I don’t think Melissa speaks like a woman scorned. I think she speaks like a woman advocating. I recognize it cus I do the same. Folk ain’t always gotta be hurt to speak against the bs.
I used to be a huge fan of a relationship ministry until I realized it was more about grooming you to be a wife vs grooming you to be closer to Christ. It’s absolutely predatory & aiming to appeal to what you’re insecure about or lack. Spot on.
His apology, co-starring his wife, is reminiscent of whenever a male politician is caught in some sex scandal or affair, and they stand by this stoic, emotionally frozen woman while they issue a face-saving statement to the public.
@@Amberrechelle I just started to feel a bit overwhelmed and hopeless. That made me realize that their message wasn't right. When you hear them tell their story, you realize that they were not perfect when they got married. They had some issues to grow from. But, they turn around and tell single women that they haven't found a husband b/c of this or that issue in the woman's life. " "Y'all need to lose weight, get your finances together, be more feminine, grow your hair long, be super deep with the Lord, you got too many kids..." It's spiritual legalism.
@@Indigolily80 yes yes yea yea yea !!!! Like it’s very overwhelming and the message is not even beneficial for most women !!! This message keeps women longer and makes women feel like they have to adhere to this false perfectionism to be desirable to a man !!!! It’s all a lie . At the end of the day we all have flaws and issues that we WILLL carry into our relationship... as long as we are willing to work on em ..., that’s all that matters ... find love, and be happy
Melissa admitting that her full time job would be trolling Kev... it’s my favorite thing this week. Liss is not tryna be the bigger person... she bout to be infinitesimal. I’m here for it.
I think that his wife’s presence in the apology was a calculated distraction- probably on his part. Discussion has been more about her than the veracity and emotional resonance of the apology. Speaking in the third person is weird.
The conversation would be mostly about her no matter what because we live in a patriarchal society that loves to be entertained and amused at the expense of black women, meanwhile turning a blind eye to the wrongdoing of black men. Had she been all dolled up everyone would have been criticizing her for being dressed up just to hear her man talk about cheating on her. I’m not sure what ppl expected her to look like. Her and Derrick were both dressed casual in the video, so why is everyone being critical of how she looks as if that matters? It’s very sad that our society would rather have a laugh at a black women who is obviously on the edge and in distress rather than be concerned for and sympathetic to her. At this point the jokes about her looks aren’t funny. She should be given grace because based on her IG posts, she is clearly a deeply depressed person and possibly suffering from other mental health issues.
Cerise Medina hmm I would’ve agreed with you if I hadn’t been through her Instagram page....mannn she is broken BROKEN and has been THROUGH ITTTTT...I’m sad for her...you should go through her page, it’s heartbreaking...
Since this seems like a safe space. I will say Kev brought me here but I stay for Liss. I Stan a supportive queen who knows if it wasn’t for her there would be. no. him. #humblehim #showhimwhoooyouareeee
So I have to agree with Melissa and Kevin when they say that have no clue how to help single people navigate the current single experience because they've only known each other. My mother (may God bless her and keep her) has been with my father since she was 12 years old then married him at 16, that was 46 years ago! She constantly gives me advice that would make me the perfect prey to an absolute monster(Like Chris is to Paige MAFS). In other words I appreciate that these two understand that they have no experience in the current dating world and choose not to act like they have all of the answers.
Have y’all though about doing a show like The Real with Melissa, Dani, Angel, and Rebecca? I think it would be an amazing show with different viewpoints!!
I was talking out loud during this episode bc I get sooo irritated with so-called relationship gurus who target women. Then, here comes Melissa addressing all my issues!😁👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
And we alll trolls right with you Liss Liss! I watched this on Patreon already, and watching it again, you know, in case Kev ever lose his DAYUM mind and we gotta squad up on dat azz!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
SLOW CLAP for Melissa on the gems she was dropping for this episode 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Melissa said, “The condescending narrative infuses a message that you can’t live a full happy complete life as being single and so you need to be working toward this end (of marriage)” “It is predatory to capitalize on the feelings of the single women who we have socialize to aspire to marriage and exploit those feelings for profit it is predatory” “Just because your husband is saved doesn’t make him any less of an F boy” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I am over the devoted wife standing by her man holding his hand while he apologize for his foolishness. Cause I have NEVER seen a man sitting beside his woman holding her hand while she publicly apologized for sleeping with multiple other humans. KEEP THAT SAME ENERGY, MEN!
I am a happily married woman. 20 years in the marriage game. I am a Christian woman and I love the Lord and my husband. But GIRL.... If my hubby EVER stepped out, even if I decided to work things out with him and stay... you better believe that I would NOT be standing/sitting with him holding his hand while he confesses it publicly. I wasn't with you when cheated, and I won't be with you when you're airing out that nasty laundry. No sir, no ma'am! We can talk and see IF I want work things out after all that, but I'm not gonna be humiliated even more when you get caught.
@@ericafielder8134 while I believe some men would definitely leave; maybe most men. I actually know a few men that have been faithful to their wives and families, and their wives cheated and the men did stay. And the couples are all still together today. Cheating goes both ways as well as forgiveness and restoration goes both ways. It's not only men who cheat and it's not only women who forgive and stay.
