I forgot where I heard it, but the funniest thing I ever heard was a guy saying, "Dude, I'm so deep in the friendzone that I've met her boyfriend's parents."
+LicoriceLain a lot of people frown upon leaving the friendship. a lot people assume that if the dude leaves he was just in it for sex/romance. Also some say "if you really like her then you would be happy that she is happy with someone even if it isn't you."
@@redrosin99a therapist would tell you thinking women owe you any type of romantic relationship when they don’t feel the same way is deluded and selfish. If you can’t handle rejection to the point where you need to lie about what healthy is, YOU need therapy
1:08-Limberance 1:50-Batemen Principle 3:28-Homogamy 4:14-Unobtainable 4:45-Scarcity principle 5:08-Ben Franklin 5:58-Robert Putnam Social Media is less about conversation and more about being stage 8:15-Cyberbalkanisation
Girl: I like you.. but as a friend. I'm sorry.. Guy: Am i getting friendzoned? Girl: Umm yes... i think so.. Michael: *OR AM I?* **Vsauce music plays**
It’s incredible how Vsauce videos from 9 years ago still looks like 2022 videos; the quality of the video and the density of the content aged very well.
You forgot that he asks them to do him a favor... "Ladies, my garter has become loose, would any of you care to tighten it for me?" At the very moment his garter has been tightened, he farts and cuts the cheesy tension...
I really like that recontextualization at the end. Where friend zone isn't a knock down but instead an outside 3rd party that can give you insight on yourself. This can give step ahead of finding a mate as you may finally realize who is really compatible with you rather than who think is.
I finished Friends way before watching this. But that's not what this is about. Not all people have seen all things. No one was born having watched Friends. I hate people like you who say 'well it's out so doesn't matter if you're spoiled, your fault'. And then there's the improper grammar...
He's right. Not necessarily about you but the friend zone is a toxic idea that doesn't exist and more people should research it before latching onto it as an excuse for their shortcomings or lack of communication.
Seems to be a euphemism for unrequited love or general incompatibility. The tricky thing is that it cannot progress if it's one sided, or if only one person is sexually attracted and not the other. So it's fairly common, but it shouldn't be viewed as the end of the world. Even in the most stable of long term romantic bonds, friendship represents the foundation. I think part of the solution is that we have to start valuing friendships again.
but it is not real friendship the friend zone is a place they put a guy so they can use the guy he bad guy if want to leave because he respect the woman that does not want or he is a creep for trying to get more then she want to give him
Another major problem is that people, guys especially, either believe that a relationship should happen when sexual attraction is present, *or* they confuse sexual attraction with a romantic one. People who are sexually attracted to each other can be, and often are friends
Yea I met this girl two years ago and she’s chill and very kind and doesn’t play hard to get. I told her how I felt about her and all she did was find it adorable. And till this day she knows that I like her but to her it’s like it’s a normal thing so we’re just really good close friends. But here’s the thing she likes some other dude sadly 😔😪. I think he’s too cocky because he likes another girl and he can’t like two girls and expect to be with my crush. My crush is going for the wrong guy. Literally because of him she got in trouble and got all her things taken away, not only that her stepdad was all up on her face screaming at her and since she was frustrated she cried for three hours long. She didn’t do nothing wrong. She got in trouble just because the dude she has a crush on kissed one her friends and she told one of the teachers through messages and her parents thought the teacher had bad intentions so it’s really the dudes fault for playing with her feelings. If he truly liked her. He wouldn’t have done what he did behind her back. They don’t even go out they’re just friends but it’s whatever. And I’m like, “Hello I’m here waiting for you to see that I’m the right guy for you.” (In my mind) But no she still likes him even though it’s his fault that her life right now sucks. 😢 I hate not being her favorite boy 😪.
@@angelcortesjr5063 tell her directly. Do NOT help her to get with him at all. Tell her the problems he causes and why she needs to snap out of it before its too late. Be bold amd harsh, she would be mad at first but eventually she will thank you for that in the future. Outcomes could include: - Her agreeing with you - Her Disagreeing with you - Her getting mad for a short while before things are patched up - her realising that you're a great person and maybe even leading towards feelings
Primerprime 5 😂😂 I mean yeah, he is pretty good at understanding things us plebs don't and the first time I watched this video I was binge watching vsauce videos, so I was just desperate for vsauce knowledge tbh 😂 but fast forward like 3 years and now it's back in my recommended... yt's really tryna tell me something eh 🤔
“Mud is so boring, it’s just mud…. Or is it? You see, mud comes water mixing with dirt. And little bacteria inside that mud….” “…..which is why, fossils solidify…” “….so therefore, dinosaurs went extinct, except for birds. And as always, thanks for watching”
Hahahahaha! At least you are cool enough to have fun. In contrast to all these people who want to keep their delusion and even pass it to others. Good luck man!
@@godnyx117 “You can use your illusion, Let it take you where it may; You live n learn, and then, sometimes, It’s best to walk a-way …” (Before you become Mayor of Friendzone Town)
it _is_ a good thing. who doesnt want new friends??? EDIT: in general, the friendzone is a sexist concept. if you become friends with someone bc you want them to have sex with you, that's manipulative. the friendzone puts the blame on the woman for the man's feelings. like no, you're responsible for your own feelings for someone and they dont owe you shit for liking them. women arent a vending machine where you give friendship and they give you sex. the kinds of people who complain abt the friendzone just dont see women as people. if you're genuinely friends and then you fall for someone, thats fine. you can go a couple different routes: you can keep your feelings quiet, or you can confess. both are valid. personally, i wouldnt want to risk the friendship, but to each their own. if you keep quiet about it, then you continue being their friend and that's it. if you confess and get rejected, then again, that's it. you're rejected. you can continue your friendship like before (but slightly more awkward now, probably). or you could decide that you need a break from your friendship to get over them. sometimes its just too painful to be around them but not _with_ them, so you can end the friendship. that's a valid option too. but the key here is that 1) you didnt enter the friendship in order to manipulate them into a relationship, and 2) you dont put the blame on them for not returning your feelings. its not your fault you fell for them, but its your feelings that ultimately ended the friendship. which isnt a bad thing, necessarily, but its important to acknowledge that its not their fault.
@@ponternal just because she doesn't want to fuck you, doesn't mean the friendzone is bad. She is never going to fuck you, either be friends or fuck off. She doesn't owe you anything you fuck head
@@Broxalax I agree with you im just saying that you dont owe her anything either. It is much better to move on from a girl you like than to be her "friend" and orbit her.
BNH DELUXE Michael: So first, we have to understand the meaning of “hospital”, and what it actually means to be in a hospital. *Starts talking about quantum physics and questioning the universe as a whole*
But what IS a hospital? You see, a hospital is a place, designated to cure the ill, but who decides the designation? Back in 1679 the famous British doctor...
it was a slightly true comment but mainly said it to try and be funny. im doing better. just being friendly and outgoing can do a lot. im talking to a girl right now that may or may not go somewhere but its progress.
@@maximilianthomas3006 well some people chill on parties and try to forget about school. But in most *cases* you decrease the probability of getting your chances with a girl.
how to avoid the friendzone: don't drag your feet hoping the person will magically pick up on your feels don't constantly offer favors when what you really want is to ask them out learn how to actually flirt instead of mixed signals if a 'moment' presents itself, don't hold back stop being scared of rejection don't be a doormat don't listen to tumblr the friendzone is not simply being rejected if you get the "I just like you as a friend" excuse, it's usually just them trying to be polite. respect that instead of summoning your fedora/neonhair trigger powers. feelings might change down the line, but only if you allow them to organically.
I've been "friendzoned" plenty of times and it honestly hurt and made me become more cynical and distant. It was only until I didn't accept the friend zone for what it is generally accepted as. Look, respect the man or woman's decision to not be interested in you and if your friendship is solid enough than you can remain friends. If not then your friendship was probably not as strong in the first place. So he/she wanting to be your friend is not putting you in the friend zone, it's simply them wanting to be your friend. I believe our society has devalued friendship and has made it nearly impossible for a girl and guy to be friends if they are both single. It's quite sad
Dude women can't be friends tru friends. Women can be friends as long as everything is fine in your life, but once you are in trouble they will vanish as fast as money. Being friends with women is always about some sort of shallow relationship. Women and men can never be true friends, as buddies -yeah, as companions-maybe, but as friends as guy can be - no. True friends always with you whenever you are in trouble, true friends understand you in deeper level, women just can't understand guys deeply, it is just impossible for them. Why do you think nerds, introverts, and all other guys who by logic need friends, support the most never gets one and always considered to be "creeps", while dudes who by logic don't have problems with having friends and so don't feel need in them always have a ton of them? The answer is nobody f....king needs anyone's problem, and so there is no real friendship. I can prove my words by real examples. Why people after getting married become so mad and angry about their marriage? Why a lot of parents have issues with their kids? The answer is closer people get together more they know about each other , more they start to hate each other. Real friendship is tested by tough reality if it passes this test it can be considered as real friendship. But the truth is in reality all those "friendships" can be crushed as situatiton gets serious. Same thing here, woman are "friends" with men as long as he doesn't need any help in life, as long as he is self-sufficient, but rather has something to share, something to provide, then yeah he will be considered normal, but once he is trouble once he needs some tolerance, he instantly turns into "creep". Yep that how it works. Same thing here, women objectively have nothing useful to provide besides sex, if we look objectively, but men on the other hand have way more services to provide, like fixing computer, fixing electro devices, providing protection, and so on, and if men is self sufficient and doesn't need any help from women, he is fine with his current life status, ofc he will be friend to woman, cuz everything is fair, cuz both woman and man in such relationships are self sufficient and they can ask each other for help. Shortly, always friendship between man and woman is always based on generousity and self sufficiency of a man.
