I dont know why but i always end up laughing through all of the school of life videos. Probably because i recognize so many of my own behavioral patterns :D
Came here to hear some chat up lines, ended up learning to accept my mistakes and the importance of decreasing the self hatred... TLDR - Didn't get what I wanted, I got what I needed
good point, i keep hearing people tell me i just need more confidence, but never got good advice on how to obtain it, this video is the first to help me in that direction, somehow
So many people in the comment section are just reinforcing the point of the video... The video is not saying you can get any girl you want with this simple trick. It's saying that before you have any chance with someone else, you should give yourself a chance, because why would someone else accept you for who you are if you can not even accept yourself.
JP51ism I am not a native speaker, but are you saying the person is complaining about other people explaining the video in the comment section but then explaining it then self as well. Which is kinda ironic.
This channel is honestly really stupid they think they are being so deep but they are just vomitibg another superficial "just do this and everything will work" philosophy
For me the people I always fall for are people who are passionate about something, no matter what it is. The more they love what they talk about, the more attractive this makes them in my eyes. Every single person is interesting in their own way and while we cannot make it work with anyone, being who you are and talking about things you love, is a great way to connect to other people.
I enjoy talking about the stuff I love, but almost always I would think that it might not be as interesting as I think it is towards the person listening. Or how I phrase the sentences are not good enough to tell the idea in its full charm.
"The most attractive people are often the most ignored". That kinda hit home. I've been told plenty of times that I'm handsome (sorry for the lack of modesty), had a fair amount of women interested throughout my life and yet, somehow, my love life is lacking... in consequence I've low self-esteem and often feel lonely...
If you connect with a girl, REASSURE her that you are interested in HER only and you are not going to let any other woman come in the way so long as your relationship stays intact, as this is often the fear in women about attractive men, that they cannot possibly "compete for him".
Thank you for commenting. I relate to this. I’ve done some repair work over the last few years around linking my self esteem to other people. I’ve been in and out of romantic relationships and have taken from all of them the importance of knowing what I love and value and setting that above all else. I share this to say that, like inspiration IMHO, romantic love often feels like a fraction of what’s available to me when I’m feeling centered and grounded. I think I might someday want to share my life with someone but for now, I’m enjoying what I used to call loneliness.
Luc Notenboom i know what you mean, but for me right now why it felt more relevant, because i was on vacation to spain in malaga and i went out clubbing by myself 2 days ago. I ussually dont do this and it got me thinking about allot of relevant things, even though it was more reaffirming some ideologies rather than breakthroughs.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but there's billions of people on this planet and I'd say hundreds of millions--if not billions, use TH-cam. There's nothing uncanny about the subject of this video being relevant to your current situation--it's expected actually. Hence the reason they made the video in the first place.
1. Eye contact is everything 2. Value your own rejection of yourself as highly as you are holding her rejection of you. If you don’t try, you are rejecting yourself.
I never thought about the idea that everyone is so deathly afraid to approach an attractive person, that it renders the person deeply alone since everyone else also thinks they're way out of their league and thus never approaches them.
I don't think this one is true. There's a lot of confident people out there that will be more than willing to approach a very attractive girl--especially if it looks like she's single! Unless she's a recluse , her inbox will be blowing up no doubt
The most attractive people are often the most ignored is absolutely true as someone who has done a complete 180 with their I have never felt more connected to a video then this! I wish everyone could watch this!
I first wrote to my crush the same day where my stepmom almost died. The fear of losing someone dear to you is far greater than the fear of rejection (my emotions were almost numbing by that time), so that was the perspective that pushed me to write to him. We're together now, so it ended well.
the funny thing about this channel is that everything they say makes obvious sense, it's just a nice gentle reminder of what it means to live a virtuous life. Thanks S.O.L!
This video almost perfectly describes what it’s like to have Avoidant Personality Disorder: crippling insecurity, intense fear of perceived rejection or criticism of any kind, and social perfectionism so debilitating, we’d often rather just avoid the pain and anguish of social interaction altogether
most people who find out I've been single my whole life are very surprised to hear it, exclaiming that I'm "such a pretty girl" or "just like a model", and so that line about never being approached resonated highly with me. It is, in fact, why I find myself chasing others more than anyone has ever chased me and its a big relief when people do approach me.
I would like to greatly thank the writers and researchers of School of Life... This is literally school, and I'm learning every video. And are they psychic mind readers? Because everything they spoke about, I've experienced or been told about. Amazing.
Having watched several School of Life videos, I already knew this wouldn't be about chat up lines... Amazing script, great voice-over and incredible art. Never stop.
