Enjoying your videos, Sascha. This one here is spot on. Especially with the inconsistent texting - after months with no clarity and a lot of on/off, it’s so emotional draining. Sadly, people tend to have become more and more flaky nowadays. Very difficult to establish a truthful, honest connection with someone who’s stable. .
thank yo so much Sally. That's very sweet of you. inconsistency is a problem in general I'd say. and people not having the balls to be truthful and create clarity and transparency... that's a big issue too.
Never assume anything. My sister did this mistake assuming he was seeing other girls. He was just extremely cautious and slow due to being heartbroken in the past. All the signs indicated that he had someone else so my sister left him for good. It comes out none of what my sister assumed was real. He was the love of her life and she was his. Some people just move very slowly and cautiously.
sure. there will always be exceptions to the rule. and I do agree. assumptions are never good, because it is not evidence. there is no. proof and it is basically jsut a bunch of stories created in the mind
@@SaschaHaertTalk I been talking to someone for almost 6 months online dating and we haven't moved or progressed with our talking stage. He been keeping our conversations on the surface. He said to me "we have a whole lifetime together" you know no depth in those conversations to build foundation hi and bye repeating same old shit. Before things started to drop off he was very in it and even wanted me to be exclusive with him he said he wants be ti be his woman cause he is my man. thats all he ever wanted BUT as soon as I gave him that confirmed it something changed his interest dropped. He is not available he is in and out with me hot and cold. Mixed messages. Leaves me confused. Once we got little closer and I brought up subject of being serious and together. I notice his behaviour change again his interest dropped. All sudden he became less engaged and making even less effort using that he don't wont to disturb me because of my school my study which is bullshit. He just withdraw became emotionally unavailable and closed off. He told me at the start that he was out of relationship and it's been over two years that he got over it he have no bad feelings. How long does it take for a guy to get over a relationship to heal and start a new relationship? Someone that did reading for me said he is still a bit sad about his past but is very attracted to me and there was two cups in the reading we have connection and to give it time. Our long conversations are been mostly sexual. We had our last conversation chat on the 5th October and he just went weird on me and dropped off. I haven't had sex with him yet we haven't been intimate. then I didn't hear back from him for a whole week first time I got ghosted for that long. I noticed as soon as he saw I was in he backed off you know the chase ceased. When he came back he never addressed his absence. It all started after shit started to get real about him coming to see me and taking relationship to the next level its like he got spoked then I went ghost on him for 4 days you know giving back what I get. then he appeared and disappeared again for 8 days finally on the 1st Nov he said he had really busy period at work. I am not stupid. qBefore when he was at work he would text me after meetings or while at work. and we been like hi bye check in same old shit. I noticed during this time something really off. I don't know if this ghosting had to do with another woman. but I started to pull away and ghost little bit to spark his interest back. I been withdrawn with him putting boundaries not being so open and giving like before and he have picked up on this and starting to be again like more interested and saying things like Baby...my angel..how are you baby...just loving you today and thought I let you know .hope you are doing ok. I backed off because I wasn't receiving. I notice when I go cold and become distant he starts to come back. I don't know but lot of times when I write him something affectionate he would ignore it like I didn't write it before he was reciprocal like if I say I miss you do you miss me kiss emoji he ignores that before he would say he miss me back and I didn't hear back from him for a whole week. Either he is not over the ex or he is seeing someone else on the side or exploring other options or finding someone else who is going to go along with a fantasy relationship. I did check him about not responding to my messages and he addressed it by saying he forgot to press send it wasn't about been busy it was mistake and that he is really sorry. He is on some bullshit and I have study right now what I want to write him I am delaying because it will cause me emotional upset. I have feelings for him and I have to to finish my assessments but once I do I will have to be really strong and give him ultimatum. I am thinking of addressing the issues and letting him know that I am not happy and fulfilled. I am not getting my flowers not literally saying it like this but this is the message I will be implying so I am going to depart leave him to it and move on w my life let him figure it out. Maybe when I leave it will put fire under his ass to take action if he really loves and adores me like he says he do. I am tired Sacha. I do feel he have some feelings for me and maybe running away from them. He said to be that his deep feelings for me scare him overwhelm him. I think he its a bit of avoidant the tarot reader said that he is a bit distant in relationships. Sorry I know I wrote a lot. I really like him he have four degrees inc PhD and works in corporate is head of corporate services so well situated not a bum intelligent. I think what draw me to him was his tender loving gentle nature and his heart he is very tender guy deep down but he have been hurt a lot by past relationship/s and there are trust issues the reader told me he doesn't wont to get played again. I am torn Sacha I think he would be wonderful partner and more but there are issues. I am very intuitive I feel his past issues past hurt is in the way of this progressing. I really don't wont to end this relationship. He have some reciprocity its not completely closed off. I feel me being distant and giving less brings him back draws him back. I think I was or became too open and available little over bearing and pushed him away. It got intense. One mistake I am afraid to make is being emotional because I am hurt make assumptions and shit in my head like oh he must be cheating on me he is a lier you know how we women are and run on that on my emotions and destroy something that maybe have potential or could be turn solid. I been controlling myself lot of self restrain and self talk because when I reach limit I want to say what I want to say I want to be heard. I have decide to keep my options open. He did say to me he would cover for my travel costs to UK to see him and he would come see me if it makes it easier for me cause of my study but then pulled away and got weird with me like he don't wont to come to Australia and get fitted in when he comes he wants us both to have time for each other he wants all of my mind. I dont know Sacha but what I do know my feelings for him are real and they are deep. I really like him deeply like him.
