Signs for recognizing the evil: 1) They regularly violate other people's boundaries, physical, emotional, social. They do it quickly and so naturally that it's often difficult to grasp. 2) They create chaos everywhere they go. They are like ambulatory black holes creating disordered chaos. 3) They also create a heavy, oppressed feeling in everyone around them. You often won't realize it's emanating from them until they've gone.
Yes, totally resonates. Chaos. Vampirism. More chaos. Preying on your goodness (oh I had such a sad childhood, my parents etc). Slowly creeping in after the initial happy go lucky character. The mask. Everyone who has had a "relationship" with these dark people have very similar experiences
The REAL adopted "persona/s" of these "primitives" aren't even addressed, in the DSM. (i.e. The dark triad, tetrad and "possessed" people are not merely "malignant... in singular, or multiple personalities, along a spectrum..." They ARE in fact: E- VILE!!! (It's as if their hind brain has been activated, after to many 'venomous,' "original sin..." snake bites! And many people seem to display the 'traits' of two, or more of these diagnosis... so what good is it, when it's ultimately ALL still a 'variant(s)' of P$YCHO!
I recognized evil when I met my department co workers a year ago. Evil, crude, rude, unhappy, horrible women. Now that I am working with the more normal people in that office I can be more objective and able to see how harmful that was to me. Pure, destilled evil. It is scary…
I always feel irritated by people that say there is no evil in people so pleased that you believe there is. When people say there is no evil I run as fast as I can as it usually means they are evil. Thank you!
I think someone actually said, they will say, they think people are mostly good. It's so obviously not true, yes, some are, but some are the exact opposite, not good at at all. Why else do we have horrible crimes? They never have an answer when I ask them that. A person has to be demented to think there is no evil.
I finally cut my mother out of my life for over a year and was able to get off drugs and find clarity for the first time ever. I've always described her as having the personality of satan but never realized how badly she stifled my life. Its like being under constant attack. I just started talking to her again and its right back to that sick feeling, confusion, and a sense of hopelessness. Even just from phone call and it lasts for days. I'm contemplating just dissappearing from her life again because her hate is too strong and I hate being knocked off my positive path. It is very heartbreaking.
Same experience. I cut her out for 2 years then allowed her back in this year. It was back to where I had been with the negative energy. This time round, I cut her out completely. If I happen to see her or have to talk with her, it is in a very detached way.
You should take care of yourself run , and very very very little contact with your mother or NEVER go back. We look at the fact that we share DNA that has absolutely nothing to do with unacceptable behavior.
In my experience, the more you own your life, your space, your air, the sounds and words you allow to be spoken in your presence, the less they can begin to affect you. Eventualy not at all because you don't take no sh11. This then goes to the rest of the world and the rest of the bastards you'l inevitably meet.
People of the Lie, M. Scott Peck. I have read it...It is a great book. One thing particularly women have to watch out for, is that we are socially trained to be polite...to override our intuition. At least in my age group, (I am over 50.) But as the old saying goes, "When you know, you know." Trust and build a relationship with your inner guidance and inner wisdom. It is in your heart, always there, waiting to be acknowleged and nurtured.
@@corbin701 so true. It's so great to be polite for both men and women. Even when we recognise evil and walk away politely - it's always better than impolite.
I actually realized this about my narcissistic parents - they actually believe their own lies! I just went no contact with my narc mother and she turned it around like she was the one rejecting me . She blamed, scapegoated, gaslit and reminded me that there was no doubt I was doing the right thing!
I remember watching an interview with John Wayne Gacy's sister. She was so sad- blamed herself, and wondered if the fact that her brother was a serial killer meant that something was wrong with her. We are not our family. We are all individuals.
One idea that has always made me second guess myself is the whole talk about the shadow side and that which aggravates us in the other person is in essence the parts of our self we have denied. so, in the past, keeping this in mind I have always blamed myself,or at least have searched within to find what part of me needs to heal or needs the help. In the process, which lasted for many years, i shifted all the responsibility over to me. When I realized that the other person has no inclination to look inside because they never do, I decided that enough is enough of this endless effort of mine. Now when I hear things like "no one has bad intentions, I say, yes they do, they have thought things out very well ahead of time." One of the most unbelievable things I discovered is that they say and do things to hurt you on purpose, often when you are at your weakest. That is the evil in them.
I kept begging for space because of confusion. I even told the narcissist that I was just so confused. When I did back away, I started to realize that I was dealing with a liar, manipulator and treacherous woman who betrayed me over and over again. So glad my gut screamed at me! Three weeks of no contact now...and the information on this channel is so helpful for me. It is aiding my recovery immensely...
I think that evil in people is deep and (for some of us) unrepairable lack of empathy. Evil is what develops from unawareness and it's the deepest level of unconsciousness. The worst is when totally unaware people have power and possibilities to make decisions which are influencing whole nations or countries.
I read this book when it was first published in the 80s and it changed my life. It was pivotal in my journey. I still think about it after all of these years.
I also read the book many years ago. The story about the Parents who gave their son the gun that their other son killed himself with will haunt me forever.
Most therapists tend to excuse the abuser with invalidating expressions such as 'well he/she clesrly had a difficult upbringing' They are afraid to face the truth
Thank you for Your observation, that is although my experience! My first therapist didn't help much. They have a tendency that we should look (pay attention) that we get along with these people. Only years later by discovering these youtube channels I realized that these people abuse systematically...... It has nothing to do with me, they just needed me as a platform to project their wounds/rage on me....
I let the narcissist into my life because he offered me companionship and dinners and travel that he would pay for. Thank God that I was able to leave him by evaluation of my relationship with him. For “free” things, I gave up my dignity and it could have been far worse. I could have lost everything. I am ashamed that I let the devil into my life. Never again.
I have kept that book in my bedside drawer for many years. I'm a survivor of evil of the narcissistic variety and I don't want to be fooled again. His other books are wonderful. His spiritual philosophy is very practical and based on many years of work in the field of psychology.
Ewa I so agree with you. It takes us so long because we can't feel it, can't comprehend it, and wish it away. Luckily we eventually become better and better at recognising it intellectually.
When u finally recogize the evil, congratulate your self. Because there is something good in you that had to be stopped... there is something so extremely good in you.... that the devil had to step in to fool u... and doubt yourself... so u could not develop your true potential... that day when u realise how good u are.... and how u have been tricked... that day u choose your true and authentic potential. Because the sabotage is a true conformation of how good u are... and how bad the evil/person in question is.... Only a person without a soul can be so possessed by an evil ego/humandemon. Opposites attack each other...
I recognized evil the day I finally accepted that some of the bad advice I had received in my life was intended as sabotage. A person close to me did not want me to be able to hold a job or have anyone in my life who might help me. The advice I had received from this person, though they were pretending to be helping me, had been calculated to keep me friendless and destitute. It was hard for me to accept that someone could think that way, but in the end, it was the only explanation. It was the biggest breakthrough for me, the day I stopped making excuses for them and accepted this pattern for what it was.
Rick. I agree becouse your not the only one that had been going through. I also have for a really long time added to my hell by social media.palso done by this person.. And the sad thing is.also that. Someone in same situation and mine also has been threat after threats and stalking by sending. There. Evil by social medial media. . In regards II ended up hurt. At a job I was being stalked by these people and ended up hurt and with broken ribs. For nothing I had done. Still trying to find a way out of here. Shelly.
Scapegoating is a way for them to transfer their Own Imperfections / Bad Actions / Mistakes unto a Scapegoat... in order for them to Avoid Accountability or blame or self-blame for their Bad Actions...
This is a very important point! For many of us - especially empaths - it is difficult to understand and acknowledge that some people are in fact evil. We also get false information from psychologists and psychiatrists who don't really understand narcissism etc. unless they have experienced it first hand themselves. They may believe they can cure it etc., which they can't. The only way is to accept that it exists and understand the sincerety of evil (meaning they really truly mean to hurt, sabotage etc... and do evil deeds)
Another great talk Ewa. It’s true - evil does exist. Being an empath it took me decades to accept this. I had to “grow up” and face up to a world that can be cruel. Regarding conscience, I agree with you that the narcissist does have one, but they act as if they don’t, because they cannot process the shame that goes along with their manipulative actions. So they must suppress their conscience and live with a completely distorted inner reality. Anyway, this is how it seems from my experience.
Surya Caopy ::: You are right, Empaths are usually naive and fail to grasp the twisted intentions of others, it takes a long time for them to understand that people whom they trust are two timing them. It took years for me to grasp it, I am forced to live with the evil person due to unavoidable circumstances, I have built a thick wall around me, and try to keep that person at an arm's distance, but it takes a lot, it is tiring to be on guard 24x7.
