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That last point, "Live" is something we over look when it comes to changing our lives for the better. We make our changes seem like the end of us rather than the beginning of who we are.
Right the mind will try to be like pick back up tomorrow you have nothing to do and then the next day you remember you have social events to attend and other things to do in your day
Lmao. Imagine dying and seeing your life flash before your eyes, but all you saw was 60+ years of sexual content go by within seconds...Thats what scares me
In my personal experience, fapping just makes me tired and I always feel shallow /empty afterwards. You’ll read articles how they say masturbating is safe but honestly I feel like I lose my glow right after I release haha. Fight that urge brothers, our bodies get stronger and our minds become clearer everyday we don’t. There are days when you will go absolutely crazy, advice from experience, force yourself to get up and walk or talk to someone. Helps a lot. Thanks aanghel for being the inspiration since day 1, and bringing to light the benefits of cold showers. I live in Az and always had terrible allergies. We have some terrible air quality here along with high levels of pollen in the spring. Cold showers daily has completely eliminated my allergies. Amazing stuff.
Fapping definitely drains your life energy and vitality. If I ever wake up in the morning thinking I'm going to go workout at the gym and run 3 miles, it never happens after fapping. Post-nut clarity basically equates to post-nut laziness. Makes the body and mind lethargic. For men, our semen holds the key to willpower, energy, and vitality. I truly believe it based on observing my energy flow for years.
average joe Releasing semen drains us from an energy standpoint and spiritual as well if you proceed to look it at that way. When you’re on semen retention/nofap you become much more clear minded, energized, and at times more aggressive, it’s the testosterone in us. You have to the fight urges of “One time won’t hurt...” it’s just your mind and dopamine playing tricks on you. I’ve been on and off no fap for about 7 months, hit a bit of flatline but I’m on week 2 currently and I’m nearly in a relationship with someone who I was afraid to approach and talk while I was fapping. Good luck my brothers stay strong!!
@@liam.s789 do you know why they say that? This is coming from a medical student. Ejaculation depletes your testosterone. It's testersterone which enlarges the prostrate gland, it's a normal process. By the time you reach your 50's your prostrate gland will probably double in size. You can utilise that testosterone in other ways like exercise, building muscle, stamina, endurance...etc
@@aanghel Very much impressed with your efforts brother. I want to know how much wet dreams you faced in this 6 years. And in this 6 years didn't you relapsed even once?
My longest streak was 66 days. Replacing the habit was the key for me every time i wanted to do relapse I took a 10 min walk a lot of time i would actually sprint to really let out the energy. "Turn your urges into power surges"
@@thestoik5440 I wanna do something like that, although I live with my parents and I dont want them getting suspicious of why I have randomly chosen to exercise, but I will defo do that.
One major thing ive experienced during my journey on no fap is going out and not staying at home is very important, i noticed the majority of times i relapsed is when i stay at home doing nothing, as Gandhi once said "an idle mind is devils work shop and makes a person lazy".
2. Understand urges - It's a cicle, a repetitive thing; - If you are Bored, the urge will come; - Low state: angry, sad, anxious, etc
3. Change routine/habits - You have to analyze your routine and change some things, to see what habit is leading you to a relapse
4. Self improvement - It can be, reading, meditation, exercising, etc 5. Dedication - Purpose 6. Re-direction - Say NO when the thoughts come 7. Live - Make nofap a lifestyle and be free of this addiction
To all of us watching this video, the fact we have relapsed and are trying our best to be free means we are still chasing for our purpose and not giving up, failure is the best teacher and in the end we all will win this and many challenges to come in our own life’s, stay strong men this only part of the process to greatness, have a wonderful day!
15 years old, and one of the things killing me on this journey thru self discipline is definitely the “one more and this is the last time” mentality. Thanks a lot for this video bro you don’t know how much it means to me
Honestly... It's just booty. If your not where you want to be in life, focus on your goals. There are a lot of attractive females with crazy shapes, I get it. These females are not worth your attention, they will destroy you if you let them.
This video has sparked such a beautiful comment section. I've never seen a more constructive and empowering comment section. Bro you've really inspired people to come forth and share their experiences, strengths, weaknesses. In turn all this precious empirical data serves as wonderful inspiration for all men! What a beautiful virtual space you've created. Much love and gratitude to you and all brothers here who share the same yearning for freedom and going against the "norm".
Almost 90 days. I'm in a 84 days streak now. I simply don't feel like I'll ever go back to the old habits again. No more porn or fap. But I also know that I should never let my guard down. If I don't be careful with my thoughts and urges it's very easy and possible to fall again in a moment of weakness. So yes, as the time passes it gets easier, but you are never fully free or "immune" to the temptations. You are actually just a few clicks away from it. So decide that you really want to change, forge new good habits to fulfill the void (extremely important) and be vigilant. Also, never give up. I relapsed too many times for many years until a finally get it and probably everybody will relapse again and again until they truly decide that they want to get ride of this addiction and be serious about it. Good luck.
@@jawdyn24 No. At the time of this comment I was able to reach a 5 months streak pmo free, but relapsed pretty badly multiple times last year. Got a few new streaks with the longest one being around 60 days. Now I'm a few weeks without porn, but I'm facing from time to time. This old comment feels like a big joke right now.
The “just live your life” part hit me.. been feeling dead inside for months, maybe years. I kept promising myself the same thing, not to relapse. But kept failing. All that cause I wasn’t 100% sure, I wasn’t 100% in. I didn’t live my life. So, it’s time to change that. Gotta keep seeing that light, gotta keep having that vision. Gotta live my life. Thanks for those words bro, bless your soul, fr.
I have 3 rules of advice I've learned from others that I think help alot 1. You relapse in your mind before you act it out in real life. In other words you indulge in fantasy and the urge and end up justifying your actions before you even relapse. 2. Learn to embrace the discomfort. When a urge hits and you start physically feeling that tension building up you just gotta endure it or better yet transmute it. 3. Learn to love and forgive yourself. You can't recover and move on or grow in a positive direction if you don't love and forgive yourself.
