I think a second date is always a good choice when there’s the “I don’t know” out there. It will solidify either way. This from a woman who’s been traversing this dating world for.... ever. Perpetually single me. I always regret not going on a second date. So much of what we see on a first date is a glimpse of nerves and a person and trying to impress.
I dunno. The guy I’m with now, I wasn’t sure about him at first at all, felt like there was no spark. I would say take the second date, if it’s still awful, rip the band aid off.
Sammi Booger Yeah I reckon 2-3 dates is what it takes to see if it’s worth taking further and that is certainly not leading anyone on, it’s just giving it a chance.
I met my husband and he was after me back in the day i didn't know how i felt. It took a couple dates and realised i really wanted to meet up more and we are married 3 years and 5 years together :)
I don't agree with legit most people, I'd say trust yourself knowing if you're interested or not. Going on a date with someone that you found some yellow flags with is not worth a second date.
Cassie, have you thought about....that he's as or more nervous meeting you. He might relax more on the 2and date. You're NOT going to have EVERYTHING in common with a guy. I think you ought to give it a 2nd date before kicking him to the curb.
Give a second date a try, it's not going to hurt anything unless you're 100% positive. Having a "spark" right away is nonsense... plus, he might be more comfortable second time around. Fyi, my hubby and I were friends online for years before it became more. He visited me for two weeks and I was totally unsure after meeting in person... until it was time for him to leave and I ended up crying because I didn't want him to go that I knew how I felt, and he stayed with me that whole time. So it took two weeks of being together every day.... it made me realize that having a spark is b.s. My mom adores my hubby and thinks I'm super lucky.
I agree. I met my boyfriend via reddit and I didn't take him seriously cause he's 8 years younger than me. But he flew down to Arizona to visit me and it felt awkward cause well, meeting someone new is just awkward and I'm shy as hell and felt so nervous. Now I'm planning on moving to MN and moving in with him and he's probably the guy I'm gonna marry ☺️
A spark basically means chemistry and you can absolutely tell fairly quickly if there's any chemistry. Sometimes you walk away thinking hm I'm not sure and then a second date is a good idea but she doesn't seem like she's torn about whether she felt something she acts like she knows she didn't feel any chemistry with him and she simply feels bad about it. So yeah I don't think going on a second date is necessary for her, clearly she already knows she's not into the dude
Do you think he may have picked up on your vibe of feeling poorly, tired and a bit pessimistic about the date? If you think it’s possible, give him another date when you’re feeling a bit better. Feeling poorly and tired is really sapping your energy in this video and I really believe you need to just take care of you right now. Gallbladders suck, I’ve been there and had mine out too. Sending positive thoughts and healing vibes xx
Broo even in friendships I HATE feeling like I'm the one calling all the shots and directing all the convos and making the plans... like I love when someone cares enough to ask questions and make some damn effort.
You have the prettiest teeth!! Okay so here’s my observation as a Casserole “friend”... you are WAY too harsh!! On yourself AND on these first dates. Don’t analyze every single little thing he says or how you feel. Getting to know someone is a process. Take it easy for gosh sakes.
You're reading too deeply into things. But this guy seems a little intense but I think you should give it another try if he contacts you. If hes focused on money theres a reason why, like I think you have to give people chances. My boyfriend said I was moody and grumpy on our first date which I'm definitely not that and the second he said was the best date hes ever been on and we had a lovely time. I think first dates can be very stressful and I think maybe he was alittle anxious. It takes time to fall in love and feel all these things. You can't fall in love at first sight, especially not on a dating website. It takes time for things to develop and feelings to even occur. If he felt something maybe give it another go.
Everyone’s experiences are unique. I would try one more date. Nerves can bring out people’s weirdest quirks on first dates. However, DO NOT feel bad if you don’t grant him the gift of a second date. Trust yourself.
Hey Casey! My mom just had her gallbladder removed and she’s never been happier. No more pain! And recovery was super quick at her age. I wouldn’t worry too much!
Cassie, cut fat completely out of your diet until surgery. I had mine out in March and I had to wait 2 months for surgery. The ONLY thing that helped me was cutting fat out of my diet. I averaged less than 10 grams of fat a day before surgery and it made all the difference in the world. I didn't have a single attack once I cut the fat out. I know it's hard, but being honest with yourself and whoever you're out with isn't going to hurt anything. Good luck! I feel your pain.
Hey Cassie! I've been watching your videos for 5 years but never commented before. I met my boyfriend after so many tinder dates. I was so fed up of getting to know people and then finding out on the first date that they were a complete douche bag. I didn't feel anything special after my first date with my boyfriend, but he turned out to be the most perfect person I could ever imagine! Keep trying! it is so worth it when you find the right person! And if your anything like as genuine and kind as you seem in your videos, I'm sure it will happen soon!
Replying to this SO late but I’m with you. I think Cassie isn’t quite right here. Guys are generally forward if they like you. These “lack of initiative” men she’s talking about probably just aren’t into her…
I totally agree! It seems you find too many faults and reasons not to give them a 2nd date/opportunity. Maybe you're not truly as ready as you think you are Cassie. You are a beautiful person inside and out and there is someone for you, maybe just give them a 2nd chance...nerves can betray you. Good luck and great healing after surgery. All will be well...much love to you 💙👍🦸♂️
I feel like a good video idea (which I’ve seen recently from other TH-camr like Taylor) is going to Sephora, MAC or Ulta and getting your makeup done and seeing how you like or don’t like the results
Hi Cassie! I had my gallbladder removed about 4 years ago when I was 18 and it truly was the best thing i could have possibly done. Actually rejected the surgery once and that lead to a lot of pain and numerous pancreatic inflammations. The recovery was quite easier than i thought it would be, since it was a laparoscopy (the thing that hurts the most is the gas that they use for your stomach, but it goes away in 2 days top)and now i can eat and live without worrying about getting a colic (as you said it's not pretty, i was honestly so scared of them that i would only eat baby food for days). After surgery i was able to eat normally (your body has to adapt though, but it's not going to hurt or anything, just heavy digestions), also you don't have to forget about greasy foods for ever, i do them sometimes and they don't make me feel necessarily bad. Good luck!
