I love it when you say "the trans experience" bc it feels like im part of an exclusive club or something and im getting the the *full trans experience*
I definitely lean towards being T4T. I share more experiences and interests with other trans people, but I'm honestly just attracted to androgyny. Anyone who plays around with gender is hot
Honestly, I'm not just looking for trans people. I'm looking for a good person. As the guy in the video said. If the person is trans then that's fine. I honestly don't care, as long as they're a good person
@@Oliver-ef7lc i was thinking about that the other day and I understood something about me, maybe its the same for some other ppl: I'm attracted (mentally and physically) by what I want for myself, like an inspiration, by something that I have within me but im afraid to let it out; or by something feel is "missing" to me
Same! I wouldn't say that is impossible for me to date cis people again, but T4T is sooo good. I can sure affirm that I'd never date a cishet person, that's never happening. I define my attraction as "anyone who looks gay is hot"
ik this comment is 3weeks old, but i think a big part of that for us is having a partner who can understand better what goes through our heads. cis people will never fully understand what it’s like. so it’s nice to have an SO that does
Woaw, not gonna lie, it is so comforting to see that all these people are going through the same struggles as I do Love that, makes me feel less miserable, actuallly, happy
studio.th-cam.com/channels/2ngIq9YI0c31pJ1YWLh69Q.htmlplaylists it kinda dose matter, the starting points of stuff- cause then we have made a way to avoid next/younger generation(s) to go through the same. It is and always has been, the mindset of us, the older generation(s) - We all sadly are put through 12 years of brainwashing system and sadly many even more years. That`s why homeschooling children by their own parents - becomes logic and a must. If we, as a mankind, want a real life change, then new generations must be raised up healthy and in one piece - that means = souls no longer mentally broken. th-cam.com/video/lfLu1HTnKpo/w-d-xo.html We must wake up from the 2 biggest illusions: - Buddishm and athesim - believing that we come again and again to live that same shit life _ glad to say , we don´t, - believing that nothing matters at all, and that wicked is good, because like i said before, nothing matters, no good no bad. - L _ B_G_D_Q_+ - believing, we can change our gender and still be in gender life - as we realize our correct gender didn`t change. Once reproductive tools are let to be cut off, the gender life is also over. Should i continue or was my points clear? The start of what? - the start of destroying our own health: - through smoking, - through drinking, - through willingly and through being deceived - going and cutting off body parts... - through sleeping around. Aren`t we all doing so, because we all hurting? About the confession from mr. Buzz - “the moon visit-er” Not all can carrie secrets to their grave. Some do confess before their time of death. May GOD have mercy to their souls, about that they even dared to deceive and lie to mankind in the 1st place. Truly, may GOD have mercy to their souls. there`s no such things as "gay and trans rights " - there`s only human rights. If you are anything else then a human being, you then have no rights at all. It is the harsh reality of life. th-cam.com/video/icSoMwSbFOI/w-d-xo.html They are humans, just like we are, and they are suffering both because of their health and the evil governments they live under. A human right is also to get back health: - through needful operations, like the young boy got (yes he lost his leg, but get his life) and as bible does say; it I better to lose a member of our bodies, then to end up losing our life. So, about what so called “trans and gays” suffer from? - what rights have they then lost, for they have choose to be “trans and gays”, not humans. - now let me repeat myself again: if we choose to be anything else then a HUMAN BEING (FEMALE OR MALE), we have then truly lost all human rights, because we shall no longer be humans, for we shall be then “trans and gays”. It is good news, that the young boy no longer suffers, but truly got the needful operation. But yea, a lot of them there suffer with different health problems. Sadly no matter the side of this world, we all live under the same evil governments (biblically; the evil spirits in high places). And the greediness' of us, the humans. And sadly, what they there suffer from now, soon we here, go through also: - different cancers from different poisons, - hunger and freezing, - homelessness, - slavery. Only one that truly can help and heal is GOD Himself. Therefore all of us, those who can help with money also and those who can´t (like me), lets pray, let`s send prayers to GOD through His only begotten son`s name, that all those without a health, shall have it again, those without home, shall have a home, those who hunger, shall have full stomachs, those who are cold, shall be warmed up. In JESUS name, let`s pray. There is no real reason to block our own oxygen. WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS, created BY GOD, TO BREATH AIR/oxygen, through our mouths and noses. WE ARE NOT "USELESS EATERS" AND " JUST A BAKTER, THAT CAME TO BE". WE ARE HUMANS, THE CREATION BY GOD, AND HE MADE US ALL WONDERFULLY AND PERFECTLY. it is the old prideful angel, named lucifer, who comes and share lies. BELIEVE HIM NOT!. Have courage, dear soul, have courage to say to lucifer, GET BEHIND ME satan AND NEVER DARE TO TEMPT ME AGAIN. We all catch the flu EVERY YEAR, it is a normal thing, our GOD given immune system MUST BE WORKING 24/7 365. Even though i noticed back 2010 that being sick is cool and okay and being healthy is something to feel shame for, there is still not a single excuse to stop breathing air. WE CAN´T KEEP BEING ALIVE WITHOUT HEALTH. And do say that "OH, WE ARE SCEARD OF DYING" - dear souls, WE ALL SURLY DIE. Romans 6:23 - For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. Romans 3:23 - For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; Ecclesiastes 12:7 - Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was: and the spirit shall return unto God who gave it. 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 - But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. (Read More...) John 3:16 - For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 10:10 - The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. And, such a deadly virus, the whole human body must be covered up, not just nose and mouth, our skin breaths too. All of our faith is being tested, sadly many did fail and many will fail.
@@colineadesyeux I just finished the video and I feel the same, it feels so comforting to know that I’m not alone with all my struggles and just that it’s not just me that wakes up every day and feels dysphoric (even tho I wish no one would go through that), it’s just a comfort to know that I have people that are like me and feel some of the things I feel
@@the_alien_1239 I know right ! One of the worst part of all of this is being alone and feeling abandoned, and that's what anti trans people want us to think, but once you look around, there's actually plenty of people right there that went through the same doubts, struggles and difficulties. Once you are aware of it, it becomes easier, and I'm so glad we're able to realise it like this !
As a cis woman, I would like to say something about the gender euphoria thing. There are instances where I've experienced "gender euphoria", but I wouldn't say it's a common thing, those are basically rare occasions when I'm dressing up for like a party, a concert or other special occasion. And it's basically like being proud of how well you've put that all together (outfit, hair, makeup, accesories...) to fit your body and personality. There are also instances where I've felt "gender dysphoria". I suffer from hyperthyroidism and one of the things it causes is the excess growth of body hair. And having really dark hair and pale skin on top of that, it is extremely well visible in my case and it also grows faster than what would the norm for a healthy person be and grows on places where women's bodies typically don't grow hair (not talking about peach fuzz). Having to shave every day (not an exageration btw) if you're a woman can really lower your self esteem and make you feel really sh*tty about your body. Now, I put both gender euphoria and gender dysphoria in quotes, because what I'm experiencing is not the real gender dysphoria/euphoria. Tho the dysphoria in my case is linked to my gender, if I wasn't a woman, I wouldn't get the short stick from having more than normal body hair and certainly wouldn't even care. I can relate to some of trans people experience (it goes much deeper than just a body hair, I don't have time to write it all and I'm sure no one has the time to read a whole-ass novel of a comment either), but I will never relate 100% as I can never get the full trans experience and I know that. That's also one of the reasons why I'm here, so I can learn something about the trans experience. I also have to say, that this is just me and I don't think a majority of cis people will be the same, mainly because I'm also neurodivergent and don't really have any significant relationship with my gender, all feelings about my gender are related to the things I've described prior in this comment.
The way you describe this to me at least does sound like real instances of gender euphoria/dysphoria. In the end, they are how we feel about our bodies or how we (think we are) seen by others, just specifically geared towards gendered stuff (and not just weight, hair colour, a "silly" voice, things anyone may be self-conscious about).
I'm non-binary and yeah, it's really hard to get people to see me as non-binary. For those in the know about identities and labels, I'm demigirl. For those not, I'm "mostly don't care but definitely not a guy." People see my with my big chest, my daughter who looks just like me, and my bearded husband and just default to she/her and forget I'm not cis-het.
I can totally relate. Except I don’t have a kid yet, but yeah I think people see my manly husband and assume I’m cishet. For a time though, I had short hair and was dressing more masc and I think people thought I was either a twinky guy or maybe a trans woman b/c I would get weird looks. You just can’t win.
it's hard because when you're a female or male presenting non-binary person, on one hand you really can't blame people for assuming, but on the other hand it's really hurtful and alienating
Oh man I'm also a parent and an afab enby. People absolutely take my gender less seriously because I'm a "mom". I feel your struggle. Hope you are well!
I came out to my parents today, and it went okay, but a video about trans teens, is gonna make my trans-teen-self very happy i guess, thank you, from the botton of my heart!!!!
I know it's a completely different thing to gender dysphoria, but with the person who said "cis people look in the mirror and dont feel distress", I feel like thats not completely true. I'm a cis woman but I've dealt with self hatred due to my weight for years (getting better recently but in my teens I went though a long phase where I had to cover all mirrors) and hormone imbalances (that aren't being treated properly) have caused lots of excess facial hair and hair loss on my head, so I can't think of a time when I've looked in the mirror and not felt distress. Like I said, I know that's a completely different thing to gender dysphoria, and would never ever try to say that they're the same or that I know how trans people feel or that I have it worse because I 100% do not. But I liked what the next person said about it being more nuanced. Obviously cis people don't experience gender dysphoria, but it doesn't mean that we don't experience dysphoria in general/related to other things. Really enjoyed this video, I really like it when you do reactions and point out more complexities and nuances :)
No but what you are describing is literally gender dysphoria. Looking in the mirror and and feeling any level of distress because of a mismatch with the gendered traits you're seeing, is gender dysphoria. Cis women with small hips or boobs, or cis men with soft jaws or extra breast tissue can all feel gender dysphoria because their traits and gender identity are mismatched. The only thing is that most trans people experience this, while most cis people don't. Edit: forgot op is also talking about weight, which usually isn't tied to gender/gender dysphoria.
@@idasvenning3892 That is body dysmorphia. And one of the many reasons it’s hard for some trans individuals to be diagnosed with gender dysphoria. Some therapist think maybe the stereotypical bodies are making us have body dysmorphia and don’t believe that we have gender dysphoria and want to actually be a different gender.
