Don't Be a Gray Man | Former Green Beret

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  • In this video, I discuss the avoidance of standing out. It is not in your best interest to be a Gray Man as a new guy. This is your time to mess up and learn as much as possible. Take advantage of that time by stepping up to the plate as much as you can. Once your new guy time is up the real pressure will be on and you will be ready.
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  • @davidmyhra4931
    @davidmyhra4931 3 ปีที่แล้ว +534

    The gray man is a guy who can move through any crowd and not be noticed.

    • @marlonquintana3466
      @marlonquintana3466 3 ปีที่แล้ว +107

      Been a pro at that with girls since my teens. 😔

    • @jormar6
      @jormar6 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@marlonquintana3466 Lolololololololol!!!!!!

    • @indeedConfirmed
      @indeedConfirmed 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Indeed. I do that without even trying

    • @DvNezarto
      @DvNezarto 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yeah i think he's confusing being a grey man with something else

    • @saucecrawla5498
      @saucecrawla5498 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Now the grey man stands out in a land of woke gay men

  • @DTHRocket
    @DTHRocket 3 ปีที่แล้ว +887

    I thought the concept of "gray man" was more how not to draw attention to yourself in an SHTF situation.

    • @billstopage
      @billstopage 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      You gotta be a leader homie. What he is saying is be a leader, don’t hang out in the shadows. Step up and be elite.

    • @SNAKEEATER1776
      @SNAKEEATER1776 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Stop watching Lucas Botkin. He can only give advice based on HIS experience... which is not a whole lot involving getting shot at.

    • @keyboardwarriorhunter7266
      @keyboardwarriorhunter7266 3 ปีที่แล้ว +92

      Ya but grey man is a pepper thing. I think he's getting it confused with dont be the quiet guy in the team or something like that.

    • @SNAKEEATER1776
      @SNAKEEATER1776 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@keyboardwarriorhunter7266 this channel IS about getting selected and team life. There is no confusion. Buck’s definition is correct.

    • @keyboardwarriorhunter7266
      @keyboardwarriorhunter7266 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @@SNAKEEATER1776 read the comments there's a reason why half of them are talking about preppers.

  • @a_rock_or_something
    @a_rock_or_something 3 ปีที่แล้ว +247

    The gray man is the exact opposite of the guy you see with a grunt style shirt, giant beard, and army tattoos that you can probably assume is obviously carrying a firearm open or concealed

    • @vince11harris
      @vince11harris 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂😂

    • @voltaire5427
      @voltaire5427 3 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      Carry your kit in a "guitar case" with Coexist, Sierra Club, and Bernie stickers. Shave the big beard into a trendy mustache. Trade the F250 in for a Prius. Pretty much ignore lifting and do yoga instead. Rave about feminism and your wife's boyfriend.
      Not a Grey Man, but a true chameleon.

    • @joeyduese
      @joeyduese 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@voltaire5427 lmao I’m dead

    • @jaydavidson4592
      @jaydavidson4592 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@voltaire5427 Planet fitness membership too 🤣😭

    • @voltaire5427
      @voltaire5427 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@jaydavidson4592 Can't guarantee you wouldn't get shot first.

  • @CA.0verview
    @CA.0verview 3 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    What I understood gray man meant was to blend in with population around so you don’t stick out as a obvious easy target.

    • @dalekidd420
      @dalekidd420 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      ...Or an obvious FIRST target. If you happen to be standing in the bank when the robbery occurs, and you're dressed like a poster boy for 5.11, chances are you're getting shot as soon as the perps come through the door... they're going to think you're an off-duty cop.

    • @ThumperThumper-uo9oo
      @ThumperThumper-uo9oo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Exactly you don't want to stand out in Indian county as they say... blend in so you don't stick out in the minds eye. To pass by someone that is looking for a person of interest. To be a ghost a lost faceless being that the mind never remembers

    • @trapperscout2046
      @trapperscout2046 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​@@dalekidd420 Wouldn't being dressed like that be the opposite of being a gray man?

    • @RogerCharlamange
      @RogerCharlamange 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@trapperscout2046 Not really, but kind of. 5.11 clothes are nice, they look like dress clothes for the most part. The material and extra pockets are what make them "tactical" But if someone knows anything about the "tacticool" culture, then they'd know you're probably packing .

