they got together, are the families friends, does the mother still want them together?
NTA. He's guilty of something if he's not the type to apologize on command. The ex was super out of line and for people to get mad because she is under the assumption that something went on that breaks up marriages? They're getting mad at the victim here. Even if the cheating was a lie, she may feel the trust is gone and it's going to take time IF the bride even wants to take the effort since all this started because he didn't take her side in the first place.
We NEED update pls
OP is the real MVP here, defending the bride when everyone else ganged up on her.
I am still friends with several of my exes. If the bride doesn't want me at the wedding, Imma stay home. No woman should purposefully put another woman through that kind of nonsense.
NTA but dont show her
0:59 For those of you from the short 1:03 For no overlap
You're an angel ❤
If the video is recorded in photos, you can actually look and see when the video was taken
NTA
The poor bride :(
NTA because the groom's ex girlfriend was beyond disrespectful with her actions and the groom shouldn't have invited her in the first place but the groom himself isn't being honest with this situation and there could be more to this scenario than meets the eye down the line for sure.
NTA, honestly the bride dodged a bullet.
0:58 fur shurts
Plot twist: the groom apologized bc it wasn't a mistake at all
No, no need blow an messy relationship
My take. I feel like (only based on what OPs husband said) if he didn't cheat then he would have had some hurt behind is apology for inviting her and kinda causing this mess but would be hurt about her believing it so readily. So in my mind that would kind of balance out and they'd both just work on moving on from her, but instead... he's allowing his family to come after the bride's family and is profusely apologizing as if something did happen. It's merely the fact that he didn't show much hurt at all that she would believe it. OPs husband has the type of response that's very justified. Anger and/or hurt would be the plausible response but overly apologetic? I don't know.
Nta. Personally I’d stay out of it. Just slip the bride your contact information. Knowing someone supports her will likely help.
And that is why you don't invite the ex!
The MOTHER knew her son loved his ex, and was trying to warn the bride. It wasn’t a lie at all! Why would he be “friends” with an ex who would stop his literal wedding day!! What woman stops a man’s wedding day? They are definitely closer than friends. The bride was TOTALLY in the right for leaving. Why didn’t the groom just state upfront that he slept with her and made a video? So he was already hiding something.
He probably despises his ex girlfriend now for ruining his wedding and marriage. So that got her nothing.
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NTA even if he didn't cheat he still invited his ex to the wedding and he still didn't stand up to his mother
The best thing that you can do for your life is not marry the wrong person!
The bride should've talked to the groom before humiliating him in front of his friends and family, BUT, I mean, I would be crushed and not able to even look at him if this happened to me. Also, shame on the groom and his family for letting the ex come and then getting mad at the bride for believing "evidence" of him cheating.
I mean, she didn't really have the chance? either run away, or go to the altar, and stir the drama in front of everyone...
Nta
Wow thanks for the likes guys!
NTA. BUT why’d the mother insist on inviting the ex and why would the ex even have an old video? I mean.. that’s some serious drama. I’d walk away from that family… and NOT get married. Any man I marry, even if his family insists, that his ex be invited, isn’t the man for me, especially if it bothers me or I’m against it. Nope.. that’s a big red flag. Don’t walk, run! Also, just stay out of it. Don’t show her the Reddit post. Go home to your child and leave it at that. I’m sure she’ll stumble across the post some day. Fingers crossed she doesn’t marry the guy..
Yes tell her
WHERE’S THE NEXT UPDATE!!!
I think they should look at a picture of him when he was dating his ex or when they said the video was made to make sure they still look the same
Person that said husband could’ve cheated: BUT HEY THATS JUST A THEORY A
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Yeah that’s wtf they get. No one GAF if she saved your life once she is an EMT that’s her job. Why would you let an ex come to the wedding after she specifically said she didn’t want her there? It’s her wedding so her choice. I would’ve left too. If you are moving on to the future why tf are you trying to bring the past with you? She did the right thing by ditching every last one of you. Who wants to be in a relationship with someone that constantly has their ex around all up in their faces. If you guys loved her so much why tf didn’t he stay with her and marry her then? It’s their fault the ex ruined the wedding because they should’ve never invited her. They allowed her to ruin the special day for them the moment they decided to invite her. The ex and them are to blame for what happened.
Someone let me know if there’s an update
If you are going to take the word of anyone over the person you are about to marry then you should not marry that person.
Without trust you have nothing to build on
So much pressure was being put on the bride to let the ex attend. If the fiance was also on board with the ex's presence, perhaps the bride already had suspicions. So believing the ex's story and the video wasn't a stretch.
@@hydeparkacademy7107 Again though if you doubt your soon to be husband, wife, etc.. then they should not your soon to be anything you should not be with them period.
Trust is the first and most basic foundation of a relationship.
Word? It is video evidence… Secondly, she did not want the ex attending and she was still practically forced into allowing it.
Both these things implying that there still must be something going on between the guy and his ex.
Also, she did not doubt her him before this. She only doubted him because of the events that happened.
@@racheal4186 It doesn't matter, if someone showed me something about my SO I would immediately ask my SO what this is about.
This is 2024 you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do, if you don't want someone at your wedding bad enough you don't get married, if you do get married anyways then you don't get to whine about it later.
People really should stop getting married period they are marrying the wrong people and marrying for dumb reasons.
@@daveo1808 I said practically forced. If she has not done so she would had been shunned by her in laws, so via peer pressure she was forced into doing something she clearly did not want to do.
It would had made sense to ask her SO, but considering the IL reactions right now I do not think that would had been the right move. Her ex to be husband would not have defended her or stood by her side as seen as in the case of her saying she did not what the ex at the wedding and he didn’t care for her opinion.