I'm like you: over 30 years ago, it would have been perfect. But I'm thankful, I know it today. It helps me to believe in my judgement and to feel less lonely when it comes to this subject.
@@windspiel824 exactely ! i just told a friend on the phone "duuuude i just found a book i should have had ages ago because it's saying exactely words for words what i'm feeling since so long"... could in fact have written it myself if didn't doubted so much about my competences and lucidity, thanks to my wonderfull liar... i ran away after 3 years, (1 perfect, too perfect, and 2 of total hell..) no other solution to preserve both of our lives :-)
yep, same thing happens to me. it was weird, even let's say paper with words written by them, which is of course filled with ugly lies, distorted reality and contortions, and is sensed by the body hence just holding the paper makes it want to throw up. I think we sensitives are like that. There was a spiritual teacher who shared that when he goes to the bookshop, just holding the book he can already sensed if it's substantial and truly comes from a deep place or if it's just one of those 'blah' books
@mothmos Interesting. This makes me think about my narcissistic grandmother. She used to love writing letters. Filled with crap though. Lies and crazy versions of stories. You could literally smell the sulphur in her words. She was just plain evil.
Great video! This is helpful. I believe in evil spirits. You must be careful, protect ourselves, and our surroundings. You have a new subscriber! Keep up the great work!!!
Yes this is the best book about narcissism...and the conclusion is 'the more you love them the more they hate you'!!!They are demon possessed...only God can deal with them!I read 'the road less travelled 'right now by Scott Peck...
I experienced that, the confusion you talked of, unable to think , emotionally drained. To defeat this you just react, call things the way you see them don't get excited emotionally or your dog food for them. Be bold to yourself, and confident. You can perform exorcisms without them or anyone else knowing. That sort of evil will take time to pass hopefully or not at all. Good luck !
It's not an easy truth to digest is totally true. Keep your boundaries very very high and keep away from these nasty evil people be they overt or covert naracists.
Awesome video. Yes, we do put on rose colored glasses and deny evil. Even in the face of slow burn blame game scapegoating. When nothing you can do is right. Just like domestic violence in a marriage, this evil is gang bang violence for life and the only thing you can do is flee as fast as you can to remove yourself from it. Trust your instincts and to thine own self be true.
This is true, I was raised with narcissists who were mean to some degree every day, even if only through their lack of connection and even chastisement when there was an attempt to connect in a loving way.
I remember mine saying over and over .. if I’m such a BAD PERSON..... I was wondering what he meant at the time, but now I know he was reflecting on himself 🤔
Yes you are so right your alarm bells start ringing when you sense someone has evil intension's then confusion comes into play then someone else may enter your life when your sense's should be aware of this second individual who has bad intension's but because of the first person you miss the signs of the second individual and life can quickly snowball out of control I say this because I've been there 🙏🌤️ in some ways I'm still suffering
Yes that gut feeling you get that something is missing or not right also you will just feel drained after dealing with them. They are real energy vampires...
I started my life's journey as a child believing everyone around me was good and I used to expect always the best in all people. Then that ingenuity (which was beautiful, ideal, but beautiful) began to turn into: "there are clearly good people, or people with good intent, and bad people, or people with bad intent". And after that came the belief that "there is no good or bad people, only people with more emotional wounds than others". So I became aware that people don't necessarily were bad, but they just behaved in an evil manner just because of the wounds they were carrying. So, in that sense, the wounds came before evilness, which was caused by them. Traditionally is thought, especially within the religious circles, that it must exist the necessary condition of being conscious of the evil act for a person to be considered evil. I mean, only if the person is aware of the evil he/she is doing can be considered evil. It's impossible to take a look inside the entirety of the soul of other individual. However, I think that the emotional wound, especially if it is a very deep one, could be causing an abusive behavior in someone, if that person don't have the mental tools to deal with the wounds. That makes sense to me. So the easiest way to deal with the wound ends up externalized in the form of an evil act. I think we can all agree on and relate to that, because is has to do with reaching our emotional limits or the amount of stress the brain is able to handle. This is an idea that I was thinking about lately: that evil could be the result of our biological limits as human beings simply being crossed. No emotionally sick state of mind can last unchanged for too long; I mean it is well known that emotions swing from one side to another of the spectrum. The only scientific possible way a person could maintain the same evil attitude towards somebody, for very long periods of time, would be due to a brain damage, perhaps? I'm not sure. All I know is that I've certainly witnessed many people doing acts of violence or abuse being thoroughly conscious of what they were doing, because they said it aloud! This is the answer I believe to how can you quickly recognize evil in people: you will be able to tell because not only they are going to hurt you, but they will also BRAG ABOUT IT! That right there is pure EVIL: to be proud of the evil a person in doing and slam it into the face of others. In those cases is easy to tell because you can clearly see that the person has made his/her choice to hate on a regular basis, and when that kind of a choice is made, the understandable wounds that can be streaming under the surface of evil become of less importance, both to you and for the abuser as well. Evil exist and is it has been done in the world for centuries, there is no doubt of that. But we mustn't forget that evil acts THROUGH people, it uses people to make a mark on the world and lives of so many, whether these people be conscious or unconscious, the evil is done anyways. And I think our "job" as sensitive people is to wisely discern when it is conscious and when unconscious. And also we must take care of ourselves, because there is no saving for someone who don't want to be saved.
Some of the best (worst) people who do this: you won't see or feel intial red flags, but you will feel something "off". They will be TOO thoughtful, pay TOO much attention to detail, or some miniscule vibe in your body will be triggered.
I'd just like to add that it's not only when thy're lying that causes us to not be able to think....just being in their mere presence is enough. It's the oddest thing. It has happened to me with one person...and i was aware of it but couldn't shake it nor did I understand why I was like that at the time. Now i know why, because he is in fact evil. Everything else about him and the way he was matches up. So thank you for this video, I'll be on the alert now and ready to flee next time i feel that way.
Every person on our privileged planet would benefit from reading PEOPLE OF THE LIE! I’ve been rereading this book for nearly twenty years, and a great injustice is done to our entire society when we don’t believe there are such people! They are all around us, wreaking destruction on many lives! To me it’s amazing there’s any good in this fallen world! Jesus is the only one good! I’ve been a victim of more than one evil person! It’s exceedingly frightening, disturbing, confusing and destructive! With God all things are possible but as a realist living amongst the human inhabitants of this world has taught me many things are not probable! I am in the process of writing a novel on such people.
Yes, I've felt that sense of revulsion. It started as a feeling of tension when having to be around this person but the longer I was exposed to her, the sense of unease rapidly escalated until I could barely tolerate being in the same room as her. The hairs on the back of my neck literally stood up. The best way of describing my feelings is the description in Stephen King's novel "It" where Ben Hansom was crushing the egg sacs which were the spawn of the monster which he and his friends referred to as "It" and he felt "almost insane with revulsion".
Lot of evil people very few good people in the world. Evil people take more than they give and are not grateful for the uncountable little things you do for them. They never think they are evil, they believe they are genuinely good, which is terrifying.
just read the book today, good synopsis, you read the most important lines!! I was shocked to see similarities between one of the early stories, and a situation of pure evil that I was close to a few years ago involving a 14 year old boys hanging suicide and the "Mother" being responsible(Narcissist/Psychopath)
This can be overcome I am living proof but I agree that it’s a good Point to bring up bc “gut feelings” or soul GPS accuracy is dependent on many factors and we will always, I believe, have blind spots. Also to your point it’s hard to recognize relationship induced confusion when your “normal” is confused or abused.
The verse, “Jacob, I loved. Esau, I hated,” has been on my mind in my own mind’s desire to wrestle with the acceptance of Evil, a real, verifiable entity in the Universe. I believe God gives us free will and knows whom will choose Him and those who won’t. They are the servants of Evil, but they are not the source of Evil. Our hate is best served directed at the Father of Lies than his minions. I can forgive and release and never reconcile with the servant, as I believe I am commanded to do. I think it wants us to think it’s so complex, so we will dwell on it. The attention may even attract it. I choose to be wise as serpents and gentle as doves. I think on what is good and true and kind and lovely and praiseworthy. I seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and I have seen all these things be added unto me. It is absolutely amazing how this continues to be effective in my life. I found you tonight and subbed. Thank you for your wisdom and encouragement!