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7:12 this is so true. I have a friend who is really attractive, caring and generous and I hear people talking about she probably gets asked out a lot. But nobody ever does because they think theres too much competition and dont have a chance with her.
This is such a great channel. I honestly feel really bad for those people who feel poorly about themselves. I did too for a long time, but most of that was caused by severe anxiety problems that just totally destroyed the way I felt, viewed myself and the world. Self love is so fucking important and it's so horrible that anyone truly believes that don't deserve love or don't love themselves. That doesn't mean you won't be critical or dislike some things you do, but underneath that you know you're a good person, with good intentions who deserves love and respect. I was taught these things growing up and my parents did an excellent job teaching us self respect without being overly self centered. But sadly, I too lost my way. I became driven by reaching for an absolutely absurd and impossible standard of who I think I should be. I was filled with horrific and life crippling anxiety for many many years. Recently, in the past couple of years most of that faded away as I became more mentally healthy and clear headed and realized what I unintentionally was doing to myself. Unfortunately, we live in a time and society where everyone is always telling us what to think and how to feel, that we can feel pulled into others ideals of morality and how we should live, instead of taking time to discover what feels right for us and when we do make mistakes, to forgive, learn from them and move on. Obviously its not always easy, but with time it becomes easier. I think living in a world that's a little more understanding, kinder and forgiving would help make loving ourselves just a little easier. That's why I think it's really important to take time for yourself and not overly worry about finding a partner. Be a little selfish, take time for you, do things you enjoy and give your body and mind rest. Then, when you do find someone, you should be in a better place to make connections and not force things, because ultimately you shouldn't want someone who doesn't want you and if you feel like you're constantly having to try and not getting anything back, then that's probably not the right person for you. It doesn't mean being nasty or resentful for being "rejected", but just a realization that you don't need to waste your time and energy.
The world needs more people like you who take the effort to make such rich content. I believe this video will help people immeasurably. Kudos to the entire team. Thank you.
Yeah, coming from a guy who watched a plague wipe out 1/4 or more of the European population in his own lifetime, that was not a difficult concept to fathom.
Watching your videos makes me feel happy about the way I am. Accept myself and to try to look at others with same respect. And your voice is so soothing and calm. Love 'The School of Life'
Very true! Additionally make sure to smell and look good, this indirectly makes the other person be more attracted to you, this sounds as a no brainer but many people still don't focus on these aspects!
@@lauraturcu3364 Thanks. Here at my place few of my friends keep faces and mock when we do that, they've this bizarre concept that perfumes are for people who don't bath. I wish I could argue with them, but I don't - assuming we all come from different walks of life or childhood nurturing or our own developed principles. But I find it too rude when they try to impose their ideas on others and expect us to follow them. Damn, friends.
Why does everyone place their happiness in other peoples hands based on romantic love?. The only person you will ever spend the rest of your life is, is with yourself, so work on loving yourself. The other reason we are alone is because we are so BEAUTIFUL everyone else thinks we are already taken!! Bahahahahaha!
I think it's the media putting so much emphasis on romantic love. The constant trickle of romcoms, TV shows, and even Disney movies have filled media with that mindset. I think...
You do know a basic human *need* is social interaction. Yes i admit there is no need for an overemphasis on romantic love because platonic love is just as valid but it is wilfully ignorant of human nature to reject social interaction or love as necessary. It is as necessary as food and shelter and the lack of it makes us sick and increases death rate.
Loving yourself is good and all but eventually you realize it's not enough. There needs to be more stimulation and we always desire what we can't have.
Exactly. Took me 23 years to realize I should be trying to become the type of person someone would want to date, instead of constantly worrying how to get a girlfriend.
I don't know what to say anymore. Those videos are so well-made, I could listen to the voice all day. The tips are just pure gold for a better life. Thanks.
Working out is the answer. I used to be a skinny single guy like you, i spent 9 months counting calories and doing calisthenics and I'm a stud now. Find a good barber, get rid of any acne (I literally only drink water now and my skin is near flawless), tidy up your eyebrows, find good fitting, simple clothes, not those shitty baggy hoodies you use to hide your twig-like body. Trust me I was the same way all throughout high school. All the strategies you think work to seem less small just make it more apparent. Google "TDEE Calculator" and then get MyFitnessPal and track your calories.
