I had a friend that would constantly trauma dump on me. So much so that I would avoid her phone calls. When I finally decided to communicate to her what the problem was, she didn’t receive it well.
I started asking my girls what are we about to talk about, and is it something I can help you with. I have started suggesting therapist and prayer. It does way you down, but at the same token, I love helping people figure out the solution to the issue and how everything doesn't need to be shared
This is great stuff. It’s how my bff and I met. She didn’t just exchange numbers, but sent a message at the end of the day, saying it was good meeting. Next day, she was already asking to meet the following weekend at a specific time. After that, she asked to meet again, basically she meant business 😂 I got the point, and also put in the work after, but if she hadn’t followed up initially, I don’t think we would be where we are now a few years later. I think for many, the problem isn’t meeting ppl, it’s cultivating it, and building intimacy. They meet ppl, but maybe both aren’t ready for a close friendship, or they aren’t sure how to be vulnerable and put in the work needed. Honestly, it’s best to do it with someone like you, similar interests, similar lifestyle, even income. I say the latter because if one person wants to go out to a steakhouse, and your budget is McD, it can cause issues. One person may want to travel, but if you don’t have travel budget, can affect it all. Even similar music interests, will allow you guys go to same concerts.
When it comes to friends the one thing I can say is if my friend is going back over and over again with a toxic man I will take time away from that friendship because that toxic relationship will be a topic among us as friends and I don't want it being a constant thing when I am away that I am worrying about you and it's affecting my life because I can't focus on my own stuff.
I feel so isolated at times. I never had a solid girl group. I keep to myself because I see people’s true colors now. I’m definitely going to start implementing your tips! Thank you for sharing!
Agree with you wholeheartedly. But, these days, it's mostly freeing not to have just anyone in my space. It's said often that you are lucky if you have that one solid friendship. That's what I am intentionally aiming for moving forward. All the best to you.
I have a so-called “best friend” who only remembers I exist when she has news for me. She rarely reaches out to check-in. When I check-in with her, it takes her weeks to reply. Also, when she meets new people, it’s as if I don’t exist. I won’t hear from her for months, and then I’ll receive a message starting with “OH MY GOD JENN…” Girl, I have a toddler now, I’m too exhausted chasing him around, I ain’t got time for this! 😂 She has definitely been demoted from best friend, she doesn’t know how to be one.
I find it very hard to make female friends, easier with men. For me to be friends with a woman, we really have to have a lot in common and think alike. I find many women not liking me, I think I intimidate them, I have this boss chic aura and then the jealousy and competition enters (something I don’t need). Once I notice that it’s deuces !
Just curious, do you naturally gravitate to women you are better than? Women are also 'boss chics indeed' not just in optics may not be intimidated because they too are trying to find like minded people.
Intimidate?? I understand that jealous women exist, but to say many women don't like you to the point its easier to be friends with men is a bit intense. Have you ever stopped to examine yourself before pointing fingers at other women?? Also, do you gravitate more towards women you may deem "lesser" than you or "not on your level"?? I don't mean this in a harsh way, I'm just curious since many women are "boss chic" and many aren't trying to intimidate or be intimidated as they are also trying to find like-minded women.
Life has definitely been different for me after having a kid but I’m more focused on self development and self care so this video came at the perfect time
Sis you are speaking my language, so many friends I let go of because of it being a one sided relationship, which became Uber draining. I now have a friend who I met online via me doing business and we have become such great friends although we live in different states. We are ambitious women and we support each other via encouraging words when we are dealing with romantic relationships, family members or our business ventures. I made it a point to become the person I want to attract, I don't wait for someone to speak positive affirmations to me I speak them over myself each morning after I thank God for waking me up. Loving this video❤ 🔥🔥🔥Subscribed!
Thank you for this video. Insecure women don’t make good friends! I can’t wait to make friends with women who love themselves and KNOW they’re all that like me!
True! My friend of 25 years started acting funny and stopped talking to me after I got married last year. I still cry and she’s right - it IS devastating
Mine stopped talking to me after I had a baby. It hurt me for a long time, literally broke my heart, but I have made better friends now, & I’m happy God brought them into my life! It does get better! & seriously, if you can’t be happy for me, you’re not really my friend. I might have thought you were, but you really weren’t.
same here....we went to HS together, known of each other for 27 yrs, she even lied about the reason she couldnt be my maid of honor...years later she married a ex con crack head ...
Aw ❤️ i understand that too. I met the person I've been waiting for my whole life, and the person that was supposed to be my best friend suddenly turn jealous too. I thought they didn't have a jealous bone in their body. It is the strangest and most hurtful thing.. The season changed and sometimes it happens like that
Love this Jaz💗. Something I definitely had to learn was to be unapologetic about showing up as my best self and knowing my worth. I’ve had a lot of experiences where I’d find someone I thought is my friend is lowkey constantly comparing themselves to me…and in an effort to make them feel more comfortable I made myself smaller and brushed off shady comments. The more I really learned my self worth the less I could even tolerate being handled a certain way in both romantic relationships & friendships.
