Men before you get married, make sure you are at a point where you can't live without being married! Make sure you only marry to get that which you can't get outside marriage.
Good counsel sir. However, I have learnt in my 16yrs of marriage that you can't please a woman. Just do your best but never allow yourself 2 be manipulated in2 carrying out her whims and caprices just 4 Jerusalem sake. If she denies you your right unduly, seek your satisfaction else where or in other things you enjoy. Do not build your life and future around her... cos you will surely be disappointed. Trust me there is more 2 life than marriage Thanks.
Pretty sure you didn't listen to this video before making your own conclusion n posting a response. Please listen again from beginning to end n learn. Your post shows that you really need to sit at Dr Apoki's feet to learn wisdom. You sure need a lot of wisdom. I can imagine what your wife is suffering from you.
@@lilyefegreat458 someone who already left his wife, you can lick his feet for your own wisdom. Say what you like, women can't be satisfied. The best thing a man can do is to be the best version of himself, with or without a woman
Dr Akpoki, so lovely listening to you. I hope there are young men listening to you on how to treat their wives and to reach Jerusalem. You make me chuckle, stay blessed
This is a critical part of the intimacy dynamics between the man and the woman. Another aspect of the dynamics is the fact that intimacy is for mutual benefits, whether with respect to pleasure, relief, procreation, strengthening of the marriage-bond, etc. The mutuality component naturally demands that both parties contribute to making it work. Making love in the context of marriage should not be seen as a privilege earned through worship (called "romance"), and from the man to the woman, but rather as a contribution by both parties to the maintenance of the relationship. The man needs to do his part, and the woman does her part to build this beautiful relationship. There's a lot of perspectives to this situation more than the correct disposition portrayed by the video. I'm just saying, though.
My bro, God bless you. It seems like it is a priviledge for the woman to give the man. This is why it is always weaponised. May men get to the point that sex or not, they are fine. This is why it is important that men chase purpose.
Dr Apoki, you are indeed a genius. Thanks for your vulnerability. Many men approach women from logical angles, but it has to be from emotional angles. If you are going for fishing, you take worms not cake / fufu. You have to look at things from their perspective. Many Christian men especially are quick to point to “wives submit.,,” as if their wives are robots.
You’re quite correct sir but this theory should be applied with discretion. If you become too soft she totally disrespects you, if you become too hard, you push her away. It’s dicey just like a Mercedes, drive too hard you destroy the AMG or get a fatal accident, don’t drive at all or too slow, you never enjoy that sweet automobile experience of an AMG
Maximum respect sir. My perspective is this: the key to Jerusalem is like the four fingers and the thumb. Without the thumb the four fingers are next to useless. Without the fingers, the thumb can do wonders. Key to my analogy : everything mentioned are the four fingers except money( the thumb). Men, make sure you are capable (money) and with the four fingers, you will become a perpetual pilgrim.
This is wisdom at its Best... When it comes to these matters..... I have watched a couple of video from your Channel hadn't yet Subscribed, But this one has made me Do so..
God bless you sir. I just stumbled upon this video. Indeed you are such a mentor to have. I will contact you soon. However, don't be on a look out for me sir. LOL God bless you.
Let the woman always desire you more than you desire her at all times and they will be no deprivation always remain solid and masculine yet romantic and tensioned
Great video but woman of today are cut from a different cloth. If you are not sharply you will go broke and then dumped for being broke. It has become a lot more complicated for men to navigate this issue today.
He is right, but it mostly works on married couples. It's a different dynamic, when you're dating I agree that girls are simply insane. If you're dating, never date someone who you can't see yourself marry
Any woman that deprived her husband with sex is not a good wife. Send her back to her father a good wife will always long to spend time with her husband in the other room .many of you relationships expert on social media are just confusing us.
As a medical doctor with 40 years experience, married for 39 years and masters degree holder in the social sciences and a scavenger for knowledge I accumulated knowledge and experience over the years. As a Christian I pray in the spirit and meditate a lot. It is 1:30 am but I am still working. It's been like that since I was 16 years old now I am 65.
