Why Some People Don't Want To Solve Conflict in a Relationship

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  • Why Some People Don't Want To Solve Conflict in a Relationship In this video I'm going to explain to you why some people just don't want to solve conflicts in a relationship.
    Conflict is so unpleasant and even painful that it is easy to assume that every person wants the same thing when a conflict occurs: Resolve and Repair. The problem with this assumption is that it isn’t true. Some people in certain situations don’t actually want resolve and don’t actually want repair. And when we don’t understand this, or the reasons why they don’t, we can end up pretty confused as to why nothing we do to create resolve and repair ever works.
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  • @MandyJRoss
    @MandyJRoss 3 ปีที่แล้ว +102

    If you're reading this I'm praying something amazing happens for you today. 🙏🏻❤

    • @sansiaray777
      @sansiaray777 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ditto my friend 💕🙏🦋

    • @sharmpadayachee8939
      @sharmpadayachee8939 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you 🥺

    • @mollysreadings4845
      @mollysreadings4845 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You too. Thank you. 🌹

    • @RoseMarieJamesJr
      @RoseMarieJamesJr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you Mandy! Same to you, and to you, dear reader 💗🙏🏾

    • @Klitavox
      @Klitavox 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you💖

  • @jordansaintemarie
    @jordansaintemarie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +152

    I spent a year and a half in an abusive relationship trying to get the abuse to stop. I tried everything. I finally realized, he didn’t want it to stop and never would. This is why abuse only ever gets worse.
    I also had to realize that even though I was being victimized, there was still a part of me that was choosing to be in the abusive relationship and that it was my responsibility to heal that part of me. When I took responsibility for my situation, I finally found the ability to leave. I had to give up everything but now I know that that will never happen to me again because I’ve healed the parts of me that attracted the abuse.

    • @caseymaree4370
      @caseymaree4370 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Mel W I’m personally doing meditations nightly to heal that part of me. It’s on an app called insight timer and the meditation I’m using is healing negative childhood programming. Releasing shame. By Lisa a Romano there are lots of options on there but I found her to really resonate for me. I’m 4 weeks into a min 6 week routine and I feel like a new person. Best of luck on your healing journey beautiful.
      You are loved, you are beautiful, you are worthy. Namaste 🙏💗

    • @Haley22_22
      @Haley22_22 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Very true..when you heal..you are no longer a match to toxic parts within yourself that attracted it..❤️

  • @RL-lf3no
    @RL-lf3no 3 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    Well this is going to trigger lots of people! 🤣😅 Continuous gems from Teal. Always making us think and feel MORE 🙏🙌

    • @RoseMarieJamesJr
      @RoseMarieJamesJr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I am at 8:31 and had to pause the video to see if others are triggered in the comments and this was the top comment! 🤣.

    • @naturevids88
      @naturevids88 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I really got a lot of value from the video, both recognizing aspects in my relationship patterns and things I do as well 🙏🏻

  • @davidgarcia9944
    @davidgarcia9944 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Yes. Conflict is how some people gain control. Be aware. There is people who want healing and there is ones who want revenge. People who want healing they seek help. The ones who want revenge they will scapegoat and blame anyone. Even if they are not part of the conflict.
    Some how they bring you into their own conflicts and issues. Great video.

    • @nmrigaud
      @nmrigaud 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      very true, I had a narc family member whom I haven't spoken with in two years contact me out of the blue saying her mom was harassing her and possibly me, I didn't believe a single word she said and asked her friend.. then turned around and petitioned an HPO against me and said I was the one harassing her for three years. she's unstable. willing to throw her mom under the bus to get close to me again.

    • @KiKi-te9yd
      @KiKi-te9yd 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's not strictly true.
      I found myself in a situation wanting revenge against a hurt..... because I couldn't get it resolved. He was one of those who didn't want to resolve the conflict and that ended up hurting me immensely, then I wanted revenge hurt (not my finest moment).

    • @davidgarcia9944
      @davidgarcia9944 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      well I think that's exactly what teal is talking about. they keep the conflict for control. I believe that karma is the best revenge. when you force things it always backfires. especially when you are hurting. talking by experience. work on your self and find happiness.

