why you think you're ugly
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 มิ.ย. 2024
- Breaking down why you always think and feel ugly. It happens. We all do.
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0:00 Intro
1:16 why does any of this matter?
3:08 1.Toxic trends
6:12 2. Filtered illusions & unrealistic expectations
9:50 3. Is there a definition of beauty? (Actions you can take to escape the trap of feeling ugly)
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Share the times you feel beautiful and amazing!!✨💐
In fact you're really hot. 辣妹。
I LOVE YOU
Ilysm
After skincare routine😳♥️🥰
Today i didn't wear makeup to school, and someone said wow... you are so pretty it looks like you are still wearing makeup. I wasn't confident 😕 but now i feel reassured that if i feel beautiful, then i am.
I also think It shouldn't matter if I'm 'ugly' because there is more value to a person than their looks.
Yeah for sure! How about someone’s kindness or intelligence? As an analogy, we care about our phones more than our phone cases.
Facts. I've seen so many people say about how overweight people or just 'ugly' people and I'm like...you don't even know them and second...why care? I don't get those types of people and I always feel bad for those who go through so much about it :(
Indeeeeeed!
@Lyk Dat not to everyone
What I was gonna say
Just because you don’t look like someone that you find attractive, doesn’t mean that you’re not attractive. Many different things are beautiful, it doesn’t mean they all look the same.
You're not ugly, you're just not your type
@@kilimi7710 PERIOD 💅💅✨
@@kilimi7710 In other words: you are not narcissist.🤣😂🙌🏻
If that's u in ur pfp u r literally gorgeous bestie 🥺❤️
@@ya_done 🤣🤣💀 that’s one way to look at it
I was in the club with a pretty blonde friend and a guy hit on her but she had a boyfriend and pointed him in my direction. The man took one look at my face and actually retched. It didn’t matter then that ten guys and girls had told me I was beautiful that night, or that I was feeling myself or that I knew myself to be at least average looking, I cared more in that second about some idiot on ketamine in a club. How sensitive self-esteem is, is no joke.
What the fuck?? That's so rude omg. Wtf is wrong with some people.
wow... that is so cruel of him, what an a-hole... he probably has self-esteem issues himself and lacks maturity, that's probably why he tried to bring you down
that guy was probably musty asf and if he didnt look it his personality definitely was
Humans are more drawn towards negative comments over positive ones. Sad but true.
You have my name? And yes, you're right...
I felt very ugly in high school, but I'm 25 now and have been actively working on feeling less ugly for several years. Something that has genuinely helped is the quote: "your appearance is the least interesting thing about you"
The wrong here is, that you're thinking that you're trying to be "less ugly. " because if you say that you think. "I'm ugly. But I'm trying to become less ugly. " no don't do that. You sould say that you're a goddess
@@yours_eve2001 that's a great point, you're right. Thank you!
I was a dork growing up had the glasses and mushroom haircut. Now I have my own website and I model and get paid for it. And everyone who turned me down in HS I love seeing them in town when I pull up on them in my Tesla and looking the way I do now. 😂 it's funny to see how shocked some are. Or when they add me on facebook or snapchat and are like "cant believe its you" it's a good feeling. If ur feeling gross now u got time to bloom and it does happen!
@@Anthony.and.Bigsis daaaaamn what a flex. Congratulations!!
@@lucyservo6574 yep sure is :) idc what ppl say its definitely a flex. And I work in real estate and drive my dream cars a Tesla model X and a mustang GT, live in a wonderful neighborhood here in Costa mesa in OC California got my dream dogs a golden doodle and my frenchie. Also have my wonderful boyfriend. So yeah I am happy and grateful for everything, I didnt have to mooch off my Parents for what I got like my siblings did, I bought my own things and place myself unlike them. So yeah i love to show it off on socail media and in public, People are weird af if they get jealous over someone being good looking and having nice things, if anything people should be happy to see others succeed and strive to be like that if they arent doing well. Whenever I see my friends do good or get something they been wanting or hit a goal I'm always so happy for them so we can all be successful together. That's my take on it. You can always climb the ladder and I'm still climbing have along way to go to hit my other goals. But I'm glad I worked hard and accomplished most of them in my early 20s so I can have everything I do now in my upper 20s. :) its good to start working early and saving even if ur In school so u can get that car and place b4 u get to college! And the beauty just comes with that cause u will be glowing and feel like a queen with everything you achieved and have.
Weirdly, one thing that helps my confidence is looking at professional models (not insta models). A lot of pro models have very unique features that are very different from what we typically consider beautiful, but they have this air of confidence/untouchable-ness that draws your attention.
This! I can't help but admire my own unique features whenever I look at professional models
RIGHT! Like, some have big noses, an uneven septum, really thin legs and healthy, yet boney arms (for the skinny gals, guys, and they's), some have small eyes (maybe SOME who r asian.), some have droopy eyes, REALLY thin lips, BIG lips (Maybe typically for SOME African Americans/Africans.), big ears, small ears, plump/overweight people, skinny-fat people (like me somewhat.), unsymmetrical jaw lines maybe, bald people, etc. It's rlly abt the CONFIDENCE and PERCEPTION. Instagram beauty standards are just cheap stuff that try to look "Boujee" when in reality they're just the stuff that you see at the thrift shop. Cheap & fake.
Same!!
Erin O’Connor is a big inspiration for me! She is a beautiful, successful model that carries an air of elegance which is only unique to her. A work of art. For me, she really inspires me to embrace my own features that may be seen as not “fitting the standard”. She really shows that there is more to beauty than just looking good.
i was literally talking to my therapist about this the other day😭
My mom once told me if you believe that you’re ugly you’re gonna become ugly and if you believe that you’re gorgeous you’re going to be one, turns out confidence is behind all that
My mom also said that and she was right all along
So... I am REALLY ugly lol
@learning > social media maybe the confidence part can encourage them ain’t it ?
@learning > social media you described exactly how I feel about this comment. Thank you
For a moment I thought you was going to say your mom told you are ugly😂😂 I was about to say, dang that’s fucked up… But she’s right
I will never forget how badly I was bullied for being “ugly” for apparently only a year of my life. The toll it takes on people is insane; and I hope that no one experiences this. Thank you for creating content like this to help us understand ourselves ❤️
I'm SO sorry to hear that! Stay strong! ✝️♥️🙏
I have the same experience of bullying stay strong
@@tfkdandsvkc Stay strong!!
i pass for that too
Same, I was bullied for being ‘fat’ and ‘ugly’ for ten years of my life in school from age 9-19. It really does get better after :) Ugly is a POV. For example, the muscle guys like Chris Hemsworth is a turn off for me because I hate muscles. Everyone’s pov is different but it does take a toll on you, but videos like this are so informative, every teen and preteen should see these video imo
People just look weird when you start to look at every detail of their feature. We are not ugly or pretty, we just have a body design to survive.
Slightly late but for those of you who feel bad about not looking pretty in pictures, don't you guys think the moon is beautiful? It's astonishing beautiful, even with it's craters it shines and glows beautifully even in dark conditions. But what happens when you try to take a picture of the moon? It never shows up how it looks irl, nothing can capture it's beauty and light. So if you feel bad about not being “photogenic” maybe you're a moon, your beauty just can't be captured 🌼
Edit : so I see this has kinda kicked up a fuss, this is from me to ppl who genuinely struggle with keeping pics, I've deleted a LOT of good memories which I could have looked back on and laughed at or appreciated just cuz I thought I didn't look good. I'm just not that photogenic, ppl say I look better irl that is all. And yes do learn so tips and tricks for better lighting haha 😆. And if you want to “stay ugly without my poetic shit” that's also fine babes what can I say don't waste your energy on things that don't matter to you! Confidence and a smile are the most attractive things a person can have remember that💚Have a great day/night.
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this the sweetest comment
in short: don't take pics with your phone's front cam, just like the moon, your camera is just crap compared to a good asf camera, aka people just use manipulation/lighting/money to make things look good. The moon can look great with the right camera.
