Hi PIS team! Could you please make a playlist of the Couples Therapy series? I'm behind and would love to go back and binge the episodes. Thank you for the content!
I've noticed in the comments that people don't even know Annie's name. It all plays into what she said in the previous episode about having to be on his ride.
I found a lot of what Dr. Honda said really interesting but this was painful to watch because Mau just keeps deflecting. At least as presented in the show, he does not seem capable of taking accountability for anything, and they just keep going in circles.
Exactly !! I don't support the idea of couple therapy for this type of couple. The wife is not being served by this. I'd tell them that they need to do individual therapy which means the wife will probably get help to make the decision to divorce, and the man will probably do nothing at all. She'll be liberated and he'll still be clueless about his issues but also free to find a new woman to serve him.
Yeahhhh. Her saying that made my eye twitch and it would be confusing to me, too, if my spouse was like "you're amazing and the world's best spouse ever" but then also "you dismiss me and say mean things and make me feel belittled". Like. It's strange to say just a blanket statement and follow it up with specifics that do matter. I feel like her saying "you know, i really like (insert specifics here) and it makes me feel happy when i'm with you. however, i do feel upset when you (insert specifics here)" would make more sense.
I can't help but feel so sorry for Annie. It must be hard with a partner like that. I've been there several times and even though I am sure she loves him very much I can't feel but feel like she deserves better
He loves her so desperately and doesn't know how to show it or act like it. It must be almost like an addiction, because you know for the fact the love is there and you keep getting glimpses of it but then it keeps hurting you. "It's hard to stop something that almost works" (gabor mate said about addiction
I knew Annie as a friend when we were children. We lost touch years ago and so this is the first "update" I've gotten about her in forever. It's gut wrenching for me to watch this. I wish her well. She deserves better.
I wish you did every couple from all three seasons of the show. These are the best. Love that show and listening to you talk about them it’s so good. Thanks for what you do.
The first Couples Therapy reaction video I watched was also the first Psychology in Seattle video I had ever seen. It was earlier this year, and I recognised instantly my perspective on my relationships suddenly changing. It felt like someone was lifting the veil off my previous relationships, especially when Kirk broke down why some men are hypersexual and seemingly unemotional. In some ways it has been what I learned is a "corrective experience", to hear men, in particular, talk about this so articulately. I used to cut off my emotions as well to match the man because I knew it made me stronger since they were doing it, and I knew I would probably get less hurt. Now I know it does not make men or women strong at all. I see it's the last reaction video to this couple and it is the end of the year, so I hope the New Year brings healthier relationships for me and anyone else who got something similar from these reaction videos :)
I am so glad that you covered this couple further! I remember thinking, ‘ I need Dr. Kirk Honda’s interpretation’ for this couple when I watched the first season. Also, I got the impression that Annie and Mau were the ones ending the therapy not the other way around, which is why the Doctor was also so hesitant and told them to take care of each other.
I normally don't leave comments on TH-cam videos but I think this was some of your best work. I really hope that you continue the reaction videos with some of the other couples throughout the different seasons of this show. I really appreciate all your hard work on all your content ❤.
I'm just now watching you react to this show and I went through all 9 episodes in less than 2 days. I would definitely love to see more of you reacting to this show!
My current therapist is chronically late. Even when I am her first client, even when it's video conference. But she is so good, insightful, attentive and has helped me so much I let it go. Everyone has something they're bad at and chronic lateness is easy to forgive
Will you later on cover the other couples in the show? I love this series! Please keep them going. Other couples, or session 2 reactions....I just love them!
I went back and binged all the episodes and I have to say Dr. Honda is amazing! I knew that already, but listening to him squarely in his element, picking up on every nuance to the behaviors of all participants...just wow. Thank you Doc for sharing your gifts! Mau is eerily similar to my partner, so this has been so helpful! I see myself in Annie, especially when she struggled to get herself from the couch. Mau makes me appreciate how much my partner has grown during our relationship and how much more growing we both have to do. ❤️
Not sure if you watched the next episode. There is a scene where the therapist discusses to her Advisor about Annie and Mau . She tells her that even though Mau appears to be dominant, Annie is the controlling person in their relationship and that she has all power to leave if she wants to. ( not exact words). Its hardly 2-3 minutes in the episode. Was wondering if you can please put a reaction video to that last part - which will be the concluding part.( The conclusion confused me). Would appreciate your professional opinion about that ! Thank you ( This is 2 month old video - not sure if you check comments and reply for older videos)
I hate hate hate not seeing a clock in therapy because i get so paranoid and embarrassed if I'm running out of time and don't realize. I am so grateful that my current therapist has a clock I can watch.