For me what worked is that I found a goal/purpose in my life and now that i've found it, everything that isn't related to that, I cut it off. Porn, social medias, different stuff that distracts you. Plus also helped that I moved to a american country where they have the type of women that I like but before I only seen them in porn. So I thought why would i need porn now haha
Putting a reminder for you guys : your discovery of fapping you wished you never got involved in, the numerous falldowns because you weren't strong enough, the moments of sorrow and depression you got, when you were alone, all led you to this place and moment where you finally discovered the CAUSE of everything happening to YOU. This is a blessing trust me, that most of the population will never have. Words can't do it justice, but i would call it "self-awareness and life-awareness". You are able to see life as its true value, while everyone around you are clogged up by addictions and distractions. They can't understand, but it doesn't matter. You understood the day you decided to change your fate, and this, is priceless. Remember : weakness, fate, bad environment, made you fall down in that hole. There are plenty of reasons, but each are completely fine. The day you will get out of it and step on the surface, you will be strong. Forever. Do not forget this experience, it is part of your identity now. Use it wisely. The plan is set up, trust the process and keep moving forward.
Sometimes when my urges get too strong I’ll watch videos or listen to songs that remind me of my childhood. It reminds me of how pure we are when we’re young and it frees me from my demons for long enough to recenter my mind.
1:21 Listen to this part 100 times or more. take all the time you need .It needs to impregnate in your mind. The more and often you remind yourself in a honest way not lieing to oneselve, the stronger the bond of your mind gets and strenghtens with your Mind. The Key is to remember the key reasons and remind yourself to relive the vibes youve got when you first decided and dedicated yourself to 100% without looking back. If you Master this and try never to forget the true reason behind your doing you will succeed and ascend to the higher level and also your life will start from there on because you will be able to do anything and everything....
Bro I can't tell you how much this is true. I went 103 days just because I 100 percent decided on it. I remember the last day I jacked off was the same day I broke up with my girl and bamm I was on that path. Sadly I relapsed after 103 days and rn after weeks of trying im on 13 days. You gotta be 110 percent dedicated man.
yes this is THE most important part, only then i was able to quit drugs when i was 100% sure that i wanted to quit, i decided that drugs doesn't exist in my world anymore, it was like i born again in a different world without drugs, then i was free. And i am aware that this is the reason why i am not able to quit pmo, because i kinda still want to have that pleasure, i have not truly let go of pmo yet. Because of that right now what i'm doing, im just living my life. I used to get really upset and depressed when i relapsed, but now i don't, because it doesn't help, it only causes unnecessary suffering. If i "relapse" i just eat a good meal, go to the gym and have fun, living my life
you are a person who understand. that makes me want to be your close friend, im 100% sure that having a conversation with you is more amazing than your perfect videos ... oh i wish that you make a video about friendship.. thanks for existing mate
Friendship help would be awesome. I'm a terrible friend and i simply cannot hold deep meaningful friendship. My whole life i was a consumer in a friendship and recently realized that i never provided much for friendships, i have trouble in other areas too like being terrible conversationalist, being a dull personality and lazy but now that i have no close friends i've come to realize it never was me who called friends to hang out or texted to check in. Of course you don't want to get just anybody as your friend as personalities can clash and become toxic but in the end i think everybody carves for companionship and somebody to connect with be it a woman or brother in arms.
Thanks for the video. Day 126: No hot showers since April. Only cold showers. Hitting the weights hard 5 days a week. Six pack abs are almost visible which is unbelievable because I have been kind of husky my whole life. Exercise is a great outlet for using all of that extra energy. Meditation every day to help the mind readjust. Meditation is very important to prevent the mind from getting back into those old thought habits. I have a higher attention span because I'm able to sit down and read books for long periods of time. Five months ago, I didn't have the attention span to read for hours on end. I didn't really have the urge to read books. No drugs, no alcohol, just stillness. This stuff works. I feel completely different than I did before. Stay strong.
You’re Lucky, bud. You were born with good genetics. I was born with a bunch of fucking disorders and have to take a medicine that keeps me from dropping weight. I lift and go on my excessive bike (burning 1000 calories) almost every day and nothing changes. I seemingly waste over 5 hours of my day exercising for no gain. I eat almost nothing too. A bagel in the morning and a tiny bit of pasta at night separated by many protein drinks. Not to mention I’m less than 6’10, meaning I’m almost entirely out of the dating market.
thank you . i really believe when I do stop fapping I will be a new man , it has taken over me and continues to come back and get me , longest I’ve gone without fapping was 1 week , needed this ! Appreciate you !
man that is so easy, you don't realize it yet. Huge tip : each day passing by with you not figuring it out, time will go fast. Start NOW, do not look back. To win, you have to try and overcome. Gl.
You don’t know how much you’ve changed my life with your videos. You speak with such poise and eloquence and calm me down and you show me that it’s possible to make a positive change for the better in your life! God bless you 😁
Man, I am in tears listening to this. I relapsed a lot due to anger. I have a rude mother who often calls me idiot. Sometimes something bad happens in the street, like someone passing with the car on a puddle to wet me in the sidewalk, with no need, clearly to bully. I was remembering that moments, and listen to your deep and calm voice was like finding the consolation of a caring father.
Hey man. I discovered your channel a year or two ago. I've been through alot since then, had many ups and downs. I've come to a point where I could use your help and wisdom again, and I'm so glad you're still making content. You're really helping people with what you're doing, and I wanted to say thanks. -Austin
This video was really helpful. The tip that stood out the most to me though was to just live your life and I think that's an extremely important part of any self help journey. I started my self help journey around the beginning of quarantine and I've grown a lot since then but I've always had the same problem of placing a stopping point to where I need to be. My main one for the longest has been "I need to be the best version of my current self before school starts back up again, for myself, but also so that people can see that I've been changing." I never admitted that last part but it's always been in the back of my head. I recently started picking up on how I work harder or do things more productively when I feel like I'm under the watchful eye of some other person, for example, running in the park and I pass by some people so I run as if I was always putting out my max effort, and it's been bothering me. It's irritating to admit but it's true and correcting my mistakes is the only way to growth. I feel like a lot of people could benefit from the fact that self help isn't some sort of boost like a senzu bean or a weapon upgrade, its a lifestyle change, and the life it's changing is yours, not another person. You shouldn't be trying to change your life but only confine your entire growth period to a couple weeks or months and expect yourself to never fall down again, it doesn't work like that. Everyone on their journey should be actively improving on themselves for themselves.