    • @jacobroberts2864
      @jacobroberts2864 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      The Gray man concepts isn’t necessarily about not being seen as a threat and dressing normal it’s about being able to be lost in a crowd knowing the environment that you’re inBeing able to carry yourself accordingly being able to walk past someone and I’m not even realize that you passed themYou can be a gray man and we’re tacticool clothes if there are others in that situation that are wearing similar type clothing or if you’re in a city or an area where it’s more well-to-do people make a lot of money there and dressing suits and ties you want to wear that to it’s more about adapting to the environment that you’re inSo as to not be easily remembered or stick out

  • @damonthomas8955
    @damonthomas8955 3 ปีที่แล้ว +123

    Grey man is for when you don't have a team, when you are alone, outnumbered, getting home through hostile lawless territory. It's a good option when the situation is otherwise unwinnable.

    • @damonthomas8955
      @damonthomas8955 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@ninjaw23 I often don't fade into the background very well. I am 6'3", 270, regular clothes, no jewelry, tattoos or wild hair, but people notice and remember me, strangers engage me in conversation. I guess it's just the vibe I put out, whether I want to or not.

    • @Shawnstradamus
      @Shawnstradamus 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I agree. To me it’s a small one shoulder bag with supplies to get home. That’s all. Nothing heroic, just enough stuff to get back to your home.

  • @reynaldorivera7641
    @reynaldorivera7641 3 ปีที่แล้ว +121

    That’s how I did my military career, just kept volunteering for classes, training, and got to go to a lot of cool places, learned a lot. I thought about out of sight and out of mind. Just punch that time card and remain unknown. I made my career good

  • @Steven_DunbarSL
    @Steven_DunbarSL 3 ปีที่แล้ว +173

    Moral of the video: Take advantage of not knowing anything to learn and be humble otherwise when you're expected to perform you won't have the same experience as someone who has learned from their failiures.

    • @Innominat9
      @Innominat9 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very true.

  • @Mel-md6cb
    @Mel-md6cb 3 ปีที่แล้ว +228

    Lol. I’m a grey man in my daily life without even trying. Everyone always forgets they’ve already met me. 😑

    • @Vato-Psyko-Loko
      @Vato-Psyko-Loko 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I'm the opposite. Everybody always remembers my face no matter how hard I try to blend in. It sucks.

    • @thekalamazookid4481
      @thekalamazookid4481 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Who are you again? Lol

    • @knowtheplan472
      @knowtheplan472 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I feel like the opposite, people know my name and I feel like I never even met them till they bring up a past conversation or something. Makes me feel like I have dementia or something

    • @MrLewis91120
      @MrLewis91120 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here!

    • @user-fp8bm4ci3r
      @user-fp8bm4ci3r 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wait... shit man I forgot...- what’s ur name again??? I feel like we’ve met 🤔🤷🏼‍♂️

  • @troypetmecky86
    @troypetmecky86 3 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    I've only heard "Grey Man" in prepper circles. It's usually about how when you're trying to get home or bug out, you don't want attention from opportunists. If you've got gear coming out your ears and have "tactical" stuff, folks are more likely to target you since your gear is the best.
    Similar to "The most dangerous man in the room" being the guy that has a ton of training and experience, but isn't flaunting it.
    While you may be able to spot a guy in military boots from a mile away, most people won't. Same with the pants. They may be obvious to you, but the vast majority of people just see them as pants.
    But great video! Definitely do not want to fly under the radar in your ODA as a new guy

    • @Kaotix_music
      @Kaotix_music 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      yea the best example I give with "gray man theory" is the only way you'd know anything about me ever serving in the Army or what ive done in the army, is because I Brought it up in a conversation. Most people I meet cannot even tell; even weeks after ive known them that I served. But a marine - hell make it known in the first 30 seconds hes a marine and even posts his entire military career with stickers on the back of his truck.

    • @SideWays8Productions
      @SideWays8Productions 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      The grey man theory is nothing but a paradox. The opportunists who will attack at the sight of fancy gucci gear are not the ones you have to worry about because of how harmless they really are, whereas the people who can recognize super secret covert Arcteryx pants and your VertX backpack and Solomon boots are the ones you’re gunna have to worry about, and you just painted yourself as a very worthy target.

    • @troypetmecky86
      @troypetmecky86 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@SideWays8Productions I disagree with it being a paradox. While it's true that some folk might be able to pick out the usual "Grey Man" stuff, like those pants and that backpack, most people won't. And that's the thing, you want to avoid as much attention as possible. Those that are able to pick it out are likely to have their own plans/preps, so they'd be less likely to attack.
      What I'm worried about is Joe Shmoe who just realized that maybe ignoring the problem was a bad idea and is now panic hoarding every piece of gear he can find. It doesn't matter if he's not trained or incredibly fit, because getting into any altercation will draw attention at best and injure you at worst.
      So I agree, the "Grey Man" aesthetic isn't useful against folks in the know, but I'd rather worry about the 1 that knows vs the 100s that don't.