Will Smith was there for Jada when she explained her situation (last year). Matter of fact, Will made her admit she had a relationship with another man instead of an entanglement.
A WHOLE ENTIRE WORD!!! Minute 25:05 „In these scenarios where you say you love me, but the measurement of love is how I'm willing to put up with your mess?!“ 🤯🙌🏾
I laughed so hard for Melissa's pettiness 🤣🤣🤣 please give Josh and Rebecca mics in your videos because they add so much more hilarious commentary. I know it shouldn't be funny but the way they egged on Melissa's pettiness and trolled Kevin. 🤣🤣🤣 Love the dynamic between you'll. You can see you'll have a great relationship even outside work with some of the inside jokes
I was looking for this comment, or I was going to make it myself!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾🎤🎤🎤 Mic the sidekicks, train them to have their own shows in a few years!!!
Thank you Liss!!! I hate when i get lectured about my singleness! I appreciate my singleness and will take some advice if needed but everyone is different and most importantly these are different times.
Chile the Derrick Jaxn story has morphed into something deeper, darker grimier and just plain uglier than a husband cheating on his wife. I consumed some of the wife's IG content and had to immediately sage my spirit and look at a comedy show to get back right!
If I could like this video 1000 times I would. Women are often taught and encouraged to date and love a man around his pathology, while being told she needs to be a laundry list of things to make him happy. This is why most divorces are initiated by women, that kind of life isn't sustainable for two human beings trying to love each other and get through life as best they can. In terms of men giving women dating and love advice, I think this is because many women have internalized the belief that men know better, and that finding the right mate is about needing to understand men. So, who better to help with this than a man? I don't agree with this, but this is how many women think. I was a Dating + Love Coach for 10 years, well before many of these social media gurus popped up, and it always surprised me how many women flocked to the advice men were giving. I always thought men should be talking to other men about dating and relationships, but they don't talk to single men because they aren't listening. All of this is exacerbated by the fact that there are so many black women who are single and don't want to be. And people take advantage of this deeply painful, complicated struggle.
Ma'am you are spot on with this. I would like to add that listening to men give advice also comes from men giving advice from the pulpit. Many black women have been raised in faith traditions where men are the spiritual leaders. As a result it becomes a habit to listen to men especially when there is a 'faith based' component. Although I understand about hearing a male perspective I don't agree with listening to these 'male gurus' only. I'm glad to hear you are an OG in this. I hope you continue to coach because women need to hear from women whether they know it or not.
I just told someone we all made the mistake of assuming he was giving advice from the point of view of the good husband but actually it was from the point of view of the man he was telling ladies to avoid. That man was him.
I almost feel like Derrick was anticipating this becoming public bc if I'm not mistaken he had a WHOLE book ready tht he was marketing while filming his so called accountability video.
He gave another woman a gag order because he does not want this info out. This is not a conspiracy guys and it’s weird to me that anyone would think that. The timing of his cheating scandal and his book release is a coincidence. Him being revealed as a cheater does not help his career, it makes him lose credibility because he was now revealed to be a fraud. Tasha k released another video with another mistress of his just last night.
@@876me7 coincidence maybe maybe not but again he knew it was a matter of time is what I'm saying... why wait until you get caught to market your book about cheating 🤔🤣
Lol I agree.. My husband and I have been together since we were 17 and got married at 22 and we are now 30. I tell ppl all the time if you want to talk about marriage I’m with you but I can not talk to you about singleness bc I have never really been a single adult.
And I’m glad that you are aware of that and can be honest. Some people have the “I’ve been married fifty-leven years, this is what you need to do.” I’m always looking at those people twice.
Thank y’all for keeping it 💯 on not giving singles advice👏🏾👏🏾 my married cousin have been married since high school as well and when they be trying to tell me something I be like this 👀 Wait! What👀 please 🤫
When Lis spoke on how its predatory that we socialize women to look at marriage as the goal then exploit their feelings about it for profit....i shouted....you better preach Rev Dr Mrs Kevonstage.
Getting all dolled up and dressed up just to sit next to your husband and listen to him talk about cheating on you doesn’t make sense to me at all. She was dressed casually and so was he. I’m not sure why ppl expected her to look like she was going clubbing. To me, it’s not relevant at all how she looks.
@@876me7 exactly! 💯 her getting dolled up isnt going to erase the cheating and embarrassment. People would have been still clowning her even if she did dress up because people love to revel in the abuse of a woman.
It is not a wife's job to defend her husband's bad behavior in an attempt to save his image - especially when it exposes her to unnecessary scrutiny and public humiliation. A husband is supposed to cover (protect) his wife. PERIOD!
I watched the "Stand by your man" apology. I focused on the wife and she looked empty, afraid and depressed. I can't imagine being her right now. If she stays or leaves, my prayers are with her.✌️
What I dont get is, if he protected his wife from the world for 4 years, when things were 'good' and she would have been susceptible to the trolls of the internet,...why would he bring her out and the height of something like that, and expose her at this point. Why didn't he protect her when it mattered most?