And evil narcissist people will turn the table on you when you stand up for yourself making you as the evil one. They will attack your religious beliefs immediately if they know you are a believer in God. That’s a clear way to immediately know that person is evil Like the person below I also grew up in an evil house with a demon possessed step father. And true it does seem to follow me to attract those people. Now I’m very cautious who I get close to and just stay friendly-but-away to be safe than sorry later
He also went on to say that to judge someone as evil is in fact evil in itself. I have known victims of evil who have become evil themselves. So of the words peck used In people of the lie was . “ This is a dangerous book . “ everyone has in the good and evil.
Saying someone is evil is dangerous ground, not everyone who violates a boundary is evil, and yet I know the evil she is talking about. I have been around people who disgust me, make me want to run, makes my thinking processes shut down: I am repulsed. I can describe them: they seem nice, even helpful, but there is an ulterior motive behind this part (there are others that are at play and I believe these other parts must be in play for this person to be called evil), they want to use me in some way. They make me feel as if I owe them much more than what they were helpful for...and this coupled with other behaviors makes me want to run. Indeed, they suck in all the goodness, taking advantage of my good nature, wanting more while I feel they are laughing at me for being good, like they got me. Many bullies are indeed evil, but there are some who bully who are just experimenting, and they find out they don't like it) The lesson for me is/was, I can't play this game...I'll lose. Lesson two, not everyone is evil who seem evil, I must use discretion. But in all cases, true evil or experimenters, I must always not interact with evil, and just go the other way and dismiss them. Avoidance is key to my sanity.
Evil exists indeed and sometimes its disguised very well.....one doesn't always feel the discomfort immediately but that will definitely happen....always keep your boundaries up until you feel sure
Yes, I do believe that there is evil in the world. But, I'm more worried about those supporting and allowing evil to persist. 😔According to Einstein (supposedly), "The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing.” Folks who do nothing, like flying monkeys, enablers, sycophants, etc. I also assume those with pollyanna syndrome comes into play of inadvertently supporting evil. 🤷♀
What about suddenly throwing up when the person asks how you are and later finding out they lied about the reason why you threw up because they didn't want to take responsibility? This was so true to a gut feeling it is difficult to explain to others who don't know much about this topic. I felt as if this person put a spell on me until I kept my distance. It was a very unusual experience but very informative.
Very interesting topic 👍🏻 Would you say that those people ARE evil or that their behavior is evil? I recognize deeply rooted evil behavior in my family. A lot of evil actions, definitely narcissistic or may be even anti-social. As I was listening to that video I felt the repulsion in my body to that evil and at the same time I think that those people must have been horrendously abused to the point of being unable to create any healthy ego and just act from the space of a furious, sad, abandoned, unloved child. Can a deeply loved child become evil?
Ange Lom, Richard Grannon’s theory is that both NDP and empaths have a traumatic childhood experience but that the NDP child is additionally somehow SPOILED, which creates this utterly nasty behavior.
supopose us creating our own reality is true we are not seeing evil in another but in ourselves. what then if the evil we experienced was our creation?
Narcissists are mostly the result of an upbringing in which situations cannot be rationally anticipated (rigid dogma, narcissism and forms of abuse). They do not have a functional relation with language. Because they can't relate, they live in their head and split off from reality into a simplified representation of it. Their problem solving skills are wrapping things up in clichés and platitudes and tossing it aside. It's a serious cognitive deficiency. By calling it evil, you block the possibility for people to come to understanding. You create a new dogma. The narc will be the first one to call you evil, end all possibilities to conflict resolutions and discard you. They hate nuance and focussed formulating. They're alright with being evil. Negative attention. Paint them in detail as average and grey, nothing special, and they'll seriously lose their sh*t.
You may think it's a new dogma, but for those of us who believed in the good of all people, the realization that we suffered at the hands of evil is a paradigm shift. This video isn't about how to make narcs lose their sh*t. It's about hard and cold truth of what the narcissists are, so we never engage again.
I’m interpreting and digressing (too much) : Evil can be so pernicious that revulsion and confusion are barely blurry indicators. Are there evil acts or devils ? For sure, a hope, an attempt to recognize the evil from origin to a pain (felt but not understood) to be solved by avoidment or its destruction. What is ugly with a scorpion and a tarantula not fighting, even tough both are consistent as predators, they rarely build alliances in groups, they swim around, in society, as cute animals to observe, analyse, behind a securing glass. No shield is created without a hole to look outside. The « predators » become the main topics to give sense our reality, tamed animals in a serious zoo. However narcissists are too human, when they fight against the shield instead of their prays. They literally get feed and pleasured to suddenly go through the shield and sit next to you, so much that they are no more hungry, believing they went beyond a paradigm, that they have conquested something, give you a half blink like an unproven white hat hacker. Nietzsche : The surest way to corrupt a youth is to instruct him to hold in higher esteem those who think alike than those who think differently. The soulmate is the most violent, to any crossing my path, I tell them « the soulmate is the most violent and to know if the other is the one you will find in your own the highest violence». If you are less violent than the other, then this one is dominating you, not singing. So for victims of so assumed «narcissists », just say : « the narcissists was too afraid to really dare to fight me, he just has cut my throat like a retarded without letting me hold the sword ». (Ask your mind, why don’t we kill children ? Cowardise ?) True love is then to create the sword to the other as the soulmate create yours, and goodness to admire the shock of the fighting two gods. God is in love with Satan. Thus you are aware. Be happy to disagree my last paragraph, who ever read me, I hope you are not all easy to trust me, harmony is into being never followed by mass of relativist skeptics wishing the death of truth or the contrary béni-oui-oui, as sophisticated they mat age. To be concrete, and tell your my « experience », my narcissist adoptive father is these days stuck on his phone, or let’s say my phone among many ones, he saw his neighbor drawing the padlock at the bus station and is reading all the history from what he call « super telnet ». I have never seen him so happy, so I went to him yesterday and told him : « you can access all of other writings, even not public, you can have a wider look here and there, an exceptional magnifying glass under the clothes of your girls, might you enter their mind ? » He replied : what everybody hide is surprisingly not different what everybody show » I have kept quiet. I also had a message from my sister about stonage, leaking subset of cosmical cycles, focusing subjects like : what is a person ? An individual ? these days our cultures crackpots with « the big picture » from the tiny. Nietzsche again : When we are tired, we are attacked by ideas we conquered long ago. I’m a soul since long, as my comment, very very long.. I have shared some devil souls, I need to know why they stay in the bottom of garbage. And in their misery they almost never talk about survival or angels, or success, they call hell these, it’s all reversed. Did I joined the real angels ? None told me more truth, I have to dig beyond the boundary of what angels name « so called devil ». None of them is fully devilish. There is a treasure of knowledge, I hear, before joining the light. A question appearing, how to go from heaven to hell in a living, in will, the answer shall « I » the over human.
So how do you discover the Evil in yourself? We know our wickedness, O LORD, The iniquity of our fathers, for we have sinned against You. (Jeremiah 14:20, NASB)
If I had trusted my Primal instincts to begin with it would have saved me a lot of problems I knew something was wrong and I broke up with her and that I got back with her cuz I was stupid
Now you know and that’s great... forgive yourself. No need to beat yourself up. You’ve gathered many important lessons. This brings wisdom. Blessings to you!
I understand my friend, but actually, what do you do in a situation where your mother is very cruel to you, and then when you finally had enough and walk away- she calls you and says "I'm so sorry honey. I'll never do it again". -and then after many years of this pattern repeating itself- you start to think you're crazy. ?????
@@Emeraldcity70 I would go No Contact! I had to kick my mom out of my property to get peace. I didn't talk to her for months. Now I see her occasionally. I will not hesitate to stop talking to her again if she starts up with her bs again. Best Wishes. Check out The Little Shaman Channel - she talks about toxic and narcissistic people.
That’s is the espirit of jesabel in the Bible her hosban naiman and olso was lot manipulation consider wichtcraf.only with preying and renunce every ivil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.efesian 6:12
I've always had this strange "gut sickness" when I would meet certain people and I never knew why. When I got older I got Saved and Baptized and that same feeling intensified. I can't explain it other than a nervous sickness in my gut. As time went on I would base my everyday decisions on weather or not I got this feeling. This has saved me physically, mentally, financially and every other way possible. My Grandmother called it your built in Sin Radar Detector. Father God is so wise and merciful that from the very beginning he gave us all the things we needed to navigate this life and protect ourselves.
