Hi everyone and happy Monday! I have an entire ADHD playlist of videos if you want to learn more about this topic: th-cam.com/video/AhWY50bzdqI/w-d-xo.html
Your early videos make me chuckle. You were so young! (Weren’t we all!) You were like “the girl next door”. I have loved watching you evolve in your craft.
As a man who’s been suffering from ADHD for my whole life, too many people see people with ADHD as always being hyper or causing trouble, but oftentimes it’s more about struggling quietly inside.
I was diagnosed with borderline (BPD) and social anxiety disorder in my 20's and was in group therapy with other women with BPD but I was such an outsider. I didn't relate to any of them, but with my low self esteem, I thought who am I to doubt the diagnosis given by professionals. Later I heard about Quiet BPD and assumed that must be me then. It was only in my 40's when I started questioning my BPD diagnosis when I started following a channel from a young woman with chronic pain (like me) who was also diagnosed with autism and ADHD. It was like coming home! Chronic pain is lonely, but going through it with autism and ADHD is even lonelier. The Oscar winning performances, the need to push our bodies and minds over their limits despite pain and fatigue because we can't 'stand' still, feeling restless when in severe pain, the agonising feelings that come with social expectations and exhaustion etc.
I first got the diagnosis for borderline personality disorder and later for adhd. Ever since I am on medication for ADHD all my other symptoms that were attributed to bpd are gone
Could you make a video about autism in women, specifically the differences between autism vs. social anxiety disorder? I‘ve been diagnosed with social anxiety disorder but I feel like I also have quite a few symptoms of ASD. Thanks for all that you do and have a great week ❤
Just for the record for anyone watching, I am a guy with clinically diagnosed ADHD and I identify strongly with the symptomology Kati is reporting on here.
I wasn’t diagnosed until my 40s! And it made so much sense about so many things that I struggled through for years before. Oversharing especially! And being “over sensitive” people pleasing…
I just took my daughter to get evaluated for ADHD and I felt a little judged for it. It seemed like the person we saw looked at the parent and teacher forms and was like, I don't see any indication of ADHD and then proceeded to kind of act like I was doing the evaluation because of issues I have with my daughter, not because I want to help her be successful in life. It was really weird vibes at first, but she eventually seemed to come around and wasn't as strange by the end. She prescribed her something for her anxiety, which I don't know if that's the right route to take or not, but we're trying it for now. 🤞
I was recently diagnosed in my 20s, and this video has been incredibly validating as I’ve reflected on my symptoms and the “quirks” I’ve been working on correcting. Thank you so much!
yas we need more adhd content!! there is a stigma around getting adhd meds right now and its ridiculous so content like this i can only assume will help that issue. great topic
I got diagnosed 3 months ago at age 36, because my 8 year old was diagnosed and I self identified with a lot of his issues. We are both Inattentive type.
Omg! Internalized distraction is so hard!!! I realized at 27 that is why I was so depressed and anxious and all this time it was a part of the major symptoms of adhd!!!
I've been repeatedly diagnosed with bipolar, even after explaining that's not what I've struggled with. 34yrs old was when a doc actually told me he thought it was adhd...
I'm finally reading the Diary of Anne Frank (years after I should have; it's amazing). I wonder if she was an ADHD girl. The diary begins with her in trouble in school, over a period of several days, as a 'chatterbox', and she's made to write self-mocking essays about her inability to participate in class properly. She does so with great wit and humor, and the teacher- to his credit- receives them well and a friendly truce results. But her clashes with adults are less cordial in the annex (where tensions, naturally, were persistent)...she was such a brilliant kid; I wonder what all she might have had going on internally besides her greatest problem.
