I've been working on mastering this skill for years now. If I sense myself getting upset I take a deep breath, say nothing, and think about the situation thoroughly,.
I have been suffering from a traumatic experience which causes me to almost often fly in a fit of rage with even the slightest irritation. Through therapy though, I learned to master this. When I am truly upset, I take a deep breath and take myself out of the situation that angers me, when I can. It was not easy at first and it took me 3 years to master it. Sometimes I still fly off the handle but more often than not I remain calm
2:27 What has worked for me is to start pausing before talking even in normal circumstances, so it becomes routine and thus more likely to happen when I am emotionally agitated.
This message is so powerful and important! As a therapist and combat veteran, I've seen firsthand how critical it is to develop the skills of metacognition and emotional regulation. It's not just about reacting to our emotions but understanding them and making conscious decisions about how we respond. This ability to pause, reflect, and manage emotions is something I work on with my clients every day, especially veterans dealing with trauma and PTSD. The techniques shared in this video resonate deeply with the work I do, and it's a reminder that emotional regulation is a skill we can all practice and improve. If anyone's interested, I've been creating content to support veterans and anyone struggling with trauma, PTSD, and related issues on my channel, Empowerment Psychology. Keep up the great work-this is the kind of knowledge that truly helps people lead happier lives!
@@adiatkhan9649 If you dont learn how to express what you feel, how is that supposed to equate to Emotional Intelligence? Guy is saying "no! override your emotions or suppress them, dont express them just use your intellect to decide what should be said and when".
@@Corteum so ur saying I should act out on my rage? Or after breakup, if I'm having anxiety, I should stand outside my ex's home or text her? Which I shouldn't as these are emotional thoughts which I shouldn't act on rationally. So the guy is right
@@adiatkhan9649 Is that what psychology is telling us we should do with our emotions? Just express them however or whenver? I dont think that's the way to proceed, and it's certainly not what im suggesting. There are ways to express and manage emotions appropriately. Look into it and see.
This is it, brilliant and explained in a beautiful simple way, like a a good professor, mentor should do. Using pauses when you communicate, especially when you are disagreeing, helps you not to counter attack, instead, helping to get to a common place. Thank you as allways Big Think ❤
When I made a presentation titled ‘Storytelling and Meaningmaking’ for a conference at Stanford University in 2018, I reflected the previous 20 years of neuroscience, which this presenter doesn’t seem to be aware of! The essence of metacognition has been around for thousands of years. It boils down to suppressing our emotions ISO absolute logic. But neuroscientists like VS Ramachandran have made it clear that emotions have an evolutionary purpose. In a nutshell, they help us to feel what’s important in our lives in terms of those around us and our place on the planet. Daniel Kahneman also did a beautiful job of summarizing these ideas in his book Thinking Fast and Slow. This sort of advice has fostered a zero-sum game where the only way to get by is to beat the other person rather than to work with them in a way that could create a win-win solution. I’m startled that the Templeton foundation can’t do better than this! (I do like his socks, though)
Having to explain this sence of understanding in this manner makes it more understandable and a realistic approach, personally this practical habit takes a while to master but I will definitely get there.
I habitually do this. I didn't know it was a technique. I also have a tendency to be introspective. I tend to evaluate my feelings and situations at the end of the day. It helps me navigate life.
Meditation is awesome for building that skill. It really creates a window between feeling and action in which you can consciously think about it and reach the best possible reaction
It's something that was known about millenia ago. In the Shiva Sutras for example (a spiritual text from ancient Indian-Vedic tradition), 'awareness of awareness' is referred to as "Shambhavopaya". Most people arent aware that theyre aware. Theyre mostly only aware of what's sensed or thought or felt.
The difference of emotions and feelings. One is knowing and one is having. Taking the time to meditate to know our emotions. Know that we are having emotions. When you feel your emotions, you can become more aware and more keen about them. Feeling and knowing our emotions can hopefully help us work with them.