I think this video is very underrated. Great points, relaxing music in the background making it so I can just listen and even close my eyes and relax, almost like a podcast...overall amazing video🙏🏼🔥
The last item .. live Make me want to cry I was scary from getting married and live beautiful life with a wife for a long time and alhamdlallah i get engaged i see your video which make me feel happy that i didn't stop my life to reach x day ... Thank you and love you from Egypt ❤
Bro I HAVE to let you know. This video is exactly what I needed today. I relapsed and went for a drive because I was upset at myself. I kept thinking of things I need to do and where my passion is at so I can move past this BS and live my life to the fullest. Been watching you for 3 years now and you have helped me a lot. Thank you aanghel.
Thank you, I really needed this! It’s such a struggle to commit improvements, we would much rather be in our comfort zone than trying to break it. We are humans, no one’s perfect. I hope you guys success on this journey, don’t let those urges get the best of you! I hope you’re all having a wonderful day!
Thank you my man for doing this for us, it really helps and I appreciate it. I encourage you to keep making these and we will be watching and cheer you on.
Honestly speaking. You've changed my life brother. Now I'm on my day 105 of no fap journey.. even I felt lot of urges I've controlled myself, I focused on other things. NoFap helps me to change myself, I started to go for run, cycling, meditation. I feel more energy for the whole day. My perspective on the women's have completely changed. A big thanks to you brother @aanghel ❤️. Your truly an inspiration, your like my big brother. Wish me to keep the streak on NoFap journey 🤗
Your films helped me a lot. Two years ago I was in a deep addiction that was ruining my life and that's when I discovered your channel. Today I am a better person :)
What a video....I won't lie, saw the 17 mins and thought: "not another long video where they talk gas for like 16 mins then finally get to the point for like 1 min, could have been condensed to just that one minute...what a waste of time.." But kudos dude, that 17 mins flew by with some of the most profound, detailed and descriptive analysis of Nofap I've come across online, bravo
@@aanghel hey if they have to be long, then they long. I can only speak for myself, your videos have helped in the past, but the structure, mixed with the honesty/integrity and clear cut sound advice in this video...if someone were to ask me for one video/article/website/book that's clear and concise, easy to follow, and if followed correctly will guarantee success, and not just success in Nofap, but begin to help to alleviate mental stress/health issues, improve one's confidence, and generally begin to improve one's overall quality of life... I'd have no hesitation in recommending this video to them, and telling them to follow it to the best of their ability and they will find success. So all I can say is thank you brother
Damn the 'setting limits' thing is me to a tee. I've set up so many limits like 'once I reach x amount of time', 'once I graduate', 'once I get my own apartment', 'once I get my finances under control', 'once I get a few good outfits'. Its all bullshit. I have all those things, and here I am, 25 years old, alone as ever. I don't know what its going to take to make that leap. I just never feel ready enough. I never feel good enough. And it just doesn't seem worth it anyway. I work with a lot of women, I hear how they are. How they talk about their boyfriends. How they act toward other men when they're in a relationship. Its really discouraging.
In order to be ready you need to start when you are not ready, you're only ready once you start, if you keep waiting you will never be ready, you have to make yourself uncomfortable
Brother thank you so much for everything you do. You’ve been a huge inspiration along my journey and I highly appreciate it. Dark thoughts/urges lingers at times and your genuine response helps a lot. Keep helping others bro. It’s a true blessing
Once you make it through the first few weeks it gets a whole lot easier. Especially as you start to feel the amazing benefits like increased energy and strength
Isn't it good for you to release every once in a while though? Say once in a month? Testosterone levels take a big spike week after releasing, but then they level down. So don't the incredible effects kind of level down after a month or so?
Understanding urges is a big one. Majority my urges was at night and in the morning so I simply put my work schedule to 6:30pm to 7am. Best decision ever and I’m so drained after work and workouts that I don’t even have the energy to relapse. Keep battling it guys you’ll get there took me 3 years so dont worry if you keep messing up your time will come.
I'm two weeks in, but before I started I was improving my physical health. Now I've started to improve my hygiene, and trying to get proper sleep at regular times every night etc; not using the computer while in bed, shutting the computer down around 10pm and then reading instead, or just listening to music. These small changes are helping keep me motivated. I've got to say, listening to you is like listening to a brother who really cares.
I'm 32 and I decided to start nofap 5 years ago. I've relapsed one time too many and I've gotten sick of it. I've noticed lately that it's likely because I've been feeling low with everything that's been going on this year. Mornings and night times are the worst. Glad to see another NoFap video. Thanks for the advice.
The part of just live is on point. I was doing that too where I would I would say oh I have to wait two weeks before I can do something. And stayed in the cycle. Trapped. Like it was punishment for relapsing and holding on to the guilt and not feeling good enough to be around people. Thanks I just gotta live my life and keep going forward. Thanks man.
I'm going to start following you again. I watched your vids repeatedly a few years ago. I lost track & forgot about you and your philosophy. Unfortunately. Because, your philosophy, outlook, discipline...and Calmness! Are definitely things that I desperately need in my life, not just because of porn and jerking, but because of addiction. You spoke about dedication of time & redirection & a lot of other things. I need to focus on all of those things that you mentioned. Well, I know that I have to make major changes in my life. However, I don't understand why exactly avoiding porn, masterbation, sex, etc. Is going to make the changes I need to make in my life. But, your positivity, calmness, and serenity as well as self control are things that I envy. I feel like it's the right time... or near the right time to do this. Stay safe A.👍
Just before watching this video I made this promise "Today I made a promise in the presence of my god That I will never watch porn, I will never search for porn for my entire life (with one exception only) If ever by mistake, I happen to watch it, I will immediately apologize to my god. Now I am not a person who follows religion blindly but I am not a person who can't catch good points from a religion either. I have used religion/faith as a tool to get out of this rut and to understand what is wrong with porn/masturbation. I will not post anything about nofap because if I keep posting about nofap my life will keep revolving around nofap. I have abandoned porn altogether. I will keep visiting this site, whenever I learn something profound I will share it here. Thank you 🙏 " This + understanding urges + changing habits I think I can do it..!