@@nexxius4823 this is a very interesting topic. gender dysphoria is seen as this thing that trans people have that makes them different from cis people. but what is the difference between a cis woman being upset over having body hair, and a trans woman being upset about having body hair, other that the severity of the distress? if a cis woman goes on hormones after menopause because she feels too manly, what is the difference between her and a trans girl going on hormones to feel more feminine? ofc cis people will never understand the trans experience. but why do we only associate hating your body for not being fem/masc enough with trans people, when plenty of cis people feel this way? trans people shouldn’t have to be diagnosed with dysphoria to be valid or to have gender affirming surgeries. because cis people don’t have to be in order to get hormones, or have feminizing/masculinizing surgeries. cis men wouldn’t want a vagina and would dislike their body because of it. so how is that any different from a trans man not wanting a vagina? or a trans man not wanting breasts? idk. i think it’s a nuanced and interesting discussion. i don’t think it’s all black and white
I started crying when I told my bf I’m nonbinary I was absolutely terrified. The first words out of his mouth, “So what would you like me to call you?” And then came out as bisexual😭❤️
This guy has a really cool personality. Tonight is the first time I've seen him on YT, and I like how he talks about things with no real judgement, and has this zest for life. He's very refreshing,
I’m a cisgender woman and I’m perfectly comfortable with that label and she/her pronouns, however sometimes being perceived as female still makes me extremely uncomfortable in certain situations, for example when I was in college there were only 4 girls in my class and the teacher would always say “I’m sure the girls want to be a group” or something like that and it would make me extremely uncomfortable. If I do/say something and someone says “why do girls always do that” I literally FLIP at them, or the fact that every time I told someone I was in college they’d say “let me guess, hair and beauty?”. I’ve thought about they/them pronouns but I’ve realised I am a woman and I like being a woman, but these preconceived opinions and judgements everybody automatically has about women and how we should and shouldn’t be or what we should and shouldn’t want are very offensive and dehumanising in a way. So I wouldn’t say “gender euphoria” is necessarily something cis people experience
I feel you. I’m non-binary, afab, but have experienced going through most of life being perceived as a woman. But yeah, to me your story sounds like being uncomfortable with sexism and stereotyping (which, understandable and relatable). For me, being non-binary doesn’t really have much to with the way people treat me, it’s all about how I view myself when no one is around. If we lived in a magical universe where everyone was treated equally, I’d still feel the same way about myself.
that's a very real experience and absolutely correct points, but you're a bit confused about how it relates to gender identity (it doesn't). this isn't what "gender euphoria" is about at all, and cis people definitely experience gender euphoria, they just wouldn't recognize it as such
@@buchelaruzit I understand that completely, the point I was more trying to make is that cis people do question our gender identities sometimes and that it’s not just black and white either you love being your assigned gender or you hate it does that make sense? It’s in a different context of course but I thought it was worth sharing
I can totally get behind this, I'm non-binary AMAB and I never like the idea of being grouped in with "the guys" because quite a lot of cis guys can make me uncomfortable and if I get grouped in with them I just feel kinda disconnected even before I knew I was enby cause you don't want to have to fit these preconceived notions of "oh you'll do this cause you're your gender." I suppose this is somewhat on the lines of sexism for you but it still feels tied in to the idea of gender with "just cause we're the same gender means we want to or should mingle". Like no we're individuals and maybe I just like hanging out with anyone who isn't a cis guys except of course in the case of my cis guy friends, those guys are cool.
Logically, my full gender identity would be agender trans, since I feel euphoric when I think of myself as a gender neutral guy, but I don't like the idea of tying myself to either binary gender. I find some aspects of being trans as relatable, but I don't associate with the label itself. Additionally, due to my social anxiety, I have to tolerate people using my birth name, and the wrong pronouns. I just lack that ability to speak up about that sort of thing because I don't want to come off as an attention seeker :/
You can also use the umbrella term "non-binary" if you want, it applies as well. Because you have Trans and under it you have Binary and Non-Binary and under Non-Binary there is Agender and a lot of other things too 😊
hey! i know it's not that simple to change things like anxiety and my one comment probably won't convince you to do anything, but if you're in a safe situation to do so i'd say definitely try coming out to some people, it can be just a few or even one person you're close to, and ask them to use your name and pronouns!! you deserve to be called the things you are :))
When I say I’m “the best of both worlds” it’s as a joke, and it’s me I always put me down But if someone else where to do it to me I’d never talk to them again. It’s Fetishising Vs personal jokes It’s like how you can joke with your best friends in ways you can’t joke with mutuals
Dang i’m early. 13 minutes ago! Also hey noah absolutely love you man! You give me so much confidence in myself! I’m a trans guy (i’m 13 btw)! I look like a cis guy and have recently told everyone i’m trans. I would have never had this confidence without you mate!
im 12 and non binary and i keep trying to give hints to my family (i came out to one of my cousins a few days ago tho she was super supportive i love her so much) and i was afab and keep begging my parents to get me masculine and feminine clothing and a masculine hair cut (which they suprisingly said yes to the hair cut. my dad just said not too short?)
As someone who's cis this video is very interesting! I love to learn more about people's experiences and what they've gone through, it can be hard to understand sometimes but I always try my hardest.
im a very femme presenting non-binary person, i wear dresses, makeup, have longer hair, very typically ‘girly’ things. im not out to anyone but my friends cause i know my parents and family won’t understand. it’s hard to constantly be misgendered and it’s draining. i cant be myself fully cause it’s not safe for me but im thankful for the friends around me that respect my pronouns and shit. it means the world to me to have that place when i can’t get it in my own house.
On the gender euphoria and cis people thing- I’m a cis lesbian, and often joke that I’m “ancient in queer years” because I came out at 10 and am in my mid-30s now and the queer world that I grew up in was a very different space (I suppose so is the whole world, in general). But one thing I think that sometimes gets overlooked is that cis queer folks often have a different relationship with gender than cis hetero folks. And maybe this is also a bit different now both because being queer has become a lot more normalized and we now have more words for and discussions around gender identity. But certainly when I was a wee bitty lez and knew no lesbians in my personal life and there were like three semi famous lesbians in existence (Melissa Etheridge, KD Lang, Ellen 😂) I remember first feeling like I was “supposed to” look a certain way as a lesbian. I also grew up with like… a weird sort of reverse gender dysphoria. Like I knew I was a girl and I wanted to be a girl but had this secret fear I might actually be a boy? I wonder in retrospect if some of it may have been early internalized homophobia. But I remember hating wearing my hair up because I’d study my face and just be convinced I looked masculine. Or at 18 or 19 I started having serious issues with PCOS and rupturing ovarian cysts and my first one when they went to ultrasound me at the ED, I felt such a strange… dysphoria. Like I had exactly the parts I wanted to have but almost couldn’t believe it? I don’t know. I’ve heard other lesbians say they’ve experienced similar. It was also in my late teens, that despite growing up a bit of a “tomboy” and fighting with my mom who was always forcing my into dresses that I really grew to embrace my own femininity. But I also think… while I may and do pass as hetero, what being femme means to me as a queer woman is a very different and uniquely queer and frankly, powerful/empowering thing. (In some ways I can almost relate to being like the lesbian version of an androphile. A femophile? Lol. Because there is like a total delight for me in all things female, that I’m pretty sure would be totally foreign and weird and not relatable to hetero women) So for me, when I like really out intention into what I’m wearing and how I present or this time I went to a drag king show and was the youngest person in the room of a lot of very old school butch/femme paired lesbians- my gosh I’ve never felt more confidentially and fantastically and fully myself and in my own body and uniquely queer femininity. So anyway- I can’t speak for hetero cis women or even other cis queer folks. But gender euphoria is definitely something I do feel. And dysphoria in its own way is also something I’ve known. I think a lot of cis queer people feel aspects of that or that it was more common before queerness became more accepted and normalized. It’s also why I’ll never understand the “LGB without the T” types. Because the whole compulsory heterosexuality or hetero as default thing is very interconnected with rigid gender stereotypes and policing. And queer folks of all stripes tend to have a different relationship with gender than cis hetero folks, if you really get down to it.
And sorry for the whole dang novel. I just don’t hear this discussed or recognized much. And maybe I’m just a complete weirdo. Lol. I do think I may have had a very different experience if I had come of age as a queer person in todays world. I didn’t have the words for so much of what I was feeling or even fully realize that what I reckoning with and figuring out was my gender identity. Because while I’m cis, it was very much a conscious and difficult thing at times for me.
That might have been a long comment but I appreciate it! Thanks for sharing your story, I do agree and I've seen people who just use lesbian or gay as a sort of gender label as the experience they've had is so tied into their sexuality. Gender identity, expression and sexuality might be separate but they overlap a lot for different people, I think it's with a lot more study.
About the teachers respecting pronouns, I remember a school I went to for a very short period of time where there were a lot of kids who were LGBTQ+ in some way. Specifically, there was this trans guy, and all the teachers called him by his preferred name and always used he/him pronouns. It was to the point where I didn't even know he was trans until a friend of mine told me. It was kind of nice to be in a school where no one judged you for who you were. Sadly the way they taught things there didn't work very well for me and I ended up leaving, but still, it was a super nice place
About the "could cis people truly understand?" one. I think it highly depends on the cis person, because there are some cis people who have regularly experienced being misgendered or denied their gender identity and expression (whether because they're intersex, a racial minority where white ppl don't include their race in ideals of gender, or because they're considered gender non conforming in some other way), so I think there are some cis people who despite not being trans, will still be able to understand lots of trans experiences despite not being trans themselves. However, I do think *most* cis people won't understand the experience. Just not all of them.
As a very young transguy, I wish I wasn't trans, but oh well, I hope the world is better for transgender people when I am 18+, and I hope my family accepts me.
Hey Noah!!! I just wanna thank you for all you have done for me, (even if you don’t know it lmao) you helped me accept the fact I am ftm and helped me feel more comfortable with myself more and more with every video, I’m going to one of your concerts in September and I can’t wait!!!!! Thanks for helping your local trans kid ha 😁 #SPAMNOAHSMUSICCC😡
I'm a singer, and I've been putting off going on T cuz I am afraid of voice changes, but seeing you live your best life and still doing music has inspired me to take the plunge!
Being a genderqueer female and also somewhat genderfluid, I really enjoyed the experience of seeing the difference with a man who who wasn't straight, because he thought I was cute when masc, or fem, or andro, whereas being with a very straight man, I was less attractive to him when I dressed very masc with a binder and a packer, because while he still loved my personality and who I am, he is not attracted to men. Still appreciate him so much for trying to be open though. He never got insecure about his sexuality because of me, and that was refreshing. (we met when I identified with my birth gender and presented mostly as such).
That’s really interesting, thanks for sharing! I think it depends on the straight guy too. For example, my husband identifies as a straight guy and I’m non-binary. But he has never really liked it or been attracted to when I’m looking super femme with makeup and such (or really to anyone who is super femme). But when I’m looking pretty masc, he’s still attracted, moreso than when I’m wearing makeup for sure. I think even within the realm of “straight” there’s still preferences of masc or femme for sure.
Honestly, I feel like I wouldn't be the same person if I was a cisgender man. I've had so many experiences as a trans man (as well as when I lived as a woman) that shaped who I am, and I feel like without those I'd be a completely different person.
4:01 yes I completely agree! I’ve heard that in the UK you have to be 16 for hormone blockers??? In America you have to be 13 (but I’m 11 and I am on them so I got lucky) I think that maybe hormone blockers should be available for 10+ because it doesn’t harm your body (until 2+ years of being on them, my Dr said that that’s when they start worrying about bone growth) and also (ftm, or my fellow NB ppl it stops your period and you only have to get the shot every 3 months! So yay!) but that my opinion (as an 11 year old:D)
Aw man y’all are so lucky I’m 11 my parents would never let me and I feel like I hate my body so much because I look at myself and although in baggy clothes I look mostly like a boy I still see a little girl in there and even when I tell my parents like I was so happy someone said I was a boy today at school my parents are like oh no you give off girl vibes or well they just said that to be mean or something and I don’t think they get how I’m trying to come out any tips?
@@Dontclickonthischanneliquit well, it depends on your situation! If you know your parents are a ally of the LGBTQ+ community then its going to be easier (though it may take time to get used to pronouns and stuff, I know this from personal experience) but if they don’t accept LGBTQ+ or are not necessarily an ally then you might have to explain (I’ll give an example of how I told my not so accepting grandparents and you can do the same I did!), however if you are unsure if they are ally’s then ask on their opinion but try your best to not show signs of that more then you have been already! And what I did to help my grandparents understand (I took this from a TH-cam short I saw) is I said “if you, for example, if hypothetically your body was dying and your brain could survive! But it had to go into a female (or male) body.. but when you woke up you didn’t feel comfortable, like a man (or woman) still, you would try to do everything in your power to be, male (or female but I think you understand so I’ll stop saying it) again, and you would try to get hormones and surgery. To be male again. That’s what being trans is like (I think I’m gender neutral so I don’t really know) feeling like the right person in the wrong body!”