I think you are amazing! Those cords look fabulous on you. As someone who got married at 43 I can tell yes, go with what your heart tells you. I’m proud of you for putting yourself out there. I know a lot of women who have given up. Keep going!!
Sometimes the lasting relationships are with people who grow on you. I'd give him a second date if he initiates it unless you're 100% sure he's not for you xx
Maybe he was just nervous? I know I can sometimes come off as uninterested or rude but I'm really just anxious and dont want to seem weird. Give him another shot!!!
Hi Cassie. Could not wait to watch this. Definitely go out again. You will neverrr have everything in common with anyone.. except maybe a twin. How boring it would be. I’ve been married 36 years and my hubby had pretty much hardly anything in common with me ..... but you show each other new things and new ways of being and you change and mellow and meet in the middle after time and that my love is the real bliss. Xxx
I feel you over analyze every person on the dates you have been on. First dates are full of jitters and nervousness and I feel you are not as open minded as you come across. Nothing wrong with giving people another chance. Try to be less negative and enjoy another person's company.
Cass, getting my gallbladder out was the BEST thing I ever did. Having no more gallbladder attacks- a godsend. The likelihood of uh... poop problems... post-surgery is pretty low. I eat exactly the same as I did before and am as normal as ever. 👍🏻 ALSO- in the line of “gas pains” post surgery - yes they blow up your abdomen with gas and yes it can travel to your shoulders and hurt. It just happens. You have to pass (poot) it. The easiest way to avoid shoulder pain is to avoid sitting/standing up as much as possible minus getting up for a short walk every few hours to avoid post surgery clots 😊 Hope this helps!!
Gallbladder pain is AWFUL, like deathly pain - and I’ve recovered from open heart surgery. Gallbladder pain is up there. I’m glad you’re getting it removed. The recovery took me about five days. Only the first two days did the incision site hurt, after that it was just uncomfortable from the c02 they use. Best of luck. Also, people who say you’re “exaggerating” are annoying. I didn’t see the video they would be referring to, but health is the most important thing in this world and usually the ones who aren’t sympathetic have had perfect health their own lives. Sending you all the love and healing vibes!!!
Yes please do the dates video. I had a weird date from Match cussed me out on a message because I didn't want to talk to him anymore, just because we went to lunch, movies and dinner on the first date, he insisted, he turned it on me that I liked him according to him and that's why I stayed longer to the movies and dinner and now I didn't want to see him anymore. 🤣🤣🤣
Some men really think we owe them everything just because they spent a bit of time or money on a date. I'm the kind of person who tells them to their face that women don't owe them shit!
Cassie, your eyes were poppin! You were putting on the eyeshadow and I was like oh that's kinda pretty...hmm that color is interesting...oy that cranberry is a lil too much....then BAM! You came back with eyeliner and mascara on and Wow! Gorgeous!!!
I went on an online date and first date was kind of goofy lol but I was upfront and straight up asked if he was at all interested because I couldn’t tell, fast forward to five months later and to never have gone on a second date would have been the worst decision of my life. He is the most amazing person I’ve ever met and the love we have for each other even in this short time is something I wish for everyone to experience. Your a beautiful person inside and out, believe in that and the fact that you deserve someone amazing who will make you truly feel loved and valued. Love yourself cuz we love you and your awesome vids!
I have gallatones and attacks when I'm not looking after my health. Since I now eat clean and cut sugar and carbs out I don't need to think about removal as symptoms disappear.
For me before I had my gallbladder taken out it didn’t matter what or how much I ate I would still end up having an attack. It only got worse and worse until it was taken out. I feel for ya girl the pain is horrible. ❤️
I was reading the comments BEFORE you came back from the date and I’m shocked that so many people are urging you to go on a second date lol. I feel like you already know that this person is not the one.
Exactly. It makes me really sad that people who LIKE Cassie think that she should settle for a guy who is not interested in hearing what Cassie says, someone who sounds like Ned Flanders + motivational speaker. "You can't have everything in common..." -> What, "everything"? Really? 😔 If you know Cassie at all, you know there is NOTHING in common and this type is NOT for her! Sure, people can be nervous on a first date. But it doesn't change a nice person into something like this.
@@sari5494 I don't think people are telling her to settle but rather that nerves and anxiety can really alter how a person acts. Just something to take into consideration. Many people in successful relationships didn't particular enjoy the first date
I agree with you. When you know you know go with your intuition. Theres a difference between not feeling %100 sure on the first date and just plain out not into the guy. I know when i first meet someone if there is any spark or if there could be. Nothing wrong with giving a second shot to someone ur unsure about but dont do it if you dont feel comfortable.
I hope you're not expecting fireworks that you'd read about in a novel on a first date. Or maybe you're actually just super content being alone right now. 🤷🏼♀️
Dont expect to have EVERYTHING in common my husband's my everything but him and I are very different, but no harm in second date, if you still don't feel it, dump him and move on.
Girl, trust yourself and what you are perceiving of him. I also have a hard time deciding what to do if a guy likes me and I’m not really feeling it. Loved this video because I’m in the same stage of my love life as you. I really appreciate you sharing your experiences and would love to hear the worst date bumble stories!
I also had good luck on OkCupid. I think if shes serious about wanting a real, serious relationship and not a hookup, she should use a paid dating app. Then you know theres real investment in something from both parties. Not to say you cant find that on free sites, but it's a better chance.