Without a full decision to stop and full belief in harm of continuing and benefits of stopping relapses happen. But once your ALL IN. Great things begin to happen!
No fap: Day 1:✓ Day 2: ✓ Got through the Wolf of Wall Street whilst resisting the urge the bust! Sounds really silly but I am actually rather proud of myself right now and I hope I can continue to resist for the next year or so. Day 3:✓ Day 4:✓ Day 5:✓ I have decided to make nofap more of a lifestyle that a challenge so I will no longer be counting my days and will start to see this as just life. I will update if anything happens!
7 th point so resonates with me. The fact that you have spoken about it and no other person on TH-cam, I have heard about, had said it, shows that you have really contemplated and practiced it genuinely. Appreciate it 👏👏
Im on day 8 now. I realized that when its 4-6 days, my mind and my hands are eager to relapse but i survived. I just decided to avoid relapsing and helps me to have more confidence and putting my mind to focus my goals. I feel better and and also lessen my procrastinating too.
Thank you so much. Everything you mentioned I have slowly begun to realize on my own through trial and error and it's been such a painstaking process. I've been on my nofap/semen-retention journey for over a year and a half now. I had constant setbacks in my first few months, usually only lasting 2-3 days before a relapse and only rarely breaking 5. During quarantine I hit rock bottom, masturbating constantly and only rarely breaking 2 days. As the side-effects piled up my existing melancholy intensified and I felt hopeless. Recently, I've felt better and have gone for longer streaks, back to averaging 2-3 days, hitting 5 again just recently. This video confirms so much of what I've been stumbling through up to this point and has hopefully simplified the journey forward. Inspirational as always! ✊
1. Make a decision
2. Understand urges
3. Change routine/habits
4. Self improvement
5. Dedication
6. Re-direction
7. Live
Perfect.
Video simplified 🙏
That last point, "Live" is something we over look when it comes to changing our lives for the better. We make our changes seem like the end of us rather than the beginning of who we are.
What’s the song
Thanks brother ! You said its been 6 years ure out of this ? Amazing man !
The “one time won’t hurt” will hurt you forever
Yup
“I’ll just start again tomorrow, then I will never do it again...”
Right the mind will try to be like pick back up tomorrow you have nothing to do and then the next day you remember you have social events to attend and other things to do in your day
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Lmao. Imagine dying and seeing your life flash before your eyes, but all you saw was 60+ years of sexual content go by within seconds...Thats what scares me
Oof
Deep meaning
that’s scary
Like having a life review siting you down and playing your life on a screen ha
I’m serious my brother. Your timing on dropping shit at the right time is impeccable.
I’m glad I can throw these out at the right time brother
I was about to relapse after 120 days...Thanks! 🙏🏾
For real
That’s coz you’re always relapsing 😂
@@JP-wk5wt That's funny. It sounds kind of mean on the surface, but it's really just hilarious 😂.
In my personal experience, fapping just makes me tired and I always feel shallow /empty afterwards. You’ll read articles how they say masturbating is safe but honestly I feel like I lose my glow right after I release haha. Fight that urge brothers, our bodies get stronger and our minds become clearer everyday we don’t. There are days when you will go absolutely crazy, advice from experience, force yourself to get up and walk or talk to someone. Helps a lot. Thanks aanghel for being the inspiration since day 1, and bringing to light the benefits of cold showers. I live in Az and always had terrible allergies. We have some terrible air quality here along with high levels of pollen in the spring. Cold showers daily has completely eliminated my allergies. Amazing stuff.
Good shit my brother glad you don’t have the allergies fucking with you anymore
But doesn’t masturbating stop the chances of you getting prostate cancer.
Fapping definitely drains your life energy and vitality. If I ever wake up in the morning thinking I'm going to go workout at the gym and run 3 miles, it never happens after fapping. Post-nut clarity basically equates to post-nut laziness. Makes the body and mind lethargic. For men, our semen holds the key to willpower, energy, and vitality. I truly believe it based on observing my energy flow for years.
average joe Releasing semen drains us from an energy standpoint and spiritual as well if you proceed to look it at that way. When you’re on semen retention/nofap you become much more clear minded, energized, and at times more aggressive, it’s the testosterone in us. You have to the fight urges of “One time won’t hurt...” it’s just your mind and dopamine playing tricks on you. I’ve been on and off no fap for about 7 months, hit a bit of flatline but I’m on week 2 currently and I’m nearly in a relationship with someone who I was afraid to approach and talk while I was fapping. Good luck my brothers stay strong!!
@@liam.s789 do you know why they say that? This is coming from a medical student. Ejaculation depletes your testosterone. It's testersterone which enlarges the prostrate gland, it's a normal process. By the time you reach your 50's your prostrate gland will probably double in size. You can utilise that testosterone in other ways like exercise, building muscle, stamina, endurance...etc
1:07 1; Make a decision
2:37 2; Understand Urges
4:47 3; Change routines/habits
6:56 4; Self Improvement
8:38 5; Dedication
10:17 6; Re-direction
13:00 7; Live
Appreciate the time stamps
aanghel Appreciate the videos
Thanks
@@aanghel Very much impressed with your efforts brother. I want to know how much wet dreams you faced in this 6 years. And in this 6 years didn't you relapsed even once?
But shouldn’t u masturbate at least a couple of times a week to reduce the cause of prostate cancer.
My longest streak was 66 days. Replacing the habit was the key for me every time i wanted to do relapse I took a 10 min walk a lot of time i would actually sprint to really let out the energy. "Turn your urges into power surges"
That’s a pretty dope idea
@@aanghel thanks homie
Great quote
Yea man I can confirm, whenever the urges come I do 20 push-ups and take a cold shower.
@@thestoik5440 I wanna do something like that, although I live with my parents and I dont want them getting suspicious of why I have randomly chosen to exercise, but I will defo do that.
Don’t count the days. Make the days Count.
- M.ALI 🐐
Yessir
really needed this rn just relapsed
exactly 😂
It’s tough during quarantine
Learn from it and move on
Same!
Same
One major thing ive experienced during my journey on no fap is going out and not staying at home is very important, i noticed the majority of times i relapsed is when i stay at home doing nothing, as Gandhi once said "an idle mind is devils work shop and makes a person lazy".
