Thank you Terri! To answer your question, ... worrying. I've been an expert worrier for years! I've been working on this since I started meditating and becoming more mindful, which has definitely been helpful. I can't wait to read the guide you have provided! Thank you and be well!
Thanks so much for this episode. So helpful. The one that really got me was watching stuff online (which I usually pair with procrastination) oftentimes to avoid worrying!😂 I have got to get more intentional and disciplined with my phone. Thanks again for this, Terri Cole!!😊
30 years ago I unfortunately entered into relationship with an addict. I was groomed as a girl, by a narcissistic mother and father who was not plugged into the kids, to be the mommy. Mother abdicated her role as mother and shifted her responsibilities…household & meeting needs of siblings….to me, the oldest daughter. I as I learned this year, was the scapegoat. I was codependent and as I worked with a therapist while in relationship with this guy, she tried to help me see I was sacrificing myself to,save him. I didn’t get it then. I just didn’t get it. 💔☹️ and I stayed with him on and off for 3 additional years. Looking back, I beat myself up because of what I could not achieve because all my attention was on him & his needs. If any of you know you’re codependent, get away and get help. You deserve better…you deserve to live your life and be you. The you that you don’t have to apologize for. I lost lots of years being codependent….being mommy to the world, instead of being my own good parent. When you know better, you do better!! Appreciating you Terri……I’m learning, growing, beginning to thrive!!
Terri, I am a psychotherapist too, and I have only just discovered you. Thank you for these illuminating discussions on boundaries, for your disclosures about father wounds, and so much more. My first profession was High School English Teacher, so I know a thing or two about teaching, about building information so others can absorb it. In this regard, and others, you shine. Thank you ❣️🤗
1) Taxing relationships where nothing is easy. That person is never happy, whatever you do. Or they are too critical. 2) Worrying ( the productive flip side of that is preparedness, and thats basically all you can do, and you stop this energy leak by this 3) Procrastination It is energy stealing. Set up schedules. You do your best work when you are expansive, not constricted. Procrastination robs you of ( Put it in your schedule). 4) Binge watching, esp if you do it late into the night. 5) Overworking (Have a schedule) 6) Being codependent. You are overfunctioning, overdoing, being overly invested in the feeling states of the people in our lives to our own detriment. Meddling in other people's lives, being in fix- it mode. 7) Disordered boundaries. ( what relationships inspire you, energize you and which deplete you?) (;Have clear working hours).
I am getting your book from the local library ... I really need it. I have allowed terrible people in and I should have listened to my instincts ... that is what they are there for.
Love your Boundary Boss book! and also went through your class with Sounds True.. Am a believer and sharing with sister and niece and anyone else I can. one of my biggest insight-- Your boundaries are as individual as your fingerprint.. WOW!! for starters Thank YOU!>
I've been "working on myself" for over 2 decades, with the sole goal being a healthy self image & the ability to love myself in a way that lasts more than a few days or weeks. I have come a long way, but stabilizing in self love still eludes me. I'm tired of the way I feel and isolating. My energy leaks are Procrastination & Binging TV.
Thank you so much for this. I am constantly monitoring my husband's boundaries with his family, that I am exhausted. I'm so fixed on his issues, I ignore my own boundaries. Thank You!!
Thank you for this show,I know exactly what your talking about.Thinkibg you have to save everyone is something I was taught,as well as worry.Miss Terri you are so thoughtful about how you talk and teach.I appreciate this show and love your book. Blessings to you and yours ,Miss Mitzi
Generations of worriers - exactly! My Mum is like that, and once I told her - You attract disasters by your thoughts. Try attracting better stuff )) As for procrastination - I am into it with slight hope that eventually I won't have to do it. Scarlet O'Hara helped me with her phrase "I'll think about it tomorrow" - not to worry today at all. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this video . I really needed to reclaim my energy exhausted these days. I will use this for making useful choices to change my life and enrich my days from now on . Especially with the holidays approaching . This is a true gift . I love your work . I am wanting to retire as a nurse and do something different as I am an empath and I am a giver . Now it's ME time.
I love you Terri Cole. I just found you chatting on a Reel on another channel for empoweing women. I took one look at your beautiful striking face, the way you hold yourself and your warrior energy that oozes massive strength and secretly thought "I want to be just like her! "
What counts as binge watching? I am not up past midnight to watch Netflix, but still kind of waste time on Netflix and TH-cam. For example if I watch just episode of my fav show is already 2 hours!
Living with someone who is helpless narc. Leaving and now being threatened. Doesnt believe in police or the law. Thinks she can do whatever she wants. Do dysfunctional. Evil.
Which one of these energy leaks resonates the most with ya? Drop it below 👇 cuz your nosy pal is curious!
Thank you Terri! To answer your question, ... worrying. I've been an expert worrier for years! I've been working on this since I started meditating and becoming more mindful, which has definitely been helpful. I can't wait to read the guide you have provided! Thank you and be well!