As a young married man, though, not too young and as one who married in Europe and do not have most challenges identified by @charles. However, I agree with Dr Charles but i will say men should be becareful and wise in applyibg this formula. This is because, what arouse a woman today will not work tomorrow trust me. So, therefore, base on my personal experience, men should be creative and unpredictable to their wives in pleasing them. Nonetheless ooh, always prepare your mind to be disappointed irrespective of your efforts 😂😂😂. Truth be told, now I understand why our ancestors both in the bible married more than 1 wife, it 100% does make sense now but what can we do as unfortunately society have gradually declined it to be wrong 😢😢. Again, one unfortunate thing I have notice is, because our stupid body knows that we will not always get it when we asked for it, the body will be wanting it more than when you know its always available 😢 what an irony 😅😅😅
Lazy Man!!! You are not hearing Dr. Apoki because you don't want to do the god given mission of making your one wife truly happy. American men love to talk polygamy because they hate working at being a decent and responsible man with their one wife. These men need more than one women, so that the women can be consumed and distracted with their competitiveness and jealousy. Henceforth, the women in the polygamist relationship will no longer the notice the failure of the man and only the obsession of beating out the other women for his attention. Happy wife happy life will always reign supreme. The highest grossing economies like China don't focus on pum pum like other poorer countries. They focus on education, money and strong families. Poor and powerless men with harems of wayward women, do not drive the progression of successful and rich societies.
@@kosiekoos9408you want to victim blame abi? A man without wisdom cannot be helped by anyone. You don't have to do anything to him, it is common sense which he just does not have that's his problem.
Dr. A Godly man and a righteous wife who knows the scriptures will understand that her body is not her own, and him as well. What you are saying seems like a husband should be paying for his wife to have sex with him. Here’s biblical point when it comes to married couples and sex. 1Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. DEFRAUDING IS BAD WETHER FROM THE WOMAN OR THE MAN.
Ur points are valid. However, Dr is only trying to say that men should add respect and romance to the fact that they should not be denied their conjugal rights. Hope u can tell the difference between a wife that engages with her husband joyfully and the one that was forced. In one instance, the" journey" will be smooth while in the other, it seems u engage with a log of wood. Pls men try and be nice to Ur wives cos any high hand u give your woman now, will be measured back in old age if care is not taken. Thanks
@omiteisaac2278 Why should the Man go above & beyond what is rightfully his according to scripture? What role does the woman play? Hold out until she feels "loved" or gets what she wants? During courtship she'd be the one pursuing intimacy to keep you locked down. Now that you are yoked, she's holding back & using intimacy as a bargaining tool!!!
@@dholuo35 So many factors can lead to her holding back. Most especially when she begins to feel disrespected by the one who she poured all out for. Note that this happens mostly in marriages that are not so new. When a man starts taking his wife for granted, hmm, if that woman is not broken to an extented, the natural being in her that has the ability to withdraw starts playing out. My opinion is that husbands should take time to study the chemistry and dimensions on women/wives. They can be loving but 'dangerous' in terms of decision making. But to round it up, what will it cost a husband to be kind/ nice to his wife?. Whatever it maybe, a simple dialogue can solve it. It can only be achieved by mature minds though 🌞 It takes two to tango. But Dr Apoki has given his wise counsel and this shld be termed as one key point to live long as a man. The more the mind is cluttered in relationships the worse it is for men. I rest my case for now . Thanks just my opinion as earlier said
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Men before you get married, make sure you are at a point where you can't live without being married! Make sure you only marry to get that which you can't get outside marriage.
Good counsel sir. However, I have learnt in my 16yrs of marriage that you can't please a woman. Just do your best but never allow yourself 2 be manipulated in2 carrying out her whims and caprices just 4 Jerusalem sake. If she denies you your right unduly, seek your satisfaction else where or in other things you enjoy. Do not build your life and future around her... cos you will surely be disappointed. Trust me there is more 2 life than marriage Thanks.
Well said
Hope in seeking, you will not bring sickness and mind you, you will still spend money before getting the satisfaction from else where
Pretty sure you didn't listen to this video before making your own conclusion n posting a response. Please listen again from beginning to end n learn. Your post shows that you really need to sit at Dr Apoki's feet to learn wisdom. You sure need a lot of wisdom. I can imagine what your wife is suffering from you.