This is one of the or i would say THE MOST IMPORTANT LIFE SKILL! I had completely ruined my life not doing this and after learning it the hard way my life is more peaceful now! It literally decides the quality of your life! And doing critical thinking in metacognition opens even more doors!
Yes, I agree. My emotions are also often dumb and useless. It's hard to intercept them. In rare cases i find it useful to let them flow, but in most cases it leads only to disasters. Emotions doesnt contain any truth. The are only Interpretation results for me.
I have a little hack to calm myself down by looking at myself in a mirror when I feel distressed…. It kinda rewires my brain to be more aware of how I look like and what action i’m going to take
It's crazy how many people in this comment section do not realize what this is about. Reacting to your negative emotions usually leads to negative outcomes, such as big fights between couples or road rage. He isn't saying that you should become a robot and not have any emotions at all. He says you should analyze your emotions and ensure they don't harm your life and those around you.
I've been working on mastering this skill for years now. If I sense myself getting upset I take a deep breath, say nothing, and think about the situation thoroughly,.
This is good advice, generally. Doesn't address though what to do when the words that come are nothing but a scream, or nothing at all. Not faulting them just... Not the whole picture of course.
For those of us who tend to intellectualize our emotions instead of letting its energy flow in and out of our system, how do we cultivate discernment for when to lean into the metacognition versus feeling the feelings physiologically and not yet moving into the prefrontal cortex? Emotions could often happen without warning, and it’s a real process we have to flow through and return to homeostasis through perspective, but I also want to make sense of how to learn when it’s beneficial to be with the feelings too.
The problem with this, (in my experience) is that your loved ones will learn to evaluate ever more subtle reactions as indicators of your emotional state. If I let out a disapproving sigh, that can be received as ' I'm really mad'.
This right here is the root of the Stoic philosophy. Amazing what the ancients knew long before we coined modern scientific phrases for it using biology and physiology rather than logic and superficial observation.
@@louisguerin9929 Write Arthur Brooks on TH-cam and sort by view count, watch the ones with the highest views, the more you watch the more you'll realise he repeats what he says soo much but his older videos he wasn't as well articulated
The field of neuroscience has grown a lot in the past few decades. I read Sapolsky's book "Behave". Took awhile (big book) but it really expanded my understanding of human behavior. At this point I can see how much of our behavior is biochemical. Psychology describes the "effects" while neuroscience explains the "cause". And interestingly, is proving a lot of Buddhist understanding of the human mind was pretty right on. Just couched in words that are hard to understand at first. 😎
@@searchforserenity8058 That is probably worth the read. I only took basic psychology and biology in college, but diving into these things makes me feel like I understand my family and my self better. I have some littles and though I love my old school parents tremendously, they did not have access to what we’ve learned since they were in high school and I believe sharing this knowledge would set my kids might help give them perspective their progenitors lacked.
As someone who is a practicing Wiccan, I have had situations where I've gotten so angry with people that I've wanted to put a curse to cause them harm for all of the distress and anger they have caused me. No matter how angry I have gotten though, I always know to "wait it out" because the karma I would receive from using magick like that would probably cause greater negative consequences for me in the long run.
Stop… think…. Act…. Review… Primary grade instruction to regulate impulsive behaviors. I like counting to 30. And breathe, breathing is life. 1st grade teacher/retired❤
Negative emotions? Emotions aren’t negative or positive; some emotions feel good others are uncomfortable. They are just information. Having said that a lot of people have negative behaviors based on an uncomfortable emotion.
There is this video, right here on YT, this very one, that has a guy giving an explanation. And then there are all these random people saying nearly exactly what he is saying, but in their own comments…as if the guy in the video hadn’t said anything at all…it’s all about them.
