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I always told myself I didn’t go through all the BS I did for nothing. It all was a lesson, for something. Pressure makes diamonds and baby I’m shining
Oh wow, this is really interesting, I think I also fell in the mistake of "thanking" too much some people for some experiences, but in the end, I didn't become who I am because of those people, but because of how I chose to handle those situations, so now I can happily remove them from my life story, keeping the lessons, wow.
Amazing message!! Something big changed for me a couple years ago when I realized that pain =/= suffering, and that pain is inevitable but suffering was optional. Whenever I feel pain, instead of overthinking it and turning it into suffering, I just say “I’m allowed to feel this pain right now. This is the human condition.” And it’s sooooo empowering. Often the pain dissolves moments later.
You put words in my mouth with the voluntourism commentary 🗣️ Always thought it was an iffy practice and not to mention doesn’t actually help the communities in many ways
Sometimes we suffer for specific reason but you need to realize that the pain is temporary ❤ you will learn from this experience and become a different version of yourself after this ❤
your father choosing suffering reminds me of my mother who did the same thankfully i also reached "enlightmenet" at one point and everything really changed for me :) i really enjoyed watching this video it's nice to get an affirmation about things u don't usually say out loud haha
Exactly what I've been thinking and this pops up. I have all these books on buddhism, mindfulness and self acceptance etc and reading them is great but these past few days I feel like "why am I making myself so damn miserable". Ty for video
I think a good example of the society's obsession with suffering is the debates on ozempic. Yeah there are people who are genuinely concerned about possible side effects but most of the time people are hating on ozempic users for choosing the "easy route." They literally have a problem with people losing weight without suffering enough. And then the users are trying to defend themselves by talking about the dizziness, nausea, and other problems they had. I was shocked when I was reading reddit comments like what😂 for our society not suffering enough during the process automatically means you don't deserve what you get. Being happy or content (independent of the context) is shamed and punished. Our parents and teachers operate with the same logic so we all turn into suffering addicts in the end. Let's gooo and end this unnecessary addiction🎉
that is NOT why people (at least normal people) are mad about the use of Ozempic to loose weight. Ozempic is primarily a medicine for type 2 diabetics, they NEED it to regulate their blood sugar levels. It could be a case of life or death for them to have or not have access to the medication. Now celebrities, a while ago, started popularizing the use of Ozempic once they realized it helped them lose weight. I couldn't care less what people do to their own bodies as long as it doesn't affect others lives. Now why does this affect anyone's life? You might ask. Well because the celebrities obsession with this drug has started causing shortages and the rising of prices, a lot of middle/lower class people with type 2 diabetes have been finding it insanely hard to afford and/or find the medication that they NEED to literally survive. So no, it has nothing to do with the "easy route" or whatever you were thinking. The "Ozempic Debate" is a debate on how far Hollywood is willing to go without caring for "normal people's" lives.
I agree with you in almost everything but the main problem with ozempic (for me) is the amounts of people who actually need it to treat diabetes and can't find it due to to this "trend"😢
I lived in 2 third world countries and those were the best years of my life before I moved to the 1st world countries-which are now one of the best places to live in the world (Safety, Culture, Cost of Living, etc). I also say I would send my children to grow up or have a mission in the third world country, not for suffering, but so they can learn what true happiness outside of material and social life is.
i absolutely love this video and your channel. i've been trying hard for the past 3 months to pick myself up from years of trauma and i think this is the most important vid you've made yet.
One of my favorite authors Pete Walker has an amazing story about this topic. He was visiting a third-world country (Bangladesh I believe) a long time ago, and there was a catastrophic flood overnight. Thousands of people lost their homes or died. So when he woke up he expected the streets outside his hostel to be a blighted hellscape of pain, death, and sorrow. But instead he saw families cooking on makeshift stoves, children running and playing in the streets, and people talking and helping each other. Even in the face of one of the MOST traumatizing things that can happen to a person (catastrophic natural disaster), the people he saw chose to keep going and be grateful for what they still had, even if it was simply being alive. Even reading his account of it was so moving to me I think of it every time I realize I am suffering for no reason.