It's so interesting, that in Mau's perception, everything is more complicated than it is simple. And yet his attitude is also simultaneously that everything is black and white and he speaks in such absolutes.
I feel like if you see previous sessions, he gets quite annoyed when she gives him credit, something to the effect of “I don’t need you to be magnanimous” as in, when the therapist would commend him, he finds it almost demeaning to be “given a hand out”. Which could be why she doesn’t take the “pat on the back” approach
Very anticlimactic ending. I wish them the best, that they get more therapy in the future, but really that Annie feels seen and heard at some point soon, because I don't think she got there with this one.
I feel very bad for Annie. I feel like all the focus was on him, his stuff, his childhood. Annie opened up about sexual assault and I know we dont see everything but I feel like it was very glossed over. Even when she tells the therapist that she felt sexually pressured and Mau shut her down I would feel very betrayed by my therapist if she did what this one did. Not saying she is bad at het job I think alot of what she has done is good, but I'm worried Annie feels dismissed even in these sessions. He speaks down to her all the time and it's all about him. I would hope that in a similar situation the therapist is able to not make the Annies of the world to feel so beaten down bu someone that kind of dominates the conversation. It's been really insightful to watch this series, as I'm going to therapy with my dad and also having a fight with my boyfriend atm. It's very informative and I really respect your approach to your work and to people. I'll be honest and say the first session with my estranged father I just wanted to blame him and I wanted him to feel like he was wrong and just point my finger. But iutlr therapist is very good with bringing the focus back to our relationship and how to better it. Not to focus too much h on who is right and wrong and what who did, but how we both feel and how we can approach each other's feelings and rebuild our very fractured and non existing relationship. I respect it and I want to work with a mindset of we want to be here and we need to work with each other. Thank you for this series and I hope you keep doing similar video.
That was my thought, also, as someone who appreciates reading through the comment section and learning how other subscribers regard the psychological issues the videos raise and sometimes also exchanging personal experiences that are relevant.
That was AMAZING! and also, I need more. I enjoyed your Master Class on Attachment and your Virginia Satir deep dive. As an English student Counsellor I am looking to you for further inspiration and study. The quality of your videos is Spider-Man Amazing!
More of these! This is my favorite reaction series from you and I've seen em all! So helpful and worthwhile to have both yours and the therapist's perspective.
I feel like this show was never really couples therapy, but more like one to one for him. Except for the ONE traumatic episode for her, which he kind of swept under the rug, it was always, always about him
As someone who was very similar to this guy and had to go through several therapists (individual) plus a lot of literature, and lost wonderful partners a long the way, I feel that their approach to him was doomed from the get go. I wish I could explain it in more detail.
I think "the look" from Mau to the therapist at the end was more like, "Look at me. I'm drinking this water glass. You're gonna have to tidy it up when I take me and my wife out of here. Ha."
I think therapists should think outside the box and plan longer sessions than 1 hr so people can get deeper. I also think having therapy goals and homework a bit more outlined with homework would be good. Customized to fit unique people but a general overview of the science of what formulas work in relationships and which formulas result in destruction of relationships (Gotman's 4 horsemen etc). So people can see where they ARE and what vision they are aiming for seperately and together...like those maps at malls. A bit more mediation skills sets used to help both see the fairness, point, and purpose.
From the series they actually state/ imply that it's the last session because they're done? As in they're going to wait until their son is of age then split it seemed....although that was followed by commentary from the therapist that although it seems like Mau has all the power in the relationship, it's actually Annie that's the one in charge...... really interesting couple!
love listening to you and learning .As a couples therapist i find that when he said she just does not like me , their was an important emotional narrative being replayed and projected from him into his relationship. I would have definitely reflected this with empathy. " that moves my heart that you are thinking this way about how she feels about you... " This could have openned a more vulnerable path into what is truly the underlying fear he has which is hidden under his superiority defences... I would have reflected back to him when he makes a joke, im the best.. " i see you making a joke ... " Anyway.... very interesting to see other's work and with different modalities, i learn so much. I agree that the way the session ended is a little sharp. I always let my couples know when we are ending and i keep 5-10 minutes for myself to give my feedback to each of them individually ,showing there ressources and where they are still stuck and the impact it has in the relational dynamic.