@leon No, you have to be 16 to get HRT, but you can be prescribed hormone *blockers* at a younger age to prevent expression of puberty. Blockers are one of the most valuable tools for pre-pubescent trans folk and its a crying shame the system is so slow that many trans kids start to experience the effects of an unwanted puberty long before they can get blockers to give them the breathing room to be assessed, and to assess themselves, and work out if they want an androgenic or oestrogenic puberty.
seeing all those teens that really pass at that age gives me so much hope that i'll be able to too one day (i know that passing isn't that mandatory and i'm not saying that any of those teens need to, it's just important to me so i can be more comfy:) )
the first question already had me crying, having dated as cishet man as a trans masc non binary person. Based on his behaviour and things I was told he was definitely fixated on certain parts of me, and I was so anxious about upsetting him that I put off getting on the gender waiting list because of him.
noah!! it’s so cool to see how much you’ve grown and matured™️ over the years like viewers can just tell that ur much more confident now than even a couple years ago!! you sound much more sure of yourself and like u truly don’t care about others perceptions anymore, ur just doing u and i’m here for it ❤️
As a cis girl, I think I have learned a lot about gender from trans people. I'm actually usually quite happy with how I look, and I know it isn't "gender euphoria" but I do often get really happy looking at myself in the mirror. I love feeling feminine but I also don't feel any pressure to express myself in a certain way. I realise how lucky I am to feel completely comfortable in my gender identity.
I agree that puberty blockers should be given to children- but not just trans kids. When it comes to trans kids, I agree with Noah and believe it depends entirely on the person and their history. I also believe puberty blocker should be prescribed not only to certain trans kids who fit the criteria for it but also to cisgender children who hit puberty too early. This is just my personal experience as someone who is trans (ftm) but who also went through puberty at fucking nine years old. Some children hit puberty way too early (like me) and this can cause a bunch of problems for them in the school setting (such as bullying but also not having proper changing rooms in a lot of primary/elementrary schools), with thier health (painful cramps and light headedness from bleeding for example) and with how they are feel in their own body. Edit: there was a typo in "cisgender" 🦕
I’m not a part of the lgbtq community, but I found myself watching this videos out of curiosity for your guys’ take on this whole trans gender topic. Before I had this stereotype that all trans people were so adamant and stubborn in the stupidest things that they literally forgot how to be kind. After watching some of these videos, it really opened my eyes to see that trans people are normal people just like the rest of us. And they respect some of the same things as I do. Although I disagree with some things, I still believe they should be treated as God’s children - with kindness and respect they deserve. Thanks for listening to my ted talk. (Also thank you noah for doing this!)
I am a non-binary, but i do still get the struggles of like "my chest doesn't look flat enough" even with my binder and it does really frustrate me, especially on hot days when i can't wear a baggy jumper or hoodie to hide that, and when i wear my skirt about sometimes i get misgendered because of it and it makes me physically cringe knowing how people automatically stereotype the clothing people wear without taking anything into consideration about it
The thing the first person said hit home lol... when I realized how many people are just seeing me as being a woman but with a little spice/need for attention... it upsets me a lot. Like that's not who I am, I'm a non binary human why is that so hard to grasp? People are not just what you see on the outside and assume about them (it was also spoken about in the netflix series sex education and when it came up it straight up made me cry damn)
@@mcr_ratboi and at the same time amab non binary folks are treated like they don't exist or are predatory... kinda funny how society even shoves us into binary boxes when discriminating us ;-;
It's hard to grasp because it does not exist outside of your head. You are a human and a woman, with obviously your own unique identity that you may label in any way you want.
@@jbird4478 I get that but I'm not a woman buddy. Being a woman or a man would involve gender and my gender is not female. I do understand that people put me in the wrong box when seeing me ...but to give you an analogy... names. Everyone has a different name and you may see someone and think their name's Jessica and then they tell you their name is actually katharina. Would you just refer to them as Jessica regardless? No of course not. And gender and pronouns should be treated in a similar way imo.
Honestly, I think medical transition should be available for under-18s. Pre-puberty, I’d argue just puberty blockers then HRT to go through the right puberty. But if medical transition were more available, I actually think people might feel *less* pressured to transition coz there’s not this massive waitlist/money barrier so there’s less pressure to get onto it asap. If you could walk into your GP tomorrow, and go on HRT no problems, I think it might actually make some ppl take more time to think through what they want coz they could do it no problems yknow so they dont have to go and start the process immediately yknow.
I’d love to see the science (peer reviewed studies) behind using puberty blockers and hormones long term. I’ve heard anti-lgbtq+ people say it’s “bad or bone development and overall health” but I’d like to know the facts.
its potentially bad for bone development if you dont have a dominant hormone (t or e) but if you exercise and look after yourself its majority of the time fine! and ur only on blockers without a dominant hormone for a few years
@Pedro_a_Pedra_Falante 🇵🇹 i guess they preferred me being more of a ‘woman’ then a male. They always asked for nasty pics (ofc i never gave them) now i rlly don’t go into relationships ever and i trust like no one now because that asking for pictures stuff always has happened plus i lost rlly just feeling romantic and or sexual toward someone :,)
@Pedro_a_Pedra_Falante 🇵🇹 fr also sucks when u can be gullible but i also knew that’s something i didn’t wanna be but i wouldn’t ever yell at them i’d just get scared or uncomfortable
On the T4T vs willingness to date cis, I think both are valid. Personally, I'm pan, so that part doesn't matter to me. It's all about the personality. But I completely understand why some people would feel "burned" by previous experiences and be uncomfortable taking a chance on that again.
I'm non-binary and one of my best friends is cis but I would say she does understand my experience but cuz of weird round about circumstances. So she's really small, she's like 5 foot nothin, weighs maybe like 95 pounds soaking wet, like *little little* and she's also got a few auto immune conditions and meds she's in for them. Between the conditions and the meds, she can't really gain weight easily and there's been times where her health would decline to a point where she'd lose some weight and be struggling to get it back. Because she is so small already, she has a smaller chest, and like most afab people, you will lose cup sizes when you lose weight. And she's described to me how she felt during those time frames and how hard it was for her to look in the mirror and how taxing it was on her because she felt so much like she looked like a 12 year old boy and it just felt so wrong and misaligned because she *knows* she's a woman. And I think that's been the closest I've been to feeling like a cis friend really understood that whole vibe. So. Yeah.
It makes me feel so much better when I watch this because then I know I'm not the only one that feels uncomfortable with wearing a outfit everyday and I ask myself "Do I look okay? Is it flat enough? Do I look feminine?" Because I'm trying to look flat (I don't have a binder) And I'm always trying to look as masculine as possible and that I look good also it's so uncomfortable when I need to wear a dress (my parents are homophobic sadly :d)
As a cis-woman I don't think I experience gender euphoria at all, same with dysphoria. Even in situations my masculine traits are called out or I'm misgendered as an insult, there's no disconnect with my gender so they're just insults. And the 'would you change it if you could' question, I get it a lot for my disability or certain traumatic events. People often hope for an answer alongs the lines with 'it made me who I am' or 'I'd never met you' but truth is, I'd take that gamble without a second thought. A life without the limitations and pain of my disability sounds great and I'd meet different people, probably equally wonderful just different and I'd still rise up to life's challenges as needed. Doesn't mean I'm ashamed of my disability or haven't learned to live my best life with it, but road of least resistance all the way.
hey noah, i’ve recently started my transition a year ago and i just want to say thank you for always putting out educating content. one of my moms friends introduced me to your channel during the start of my transition, and i’ve watched every single video since. thank you from the bottom of my heart, you help a lot of people ♥️
Surprisingly, my private christian school was very accepting to me, a demiboy and my friend who was a trans girl. They let us use the staff bathroom which is a major help to me because while people are accepting at my school, it is still an extremely toxic place (ED's, toxic people etc) but that one part of them accepting me and my friend was pleasantly surprising but that part doesn't make my religious trauma and trauma given by people who goes there, go away
As a non-binary, it is very difficult to be accepted, my school really tries but.. it's doesn't always get it right. And I don't exactly present androgynous either, so I can't be them, but it is still upsetting
i'm so glad to see your reaction! a lot of the comments on that video are rough and as a nonbinary teen it really discouraged me, but this makes me feel better :)
The whole “best of both worlds” thing, I say that about myself purely because of how I dress. If your into more femme people, I’m your guy. I don’t put up with people when they call me a girl because I’m not one. I’m just a guy who prefers looking more femme and cute. My boyfriend is also trans but is the complete opposite of me. He doesn’t like to be viewed in the same “cutesy” way. The only reason I would ever “seriously” say I’m the best of both worlds is just because of the way I dress
Omg the changing outfits a million times I feel so much! My brother gets mad at me when I get ready because no one understands why I have to try on a million things
Hello I transitioned in 1976.I was 16 yrs of age.it was a very very different experience and world then.I started on hormones at 16.I think I was lucky.after years of psychiatric abuse as a child to try and so called normalize me. Transitioning didn’t change my life goals it gave me the life and identity I wanted so I could live life and be a happy human.I know that people now aren’t interested in me as an older trans but I have existed far longer than most and have so much I could share. I totally understand all of these opinions your sharing.life has always been complicated for everyone.that’s the human condition I’m afraid.really great and interesting to watch.your totally open minded.
a lot of my opinions are kind of similar, like i'm completely pre-t and i wish i wasn't, because if i'd started hormones younger, then i'd probably be more okay now. and i like dating cis people, but i have a sort of "only date good friends" policy that makes being seen as a boyfriend a lot easier. and being ace, there isn't that added stress of how will sex work oh shit, because it's not something that happens. my school was okay when it came to my coming out. all the teachers accepted it quickly, if they had any questions they would ask, i was moved from the girls only p.e. etc, but the problem was that the kids weren't as good. i got invasive questions, blatant deadnaming, borderline hatecrimed and i would never ever feel safe going to the bathroom - going to the girls means dysphoria, boys means panic attack and or an altercation. worse still, they paraded me as "the trans student", becuase i was the first one to have ever come out to the faculty and asked for ajustments. literally, one time, i performed a poem to the school about black history, and they posted - on their public twitter - "trans student reads inspiring poem about their struggles. we're so proud of them! #diveristy". some beautiful person complained, and they took it down after a day, but it was the sheer audacity that made me so pissed off. they would constantly humiliate me by fucking up my pronouns and then like dramatically apologizing and using it as an opportunity to talk about how much of an ally they are. but the good thing is that because i took all of that smoke, it's so much easier tor trans kids at that school now. my friend's little brother came out last year and he's had so much support and help. in fact, they've done so much more for him. they don't tokenize him either, which is awesome. i have come out several times as different things. in fact, i had a five-step plan to coming out so that i would be sure that my friends would accept me: cis nb (gray-gender), genderfluid masc genderflux, transmasc nb, and then finally binary trnas guy. it was a process, to say the least. then, i came out as bi as a girl, then bi as nb, then bi as a guy, then gay, then bi again. so that's fun. there was a period of time that i thought that i was a nb lesbian because i found women more attractive than men at one point, but i still liked men, so i went back to bi. it was such a short time that i didn't actually come out. i went though a couple name changes though: a shortening of my deadname, jayce, jaice, jaece, jace, for a minute i was a malcolm, and then a marcus, (i didn't come out with any of those names tho, lmao), then my current name came to me, and boom, baby, here i be. yeah, my time as a trans teen was... turbulent.
Wow... This video was more layered and serious than I thought it would be but it was enjoyable and informative. I got to learn more about the lives of Trans people and the thing about being uncomfortable and going through a lot of clothes just to find something that makes you comfortable in your skin and with the insurance for testosterone/estrogen must be such pain like, I wish we could have a petition to make this sort of stuff free or at least at a cheaper rate or that it lasts for longer, or something.
Hey, Noah! I’ve been watching you for a while now, and you were one of the people who first helped me realize the not-so-fine line between insecurity and all that, as opposed to gender dysphoria. I feel so much better, having discovered who I am, and you were a huge part in that, so I’d like to say thank you. Thank you for being an amazing person, thank you for educating the public about what being trans really is, and thank you for being a wonderful role model to the community.