Just a reminder she was threatened with arson for not showing up.
I do not believe she willing walked into this marriage for the wrong reasons, she clearly loved this man a lot of she was able to put up with his seen behaviour. You assuming she did not is quite bold of you.
id say op ITA. Putting the suspicions aside, first of its accaptable that the groom invited his ex since the start of the story said that they a still on good terms which might even mean they stayed friends after breaking up (its not unheard of), if you want to Marry someone they should be pretty far up on your trust scale (Yeah trust is a scale not a yes no thing, you can not say you simply trust someone or you dont) since that person is so far up your first response should be confronting them and clearing the situation. They had an entire hour to clear up the lie instead of throwing away their relationship based on a video that might have been taken when they were together. If the dude did cheat its clear that the response would have been fine but since she didnt attempt to clear up the situation it makes op and the bride the a**hole
If you’re whole family is close to your ex to the point you feel comfortable inviting them to your wedding and that said ex shows a video of them having sex then ya imma believe the ex, you can’t say that the bride is wrong for trusting his ex when he also trusted the ex not to ruin his relationship
@@paigemcquillen671 people can stay friends after breaking up, if she never seemed hostile to his bride he would have no reason to believe she would try something that ridicoulus. And if you marry someone that one should be higher on your trust scale than his ex that you dont like :D. And i can say that the bride is wrong for not confronting the groom before running away. If i hate someone or dislike them, their word will always be taken with a grain of salt, especially if they accuse someone close to me. So i think my assesment of her and OP beeing assholes for their burn the village type of reaction, is reasonable
@@miguelwinkel1910 I wouldn’t want to marry a man who’s friend has a sex video of him, he knew her longer he knew what type of character she was and still decided to be friends with her, you can’t act like he isn’t an idiot for being friends with an ex who obviously has no problem in showing his nudes. Not to mention after knowing all that he still decide to be friends with the ex.
@@miguelwinkel1910 Her WEDDING! The X brought the video to HER WEDDING! She deliberately wanted to break them up! She did the Right thing!
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Saying first on a small channel is crazy
@@dogago6846 what did I ever do to you I was just trying to have fun
@@JourneyRichardson-y2d no
@@JourneyRichardson-y2dwtf is fun abt typing “first?” it’s just annoying
@@Simlyyydid them saying first get ur panties in a bunch 😹😹
OP ITA, mind your business. Not every scenario is a "girl power, let's lock up arms" moment, especially for a girl you don't even know like that.
I agree but I say NTA
Bro its not jst “girl power”, if u were forced to let your fiancé’s ex come to your wedding, and they had proof of your fiancé cheating on u would you not want someone to stick up for you when both families start ganging up on you?? ☠️
@@Ghostlyaffection this happen to be a lie, and OP took a stance with the bride. You have to deal with people shaming you for gassing up the situation. Now one asked OP to pick a side for a girl she barely knows.
@@Ghostlyaffection OP and the bride to be sided with a woman who wanted to ruin the event, and successfully did with the help of OP's gaslighting. Whether he cheated in Genaral, is a whole different issue. The Proof that ruined the wedding was old pics prior to meeting the bride.
Keep in mind, OP herself said she barely knows that girl, hence my original comment about women blindly defending women they don't know under the guise of "girl power" just to end up looking stupid in the process when they're proven to be wrong.
@@ketienne1021 the fact that it was a lie may have been a lie too. that was a detail you conveniently left out.
Ok so all of this is the Ex's fault. As far as the fiance begging for forgiveness I apologize too if I let the enemy in the wedding doors wide open.
Yes these were the EX's actions but I'm supposed to protect my partner. The ex was allowed yes do to pressure but basically on the fiance's vouching that they have a good relationship. The Ex's behavior reflects on him. I wouldn't want him bringing her or just anyone to my house cuz he thinks they are legit.
2nd update- aita for defending a bride who left her husband at the alter?
Okay so I decided to send this to bride, I also told my mother in law who I’m super close with what was going on. I’ll start with bride first.
So as I predicted she was a little mad I put her buisness online.
I called her and we made small talk for a couple on minutes avoiding the elephant but then I told her I posted about this on Reddit. I sent her the link while we were in call. She didn’t yell or anything but she told me I shouldn’t have done that. I assured her I didn’t use any names or defining descriptions and she hung up the phone. A few minutes later she called me back and told me she scrolled through the comments and stuff and it made her feel a bit better. Then she apologized for “snapping” at me but I don’t feel like she did.
She told me that she felt like a lot of the comments were “blowing things out of proportion” when it comes to how you guys speak of the mother in law and groom.
She said MIL isn’t evil like the post made her out to be, she also said she understands why MIL insisted on ex being bc at wedding and that when MIL threatened to burn down the house she wasn’t being serious and it was taken out of context.
When I asked stuff like are you still gonna get married to groom she just kept saying idk and she sounded sad so I dropped it.
She also told me she doesn’t think groom cheated on her and that my husband just has a bad perception of groom because he has a “hard shell to crack.”
After we hung up me and my husband called his mother to update her on what’s happening because she couldn’t make it to the wedding.
My husbands mother told us that the ex never really saved MILs life, basically all she did was inject her with an epi pen for a mild allergy. My Mil feels like saying “she saved her life” was just for dramatics to guilt the bride into letting ex attend wedding.
My MIL also feels like the brides MIL had nothing to do with the ex sabotaging the wedding. She said that the brides mil isn’t an idiot and even if she did love the ex that much she would never purposely ruin her son’s wedding cuz she’s one of those boy moms.
Nta
NTA
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