@@lilyefegreat458 someone who already left his wife, you can lick his feet for your own wisdom.
Say what you like, women can't be satisfied.
The best thing a man can do is to be the best version of himself, with or without a woman
@@joyndidiamakaedosomwan2425 He said you can also seek your joy in other things asides women in general
Very useful information. I am Black American, 62, living in America. I feel that compassion, and mutual respect are important.
Baba you're a national treasure 🎉🎉🎉🎉
"You cannot go to Jerusalem with a sweating pilot"😅😅.. Dr. Apoki you are unique😂😂
😂😂😂 I always get to Jerusalem sweaty, but hold on, I just realized am the passenger not the pilot 😅😅
🤣🤣🤣@@Enabu1
Dr Akpoki, so lovely listening to you. I hope there are young men listening to you on how to treat their wives and to reach Jerusalem. You make me chuckle, stay blessed
Great wisdom Dr.Apoki, I have learnt something all the way from Zambia.
Your type of African man is rare
Not really
There's millions out there
I am laughing my brains off. You said you will be aggressive during the day at work and then crawl down like a cockroach at night!😅😅😅
Yes 😂😂😂
😂😂
THIS IS A REALLY GOOD VIDEO! WHY? BECAUSE IT IS VERY TRUE. 😂
Thanks so much please share with others.
This is a critical part of the intimacy dynamics between the man and the woman. Another aspect of the dynamics is the fact that intimacy is for mutual benefits, whether with respect to pleasure, relief, procreation, strengthening of the marriage-bond, etc. The mutuality component naturally demands that both parties contribute to making it work. Making love in the context of marriage should not be seen as a privilege earned through worship (called "romance"), and from the man to the woman, but rather as a contribution by both parties to the maintenance of the relationship. The man needs to do his part, and the woman does her part to build this beautiful relationship. There's a lot of perspectives to this situation more than the correct disposition portrayed by the video. I'm just saying, though.
My bro, God bless you. It seems like it is a priviledge for the woman to give the man. This is why it is always weaponised. May men get to the point that sex or not, they are fine. This is why it is important that men chase purpose.
Very open and sincere I wish all men will listen to your advice
Dr Charles, thanks. I will definitely give you a shout one of these days.
You have spoken pure truth, Dr Apoki 🙏🏾 As a woman, I completely agree
Another banger!! Words of wisdom.
More wisdom, God bless you, Sir!
That analogy about the mad woman's lock of hair is fire!!!
Happy listening to your priceless pieces of advice. Tks again Sir
I always enjoy your videos great job you're doing I love this one a lot would share it with my husband lol
Preach am oh dear Sir. Preach am 🙏🏽 He who has ears should hear.
Waohh this is really inspiring!!
Well said Sir. I thoroughly enjoyed this!
Thank you for the wisdom Granny ❤ blessings
Thanks for all you do sir, you're a rare gem
My pleasure
Great counsel.. you softened my heart o.. loved the example of patience...
Dr Charles Akpoooookkiii😅😅 thank you for the words of wisdom.
I can’t stop laughing ❤️Thank you Dr Apoki
Nah wahhh for you Dr.Akpoki well done xx🎉
Good to hear from you sir these is what meny people don't understand my professor
This is experiential Knowledge.....Thank you for sharing this golden wisdom
Dr Apoki, you are indeed a genius. Thanks for your vulnerability. Many men approach women from logical angles, but it has to be from emotional angles. If you are going for fishing, you take worms not cake / fufu. You have to look at things from their perspective. Many Christian men especially are quick to point to “wives submit.,,” as if their wives are robots.
So true.
Thank you, Dr. Charles
You are very welcome
Thank daddy. I won't miss this coming seminar.
Dr. Charles Apoki, very apt and instructive. God bless you for😊 sharing so deeply from the heart.
😂😂😂. I love the wisdom of the native doctor.
Mercedes grace,mercy and reward
I love the last part of the video where we have to "deaf" 😂😂 so so real and true papa
You are God-Sent🙏 Thank you Dr, Mentor and Area Grand Father. Greetings from Kigali
Dr Apoki you make me laugh even when I am serious, very informative and humorous, viva.