Vito Ratio I think I’m halfway to you, although my gymming is very likely superior to yours, I’m rubbish with calories, safe for the tdee thing. I need to get my eyebrows done, need to say hi to my barber and I’m in my way
@@maximyles yeah I was only doing calisthenics cuz I didn't want to pay for a gym membership and already had alot of experience with basic bodyweight movements. I've been using a pretty nice garage gym I built for my parents 3 months ago, i like the results i'm getting from focusing more on weightlifting with some cardio (running 3x a week, muay thai training 2x a week) and basic pushup and situps training as I'll be leaving for Airforce basic training in less than a month. Good luck on your journey bro
I love u guys so much. I’m a bit gloomy today, cause someone rebuffed me, maybe cause I was too introverted, but for now, I’m excited for the person comes next ^^ thank you for the good feeling! (On the other hand, the video gave me good ideas for a comic) ;D
Came for advise on how to start a conversation with your crush but leaving with a new insight about love and personality of every individual . Love all your videos 😍😍❤️♥️
I suppose its a common enough issue but geez do you ever put videos and essays out at exactly the right moment for us. Im asking a girl out today that i like and this kicked my ass into no fear mode. Yes i have faults, yes im somewhat fearful/apprehensive but im sure, for the most part, the person you ask out feels the same. Thank you School of Life you are my teacher and confidante! Wish me luck and perseverance
As usual easier said than done. You can quite control your thoughts but you can’t quite stop your body from shaking when it comes to talk to that person you’re attracted to.
School of Life - thank you. Your videos are always so insightful and have helped me, so many times, put things into perspective and look at people and situations in a different light. I wish i had this channel when i was younger but I'm glad I have it now as an adult.
This video speaks to me the most. Very well made I have considered some of the ideas discussed in the video. It is hard to put these ideas into practice sometimes. I know it's a work in progress. Thank you for reassuring me and others like me
This is absolutely beautiful. Definitely one of my favourite videos of School of Life! I was thinking that the title of the video is rather strange for a School of Life. Like, it wouldn't be weird for us to tell honest and direct words to our loved ones. But the idea that there are certain words that would work well with ALL STRANGERS sounds impossible. So, when the video quickly changes to lines we should speak to ourselves, I couldn't help but smile. Yes! Relationships with people are good but the most important thing is the relationship we have with ourselves. :')
Hello is a good start. Make an observation about the person or place you are and comment on it to the person your interested in. They will have to speak to you. Or not. It's amazing how many people are ready to talk to someone new all it takes is a start. Lots of us a shy. as I got older I've been able to start a conversation with strangers without effort. I wish I had this ability when I was younger. It's a gift. Say hello👌👌👌👌
It's like you guys always know the right video to post while I'm going through a tough time. I was interested in someone recently and was told "No", so I really needed to be reminded of all these important points. Thanks so much for the very much needed support ❤
Very insightful video. Not only useful in dating but in all walks of life. We only take into consideration our preconceived notions & the other person's guarded looks & behaviour in the first instance. When you scratch the surface a little, a completely different person is discovered for the better or worse.
thanks to all the contributors to this excellent series..i myself needed this so so much and put that bounce back that frankly I thought I'd lost..once again..thanks
6:07 I actually met a girl like this. She noticed me doubled over laughing. I guess she felt like she couldn't be any more embarrassed by the situation. 😊
The school of life videos always brighten my mood, I tend to laugh through most of the video without even knowing why. Maybe because recognizing so many foolish behavioral patterns of myself are completely normal :)
Faulty Premise - Chat up lines shouldn't even be a thing. By definition, they are contrived, insincere and nothing but a means to an end. Just *engage with someone in an authentic and honest way.* That's it. Learn to accept rejection too... that always help in life generally.
I think that is what the video was about in the first place. That if you let go of the idea that you are not worth it, you don't have to be afraid to simply have a genuine interaction.
It seems like you have an issue with language rather than concept. Whether you’d prefer to call it a “chat up” or “genuine engage” both are a means to the same end. Namely, to get the attention of the person you are interested in (romantically). I would submit to you that you wouldn’t be as “genuinely engaged” in someone you are not attracted to ...enough to generate a conversation from nothing (so is it genuine if you’re only talking to that person cause you like their appearance?). So while authenticity may be an approach that works for you, it is just a subcategory of chatting someone up. One of many that achieve the same thing (i.e. generate conversation and interest). The video was merely addressing the perspective with which we ought to think about the matter.
7:11 7) That can certainly be true. My girlfriend rarely got approached; but I was in a nightclub once, years ago, and a couple of blokes who were much better looking than me were admiring her, and said that we should all forget it, as she wouldn't go out with any of us. They didn't even try to chat her up.
Danny B you don’t have to master small talk, but you do have to be interested in something that you think is worth sharing... you say hi, then you share... she will like it and add to the convo or she’ll bail.. either way it’s a win for you for overcoming approach anxiety..