I’m been asking for help since my teens and now I’m 38 I can’t be bothered anymore. I’m so tired my eyes hurt everyday. Can’t sleep. Nobody to talk to. My mind is racing with thousands of thoughts and trauma memories all at once. It’s like thousands of televisions switched on and you can’t seem to turn them off 😩
May I suggest another TH-cam channel ? "How to ADHD" - lovely young gal who has TONS of well researched videos on her channel. I've learned a lot. I am 62 and never diagnosed. I saw a Ted Talk by Jessica (the gal who has the channel) & saw myself in that. Wishing you peace. As I commented on another response, try to get out in nature & try journaling - "Writing down the bones" by Natalie Goldberg, is a good book as it is a quick read you can pop into & out of randomly. I find writing helps calm my mind. Hope it works for you. (You don't have to show your writing to anyone). It just gets some of the agitation on paper and out of your mind. Wishing you peace.
When I was a little girl, it was widely thought to only affect boys, and when I reached adulthood and it became more widely accepted that girls develop ADHD, too, it was still widely believed that people grew out of it by adulthood (nope!). I didn't figure out that I had ADHD until about a year ago, and got my ADHD-C diagnosis 6 months later, at age 41. It explains so much about my life experience.
All of these apply to me, but this is actually starting to make me feel crazy. I already have so many other fucking issues and several established disgnoses. It doesn't seem possible that I could have yet ANOTHER ONE. It's insane. It's fucking insane. There's no way.
We are all unique due to our physical & psychological make up, and our upbringing. I am sad that you are so distressed. I hope you are able to get help & healing and begin to appreciate your unique being. If you can, get out in nature. Perhaps journaling would help ? Fantastic book to help that is "writing down the bones" by Natalie Goldberg. It's been out for years, so you should be able to pick up a used copy cheaply. VERY ADHD friendly ! You can "jump in" to any paragraph and read ! Lots of writing prompts. I find when I get things out of my head, and on paper, I feel calmer ! You don't have to show anyone your writing. Don't judge the writing - it's just an exercise to 'air out' your racing thoughts. Wishing you peace.
I was probably in my 30's when diagnosed, but they honestly never finished the test even though the Dr that was testing me definitely did that I'm ADHD/add. I couldn't finish the testing bc I had done other legal obligations that I needed to handle. Unfortunately, I didn't go back to that mental health office bc I was moving immediately to Oregon. Then a month later I was taking off to FL, I just haven't been very stable for a very long time but I've been back in CO for about 3yrs now & I finally found a place that I actually really really like. (I try not to like too many things bc usually something happens that messes it up!) Anyway, I guess, since I wasn't fully tested & not given the actual diagnosis, many of my Dr.'s see it but kinda glance over it but I very strongly believe that I need meds to help me slow down, quit shaking my legs uncontrollably, to quit trying to spill out everything I can say when I'm around ppl bc other that that moment I'm very much alone! I can't hold onto relationships & I get extremely devastated over the breakuos!! I feel like I'm a loser or a lost cause! I'm in my 50's, I was injured at work 20yrs ago so I'm on ssdi, I do a bit of recycling to have a little bit of spending money & I do work part time for a diaper recycling company. I'm alone all the time whether I'm at work at home, recycling, I have a l zero real friends anymore & I don't really have family & my adult sons in my opinion are always putting me down saying that I need to suck it up & go back to driving trucks bc that's what I was doing when i got injured. I guess they may see bigger potential in me. However, they do not live life in chronic pain every second of every day! I just don't feel ok bc they truly do not care! I do have major depression & anxiety too so that's what they focus on which yes I need that also, but I need all of it to be addressed! I'm extremely tired of so much stuff that it's rather impossible for me to stay focused. I'm always running late, don't get my stuff done, always pushing the deadlines not organized & not as neaty as I was growing up which drives me nuts!! I try to fix it but it's all so very overwhelming!! Now my last partner betrayed me by cheating then dumped me for that person! Threw me out to the cold along with our 2½yr relationship & 39yr friendship! The one before that one did the same exact shit but it was a 12yr relationship off & on. And I'm the common denominator so I'd say it's me but they were the ones who cheated! I'm at such a loss in understanding the why's that I almost just want to stay single now for the rest of my life. That's super sad to me bc I love love! So, for me to throw love out the door also breaks my heart!!! I'm just a mess, sorry!
This was the exact opposite with me. My mom had me taking stimulants for ADHD because she thought I had it when I didn’t. I felt like I was drugged from 1st-10th grades. I’m more of an HFA but because mom thought she noticed disrupt qualities I was lumped in to the ADHD group.