    • @SideWays8Productions
      @SideWays8Productions 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@troypetmecky86 exactly, Grey Man theory only works if 100% of the people you encounter are either harmless or clueless. If even just one person can pick you out of a crowd, they have the element of surprise on you and are likely just as trained.

    • @troypetmecky86
      @troypetmecky86 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@SideWays8Productions I've already responded to that. I'd rather worry about one person who might know rather than hundreds that don't. You'll never be able to be 100% safe, but that's a fact of life. The Grey Man Aesthetic is all about risk mitigation, not risk absolution.
      Additionally, you don't need the pants/backpack for the Grey Man aesthetic. So long as it's something that works for you and you don't stuck out like a sore thumb, you're fine.
      For example, if you're trying to blend in around rural folk, you'd want worker jeans and some form of hat, but if you're on the sea shore, you'd stick out with that getup.
      TLDR: GM is about risk mitigation, not risk absolution. There will always be someone who wants to take everything you have. The less people notice you, the better.

  • @ronwoods1834
    @ronwoods1834 3 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    The gray man approach is more often discussed in prepper and self defense circles. It’s more about not putting a target on your back in self defense or shtf scenarios. There is a time to be covert and a time to be overt.

    • @nattyfeatureseverything6179
      @nattyfeatureseverything6179 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      someones read the art of war high 5

    • @lone189
      @lone189 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      im new to this and im wondering wouldnt being a grey man mean people will try to take advantage of you because you seem like an easy target? because you look so ordinary?

    • @suntzu5836
      @suntzu5836 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nattyfeatureseverything6179 I wrote the book

    • @Osama-Bon-Jovi-01
      @Osama-Bon-Jovi-01 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yeah and that's all valid, but he's talking about not being the grey man in a military unit. You have to stand out and be good at your job if you want the most out of your military career. Obviously when you're in the field, depending on your job, you may need to blend in to your surroundings in order to achieve your objectives, but most jobs in the military aren't this sort of sneaky beaky job 😂

  • @Zuxeh
    @Zuxeh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Don't make videos about concepts you admit you don't understand.

  • @dscheffler
    @dscheffler 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    If I'm not mistaken the term "Gray Man" was used in FM 21-78 (Prisoner of War Resistance: 1981). It has to do with not drawing attention to yourself in a POW camp.

  • @TheJDShowofficial
    @TheJDShowofficial 3 ปีที่แล้ว +261

    Being the grey man is just being the guy that can be counted for everything but doesn’t attempt to highlight himself. The grey man is usually a listener and not a speaker. He is the guy that performs well at his job but not so much to where he outperforms most of the group. The grey man is also not a shitbag he fits perfectly in the middle.

    • @journimorrison9387
      @journimorrison9387 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Like Darryl from walking dead?

    • @d.st.michael4195
      @d.st.michael4195 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@journimorrison9387 Grey man extreme. Lol

    • @darkcat5649
      @darkcat5649 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s basically Friedrich Nietzsche’s “last man”

    • @J1Pa17
      @J1Pa17 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is literally my whole life average to above average

    • @ivanschekoldin7315
      @ivanschekoldin7315 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@journimorrison9387more like be the most boring guy in the room

  • @firearmsolutions46
    @firearmsolutions46 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I think the whole "Gray Man" thing started with SHTF and blending in not drawing attention to yourself while doing recon for food,supplies,intel ect. or just moving from one local to another so your not noticed It has nothing to do with being the NFG in an SOF A team,Ranger, or Seal team

  • @ThePreparednessGuyOfficial
    @ThePreparednessGuyOfficial 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Gray man just means being able to avoid unnecessary attention when the situation dictates. It’s entirely situation dependent, and like we see here, there are times you want to stand out.

    • @ThePreparednessGuyOfficial
      @ThePreparednessGuyOfficial 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      *nothing to do with tactical pants, but that’s sure what people seem to think for some strange reason. 🤷‍♂️

  • @tom_olofsson
    @tom_olofsson 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The State Department uses "grey man" as a description of how to act if your embassy is occupied by a terror group. They suggest you not stand out. Standing out makes you a target. Don't be loud. Don't be flashy. Don't be first. Don't be last. Be part of the crowd. It is a survival strategy.

  • @JamesFromTexas
    @JamesFromTexas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great video! Once I became an NCO the first thing I did when arriving in a new unit was give a class. Make yourself available, step up to the plate, and don't forget about everything you've forgotten.

  • @matthewchapman2909
    @matthewchapman2909 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Nothing like a new video to brighten up a dark day!