There's a girl that I know whom I've friendzoned. She gives off very noticeable hints, and I know she likes me, I just don't have the same feelings for her. Guys, if you want to know how to tell if a girl likes you, here's a list of seven things to look out for. 1: Do you catch her looking at you a lot? If you do, there's a good chance she may like you. A more confident girl will most likely keep eye contact with you after you've noticed her, and smile. A shy girl will normally dart her eyes down and away from you. Within a few seconds, she'll usually look at you again. Keep eye contact with her, and smile. Her heart rate will increase, and so will her breathing. Don't stare too much though, she might get creeped out! 2: When you start a conversation with her, does she immediately smile? A feeling of attraction will usually cause the girl to smile. Don't worry if the smile is short lasting. The girl could just be shy, but it's difficult to hide a strong emotion. 3: Does she "accidently" bump into you a lot, or does she purposely poke you? This is usually a strong sign of attraction. It's a girl's way of feeling you up, her way of seeing how toned you are, or her way of trying to get your attention. Shy girls are less likely to do this! If you think a shy girl might like you, but she doesn't do those things, break the touch barrier yourself! When trying to get her attention, instead of just calling her name, tap her on the shoulder and keep your hand there for a single second. This will get her to slowly become more comfortable with the touching, and eventually she might start touching you back. Don't go overboard though, because you might scare her off! 4: Does she ask for small favors from you, like asking you to carry something or open something she could have easily opened herself? This is her way of gauging how nice you are. She may not even directly ask you for something. If she complains that it's cold, and you have a hoodie, let her wear it, even if it means you'll be cold too! This is her way of getting a feeling of being close with you, and a way of her getting to smell you. I know, it may seem weird that she's trying to indirectly smell you, but your natural body odor is usually attractive to girls that like you. You will usually like how the girl smells, if you have the same feelings for her. Just make sure you shower every day and use deodorant. Cologne is not needed. This way you won't stink, but your natural body odor isn't overpowered by the cologne. If you're around other guys when she says this, don't be too quick to jump to a conclusion. She may like one of the other guys, and will feel disappointed that you offered before he could. 5: Look into her eyes. No literally, look into her eyes. When you're conversing with her, if she likes you, her pupils will dilate. This is completely uncontrollable, and she won't even know that it's happening. Confident or shy, the girls eyes will always dilate. Just don't stare into her eyes though, as she might become uncomfortable. Just take quick glances and try to notice if her eyes are dilating. Same goes for guys too. Your eyes will dilate around a girl you like. People usually don't know about this very subtle reaction, so don't worry about your eyes dilating around him/her. 6: Does she laugh at your jokes, even if they aren't very funny? This is a good sign she likes you. It's completely subconscious, so she won't even realize she's doing that. Test it. Say some jokes around her, and if she's the only one to laugh, or even chuckle, she definitely likes you. Don't go overboard on the jokes though. You don't want to end up looking like a comedy dork! 7: Pay attention to how she positions her body when she's around you! If you're with a group of friends, take quick glances at her feet. Her feet will almost always be pointed in your direction. This is a completely subconscious act. She won't know that she's doing it. Also pay attention to how she positions her body when talking with her. If she likes you, she will subconsciously point her body towards you. Of course don't immediately assume she likes you, because it could just be in that moment. She will almost always point her body towards you. If you're sitting near her, she will lean in towards you. This is also subconscious, and is her way of getting close to you. There you have it! Keep an eye out for all of those things, and you should be able to tell that she likes you! **Cliché mode activate!** Just be yourself around her. She likes you for the person you normally are. Don't start purposely trying to impress her!
+Unsolved Paradox Haha, great post :P However, you say some things are subconsious, but what if the girls knows that they are normally so and may fake one of them, perhaps to see the response?
Jorn Bom Hm, the things I listed are very unknown signs. If she does know about the signs and just tries to gauge your reactions, then she's a jerk. If she suddenly starts showing you these signs, be cautious. Always look for the dilating eyes though! It's something she can't control, no matter how hard she tries. If she doesn't have any feelings of attraction towards you her eyes _won't_ dilate, even if she knows about that tell-tale sign.
But the dillation is purely biological right. So you think attraction is purely biological? I do fully understand and agree with your statements however.
Jorn Bom Well, it is biological. Our brains evolved to be able to experience that emotion. We're not the only animal that has evolved to feel that emotion. If love were a cultural thing, it surely wouldn't exist in some cultures.
I was more aiming towards the point where the only thing lacking in your list is the dilation. For whatever reason could be hormonal or that there is no direct physical competence and yet there is something gping on, in your opinion is this possible or not? I am curious about the cultural aspect you mention.
You can be friendzoned by one. One of my friends used one proustite all the time and he fell in love with her. They talked all the time, had sex (of course) and went to parties together. One day my friend asked to date her, she said she "only like you as a friend.". He was friendzoned by a prostitute.
Daniel Allen But at least it was cool to fuck her. He would've probably been better off with saying something like, hey, we're friends, and we hang out all the time... how about we just fuck, and keep hanging out. at this point he'd learn whether she was A. full of shit and creating a friend illusion because he was a significant customer, B. He was really bad at sex, and she literally gained nothing out of it. C. She really liked the ideas of keeping her options open and remaining uncommitted to anybody, knowing that she probably has a lower life expectancy and a higher risk of STD's and she may actually think she's a piece of shit subconsciously. or D. she's either crazy, or an idiot who belieevs everything she's been told, and therefore doesn't have a very good grasp of what the real world is. PS. all are possible outcomes in variable proportions. The human mind is amazingly complicated and specializes in 2 things: ignoring shit it doesn't need to think about, and staying comfortable enough to function well enough to survive day-to-day
Naming something the friendzone is so sad because it diminishes the value of friendship. Platonic love is still very valuable and fulfilling. Plus, you can’t date everyone. If you start viewing all of your relationships as “what value can I add to their life, and what value can they add to mine?” Instead of, “why don’t they like me?” Then you start seeing life more as passive positive experiences less that the labels matter. What can you do to make your situation better? And, part of that is understanding your boundaries. People can’t be available 24/7 and you can’t be either, etc. it’s much better to have a friend or partner who is honest with things like that, too. A true loving relationship is balanced between what each person can contribute.
i don't think the problem is being "friend zoned" the one time lol, it comes from the consistent act of it, not to mention holding the bonds one already has with their friends.
You went so deep on this even though there was no reason to. Seems like you just wanted to write an essay. I already have friends. I want a girl to be even greater than a friend,someone i can confide in,talk about everything to,be one with. And if they then make me just a friend,its coz they are doing it as a last resort. Its an insult basically
I swear the unavailable thing is so true. I was friends with this girl around grade 7, she was always kinda overly friendly, and it seemed like she had feelings for me, but I wasn't really into her, even though she was attractive. We were always seatmates on the bus, despite me wanting to sit with other people because I found her annoying at times. I wasn't really all that nice to her because I didn't appreciate her attention and took it for granted. Then one week she went off to a camp for a while, and something came over me. I really missed her, and I'll admit, I felt like I loved her, despite not having seen her in a few weeks and having felt none of that the last time I saw her. When she returned, I was happy to see her and tried to hang out with her as much, but she was more distant. She'd just had a wild time at camp meeting boys (one of which she was openly obsessing over), and was less friendly towards me suddenly. This sudden disinterest in me just heightened my feelings for her, and the more I tried to talk to her, the more distant she got. She got other friends over the summer, and when we hit high school, I rarely spoke to her, which of course drove me completely bonkers. I was super in love. I carried on like this for a while, but after 3 or so years of obsessing, I decided just to forget it, but man, it really goes to show what a difference being distant can make.
I’m like the girl here.... so I talked to one girl, I’m giving too much attention to her, I’m probably annoying, but she likes me, although she doesn’t respond often, she says she loves me etc. But I feel like she’s becoming more and more distant.. Should I stop chatting with her for a while? If she really likes me she will text me, right?
Zany Guy fall back and keep yourself busy by locking into whatever you need to do, if your locked in you do not come off as needy and that helps build attraction. Live your life.