Thanks so much for this episode. So helpful. The one that really got me was watching stuff online (which I usually pair with procrastination) oftentimes to avoid worrying!😂 I have got to get more intentional and disciplined with my phone. Thanks again for this, Terri Cole!!😊
30 years ago I unfortunately entered into relationship with an addict. I was groomed as a girl, by a narcissistic mother and father who was not plugged into the kids, to be the mommy. Mother abdicated her role as mother and shifted her responsibilities…household & meeting needs of siblings….to me, the oldest daughter. I as I learned this year, was the scapegoat. I was codependent and as I worked with a therapist while in relationship with this guy, she tried to help me see I was sacrificing myself to,save him. I didn’t get it then. I just didn’t get it. 💔☹️ and I stayed with him on and off for 3 additional years. Looking back, I beat myself up because of what I could not achieve because all my attention was on him & his needs. If any of you know you’re codependent, get away and get help. You deserve better…you deserve to live your life and be you. The you that you don’t have to apologize for. I lost lots of years being codependent….being mommy to the world, instead of being my own good parent. When you know better, you do better!! Appreciating you Terri……I’m learning, growing, beginning to thrive!!
“You do your best work when you’re expansive” 💥
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Terri, I am a psychotherapist too, and I have only just discovered you. Thank you for these illuminating discussions on boundaries, for your disclosures about father wounds, and so much more. My first profession was High School English Teacher, so I know a thing or two about teaching, about building information so others can absorb it. In this regard, and others, you shine. Thank you ❣️🤗
Thank you so much, Renee ❤️ I'm glad you're enjoying my videos!
1) Taxing relationships where nothing is easy. That person is never happy, whatever you do. Or they are too critical. 2) Worrying ( the productive flip side of that is preparedness, and thats basically all you can do, and you stop this energy leak by this 3) Procrastination It is energy stealing. Set up schedules. You do your best work when you are expansive, not constricted. Procrastination robs you of ( Put it in your schedule). 4) Binge watching, esp if you do it late into the night. 5) Overworking (Have a schedule) 6) Being codependent. You are overfunctioning, overdoing, being overly invested in the feeling states of the people in our lives to our own detriment. Meddling in other people's lives, being in fix- it mode. 7) Disordered boundaries. ( what relationships inspire you, energize you and which deplete you?) (;Have clear working hours).
Thank you for posting this. I really needed the full rundown again after I watched it. 💖
I’ve been following you for a couple of years . Your content is amazing.. thank you for sharing with us ...
You are so welcome!
I am getting your book from the local library ... I really need it. I have allowed terrible people in and I should have listened to my instincts ... that is what they are there for.
I hope you enjoy Boundary Boss ❤️
Love your Boundary Boss book! and also went through your class with Sounds True.. Am a believer and sharing with sister and niece and anyone else I can. one of my biggest insight-- Your boundaries are as individual as your fingerprint.. WOW!! for starters Thank YOU!>
Thank you so much, Annabella ❤️❤️ This warms my heart!
I've been "working on myself" for over 2 decades, with the sole goal being a healthy self image & the ability to love myself in a way that lasts more than a few days or weeks. I have come a long way, but stabilizing in self love still eludes me. I'm tired of the way I feel and isolating. My energy leaks are Procrastination & Binging TV.
I see you and feel you, Modern Mystic. Witnessing your journey with compassion ❤️
Thank you so much for this. I am constantly monitoring my husband's boundaries with his family, that I am exhausted. I'm so fixed on his issues, I ignore my own boundaries. Thank You!!
Glad it was helpful!
Taxing relationships are my biggest energy leak. I am working to see/feel that, and then am limiting exposure.
Thank you for this show,I know exactly what your talking about.Thinkibg you have to save everyone is something I was taught,as well as worry.Miss Terri you are so thoughtful about how you talk and teach.I appreciate this show and love your book. Blessings to you and yours ,Miss Mitzi
You are very welcome
Love love love your videos..your voice and knowledge is soothing..
Thank you, Nancy! ❤
Generations of worriers - exactly! My Mum is like that, and once I told her - You attract disasters by your thoughts. Try attracting better stuff )) As for procrastination - I am into it with slight hope that eventually I won't have to do it. Scarlet O'Hara helped me with her phrase "I'll think about it tomorrow" - not to worry today at all. Thank you!
Her comment: "Tomorrow is another day" for me - meant: I could rest; I could start again; I could hope but later, when I had the energy.
Thank you so much for this video . I really needed to reclaim my energy exhausted these days. I will use this for making useful choices to change my life and enrich my days from now on . Especially with the holidays approaching . This is a true gift . I love your work . I am wanting to retire as a nurse and do something different as I am an empath and I am a giver . Now it's ME time.
You're so welcome!
Very good - so many useful suggestions ❤😊
Glad it was helpful! ❤️
Love this ❤️
What a great video. Thank you so much
Glad you enjoyed it!
I'm here for it!! All 7 resonate.. thanks for the reminder.
You are so welcome
Thank you for the free guide. You’re an amazing woman!
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This video is GOLD. Thank you so much Terri! Love your content! 💕🌈✨
You're so welcome!
I love you Terri Cole. I just found you chatting on a Reel on another channel for empoweing women. I took one look at your beautiful striking face, the way you hold yourself and your warrior energy that oozes massive strength and secretly thought "I want to be just like her! "
Welcome to my TH-cam crew! Glad to have you ❤️
i love this!! thank you
You're so welcome!
What counts as binge watching? I am not up past midnight to watch Netflix, but still kind of waste time on Netflix and TH-cam. For example if I watch just episode of my fav show is already 2 hours!
How do I repair myself after coming out of a bad relationship tks love to hear from you thanks
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️ I have a video on how to mend a broken heart here: th-cam.com/video/Vz7Gcq8MqGA/w-d-xo.html
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Living with someone who is helpless narc. Leaving and now being threatened. Doesnt believe in police or the law. Thinks she can do whatever she wants. Do dysfunctional. Evil.
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