I agree with everything for sure. I wish there were options for me to be on hormone blockers when I was growing up (I'm 45 so... yeah...) I wish I would have been born male so I didn't have to go through all the surgeries I have been through and still want to go through down the road. As for dating cis, not a good experience for me. I've been with my partner for almost 16 years, and transitioned through that time. I'm definitely treated differently now by them in general. No more PDA (dancing in the supermarket aisles to stupid songs over the loudspeakers) Only time I'm mostly supported is when we're alone, and even then if I take off my shirt, they look moderately horrified. They told me once that they "didn't believe in unnecessary surgeries", so I know they don't understand what it's like to be in the wrong body.
@@usernameisusernam Yeah, it's like living a double life almost. I'm slowly noticing that I'm falling out of love with them, I feel kinda bad, but I really want a better partner for myself, and I've also told them that they have my blessing to find someone new, I wouldn't be mad or upset because I want them to be happy as well.
@@usernameisusernam I'd say for around 5 years now yup. It's more of a "you're still around so I'll be your friend" type of relationship at this point, sad to say.
hrt waiting lists for teens on the nhs are like 5 years for the first appointment.. bills going up and the lack of money many trans kids like me have access to means that we will probably be over 20 before we get hormones :( idek how to feel anything but exhausted for the next few years tbh
Hi Noah:) I just wanted to say thank you because you were a big help in my realizing that i’m trans. It really helps that you and a lot of other people in your comments can understand me.
8:16 i just graduated high school this year, for my senior year i moved to a different school. All throughout my senior year i wore my punk battle jacket with handmade patches, "power to the people" "protect trans youth" to name a few. i was always openly trans and corrected my teachers when they made a mistake on my pronouns, as well as open about me being autistic. Even became the GSA dad figure. All through out that year i didn't care about some of the transphobic and homophobic comments i got for one simple reason, seeing the look of hope the underclassmen had and growing courage for them to be themselves too. During lunches i would let the underclassmen talk about their frustrations and their struggles with their identity and it really helped them having someone who went through the same experience as them to talk too. I worked with a lot of the teachers and social workers being a voice and helping them figure out how they can support lgbtq+ students as well as how they can their lessons more autistic friendly by giving them resources and my personal experience. I feel like it only takes one openly proud person to get the ball rolling for others to be unapologetically themselves as well.
I'm 15 and a trans guy. But i dont want surgery, not right now at least..i am so lucky to not have horrible chest dysphoria but i understand some people do. To All the trans teens out there like me, im here for you... i'm willing to talk to you, im a rookie.. i barely know what i'm talking about. but i do know that right now in this media being a trans teen is scary. im here for everyone :) - Luca
The school question was interesting. I was homeschooled until college, but when I started college I was fully out as nonbinary, I wasn't closeted at school at any point. I haven't had a terrible experience, though the mileage varies on whether people totally get my pronouns and gender (I use they/them). Perhaps if I had more time to interact with people in person (many of my classes have been online thanks to Covid) I would run into more blatant transphobia, but so far I've only ever experienced mild problems with that at school. It helps that I met teachers early on who were involved with LGBTQ+ acceptance groups on campus.
As a trans teen myself i can completely relate, i'm 15 and i have thought about this for a very long time and i am definitely ready to transition i have many plans to do so, even my sister chooses not to go by my he/him pronouns, it's terrible honestly
To who ever See's this comment, I just want to remind you that you can get through what ever sh*t in your life you're going through! ❤️ Depression doesn't go away, but you learn to live with it, and i know that you are strong enough to get through it and live with it!! ❤️ Just Remember that you're Loved!
When I was a kid, I hated dressing girly, but I also hated being called a boy when my parents cut my hair super short. At the time I know I wouldn't know what gender I was if all the spectrum of genders were taught, even if I was able to transition. I think having the hormone blockers would have been nice, but due to my weird brain wiring it may have either delayed my epilepsy, but I probably would have felt more comfortable as nonbinary that way, and helped me figure out how I feel comfortable much sooner than age 25. Just learning about the ability to change your physical attributes would be helpful, kind of like how the fact that I knew other belief systems were out there helped me to know I wasn't trapped forever in the one that made me feel like dying every day.
I am a trans teen and I came out about a year ago I think. I always feel really invalid because a lot of trans people tend to say "I didn't just wake up and go 'guess I'm trans now'." I had always when I was younger thought about how it would've been if I was born a boy instead, but I don’t think it ever was 'I want to be a boy' and suddenly one day something just clicked for some reason and it took a few days to think about it but suddenly I was trying he/him pronouns and coming out to people. I always second guess myself, asking if I'm just faking it, or if I'm actually feeling this way. At this point I don't know. I have binders, most people know and respect my pronouns, but even though this feels so right I still can't tell. I always have to sit down and think 'this would be so much easier on my parents if I just stopped' or 'If I am just faking this I've wasted so much of other people's time with my dumb crap' I don't know what to do anymore and I just feel like I'm making it all up.
I feel like that all the time (except I'm not out yet) what helps me is remembering all of the signs in my childhood and how I feel about my gender and body vs. How cis people usually feel. Then I know there's no way I'm cis
My opinion on the 2nd question (as a trans teen) is that if you're fully grown then sure, go for it. I'm unsure as to whether medically transitioning (surgery wise) before you're fully grown will cause issues or not. I stopped growing when I was 12 so that wouldn't be an issue for me lol Edit: I've wanted top surgery since I was 10 and I have no plan to take testosterone (I do plan to train my voice to be deeper though)
5:00 I’m around that age, and it’s not really relevant, but I’ve been recently referred to a doctor who can help me start testosterone! It might be months or years, but I’m very excited
I came out as trans in school in 1984. I started wearing makeup and girls clothes to school in 83' in the 8th grade. It was not a fun time for me in school back then. I was asked to drop out in the 9th grade, and then was banned from all schools in Houston, Tx over my refusal to conform.
this was interesting watching bc within the last year I've realized that I'm trans. I'm still figuring out a label but one of the things I find interesting is that my girlfriend and I started dating like a year before I realized. she's a trans girl so its been amazing dating someone who understands and who I can talk about it with and not be scared or nervous or anything. she's part of the reason that I've realized I'm trans and I'm so thankful for it. I wouldn't be where i am because she's the one who I can talk about it with. She realized she was trans a long time ago so its been helpful dating someone who is further into their experience with knowing that they're trans. she's kind of helped me to understand myself better and has never made me feel bad or anything. so even though we weren't intentionally T4T, I'm honestly rlly thankful we are because I wouldn't be where I am without her :))
I can't fully understand what it's like to be trans, but I've definitely experienced "mirror dysphoria"[1] in the past, so I link gender dysphoria as another form of that. {Straight Ally} [1] IDK if this is an actual term or not, because I just made it up, but by "mirror dysphoria" I mean "the feeling you get when you look in the mirror and hate the person looking back at you"
I came out at gay when I was 13 but like noah i was in a Catholic boarding (co-ed). I was bullied by students and staff (not trans related) so when I came out to one of the house staff i was severely upset and angry that my feelings were dismissed and played down. The house parent said that "it's a phase". "you're just attention seeking". " its just a spur of the moment thought because we had this LGBT discussion, you'll get over it". Etc. It was the one and only LGBT talk I had ever had the three years I was there. Luckily my mum was accepting but i wasn't sure and was insecure so I carried on hiding my feelings while secretly watching trans TH-cam videos or making friends on other platforms. Then when I was 16/17 i came out to a friend and her girlfriend, also my mums friend who is one of the ladies dad. They took it well. It wasn't until I was 18 that I came out as transgender to my mum, sister and then later on to the rear of the family. Most took it well, though its taken time to get used to it all. Misgendering still happens but that's because I have had multiple names for personal confidential reasons. Also born in a small village so everyone only knew me by my birth name. As an older individual mentally I've learnt to just let it go and enjoy life _ my family that I'm lucky to have. They are slowly but surely getting better with it all and more understanding. I also came out as gay but 1-2 years ago I came out as pansexual and polygamous. (i am fine with monogamy or poly depending on the person(s))). Lol. I'm 25 now. Still single but I'm striving to persue my dream job while working and adulting lol. Also looking to apply for university and maybe start travelling across the globe. Lastly, I'm awaiting my top surgery but not going for bottom surgery. On nebido now, switched from sustonan. Xx
Everything these teens have said is very true. I'm not trans but I have a lot of friends who are and most of them also agree with having kids take hormone blockers but wait until they're adults to decide to fully transition. There is always a chance the kid has been trans and known for years, but there are also so many experiencing body dysmorphia and other similar things based on something other than being trans and they should have the time to carefully consider and really make sure it's what they want. As for dating cis people - I've found that at my uni, my trans friends who do date cis people there usually date either big allies or other queer people who do understand the trans experience to some degree and are always respectful of pronouns and such. We love learning from each other at my Uni so we have a "Queer Peers" club where we host get together, watch queer films and ask each other questions and learn from/about each other. It's all about creating an environment of acceptance that will help young people make these kinds of decisions by talking to and learning from other trans/NB/queer people. I wish we had more programs that allow young kids to ask people who have gone through the process to learn from their experience and make more informed decisions. Loved the video, good luck with your
I know you probably wont see this Noah, but i have to say- Thank you Lgbtq youtubers, I really dont think i would be who i am comfortably without the influence of these people making these videos. And at my school too! There are so many people able to live happily as who they really are in my school.
i actually started HRT at 12 years old, but i also had the privilege of socially transitioning at 6 so I’d had plenty of time to be sure of my identity. as long as teens have been given plenty of time to think about it and be sure that starting hrt is right for them, at the end of the day, they know themselves best
Imagine also living in Florida now - some teens have their preferred pronouns and name ILLEGAL. I need out of here ngl, thank you for representing! ❤❤❤
I love it when you say "the trans experience" bc it feels like im part of an exclusive club or something and im getting the the *full trans experience*
Feels like I've got the premium version of a streaming service fr
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@Gen Moon the prices vary depending on the family
I don’t know who signed me up for it but I’m enjoying it so far. Way more questions than answers but still.
It is pretty exclusive in my experiences. Never really met another real life trans so
"The Trans Experience" sounds like an amazing psychedelic rock band from the 60s. I love it. I want it to exist as the next big LGBTQ+ music group.
Jimmy Hendrix
I definitely lean towards being T4T. I share more experiences and interests with other trans people, but I'm honestly just attracted to androgyny. Anyone who plays around with gender is hot
yes!! someone being gnc (gender non-conforming) is so attractive to me. episode #1000 of "do I want to date them or do I want to be them"
Honestly, I'm not just looking for trans people. I'm looking for a good person. As the guy in the video said. If the person is trans then that's fine. I honestly don't care, as long as they're a good person
@@Oliver-ef7lc i was thinking about that the other day and I understood something about me, maybe its the same for some other ppl: I'm attracted (mentally and physically) by what I want for myself, like an inspiration, by something that I have within me but im afraid to let it out; or by something feel is "missing" to me
Same! I wouldn't say that is impossible for me to date cis people again, but T4T is sooo good. I can sure affirm that I'd never date a cishet person, that's never happening.
I define my attraction as "anyone who looks gay is hot"
ik this comment is 3weeks old, but i think a big part of that for us is having a partner who can understand better what goes through our heads. cis people will never fully understand what it’s like. so it’s nice to have an SO that does
Woaw, not gonna lie, it is so comforting to see that all these people are going through the same struggles as I do
Love that, makes me feel less miserable, actuallly, happy
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it kinda dose matter, the starting points of stuff- cause then we have made a way to avoid next/younger generation(s) to go through the same.
It is and always has been, the mindset of us, the older generation(s) -
We all sadly are put through 12 years of brainwashing system and sadly many even more years.
That`s why homeschooling children by their own parents - becomes logic and a must.
If we, as a mankind, want a real life change, then new generations must be raised up healthy and in one piece - that means = souls no longer mentally broken.
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We must wake up from the 2 biggest illusions:
- Buddishm and athesim - believing that we come again and again to live that same shit life _ glad to say , we don´t,
- believing that nothing matters at all, and that wicked is good, because like i said before, nothing matters, no good no bad.
- L _ B_G_D_Q_+ - believing, we can change our gender and still be in gender life - as we realize our correct gender didn`t change.