Well he kind of did when we went on to discuss the social statistics of how much time people spend with friends. The topic I would've thought was attraction (or lack thereof)
i never got why being in the friendzone was made out to be worse than never seeing the other person again. every romantic relationship ends in either breaking up or dying, and if in your culture you tend to have only 1 romantic partner at a time, then every single one of your relationships apart from one (if you are the first to die in a couple, or they die and you don't date again) ends in breaking up. Can't say that about friendship!
Yes, but the friendzone is worse because you suffer throughout that friendship, for the reason that you can't have what you love, or worse - you see that person loving someone else.
Hey Vsauce, Michael here. Don't you ever stop half way through a video and wonder, "what's this video about again?" This is called the Stevens effect. It originated in the early 21st century when Michael Stevens, or Vsauce, etc etc.
Friend zone is pretty easy to understand. The person likes to be around you but for some reason isn't attracted to you. That could be physically, lifestyle, some other fundamental incompatibility. So it's not something you are put into. That person offers you friendship and it's your decision to take it or leave it. The only person who puts you in the friend zone is you.
Yeah but its more insulting to a guy who has genuine feelings for a girl because whenever she eventually finds a bf he's just gonna have to sit and watch them make love from the side lines, knowing she's getting her back blown out. It's like a form of cuckoldry, it's better for his own mental state to let him go and not put him through that if she really cares about him. And the guy she chooses alot of the times treats her badly so eventually she's gets her heat broken and comes running back to mr friendzone guy but will never give him a chance. Thats like if a girl really likes a guy and they have so much fun togther and she really enjoys his company, he gives her butterflies in her stomach and she really loves him and she cooks and cleans for him, yet he ignores all that and goes to be with some trashy bimbo slut who treats him like crap, then complains about it all the time but then tells this female friend, she's so special any man would be lucky to have her yet, he would never do it and they can only be friends while he only goes after trashy women then keeps complaining about. Sounds kinda stupid doesn't it?
@panthornberry do you even know what you're talking about? No one said they shouldnt have the ability to say no 🤡 The op was insinuating that it is some how a good thing to be friends with a guy thats romantically interested in her
"Can I call you in the middle of the night to come pick me up from a party that went south and I'm super drunk?" Her: Uhh... no? "Well there's your answer."
In polish language we have many ways you can describe your relation to others: "znajomy" - somebody you know, but don't hangout with often "kolega" - it's basically person, with which you meet up, talk to, something more then "znajomy" "przyjaciel" - you confess to that person, spend most of your time with him, never say a bad word about em, "Najlepszy przyjaciel" - where "najlepszy" means "Best", best one of your "Przyjaciel", somebody that knows almost everything about you, same you know everything about em, somebody who will never leave you in trouble Glad I live in that country, so you can describe perfectly what do you mean
Stranger, aquaintence, friend, best friend/bosom buddy...these are the words people used in the past, plus words like classmate, colleague, etc. A friend was someone you were already quite loyal to and vice verse.
All these words exist in Russian and English, for that matter. Like and love are different words and are used pretty much exactly like in English when you might say you love a type of food or an activity, a relative or a close friend, but not a complete stranger.
Explains it to a certain extend, since attractive people will get chosen instead of brushed aside, no matter how incompatible they might be. The relationship won't last, but attractive people are much less likely to be friendzoned I'd imagine
i think there are 2 ways you can end up in the friendzone. one is not stating your intentions in the early stages of getting to know someone meaning they never got a chance to reject you to begin with while you are still just acting just really friendly that's all you really did so they never got to see you as anything else for anything else. the other is falling in love with an already established friend who most likely doesn't feel the same because they never developed feelings for you because it's quite rare to develop feelings between already established friends. so the friendzone is in one case inevitable, the other is simply just being afraid of rejections or just lacking knowledge into how to actually approach someone with a romantic interest in mind thinking it's the same thing as making friends when it really isn't.
A hot woman once put me in the friend zone, but whenever we went out she expected me to pay for everything. She started calling me asking for all sorts of favors. I soon realized she was no friend of mine.
I learned overtime that when single, I should only treat women as associates and not friends. and if I like them and they don't like me back, I treat them as a non priority.
How to escape the friendzone Gym. Go to the gym. "But, women appreciate a sense of humour and.." Gym "But, its too superficial, we are humans not obj..." Gym "But, .." NO! Gym! "Character and social interactions in multiple levels, gender stereotypes, societal pressure..." Bro, do you even want to get laid?
As a girl I'm tired of being made to feel guilty for 'friendzoning' anyone. The whole concept is weird and unfair. If somebody tells you they want to be your friend do you honestly think it never crossed their mind to look at you in a sexual way and decide whether they feel attracted to you or not? Of course it did and you can't seriously get angry at someone just because they are not attracted to you. I used to have no self-esteem when I was a teenager and was lonely and depressed didn't even look so good and so the possibility of being liked by a guy was probably 0,001%. So don't think that guys are the only ones with this kind of issues. But I wanted to change and so I worked really hard on myself. Not just on my looks, I worked the hardest on my self-confidence and I'm proud with all the effort I put. Today I have more success with guys than I would have ever dreamed of when I was a teenager and I know I would have never gotten here if I never put an effort to better myself. Therefore I am not ashamed to have higher standards and to pick guys who are good-looking and have also got self-esteem. I believe I deserve it and I am not obliged to go out with someone just because I feel sorry for them. If you want to be liked by others, don't just sit around complaining and hating on anyone who isn't attracted to you - actually do something about yourself. Make yourself attractive. And remember: self-confidence is one of the most attractive traits. (just don't go too far and become arrogant, find the perfect balance!)
lol when not even the wingman hits on you. Well you are not that all alone, go out and explore the world. Yo, I hold all these feels (for one girl) but I still pulled myself out to get 2 cute chicks numbers, if I am lucky I'll have lunch with em.
Exactly. All of my gfs were my friends first, although I've liked other girls that didn't like me back but were good friends of mine. I guess I just rather a relationship with someone based on already built trust and affection, than mere lust.
@@effiemars_ same here , though haven't had a gf yet, but would like to start one like that. So far my Best friend just said she doesn't see me that way so yeah
You are loved and cherished. You have nothing to fear. There is nothing you can do wrong. If I had to boil this entire message down to one sentence, it would run this way: You are loved. And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of course) be, simply: Love.
There are plenty of videos 7-8 years ago with that high of a quality. I’m saying this as a person who was stuck watching tons of TH-cam like 10 years ago.
I got friend zoned by the girl I'm currently with almost a decade ago, and was told stuff like what's in this video by people not familiar with our relationship and thought I was legitimately crazy because I couldn't get over her for a decade. If you're still obsessing over someone who friend zoned you years after the fact, then much of what is said in this video won't apply to you. Things like a neutral observer thinking you're not as compatible as you think didn't apply to my situation (from anyone actually familiar with our friendship) and probably doesn't to yours.
How it happend that you are together now? Did you confessed your feelings to her or isolated from her and then she confessed or just it developed naturally from both of you?
Jk. That was from Luis C.K. But really female attractiveness peaks at 20 and male attractiveness peaks at 35 so you can meet each other somewhere along the way.
I’ve been friends with someone I’ve had feelings for ever since we were children. It’s been over a decade and I’m still good friends with them, but I don’t think they feel the same way about me. And that’s honestly ok, because no matter what I want them to be happy even if it’s not with me because she’s one of my best friends. She’s been going through hard times recently and I’ve always been someone she can talk to about it and she seems to be appreciative of that. I’m pretty introverted and don’t know too many people so I suppose when I think of someone I’d be in a relationship with it’s always been her. But the reality is that it very well may never happen. And people must learn to accept this, it’s alright to still be “just friends” with someone and respect their preference. Although it hasn’t happened to me yet I know there are plenty of people out there who I might have a future with, and even if I want to be more than friends which may never happen, I’ll still always be her friend and wish the best for her because that’s what relationships are all about whether it be romantic or just someone you care for.
I forgot where I heard it, but the funniest thing I ever heard was a guy saying, "Dude, I'm so deep in the friendzone that I've met her boyfriend's parents."
Little Oven I have preferences (as a lady person) and I don't have that much trouble. Just don't get too caught up on one individual.
hahahahahahaha
+LicoriceLain
a lot of people frown upon leaving the friendship. a lot people assume that if the dude leaves he was just in it for sex/romance.
Also some say "if you really like her then you would be happy that she is happy with someone even if it isn't you."
Oh god that poor guy
So deep Adele is still rolling in it
"The Science of the Friend Zone" - Vsauce
*recommended for you*
Ray it hurts...
@@JohnSmith-wz9cx yup
Wow thanks youtube
Bro same
oof
Wife: I'm leaving you.
Vsauce: *OR ARE YOU?*
lmao why am I imagining a psycho serial killer vsauce now?