    • @KiKi-te9yd
      @KiKi-te9yd 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@davidgarcia9944 true, it does backfire!!

  • @wall.daisies2952
    @wall.daisies2952 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Yep gonna have to listen to this 700 more times

    • @aurora5652
      @aurora5652 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too 😂

    • @calni27
      @calni27 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lol, I’m on the 3rd time already!

    • @sadysparks8243
      @sadysparks8243 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hahaahahahaaha totally!!!!

    • @cecekimberly1420
      @cecekimberly1420 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂😂😂

    • @audhumbla6927
      @audhumbla6927 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      exactly, trying to take notes become a book of my life 😅😅

  • @xjanine77
    @xjanine77 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Great video. This really resonated with me and a few aha moments. In my last relationship I tried so hard to resolve conflict whenever one arose, and was always faced with gaslighting, aloofness, indifference and a lack of resolve. Now I realise the conflict was potentially meeting many of their needs (as well as replaying old familiar trauma patterns), hence their resistance, avoidance and lack of interest in resolve. Thanks for sharing.

    • @magicwandm
      @magicwandm 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same. This was such a revealing video.

    • @xjanine77
      @xjanine77 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@melw3313 yes. This sounds much like my experience. Over the years it really wore me down. Its hard to stay in a healthy communication style when your up against all of of the above, every time. With the best will in the world, you're eventually going to get triggered yourself as it's creating more damage each time.

    • @Mizzmeta4
      @Mizzmeta4 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's my current reality!! so these videos wake me up to the things I have issues processing and moving forward thru my journey this deep self learning of who I am and loving myself so I can grow and hopefully help my children to escape some of the generational wounds that I've passed to them. Awareness is key and Teal wakes up that in me. Thank you. Teal how r u able to make sense in such a way that resonates with my soul???

  • @strugglingmillennial1298
    @strugglingmillennial1298 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I’ve had fallouts or distanced myself from these types of people. At some point I just realized that I can’t help or save anyone who doesn’t want it. They have to make changes themselves. People who are used to chaos and dysfunction find comfort in it. You described many aspects of my childhood and sadly I was always told these types of conflicts are “normal“ to have.

  • @Cass63450
    @Cass63450 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    This is giving me new insights into a very painful situation, that I have taken myself out of, but still feel deeply connected to as well as confused by. Thank you, Teal.

  • @marinaBSNRN
    @marinaBSNRN 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    You cant solve conflict with narcs who torture u for a sport.

  • @chloeobermeier4951
    @chloeobermeier4951 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    This is so me and I had a feeling before even seeing this video that I was creating relationships like this on a subconscious level. I am a person who struggles in nearly every aspect because I’ve been hurt within my family. I self medicate through substances and recreating my traumas. I’m covered in shame.

  • @kinhotas
    @kinhotas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Lmao 🤣😆 4:25
    I honestly love you and your team for not cutting these things.
    Stay true

  • @TealSwanOfficial
    @TealSwanOfficial  3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/dontresolve/

  • @lunastar8448
    @lunastar8448 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    This video was mostly done from the perspective of the person experiencing the person creating the conflicts. But from watching this video, I've realised that I am the person who creates the conflict and I really want to change. Please create more content for people like me. I saw nothing but conflict growing up and my whole entire programming is geared like this. It is unconscious and confusing and I'd love some more insight to find my way through. Thanks x

    • @teajovanovic4445
      @teajovanovic4445 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Same here. I realized that Both me and my partner (but more so me) does this.

    • @jordansaintemarie
      @jordansaintemarie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      May I recommend a book to you? “The Pathwork of Self-Transformstion” by Eva Pierrakos

    • @lunastar8448
      @lunastar8448 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jordansaintemarie thank you so much x

    • @nikolaikozlov8083
      @nikolaikozlov8083 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same here. For me, it was eye-opening to realize how I benefit from a conflict (in more than one way).

    • @andrealeon
      @andrealeon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same here, I would love to learn to overcome this pattern and stop putting my loved ones through that pain.