Is it always advantageous to comment on progress that has been made? I have left therapy at some point because of that. I don't really know why, I think I just wasn't ready to change.
Surprised the therapist lets Mau run on with assumptions of what his wife wants and/or is thinking. For instance see timestamp 12:00 and forward. Why not speak about himself? And why doesn't therapist set this boundary?
Can you please please do more Therapy reaction to the show Couples Therapy ? Other seasons or couples on the show! I just finished watching all your videos of this show and they were sooo informative and just great to watch !! PLEASE !
In case anyone is wondering, Annie divorced Mau as soon as the kids were out of the house. He comments (and then deletes) in r/couplestherapyshow apparently, but somewhere there is a screenshot of him talking about how his new girlfriend is so much better for him.
Having been in lots of couples therapy with a spouse with the exact same pattern. Couples counseling with this person was over and over retraumatizing. The spouse of this type gets overlooked and all energy goes to the abusive spouse. Often times the therapist is looking for an area the suffering spouse needs to work on to even the playing field. 30 years of couples counseling with multiple therapists and psychologists, we never made any headway. Now I am embroiled in a 4 year vindictive divorce trying to overturn a post nuptial agreement. Beware.
Yeah, this guy looks and sounds like a sad and scared little boy. He probably thinks his wife will never leave him bc in his mind he is so “amazing.” He could be a good provider which tricks a lot of women into thinking he/she is a good partner but fails to acknowledge he needs to work on himself to become a BETTER human being. Lets hope he watches his sessions and views himself as who he REALLY is and improves himself. I also hope, Annie makes a decision and fights for her own happiness. Sometimes we get too wrapped up in making other people happy that we forget about ourselves! ❤ PS. If my husband ever pull some shit like canceling his bday party and flying to Italy alone I would have served him with divorce paper upon arrival. WTF NO!
Omygosh- that’s exactly what my ex husband would say to me. He would say ‘you just don’t want to be in this and you’re finding faults’. And it wasn’t true. It was just so frustrating!
I think the doctor treating them when discussing the case with her supervisor labeled Annie as the controlling one in the relationship because she is, while not perfect, more emotionally developed than Mau, who very much so thinks like a preteen. So to me watching, it looked as if he was a child acting out to get his mommy’s aka his wife’s attention, because any attention positive or negative is better than being ignored, which is what he was by his actual mom. So I think the doctors point was to an extent Annie is aware that he is extremely reliant on her emotionally so she can metaphorically keep him on a string.
i know this is an old ass video but i just watched this season and then youtube recommended this lmao and i think its important to note that they ended their therapy early. all the other couples had more sessions, and i wonder if it might have had something to do wit mau noticing they were getting somewhere past his walls and him rejecting that through fear. i hated his attitude throughout the whole show, he triggered so many responses in me just watching him dismiss and act superior. i could never be a therapist because i am incapable of remaining subjective in situations like this, i would have no way to be helpful because i would be drilling him from start to finish for behaving liek that. a deeply hurt and emotionally unintelligent man who thinks hes so smart and above everyone else because his trauma taught him he had to be that way to survive, i hope he is better now but i somehow doubt it
The abrupt ending was so hard to watch. Even if it was the couples' decision in some way - we didn't seem to hear about it in session (unless Dr. Honda edited that part out, since I haven't seen the original). And even if it was the couples choice you'd still this she has a ethical responsibility to say SOMETHING.. hopefully encouraging so they'd consider therapy in the future. Not sure where this show was aired? But I'd be interested in watching how the therapist handles the other couples.
This was so interesting, would love to see you react to other couples. Interesting you chose this couple, they probably made the least progress. Would love to see you react to Elaine and Desean, they made so much growth.