These are my favorite videos of yours!!! I met my boyfriend on Plenty of Fish and we’ve been together 3 years now. I was somewhat attracted to him that night but what made me go on a second date with him was his personality, his humor, the amazing time we had while eating dinner and laughing the night away at that Outback restaurant lol 💕
watching this video after going on my first ever date made me feel so much better, cause I came home and I was wondering if there was something wrong with me for not feeling anything, and I feel so bad cause he's told me he likes me, but I can't give him an answer. I don't think we clicked the way we did in text, and watching this video reassured me I'm not the only one to feel this way after a date. Love your videos and you x
I think that you could be missing out just give him one more chance it could turn out different, your feelings could be just from the stress that you are under and as always Cass you look beautiful thanks for sharing!
om gosh, you need to have a think about your expectations of a first date. you have anxiety, so may the men that have asked you out. maybe you should let guys know that you're bored and that's why periodically you decide to have a meal with someone. I usually say super positive things on these date vids, but this time I'm afraid I can't : (
Cassie ...try differin gel. I use it as a spot treatment. Im fortunate to have good skin for the most part BUT every damn month i get a couple of breakout spots. Lately ive gotten a couple of inflamed, red bumps instead. They hurt badly too !! I just so happened to have had a sample of differen gel from a Walgreens beauty bag so i tried it on my spots. They were more than halfway gone by morning !! This is the 3rd month ive tried it & im hooked. I never would have known w/o that little sample tube so i tell everyone. I hope you see this & try it out ! Its amazing !
I hate anxiety so much! I’m in nursing school and I stress so much about every test we have! I love these types of videos Cassie and I hope you’re surgery went well😊
I TOTALLY understand the struggles of dating. I was on Tinder for SO LONG before I found the one. There were so many duds or ones that would jus ghost after a while. You will find the one for you Cassie! You are quite the catch☺️
I hope you feel better soon.i like to trust my gut when I meet new people. I enjoyed this time with you lady! You are fabulous and deserve someone as equally fabulous!
Cassie, please don’t take this wrong but I think one date is never enough to see who a person is. I think both are as nervous as the other and I think one should go on a second date unless of course it’s safety. I think you need to have more faith in yourself and with that comes showing confidence. Anyway I hope you start feeling better 😊
Cassie as a retired nurse your doing the right thing, get that gallbladder out, it is giving you trouble so let it go, recovery time is different from person to person so stop listening to people, just listen to your doctor and take your time ok..love ya ❤️
Hi Cassie maybe he was super nervous and over compensated- I dated a guy who was super confident talking on the phone to me.. turns out he wrote down things to talk about to ease his nerves 👌🏻
I had my gall bladder out last week, and whilst they were in there they fixed a hernia in my belly button, and removed a cyst off my liver (both unexpected). I was self funded in Australia, so opted for day surgery, in at 7.30am, out at 4pm. I slept for pretty much the next 4 days, and although I had books and a sketch book next to my bed, all I could focus on was watching TH-cam and other social media. Day 5 I was much better, able to get up, focus and only sleep half the day. Today is day 6 and I’m sore but feel great, awake and energised. Given I’m over 50 and had completely unexpected additional issues, this was probably a slow recovery. I could have waited up to a year for free surgery in the public system, but the pain and sleep deprivation was too much.
I am one of those that when I first met my husband in 2008 (then we got married in 2012), it didn’t go “great” on our first date. But there was a spark there from the start. I know, I know, 🤢.... Each date after that got better and better. Go with your gut Cassie. Please don’t beat yourself up or feel bad for knowing it’s not a fit, being honest with this type of thing is the best way to go. You are most definitely NOT a bad person, just the opposite. Wishing you the best!!
When I had my gallbladder removed, I stayed on the couch at my mommas for 3 or 4 days, took it slow for at least a week, but I felt decent a couple days later. You'll be fine, you'll certainly be glad the "attacks" are behind you!! Just take it slow! These are by far my favorite of your videos!!
It’s a good thing you’re getting your gallbladder out I had the same problem the doctor said I should wait and I ended up so sick and was at the point throwing up blood then a month later also lost my appendix and during the surgery I had a rare stroke that only 2% people survive so don’t let anyone tell you that your exaggerating! Take care of yourself because you’re number one! I’m now legally blind and have bad balance lost so much because of everything and in so much depression, and have only one friend now too but you got this I wish you best of luck with everything!
Your skin looks great, actually. I can tell you haven't been picking, so good for you!!! I know how hard it is, especially when they hurt!!! You seem very healthy, Cassie. Keep up this energy however possible!
My gallbladder definitely tried killing me, and had to have emergency surgery to remove it. I have fibro and other issues so recovery was rougher for me, but even still, life is SO much better. Wishing you a speedy recovery!
I absolutely love these videos. Chemistry and relationships are fascinating. I can really relate to your situation too. My friends encourage me to persevere with guys because they want me to find someone and be happy but you gotta trust your gut. It takes maturity to end it kindly when you know it's not for you. I'm 37 and still single but I want the real thing, not just a placeholder. I am really not that picky but I'm a unique girl who doesn't match with many people. I still 100% believe he's out there for both of us.
Hey Cassie! I see so much of my past-self in these videos... I ended up meeting my person 5 years ago via Match.com and remember thinking he was really intense when we first met. I went out with him again and things were a lot better - it was just nerves. I was apparently so anxious I stared at the ground a lot and I didn't realize, which he took for disinterest. Glad we both gave each other a second chance. Praying you find whatever makes you happiest in this life.
I had my gall bladder out aged 38 it's a straight forward operation. Though my surgery took 4 hours instead of 1 hour because my gallbladder was ulcerated because it wasn't taken out sooner. The fact that I was rocking with pain for weeks! Anyway after surgery you go home and are tender for a few days and after 2 to 3 weeks you are totally fine. You might have to be careful with eating fatty foods for a while afterwards as your body gets used to not having a gallbladder.. as I said though it's a pretty straightforward procedure. Xx
Oh yes I forgot to add..I had 35 gall stones in my diseased gallbladder... the doctor kept them to show me...they looked just like gravel stones...no wonder I was in so much pain for months!!