  • @angelinaalarcon132
    @angelinaalarcon132 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    TEAL amazing 👏 and powerful massage revealed to the masses to absorb and understand their dilemma and life as a whole. I was in the middle of this issue of conflict and was asking guidance from a higher source and your video just popped up. Many blessings to you, this channel and every viewer. 🙏

  • @jacobhibbard8038
    @jacobhibbard8038 3 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    She’s looks so huggable with that jumper on (sweater)

    • @naturevids88
      @naturevids88 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The sweater was the first thing that caught my eye. It is rad 👍🏻

    • @jacobhibbard8038
      @jacobhibbard8038 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@marijana.majic. I love it!!! The colour is so warm 😍

    • @jacobhibbard8038
      @jacobhibbard8038 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@naturevids88 I would totally rock that sweater 😎

    • @naturevids88
      @naturevids88 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@marijana.majic. remember that line from Bambi?

    • @magicwandm
      @magicwandm 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Maybe you'll find it on her website..

  • @makeslifesimpler5168
    @makeslifesimpler5168 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    You are such a great psychologist! I love the way you express and counsel the world.

    • @marinaBSNRN
      @marinaBSNRN 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      She is not a psychologist!

    • @milkandspice1074
      @milkandspice1074 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@marinaBSNRN by definition she is.

    • @spiritualsandy
      @spiritualsandy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      She isn’t a psychologist she is a spiritual leader!

    • @berniv7375
      @berniv7375 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@spiritualsandy Could we say that Teal Swan is a spiritual leader who is versed in the art of psychology.🌱

    • @rachelhartjes313
      @rachelhartjes313 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@berniv7375. Wonderfully put. 👌💛

  • @FloStudios
    @FloStudios 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It is so difficult for me to accept that some people don't have good intentions.

  • @CristalLaLune
    @CristalLaLune 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Your point 5 is so comforting. I never knew it was normal. Whenever I voiced these feelings, mentionning that I would never take any action on them, that it's just thoughts that come and that I feel ashamed of, people treated me as if I were insane, dangerous, abnormal... I had enormous consequences and I thought I was the only one with those occasional revenge desires. I love you.

    • @randomname3455-s1q
      @randomname3455-s1q 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here. I spent the last year or so feeling ashamed and even often crying because of the amount of shame I felt for having such thoughts which were also quite intrusive (probably because I was trying to suppress them) so yeah, hearing it is normal was so comforting for me too.

  • @KiKi-te9yd
    @KiKi-te9yd 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Holy moly, what a gem of a video.
    We both realised that when things got good, he would do something to ruin it. Id ask him what his needs were, he couldn't tell me. I'd try resolve issues, he would drag them out and stonewall for control.
    He wants to be in a connection, but also wants to be alone.
    I never understood so simply that we weren't aligned on actually WANTING to resolve conflict. WOW.
    This seriously is going to be on my relationship checklist going forward.

  • @RippleDrop.
    @RippleDrop. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This top information. Million thanks to you Teal.

  • @TurtleFlowerboi
    @TurtleFlowerboi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Literally going through this issue right now, the timing of this video could not have been better.
    Thank you Teal.

    • @freshstrt3140
      @freshstrt3140 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Indeed 🙏🏽👍🏽🤙🏽🙌🏽 💙

    • @abbye3813
      @abbye3813 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same

    • @MikkoMurmeli
      @MikkoMurmeli 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me too hashtag heh, both on the internet engaging in pointless arguments with people who thrive on conflict in expense of their authenticity, as well as with a person who doesn't consider the feelings of others the least bit. That person is both me and the person I was arguing with.

    • @franjodelac4103
      @franjodelac4103 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yeah, me too. it's been years now. it never occured to me such a simple thing might be at the core of it - she doesn't want resolution, because she gets the things she needs by putting me in a lose-lose situation, which can only be perpetuated by the never-ending conflict.

  • @phoebemallett
    @phoebemallett 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is a really really good video. Very useful. Thank you Teal

  • @Mynameisdarkxxo
    @Mynameisdarkxxo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My problem is addressing issues in a calm but effective manner, I grew up with strict parents who loved the silent treatment and talking about my needs almost always ended up in arguments, I’m becoming more aware of my abandonment issues/ anxiety attachment style cause my mom left me with different baby sitters growing up. Now that I’m in a relationship, lately my partner started to become distant- this really triggered me and I called him out in a way that caused tension - It was an impulsive decision, I felt so powerless and ignored that being upfront about it felt relieving and I couldn’t understand why if I knew I was going to regret this later, which I am because now he’s defensive too. My communication skills always end up hurting me the most

  • @viktorija1999
    @viktorija1999 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I was just watching other videos of Teal while waiting a new one! And again, another great video ! ❤️😍🍀

  • @savannahjohnson7672
    @savannahjohnson7672 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    So if you realize that you are someone who keeps conflict going in a relationship because of xyz reason, what do you do to heal it?