I mean its good that foreigners come to volunteer in Africa and help some cases but at the same time people should stop associating Africa with suffering ...WE ARE NOT SUFFERING...we are not living like animals and maybe when you guys come try to capture the amazing sides and not make Africa like a jungle with no buildings and internet and thank you mae for addressing that issue .
Start with your local communities, huh? I was thinking of potential missionary trips but kind of like you described it, it would feel a little forced. A very good thing but definitely disingenuous towards myself. I heard another point of view yesterday that involved aiding your local community too, I feel that I ought to start thinking about that.
I'm Brazilian, we kinda don't really know anything about self improvement (at least I don't know many people who are in it here). The biggest part of the Brazilian population were taught to work hard, be a people pleaser and if you're not like that you're lazy and rude.
Suffering is like when you eat you gotta poop. We dont glorify the poop or the process of excreting like how we glorify and celebrate food and the culinary arts, but we do fully accept that we must poop. Every dimension of life has its "poop" or release, or negative element, therefore, suffering is not optional. You are wrong if you think it is. We are born out of suffering, as birthing itself is an exhausting, arduous process. Suffering is indeed a concomitant of pleasure. You must suffer because it is the law. There is no option not to. However, the mind is so maleable that we can make our suffering a tolerable, even pleasurable experience by shifting its focus through mental transmutation, allowing time to do its work, flushing out the suffering once the season for suffering arises.
You’re exactly proving her point though some of us are ATTACHED to suffering like we need it in our life like we don’t need to suffer through pain, pain is inevitable which is the poop i guess LMAO but we don’t need to love it
@theloveboat1999 i think she is talking about the inadvertent romanticizing of suffering people do when she mentions the glorification of it. Im talking about dualism and the reality of suffering, but specifically the reality of suffering as it relates to pleasure and about what we can do to counter the consequential nature of suffering through imaginative efforts. I can agree with "lets stop glorifying suffering" as i hinted at in my comment, but what i can't agree with is the caption "suffering is an option". It's not an option in this causal reality.
There is actual suffering right here in America, plenty of shelters need help and resources. No need to go to another country in search of a life changing experience.
Without suffering you won't change. This is how people are. Accept it, or continue to live in a fantasy which will eventually collapse in to suffering. There is no avoiding it. Also, if you avoid change then it will lead to suffering. Suffer = change. Inflexibility = suffer. Either way, learn to endure. The best way to avoid the most suffering is to obey God's commandments because they lead you on a path to peaceful living.
People change through learning. Learning doesn't require suffering. Also, anyone who preaches about 'God's commandments' in comment sections cannot possibly have a flexible mind.
Some people suffer all their life and never change. The point is to learn the lesson from the suffering and move on to be happier. But most of the world hates happiness and contentment so they keeo choosing to suffer
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THE SAME THING EXACTLY SAME THING IM APPLYING TO MYSELF LIKE NO USE OF CRYING ON EVERY SHIT LIFE THROWS AT YOU...JUST CHOSE YOUR EMOTION TO CONTROL IT
literally!!
Control it or it controls you.
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional 🌱💖
I always told myself I didn’t go through all the BS I did for nothing. It all was a lesson, for something. Pressure makes diamonds and baby I’m shining
Preach it girl ..... society glorifies suffering And overwork 😢
Oh wow, this is really interesting, I think I also fell in the mistake of "thanking" too much some people for some experiences, but in the end, I didn't become who I am because of those people, but because of how I chose to handle those situations, so now I can happily remove them from my life story, keeping the lessons, wow.
Amazing message!! Something big changed for me a couple years ago when I realized that pain =/= suffering, and that pain is inevitable but suffering was optional. Whenever I feel pain, instead of overthinking it and turning it into suffering, I just say “I’m allowed to feel this pain right now. This is the human condition.” And it’s sooooo empowering. Often the pain dissolves moments later.