THANK YOU JAZZ!!💗💗 People are so weird nowadays when its never that deep, unfortunately we need to lose friends and get back to ourselves to start brining in GOOD friendships into our life. Its a process/journey but it'll be better in the long run for you!💗
My closest friends were great until I started becoming more successful. Taught me I do not want anyone in my life that is in an unhealthy competition with me. Being inspired is way different from being envious and fake. And I’ve learned that mental health is important for everyone. So important things I put on my list is are TRUST, an equally yoked friendship. Someone who will show up for me genuinely not just to be in my business , have leverage over me or have the satisfaction of seeing me down. I also want people who will make an effort to have healthy communication and loyalty. I don’t want to be the therapist friend who is the only one trying to solve issues in the group unless the group is going to do the same in return. I don’t do anything to receive anything in return. However it’s truly exhausting being the one doing all the pouring into others and no one is pouring into you.
I really needed this. I have a friend who is so unhappy with her life that every conversation is her angry and complaining. I don’t mind listen but it’s constant venting with no efforts to find a solution. It’s so draining.
Hi Valie does not mean expensive. It does not mean wearing expensive clothing or accessories. It means having self respect, being loyal to those close to you, and those commited to improving themselves as human beings, not just materially.
Jasmine, I’m old enough to be your Mother but i follow you for inspiration b/c I’ve considered starting a similar channel for women over 40. I also love caring for my skin but not so much as an influencer but more on a health side. You are so different from other beauty influencers AND other members of your sorority. You are transparent and there is something so genuine about you that I just don’t see in some of the others. You spoil yourself but you’re not bragging, if that makes sense. You actually encourage others in a way that’s just not fake and I love it. I really do. You inspire this ole Mama. I follow you on TT as well. Keep up the good work!
I love the energy that is radiating through my screen right now. It's hard to find Women who are truly honest with themselves about their own faults and where they fall short in their relationships. I have been doing a lot of self reflection and reflecting on the relationships I have and I came to the conclusion that neither aspect is exuding the energy that I desire. I'm so happy this video popped up on my feed because I truly needed to see it. Also I'm literally a therapist so I'm the default therapist friend and it can be so draining but I'm setting my boundaries day by day.
I love how beautifully you explained this! I'm definitely the low maintenance friend, and I cannot wrap my entire life around someone 24/7. I'm here whenever they need, and I will also be there to listen and check in, visit, etc. I think I used to feel bad for 1. not understanding that this was just the kind of friend I am and that it's OK 2. giving my all to a higher maintenance friend because of the shame/guilt put onto me. In return it really drained me of my energy and I had to find a way to create boundaries for those kinds of friends.
Would you ever host a networking event or a girly mixer? I feel like i cant find high value women friends in Atlanta because everyone already has established friend groups.
I’ve been working on myself and thinking a lot about attracting a new circle of good, high quality friends! I’ve lost some pretty close relationships but they were not all good, which is why I don’t have them anymore but seeing this video is confirmation that I’m on the right track!
Love this video! I used to be the therapist friend & now I’ve learned to set boundaries. I especially agree with getting around people who hold the same values and standards!
I think that’s what high value is. High value is not about money. U can have money n be full of drama that’s not high value just like a high value man has to actually have good qualities not just money
chileeeeee i had to cut off a few friend that used me like a free therapist but never invited me out fror anything like girl no talk to your friends that you go out with and if you knew how many friends only spoke to me to. gossip and trauma dum i had to cut off it was so annoying. mad that a goal that i wouldnt gossip or be a counsulor for them and they just faded away and im fine with it.
I'm doing all of these things, I just need to do a list of qualities I want in my friends and start planning activities to do with others. Thanks for the wholesome discussion, no stone was left unturned.
As an older woman my true friends are the ones I grew up with. New people that come in to my life are just associates. True loyalty is my friend's that been in my life from elementary school. I do not trust easily. I appreciate your tips. Blessings!🙏
Mine as well. However I think that’s why I’m finding it hard to admit that my longest friends are the most low vibrational. They are loyal and we’ve been friends since kids, but that’s why I’m finding it hard to demote them because I’m also loyal. Longevity is not always the best thing.
The therapist friend! Yaaaaaaaas! People (especially selfish people) will try to hold your ears hostage and suck up all your energy. On a spiritual level these people are literally energy vampires!! 😡
I’m definitely working on not making the conversation about me . I’m aware of it. I realized i didn’t want the person to feel alone & i too have been through that before . definitely something i am actively working on
I have a hard time with the phase "high value." I think that it discounts too many people in this world. I also implies to other's that somehow they are not worthy, because they have not achieved the same level of success or achievement as you have. It's borderline narcissistic.
Thanks, good content! I recently ended two (20 year friendships) with two different people because of what you mentioned in this video. And yes, it has been lonely at times. However, what's important is that everyone is NOT meant to go on every journey with you, so know when to let them off the ride.
Hi Jaz! Again you hit the nail on the head, losing a friend is such a traumatic experience. Everybody can not come with you in certain periods in your life and that is totally okay! Keep going, loving this content!
I’m 21 & a realtor & entrepreneur I feel like I attract older women I need some young female friends that’s like me my boyfriend my best friend. I need girl time tho lol
Wow this whole video is gold! The way you articulated your points deeply resonated & put into words what I’ve been trying to process about my friendships for a long time. Thanks for sharing your insights ✨
sad that people do not realize that high value comes from.the persins heart not their status money , career etc...thats why divorce rstes in this country are so high , people don't nit know what love is at all
Brilliantly done. I’m currently undergoing the pruning process with my friend group and it has been surprisingly simple to the point that I’m barely emotionally affected by their departure. Now comes the time to refill those empty slots with like-minded women looking to elevate.