🤨Sure, let’s imagine a scenario where Dr. Smith, a psychologist who is a master of metacognition, is explaining the concept to Alex, a psychology student who is eager to learn. --- **Dr. Smith:** "Alex, metacognition is like having a bird's-eye view of your own mind. It’s about being aware of how you think and learning to control it. Let me give you an example. When I was in graduate school, I used to struggle with complex theories. So, I developed a routine to help me master them." **Alex:** "That sounds interesting! What did you do?" **Dr. Smith:** "First, I would plan my study sessions. I’d set specific goals, like understanding a particular theory or concept. Then, as I studied, I’d constantly ask myself questions to monitor my understanding. For instance, 'Do I really get this idea?' or 'Can I explain this in my own words?'" **Alex:** "That makes sense. So, it’s about being actively engaged with the material." **Dr. Smith:** "Exactly. And after each study session, I’d evaluate my progress. I’d ask myself what I learned, what I still found confusing, and what strategies worked best for me. This reflection helped me adjust my approach for the next session." **Alex:** "I see. So, it’s a continuous cycle of planning, monitoring, and evaluating." **Dr. Smith:** "Yes, and over time, this practice becomes second nature. You become more efficient in your learning and better at tackling new challenges. It’s a powerful tool not just for studying, but for any problem-solving situation." **Alex:** "Thank you, Dr. Smith. I’ll start incorporating these techniques into my own study routine." **Dr. Smith:** "Great! Remember, it’s all about being mindful of your thinking process and continuously improving it. You’ll see significant benefits as you practice." --- This example shows how an expert in metacognition might guide someone in developing these skills through practical steps and personal experience.
Can emotions be negative? What does it even mean that emotion is negative. Emotions are information, they can't be negative, they can only be unpleasant. But something being unpleasant is only an information and doesn't mean that it's inherently negative.
Why don't I have an infinite emotional intelligence with every single living being on this entire planet. Wait a minute why am I limiting myself to just living beings. Why don't I include the entire eco-system of this planet aswell. Wait a minut. Why this planet. Why not the solar-system. Why not the milkyway galaxy. Why not the entire Universe. Why not every single thing possible. And I become it forever. That's true Love. Infinite amazement. You are falling in love with yourself. Now I am really looking in the mirror. Before when I looked at my face in the mirror that wasn't my real face. My real face is this entire singularity of every fucking thing. This is what I am. This is God looking at God. Yeah this is what I am and I Love it. WOW. OMG.
As a Vulcan, I disagree with this message. Emotions are never positive OR negative. We must strive to control them and prevent emotions from influencing our decisions entirely. Live long, and prosper.
Let me calm down before I go in lol. I googled EI just to make sure my conception was correct, and I see that he *is* touching on a part (a very small part) of EI. His discussion isn't encompassing what it's about at all though and at the end of the snippet he makes it clear his intention is that this part supercede the growth with others part that is the most significant aspect. His partial version is being EI like Vulcans are EI, then you'll get along [with me], he says. That shows his lack of EI and his unwillingness to explore the meaning of his own emotions, and willingness to denounce them in others-- including children. This is the SAME OLD invalidation of others that EI was formulated to help narcissists understand. This, as usual, is the undermining of forward thinking and evolution. You see, evolution requires us to come together in peace and harmony, each of us making room/holding space for the next person's FULL EXPRESSION of themselves. 🙏🏽📿 Can you imaging every person on Earth turning out their purpose 🤯🤯🤯 Evolution requires us to organize ourselves in such a way to make that happen. This invalidation and suppression is hindering that possibility. 🙏🏽📿 Peace and Health
I prefer the videos without stock footage and emotional music. But I guess Big Think is trying to up their production value. But you don't put a 50 pound cover on a book to add value.
This is 80% common knowledge background info and the one tip it eventually gives you is "if you get mad, count to 30". Why do TH-cam videos now insist on giving excruciatingly long intros and having zero substance in the main act.