    • @lauralupu4252
      @lauralupu4252 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ask yourself the questions at the end of the video and see what do you actually want from that conflict. (For example: attention) And then, instead of going towards conflict to get attention, actually go into the direction of what you want, like asking for attention

  • @BertrandS.
    @BertrandS. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I was just watching one of your best video ever posted: "Happiness is The Purpose of Your Life! Want to Know Why?"
    I really love and appreciate your wisdom.

  • @TheLenkaGr
    @TheLenkaGr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You’re such an amazing and valuable gift to the world, Teal!

  • @nikid3690
    @nikid3690 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Wow the timing of this is impeccable.

  • @MikkoMurmeli
    @MikkoMurmeli 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This reminds me of the law of mirroring. I just find myself being in a way just as crooked as those who oppose me, making them feel like I feel, but I wonder if they started it or was it really I? With the abusiveness, that is. I am vindictive and while it's not a good thing, it does feel a lot better than walking away, as you said.
    Thank you for this lesson, Teal. It's a valuable one. I'll be sure to digest it properly and seek betterment for my fallings.

  • @Mom_Luvs_Tech
    @Mom_Luvs_Tech 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is so well said. Thank you thank you thank you!!

  • @LeahStorm
    @LeahStorm 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Teal, you're so amazingly insightful!!

  • @AccountantByDay553
    @AccountantByDay553 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a beautiful sweater!!

  • @gill426
    @gill426 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    That's really neat, thank you for this video. I hadn't looked at it this way. Also, this is a really pretty jacket, I love it! 🤗

  • @lesaspravka1173
    @lesaspravka1173 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Well that explains a lot about my now deceased dad. So I know I have the pattern too. Thanks for the illumination. I feel like now I have real power to be happier. 🙏🏽💚🙂🌳

  • @kamalsarraj-andaloussi5593
    @kamalsarraj-andaloussi5593 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Totally Comprehensive, not one stone left unturned, let’s just say to live and experience everything discussed in today’s conversation, is messy, frustrating and downright a torn in one’s potential fulfillment, some might see it as blessings and a test of endurance to caretake elderly of this sort and good deeds, I say it’s been a tug of war with no end in sight.

    • @lizafield9002
      @lizafield9002 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I just finished a decade of caregiving 2 elder parents & had exact same thought. HARD. One an iron willed but needy oblivious bludgeon sort, the other spouse with pitiable Alzheimers, me in the middle annihilated, evaporated by the pathos & mess of their suffering. Nothing is resolved, yet it is. Then you become free. A blessing of earth school. If you are in this, YES, you WILL get back out sooner than you think, 9 million pounds lighter, freed from yourself, weaned, open to every sort of suffering you see & able to love humans. If i were to do it again i would skip the supper dishes, returning calls, forcing a shower etc, & just throw arms around each one, way more often, to say "you did so good. You're the best. Life is hard! I love you."

    • @kamalsarraj-andaloussi5593
      @kamalsarraj-andaloussi5593 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lizafield9002 Blessed are those rocking this boat and having to fry the big fish, they will never come to you and say it straight, their own suffering is prone to paint a totally discrediting picture of not only your efforts but also the results your spiritual ingenuity has delivered for whatever moments of sanity they might return to from dementia from time to time, that’s how they desire people to believe you are. At least it is the case I am living through , however I don’t get tired, overwhelmed or fazed by it.

    • @kamalsarraj-andaloussi5593
      @kamalsarraj-andaloussi5593 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lizafield9002 and yes we are the supercook, the miracle worker, the monk and the shrink, but then again being authentic, is to give as much of whatever God breaks the mold when he made you, to them or in romance for Love.