Thank you darling. Words of wisdom were given here and I have most certainly noted them down. Time to make healthier relationship choices in general. ❤
So so helpful! Thank you for making this video I have been struggling to make friends as an adult ( I literally have two and one of them is my sister lol) so I will use all these tips to put myself out there.
I attract toxic and unstable “friends” I’m friendless now because it’s so draining being the counselor and bestfriend to all these people that have no mental stability. I had to pray and cut these people off. And I’m happy I did. I had to self talk myself and told myself I am a high value friend and that’s all I want to attract. This is something I’ve been working on and so far so good. I love me and I need people on that same level.
I like this video. Not to brag but I’m usually the friend that every girlfriend I’ve had is clingy towards…If I had to guess it’s because I’m very self reliant and confident, a jokester, I don’t take myself too seriously . (At least most of the time) I guess I’m also somewhat of a therapist friend and love going out of my way for friends, and when I truly love a friend, I become motherly..I want them to win in every way and I’m fiercely protective. I’m also not afraid to end a friendship (I’ve ended friendships multiple times bc of jealousy, envy, and I had a friendship with a particular friend for 16 years but ended it because she was a narcissist..I’ve ended seven friendships throughout my life and no I’m not ashamed and no the decision wasn’t mutual.. I ended it.) Mainly because I despise drama with a passion and I can’t stand a hater am I perfect? Hell no... I can be distant at times but I show up when it’s important. My longest friendship is 20 years, second to longest is 15 years(we talk every day) and I also have a couple of new girlfriends 5 years and three years. And neither of these 4 friends have ever met lol The truth of the matter is I can’t stand girl groups! Too much drama for me. I’m very much so a high value woman. I don’t depend on my friends, I appreciate whatever they can give (whether that’s laughs, support, opinions) and that’s that. Another thing is I 100% never disrespect them, people but especially women are very sensitive, so there’s a certain way we have to be approached so to prevent catty egos in friendships. Also, friendships are supposed to be vulnerable and fun. If you can’t cry or share bad parts of your life with a person then they’re not your friend. I think the same applies to romantic relationships. Me and my husband have been together 8 years and vulnerability combined with compatibility, communication, and respect is key.
Its even harder when its family gossiping jealous trauma dumping and more so i cut some off and will love some from a distance friends were a bit easier but still feel bad and miss them
A friendship breakup has NEVER been anywhere near as devastating as an intimate relationship breakup for me...probably because I am the one who turned my back on the friendship. I have even had a 20 year long friendship (it really was a one-sided friendship), but she had to go...I am so through with the dumb-sh&t, the no-value female friends that were in my life! And you know what? The Lord God Almighty gave me all kinds of hints and clues that these so-called friendships had NO substance and this or that female wasn't a true friend, she just hung around me to get what she could get out of me. God turned me on to "Real Value" female friendships, once I recognized the "Real Value" in myself.
I had a friend who I did so much for. Like I went above and beyond yet when I went thru the darkest period in my life she was nonexistent. Barely checked in. Then tried to one up and say she was going thru her own shit to notice mine rather than take accountability for her actions. I had to cut ties because not only did she ghost, she didn’t even try to actively make amends after I told her how I felt and and I realised I was the one keeping the relationship alive lol
We are so similar lol I feel you on being a low maintenance friend I can’t talk everyday and also I hate a “friend” who only talks about themselves ! This was a really good video I will be manifesting better friends!
Just went through a friendship breakup. I got tired of the disrespect and the constant need to diminish myself and my day to day accomplishments to appease her. I wish her well but I feel way more at peace and just free to accomplish my goals more than ever now. A bestie that I do still have is so beautiful and badass. We’re actually working on a business together. We’re both in the medical field and have worked our butts off to get where we are now. We motivate each other to want more and want better for ourselves.
You need to be two things for your friends, that they need to be for you - kindness and an abundance mindset. When life gets tough, you'll be grateful for having unfailingly kind and encouraging people. Ask anyone that's hit rock bottom.
Great tips. As an accomplishment woman with a full life I really didn’t think of making new friends for years. Now in my 40s I value and work on maintaining friendships more.
You're the mentor I've needed for so long. You absolutely have no idea how grateful I am to have stumbled across your channel. THIS WAS EXCELLENT ADIVCE AND EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR!! THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH!
This was so very very helpful. I have wanted to find new high-value female friends in my life. This has provided me a good running start. As a fashion designer and female who has accomplished much in my life it sometimes is difficult to find friends. This is good.