Thank you for all your *stellar* content. I'm not sure I agree with your fourth point, on a personal level. It reminds me of an excerpt I heard from 'Zorba the Greek': Zorba is walking past a really old man planting a peach tree. Zorba stops to ask the man, "why are you planting a peach tree? You will not live to see it bare fruit." The man says, "I live as though I were going to live forever." Zorba takes a few steps then bursts out in to laughter. He turns to the old man and says, "That is funny. I live as though I were going to die today".
"Hey gurl we both will be dead soon how about I buy you a cup of coffee?"
Need to try this sometime
I would take "soon" out of the sentence, that'd be really creepy dude.
She would say "No, thanks, I would rather just be dead" xD
Hey gurl, your mother was ugly so let's get coffee.
Replace 'Soon' with 'Eventually' or not since some chicks are into serial killers.
*hot coffee
The School of Life is quite possibly one of the most beautiful things I've come across on the web. I appreciate this work so much.
I second this.
I second this too
Seconded
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same :)
Came for a fun video... Left with an existential crisis.
Bo Do it gets gooder
I dont know why but i always end up laughing through all of the school of life videos. Probably because i recognize so many of my own behavioral patterns :D
Lol
Me with the entire channel
I understand your cris but think positive instead, we are all gonna die
Came here to hear some chat up lines, ended up learning to accept my mistakes and the importance of decreasing the self hatred...
TLDR - Didn't get what I wanted, I got what I needed
TLDR
good point, i keep hearing people tell me i just need more confidence, but never got good advice on how to obtain it, this video is the first to help me in that direction, somehow
Great line.
Okay so I talked to her.... Now what? I need an answer quick she's just looking at me while I type this.
thariq33 Hope it went well !
It did! And thanks :D I speak to her here and there now haha.
Lmaoo
Get off your phone
But.... It's my safe place :)
So many people in the comment section are just reinforcing the point of the video... The video is not saying you can get any girl you want with this simple trick. It's saying that before you have any chance with someone else, you should give yourself a chance, because why would someone else accept you for who you are if you can not even accept yourself.
(I feel so stupid saying this, but) perhaps it's parodying self-deprecating.
dating as much of life is simply a numbers game and pushing through rejections
JP51ism I am not a native speaker, but are you saying the person is complaining about other people explaining the video in the comment section but then explaining it then self as well. Which is kinda ironic.
@Janice Brown can I get an amem up in here?
This channel is honestly really stupid they think they are being so deep but they are just vomitibg another superficial "just do this and everything will work" philosophy
For me the people I always fall for are people who are passionate about something, no matter what it is. The more they love what they talk about, the more attractive this makes them in my eyes. Every single person is interesting in their own way and while we cannot make it work with anyone, being who you are and talking about things you love, is a great way to connect to other people.
This is classic, females generally like a male who is passionate about something other than just her.
I sure love chewing on recliner chairs!
I enjoy talking about the stuff I love, but almost always I would think that it might not be as interesting as I think it is towards the person listening. Or how I phrase the sentences are not good enough to tell the idea in its full charm.
I’ve notice that I’m straight up tell people I’m passionate about bitcoin.
What if they are out of our league?
"The most attractive people are often the most ignored". That kinda hit home. I've been told plenty of times that I'm handsome (sorry for the lack of modesty), had a fair amount of women interested throughout my life and yet, somehow, my love life is lacking... in consequence I've low self-esteem and often feel lonely...
If you connect with a girl, REASSURE her that you are interested in HER only and you are not going to let any other woman come in the way so long as your relationship stays intact, as this is often the fear in women about attractive men, that they cannot possibly "compete for him".
Thank you for commenting. I relate to this. I’ve done some repair work over the last few years around linking my self esteem to other people. I’ve been in and out of romantic relationships and have taken from all of them the importance of knowing what I love and value and setting that above all else. I share this to say that, like inspiration IMHO, romantic love often feels like a fraction of what’s available to me when I’m feeling centered and grounded. I think I might someday want to share my life with someone but for now, I’m enjoying what I used to call loneliness.
I love you guys, and its uncanny how your videos VERY often touch upon a subject that is at that time in the spotlight in my life.
To be fair, aren't all their videos about something we worry about all the time?
Luc Notenboom i know what you mean, but for me right now why it felt more relevant, because i was on vacation to spain in malaga and i went out clubbing by myself 2 days ago. I ussually dont do this and it got me thinking about allot of relevant things, even though it was more reaffirming some ideologies rather than breakthroughs.
@@LoveAnimeLikeCrazy We like to help!