I want to adress the "the fat girl is eating" problem. I am someone who was more or less severely overweight and I have recently and unexpectedly lost few kilos ( don't get me wrong i'm still a bit on the heavy side and need to lose about 7 or 8 kg oh 15 to 20 pounds as some would say but my weight isn't the main focus of my life anymore ...well not everyday at least haha ) and I straight up would feel extremely uncomfortable buying a candy bar from stores or chocolate because I thought people are probably thinking " oh...candy bar ? Figures" and now that weight isn't my all time obsession I realised something : nobody cares what I eat today and nobody did before as well it is indeed all in our heads I realised recently that I have spent a ridiculous amount of time polluting my mind with thoughts like these when my surrounding had probably better things to think about
Every woman I know has had their gallbladder out by our 40s. It's in and out, back home taking care of their families by the next day. I had it done with 5 kids, including 3 sons age one and under (infant twins), and was fine to send my husband to work the next day, handling alone, nursing twins, just taking Motrin. Try not to worry.
Oh Cassie, I'm so with you on the whole don't-feel-good-but-gotta-live-life thing lol. My anxiety sometimes does get the better of me and when I start avoiding people or making excuses not to go out, I know that it has. I do tend to isolate myself and then people lose interest in me. It takes a concerted effort to put the face on and pick a cute outfit and just go out. I'm a lot older than you are (late 50's) so dating in this age bracket is pretty hit or miss. But I love how you are sallying forth anyway. One thing about my stomach churning (caused by nerves in my case) is that it affects my breath, which can make for a very bad first impression LOL.
I'm the exact way with anxiety, depression etc. It's not something that you can fix, it's just the way our minds work! Good luck with your surgery, I know how scary that feels!!
Been watching forever, and I’m so excited to see you dating and putting yourself out there. I loved this video, it was like I was 14 laying on the bed talking to my gf’s on the phone. I miss that time of my life so much. You are ah-mazing! But men get nervous too, and maybe he’s a nervous talker or maybe he was trying to impress you with goals and stuff. When you find someone you grow with them and your two “goals” mend together. You’ve heard tons of advice but dating is hard for women and men. You looked great, I loved that eyeshadow!
Cassie- If you're looking for someone to accept your "crazy" you'll need to understand & be accepting of theirs too! Everyone has flaws. Learn to love those "imperfections" perfectly! 💕 I have my issues. My husband has his. He has Aspergers, ADHD & C-PTSD from childhood. We are both damaged goods. But we help each other fix the broken pieces.... ❤️
I'm due to have my gallbladder removed soon due to gallstones and issues with my gallbladder and pain etc. The one thing I have felt during this time is that am I being over the top, but no I've realized that every body's is different and some people live with gallstones with no issue. But some of us suffer and we've got to put ourselves first. I've been through child birth and personally think gallstone pain is worse! I wish you the best of luck with it ! X
A lot of places don't have an interesting non meat option, so you're stuck with a salad or just steamed veggie sides if you don't want a burger or a steak. I assumed she was referencing that kind of vegetables, not complaining about her choice to only eat non animal products.
Life goals are such a point of compatibility IMO. So much so that I'm single after being in a marriage and lots of ltrs mainly because our life goals didn't match. Your dating life reminds me so much of mine. Anxiety. Tired of modern guys who expect to be pursued. Modern dating is so confusing and annoying. Thanks for being so relatable, Cassie :)
I’m fully invested in your dating life at this point.
Ditto
Same lol
IKR. Lol.
Same! Old married 39 year old me is living vicariously through you 😂
Laura Eaton 30 married and boring = me 😆
Please please please do a worst bumble dates.. I think that would be a entertaining video..
Heather Segura yes!!!
Yes!!! Please do a horrible bumble dates!!!
YES!!!
Yesss!
yes...tell the creepy weird parts too
I think a second date is always a good choice when there’s the “I don’t know” out there. It will solidify either way. This from a woman who’s been traversing this dating world for.... ever. Perpetually single me. I always regret not going on a second date. So much of what we see on a first date is a glimpse of nerves and a person and trying to impress.
I definitely agree! I think a second date can't go a miss. Feelings take time to develop and relationships take a hell of a lot of effort!
Agree. Unless it was super creepy and you feel like you're in danger of getting into a stalker kind of situation, it's usually a good idea.
I dunno. The guy I’m with now, I wasn’t sure about him at first at all, felt like there was no spark. I would say take the second date, if it’s still awful, rip the band aid off.
Sammi Booger Yeah I reckon 2-3 dates is what it takes to see if it’s worth taking further and that is certainly not leading anyone on, it’s just giving it a chance.
I agree. Give it one more and see how you feel.
I met my husband and he was after me back in the day i didn't know how i felt. It took a couple dates and realised i really wanted to meet up more and we are married 3 years and 5 years together :)
Truuuu when I got with my boyfriend it def was not love at first sight for me, I had to feel him out a couple times before I realized how I felt
I don't agree with legit most people, I'd say trust yourself knowing if you're interested or not. Going on a date with someone that you found some yellow flags with is not worth a second date.
Cassie, have you thought about....that he's as or more nervous meeting you. He might relax more on the 2and date. You're NOT going to have EVERYTHING in common with a guy. I think you ought to give it a 2nd date before kicking him to the curb.
Kristi Robare if you don’t feel it, why force it.
She didn’t find him physically attractive, she couldn’t come out and say that though because it’s hypocritical
Give a second date a try, it's not going to hurt anything unless you're 100% positive. Having a "spark" right away is nonsense... plus, he might be more comfortable second time around.
Fyi, my hubby and I were friends online for years before it became more. He visited me for two weeks and I was totally unsure after meeting in person... until it was time for him to leave and I ended up crying because I didn't want him to go that I knew how I felt, and he stayed with me that whole time.
So it took two weeks of being together every day.... it made me realize that having a spark is b.s. My mom adores my hubby and thinks I'm super lucky.