    • @lizafield9002
      @lizafield9002 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@kamalsarraj-andaloussi5593 Yes. They can't thank you right now. They will fuss and complain. They're depressed, confused & lost. I will thank you for them. You hug them for me. You're our hero.

  • @thedeekabides
    @thedeekabides 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    That jumper really works for you, T!

  • @butterflytiffany
    @butterflytiffany 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love your sweater Teal

  • @dodge9600
    @dodge9600 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The game ends when one party chose to stop playing thereby undeniably putting to the face of the other party that their life is not as significant and making them realize that they will not be getting attention, control, power or anything at all from the other party. Walking away is destroys this wicked freakishness and chaos.

  • @teddi111
    @teddi111 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So helpful. Thank you very much!

  • @annegaellenicole
    @annegaellenicole 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So enlightening !

  • @jeettan8011
    @jeettan8011 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hi Teal, will you be making a video on what is going on in the world and the spiritual perspective behind this, as well as your experience with SRA and how it connects together with this absolute scam of a pandemic? I think a lot of people that were "fast asleep" including myself has had their eyes open to things that were hidden under the shadow during this crisis.
    Best,
    -Jeet

  • @ThomasDoubting5
    @ThomasDoubting5 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I've not watched this, you can't resolve a conflict with an individual that 1 is looking for you to accept all responsibilities for the conflict because they can't possibly be held accountable because they can't face l the perceived shame and guilt associated with doing so,
    and
    2 they are getting pleasure and sensations of power from withholding resolutions that you are seeking from them.
    This is what people do they like to say things like I'm not ready to accept a resolution as if to gain control from the situation and also to punish you teach you lesson so you are playing by their terms.
    The only resolution to any conflict is to identify the conflict the signs are almost always clear and refuse to engage when it does manifest , and hold sway stay sensible don't get drawn in to ownership of what is being projected on to you and remain calm, if you can't just announce that you will have to walk away because now is not a good but you will speak later..
    Do not overthink.
    A person looking for conflict is childish one and should be treated as such, and that includes you if your guilty own your part of it but explain that your admittance and explanation is closure on the subject not an excuse to guilt trip or used as a weapon against you in the future. So if it does get brought up you can refer to what you have already said regarding closure, if this is not enough then the person or persons are of the sort that are harmful and toxic and should be shut out as soon as possible and including your family, because you will continue to be made to suffer these irrational imbeciles.
    Take care of yourselves.

  • @celineduperier3036
    @celineduperier3036 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I LOVE your jumper!! 😍😍😍

  • @cailax11
    @cailax11 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Who else holds to resentment 🙋‍♂️

  • @Keyallah528
    @Keyallah528 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    TY, Dear Teal.... I do Love your psychological expressions....As Above, so below.... Just need that Deep Dive into the Psyche, the Archetypals and the seed points of this distorted 3/4D patriarchal matrix.... For the Spiritual Intuitive, It's an Inside Job of Balance, Reconciliation of our Story/Myths and the outer will follow.... This Lion's Gate portal will bring us some more Clarity...and Truth.... Big Unconditional Love and Blessed are the Peacemakers⚖♾🌌✔

  • @FoXWoR
    @FoXWoR 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank You!

  • @3218Lucy
    @3218Lucy 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    You have a way of helping me understand everything that comes out of your mouth. ❤

  • @katharineanonymous6992
    @katharineanonymous6992 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Why is she the smartest person on earth ?????????? 🤯🤯

  • @gachaconscious1851
    @gachaconscious1851 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Damn, I haven’t had a new favorite video in a while !

  • @DaAxiomatic
    @DaAxiomatic 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "Conflict can be a way to get what you want, not resolve and repair. Now of course until human beings realise this never actually works, we're gonna be in a whole heap of trouble."
    Never works towards...?

  • @JeremiahNudell
    @JeremiahNudell 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I wish it was as easy as sending them a teal swan video lmao

    • @AZ-ti8jt
      @AZ-ti8jt 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Right!! Wouldn’t the world be such a nicer place if it was this easy lol

  • @mikeogden5256
    @mikeogden5256 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Oh Teal! So good to see You! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @Angelina123321
    @Angelina123321 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    HOLY FUCK TEAL. ON POINT I NEEDED THIS EXACTLY TODAY THANKS TEAL 🙌🙌🙌🙌. GOING THROUGH THIS EXACTLY

  • @petramartinovic9866
    @petramartinovic9866 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What if someone really badly hurt ..and that person think that it is al good.. and you try to talk to resolve and no matter what you do .. in time makes the same things...by my opinion its is time to leave forever..and fine someone who really loves ..end of story..❤❤❤❤

  • @vasob9443
    @vasob9443 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    wow that was so applicable to government power games too ! thank you teal and team .