Exactly. I don't think he was ever "protecting" her, he was hiding her. Many people did not even know he was married UNTIL LAST WEEK! I think that was very calculated on his part.
"I'm so happy I found you even though I found him wrong" 😅🤣😂🤣😅🤣😂 Melissa meant Errrrrrrrrrr WORD about that hypothetical break-up! Meanwhile Kev sittin there tryin to figure out what gift to give her just bc its Wednesday.
I totally agree that there are often conferences, books and conversations about how women can be better girlfriends and wives but no conversation about how men can be better. This topic has been a challenge for me for years and frustrates me. I believe that these conversations and presentations are predatory. Women are expected to turn themselves inside out, identify all the red flags, be a sex kitten and have the highest moral standards. If she doesn't fit the standards she is judged and treated poorly. While men are expected to just be themselves without judgement.
Just a small note - Yes, there is a companion book to 'The Power of a Praying Wife'. it's 'The Power of a Praying Husband', and is part of the author's Power of Praying series. But I get what Liss is saying.
This is why I stopped following Ashley Empowers and Heather Lindsey. I cant stand the pandering to the single women. Stop trying to sell me Jesus by telling me if I love Jesus I can get a husband and be a high earning house wife. Girl goodbye!
I agree with you Liss, the burden of the relationship is ALWAYS placed on the woman and women have been conditioned to take that responsibility even if/when we know it's not warranted. Also yes, there is a book Power of a Praying Husband...but men don't read it, and you never hear about it. Hm... something else women are responsible for (or take responsibility for) but don't get credit for... the husband's spirituality...whew! I'm tired boss...
Melissa is preaching here! I often tell people women can't help if they get married or have children, but we can control if we are good people. It's ridiculous that in the year of our Lord 2021 women are still considered self actualized only when married with children. AND some of the relationship gurus stay putting the onus on women to not only be a "worthy" women but we have to tolerate and fix these men.
This man just slept with someone last week. He probably should have handle this in private instead of trying do damage control. I feel bad for his wife, like he really made her look like Paige. I can only imagine how she is feeling hearing about more women as recent as last week.
Worse than Paige in my opinion. Chris and Paige were strangers. His F-Boyness was at least new to her, and they were participating in an experiment. The other two have a long-standing history. They ‘allegedly’ overcame a lot to even get to the altar, and still.... this is what she ended up with. She should’ve let him do damage control the same way he did the damage; without her.
What got me is the number of times they brought God into his change of behavior and then their healing. I believe it for her, but I am going to have to see him continue to walk with God for a long time to believe him.
My good sis Lissa went in and I love her for it all the more. So many good quotes and a perspective that I personally align with from men targeting women to give relationship advice being predatory, to saying you love me but giving the intimacy elsewhere, to saved men having the ability to be f-boys... *queue applause*
Predators seek out weakness. And then exploit. Melissa hit it directly. 🎯🎯🎯 Oh he gave good advice. So good, you can literally replay it to point out his current behavior and manipulations. Melissa troll rant at the end with the peanut gallery was chef’s kiss 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. I had to watch it twice.
THANK YOU, Melissa for being considerate and honest about married people giving advice to single women. I have had these same thoughts over the last few years. I would also like for married people who were not abstinent when they were dating their future spouse to stop trying to convince single people that they should still uphold "purity" in dating even though the married couple themselves didn't. They are on youtube telling women to do something that they weren't even able to accomplish.
Yes! married relationship "gurus" need to STOP telling singles to abstain while they get to go home and be knocked down by their husbands!! 😂 leave us alone
@@Carter83Aly They have no idea what it is like to be in your prime years of 20's and 30's without affection or sex. On top of that they want to take away the one outlet that a single person has, masturbation. My mom and dad divorced at 35 years of marriage. Ten years after the divorce, my mom stated that she realizes now that "we married women did not know what we were talking about." My mom now realizes that that dating and single life has its own challenges, too. About 5 years ago, at age 35, I started to get irritated about the advice being given by women who had been married since they were 18 to 25. That time period is easy to wait and hope for a husband. But as the years passed and I hit 35, that's when one starts thinking "maybe marriage is not going to happen for me."
Listen I was hollering and shouting at the screen! Liss went in on this topic 🔥, she's in her bag. Her saying women are groomed to be wives & it's predatory, felt that in my spirit - I love this podcast 😃
He owned it. Even though they said it was her idea to go live, I don't think she was ready but he probably said we have to hop on this damage control. So she said alright, let's get it over with and just did it. I don't think they should have went in on her either.