GIMMICKS? Try the use of DE=VICES to sloooow our responses, for meta-cognition? (I have buttons, like SORRY, NO and EASY, and other de-vices. More U More may also help) Also, the use of abbreviated statements, repeated, such as TRY WAIT (from Hawaii) ================================================ TERRIFIC advice TNX MCH
Don't tell others not to have them. That's the opposite of EI. This whole channel is dedicated to undermining progress. You haven't noticed? Emotions are not working against the person having them. They are a truth of the person's experience. Peace and Health
@@seanwebb605 @krohnberg I do think this channel is against progress and Im not the only one. Take a look at others in the comments. Ppl from all walks of life and even experts weighing in, saying this guy is missing 20 years + of knowledge in the field. Take a look 🙏🏽📿 Peace and Health
Ok. So sometimes you want to say something logical but your emotions betray you through your intonation and body language. In that case, guess what people will respond to?
I'll practice the counting to 30 because the hand goes up right after the 10 second mark- ready to hand out free pimp slaps to the repeat offender(s). LOL
While the Quran does not explicitly discuss metacognition as a defined psychological concept, it does promote self-reflection, critical thinking, self-assessment, and cognitive regulation-concepts that are central to metacognition. The Quran encourages believers to be mindful of their thoughts, to reflect on their actions, and to align their cognitive processes with divine guidance. These practices resonate deeply with what is now understood in modern psychology as metacognition. That was almost 1400 years ago from now!
Best of Good emotional is taking yourself to heaven not hell on eternal life because life is one way ticket to bring yourself to heaven not hell on eternal life..i just remind you all that end of time is near prepared with do charity to your goodness in eternal life..
"stop being so limbic, use your prefrontal cortex more" I'm going to start using that
😂😂 same!!!
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I have a lot my own 😂
this😭🤣
I've been working on mastering this skill for years now. If I sense myself getting upset I take a deep breath, say nothing, and think about the situation thoroughly,.
Hmmmmm. Interesting
Does that help?
@@sreyadey2998it sure can. You don't react with anger and will be easier to manage the whole situation entirely
I have been suffering from a traumatic experience which causes me to almost often fly in a fit of rage with even the slightest irritation. Through therapy though, I learned to master this. When I am truly upset, I take a deep breath and take myself out of the situation that angers me, when I can. It was not easy at first and it took me 3 years to master it. Sometimes I still fly off the handle but more often than not I remain calm
I call myself THE Hermetic Master, the tittle is up for challenge to everyone, why not give it a try?🙂👍
2:27 What has worked for me is to start pausing before talking even in normal circumstances, so it becomes routine and thus more likely to happen when I am emotionally agitated.
Decision is the ultimate power. Learn to respond not react. This is especially important for entrepreneurs and business leaders.
Stephen Covey is big on this. Bravo!
This message is so powerful and important! As a therapist and combat veteran, I've seen firsthand how critical it is to develop the skills of metacognition and emotional regulation. It's not just about reacting to our emotions but understanding them and making conscious decisions about how we respond. This ability to pause, reflect, and manage emotions is something I work on with my clients every day, especially veterans dealing with trauma and PTSD.
The techniques shared in this video resonate deeply with the work I do, and it's a reminder that emotional regulation is a skill we can all practice and improve. If anyone's interested, I've been creating content to support veterans and anyone struggling with trauma, PTSD, and related issues on my channel, Empowerment Psychology. Keep up the great work-this is the kind of knowledge that truly helps people lead happier lives!
"Life is a tragedy for those who feel, and a comedy for those who think." - Jean de La Bruyère
They aren’t isolated islands lol
But i know this saying and get some of it
People who feel are the kindest ones and the one who thinks is the one who is coming back
And you will, unfortunatelly, be taken advantage of for having such traits.
Metacognition with mindfulness is enormously powerful
It is, but not when you use it the way this guy describes in this video lol
@@Corteum can u pls elaborate and explain
@@adiatkhan9649 If you dont learn how to express what you feel, how is that supposed to equate to Emotional Intelligence? Guy is saying "no! override your emotions or suppress them, dont express them just use your intellect to decide what should be said and when".