I’m low functioning and no medication was able to help me. I’ve taken adderall but it still hasn’t been as effective. I’m looking for into alternatives like ashwaghanda which kinda helps reduce hyperactivity
Hey Katie I have a question that's been bothering me for a while now but I understand if you can't answer it. I've seen so many folks who are queer and women that are being diagnosed with BPD instead of many other disorders. I've seen people with major depressive disorder that get diagnosed as BPD even though they don't fit any of the criteria other than Suicidal Tendencies and depressive thoughts. There is so much of BPD diagnosis that has to do with having difficulties in relationships and the dependencies that come with that but that can also happen with many many many many many other mental illnesses or neuro divergencies why would someone be diagnosed with BPD when they may be showing signs and symptoms of many other things? It feels like BPD much like many other diagnosis are based on a sense of misunderstanding about women and queer culture.
I was called in every day to my daughter school until they diagnosed her with anxiety and adhd but I was still called in to school every day because they couldn't handle it and was making her anxiety worse I had to move her to a different school the school she is in now is a school for children with special needs she do well there but they still call me in because of problems I think they diagnosed her wrong I think she have autism and adhd because all the symptoms are there but that is just my thoughts but she is still doing better at this school she is in now thanks for sharing this with us❤
I was ALWAYS getting in trouble in school for talking. I wish I had been tested in grade school. My mom mentioned it,but the counselor just blew her off…!
Yes. Adderall is a possibility, but there are several other medications that may be useful. I took adderall for a bit after my diagnosis at 61. I am female. The most important thing about meds is to talk to your doctor about how you feel while taking them. Your doctor doesn't live in your skin, so they don't know what drug or what dosage will help the most. You may have to try several different drugs and dosages to get the right one. However you may need to be diagnosed to get meds. You could also try come kind of behavioral therapy if you can find a therapist with ADHD experience.
Many mental health issues have some symptom overlap. Which is why it's important to get a proper diagnosis from a mental health professional who has worked with you for awhile. That will ensure you get properly diagnosed. xoxo
but where do you as a partner or colleague of such a women draw a line between this is the adhd behaviour she can't fight it or she has just a bad character and horrible attitudes, mean intentions. Do WE have to role to ask ourself this x times a day?
Hi everyone and happy Monday! I have an entire ADHD playlist of videos if you want to learn more about this topic: th-cam.com/video/AhWY50bzdqI/w-d-xo.html
Your early videos make me chuckle. You were so young! (Weren’t we all!) You were like “the girl next door”. I have loved watching you evolve in your craft.
As a man who’s been suffering from ADHD for my whole life, too many people see people with ADHD as always being hyper or causing trouble, but oftentimes it’s more about struggling quietly inside.
The classic symptoms of ADHD are less about how *you're* struggling and more about how you irritate other people.
@@katherineberger6329 same for autism. It's not about your experiences, it's about how others judge you and what they assume about you
I was diagnosed with borderline (BPD) and social anxiety disorder in my 20's and was in group therapy with other women with BPD but I was such an outsider. I didn't relate to any of them, but with my low self esteem, I thought who am I to doubt the diagnosis given by professionals. Later I heard about Quiet BPD and assumed that must be me then. It was only in my 40's when I started questioning my BPD diagnosis when I started following a channel from a young woman with chronic pain (like me) who was also diagnosed with autism and ADHD. It was like coming home! Chronic pain is lonely, but going through it with autism and ADHD is even lonelier. The Oscar winning performances, the need to push our bodies and minds over their limits despite pain and fatigue because we can't 'stand' still, feeling restless when in severe pain, the agonising feelings that come with social expectations and exhaustion etc.
I have both borderline personality and ADHD and I have lived in hell most of my life
Thank you so much for this. As a women in my 50’s this perfectly describes my childhood and entire life so it’s nice to feel validated ❤
I first got the diagnosis for borderline personality disorder and later for adhd. Ever since I am on medication for ADHD all my other symptoms that were attributed to bpd are gone
@@enbisaac That is exactly what I’m curious about! What symptoms went away with meds?
