Entire opposite things happened to me. I shared my issues with a teacher and she accused me of being ungrateful. I had bad friends who only backstabbed me and made me lose my self worth. And I got into a toxic relationship and on top of that , got slut shamed by everyone. Completely affected my studies. Took a long time to repair
Same except that relationship thing. I literally hate these misogynist men here. Better to be single and I'm afraid too cuz I got some trust issues thanks to some toxic friends I had.
I wish i have seen this 35years ago. Great advice and on point. 👍 Toxic parenting has caused more damage than anything and still recovering thru therapy and other means. All of them had happened to me, and also I was sexually abused at age of 7. It was terrible and the effect of which is there even today. But with more therapy, i realize the damage is more from the parenting than even from the sexual abuse. Thanks for doing this. I hope atleast the next generation will not have to go thru my situation. 🙏 I can tell that all the advices here spot on. The best option is to work on yourself, pick up yourself and try to be independent. Everything shall pass. Keep dreaming. Your dreams will ce true for sure. Don't let anyone stop you.
I really needed to hear that talking to them doesn’t help coz I’ve been trying so so so hard to sort things out coz I thought it was just a communication issue and every time I try for a healthy discussion it ends up being a big issue about being ungrateful
Ente mom very toxic and dangerous Anu,enikulla problems ellam avide ninnu thudangunnu enn manassilakki,ath manassilakkan Anu most important thing.pinne avar nammale effect cheyyilla.nalla remedy avarumayi communication minimum akalanu.epozhenkilm edapazhakiyal I will be hearting.
i think I had gone through toxic parenting. I feel some where I am toxic too. but I don't want my parents to be in guilt part if they bahave to me like that still I do have some problems too.
Im 22 year old njn Kure years aahyi ee kaaryagal k suffer cheyyunu.they won't support me and also they won't recognise me even njn happy aahyitt irriykunnadhu ente ammayk ishttamala.i don't know why this always happens to me
Its hard for me to accept that the children have to deal with their toxic parents by themselves. Don't we have a legal support system where the children can report their grievances? Maybe like within the school itself. By such a practise, can't these toxic parents be made to attend counselling sessions through a legal mandate? I don't know if I am being unrealistic.
of course children can report about their parents to school. but they just warn these parents and send them home. again the child is in that same envt. So many kids dont report these things. but others can report. i know many insta followers of mine who have called 1098 when they know their neighbors are hitting and torturing their kids. 1098 keeps anonymity and they also send a team home to check on the family and warn them. unfortunately i dont know if anything more is possible. another issue is many people in the police dept or even diff govt authorities, unless they are trained in mental health , are people who think hitting and scolding is fine.. so how far will the child go to complain, i am not sure..
Ente achan both non toxic and toxic pole tonunu....eniku manasilavanila etu category pedutanm enu!! Paranjatil orupadu karyngal seri ayi. But I am an emotional eater, have depression and terrible anxiety. Itu karanam anonu aryila...kidney stone and pcod diagnose ayi. Bayangaramaya suicidal mentality. Hope I get to live the kind of life I alwys wanted. I am turning 26 this month..That's 26 years wasted !!
Not at all, if you seek help.. Do get in touch with a mental health professional.. Life is short, but life starts when you start living it. So ithuvare thudangiyittilla ennu vicharikkuka.. ❤️❤️
unfortunately i am a victim. I am a 34 year old adult with depression, anxiety, eating disorder, suicidal thoughts, low self esteem and many other problems all because I was not good enough for them as how my classmates were good.
Mam, in my case is psychologists therapy Will be helpful for us? ആളൊരു patriarchial family product ആണ്. കുഞ്ഞിനെ തല്ലി ശരിയാക്കണം, പൂമുഖ വാതിൽക്കൽ ഭാര്യ concept etc. @ my age 18 ഞാനിതിൽ വന്നു പെട്ടു പോയതാണ്. എന്റെ അമ്മയും ഏതാണ്ട് ഇതേ ചിന്താഗതിക്കാരാണ്. ഇയാളെ ഒരു തെറാപ്പിക്ക് എങ്ങനെ പറഞ്ഞു മനസിലാക്കി കൊണ്ടുപോകും... എന്നെ ഒന്ന് help ചെയ്യാമോ
@@mayasamma-malayalam4666 അതൊരു no ആണെങ്കിൽ അതെങ്ങനെ മറ്റുള്ളവരെ convince ചെയ്യും എന്നെനിക്കറിയില്ല. Bcoz എല്ലാവരും അഡ്ജസ്റ്റ് ചെയ്യാൻ മാത്രമേ പറയുന്നുള്ളൂ 😞
@@sanvi1997 Aadhyam counselling attend cheyyu.. good counselors also help the client get the confidence and feel empowered to take their own decisions. ippozhum ningalude ullinte ullil you know if the relationship is worth it or not. you just need more clarity about the situation.