Ily
I love this so much❤️
There is NOTHING wrong with an asymmetrical face. I remember reading a study that showed photos of the real person and the symmetrical version of the person and they found that the asymmetrical ones were voted more attractive. This is because asymmetry is human, no face is perfectly symmetrical. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
Same goes with a lot of these “beauty” trends. They don’t make sense. You have your own unique beauty and “failing” a tictok trend doesn’t mean anything about your beauty
Thank you for this!
I realized that I found some women so beautiful based on their asymmetry. There was something about them that made them stunning and appealing. I'm asymmetrical myself, one of my cheeks are more full than the other. I also have one eye more hooded than the other. I got to find the beauty in that and love all of it
THANK YOU
My favorite thing to mention when people do the symmetrical face thing is the fact that pro-supermodel and retired VS angel Adriana Lima has an asymmetrical face. Therefore, symmetry is not what makes someone beautiful.
do u still know where you read that study?
I have a symmetrical face 😭
What maddy said in euphoria is totally real , “the thing about confidence is that no one knows if it is real or not” I stared to change my perspective on confidence , everybody on tiktok think is superficial , but I think it has more than that , confidence is doing things even if you don’t want to but you know they will make you feel better after , or say goodbye to old friendships because they are toxic , confidence and self esteem is more than your body is have faith on yourself , I think this perspective is more deep and powerful than just a good selfie on instagram.
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If you guys want my #1 glowup tip: take care of yourself. Brush your teeth 2 times a day, wash your face, take showers, brush your hair, hygeine and self care are very important. Do what you want, maybe try a new outfit or try a new hairstyle, stop worrying about what people think, if they are going to judge you then they aren't worth YOUR time.
Zoe literally is the reason behind my confidence
absolutely
That is a huce compliment
Yes
Fr
Same! 🥲👏
i just accepted myself. this is a big moment for me
i used to be always called "fat" "weird" etc.
but i looked myself in the mirror and realized i wasnt "fat"
or "weird" im quite thin and "normal"
i cant even express how happy i am right now-
omg same. i just realised that i'm lowkey really pretty
Congratulations!! I bet you are gorgeous :)
@@moldyseulgi7167 Same
Yasss♥️♥️♥️♥️
heyhey, there's nothing wrong with having fat around your body it's natural. Not only thin is beautiful everyone is! I hope you understand that calling yourself beautiful and thinking you're thin is toxic for yourself accept yourself teh way you are and soon everyone will :))) love you have a good day!
Thank goodness I once heard this phrase years ago: "Flowers and fairy lights are both beautiful yet they look nothing alike". Never forgotten it since 😊
As an adult, I realized that it's okay to feel ugly and to be ugly. What matters is how a person can perceive the reality and accept the fact the the person herself/himself is ugly. Pretty privilege is true, but at the same time there are facts that we can't undo in the real world. The important thing for me is acceptance, accepting that I'm ugly but still continuing life is not bad. I won't deny that there are still times when I am laying down then a thought suddenly popped on my head and wishing that I have the perfect body, I have the perfect skin, I have a perfect, I have a small nose, I have an intelligent mind, etc. But then I realized that, it's not the reality of me then later move forward on accepting myself. Another but, accepting oneself ugliness does not mean that negligence is part of the way of acceptance, it's still important to take good care of yourself and health. This video is still an eye opener to a lot of women who feel bad for themselves. Thank you!
This is exactly what helped me lol
At the age of 16, i realized how beautiful I am. A clear skin, a skinny body or a pair of breathtaking eyes won't make me beautiful,is what i realized. Confidence is what makes you beautiful. The happier you feel everyday, the prettier you look. And I'm not joking, this actually works. You'll feel gorgeous after a few days of doing this. I'm no bio student to be able to explain how the hormones involved in this process help in it. But I hope I made you smile today.
(I'm so overwhelmed by the number of ppl who share the same thoughts)
aw thank you
I'm 16 but still feel unconfident of myself. I feel like people always judge me, dislike me, and I just feel unsatisfied of myself. I always have a diet plan but it's never succeed. I feel fat, unsocial, ugly, dumb, not pretty etc. I feel miserable. can you give me a tip pls? Thank you so much.
@@iamgorgeous
Hi. I think the problem is that you care about what others think of you. Ask yourself this, if no one else's opinions mattered, if there were no beauty standards, what would you think of yourself ?
Also, if you cant be the prettiest person (appearance wise) in the room, be the kindest. Kind people are gorgeous
I'm 16 and I realised it few weeks ago. That actually works.
Also good personality makes you attractive
I can remember the day I started feeling “ugly.” Before that, I had no problem with my self-image or how I looked, I was fine with my looks. But I took a required photo one day for braces, and when I saw that photo, I felt something just snap inside, it was the most unflattering photo I felt like I had ever seen of myself. I was embarrassed and mortified. I remember immediately just clamming up and my mood crashing. From then on I was cynical of myself and scrutinized every fault I could find of myself. I avoided cameras and photos because they made me look so “ugly.” I still avoid taking photos or selfies because it makes me very uncomfortable but I’m not as bad as I used to be. Mind you I was young, around 13-14, and quite a few years have passed now.
when i want to avoid pictures because i feel insecure, i try to remember that im not ever going to get these moments back. think, when you're 75, wont you want to be able to share what you looked like when you were a teenager going to school dances and games or birthdays? if you avoid pictures now, i promise you, you will regret not having anything to look back on when youre older. that's just something that works for me. i hope you come to see your body neutrally. you can be ugly or pretty, it doesnt matter, you deserve love, happiness, and worth all the same
the way we all feel the same :( im proud that you're feeling a bit better abt taking pictures now, im sure you're very beautiful, a beautiful heart also makes a person very attractive and gorgeous
I actually had a very similar experience with my braces photos. One bad photo can’t decide your self worth or beauty for you, remember that!!
@@stellarae8257 no, because why should anyone see how ugly I was when I was younger? 😂😂😂
Idk if you will read this or not but i feel like it's worth sharing, we live in a 3D world whereas cameras, photos, videos are all 2D things, so don't be insecure of your photos( because that is not what you look like in real life)
i'm watching this immediately after i cried because i feel ugly🧍♀️
i sent a picture of myself to my sister and she reply "BRO?? YOUR FOREHEAD??" ik she have no bad intention but i, my jaw slowly dropped at that message and yeah i cried 👹 it's embarrassing though (she already clarify that she's shocked at how red my forehead was, not the pimple on my forehead or how big my forehead is)
@@chuuyachuu115I’m a year late but how are you coping now ?
@@jemimakitoko4386 oh myy i already forgot that i commented this but thank you for asking! it might be hard to believe but i just accepted the fact that i don't look appealing and i learned how to be grateful for what i have in this moment. it took a lot of time of course and i do feel a bit irritated by my face sometimes but i'm over it. bcs some people weren't born like me (disabilities, face disease, etc) and i genuinely feel grateful about how God created me, for i am one of His beautiful creations and He is my creator. 💗
@@chuuyachuu115 I see , but I hope u know you shine in your own way !!!!💪💪💪💪
I started feeling ugly after I started dating, I found myself constantly thinking of what others want, and set a super high standard for myself to look like just so I’d get male validation, I put the pressure of wanting to look good in everyone’s eyes, for everyone to see me as inarguably attractive, as if I was a celebrity who needed to look good for everyone to see, but that’s not going to ever happen. I know I have tons of imperfections, but I’m ugly. I’m just not that standard, I look a certain way and that’s what I’m working with and I’d love to improve it of course, but I don’t wanna feel like this pressured or this insecure ever again. I’m good enough for me, and there will be someone who sees me as the most beautiful man in his eyes.