When you achieve emotional sobriety (meaning you are walking in alignment with your creator, “saved” or however you see it) it is like you have flipped the “on” switch to being able to FEEL evil. I guess some people would see it as hyper vigilance or ptsd (which is true after any long term encounter with evil) but I find the reaction is pretty much instantaneous for me now - after encounters with 2 different malignant narcissists. When I feel that feeling of fear or intense anxiety around a person now I don’t question it. If something feels off, it is. Find a bee line to the exit at the first available opportunity.
@@deasiathompson91 The short answer is, "yes". Usually I am encountering a person with an entity attachment, but my "spiritual nausea" could be the result of other evil as well.
I don't explain myself or my decisions anymore. I'm not obligated to have a relationship that isn't good for me. I stopped all contact months ago and have never felt better. I am keeping my clarity and living my life. Wish I would have done it years ago.
Two years after marrying an 'evil person' (she meets ALL the criteria exceptionally well), we are divorcing . . . it has been a brutal experience - even the separation is characteristically being underscored by her evilness, generating perpetual confusion in myself even during the separation. Its a remarkable phenomenon to be so close to. The piece I find MOST challenging is that I feel and know very deeply and profoundly her pain, her inner conflict, the source of her evilness and find I have tremendous empathy for and even a desire to care for and help her heal . . . . which is very interesting to hold in my awareness and presence at the SAME TIME I am caring for the brutal abuses and violations to which I have been subjected . . . . I guess this is the deepest timeless challenge of the act of forgiveness!!! To care for the deep violations of one's own self and simultaneously feel care for their abuser (without perpetuating the abuse).
I've been dodging so many women and no relationship as a result and I wondered if I am too harsh. The relief I feel reading things like this is like. I am alone but at least I'm not being hurt by a wrongun or dysfunctional woman whom I then feel obliged to take care of even though I am taking damage. I feel for you and thank you for sharing your experience. I don't know if I am right or wrong but thank you.
I've been in a TOXIC relationship for 9 years and just ran away. It's been 48 days of absolutely no contact. I've lost everything you can possibly imagine, time, money (a loooooot of money), material stuff, health, my precious dog and the list goes on and on... I regret all the things I've done to her, all the dedication, love, all the time spent together, trips, dinners and also every apology. I even crashed my car twice arguing with her, nearly broke my hand punching the door as she literally drove me craaaaaaazy with her insanity! My question is, how can I get rid of such ANGER for someone? I mean, I never thought I would ever feel this way about anyone, but she's an absolute EVIL. How can I overcome this feeling? I just want to live 1 day longer than her so I can celebrate her death and I'm that kinda person would never do bad to anyone.
Raph L the only way to get rid of that anger is to forgive her from your heart. Secondly, the only way to really do that is to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. God's Holy Spirit will then make his home in your heart and voila.....you can do it! I am working on this forgiveness stuff daily and getting freer and freer. It's been a long process, but it works! I'll pray for you, Raph. 💛
@@marymilligan2330Nope , narc abuse should not be forgiven. It's like forgiving genocide. The genocide against your essense, being , and soul. No way. There's nothing wrong with being angry. It is as valid an emotion as any other emotion. Anger is purifying and purging, especially in someone who normally doesn't feel it. I wish I could feel anger as strongly as Raph.
@Raph L good for you with staying no contact! 💪😊. after many years & no contact after covert abuse the phase of anger is fine. Anger It's a normal feeling after being deceived by them , but anger is not meant to be in the body long term. You can eventually forgive them in your heart , but that does not mean tolerate or forget the tramua that you experienced.After watching videos such as this, I started building my life little at a time and giving what I gave to them give that back to myself. I wish you the best on your journey of healing.
@@SunandSunflowers you are phenomenal with your words of wisdom. I applaud you. Many happy days, weeks and months to you. Wish this world had more caring people. These zombies out number us, I think. Sadly...but it appears the C-vid is taking them out mostly.
Raph L, Take it one day at a time and be gentle with yourself as you process all of this. These people are broken on the inside and that has nothing to do with you but has everything to do with them. We are always working with what we know at any given time. You will make all that money back. Anger only hurts you and not the other person. Look into videos on "how to release anger emotion". There are 64,000 human emotions according to scientists in the field of neurology. And we humans only use about 5 to 7 emotions our whole lifetime. Take care and accept that you didnt know what you know now. If you weren't tricked and deceived, you wouldn't have gotten close to this one.
If someone that is your parent or guardian is evil, say “so long and goodnight” to them and what I mean by that is runaway if they are abusive. Or call the police.
Thank you so much for this video. I was married to a diagnosed psychopath for 23 years. It wasn't until the end of the relationship that I finally got it. If it had not been for the VA hospital telling me to get out of the relationship ASAP I was his target and he was going to kill me. The FBI was brought in because they believed he is a serial killer. No bodies have been found to date. I spent over a year in women's shelters after that trying to get away from him. For me, I think there are 3 things that kept me in that relationship, and I can tell you things, I went through with him that would make your toenails curl . He was a white-collar worker with his own business. #1. I am learning I am on the Autism spectrum, very functional I have owned several successful businesses, but I think differently than others and I perceive the world around me differently. Meaning I did not always pick up the cues someone else would have. #2 He had 2 separate lives. No one realized that including me, until the end and it took me years after that to make it part of my reality. He is a master at the lies and convincing people. #3 He would gaslight me and tell me I was the one who was crazy for thinking he did whatever I was challenging him about and he was always able to twist situations around so that it always looked like my fault or someone else's fault but never his fault he was able to get people to agree with him. This made me question myself and my reality. There is a huge difference between Narcissists and evil psychopaths. Narcissistic people are all about themselves to get what they want they do not care who they hurt to get what they want. Evil people are similar they are all about themselves they do not care about others or who they hurt but the huge difference is Evil people are all about the GAME. They like to design whatever game they are running and they get off on the pain they inflict. They like torture and turning the screws to watch someone squirm even die.
Signs for recognizing the evil: 1) They regularly violate other people's boundaries, physical, emotional, social. They do it quickly and so naturally that it's often difficult to grasp. 2) They create chaos everywhere they go. They are like ambulatory black holes creating disordered chaos. 3) They also create a heavy, oppressed feeling in everyone around them. You often won't realize it's emanating from them until they've gone.
This is very accurate. These traits are so common and concise from one to another, I really wonder where the programming comes from.
This absolutely true😊
Yes, totally resonates. Chaos. Vampirism. More chaos. Preying on your goodness (oh I had such a sad childhood, my parents etc). Slowly creeping in after the initial happy go lucky character. The mask. Everyone who has had a "relationship" with these dark people have very similar experiences
The REAL adopted "persona/s" of these "primitives" aren't even addressed, in the DSM. (i.e. The dark triad, tetrad and "possessed" people are not merely "malignant... in singular, or multiple personalities, along a spectrum..." They ARE in fact: E- VILE!!! (It's as if their hind brain has been activated, after to many 'venomous,' "original sin..." snake bites! And many people seem to display the 'traits' of two, or more of these diagnosis... so what good is it, when it's ultimately ALL still a 'variant(s)' of P$YCHO!
I recognized evil when I met my department co workers a year ago. Evil, crude, rude, unhappy, horrible women. Now that I am working with the more normal people in that office I can be more objective and able to see how harmful that was to me. Pure, destilled evil. It is scary…
I always feel irritated by people that say there is no evil in people so pleased that you believe there is. When people say there is no evil I run as fast as I can as it usually means they are evil. Thank you!
Or the classic "you should always look for the good in people" or "deep down they are nice people". Sickening.
@@raccuia1 Very sickening. What about..."they were not aware of what they are doing" very annoying
Yes ...most of the people who support evil things too are evil ppl.
I think someone actually said, they will say, they think people are mostly good. It's so obviously not true, yes, some are, but some are the exact opposite, not good at at all. Why else do we have horrible crimes? They never have an answer when I ask them that. A person has to be demented to think there is no evil.
@@theresaandrade5708 There is evil and it will always exist.......and yes, people are mostly good.
Most people are not criminals.
I finally cut my mother out of my life for over a year and was able to get off drugs and find clarity for the first time ever. I've always described her as having the personality of satan but never realized how badly she stifled my life. Its like being under constant attack. I just started talking to her again and its right back to that sick feeling, confusion, and a sense of hopelessness. Even just from phone call and it lasts for days. I'm contemplating just dissappearing from her life again because her hate is too strong and I hate being knocked off my positive path. It is very heartbreaking.
Oh, I can imagine... I congratulate you on taking that difficult step.
Same experience. I cut her out for 2 years then allowed her back in this year. It was back to where I had been with the negative energy. This time round, I cut her out completely.
If I happen to see her or have to talk with her, it is in a very detached way.