ADHD can also exacerbate PMS and PMDD symptoms in those who menstruate.
YES!! Thank you for mentioning this :) xoxo
Could you make a video about autism in women, specifically the differences between autism vs. social anxiety disorder? I‘ve been diagnosed with social anxiety disorder but I feel like I also have quite a few symptoms of ASD. Thanks for all that you do and have a great week ❤
She did make one. You can look it up “autism in females” it’s dated 6 years ago.
@@OmniTarget13Oh I didn‘t know that, thank you so much for the tip :)
@@Kira_Orange you welcome 🙏
Anyone else had a stop and rewind about five or six times to get the point? LMAO I feel so understood and finally validated
Just for the record for anyone watching, I am a guy with clinically diagnosed ADHD and I identify strongly with the symptomology Kati is reporting on here.
I wasn’t diagnosed until my 40s! And it made so much sense about so many things that I struggled through for years before. Oversharing especially! And being “over sensitive” people pleasing…
@@SDrareRedhead I’ve been Dx with depression/anxiety, then it was BPD, THEN it changed to BP2…but I’m convinced I have ADHD…it all makes sense!
Im 32 and just got diagnosed. Its like the answer to my life lol
I just took my daughter to get evaluated for ADHD and I felt a little judged for it. It seemed like the person we saw looked at the parent and teacher forms and was like, I don't see any indication of ADHD and then proceeded to kind of act like I was doing the evaluation because of issues I have with my daughter, not because I want to help her be successful in life. It was really weird vibes at first, but she eventually seemed to come around and wasn't as strange by the end. She prescribed her something for her anxiety, which I don't know if that's the right route to take or not, but we're trying it for now. 🤞
Most folks that have kids with ADHD ALSO have ADHD ! I wonder if that's what you were sensing !?
@m.maclellan7147 honestly you're probably right. I really think I probably have it too, but I've never been evaluated.
thanks for all you do, Katie
2nd that! Amazing work
Aww of course :) Happy to help!! xoxo
I am 54 and i absolutely needed to hear this video because this has been me my whole life i also have borderline personality disorder
I was recently diagnosed in my 20s, and this video has been incredibly validating as I’ve reflected on my symptoms and the “quirks” I’ve been working on correcting. Thank you so much!
So glad you finally got diagnosed!!! And so happy that this video was validating :) xoxo
Thank you for this video. Invaluable information for those who struggle with this. I wish I knew this when I was young.
yas we need more adhd content!! there is a stigma around getting adhd meds right now and its ridiculous so content like this i can only assume will help that issue. great topic
I got diagnosed 3 months ago at age 36, because my 8 year old was diagnosed and I self identified with a lot of his issues. We are both Inattentive type.
He was written off as lazy but it was taking 3 hours to do simple homework.
He also has a binge eating disorder. His handwriting is awful nobody can read it.
Thank you for the insight
Omg! Internalized distraction is so hard!!! I realized at 27 that is why I was so depressed and anxious and all this time it was a part of the major symptoms of adhd!!!
This is me 💯, never got diagnosed, got diagnosed with depression. I'm in my mid 60s
I've been repeatedly diagnosed with bipolar, even after explaining that's not what I've struggled with. 34yrs old was when a doc actually told me he thought it was adhd...
I'm finally reading the Diary of Anne Frank (years after I should have; it's amazing). I wonder if she was an ADHD girl. The diary begins with her in trouble in school, over a period of several days, as a 'chatterbox', and she's made to write self-mocking essays about her inability to participate in class properly. She does so with great wit and humor, and the teacher- to his credit- receives them well and a friendly truce results. But her clashes with adults are less cordial in the annex (where tensions, naturally, were persistent)...she was such a brilliant kid; I wonder what all she might have had going on internally besides her greatest problem.
I’m been asking for help since my teens and now I’m 38 I can’t be bothered anymore. I’m so tired my eyes hurt everyday. Can’t sleep. Nobody to talk to. My mind is racing with thousands of thoughts and trauma memories all at once. It’s like thousands of televisions switched on and you can’t seem to turn them off 😩
May I suggest another TH-cam channel ? "How to ADHD" - lovely young gal who has TONS of well researched videos on her channel. I've learned a lot.
