Motivational Series Part 1: Dealing with Insecurity
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Hey everyone! As we move into the new year I want to wish you all great happiness and success, but I also want to acknowledge the personal issues that we face on a daily basis.
Addressing my own fears and insecurities over the years as well as listening to others talk about theirs made me realize that insecurity is part of everyone’s nature, but it’s something that we can practice together to make ourselves stronger both as human beings and as musicians.
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OMG!!! You're the greater person than I thought!!!!👍🏻✨👑🎻💎🌞
I struggle with the practice time. I don't practice enough because I easily give up when some kind of difficulty comes along the way, and I feel so guilty for this. I start telling myself that I'm lazy, that I'm not passionate enough, because if I were, I would practice all the time... but you know what? These are just excuses that our mind tells ourselves to justify our fears. We need to push forward, we need to overcome our insecurities. We can f*cking do it, COME ON!!!!
Actually, for me it’s the exact same thing!
@@fridawagner4948 omg I didn't even noticed I received so many likes, also this comes just in perfect time, I should practice and here I am surfing the internet. Two years from now and I still struggle lol
I gotta admit, I shed a tear or two watching this...
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Jk I bawled. Thank you, Ray! Thanks for inspiring us all 😭💖❤
Kirsten Corbett Aww thank you for your support! I’m so glad my words spoke to you!
Me too, i cried :’v
Kirsten Corbett Me as well, especially at the end
I cried a little bit too hahahaha 😂😂💞
@@RayChenViolinist I did cry aswell and I had shivers throughout my whole body. You inspired me so much! Thank you for this great video! I will never forget it and always come back to it.
Stumbled upon this for the first time today, and . . . I cried. So hard. I learned to play piano when I was 4 and cello when I was 5, and I absolutely loved it. We discovered I was talented early on, so my parents pushed to get me to the best teachers they could get me to. I didn't work as hard as I could've - my teachers (and mom, especially) were very adamant about reminding me that I had great potential that could be realized if I'd only work hard enough - but I didn't care. I played and dreamed (big) because I loved it, because music spoke to my soul, and I didn't care whether it was right or not.
Right before I turned 13, we moved and I became unable to take lessons for a variety of reasons (financing, finding a good teacher, busy with other things, etc.). Those years were rough and dark; I felt the music being crushed out of my soul often and I even nearly quit playing all together at one point in there. But somehow, even though I barely even touched the piano or pulled my cello out of its case, and even though I did quit dreaming, I didn't quit playing. Somehow I didn't feel I could.
I was 13 nearly 5 years ago; currently, I'm nearly 18 and a senior in highschool. This past spring I developed the crazy idea to become a music major in college even though I'd barely done anything with music throughout the past 5 years. Coming back to music has been . . . interesting, to say the least. I'm much more aware of my mistakes, the odds stacked against me, and just how far I have to go and how much I should've worked harder. Not helping things is that 2 weeks ago from writing this, I went to a string camp and because I went from nearly not-playing to playing so much in one week, I left string camp with a playing-inurcured injury. The injury, although minor enough to the point where it will heal if I rest it, has still caused me to think a lot: what if it doesn't recover? What if I can't become a musician? What if I'm just crazy for attempting all this?
I played my first gig yesterday (my best friend's wedding) and . . . Due tosa lot of nerves and having to switch pieces to something easier because I injured myself, it did not go nearly as well as I hoped it would. Funny enough to me, however, no one noticed the mistakes. No one had anything negative to say about my performance. And everyone (including my mom, who is very good at critiquing my performances) told me how much they enjoyed it. I was very confused over this yesterday. I'm not now.
Somehow in all those years, I had forgotten (or maybe I had just never learned) that music is (and can be) an emotional display built to bring joy to and inspire those around you. I'd forgotten that my main goal shouldn't always be to get every note, phrase, bow, bowing, dynamic, emotion, etc. right - and most importantly, I dont think I ever realized before today that my opinion will not and cannot determine whether or not others love my playing.