You know what's really interesting? I called myself ugly for years and I actually believed in that. Someday I started telling myself that I'm pretty even if I didn't feel this way. It took so long to accept myself even a little. Now it's like some kind of habit. If I feel bad about myself (everyone has bad days) I look in the mirror and tell myself things I'd like to hear from someone else. It sounds crazy but if you feel ugly, try it, maybe it will help you too. But remember, don't give up if it doesn't work at the beginning. It takes time
as someone who's took so long to accept myself, I feel this deeply and do the same.
this is how i began my journey of learning to love myself again! it was hard at first but sooner or later you start to actually believe the things your telling yourself and it helps alot :)
words of affirmation?
@@laurence6962 I think it's not all about the affirmations itself but the perception of viewing yourself as a pretty or ugly person, which reflects how you appreciate your own beauty 😊
same!! and i started to actually believe my own words so. yeah it helps :)
If you think about it, "beauty" doesn't exist. It's just everyone's personal preference of (often) external traits. Whenever you feel like you're not beautiful enough, remember this
Yes, it does.
if only it were that easy lol. beauty is like the concept of race and faith. they are fake as fuck but people treat them as real things so yea, not easy at all
@@forme7078 universal beauty doesn’t exist, but objective beauty is
Beauty has been made more objective because of what societal standards tell you to view as beautiful. There may be some traits that humans will fundamentally see as aesthetically pleasing but there are exceptions for ALL of them. I wish we lived in a world where everyone was celebrated so individuals could be allowed to have their own unique preferences without scrutiny
I tend to think we misinterpret beauty (as a cultural thing), which we confond with good traits (on an evolutionist perspective)
sunsets and flowers are both beautiful but they look nothing alike.
honestly, if you look at the past, the beauty trends have changed a lot, and keep shifting. so no matter how you look, even if it does or doesn’t match those trends, someone out there is going to think you’re ugly.
just don’t let that person be yourself, i guess
I never cared about my looks until this one guy would call me flat everyday. Everyone who has ever bullied me was so pretty and had amazing bodies, so I really felt powerless. Then I realized that I would rather live a life worrying about how I treat others and enjoying myself than obsessing over looking perfect and what others think. It truly is a freeing mindset, and in the end is really embarrassing for anyone who has ever called you ugly
Thank you sm this totally changed my mindset
its fine im flat too
same
My crush called me flat and a cardboard box when I'm very clearly not. And he knows that
yes,a lot of peple already can me ugly and do bullying with me:(
When it comes to comparison with tiktok/Insta, what I find helpful with self-acceptance is saying “my face/body is not ugly. It’s just not TRENDY.” It helps because it reminds me that trends are temporary and beauty is subjective, and just because you don’t have the face/body that these popular people have, doesn’t mean you’re ‘objectively ugly’.
SO TRUE and looking at beauty standards throughout history proves that
Plus a lot of what you see on tiktok/insta is fake. Filters/photoshop/plastic surgery. Not saying it all is, but A LOT of it is fake or at the very least misleading (angles/poses). I saw a video where a plastic surgeon said years ago people would come in with pictures of celebrities and say they wanted Jennifer Aniston's nose, but now everyone comes in with instagram models and he has to tell them that the pictures are edited and that the girl she wants to look like doesn't really look like that lol.
same, before it was trendy to have thin lips and eyebrows, i had none of that so it made me feel ugly but then it was trendy to have them thick and now everyone compliments my lips and eyebrows 🙃
We are not ugly, we are just poor! ❤
Thank u for this 🙏🏽
Remember, life is way too short to be constantly worried about how we look or whether or not we’ll be seen as “pretty” by society. So just get out and do the things YOU will enjoy! If you want to eat that cookie, then do it! If you want to work out to be healthier, then do it! If you want to wear that crop top, do it! (There are many other things about a person than just their looks!)
Tbh I don’t really care whether the people around me think I’m good looking I care about whether I feel attracted to myself, which is really hard to avoid by burying your head in the sand.
I think most of middle school and the first year of high school, I felt extremely unattractive and ugly but idk what happened, just small changes like paying more attention to how I dress, getting a skin care routine (which is barely like 2-3 things), having a hairstyle I felt good in and overall just feeling more confident made the hell of a difference. Like it was any other day of summer vacation but I woke up looked in the mirror and boom, I was so attractive 😩 I'd date myself now fr. Also it's probably not the same for everyone but I started surrounding myself with good people which made me feel better
When I realised that you cannot be attractive every second of the day. AND feeling beauty takes time. I need to put on effort. Just doing my hair well changed me alot. (Can't lie I looked stunning masha allah).
I'm glad that people who see the toxicness of our society still exist. Filters and unrealistic standards are everywhere you look. We should love ourselves just the way they are and with all honesty our looks are the least interesting thing about all of us. Personality and a good soul is all that really matters at the end of the day.
I love how supportive everyone in the comments are while sharing personal experience. Coming from me I never got asked out, at a young age many teenagers had at least got asked out once, and I never know why, and thought I was the ugly duckling. But as I slowly grow older I realized that I love my personality and I think I'm pretty. It's just people got a standard for beauty and we see all their flaws as bad things and have a need to achieve a look and need approval for the media.
don’t worry i know i’m gorgeous and i’ve never gotten asked iut
out*
same, I don't have to meet others' standards. I meet my own, and that's enough for me, I know I'm pretty, and that's enough for me. I don't care about those who say I'm ugly, I'm not living my life for them. I'm living for me, for myself. I feel blessed that I love myself for who I am and not for others who like me. It's hard to have self-love when you're a teenager, and so I feel happy that I'm able to do that.
Me too, I never got asked out, everyone has a crush on my best friend (I’m a lesbian anyways) but still O don’t get ANY attention from anyone at all, it’s just that it hurt my feelings how I never get seen as someone of value but always get sexually assaulted by older men in public.
I got told I was ugly like a week ago after I was actually feeling good about myself and that has been stuck with me, and this helped me feel better Ty❤️
And I'm 11 I know I'm young but I'm still a human
@@HELLOKITTY_4_L1F3 you're beautiful ❤
@@chronicmelancholic Aw, thank you! You are too.✨✨
I know it hurts, but you're not even on a quarter of your full life right now. Don't worry as much about it
Coming to the point that you are ugly, takes a lot of time. The first time, I got called ugly, I was 13. At that point, I did not pay much attention to it. But after turning 18, the world around me changed. Wherever I went people reminded me how skinny I was and how I looked sick and flat due to that. My medical test results were fine, so my weight wasn't bothering me much. However, I started getting random comments. For example, one day a girl said "your curly hair is very ugly". Another day, my best friend said, "don't mind but your skin does not glow, you got a Roman nose and smile lines and look how unattractive your footprint is"! Next, my mother said, "but long necks aren't pretty". My aunts pointed out," you have big teeth and they make your smile ugly. Besides, you are squint." if I start counting, I can find out 50 or more things that simply people have told me. Before these comments, I used to look at the mirror and find myself pretty. But now, not anymore. When the mirror faces me, I tell myself," look there's the ugly and happy girl."
Omg people find the weirdest things to comment on...
I relate to this for me it's the size of my forehead they always comment on my flaws,,body shame me Asif I created myself
me too,so many comments from the people that i heared when i was a kid,now im 15 and that dont stop
That is not a real friend
the one tiny thing i heard that actually shockingly boosted my confidence in my own looks was this: “you’re not ugly, you’re just not your type”. i think about this DAILY
This is awesome advice
I feel like I am my type but I’m never anyone’s type
Or anyone's type for that matter
A lot of people have one taste. If you have wide nose, for example, it mean, that you will haven't got girl or boyfriend.
I felt ugly my entire life and then got a modeling contract. Which didn't actually help, but I realised that beauty has different forms and how I feel is probably due to my upbringing and society and just feeling like I could never "fit it".
If you're reading this you are beautiful, it just might take you a while to see it for yourself.