I agree. I met my boyfriend via reddit and I didn't take him seriously cause he's 8 years younger than me. But he flew down to Arizona to visit me and it felt awkward cause well, meeting someone new is just awkward and I'm shy as hell and felt so nervous. Now I'm planning on moving to MN and moving in with him and he's probably the guy I'm gonna marry ☺️
A spark basically means chemistry and you can absolutely tell fairly quickly if there's any chemistry. Sometimes you walk away thinking hm I'm not sure and then a second date is a good idea but she doesn't seem like she's torn about whether she felt something she acts like she knows she didn't feel any chemistry with him and she simply feels bad about it. So yeah I don't think going on a second date is necessary for her, clearly she already knows she's not into the dude
@@bendietrees I have never heard of a Reddit love story lol so crazy! congrats!!
CREEPY DATES THAT WERE CREEPY VIDEO PLEASE.
Lol noted and can do!!
Thrift Thick Yassss! I’m so curious to hear about these! 👏😄
YES
Do you think he may have picked up on your vibe of feeling poorly, tired and a bit pessimistic about the date? If you think it’s possible, give him another date when you’re feeling a bit better. Feeling poorly and tired is really sapping your energy in this video and I really believe you need to just take care of you right now. Gallbladders suck, I’ve been there and had mine out too. Sending positive thoughts and healing vibes xx
These videos make me feel like we are having slumber party girl talk and I love it
Broo even in friendships I HATE feeling like I'm the one calling all the shots and directing all the convos and making the plans... like I love when someone cares enough to ask questions and make some damn effort.
You don’t feel well and he’s probably nervous. Give it another try.
After I got my gallbladder out, I have felt 100% better!!!!!
You have the prettiest teeth!! Okay so here’s my observation as a Casserole “friend”... you are WAY too harsh!! On yourself AND on these first dates. Don’t analyze every single little thing he says or how you feel. Getting to know someone is a process. Take it easy for gosh sakes.
This is the best advice.
You're reading too deeply into things. But this guy seems a little intense but I think you should give it another try if he contacts you. If hes focused on money theres a reason why, like I think you have to give people chances. My boyfriend said I was moody and grumpy on our first date which I'm definitely not that and the second he said was the best date hes ever been on and we had a lovely time. I think first dates can be very stressful and I think maybe he was alittle anxious. It takes time to fall in love and feel all these things. You can't fall in love at first sight, especially not on a dating website. It takes time for things to develop and feelings to even occur. If he felt something maybe give it another go.
Everyone’s experiences are unique. I would try one more date. Nerves can bring out people’s weirdest quirks on first dates. However, DO NOT feel bad if you don’t grant him the gift of a second date. Trust yourself.
Every time I watch one of these videos, it makes me glad I'm old, and past that phase of my life.
Same, but I'm just 29😅
Sheila Big Black Beauty me too and also 29 😂😂
Same same same.
I’m engaged and this marriage better last forever because I never want to date again!
@@TH-camyall good luck 😘
I think second date would make you more sure and if you don’t like him again it wouldn’t necessarily be leading him on
“Creepy bumble dates that were creepy” is the content we want trussssttt me
You’re over thinking it . Go on the second date . I went on a first date Friday the second on Saturday . No regrets
Hey Casey! My mom just had her gallbladder removed and she’s never been happier. No more pain! And recovery was super quick at her age. I wouldn’t worry too much!
Cassie, cut fat completely out of your diet until surgery. I had mine out in March and I had to wait 2 months for surgery. The ONLY thing that helped me was cutting fat out of my diet. I averaged less than 10 grams of fat a day before surgery and it made all the difference in the world. I didn't have a single attack once I cut the fat out. I know it's hard, but being honest with yourself and whoever you're out with isn't going to hurt anything. Good luck! I feel your pain.
Your face at 33:57 says it all. No second date is needed. Lol.
Omg the only one who shows interest and your like thank you next jesus christ
These are my favorites!
Hey Cassie! I've been watching your videos for 5 years but never commented before. I met my boyfriend after so many tinder dates. I was so fed up of getting to know people and then finding out on the first date that they were a complete douche bag. I didn't feel anything special after my first date with my boyfriend, but he turned out to be the most perfect person I could ever imagine!
Keep trying! it is so worth it when you find the right person! And if your anything like as genuine and kind as you seem in your videos, I'm sure it will happen soon!
I’m confused...... first guys aren’t forward enough and now someone seems interested but they’re to interested? Give him a second chance
Replying to this SO late but I’m with you. I think Cassie isn’t quite right here. Guys are generally forward if they like you. These “lack of initiative” men she’s talking about probably just aren’t into her…
you need to give people more of a chance or you’re gonna be forever disappointed.
wisdom
I totally agree! It seems you find too many faults and reasons not to give them a 2nd date/opportunity. Maybe you're not truly as ready as you think you are Cassie. You are a beautiful person inside and out and there is someone for you, maybe just give them a 2nd chance...nerves can betray you. Good luck and great healing after surgery. All will be well...much love to you 💙👍🦸♂️
courtneyjaaade this is so true! After my first date with my boyfriend, I wasn’t considering a second. But I’m so happy I did! :)
I feel like a good video idea (which I’ve seen recently from other TH-camr like Taylor) is going to Sephora, MAC or Ulta and getting your makeup done and seeing how you like or don’t like the results
Hi Cassie! I had my gallbladder removed about 4 years ago when I was 18 and it truly was the best thing i could have possibly done.
Actually rejected the surgery once and that lead to a lot of pain and numerous pancreatic inflammations.
The recovery was quite easier than i thought it would be, since it was a laparoscopy (the thing that hurts the most is the gas that they use for your stomach, but it goes away in 2 days top)and now i can eat and live without worrying about getting a colic (as you said it's not pretty, i was honestly so scared of them that i would only eat baby food for days).
After surgery i was able to eat normally (your body has to adapt though, but it's not going to hurt or anything, just heavy digestions), also you don't have to forget about greasy foods for ever, i do them sometimes and they don't make me feel necessarily bad.
Good luck!
I think you are amazing! Those cords look fabulous on you. As someone who got married at 43 I can tell yes, go with what your heart tells you. I’m proud of you for putting yourself out there. I know a lot of women who have given up. Keep going!!