    • @gameocalypse6040
      @gameocalypse6040 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Turning a dark day into a gray day 🙃 but seriously, agreed.

    • @80milekyle70
      @80milekyle70 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Are you in Alaska?

  • @NeoSharkey
    @NeoSharkey 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I believe the origin of “grey man” was from Robert Jordan’s “Wheel of Time”, where grey men were soulless assassins who were supernaturally bland, to the point where most people would not notice them standing in front of them.
    The prepper community uses it to try to get the idea across that you should blend in...don’t obviously be the prepared guy in a SHTF situation. Where ever you go, you should look like you belong and not draw attention to yourself.

  • @superman1110
    @superman1110 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great video, I’m shipping out as an 11b in July and I think this video applies not only to SF but also the real army, I’m a guy that worries about making mistakes and failing, and this is really good advice that has given me a bit more confidence. Thanks Buck.

    • @N3wbMa5t3r
      @N3wbMa5t3r 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      This video doesn't apply to the military at all... He means lonewolf not gray man.

  • @Tomlin1132james
    @Tomlin1132james 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Anyone wanting to get involved in Special Operations as a whole should watch these, it's good to know this information. Ive been part of the community for 7 years and it's still good to hear these things so I can (properly) encourage people to try out who are unsure of themselves. Thanks for putting this stuff out there

  • @darrellseike3185
    @darrellseike3185 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The first time I heard of the Gray Man was in SAS literature referring to not calling undo attention to yourself in regards to the enemy. Don't advertise who and what you are to them. It has nothing to do with flying below the radar within your own community.

  • @andrewrice4513
    @andrewrice4513 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The "Gray Man" is a concept we were taught in the Commonwealth version of SERE. I my case it was being reminded to be quiet, fade, dont be visible any more than required..

  • @hankbaez2728
    @hankbaez2728 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Gray man is a British SIS term dubbeb by the Agency to describe deep under cover agents, case officers and or NOCs. A gray man is someone who looks unassuming and blends in with the crowd, but is well equipped for an emergency situation. The term ‘gray man’ (or ‘grey man’ in British English) is used to describe this practice of downplaying one's skillsets and resources. The idea behind the gray man theory is that in crisis situations, there are benefits to going unnoticed and blending in!

  • @slapout9
    @slapout9 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Comes from the 1950's novel "The Man In The Grey Flannel Suit" (also made into a good movie with Gregory Peck) which was all about conforming to the status quo. Hence if your a Grey Man you blend in.

  • @nickkundrat9757
    @nickkundrat9757 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Going into Navy Nurse Corps very soon and I know the corpsman know way more than me. This video helped a lot. Thank you!

  • @mikebridges4749
    @mikebridges4749 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Dude "grey man" refers to being concealed carrying as a civilian in public, or in times of civil unrest...in public.
    Not on duty.

  • @DJNZNZ
    @DJNZNZ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    As Goggins would say “they got that blending in mentality. Stay hard”

  • @squirreltakular9049
    @squirreltakular9049 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Every time I've heard it used was always in the context of "don't look like you have a gun."
    Eg. clothing that people in the area wear, regular haircut, relaxed body language.

  • @albertochavez6709
    @albertochavez6709 3 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Being the gray man is a concept used in selection. You don't want the Cadre to know who you are. You don't want to bring unwanted attention to yourself. That is what it means to be the gray man

    • @gabeflame7803
      @gabeflame7803 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Other former special ops you tubers like Warrior Poet Society talk about it

    • @andrewb325
      @andrewb325 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah I always thought it applied to selection and schools, not when you get to the actual unit.

  • @Kinglymarker8988
    @Kinglymarker8988 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great talk. You are so on point about getting the mistakes out and done early. 20 years ago I was a machine tool/ manufacturing education instructor at a local community college. One year, At the beginning of Fall session,I was handed the syllabi for two management classes. Was told the adjuncts were not brought back, you’re picking up their classes. I walked into that Intro to Supervision class ( full of 40-50 yo olds who just needed the credits) and told them they knew more about real world supervision than I did , and I needed their help. Each week I wanted a SME on the chapter to give a short overview on how they handled the weeks assignment. By the time break time happened, several students came to me to volunteer their help. Class was great, everyone learned from each other, my job became facilitator of the lesson and each student shined in his or her day leading the class. I learned how to be a more effective instructor and made a number of friends along the way.