You should take care of yourself run , and very very very little contact with your mother or NEVER go back. We look at the fact that we share DNA that has absolutely nothing to do with unacceptable behavior.
its now hammer time...delete her 100% from your life to never speak to her again...thats what any professional would tell you
In my experience, the more you own your life, your space, your air, the sounds and words you allow to be spoken in your presence, the less they can begin to affect you. Eventualy not at all because you don't take no sh11. This then goes to the rest of the world and the rest of the bastards you'l inevitably meet.
People of the Lie, M. Scott Peck. I have read it...It is a great book. One thing particularly women have to watch out for, is that we are socially trained to be polite...to override our intuition. At least in my age group, (I am over 50.) But as the old saying goes, "When you know, you know." Trust and build a relationship with your inner guidance and inner wisdom. It is in your heart, always there, waiting to be acknowleged and nurtured.
Very true... thank you, Paula!
@@SoulGPS Thank you, too, beautiful Soul.
NOT JUST WOMAN , Also men it goes both ways.
@@corbin701 so true. It's so great to be polite for both men and women. Even when we recognise evil and walk away politely - it's always better than impolite.
“People of the Lie” and “the road Less Traveled” M.Scott Peck - read them back in college, I’m 58
great books I have recommended them to many people.
I actually realized this about my narcissistic parents - they actually believe their own lies! I just went no contact with my narc mother and she turned it around like she was the one rejecting me . She blamed, scapegoated, gaslit and reminded me that there was no doubt I was doing the right thing!
I remember watching an interview with John Wayne Gacy's sister. She was so sad- blamed herself, and wondered if the fact that her brother was a serial killer meant that something was wrong with her. We are not our family. We are all individuals.
One idea that has always made me second guess myself is the whole talk about the shadow side and that which aggravates us in the other person is in essence the parts of our self we have denied. so, in the past, keeping this in mind I have always blamed myself,or at least have searched within to find what part of me needs to heal or needs the help. In the process, which lasted for many years, i shifted all the responsibility over to me. When I realized that the other person has no inclination to look inside because they never do, I decided that enough is enough of this endless effort of mine. Now when I hear things like "no one has bad intentions, I say, yes they do, they have thought things out very well ahead of time." One of the most unbelievable things I discovered is that they say and do things to hurt you on purpose, often when you are at your weakest. That is the evil in them.
Agreed. Sometimes they are even the cause of the weakness.
I kept begging for space because of confusion. I even told the narcissist that I was just so confused. When I did back away, I started to realize that I was dealing with a liar, manipulator and treacherous woman who betrayed me over and over again. So glad my gut screamed at me! Three weeks of no contact now...and the information on this channel is so helpful for me. It is aiding my recovery immensely...
I think that evil in people is deep and (for some of us) unrepairable lack of empathy.
Evil is what develops from unawareness and it's the deepest level of unconsciousness.
The worst is when totally unaware people have power and possibilities to make decisions which are influencing whole nations or countries.
FACTS
Some are aware of what they do also. They have the awareness. But they are so scarred/numb/broken that they don't care or even feed off of the pain
I read this book when it was first published in the 80s and it changed my life. It was pivotal in my journey. I still think about it after all of these years.
I also read the book many years ago. The story about the Parents who gave their son the gun that their other son killed himself with will haunt me forever.
Most therapists tend to excuse the abuser with invalidating expressions such as 'well he/she clesrly had a difficult upbringing'
They are afraid to face the truth
Exactly, Jay! It's a very dangerous excuse. People become evil because they choose to.
Thank you for Your observation, that is although my experience! My first therapist didn't help much. They have a tendency that we should look (pay attention) that we get along with these people. Only years later by discovering these youtube channels I realized that these people abuse systematically...... It has nothing to do with me, they just needed me as a platform to project their wounds/rage on me....
I feel like therapists like to invalidate a lot of things in general and I'm pretty sure quite a few I've come across are narcissists!
RandomUploads2017 - Exactly. Only a narcissist defends another narcissist, because they like and protect their own.
@@SoulGPS so what does your upbringing have to do with the development of your character?
Take it seriously, and RUN!!
I let the narcissist into my life because he offered me companionship and dinners and travel that he would pay for. Thank God that I was able to leave him by evaluation of my relationship with him. For “free” things, I gave up my dignity and it could have been far worse. I could have lost everything. I am ashamed that I let the devil into my life. Never again.
I have kept that book in my bedside drawer for many years. I'm a survivor of evil of the narcissistic variety and I don't want to be fooled again. His other books are wonderful. His spiritual philosophy is very practical and based on many years of work in the field of psychology.
Ewa I so agree with you. It takes us so long because we can't feel it, can't comprehend it, and wish it away. Luckily we eventually become better and better at recognising it intellectually.
When u finally recogize the evil, congratulate your self. Because there is something good in you that had to be stopped... there is something so extremely good in you.... that the devil had to step in to fool u... and doubt yourself... so u could not develop your true potential... that day when u realise how good u are.... and how u have been tricked... that day u choose your true and authentic potential. Because the sabotage is a true conformation of how good u are... and how bad the evil/person in question is.... Only a person without a soul can be so possessed by an evil ego/humandemon.
Opposites attack each other...
I recognized evil the day I finally accepted that some of the bad advice I had received in my life was intended as sabotage. A person close to me did not want me to be able to hold a job or have anyone in my life who might help me. The advice I had received from this person, though they were pretending to be helping me, had been calculated to keep me friendless and destitute. It was hard for me to accept that someone could think that way, but in the end, it was the only explanation. It was the biggest breakthrough for me, the day I stopped making excuses for them and accepted this pattern for what it was.
Been there done that, Family. And not just one.
I guess that "A person close to me" = "my mother." Nothing to be ashamed of; it's common.
Rick. I agree becouse your not the only one that had been going through. I also have for a really long time added to my hell by social media.palso done by this person.. And the sad thing is.also that. Someone in same situation and mine also has been threat after threats and stalking by sending. There. Evil by social medial media. . In regards II ended up hurt. At a job I was being stalked by these people and ended up hurt and with broken ribs. For nothing I had done. Still trying to find a way out of here. Shelly.
I can relate...it was both my parents!
Good for you.Me too.terribly hard lonely journey but once you start turning the corner (years later ..the pain eases and your much stronger💗💗
Scapegoating is a way for them to transfer their Own Imperfections / Bad Actions / Mistakes unto a Scapegoat... in order for them to Avoid Accountability or blame or self-blame for their Bad Actions...
YES!
This is a very important point! For many of us - especially empaths - it is difficult to understand and acknowledge that some people are in fact evil. We also get false information from psychologists and psychiatrists who don't really understand narcissism etc. unless they have experienced it first hand themselves. They may believe they can cure it etc., which they can't. The only way is to accept that it exists and understand the sincerety of evil (meaning they really truly mean to hurt, sabotage etc... and do evil deeds)
Another great talk Ewa. It’s true - evil does exist. Being an empath it took me decades to accept this. I had to “grow up” and face up to a world that can be cruel.
Regarding conscience, I agree with you that the narcissist does have one, but they act as if they don’t, because they cannot process the shame that goes along with their manipulative actions. So they must suppress their conscience and live with a completely distorted inner reality. Anyway, this is how it seems from my experience.
Surya Caopy ::: You are right, Empaths are usually naive and fail to grasp the twisted intentions of others, it takes a long time for them to understand that people whom they trust are two timing them. It took years for me to grasp it, I am forced to live with the evil person due to unavoidable circumstances, I have built a thick wall around me, and try to keep that person at an arm's distance, but it takes a lot, it is tiring to be on guard 24x7.
Rule #1 don't announce to others that you are a empath. If you do, you invite their BS
Good golly Miss Molly, that's actually a really good piece of advice. Thanks. I'll keep it in mind.
I have evil people inside my home . These kind of ppl have tried to tarnish my reputation and suppress my voice .
@@nandlabh6349 are you a hostage?
Great discussion. I must have read this book 30 yrs ago! Not until some most difficult encounters did I start to put the pieces together. Thanks!
I'm like you: over 30 years ago, it would have been perfect. But I'm thankful, I know it today. It helps me to believe in my judgement and to feel less lonely when it comes to this subject.
@@windspiel824 exactely ! i just told a friend on the phone "duuuude i just found a book i should have had ages ago because it's saying exactely words for words what i'm feeling since so long"... could in fact have written it myself if didn't doubted so much about my competences and lucidity, thanks to my wonderfull liar... i ran away after 3 years, (1 perfect, too perfect, and 2 of total hell..) no other solution to preserve both of our lives :-)
THAT was the book that brought about my epiphany.