Hey JAZ! Ive been watching your videos since last week and you have truly become a virtual mentor to me. I remember a time when I was the friend who realized that I was trauma dumping on all of my friends in the past. And when I would realize, I would go incognito because I would feel bad that I had told them so much pain instead of considering how they truly felt. I am in a period in my life that I am healing daily and I am beginning to isolate to truly glow back up from everything I went through from friendships, past relationships, etc. I eventually want to put myself back out there when I want to make friends again. I am going to be 29 in 2 weeks and I really have reignited myself on my healing journey. You ever feel like you hit a hurdle or a bump in the road to then actually stop and have time to reflect on how you've REALLY been towards others? This is currently me rn :) Thank you so much and I LOVE your videos. Please continue to spread your likemindness and informing. It's really helping us! ♥️
This has me looking at my friendships and it's interesting how some things pan out. I especially like the advice on having different friends for different things. We're diverse and unique and therefore it makes sense that we will have many types of friends. I also like the idea of "dating" your friends. I actually do this with one of the friends we call our outings dates! Also good to note that every person you initially connect with might not pan out and that's okay too. Also to note that "high-value" is what we interpret as high value NOT what someone on social media says is high-value. I think high-value are people you vibe with.
This is so me, perfectly explained dear! Great advice all throughout this video! I agree 💯 want friends on your level, self assured but humbled at the same time and in alignment with your morals and values. Keep in mind associates and friends are different. I seek friends want those with a high and positive vibration with a beautiful energy and when were not we give ourselves grace and encourage each other.
Friends. Gosh, where do I start? Quick answer, your family you choose is your friends. You’re lucky if you have more than a few. Human nature makes it challenging.
I had a friend who treated me badly & always had snide comments about how privileged I was. She made me pay for everything & was so disrespectful to me. So one time I told her to change or the friendship would end & I kid u not this chic doubled down on being a bitch. Turns out she hates me for being privileged. Meanwhile all her friends are privileged & she treats them badly. She is so entitled coz she isn’t & acts like we owe her
Excellent video! I took notes to keep me on track when it comes to manifesting my own tribe and the type of people I'm trying to attract. I've been doing a lot of self-development and self-awareness work.
If we do choose to have some friends it's very important that we choose our friends wisely and be careful who we trust and tell our problems to because everyone who smiles at us is not our friend
I had a friend that would constantly trauma dump on me. So much so that I would avoid her phone calls. When I finally decided to communicate to her what the problem was, she didn’t receive it well.
Sister i have gone through this EXACT situation!!!! It’s sad and heartbreaking but I guess we weren’t meant to have them in our life rn ❤️
I started asking my girls what are we about to talk about, and is it something I can help you with. I have started suggesting therapist and prayer. It does way you down, but at the same token, I love helping people figure out the solution to the issue and how everything doesn't need to be shared
It’s crazy because when this situation came up in my life I felt Terrible about letting the friend go but my mental well-being NEEDED IT ❤
I’m at this space right now and I go back n forth. N we had this conversation but she definitely not receptive but me avoiding is no better.
@@leeannalundy3260Why do you think she's not receptive to what you are saying?
This is great stuff. It’s how my bff and I met. She didn’t just exchange numbers, but sent a message at the end of the day, saying it was good meeting. Next day, she was already asking to meet the following weekend at a specific time. After that, she asked to meet again, basically she meant business 😂 I got the point, and also put in the work after, but if she hadn’t followed up initially, I don’t think we would be where we are now a few years later.
I think for many, the problem isn’t meeting ppl, it’s cultivating it, and building intimacy. They meet ppl, but maybe both aren’t ready for a close friendship, or they aren’t sure how to be vulnerable and put in the work needed. Honestly, it’s best to do it with someone like you, similar interests, similar lifestyle, even income. I say the latter because if one person wants to go out to a steakhouse, and your budget is McD, it can cause issues. One person may want to travel, but if you don’t have travel budget, can affect it all. Even similar music interests, will allow you guys go to same concerts.
Very heavy on the similar income. I learnt the hard way.
Yes girl you hit this right on!
Thank you friend!!!💗
This is good commentary. Knowing how to pick your friends. Particularly high value women friends.
When it comes to friends the one thing I can say is if my friend is going back over and over again with a toxic man I will take time away from that friendship because that toxic relationship will be a topic among us as friends and I don't want it being a constant thing when I am away that I am worrying about you and it's affecting my life because I can't focus on my own stuff.
This was a great video and topic. Just subscribed 😊
Yay! Thank you for subscribing sister!!!❤
This video quality is amazing you are stunning. what camera do you use and if you don’t mind me asking the light set up?
This was such a great video… so insightful!
Jaz! So glad I found you. I relate so much with everything you’ve said here!! I also love your lippie… please share deets. Thank you 🌺
This was such a good video ❤
You're so pretty.
Straight Gems 💎💎💎🩵💙💙💙
Love your chanel 👏🏻🌈
I feel so isolated at times. I never had a solid girl group. I keep to myself because I see people’s true colors now. I’m definitely going to start implementing your tips! Thank you for sharing!
I’ve been in a girl group twice and everytime there were side friends and it turned into an us vs them. Hella drama … Smdh I hate it
I am actually suspicious of large girl groups. I'm not 100% sure that is a real thing ever
Agree with you wholeheartedly. But, these days, it's mostly freeing not to have just anyone in my space. It's said often that you are lucky if you have that one solid friendship. That's what I am intentionally aiming for moving forward. All the best to you.
Girl I’ll be your friend! 🎀
This is 100% your look. It’s giving Elite Barbie😎
Omg this is the best compliment ever!! Thank you so much!💗
Correct! It’s ok to not make a bestie every time and I’m learning this!