Yup
😐 corona 😐
@@monke4059 social distancing
Pleasure leads to poverty 🙏🏻
Yup
great analysis
No fap, no porn since May 4 2019, and still going strong 😤
Good shit
1. Make a decision
- Are you 100% of this?
2. Understand urges
- It's a cicle, a repetitive thing;
- If you are Bored, the urge will come;
- Low state: angry, sad, anxious, etc
3. Change routine/habits
- You have to analyze your routine and change some things, to see what habit is leading you to a relapse
4. Self improvement
- It can be, reading, meditation, exercising, etc
5. Dedication
- Purpose
6. Re-direction
- Say NO when the thoughts come
7. Live
- Make nofap a lifestyle and be free of this addiction
To all of us watching this video, the fact we have relapsed and are trying our best to be free means we are still chasing for our purpose and not giving up, failure is the best teacher and in the end we all will win this and many challenges to come in our own life’s, stay strong men this only part of the process to greatness, have a wonderful day!
Yup all a learning experience
Thanks for the words of encouragement.
15 years old, and one of the things killing me on this journey thru self discipline is definitely the “one more and this is the last time” mentality. Thanks a lot for this video bro you don’t know how much it means to me
hey i see alot of people have the same profile pic that you have where is it from ??
@@wenomechainsanna it’s just one of Kanye’s older twitter profile pictures lol
Honestly... It's just booty. If your not where you want to be in life, focus on your goals. There are a lot of attractive females with crazy shapes, I get it. These females are not worth your attention, they will destroy you if you let them.
Facts bro
@@pump20 what are you talking about?
Alpha great idea bro
@@pump20 Dont worry brother i get what you mean too lol
@@aanghel so many shapes bro...
The comfortable me hates this video. My higher self is cheering me on. I am greatly appreciative of this knowledge, great video man. ❤️
Hm.
This video has sparked such a beautiful comment section. I've never seen a more constructive and empowering comment section. Bro you've really inspired people to come forth and share their experiences, strengths, weaknesses. In turn all this precious empirical data serves as wonderful inspiration for all men! What a beautiful virtual space you've created.
Much love and gratitude to you and all brothers here who share the same yearning for freedom and going against the "norm".
Yeah it is beautiful isn’t it. I’m glad I can help and do my part
Almost 90 days. I'm in a 84 days streak now. I simply don't feel like I'll ever go back to the old habits again. No more porn or fap. But I also know that I should never let my guard down. If I don't be careful with my thoughts and urges it's very easy and possible to fall again in a moment of weakness. So yes, as the time passes it gets easier, but you are never fully free or "immune" to the temptations. You are actually just a few clicks away from it. So decide that you really want to change, forge new good habits to fulfill the void (extremely important) and be vigilant.
Also, never give up. I relapsed too many times for many years until a finally get it and probably everybody will relapse again and again until they truly decide that they want to get ride of this addiction and be serious about it.
Good luck.
You speak truth brother
Are u still porn free?
@@jawdyn24 No. At the time of this comment I was able to reach a 5 months streak pmo free, but relapsed pretty badly multiple times last year. Got a few new streaks with the longest one being around 60 days. Now I'm a few weeks without porn, but I'm facing from time to time.
This old comment feels like a big joke right now.
@@Joao-ur7ey why did u relapse
The “just live your life” part hit me.. been feeling dead inside for months, maybe years.
I kept promising myself the same thing, not to relapse. But kept failing. All that cause I wasn’t 100% sure, I wasn’t 100% in. I didn’t live my life. So, it’s time to change that. Gotta keep seeing that light, gotta keep having that vision. Gotta live my life.
Thanks for those words bro, bless your soul, fr.
Yup. Stay focused brother
Same. I been trying hard to redirect my energy to better myself and live but the negatives just keep pulling back. I promise to go 100% harder.
aanghel This time I ain’t gone loose brother🙏🏼
Yung Swisha Like he said, make that decision, stay true to that change in your life, gotta see that light, you can do it g!☝🏼
Bryson Eliaz Thanks G 🙏🏾
Courage to all my guys out there doing their best
You can do this!
Yessir
Man u have such a calming voice.
I have 3 rules of advice I've learned from others that I think help alot
1. You relapse in your mind before you act it out in real life. In other words you indulge in fantasy and the urge and end up justifying your actions before you even relapse.
2. Learn to embrace the discomfort. When a urge hits and you start physically feeling that tension building up you just gotta endure it or better yet transmute it.
3. Learn to love and forgive yourself.
You can't recover and move on or grow in a positive direction if you don't love and forgive yourself.
Facts bro
For me what worked is that I found a goal/purpose in my life and now that i've found it, everything that isn't related to that, I cut it off. Porn, social medias, different stuff that distracts you. Plus also helped that I moved to a american country where they have the type of women that I like but before I only seen them in porn. So I thought why would i need porn now haha
Purpose Is everything bro
I have a goal too bro just got horny 🤒
Wat a move.....
Which country u talking about?
@@jexi195 Mexico 😏
@@MishaElRusito
Thats nice....
I think dating is hard there...
Columbia is easy....
Exactly what he said. Tell yourself "No Thanks" and if the urges keep insisting, ask yourself, Am I this Weak?"
Yessir
yeah thats a good one, fighting my ego with its own medicine, fucking brilliant.
Whenever I get the urges I always start doing pushups or anything that will help get my mind off of it
Putting a reminder for you guys : your discovery of fapping you wished you never got involved in, the numerous falldowns because you weren't strong enough, the moments of sorrow and depression you got, when you were alone, all led you to this place and moment where you finally discovered the CAUSE of everything happening to YOU.
This is a blessing trust me, that most of the population will never have. Words can't do it justice, but i would call it "self-awareness and life-awareness". You are able to see life as its true value, while everyone around you are clogged up by addictions and distractions. They can't understand, but it doesn't matter. You understood the day you decided to change your fate, and this, is priceless.
Remember : weakness, fate, bad environment, made you fall down in that hole. There are plenty of reasons, but each are completely fine.
The day you will get out of it and step on the surface, you will be strong. Forever. Do not forget this experience, it is part of your identity now. Use it wisely.