Once reproductive tools are let to be cut off, the gender life is also over.
Should i continue or was my points clear?
The start of what? - the start of destroying our own health:
- through smoking,
- through drinking,
- through willingly and through being deceived - going and cutting off body parts...
- through sleeping around.
Aren`t we all doing so, because we all hurting?
About the confession from mr. Buzz - “the moon visit-er”
Not all can carrie secrets to their grave. Some do confess before their time of death. May GOD have mercy to their souls, about that they even dared to deceive and lie to mankind in the 1st place. Truly, may GOD have mercy to their souls.
there`s no such things as "gay and trans rights " - there`s only human rights. If you are anything else then a human being, you then have no rights at all. It is the harsh reality of life.
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They are humans, just like we are, and they are suffering both because of their health and the evil governments they live under.
A human right is also to get back health:
- through needful operations, like the young boy got (yes he lost his leg, but get his life) and as bible does say; it I better to lose a member of our bodies, then to end up losing our life.
So, about what so called “trans and gays” suffer from?
- what rights have they then lost, for they have choose to be “trans and gays”, not humans.
- now let me repeat myself again:
if we choose to be anything else then a HUMAN BEING (FEMALE OR MALE), we have then truly lost all human rights, because we shall no longer be humans, for we shall be then “trans and gays”.
It is good news, that the young boy no longer suffers, but truly got the needful operation. But yea, a lot of them there suffer with different health problems. Sadly no matter the side of this world, we all live under the same evil governments (biblically; the evil spirits in high places). And the greediness' of us, the humans. And sadly, what they there suffer from now, soon we here, go through also: - different cancers from different poisons, - hunger and freezing, - homelessness, - slavery. Only one that truly can help and heal is GOD Himself. Therefore all of us, those who can help with money also and those who can´t (like me), lets pray, let`s send prayers to GOD through His only begotten son`s name, that all those without a health, shall have it again, those without home, shall have a home, those who hunger, shall have full stomachs, those who are cold, shall be warmed up. In JESUS name, let`s pray.
There is no real reason to block our own oxygen. WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS, created BY GOD, TO BREATH AIR/oxygen, through our mouths and noses. WE ARE NOT "USELESS EATERS" AND " JUST A BAKTER, THAT CAME TO BE". WE ARE HUMANS, THE CREATION BY GOD, AND HE MADE US ALL WONDERFULLY AND PERFECTLY. it is the old prideful angel, named lucifer, who comes and share lies. BELIEVE HIM NOT!.
Have courage, dear soul, have courage to say to lucifer, GET BEHIND ME satan AND NEVER DARE TO TEMPT ME AGAIN.
We all catch the flu EVERY YEAR, it is a normal thing, our GOD given immune system MUST BE WORKING 24/7 365. Even though i noticed back 2010 that being sick is cool and okay and being healthy is something to feel shame for, there is still not a single excuse to stop breathing air. WE CAN´T KEEP BEING ALIVE WITHOUT HEALTH.
And do say that "OH, WE ARE SCEARD OF DYING" - dear souls, WE ALL SURLY DIE.
Romans 6:23 - For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Romans 3:23 - For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
Ecclesiastes 12:7 - Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was: and the spirit shall return unto God who gave it. 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 - But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. (Read More...) John 3:16 - For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 10:10 - The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.
And, such a deadly virus, the whole human body must be covered up, not just nose and mouth, our skin breaths too.
All of our faith is being tested, sadly many did fail and many will fail.
Awh !! I’m so glad it makes you feel like that
@@the_alien_1239 thank you so much !!
@@colineadesyeux I just finished the video and I feel the same, it feels so comforting to know that I’m not alone with all my struggles and just that it’s not just me that wakes up every day and feels dysphoric (even tho I wish no one would go through that), it’s just a comfort to know that I have people that are like me and feel some of the things I feel
@@the_alien_1239 I know right ! One of the worst part of all of this is being alone and feeling abandoned, and that's what anti trans people want us to think, but once you look around, there's actually plenty of people right there that went through the same doubts, struggles and difficulties. Once you are aware of it, it becomes easier, and I'm so glad we're able to realise it like this !
Hi Noah! You have given me and my best friend the courage to come out as trans and we both adore you, thank you
If ya do soon good luck 👍 😁😁
congrats !!! i wish you both the best 🫶🫶
I wish you good luck!! 🫶🏻
Good luck!
Good Luck! You can do it :)
As a cis woman, I would like to say something about the gender euphoria thing. There are instances where I've experienced "gender euphoria", but I wouldn't say it's a common thing, those are basically rare occasions when I'm dressing up for like a party, a concert or other special occasion. And it's basically like being proud of how well you've put that all together (outfit, hair, makeup, accesories...) to fit your body and personality. There are also instances where I've felt "gender dysphoria". I suffer from hyperthyroidism and one of the things it causes is the excess growth of body hair. And having really dark hair and pale skin on top of that, it is extremely well visible in my case and it also grows faster than what would the norm for a healthy person be and grows on places where women's bodies typically don't grow hair (not talking about peach fuzz). Having to shave every day (not an exageration btw) if you're a woman can really lower your self esteem and make you feel really sh*tty about your body.
Now, I put both gender euphoria and gender dysphoria in quotes, because what I'm experiencing is not the real gender dysphoria/euphoria. Tho the dysphoria in my case is linked to my gender, if I wasn't a woman, I wouldn't get the short stick from having more than normal body hair and certainly wouldn't even care.
I can relate to some of trans people experience (it goes much deeper than just a body hair, I don't have time to write it all and I'm sure no one has the time to read a whole-ass novel of a comment either), but I will never relate 100% as I can never get the full trans experience and I know that. That's also one of the reasons why I'm here, so I can learn something about the trans experience. I also have to say, that this is just me and I don't think a majority of cis people will be the same, mainly because I'm also neurodivergent and don't really have any significant relationship with my gender, all feelings about my gender are related to the things I've described prior in this comment.
It’s really cool to hear a cis person’s experience! Thank you for sharing!
Holy Fuck that’s a long comment, but in all seriousness your experience is very interesting
That was actually really interesting thanks so much for that I never really thought about a cis persons perspective!!!
The way you describe this to me at least does sound like real instances of gender euphoria/dysphoria. In the end, they are how we feel about our bodies or how we (think we are) seen by others, just specifically geared towards gendered stuff (and not just weight, hair colour, a "silly" voice, things anyone may be self-conscious about).
Thanks for sharing this, it really helps me understand
I'm non-binary and yeah, it's really hard to get people to see me as non-binary. For those in the know about identities and labels, I'm demigirl. For those not, I'm "mostly don't care but definitely not a guy." People see my with my big chest, my daughter who looks just like me, and my bearded husband and just default to she/her and forget I'm not cis-het.
I can totally relate. Except I don’t have a kid yet, but yeah I think people see my manly husband and assume I’m cishet. For a time though, I had short hair and was dressing more masc and I think people thought I was either a twinky guy or maybe a trans woman b/c I would get weird looks. You just can’t win.
it's hard because when you're a female or male presenting non-binary person, on one hand you really can't blame people for assuming, but on the other hand it's really hurtful and alienating
Oh man I'm also a parent and an afab enby. People absolutely take my gender less seriously because I'm a "mom". I feel your struggle. Hope you are well!
I came out to my parents today, and it went okay, but a video about trans teens, is gonna make my trans-teen-self very happy i guess, thank you, from the botton of my heart!!!!
congratulations for coming out! :)
congrats man!
Thanks:)
congrats omg!!! i hope all is well for u
Haha that’s funny actually. Im trans myself and my chosen name is Leo.
I know it's a completely different thing to gender dysphoria, but with the person who said "cis people look in the mirror and dont feel distress", I feel like thats not completely true. I'm a cis woman but I've dealt with self hatred due to my weight for years (getting better recently but in my teens I went though a long phase where I had to cover all mirrors) and hormone imbalances (that aren't being treated properly) have caused lots of excess facial hair and hair loss on my head, so I can't think of a time when I've looked in the mirror and not felt distress.
Like I said, I know that's a completely different thing to gender dysphoria, and would never ever try to say that they're the same or that I know how trans people feel or that I have it worse because I 100% do not. But I liked what the next person said about it being more nuanced. Obviously cis people don't experience gender dysphoria, but it doesn't mean that we don't experience dysphoria in general/related to other things.
Really enjoyed this video, I really like it when you do reactions and point out more complexities and nuances :)
This is exactly me and made me feel very seen, thanks 😊
No but what you are describing is literally gender dysphoria. Looking in the mirror and and feeling any level of distress because of a mismatch with the gendered traits you're seeing, is gender dysphoria. Cis women with small hips or boobs, or cis men with soft jaws or extra breast tissue can all feel gender dysphoria because their traits and gender identity are mismatched. The only thing is that most trans people experience this, while most cis people don't.
Edit: forgot op is also talking about weight, which usually isn't tied to gender/gender dysphoria.
@@idasvenning3892 That is body dysmorphia. And one of the many reasons it’s hard for some trans individuals to be diagnosed with gender dysphoria. Some therapist think maybe the stereotypical bodies are making us have body dysmorphia and don’t believe that we have gender dysphoria and want to actually be a different gender.
@@idasvenning3892 i think the line between gender dysphoria and body dysphoria is very very blurry
@@nexxius4823 this is a very interesting topic. gender dysphoria is seen as this thing that trans people have that makes them different from cis people.
but what is the difference between a cis woman being upset over having body hair, and a trans woman being upset about having body hair, other that the severity of the distress?
if a cis woman goes on hormones after menopause because she feels too manly, what is the difference between her and a trans girl going on hormones to feel more feminine?
ofc cis people will never understand the trans experience. but why do we only associate hating your body for not being fem/masc enough with trans people, when plenty of cis people feel this way?
trans people shouldn’t have to be diagnosed with dysphoria to be valid or to have gender affirming surgeries. because cis people don’t have to be in order to get hormones, or have feminizing/masculinizing surgeries.
cis men wouldn’t want a vagina and would dislike their body because of it. so how is that any different from a trans man not wanting a vagina? or a trans man not wanting breasts?
idk. i think it’s a nuanced and interesting discussion. i don’t think it’s all black and white
I started crying when I told my bf I’m nonbinary I was absolutely terrified. The first words out of his mouth, “So what would you like me to call you?” And then came out as bisexual😭❤️
As a cis guy, I don’t really experience gender euphoria in any way. Like, I just am a guy, it’s not positive or negative, it just is.
This guy has a really cool personality. Tonight is the first time I've seen him on YT, and I like how he talks about things with no real judgement, and has this zest for life. He's very refreshing,
I’m a cisgender woman and I’m perfectly comfortable with that label and she/her pronouns, however sometimes being perceived as female still makes me extremely uncomfortable in certain situations, for example when I was in college there were only 4 girls in my class and the teacher would always say “I’m sure the girls want to be a group” or something like that and it would make me extremely uncomfortable. If I do/say something and someone says “why do girls always do that” I literally FLIP at them, or the fact that every time I told someone I was in college they’d say “let me guess, hair and beauty?”. I’ve thought about they/them pronouns but I’ve realised I am a woman and I like being a woman, but these preconceived opinions and judgements everybody automatically has about women and how we should and shouldn’t be or what we should and shouldn’t want are very offensive and dehumanising in a way. So I wouldn’t say “gender euphoria” is necessarily something cis people experience
I feel you. I’m non-binary, afab, but have experienced going through most of life being perceived as a woman. But yeah, to me your story sounds like being uncomfortable with sexism and stereotyping (which, understandable and relatable).