Yesss sis took me a long time to learn that but it’s so important !!!
I have a so-called “best friend” who only remembers I exist when she has news for me. She rarely reaches out to check-in. When I check-in with her, it takes her weeks to reply. Also, when she meets new people, it’s as if I don’t exist. I won’t hear from her for months, and then I’ll receive a message starting with
“OH MY GOD JENN…”
Girl, I have a toddler now, I’m too exhausted chasing him around, I ain’t got time for this! 😂
She has definitely been demoted from best friend, she doesn’t know how to be one.
Yes sis I completely understand! Completely okay to demote people instead of cutting them off!!
I find it very hard to make female friends, easier with men. For me to be friends with a woman, we really have to have a lot in common and think alike. I find many women not liking me, I think I intimidate them, I have this boss chic aura and then the jealousy and competition enters (something I don’t need). Once I notice that it’s deuces !
Thank you for sharing sister, I COMPLETELY understand!!!!
Same I totally agree
Same here!
Just curious, do you naturally gravitate to women you are better than?
Women are also 'boss chics indeed' not just in optics may not be intimidated because they too are trying to find like minded people.
Intimidate?? I understand that jealous women exist, but to say many women don't like you to the point its easier to be friends with men is a bit intense. Have you ever stopped to examine yourself before pointing fingers at other women?? Also, do you gravitate more towards women you may deem "lesser" than you or "not on your level"?? I don't mean this in a harsh way, I'm just curious since many women are "boss chic" and many aren't trying to intimidate or be intimidated as they are also trying to find like-minded women.
Life has definitely been different for me after having a kid but I’m more focused on self development and self care so this video came at the perfect time
That's okay sister!! Entering a new era of YOU!!! I'm so glad I could be apart of that journey💗
Sis you are speaking my language, so many friends I let go of because of it being a one sided relationship, which became Uber draining. I now have a friend who I met online via me doing business and we have become such great friends although we live in different states. We are ambitious women and we support each other via encouraging words when we are dealing with romantic relationships, family members or our business ventures. I made it a point to become the person I want to attract, I don't wait for someone to speak positive affirmations to me I speak them over myself each morning after I thank God for waking me up. Loving this video❤ 🔥🔥🔥Subscribed!
Cutting some friends off and creating room for new ones has been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
Thank you for this video. Insecure women don’t make good friends! I can’t wait to make friends with women who love themselves and KNOW they’re all that like me!
True! My friend of 25 years started acting funny and stopped talking to me after I got married last year. I still cry and she’s right - it IS devastating
Mine stopped talking to me after I had a baby. It hurt me for a long time, literally broke my heart, but I have made better friends now, & I’m happy God brought them into my life! It does get better! & seriously, if you can’t be happy for me, you’re not really my friend. I might have thought you were, but you really weren’t.
Yes - I have experienced this also, it is hard.
same here....we went to HS together, known of each other for 27 yrs, she even lied about the reason she couldnt be my maid of honor...years later she married a ex con crack head ...
Aw ❤️ i understand that too. I met the person I've been waiting for my whole life, and the person that was supposed to be my best friend suddenly turn jealous too. I thought they didn't have a jealous bone in their body. It is the strangest and most hurtful thing.. The season changed and sometimes it happens like that
I know it hurts but trust me you are so better off, you don't need that energy as a Married woman
Love this Jaz💗. Something I definitely had to learn was to be unapologetic about showing up as my best self and knowing my worth. I’ve had a lot of experiences where I’d find someone I thought is my friend is lowkey constantly comparing themselves to me…and in an effort to make them feel more comfortable I made myself smaller and brushed off shady comments. The more I really learned my self worth the less I could even tolerate being handled a certain way in both romantic relationships & friendships.
THANK YOU JAZZ!!💗💗 People are so weird nowadays when its never that deep, unfortunately we need to lose friends and get back to ourselves to start brining in GOOD friendships into our life. Its a process/journey but it'll be better in the long run for you!💗
My closest friends were great until I started becoming more successful. Taught me I do not want anyone in my life that is in an unhealthy competition with me. Being inspired is way different from being envious and fake. And I’ve learned that mental health is important for everyone. So important things I put on my list is are TRUST, an equally yoked friendship. Someone who will show up for me genuinely not just to be in my business , have leverage over me or have the satisfaction of seeing me down. I also want people who will make an effort to have healthy communication and loyalty. I don’t want to be the therapist friend who is the only one trying to solve issues in the group unless the group is going to do the same in return. I don’t do anything to receive anything in return. However it’s truly exhausting being the one doing all the pouring into others and no one is pouring into you.
Nothankyou2850 Beautifully said ❤ equally yoked friendship
I really needed this. I have a friend who is so unhappy with her life that every conversation is her angry and complaining. I don’t mind listen but it’s constant venting with no efforts to find a solution. It’s so draining.
detach girl! sounds one-sided
Hi Valie does not mean expensive. It does not mean wearing expensive clothing or accessories. It means having self respect, being loyal to those close to you, and those commited to improving themselves as human beings, not just materially.
Jasmine, I’m old enough to be your Mother but i follow you for inspiration b/c I’ve considered starting a similar channel for women over 40. I also love caring for my skin but not so much as an influencer but more on a health side.