Every weekly discussion in your
videos always aligns perfectly with what’s going on with in my life - ❤
You put words in my mouth with the voluntourism commentary 🗣️ Always thought it was an iffy practice and not to mention doesn’t actually help the communities in many ways
Sometimes we suffer for specific reason but you need to realize that the pain is temporary ❤ you will learn from this experience and become a different version of yourself after this ❤
your father choosing suffering reminds me of my mother who did the same thankfully i also reached "enlightmenet" at one point and everything really changed for me :) i really enjoyed watching this video it's nice to get an affirmation about things u don't usually say out loud haha
Exactly what I've been thinking and this pops up. I have all these books on buddhism, mindfulness and self acceptance etc and reading them is great but these past few days I feel like "why am I making myself so damn miserable". Ty for video
👏 agree 💯 "Suffering" is optional.
Omg I was a fan since your first videos. I'm so happy that you've gained more popularity!
maeeee i’m obsessed with you 😭😭 you teach me new things every week
Speaking on the voluntourism was honestly so good!
SO good i agree
Didn’t finish the video yet, but I LOVE YOUR NEW MAKEUP STYLE! ITS SUBTLE CHANGES, BUT U LOOK MORE DREAMY
THE TIMING-
I think a good example of the society's obsession with suffering is the debates on ozempic. Yeah there are people who are genuinely concerned about possible side effects but most of the time people are hating on ozempic users for choosing the "easy route." They literally have a problem with people losing weight without suffering enough. And then the users are trying to defend themselves by talking about the dizziness, nausea, and other problems they had. I was shocked when I was reading reddit comments like what😂 for our society not suffering enough during the process automatically means you don't deserve what you get. Being happy or content (independent of the context) is shamed and punished. Our parents and teachers operate with the same logic so we all turn into suffering addicts in the end. Let's gooo and end this unnecessary addiction🎉
Wooahhh this is a really great example! I had to sit back and think about this for a bit.
that is NOT why people (at least normal people) are mad about the use of Ozempic to loose weight. Ozempic is primarily a medicine for type 2 diabetics, they NEED it to regulate their blood sugar levels. It could be a case of life or death for them to have or not have access to the medication. Now celebrities, a while ago, started popularizing the use of Ozempic once they realized it helped them lose weight. I couldn't care less what people do to their own bodies as long as it doesn't affect others lives. Now why does this affect anyone's life? You might ask. Well because the celebrities obsession with this drug has started causing shortages and the rising of prices, a lot of middle/lower class people with type 2 diabetes have been finding it insanely hard to afford and/or find the medication that they NEED to literally survive. So no, it has nothing to do with the "easy route" or whatever you were thinking. The "Ozempic Debate" is a debate on how far Hollywood is willing to go without caring for "normal people's" lives.
I agree with you in almost everything but the main problem with ozempic (for me) is the amounts of people who actually need it to treat diabetes and can't find it due to to this "trend"😢
Mae you keep changing my life
I’m all about self improvement and I love your insights and hearing about your past!
It’s always a good decision to listen to you.
Yay. Mae posted!
Every time you you post I get so excited ❤️
I love your videos, so helpful at the perfect time
WAKE UP EVERYONE!! MOTHER IS HERE 🙌✨
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pain x resistance = pain + suffering
pain + acceptance = pain
I lived in 2 third world countries and those were the best years of my life before I moved to the 1st world countries-which are now one of the best places to live in the world (Safety, Culture, Cost of Living, etc). I also say I would send my children to grow up or have a mission in the third world country, not for suffering, but so they can learn what true happiness outside of material and social life is.
i absolutely love this video and your channel. i've been trying hard for the past 3 months to pick myself up from years of trauma and i think this is the most important vid you've made yet.
Oh my god divine time 😭🎀
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One of my favorite authors Pete Walker has an amazing story about this topic. He was visiting a third-world country (Bangladesh I believe) a long time ago, and there was a catastrophic flood overnight. Thousands of people lost their homes or died. So when he woke up he expected the streets outside his hostel to be a blighted hellscape of pain, death, and sorrow. But instead he saw families cooking on makeshift stoves, children running and playing in the streets, and people talking and helping each other. Even in the face of one of the MOST traumatizing things that can happen to a person (catastrophic natural disaster), the people he saw chose to keep going and be grateful for what they still had, even if it was simply being alive. Even reading his account of it was so moving to me I think of it every time I realize I am suffering for no reason.