Sorry to burst your bubble, but there's billions of people on this planet and I'd say hundreds of millions--if not billions, use TH-cam. There's nothing uncanny about the subject of this video being relevant to your current situation--it's expected actually. Hence the reason they made the video in the first place.
LoveAnimeLikeCrazy probably why you click on it bruh
1. Eye contact is everything
2. Value your own rejection of yourself as highly as you are holding her rejection of you. If you don’t try, you are rejecting yourself.
"You miss every shot you don't take."
to me, it feels like my only shot
I also miss every shot I take.
Kobe!
Well, if you don't shoot, you don't technically miss.
What if you don't have a gun ?
I never thought about the idea that everyone is so deathly afraid to approach an attractive person, that it renders the person deeply alone since everyone else also thinks they're way out of their league and thus never approaches them.
i think its mostly false, but it hugely depends around what people this person abides.
Very true.
Yeah I can't believe you buy that.
Experienced this first hand. We laughed about it for much of our relationship.
I don't think this one is true. There's a lot of confident people out there that will be more than willing to approach a very attractive girl--especially if it looks like she's single!
Unless she's a recluse , her inbox will be blowing up no doubt
The most attractive people are often the most ignored is absolutely true as someone who has done a complete 180 with their I have never felt more connected to a video then this! I wish everyone could watch this!
I first wrote to my crush the same day where my stepmom almost died. The fear of losing someone dear to you is far greater than the fear of rejection (my emotions were almost numbing by that time), so that was the perspective that pushed me to write to him. We're together now, so it ended well.
in a noisy world, the school of life is one of those that echoes home. Thank you ❤️
Wish my parents were like this
I love your voice, it's very calming. And also congratulations on 4 million subscribers and keep up the good work buddy.
Agree. Love his voice!
wha... this channel isn’t just a one guy is it?
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I love your team. The way you put all of our thoughts into words is mesmerizing.
Keep up the good work folks.
the funny thing about this channel is that everything they say makes obvious sense, it's just a nice gentle reminder of what it means to live a virtuous life. Thanks S.O.L!
This video almost perfectly describes what it’s like to have Avoidant Personality Disorder: crippling insecurity, intense fear of perceived rejection or criticism of any kind, and social perfectionism so debilitating, we’d often rather just avoid the pain and anguish of social interaction altogether
most people who find out I've been single my whole life are very surprised to hear it, exclaiming that I'm "such a pretty girl" or "just like a model", and so that line about never being approached resonated highly with me. It is, in fact, why I find myself chasing others more than anyone has ever chased me and its a big relief when people do approach me.
Hii
I would like to greatly thank the writers and researchers of School of Life... This is literally school, and I'm learning every video.
And are they psychic mind readers?
Because everything they spoke about, I've experienced or been told about. Amazing.
Nope they’re just super in tune with the human experience. None of us are very different at our core.
@@curtiswilson859 Interconnected energy that can never be destroyed.
I wish this was actually part of real school
The animation in this video might be one of the best in the whole the School of Life channel.
Having watched several School of Life videos, I already knew this wouldn't be about chat up lines...
Amazing script, great voice-over and incredible art. Never stop.
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I love you, School of Life.
As someone with rather low self confidence, this made me feel reassured of who I am as person and as a reminder of how far I've come in life.
7:12 this is so true. I have a friend who is really attractive, caring and generous and I hear people talking about she probably gets asked out a lot. But nobody ever does because they think theres too much competition and dont have a chance with her.
This is such a great channel.
I honestly feel really bad for those people who feel poorly about themselves. I did too for a long time, but most of that was caused by severe anxiety problems that just totally destroyed the way I felt, viewed myself and the world.
Self love is so fucking important and it's so horrible that anyone truly believes that don't deserve love or don't love themselves. That doesn't mean you won't be critical or dislike some things you do, but underneath that you know you're a good person, with good intentions who deserves love and respect.
I was taught these things growing up and my parents did an excellent job teaching us self respect without being overly self centered. But sadly, I too lost my way. I became driven by reaching for an absolutely absurd and impossible standard of who I think I should be. I was filled with horrific and life crippling anxiety for many many years. Recently, in the past couple of years most of that faded away as I became more mentally healthy and clear headed and realized what I unintentionally was doing to myself.
Unfortunately, we live in a time and society where everyone is always telling us what to think and how to feel, that we can feel pulled into others ideals of morality and how we should live, instead of taking time to discover what feels right for us and when we do make mistakes, to forgive, learn from them and move on. Obviously its not always easy, but with time it becomes easier. I think living in a world that's a little more understanding, kinder and forgiving would help make loving ourselves just a little easier.