I honestly don’t like how she tried to ask him to answer a topic that she brought up like he is supposed to know then they bash him the whole episode and expect him to sit complacent honestly she needs to open her mouth and communicate just kept asking him questions about his answer to her problem
Like you said at the end she still sitting there feeling like why she came wasn’t resolved she didn’t get her point across she didn’t communicate anything tbh she told him she loves him and is a great husband then goes to say I don’t like u
Therapy might really help this man. He should stick with it. And you know what might help Annie? Divorce. Remember, couples therapy should not be an opportunity to heal the trauma of one person at the expense of the happiness of another. Annie needs none of this, and someone should tell her, he has a veeeeery long way to go and he might not even be willing to do the work. It's not her job, girl, move on and find someone healthy and be happy! And leave this man with the healer, there's nothing you can do for him.
The mental abuse Annie endures shows all in her face. Her eyes are puffy and she looks drained/defeated/haggard-while Mau looks much younger, healthy and energized. He's an energy vampire sucking the vibrancy and youth out of her. I hope she left him
They saw some progress? He, he saw some progress. I'm really fed up with healthy people being sacrificed in the name of healing messed up people. No! This man should not be in any relationship until he is ready. He should be working on himself. Free the Annies of the world from this horrible burden!!!
Please do a reaction of Grey's Anatomy - Callie and Arizona couple's therapy session Though it's a fake session, I'm not sure what I feel about that therapist. 😐
what a horrible couple.. 11 sessions sounds like torture for that therapist, who became disengaged. Annie has lost all self worth in the 23 years of engaging with this raging narcissist. sad and pathetic couple and it's annoying that the therapist could not help Annie b/c it was rarely about her.
Too many woman in this therapy session. If he is the problem, then he needs a male therapist. He may need to live alone and she is forcing him to be with her but in her terms.
I didnt know we could FORCE ppl to be woth us 😂 thats a ridiculous statement. He can leave she can leave they definitely should be seperated. He needs individual therapy but i dont see that goig well with a man for him he needs control he definitely tries to control the female therapist as well. I wouldnt be surprised if he has npd bpd or both
How is she “forcing him”? He’s a grown man and can choose to leave. This entire couple’s therapy is revolved around his issues which is probably indicative of their daily life.
Hi PIS team! Could you please make a playlist of the Couples Therapy series? I'm behind and would love to go back and binge the episodes. Thank you for the content!
I'm sad this one is done! I liked the direct therapy session reactions!
He needs his own personal therapy because almost every episode it’s about him n him alone
I've noticed in the comments that people don't even know Annie's name. It all plays into what she said in the previous episode about having to be on his ride.
Could help him be vulnerable w her tho
I think the couples therapist should be the same therapist for the individual.
I found a lot of what Dr. Honda said really interesting but this was painful to watch because Mau just keeps deflecting. At least as presented in the show, he does not seem capable of taking accountability for anything, and they just keep going in circles.
Exactly !! I don't support the idea of couple therapy for this type of couple. The wife is not being served by this. I'd tell them that they need to do individual therapy which means the wife will probably get help to make the decision to divorce, and the man will probably do nothing at all. She'll be liberated and he'll still be clueless about his issues but also free to find a new woman to serve him.
Annie saying that Mau is an amazing husband while noting her treats her badly and she doesn't like him just makes me die inside.
Yeahhhh. Her saying that made my eye twitch and it would be confusing to me, too, if my spouse was like "you're amazing and the world's best spouse ever" but then also "you dismiss me and say mean things and make me feel belittled". Like. It's strange to say just a blanket statement and follow it up with specifics that do matter. I feel like her saying "you know, i really like (insert specifics here) and it makes me feel happy when i'm with you. however, i do feel upset when you (insert specifics here)" would make more sense.
oh I'm certain Annie is also dieing inside.. as well.
Sounds a bit placating to keep the fire down.
@@mmw5656that's what I thought too
@@TenTenJ she comes from family money, so I don't think it's that either
would you ever consider continuing the couples therapy reactions but with one of the other couples? Like Sarah/Lauren?