There is a question which I like to ask. It's not related to video topic. And most people never talk about it. Suppose I marry a non virgin, and after marriage how can we find comparability in se x through arrange marriage. What if she say that I love my husband in emotional manner,but my body lean towards my ex boyfriend. So do u think arrange marriage have it as a great disadvantage in coming to comparability? And the reason why boys prefer virgin justified. Expect your answer on it. Or weather it's my insecurity
Few things you need to think of - what exactly is the hype around Virginity, how sex is not the only element of compatibility of a relationship, and your personal insecurities around marrying someone who's not a virgin.. I'll be doing a video on Virginity soon.. Stay tuned. Meanwhile TH-cam videos are not the solution for such issues. You must talk to a sex therapist, or a relationship counselor.
@@mayasamma-malayalam4666 that is true , most counselor say that more than se x , character is more important, love is the biggest gift rather than s.x. Still in Kerela around 67%of divorce happened due to lack of physical comparability they love there husband and wife emotional but not physical,they also went through counseling, and at the end it end up in divorce. Why? And question is not about virgin ,if someone test sexual compatibility for me it's ok . But in arrange marriage how can test the compatibility?so is this consider as disadvantage of arrange marriage,or weather it better to have living relationship
If you mentally ok, everything is ok.your question is arrange marriage or love marriage? Every marriage is arranged one,who arrange is not a big deal 👍
Please refrain from advising the children to get on the good book of the toxic parents. Because you already know it is not possible. Toxic parents don't follow logic. Whatever the child does the toxic parent will find a way to diminish it especially a narc parent. And they would get a kick out of watching the child agonizingly trying to prove that they did something good. And rebelism is good as long as it is with a cause and does not lead the child to dangerous situations. If the child is rebellious that is because the toxic parent failed to break them. A child in this kind of toxic household would not have the presence of mind or motivation to carry around a timetable of things to do to not get in trouble. And that would be so tiring to follow a timetable to which nothing pleases the toxic parent. Apart from these things the rest of the video was good. Who am I to say that? Well...I was the scapegoated child of NPD parents - a survivor.
Kaarnoru kali oke pandu.. Give respect take respect athre ulu. Ethra prayam chennavar aanelum ingot nallapole perumariyal thirichum nalla pole perumaranam Ennu padipikulu new gen aalkare.
Toxic aanenn avare paranj manassilakamo ennathin answer is no enn arinjapo kore aswasam. Ini ath try cheyyan energy kalayandallo.
Ha ha yeah.. Just take care of yourself. ❤️
Entire opposite things happened to me.
I shared my issues with a teacher and she accused me of being ungrateful.
I had bad friends who only backstabbed me and made me lose my self worth.
And I got into a toxic relationship and on top of that , got slut shamed by everyone.
Completely affected my studies. Took a long time to repair
thats so tough.. hugs..
Same except that relationship thing. I literally hate these misogynist men here. Better to be single and I'm afraid too cuz I got some trust issues thanks to some toxic friends I had.
I wish i have seen this 35years ago. Great advice and on point. 👍
Toxic parenting has caused more damage than anything and still recovering thru therapy and other means. All of them had happened to me, and also I was sexually abused at age of 7. It was terrible and the effect of which is there even today.
But with more therapy, i realize the damage is more from the parenting than even from the sexual abuse. Thanks for doing this. I hope atleast the next generation will not have to go thru my situation. 🙏
I can tell that all the advices here spot on. The best option is to work on yourself, pick up yourself and try to be independent. Everything shall pass. Keep dreaming. Your dreams will ce true for sure. Don't let anyone stop you.
❤️
I really needed to hear that talking to them doesn’t help coz I’ve been trying so so so hard to sort things out coz I thought it was just a communication issue and every time I try for a healthy discussion it ends up being a big issue about being ungrateful
yes. dont even try.. just let it go and work on yourself.
