An animated interview with with Kate from Autism and ADHD, in which a boiling kettle metaphor is used to describe the process of meltdown, and how to prevent it
Thank you for perfectly describing the evil side of me that can come out, whilst the rest of me looks on in horror. Thank you for showing me I'm not alone.
New to PDA and still trying to figure out where I am in it. The meltdown descriptions were so on target, thanks! The devil has access to my knowledge of loved ones is absolutely right. I am just figuring out that the bulk of my meltdowns used to the implosion type Tony Attwood talks of, but the devil has been taking over. It is the very worst thing, not least because it can happen to neurotypical people to some degree, which made it hard to realize it was a meltdown. Still feels like I am somehow choosing to be a terrible person or making excuses for myself.
Amazing video, explains exactly what my son goes through, thank you so much. I just wish other people could watch this and appreciate what we all go through, and we can do nothing to help. Thank you so much.
@@SallyCat123 Thank you for this video. I have been watching many of your videos and your poster is really helpful - it simplifies the meltodowns my eldest daughter has but she remains unapologetic so we can never move on from shockingly wicked things that are said and her objectional attitutde... sadly its either quietly objectional, verbally objectional, indifferent, pleasant, joyous or meltdown objectional (which I now understand better) but it is really the inbetween that is hard to accept as if feels like she dislikes her entire family never says sorry and constantly critical. Can you do a video on what to expect as I feel like I am walking on egg shells, so does grandma and so does her younger sister .. its exhausting for us and it must be exhausting for her but I feel like I am going round in circles - she refuses to have a diagnosis and I think without it we will remain to her the causes of her behaviour :( I love her dearly but dislike her behaviour immensely ..
I can relate to this in some ways. I'm sorry you are also going through this and wish you and your family all the best. Sending strength and love your way @@mcnlimited266
This describes my son, my husband, me. My father, every ex I've ever had. How does one access this quiet time? And how does one help the cooled down kettle learn that they need to repair? Because apparently most of us are really shitty at that part.
I live in the U.S. I've had epilepsy for a long time. If you call seizures 'fits' over here, no one will appreciate or understand it, FYI. I appreciate the video.
It's not funny when they kick the tv through a 100 year old plate glass window because they have a melt down over reaching a milestone on a timeline on a project they instigated but can't perform because of their PDA.
When the demon is gone, when the kettle is cold, does the rational moral person who had watched on in horror say sorry to the person they have verbally and maybe physically damaged?
It would depend on a lot. We might do, but we might feel so ashamed and traumatised over what we'd done taht we can't face this? This wouldn't necessarily mean that we don't feel guilt. I might simply be that we can't express it. I think it's important to bear in mind that PDA meltdowns are never within our own control.
My entire life ... makes sense.
I have to prepare myself to act, act, then recover from acting.
I've only recently found out about PDA and it explains so much about me and my son. Such a relief to understand it better! Thank you
Unpressured peace is needed.
Exactly.
Most relatable explanation of meltdowns I’ve ever heard. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for perfectly describing the evil side of me that can come out, whilst the rest of me looks on in horror. Thank you for showing me I'm not alone.
Gosh, I can see why people are misdiagnosed with BPD
New to PDA and still trying to figure out where I am in it. The meltdown descriptions were so on target, thanks! The devil has access to my knowledge of loved ones is absolutely right. I am just figuring out that the bulk of my meltdowns used to the implosion type Tony Attwood talks of, but the devil has been taking over. It is the very worst thing, not least because it can happen to neurotypical people to some degree, which made it hard to realize it was a meltdown. Still feels like I am somehow choosing to be a terrible person or making excuses for myself.
This is a really great explanation of meltdown. It’s definitely one to show people to explain what’s happening to you. Thanks very much x
Amazing video, explains exactly what my son goes through, thank you so much. I just wish other people could watch this and appreciate what we all go through, and we can do nothing to help. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for your positive feedback. It validates me and inspires me to make more videos in the future
@@SallyCat123 Thank you for this video. I have been watching many of your videos and your poster is really helpful - it simplifies the meltodowns my eldest daughter has but she remains unapologetic so we can never move on from shockingly wicked things that are said and her objectional attitutde... sadly its either quietly objectional, verbally objectional, indifferent, pleasant, joyous or meltdown objectional (which I now understand better) but it is really the inbetween that is hard to accept as if feels like she dislikes her entire family never says sorry and constantly critical. Can you do a video on what to expect as I feel like I am walking on egg shells, so does grandma and so does her younger sister .. its exhausting for us and it must be exhausting for her but I feel like I am going round in circles - she refuses to have a diagnosis and I think without it we will remain to her the causes of her behaviour :( I love her dearly but dislike her behaviour immensely ..
I can relate to this in some ways. I'm sorry you are also going through this and wish you and your family all the best. Sending strength and love your way @@mcnlimited266
Thank you for your content sally cat! This explains so much of how I feel 🫂
I can’t ever have quiet time because the demands my body imposes on me are too loud
This describes my son, my husband, me. My father, every ex I've ever had.
How does one access this quiet time?
And how does one help the cooled down kettle learn that they need to repair? Because apparently most of us are really shitty at that part.
I live in the U.S. I've had epilepsy for a long time. If you call seizures 'fits' over here, no one will appreciate or understand it, FYI.
I appreciate the video.
It's not funny when they kick the tv through a 100 year old plate glass window because they have a melt down over reaching a milestone on a timeline on a project they instigated but can't perform because of their PDA.
I need a relief valve...
They are called 'epileptic seizures' and not 'fits' anymore
Well said. Actuallyautistic just figured out I am PDA.
I implode
When the demon is gone, when the kettle is cold, does the rational moral person who had watched on in horror say sorry to the person they have verbally and maybe physically damaged?
It would depend on a lot. We might do, but we might feel so ashamed and traumatised over what we'd done taht we can't face this? This wouldn't necessarily mean that we don't feel guilt. I might simply be that we can't express it. I think it's important to bear in mind that PDA meltdowns are never within our own control.