Never got an orgasm with penetrative sex? | Explains Clinical Sexologist Dr. Martha Tara Lee

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  • @marybaker5250
    @marybaker5250 3 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    This video just validated everything I’ve struggled with when it comes to my body

  • @HopeAngel777
    @HopeAngel777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +233

    I've never been able to tell any boyfriend I have had in the past, nor even my husband about this issue. I was always ashamed. I still don't think I can talk to him about this, but I'm relieved to know that I'm not alone, and there's nothing "wrong with" me there.

    • @trmp9923
      @trmp9923 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm almost 34 and WILL NEVER be able to have a vaginal orgasm. Not alone or with a partner.

    • @Gpacharlie
      @Gpacharlie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Tell him. A little at a time. If he is smart and has a heart, he will be very happy you did.

    • @glitch8419
      @glitch8419 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I have the same problem siso

    • @thatrunawayguy3555
      @thatrunawayguy3555 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Can you imagine him finding out his wife is online telling people her husband doesn't satisfy her? The longer you wait to tell him, the more immaculated he's going to feel. Although I still find it ridiculous that grown men still have the mindset of a teenage boy who's taken porn as a "how to"... even when I first started having sex I realized female's don't get off like guys, because I see through my own ego. Lol I quickly noticed the girls mood would drastically change if I did it right 🤣 no going back after that.

    • @nihongo02341
      @nihongo02341 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I've known it for a while.... the cljtoris is how most women have orgasms.... its normal to want to be stimulated there while having penetrative sex...

  • @beckybarnes8875
    @beckybarnes8875 ปีที่แล้ว +141

    I feel nothing on the inside at all. So I always wondered how anyone could orgasm through vaginal only. So odd.

    • @prachikapal5648
      @prachikapal5648 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So it doesn't feel good when the penis touches your cervix??

    • @TiffanyRusell
      @TiffanyRusell ปีที่แล้ว +6

      same.

    • @Fbitypeshit
      @Fbitypeshit 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@sixsixsix66616how does it work

    • @AraneaTempestatum
      @AraneaTempestatum 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same.

    • @tinyking11
      @tinyking11 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same. I can only have them through clitoral stimulation. 🥴 It’s the easiest.

  • @Mirchmasala-r4q
    @Mirchmasala-r4q 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Very good and useful video madam thank you so much

  • @rvignesh
    @rvignesh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    I am reaching a stage where i know more about a woman's body than mine! 😁 Thank you Docs & other ladies for sharing the knowledge.
    Any future plans on running a TH-cam channel for Men? There's just too much misinformation on the internet. 😞

    • @saraparker9202
      @saraparker9202 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน because we already have that 😊

    • @saintfiora
      @saintfiora 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน 😂here are so many doctors and u can't be a doctor without brain😂

    • @saintfiora
      @saintfiora 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน 😂murkh ho tum😂I don't want to argue with such a dumb

    • @saintfiora
      @saintfiora 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน 😂and for ur kind information 😂 cerebrum helps in memorizing things😂and it is the biggest part of our brain

    • @ee-wb5ji
      @ee-wb5ji 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน dumbest troll ever😂

  • @Sillilesshells
    @Sillilesshells 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    ” They may feel like their arm is not long enough” Bruh.

  • @IdongesitEbong
    @IdongesitEbong 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    So helpful. Thank you so much

  • @seanpatrick7497
    @seanpatrick7497 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Excellent information. Another consideration is that some women find intercourse painful and uncomfortable. It’s best to explore other avenues to help her achieve pleasure. 😊

    • @maryakah1112
      @maryakah1112 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Pls throw more light on the painful and uncomfortable sexual intercourse during sex.

    • @tinyking11
      @tinyking11 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      CORRECT‼️‼️💯😮‍💨

    • @yokiyokai4845
      @yokiyokai4845 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I love my bf but I hate sex I hate it the shit is so painful and uncomfortable and idk why some people enjoy it

    • @seanpatrick7497
      @seanpatrick7497 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@yokiyokai4845 Hand/Oral stimulation is also an alternative.