I feel like vomiting and basically physically ill when meeting an evil person. No matter how sweet they can pretend to be.
Some "Evil people" have a hidden sufferering, You'd only be aware about it unless they chose to do therapy, Or "If they cant Deal with the Irritation"
yep, same thing happens to me. it was weird, even let's say paper with words written by them, which is of course filled with ugly lies, distorted reality and contortions, and is sensed by the body hence just holding the paper makes it want to throw up. I think we sensitives are like that. There was a spiritual teacher who shared that when he goes to the bookshop, just holding the book he can already sensed if it's substantial and truly comes from a deep place or if it's just one of those 'blah' books
@kingduria7480 That's true but I think we all have hidden suffering.
@mothmos Interesting. This makes me think about my narcissistic grandmother. She used to love writing letters. Filled with crap though. Lies and crazy versions of stories. You could literally smell the sulphur in her words. She was just plain evil.
I get sick whenever thinking about a certain someone.
Great video! This is helpful. I believe in evil spirits. You must be careful, protect ourselves, and our surroundings. You have a new subscriber! Keep up the great work!!!
Yes this is the best book about narcissism...and the conclusion is 'the more you love them the more they hate you'!!!They are demon possessed...only God can deal with them!I read 'the road less travelled 'right now by Scott Peck...
I experienced that, the confusion you talked of, unable to think , emotionally drained. To defeat this you just react, call things the way you see them don't get excited emotionally or your dog food for them. Be bold to yourself, and confident. You can perform exorcisms without them or anyone else knowing. That sort of evil will take time to pass hopefully or not at all. Good luck !
Please pray for me as I have been exposed to this type of behaviour
Sending a prayer for you now.
Confusion = Cognitive Dissonance
T K hard to tolerate so awareness of it is easily pushed down. Creating it is one of narcissist’s greatest tools
It's not an easy truth to digest is totally true. Keep your boundaries very very high and keep away from these nasty evil people be they overt or covert naracists.
Some have demons in them ...
But no one would ever know about it unless they suffer and feel the same pain
Awesome video. Yes, we do put on rose colored glasses and deny evil. Even in the face of slow burn blame game scapegoating. When nothing you can do is right. Just like domestic violence in a marriage, this evil is gang bang violence for life and the only thing you can do is flee as fast as you can to remove yourself from it. Trust your instincts and to thine own self be true.
This is true, I was raised with narcissists who were mean to some degree every day, even if only through their lack of connection and even chastisement when there was an attempt to connect in a loving way.
I remember mine saying over and over .. if I’m such a BAD PERSON..... I was wondering what he meant at the time, but now I know he was reflecting on himself 🤔
Yes you are so right your alarm bells start ringing when you sense someone has evil intension's then confusion comes into play then someone else may enter your life when your sense's should be aware of this second individual who has bad intension's but because of the first person you miss the signs of the second individual and life can quickly snowball out of control I say this because I've been there 🙏🌤️ in some ways I'm still suffering
Yes that gut feeling you get that something is missing or not right also you will just feel drained after dealing with them. They are real energy vampires...
I started my life's journey as a child believing everyone around me was good and I used to expect always the best in all people. Then that ingenuity (which was beautiful, ideal, but beautiful) began to turn into: "there are clearly good people, or people with good intent, and bad people, or people with bad intent". And after that came the belief that "there is no good or bad people, only people with more emotional wounds than others". So I became aware that people don't necessarily were bad, but they just behaved in an evil manner just because of the wounds they were carrying. So, in that sense, the wounds came before evilness, which was caused by them. Traditionally is thought, especially within the religious circles, that it must exist the necessary condition of being conscious of the evil act for a person to be considered evil. I mean, only if the person is aware of the evil he/she is doing can be considered evil. It's impossible to take a look inside the entirety of the soul of other individual. However, I think that the emotional wound, especially if it is a very deep one, could be causing an abusive behavior in someone, if that person don't have the mental tools to deal with the wounds. That makes sense to me. So the easiest way to deal with the wound ends up externalized in the form of an evil act. I think we can all agree on and relate to that, because is has to do with reaching our emotional limits or the amount of stress the brain is able to handle. This is an idea that I was thinking about lately: that evil could be the result of our biological limits as human beings simply being crossed. No emotionally sick state of mind can last unchanged for too long; I mean it is well known that emotions swing from one side to another of the spectrum. The only scientific possible way a person could maintain the same evil attitude towards somebody, for very long periods of time, would be due to a brain damage, perhaps? I'm not sure. All I know is that I've certainly witnessed many people doing acts of violence or abuse being thoroughly conscious of what they were doing, because they said it aloud! This is the answer I believe to how can you quickly recognize evil in people: you will be able to tell because not only they are going to hurt you, but they will also BRAG ABOUT IT! That right there is pure EVIL: to be proud of the evil a person in doing and slam it into the face of others. In those cases is easy to tell because you can clearly see that the person has made his/her choice to hate on a regular basis, and when that kind of a choice is made, the understandable wounds that can be streaming under the surface of evil become of less importance, both to you and for the abuser as well. Evil exist and is it has been done in the world for centuries, there is no doubt of that. But we mustn't forget that evil acts THROUGH people, it uses people to make a mark on the world and lives of so many, whether these people be conscious or unconscious, the evil is done anyways. And I think our "job" as sensitive people is to wisely discern when it is conscious and when unconscious. And also we must take care of ourselves, because there is no saving for someone who don't want to be saved.
This book helped me tremendously!
Me too. The best thing I got out of the book- Psychopaths know they are bad and they don't care, people who are evil do bad and believe they are good.
Some of the best (worst) people who do this: you won't see or feel intial red flags, but you will feel something "off". They will be TOO thoughtful, pay TOO much attention to detail, or some miniscule vibe in your body will be triggered.
I'd just like to add that it's not only when thy're lying that causes us to not be able to think....just being in their mere presence is enough. It's the oddest thing. It has happened to me with one person...and i was aware of it but couldn't shake it nor did I understand why I was like that at the time. Now i know why, because he is in fact evil. Everything else about him and the way he was matches up. So thank you for this video, I'll be on the alert now and ready to flee next time i feel that way.
Every person on our privileged planet would benefit from reading PEOPLE OF THE LIE! I’ve been rereading this book for nearly twenty years, and a great injustice is done to our entire society when we don’t believe there are such people! They are all around us, wreaking destruction on many lives! To me it’s amazing there’s any good in this fallen world! Jesus is the only one good! I’ve been a victim of more than one evil person! It’s exceedingly frightening, disturbing, confusing and destructive! With God all things are possible but as a realist living amongst the human inhabitants of this world has taught me many things are not probable! I am in the process of writing a novel on such people.
Yes, I've felt that sense of revulsion. It started as a feeling of tension when having to be around this person but the longer I was exposed to her, the sense of unease rapidly escalated until I could barely tolerate being in the same room as her. The hairs on the back of my neck literally stood up. The best way of describing my feelings is the description in Stephen King's novel "It" where Ben Hansom was crushing the egg sacs which were the spawn of the monster which he and his friends referred to as "It" and he felt "almost insane with revulsion".
Lot of evil people very few good people in the world. Evil people take more than they give and are not grateful for the uncountable little things you do for them. They never think they are evil, they believe they are genuinely good, which is terrifying.
just read the book today, good synopsis, you read the most important lines!! I was shocked to see similarities between one of the early stories, and a situation of pure evil that I was close to a few years ago involving a 14 year old boys hanging suicide and the "Mother" being responsible(Narcissist/Psychopath)
PS, the early story of Bobby and his parents made me shiver-young boy's suicide, then trying to lure the brother to the same fate
@@davidwels4644 Yes my friend. Even a horror writer wouldn't have written that one. Scary.
This is very interesting. Thank you for not insinuating that this is somehow partially the fault of the viewer/receiver.
Yes, but unfortunately we are not healthy, that is why we are not repulsed. We are attracted to this, because it feels like mommy :)
Your comment really hit home for me. I realize i am attracted to dysfunction.
Creepy, right?!
That could be true
This can be overcome I am living proof but I agree that it’s a good Point to bring up bc “gut feelings” or soul GPS accuracy is dependent on many factors and we will always, I believe, have blind spots. Also to your point it’s hard to recognize relationship induced confusion when your “normal” is confused or abused.