I was Mau…… it’s incredible I’m him. This series has given me so much. I go to therapy weekly but seeing behind the scenes has been fascinating
I can't help but feel so sorry for Annie. It must be hard with a partner like that. I've been there several times and even though I am sure she loves him very much I can't feel but feel like she deserves better
He loves her so desperately and doesn't know how to show it or act like it. It must be almost like an addiction, because you know for the fact the love is there and you keep getting glimpses of it but then it keeps hurting you. "It's hard to stop something that almost works" (gabor mate said about addiction
I knew Annie as a friend when we were children. We lost touch years ago and so this is the first "update" I've gotten about her in forever. It's gut wrenching for me to watch this. I wish her well. She deserves better.
She definitely deserves to be treated better. I hope he can heal and learn how to do that.
They both need their own therapist. Mau is too damaged to benefit from couples therapy, Annie is miles ahead of him
I cannotttt take his smug demeanor!
My goodness Annie has a beautiful amount of patience.
People like this always end up with a patient partner. No one else would put up with them sadly.
I wish you did every couple from all three seasons of the show. These are the best. Love that show and listening to you talk about them it’s so good. Thanks for what you do.
The first Couples Therapy reaction video I watched was also the first Psychology in Seattle video I had ever seen. It was earlier this year, and I recognised instantly my perspective on my relationships suddenly changing. It felt like someone was lifting the veil off my previous relationships, especially when Kirk broke down why some men are hypersexual and seemingly unemotional. In some ways it has been what I learned is a "corrective experience", to hear men, in particular, talk about this so articulately. I used to cut off my emotions as well to match the man because I knew it made me stronger since they were doing it, and I knew I would probably get less hurt. Now I know it does not make men or women strong at all. I see it's the last reaction video to this couple and it is the end of the year, so I hope the New Year brings healthier relationships for me and anyone else who got something similar from these reaction videos :)
I am a Patreon and this is My Favourite work that you do. Please make lots more and get them out to us.
Yes even if they are patreon only, that's fine, they need to exist
I am so glad that you covered this couple further! I remember thinking, ‘ I need Dr. Kirk Honda’s interpretation’ for this couple when I watched the first season.
Also, I got the impression that Annie and Mau were the ones ending the therapy not the other way around, which is why the Doctor was also so hesitant and told them to take care of each other.
I normally don't leave comments on TH-cam videos but I think this was some of your best work. I really hope that you continue the reaction videos with some of the other couples throughout the different seasons of this show. I really appreciate all your hard work on all your content ❤.
I'm just now watching you react to this show and I went through all 9 episodes in less than 2 days. I would definitely love to see more of you reacting to this show!
My current therapist is chronically late. Even when I am her first client, even when it's video conference. But she is so good, insightful, attentive and has helped me so much I let it go. Everyone has something they're bad at and chronic lateness is easy to forgive
This is my favorite show. I would love more from you Kirk. You made my wait at the airport on Xmas Eve 10x better
A great Christmas Eve episode, I'm so happy to see Annie and Mau, hopefully there will one day be a reason to hear from them again
Will you later on cover the other couples in the show? I love this series! Please keep them going. Other couples, or session 2 reactions....I just love them!
I went back and binged all the episodes and I have to say Dr. Honda is amazing! I knew that already, but listening to him squarely in his element, picking up on every nuance to the behaviors of all participants...just wow. Thank you Doc for sharing your gifts!
Mau is eerily similar to my partner, so this has been so helpful! I see myself in Annie, especially when she struggled to get herself from the couch. Mau makes me appreciate how much my partner has grown during our relationship and how much more growing we both have to do. ❤️
Not sure if you watched the next episode. There is a scene where the therapist discusses to her Advisor about Annie and Mau . She tells her that even though Mau appears to be dominant, Annie is the controlling person in their relationship and that she has all power to leave if she wants to. ( not exact words).
Its hardly 2-3 minutes in the episode.
Was wondering if you can please put a reaction video to that last part - which will be the concluding part.( The conclusion confused me). Would appreciate your professional opinion about that !
Thank you ( This is 2 month old video - not sure if you check comments and reply for older videos)
seconded!
I hate hate hate not seeing a clock in therapy because i get so paranoid and embarrassed if I'm running out of time and don't realize. I am so grateful that my current therapist has a clock I can watch.
I’ve never seen this show and assumed it was a tv drama. Interesting it’s a real therapy thing.