For me, being non-binary doesn’t really have much to with the way people treat me, it’s all about how I view myself when no one is around. If we lived in a magical universe where everyone was treated equally, I’d still feel the same way about myself.
that's a very real experience and absolutely correct points, but you're a bit confused about how it relates to gender identity (it doesn't). this isn't what "gender euphoria" is about at all, and cis people definitely experience gender euphoria, they just wouldn't recognize it as such
@@buchelaruzit I understand that completely, the point I was more trying to make is that cis people do question our gender identities sometimes and that it’s not just black and white either you love being your assigned gender or you hate it does that make sense? It’s in a different context of course but I thought it was worth sharing
I can totally get behind this, I'm non-binary AMAB and I never like the idea of being grouped in with "the guys" because quite a lot of cis guys can make me uncomfortable and if I get grouped in with them I just feel kinda disconnected even before I knew I was enby cause you don't want to have to fit these preconceived notions of "oh you'll do this cause you're your gender." I suppose this is somewhat on the lines of sexism for you but it still feels tied in to the idea of gender with "just cause we're the same gender means we want to or should mingle". Like no we're individuals and maybe I just like hanging out with anyone who isn't a cis guys except of course in the case of my cis guy friends, those guys are cool.
Logically, my full gender identity would be agender trans, since I feel euphoric when I think of myself as a gender neutral guy, but I don't like the idea of tying myself to either binary gender. I find some aspects of being trans as relatable, but I don't associate with the label itself.
Additionally, due to my social anxiety, I have to tolerate people using my birth name, and the wrong pronouns. I just lack that ability to speak up about that sort of thing because I don't want to come off as an attention seeker :/
You can also use the umbrella term "non-binary" if you want, it applies as well. Because you have Trans and under it you have Binary and Non-Binary and under Non-Binary there is Agender and a lot of other things too 😊
hey! i know it's not that simple to change things like anxiety and my one comment probably won't convince you to do anything, but if you're in a safe situation to do so i'd say definitely try coming out to some people, it can be just a few or even one person you're close to, and ask them to use your name and pronouns!! you deserve to be called the things you are :))
When I say I’m “the best of both worlds” it’s as a joke, and it’s me I always put me down
But if someone else where to do it to me I’d never talk to them again.
It’s Fetishising Vs personal jokes
It’s like how you can joke with your best friends in ways you can’t joke with mutuals
As a trans teen, this video was really interesting! I understood where they were coming from and it made sense even if I disagreed with them.
Dang i’m early. 13 minutes ago! Also hey noah absolutely love you man! You give me so much confidence in myself!
I’m a trans guy (i’m 13 btw)! I look like a cis guy and have recently told everyone i’m trans. I would have never had this confidence without you mate!
Congrats!!! :D
im 12 and non binary and i keep trying to give hints to my family (i came out to one of my cousins a few days ago tho she was super supportive i love her so much) and i was afab and keep begging my parents to get me masculine and feminine clothing and a masculine hair cut (which they suprisingly said yes to the hair cut. my dad just said not too short?)
As someone who's cis this video is very interesting! I love to learn more about people's experiences and what they've gone through, it can be hard to understand sometimes but I always try my hardest.
im a very femme presenting non-binary person, i wear dresses, makeup, have longer hair, very typically ‘girly’ things. im not out to anyone but my friends cause i know my parents and family won’t understand. it’s hard to constantly be misgendered and it’s draining. i cant be myself fully cause it’s not safe for me but im thankful for the friends around me that respect my pronouns and shit. it means the world to me to have that place when i can’t get it in my own house.
On the gender euphoria and cis people thing- I’m a cis lesbian, and often joke that I’m “ancient in queer years” because I came out at 10 and am in my mid-30s now and the queer world that I grew up in was a very different space (I suppose so is the whole world, in general). But one thing I think that sometimes gets overlooked is that cis queer folks often have a different relationship with gender than cis hetero folks. And maybe this is also a bit different now both because being queer has become a lot more normalized and we now have more words for and discussions around gender identity.
But certainly when I was a wee bitty lez and knew no lesbians in my personal life and there were like three semi famous lesbians in existence (Melissa Etheridge, KD Lang, Ellen 😂) I remember first feeling like I was “supposed to” look a certain way as a lesbian. I also grew up with like… a weird sort of reverse gender dysphoria. Like I knew I was a girl and I wanted to be a girl but had this secret fear I might actually be a boy? I wonder in retrospect if some of it may have been early internalized homophobia. But I remember hating wearing my hair up because I’d study my face and just be convinced I looked masculine. Or at 18 or 19 I started having serious issues with PCOS and rupturing ovarian cysts and my first one when they went to ultrasound me at the ED, I felt such a strange… dysphoria. Like I had exactly the parts I wanted to have but almost couldn’t believe it?
I don’t know. I’ve heard other lesbians say they’ve experienced similar. It was also in my late teens, that despite growing up a bit of a “tomboy” and fighting with my mom who was always forcing my into dresses that I really grew to embrace my own femininity. But I also think… while I may and do pass as hetero, what being femme means to me as a queer woman is a very different and uniquely queer and frankly, powerful/empowering thing. (In some ways I can almost relate to being like the lesbian version of an androphile. A femophile? Lol. Because there is like a total delight for me in all things female, that I’m pretty sure would be totally foreign and weird and not relatable to hetero women)
So for me, when I like really out intention into what I’m wearing and how I present or this time I went to a drag king show and was the youngest person in the room of a lot of very old school butch/femme paired lesbians- my gosh I’ve never felt more confidentially and fantastically and fully myself and in my own body and uniquely queer femininity.
So anyway- I can’t speak for hetero cis women or even other cis queer folks. But gender euphoria is definitely something I do feel. And dysphoria in its own way is also something I’ve known. I think a lot of cis queer people feel aspects of that or that it was more common before queerness became more accepted and normalized. It’s also why I’ll never understand the “LGB without the T” types. Because the whole compulsory heterosexuality or hetero as default thing is very interconnected with rigid gender stereotypes and policing. And queer folks of all stripes tend to have a different relationship with gender than cis hetero folks, if you really get down to it.
And sorry for the whole dang novel. I just don’t hear this discussed or recognized much. And maybe I’m just a complete weirdo. Lol. I do think I may have had a very different experience if I had come of age as a queer person in todays world. I didn’t have the words for so much of what I was feeling or even fully realize that what I reckoning with and figuring out was my gender identity. Because while I’m cis, it was very much a conscious and difficult thing at times for me.
That might have been a long comment but I appreciate it! Thanks for sharing your story, I do agree and I've seen people who just use lesbian or gay as a sort of gender label as the experience they've had is so tied into their sexuality. Gender identity, expression and sexuality might be separate but they overlap a lot for different people, I think it's with a lot more study.
I’m a trans teen. I feel this
About the teachers respecting pronouns, I remember a school I went to for a very short period of time where there were a lot of kids who were LGBTQ+ in some way. Specifically, there was this trans guy, and all the teachers called him by his preferred name and always used he/him pronouns. It was to the point where I didn't even know he was trans until a friend of mine told me.
It was kind of nice to be in a school where no one judged you for who you were.
Sadly the way they taught things there didn't work very well for me and I ended up leaving, but still, it was a super nice place
About the "could cis people truly understand?" one. I think it highly depends on the cis person, because there are some cis people who have regularly experienced being misgendered or denied their gender identity and expression (whether because they're intersex, a racial minority where white ppl don't include their race in ideals of gender, or because they're considered gender non conforming in some other way), so I think there are some cis people who despite not being trans, will still be able to understand lots of trans experiences despite not being trans themselves. However, I do think *most* cis people won't understand the experience. Just not all of them.
As a very young transguy, I wish I wasn't trans, but oh well, I hope the world is better for transgender people when I am 18+, and I hope my family accepts me.
Yeah me too dude
same bro
i think all of them came up with extremely good answers to all of the questions
Hey Noah!!! I just wanna thank you for all you have done for me, (even if you don’t know it lmao) you helped me accept the fact I am ftm and helped me feel more comfortable with myself more and more with every video, I’m going to one of your concerts in September and I can’t wait!!!!! Thanks for helping your local trans kid ha 😁 #SPAMNOAHSMUSICCC😡
I'm a singer, and I've been putting off going on T cuz I am afraid of voice changes, but seeing you live your best life and still doing music has inspired me to take the plunge!
Same i mean literally
i mean cavetown is trans and hes doing amazing
Being a genderqueer female and also somewhat genderfluid, I really enjoyed the experience of seeing the difference with a man who who wasn't straight, because he thought I was cute when masc, or fem, or andro, whereas being with a very straight man, I was less attractive to him when I dressed very masc with a binder and a packer, because while he still loved my personality and who I am, he is not attracted to men. Still appreciate him so much for trying to be open though. He never got insecure about his sexuality because of me, and that was refreshing. (we met when I identified with my birth gender and presented mostly as such).
That’s really interesting, thanks for sharing! I think it depends on the straight guy too. For example, my husband identifies as a straight guy and I’m non-binary. But he has never really liked it or been attracted to when I’m looking super femme with makeup and such (or really to anyone who is super femme). But when I’m looking pretty masc, he’s still attracted, moreso than when I’m wearing makeup for sure. I think even within the realm of “straight” there’s still preferences of masc or femme for sure.
WHY DID I GET THE TRANSPHOBIC AD IN THE MIDDLE OF THIS VID
@Pedro_a_Pedra_Falante 🇵🇹 i think it was the prager u one that was talking ab the dangers of putting kids on puberty blockers
Honestly, I feel like I wouldn't be the same person if I was a cisgender man. I've had so many experiences as a trans man (as well as when I lived as a woman) that shaped who I am, and I feel like without those I'd be a completely different person.
the voice training from the trans girls are so impressive
4:01 yes I completely agree! I’ve heard that in the UK you have to be 16 for hormone blockers??? In America you have to be 13 (but I’m 11 and I am on them so I got lucky) I think that maybe hormone blockers should be available for 10+ because it doesn’t harm your body (until 2+ years of being on them, my Dr said that that’s when they start worrying about bone growth) and also (ftm, or my fellow NB ppl it stops your period and you only have to get the shot every 3 months! So yay!) but that my opinion (as an 11 year old:D)
same as a 13 year old :) using my dads acount
Aw man y’all are so lucky I’m 11 my parents would never let me and I feel like I hate my body so much because I look at myself and although in baggy clothes I look mostly like a boy I still see a little girl in there and even when I tell my parents like I was so happy someone said I was a boy today at school my parents are like oh no you give off girl vibes or well they just said that to be mean or something and I don’t think they get how I’m trying to come out any tips?
@@Dontclickonthischanneliquit well, it depends on your situation! If you know your parents are a ally of the LGBTQ+ community then its going to be easier (though it may take time to get used to pronouns and stuff, I know this from personal experience) but if they don’t accept LGBTQ+ or are not necessarily an ally then you might have to explain (I’ll give an example of how I told my not so accepting grandparents and you can do the same I did!), however if you are unsure if they are ally’s then ask on their opinion but try your best to not show signs of that more then you have been already!
And what I did to help my grandparents understand (I took this from a TH-cam short I saw) is I said “if you, for example, if hypothetically your body was dying and your brain could survive! But it had to go into a female (or male) body.. but when you woke up you didn’t feel comfortable, like a man (or woman) still, you would try to do everything in your power to be, male (or female but I think you understand so I’ll stop saying it) again, and you would try to get hormones and surgery. To be male again. That’s what being trans is like (I think I’m gender neutral so I don’t really know) feeling like the right person in the wrong body!”
@@LeonJaden You cannot get hormone blockers in the UK.