Derrick Jaxn's angle was teaching women not to settle and hipping them to the games men plan, and he was able to do that (we really see now) because he was playing those games but he bought his own hype by being Self Righteous in how he didn't compared himself to "other black men" who were hurting women. #NarcissisticBehavior. #HeAintDoneHurtingHer
This woman is hilarious "I sleep fine... I troll all day and I clock out" 😭😭😭 She said "I'm so happy I found you even though I found him wrong" SCRIMMIN
Kev just sitting there listening to Melissa’s pettiness plan was hilarious. Mans had to ask hold on now have you thought about this. This a little too real right now 😂😂😂😂
This just goes to show you what ever is done in the dark will definitely come to light 💡 Melissa girrrrl you are on 🔥 fire they will use God in a minute 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
From what I've seen, men online are not into self improvement videos (outside of working out, and p i m ping) so advising them on relationship doesn't bring $$
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I don’t think Melissa speaks like a woman scorned. I think she speaks like a woman advocating. I recognize it cus I do the same. Folk ain’t always gotta be hurt to speak against the bs.
Yh, I completely agree. I do the same😌
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I agree
Leave it to Melissa to bring it to a "when they go low, we go high", classy, spiritual, therapeutic place.
Agreed! 💯
I used to be a huge fan of a relationship ministry until I realized it was more about grooming you to be a wife vs grooming you to be closer to Christ. It’s absolutely predatory & aiming to appeal to what you’re insecure about or lack. Spot on.
Oooo a word
I don't quite understand what you mean. Closer to Christ as a couple?
Amen!!! I’ve been trying to find a way to articulate how I felt about the single woman grooming in churches.
@The Free Journey gugggig
@The Free Journey gugugugigu
🗣 YAAAAASSS LYS!!!! “Just because your husband is saved doesn’t make him any less of an f-boy!” PREEEAAACCCCHHHH
The way I felt that in my spiriT!
SAY IT ONE MORE TIME!!
Drop the mic Melissa!!!
I tell you some of them saved men with titles are WORSE than non saved men.
Let the church sayyyyy...amen!
His apology, co-starring his wife, is reminiscent of whenever a male politician is caught in some sex scandal or affair, and they stand by this stoic, emotionally frozen woman while they issue a face-saving statement to the public.
Yes which was even more narcissistic!!
AUNTIE MELISAAAAAA SAY IT AGAIN!!! married ppl stay outta single ppl business
Liss: “Just because your husband is saved, doesn’t mean he is not a F-boy”🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
IT WAS THAT FOR ME!!!
It’s worth questioning though
😂😂I almost threw my phone when she said that 🤣👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Any LESS than a Fboy...listen that was a full sentence.
40:17 The real title of this video should have been "Just Because your Husband is saved doesn't make him any less of an F-Boy."
Absolutely!!! It is predatory to “prepare” women to be perfect wives for men who are still unfaithful and abusive
A word!
And for men who don’t want even get MARRIED
LISTENNN NOWWWWWWWWWWWW !!!! Talk about these conferences that’s making being single more complicated than it needs to be !!!!! ITS PREDATORY
AMEN! They preach to women that they have to have every area of her life just right to be eligible for marrige.
@@Indigolily80 RIGHT !!!! like noooo!!!!
@@Amberrechelle I just started to feel a bit overwhelmed and hopeless. That made me realize that their message wasn't right. When you hear them tell their story, you realize that they were not perfect when they got married. They had some issues to grow from.
But, they turn around and tell single women that they haven't found a husband b/c of this or that issue in the woman's life. " "Y'all need to lose weight, get your finances together, be more feminine, grow your hair long, be super deep with the Lord, you got too many kids..."
It's spiritual legalism.
@@Indigolily80 yes yes yea yea yea !!!! Like it’s very overwhelming and the message is not even beneficial for most women !!!
This message keeps women longer and makes women feel like they have to adhere to this false perfectionism to be desirable to a man !!!! It’s all a lie .
At the end of the day we all have flaws and issues that we WILLL carry into our relationship... as long as we are willing to work on em ..., that’s all that matters ... find love, and be happy
I’m not praying for them so im not even gone lie to yall 🤣😭😂 the realest ever. I Love the Love Hour
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This!
Exactly. Just like I wasn’t “praying for” John Gray...praying for whet???
I really respect you keeping it real and not being Hypocritical. Yea, won’t have to go to hell for telling that lie!
This is the day I found out Liss is more petty than Kev.... MUCH MORE PETTY 😂😂!!!
Melissa admitting that her full time job would be trolling Kev... it’s my favorite thing this week. Liss is not tryna be the bigger person... she bout to be infinitesimal. I’m here for it.
yooooo!!!!! I'm over here ROLLING
I think that his wife’s presence in the apology was a calculated distraction- probably on his part. Discussion has been more about her than the veracity and emotional resonance of the apology. Speaking in the third person is weird.
The conversation would be mostly about her no matter what because we live in a patriarchal society that loves to be entertained and amused at the expense of black women, meanwhile turning a blind eye to the wrongdoing of black men. Had she been all dolled up everyone would have been criticizing her for being dressed up just to hear her man talk about cheating on her. I’m not sure what ppl expected her to look like. Her and Derrick were both dressed casual in the video, so why is everyone being critical of how she looks as if that matters? It’s very sad that our society would rather have a laugh at a black women who is obviously on the edge and in distress rather than be concerned for and sympathetic to her. At this point the jokes about her looks aren’t funny. She should be given grace because based on her IG posts, she is clearly a deeply depressed person and possibly suffering from other mental health issues.