The way the therapist talked, I think she thought / hoped this wasn't the last session and is why she didn't end it more.... Formally?
It's so interesting, that in Mau's perception, everything is more complicated than it is simple. And yet his attitude is also simultaneously that everything is black and white and he speaks in such absolutes.
my favorite series is here again!!
Lol rt!? And it’s Annie and Mau!!??🙌🏽❤️
I feel like if you see previous sessions, he gets quite annoyed when she gives him credit, something to the effect of “I don’t need you to be magnanimous” as in, when the therapist would commend him, he finds it almost demeaning to be “given a hand out”. Which could be why she doesn’t take the “pat on the back” approach
Annie and Mau chose to drop out of therapy. It didn’t have anything to do with the TV show. It’s addressed either in this season or the Covid episode.
That's not how I remember it. I read that they only have a set amount of sessions per the contract
@@Freetoliveasyouplease they get a certain amount free for filming the show. But they didn’t even take all the free sessions.
I was wondering
Very anticlimactic ending. I wish them the best, that they get more therapy in the future, but really that Annie feels seen and heard at some point soon, because I don't think she got there with this one.
I feel very bad for Annie. I feel like all the focus was on him, his stuff, his childhood. Annie opened up about sexual assault and I know we dont see everything but I feel like it was very glossed over. Even when she tells the therapist that she felt sexually pressured and Mau shut her down I would feel very betrayed by my therapist if she did what this one did. Not saying she is bad at het job I think alot of what she has done is good, but I'm worried Annie feels dismissed even in these sessions. He speaks down to her all the time and it's all about him. I would hope that in a similar situation the therapist is able to not make the Annies of the world to feel so beaten down bu someone that kind of dominates the conversation. It's been really insightful to watch this series, as I'm going to therapy with my dad and also having a fight with my boyfriend atm. It's very informative and I really respect your approach to your work and to people. I'll be honest and say the first session with my estranged father I just wanted to blame him and I wanted him to feel like he was wrong and just point my finger. But iutlr therapist is very good with bringing the focus back to our relationship and how to better it. Not to focus too much h on who is right and wrong and what who did, but how we both feel and how we can approach each other's feelings and rebuild our very fractured and non existing relationship. I respect it and I want to work with a mindset of we want to be here and we need to work with each other. Thank you for this series and I hope you keep doing similar video.
I agree. Annie’s pain goes unseen.
btw, this wasn't the last session bc of the show per se; they did drop out earlier than the other couples
Please please do more couples therapy reactions. This is so insightful and helpful to see the thought process of the therapist IN a therapy session
Oooh, too early to scan the comments 😅
That was my thought, also, as someone who appreciates reading through the comment section and learning how other subscribers regard the psychological issues the videos raise and sometimes also exchanging personal experiences that are relevant.
Dr Honda, please make more couples therapy episodes in the future! It’s amazing! I binge watched them and I absolutely loved them!
Wow! I loved these videos. Well done. I learned so much about therapy and people.
That was AMAZING! and also, I need more. I enjoyed your Master Class on Attachment and your Virginia Satir deep dive. As an English student Counsellor I am looking to you for further inspiration and study. The quality of your videos is Spider-Man Amazing!
Please make more of these videos! So helpful to watch and way more interesting than 90 Day Fiance-
More of these! This is my favorite reaction series from you and I've seen em all! So helpful and worthwhile to have both yours and the therapist's perspective.
yay do more of couples therapy reactions!!
That was so great to watch and listen to. PLEASE continue with other couples! This is truly one of your best content!
Looking forward to reactions to other couples in S1 and couples in S2. Thanks for the videos.
I feel like this show was never really couples therapy, but more like one to one for him. Except for the ONE traumatic episode for her, which he kind of swept under the rug, it was always, always about him
Because hes a narcissist with bpd lol
As someone who was very similar to this guy and had to go through several therapists (individual) plus a lot of literature, and lost wonderful partners a long the way, I feel that their approach to him was doomed from the get go.
I wish I could explain it in more detail.
I think "the look" from Mau to the therapist at the end was more like, "Look at me. I'm drinking this water glass. You're gonna have to tidy it up when I take me and my wife out of here. Ha."