  • @definitelynotyuri3908
    @definitelynotyuri3908 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love Teal's Jacket on this one.

  • @andreperry3301
    @andreperry3301 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So many truth bombs, you just carpet bombed my whole brain.

  • @danielbarrera8391
    @danielbarrera8391 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I don't think there are people who just 'dont want resolution'... Its just the way people are wired in these times: owning up to wants and needs is something were conditioned to feel ashamed of in the first place.
    Also, some of us are in so much pain that we don't even think resolve is possible or feels like it means revisiting pain we're not aware of that we have.
    And again, if so much of this exists because of splits? Those parts are just feeling that its too much of a lose to even bother trying.
    I mean people can say and act as if they want resolution but if another part is in the background not really on board? Its just going to take over anyway.
    I mean until people are fully aware of these parts? Relationships are going to be a tug and pull or lose-loses. I have some awareness but diving or feeling into parts that feel shame? Its extremely hard. Especially if your health is already bad and your mental state is unstable...
    I could say I need help with these practices too but the problem is that other part is conditioned to run before anything even starts...

  • @YogastudioNaomi
    @YogastudioNaomi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for making more videos on relationships🙏

  • @Theodoric3
    @Theodoric3 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I want to do what you say, because I just want to be with you Teal. I am quitting cigarettes, because I was ruining my million dollar voice.

  • @maevahernandez7252
    @maevahernandez7252 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I keep starting fights with my mum because that is better than feeling so ignored. And also because it helps me to not feel so powerless because all that she does is to say that I do everything wrong and It drains me. It hurts to say that but It is the truth. But, actually I want resolve, but I don't ask for It because I feel that she isn't going to hear me and she isn't going to change. I have try so many times to say to her what I need but I find that is so patétic to say to someone that you need to feel love. Also the problem is that she uses all the things that I say to her when I am angry to hold a grudge and stay mad at me, so I find myself so let down and also beging for mercy. I find it patétic. I am realizing that I do want resolve, but sometimes I use the pattern of starting fights like a coping mechanism, but the fact that she lives in a parallel reality and is unable to meet my needs is something that only her can change.
    I better move on ✨✌️

    • @destroyraiden
      @destroyraiden 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If you ask her a few times for a specific need and she refuses to meet it that's the answer she doesn't want to or plainly will not. Plainly asking her for your need want is good way to go but if you do it 3 times and she's not then let her go stop awaiting the parent she doesn't want to be. I found I have given my narc mom alot of freedom in my mind and she doesn't hurt me emotionally anymore because she refuses to respect my boundries or fill my needs so I'm free from hurting from her antics often times and I recover quickly when she gets under my skin.
      I'm actually learning what toxic patterns I do and stopping my internal negative assumptions, ruminations, self pitty, and other things by broiling them down to insulting simplistic terms for the sake of identifying what pattern I'm locked into and then I can stop it.
      To me I do not identify as self pittying person but when I do the game of you hurt me so I'll hurt you or they dont like me by their actiosn these are sneaky self pity things once they go on too long so I'm working to hault these thoughts and just go nope thats a game we are not playing anymore the point being to free myself of these I was not a level 100 toxic person until I developed severe GAD & OCD but I am now so it's cost me tons of realtionships so breaking mental pattenrs I didn't even know about is key for me to find and restore the internal me even if I can't restore the external them. I depend on others validations even though again I do not identify with this it is what I am doing.
      You may find additional aid in these videos yes they seem random but truama has a lot of sneaky parts & if the specific video isn't resonating with your home issues check out others by them as they're also pretty good content too:
      Signs your parent's are emotionally immature: th-cam.com/video/XFQmHM0ZNdM/w-d-xo.html
      Signs of a toxic mother: th-cam.com/video/QJrSSeuL14U/w-d-xo.html
      Spiritual Adulting th-cam.com/video/ZKhamPXoisg/w-d-xo.html - now some of how he expressing himself sounds insulting but really have patience & self reflection to see if you meet this in a basic concpet as he's choosing the most drama to showcase an extream form of the issue.
      Know someone who always has to be right? th-cam.com/video/uJAjrqmXtjs/w-d-xo.html
      Argument patterns th-cam.com/video/4UAg4Axhg6g/w-d-xo.html
      Argument patterns 2 stopping them th-cam.com/video/_tVcKzGytBs/w-d-xo.html
      What you can control: th-cam.com/video/tr4xLVpUh1M/w-d-xo.html
      hopefully this helps.