The verse, “Jacob, I loved. Esau, I hated,” has been on my mind in my own mind’s desire to wrestle with the acceptance of Evil, a real, verifiable entity in the Universe. I believe God gives us free will and knows whom will choose Him and those who won’t. They are the servants of Evil, but they are not the source of Evil. Our hate is best served directed at the Father of Lies than his minions. I can forgive and release and never reconcile with the servant, as I believe I am commanded to do. I think it wants us to think it’s so complex, so we will dwell on it. The attention may even attract it. I choose to be wise as serpents and gentle as doves. I think on what is good and true and kind and lovely and praiseworthy. I seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and I have seen all these things be added unto me. It is absolutely amazing how this continues to be effective in my life. I found you tonight and subbed. Thank you for your wisdom and encouragement!
Thank you
The audio book is available on TH-cam highly recommend it too
the road less travelled is also by Scott Peck
And evil narcissist people will turn the table on you when you stand up for yourself making you as the evil one. They will attack your religious beliefs immediately if they know you are a believer in God. That’s a clear way to immediately know that person is evil
Like the person below I also grew up in an evil house with a demon possessed step father. And true it does seem to follow me to attract those people. Now I’m very cautious who I get close to and just stay friendly-but-away to be safe than sorry later
Just bought the book 2 weeks ago.
Amazing find. Recommended by Amazing Polly who was kicked off TH-cam
He also went on to say that to judge someone as evil is in fact evil in itself. I have known victims of evil who have become evil themselves. So of the words peck used In people of the lie was . “ This is a dangerous book . “ everyone has in the good and evil.
I love this video!
Saying someone is evil is dangerous ground, not everyone who violates a boundary is evil, and yet I know the evil she is talking about. I have been around people who disgust me, make me want to run, makes my thinking processes shut down: I am repulsed. I can describe them: they seem nice, even helpful, but there is an ulterior motive behind this part (there are others that are at play and I believe these other parts must be in play for this person to be called evil), they want to use me in some way. They make me feel as if I owe them much more than what they were helpful for...and this coupled with other behaviors makes me want to run. Indeed, they suck in all the goodness, taking advantage of my good nature, wanting more while I feel they are laughing at me for being good, like they got me. Many bullies are indeed evil, but there are some who bully who are just experimenting, and they find out they don't like it) The lesson for me is/was, I can't play this game...I'll lose. Lesson two, not everyone is evil who seem evil, I must use discretion. But in all cases, true evil or experimenters, I must always not interact with evil, and just go the other way and dismiss them. Avoidance is key to my sanity.
Amazing, Thank you for all your help.
Evil exists indeed and sometimes its disguised very well.....one doesn't always feel the discomfort immediately but that will definitely happen....always keep your boundaries up until you feel sure
Yes, I do believe that there is evil in the world. But, I'm more worried about those supporting and allowing evil to persist. 😔According to Einstein (supposedly), "The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing.” Folks who do nothing, like flying monkeys, enablers, sycophants, etc. I also assume those with pollyanna syndrome comes into play of inadvertently supporting evil. 🤷♀
Thank you..much love x
They will use arguments like 'life is hard' to justify their deeds and words....
What about suddenly throwing up when the person asks how you are and later finding out they lied about the reason why you threw up because they didn't want to take responsibility? This was so true to a gut feeling it is difficult to explain to others who don't know much about this topic. I felt as if this person put a spell on me until I kept my distance. It was a very unusual experience but very informative.
Once you recognize it in yourself you become your own expert, EVERYONE has or had a Darkside at one time or another , to one level or another.
Only People who fear God can fight this off
What are the two ways to recognize evil...lies & confusion? It seems as though liars try to create confusion through deception or lies.
Yes
We know our wickedness, O LORD, The iniquity of our fathers, for we have sinned against You. (Jeremiah 14:20, NASB)
Very interesting topic 👍🏻 Would you say that those people ARE evil or that their behavior is evil? I recognize deeply rooted evil behavior in my family. A lot of evil actions, definitely narcissistic or may be even anti-social. As I was listening to that video I felt the repulsion in my body to that evil and at the same time I think that those people must have been horrendously abused to the point of being unable to create any healthy ego and just act from the space of a furious, sad, abandoned, unloved child. Can a deeply loved child become evil?
Ange Lom, Richard Grannon’s theory is that both NDP and empaths have a traumatic childhood experience but that the NDP child is additionally somehow SPOILED, which creates this utterly nasty behavior.
Yes if they get too much attention and praise from everyone.. they will see themselves as GOD in adult years.
Yes that's momma
I just saw her for what she really is
Thank you for sharing this with me.
Good advice! Thank you. ☺️
More importantly, have we faced our own darkside and do we project it onto others?
Very important, albeit impopular question
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supopose us creating our own reality is true we are not seeing evil in another but in ourselves. what then if the evil we experienced was our creation?
I’m in between but a tad bit more on the evil side.
Narcissists are mostly the result of an upbringing in which situations cannot be rationally anticipated (rigid dogma, narcissism and forms of abuse). They do not have a functional relation with language. Because they can't relate, they live in their head and split off from reality into a simplified representation of it. Their problem solving skills are wrapping things up in clichés and platitudes and tossing it aside. It's a serious cognitive deficiency. By calling it evil, you block the possibility for people to come to understanding. You create a new dogma. The narc will be the first one to call you evil, end all possibilities to conflict resolutions and discard you. They hate nuance and focussed formulating. They're alright with being evil. Negative attention. Paint them in detail as average and grey, nothing special, and they'll seriously lose their sh*t.
You may think it's a new dogma, but for those of us who believed in the good of all people, the realization that we suffered at the hands of evil is a paradigm shift. This video isn't about how to make narcs lose their sh*t. It's about hard and cold truth of what the narcissists are, so we never engage again.
Am I evil if i don't give into the constant demands of others to pyschologically validate them?
You should do TEDx Talks
Some drugs make people evil!!!
They have always been on my tail ❤ 😂
Evil is very deceptive and cones at you as your friendve
Follow your gut and run
The re " gamey" period.
She is discussing DONALD TRUMP!!! I do not say this from a political agenda, but from simple observation.
Yep
I’m interpreting and digressing (too much) : Evil can be so pernicious that revulsion and confusion are barely blurry indicators. Are there evil acts or devils ? For sure, a hope, an attempt to recognize the evil from origin to a pain (felt but not understood) to be solved by avoidment or its destruction. What is ugly with a scorpion and a tarantula not fighting, even tough both are consistent as predators, they rarely build alliances in groups, they swim around, in society, as cute animals to observe, analyse, behind a securing glass. No shield is created without a hole to look outside. The « predators » become the main topics to give sense our reality, tamed animals in a serious zoo. However narcissists are too human, when they fight against the shield instead of their prays. They literally get feed and pleasured to suddenly go through the shield and sit next to you, so much that they are no more hungry, believing they went beyond a paradigm, that they have conquested something, give you a half blink like an unproven white hat hacker.
Nietzsche :
The surest way to corrupt a youth is to instruct him to hold in higher esteem those who think alike than those who think differently.
The soulmate is the most violent, to any crossing my path, I tell them « the soulmate is the most violent and to know if the other is the one you will find in your own the highest violence».
If you are less violent than the other, then this one is dominating you, not singing. So for victims of so assumed «narcissists », just say : « the narcissists was too afraid to really dare to fight me, he just has cut my throat like a retarded without letting me hold the sword ». (Ask your mind, why don’t we kill children ? Cowardise ?)
True love is then to create the sword to the other as the soulmate create yours, and goodness to admire the shock of the fighting two gods. God is in love with Satan. Thus you are aware.
Be happy to disagree my last paragraph, who ever read me, I hope you are not all easy to trust me, harmony is into being never followed by mass of relativist skeptics wishing the death of truth or the contrary béni-oui-oui, as sophisticated they mat age.
To be concrete, and tell your my « experience », my narcissist adoptive father is these days stuck on his phone, or let’s say my phone among many ones, he saw his neighbor drawing the padlock at the bus station and is reading all the history from what he call « super telnet ».
I have never seen him so happy, so I went to him yesterday and told him :
« you can access all of other writings, even not public, you can have a wider look here and there, an exceptional magnifying glass under the clothes of your girls, might you enter their mind ? »
He replied : what everybody hide is surprisingly not different what everybody show »
I have kept quiet.
I also had a message from my sister about stonage, leaking subset of cosmical cycles, focusing subjects like : what is a person ? An individual ? these days our cultures crackpots with « the big picture » from the tiny.
Nietzsche again :
When we are tired, we are attacked by ideas we conquered long ago.
I’m a soul since long, as my comment, very very long.. I have shared some devil souls, I need to know why they stay in the bottom of garbage. And in their misery they almost never talk about survival or angels, or success, they call hell these, it’s all reversed. Did I joined the real angels ?
