✅If you have some questions and inquiries email us at❓ERICANDCINDYSADVENTURE@GMAIL.COM If you'd like to support our channel, see the details below: 😊👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾 *HOW TO SUPPORT OUR CHANNEL* ❤️Buy me a coffee at www.buymeacoffee.com/ericandcindy ❤️Cash app at $ECadventures Need a VPN? Here is the one we recommend. We have used IP Vanish for several years. Use the link below and you will receive a special discount. affiliate.ipvanish.com/aff_c?offer_id=1&aff_id=2054&url_id=346 Need to maintain a U.S. postal address for your important mail? Here is our recommendation: travelingmailbox.com/?ref=1465 If you are looking for a friend or serious relationship with a nice Filipina/Filipino. Try the Christian Filipina site. 👩🏽❤️👨🏾You can sign-up to this link below 👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾 www.christianfilipina.com/?affid=1783 If you have found your Filipina and in need for visa processing sign up to this link bellow 👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾 www.filipinovisa.com/?affid=1783i
When someone calls another person rich, it implies that the person has an endless supply of money and should therefore have no problem giving them money. It also appeals to a person's pride. It encourages the person to give them money to keep up the appearance of being rich even if they are not. Helping someone when you want to is one thing. Being obligated to pay for other peoples living expenses is a totally different thing. Set boundaries and stick with them.
Money is always a difficult subject. Here in the West, the obligation is (mostly) only to yourself and your children. In the Philippines, as a foreigner, you are always going to be thought of as rich. There are sometimes unfair expectations about what you can afford. Without going into too much detail, I'll say this - there is ALWAYS something going on. Filipino families are BIG, especially by our standards and there is a lot more interaction with aunts/uncles/cousins/nieces and nephews. At some point, one or a few of them are going to get sick, have a typhoon blow a roof off a house, or pass away. That's not to mention the birthdays, Christmas (and even New Years) celebrations that some family members might be looking for a sponsor for. They won't even ask you (foreigner). They will approach your wife and sometimes accuse her of changing and spreading gossip if they don't get what they want. Family is a blessing in the Philippines, but sometimes also a curse. You have to try and understand the family dynamics as early as you can and establish the boundaries. If you try to help everyone, you go broke. Focus on only her parents and their absolute necessities (your wifes obligations that she already had before you came along), be kind and generous where you can. Set a budget for emergency funds, outside of your wife and kids and don't be bullied into spending more than you can afford. A good family will understand there are limits. When it comes to helping each other out. Sure, for smaller things, we do that as a family, but if anything is bigger (like painting the house, driving me for hours to the city, etc.), I pay them. I pay them the same rate as I would have paid anyone else (far above the minimum wage). I don't expect them to do it for me for free and that way too, I don't feel obligated into anything else later.
This is setting men up to go broke in the Philippines. Tell them to go pound sand. Not your business, not your concern and definitely not your responsibility.
Our rule is, if the person does not work or even attempt to work, no helping lazy members. I have loaned her uncle money and yes he paid me back. You have to set the rules, and remember don’t give what you can’t afford to lose.
Only help those that are in need and not those who just leach off you. And also what you can afford to loose. Definitely help her parents. Always remember why you married your filipina wife. It is because she is feminine and traditional compared to the western girls. But do not forget why she is the way she is. It is because of her love of family and family values. Most western guys do not realize this. They take the best from what their filipina wife has to offer and not pay the cost. Her love of family means she will help them when they are in need. If you like a wife who do not help her family financially, or be more like you in terms of who you feel you are only responsible for (only your wife and kids), there are a lot of women just like that in your own countries.
@@Ericandcindysadventures Thanks. I just find it funny that people want the family oriented, loyal wives, but then complain when they realize that includes helping family. Traditional women often come with traditional family values like helping their family.
some of us are on a very modest fixed income and couldn't afford to cover a 70% big bill hospital stay for example for the family .. even if we wanted to 😢
If a Filipina and he family can't financially sustain themselves on their own without your money, leave her be somebody else's woman= problem. It's 2024, she needs to provide her own financial security.
Married 26yrs to a Peruvian. We've always helped, it's not forced. Paying her sister's rent, basic bills etc for tbis entire time. I keep records, I've spent $60k over a 26yr period. That's nothing in my eyes..... Now my wife went woke and divorced me...Probably gonna go marry the sister now, just to piss of the ex wife 😅
If you can afford it and it is appreciated (yes). Period. Why let loved ones suffer or a loved one family suffer? This of course is a case by case basis and must be reasonable. You can't save everybody.
ive been with my wife 3years now no one has ever asked me for one penny . if something happens and they need help yes i would but like i said they never asked
Sadly I feel I am stuck paying. I should of never started. Not married but I paid for foods for her family and now they expect me to pay every time. Each grocery bill gets larger and larger some due inflation and now I personally feel they are buying more and more. My girlfriend keeps saying to spread your blessings, however it now is exceeding my budget.
the short answer is never. you can chip in taking care of her parents but it should never be your sole responsibility nor should you be "helping" or "supporting" financially with her siblings. if your filipina demands you to "support" her family. that's 100 percent a gold digger.