That's why I think it's really important to take time for yourself and not overly worry about finding a partner. Be a little selfish, take time for you, do things you enjoy and give your body and mind rest. Then, when you do find someone, you should be in a better place to make connections and not force things, because ultimately you shouldn't want someone who doesn't want you and if you feel like you're constantly having to try and not getting anything back, then that's probably not the right person for you. It doesn't mean being nasty or resentful for being "rejected", but just a realization that you don't need to waste your time and energy.
The world needs more people like you who take the effort to make such rich content. I believe this video will help people immeasurably. Kudos to the entire team. Thank you.
“You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.”-Marcus Aurelius
Yeah, coming from a guy who watched a plague wipe out 1/4 or more of the European population in his own lifetime, that was not a difficult concept to fathom.
Now I need to watch this video every day to remind and calm my self
"We'll die soon anyway" is my philosophy in life though. Helps to do things, which I was scared to do from the beginning.
Watching your videos makes me feel happy about the way I am. Accept myself and to try to look at others with same respect.
And your voice is so soothing and calm.
Love 'The School of Life'
Very true! Additionally make sure to smell and look good, this indirectly makes the other person be more attracted to you, this sounds as a no brainer but many people still don't focus on these aspects!
Really? Does that work?
@@decodingcap9965 I can assure you a good perfume does wonders in my opinion
@@lauraturcu3364 Thanks. Here at my place few of my friends keep faces and mock when we do that, they've this bizarre concept that perfumes are for people who don't bath. I wish I could argue with them, but I don't - assuming we all come from different walks of life or childhood nurturing or our own developed principles. But I find it too rude when they try to impose their ideas on others and expect us to follow them. Damn, friends.
I assume you mean "dress good", and not "look good". If not, then I guess I need plastic surgery
@@masterroshimagazines4354 I do! Dress good :)
I found this channel last month and I must say the topics u discuss seems too common to skip but u give me another insight
Got turned down from a crush I roped myself into obsessing about recently and needed to watch this. Thanks
Good morning i just woke up 7:20am gotta feed the mind with good stuff
The School of Life is possibly the most wonderful and valuable thing ever to appear in the internet.
I want to say I am a testimony about being at peace and love with ones self.
Why does everyone place their happiness in other peoples hands based on romantic love?. The only person you will ever spend the rest of your life is, is with yourself, so work on loving yourself. The other reason we are alone is because we are so BEAUTIFUL everyone else thinks we are already taken!! Bahahahahaha!
I think it's the media putting so much emphasis on romantic love. The constant trickle of romcoms, TV shows, and even Disney movies have filled media with that mindset. I think...
You do know a basic human *need* is social interaction. Yes i admit there is no need for an overemphasis on romantic love because platonic love is just as valid but it is wilfully ignorant of human nature to reject social interaction or love as necessary. It is as necessary as food and shelter and the lack of it makes us sick and increases death rate.
I've been alone for my whole life, so I'm used to being alone but sometimes it would be just nice to know you're wanted.
Loving yourself is good and all but eventually you realize it's not enough. There needs to be more stimulation and we always desire what we can't have.
Exactly. Took me 23 years to realize I should be trying to become the type of person someone would want to date, instead of constantly worrying how to get a girlfriend.
Congratulations for 4 millions subscribers 👏👏👏
I don't know what to say anymore. Those videos are so well-made, I could listen to the voice all day. The tips are just pure gold for a better life. Thanks.
It's hard being a 3 with a taste for 10s
Botox is the answer
Working out is the answer. I used to be a skinny single guy like you, i spent 9 months counting calories and doing calisthenics and I'm a stud now. Find a good barber, get rid of any acne (I literally only drink water now and my skin is near flawless), tidy up your eyebrows, find good fitting, simple clothes, not those shitty baggy hoodies you use to hide your twig-like body. Trust me I was the same way all throughout high school. All the strategies you think work to seem less small just make it more apparent. Google "TDEE Calculator" and then get MyFitnessPal and track your calories.
Vito Ratio I think I’m halfway to you, although my gymming is very likely superior to yours, I’m rubbish with calories, safe for the tdee thing. I need to get my eyebrows done, need to say hi to my barber and I’m in my way
@@maximyles yeah I was only doing calisthenics cuz I didn't want to pay for a gym membership and already had alot of experience with basic bodyweight movements.
I've been using a pretty nice garage gym I built for my parents 3 months ago, i like the results i'm getting from focusing more on weightlifting with some cardio (running 3x a week, muay thai training 2x a week) and basic pushup and situps training as I'll be leaving for Airforce basic training in less than a month.
Good luck on your journey bro
Vito Ratio safe bro, good luck on yours aswell.