@leon No, you have to be 16 to get HRT, but you can be prescribed hormone *blockers* at a younger age to prevent expression of puberty. Blockers are one of the most valuable tools for pre-pubescent trans folk and its a crying shame the system is so slow that many trans kids start to experience the effects of an unwanted puberty long before they can get blockers to give them the breathing room to be assessed, and to assess themselves, and work out if they want an androgenic or oestrogenic puberty.
seeing all those teens that really pass at that age gives me so much hope that i'll be able to too one day (i know that passing isn't that mandatory and i'm not saying that any of those teens need to, it's just important to me so i can be more comfy:) )
Can we just take some time to appreciate the Women’s voices and voice training, you go girls
the first question already had me crying, having dated as cishet man as a trans masc non binary person. Based on his behaviour and things I was told he was definitely fixated on certain parts of me, and I was so anxious about upsetting him that I put off getting on the gender waiting list because of him.
noah!! it’s so cool to see how much you’ve grown and matured™️ over the years like viewers can just tell that ur much more confident now than even a couple years ago!! you sound much more sure of yourself and like u truly don’t care about others perceptions anymore, ur just doing u and i’m here for it ❤️
Ok but Mandy’s outfit is amazing, and their HAIR i love it 😭
the girl with black hair and the long dress seems like such a sweet and kind person
Loved how it ended just because the community that Ive found around my town has been really wonderful
As a cis girl, I think I have learned a lot about gender from trans people. I'm actually usually quite happy with how I look, and I know it isn't "gender euphoria" but I do often get really happy looking at myself in the mirror. I love feeling feminine but I also don't feel any pressure to express myself in a certain way. I realise how lucky I am to feel completely comfortable in my gender identity.
Idk sounds a lot like gender euphoria to me
I agree that puberty blockers should be given to children- but not just trans kids. When it comes to trans kids, I agree with Noah and believe it depends entirely on the person and their history. I also believe puberty blocker should be prescribed not only to certain trans kids who fit the criteria for it but also to cisgender children who hit puberty too early.
This is just my personal experience as someone who is trans (ftm) but who also went through puberty at fucking nine years old. Some children hit puberty way too early (like me) and this can cause a bunch of problems for them in the school setting (such as bullying but also not having proper changing rooms in a lot of primary/elementrary schools), with thier health (painful cramps and light headedness from bleeding for example) and with how they are feel in their own body.
Edit: there was a typo in "cisgender" 🦕
I’m not a part of the lgbtq community, but I found myself watching this videos out of curiosity for your guys’ take on this whole trans gender topic. Before I had this stereotype that all trans people were so adamant and stubborn in the stupidest things that they literally forgot how to be kind. After watching some of these videos, it really opened my eyes to see that trans people are normal people just like the rest of us. And they respect some of the same things as I do. Although I disagree with some things, I still believe they should be treated as God’s children - with kindness and respect they deserve. Thanks for listening to my ted talk. (Also thank you noah for doing this!)
That’s so heartwarming 🥰
I am a non-binary, but i do still get the struggles of like "my chest doesn't look flat enough" even with my binder and it does really frustrate me, especially on hot days when i can't wear a baggy jumper or hoodie to hide that, and when i wear my skirt about sometimes i get misgendered because of it and it makes me physically cringe knowing how people automatically stereotype the clothing people wear without taking anything into consideration about it
The thing the first person said hit home lol... when I realized how many people are just seeing me as being a woman but with a little spice/need for attention... it upsets me a lot. Like that's not who I am, I'm a non binary human why is that so hard to grasp? People are not just what you see on the outside and assume about them
(it was also spoken about in the netflix series sex education and when it came up it straight up made me cry damn)
Sameee, also for me it's like people seem to make afab non binary people a meme or "following a trend"
@@mcr_ratboi and at the same time amab non binary folks are treated like they don't exist or are predatory... kinda funny how society even shoves us into binary boxes when discriminating us ;-;
@@erdbar718 exactly, society just loves putting labels and stereotypes on everything
It's hard to grasp because it does not exist outside of your head. You are a human and a woman, with obviously your own unique identity that you may label in any way you want.
@@jbird4478 I get that but I'm not a woman buddy. Being a woman or a man would involve gender and my gender is not female. I do understand that people put me in the wrong box when seeing me ...but to give you an analogy... names. Everyone has a different name and you may see someone and think their name's Jessica and then they tell you their name is actually katharina. Would you just refer to them as Jessica regardless? No of course not. And gender and pronouns should be treated in a similar way imo.
As a non-binary asexual homoromantic I’m preparing for a life full loneliness, cats and plants and I’m okay with that
Oh !☹
Can’t wait to get your vinyl! Just ordered mine online!
Honestly, I think medical transition should be available for under-18s. Pre-puberty, I’d argue just puberty blockers then HRT to go through the right puberty. But if medical transition were more available, I actually think people might feel *less* pressured to transition coz there’s not this massive waitlist/money barrier so there’s less pressure to get onto it asap. If you could walk into your GP tomorrow, and go on HRT no problems, I think it might actually make some ppl take more time to think through what they want coz they could do it no problems yknow so they dont have to go and start the process immediately yknow.
I bought your vinyl the other day and its sooo cool!!
Hii noah thank you so much for posting these videos! They've really helped me and I recently came out to my parents
The fastest I’ve clicked ever
Same
Fr
I’m a cis person and I know I would never fully understand bc I’m not trans but I try to understand as much as I can and I’m always supportive x
And that’s probably all we can ask for
@@felicity1111 you’re welcome I’m always gonna be here supporting y’all
I’d love to see the science (peer reviewed studies) behind using puberty blockers and hormones long term. I’ve heard anti-lgbtq+ people say it’s “bad or bone development and overall health” but I’d like to know the facts.
its potentially bad for bone development if you dont have a dominant hormone (t or e) but if you exercise and look after yourself its majority of the time fine! and ur only on blockers without a dominant hormone for a few years
completely random, buts i love Ivy’s voice, she’s so soft spoken
bro i had someone tryna force me to be genderfluid and not a man like if i say i’m a man, i’m. a. man. period
@Pedro_a_Pedra_Falante 🇵🇹 i guess they preferred me being more of a ‘woman’ then a male. They always asked for nasty pics (ofc i never gave them) now i rlly don’t go into relationships ever and i trust like no one now because that asking for pictures stuff always has happened plus i lost rlly just feeling romantic and or sexual toward someone :,)
@Pedro_a_Pedra_Falante 🇵🇹 fr also sucks when u can be gullible but i also knew that’s something i didn’t wanna be but i wouldn’t ever yell at them i’d just get scared or uncomfortable
I’m cis & love watching your videos. You and Jamie have taught me SO much! I love you guys ❤️
On the T4T vs willingness to date cis, I think both are valid. Personally, I'm pan, so that part doesn't matter to me. It's all about the personality. But I completely understand why some people would feel "burned" by previous experiences and be uncomfortable taking a chance on that again.
All of the sweet comments to Noah and I'm just over here giving him my good vibes D: you guys are so groovy have a good day everyoooone
I'm non-binary and one of my best friends is cis but I would say she does understand my experience but cuz of weird round about circumstances.
So she's really small, she's like 5 foot nothin, weighs maybe like 95 pounds soaking wet, like *little little* and she's also got a few auto immune conditions and meds she's in for them. Between the conditions and the meds, she can't really gain weight easily and there's been times where her health would decline to a point where she'd lose some weight and be struggling to get it back. Because she is so small already, she has a smaller chest, and like most afab people, you will lose cup sizes when you lose weight. And she's described to me how she felt during those time frames and how hard it was for her to look in the mirror and how taxing it was on her because she felt so much like she looked like a 12 year old boy and it just felt so wrong and misaligned because she *knows* she's a woman. And I think that's been the closest I've been to feeling like a cis friend really understood that whole vibe. So. Yeah.
It makes me feel so much better when I watch this because then I know I'm not the only one that feels uncomfortable with wearing a outfit everyday and I ask myself "Do I look okay? Is it flat enough? Do I look feminine?"
Because I'm trying to look flat (I don't have a binder) And I'm always trying to look as masculine as possible and that I look good also it's so uncomfortable when I need to wear a dress (my parents are homophobic sadly :d)
As a cis-woman I don't think I experience gender euphoria at all, same with dysphoria. Even in situations my masculine traits are called out or I'm misgendered as an insult, there's no disconnect with my gender so they're just insults.
And the 'would you change it if you could' question, I get it a lot for my disability or certain traumatic events. People often hope for an answer alongs the lines with 'it made me who I am' or 'I'd never met you' but truth is, I'd take that gamble without a second thought. A life without the limitations and pain of my disability sounds great and I'd meet different people, probably equally wonderful just different and I'd still rise up to life's challenges as needed. Doesn't mean I'm ashamed of my disability or haven't learned to live my best life with it, but road of least resistance all the way.
hey noah, i’ve recently started my transition a year ago and i just want to say thank you for always putting out educating content. one of my moms friends introduced me to your channel during the start of my transition, and i’ve watched every single video since. thank you from the bottom of my heart, you help a lot of people ♥️
Surprisingly, my private christian school was very accepting to me, a demiboy and my friend who was a trans girl. They let us use the staff bathroom which is a major help to me because while people are accepting at my school, it is still an extremely toxic place (ED's, toxic people etc) but that one part of them accepting me and my friend was pleasantly surprising but that part doesn't make my religious trauma and trauma given by people who goes there, go away
if you have the ability to see noah live do it!! it’s worth it i promise
As a non-binary, it is very difficult to be accepted, my school really tries but.. it's doesn't always get it right. And I don't exactly present androgynous either, so I can't be them, but it is still upsetting
i'm so glad to see your reaction! a lot of the comments on that video are rough and as a nonbinary teen it really discouraged me, but this makes me feel better :)
The whole “best of both worlds” thing, I say that about myself purely because of how I dress. If your into more femme people, I’m your guy. I don’t put up with people when they call me a girl because I’m not one. I’m just a guy who prefers looking more femme and cute. My boyfriend is also trans but is the complete opposite of me. He doesn’t like to be viewed in the same “cutesy” way. The only reason I would ever “seriously” say I’m the best of both worlds is just because of the way I dress
Omg the changing outfits a million times I feel so much! My brother gets mad at me when I get ready because no one understands why I have to try on a million things
Hello I transitioned in 1976.I was 16 yrs of age.it was a very very different experience and world then.I started on hormones at 16.I think I was lucky.after years of psychiatric abuse as a child to try and so called normalize me. Transitioning didn’t change my life goals it gave me the life and identity I wanted so I could live life and be a happy human.I know that people now aren’t interested in me as an older trans but I have existed far longer than most and have so much I could share.
I totally understand all of these opinions your sharing.life has always been complicated for everyone.that’s the human condition I’m afraid.really great and interesting to watch.your totally open minded.
Wow, just knowing that there is a older trans person out there it really gives me hope so, thank you for that❤
a lot of my opinions are kind of similar, like i'm completely pre-t and i wish i wasn't, because if i'd started hormones younger, then i'd probably be more okay now. and i like dating cis people, but i have a sort of "only date good friends" policy that makes being seen as a boyfriend a lot easier. and being ace, there isn't that added stress of how will sex work oh shit, because it's not something that happens. my school was okay when it came to my coming out. all the teachers accepted it quickly, if they had any questions they would ask, i was moved from the girls only p.e. etc, but the problem was that the kids weren't as good. i got invasive questions, blatant deadnaming, borderline hatecrimed and i would never ever feel safe going to the bathroom - going to the girls means dysphoria, boys means panic attack and or an altercation. worse still, they paraded me as "the trans student", becuase i was the first one to have ever come out to the faculty and asked for ajustments. literally, one time, i performed a poem to the school about black history, and they posted - on their public twitter - "trans student reads inspiring poem about their struggles. we're so proud of them! #diveristy". some beautiful person complained, and they took it down after a day, but it was the sheer audacity that made me so pissed off. they would constantly humiliate me by fucking up my pronouns and then like dramatically apologizing and using it as an opportunity to talk about how much of an ally they are. but the good thing is that because i took all of that smoke, it's so much easier tor trans kids at that school now. my friend's little brother came out last year and he's had so much support and help. in fact, they've done so much more for him. they don't tokenize him either, which is awesome.
i have come out several times as different things. in fact, i had a five-step plan to coming out so that i would be sure that my friends would accept me: cis nb (gray-gender), genderfluid masc genderflux, transmasc nb, and then finally binary trnas guy. it was a process, to say the least. then, i came out as bi as a girl, then bi as nb, then bi as a guy, then gay, then bi again. so that's fun. there was a period of time that i thought that i was a nb lesbian because i found women more attractive than men at one point, but i still liked men, so i went back to bi. it was such a short time that i didn't actually come out. i went though a couple name changes though: a shortening of my deadname, jayce, jaice, jaece, jace, for a minute i was a malcolm, and then a marcus, (i didn't come out with any of those names tho, lmao), then my current name came to me, and boom, baby, here i be.
yeah, my time as a trans teen was... turbulent.