Vsauce music intensifies
*Wife Orgasm
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Wife: Oh dear
*Grabs the baseball bat*
came here to know how to escape friendzone and got a lesson on how important friendship is
Women friendzoning men is an abusive behaviour. If that's your concept of friendship, seek therapy.
@@redrosin99 🤓☝️
@@redrosin99wtf therapy? Just leave her and that's all
@@redrosin99a therapist would tell you thinking women owe you any type of romantic relationship when they don’t feel the same way is deluded and selfish. If you can’t handle rejection to the point where you need to lie about what healthy is, YOU need therapy
@@redrosin99and trying to force a romantic relationship isn’t?
why does all vsauce videos look like they were made in 2018 even if it was actually made in 2012 or 2013? like damn, that quality
Cause he's smart. Or, is he?
He has been doing this for a while so hid equipment is top of the line so he doesn’t need to upgrade.
Time travel. Or is it....?
Slade chan *music starts
How does jurassic world 1 better than this
when you can't afford a therapist
true
LOL
when you think you need one.
Feels bad man
@@dennischritskou3631 lmao
Michael as a kid
Girl: I just wanna be friends
Michael: well actually...
Michael Myers?
@@smradztoiek what the fuck is wrong with you
Michael Jackson
@@smradztoiek Do you know who the heck Vsauce is?
Michael Stevens
@@p7outdoors297: Yes, it was a joke. Do you know who Michael Myers is?
Crush: No, we're just friends.
[V-Sauce music kicks in]
**Or are we?**
Welcome to fact or cap
Bruh this got me laughing
Lmao
Crush be ready to question literally everything you ever though before
*pulls out knife*
"Or are we?"
a very rare phenomenon- A vsauce video where he actually stays within 10% of the actual topic
very rare
there is only one in which he stays on topic for the entire time
prime numbers for 3 hours
Maybe michael was friend zoned
You can tell he’s definitely speaking from experience ... especially the “nice guys finish last” comment
exactly
Michael’s son in the future asking for relationship advice:
Michael: ah yes, but first, what exactly IS a relationship?
He has a daughter
varun mahankali and a son
cue the music
@@6telephone this comment is underrated
@@miraeja ikr
"how did you guys get married?"
"yeah he used the Ben Franklin effect on me"
But should you use the Ben Franklin effect?
looool
or did he?
Scarcity effect didn't work😂
Hahaha
1:08-Limberance
1:50-Batemen Principle
3:28-Homogamy
4:14-Unobtainable
4:45-Scarcity principle
5:08-Ben Franklin
5:58-Robert Putnam
Social Media is less about conversation and more about being stage
8:15-Cyberbalkanisation
helped, thanks
Ok so this is recommended to me on Valentine's day
*Perfect*
r wooosh baiter or was it?(Vsauce music intensifies)
F
Sad pepe noises
Love it
F
Who tf friendzoned my guy Vsauce???
No one. He is a scientist. #ISSAJOB
Lol he has a wife.
My sister
Mohamad Alsawafi no shit sherlock I was joking
@@robertlewandowski3973 wife friendzoned him?
Girl: I like you.. but as a friend. I'm sorry..
Guy: Am i getting friendzoned?
Girl: Umm yes... i think so..
Michael: *OR AM I?*
**Vsauce music plays**
Hey Girl, Michael here
Or are you*
@@miguelchacon2717 r/wooooooosh
@@restiaashdoll6179 r/itswooooshwith4os r/ihavereddit
It's 666 so i liked it
The fact that you presented this 9 years ago & this holds very true in 2022
Why wouldn’t it?
2024 boooooi
me with some friends at a party : wow that girl is hot af
Vsauce : *Or is she? And what is even beauty?* _(starts talking about quantum physics)_
Stefan Iliev 😂
Vsauce: How many men a day spend time in the comments of my video telling strangers they go to parties and objectify women? Hmm...
Surfs Up Tay how is that objectifying?
Yes.
OMG 666 likes
But.... what about the "brother zone" where they tell you "you're like a brother to me"?
I get that all the time
+MinimiMax i get "your like a sister to me"
Clau007 That's fucked up, dude.
well thats even worse than the friend zone... good luck bout getting outta that bruh
+Clau007 A1 comment sir. April can not get here soon enough
"video title*
reccomended for you
gonna need some ice for that burn
Mr. Narwhal, I feel Sorry for you, BUT THAT WAS HILARIOUS! XD
Your comment made my day!
Same here FeelsBadMan
it's OK same here bruh 😁
xD
It’s incredible how Vsauce videos from 9 years ago still looks like 2022 videos; the quality of the video and the density of the content aged very well.
Yeah, when he shows other people videos like jenna marbles, there is a huge contrast which feels like as if he is mentioning past
"I'm Coyote Peterson and I'm about to enter the friend zone"
Miguel La Baguette 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂🤣😂😂😂😂
Lmao this is underrated
*Starts screaming*
hahaha
*Insert Dora theme song**
Science of the friend zone:
She's not into you bro.
Mi Cu 😂👌👌👌👍👍
Mi Cu rip
Mi Cu 😂🔥
why tho?
This
Use the Ben Franklin effect
*strolls into room wearing wig*
ladies ;)
tried it. worked pretty well
Hundred dollar bills work well, too
You forgot that he asks them to do him a favor...
"Ladies, my garter has become loose, would any of you care to tighten it for me?" At the very moment his garter has been tightened, he farts and cuts the cheesy tension...
M'lady
**gets killed by a lightning bolt while flying a kite with a key on it during a storm**
**omg Rebecca no he’s mine**
I really like that recontextualization at the end. Where friend zone isn't a knock down but instead an outside 3rd party that can give you insight on yourself. This can give step ahead of finding a mate as you may finally realize who is really compatible with you rather than who think is.
How to get a friend:
1. Tell a girl you like her
2. She tells you that we can only be friends
Bammm You got a friend!
Instructions unclear theres a miniature human thingy that's been walking around in my house im scared help!!
@@Jojo-sh7xp rip, gotta shoot it with a gun I guess
*THIS IS AMERICA*
@@Cat-ki3hy 'Murica!
oh yeah its big brain time
@@Jojo-sh7xp hol up
It's safe to say that Micheal has transcended relationships.
Underrated comment right here bous
But what does SAFE means?
Or has he?
@@Gabbargaamada you copied my comment by 1 month
atm he's happily married and has a child
Did Michael just spoil the whole plot of Friends?
I finished Friends way before watching this. But that's not what this is about. Not all people have seen all things. No one was born having watched Friends. I hate people like you who say 'well it's out so doesn't matter if you're spoiled, your fault'. And then there's the improper grammar...
I haven’t yet...
Who gives a fuck, if you think him saying Ross getting Rachael is a spoiler you my friend need some new hobbies
Taher Lilywala come on
fuck you bitch.
Put this on my watch later list 12 years ago. Feel like it's time to watch it
But Papa Franku said there's no such thing as the Friendzone and that im just fat and gay
Goose McBruce PAPA FRANKU SHUT DOWN SHUTTUP
Goose McBruce nonono, your mom gay and fat, you are just a fucking goose
Haha very funny.. but sad
He's right. Not necessarily about you but the friend zone is a toxic idea that doesn't exist and more people should research it before latching onto it as an excuse for their shortcomings or lack of communication.
Goose McBruce
Yeah, that too.
Its hard to be hard to get when you are hard to want
Eivalan lmfao
Ffs I loled and woke everybody up lmao
Meee
Eivalan had to take like 10 min to think about that
Eivalan MA Nigga this is so good to read and so deadly to think.
it was in my recommended section....youtube understands me better.
Shadab Hussain cool
Shadab Hussain oh hell yeah
Seems to be a euphemism for unrequited love or general incompatibility. The tricky thing is that it cannot progress if it's one sided, or if only one person is sexually attracted and not the other. So it's fairly common, but it shouldn't be viewed as the end of the world. Even in the most stable of long term romantic bonds, friendship represents the foundation. I think part of the solution is that we have to start valuing friendships again.
but it is not real friendship the friend zone is a place they put a guy so they can use the guy he bad guy if want to leave because he respect the woman that does not want or he is a creep for trying to get more then she want to give him
@@brucenadeau2172had a stroke?
Another major problem is that people, guys especially, either believe that a relationship should happen when sexual attraction is present, *or* they confuse sexual attraction with a romantic one. People who are sexually attracted to each other can be, and often are friends
@@bnhalemon7098exactly! Wanting to have sex with someone and being in love with someone are completely different things 😅
I actually prefer people who are very kind, chill and dont play hard to get. They bring much less conflict into a relationship
Gg Fdd me too
Conflict is needed tho
Yea without conflict there is no growth. Soon you're just gonna get bored of each other
Yea I met this girl two years ago and she’s chill and very kind and doesn’t play hard to get. I told her how I felt about her and all she did was find it adorable. And till this day she knows that I like her but to her it’s like it’s a normal thing so we’re just really good close friends. But here’s the thing she likes some other dude sadly 😔😪. I think he’s too cocky because he likes another girl and he can’t like two girls and expect to be with my crush. My crush is going for the wrong guy. Literally because of him she got in trouble and got all her things taken away, not only that her stepdad was all up on her face screaming at her and since she was frustrated she cried for three hours long. She didn’t do nothing wrong. She got in trouble just because the dude she has a crush on kissed one her friends and she told one of the teachers through messages and her parents thought the teacher had bad intentions so it’s really the dudes fault for playing with her feelings. If he truly liked her. He wouldn’t have done what he did behind her back. They don’t even go out they’re just friends but it’s whatever. And I’m like, “Hello I’m here waiting for you to see that I’m the right guy for you.” (In my mind) But no she still likes him even though it’s his fault that her life right now sucks. 😢 I hate not being her favorite boy 😪.