Sorry for saying this out of nowhere, but girl, you're genuinely gorgeous! And also your hair reminds me of mine and I'm in love 😭💖
This almost made me cry.. i've called myself ugly multiple times and called myself selfish for this feeling but watching this made me feel.... okay, loved, and normal!
not related but i love your pfp! amashiro is so awesome!
just a reminder, while looking at tiktoks try to remember they're trends (and toxic ones at that) and a birthouse for insecurity. trends keep changing inevitably. *stop treating your body like fast fashion for the sake of beauty standards* . for the longest time, i hated the way i looked, especially my nose after the age of 12. recently, i learnt its all about the angle and looking good (good as in what is satisfactory for *you* ) can be as simple as finding a flattering hairstyle that frames your face nicely to suit your features. dont change yourself for beauty standrds, change yourself for you. you are answerable to no one.
Gratefully I have NEVER thought of myself as "ugly" and neither should you.
We are the embodiment of goodness and perfection and none should be able to tell us otherwise.
Your namjoon pfp gives your comment a lot more power 😌
good to know how humble you are
Thank you love your positivity❤️
💜💜💜💜💜💜
Woah now let's make people happy not complete narcissists
When I was a teen I thought I was disgustingly ugly and nobody told me I was beautiful. Now I'm 27 and people keep telling me I'm beautiful, but I don't think my face has changed that much. I'm just more confident, learnt what hairstyle suits my face and know how to dress.
If you don't mind sharing, what face shape do you have and what new hairstyles did you go for
@@liz-yn6ou Square face shape (when I was a teen I thought my face was fat and too wide). I just went for something simple that looked good: hair line in the middle and shoulder length or longer. I don't even have layers, I have it cut straight. It covers the sides and makes my face narrower.
As a teen I had my hair parted in one side because it was trendy back then, but it made my face look so wide.
How can I find what my face shape is? Did you ask people around you? Did you ask a hairdresser or hairstylist? I never know what haircut or hairstyle would suit me, so I just asked for my hair to be trimmed with layers.
@@exoticcats6119 It's quite clear for me. You can try asking other people like friends or family. Finding celebrities that have a similar face shape as you do also works. For example, if you think Selena Gomez has a similar face shape, then google "Selena Gomez face shape" and hopefully you'll find the answer. That's how I recently found out my face is square but leaning on round.
@@Tontoquienloleation Thank you!
what really helps me, whenever i feel insecure about something, is that you don’t need validation from everyone - the people who are supposed to be in your life WILL find you beautiful, and your looks are typically the last reason why. so why need validation from the other people, when you don’t even need them in your life? the only person you need to feel beautiful for is you, so wear/do everything that makes you feel amazing, and the correct people will find you.❤
“Don’t compare yourself to others, but to who you were before”
That quote has helped me a lot throught the years for my self autoesteem :)
Yeah, I'm bad either way 💀
@@DoTheDishesOrElse.. Thats why you should focus on improvement!
Although this quote doesn’t correlate with physique, working on yourself is always a good thing.
I was a shit person before, and im still a shit person now
Same LOL
It is so hard to feel confident about how you look, like I think I always thought I was the ugly friend, no boys want to date me or even flirt with me or even show interest in me and I'm 18. At first I thought it was my weight, but the only thing it gave me was an eating disorder, not beauty. I changed so many things in my appearance but I feel like I'm just putting decorations on an ugly object. I know validation from others isn't the answer, but I just feel like since nobody tells me that I'm pretty, it means I'm ugly. I'll really try to look forward to this video...
I'm 12 and people have told me I'm pretty, and I do think that I have nice facial features, but I hate my body so much, all I ever wear is baggy geans and an oversized hoodie
i know exactly how you feel :/
I can relate. I'm turning 20 this month too and still single. No one is interested in me, even court me, and I feel like i'm so ugly because of that. All of my friends already experienced flirting, flings and boyfriends and I felt pressured and left behind even though I shouldn't. I always told myself to focus on myself first but still, I wondered how it felt like to be cherished and loved.
man this is so relatable. sometimes it’s just hard to think of yourself as beautiful and attractive when no one ever tells you such. it sucks really.
To me, there is no such thing as being ugly. Beauty is subjective because beauty can be a wide range of anything, anyone, and to anyone. There is no such thing as being ugly because everyone has different faces and so what if the majority of girls have big eyes and full eyebrows or jawlines? They all want to look and be the same. It's cliché but being the same is not something you want. They are beautiful and may or may not have small flaws they focus on that set them apart from other girls just as you do. If YOU have a distorted image of what beauty is and should be, so does everyone else. Boys like pretty girls and the idea of the girls. Imagine only knowing someone for being pretty? Man, that is so boring and dull. If you have a distorted vision of what beauty is, so do the boys. You don't need validation from people who don't even know what real beauty is. Also journaling your thoughts and affirming positive affirmations like " ia m beautiful" "I accept and love every aspect of you" really helps. Doing research on not caring about what others think and so on. I am also on a self-love journey and I completely sympathize and understand where you are coming from. I feel the same sometimes too. Self-esteem comes from self-worth. So work on your self-worth and self-esteem naturally comes to you. People will always talk shit but are shitty themselves so their opinions are invalid. We just have to break away from the bad habit ingrained into us. If you can learn a bad habit, you can learn a good habit. It is uncomfortable and you may want to cry (which crying is healing), but don't give up because you will get there and you aren't alone. There are thousands of people on a self-love journey and many more who already achieved self-love. You don't walk or struggle alone :)! Good luck in life sweetie
9:40 i think that app might be useful for choosing a haircut and see which suits us better
i read a comment under this video about how we should accept our ugliness, and it’s okay to be ugly and pretty privilege exists so we just have to accept it. it kinda broke me and my heart… i don’t want to accept that i’m ugly. i don’t wanna think about the future if i know that i’m still gonna look ugly. i don’t want to live knowing that i’m ugly and i just have to “accept” this. people around me were always telling me how beautiful i am but it’s just not true and i know it. if it was a truth, id have more friends, more boys (or girls), teachers would love me… no matter how hard i’m studying, teachers never love me because how ugly i am. it’s breaking me. in my class i’m the biggest girl and not only bc of the weight, but bc of my height! i’m giant. and it has been always like that. and u will probably be like (dw it means ur unique!), but i don’t want to be unique. i want to be like girls in my city or in my school. i don’t want to be “unique”!!! i was always a confident girl bc my family has always supported me, which i’m really thankful for, but then i got a tt that said that all families lied to us and we are actually not that pretty as they tell us we are. the same thing with my friends. when they tell me im pretty i just can’t believe it, bc i think they have to say that. and the only thing that can help me become prettier is to lose weight, but i just can’t. i can’t… i tried not to eat and i also tried a healthy way to lose weight and i did lose weight, but im still in need of losing it… but i can’t anymore…. im sorry im complaining here but just i can’t get support from my bf or my friends bc they lie to me that im pretty so i won’t feel bad but i just need an advice to live better, to live without thinking how ugly i am. i’m sorry again. i hope that no one is gonna see it but at the same time i hope that at least one person will make me feel better. i’m sorry.
and sometimes i really think that i’m pretty, i’m soooo convinced that i look great, but then im looking at the pictures other people made and seeing how ugly i am that it makes me cry. and i also read that we see ourselves better in the mirror, because our brain changing our impression of ourselves. so does it mean im even more ugly than i think i am? im sorry again. i hope my message didn’t trigger anyone.
I wish I could send this video to my past self ♡
You are beautiful luv I'm sure your past self is so proud
Wait wait wait gurl- Is that you on your pfp??? If yes, GUUURL you stunning ✨✋
@@motelsinger even though she's not the one on her pfp, she's still stunning.
I got insulted in school and on social media which now made me now so insecure, and i even see everyone trying so hard to be 'good' at instagram just so they can feel accepted, get attention and followers.
I don't even post any pics of myself due to the fear of being judged.
And with my ex boyfriend he was following all those 'insta baddies' which made me even more insecure lol
@A Banana thank you
Omg same I struggle with my face every single day I never posted any pictures of myself, I lost my hair due to stress I hope it gets better for me and you & everyone who's struggling with this.