Ente mom very toxic and dangerous Anu,enikulla problems ellam avide ninnu thudangunnu enn manassilakki,ath manassilakkan Anu most important thing.pinne avar nammale effect cheyyilla.nalla remedy avarumayi communication minimum akalanu.epozhenkilm edapazhakiyal I will be hearting.
No friends always alone
i think I had gone through toxic parenting. I feel some where I am toxic too. but I don't want my parents to be in guilt part if they bahave to me like that still I do have some problems too.
Chechi paranjath 100%correct ahnnu .....
Im 22 year old njn Kure years aahyi ee kaaryagal k suffer cheyyunu.they won't support me and also they won't recognise me even njn happy aahyitt irriykunnadhu ente ammayk ishttamala.i don't know why this always happens to me
ഇത്രേം എല്ലാം ഞാൻ അനുഭവിച്ചതാ. Nyt ഉറക്കം ഇല്ല. Bad food habit.
Its hard for me to accept that the children have to deal with their toxic parents by themselves. Don't we have a legal support system where the children can report their grievances? Maybe like within the school itself. By such a practise, can't these toxic parents be made to attend counselling sessions through a legal mandate? I don't know if I am being unrealistic.
You are absolutely right
of course children can report about their parents to school. but they just warn these parents and send them home. again the child is in that same envt. So many kids dont report these things. but others can report. i know many insta followers of mine who have called 1098 when they know their neighbors are hitting and torturing their kids. 1098 keeps anonymity and they also send a team home to check on the family and warn them. unfortunately i dont know if anything more is possible. another issue is many people in the police dept or even diff govt authorities, unless they are trained in mental health , are people who think hitting and scolding is fine.. so how far will the child go to complain, i am not sure..
Enniku aarum illa 🙂 enniku njan undu self love ❤️ i love myself
Thanks for sharing. Am a viticim & also researching about this subject
Ente achan both non toxic and toxic pole tonunu....eniku manasilavanila etu category pedutanm enu!! Paranjatil orupadu karyngal seri ayi. But I am an emotional eater, have depression and terrible anxiety. Itu karanam anonu aryila...kidney stone and pcod diagnose ayi. Bayangaramaya suicidal mentality. Hope I get to live the kind of life I alwys wanted. I am turning 26 this month..That's 26 years wasted !!
Not at all, if you seek help.. Do get in touch with a mental health professional.. Life is short, but life starts when you start living it. So ithuvare thudangiyittilla ennu vicharikkuka.. ❤️❤️
unfortunately i am a victim. I am a 34 year old adult with depression, anxiety, eating disorder, suicidal thoughts, low self esteem and many other problems all because I was not good enough for them as how my classmates were good.
.. my brother was also into these conditions... now he is healed
Correct
Enik epo 23 aayi but still oru toxic parent koode geevikkendi varunnu😭😭😭 vallathe oru life aan😒
Same to you, my big brother is 40 and my dad is still toxic with him
Me too 😩
I am 29 years old n i undergo toxic parenting n toxic relationship... Whay is the best thing i can do for myself
Definitely therapy 💜
Cut them off as soon as possible. Believe me you are just wasting your precious time and health if you are still with them.
Purath povan sammadichal alle
Same padikan polum vidunnilla 😬
@@jasnii900 Nammal ore thooval pakshikal
same bro 😣
Cheachy you are really great ❤️ ellam 💯 correct
Thank you verymuch🥺❤️
I'm a victim of toxic parenting.
pls reply sumi
ann makhalum pennmakalum tamilulla discrimination toxic aano
yes.
Nice video ✨️❤️
Mam, in my case is psychologists therapy Will be helpful for us? ആളൊരു patriarchial family product ആണ്. കുഞ്ഞിനെ തല്ലി ശരിയാക്കണം, പൂമുഖ വാതിൽക്കൽ ഭാര്യ concept etc. @ my age 18 ഞാനിതിൽ വന്നു പെട്ടു പോയതാണ്. എന്റെ അമ്മയും ഏതാണ്ട് ഇതേ ചിന്താഗതിക്കാരാണ്. ഇയാളെ ഒരു തെറാപ്പിക്ക് എങ്ങനെ പറഞ്ഞു മനസിലാക്കി കൊണ്ടുപോകും... എന്നെ ഒന്ന് help ചെയ്യാമോ
ayyale therapy attend cheyyippikkunathalla solution. you need to attend therapy to understand if this relationship can work or not.