None told me more truth, I have to dig beyond the boundary of what angels name « so called devil ». None of them is fully devilish. There is a treasure of knowledge, I hear, before joining the light. A question appearing, how to go from heaven to hell in a living, in will, the answer shall « I » the over human.
These people are NUTS
It’s EASY! Look for people who:
1) Call others evil.
2) Tell you how to recognize evil people.
You're gaslighting.
So how do you discover the Evil in yourself? We know our wickedness, O LORD, The iniquity of our fathers, for we have sinned against You. (Jeremiah 14:20, NASB)
If I had trusted my Primal instincts to begin with it would have saved me a lot of problems I knew something was wrong and I broke up with her and that I got back with her cuz I was stupid
Now you know and that’s great... forgive yourself. No need to beat yourself up. You’ve gathered many important lessons. This brings wisdom. Blessings to you!
Stop with the nuances. Toxic is toxic.
I understand my friend, but actually, what do you do in a situation where your mother is very cruel to you, and then when you finally had enough and walk away- she calls you and says "I'm so sorry honey. I'll never do it again". -and then after many years of this pattern repeating itself- you start to think you're crazy. ?????
@@Emeraldcity70 I would go No Contact! I had to kick my mom out of my property to get peace. I didn't talk to her for months. Now I see her occasionally. I will not hesitate to stop talking to her again if she starts up with her bs again. Best Wishes. Check out The Little Shaman Channel - she talks about toxic and narcissistic people.
That’s is the espirit of jesabel in the Bible her hosban naiman and olso was lot manipulation consider wichtcraf.only with preying and renunce every ivil.
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.efesian 6:12
There's NOTHING QUICK, about this Video! step on it!!!
Can’t we try to see the light
Human beings are predators. Therefore, these videos.
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I've always had this strange "gut sickness" when I would meet certain people and I never knew why. When I got older I got Saved and Baptized and that same feeling intensified. I can't explain it other than a nervous sickness in my gut. As time went on I would base my everyday decisions on weather or not I got this feeling. This has saved me physically, mentally, financially and every other way possible. My Grandmother called it your built in Sin Radar Detector. Father God is so wise and merciful that from the very beginning he gave us all the things we needed to navigate this life and protect ourselves.
I get the same thing. I call it spiritual nausea.
@@transitionsnc when you have this feeling are you encountering a person that’s evil?
When you achieve emotional sobriety (meaning you are walking in alignment with your creator, “saved” or however you see it) it is like you have flipped the “on” switch to being able to FEEL evil. I guess some people would see it as hyper vigilance or ptsd (which is true after any long term encounter with evil) but I find the reaction is pretty much instantaneous for me now - after encounters with 2 different malignant narcissists. When I feel that feeling of fear or intense anxiety around a person now I don’t question it. If something feels off, it is. Find a bee line to the exit at the first available opportunity.
@@deasiathompson91 The short answer is, "yes". Usually I am encountering a person with an entity attachment, but my "spiritual nausea" could be the result of other evil as well.
@@goldilocks3593 Agreed. This is a good way of explaining it.
I don't explain myself or my decisions anymore. I'm not obligated to have a relationship that isn't good for me. I stopped all contact months ago and have never felt better. I am keeping my clarity and living my life. Wish I would have done it years ago.
Two years after marrying an 'evil person' (she meets ALL the criteria exceptionally well), we are divorcing . . . it has been a brutal experience - even the separation is characteristically being underscored by her evilness, generating perpetual confusion in myself even during the separation. Its a remarkable phenomenon to be so close to. The piece I find MOST challenging is that I feel and know very deeply and profoundly her pain, her inner conflict, the source of her evilness and find I have tremendous empathy for and even a desire to care for and help her heal . . . . which is very interesting to hold in my awareness and presence at the SAME TIME I am caring for the brutal abuses and violations to which I have been subjected . . . . I guess this is the deepest timeless challenge of the act of forgiveness!!! To care for the deep violations of one's own self and simultaneously feel care for their abuser (without perpetuating the abuse).
I've been dodging so many women and no relationship as a result and I wondered if I am too harsh. The relief I feel reading things like this is like. I am alone but at least I'm not being hurt by a wrongun or dysfunctional woman whom I then feel obliged to take care of even though I am taking damage. I feel for you and thank you for sharing your experience. I don't know if I am right or wrong but thank you.
I've been in a TOXIC relationship for 9 years and just ran away. It's been 48 days of absolutely no contact. I've lost everything you can possibly imagine, time, money (a loooooot of money), material stuff, health, my precious dog and the list goes on and on... I regret all the things I've done to her, all the dedication, love, all the time spent together, trips, dinners and also every apology. I even crashed my car twice arguing with her, nearly broke my hand punching the door as she literally drove me craaaaaaazy with her insanity! My question is, how can I get rid of such ANGER for someone? I mean, I never thought I would ever feel this way about anyone, but she's an absolute EVIL. How can I overcome this feeling? I just want to live 1 day longer than her so I can celebrate her death and I'm that kinda person would never do bad to anyone.
Raph L the only way to get rid of that anger is to forgive her from your heart. Secondly, the only way to really do that is to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. God's Holy Spirit will then make his home in your heart and voila.....you can do it! I am working on this forgiveness stuff daily and getting freer and freer. It's been a long process, but it works! I'll pray for you, Raph. 💛
@@marymilligan2330Nope , narc abuse should not be forgiven. It's like forgiving genocide. The genocide against your essense, being , and soul. No way. There's nothing wrong with being angry. It is as valid an emotion as any other emotion. Anger is purifying and purging, especially in someone who normally doesn't feel it. I wish I could feel anger as strongly as Raph.
@Raph L good for you with staying no contact! 💪😊. after many years & no contact after covert abuse the phase of anger is fine. Anger It's a normal feeling after being deceived by them , but anger is not meant to be in the body long term. You can eventually forgive them in your heart , but that does not mean tolerate or forget the tramua that you experienced.After watching videos such as this, I started building my life little at a time and giving what I gave to them give that back to myself. I wish you the best on your journey of healing.
@@SunandSunflowers you are phenomenal with your words of wisdom. I applaud you. Many happy days, weeks and months to you.
Wish this world had more caring people.
These zombies out number us, I think. Sadly...but it appears the C-vid is taking them out mostly.
Raph L,
Take it one day at a time and be gentle with yourself as you process all of this. These people are broken on the inside and that has nothing to do with you but has everything to do with them.
We are always working with what we know at any given time. You will make all that money back. Anger only hurts you and not the other person.
Look into videos on "how to release anger emotion". There are 64,000 human emotions according to scientists in the field of neurology. And we humans only use about 5 to 7 emotions our whole lifetime.
Take care and accept that you didnt know what you know now. If you weren't tricked and deceived, you wouldn't have gotten close to this one.
Another very important video, thank you Ewa. Being aware and learning to protect yourself is paramount.
If someone that is your parent or guardian is evil, say “so long and goodnight” to them and what I mean by that is runaway if they are abusive.
Or call the police.
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Thank you so much for this video. I was married to a diagnosed psychopath for 23 years. It wasn't until the end of the relationship that I finally got it. If it had not been for the VA hospital telling me to get out of the relationship ASAP I was his target and he was going to kill me. The FBI was brought in because they believed he is a serial killer. No bodies have been found to date. I spent over a year in women's shelters after that trying to get away from him. For me, I think there are 3 things that kept me in that relationship, and I can tell you things, I went through with him that would make your toenails curl . He was a white-collar worker with his own business. #1. I am learning I am on the Autism spectrum, very functional I have owned several successful businesses, but I think differently than others and I perceive the world around me differently. Meaning I did not always pick up the cues someone else would have. #2 He had 2 separate lives. No one realized that including me, until the end and it took me years after that to make it part of my reality. He is a master at the lies and convincing people. #3 He would gaslight me and tell me I was the one who was crazy for thinking he did whatever I was challenging him about and he was always able to twist situations around so that it always looked like my fault or someone else's fault but never his fault he was able to get people to agree with him. This made me question myself and my reality. There is a huge difference between Narcissists and evil psychopaths. Narcissistic people are all about themselves to get what they want they do not care who they hurt to get what they want. Evil people are similar they are all about themselves they do not care about others or who they hurt but the huge difference is Evil people are all about the GAME. They like to design whatever game they are running and they get off on the pain they inflict. They like torture and turning the screws to watch someone squirm even die.
They can be redeemed we're not their redeemers, take care to protect yourself and limit or eliminate contact with them...