  • @JayDubb3BCT
    @JayDubb3BCT 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I can't help being a grey man.... I'm old. 😂 This is a very good topic. Closed mouth's don't get fed. Knowledge transfer goes along way in everyday life, let alone the military. Be a sponge. Be safe out there Sean! Keep on keeping on Brother! 🇺🇸🤘🏼

  • @cycliccop
    @cycliccop 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Being the “grey man” only applies to basic, RASP, BUDS, Selection, etc. It is referring to not standing out to the cadre or instructors so you don’t get fucked with and make your situation harder. It is not for when you arrive at regiment or any permanent duty station.

    • @ChiefMason
      @ChiefMason 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are correct 👍🏻

  • @TheAsianOfChaos
    @TheAsianOfChaos 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I’ve always took it as advice when in public, just be the same as everyone else. When your back home with a group of people be as much of a leader as you want but don’t put yourself in a position to get robbed or killed when it’s not needed
    Edit dude.... this concept isn’t supposed to be used for professional settings it’s supposed used for life and death

  • @wilb6657
    @wilb6657 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is a really interesting video. I once watched a documentary on British SAS training, put on by former SAS dudes, where they stressed being the "gray man" in training. Basically, they said that the "gray man" was the dude who did everything expected of them but also didn't mess up alot.

  • @jessecollins6921
    @jessecollins6921 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This advice applies to way more than just military. Excellent!

  • @chrisdimmitt7012
    @chrisdimmitt7012 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I've never heard the Gray Man tern used that way. I always took it as urban camo, blending into an urban environment. Don't be that super tactical dude, all it does is draw attention to yourself that might just put a big target on your back

  • @georgecook5120
    @georgecook5120 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is some of the best career advice I've heard. Buck, you nailed it. Thanks!

  • @Chuck357
    @Chuck357 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    What I look forward to everyday👊 Saw the notification and couldn’t wait to watch

  • @CasualD3d
    @CasualD3d 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Being the "gray man" refers to not standing out in a non permissive environment. To not draw attention to yourself. To blend in with the social environment and not become a target. To basically not look like a "tourist". Dress down and wear neutral colors. But its specific to location, region, environment etc. And not so much in reference to military. Unless you're doing some high clandestine shizzy. Spycraft type stuff.
    Btw i think youre channel is awesome. Thank you for the content!

  • @sgt.grinch3299
    @sgt.grinch3299 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video. This lesson is good for civilian life too. Never wait for it, grab a hold and go for the ride. Stay safe.

  • @outdooroutpost6061
    @outdooroutpost6061 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Buck totally unrelated. But today I found out that the song in “Behind Enemy Lines” when they’re firing up the jet on the aircraft carrier is called “BUCK ROGERS” lmfao

    • @outdooroutpost6061
      @outdooroutpost6061 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      BANGER JAM BTW “Buck Rogers by Feeder”

    • @jamess4351
      @jamess4351 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😆 "she drives a jag-u-ar.. it's got a cd player (echoed)"

  • @chaimaaron7281
    @chaimaaron7281 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very helpful advice, been following your channel since the beginning. I am training to become an Army Chaplain. Completely Different MOS but same ideology. As I progress in my studies I know that it’s time to step up and start sharing knowledge even though I’m still in school. Being the new guy has its advantages because I’m supposed to make mistakes. Having the humility to know you don’t know everything is part of the process! Only blessings! Thank you :)

  • @kickoffwithmaddie717
    @kickoffwithmaddie717 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your content always helps us out and your always so passionate. Really wanna get your book I’m getting it soon!!!

  • @azrielisrael8505
    @azrielisrael8505 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    finally found your 'Gray Man' video bro! you were right!!!! i was reading the comments and the comments are ridiculous..... i was referring to the comment you made on your review on the grey man episode with John (actor guy). Keep Up the Great VIds bro! very insightful!!!!!!!!!!!! you bring it home, every time :D

  • @xavierguzman4812
    @xavierguzman4812 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is a really good video! Best advice any new guy ANYWHERE can use.

  • @rpwbass
    @rpwbass 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks, Buck. This is good advice in many walks of life. Not just in the Green Berets.

  • @kevinicity01
    @kevinicity01 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Man, I love this guy's calm demeanor as he explains stuff. You can tell when people have reached the pinnacle of their professions. You can just tell.

  • @stephenfox2090
    @stephenfox2090 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sounds like exciting stuff on the horizon. Well done, Mr. Rogers.

  • @SMM_NAA
    @SMM_NAA 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This is some of the best advice I've ever heard. Whether its a Green Beret team or a new job, this is wide ranging. Hit it out of the park again, thanks Buck!