I am 62 and never diagnosed. I saw a Ted Talk by Jessica (the gal who has the channel) & saw myself in that.
Wishing you peace.
As I commented on another response, try to get out in nature & try journaling - "Writing down the bones" by Natalie Goldberg, is a good book as it is a quick read you can pop into & out of randomly. I find writing helps calm my mind. Hope it works for you. (You don't have to show your writing to anyone). It just gets some of the agitation on paper and out of your mind.
Wishing you peace.
@ thank you for your comment, I’ll look into it 🙏🏼 ❤️
When I was a little girl, it was widely thought to only affect boys, and when I reached adulthood and it became more widely accepted that girls develop ADHD, too, it was still widely believed that people grew out of it by adulthood (nope!).
I didn't figure out that I had ADHD until about a year ago, and got my ADHD-C diagnosis 6 months later, at age 41. It explains so much about my life experience.
All my behaviors
Thanks 😊
Gosh watching this is could cry! I wish I could talk to my younger self and point these things out so I didn’t feel so alone and broken!!!!
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All of these apply to me, but this is actually starting to make me feel crazy. I already have so many other fucking issues and several established disgnoses. It doesn't seem possible that I could have yet ANOTHER ONE. It's insane. It's fucking insane. There's no way.
We are all unique due to our physical & psychological make up, and our upbringing.
I am sad that you are so distressed. I hope you are able to get help & healing and begin to appreciate your unique being.
If you can, get out in nature. Perhaps journaling would help ? Fantastic book to help that is "writing down the bones" by Natalie Goldberg. It's been out for years, so you should be able to pick up a used copy cheaply. VERY ADHD friendly ! You can "jump in" to any paragraph and read ! Lots of writing prompts. I find when I get things out of my head, and on paper, I feel calmer ! You don't have to show anyone your writing. Don't judge the writing - it's just an exercise to 'air out' your racing thoughts.
Wishing you peace.
I used to get in trouble for talking in class since kindergarten lol
I was probably in my 30's when diagnosed, but they honestly never finished the test even though the Dr that was testing me definitely did that I'm ADHD/add. I couldn't finish the testing bc I had done other legal obligations that I needed to handle. Unfortunately, I didn't go back to that mental health office bc I was moving immediately to Oregon. Then a month later I was taking off to FL, I just haven't been very stable for a very long time but I've been back in CO for about 3yrs now & I finally found a place that I actually really really like. (I try not to like too many things bc usually something happens that messes it up!) Anyway, I guess, since I wasn't fully tested & not given the actual diagnosis, many of my Dr.'s see it but kinda glance over it but I very strongly believe that I need meds to help me slow down, quit shaking my legs uncontrollably, to quit trying to spill out everything I can say when I'm around ppl bc other that that moment I'm very much alone! I can't hold onto relationships & I get extremely devastated over the breakuos!! I feel like I'm a loser or a lost cause! I'm in my 50's, I was injured at work 20yrs ago so I'm on ssdi, I do a bit of recycling to have a little bit of spending money & I do work part time for a diaper recycling company. I'm alone all the time whether I'm at work at home, recycling, I have a l zero real friends anymore & I don't really have family & my adult sons in my opinion are always putting me down saying that I need to suck it up & go back to driving trucks bc that's what I was doing when i got injured. I guess they may see bigger potential in me. However, they do not live life in chronic pain every second of every day! I just don't feel ok bc they truly do not care! I do have major depression & anxiety too so that's what they focus on which yes I need that also, but I need all of it to be addressed! I'm extremely tired of so much stuff that it's rather impossible for me to stay focused. I'm always running late, don't get my stuff done, always pushing the deadlines not organized & not as neaty as I was growing up which drives me nuts!! I try to fix it but it's all so very overwhelming!! Now my last partner betrayed me by cheating then dumped me for that person! Threw me out to the cold along with our 2½yr relationship & 39yr friendship! The one before that one did the same exact shit but it was a 12yr relationship off & on. And I'm the common denominator so I'd say it's me but they were the ones who cheated! I'm at such a loss in understanding the why's that I almost just want to stay single now for the rest of my life. That's super sad to me bc I love love! So, for me to throw love out the door also breaks my heart!!! I'm just a mess, sorry!