I think therapists should think outside the box and plan longer sessions than 1 hr so people can get deeper. I also think having therapy goals and homework a bit more outlined with homework would be good. Customized to fit unique people but a general overview of the science of what formulas work in relationships and which formulas result in destruction of relationships (Gotman's 4 horsemen etc). So people can see where they ARE and what vision they are aiming for seperately and together...like those maps at malls. A bit more mediation skills sets used to help both see the fairness, point, and purpose.
Perfect Christmas gift, thank you dr Honda, I love your reactions to these series!
Thanks for an analysis of this fascinating series, Dr. Honda. It's much appreciated, and Happy Christmas!
From the series they actually state/ imply that it's the last session because they're done? As in they're going to wait until their son is of age then split it seemed....although that was followed by commentary from the therapist that although it seems like Mau has all the power in the relationship, it's actually Annie that's the one in charge...... really interesting couple!
love listening to you and learning .As a couples therapist i find that when he said she just does not like me , their was an important emotional narrative being replayed and projected from him into his relationship. I would have definitely reflected this with empathy. " that moves my heart that you are thinking this way about how she feels about you... " This could have openned a more vulnerable path into what is truly the underlying fear he has which is hidden under his superiority defences... I would have reflected back to him when he makes a joke, im the best.. " i see you making a joke ... " Anyway.... very interesting to see other's work and with different modalities, i learn so much. I agree that the way the session ended is a little sharp. I always let my couples know when we are ending and i keep 5-10 minutes for myself to give my feedback to each of them individually ,showing there ressources and where they are still stuck and the impact it has in the relational dynamic.
Is it always advantageous to comment on progress that has been made? I have left therapy at some point because of that. I don't really know why, I think I just wasn't ready to change.
Surprised the therapist lets Mau run on with assumptions of what his wife wants and/or is thinking.
For instance see timestamp 12:00 and forward.
Why not speak about himself? And why doesn't therapist set this boundary?
Sending you love and light Dr. Honda ✨❤️✨
I loved you reacting to the couples therapy! Thank you so much! I would love more like these!
This reaction series was so helpful. Please make more like this like so many are saying ❤ thank you!
IMO the therapist and Annie had the same reaction to the end of therapy part emotionally exasperated and part searching for a way to wrap it up.
Can you please please do more Therapy reaction to the show Couples Therapy ? Other seasons or couples on the show! I just finished watching all your videos of this show and they were sooo informative and just great to watch !! PLEASE !
In case anyone is wondering, Annie divorced Mau as soon as the kids were out of the house. He comments (and then deletes) in r/couplestherapyshow apparently, but somewhere there is a screenshot of him talking about how his new girlfriend is so much better for him.
Having been in lots of couples therapy with a spouse with the exact same pattern. Couples counseling with this person was over and over retraumatizing. The spouse of this type gets overlooked and all energy goes to the abusive spouse. Often times the therapist is looking for an area the suffering spouse needs to work on to even the playing field. 30 years of couples counseling with multiple therapists and psychologists, we never made any headway. Now I am embroiled in a 4 year vindictive divorce trying to overturn a post nuptial agreement. Beware.
Yeah, this guy looks and sounds like a sad and scared little boy. He probably thinks his wife will never leave him bc in his mind he is so “amazing.” He could be a good provider which tricks a lot of women into thinking he/she is a good partner but fails to acknowledge he needs to work on himself to become a BETTER human being. Lets hope he watches his sessions and views himself as who he REALLY is and improves himself. I also hope, Annie makes a decision and fights for her own happiness. Sometimes we get too wrapped up in making other people happy that we forget about ourselves! ❤
PS. If my husband ever pull some shit like canceling his bday party and flying to Italy alone I would have served him with divorce paper upon arrival. WTF NO!
Omygosh- that’s exactly what my ex husband would say to me.
He would say ‘you just don’t want to be in this and you’re finding faults’.
And it wasn’t true.
It was just so frustrating!