  • @vin.handle
    @vin.handle ปีที่แล้ว +21

    What I have long time suspected. For my wife it takes a long time if she ever does have orgasm through intercourse. If I go down on her, it takes 2-3 minutes. Manually 5-6 minutes or thereabouts.

    • @rosebascom9180
      @rosebascom9180 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I’m jealous. I can’t do it from oral even 30 minutes.

  • @lucyred6523
    @lucyred6523 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    So the big question is what is then sex for because most women cannot feel anything during penetration which points to the fact that vagina is only for sperm and child birth and clitoris is for pleasure. On the other hand men can orgasm during penetration and without it. Orgasm during penetration is again for making children and men can have orgasm by touching etc. their genitalia. Why there is so much difference? Why men can do both but women only one? Also we should look at the cases with women having orgasm during penetration but this orgasms again come from clitoris and its close position to the entrance. Most women who cannot orgasm during penetration has their clitoris too far from opening. Why is that? is it some genetic defect or what?

    • @publiozinj4882
      @publiozinj4882 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      In our evolution, women didn't need to o to reproduce. I asked chat gpt about this same question. There's scientific theroes as to why. You'll have to be honest with yourself in finding the answer and forget about modern ideas of equality that don't exist in nature.

    • @lucyred6523
      @lucyred6523 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@publiozinj4882 how they do not need to reproduce if women bring forth children? women are needed for survival of our species.

    • @icke11234
      @icke11234 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@publiozinj4882 The real question is not why women need no orgasms to reproduce but why women do have orgasms to begin with although they apparently do not "need" any. Get it?

    • @richardpauly1635
      @richardpauly1635 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There a vibrator that does both

  • @DivyaSingh-br1jd
    @DivyaSingh-br1jd 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Pls make it on hindi also...I want to share it with my aunts so that they can also understand......
    However I can also explain them...but I am not a expert like you and its easy to avoid awakwardness via your video!

    • @ErosCoachingCom
      @ErosCoachingCom 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sorry but I am not able to speak Hindi. There are many videos on SheThePeople TV not in English.

  • @ashenal
    @ashenal 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    So helpful!

  • @bablishil3651
    @bablishil3651 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you 💞

  • @kattiacontreras1348
    @kattiacontreras1348 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    I feel sad that I can’t be normal

    • @na.n.cy1
      @na.n.cy1 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Me too but, I think that the "normal" pleasure is just fake. It is pleasure because of the whole experience and I think no woman actually feels something when they have something inside.

    • @choki1638
      @choki1638 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@na.n.cy1 very true, porn movies lie to us alot, there is no pleasure in penetration and i used to think i was alone in that shit not until i came here.

    • @outlawzz9255
      @outlawzz9255 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same

    • @jenneyjen-vo2mq
      @jenneyjen-vo2mq 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I completely understand and respect your stance. You deserve to be loved and respected for who you are, and your body is your own to share or not share as you choose. It's amazing that you're prioritizing your own worth and boundaries like that. You're right, intimacy and love should be mutual and respectful, not just about physical desire. Keep holding out for someone who will love and appreciate you fully, because you're worth it!

    • @jenneyjen-vo2mq
      @jenneyjen-vo2mq 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@na.n.cy1 I completely understand and respect your stance. You deserve to be loved and respected for who you are, and your body is your own to share or not share as you choose. It's amazing that you're prioritizing your own worth and boundaries like that. You're right, intimacy and love should be mutual and respectful, not just about physical desire. Keep holding out for someone who will love and appreciate you fully, because you're worth it!

  • @codemadefun8461
    @codemadefun8461 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Looks beneficial

  • @LynJegher
    @LynJegher 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you!

  • @tangwanjosrphbanyong6465
    @tangwanjosrphbanyong6465 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your are a good teacher

  • @rabim106
    @rabim106 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I don’t orgasm from penetration and my partner must know that. I say it.