I'm with you all the way🎉
Thank you Mae❤
Like this comment to remove all suffering from your reality ✨🧿🌺
Yeah, rich kids going on missions and offering very poor labor instead of just sending money and resources doesn't seem very helpful
I mean its good that foreigners come to volunteer in Africa and help some cases but at the same time people should stop associating Africa with suffering ...WE ARE NOT SUFFERING...we are not living like animals and maybe when you guys come try to capture the amazing sides and not make Africa like a jungle with no buildings and internet and thank you mae for addressing that issue .
You look good on your make up Mae❤
Yes, and TV shows and Disney movies makes this romanticizing of pain even worse. Because in the end the main character wins 🙄🙄
I hope you like it here. I’m living in Athens Greece ! 🥰
Start with your local communities, huh? I was thinking of potential missionary trips but kind of like you described it, it would feel a little forced. A very good thing but definitely disingenuous towards myself. I heard another point of view yesterday that involved aiding your local community too, I feel that I ought to start thinking about that.
Love this ❤
I love the title and the video! So inspiring🥰
I WAS LITERALLY JUST WRITING ABT THIS FOR SOCIOLOGY CLASS CUZ ITS SO TRUE
I already subscribed, my lady
I'm Brazilian, we kinda don't really know anything about self improvement (at least I don't know many people who are in it here). The biggest part of the Brazilian population were taught to work hard, be a people pleaser and if you're not like that you're lazy and rude.
I'm so mesmerized watching u I don't even understand what ur talking about 😅
Stoicism has changed my life as well.
Love!!!❤
Do you have a potcast? If you don't can you please start one on spotify? Please!!
preach
Wow this came out at the right time I am dealing with some fake friend at the moment but I can choose to be effected by her bullshit
its maeeeeeeeeeeee :D
We stan the yap queen
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Really gorgeous ❤
Wow she lives in athens omg , i want an autograph 😭
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I was born in a bad conditions
She talks with an ancient tongue.
Everyone has their own struggles. It's good to be empathetic, no matter where someone lives.
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Suffering is like when you eat you gotta poop. We dont glorify the poop or the process of excreting like how we glorify and celebrate food and the culinary arts, but we do fully accept that we must poop. Every dimension of life has its "poop" or release, or negative element, therefore, suffering is not optional. You are wrong if you think it is. We are born out of suffering, as birthing itself is an exhausting, arduous process. Suffering is indeed a concomitant of pleasure. You must suffer because it is the law. There is no option not to. However, the mind is so maleable that we can make our suffering a tolerable, even pleasurable experience by shifting its focus through mental transmutation, allowing time to do its work, flushing out the suffering once the season for suffering arises.
You’re exactly proving her point though some of us are ATTACHED to suffering like we need it in our life like we don’t need to suffer through pain, pain is inevitable which is the poop i guess LMAO but we don’t need to love it
You’re hilarious though 😂😂😂
@theloveboat1999 i think she is talking about the inadvertent romanticizing of suffering people do when she mentions the glorification of it. Im talking about dualism and the reality of suffering, but specifically the reality of suffering as it relates to pleasure and about what we can do to counter the consequential nature of suffering through imaginative efforts. I can agree with "lets stop glorifying suffering" as i hinted at in my comment, but what i can't agree with is the caption "suffering is an option". It's not an option in this causal reality.
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There is actual suffering right here in America, plenty of shelters need help and resources. No need to go to another country in search of a life changing experience.
Agree but then why do so many from other parts of the world flock to America for shelter?
Without suffering you won't change. This is how people are. Accept it, or continue to live in a fantasy which will eventually collapse in to suffering. There is no avoiding it. Also, if you avoid change then it will lead to suffering. Suffer = change. Inflexibility = suffer. Either way, learn to endure. The best way to avoid the most suffering is to obey God's commandments because they lead you on a path to peaceful living.
People change through learning. Learning doesn't require suffering.
Also, anyone who preaches about 'God's commandments' in comment sections cannot possibly have a flexible mind.
Some people suffer all their life and never change. The point is to learn the lesson from the suffering and move on to be happier. But most of the world hates happiness and contentment so they keeo choosing to suffer
ok go back to your life of suffering. ironic you talk about fantasy then fall back on the delusion of a god figure.
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