@@Corteum so ur saying I should act out on my rage? Or after breakup, if I'm having anxiety, I should stand outside my ex's home or text her? Which I shouldn't as these are emotional thoughts which I shouldn't act on rationally. So the guy is right
@@adiatkhan9649 Is that what psychology is telling us we should do with our emotions? Just express them however or whenver? I dont think that's the way to proceed, and it's certainly not what im suggesting. There are ways to express and manage emotions appropriately. Look into it and see.
I found that writing does the job of metacognition. It helps you to think about your thinking.
Same for me. And I am often totally surprised war really are the reasons for troubles. Best tool ever! Don't be so limbic...
This is it, brilliant and explained in a beautiful simple way, like a a good professor, mentor should do. Using pauses when you communicate, especially when you are disagreeing, helps you not to counter attack, instead, helping to get to a common place. Thank you as allways Big Think ❤
When I made a presentation titled ‘Storytelling and Meaningmaking’ for a conference at Stanford University in 2018, I reflected the previous 20 years of neuroscience, which this presenter doesn’t seem to be aware of! The essence of metacognition has been around for thousands of years. It boils down to suppressing our emotions ISO absolute logic. But neuroscientists like VS Ramachandran have made it clear that emotions have an evolutionary purpose. In a nutshell, they help us to feel what’s important in our lives in terms of those around us and our place on the planet. Daniel Kahneman also did a beautiful job of summarizing these ideas in his book Thinking Fast and Slow. This sort of advice has fostered a zero-sum game where the only way to get by is to beat the other person rather than to work with them in a way that could create a win-win solution. I’m startled that the Templeton foundation can’t do better than this! (I do like his socks, though)
Having to explain this sence of understanding in this manner makes it more understandable and a realistic approach, personally this practical habit takes a while to master but I will definitely get there.
I habitually do this. I didn't know it was a technique. I also have a tendency to be introspective. I tend to evaluate my feelings and situations at the end of the day. It helps me navigate life.
Meditation is awesome for building that skill. It really creates a window between feeling and action in which you can consciously think about it and reach the best possible reaction
,,,,awareness of being aware,,,,oh the joy of being human,,,,,
It's something that was known about millenia ago. In the Shiva Sutras for example (a spiritual text from ancient Indian-Vedic tradition), 'awareness of awareness' is referred to as "Shambhavopaya".
Most people arent aware that theyre aware. Theyre mostly only aware of what's sensed or thought or felt.
Amazing isn’t it? That we have been thinking about this through spiritual practice for millennia.
Fascinating yet, greatest curse of our species.
He who can control all his emotions and limbic system, has superpower.
The difference of emotions and feelings.
One is knowing and one is having.
Taking the time to meditate to know our emotions. Know that we are having emotions.
When you feel your emotions, you can become more aware and more keen about them.
Feeling and knowing our emotions can hopefully help us work with them.
Can’t explain my appreciation to your channel and your content ❤
Thank you so much for your effort.
This is one of the or i would say THE MOST IMPORTANT LIFE SKILL! I had completely ruined my life not doing this and after learning it the hard way my life is more peaceful now! It literally decides the quality of your life! And doing critical thinking in metacognition opens even more doors!
It's same like
"Too much sense can blow your mind"
Thanks for sharing such useful knowledge. Please consider doing a longer video explaining more ways to master metacognition.
Yes, I agree. My emotions are also often dumb and useless. It's hard to intercept them. In rare cases i find it useful to let them flow, but in most cases it leads only to disasters. Emotions doesnt contain any truth. The are only Interpretation results for me.
I have a little hack to calm myself down by looking at myself in a mirror when I feel distressed…. It kinda rewires my brain to be more aware of how I look like and what action i’m going to take
‘Metacognition is like prefrontal cortex watching your limbic brain’ 💯
It's crazy how many people in this comment section do not realize what this is about.