  • @jaychoi7569
    @jaychoi7569 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I remember being a fresh outta PLDC E-5 and asking a question to a PL about land nav (which I wasn’t that good at in the beginning until I got reps in during other training cycles and deployments) during an exercise and getting my ass chewed for asking an officer from my PLT Sgt. hahaha. I figured we’re all men here and didn’t see what the problem was. Shit was almost 20 years ago.

  • @thelegendarycamel
    @thelegendarycamel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Soon as I hear that "what's up everybody, welcome back to the FNG academy, Buck her former Green Beret here to help YOU guys get selected" no matter what I'm doing it makes me hyper focused and continues to affirm the ultimate goal of earning that Green Beret at all costs, thanks for the awesome content buck!

  • @princearthurlouispagan9901
    @princearthurlouispagan9901 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent explanation. You have here a new follower of your presentations. Thanks!

  • @DanielRodriguez-yc1jz
    @DanielRodriguez-yc1jz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Hey Buck I think the term of being “the gray man” comes from a lot of prior green berets talking about the best opportunity to get selected during SFAS by not trying to be the first one in every event and showing off to cadre but also not being the last one and the weakest link. Somewhere in the middle is the sweet spot where you can pull your own weight but also not stand out too much. You don’t want cadre knowing your name essentially.

    • @jteeza100
      @jteeza100 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is the definitive definition. Somewhere along the line, packs of filthy L.AR.P.s co-opted the term to apply to being their romanticized version of a current or former operator blending in with civilian life or a "certified-badass" that everyday carries. The whole thing has gone off the rails at this point.

    • @Mel-md6cb
      @Mel-md6cb 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      What was the saying? “The nail that sticks out gets hammered.”

    • @SNAKEEATER1776
      @SNAKEEATER1776 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Have you been selected? That is completely wrong. I’ve seen this ‘gray man’ theory backfire. No one wants a ‘grey man’ on their team, military or civilian alike. We want hard workers and go-getters. Go into selection doing your best. it’ll get noticed for good reason.

  • @tommy2x4
    @tommy2x4 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i can be either...i'm proud to wear my patriotic gear, service i was in, etc...also, i can be the most basic of basic guys that wouldn't bring any attention to myself. HUMINT is a great place to practice being a grey man.

  • @N3wbMa5t3r
    @N3wbMa5t3r 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    No, Gray man is an EDC Prepper term when around town as to not standout so people know you're concealed carrying and have professional training. Gray man cant be used in reference to the teams... That would be a lonewolf or not a team player and those guys never stick around long...

  • @alharrison1038
    @alharrison1038 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Very motivational. This has nothing to do with what a gray man is, which is a (usually solitary) person in a shtf situation that tries to blend in and not draw undo attention to themselves when they are (usually) scavenging or moving out in the open. Nice video. Gray man is a survivalist term for blending in.

  • @Joseph45483
    @Joseph45483 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I don't think gray man is meant for those on a team, but for those in hostile environments needing to blend in and flee a bad situation without drawing attention to himself.
    Gray man and concealed carry makes sense to me.

  • @deplorablebilly1066
    @deplorablebilly1066 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think you’ve taken it out of the context it was meant for,or at least from my understanding.It’s about in the streets after a shtf event,not in a group or team class event.Thank you for your service to our country 🇺🇸

  • @rickyk8254
    @rickyk8254 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You do realize that the teem Grey man refers to avoid drawing attention to yourself in an shtf or civil unrest scenario. It has nothing to do with the military. It is about avoiding attention and potential conflicts.

  • @KyleMeyer949
    @KyleMeyer949 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This video had nothing to do with great man, but everything to do with life. Great job watched right through

  • @morrisdennis
    @morrisdennis 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Seriously I hope u make millions, luv ur channel. Great info...

  • @dylonswiatek
    @dylonswiatek 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    hey buck, it came up when it came to gun stickers on my truck my mentor was like you need to run grey and like my instructor says he does not advertise that he has guns on any of his vehicles yes i love the companies i support and my instructor and my school of marksmanship and i hope to see it grow here in Canada advertisement is less than the states anyways i have some books on the subject and its more about tracking those who go grey. beyond that if someone does need to evade capture or being followed all good information to have on the subject

  • @baylorhubble7113
    @baylorhubble7113 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As far as I know, a "grey man" refers to civilians. It's someone who blends into the general population, but they conceal carry.

  • @outerheavenpaintball
    @outerheavenpaintball 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I wasn't military. Yet, when I was a kid, I wanted to be the 18B (Weapons Sergeant) in a team or try for tier 1 stuff. I'm not sure if this can help anyone, but its been my experience that you've gotta have that passion for something to be able to do it right. Yeah, new guys aren't expected to know shit and the vets will mentor and help where needed. Yet in those kind of teams, leave the ego at home.