Hello, sad sad, the evil piece of paper with a value, most foreigners are having a tough time taking care of their responsibilities in their native countries ( eg.child support) . We now run to other countries, marry someone , get accepted by the family, and now its expats job to support the family ridiculous. Since when a marriage involves multiple people , it should be a 1 to 1. If one can help out from time to time to family members, it is acceptable, but to think it's a regular occurrence, think again, this is not love ( stupidity, more like it).. Most expats are going broke in the Philippines because they can't say NO.. true love from any partner should not have a dollar value. Furthermore, one marry to create their primary family, to which the other becomes a secondary family...
This may vary from family to family. Filipinos have a culture called bayanihan. This means helping one another. So if you are married to a Filipino this will apply to you.
I believe if you are from the west and your exchange is in the USA $ I think it's better to invest in the family like a small business something in demand if the family is business minded!! It's possible to get along in family business. I have ducks and chickens investments and I'm retired so I say yes have a family business contributing equally with everyone involved.
![ILLSLICK - THE KING'S LANDING [Freestyle]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/feIJJnNkTfk/mqdefault.jpg)
✅If you have some questions and inquiries email us at❓ERICANDCINDYSADVENTURE@GMAIL.COM
If you'd like to support our channel, see the details below: 😊👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾
*HOW TO SUPPORT OUR CHANNEL*
❤️Buy me a coffee at www.buymeacoffee.com/ericandcindy
❤️Cash app at $ECadventures
Need a VPN? Here is the one we recommend. We have used IP Vanish for several years. Use the link below and you will receive a special discount.
affiliate.ipvanish.com/aff_c?offer_id=1&aff_id=2054&url_id=346
Need to maintain a U.S. postal address for your important mail? Here is our recommendation:
travelingmailbox.com/?ref=1465
If you are looking for a friend or serious relationship with a nice Filipina/Filipino. Try the Christian Filipina site. 👩🏽❤️👨🏾You can sign-up to this link below 👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾
www.christianfilipina.com/?affid=1783
If you have found your Filipina and in need for visa processing sign up to this link bellow
👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾
www.filipinovisa.com/?affid=1783i
When someone calls another person rich, it implies that the person has an endless supply of money and should therefore have no problem giving them money. It also appeals to a person's pride. It encourages the person to give them money to keep up the appearance of being rich even if they are not. Helping someone when you want to is one thing. Being obligated to pay for other peoples living expenses is a totally different thing. Set boundaries and stick with them.
Great comment 👍🏽
GARY I AGREE WITH YOU 2,000 PERCENT.
Money is always a difficult subject. Here in the West, the obligation is (mostly) only to yourself and your children. In the Philippines, as a foreigner, you are always going to be thought of as rich. There are sometimes unfair expectations about what you can afford. Without going into too much detail, I'll say this - there is ALWAYS something going on.
Filipino families are BIG, especially by our standards and there is a lot more interaction with aunts/uncles/cousins/nieces and nephews. At some point, one or a few of them are going to get sick, have a typhoon blow a roof off a house, or pass away. That's not to mention the birthdays, Christmas (and even New Years) celebrations that some family members might be looking for a sponsor for. They won't even ask you (foreigner). They will approach your wife and sometimes accuse her of changing and spreading gossip if they don't get what they want. Family is a blessing in the Philippines, but sometimes also a curse. You have to try and understand the family dynamics as early as you can and establish the boundaries. If you try to help everyone, you go broke. Focus on only her parents and their absolute necessities (your wifes obligations that she already had before you came along), be kind and generous where you can. Set a budget for emergency funds, outside of your wife and kids and don't be bullied into spending more than you can afford. A good family will understand there are limits.
When it comes to helping each other out. Sure, for smaller things, we do that as a family, but if anything is bigger (like painting the house, driving me for hours to the city, etc.), I pay them. I pay them the same rate as I would have paid anyone else (far above the minimum wage). I don't expect them to do it for me for free and that way too, I don't feel obligated into anything else later.
Very good advice! Thanks.
This is setting men up to go broke in the Philippines.
Tell them to go pound sand.
Not your business, not your concern and definitely not your responsibility.
Our rule is, if the person does not work or even attempt to work, no helping lazy members. I have loaned her uncle money and yes he paid me back. You have to set the rules, and remember don’t give what you can’t afford to lose.
Thanks E!
Explained in a way that makes sense. Nice job Sir&Mame.
Thanks! We are happy that the info was helpful.