@@angelcortesjr5063 tell her directly. Do NOT help her to get with him at all. Tell her the problems he causes and why she needs to snap out of it before its too late. Be bold amd harsh, she would be mad at first but eventually she will thank you for that in the future. Outcomes could include:
- Her agreeing with you
- Her Disagreeing with you
- Her getting mad for a short while before things are patched up
- her realising that you're a great person and maybe even leading towards feelings
the "friend zone" more like palcatraz.
True. So true.
my soul..............
and the official definition of my dating life
pretty much... both are just pure ass
I found the one tru friend
"Palcatraz"...coining it...
You know it's bad when you turn to Michael Stevens for relationship advice
Too much panic! Not enough disco why you so LOUD!?!😭
Cheesey McCheese 😖 I'm sorry!!
You kidding? Michael is the best at this! I'd turn to him even if I wasn't desperate.
Primerprime 5 😂😂 I mean yeah, he is pretty good at understanding things us plebs don't and the first time I watched this video I was binge watching vsauce videos, so I was just desperate for vsauce knowledge tbh 😂 but fast forward like 3 years and now it's back in my recommended... yt's really tryna tell me something eh 🤔
Lmao that shits funny
"The Science Of The Friend Zone"
Me : You know , I am something of a scientist myself
Everyone else:
is sad about being friend zoned
Me who usually has no friends:
it is... acceptable
I'll be your friend :)
Dumb
Wow we kinda same I want to have experience like going with a group of friends to some place someday , or I'll go alone probably 😂
I don't need friends :')
Wanna play valorant?
This guy could literally tell me about mud for 15 hours and I'd still be entertained
“But when you really think about it, what *is* mud?”
@@Spammard Does mud even exist?
@@boogleballs6934 Maybe not?
“Mud is so boring, it’s just mud…. Or is it? You see, mud comes water mixing with dirt. And little bacteria inside that mud….”
“…..which is why, fossils solidify…”
“….so therefore, dinosaurs went extinct, except for birds. And as always, thanks for watching”
well, he has a 40 min long video about do chairs exist so knock yourself out
This is in my recommended on valentine's day, are u serious ?
Hilarious.
Oh snap
Tasty give your heart a good ol rub my brother
Happy Friendzone, friends! XD
Tasty xD
Wow, I actually feel pretty great now about being friend-zoned … Thank you, Vsauce, for stretching my self-delusion to even greater heights.
Hahahahaha! At least you are cool enough to have fun. In contrast to all these people who want to keep their delusion and even pass it to others.
Good luck man!
@@godnyx117
“You can use your illusion,
Let it take you where it may;
You live n learn, and then, sometimes,
It’s best to walk a-way …”
(Before you become Mayor of Friendzone Town)
1:45 “Batman’s Pineapple”
I need to go to bed
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
thank you, this made me laugh :,)
Your hearing power is hilarious. It's a compliment.
Did you go to bed yet?
Same
This man made the Friend Zone seem like a good thing....someone give him a prize FFS.
it is a good thing 😈😏
it _is_ a good thing. who doesnt want new friends???
EDIT:
in general, the friendzone is a sexist concept. if you become friends with someone bc you want them to have sex with you, that's manipulative. the friendzone puts the blame on the woman for the man's feelings. like no, you're responsible for your own feelings for someone and they dont owe you shit for liking them. women arent a vending machine where you give friendship and they give you sex. the kinds of people who complain abt the friendzone just dont see women as people.
if you're genuinely friends and then you fall for someone, thats fine. you can go a couple different routes: you can keep your feelings quiet, or you can confess. both are valid. personally, i wouldnt want to risk the friendship, but to each their own. if you keep quiet about it, then you continue being their friend and that's it. if you confess and get rejected, then again, that's it. you're rejected. you can continue your friendship like before (but slightly more awkward now, probably). or you could decide that you need a break from your friendship to get over them. sometimes its just too painful to be around them but not _with_ them, so you can end the friendship. that's a valid option too. but the key here is that 1) you didnt enter the friendship in order to manipulate them into a relationship, and 2) you dont put the blame on them for not returning your feelings. its not your fault you fell for them, but its your feelings that ultimately ended the friendship. which isnt a bad thing, necessarily, but its important to acknowledge that its not their fault.
It is a good thing if you wanna emotionally support a girl you like while she gets smoked out by other dudes
@@ponternal just because she doesn't want to fuck you, doesn't mean the friendzone is bad.
She is never going to fuck you, either be friends or fuck off. She doesn't owe you anything you fuck head
@@Broxalax I agree with you im just saying that you dont owe her anything either. It is much better to move on from a girl you like than to be her "friend" and orbit her.
Doctor: you’re in the hospital, Michael.
Michael: *oR aM i?*
Doctor: yes...yes you are.
BNH DELUXE Michael: So first, we have to understand the meaning of “hospital”, and what it actually means to be in a hospital. *Starts talking about quantum physics and questioning the universe as a whole*
But Are we ever REALLY in a hospital?
MultiWBN or maybe, is the hospital IN US?
Doctor: the mental hospital
But what IS a hospital? You see, a hospital is a place, designated to cure the ill, but who decides the designation? Back in 1679 the famous British doctor...
Vsauce: makes a video about beds
Vsauce at the end of the video:
"And that is how nuclear fusion is created"
The last thing I need is a scientific explanation as to why I can't get a girl goddamnit
Yeah... Watching this probably isn't a good idea
+Reps ForJesus Get outside more and talk to people. Keep moving.
+Reps ForJesus then i guess you dont want to change something about it. which is great if that makes you happy. rock on ;)
it was a slightly true comment but mainly said it to try and be funny. im doing better. just being friendly and outgoing can do a lot. im talking to a girl right now that may or may not go somewhere but its progress.
+Reps ForJesus or you might just get friendzoned
Birth control effectiveness:
Condoms: 97%
Birth control pills: 98%
Talking about physics on parties: 100%
🤣🤣
If a hot guy talked about physics at a party, the girls would be all over him, take the black pill my friend and enjoy it.
@@maximilianthomas3006 well some people chill on parties and try to forget about school. But in most *cases* you decrease the probability of getting your chances with a girl.
@@nathaniellancaster2 not true, if anything, depending on the type of people there, it increases the chances.
No joke,at university it really does work
Friend: "Is that your maid?"
Me: "No, it's my wife"
Friend: "But why is she doing everything?"
Me: " *THE BEN FRANKLIN EFFECT* "
...what?
Lmao
*it’s*
What the dog doing
Ben Franklin, sigma male
I can't believe this was made 9 years ago. The last 2 minutes feel eerily current more than ever.
When Vsause overthinks why he's in the friendzone
I can't stop laughing
xD
rip
Intelligence is attractive to some people just as fame is. He's got both. What about you?
+BrainiacN5 Well said brainiac
how to avoid the friendzone:
don't drag your feet hoping the person will magically pick up on your feels
don't constantly offer favors when what you really want is to ask them out
learn how to actually flirt instead of mixed signals
if a 'moment' presents itself, don't hold back
stop being scared of rejection
don't be a doormat
don't listen to tumblr
the friendzone is not simply being rejected
if you get the "I just like you as a friend" excuse, it's usually just them trying to be polite. respect that instead of summoning your fedora/neonhair trigger powers. feelings might change down the line, but only if you allow them to organically.
As some dumbass who got friendzoned throughout his teenage years, this seems quite accurate.
stackfl0w how to avoid the friendzone :
step 1: be attractive
Getting someone to like you is fucking science
+L Lawlier Step 2: Be rich.
+PrometheX step 3: blame the cosmos and wallow in pointless self-pity
"wish I had a guy like this"
"Sup"
"Ew no"
"I'm literally the guy in the pic, or am I?"
I get it
*VSause music plays*
Bilo kuda, balkan svuda
Nice one
You see, pictures are just a...
Vsauce’s girlfriend: We're breaking up.
Vsauce: *Or are we?*
Lmfao
I bet he always got an A on his essays
On essays you need to stay with the topic, he strays away from the topic
@Kyrlics or does he?
@@technoultimategaming2999 when you think about it, what is considered straying away from a topic?
@@Extreme11
And what even is.... A topic?