Reacting to your negative emotions usually leads to negative outcomes, such as big fights between couples or road rage.
He isn't saying that you should become a robot and not have any emotions at all. He says you should analyze your emotions and ensure they don't harm your life and those around you.
Exactly.
I've been working on mastering this skill for years now. If I sense myself getting upset I take a deep breath, say nothing, and think about the situation thoroughly,.
I needed those words to hear.. I'm going through tough phase.. thank you so much
TH-cam's automatic translation helped me understand this video, and I am an Arab who does not know English.
This is good advice, generally.
Doesn't address though what to do when the words that come are nothing but a scream, or nothing at all. Not faulting them just... Not the whole picture of course.
For those of us who tend to intellectualize our emotions instead of letting its energy flow in and out of our system, how do we cultivate discernment for when to lean into the metacognition versus feeling the feelings physiologically and not yet moving into the prefrontal cortex? Emotions could often happen without warning, and it’s a real process we have to flow through and return to homeostasis through perspective, but I also want to make sense of how to learn when it’s beneficial to be with the feelings too.
Best three minutes I will spend today.
we can't control our emotions, but we can train ourselves to do so with a lot of practices
This is great... Thank you!
Great Advice. Very nice.
" I think therefore I am " 🧠
The problem with this, (in my experience) is that your loved ones will learn to evaluate ever more subtle reactions as indicators of your emotional state. If I let out a disapproving sigh, that can be received as ' I'm really mad'.
This right here is the root of the Stoic philosophy. Amazing what the ancients knew long before we coined modern scientific phrases for it using biology and physiology rather than logic and superficial observation.
Excellent insights 👏👏
I was waiting for them to share those metacognition techniques 😢
Thank you 😊
0:50 "Awareness of Awareness"
At this point i have watched every single Interview and Podcast that has Brooks on it 😂😂😂
Which one would you recommend watching the most ?
@@louisguerin9929 Write Arthur Brooks on TH-cam and sort by view count, watch the ones with the highest views, the more you watch the more you'll realise he repeats what he says soo much but his older videos he wasn't as well articulated
Thank you🧠👁️🙌✨👏🏼👏🏽👏🏽
And when we boost it up with exercise its cheery on top.
I LOVE his socks!
I don’t know why it took me so long to learn that emotions come from the limbic system, and how that process looks. Wild.
Yet you still aren't aware of your own thoughts
@@Joker-eg6ozassumptive?
The field of neuroscience has grown a lot in the past few decades. I read Sapolsky's book "Behave". Took awhile (big book) but it really expanded my understanding of human behavior. At this point I can see how much of our behavior is biochemical. Psychology describes the "effects" while neuroscience explains the "cause". And interestingly, is proving a lot of Buddhist understanding of the human mind was pretty right on. Just couched in words that are hard to understand at first. 😎
@@searchforserenity8058 That is probably worth the read. I only took basic psychology and biology in college, but diving into these things makes me feel like I understand my family and my self better. I have some littles and though I love my old school parents tremendously, they did not have access to what we’ve learned since they were in high school and I believe sharing this knowledge would set my kids might help give them perspective their progenitors lacked.
As someone who is a practicing Wiccan, I have had situations where I've gotten so angry with people that I've wanted to put a curse to cause them harm for all of the distress and anger they have caused me.
No matter how angry I have gotten though, I always know to "wait it out" because the karma I would receive from using magick like that would probably cause greater negative consequences for me in the long run.
Stop… think…. Act…. Review…
Primary grade instruction to regulate impulsive behaviors.
I like counting to 30.
And breathe, breathing is life.
1st grade teacher/retired❤
Thank you. Super well explained.
Next time I argue with my husband, I am going to stay quiet for 30 seconds and let my prefrontal cortex do the talking 😂
Decrease desire.
I think about thinking
"cease your LIMBIC behavior, Child! Or i shall smite thee into self-regulation!"
Negative emotions? Emotions aren’t negative or positive; some emotions feel good others are uncomfortable. They are just information.