Only help those that are in need and not those who just leach off you. And also what you can afford to loose. Definitely help her parents. Always remember why you married your filipina wife. It is because she is feminine and traditional compared to the western girls. But do not forget why she is the way she is. It is because of her love of family and family values. Most western guys do not realize this. They take the best from what their filipina wife has to offer and not pay the cost. Her love of family means she will help them when they are in need. If you like a wife who do not help her family financially, or be more like you in terms of who you feel you are only responsible for (only your wife and kids), there are a lot of women just like that in your own countries.
Very good comment! Thanks.
@@Ericandcindysadventures Thanks. I just find it funny that people want the family oriented, loyal wives, but then complain when they realize that includes helping family. Traditional women often come with traditional family values like helping their family.
When I go to my in-laws provincia they treat me with free rides, lodging and home cooked meals. I send them balikbayan boxes.
Sounds great!
Good info to know.......
Glad it was helpful!
some of us are on a very modest fixed income and couldn't afford to cover a 70% big bill hospital stay for example for the family .. even if we wanted to 😢
It is understandable if that is your situation.
Great info, thanks!
Glad it was helpful!
I’m one of them😅 from Tucson Arizona but, Filipino / American.
Ok thanks!
@@Ericandcindysadventures you’re very welcome
If a Filipina and he family can't financially sustain themselves on their own without your money,
leave her be somebody else's woman= problem.
It's 2024,
she needs to provide her own financial security.
Thanks for your thoughts!
It depends.
That’s true!
Married 26yrs to a Peruvian. We've always helped, it's not forced. Paying her sister's rent, basic bills etc for tbis entire time. I keep records, I've spent $60k over a 26yr period. That's nothing in my eyes.....
Now my wife went woke and divorced me...Probably gonna go marry the sister now, just to piss of the ex wife 😅
Thanks for your comment! 😊
If you can afford it and it is appreciated (yes). Period. Why let loved ones suffer or a loved one family suffer? This of course is a case by case basis and must be reasonable. You can't save everybody.
That’s right.
ive been with my wife 3years now no one has ever asked me for one penny . if something happens and they need help yes i would but like i said they never asked
Consider yourself lucky!
9 years for me.and my wife's family never ask for anything
Sadly I feel I am stuck paying. I should of never started. Not married but I paid for foods for her family and now they expect me to pay every time. Each grocery bill gets larger and larger some due inflation and now I personally feel they are buying more and more. My girlfriend keeps saying to spread your blessings, however it now is exceeding my budget.
Only give what you can afford.
Your screwed my friend they are gonna suck you dry😂😂😂
the short answer is never. you can chip in taking care of her parents but it should never be your sole responsibility nor should you be "helping" or "supporting" financially with her siblings. if your filipina demands you to "support" her family. that's 100 percent a gold digger.
Thanks for the very good comment!
Well IF and big IF you do support there is a limit per month.Would I ? No way as it is coming out of my budget
Thanks for your input!
Good luck LOL, don’t bother getting a Filipina then.
Hello, sad sad, the evil piece of paper with a value, most foreigners are having a tough time taking care of their responsibilities in their native countries ( eg.child support) . We now run to other countries, marry someone , get accepted by the family, and now its expats job to support the family ridiculous. Since when a marriage involves multiple people , it should be a 1 to 1.
If one can help out from time to time to family members, it is acceptable, but to think it's a regular occurrence, think again, this is not love ( stupidity, more like it).. Most expats are going broke in the Philippines because they can't say NO.. true love from any partner should not have a dollar value. Furthermore, one marry to create their primary family, to which the other becomes a secondary family...
Exactly
I would if i was a married to a Phillipine Queen life is hard over there
Thanks for your input.
How did you two meet? I'd like to visit there some time soon. But, don't want an instant relationship. Would like a friend/guide. Can you help?
Hello there. Check out our video on how we met. You can contact us by email at ericandcindysadventure@gmail.com if you would like some help.
Thanks!
Happy New Year! I had a thought. Would the Filipino families give money to the Foreigner if he came into money problems for whatever reason?
This may vary from family to family. Filipinos have a culture called bayanihan. This means helping one another. So if you are married to a Filipino this will apply to you.
I believe if you are from the west and your exchange is in the USA $ I think it's better to invest in the family like a small business something in demand if the family is business minded!! It's possible to get along in family business. I have ducks and chickens investments and I'm retired so I say yes have a family business contributing equally with everyone involved.
Sounds good. Yes you really need to be here for that kind of investment. Glad to hear it worked for you.
is everyone chipping in the same amount or is it expected that you pay more because your from a rich country
The amount generally varies. It depends on the foreigner.
This is a joke. What would they do if she wasn't with a foreigner ?
lol! It’s a real consideration here.
No you should not support them at all, gifts are ok but they have no shame asking for money
Thanks for your input!