@@Necrodzentelmenel1 *Vsauce music plays*
I've been "friendzoned" plenty of times and it honestly hurt and made me become more cynical and distant. It was only until I didn't accept the friend zone for what it is generally accepted as. Look, respect the man or woman's decision to not be interested in you and if your friendship is solid enough than you can remain friends. If not then your friendship was probably not as strong in the first place. So he/she wanting to be your friend is not putting you in the friend zone, it's simply them wanting to be your friend. I believe our society has devalued friendship and has made it nearly impossible for a girl and guy to be friends if they are both single. It's quite sad
That was pretty wise. Thanks.
Being friends with someone you are attracted to can hurt more in the long run
Dude women can't be friends tru friends. Women can be friends as long as everything is fine in your life, but once you are in trouble they will vanish as fast as money. Being friends with women is always about some sort of shallow relationship. Women and men can never be true friends, as buddies -yeah, as companions-maybe, but as friends as guy can be - no. True friends always with you whenever you are in trouble, true friends understand you in deeper level, women just can't understand guys deeply, it is just impossible for them.
Why do you think nerds, introverts, and all other guys who by logic need friends, support the most never gets one and always considered to be "creeps", while dudes who by logic don't have problems with having friends and so don't feel need in them always have a ton of them? The answer is nobody f....king needs anyone's problem, and so there is no real friendship.
I can prove my words by real examples. Why people after getting married become so mad and angry about their marriage? Why a lot of parents have issues with their kids? The answer is closer people get together more they know about each other , more they start to hate each other. Real friendship is tested by tough reality if it passes this test it can be considered as real friendship. But the truth is in reality all those "friendships" can be crushed as situatiton gets serious. Same thing here, woman are "friends" with men as long as he doesn't need any help in life, as long as he is self-sufficient, but rather has something to share, something to provide, then yeah he will be considered normal, but once he is trouble once he needs some tolerance, he instantly turns into "creep". Yep that how it works. Same thing here, women objectively have nothing useful to provide besides sex, if we look objectively, but men on the other hand have way more services to provide, like fixing computer, fixing electro devices, providing protection, and so on, and if men is self sufficient and doesn't need any help from women, he is fine with his current life status, ofc he will be friend to woman, cuz everything is fair, cuz both woman and man in such relationships are self sufficient and they can ask each other for help. Shortly, always friendship between man and woman is always based on generousity and self sufficiency of a man.
Bro thats just cap, i aint got nothin else to say to your delusional ass.
There's a girl that I know whom I've friendzoned. She gives off very noticeable hints, and I know she likes me, I just don't have the same feelings for her.
Guys, if you want to know how to tell if a girl likes you, here's a list of seven things to look out for.
1: Do you catch her looking at you a lot? If you do, there's a good chance she may like you. A more confident girl will most likely keep eye contact with you after you've noticed her, and smile. A shy girl will normally dart her eyes down and away from you. Within a few seconds, she'll usually look at you again. Keep eye contact with her, and smile. Her heart rate will increase, and so will her breathing. Don't stare too much though, she might get creeped out!
2: When you start a conversation with her, does she immediately smile? A feeling of attraction will usually cause the girl to smile. Don't worry if the smile is short lasting. The girl could just be shy, but it's difficult to hide a strong emotion.
3: Does she "accidently" bump into you a lot, or does she purposely poke you? This is usually a strong sign of attraction. It's a girl's way of feeling you up, her way of seeing how toned you are, or her way of trying to get your attention. Shy girls are less likely to do this! If you think a shy girl might like you, but she doesn't do those things, break the touch barrier yourself! When trying to get her attention, instead of just calling her name, tap her on the shoulder and keep your hand there for a single second. This will get her to slowly become more comfortable with the touching, and eventually she might start touching you back. Don't go overboard though, because you might scare her off!
4: Does she ask for small favors from you, like asking you to carry something or open something she could have easily opened herself? This is her way of gauging how nice you are. She may not even directly ask you for something. If she complains that it's cold, and you have a hoodie, let her wear it, even if it means you'll be cold too! This is her way of getting a feeling of being close with you, and a way of her getting to smell you. I know, it may seem weird that she's trying to indirectly smell you, but your natural body odor is usually attractive to girls that like you. You will usually like how the girl smells, if you have the same feelings for her. Just make sure you shower every day and use deodorant. Cologne is not needed. This way you won't stink, but your natural body odor isn't overpowered by the cologne. If you're around other guys when she says this, don't be too quick to jump to a conclusion. She may like one of the other guys, and will feel disappointed that you offered before he could.
5: Look into her eyes. No literally, look into her eyes. When you're conversing with her, if she likes you, her pupils will dilate. This is completely uncontrollable, and she won't even know that it's happening. Confident or shy, the girls eyes will always dilate. Just don't stare into her eyes though, as she might become uncomfortable. Just take quick glances and try to notice if her eyes are dilating. Same goes for guys too. Your eyes will dilate around a girl you like. People usually don't know about this very subtle reaction, so don't worry about your eyes dilating around him/her.
6: Does she laugh at your jokes, even if they aren't very funny? This is a good sign she likes you. It's completely subconscious, so she won't even realize she's doing that. Test it. Say some jokes around her, and if she's the only one to laugh, or even chuckle, she definitely likes you. Don't go overboard on the jokes though. You don't want to end up looking like a comedy dork!
7: Pay attention to how she positions her body when she's around you! If you're with a group of friends, take quick glances at her feet. Her feet will almost always be pointed in your direction. This is a completely subconscious act. She won't know that she's doing it. Also pay attention to how she positions her body when talking with her. If she likes you, she will subconsciously point her body towards you. Of course don't immediately assume she likes you, because it could just be in that moment. She will almost always point her body towards you. If you're sitting near her, she will lean in towards you. This is also subconscious, and is her way of getting close to you.
There you have it! Keep an eye out for all of those things, and you should be able to tell that she likes you! **Cliché mode activate!** Just be yourself around her. She likes you for the person you normally are. Don't start purposely trying to impress her!
+Unsolved Paradox Haha, great post :P
However, you say some things are subconsious, but what if the girls knows that they are normally so and may fake one of them, perhaps to see the response?
Jorn Bom Hm, the things I listed are very unknown signs. If she does know about the signs and just tries to gauge your reactions, then she's a jerk. If she suddenly starts showing you these signs, be cautious. Always look for the dilating eyes though! It's something she can't control, no matter how hard she tries. If she doesn't have any feelings of attraction towards you her eyes _won't_ dilate, even if she knows about that tell-tale sign.
But the dillation is purely biological right. So you think attraction is purely biological? I do fully understand and agree with your statements however.
Jorn Bom Well, it is biological. Our brains evolved to be able to experience that emotion. We're not the only animal that has evolved to feel that emotion. If love were a cultural thing, it surely wouldn't exist in some cultures.
I was more aiming towards the point where the only thing lacking in your list is the dilation. For whatever reason could be hormonal or that there is no direct physical competence and yet there is something gping on, in your opinion is this possible or not? I am curious about the cultural aspect you mention.
being recommended this video on valentines is incredible. thanks youtube
Me: Okay how do I stop getting rejected.
Vsauce: Mammals...
*_BUFFALO REPRODUCTION_*
y was this so funny to me XD
Ya gotta participate in the Scarcity Principle
Me going to buy all the rats at the pet shop
Ben Franklin was never friendzoned. You cant be friendzoned by prostitutes. Franklin was a genius
But what if you don't have the money?
***** Step 1: Get money.
I should be a self-help guru... ( •_• ) ( •_ •) ⌐□-□ (⌐□_□)
avedic Step 4: profit????????ßß?????????!!!1
You can be friendzoned by one. One of my friends used one proustite all the time and he fell in love with her. They talked all the time, had sex (of course) and went to parties together. One day my friend asked to date her, she said she "only like you as a friend.".
He was friendzoned by a prostitute.
Daniel Allen But at least it was cool to fuck her. He would've probably been better off with saying something like, hey, we're friends, and we hang out all the time... how about we just fuck, and keep hanging out.
at this point he'd learn whether she was A. full of shit and creating a friend illusion because he was a significant customer, B. He was really bad at sex, and she literally gained nothing out of it. C. She really liked the ideas of keeping her options open and remaining uncommitted to anybody, knowing that she probably has a lower life expectancy and a higher risk of STD's and she may actually think she's a piece of shit subconsciously. or D. she's either crazy, or an idiot who belieevs everything she's been told, and therefore doesn't have a very good grasp of what the real world is.
PS. all are possible outcomes in variable proportions. The human mind is amazingly complicated and specializes in 2 things: ignoring shit it doesn't need to think about, and staying comfortable enough to function well enough to survive day-to-day
Vsauce : talking about friends
Me : zones out
Vsauce : CYBERBALKANIZATION
The thing is
Is zoned in at the moment where he said cyberbalkanization me too lol
But why Balkan lol, that got me
SAMEEEE
Naming something the friendzone is so sad because it diminishes the value of friendship. Platonic love is still very valuable and fulfilling. Plus, you can’t date everyone.