Having said that a lot of people have negative behaviors based on an uncomfortable emotion.
Metacognition = Meditate.
Sending this to every woman I know
Emotions aren’t dumb
There is this video, right here on YT, this very one, that has a guy giving an explanation. And then there are all these random people saying nearly exactly what he is saying, but in their own comments…as if the guy in the video hadn’t said anything at all…it’s all about them.
how would I practice it in daily life?
I just picture a parent irritatedly telling his screaming kid "oh please stop being so limbic" and it gave me the greatest laugh
🤨Sure, let’s imagine a scenario where Dr. Smith, a psychologist who is a master of metacognition, is explaining the concept to Alex, a psychology student who is eager to learn.
---
**Dr. Smith:** "Alex, metacognition is like having a bird's-eye view of your own mind. It’s about being aware of how you think and learning to control it. Let me give you an example. When I was in graduate school, I used to struggle with complex theories. So, I developed a routine to help me master them."
**Alex:** "That sounds interesting! What did you do?"
**Dr. Smith:** "First, I would plan my study sessions. I’d set specific goals, like understanding a particular theory or concept. Then, as I studied, I’d constantly ask myself questions to monitor my understanding. For instance, 'Do I really get this idea?' or 'Can I explain this in my own words?'"
**Alex:** "That makes sense. So, it’s about being actively engaged with the material."
**Dr. Smith:** "Exactly. And after each study session, I’d evaluate my progress. I’d ask myself what I learned, what I still found confusing, and what strategies worked best for me. This reflection helped me adjust my approach for the next session."
**Alex:** "I see. So, it’s a continuous cycle of planning, monitoring, and evaluating."
**Dr. Smith:** "Yes, and over time, this practice becomes second nature. You become more efficient in your learning and better at tackling new challenges. It’s a powerful tool not just for studying, but for any problem-solving situation."
**Alex:** "Thank you, Dr. Smith. I’ll start incorporating these techniques into my own study routine."
**Dr. Smith:** "Great! Remember, it’s all about being mindful of your thinking process and continuously improving it. You’ll see significant benefits as you practice."
---
This example shows how an expert in metacognition might guide someone in developing these skills through practical steps and personal experience.
You can use this technique the next time you have road rage.
practice = aka, meditation
Easy to explain but so difficult to master.....
❤❤❤❤
Can we talk about this guys socks?!
Yes.
I dunno whats going on. I noticed james comey with crazy socks too, and a bunch of dudes wear shoes & no socks. I don't get it
How to find more
Tips
Can emotions be negative? What does it even mean that emotion is negative. Emotions are information, they can't be negative, they can only be unpleasant. But something being unpleasant is only an information and doesn't mean that it's inherently negative.
Why don't I have an infinite emotional intelligence with every single living being on this entire planet. Wait a minute why am I limiting myself to just living beings. Why don't I include the entire eco-system of this planet aswell. Wait a minut. Why this planet. Why not the solar-system. Why not the milkyway galaxy. Why not the entire Universe. Why not every single thing possible. And I become it forever. That's true Love. Infinite amazement. You are falling in love with yourself. Now I am really looking in the mirror. Before when I looked at my face in the mirror that wasn't my real face. My real face is this entire singularity of every fucking thing. This is what I am. This is God looking at God. Yeah this is what I am and I Love it. WOW. OMG.
The people who build educational systems must bother about adding this to school programs
Is there just one technique which was stated or have I missed something ?
As a Vulcan, I disagree with this message. Emotions are never positive OR negative. We must strive to control them and prevent emotions from influencing our decisions entirely. Live long, and prosper.
Stoics knew.