  • @jmanj3917
    @jmanj3917 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great advice!

  • @jorgemendez9301
    @jorgemendez9301 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    “Grey man” as far as a civilian. I’ve never heard the “grey man” in the military. Good video bud. Thanks

  • @secondgear6079
    @secondgear6079 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes swagggg, can't wait crushing it as always .thank-you sir Buck

  • @anraegodley-cooper6321
    @anraegodley-cooper6321 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Blessings to you and your family my brother in Arms.

  • @rahulvepuri3448
    @rahulvepuri3448 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Good shit man

  • @ChefJohnCardona
    @ChefJohnCardona 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Outstanding advise that can be transferred to everyday life as well!! Thank you sir!!

  • @SethBeck
    @SethBeck 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Recurrent training is always around the corner for both facilitators and attendees; approaching the training session with humility is a wise course of action. Wise is also this content, Bravo Zulu, Buck.

  • @sandman17100
    @sandman17100 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Absolutely great advice 👍🏼

  • @Ssss16483
    @Ssss16483 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I personally dont care about the grey man idea but I still like the function of having alot of pocket and clothes that won't tear easily and doesn't look to out of place like camo clothes do

  • @tgreen603
    @tgreen603 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I've never heard of a "Gray man". Thanks for definitely making a video about this. And I'll watch out.

    • @RobertMorgan
      @RobertMorgan 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      This is they guy they attack and kill first in The Collapse...as the grey man says nothing and watches. Then goes home undetected to his safety, and laughs.

  • @maxpain1947
    @maxpain1947 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As a former military personnel. Think your confused on what being a grey man is.

  • @davidmelton3704
    @davidmelton3704 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Think I’ve read that “advice” in the context of recommendations on how to pass SAS selection. Maybe check Andy McNab’s books or other SAS books. Been a long time since I read any of those books but I think it was there.

  • @jameswells9140
    @jameswells9140 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    🐐 thank you for your service

  • @Decimus1988
    @Decimus1988 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The way it was explained to me: the "grey man" is someone who doesn't draw unnecessary attention to him/herself. They don't necessarily have to be experts in fighting or combat. They just have a firm grasp on their environment and dress/act accordingly to stay out of trouble. I could be wrong about this though.

  • @ryandickson2224
    @ryandickson2224 ปีที่แล้ว

    was my biggest mistake going through Air Force SERE Specialist Selection. Kept my head down trying to not get noticed and I never made any real bonds with my team. Tried to do it all by myself and my ego caught up with me very quickly as I didn't make it through. Tough lesson to learn but it's helped me a ton in my current career field. Getting ready to submit my packet to try again.

  • @VegaHawk769
    @VegaHawk769 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    If you haven't already, can you do a follow up, covering when to be a 'grey man' and when not ?

  • @rolandosantiago8045
    @rolandosantiago8045 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I’ve only ever heard a bunch of “grey man” advice from a bunch of non SOF Soldiers 🤷‍♂️.

  • @Tacticalboxcutter
    @Tacticalboxcutter 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I don't see anything wrong with being greyman as a prepper. Especially as a civilian. It beats being a hard target without military training.

  • @mikewood3309
    @mikewood3309 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "Grey Man" applies more to surveillance operators in covert or clandestine situations where your presence should not be detected, with the intent of intelligence gathering or monitoring, which applies militarily as well, and is obviously used for SHTF.

  • @HouseOfStupid
    @HouseOfStupid 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Buck, man, I thought at first look the title said 'gay, 'not 'grey', and I thought ah hell, there goes one of my favorite youtubers!

  • @andrewb325
    @andrewb325 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I always take the approach that the first three weeks at a new unit will determine how the rest of your time there goes. Hit the ground running and that initial effort to make a good impression always pays off down the road. On the flip side a bad first impression will stick with you and be difficult to live down. I also keep my mouth shut and roger up until I can see that my input is wanted.

  • @kalrodwick
    @kalrodwick 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Grey man as I've heard it is mostly for civilians or low vis ops over seas. It's for when you don't want to be picked out of a crowd. As a concealed carrier I obviously don't want to be noticed. I drive a standard SUV that can carry all of my guns and armour (private security) and most people wouldn't target the car cuz it looks empty.

  • @darenkroon661
    @darenkroon661 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    When you show up to the team, be in shape. In language school it is easy to relax on your pt. Don't do that, do what you have to in order to stay in shape.