You are so different from other beauty influencers AND other members of your sorority. You are transparent and there is something so genuine about you that I just don’t see in some of the others. You spoil yourself but you’re not bragging, if that makes sense. You actually encourage others in a way that’s just not fake and I love it. I really do. You inspire this ole Mama. I follow you on TT as well. Keep up the good work!
I love the energy that is radiating through my screen right now. It's hard to find Women who are truly honest with themselves about their own faults and where they fall short in their relationships. I have been doing a lot of self reflection and reflecting on the relationships I have and I came to the conclusion that neither aspect is exuding the energy that I desire. I'm so happy this video popped up on my feed because I truly needed to see it. Also I'm literally a therapist so I'm the default therapist friend and it can be so draining but I'm setting my boundaries day by day.
I love how beautifully you explained this! I'm definitely the low maintenance friend, and I cannot wrap my entire life around someone 24/7. I'm here whenever they need, and I will also be there to listen and check in, visit, etc. I think I used to feel bad for 1. not understanding that this was just the kind of friend I am and that it's OK 2. giving my all to a higher maintenance friend because of the shame/guilt put onto me. In return it really drained me of my energy and I had to find a way to create boundaries for those kinds of friends.
Woow how were you able to create boundaries? I’m definitely the low maintenance friend and unable to be in contact 24/7 as welll.
Would you ever host a networking event or a girly mixer? I feel like i cant find high value women friends in Atlanta because everyone already has established friend groups.
ooooo this would be an interesting idea!! I would just be nervous no one would come 🥹😂
Lol I think it would be a success for sure!! :) @@jazturner16
Gotta’ start somewhere. Go for it
I’d come 🙋🏾♀️. I’m in Atl too and very interested! 💖
Oh please please please! ❤
Im alone now but Im not lonely. Loved the video. 💕💕 Cant wait to meet my tribe. 😊
Yes, sister!! You have a great perspective! Alone, but not lonely! That’s from the biggest transformation happens for us!💗
I’ve been working on myself and thinking a lot about attracting a new circle of good, high quality friends! I’ve lost some pretty close relationships but they were not all good, which is why I don’t have them anymore but seeing this video is confirmation that I’m on the right track!
So true. You are who you hang around.
EXACTLY!!
Love this video! I used to be the therapist friend & now I’ve learned to set boundaries. I especially agree with getting around people who hold the same values and standards!
You look absolutely stunning!! Very classy
Thank you so much!!!💗
No. You don't need high value friends. You need friends with character. People who are loyal and trustworthy. Integrity.
Would these qualities not fall into to high value 🤨
@@naditati Of course it does; however, her outline definition does not appear to support this.
I think that’s what high value is. High value is not about money. U can have money n be full of drama that’s not high value just like a high value man has to actually have good qualities not just money
Sooo you didn’t watch the video..
This is literally what makes a woman high value. Lol.
Girl you are so me! The amount of times I screamed EXACTLYYY is ridiculous lol . Thank you for this 💕
yessss sis!!! I got you!
chileeeeee i had to cut off a few friend that used me like a free therapist but never invited me out fror anything like girl no talk to your friends that you go out with and if you knew how many friends only spoke to me to. gossip and trauma dum i had to cut off it was so annoying. mad that a goal that i wouldnt gossip or be a counsulor for them and they just faded away and im fine with it.
Thank you for sharing sister!!! I went through something similar! Its frustrating, but you're not alone!!
I'm doing all of these things, I just need to do a list of qualities I want in my friends and start planning activities to do with others. Thanks for the wholesome discussion, no stone was left unturned.
Yesss sis!! All in good time, im glad I could help💗
As an older woman my true friends are the ones I grew up with. New people that come in to my life are just associates. True loyalty is my friend's that been in my life from elementary school. I do not trust easily. I appreciate your tips. Blessings!🙏
Mine as well. However I think that’s why I’m finding it hard to admit that my longest friends are the most low vibrational. They are loyal and we’ve been friends since kids, but that’s why I’m finding it hard to demote them because I’m also loyal. Longevity is not always the best thing.
The therapist friend! Yaaaaaaaas! People (especially selfish people) will try to hold your ears hostage and suck up all your energy. On a spiritual level these people are literally energy vampires!! 😡
Hope one day I can have women like you in my circle.
We would definitely get along lol because I’m definitely a low maintenance friend but also valuable and caring.
Yesssss someone gets it!!!
I love your content Jaz! Please continue creating inspiring content like this.
This means the world sis, thank you so much!! I love it here, I'm going to keep going 💗
I’m definitely working on not making the conversation about me . I’m aware of it. I realized i didn’t want the person to feel alone & i too have been through that before . definitely something i am actively working on
I have a hard time with the phase "high value." I think that it discounts too many people in this world. I also implies to other's that somehow they are not worthy, because they have not achieved the same level of success or achievement as you have. It's borderline narcissistic.
Thanks, good content! I recently ended two (20 year friendships) with two different people because of what you mentioned in this video. And yes, it has been lonely at times. However, what's important is that everyone is NOT meant to go on every journey with you, so know when to let them off the ride.
Hi Jaz! Again you hit the nail on the head, losing a friend is such a traumatic experience. Everybody can not come with you in certain periods in your life and that is totally okay! Keep going, loving this content!