Every time I watch TSOL videos, I just feel good. It has become the gentle, human and smart way I try to approach life. Thank you
I love u guys so much. I’m a bit gloomy today, cause someone rebuffed me, maybe cause I was too introverted, but for now, I’m excited for the person comes next ^^ thank you for the good feeling! (On the other hand, the video gave me good ideas for a comic) ;D
Came for advise on how to start a conversation with your crush but leaving with a new insight about love and personality of every individual .
Love all your videos 😍😍❤️♥️
I've watched this video 20 years later than i needed...
I suppose its a common enough issue but geez do you ever put videos and essays out at exactly the right moment for us. Im asking a girl out today that i like and this kicked my ass into no fear mode. Yes i have faults, yes im somewhat fearful/apprehensive but im sure, for the most part, the person you ask out feels the same. Thank you School of Life you are my teacher and confidante! Wish me luck and perseverance
Great stuff. The School of Life is better than literal school
As usual easier said than done. You can quite control your thoughts but you can’t quite stop your body from shaking when it comes to talk to that person you’re attracted to.
School of Life - thank you. Your videos are always so insightful and have helped me, so many times, put things into perspective and look at people and situations in a different light. I wish i had this channel when i was younger but I'm glad I have it now as an adult.
Are you honestly telling me any of this Leo Buscaglia crap has ever worked for you? Because I ain't believin' it.
I thought this vedio will give me some chat up lines ...But ended up teaching something of great value.
This video speaks to me the most. Very well made I have considered some of the ideas discussed in the video. It is hard to put these ideas into practice sometimes. I know it's a work in progress. Thank you for reassuring me and others like me
The all in one self help. School of life, kudos. You guys will change the world for the better with these videos. Thank you so much.
Saw the notification and watch it right away 💃
Alain has helped a LOT of people.. just wonderful to hear these clips. Thanks 🙏
Be comfortable with your self first, then others will like to know you!
This is the video that helped me the most
I just repeated everything I heard in this video and I think the girls in love with me. Wonderful job guys 🖒
This is absolutely beautiful. Definitely one of my favourite videos of School of Life! I was thinking that the title of the video is rather strange for a School of Life. Like, it wouldn't be weird for us to tell honest and direct words to our loved ones. But the idea that there are certain words that would work well with ALL STRANGERS sounds impossible. So, when the video quickly changes to lines we should speak to ourselves, I couldn't help but smile. Yes! Relationships with people are good but the most important thing is the relationship we have with ourselves. :')
"When you were here before,
I couldnt look you in the eye
You're just like an angel..."
Your tears make me cry..
Hello is a good start. Make an observation about the person or place you are and comment on it to the person your interested in. They will have to speak to you. Or not. It's amazing how many people are ready to talk to someone new all it takes is a start. Lots of us a shy. as I got older I've been able to start a conversation with strangers without effort. I wish I had this ability when I was younger. It's a gift. Say hello👌👌👌👌
This channel is beyond the perfection. 👌
The school of life literally needs to be an actual school,where every kids in the world attend.Keep doing whatchu do guys.
It's like you guys always know the right video to post while I'm going through a tough time. I was interested in someone recently and was told "No", so I really needed to be reminded of all these important points. Thanks so much for the very much needed support ❤
Very insightful video. Not only useful in dating but in all walks of life. We only take into consideration our preconceived notions & the other person's guarded looks & behaviour in the first instance. When you scratch the surface a little, a completely different person is discovered for the better or worse.
I've always loved the school of life every time I'm going through something a video pops up and it's exactly what I needed to hear.
What an eloquent way of saying "YOLO"
"Brace yourself darling" should work.
almost every video by school of life makes my eyes moist.
The way he talks it's certain he knows the secret to life
thanks to all the contributors to this excellent series..i myself needed this so so much and put that bounce back that frankly I thought I'd lost..once again..thanks
6:07 I actually met a girl like this. She noticed me doubled over laughing. I guess she felt like she couldn't be any more embarrassed by the situation. 😊
every single line you said, is true, to the heart!
This one was brilliant! Sound advice indeed....
The school of life videos always brighten my mood, I tend to laugh through most of the video without even knowing why. Maybe because recognizing so many foolish behavioral patterns of myself are completely normal :)
Me: I would ignore him from now on
Also me: okay Imma watch this just in case he'd talk to me
Absolutely loved it! Now I just need to get out of quarantine so I can chat with someone.
same here!
2:06 Hey! 3 of them are absolutely perfect, what about them?
This channel really helps me out with so many facors of life
“We shall soon enough b stone cold dead.”