If you start viewing all of your relationships as “what value can I add to their life, and what value can they add to mine?” Instead of, “why don’t they like me?” Then you start seeing life more as passive positive experiences less that the labels matter.
What can you do to make your situation better? And, part of that is understanding your boundaries. People can’t be available 24/7 and you can’t be either, etc. it’s much better to have a friend or partner who is honest with things like that, too. A true loving relationship is balanced between what each person can contribute.
i don't think the problem is being "friend zoned" the one time lol, it comes from the consistent act of it, not to mention holding the bonds one already has with their friends.
You went so deep on this even though there was no reason to. Seems like you just wanted to write an essay. I already have friends. I want a girl to be even greater than a friend,someone i can confide in,talk about everything to,be one with. And if they then make me just a friend,its coz they are doing it as a last resort. Its an insult basically
@@niranjanrajesh1058 you confide and trust friends, though.
@@niranjanrajesh1058 so they either go out with you or they are being rude? wtf haha
@@niranjanrajesh1058 So if a girl is dating you, they're presence means nothing?
He said gay as soon as I took a bite of my banana lmao
eating banana is gay tho
Do people really thing eating bananas is gay??😂😂
I'm not liking cuz it has 69 likes
YOU'RE GAY
Assuming Gender😂😂😂😂😂
I swear the unavailable thing is so true. I was friends with this girl around grade 7, she was always kinda overly friendly, and it seemed like she had feelings for me, but I wasn't really into her, even though she was attractive. We were always seatmates on the bus, despite me wanting to sit with other people because I found her annoying at times. I wasn't really all that nice to her because I didn't appreciate her attention and took it for granted. Then one week she went off to a camp for a while, and something came over me. I really missed her, and I'll admit, I felt like I loved her, despite not having seen her in a few weeks and having felt none of that the last time I saw her.
When she returned, I was happy to see her and tried to hang out with her as much, but she was more distant. She'd just had a wild time at camp meeting boys (one of which she was openly obsessing over), and was less friendly towards me suddenly. This sudden disinterest in me just heightened my feelings for her, and the more I tried to talk to her, the more distant she got. She got other friends over the summer, and when we hit high school, I rarely spoke to her, which of course drove me completely bonkers. I was super in love. I carried on like this for a while, but after 3 or so years of obsessing, I decided just to forget it, but man, it really goes to show what a difference being distant can make.
In retrospect that must have sucked big time.
I’m like the girl here....
so I talked to one girl, I’m giving too much attention to her, I’m probably annoying, but she likes me, although she doesn’t respond often, she says she loves me etc. But I feel like she’s becoming more and more distant.. Should I stop chatting with her for a while? If she really likes me she will text me, right?
if she appeared attractive to you, you are into her
Zany Guy fall back and keep yourself busy by locking into whatever you need to do, if your locked in you do not come off as needy and that helps build attraction.
Live your life.
Gamal Sankara thanks for the advice! But I’m already in to a relationship with her 😁
Girl: I like you but as a friend.
Me: (supper excited) Okay, thank you!
Other people: Why are you so happy?
Me: I finally have a friend!
Aussi
Auch
Au
supper
supper
so crazy that it doesnt feel like this video is over 10 years old
True
Me: "would you like to be my friend"
Girl: "sorry I only see you as a boyfriend.... wait"
Me: Task failed, successfully
You: *No tagbacks*
I'm sorry, but this does NOT happen.
@@simsonchin wow who would've guessed.
@@simsonchin you're like that one nerdy kid that tells other kids that the "no yes no yes no yes yes no" doesn't happen
@@TactfulWaggle wdym?
Is it my imagination or did he actually stay on topic this time.
lol
Well he kind of did when we went on to discuss the social statistics of how much time people spend with friends. The topic I would've thought was attraction (or lack thereof)
I'm surprised he didn't start talking out outer space in the middle.
I like how he goes and talk about other stuff.
But yeah he did actually not stay on topic there
Can't be friend zoned if you don't have friends 😏👈🏽
jack ryan uhhhhh yeah you can
jack ryan 😂😂 lol
Exactly. Better to just be a shipping fangirl. lol
Roll safe
Ha! True. :)
i never got why being in the friendzone was made out to be worse than never seeing the other person again.
every romantic relationship ends in either breaking up or dying, and if in your culture you tend to have only 1 romantic partner at a time, then every single one of your relationships apart from one (if you are the first to die in a couple, or they die and you don't date again) ends in breaking up. Can't say that about friendship!
Yes, but the friendzone is worse because you suffer throughout that friendship, for the reason that you can't have what you love, or worse - you see that person loving someone else.
She: i like you......... But as a friend
Vsauce:BUT WHAT IS LIKE?
baby you heart me... you heart me...
Mr.TrollgamesXD or did he? (Vsauce music intensifies)
i you......... But as a friend
oR dO yOU?
FACT
Don't you ever stop half way through a video and wonder, "what's this video about again?"
+ignalb Shoot. I just did.
+ignalb haha this goes off tangents all the time
Hey Vsauce, Michael here. Don't you ever stop half way through a video and wonder, "what's this video about again?" This is called the Stevens effect. It originated in the early 21st century when Michael Stevens, or Vsauce, etc etc.
I can't see him in the same way after seeing him on a filthy Frank episode
yeess haha
Same here! That's the last place I expected to see him :D
and at vidcon in maxmofoe vlog
Don't forget getting McNuggets with iDubbz
That's actually how I discovered Vsauce
Friend zone is pretty easy to understand. The person likes to be around you but for some reason isn't attracted to you. That could be physically, lifestyle, some other fundamental incompatibility. So it's not something you are put into. That person offers you friendship and it's your decision to take it or leave it. The only person who puts you in the friend zone is you.
Bingo, if you don’t like it don’t stick around 👍
Yeah but its more insulting to a guy who has genuine feelings for a girl because whenever she eventually finds a bf he's just gonna have to sit and watch them make love from the side lines, knowing she's getting her back blown out. It's like a form of cuckoldry, it's better for his own mental state to let him go and not put him through that if she really cares about him.
And the guy she chooses alot of the times treats her badly so eventually she's gets her heat broken and comes running back to mr friendzone guy but will never give him a chance.
Thats like if a girl really likes a guy and they have so much fun togther and she really enjoys his company, he gives her butterflies in her stomach and she really loves him and she cooks and cleans for him, yet he ignores all that and goes to be with some trashy bimbo slut who treats him like crap, then complains about it all the time but then tells this female friend, she's so special any man would be lucky to have her yet, he would never do it and they can only be friends while he only goes after trashy women then keeps complaining about.
Sounds kinda stupid doesn't it?
@panthornberry do you even know what you're talking about? No one said they shouldnt have the ability to say no 🤡
The op was insinuating that it is some how a good thing to be friends with a guy thats romantically interested in her
@panthornberry bruh🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️ (reading comprehsion is needed)
Thats not what it's talking about... or atleast that not what _I'm_ talking about here
@panthornberry i didnt delete anything lmao
You know, I'm something of a scientist myself.
😂😂got that reference,
Crispy_Pizzarolls Spider-Man reference, I dig it.
How to avoid being friendzoned?
Her: can we just be friends?
Him: I have enough friends.
"Can I call you in the middle of the night to come pick me up from a party that went south and I'm super drunk?"
Her: Uhh... no?
"Well there's your answer."
her: ok, it was just courtesy...
same could be represented as the pizza box in the simpsons "ok there was no friendship anyway"
Just avoid talking to women if you can only view them as potential mates and not interesting human beings.
@@0.-.0
What you don't understand is that it's both.
i thought when he first mentioned the “ben franklin effect” he was going to say something like “you need a lot of $100 bills” 🤣
Me: Michael what is the Meaning of life??
Michael: Why are we still here?? Just to suffer
@@roshan6999 but first let's clear out what is *suffering* first?
lol
Underrated comment lol
Glad that wasn't just me
I am back, I watched this 6 years ago. I fell in love, we dated twice just last year but ultimately it's the friendzone for me, time to rewatch.
In polish language we have many ways you can describe your relation to others:
"znajomy" - somebody you know, but don't hangout with often
"kolega" - it's basically person, with which you meet up, talk to, something more then "znajomy"
"przyjaciel" - you confess to that person, spend most of your time with him, never say a bad word about em,
"Najlepszy przyjaciel" - where "najlepszy" means "Best", best one of your "Przyjaciel", somebody that knows almost everything about you, same you know everything about em, somebody who will never leave you in trouble
Glad I live in that country, so you can describe perfectly what do you mean
my gf is Polish :) czesc!
Stranger, aquaintence, friend, best friend/bosom buddy...these are the words people used in the past, plus words like classmate, colleague, etc. A friend was someone you were already quite loyal to and vice verse.