Let me calm down before I go in lol. I googled EI just to make sure my conception was correct, and I see that he *is* touching on a part (a very small part) of EI. His discussion isn't encompassing what it's about at all though and at the end of the snippet he makes it clear his intention is that this part supercede the growth with others part that is the most significant aspect. His partial version is being EI like Vulcans are EI, then you'll get along [with me], he says. That shows his lack of EI and his unwillingness to explore the meaning of his own emotions, and willingness to denounce them in others-- including children. This is the SAME OLD invalidation of others that EI was formulated to help narcissists understand. This, as usual, is the undermining of forward thinking and evolution. You see, evolution requires us to come together in peace and harmony, each of us making room/holding space for the next person's FULL EXPRESSION of themselves. 🙏🏽📿 Can you imaging every person on Earth turning out their purpose 🤯🤯🤯 Evolution requires us to organize ourselves in such a way to make that happen. This invalidation and suppression is hindering that possibility. 🙏🏽📿 Peace and Health
How will you know you'll be happier if you'll have mastered the art of controlling your emotions?
that was fast
I prefer the videos without stock footage and emotional music. But I guess Big Think is trying to up their production value. But you don't put a 50 pound cover on a book to add value.
"what if one day, you find out you're not an emotional being"
I shared this vid with my ex and she yelled at me 🤣
Where’s the rest of it? It feels like the video ended with the intro..
This is 80% common knowledge background info and the one tip it eventually gives you is "if you get mad, count to 30". Why do TH-cam videos now insist on giving excruciatingly long intros and having zero substance in the main act.
Why is the audio crap?
"My/your/his/her/their/our own" is redundant.
GIMMICKS? Try the use of DE=VICES to sloooow our responses, for meta-cognition?
(I have buttons, like SORRY, NO and EASY, and other de-vices. More U More may also help)
Also, the use of abbreviated statements, repeated, such as TRY WAIT (from Hawaii)
================================================ TERRIFIC advice TNX MCH
TNX MCH
Attack on Titan vibes from the thumbnail..
DON'T TELL ME THAT I'M NOT IN CONTROL OF MY EMOTIONS!!!!!!
Don't tell others not to have them. That's the opposite of EI. This whole channel is dedicated to undermining progress. You haven't noticed? Emotions are not working against the person having them. They are a truth of the person's experience. Peace and Health
@@b.l.a.c.k-shiva You think they are against progress?
@@b.l.a.c.k-shiva Crazy propaganda you're spewing my man
@@seanwebb605 @krohnberg I do think this channel is against progress and Im not the only one. Take a look at others in the comments. Ppl from all walks of life and even experts weighing in, saying this guy is missing 20 years + of knowledge in the field. Take a look 🙏🏽📿 Peace and Health
Ok. So sometimes you want to say something logical but your emotions betray you through your intonation and body language. In that case, guess what people will respond to?
Either operate metacognitively or not at all.
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Just show your kid this video 😂
I think my people, the Italians, probably don't have any connective tissue between their limbic system and their pre-frontal cortex.
I'll practice the counting to 30 because the hand goes up right after the 10 second mark- ready to hand out free pimp slaps to the repeat offender(s). LOL
Why?
The Chimp Paradox, that's all i'm going to say
1st like and comment...🎉
This video is way to short
While the Quran does not explicitly discuss metacognition as a defined psychological concept, it does promote self-reflection, critical thinking, self-assessment, and cognitive regulation-concepts that are central to metacognition. The Quran encourages believers to be mindful of their thoughts, to reflect on their actions, and to align their cognitive processes with divine guidance. These practices resonate deeply with what is now understood in modern psychology as metacognition. That was almost 1400 years ago from now!
Okay but how to send this to your ex without sending it to your ex?
Re-upload
As a psychologist, I can attest that this guy is 90% mumbo-jumbo.
And thats why the neuro kids make fun of the psych kids for being slow
Best of Good emotional is taking yourself to heaven not hell on eternal life because life is one way ticket to bring yourself to heaven not hell on eternal life..i just remind you all that end of time is near prepared with do charity to your goodness in eternal life..
Isnt this essentially the British Keep a stiff upper lip.
Not always a good thing.