Totally agree. We got so caught up with her
looking a hot mess that it was a distraction from him cheating
Cerise Medina hmm I would’ve agreed with you if I hadn’t been through her Instagram page....mannn she is broken BROKEN and has been THROUGH ITTTTT...I’m sad for her...you should go through her page, it’s heartbreaking...
Melissa’s exit strategy is hilarious! 🤣🤣
Since this seems like a safe space. I will say Kev brought me here but I stay for Liss. I Stan a supportive queen who knows if it wasn’t for her there would be. no. him. #humblehim #showhimwhoooyouareeee
SAME!
THIS!
That part!👏🏾👏🏾
Liss and Angel is why I have the app. Kev cool though lol 😂
Melissa said she gonna troll and get paid. I ain't even mad 😂😂😂😂
So I have to agree with Melissa and Kevin when they say that have no clue how to help single people navigate the current single experience because they've only known each other. My mother (may God bless her and keep her) has been with my father since she was 12 years old then married him at 16, that was 46 years ago! She constantly gives me advice that would make me the perfect prey to an absolute monster(Like Chris is to Paige MAFS). In other words I appreciate that these two understand that they have no experience in the current dating world and choose not to act like they have all of the answers.
Damn Liss has a whole exit plan. Kev looks shook. You have been warned sir 😂😂
“You got walls up for other people”
"A smart person learns from their own mistakes. A wise person learns from other peoples mistakes."
That got me hollering 😂😂😂😂. We shouldn't only learn from our mistakes or experiences but others' as well.
Have y’all though about doing a show like The Real with Melissa, Dani, Angel, and Rebecca? I think it would be an amazing show with different viewpoints!!
GIRL YEEEEEEEEEEEESSSS!!!!! They need to put you on the payroll. The Real ain't cutting it. I'd love to see some real views from real black women.
You’re on to something!!!
I was talking out loud during this episode bc I get sooo irritated with so-called relationship gurus who target women. Then, here comes Melissa addressing all my issues!😁👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yes!!!! Until they start talking to these clown a*s men and teaching them how to be husbands they need to leave us ALONE! I pay them all dust!
And we alll trolls right with you Liss Liss! I watched this on Patreon already, and watching it again, you know, in case Kev ever lose his DAYUM mind and we gotta squad up on dat azz!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It ain’t love when intimacy is given to another woman!!!! This is truth!!
SLOW CLAP for Melissa on the gems she was dropping for this episode 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Melissa said,
“The condescending narrative infuses a message that you can’t live a full happy complete life as being single and so you need to be working toward this end (of marriage)”
“It is predatory to capitalize on the feelings of the single women who we have socialize to aspire to marriage and exploit those feelings for profit it is predatory”
“Just because your husband is saved doesn’t make him any less of an F boy”
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Yo...kev don't think this is funny! The fact that Melissa came up with a 10 point divorce vision on the fly...he's rethinking life right now. 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂 Facts!
He better tread *lightly* ✋🏾🥲
IMO, that was the realest exchange. He said have you though about this?! She said “No! It’s what’s IN ME!!!” I felt that!!!
You could see it in his eyes. He was shook! He wasn't going to cheat anyway but she still scared him a little.
@@brandiwilliams1813 it was...because I am liss! 🤣🤣🤣
I am over the devoted wife standing by her man holding his hand while he apologize for his foolishness. Cause I have NEVER seen a man sitting beside his woman holding her hand while she publicly apologized for sleeping with multiple other humans. KEEP THAT SAME ENERGY, MEN!
I am a happily married woman. 20 years in the marriage game. I am a Christian woman and I love the Lord and my husband. But GIRL.... If my hubby EVER stepped out, even if I decided to work things out with him and stay... you better believe that I would NOT be standing/sitting with him holding his hand while he confesses it publicly. I wasn't with you when cheated, and I won't be with you when you're airing out that nasty laundry. No sir, no ma'am! We can talk and see IF I want work things out after all that, but I'm not gonna be humiliated even more when you get caught.
The men would be out if women cheated. Their lil fragile ego would be hurt and can't get past it but yall quick to ask women to forgive the bs...
@@ericafielder8134 while I believe some men would definitely leave; maybe most men. I actually know a few men that have been faithful to their wives and families, and their wives cheated and the men did stay. And the couples are all still together today. Cheating goes both ways as well as forgiveness and restoration goes both ways. It's not only men who cheat and it's not only women who forgive and stay.
Will Smith was there for Jada when she explained her situation (last year). Matter of fact, Will made her admit she had a relationship with another man instead of an entanglement.
@@prudencek7087 publicly though?
I feel like he purposely had her dress down to provide some sort of excuse as to why he cheated. He is a classic Narcissist.
But she did so....
I think so too
She addressed this on her Instagram. You can find the video on TH-cam.
It's also our patriarchal society that tells us there's something wrong with a woman if she isn't married....
A WHOLE ENTIRE WORD!!!