@Celtic Revival / Adfywiad Celtaidd They won't exist. Some laws can't be broken so live life to the fullest
We will all soon be Stone Cold Steve Austin
This video seem to appear at the right moment in life.
“Please take a chance on me. I swear I’m not a crazy person.”
That's exactly how
You prove you are crazy
I feel it.
Exactly what a crazy person would say
This is one of the best videos from TSOL! Thank you for this :)
*my sweetheart, one day we gonna be together and see that comment and laugh . wherever you are now , I love you!*
Bro let's just be friends for now
wtf
^ there are three kinds of ppl in this world
@@angrycat4489 ^ there are actually 4 types of people.
clinical minatology im here!
I think i have watched one of the best videos on youtube. Thank you very much.
Faulty Premise - Chat up lines shouldn't even be a thing. By definition, they are contrived, insincere and nothing but a means to an end. Just *engage with someone in an authentic and honest way.* That's it. Learn to accept rejection too... that always help in life generally.
I think that is what the video was about in the first place. That if you let go of the idea that you are not worth it, you don't have to be afraid to simply have a genuine interaction.
Guess you didn't watch the video.
@@guitaro5000 not gonna lie, I didn't lol Kinda sick of SoL stuff. So I just throw in my 2cents based on the title haha
No thanks, I've had quite enough rejection for one life already. I'd rather just disengage and not bother at all.
It seems like you have an issue with language rather than concept. Whether you’d prefer to call it a “chat up” or “genuine engage” both are a means to the same end. Namely, to get the attention of the person you are interested in (romantically). I would submit to you that you wouldn’t be as “genuinely engaged” in someone you are not attracted to ...enough to generate a conversation from nothing (so is it genuine if you’re only talking to that person cause you like their appearance?). So while authenticity may be an approach that works for you, it is just a subcategory of chatting someone up. One of many that achieve the same thing (i.e. generate conversation and interest). The video was merely addressing the perspective with which we ought to think about the matter.
7:11 7) That can certainly be true. My girlfriend rarely got approached; but I was in a nightclub once, years ago, and a couple of blokes who were much better looking than me were admiring her, and said that we should all forget it, as she wouldn't go out with any of us. They didn't even try to chat her up.
My confidence before: shmall
My confidence after:
*IT'S OVER 9,000*
@hama prgasc super shamll
What's shmall
@@Collasseum it means small but in a meme like way. Try saying it out loud in a high pitch voice 😉😂
Good ole' saiyan saga
Ha! I've trained in the hyperbolic chatup chamber and now I'm blond.
Thank you so much. I was having a panic attack due to exams but man did this video help me. Even though it is unrelated topic.
I love you, guys 😊
The School of Life is one of the healthiest stuff someone can see on TH-cam.
Drop your wallet with a ton of cash in it and pretend it was an accident.
imagine someone running away with it
"Oh woops! I dropped my monster wallet, that I use for my magnum dosh!"
Might as well drop your Lamborghini keys and your rolex
Not everyone would fall for that 😉
@@mimiteas What if it were his actual wallet though?
Wow, this actually made me feel better. I actually gained confidence. Time to talk to her, I guess.
Never judge a book by its cover... Quit thinking about all the things the girls doing and just go up to her and say Hi 👋
Sup girl
*awkward silence*
But what do I say after Hi. I say Hi but I can't ever thing of anything else good to say and then it is awkward and I am just a passerby.
Danny B you don’t have to master small talk, but you do have to be interested in something that you think is worth sharing... you say hi, then you share... she will like it and add to the convo or she’ll bail.. either way it’s a win for you for overcoming approach anxiety..
Unless you have aspergers. In that case, RIP...
Thank you for all your *stellar* content.
I'm not sure I agree with your fourth point, on a personal level. It reminds me of an excerpt I heard from 'Zorba the Greek':
Zorba is walking past a really old man planting a peach tree. Zorba stops to ask the man, "why are you planting a peach tree? You will not live to see it bare fruit." The man says, "I live as though I were going to live forever." Zorba takes a few steps then bursts out in to laughter. He turns to the old man and says, "That is funny. I live as though I were going to die today".
Meet cute: “Oh, did you also step in a puddle of blood?”
Hey, whatever is on your mind let it go and enjoy the day. 😌 (best line I could think up)
Lol! At 5:39 the Mercedes Benz logo is used instead of the peace logo!
KipreosBoss that’s what a peace sign looks like 😂
@@MrCastellanosDavid No the peace sign has an extra line at the bottom!
Mercedes paid them off. This channel has already sold out! 😔
@@masterroshimagazines4354 the adpocalypse has left its mark on all of our favourite channels!
06:13 - Best line ever… 😂👍🏼