    • @richardpauly1635
      @richardpauly1635 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Then show him and get a vibrator

  • @meghajain1712
    @meghajain1712 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    great video

  • @L-Johnson-Jr
    @L-Johnson-Jr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    “People with vaginas” 😭😭

    • @maple6573
      @maple6573 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      I know right? So dehumanizing.

    • @kat3ph0bic61
      @kat3ph0bic61 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Some people might go by a different pronoun or gender. If you transformed to a man and still had lady parts, I'm sure it would be comforting to hear a gender neutral term

    • @evgraph_polycarpovich
      @evgraph_polycarpovich ปีที่แล้ว +4

      i am a non binary person and i actually feel seen when i hear this. i have a vagina and female anatomy but don’t identify as a woman

    • @What-he5pr
      @What-he5pr 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's how you know the video host is a communist

    • @What-he5pr
      @What-he5pr 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@kat3ph0bic61 gibberish for mentally ill.

  • @sajjadakhtar6486
    @sajjadakhtar6486 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I like your style of orientation 👌
    Best 👍

  • @fgcpeak9591
    @fgcpeak9591 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Obviously... there are simply no nerves in there... Which is why it's so hilarious that so many people think the act of penetration can ever be considered "hot". Women don't even feel anything during that interaction 😂😂

    • @theoschoendube
      @theoschoendube ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Speak for yourself… I know people that only come through penetration

    • @fgcpeak9591
      @fgcpeak9591 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@theoschoendube Speak for yourself. The statistic show the vast majority of women don't. You donkey.

    • @mahimamasud9458
      @mahimamasud9458 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      ​@@theoschoendubenah lol

    • @FavDogBisquit
      @FavDogBisquit ปีที่แล้ว

      I do! Be on fire!

    • @agnefreedom7116
      @agnefreedom7116 ปีที่แล้ว

      You damn right. Penetration does fuck all for me and it’s annoying when the guys think only about it. And even you tell them they still goes back to penetration. Boring… I might just become a lesbian 😂😂 penis does nothing to my vagina

  • @ChesterM-cn2uv
    @ChesterM-cn2uv ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This makes sense, and it would be hard for it not to work. Did you check out Merle Winestol's ideas as well? He reveals a set of crazy techniques that can make any woman have the most pleasurable experience of their lives. Be careful before go’ogling him, just don't try it if you don't think you could keep up with her lol.

  • @danherrmann8755
    @danherrmann8755 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great information. Followed my significant others instructions. Problem is. She has been taking her mother’s opioid pain medication and is an addict. She lied to me making me think it was coming from a doctor. The drug was but not her doctor. Will this make orgasm more difficult because of being on the drug for 20 years. Does opioids drugs make orgasm more difficult for woman.
    Thanks. Look for reply

    • @ErosCoachingCom
      @ErosCoachingCom 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sorry to hear. Yes medication can hinder orgasms.

    • @danherrmann8755
      @danherrmann8755 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for answer. She needs help bad from opioid addiction on God can save her. Later.

    • @latinaalma1947
      @latinaalma1947 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@danherrmann8755 Dan get help help she can gradually gradually withdraw UNDER supervision please...she needs a dlctor overseeing this and doing it slowly with her NO CLD TURKEY.

    • @latinaalma1947
      @latinaalma1947 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Excellent work! Sybil Francis PhD clinical psychologist professor

    • @UniversalMysticsOfChrist
      @UniversalMysticsOfChrist 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      you gave a lot of unnecessary information which paints your partner in a bad light, that's why she can't orgasm with you

  • @Chompchompyerded
    @Chompchompyerded 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Can a person born without genitalia have orgasms? If so, what is the best area to stimulate, and using what? Also, what does an orgasm feel like and how do you know if you've had one?

    • @ErosCoachingCom
      @ErosCoachingCom 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yes it is possible. Sex and orgasm is more than just genital. The reason people focus on the genitals is because of the amount of nerves and sensitivity of our genitals. The whole body is a sex organ and the entire body can with some practice (and intention) trigger orgasms.