I’m so ecstatic that you did this video, I’ve been thinking about this topic so much and his was so helpful ! Thank Jaz ❤
THANK YOU!! I'm so glad you found it helpful!!💗💗
I’m 21 & a realtor & entrepreneur I feel like I attract older women I need some young female friends that’s like me my boyfriend my best friend. I need girl time tho lol
Girlllll I completely understand this!! Honestly why I switched workout studios to meet younger female friends!
@@jazturner16 do you have a PO Box can I send you some beauty products? ❤️
Jaz you look gorgeous gal,
Thank you 🙏🏾 i believe when you work on yourself first you attract high value friends.
So true! And thank you so much sister!💗
Wow this whole video is gold! The way you articulated your points deeply resonated & put into words what I’ve been trying to process about my friendships for a long time. Thanks for sharing your insights ✨
sad that people do not realize that high value comes from.the persins heart not their status money , career etc...thats why divorce rstes in this country are so high , people don't nit know what love is at all
Brilliantly done. I’m currently undergoing the pruning process with my friend group and it has been surprisingly simple to the point that I’m barely emotionally affected by their departure. Now comes the time to refill those empty slots with like-minded women looking to elevate.
Thank you darling. Words of wisdom were given here and I have most certainly noted them down. Time to make healthier relationship choices in general. ❤
Thank YOU for watching sister!!!!💗💗
So so helpful! Thank you for making this video I have been struggling to make friends as an adult ( I literally have two and one of them is my sister lol) so I will use all these tips to put myself out there.
I attract toxic and unstable “friends” I’m friendless now because it’s so draining being the counselor and bestfriend to all these people that have no mental stability. I had to pray and cut these people off. And I’m happy I did. I had to self talk myself and told myself I am a high value friend and that’s all I want to attract. This is something I’ve been working on and so far so good. I love me and I need people on that same level.
I like this video. Not to brag but I’m usually the friend that every girlfriend I’ve had is clingy towards…If I had to guess it’s because I’m very self reliant and confident, a jokester, I don’t take myself too seriously . (At least most of the time) I guess I’m also somewhat of a therapist friend and love going out of my way for friends, and when I truly love a friend, I become motherly..I want them to win in every way and I’m fiercely protective. I’m also not afraid to end a friendship (I’ve ended friendships multiple times bc of jealousy, envy, and I had a friendship with a particular friend for 16 years but ended it because she was a narcissist..I’ve ended seven friendships throughout my life and no I’m not ashamed and no the decision wasn’t mutual.. I ended it.) Mainly because I despise drama with a passion and I can’t stand a hater am I perfect? Hell no... I can be distant at times but I show up when it’s important. My longest friendship is 20 years, second to longest is 15 years(we talk every day) and I also have a couple of new girlfriends 5 years and three years. And neither of these 4 friends have ever met lol The truth of the matter is I can’t stand girl groups! Too much drama for me. I’m very much so a high value woman. I don’t depend on my friends, I appreciate whatever they can give (whether that’s laughs, support, opinions) and that’s that. Another thing is I 100% never disrespect them, people but especially women are very sensitive, so there’s a certain way we have to be approached so to prevent catty egos in friendships. Also, friendships are supposed to be vulnerable and fun. If you can’t cry or share bad parts of your life with a person then they’re not your friend. I think the same applies to romantic relationships. Me and my husband have been together 8 years and vulnerability combined with compatibility, communication, and respect is key.
I would love to have a few solid female friends
yess sis!! We're all working on it 💗
Its even harder when its family gossiping jealous trauma dumping and more so i cut some off and will love some from a distance friends were a bit easier but still feel bad and miss them
A friendship breakup has NEVER been anywhere near as devastating as an intimate relationship breakup for me...probably because I am the one who turned my back on the friendship. I have even had a 20 year long friendship (it really was a one-sided friendship), but she had to go...I am so through with the dumb-sh&t, the no-value female friends that were in my life! And you know what? The Lord God Almighty gave me all kinds of hints and clues that these so-called friendships had NO substance and this or that female wasn't a true friend, she just hung around me to get what she could get out of me. God turned me on to "Real Value" female friendships, once I recognized the "Real Value" in myself.
Gossiping is extremely low vibrational I stay away from those people as a whole, no thank you 😅
I had a friend who I did so much for. Like I went above and beyond yet when I went thru the darkest period in my life she was nonexistent. Barely checked in. Then tried to one up and say she was going thru her own shit to notice mine rather than take accountability for her actions. I had to cut ties because not only did she ghost, she didn’t even try to actively make amends after I told her how I felt and and I realised I was the one keeping the relationship alive lol
This was wonderful enjoyed your perspective ❤
Glad you enjoyed it!💗💗💗💗
We are so similar lol I feel you on being a low maintenance friend I can’t talk everyday and also I hate a “friend” who only talks about themselves ! This was a really good video I will be manifesting better friends!
Just went through a friendship breakup. I got tired of the disrespect and the constant need to diminish myself and my day to day accomplishments to appease her. I wish her well but I feel way more at peace and just free to accomplish my goals more than ever now. A bestie that I do still have is so beautiful and badass. We’re actually working on a business together. We’re both in the medical field and have worked our butts off to get where we are now. We motivate each other to want more and want better for ourselves.