  • @asleep6312
    @asleep6312 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How are there not more subscribers? There are people posting mindless content and have more than a million subscribers?? People don't want to be educated. People want to be entertained.

  • @1diotwithideas
    @1diotwithideas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I've been subscribed to you for so many years and what you say makes sense but I can never seem to implement most of it humans are so difficult and hard to understand and not very logical

    • @DTheHAge
      @DTheHAge 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think implementing these things means acknowledging them, understanding the root cause and than defining your path based on this (will you accept it? will you solve the root cause? will you discontinue the relationship?).

  • @magicwandm
    @magicwandm 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was such a revealing video.

  • @truthseer6082
    @truthseer6082 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for this video Teal. Answers so many questions. ❤️🙏

  • @corinnemuir1542
    @corinnemuir1542 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    The term long winded comes to mind.

  • @tassawuff
    @tassawuff 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I grew up without parents, i have conflict problem. I create conflicts. I dont want to but it happens sometimes when i feel suicidal then i say something weird, because that person cheated on me number of times. I feel like i have become something i always feared. Please help me. Please for Gods sake tell me what to do ?

  • @kennethshaw8890
    @kennethshaw8890 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks again for your insight Teal Swan! I hope you make it to Dallas someday!

  • @Slime_eyes
    @Slime_eyes 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    i wish this is what was taught in school instead of forcing everyone to learn advanced math

  • @thoomm
    @thoomm 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was SO liberating!!!! Thank you thank you Thank You!

  • @sansiaray777
    @sansiaray777 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Timing of this video is perfect for my situation right now. Thx so much for all u do for us here 💕🙏🦋🌻

  • @Oymmit
    @Oymmit 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    you just described TDS in today's political swamp. you did it with such precision and thoughtfulness. thank you for helping people think.

  • @dlrowadkcuf
    @dlrowadkcuf ปีที่แล้ว

    I've been binge watching
    Damn near feel like I can take on some clients jkjk 😊
    THANK YOU

  • @RL-lf3no
    @RL-lf3no 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    7:43 - The face Teal makes every time she out does herself 😂😂😂😅🙏😜

  • @saracole4411
    @saracole4411 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    🙂🌱🌳🌈🐝🐛🦋🐌🌿✨. We could all be beautiful🌈 in a fair world☯️, not ugly hurtful monsters, hurting life is wrong, will always be wrong to hurt life, tho some people never listen or want to listen, they too selfish some people. What a lovely day tomorow will be🐝🌿☯️✨💙🙄☀️🤷‍♂️❣️💖💜💙💚💛💓🌿🌈💙🦋☀️☁️🌈☁️🌈🌤☀️☀️🌈. For the sake of all health resolution is a good idea, tho nothing is wrong with butterfly🦋☯️🌈🌿 love in mind. Sorce video was good too as were many, sorce has some funny ideas. Tho I have autism and adhd not ashole ego condition, some are ignorant or arogant, everyone is an indivual some people are able to change, other people are not for better or worse, thats just how source works. Just needed to clarify as so many lie way too often. Not everyone wants power, some just want fair, wanting power is not good, power is like a wate, strong but weakens over time if not balanced. Everything in moderation of course🌱🌳✨.