@@mayasamma-malayalam4666 അതൊരു no ആണെങ്കിൽ അതെങ്ങനെ മറ്റുള്ളവരെ convince ചെയ്യും എന്നെനിക്കറിയില്ല. Bcoz എല്ലാവരും അഡ്ജസ്റ്റ് ചെയ്യാൻ മാത്രമേ പറയുന്നുള്ളൂ 😞
@@sanvi1997 Aadhyam counselling attend cheyyu.. good counselors also help the client get the confidence and feel empowered to take their own decisions. ippozhum ningalude ullinte ullil you know if the relationship is worth it or not. you just need more clarity about the situation.
@@mayasamma-malayalam4666 ok thank you mam
@@mayasamma-malayalam4666 can you suggests a good councilor?
Can u please give me an online appointment
There is a question which I like to ask. It's not related to video topic. And most people never talk about it. Suppose I marry a non virgin, and after marriage how can we find comparability in se x through arrange marriage. What if she say that I love my husband in emotional manner,but my body lean towards my ex boyfriend. So do u think arrange marriage have it as a great disadvantage in coming to comparability? And the reason why boys prefer virgin justified. Expect your answer on it. Or weather it's my insecurity
Few things you need to think of - what exactly is the hype around Virginity, how sex is not the only element of compatibility of a relationship, and your personal insecurities around marrying someone who's not a virgin.. I'll be doing a video on Virginity soon.. Stay tuned. Meanwhile TH-cam videos are not the solution for such issues. You must talk to a sex therapist, or a relationship counselor.
@@mayasamma-malayalam4666 that is true , most counselor say that more than se x , character is more important, love is the biggest gift rather than s.x. Still in Kerela around 67%of divorce happened due to lack of physical comparability they love there husband and wife emotional but not physical,they also went through counseling, and at the end it end up in divorce. Why? And question is not about virgin ,if someone test sexual compatibility for me it's ok . But in arrange marriage how can test the compatibility?so is this consider as disadvantage of arrange marriage,or weather it better to have living relationship
If you mentally ok, everything is ok.your question is arrange marriage or love marriage? Every marriage is arranged one,who arrange is not a big deal 👍
Thank u ma'am🥺❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I have emotional eating
Good video✨
Suffering from BPD😭😭😭😭
Me adhd and ocd😟
👍👍👍
Share cheyan poolum aarum illatha njan enthu cheyum
Nice message
Everyone is victims of childhood
Mam... Can I talk to you?
hi maya please do videos in tamil atleast add subtitles in either one (tamil or english).
Check my tamil channel. Same video is there.
@@mayasamma-malayalam4666 found it and content helpful thanks
Please refrain from advising the children to get on the good book of the toxic parents. Because you already know it is not possible. Toxic parents don't follow logic. Whatever the child does the toxic parent will find a way to diminish it especially a narc parent. And they would get a kick out of watching the child agonizingly trying to prove that they did something good. And rebelism is good as long as it is with a cause and does not lead the child to dangerous situations. If the child is rebellious that is because the toxic parent failed to break them.
A child in this kind of toxic household would not have the presence of mind or motivation to carry around a timetable of things to do to not get in trouble. And that would be so tiring to follow a timetable to which nothing pleases the toxic parent. Apart from these things the rest of the video was good. Who am I to say that? Well...I was the scapegoated child of NPD parents - a survivor.
😬 P R O M O S M!
ഒന്ന് നേരിട്ട് സംസാരിക്കാൻ പറ്റുമോ ഐ മീൻ മൊമെയലിൽ
Very generic solutions.
അതയാത് കാർന്നവന്മാരുടെ അടുത്ത് കള്ളത്തരം കാണിച്ചു ജീവിക്കുക ഗുഡ് 👍👍👍
Kaarnoru kali oke pandu.. Give respect take respect athre ulu. Ethra prayam chennavar aanelum ingot nallapole perumariyal thirichum nalla pole perumaranam Ennu padipikulu new gen aalkare.
ഉറങ്ങുക ഉണരുക ഫാദറിനെയോ മദറിനെയോ അനുസരിക്കരുത് വേറെ ആരെയും കേൾക്കരുത്