The plan is set up, trust the process and keep moving forward.
Well said brother ❤🙏
Bruh I can hear the testosterone in ur voice dawg keep it up
Lmao much love bro
Sometimes when my urges get too strong I’ll watch videos or listen to songs that remind me of my childhood. It reminds me of how pure we are when we’re young and it frees me from my demons for long enough to recenter my mind.
Good shit
1:21 Listen to this part 100 times or more. take all the time you need .It needs to
impregnate in your mind. The more and often you remind yourself in a honest way not lieing to oneselve, the stronger the bond of your mind gets and strenghtens with your Mind.
The Key is to remember the key reasons and remind yourself to relive the vibes youve got when you first decided and dedicated yourself to 100% without looking back.
If you Master this and try never to forget the true reason behind your doing you will succeed and ascend to the higher level and also your life will start from there on because you will be able to do anything and everything....
Bro I can't tell you how much this is true. I went 103 days just because I 100 percent decided on it. I remember the last day I jacked off was the same day I broke up with my girl and bamm I was on that path. Sadly I relapsed after 103 days and rn after weeks of trying im on 13 days. You gotta be 110 percent dedicated man.
Big facts brother
yes this is THE most important part, only then i was able to quit drugs when i was 100% sure that i wanted to quit, i decided that drugs doesn't exist in my world anymore, it was like i born again in a different world without drugs, then i was free. And i am aware that this is the reason why i am not able to quit pmo, because i kinda still want to have that pleasure, i have not truly let go of pmo yet. Because of that right now what i'm doing, im just living my life. I used to get really upset and depressed when i relapsed, but now i don't, because it doesn't help, it only causes unnecessary suffering. If i "relapse" i just eat a good meal, go to the gym and have fun, living my life
you are a person who understand. that makes me want to be your close friend, im 100% sure that having a conversation with you is more amazing than your perfect videos ... oh i wish that you make a video about friendship.. thanks for existing mate
Much love brother. I’ll see what I can do
Friendship help would be awesome. I'm a terrible friend and i simply cannot hold deep meaningful friendship. My whole life i was a consumer in a friendship and recently realized that i never provided much for friendships, i have trouble in other areas too like being terrible conversationalist, being a dull personality and lazy but now that i have no close friends i've come to realize it never was me who called friends to hang out or texted to check in. Of course you don't want to get just anybody as your friend as personalities can clash and become toxic but in the end i think everybody carves for companionship and somebody to connect with be it a woman or brother in arms.
There are more people like aanghel out there. I understand how you feel. Be patient and the right person will show up, maybe you already know them
A video about friendship would be so helpful
Thanks for the video.
Day 126: No hot showers since April. Only cold showers. Hitting the weights hard 5 days a week. Six pack abs are almost visible which is unbelievable because I have been kind of husky my whole life. Exercise is a great outlet for using all of that extra energy. Meditation every day to help the mind readjust. Meditation is very important to prevent the mind from getting back into those old thought habits. I have a higher attention span because I'm able to sit down and read books for long periods of time. Five months ago, I didn't have the attention span to read for hours on end. I didn't really have the urge to read books. No drugs, no alcohol, just stillness.
This stuff works. I feel completely different than I did before. Stay strong.
Happy for you brother
You’re Lucky, bud. You were born with good genetics. I was born with a bunch of fucking disorders and have to take a medicine that keeps me from dropping weight. I lift and go on my excessive bike (burning 1000 calories) almost every day and nothing changes. I seemingly waste over 5 hours of my day exercising for no gain. I eat almost nothing too. A bagel in the morning and a tiny bit of pasta at night separated by many protein drinks. Not to mention I’m less than 6’10, meaning I’m almost entirely out of the dating market.
thank you . i really believe when I do stop fapping I will be a new man , it has taken over me and continues to come back and get me , longest I’ve gone without fapping was 1 week , needed this ! Appreciate you !
Being a new man all starts now bro
man that is so easy, you don't realize it yet. Huge tip : each day passing by with you not figuring it out, time will go fast. Start NOW, do not look back. To win, you have to try and overcome. Gl.
You don’t know how much you’ve changed my life with your videos. You speak with such poise and eloquence and calm me down and you show me that it’s possible to make a positive change for the better in your life! God bless you 😁
Much love brother. Glad I can help
Man, I am in tears listening to this.
I relapsed a lot due to anger. I have a rude mother who often calls me idiot. Sometimes something bad happens in the street, like someone passing with the car on a puddle to wet me in the sidewalk, with no need, clearly to bully.
I was remembering that moments, and listen to your deep and calm voice was like finding the consolation of a caring father.
I’m glad I’m able to help bro
Just stop being a pussy and submissive
You got this bro
if you want to connect and talk bro, I’m here for you my brother.
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Man it is the best and most honest advice I ever got on nofap. I have just started, and I will comment again when I change myself. Thank you brother.
Every video from you is so wholesome, relaxing and informative, keep going my guy.
Much live brother
Hey man. I discovered your channel a year or two ago. I've been through alot since then, had many ups and downs. I've come to a point where I could use your help and wisdom again, and I'm so glad you're still making content. You're really helping people with what you're doing, and I wanted to say thanks. -Austin
Always glad it help brother
No fap+ Cold showers+ fasting=immortal
I do first 2
Yup
How does fasting have an impact on it?
Aytuğ Ödünç your body isnt using energy to digest food and with less digestive activity in your body the more your mind can operate within itself.
@@aytugodunc3181 It can help you think clearer, and controlling urges if you eat too much
I appreciate how simple your videos are. It seems you are just sharing your life’s lessons as they come.
That’s what I do!
Dude that last point, is so on point. I've hindered my own life, even travelling, because of my addiction.
Yeah man can’t let it interfere with living
Bro i needed this because i've been relapsing so much recently, its like god made you create a video, keep up the good work, god bless.