  • @thePribs
    @thePribs 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Teal. I am at a crossroads in my career and I am collapsing from decision fatigue. I just keep swinging from one decision to another. How is the ideal job supposed to feel ? What is its purpose ? Would love to know from a spiritual perspective. And particularly your perspective 🙏❤️

  • @evolvefly2981
    @evolvefly2981 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    After watching this, I can see how I may appear like the person who doesn’t want resolve. But what if we so desperately want it, want to take action toward it, and usually do in all my significant relationships, but I fear that if I try to go back I will be in danger? I want to own up to my side of things really badly, I want to create resolve, but I don’t feel safe to do so..what then?

  • @Zottanna
    @Zottanna 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    a when i ignore him, he starts cleaning..
    b when he says something to answer the conflict its not what i want. most of the time.

  • @theancientandreios7417
    @theancientandreios7417 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Can you please raise the volume of the audio? When I raise the volume to hear it an ad starts blasting really loud and the intro music blasts as well compared to her voice.

  • @phoebemallett
    @phoebemallett 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Sounds like conflict is the way to go lol

  • @dawnemile7499
    @dawnemile7499 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think that 'release' is better than 'forgiveness'.

  • @shiahula-hoop5788
    @shiahula-hoop5788 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Mind blowing as always 🙏 thank you so much for digging deeper and deeper

  • @karenKristal
    @karenKristal ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Teal is so smart

  • @margaritaharalambeva9992
    @margaritaharalambeva9992 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I loved the video, thank you! However, after the first few minutes, when your sweatshirt looked a bit too colorful to my taste-I just could not take my eyes of it and I really loved it.Yes, I know that was the idea :) I just wanted to confirm -it works.
    Have a good day ;)

  • @mrhoffame
    @mrhoffame 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wait...is she talking personal psychology or politics???!!!

  • @dime7612
    @dime7612 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Who are you?!?!
    You are great!!!
    I don’t know if there a god, but god bless you!😊
    Thank you

  • @CarlosSuperCute
    @CarlosSuperCute 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Conflict is Drama.
    People who enjoy drama.
    Like so-called 'Trolls,' Don't feed the 'Troll.'

  • @LUrzidil-rn7nd
    @LUrzidil-rn7nd 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    solve conflict in a relationship = a conflict, a lie? how? :D :D :D you mean excusing on "gregarious" lie - relationship, and calling it solution, because it isnt?

  • @Dr_Nutrition
    @Dr_Nutrition 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow, this is such good insight! Thank you 🙏

  • @katatarot597
    @katatarot597 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you 🌹

  • @missGemelli
    @missGemelli 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    How am I suppose to get/know the (real) answers to questions at the end of the video (without communication from them)? I can't really know that. But I need to. What to do then?

  • @stevewallschlaeger1379
    @stevewallschlaeger1379 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Not really eventually it bites back. It is found out.
    It is when I say
    Bye.
    Everyone who bonds by finding fault in another by lying or any means possible.???
    Makes you a hero in a fraudulent manner.
    You're only hero for about as long as it took to shoot the winning basket in a game and the next week losethe game and lose the title and forever be scorned

  • @MargaretHarmer
    @MargaretHarmer 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is dense… so much information and really fast.

  • @jonathanRenzo
    @jonathanRenzo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Teal... Your channel has really helped me dig deep and understand my mistakes.

  • @ArchAnto
    @ArchAnto ปีที่แล้ว

    After a painful breakup I had someone come on to me and disguised their approach as trying to ‘be there’ for me but in reality they wanted use my vulnerability to have sex with me and when I told them I didn’t want to do it because it was bad for me mental health they accused me of awful things and triangulated me out of my friend circle

  • @joelbutler7689
    @joelbutler7689 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Teal why you hashtag sprituality and awakening when true spirituality is not words. Its the opposite to words. You should know this lol why you paving the road to hell for?

  • @OneaeMighty
    @OneaeMighty 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "What others teach I say too
    Violence and aggression destroy themselves.
    My teaching rests on that." - ☯

  • @Angelina123321
    @Angelina123321 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    At this very moment. I was boohooeing about it last night im like there's something more I need to know what it is. N I put a frequency on last night. N saw this today whoohooo

  • @777nicole
    @777nicole 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is the one video that hit like a truck. The rest feel like a reminder but this one called me out badly

  • @zintlekewana970
    @zintlekewana970 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Number 10 I feel sorry for those in that bracket. Waste of time self introspection is the better way talk about identity crises