All these words exist in Russian and English, for that matter. Like and love are different words and are used pretty much exactly like in English when you might say you love a type of food or an activity, a relative or a close friend, but not a complete stranger.
how do you pronounce those
Yeah I always have a njslcirpwbdjrpw by my side
I just got suggested "the science of awkwardness", "the science of the friend zone", and "mistakes" in the same half hour
I felt that
Same here
So Harvard university recently published a new way to get out of the friendzone
Step 1: Be attractive
What the journal dumbass?
Is this what you tell yourself to justify your lack of girlfriends?
shallow, you get fans not friends this way
Explains it to a certain extend, since attractive people will get chosen instead of brushed aside, no matter how incompatible they might be. The relationship won't last, but attractive people are much less likely to be friendzoned I'd imagine
Shit... Already failed
i think there are 2 ways you can end up in the friendzone.
one is not stating your intentions in the early stages of getting to know someone meaning they never got a chance to reject you to begin with while you are still just acting just really friendly that's all you really did so they never got to see you as anything else for anything else.
the other is falling in love with an already established friend who most likely doesn't feel the same because they never developed feelings for you because it's quite rare to develop feelings between already established friends.
so the friendzone is in one case inevitable, the other is simply just being afraid of rejections or just lacking knowledge into how to actually approach someone with a romantic interest in mind thinking it's the same thing as making friends when it really isn't.
Top 3 most populated places in the world :
1. Friend zone
2. China
3. India
4. I said top 3
What do you mean by _i said top 3?_
AbstracTAssassin 30 he’s joking it says number 4, because people expect the lost to be longer
I have no luck with women they put me into friendzone and then ignore me in society
excuse me I have never been friendzoned
4. My mind bevore sleep
A hot woman once put me in the friend zone, but whenever we went out she expected me to pay for everything. She started calling me asking for all sorts of favors. I soon realized she was no friend of mine.
I learned overtime that when single, I should only treat women as associates and not friends. and if I like them and they don't like me back, I treat them as a non priority.
@@vice2versa "a woman friend in need can be a pest indeed" never pick up the check. Go Dutch or just have her pay for it...
You said it like she put me in the fridge. 😅
dont do good dont get bad in return
r/niceguys
How to escape the friendzone
Gym.
Go to the gym.
"But, women appreciate a sense of humour and.."
Gym
"But, its too superficial, we are humans not obj..."
Gym
"But, .."
NO! Gym!
"Character and social interactions in multiple levels, gender stereotypes, societal pressure..."
Bro, do you even want to get laid?
+Fevos Man Yeah. Jim is a great guy.
+DrunkenRampage Thanks dad
***** It is quite safe to assume that if friendzone meant sex, men wouldnt mind it.
Incoming white knights
I want to like this so bad but it won't let me on my phone
tbf, i think if ur in the friendzone u should probably just move on from having a crush and be good friends. Friends are awesome
As a girl I'm tired of being made to feel guilty for 'friendzoning' anyone. The whole concept is weird and unfair. If somebody tells you they want to be your friend do you honestly think it never crossed their mind to look at you in a sexual way and decide whether they feel attracted to you or not? Of course it did and you can't seriously get angry at someone just because they are not attracted to you.
I used to have no self-esteem when I was a teenager and was lonely and depressed didn't even look so good and so the possibility of being liked by a guy was probably 0,001%. So don't think that guys are the only ones with this kind of issues. But I wanted to change and so I worked really hard on myself. Not just on my looks, I worked the hardest on my self-confidence and I'm proud with all the effort I put. Today I have more success with guys than I would have ever dreamed of when I was a teenager and I know I would have never gotten here if I never put an effort to better myself. Therefore I am not ashamed to have higher standards and to pick guys who are good-looking and have also got self-esteem. I believe I deserve it and I am not obliged to go out with someone just because I feel sorry for them. If you want to be liked by others, don't just sit around complaining and hating on anyone who isn't attracted to you - actually do something about yourself. Make yourself attractive. And remember: self-confidence is one of the most attractive traits. (just don't go too far and become arrogant, find the perfect balance!)
When I was 17, I realised I had friend zoned someone else, and felt really bad about it!
I realized that when I was 25...
WanderingRandomer FRIENDZONEEEED
? what's the other option here, date someone you don't want to?
some say it is better to be with someone who loves you than to be with someone you love
Satan Stan those some are really dumb then
I'd never put vsauce in the friend zone tbh
Micheal on his marrige-
The priest: Do you agree with this marriage
Micheal: I do......or do I?
That feel when she friendzones you because she doesnt see you as a potential mate nor a sexual entity.
That feel when I know I've never friend-zoned anyone cause all my friends are dating each other and I'm all alone
lol when not even the wingman hits on you.
Well you are not that all alone, go out and explore the world.
Yo, I hold all these feels (for one girl) but I still pulled myself out to get 2 cute chicks numbers, if I am lucky I'll have lunch with em.
CagonDeMierda1548 Thanks for the advice c: hope the lunch goes well xxx
you are welcome mate, and thanks.
CagonDeMierda1548 :)
Hot take: Many relationships start with a genuine friendship.
Exactly. All of my gfs were my friends first, although I've liked other girls that didn't like me back but were good friends of mine. I guess I just rather a relationship with someone based on already built trust and affection, than mere lust.
So I'm in that tiny majority people where that doesn't happen huh
Oh shit dude you were right I take back what I said
@B Sandstorm yep me too
@@effiemars_ same here , though haven't had a gf yet, but would like to start one like that. So far my Best friend just said she doesn't see me that way so yeah
In soviet russia, girl doesn't put you in friendzone. Friendzone puts you in girl.
ziyad ibrahim
Well that just turned dark
ziyad ibrahim
woah woah woah what? I was thinking friendzone put you "in" girl I was not hearing anything about rape I WITHDRAW MY OFFER *runs*
Lol dude i was just kidding xD
but did you know, that in RUSSIA, ciggarate smokes YOU!
ziyad ibrahim
much nicer then rape ^^ X'D lmao
You are loved and cherished. You have nothing to fear. There is nothing you can do wrong. If I had to boil this entire message down to one sentence, it would run this way: You are loved. And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of course) be, simply: Love.
"Is she into you? Again, you can't tell."
- Or can you?
*VSauce music starts playing*
My first thought - CasuallyExplained
yup! I was watching Casually Explained and then YT algorythym recomended this hahahahaha!
C
@@gaozhan8043 can't tell
* teleports behind you *
Salut, Vsauce aici. Fmml XD
my friend: i got my girl friend from tinderr
me: i got mine from vsauce
Can we talk about that this video is from 7 years ago and the quality is 1080p?
Pewdiepie was recording at -34p in that time
There are plenty of videos 7-8 years ago with that high of a quality. I’m saying this as a person who was stuck watching tons of TH-cam like 10 years ago.
1080p back then was like how 4k is now, so ofc high quality channels had 1080p
1080p existed for decades
2014, what the hell of course it's 1080p
Pretty much all his old videos are actually 720p
I got friend zoned by the girl I'm currently with almost a decade ago, and was told stuff like what's in this video by people not familiar with our relationship and thought I was legitimately crazy because I couldn't get over her for a decade. If you're still obsessing over someone who friend zoned you years after the fact, then much of what is said in this video won't apply to you. Things like a neutral observer thinking you're not as compatible as you think didn't apply to my situation (from anyone actually familiar with our friendship) and probably doesn't to yours.
How it happend that you are together now? Did you confessed your feelings to her or isolated from her and then she confessed or just it developed naturally from both of you?
How did you get with her again?
Wait long enough for her circumstances to match your looks
Jk. That was from Luis C.K. But really female attractiveness peaks at 20 and male attractiveness peaks at 35 so you can meet each other somewhere along the way.
sent this to my friend from alabama after finding out that he just got friend zoned by his sister
SWEET HOME ALABAMA
I was about to like, but it has 69 likes
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It's still ok if she said you're like a brother to me. He still has some chance.
Hey Vsauce
Friendzone here
That catched me lmao
Stupid comment
Bleak n Sub
Stupid Reply
where are your fingers
@So guys we did it cancer ded tf2
use the ben Franklin effect:
money?
A hundred bucks exactly :)
yes plz :))
I’ve been friends with someone I’ve had feelings for ever since we were children. It’s been over a decade and I’m still good friends with them, but I don’t think they feel the same way about me. And that’s honestly ok, because no matter what I want them to be happy even if it’s not with me because she’s one of my best friends. She’s been going through hard times recently and I’ve always been someone she can talk to about it and she seems to be appreciative of that. I’m pretty introverted and don’t know too many people so I suppose when I think of someone I’d be in a relationship with it’s always been her. But the reality is that it very well may never happen. And people must learn to accept this, it’s alright to still be “just friends” with someone and respect their preference. Although it hasn’t happened to me yet I know there are plenty of people out there who I might have a future with, and even if I want to be more than friends which may never happen, I’ll still always be her friend and wish the best for her because that’s what relationships are all about whether it be romantic or just someone you care for.