I think the doctor treating them when discussing the case with her supervisor labeled Annie as the controlling one in the relationship because she is, while not perfect, more emotionally developed than Mau, who very much so thinks like a preteen. So to me watching, it looked as if he was a child acting out to get his mommy’s aka his wife’s attention, because any attention positive or negative is better than being ignored, which is what he was by his actual mom. So I think the doctors point was to an extent Annie is aware that he is extremely reliant on her emotionally so she can metaphorically keep him on a string.
i know this is an old ass video but i just watched this season and then youtube recommended this lmao and i think its important to note that they ended their therapy early. all the other couples had more sessions, and i wonder if it might have had something to do wit mau noticing they were getting somewhere past his walls and him rejecting that through fear. i hated his attitude throughout the whole show, he triggered so many responses in me just watching him dismiss and act superior.
i could never be a therapist because i am incapable of remaining subjective in situations like this, i would have no way to be helpful because i would be drilling him from start to finish for behaving liek that. a deeply hurt and emotionally unintelligent man who thinks hes so smart and above everyone else because his trauma taught him he had to be that way to survive, i hope he is better now but i somehow doubt it
Thank you!
The abrupt ending was so hard to watch. Even if it was the couples' decision in some way - we didn't seem to hear about it in session (unless Dr. Honda edited that part out, since I haven't seen the original). And even if it was the couples choice you'd still this she has a ethical responsibility to say SOMETHING.. hopefully encouraging so they'd consider therapy in the future. Not sure where this show was aired? But I'd be interested in watching how the therapist handles the other couples.
Could you react to the other couples on the show? Enjoyed these episodes a lot, thanks.
This was so interesting, would love to see you react to other couples. Interesting you chose this couple, they probably made the least progress. Would love to see you react to Elaine and Desean, they made so much growth.
As someone with anxiety, I hate it when therapist are late.
Are they playing to the cameras? Anyhow it was interesting!
I honestly don’t like how she tried to ask him to answer a topic that she brought up like he is supposed to know then they bash him the whole episode and expect him to sit complacent honestly she needs to open her mouth and communicate just kept asking him questions about his answer to her problem
Like you said at the end she still sitting there feeling like why she came wasn’t resolved she didn’t get her point across she didn’t communicate anything tbh she told him she loves him and is a great husband then goes to say I don’t like u
She knows he’s correct but doesn’t want to be the bad guy simple as that need to separate
I like that hypothesis.
Therapy might really help this man. He should stick with it. And you know what might help Annie? Divorce. Remember, couples therapy should not be an opportunity to heal the trauma of one person at the expense of the happiness of another. Annie needs none of this, and someone should tell her, he has a veeeeery long way to go and he might not even be willing to do the work. It's not her job, girl, move on and find someone healthy and be happy! And leave this man with the healer, there's nothing you can do for him.
The mental abuse Annie endures shows all in her face. Her eyes are puffy and she looks drained/defeated/haggard-while Mau looks much younger, healthy and energized. He's an energy vampire sucking the vibrancy and youth out of her. I hope she left him
They saw some progress? He, he saw some progress. I'm really fed up with healthy people being sacrificed in the name of healing messed up people. No! This man should not be in any relationship until he is ready. He should be working on himself. Free the Annies of the world from this horrible burden!!!
He’s sooooo triggering for me.
Please do a reaction of Grey's Anatomy - Callie and Arizona couple's therapy session
Though it's a fake session, I'm not sure what I feel about that therapist. 😐
what a horrible couple.. 11 sessions sounds like torture for that therapist, who became disengaged. Annie has lost all self worth in the 23 years of engaging with this raging narcissist. sad and pathetic couple and it's annoying that the therapist could not help Annie b/c it was rarely about her.
Projection much, MAU?
What u need kitties
SO many women lament a life that doesn't exist and punish the men they're with for it. "she doesn't really like me" is a conclusion that i hear A LOT.
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Too many woman in this therapy session. If he is the problem, then he needs a male therapist. He may need to live alone and she is forcing him to be with her but in her terms.
I didnt know we could FORCE ppl to be woth us 😂 thats a ridiculous statement. He can leave she can leave they definitely should be seperated. He needs individual therapy but i dont see that goig well with a man for him he needs control he definitely tries to control the female therapist as well. I wouldnt be surprised if he has npd bpd or both
How is she “forcing him”? He’s a grown man and can choose to leave. This entire couple’s therapy is revolved around his issues which is probably indicative of their daily life.
Lots o women in this comments section. Lots of biases.