Watching you from Zambia 🇿🇲 ❤
Thank you sar, I am a 23 year old guy. Your words help shape my thoughts
You’re quite correct sir but this theory should be applied with discretion. If you become too soft she totally disrespects you, if you become too hard, you push her away. It’s dicey just like a Mercedes, drive too hard you destroy the AMG or get a fatal accident, don’t drive at all or too slow, you never enjoy that sweet automobile experience of an AMG
In other words "balance"
Original Grandfather na you bikooooo. Ndewo for this advice.
Good video. Real talk.
Thank you so much sir, for this lovely lovely 🎉teaching.❤❤❤❤❤ I am so happy
Dr Akpoki is a wise man he visited my church in port Harcourt his teaches exposes you to the reality of life 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Good sermon!
Maximum respect sir. My perspective is this: the key to Jerusalem is like the four fingers and the thumb. Without the thumb the four fingers are next to useless. Without the fingers, the thumb can do wonders. Key to my analogy : everything mentioned are the four fingers except money( the thumb). Men, make sure you are capable (money) and with the four fingers, you will become a perpetual pilgrim.
What a great fingering insight...money. Finance and romance are twins.😂😂😂😂🗝️🔐
This is wisdom at its Best... When it comes to these matters..... I have watched a couple of video from your Channel hadn't yet Subscribed, But this one has made me Do so..
Me too, I immediately clicked subscribe button after listening.
Thanks you so much.
Thank you Sir for this
But every Woman and marriage are unique on their own.
It's not a one solution fits all, especially in these times.
Modern Day King Solomon. You are wise Doc
A very useful channel
Thank you sir for the advice
God bless you sir.
I just stumbled upon this video.
Indeed you are such a mentor to have.
I will contact you soon. However, don't be on a look out for me sir. LOL
God bless you.
wisdom chief
Thanks Doctor, I agree with everything you said but they will forever need more for the gate to be open.They are never grateful or satisfied.
FACTS UPON FACTS!
Any woman that deprived her husband with sex is not a good wife .period
They are usually grateful at that moment then you have to creative again as you need it another time.
Hence life style just way of handling. 😂😂
Sometimes I wish we were just like animals. Women use mount Olive to reward, abuse and use men
Women are very easy to please. Men just would rather be nice to people (side chicks) outside than to their wives because of ego n lack of wisdom.
Let the woman always desire you more than you desire her at all times and they will be no deprivation always remain solid and masculine yet romantic and tensioned
Facts
Great video but woman of today are cut from a different cloth. If you are not sharply you will go broke and then dumped for being broke. It has become a lot more complicated for men to navigate this issue today.
He is right, but it mostly works on married couples. It's a different dynamic, when you're dating I agree that girls are simply insane.
If you're dating, never date someone who you can't see yourself marry
Great man sir
I am learning alot from u daddy
God bless you❤
Amen.
Well said
Great, thanks sir
This is Wisdom.
Fantastic story
Many many thanks
God bless you more sir.
True baba there's different July or August,u will realize it....
Drinking from this fountain from Kenya.
I love u sir God bless u real good.
Any woman that deprived her husband with sex is not a good wife. Send her back to her father a good wife will always long to spend time with her husband in the other room .many of you relationships expert on social media are just confusing us.
Just learn.
Dey play 😂
Omo na simps full here 😂
Lol. You never jam
Doctor Apoki, please kindly educate this young man.
He needs trainings he didn't get from home
Keep keeping ship sailing
Doctor Charles, how come you know so much on so many issues.?
As a medical doctor with 40 years experience, married for 39 years and masters degree holder in the social sciences and a scavenger for knowledge I accumulated knowledge and experience over the years. As a Christian I pray in the spirit and meditate a lot. It is 1:30 am but I am still working. It's been like that since I was 16 years old now I am 65.
Nice video❤❤
God bless you sir
Thank you sir
True words.
Wow
As a young married man, though, not too young and as one who married in Europe and do not have most challenges identified by @charles. However, I agree with Dr Charles but i will say men should be becareful and wise in applyibg this formula. This is because, what arouse a woman today will not work tomorrow trust me. So, therefore, base on my personal experience, men should be creative and unpredictable to their wives in pleasing them. Nonetheless ooh, always prepare your mind to be disappointed irrespective of your efforts 😂😂😂.