Sometimes the lasting relationships are with people who grow on you. I'd give him a second date if he initiates it unless you're 100% sure he's not for you xx
Maybe he was just nervous?
I know I can sometimes come off as uninterested or rude but I'm really just anxious and dont want to seem weird.
Give him another shot!!!
Hi Cassie. Could not wait to watch this. Definitely go out again. You will neverrr have everything in common with anyone.. except maybe a twin. How boring it would be. I’ve been married 36 years and my hubby had pretty much hardly anything in common with me ..... but you show each other new things and new ways of being and you change and mellow and meet in the middle after time and that my love is the real bliss. Xxx
I feel you over analyze every person on the dates you have been on. First dates are full of jitters and nervousness and I feel you are not as open minded as you come across. Nothing wrong with giving people another chance. Try to be less negative and enjoy another person's company.
Unfortunately at this point it feels like we’re getting shown (through a second hand experience) how a woman ends up alone
Cass, getting my gallbladder out was the BEST thing I ever did. Having no more gallbladder attacks- a godsend. The likelihood of uh... poop problems... post-surgery is pretty low. I eat exactly the same as I did before and am as normal as ever. 👍🏻 ALSO- in the line of “gas pains” post surgery - yes they blow up your abdomen with gas and yes it can travel to your shoulders and hurt. It just happens. You have to pass (poot) it. The easiest way to avoid shoulder pain is to avoid sitting/standing up as much as possible minus getting up for a short walk every few hours to avoid post surgery clots 😊 Hope this helps!!
Girl, you know we're in invested in your dating life now.
Gallbladder pain is AWFUL, like deathly pain - and I’ve recovered from open heart surgery. Gallbladder pain is up there. I’m glad you’re getting it removed. The recovery took me about five days. Only the first two days did the incision site hurt, after that it was just uncomfortable from the c02 they use. Best of luck. Also, people who say you’re “exaggerating” are annoying. I didn’t see the video they would be referring to, but health is the most important thing in this world and usually the ones who aren’t sympathetic have had perfect health their own lives. Sending you all the love and healing vibes!!!
Yes please do the dates video. I had a weird date from Match cussed me out on a message because I didn't want to talk to him anymore, just because we went to lunch, movies and dinner on the first date, he insisted, he turned it on me that I liked him according to him and that's why I stayed longer to the movies and dinner and now I didn't want to see him anymore. 🤣🤣🤣
Some men really think we owe them everything just because they spent a bit of time or money on a date. I'm the kind of person who tells them to their face that women don't owe them shit!
@@jelatinosa that's why I always pay for my own food, even if they insist on paying!
Cassie, your eyes were poppin! You were putting on the eyeshadow and I was like oh that's kinda pretty...hmm that color is interesting...oy that cranberry is a lil too much....then BAM! You came back with eyeliner and mascara on and Wow! Gorgeous!!!
HELL YES to the idea of sharing dating stories!
And I met my husband on a dating site, Plenty of Fish, so don’t give up! Been with him 7+ years.
Same!!! 5.5 years!!
I went on an online date and first date was kind of goofy lol but I was upfront and straight up asked if he was at all interested because I couldn’t tell, fast forward to five months later and to never have gone on a second date would have been the worst decision of my life. He is the most amazing person I’ve ever met and the love we have for each other even in this short time is something I wish for everyone to experience. Your a beautiful person inside and out, believe in that and the fact that you deserve someone amazing who will make you truly feel loved and valued. Love yourself cuz we love you and your awesome vids!
I have gallatones and attacks when I'm not looking after my health. Since I now eat clean and cut sugar and carbs out I don't need to think about removal as symptoms disappear.
Amy Merrin bravo love to hear this!
For me before I had my gallbladder taken out it didn’t matter what or how much I ate I would still end up having an attack. It only got worse and worse until it was taken out. I feel for ya girl the pain is horrible. ❤️
I was reading the comments BEFORE you came back from the date and I’m shocked that so many people are urging you to go on a second date lol. I feel like you already know that this person is not the one.
Exactly. It makes me really sad that people who LIKE Cassie think that she should settle for a guy who is not interested in hearing what Cassie says, someone who sounds like Ned Flanders + motivational speaker. "You can't have everything in common..." -> What, "everything"? Really? 😔 If you know Cassie at all, you know there is NOTHING in common and this type is NOT for her! Sure, people can be nervous on a first date. But it doesn't change a nice person into something like this.
@@sari5494 I don't think people are telling her to settle but rather that nerves and anxiety can really alter how a person acts. Just something to take into consideration. Many people in successful relationships didn't particular enjoy the first date
I agree with you. When you know you know go with your intuition. Theres a difference between not feeling %100 sure on the first date and just plain out not into the guy. I know when i first meet someone if there is any spark or if there could be. Nothing wrong with giving a second shot to someone ur unsure about but dont do it if you dont feel comfortable.
I hope you're not expecting fireworks that you'd read about in a novel on a first date. Or maybe you're actually just super content being alone right now. 🤷🏼♀️
If you went to get a coffee today and saw this fellow with another date, would you be relieved or jelly
If a little jelly, then see him again
Dont expect to have EVERYTHING in common my husband's my everything but him and I are very different, but no harm in second date, if you still don't feel it, dump him and move on.
Same with my husband. We're chalk and cheese but we work so well together! I wouldn't date someone like me! Haha
@@leam5511 💯 he's an atheist I'm a Christian, he's down to earth, I'm extroverted, I mean we are soooo opposite but we mix very well!
Girl, trust yourself and what you are perceiving of him. I also have a hard time deciding what to do if a guy likes me and I’m not really feeling it. Loved this video because I’m in the same stage of my love life as you. I really appreciate you sharing your experiences and would love to hear the worst date bumble stories!
Bumble seems kind of weird. Maybe try a different app?
Agreed! I had fairly good luck on Okcupid when I was single!