Minute 25:05
„In these scenarios where you say you love me, but the measurement of love is how I'm willing to put up with your mess?!“
🤯🙌🏾
“I have to be petty. That’s gonna consume all of my time.” - Melissa aka Missy, 3:16
I laughed so hard for Melissa's pettiness 🤣🤣🤣 please give Josh and Rebecca mics in your videos because they add so much more hilarious commentary. I know it shouldn't be funny but the way they egged on Melissa's pettiness and trolled Kevin. 🤣🤣🤣 Love the dynamic between you'll. You can see you'll have a great relationship even outside work with some of the inside jokes
I agree they need mics.
I was looking for this comment, or I was going to make it myself!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾🎤🎤🎤 Mic the sidekicks, train them to have their own shows in a few years!!!
The wife said ... you see a bonnet, I see the helmet of salvation. 🤷🏾♀️
She went wrong then..The helmet of salvation is the word of God, the Bible.
😆 🤣 😂
I tried so hard not to laugh at that but Sis sounded so brainwashed it was a nervous laughter. 😅 it was almost like a parody smh
Thank you Liss!!! I hate when i get lectured about my singleness! I appreciate my singleness and will take some advice if needed but everyone is different and most importantly these are different times.
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I hope everyone has voted for KevOnStage for the NAACP Image Awards there’s only 2 days left!
Where do you vote? 🤔
Where and how you do it???
@@virtuouzgirl8328 it’s in his bio on Instagram
@@malditaseantia4307 it’s in his bio on Instagram
Yes!!!
Chile the Derrick Jaxn story has morphed into something deeper, darker grimier and just plain uglier than a husband cheating on his wife. I consumed some of the wife's IG content and had to immediately sage my spirit and look at a comedy show to get back right!
That poor young lady is a walking dead spirit....there is NO life in her eyes😔 Sis been broken a long time. I hope she gets some real therapy.
I don't know if you meant it to be funny but I'm laughing with tears at this comment. Thank you ☺️.
@@konige-tochteru.9295 Yes it was meant to be funny...and true. lol
IF THIS EPISODE DIDN'T DO NOTHING ELSE ON TODAY, IT PREACHED! DO YOU HEAR ME WHAT I SAID!? I DETECT NO LIES IN NAAN PART OF THIS EPISODE!
Currently 4 minutes in waiting to listen to Liss
If I could like this video 1000 times I would. Women are often taught and encouraged to date and love a man around his pathology, while being told she needs to be a laundry list of things to make him happy. This is why most divorces are initiated by women, that kind of life isn't sustainable for two human beings trying to love each other and get through life as best they can. In terms of men giving women dating and love advice, I think this is because many women have internalized the belief that men know better, and that finding the right mate is about needing to understand men. So, who better to help with this than a man? I don't agree with this, but this is how many women think. I was a Dating + Love Coach for 10 years, well before many of these social media gurus popped up, and it always surprised me how many women flocked to the advice men were giving. I always thought men should be talking to other men about dating and relationships, but they don't talk to single men because they aren't listening. All of this is exacerbated by the fact that there are so many black women who are single and don't want to be. And people take advantage of this deeply painful, complicated struggle.
Ma'am you are spot on with this. I would like to add that listening to men give advice also comes from men giving advice from the pulpit. Many black women have been raised in faith traditions where men are the spiritual leaders. As a result it becomes a habit to listen to men especially when there is a 'faith based' component. Although I understand about hearing a male perspective I don't agree with listening to these 'male gurus' only. I'm glad to hear you are an OG in this. I hope you continue to coach because women need to hear from women whether they know it or not.
Both of your comments are so spot on.
The blood of Jesus doesn’t absolve you of accountability, yes Liss...speak on it!!!
I just told someone we all made the mistake of assuming he was giving advice from the point of view of the good husband but actually it was from the point of view of the man he was telling ladies to avoid. That man was him.
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I almost feel like Derrick was anticipating this becoming public bc if I'm not mistaken he had a WHOLE book ready tht he was marketing while filming his so called accountability video.
It wouldn't be surprising if he asked his mistresses to go public. Free publicity for his book...
@@maameyaa7053 I said the same thing cause whare the side chick's been at since this dropped they haven't said another peep
He gave another woman a gag order because he does not want this info out. This is not a conspiracy guys and it’s weird to me that anyone would think that. The timing of his cheating scandal and his book release is a coincidence. Him being revealed as a cheater does not help his career, it makes him lose credibility because he was now revealed to be a fraud. Tasha k released another video with another mistress of his just last night.
Yup
@@876me7 coincidence maybe maybe not but again he knew it was a matter of time is what I'm saying... why wait until you get caught to market your book about cheating 🤔🤣
Lol I agree.. My husband and I have been together since we were 17 and got married at 22 and we are now 30. I tell ppl all the time if you want to talk about marriage I’m with you but I can not talk to you about singleness bc I have never really been a single adult.
And I’m glad that you are aware of that and can be honest. Some people have the “I’ve been married fifty-leven years, this is what you need to do.” I’m always looking at those people twice.
Thank y’all for keeping it 💯 on not giving singles advice👏🏾👏🏾 my married cousin have been married since high school as well and when they be trying to tell me something I be like this 👀 Wait! What👀 please 🤫
When Lis spoke on how its predatory that we socialize women to look at marriage as the goal then exploit their feelings about it for profit....i shouted....you better preach Rev Dr Mrs Kevonstage.