    • @richardpauly1635
      @richardpauly1635 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Anal should have work your breasts are sentive

    • @jenneyjen-vo2mq
      @jenneyjen-vo2mq 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I completely understand and respect your stance. You deserve to be loved and respected for who you are, and your body is your own to share or not share as you choose. It's amazing that you're prioritizing your own worth and boundaries like that. You're right, intimacy and love should be mutual and respectful, not just about physical desire. Keep holding out for someone who will love and appreciate you fully, because you're worth it!

  • @amethystflower8799
    @amethystflower8799 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Its because the man is circumcised. Thats the problem

  • @mataneraseona2441
    @mataneraseona2441 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love it

  • @huffelpuff
    @huffelpuff 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I also feel nothing

  • @Truefree1111
    @Truefree1111 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Same with me

  • @renem2257
    @renem2257 ปีที่แล้ว

  • @SureshKumar-yg6si
    @SureshKumar-yg6si 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    docrar my age 45 and my problam erectail disfantion please medican batao

  • @alexabadjon4091
    @alexabadjon4091 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    u mean woman

  • @leonheartilly92
    @leonheartilly92 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I just became sexually active for the past 7 months, and I absolutely love my husband and I enjoy our intimate session (for the intimacy and connection) But I can’t have orgasm at all or feel significant pleasure from sex, it makes me really frustrated because I feel not normal and different from other people 🥲 My question is, what are the steps that we can take to ‘feel’ that pleasure and get it built up? I feel like if orgasm is a gauge, it exists in me but it just doesn’t seem to charge up 😢

    • @enavigatorE
      @enavigatorE 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Does he do oral stimulation?

    • @Secret-sw8ih
      @Secret-sw8ih 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Can you org*am by yourself? Tell him & move his hand to what/where feels good to you!

    • @eleonoreliebe3331
      @eleonoreliebe3331 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Australia .Honey I feel for you, but I think rite from the beginning your husband never knew or even managed to wake you up, and most likely has no clue on how or what he has to do ,or need from him unless you tell him ,so please sweetheart don't send him the wrong message to make him feel like the great superman pretending that all is well with you when it isn't. forplay is the key to success, and that takes time .and once you experience an orgasm you will know how to lean into it and achieve many more .😮 yes, it's so strange that doing what comes naturally can be so bloody complicated.😊

    • @tristiancampbell-barker5965
      @tristiancampbell-barker5965 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Get a vibrator wand and put it on your clitoral area while he does you. It changes everything

  • @ghostdigit1555
    @ghostdigit1555 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    in other words, it doesnt exist

  • @janaenae1338
    @janaenae1338 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Nope

    • @jenneyjen-vo2mq
      @jenneyjen-vo2mq 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I completely understand and respect your stance. You deserve to be loved and respected for who you are, and your body is your own to share or not share as you choose. It's amazing that you're prioritizing your own worth and boundaries like that. You're right, intimacy and love should be mutual and respectful, not just about physical desire. Keep holding out for someone who will love and appreciate you fully, because you're worth it!

  • @shafishadiq1616
    @shafishadiq1616 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Best is lick out

    • @publiozinj4882
      @publiozinj4882 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thats what I say. You gotta get in there and do what needs to be done.

    • @shafishadiq1616
      @shafishadiq1616 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@publiozinj4882 hmm

  • @Chhavisharma_99
    @Chhavisharma_99 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ufff

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    @spiridonnspiridonn4596 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

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  • @JeDxDeVu
    @JeDxDeVu ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank god I’m a man. Women are so complicated. 😂

    • @qrpcoaching8198
      @qrpcoaching8198 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      A degrading remark.

    • @tracymay6702
      @tracymay6702 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Men can't get it up

    • @qrpcoaching8198
      @qrpcoaching8198 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tracymay6702 not all men

    • @jennakfae
      @jennakfae 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      women just have more pleasure spots so we have more needs lol

    • @Lavbrown2016
      @Lavbrown2016 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      …… bully for you ❤🎉