Glad I can help brother
This video was really helpful. The tip that stood out the most to me though was to just live your life and I think that's an extremely important part of any self help journey. I started my self help journey around the beginning of quarantine and I've grown a lot since then but I've always had the same problem of placing a stopping point to where I need to be. My main one for the longest has been "I need to be the best version of my current self before school starts back up again, for myself, but also so that people can see that I've been changing." I never admitted that last part but it's always been in the back of my head. I recently started picking up on how I work harder or do things more productively when I feel like I'm under the watchful eye of some other person, for example, running in the park and I pass by some people so I run as if I was always putting out my max effort, and it's been bothering me. It's irritating to admit but it's true and correcting my mistakes is the only way to growth. I feel like a lot of people could benefit from the fact that self help isn't some sort of boost like a senzu bean or a weapon upgrade, its a lifestyle change, and the life it's changing is yours, not another person. You shouldn't be trying to change your life but only confine your entire growth period to a couple weeks or months and expect yourself to never fall down again, it doesn't work like that. Everyone on their journey should be actively improving on themselves for themselves.
Yup. You get it brother
I think this video is very underrated. Great points, relaxing music in the background making it so I can just listen and even close my eyes and relax, almost like a podcast...overall amazing video🙏🏼🔥
The last item .. live
Make me want to cry
I was scary from getting married and live beautiful life with a wife for a long time and alhamdlallah i get engaged i see your video which make me feel happy that i didn't stop my life to reach x day ...
Thank you and love you from Egypt ❤
Habibi 🤲🏽
Bro I HAVE to let you know. This video is exactly what I needed today. I relapsed and went for a drive because I was upset at myself. I kept thinking of things I need to do and where my passion is at so I can move past this BS and live my life to the fullest. Been watching you for 3 years now and you have helped me a lot. Thank you aanghel.
Take it as a learning experience Brother
Thank you, I really needed this! It’s such a struggle to commit improvements, we would much rather be in our comfort zone than trying to break it.
We are humans, no one’s perfect. I hope you guys success on this journey, don’t let those urges get the best of you!
I hope you’re all having a wonderful day!
Much love brother
Thank you my man for doing this for us, it really helps and I appreciate it. I encourage you to keep making these and we will be watching and cheer you on.
Glad it helps brother
This the most relatable video on NoFap I’ve ever watched. Thanks to you I’m never relapsing again!
Bruh this guy deserves hella more subs.
U have to have a marathon mentality, not a race one
Yup
Been watching for years bro and your content has only improved. Appreciate the vids you put out and the knowledge you drop✊🏻
Aye thanks brother I’m glad it all helps
You have such a calming demeanour and voice.
Honestly speaking. You've changed my life brother. Now I'm on my day 105 of no fap journey.. even I felt lot of urges I've controlled myself, I focused on other things. NoFap helps me to change myself, I started to go for run, cycling, meditation. I feel more energy for the whole day. My perspective on the women's have completely changed. A big thanks to you brother @aanghel ❤️. Your truly an inspiration, your like my big brother. Wish me to keep the streak on NoFap journey 🤗
I’m glad I’ve been able to help you brother 🙏🏽
@@aanghel Thanks a lot brother 🤩
Your films helped me a lot. Two years ago I was in a deep addiction that was ruining my life and that's when I discovered your channel. Today I am a better person :)
Glad to hear you got out of that shit brother
This guy's a real G. Ong this videos prolly gonna help start my journey. Thank you bro
Glad I can help brother
Easily the best video I've heard on this
What a video....I won't lie, saw the 17 mins and thought:
"not another long video where they talk gas for like 16 mins then finally get to the point for like 1 min, could have been condensed to just that one minute...what a waste of time.."
But kudos dude, that 17 mins flew by with some of the most profound, detailed and descriptive analysis of Nofap I've come across online, bravo
Yeah I feel you man. I try to keep bids short and to the point. Sometimes they’re still long tho no matter what I do
@@aanghel hey if they have to be long, then they long.
I can only speak for myself, your videos have helped in the past, but the structure, mixed with the honesty/integrity and clear cut sound advice in this video...if someone were to ask me for one video/article/website/book that's clear and concise, easy to follow, and if followed correctly will guarantee success, and not just success in Nofap, but begin to help to alleviate mental stress/health issues, improve one's confidence, and generally begin to improve one's overall quality of life... I'd have no hesitation in recommending this video to them, and telling them to follow it to the best of their ability and they will find success.
So all I can say is thank you brother
Damn the 'setting limits' thing is me to a tee. I've set up so many limits like 'once I reach x amount of time', 'once I graduate', 'once I get my own apartment', 'once I get my finances under control', 'once I get a few good outfits'. Its all bullshit. I have all those things, and here I am, 25 years old, alone as ever. I don't know what its going to take to make that leap. I just never feel ready enough. I never feel good enough. And it just doesn't seem worth it anyway. I work with a lot of women, I hear how they are. How they talk about their boyfriends. How they act toward other men when they're in a relationship. Its really discouraging.
We’re never ready you just gotta go. And welcome to reality bro. Most chicks are like that. That’s female nature. Hypergamy.
In order to be ready you need to start when you are not ready, you're only ready once you start, if you keep waiting you will never be ready, you have to make yourself uncomfortable
a bit at a time, don't jump in head first when you don't know how deep the water is
Dont bring your porn addiction into a relationship & especially not a marriage🇦🇱
Brother thank you so much for everything you do. You’ve been a huge inspiration along my journey and I highly appreciate it. Dark thoughts/urges lingers at times and your genuine response helps a lot. Keep helping others bro. It’s a true blessing
Much love brother. I’m glad I can help
Great video man, appreciate your thoughts. All the best g
I think the key is to be always excited about the benefits of nofap
Once you make it through the first few weeks it gets a whole lot easier.
Especially as you start to feel the amazing benefits like increased energy and strength
Very true. Always the chance that you can fall back though.
I see you everywhere on TH-cam. You be commenting on Ralph Smart's videos. Lol.
Isn't it good for you to release every once in a while though? Say once in a month? Testosterone levels take a big spike week after releasing, but then they level down. So don't the incredible effects kind of level down after a month or so?
Thanks for being a great human being and a bro . This video really helps me. It's also very calming.
Glad it helps brother
Yoooo Alhamdullilah for this video I’m just glad it’s here
The best video ever
Understanding urges is a big one. Majority my urges was at night and in the morning so I simply put my work schedule to 6:30pm to 7am. Best decision ever and I’m so drained after work and workouts that I don’t even have the energy to relapse. Keep battling it guys you’ll get there took me 3 years so dont worry if you keep messing up your time will come.