I also had good luck on OkCupid. I think if shes serious about wanting a real, serious relationship and not a hookup, she should use a paid dating app. Then you know theres real investment in something from both parties. Not to say you cant find that on free sites, but it's a better chance.
These are my favorite videos of yours!!! I met my boyfriend on Plenty of Fish and we’ve been together 3 years now. I was somewhat attracted to him that night but what made me go on a second date with him was his personality, his humor, the amazing time we had while eating dinner and laughing the night away at that Outback restaurant lol 💕
watching this video after going on my first ever date made me feel so much better, cause I came home and I was wondering if there was something wrong with me for not feeling anything, and I feel so bad cause he's told me he likes me, but I can't give him an answer. I don't think we clicked the way we did in text, and watching this video reassured me I'm not the only one to feel this way after a date. Love your videos and you x
I think that you could be missing out just give him one more chance it could turn out different, your feelings could be just from the stress that you are under and as always Cass you look beautiful thanks for sharing!
om gosh, you need to have a think about your expectations of a first date. you have anxiety, so may the men that have asked you out. maybe you should let guys know that you're bored and that's why periodically you decide to have a meal with someone. I usually say super positive things on these date vids, but this time I'm afraid I can't : (
Cassie ...try differin gel. I use it as a spot treatment. Im fortunate to have good skin for the most part BUT every damn month i get a couple of breakout spots. Lately ive gotten a couple of inflamed, red bumps instead. They hurt badly too !! I just so happened to have had a sample of differen gel from a Walgreens beauty bag so i tried it on my spots. They were more than halfway gone by morning !! This is the 3rd month ive tried it & im hooked. I never would have known w/o that little sample tube so i tell everyone. I hope you see this & try it out ! Its amazing !
I hate anxiety so much! I’m in nursing school and I stress so much about every test we have! I love these types of videos Cassie and I hope you’re surgery went well😊
I TOTALLY understand the struggles of dating. I was on Tinder for SO LONG before I found the one. There were so many duds or ones that would jus ghost after a while. You will find the one for you Cassie! You are quite the catch☺️
"my standards are so high you guys" 😂😂😂♥️♥️
I hope you feel better soon.i like to trust my gut when I meet new people. I enjoyed this time with you lady! You are fabulous and deserve someone as equally fabulous!
Cassie, please don’t take this wrong but I think one date is never enough to see who a person is. I think both are as nervous as the other and I think one should go on a second date unless of course it’s safety. I think you need to have more faith in yourself and with that comes showing confidence. Anyway I hope you start feeling better 😊
No!! You SHOULD be excited to see him again!! Don't settle.
Cassie as a retired nurse your doing the right thing, get that gallbladder out, it is giving you trouble so let it go, recovery time is different from person to person so stop listening to people, just listen to your doctor and take your time ok..love ya ❤️
I am quickly becoming addicted to these videos. Thanks for the great content!
Same ! This is one year old and I’m here catching up on all the ones I’ve missed lol
Such a cute look, Cassie! Completely feel you on the anxiety/stress/depression front. You're not alone.
I love your videos. I struggle with adult acne (& painful cystic acne at times). Thank you for always being REAL.
Hi Cassie maybe he was super nervous and over compensated- I dated a guy who was super confident talking on the phone to me.. turns out he wrote down things to talk about to ease his nerves 👌🏻
I had my gall bladder out last week, and whilst they were in there they fixed a hernia in my belly button, and removed a cyst off my liver (both unexpected). I was self funded in Australia, so opted for day surgery, in at 7.30am, out at 4pm. I slept for pretty much the next 4 days, and although I had books and a sketch book next to my bed, all I could focus on was watching TH-cam and other social media. Day 5 I was much better, able to get up, focus and only sleep half the day. Today is day 6 and I’m sore but feel great, awake and energised. Given I’m over 50 and had completely unexpected additional issues, this was probably a slow recovery.
I could have waited up to a year for free surgery in the public system, but the pain and sleep deprivation was too much.
I love it when you do a video like this. I feel like we are getting ready with each other
I am one of those that when I first met my husband in 2008 (then we got married in 2012), it didn’t go “great” on our first date. But there was a spark there from the start. I know, I know, 🤢.... Each date after that got better and better. Go with your gut Cassie. Please don’t beat yourself up or feel bad for knowing it’s not a fit, being honest with this type of thing is the best way to go. You are most definitely NOT a bad person, just the opposite.
Wishing you the best!!
When I had my gallbladder removed, I stayed on the couch at my mommas for 3 or 4 days, took it slow for at least a week, but I felt decent a couple days later. You'll be fine, you'll certainly be glad the "attacks" are behind you!! Just take it slow!
These are by far my favorite of your videos!!
It’s a good thing you’re getting your gallbladder out I had the same problem the doctor said I should wait and I ended up so sick and was at the point throwing up blood then a month later also lost my appendix and during the surgery I had a rare stroke that only 2% people survive so don’t let anyone tell you that your exaggerating! Take care of yourself because you’re number one! I’m now legally blind and have bad balance lost so much because of everything and in so much depression, and have only one friend now too but you got this I wish you best of luck with everything!
Your skin looks great, actually. I can tell you haven't been picking, so good for you!!! I know how hard it is, especially when they hurt!!! You seem very healthy, Cassie. Keep up this energy however possible!
My gallbladder definitely tried killing me, and had to have emergency surgery to remove it. I have fibro and other issues so recovery was rougher for me, but even still, life is SO much better. Wishing you a speedy recovery!
I absolutely love these videos. Chemistry and relationships are fascinating. I can really relate to your situation too. My friends encourage me to persevere with guys because they want me to find someone and be happy but you gotta trust your gut. It takes maturity to end it kindly when you know it's not for you. I'm 37 and still single but I want the real thing, not just a placeholder. I am really not that picky but I'm a unique girl who doesn't match with many people. I still 100% believe he's out there for both of us.