So . . . Thank you, Ray, for producing this video. Tbh, I don't know that I'll ever see music and my playing in particular in the same way again :)
you can do it❤
I'm not crying... it's just... raining on my face.
thank you so much for making this video....just today i had a breakdown after playing because i kept thinking "i'll never be good enough" and "i'll never be as good as i expect myself to be". Playing the violin in a way has really affected my self esteem and emotions in negative ways - a lot of the time i feel that i'm worthless since violin is basically the only thing i do outside of school, but i don't even feel like i'm that good at it. this makes me think that i'm not capable of being good at anything. i'm always afraid of disappointing my teacher even though i know he won't get mad at me if i sound bad; rather i'm afraid of that he'll think i didn't practice, when i truly put a lot of effort into doing so. after seeing this video it will serve as a reminder to me that i play music for a deeper reason than just wanting people to think i sound good.
Thank you so much for that my dear brother I'm 12 years old I'm J these days I was depressed cause everyone are bullying me. And my mom has cancer.
But now I am motivated by this video thank you so much, brother and I can play the violin I have so many targets a classical violinist, the world's best singer, an engineer, a doctor, a dancer nutty I. don't know how to do this.
But I will meet you and Twoset Violin you guys are the best musicians forever 😊 love you all.
I wish your dreams will come true
Greatest best role model for everyone
ray thankyou so much . i will get in Curtis. i will. i swear to you to lingling and beyond that i will one day perform on the stage of Curtis.
Thanks for this- it really helps knowing that everyone does go through these thoughts!
please make the second part :(
This video kept me going when I was really struggling. Thank you so much Ray! ☺💜
"You're an artist. What you have to say musically matters. You might not think so, but that's not your decision to make whether or not someone else loves what you do." That gets to the heart of the matter, doesn't it? I'm going to write that one down. Thank you.
Is it just me or every time this emotional video ends, and he turns his face towards me to say “I believe in you” I get chills and goosebumps. Thanks Ray
I hate to play the violin when I could just breakdown at any moment. I know there should be professionalism (like dont bring your problems to work) but I wish the concertmaster (in my case, who's really insensitive) would be more understanding that some musicians have serious mental health issues. And hello? there's been quite a lot of musicians committing suicide nowadays.
Just placing this out there..
A huge thankyou to Ray bae for starting a Motivational series and I hope many artists from around the world would get to watch it. 💕
Im the concert master of my orchestra and ive never lookes at it that way so i think ill like not roast my peers at much
I literally cried seeing the whole video. Thank you for inspiring me. I love you and take care.
Dear Ray, you put the emotions into the right words and filled the words with emotion. This is SO important and I think that you will help so many by doing this great video with the message that every musician / other artist needs to deal with. I myself know those thoughts too well and I want to make a video about this theme this year .. I am so positively impressed by your way of telling the story, it has this pure and meditational touch and I couldn't help but had tears in my eyes. Indeed you're not only such great violinist but also mentor! Thank you! With the best wishes for the new year ☘🎻😊 Lelie
Very true at 2:21 about the evil voices in our head. We gotta make sure that God has promised us a beautiful now and then. As a child of God, we shouldn't believe in the liar's voice. :) It doesn't matter if people are listening or not. But I am sure that God listens and appreciate it. Just play it for your genuine and faithful listener of all time :) God bless you!
Ray always gaves me great inspirations. he lets me feel fresh.