  • @wranglerjeepdogs906
    @wranglerjeepdogs906 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    There is a time and place for gray man and a time for drawing attention. Im in my 50's and been a long time since I went on a long walk with a heavy pack. But I have spent my life working in the ER. It would be stupid for me to talk tactics now with a Marine but as a Corpsman I have carried a few to a safer place (decades ago). It would be just as bad for a green infantry man to tell me what to do in my ER. Knowing when to be a gray man has its place. "Better to let someone think your a fool than open your mouth and confirm it"

    • @RobertMorgan
      @RobertMorgan 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Being a grey man would involve you seeing someone getting hurt and pretending you have no clue what to do or how to help, because in the situation in which you would need to employ grey man tactics, you show others you might not be friendly with you have medical training, you're now a hostage. You'll be THEIR medic, or they'll kill you if you refuse.
      You'll be taken from your group/loved ones and they will lose the value of your skills, because someone willing to use more force will want your skills.
      Think of it like actual servicemen who work sensitive positions, my late Brother in Law as a good example: He worked signals intelligence, when he was on active duty employment in Turkey, he was under orders to not be captured, even if that meant taking his own life, as the knowledge he possessed was THAT valuable to our enemies. Don't draw attention to yourself unless you want attention, and usually it's not they kind of attention you want.

  • @bearieroblox6451
    @bearieroblox6451 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Conventional army here, I tried being the gray man for a while and now I’m paying the price, don’t get discouraged or embarrassed when people demean you for being highspeed because in the end those are the individuals who succeed many many people will belittle you for it, and whether they know it or not it’s because they lacked the courage to step up. Because when you step up you make yourself vulnerable, but it’s accepting that fact and facing the challenges head on while being vulnerable which set you apart, it’s what set apart the elite from the common. Obviously you still need to learn how to be a good follower before you can be a good leader so that means not overstepping your boundaries too much. Just the slightest bit. Just a bit more than you are obligated and so that you are noticed but not too much where your leadership thinks you are trying to take their job.

  • @spencercaldwell2091
    @spencercaldwell2091 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is healthy in the proper application. 👏

  • @paulwinterscheidt
    @paulwinterscheidt 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As a cop with 20yrs on the job, I've seen the worst of our society for a good chunk of my life. If SHTF, do everything you can to avoid making yourself a target. Blend into the crowd, and get where you're going. You're not going to win every gunfight.

  • @Austin-lt2bu
    @Austin-lt2bu 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great vid buck. I’m gonna be 17 in a few weeks preparing to join the marines and become a raider in the next few years. Maybe I can meet you one day much love from Cali ✌️

  • @THEANPHROPY
    @THEANPHROPY 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A: "grey man" is a person that does NOT stand-out in an environment e.g. crowds. A univeral grey man will be able to adapt to any environment through being observant & or informbed & changing: attire; body language; skin tone, skin colour, accent.

  • @mattysee24
    @mattysee24 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Words never spoken: I want youtube channel swag.

  • @LK-bz9sk
    @LK-bz9sk 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Congrats on the new projects 👌🏼

  • @aaronlee8687
    @aaronlee8687 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This really helps put things into perspective !

  • @lawterian
    @lawterian 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I don’t think you’ve done any research into this but “Gray man” is a covert tactic to bug out an urban environment, whether you’re operator or civilian. It’s done via the use of plain gray/neutral clothes that don’t draw attention.

  • @esfowle
    @esfowle 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Never seen this channel before, never seen you before. That being said, you definitely need to look into what the greyman concept is all about. This is not for active duty personnel in an active theater.
    The base concept of being the greyman is to not be the person being noticed or drawing attention to themselves in a crisis or SHTF situation. Hypothetically, in a "grid down" situation where there is a breakdown of society in either a temporary or permanent manner, you don't want to be the nail that sticks up to be noticed. This means don't be the guy in tactical pants with combat boots if everyone else is in torn jeans and t-shirts looking dirty and hungry.
    Why? Because if you look healthy, well fed, and like you might have a weapon, you may become the target of the starving crowd. It doesn't matter how Operator you are if you only have one gun, one reload, and no supporting troops to back you up in a bad situation. You will be hammered if you are the nail that sticks up.
    Blend onto your surroundings(the crowd), gather the intel needed to make the right decisions for you or your group so you can act in a manner in which will increase your survivability long term. Operating in a covert or clandestine manner has it's place, even in the military, and it is not done waiving an American Flag in a hostile theater wearing full battle fatigues in full battle rattle.
    Understanding that the hostile theater just might become your neighborhood grocery store is what the concept of greyman is about, and understanding how to not draw unwanted attention to yourself.

  • @Rockit-
    @Rockit- 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Agree with what you are saying but for me, being a gray man is just not drawing attention to yourself in a crowd or a place by what you wear and act