I'm sure you are gorgeous ❤
Some people are just blind due to their own insecurity
I hope you’re doing okay
I'm sorry but your second statement is probably the reason you think that way. "Everyone tries so hard to look good," I mean, some does but not everyone. Of course they'll post the beautiful things, it's social media, but that doesn't mean that it's to please the people around them.
I'm not on instagram, tiktok, social media. I don't play with filters or look at celebrities. I have nothing I'm comparing myself to. It's just a fact that I'm on the lower end of attractiveness.
i’m a younger person and seeing this really opened my eyes. i always knew beauty was a perception, but now i’ve come etc the realization that if all perceptions are different, all beauty is different,too. it’s not just a pretty face, either. thank you so much!
I'm asian, and I've always felt my facial features were way too soft- my eyes too small, my nose too flat and my face too big, the shade of my skin too dark and prone to permanent scars. I disliked how my shoulders are so broad and my hips so narrow that I don't have any curves at all. I was dealing with a lot of internalised racism a few months back, and I hated my all too stereotypically asian features and just wished so hard that I had round, double lidded eyes, a small, sharp nose, pale and flawless skin and a proportionate curvy body. I still do, I'm still trying to come to terms with myself and the way I look, but I still find myself wishing I genetically adhered to the typically eurocentric standards of beauty followed in so many parts of the world, including my own country.
But I'm trying my best to feel comfortable in my own skin, to accept the parts of myself I can't change. I still sometimes get hit with waves of envy and self hate whenever I see beautiful people, but I think I'll be fine. You've helped me a lot, and I am really grateful that you made this video.
i’m black but i relate with what you said. i feel like there’s no unique or pretty feature about me. my eyes shape aren’t pretty my nose is wide compared to others around me (even though wide nose is associated with black people) my face shape is not pretty either. i struggle with my body a lot too. seeing every girl in my school with proportional and curvy body with the fact that curvy body is common around black people. my shoulders is one my biggest insecurity as well since is bulky/wide and it’s just hard for me to accept myself cause every one i see in real life looks better than me. i wonder if i wouldn’t be this insecure if i didn’t move to US as a teenager.
Honestly all the features you describe sound beautiful to me. Don't worry luv. 💕
Internet hug from across the net.
awh i get how u feell im insecure about the southeast asian facial features i have like my nonexistent nose bridge paired with a bigger than normal sized nose, my small eyes and my round face. i really appreciate u sharing, i feel better about how i look now :D im sure ur very good looking and beautiful, dont let anyone tell u ur not
wow… i’ve never related to a comment as much as this one and it’s honestly just comforting to know i’m not the only one in a weird way so thanks
Perhaps you should stop comparing yourself to European standards and connect with east Asia? It’s just a suggestion. I know it’s hard to change your outlook if you were raised in the west but it IS possible. Because right now you’re trying to push a triangle peg through a circle hole.
I mean China for example is a country with a billion people, and beauty, makeup and fashion styles have evolved a lot for different types of women. Yes like anywhere there are specific ‘standards’ of beauty but what I mean is there are already solutions and suggestions for Asian women with ‘insecurities’ like what you described. And there are Asian celebrities or influencers who have features like you too. Therefore I first suggest you should consume content made by Asian people like making a weibo account, or just finding some TH-cam channels (TH-cam channel dearpeachie is really good for sharing Chinese influencer makeup tips found online). You would be surprised how much you can change your look with makeup and hair.
Makeup styles that specifically suit you, fashion that will work with your body shape and ways to improve your appearance (if you wish to do so) already exists. And I’ll tell you a good news- broad, pointed shoulders on women are attractive in Asian culture! (Singer actress Son Dam Bi is an example). So I suggest you embrace your own features and stop trying to fit into western standards because it’s not possible without surgery (and to be honest Asian fashion in general is much more creative, less sexualised and more interesting). Maybe you will think you won’t ‘fit in’ by doing this because everyone around you is following western standards but you will stand out in a good way ! :) Even just try it out, see how you like East Asian fashion and makeup and maybe you will feel more confident and less alone 🥰
Me: Welp, the title sure sounds like me
Zoe: YOU ARE NOT UGLY
4:26 "all of You cállate la vera" Lol
I really needed this..I feel ugly all the time but this made me feel amazing:)
I used to have a friend who constantly made fun of my bunny teeth, my nose, and my eyes, and no matter how many times I told her to stop she would just say that I'm being too sensitive and that she doesnt understand why "everyone is so insecure". I wish I could tell her this but, people like her are the reason why so many humans are insecure. Because they always act like they are better than everyone, and think that people who are UNIQUE are supposed to be made fun of, even if they dont like it. I'm still trying to like myself, and I feel like I've gotten a bit better at it because I'm starting to take selfies of my face and I can actually look at myself in the mirror without cringing- moral of the story: dont listen to what people tell you, because in reality, they are the ones who are sensitive and insecure and are making other feel like shit to feel better about themselves. You're beautiful 💫
I remember when I was about 14 (I'm now 28) one of my friends used to make fun of my lips, that are on the bigger side, I remember I felt ashamed and even started to think they were indeed too big
Now I love them, and I really think my friend back then was just being an akward insecure (and probably jealous )teenager projecting her insecurities onto me
The “youre being too sensitive”
BRO YOU WERE LITERALLY JUST TELLING HER STRAIGHT UP HOW YOU FELT NOT ASKING FOR HER OPINIONS
I really understand what u are feeling! My Ex-Bestfriend used to tell me that anything was off about my face or that i looked ugly. Before her, i was always confident abt the way i look but since then i always had that feeling that i was "ugly". The feeling wasn't always there and sometimes i even feel pretty but that bad feeling comes back all the time. Lately i am working on my mindset and it works, but i just realised how people can ruin your whole confidence.
i feel you!! this girl in my friend group ALWAYS makes fun of my forehead. I’ve already asked her to stop and she does it less now but every now and then she still did. I got pissed one day and made fun of her back for what (i guessed) were her insecurities and THEN she started to stop even though she still does it
She is not a friend, let's just stop right there
It's so hard to be confident 😞 I literally cry almost everyday when I look in the mirror.. Everyday I point out all the flaws and parts I don't like about myself everyday I'm always complaining and whining to the point where I'm just not happy in life like I'm literally miserable and I don't even have Instagram or Twitter or Facebook or Tik-Tok but when I go outside and I see these beautiful girls I'm here just comparing and just feeling down about myself. I've been desperately trying to save a lot of money so I can fix my flaws because I honestly feel like I will never be happy unless I fix it people can compliment me I just don't believe it and I feel like it's a lie and I'm just honestly miserable I feel like I'm about to cry just writing this... 🥺 I need help feeling better on what I was born with.
The flaws you see are just your eyes playing tricks on you, others don't even realise these flaws and more so look for the beauty in you. I'm absolutely 100% sure that you're gorgeous because you are on this planet and everything on this planet is miraculous and beautiful
hey, a friend. We don't know each other. But I want to tell you that you need to focus on something you are proud of or something you enjoy doing, which gives you a sense of accomplishment. Everyone has his or her gifts. We just need to discover them throughout our life. I used to hate wearing glasses, but I finally realize that it is truly amazing I could see the world with color. It will never end if you are comparing your weakness to others. Even if you fix flaws that you think, you might find another flaw. We, as human, are not perfect. I hope you can find something in life is truly beautiful and brings you joy and happiness.
please know your flaws arent as noticeable as you think! i once showed my friends a picture i hated because of how assyemetrical i looked, and my friends were shocked to hear it and they said "Really? but you look good in that pic!" it kinda shocked me to hear since i really thought i looked hideous in that picture. Most of the time people dont notice your most hated features about yourself, so please keep that in mind ^^
sorry for going on a tangent here, but i'll send it anyway :[
lots of people don't look like the standard beautiful people you see outside, myself included. i don't know if it's good advice but i would try to take my mind off of appearance, find other things about my life i want to improve or that i enjoy, find my worth thru those things. the human body is not made to look the way we want, we are just another animal on this earth. there are so many people and so there are definitely a lot of people who look just like you, and i bet a lot of them have come to accept themselves and have people in their lives who don't care to judge their appearance. those people are everywhere you look, right alongside the 'flawless' beautiful people.