Damn... I don't think a video ever hit me so hard and accurately. These are the exact insecurities I'm having trouble with right now (and not just music, with anything). Damn, it even literally made me cry hahahah, but thank you so much for this. I will continue, I don't want to give this up, I want to grow bigger, I probably won't be a professional, but I can try to get close to being one
Thats a really beautiful video. Yes, me too, somedays I feel like I got s*** in my hands, or my body is not responding good enough. I always hate myself at this moment, I start to ask "it's because I don't sleep enough or not eating good food enough. Or I'm stressed and my body wants to show me more that playing music". It's hard to feel good in our skin during this moment. And after, here the evil things come.. "am I not good enough", "all this work is for nothing" "all this is a dream, have to go back on Earth girl, it's not for you"... I try so hard to convince myself it's a bad day, tomorrow it will be better. Or if its a failure because of body tension, practice in a way I can relax my muscles. Sometimes it works and I'm proud to get everything in control. All these insecurities and fears are part of human being and we have to find a way to deal with, emotions is a part of violin, but we have to play, we love music. I discussed with a contempory painter, and he told me this precious advice "you can have no confidence in yourself (you you) but you have to believe in your work (music)". Separate both the feelings and the mind needed for the violin, and the "personal mind". Like it's two separate brains. This advice really had an impact with me, and I find some simularities with this video. Thank Ray!! It's always pleasant to see virtuoso musicians put a word on practice/difficulty musical process :)
Ray, thank you for your motivation. This is such a precious video not only for musicians but also for non-musician like me. It became a small pebble that changed my life in a more comforting, yet not quitting what I'm facing adversity and have endurance not forgetting the good reason of my endeavor. I decided to release myself from unnecessary tense that I foolishly, deliberately put onto myself which often times led me to extreme thinking of quitting my goal. Thank you again for your sincere heart thinking of motivating people.
I have had no motivation to do anything which made me doubt myself if I truly love music or not for a long time. When you said "I play music because I need to express my emotions" I started to cry. Yes, this is the moment that I identify myself as a musician, it's all about bringing joy and personal emotions to people who also care about music as you do. Thank you so much Ray, this video is really inspiring.
Thanks a bunch Ray , you as well as saved my life and I mean it .💐💐
I don't play music, but I write. And I write because I need to express myself. Whether someone likes it or not, agrees or disagrees, really has nothing to do with me and everything to do with them. I keep writing anyway
I cried with this video. In two days I am gonna start conservatory and I was always with fears, always insecure on stage. But now, with this motivational video, I am feeling better, I think that I can do everything with music, because music it's not only about getting better, also to express feelings, emotions... My own emotions! I feel happier. Thanks Ray, you're amazing 😄❤
This video was something I really needed. Insecurieties are something I've always dealt with. Having started to play the violin at age 16 gave me so much pressure. I wanted to fullfill my expectations and the ones of the people surrounding me. Yet I compared myself with others my age (most of them having started at the age of 6 or even younger) making myself feel really bad.
Great job Ray! This video was beautifully done. It has touched my heart which resulted in teary eyes...
I started at the same age! :)
It's not so unusual
I know I'm kind of late, but I really want to thank you Ray. This video really speakes my emotions. I had a really bad day. I had to play with the piano acompaniament and the lady was really mean to mean. She told me that my intonation was bad and that I played "too free". Now, I wanted to take her words for good and try to practice, but my emotions really kicked in.I started to play the violin when I was 6. Then(I had a horrible teacher) I quit music school, but continued to have a lesson per week. Then, 2 years ago, I rediscovered my passion for music and decided that I wanted to pursue a music career. I studied really hard and got in the music school again. I lack many things, but I have a pretty difficult repertoire(Bruch concerto, Bartok Romanian Dances, and Bach), especially for my level of playing. I'm only 14, but I take my career very seriously. The video picked me up, and told me that I should continue to play, and not quit again. I thank you deeply, Anastasia.
He said that this would be a four part series. But where are the other three? This video has helped me so much and I really want to see the others. I know that as a soloist it would be hard to make time for youtube when you have so much to do with travels and repertoire and stuff but I really hope he does do some more on this.
Thank u Ray for this video...I deserved it so much, I’m so insecure about my violin playing and also I’m always afraid that my teacher hates me, because she told me I’m a fool...thank you so much, I love you. ❤️
I'm so grateful for this video. You're so great. I want you to let you know that you inspired me as violinist at my lowest.
Im sitting in the bathroom crying rn cuz i think im not good enough and this video came up on my recommended. This rlly helped me
I've been playing the violin for 4 years now and I still hate playing in front of people.