Melissa explaining the cruxes of Infj rage at the end is EVERYTHING to me. It really would be bad for Kev if he cheated on Liss.
I’m with Liss I’d look better than I’ve looked in my life. And my husband would be holding my hand so I wouldn’t smack him.
That part!!!!
Getting all dolled up and dressed up just to sit next to your husband and listen to him talk about cheating on you doesn’t make sense to me at all. She was dressed casually and so was he. I’m not sure why ppl expected her to look like she was going clubbing. To me, it’s not relevant at all how she looks.
@Cerise Medina I saw a lot of “She should have looked better.” Comments n I’m like FOR WHAT?! Her appearance is not going to make a difference
@@876me7 exactly! 💯 her getting dolled up isnt going to erase the cheating and embarrassment. People would have been still clowning her even if she did dress up because people love to revel in the abuse of a woman.
Kev believe it...... don’t cheat on her 😂🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂 She is for real Melissa doing a Tyler Perry movie 🎥 🍿 she done did the whole movie Acrimony 😂😂🤣😂😂😂
Mrs Kev is 🔥🔥🔥 A SERMON!
It is not a wife's job to defend her husband's bad behavior in an attempt to save his image - especially when it exposes her to unnecessary scrutiny and public humiliation. A husband is supposed to cover (protect) his wife. PERIOD!
I watched the "Stand by your man" apology. I focused on the wife and she looked empty, afraid and depressed. I can't imagine being her right now. If she stays or leaves, my prayers are with her.✌️
What I dont get is, if he protected his wife from the world for 4 years, when things were 'good' and she would have been susceptible to the trolls of the internet,...why would he bring her out and the height of something like that, and expose her at this point. Why didn't he protect her when it mattered most?
Great point.
Exactly. I don't think he was ever "protecting" her, he was hiding her. Many people did not even know he was married UNTIL LAST WEEK! I think that was very calculated on his part.
He didn’t protect her at all during their relationship.
"I'm so happy I found you even though I found him wrong" 😅🤣😂🤣😅🤣😂 Melissa meant Errrrrrrrrrr WORD about that hypothetical break-up! Meanwhile Kev sittin there tryin to figure out what gift to give her just bc its Wednesday.
I totally agree that there are often conferences, books and conversations about how women can be better girlfriends and wives but no conversation about how men can be better. This topic has been a challenge for me for years and frustrates me. I believe that these conversations and presentations are predatory. Women are expected to turn themselves inside out, identify all the red flags, be a sex kitten and have the highest moral standards. If she doesn't fit the standards she is judged and treated poorly. While men are expected to just be themselves without judgement.
This class of petty is top tier! EVERYTHING 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Come on and preach, Melissa! 🗣 PREDATORY!
This whole episode had me talking to my phone. Yasss y’all. They was talking, preaching, & teaching.
Just a small note - Yes, there is a companion book to 'The Power of a Praying Wife'. it's 'The Power of a Praying Husband', and is part of the author's Power of Praying series. But I get what Liss is saying.
This is why I stopped following Ashley Empowers and Heather Lindsey. I cant stand the pandering to the single women. Stop trying to sell me Jesus by telling me if I love Jesus I can get a husband and be a high earning house wife. Girl goodbye!
🎯 put it on a shirt Sis 👏🏿
Some women want that advice. Those that want it should be able to get it.
You’re right MKOS, it is definitely Predatory!
Kev: Have you thought about this?!?
Liss: No! This is what’s in me. 💀💀💀🤣🤣🤣
I agree with you Liss, the burden of the relationship is ALWAYS placed on the woman and women have been conditioned to take that responsibility even if/when we know it's not warranted.
Also yes, there is a book Power of a Praying Husband...but men don't read it, and you never hear about it. Hm... something else women are responsible for (or take responsibility for) but don't get credit for... the husband's spirituality...whew! I'm tired boss...
It's "you can have the kids" for me. Heard you Liss! LOL!!!!
I am here for ALL of Melissa's trolling and petty energy!!! YAAASSSS!!!! THE EPIDEMY OF CHEAPER TO KEEP HER!!! hahahahahahaaa
I'm actually howling over Melissa's creativity at the end of this episode LOOOOL too funny! The narrative sounds wild and I'm here for it LOOOOOL
Melissa is preaching here! I often tell people women can't help if they get married or have children, but we can control if we are good people. It's ridiculous that in the year of our Lord 2021 women are still considered self actualized only when married with children. AND some of the relationship gurus stay putting the onus on women to not only be a "worthy" women but we have to tolerate and fix these men.
The current mistress just said on another TashaK video that she just slept with him on last Thursday. So he's still cheating on her.
Liss! One of my favorite episodes by Liss, she spoke hers and I agreed.
"I have to be petty that would take all of my time "🤣🤣🤣🤣
"Are you available? Yes." Liss' energy is everything
"Collateral damage" 🗣 THAT PART!
I love the way the Fredericks interact. It has been a pleasure to watch them grow over the years..