Hey Cassie! I see so much of my past-self in these videos... I ended up meeting my person 5 years ago via Match.com and remember thinking he was really intense when we first met. I went out with him again and things were a lot better - it was just nerves. I was apparently so anxious I stared at the ground a lot and I didn't realize, which he took for disinterest. Glad we both gave each other a second chance. Praying you find whatever makes you happiest in this life.
Yay I love these! I want Cassie to find her other half
Thank you for rooting for me!! 😭💕
@@thriftthick we're all rooting for you, always. We love you Cassie and your little purrbugs too 😘🥰🖤🖤 xxx
I had my gall bladder out aged 38 it's a straight forward operation. Though my surgery took 4 hours instead of 1 hour because my gallbladder was ulcerated because it wasn't taken out sooner. The fact that I was rocking with pain for weeks! Anyway after surgery you go home and are tender for a few days and after 2 to 3 weeks you are totally fine. You might have to be careful with eating fatty foods for a while afterwards as your body gets used to not having a gallbladder.. as I said though it's a pretty straightforward procedure. Xx
Oh yes I forgot to add..I had 35 gall stones in my diseased gallbladder... the doctor kept them to show me...they looked just like gravel stones...no wonder I was in so much pain for months!!
Holy crap, I’m in love with your eyeshadow! 😻
Edit: ....and your outfit and just everything. You look great!
I want to adress the "the fat girl is eating" problem. I am someone who was more or less severely overweight and I have recently and unexpectedly lost few kilos ( don't get me wrong i'm still a bit on the heavy side and need to lose about 7 or 8 kg oh 15 to 20 pounds as some would say but my weight isn't the main focus of my life anymore ...well not everyday at least haha ) and I straight up would feel extremely uncomfortable buying a candy bar from stores or chocolate because I thought people are probably thinking " oh...candy bar ? Figures" and now that weight isn't my all time obsession I realised something : nobody cares what I eat today and nobody did before as well it is indeed all in our heads I realised recently that I have spent a ridiculous amount of time polluting my mind with thoughts like these when my surrounding had probably better things to think about
Married with 2 kids, haven’t gone on a date in over 3 years.... so exciting to watch this lol!
Same. 😆 I think the vicarious dating is more fun than the actual dating.
Veronica DG yes! Lol
Every woman I know has had their gallbladder out by our 40s. It's in and out, back home taking care of their families by the next day. I had it done with 5 kids, including 3 sons age one and under (infant twins), and was fine to send my husband to work the next day, handling alone, nursing twins, just taking Motrin. Try not to worry.
When was your last relationship Cassie?
Oh Cassie, I'm so with you on the whole don't-feel-good-but-gotta-live-life thing lol. My anxiety sometimes does get the better of me and when I start avoiding people or making excuses not to go out, I know that it has. I do tend to isolate myself and then people lose interest in me. It takes a concerted effort to put the face on and pick a cute outfit and just go out. I'm a lot older than you are (late 50's) so dating in this age bracket is pretty hit or miss. But I love how you are sallying forth anyway. One thing about my stomach churning (caused by nerves in my case) is that it affects my breath, which can make for a very bad first impression LOL.
I died when your eye makeup remover dripped on your shirt.
Jennifer Hogan wtf lots of people do it the same way
I'm the exact way with anxiety, depression etc. It's not something that you can fix, it's just the way our minds work! Good luck with your surgery, I know how scary that feels!!
Love the makeup!! That berry liner makes your eyes pop! Beautiful!
Off topic but what are you using to remove your eye makeup?
Oh my goodness your hair is amazing!
Been watching forever, and I’m so excited to see you dating and putting yourself out there. I loved this video, it was like I was 14 laying on the bed talking to my gf’s on the phone. I miss that time of my life so much. You are ah-mazing! But men get nervous too, and maybe he’s a nervous talker or maybe he was trying to impress you with goals and stuff. When you find someone you grow with them and your two “goals” mend together. You’ve heard tons of advice but dating is hard for women and men. You looked great, I loved that eyeshadow!
Cassie- If you're looking for someone to accept your "crazy" you'll need to understand & be accepting of theirs too! Everyone has flaws. Learn to love those "imperfections" perfectly! 💕 I have my issues. My husband has his. He has Aspergers, ADHD & C-PTSD from childhood. We are both damaged goods. But we help each other fix the broken pieces.... ❤️
I'm due to have my gallbladder removed soon due to gallstones and issues with my gallbladder and pain etc. The one thing I have felt during this time is that am I being over the top, but no I've realized that every body's is different and some people live with gallstones with no issue. But some of us suffer and we've got to put ourselves first. I've been through child birth and personally think gallstone pain is worse! I wish you the best of luck with it ! X
"Feeling stressed sometimes over hanging out with friends"🙌🙌🙌🙌
The hop on the bed ,the uuuughhhh!!!!! and I juuuussssttttt don't knnnooowwww!!!!!! is my whole life!
"The only thing I can eat is the vegetables and bread" said the vegetarian.
Maybe she was hoping for something a bit more interesting besides a salad?!
Midnite Last I know, but she talked about being a vegetarian before her gall bladder issue.
A lot of places don't have an interesting non meat option, so you're stuck with a salad or just steamed veggie sides if you don't want a burger or a steak. I assumed she was referencing that kind of vegetables, not complaining about her choice to only eat non animal products.
What? There is SO much more that veggies and bread for vegetarians. It’s disappointing when restaurants don’t carry more.
Haven't watched one of these and omg so much fun to watch. Thanks for sharing this part of your life.
I’d love to hear the bad/creepy date stories that you have! This series is my favorite and I always get so excited when you post :)
my favorite look you’ve done soooo far, so beautiful ! and even that green on you is just wow !!
Listen to yourself. No, you “shouldn’t” feel a certain way. You actually feel the way you feel.
Life goals are such a point of compatibility IMO. So much so that I'm single after being in a marriage and lots of ltrs mainly because our life goals didn't match. Your dating life reminds me so much of mine. Anxiety. Tired of modern guys who expect to be pursued. Modern dating is so confusing and annoying. Thanks for being so relatable, Cassie :)