My parents made me play in front of relatives tonight and I messed up...my bow was shaky, my intonation wasn't good...its like my my mind and body disconnect when I start playing and everything happens so fast😭
I feel embarrassed and disappointed...it feels like I practiced for nothing...
I don't want to be alone so I tell people that I don't practice, just because I am scared...
I have a friend that I love and he is the only one who knows that I practice everyday☺ I love you❤
I love this video!! Youre so right! And one thing Ive learned and am still learning as a musician is that you have to face your insecurities, like it is with all your insecurities and fears. Go on stage and if you might have failed in a way, maybe because you were nervous, go on stage again. And again. It will make you stronger and the insecurities wont control the fun anymore. And the best thing is, to have friends around you during your performance who always believe in you!😊
We need more of this series please!
Thank you! I have an audition tomorrow and i’ve had an anxiety since yesterday. This message helps a lot. Thank you❤️
My initial road in life was to become an opera singer. Life had other plans and today I am a mental health therapist. This clip was excellent and right on with the idea of reframing negative self talk and defeating thoughts. We absolutely do get what we expect of ourselves and if we aren’t able to channel insecurities into insignificance it is crippling. I believe in YOU!
Hhh i was actually just thinking about quiting music then randomly this video shows up aa it actually made me cry thank you so much i rlly needed this
This video means a lot to me. As a student, I feel like classical music still isn’t very mainstream and things like our insecurities, comparing ourselves to others, etc. Are hardly talked about even among fellow music students. The issue is, we all bottle up our emotions like this at some point, but there are few role models, like Ray, who can provide some guidance in these common (yet isolated-feeling) situations. This video really means a lot to the classical music audience because it reminds us we have something to believe in, it gives us hope and a role model to look up to ❤️ I hope this series will continue!
I love playing the violin but I hate practicing violin. I been playing the violin since 3 years ago. I love you ray Chen your really funny!!!! Your violin is really good I can't wait for you to come to Canada Vancouver near ubc I'm going!!!!!!!!!!!! 3 row tickets!!!!!! I really admire you are the person who got me into playing the violin
this made me cry! 😭😭
I've had an emotional meltdown after my orchestra class rehearsed because I was so disapointed in myself and felt like I'm so bhind everyone else. Really needed to hear this. thanks ray :)
I’m watching this just about to go into a lesson and I feel so much better about how I’m going to play now. Thanks Ray, you were the person who inspired.
Thanks so much for this gem! U don't even know how much this helps me, even though i don't work in musical field. Everything is relevant.
l can’t believe how much l just got moved from watching a 4 minute video. Thank you for being such an amazing influencer to music students across the globe. You have been truly inspiring.
I believe in you, too, Ray!
This is how a true artist thinks. Thank you for reminding us :) #rayinspires
Thank you Ray , you don't know how much motivation you gave me 💜
Hope to play with you one day
This is the most beautiful video I've seen in a long time and it has such an important message, brought tears to my eyes!!
Such wisdom from a young man. I suppose communication really is his thing.
Dear Ray, thank you for this phenomenal idea of sharing and motivating with others. At first I thought it was a little dramatic, but then a tear appeared out of nowhere! I guess drama and passion are related. You are a fantastic violinist and impassioned humanist. Looking forward to the next video on this subject.
😭Thank you Ray Chen xxxooo you are the best! 🤟🙏
Thank you so much, Mr. Chen! These issues with insecurities have been something I've always dealed with- especially now as I have graduated and began studying violin performance in college. You're such an inspiration to me. Thank you for making the time to make this!
Ray is an outstanding musician, role model and great motivational speaker.
"I play music cause I need to express my emotions" hit me so hard. Why Rayy Chenn😢
Fantastic video man! 😍
Thanks for sharing!I always admire people who are open with their true emotions and feelings, acknowledging them, accepting and confronting them!
I'm freaking crying- I have felt this way for so so so many years now- I'm in my first year of high school and I'm utterly terrified of never making it into a music school
Thank you so much for making this video. You are so kind. That explains why your music sounds so beautiful.