Happy for you brother
aanghel Preciate it man
Wow bro, needed it so much
Stay growing!
Glad it helps brother
Great content man. The last point really struck a chord with me
Glad it could help bro
Number 7 gave me a little bit butterflies in my stomach. Long time ago I felt that, thank you for this video!
Glad it can help brother
I'm two weeks in, but before I started I was improving my physical health. Now I've started to improve my hygiene, and trying to get proper sleep at regular times every night etc; not using the computer while in bed, shutting the computer down around 10pm and then reading instead, or just listening to music. These small changes are helping keep me motivated.
I've got to say, listening to you is like listening to a brother who really cares.
Happy to see you doing your thing bro and glad I can be of help
Been struggling, this is exactly what i needed to hear. Thank you
Glad it could help brother
This video is gold my brother, thanks a LOT!
🙏🏽
Thanks man i really needed this.
I got you brother
I'm 32 and I decided to start nofap 5 years ago. I've relapsed one time too many and I've gotten sick of it.
I've noticed lately that it's likely because I've been feeling low with everything that's been going on this year. Mornings and night times are the worst.
Glad to see another NoFap video. Thanks for the advice.
At least you see it for what it is bro. Now change it
Man this was the best nofap video I’ve ever seen. Thank you so much. I really wish the best for you
Glad i can help bro
Going on day 2, really hoping to just not even count. But you’ve earned a subscriber today. Keep up the good work brother
I have been using your "I will be looking down at my diary" stuff in my videos, and it has helped me a shit load 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Sometimes you need that reminder
@@aanghel absolutely true man, I use the same tactic that you use 😂❤️
The part of just live is on point. I was doing that too where I would I would say oh I have to wait two weeks before I can do something. And stayed in the cycle. Trapped. Like it was punishment for relapsing and holding on to the guilt and not feeling good enough to be around people.
Thanks I just gotta live my life and keep going forward. Thanks man.
Yeah man. It sucks but once you see it for what it is, you can break free from it.
I'm going to start following you again. I watched your vids repeatedly a few years ago. I lost track & forgot about you and your philosophy. Unfortunately. Because, your philosophy, outlook, discipline...and Calmness! Are definitely things that I desperately need in my life, not just because of porn and jerking, but because of addiction.
You spoke about dedication of time & redirection & a lot of other things. I need to focus on all of those things that you mentioned.
Well, I know that I have to make major changes in my life. However, I don't understand why exactly avoiding porn, masterbation, sex, etc. Is going to make the changes
I need to make in my life. But, your positivity, calmness, and serenity as well as self control are things that I envy.
I feel like it's the right time... or near the right time to do this.
Stay safe A.👍
Just try and see for yourself bro
Thanks I really needed this. Super cute thumbnail too
Just before watching this video I made this promise
"Today I made a promise in the presence of my god
That I will never watch porn, I will never search for porn for my entire life (with one exception only)
If ever by mistake, I happen to watch it, I will immediately apologize to my god.
Now I am not a person who follows religion blindly but I am not a person who can't catch good points from a religion either.
I have used religion/faith as a tool to get out of this rut and to understand what is wrong with porn/masturbation.
I will not post anything about nofap because if I keep posting about nofap my life will keep revolving around nofap.
I have abandoned porn altogether.
I will keep visiting this site, whenever I learn something profound I will share it here.
Thank you 🙏 "
This + understanding urges + changing habits
I think I can do it..!
Stay true to that brother
fuck this, your right. starting my journey today. gonna come back and update myself. I'm not gonna give up this time. Really needed this video!
Get at it brother
You have been consistent lately bro your videos are amazing
Glad they can help brother
I just love this dude so much, u goin places mister🙏🏼
Much love brother
His voice is so satisfying
Man you'll forever be my OG nofap guru hehe.
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This video is gold. RESPECT
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Missed your videos man, this is really a big help! Thank you!
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First comment ❤️❤️
Without a full decision to stop and full belief in harm of continuing and benefits of stopping relapses happen. But once your ALL IN. Great things begin to happen!
Yup
Your videos always helps me out a ton
Excellent and very thorough video. Thank you for this.
Thank you man that was so helpful, and I hope you do more of this video about semen retention
I got you man
No fap:
Day 1:✓
Day 2: ✓
Got through the Wolf of Wall Street whilst resisting the urge the bust!
Sounds really silly but I am actually rather proud of myself right now and I hope I can continue to resist for the next year or so.
Day 3:✓
Day 4:✓
Day 5:✓
I have decided to make nofap more of a lifestyle that a challenge so I will no longer be counting my days and will start to see this as just life.
I will update if anything happens!
Did you relapse?
@@ex5583Almost but I just about managed to Urge surf my way out if that one!
7 th point so resonates with me. The fact that you have spoken about it and no other person on TH-cam, I have heard about, had said it, shows that you have really contemplated and practiced it genuinely. Appreciate it 👏👏
Yeah man it’s the most important one.
After watching your videos i get so peaceful and calm, thanks man ☺️
Much love bro
“Every day is a new day, seize it.”
Yessir
Im on day 8 now. I realized that when its 4-6 days, my mind and my hands are eager to relapse but i survived. I just decided to avoid relapsing and helps me to have more confidence and putting my mind to focus my goals. I feel better and and also lessen my procrastinating too.
Good shit bro
Thank you so much. Everything you mentioned I have slowly begun to realize on my own through trial and error and it's been such a painstaking process. I've been on my nofap/semen-retention journey for over a year and a half now. I had constant setbacks in my first few months, usually only lasting 2-3 days before a relapse and only rarely breaking 5. During quarantine I hit rock bottom, masturbating constantly and only rarely breaking 2 days. As the side-effects piled up my existing melancholy intensified and I felt hopeless. Recently, I've felt better and have gone for longer streaks, back to averaging 2-3 days, hitting 5 again just recently. This video confirms so much of what I've been stumbling through up to this point and has hopefully simplified the journey forward. Inspirational as always! ✊
Yeah remember it’s all about making that decision and having a clear cut reason as to why you’re doing it
Great video, this is good advice for any addiction as well.
Yessir