another thing, the people who really matter are the ones who won't love you just for your appearance. imagine being so beautiful and realizing the people around you don't really care for your personality, just your looks. this is the main reason why i don't worry too much despite feeling like i am ugly to a lot of people. i am trying to accept that i look the way that i do and if someone wants me to feel worse about myself, if they want to feel superior to me based on our looks, they are an *sshole and i don't wanna associate with them anyway. rather than those people rejecting you, turn it the other way around. if you don't belong with those people, it's ok because you don't have to belong with them. you can go through your whole life never looking the way you want right now but your life will still have beautiful moments and you can be happy. your life doesn't have to be about your beauty and your standards don't have to be anyone else's standards. people can tell you otherwise, and maybe that lifestyle works for them just fine, but you can make your own happiness and your own worth all by yourself the way you really want to.
beauty isn't everything life has to offer. if you really are ugly, that's ok. it's really ok. ugly people aren't just ugly. they have so much more to their lives than that. if you failed at being beautiful right out of the gate, it's alright to just move on to the next thing. lots of people have done this some point in their lives. people talk like being ugly is some kind of failure, that ugliness is death. but it's not. you are allowed to be ugly. i have a few flaws that no amount of procedures can ever fix. i can't do anything about it, it's already done. some days i feel terrible about it, but in the end i know there's no point because the me who has those flaws is the one i'm stuck with forever. i'm ok with that not just because i have to be but b/c it really isn't so bad. in the end i decided my appearance is kind of the least of my worries, lol. if i could change it, of course i would. but i can live like this just fine. being beautiful just isn't for me.
when i hit puberty i had a really hard time. i became so self-conscious that i stopped functioning in school and i have still yet to recover from the damage that has caused to the development of my life. i was so confused that i somehow grew into a body that i wasn't expecting, as a 10-year-old. i let that dictate my entire life since then and i regret that so much. right now i could work to become more beautiful but at this point i don't care. i was miserable when i focused on that all the time and i don't want that for myself anymore. i don't NEED it. i've moved past that. i have enough mental roadblocks between me and the person i want to be without adding my appearance on top of it all.
for me, being confident isn't thinking i'm beautiful. it's thinking that i'm ok even if i'm not beautiful.
Fake it till you make it guys
Just pretend that you are confident and overtime you'll be confident
I also feel like being in the same environment as people like you can really boost your confidence and the way you compare yourself to others. 💕
I think focussing on being healthy is way more important than being a beauty
I always felt ugly really . Like I growing up my dad was attractive to the point my friends has crushes on him . And seeing me I thought I was to chubby , to much acne weird curly hair . I’m mixed race and I always wondered why I didn’t look like the other mixed race kids , growing up I always wanted to be a model Beacuse my focus was always to be beautiful but when my baby sister was born everyone talked about how she was the beautiful one . Even put her into modeling and she was only a few months old . I never was called beautiful by my dad or my mom and maybe that’s what caused me that’s. But I been starting to eat more healthy and feel good and I feel so beautiful I always thought in my head I was to fat but I realized I was normal . I’m proud the way I look and so should you .
you are a precious and beautiful person
aww michael
I don't even know what you look like but I already know that you are super beautiful ❤️ have a nice day☺️
Ah I read so many comments like this and it's heart breaking 😭 And as someone who has a sister with a fairer skin living in a society where people prefer fair skin, my sis was always complimented. People complimented how fair she was. I didn't really care what people said about her but when people started telling me I was dark and allthat , it hurts. But I realise something, people who I never really considered attractive has become so gorgeous in my eyes when I actually got to know them. I was smitten by their personality. So I am happy you love yourself and know that people will love you more for your personality!!
I feel like this video is sugarcoating beauty, by saying that no matter what you’re always gonna be beautiful. It just isn’t true, we can’t change beauty standards to our own idealization. But that doesn’t mean we can’t be the best version of ourselves, only this way we can reach our genetic potential. So of course stay working on yourself and sometimes don’t forget to accept your body as it is.
There will always be someone prettier, smarter, (insert adjective here), but if we spend our lives trying to be someone else, we are doing a disservice to the one person that matters most in the world, ourselves. Great video Zoe, as always 💜
i think deleting tiktok permanently helped me a lot with my self esteem. i noticed that the things i was liking were damaging to my self esteem and i was liking it in excess. removing that factor from my life really helped me focus on my own standard of beauty instead of the internet’s.
Watching your videos has changed my perception about weight, beauty , aesthetics etc!!!Love you zoe!!
I think I’m just jealous of the people with natural beauty, not online or with filters
Me too 😥
Thank you for this video. I actually don’t hate the way I look, but since I have PCOS (giving me unwanted body hair) and I have struggled with my weight all my life, I have felt so ugly before. It’s sad how much humanity values things we can’t change like our looks. If we want to feel less ugly, maybe we should start valuing good characteristics other than beauty, for example kindness, creativity, being a good friend, etc.
I’ve been obsessed with your videos lately, they give a bigger perspective about things that seem so small on the outside
I love how Zoe’s always telling us to love ourselves and be confident💗
i always felt ugly, honestly. i felt insecure about my dark skin, big nose, lips, it all felt weird. it was only two years ago when i went up to secondary school that i had a sudden confidence boost. i just needed to feel powerful, confident, and strong by just faking a confident personality and having a fashion glow up.
these days, staring in the mirror and taking care of myself really helps. i'm more confident, i start speaking my mind, and while i'm still an introvert (which isn't a problem) i'm more outgoing. if someone compliments you, don't joke around like 'nahh, i'm ugly lol'. say thanks, compliment them back, and it gives both of you a better feeling!
some may call it 'narcissistic' or 'arrogant', but you can't have self love without actually falling in love with yourself :)
Thanks for the last part, recently ive started to rlly like how I look but I end up thinking I'm being too arrogant and should go back to hating myself
I thought I was lowkey becoming a narcissist cause lately I’ve been learning to love myself and I realised I’m actually really pretty. I can comfortably look at a mirror and take selfies now, and I legit would fall in love with someone that looked like me or had my personality…
I feel like that last part makes me sound arrogant. Is it normal to think you could marry yourself?
🙎🏻♀️
I have every single thing you hated about yourself, and I just have to say. You reallly boosted my confidence because I feel insecure about that. and if it looks beautiful on you it looks beautiful on me :)
@@dopaminedi hey, i had a really really tiring day today, but this made me smile. thanks. 🌟
big noses are literally so attractive like maybe not to white middle school boys but gay women FIEND over big noses 😭😭
Thank you so much, I was thinking the same thing! Social media has ruined us mentally and physically. Everyone is beautiful in their own way ❤️
going a long time without looking at yourself is honestly so relaxing, all the pressure fades away and you can just look at the world around you and chill.
I just wanted to say that I am finding myself as an asexual person and whenever it comes to judge people about their look it appears that I don't see them in beauty way. Honestly I have never seen beautiful person. Ever. My sister used to show me photos of attractive men and asked me 'is he handsome?' and then got irritated because I always responded with 'not for me'. I believe that the real beauty comes from people's hearts and whetever they are wearing and however their body or faces looks like I will always see them as just normal humans. Beauty standards are meaningless. Be more proud of who you are. It's not like you choose your body or face. Be thankful to your parents, because they created you. You don't need to be loved by everyone, you just need one person in your life who finds you beautiful. It can be you or someone else. And that's more than enough.
I can kind of relate. I do have a slight visual preference but even those people look kind of average. All humans have textures and stuff that look weird so why do people care about looks so much.