Thanks for such an inspirational vid.. I personally struggle with vibrato because i dunno my hands are thin (bony) 😫 and my fingers are very hard to move.. i am thankful to see professional violinist share opinions and extend help to people like me who are having emotional distress.. so good job 👏🏼☺️ and continue to be an inspiration to others 😍😘❤️❤️
Up until 2:20 I was thinking "Wait what how is this gonna help I'm feeling even worse now"
Good thing I kept watching.
This video just made me cry but in a good sense thank you so much for this video it’s really really important for everyone
Thanks Ray it was really helpful. I appreciate it.
謝謝你，Ray
Although my comment is years late, this is still excellent and very relevant. It is really unfortunate that this video does not have more views when so many deal with these challenges. Wonderful series Ray!👍🏽
Thank you for sharing this video!
Absolutely perfect timing for me! Thank you Ray
Thank you so much for this Ray, this is the best motivation video I have ever seen. Thank you thank you thank youuuu
Aww, Ray you're so cool.
Good thing I started late so I don't even have hopes :P
lots of love to you Ray and everyone!! Thank you for this
Gonna save this video in order to return when another "I'm not good enough" thought appears in my head
This really touched my heart ❤️ I’m really inspired! Thank you ray Chen!
This was amazing...! Thank you.
Encourage me so much!! Especially before the chamber music performance tomorrow, thanks, Ray Chen!!!!
Obrigada, Ray! Suas palavras falaram ao meu coração. Vice não deveria parar com esta série.❤🇧🇷👏👏👏👏👏
A really beautiful video. Hope you release the other 3 parts soon!! :D
Wow!!! Fantastic message, i'll take, own and Share it. Thanks a lot Ray, great video from a great person.
Thanks you so much RAY❤️❤️
This last 2 years, I start to ask my this question, why?, Why am like this? As a musician and person, Is normal to feel scared, and insecure all the time?. I'm a very shy person,and have that constantly necessity of do things well, sound good, in front of the persons I know,(as you said). I started to play violin when I was 8 and now I have 16 yo, the first six year I play with a bad posture(bow, left hand) and the teachers a I had ,never told me the things i was doing bad. And in that time I didn't know it. 2 years ago, my friend who play viola know a Armenian teacher, and my friend told- i know you, and you tell and I see, that you love classical music, and want to be violinist and I don't want to see you, wasting your time here(youth orchestra). He present me the teacher, and he told me that every thing of my posture was bad 😂. Now As time passes, I start to feel sad, I cried during my practices, and didn't know what to do... But this day I start to live every day, and not think about what might happen in the future.
Ray, thanks for all your words, motivational videos, thank you for inspiring me 🎶
love it sooooooo much！thanks
I cried.. so touching
You’re the best!❤️
I got goosebumps..
Thank you so much
Thank you, thank you, thank you so much!! ❤️💜
This is an amazing video. I can't thank you enough.
Oh my gosh! Ray, thank you so much for this video! 🌷🎻
What a great timing! I was about to start audition video recording. Thank you so much!!!!
Thanks so much Ray this video resonates with me a lot
This. 😭😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you, Ray.
Also, nice use of Symphony Hall and its backstage. Atlanta is my home. (=
Ray, you're beautiful on the in- and the outside.
Thank you my love
Why did this make me cry 😢
this is so good please complete all the parts ;-;
Luv this idea, thank you so much 😊💛
This made me cry like a little girl lol. So glad I got to see you in Sergestrom Concert Hall in Costa Mesa for your Beethoven concerto
ive watched this a million times and it has helped me so much. And now that i'm finally not as emotional as i used to be everytime the video ends, i finally noticed that Ray didn't do the "pew pew pew pew" hand gun thingie before going on stage XD lol
Omg it's Atlanta symphony hall I remember bc I stood on the stage and it's sooo majestic
Thanks for this clip Ray!!
Thank you so much for all the advices!!!