@@1bluegreen2 I have a healthy support system and God for that so I’m good.
You need to be two things for your friends, that they need to be for you - kindness and an abundance mindset. When life gets tough, you'll be grateful for having unfailingly kind and encouraging people. Ask anyone that's hit rock bottom.
Great tips. As an accomplishment woman with a full life I really didn’t think of making new friends for years. Now in my 40s I value and work on maintaining friendships more.
I have tried so many times to get my friend to minimize the gossip because I am witnessing it ruin her life but she just will not end it
You're the mentor I've needed for so long. You absolutely have no idea how grateful I am to have stumbled across your channel. THIS WAS EXCELLENT ADIVCE AND EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR!! THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH!
Great channel
The Correct Friends bring growth💗💚
Friends that know when to go home…yyeeessss 😂🎉. i felt that.
Omg im always sending my friend’s positive things
likeeeeeeee its time to GO!!!😂
This was so very very helpful. I have wanted to find new high-value female friends in my life. This has provided me a good running start. As a fashion designer and female who has accomplished much in my life it sometimes is difficult to find friends. This is good.
Can we be friends ?! 😭
I already am yours sis! Always❤
I am going to implement everything with your advice. I need my Sister Circle. I am a new subscriber. Thank You!
Hey JAZ! Ive been watching your videos since last week and you have truly become a virtual mentor to me.
I remember a time when I was the friend who realized that I was trauma dumping on all of my friends in the past. And when I would realize, I would go incognito because I would feel bad that I had told them so much pain instead of considering how they truly felt.
I am in a period in my life that I am healing daily and I am beginning to isolate to truly glow back up from everything I went through from friendships, past relationships, etc.
I eventually want to put myself back out there when I want to make friends again. I am going to be 29 in 2 weeks and I really have reignited myself on my healing journey. You ever feel like you hit a hurdle or a bump in the road to then actually stop and have time to reflect on how you've REALLY been towards others? This is currently me rn :)
Thank you so much and I LOVE your videos. Please continue to spread your likemindness and informing. It's really helping us! ♥️
This has me looking at my friendships and it's interesting how some things pan out. I especially like the advice on having different friends for different things. We're diverse and unique and therefore it makes sense that we will have many types of friends. I also like the idea of "dating" your friends. I actually do this with one of the friends we call our outings dates! Also good to note that every person you initially connect with might not pan out and that's okay too.
Also to note that "high-value" is what we interpret as high value NOT what someone on social media says is high-value. I think high-value are people you vibe with.
This is so me, perfectly explained dear! Great advice all throughout this video! I agree 💯 want friends on your level, self assured but humbled at the same time and in alignment with your morals and values. Keep in mind associates and friends are different. I seek friends want those with a high and positive vibration with a beautiful energy and when were not we give ourselves grace and encourage each other.
This is such a great video-man, I feel like I’m learning this all over again now in my 30s and the actionable steps are so helpful!!
Friends. Gosh, where do I start? Quick answer, your family you choose is your friends. You’re lucky if you have more than a few. Human nature makes it challenging.
storytime: how did you lose your whole friend group in a day?
LMAO I don't think I can, friendship trauma is realllllll😂😂😂
right! that's what I was like when she mentioned it in the video... I was like... hold up wait a minute!
High value suggests that others are worth less. Its a humanitarian thing if taken the wrong way.
What I NEEDED today🙌🏽Thank you, I am in love with your videos and your energy! You go girl❤️🔥
Can you be my friend Jaz? I live in Atlanta.
I had a friend who treated me badly & always had snide comments about how privileged I was. She made me pay for everything & was so disrespectful to me. So one time I told her to change or the friendship would end & I kid u not this chic doubled down on being a bitch. Turns out she hates me for being privileged.
Meanwhile all her friends are privileged & she treats them badly. She is so entitled coz she isn’t & acts like we owe her
Excellent video! I took notes to keep me on track when it comes to manifesting my own tribe and the type of people I'm trying to attract. I've been doing a lot of self-development and self-awareness work.
New subbie here! Sent by Arnell Armon. This is so good!!!!
Great video , I’m new here … thanks Jaz🫶🏾
Omg hi!!! Thank you sis💗
Yesssssssss Jaz I am a High Valued Women friendships PERIOD
This is SO good! Thank you for sharing 💕
“You have to be picky with who is in your life, because you deserve the absolute best” 🫶🏾
Yay!!!! I’m so glad you liked it sis 💗
This one was good but I'm a little anxious because my mind has been blocked from making new friends for years
Period! I love this girl new sub such queen energy ❤
OMG hi!! Thank you so much sis! Welcome 💗
Hi I’m new to your channel. I must say that enjoyed it, so much positive vibes, elegance and truth❤❤❤
If we do choose to have some friends it's very important that we choose our friends wisely and be careful who we trust and tell our problems to because everyone who smiles at us is not our friend
You look amazing and this video quality out of this world! Love this Jaz
Omg thank you so so much sister!!💗💗
18:00 where I struggle is how to mention to them like hey I feel we’re talking a lot about you but hardly about me ? What’s a decent way to word that
The best I’ve seen on this topic
I’m revisiting this video. I don’t know of any high value people where I live. I would like to be that high value person that women need to go to.
I do need more high value like minded female friends like really really really good