BRO I STARTED WATCHING THIS VIDEO AND LIKE A FEW SECONDS LATER MY MOM TOLD ME I WILL GET THE HORMONES LETS GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOFODODOEOA
OR LIKE TESTOSTERONE OR WHATEVER IN SWEDEN WE CALL IT THAT YEAH BYE NOW
Yay!
@@ohyeahiexist1372 YES
That's great
Wow... This video was more layered and serious than I thought it would be but it was enjoyable and informative. I got to learn more about the lives of Trans people and the thing about being uncomfortable and going through a lot of clothes just to find something that makes you comfortable in your skin and with the insurance for testosterone/estrogen must be such pain like, I wish we could have a petition to make this sort of stuff free or at least at a cheaper rate or that it lasts for longer, or something.
Hey, Noah! I’ve been watching you for a while now, and you were one of the people who first helped me realize the not-so-fine line between insecurity and all that, as opposed to gender dysphoria. I feel so much better, having discovered who I am, and you were a huge part in that, so I’d like to say thank you. Thank you for being an amazing person, thank you for educating the public about what being trans really is, and thank you for being a wonderful role model to the community.
I agree with everything for sure. I wish there were options for me to be on hormone blockers when I was growing up (I'm 45 so... yeah...) I wish I would have been born male so I didn't have to go through all the surgeries I have been through and still want to go through down the road. As for dating cis, not a good experience for me. I've been with my partner for almost 16 years, and transitioned through that time. I'm definitely treated differently now by them in general. No more PDA (dancing in the supermarket aisles to stupid songs over the loudspeakers) Only time I'm mostly supported is when we're alone, and even then if I take off my shirt, they look moderately horrified. They told me once that they "didn't believe in unnecessary surgeries", so I know they don't understand what it's like to be in the wrong body.
Jeez it sounds really hard being with someone who doesn't understand
@@usernameisusernam Yeah, it's like living a double life almost. I'm slowly noticing that I'm falling out of love with them, I feel kinda bad, but I really want a better partner for myself, and I've also told them that they have my blessing to find someone new, I wouldn't be mad or upset because I want them to be happy as well.
@@pmbluemoon honestly, sounds like the relationship is already over
@@usernameisusernam I'd say for around 5 years now yup. It's more of a "you're still around so I'll be your friend" type of relationship at this point, sad to say.
I am happy to see a jubilee video where everyone is respectful towards eachother. I really liked the video Noah :)
hrt waiting lists for teens on the nhs are like 5 years for the first appointment.. bills going up and the lack of money many trans kids like me have access to means that we will probably be over 20 before we get hormones :( idek how to feel anything but exhausted for the next few years tbh
Hi Noah:) I just wanted to say thank you because you were a big help in my realizing that i’m trans. It really helps that you and a lot of other people in your comments can understand me.
8:16 i just graduated high school this year, for my senior year i moved to a different school. All throughout my senior year i wore my punk battle jacket with handmade patches, "power to the people" "protect trans youth" to name a few. i was always openly trans and corrected my teachers when they made a mistake on my pronouns, as well as open about me being autistic. Even became the GSA dad figure. All through out that year i didn't care about some of the transphobic and homophobic comments i got for one simple reason, seeing the look of hope the underclassmen had and growing courage for them to be themselves too. During lunches i would let the underclassmen talk about their frustrations and their struggles with their identity and it really helped them having someone who went through the same experience as them to talk too.
I worked with a lot of the teachers and social workers being a voice and helping them figure out how they can support lgbtq+ students as well as how they can their lessons more autistic friendly by giving them resources and my personal experience. I feel like it only takes one openly proud person to get the ball rolling for others to be unapologetically themselves as well.
I'm 15 and a trans guy. But i dont want surgery, not right now at least..i am so lucky to not have horrible chest dysphoria but i understand some people do. To All the trans teens out there like me, im here for you... i'm willing to talk to you, im a rookie.. i barely know what i'm talking about. but i do know that right now in this media being a trans teen is scary. im here for everyone :) - Luca
The school question was interesting. I was homeschooled until college, but when I started college I was fully out as nonbinary, I wasn't closeted at school at any point. I haven't had a terrible experience, though the mileage varies on whether people totally get my pronouns and gender (I use they/them). Perhaps if I had more time to interact with people in person (many of my classes have been online thanks to Covid) I would run into more blatant transphobia, but so far I've only ever experienced mild problems with that at school. It helps that I met teachers early on who were involved with LGBTQ+ acceptance groups on campus.
Hi Noah I hope you're doing well! Sending hugs and good vibes my man 🫂
As a trans teen myself i can completely relate, i'm 15 and i have thought about this for a very long time and i am definitely ready to transition i have many plans to do so, even my sister chooses not to go by my he/him pronouns, it's terrible honestly
To who ever See's this comment, I just want to remind you that you can get through what ever sh*t in your life you're going through! ❤️ Depression doesn't go away, but you learn to live with it, and i know that you are strong enough to get through it and live with it!! ❤️ Just Remember that you're Loved!
When I was a kid, I hated dressing girly, but I also hated being called a boy when my parents cut my hair super short. At the time I know I wouldn't know what gender I was if all the spectrum of genders were taught, even if I was able to transition. I think having the hormone blockers would have been nice, but due to my weird brain wiring it may have either delayed my epilepsy, but I probably would have felt more comfortable as nonbinary that way, and helped me figure out how I feel comfortable much sooner than age 25. Just learning about the ability to change your physical attributes would be helpful, kind of like how the fact that I knew other belief systems were out there helped me to know I wasn't trapped forever in the one that made me feel like dying every day.
I am a trans teen and I came out about a year ago I think. I always feel really invalid because a lot of trans people tend to say "I didn't just wake up and go 'guess I'm trans now'." I had always when I was younger thought about how it would've been if I was born a boy instead, but I don’t think it ever was 'I want to be a boy' and suddenly one day something just clicked for some reason and it took a few days to think about it but suddenly I was trying he/him pronouns and coming out to people. I always second guess myself, asking if I'm just faking it, or if I'm actually feeling this way. At this point I don't know. I have binders, most people know and respect my pronouns, but even though this feels so right I still can't tell. I always have to sit down and think 'this would be so much easier on my parents if I just stopped' or 'If I am just faking this I've wasted so much of other people's time with my dumb crap' I don't know what to do anymore and I just feel like I'm making it all up.
I feel like that all the time (except I'm not out yet) what helps me is remembering all of the signs in my childhood and how I feel about my gender and body vs. How cis people usually feel. Then I know there's no way I'm cis
Fun fact: trans teens backwards is sneet snart
I love that
My opinion on the 2nd question (as a trans teen) is that if you're fully grown then sure, go for it. I'm unsure as to whether medically transitioning (surgery wise) before you're fully grown will cause issues or not. I stopped growing when I was 12 so that wouldn't be an issue for me lol
Edit: I've wanted top surgery since I was 10 and I have no plan to take testosterone (I do plan to train my voice to be deeper though)
5:00 I’m around that age, and it’s not really relevant, but I’ve been recently referred to a doctor who can help me start testosterone! It might be months or years, but I’m very excited
I came out as trans in school in 1984. I started wearing makeup and girls clothes to school in 83' in the 8th grade. It was not a fun time for me in school back then. I was asked to drop out in the 9th grade, and then was banned from all schools in Houston, Tx over my refusal to conform.
this was interesting watching bc within the last year I've realized that I'm trans. I'm still figuring out a label but one of the things I find interesting is that my girlfriend and I started dating like a year before I realized. she's a trans girl so its been amazing dating someone who understands and who I can talk about it with and not be scared or nervous or anything. she's part of the reason that I've realized I'm trans and I'm so thankful for it. I wouldn't be where i am because she's the one who I can talk about it with. She realized she was trans a long time ago so its been helpful dating someone who is further into their experience with knowing that they're trans. she's kind of helped me to understand myself better and has never made me feel bad or anything. so even though we weren't intentionally T4T, I'm honestly rlly thankful we are because I wouldn't be where I am without her :))
Just a reminder lesbian means nmlnm(non men loving non men) and as a lesbian I have dated a non binary person
I can't fully understand what it's like to be trans, but I've definitely experienced "mirror dysphoria"[1] in the past, so I link gender dysphoria as another form of that.
{Straight Ally}
[1] IDK if this is an actual term or not, because I just made it up, but by "mirror dysphoria" I mean "the feeling you get when you look in the mirror and hate the person looking back at you"
I am the best of both worlds. Unfortunately for y’all I’m ace, so the door is locked.
I came out at gay when I was 13 but like noah i was in a Catholic boarding (co-ed). I was bullied by students and staff (not trans related) so when I came out to one of the house staff i was severely upset and angry that my feelings were dismissed and played down. The house parent said that "it's a phase". "you're just attention seeking". " its just a spur of the moment thought because we had this LGBT discussion, you'll get over it". Etc. It was the one and only LGBT talk I had ever had the three years I was there. Luckily my mum was accepting but i wasn't sure and was insecure so I carried on hiding my feelings while secretly watching trans TH-cam videos or making friends on other platforms. Then when I was 16/17 i came out to a friend and her girlfriend, also my mums friend who is one of the ladies dad. They took it well. It wasn't until I was 18 that I came out as transgender to my mum, sister and then later on to the rear of the family. Most took it well, though its taken time to get used to it all. Misgendering still happens but that's because I have had multiple names for personal confidential reasons. Also born in a small village so everyone only knew me by my birth name. As an older individual mentally I've learnt to just let it go and enjoy life _ my family that I'm lucky to have. They are slowly but surely getting better with it all and more understanding. I also came out as gay but 1-2 years ago I came out as pansexual and polygamous. (i am fine with monogamy or poly depending on the person(s))). Lol. I'm 25 now. Still single but I'm striving to persue my dream job while working and adulting lol. Also looking to apply for university and maybe start travelling across the globe. Lastly, I'm awaiting my top surgery but not going for bottom surgery. On nebido now, switched from sustonan. Xx
Everything these teens have said is very true. I'm not trans but I have a lot of friends who are and most of them also agree with having kids take hormone blockers but wait until they're adults to decide to fully transition. There is always a chance the kid has been trans and known for years, but there are also so many experiencing body dysmorphia and other similar things based on something other than being trans and they should have the time to carefully consider and really make sure it's what they want.
As for dating cis people - I've found that at my uni, my trans friends who do date cis people there usually date either big allies or other queer people who do understand the trans experience to some degree and are always respectful of pronouns and such. We love learning from each other at my Uni so we have a "Queer Peers" club where we host get together, watch queer films and ask each other questions and learn from/about each other. It's all about creating an environment of acceptance that will help young people make these kinds of decisions by talking to and learning from other trans/NB/queer people. I wish we had more programs that allow young kids to ask people who have gone through the process to learn from their experience and make more informed decisions.
Loved the video, good luck with your
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I know you probably wont see this Noah, but i have to say- Thank you Lgbtq youtubers, I really dont think i would be who i am comfortably without the influence of these people making these videos. And at my school too! There are so many people able to live happily as who they really are in my school.
BABE WAKE UP A NEW NOAH VIDEO JUST DROPPED !!
i actually started HRT at 12 years old, but i also had the privilege of socially transitioning at 6 so I’d had plenty of time to be sure of my identity. as long as teens have been given plenty of time to think about it and be sure that starting hrt is right for them, at the end of the day, they know themselves best
hi noah, i love your vids
I have come out (in the sense of different labels) at least 5 times and going on 6 when i tell someone im demiromantic
Imagine also living in Florida now - some teens have their preferred pronouns and name ILLEGAL. I need out of here ngl, thank you for representing! ❤❤❤