Honestly I get that. I learned that through portrait drawings, if that makes any sense, but as a child and teenager I couldn't tell who was pretty or not. Even now, if someone asks me that I mostly point to funky coloured hair or clothes rather than the face. I don't think I know a single person that I'd find ugly, genuinely.
lol, I knew a guy with a huuuge nose and I know that that's not what most people like but to me, his nose was awesome?? I sometimes think about how I should have asked him for a picture for protrait practice.
Yes 👏 I was like this in highschool. It was so freeing. I got a roommate pointing out ugly/pretty people, and now I’m sadly way more judgmental and shallow
My insecurity was created by myself. I remember in 2016-17 calling myself a “potato” and things like that. I called myself ugly to try and shield myself from being called ugly by other people. With the face inversion trend recently, I found myself wondering why all of these beautiful people were crying at their faces, They’re all so beautiful! But why when I was crying about myself, I didn’t stop and say how beautiful I was? Self Esteem growth is a journey for me to take on my own, while also always always always encouraging others to love themselves
Same here I’m also ugly we can be ugly potatoes friend if you want😂😂
I might become pretty if I lose my 20 kg and become 49 before starting 9th grade but man I just can’t stop eating😔
I love that you included Emily Clarksons video in this showing how easy it is to completely alter your face and body with an app. I downloaded it once and it was honestly scary how much I could change and how real it looked and it made me disappointed when I looked at the original photo of myself.
I immediately deleted the app because I knew it would just be bad news and a rabbit hole of altering myself to fit in.
Following her on Instagram is one of the best things I’ve done. I love her honesty and realness because in a sea of influencers and models with the perfect body’s, the perfect hair, the perfect makeup, the perfect outfits, the perfect lifestyle… she really is a breath of fresh air where social media is concerned to see a real unfiltered human being.
We’ve genuinely become so warped by social media into thinking this is how people look on a daily basis when it just isn’t true. And even though I have to constantly keep reminding myself about these apps and filters and posing ect. I still sometimes find myself comparing myself and wondering why I don’t look like that. It’s becoming increasingly difficult to dissociate yourself from the unrealistic expectations you see online.
ive been feeling tired lately cz even though i still do my skincare and my skin has improved, i still dont feel pretty enough as those internet celebrities, thank you for sharing this zoe! i think i start to get my confidence again and choose myself to be pretty as who i am
I think it’s better to just stray away from the concept of beauty all together. You’re right about the ideas of whether you’re beautiful or not is just based on your perception of yourself, and while its good to change that perception, you shouldn’t be aiming to convince yourself that you’re beautiful. Beauty standards are honestly out of your control and while not all bodies are “beautiful,” they are all valid. People should be aiming to just accept their bodies and refrain from using words like “pretty,” “ugly,” or “handsome” to describe themselves or others since it just puts more emphasis on beauty and that isn’t really helping anyone. If anyone wants to find more abt this you can put tiktok to some use and look up radical self acceptance.
yes finally someone said it!!! you shouldn't have to "like" your body or think you're beautiful. when people say "no one is ugly, everyone is beautiful in their own way!", they really mean "everyone has worth." which is toxic because it still equates worth to beauty. we should be striving to acknowledge that it doesn't matter if you "like" your nose, eyes, stomach, arms, thighs, all that matters is that they do what they're supposed to do.
@@spibb9044 I don't really think it's toxic when people say "everyone is beautiful". In a way, if everyone is beautiful, then everyone has that value regardless of how they look, which means that beauty is not so attached to looks anymore, but more to what your looks represent: your personality, your experiences, your self expression etc.
one of the best comments i’ve ever read on youtube
The best comment I have ever read on TH-cam regarding this beauty topic,,as long as your body functions well and healthy that's it,,the beauty industry is so toxic it's exhausting
The best comment I have ever read on TH-cam regarding this beauty topic,,as long as your body functions well and healthy that's it,,the beauty industry is so toxic it's exhausting
I have deactivated my Instagram and Tiktok since Feb 2021. It’s been the best thing I’ve ever done for myself ❤️ thank you for posting this. !!!!
Me too haha since July 2021 and I got it back over Christmas for a week and my mental health declined so much and I felt so bad that I deleted
This is what I call ~QUALITY CONTENT~ 💛. You're doing an amazing thing here by empowering others and redefining beauty 😊, thank you .
You are the 1st person that I see talking about this topics... I actually have some self steam problems... Listening to you it is being so helpful! Thank you
I recently have been feeling bad about my appearance and this is the video I needed! Thank u so much
@@liaasage Pls THATS literally so kind to hear! I know that it’s nothing much but this literally boosted my confidence a lot :)) thank you
I'm almost 19, I still have acne and I can't do make up. I have no friends, I used to smell a lot, because I was depressed. I was bullied, I was ignored for 8 years of my life and I'm very boring.
Even if I weren't ugly (which I think I am), that doesn't take away the fact that I'm a pathetic loser, who don't know how to socialize and can't connect with people, always makes mistakes and is quiet
And what makes you think you are a loser? Well, who is a loser ?, how do you call yourself a loser that too at 19?I am 19 myself and I would say please stop calling yourself loser, there is absolutely nothing that should make you feel you're a loser . We're just 19 and yet to explore the world, we will be facing thousands of challenging situations and also be making hundreds and thousands of amazing memories, may be cut a joke that will bring smile to ours and many other's faces.We have literally everything left to do so please smile , lets grow into humans who respect whoever they are and are kinder to themselves and to everyone❤️❤️
I promise you aren’t a loser. I know it feels that way, and bullying can make us all feel that way, but there is beauty to you. There is beauty to every good person, which it sounds like you are a good person. Please start being kind and compassionate to yourself. It’s hard to do but it makes such a difference.
@@disneyprincessintraining2725 thank you for trying to cheer me up
I feel this. even if I somehow became gorgeous overnight, it wouldn’t change the fact that every conversation I try to have (when I build up the confidence to even approach anyone) ends in awkward pauses and nervous laughter.
Trust me you're not a loser. I'm the same way, I'm 23 now and I have no close friends whatsoever because I'm bad at conversation. But I promise you, even without friends, you are interesting. You're not boring, you're not ugly, and you're definitely not a pathetic loser. Underneath the quietness is a very cool person. I'm getting better with socializing now but it's still very difficult. I don't have friends but I manage to have a lot of fun with my coworkers and right now that's good enough for me. You may not believe it right now but please trust me that it does get easier. When I was 19 I would never have believed that I converse and connect with people so easily at work, I'd have a panic attack at the thought of talking to anyone, but here I am. :) It gets better
Thank you so much for being very reasonable and explaining these toxic trends and tendencies in a clear way. It's horrible to have these, negatively influence lots of younger people. Shunning what comes natural and spontaneous is always a bad idea. Apparently no limits on how false one may digitally portrait oneself
I just can't express how relieved I am with this video. I'm 15 and since 2 years I thought I was ugly. I have a big nose and most people usually tell me that my whole face is just my nose. My face is shaped like some what oval. I have huge lips (not the plump ones just big af). I've got facial hair and you can clearly see a mustache sprouting out. I have pretty BIG dark circles under my eyes and when I say big I mean REALLY BIG and my eyes are pushed inside. I have pimples all over my face. I don't have a perfect body. My buttocks aren't shaped properly and I have huge hip dips. I have a long neck and a double chin. My skin is sensitive to make-up. I hated myself to the point I even tried an expired cleanser and my whole face turned dark and rashy. I always thought of getting a plastic surgery when I'm old enough but this video completely changed my perspective on myself. I feel like us feeling ugly is just a disease. This disease has been spreading for over a decade and we need to do something to stop it. Thanks Zoe, for creating awareness about this topic and great video as always!
Can I just say that Zoe gives me total big sister vibe, I love her soooooooooooooooo much, she is literally our personal therapist. I really appreciate u Zoe keep doing what u love and be happy cause u have us always
I never found me attractive,since 2nd grade i had deep hatred towards myself. This video radiates positive vibes,and all though it wouldn't change the image of my self for me,i find this video wholesome:)
you are literally the source of my confidence..thank you
i know external validation is not the best but it’s so hard to feel pretty when no one ever compliments me, i don’t get asked on dates, i don’t have heads turning, i’m constantly told by the media that the features that i have are undesirable. how do you know if you’re truly pretty if no one else acknowledges it?