Truth be told, now I understand why our ancestors both in the bible married more than 1 wife, it 100% does make sense now but what can we do as unfortunately society have gradually declined it to be wrong 😢😢.
Again, one unfortunate thing I have notice is, because our stupid body knows that we will not always get it when we asked for it, the body will be wanting it more than when you know its always available 😢 what an irony 😅😅😅
Lazy Man!!! You are not hearing Dr. Apoki because you don't want to do the god given mission of making your one wife truly happy. American men love to talk polygamy because they hate working at being a decent and responsible man with their one wife. These men need more than one women, so that the women can be consumed and distracted with their competitiveness and jealousy. Henceforth, the women in the polygamist relationship will no longer the notice the failure of the man and only the obsession of beating out the other women for his attention. Happy wife happy life will always reign supreme. The highest grossing economies like China don't focus on pum pum like other poorer countries. They focus on education, money and strong families. Poor and powerless men with harems of wayward women, do not drive the progression of successful and rich societies.
Beautiful 😇👋❤
He’s so funny. Thank you @Dr charles apoki
Wow i wish my x husband listened to this....treating me like a dog during the day and expecting jerusalem at night, couldn't work
😭😭😭😭😭
But what is your part? You totally innocent? What did u do to him?
@@kosiekoos9408 Women believe they're innocent by default.
Now you are someone's sidekick 😅😆
@@kosiekoos9408you want to victim blame abi? A man without wisdom cannot be helped by anyone. You don't have to do anything to him, it is common sense which he just does not have that's his problem.
good sir ,were you a student of GCU ,I KOPE KEEP THE SHIP SAILING IS IN ORDER?
❤
I really wish all men could see this. It is true.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
My friend
👏🏽
We are 41k Amazing
Glory to God.
Experience is the best knowledge
Human philosophies...
Papa Apoki
Thank you Daddy
Is this a university?
Watch this at 2x speed
You are wise
Baba you're too much, more wisdom Sir🙏 😂
Dr Apoki my friend, my wife is 66 she says heaven gates are closed from the time she reached 60
😂😂😂😂😂
Mad woman thing was Kwazy!!🤯🤯
Dr. A Godly man and a righteous wife who knows the scriptures will understand that her body is not her own, and him as well. What you are saying seems like a husband should be paying for his wife to have sex with him. Here’s biblical point when it comes to married couples and sex.
1Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
DEFRAUDING IS BAD WETHER FROM THE WOMAN OR THE MAN.
Ur points are valid. However, Dr is only trying to say that men should add respect and romance to the fact that they should not be denied their conjugal rights. Hope u can tell the difference between a wife that engages with her husband joyfully and the one that was forced. In one instance, the" journey" will be smooth while in the other, it seems u engage with a log of wood. Pls men try and be nice to Ur wives cos any high hand u give your woman now, will be measured back in old age if care is not taken. Thanks
@omiteisaac2278 Why should the Man go above & beyond what is rightfully his according to scripture? What role does the woman play? Hold out until she feels "loved" or gets what she wants? During courtship she'd be the one pursuing intimacy to keep you locked down. Now that you are yoked, she's holding back & using intimacy as a bargaining tool!!!
@@dholuo35 So many factors can lead to her holding back. Most especially when she begins to feel disrespected by the one who she poured all out for. Note that this happens mostly in marriages that are not so new. When a man starts taking his wife for granted, hmm, if that woman is not broken to an extented, the natural being in her that has the ability to withdraw starts playing out. My opinion is that husbands should take time to study the chemistry and dimensions on women/wives. They can be loving but 'dangerous' in terms of decision making. But to round it up, what will it cost a husband to be kind/ nice to his wife?. Whatever it maybe, a simple dialogue can solve it. It can only be achieved by mature minds though 🌞
It takes two to tango. But Dr Apoki has given his wise counsel and this shld be termed as one key point to live long as a man. The more the mind is cluttered in relationships the worse it is for men. I rest my case for now . Thanks just my opinion as earlier said
Sadly I am separated from my wife because of this issue.
@@tboy5443
I won’t be surprise if you tell me that your wife goes to church. The churches have been lying to us all. The pastors are liars.
This should be required upbringing for boys.