It was the slide down in the seat for me when you spoke them cold hard facts Liss! 😆
Melissa straight up preached! Thank you for having the boldness to tell the truth!
This man just slept with someone last week. He probably should have handle this in private instead of trying do damage control. I feel bad for his wife, like he really made her look like Paige. I can only imagine how she is feeling hearing about more women as recent as last week.
Last week! Wow...
Worse than Paige in my opinion.
Chris and Paige were strangers. His F-Boyness was at least new to her, and they were participating in an experiment.
The other two have a long-standing history. They ‘allegedly’ overcame a lot to even get to the altar, and still.... this is what she ended up with.
She should’ve let him do damage control the same way he did the damage; without her.
What got me is the number of times they brought God into his change of behavior and then their healing. I believe it for her, but I am going to have to see him continue to walk with God for a long time to believe him.
Oh he don't talk about God that much outside his home. He just slept with one of his mistresses last week. And she spilled a lot of details
Amen i don’t do the advice. I’m just trying to make it through my own relationship. I am not a counselor. I have a degree in minding my own business.
Auntie Missy is in full effect!!! 🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋 I laughed so hard 🤣
I'm with Melissa, I would be acting out 😂🤣 except I would get married again to a man that has everything my EX husband is insecure about.
I know that’s right Liss! Petty Labelle 👊🏽👊🏽
And then the red carpet was a beautiful celebration 🍾😍
Thank you Melissa! Married people stay tryna tell us how to live when they got married as babies!!!
Can we collect an offering for Liss? I’m a man and I can definitely support what she is saying.
Melissa wasn’t playing! She had a full plan! I would hate to see what she came up with if she thought about it! 😂😂
Melissa-the-troll is so hilarious. That was a fun segment. When they go low, we go lower.
My good sis Lissa went in and I love her for it all the more. So many good quotes and a perspective that I personally align with from men targeting women to give relationship advice being predatory, to saying you love me but giving the intimacy elsewhere, to saved men having the ability to be f-boys... *queue applause*
Predators seek out weakness. And then exploit. Melissa hit it directly. 🎯🎯🎯
Oh he gave good advice. So good, you can literally replay it to point out his current behavior and manipulations.
Melissa troll rant at the end with the peanut gallery was chef’s kiss 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. I had to watch it twice.
THANK YOU, Melissa for being considerate and honest about married people giving advice to single women. I have had these same thoughts over the last few years. I would also like for married people who were not abstinent when they were dating their future spouse to stop trying to convince single people that they should still uphold "purity" in dating even though the married couple themselves didn't. They are on youtube telling women to do something that they weren't even able to accomplish.
Yes! married relationship "gurus" need to STOP telling singles to abstain while they get to go home and be knocked down by their husbands!! 😂 leave us alone
@@Carter83Aly They have no idea what it is like to be in your prime years of 20's and 30's without affection or sex. On top of that they want to take away the one outlet that a single person has, masturbation.
My mom and dad divorced at 35 years of marriage. Ten years after the divorce, my mom stated that she realizes now that "we married women did not know what we were talking about." My mom now realizes that that dating and single life has its own challenges, too.
About 5 years ago, at age 35, I started to get irritated about the advice being given by women who had been married since they were 18 to 25. That time period is easy to wait and hope for a husband. But as the years passed and I hit 35, that's when one starts thinking "maybe marriage is not going to happen for me."
Listen I was hollering and shouting at the screen! Liss went in on this topic 🔥, she's in her bag. Her saying women are groomed to be wives & it's predatory, felt that in my spirit - I love this podcast 😃
He owned it. Even though they said it was her idea to go live, I don't think she was ready but he probably said we have to hop on this damage control. So she said alright, let's get it over with and just did it. I don't think they should have went in on her either.
Derrick Jaxn's angle was teaching women not to settle and hipping them to the games men plan, and he was able to do that (we really see now) because he was playing those games but he bought his own hype by being Self Righteous in how he didn't compared himself to "other black men" who were hurting women. #NarcissisticBehavior. #HeAintDoneHurtingHer
The way Melissa is preaching!!! I am in absolute agreement!
This woman is hilarious "I sleep fine... I troll all day and I clock out" 😭😭😭
She said "I'm so happy I found you even though I found him wrong" SCRIMMIN
Kev just sitting there listening to Melissa’s pettiness plan was hilarious. Mans had to ask hold on now have you thought about this. This a little too real right now 😂😂😂😂
This just goes to show you what ever is done in the dark will definitely come to light 💡 Melissa girrrrl you are on 🔥 fire they will use God in a minute 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
From what I've seen, men online are not into self improvement videos (outside of working out, and p i m ping) so advising them on relationship doesn't bring $$
THANK YOU!!! I hate when high school sweethearts try to give dating advice. Always have.
🙌🏾🙌🏾this is such great content!! So true!!
It’s the facts and the energy from Lis that I’m COMPLETELY here for!!!!
Melissa you speaking the “truth”, yes!
Auntie Liss had a whole sermon today!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I'm here for all of it Liss!!! "He can be a church guy and still be an F boy!!!"