If theres one thing I leanred this year:
A perfect body and a symmetrical and flawless face is not what makes people beautiful.
It's an honest smile, confidence and a good character.
Wherever you are right now, if you're feeling high or low, if it rains or the sun is shining, I want you to know that you are beautiful just the way you are and you are admired ❤
Honestly I hate my smile so much
@@antonianusser5365 I bet it's beautiful. A true smile is always beautiful
@@antonianusser5365 Every smile is beautiful! 🙏♥️✝️
I honestly I have trouble loving and forgiving myself because I myself deal with depression and anxiety which makes it worse and I tend to compare myself with other girl's who have "everything" and my family well some body shame me and say, "You are no longer slim, you have gotten *big*" which makes me feel bad and I came from a long day at school and I starved myself cause the food there is bad and I want to look more "beautiful" because literally my family body shames me and makes my self esteem lower so I struggle A LOT! But watching you makes me want to Love and forgive myself!💜😃😄😊
this actually made me feel better about myself
Thaaank you for this video. Me and i think maaany many people need that type of influence!🌱🤞🏼
Someone else’s beauty, doesn’t take yours away. Some People aren’t very good looking but they got so much charisma and that what makes people love them genuinely. Beauty isn’t everything but personality, your energy, how you make people feel around you , how you talk and connect and so much more ❤️ hope you guys have a good day/night 🥰
You're so right! Confidence can also come a long way.
yeah, it always feel so competitive when it shouldn’t, “she’s pretty therefore i’m ugly”
4:09 this trend made me actually cry bc I thought I looked ugly and I thought people saw me ugly but then I realized that I don't care about what others say about me and we're all born different and u should love yourself and your body 💖💖
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This is such an important message and I think everyone should hear this, and keep in mind this doesn't mean you should stop doing your skincare and think you're better than everyone else, it just means that there is no standard of beauty and you can decide how you view yourself.
In my 13 and 14, I felt a lot ugly, I was friendless, social anxious, lonely always, inable to handle a normal communication, inable to buy something normally from a star, always crying, asking myself what hell I am living in... And of course, after three years of crying, I decided to find a solution. This is what every human does, makes himself in a trouble and choices to suffer for years and than suddenly decide to WAKE UP.
Little by little, becoming more mature, I REQUIRED an abilty, a mental ability to always prove to myself logically that Im not that ugly and im just exagerating. Now, I truely consider myself a beautiful girl. That's what I see in the mirror, I see a body that is my place to live until I die. That place must be your favourite place in fact, you MUST enjoy living in your body.
I may also look not pretty to others, but I always wonder why doesn't it even matter? Do I need other bodies to recognize my body in order to consider it beautiful? Those who see that Im not pretty enough, are they that important to the dear pretty soul living in my body? Questions that you may also ask to yourself. Who is more important? I bet 99% of people sayinf to you you're ugly won't stay with you until you die.
By starting to love myself, I started to look confident to people around me, in my 16, without even knowing it. I got a lot of friends, I got a boyfriend, and I got a social life ...
The secret here is confidence: pretend to be confident everywhen you find yourself with people and than you'll find yourself becoming REALLY confident. Now my friends always say Im the most confident girl I've ever seen, I get compliments everywhere... many boys around me consider me as beautiful, some get attracted to me...
okey, Im gonna describe now how do I look, and what will you see when you see me. You'll see a hijabi girl (im muslim) with light brown skin, has pimples all around her face, tall, skinny, little bit curvy. A not-small nose, not-small mouth, facial hair too hahaa but it is not very clear. I believe that there is not only big and small, but a not-big and a not-small.
As you see: im not white with blue eyes blond hair( I don't even show my hair haha) no big boobs no fat butt ... but my confidence, the way I talk loudly when I read a text in class, the way I raise my hand to go out to the board to work a math equation when no one dares too (even though Im gonna do it wrong), the way also you stand correctly, shoulders up, looking right in people's eyes when you are projecting a show, the way I laugh and smile widely when Im having braces in my teeth which are not actually good-looking, the way I laugh on myself (before any one laughs on me haha) when I took a picture with my friends and I barely look clear in it because of my somehow dark skin (compared to them) and the way I don't panick when the teacher says Im wrong in front of my classmates ... these details are what made me ATTRACTIVE, and confident ❤
I am absolutely in love with your hand movements, they're so mesmerizing
The part about how other people’s perception of your appearance is on them is SO TRUE. I’m biracial, and throughout my life people have made so many contradictory and illogical comments on my appearance that it was obvious that their perception of my race (and yes, sometimes attractiveness too) was based on their worldview of racial constructs, and had little to do with what I actually look like. Same goes for attractiveness. Some people perceive mixedness as something to fetishize, others as something deviant, and this stuff often happens subconsciously and manifests as perceived attractiveness/ugliness.
In summary, don’t believe the haters because they can think you’re ugly for the wackiest reasons.
Adding this vid to my faves bc I really needed it. After having 3 back to back relationships (7 months, 1 year, then 4 years) that ended in cheating and the “other girl” being (what I saw to be) 10x more beautiful than myself, my self confidence was destroyed. The pandemic hit and I was able to hide from the world comfortably, but it’s done a number on my view of myself. This helped me so much. Thank you.
Although I know that social media is fake, having you break it down and show examples just inspires me to set my own standards for myself. I know this is just a shout into the internet void, but thank you...seriously.
I’m on a self-growth journey as well. And seeing myself as beautiful again has been so difficult.
There are things in life more important than beauty, like seek the truth, enlightment, try to be a good person without expecting recognition, recognize your failures and errors, develop your skills and independence (both financial and emotional).
what helped me was literally cutting out stuff like Instagram so I won't see other people on the internet that much. doing this also helped me stay focused on everything else because now the time I'd spend on scrolling in reels, is used to do something productive like going to gym or studying.
To be honest, sometimes I do look at myself in the mirror and see myself as pretty or try to walk with confidence (and it goes the other way too) but I get scared that what if I become like arrogant or get too ahead of myself if I kept doing stuff like that.. So I'm kind of in a predicament for that
Same
Loving yourself is not self absorbed. Many people wish to feel that way so don't prevent feeling that way:)
Okay something I learned recently is to not downgrade or remove the validity of people
Complimenting you. Just say thank you, if that is too much, just smile and nod. Or if you can’t do that say and do nothing. If not for any reason but if you keep denying your beauty or positive aspects the universe might respond with making you uglier to fit your demands!!
This is really important I really damaged myself, my looks physically by disagreeing with all compliments and telling myself how hideous I am! Please believe me and if you can’t say good things about yourself just be quiet
Thank you so much for bringing attention to this huge issue. Your words are much appreciated ❤️
im 21 and dont have tiktok but the inverted filter thing would have KILLED my confidence when i was around ages 12-15. my face is not symmetrical bc im blind in my right eye so it's smaller and more closed than my left. i was so convinced that my eyes were the reason no guys asked me out and why i havent had a first kiss or date yet. it didn't help that since the age of 6 my mom and my eye doctor were suggesting i wear magnified lenses to make it "look normal." i just remember looking in the mirror and crying hysterically at how ugly i was.
im better now. i still cant make eye contact with people though. not even my boyfriend of 2.5 years who tells me im beautiful every single day. i know i have other "conventionally pretty" features like im skinny, i have thick wavy blonde hair, clear skin, sharp jawline, full lips. im better with self love now. i can take selfies now of my whole face and think it's pretty. idk where this rant is going but fuck social media. these trends are awful that rly would have hurt me as a young girl.
Yass go girl. Love yourself ❤❤ You are perfect with your flaws. No one is perfect but that doesn't mean that we can't love yourselves.