This was the exact opposite with me. My mom had me taking stimulants for ADHD because she thought I had it when I didn’t. I felt like I was drugged from 1st-10th grades. I’m more of an HFA but because mom thought she noticed disrupt qualities I was lumped in to the ADHD group.
I’m low functioning and no medication was able to help me. I’ve taken adderall but it still hasn’t been as effective. I’m looking for into alternatives like ashwaghanda which kinda helps reduce hyperactivity
Hey Katie I have a question that's been bothering me for a while now but I understand if you can't answer it. I've seen so many folks who are queer and women that are being diagnosed with BPD instead of many other disorders. I've seen people with major depressive disorder that get diagnosed as BPD even though they don't fit any of the criteria other than Suicidal Tendencies and depressive thoughts. There is so much of BPD diagnosis that has to do with having difficulties in relationships and the dependencies that come with that but that can also happen with many many many many many other mental illnesses or neuro divergencies why would someone be diagnosed with BPD when they may be showing signs and symptoms of many other things? It feels like BPD much like many other diagnosis are based on a sense of misunderstanding about women and queer culture.
As a queer woman, i welcome side videos but don't want to be accommodated when she is covering the majority
I was called in every day to my daughter school until they diagnosed her with anxiety and adhd but I was still called in to school every day because they couldn't handle it and was making her anxiety worse I had to move her to a different school the school she is in now is a school for children with special needs she do well there but they still call me in because of problems I think they diagnosed her wrong I think she have autism and adhd because all the symptoms are there but that is just my thoughts but she is still doing better at this school she is in now thanks for sharing this with us❤
I was ALWAYS getting in trouble in school for talking. I wish I had been tested in grade school. My mom mentioned it,but the counselor just blew her off…!
I sent this to my therapist. I was in the process of getting a bunch of testing done but had to cancel due to my stomach.
I hope it helps the process :) xoxo
@@Katimorton your content always helps! Xoxo
I’m 62 and never been diagnosed. I know l have ADHD. I have all these things. Is there medication for ADHD?
I’m a male who has had adhd since I was a kid, I’ve taken adderall for it.
Yes. Adderall is a possibility, but there are several other medications that may be useful. I took adderall for a bit after my diagnosis at 61. I am female. The most important thing about meds is to talk to your doctor about how you feel while taking them. Your doctor doesn't live in your skin, so they don't know what drug or what dosage will help the most. You may have to try several different drugs and dosages to get the right one. However you may need to be diagnosed to get meds. You could also try come kind of behavioral therapy if you can find a therapist with ADHD experience.
There is but your anxiety may skyrocket as well as your cardiac risk.
Interesting content. I found the open door in the background to be a distraction. FYI.
How can one diagnose it? Are there specific tests we can ask for or reliable online tools?
@katimorton are you doing a livestream tonight?
@@nikkimckay860 she’s doing one at 2PM PST I believe.
I’m 42 and just got diagnosed lol
I have this type of ADHD i am a man lol....I have been Daignosed
Love from Pakistan ❤
Sooo….. I dislike being played with…… why does it sound like a lot of disorders are blending in with each other?
I think cause each one has similar feelings but different causes in people
Many mental health issues have some symptom overlap. Which is why it's important to get a proper diagnosis from a mental health professional who has worked with you for awhile. That will ensure you get properly diagnosed. xoxo
very ominous intro music 😅
I think the psychological gender rather than biological gender is an important point.
I think my hyperactivity is mostly internal
This sounds like me but I don't have ADHD. I have a dissociative disorder lol
but where do you as a partner or colleague of such a women draw a line between
this is the adhd behaviour she can't fight it or
she has just a bad character and horrible attitudes, mean intentions.
Do WE have to role to ask ourself this x times a day?