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Enjoying your videos, Sascha. This one here is spot on. Especially with the inconsistent texting - after months with no clarity and a lot of on/off, it’s so emotional draining. Sadly, people tend to have become more and more flaky nowadays. Very difficult to establish a truthful, honest connection with someone who’s stable. .
thank yo so much Sally. That's very sweet of you. inconsistency is a problem in general I'd say. and people not having the balls to be truthful and create clarity and transparency... that's a big issue too.
Dating is tiring.
I'm sorry to hear you are having a tough go these days. Trust me it doesn't have to be that way... there are plenty of good guys out there... ;)
It can be.
Never assume anything. My sister did this mistake assuming he was seeing other girls. He was just extremely cautious and slow due to being heartbroken in the past. All the signs indicated that he had someone else so my sister left him for good. It comes out none of what my sister assumed was real. He was the love of her life and she was his. Some people just move very slowly and cautiously.
sure. there will always be exceptions to the rule. and I do agree. assumptions are never good, because it is not evidence. there is no. proof and it is basically jsut a bunch of stories created in the mind
Thank you I needed this type of video. This will help a lot.
glad it was helpful. :) what are you currently struggling with exactly, if you don't mind asking?
@@SaschaHaertTalk I been talking to someone for almost 6 months online dating and we haven't moved or progressed with our talking stage. He been keeping our conversations on the surface. He said to me "we have a whole lifetime together" you know no depth in those conversations to build foundation hi and bye repeating same old shit. Before things started to drop off he was very in it and even wanted me to be exclusive with him he said he wants be ti be his woman cause he is my man. thats all he ever wanted BUT as soon as I gave him that confirmed it something changed his interest dropped. He is not available he is in and out with me hot and cold. Mixed messages. Leaves me confused. Once we got little closer and I brought up subject of being serious and together. I notice his behaviour change again his interest dropped. All sudden he became less engaged and making even less effort using that he don't wont to disturb me because of my school my study which is bullshit. He just withdraw became emotionally unavailable and closed off. He told me at the start that he was out of relationship and it's been over two years that he got over it he have no bad feelings. How long does it take for a guy to get over a relationship to heal and start a new relationship? Someone that did reading for me said he is still a bit sad about his past but is very attracted to me and there was two cups in the reading we have connection and to give it time. Our long conversations are been mostly sexual. We had our last conversation chat on the 5th October and he just went weird on me and dropped off. I haven't had sex with him yet we haven't been intimate. then I didn't hear back from him for a whole week first time I got ghosted for that long. I noticed as soon as he saw I was in he backed off you know the chase ceased. When he came back he never addressed his absence. It all started after shit started to get real about him coming to see me and taking relationship to the next level its like he got spoked then I went ghost on him for 4 days you know giving back what I get. then he appeared and disappeared again for 8 days finally on the 1st Nov he said he had really busy period at work. I am not stupid. qBefore when he was at work he would text me after meetings or while at work. and we been like hi bye check in same old shit. I noticed during this time something really off. I don't know if this ghosting had to do with another woman. but I started to pull away and ghost little bit to spark his interest back. I been withdrawn with him putting boundaries not being so open and giving like before and he have picked up on this and starting to be again like more interested and saying things like Baby...my angel..how are you baby...just loving you today and thought I let you know .hope you are doing ok. I backed off because I wasn't receiving. I notice when I go cold and become distant he starts to come back. I don't know but lot of times when I write him something affectionate he would ignore it like I didn't write it before he was reciprocal like if I say I miss you do you miss me kiss emoji he ignores that before he would say he miss me back and I didn't hear back from him for a whole week. Either he is not over the ex or he is seeing someone else on the side or exploring other options or finding someone else who is going to go along with a fantasy relationship. I did check him about not responding to my messages and he addressed it by saying he forgot to press send it wasn't about been busy it was mistake and that he is really sorry. He is on some bullshit and I have study right now what I want to write him I am delaying because it will cause me emotional upset. I have feelings for him and I have to to finish my assessments but once I do I will have to be really strong and give him ultimatum. I am thinking of addressing the issues and letting him know that I am not happy and fulfilled. I am not getting my flowers not literally saying it like this but this is the message I will be implying so I am going to depart leave him to it and move on w my life let him figure it out. Maybe when I leave it will put fire under his ass to take action if he really loves and adores me like he says he do. I am tired Sacha. I do feel he have some feelings for me and maybe running away from them. He said to be that his deep feelings for me scare him overwhelm him. I think he its a bit of avoidant the tarot reader said that he is a bit distant in relationships. Sorry I know I wrote a lot. I really like him he have four degrees inc PhD and works in corporate is head of corporate services so well situated not a bum intelligent. I think what draw me to him was his tender loving gentle nature and his heart he is very tender guy deep down but he have been hurt a lot by past relationship/s and there are trust issues the reader told me he doesn't wont to get played again. I am torn Sacha I think he would be wonderful partner and more but there are issues. I am very intuitive I feel his past issues past hurt is in the way of this progressing. I really don't wont to end this relationship. He have some reciprocity its not completely closed off. I feel me being distant and giving less brings him back draws him back. I think I was or became too open and available little over bearing and pushed him away. It got intense. One mistake I am afraid to make is being emotional because I am hurt make assumptions and shit in my head like oh he must be cheating on me he is a lier you know how we women are and run on that on my emotions and destroy something that maybe have potential or could be turn solid. I been controlling myself lot of self restrain and self talk because when I reach limit I want to say what I want to say I want to be heard. I have decide to keep my options open. He did say to me he would cover for my travel costs to UK to see him and he would come see me if it makes it easier for me cause of my study but then pulled away and got weird with me like he don't wont to come to Australia and get fitted in when he comes he wants us both to have time for each other he wants all of my mind. I dont know Sacha but what I do know my feelings for him are real and they are deep. I really like him deeply like him.