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I’m aroace and I do feel really lonely sometimes because I feel like there’s not nearly enough cannon representation in media and I’ve never met another aroace person in real life. Sorry, didn’t mean to dump, but love y’all (platonically lol) and I hope you have a good day😊
today is ur lucky day(coming from an aro-ace) there is a jdrama called Koisenu Futari with two main aro-ace characters trying to live as allies/family and then getting slapped in the face with amatonormatovity every second, by colleagues, family, random people. They even use the term aro-ace and their experiences are freaking accurate(probably due to the fact that the show is made by an asexual and takes inputs from real aroaces) Please spread the word cuz canon stuff like these is what matters and makes people feel more valid/accepted.(esp for aroaces )
Have you read the Heroes of Olympus and Trials of Apollo books? One of the characters is canonically ace, and all of what she said made me go: "Holy Schist, I'm ace".
Heyy!! A fellow aroace here! I feel your pain. Im also gonna dump if u dont mind. I personally dont really have irl friends, im more of an online friend person myself but i havent 'met' another aroace either yet, although i really wanna be in a QPR with another aroace person
when i was 12 i was like "yea why wouldnt i be pan i dont even understand how gender works" and now it turns out im aromantic, asexual, agender and autistic. like damn i really went all-out on the whole "no thanks society" thing huh. call that a AAAA battery
I used to think I was straight, and I had a only one “crush” on a guy in my math class, but then I actually asked myself whether I wanted to do any actual romantic/sexual things with him, and the answer was no, I just wanted to be friends with someone who really enjoys math like me.
Same! Apart from that, in middle school I wondered if I had a crush on this one guy, but then when I actually got to talk to him I realized I felt absolutely nothing at all
I’m demiromantic and demisexual and I always wondered how people looked at a random person on the street and instantly fell for them. Like you don’t know them. How. Just how.
Exactly. How could you have sexual and romantic attraction to someone if you don’t know what kind of person they are. (Demiromantic and Demisexual too)
I'm polyamorous and bisexual so almost the opposite of aro-ace lol, but I actually have two aro-ace friends and they are great people! I support y'all! You are awesome and valid :D
THE PEOPLE REACTING TO ME BEING AROACE IS SO TRUE Story time... I was sat in lesson and the person sat next to me said are you attracted to boys or girls (totally out of the blue) because everyone thinks I am gay. I was tired and lacked of sleep so, without thinking said neither. They looked at me and said, oh so your attracted to non-binary people then (they said whilst looking at me in disgust) and i sleepily replied No im just not attracted to anyone (which i instantly regretted saying) and they replied THATS NIT NATURAL, YOU SHOULD REALLY GET IT CHECKED OUT AND THEN CARRIED IN RAMBLING ABOUT 'HOW IT WASN'T NORMAL'. THEY ABSOLUTELY RUINED MY DAY.
Ugh I hate people like that! I'm sorry you had to deal with their stupidity. I don't know how they think it's not normal to not want to date. They forget that not everyone wants a relationship like they do. So what if we don't have a crush on anyone? We don't need a relationship to be happy. Friends, family, and pets are enough. I feel like people only say that because they want to continue their family's bloodline. That's cool and all but I would prefer if they just kept us out of it. It's our choice if we want to have kids/ be in a relationship or not.
That’s terrible! I’m so sorry you went through that! AroAce and even though it happened long ago, FUCK THEM FOR NOT CONSIDERING YOUR FEELINGS! You are Perfectly Unique since being “normal” is overrated
I'm an Aroace who started aro, had one extremely abusive relationship and felt every desire disappear overnight . This was during a time when those labels didnt exist so saying I wasnt interested even decades later, is STILL being called a mental illness. Glad to know the label DOES exist. I'm AroAce and that relationship was a disaster pretty much from day one. There is no conflict between my orientation and my mental disorder. Im sure the two are NOT connected. I was Aro, long before my disorder kicked in. Sorry guys but it was here first!
3:28 props to her for being supportive of his identity and apologetic for making him uncomfortable when she asked him out. We love a sweetheart like that.
I'm acearo and I'm also non binary. I haven't figured out what label I want to use yet - if I use one - but it is funny that when God created some people he just said no.
6:03 this really depends on the person. I'm aroace but also LOVE hugs and physical touch (provided it's platonic obviously). It's just good to ask! Everyone is different.
I have some questions, asexual to me was I thought you didn't want to participate in any sexual interaction, like kissing, sex, or stuff like that, but hugging and just cuddling is different. You still feel attraction, but not sexual attraction. Is this right?
@@bugadoodledoo1394 It's not an internal, inherent drive to have sex for asexuals. Some are more sex favorable, where sex is something they're willing to compromise on, but they don't feel like they need it and would be just as happy to never have it in their life. Or some might want other things, like children, so they're willing to have sex for that goal, but they don't want the sex itself. It's more about the lack of an internal, inherent desire to sexually connect with another person that makes one ace, not necessarily that they'd never participate.
This video made me emotional, I'm on a journey to try and understand if I'm aro/ace and this videos made me feel understood and seen, because understanding that asexuality and aromanticism is a spectrum and everybody can have a different experience is making me emotional in a good way because I feel like this is helping me finding myself. It's hard to understand if you have never or partially felt something.
The video at 1:24 makes me feel so valid. There are times I get self courses and think "I'm just doing it to get attention" or "Maybe I just haven't met them yet" but I relate to literally everything they listed. It's just a reminder to me and every other AroAce that we are valid, we are real, and we are amazing!
i think one of the funniest parts of being aroace is having people guess your sexual/romantic orientation because im arocae and have known/heard way too many people who think im gay or bi because i like rainbows and kinda act like a bi person (which i somewhat am, im biromantic, and the easiest way to describe is that i'm aro, but if i ever fell in love i wouldn't mind if it was a girl or a boy. im never having sex tho so don't get me started on that). haha, no, im aroace
This feel amazing sometimes to just look up your sexuality and just feel validated. Growing up I felt pressured to just get a life with a different family (kids, husband or wife), but I didn't want that. My mom makes it seem like it'll be lonely without them when I'm okay with just friends.(I'm aromatic/ageosexual)
During the early years of primary school my friends started doing that cute thing of having a crush on someone in our year, probably because barbie mentioned it in a movie or something, and my friends had their secret crushes. I didn’t want to feel left out so I kinda just picked a random guy and said to myself “I will have a crush on him”. It’s probably insignificant but looking back I think it’s a clear point in my childhood which indicates that I was at least Aromantic. I also only wanted to marry a prince because my friends did and it would’ve made me a princess
I’ve been questioning if I’m on the aromatic spectrum lately. I think I only genuinely crushed on someone once. All my other relationships or “crushes” were forced or obsession, not real attraction. I’ve only recently started coming to terms with this, but it’s really difficult. I don’t feel normal, I want to feel attraction like everyone else does and I hate that I can’t
A lot of my friends just say “she doesn’t date people.” Whenever we are talking about dating and stuff and it sucks because most of them think I just don’t want to be in a relationship when I’m reality I can’t force myself to love people that way. The end sorry I needed to get that out of my head Also the other day my friend asked me out and it was over the phone and I sat there dead silent for a good 30 seconds waiting for her to say it’s a joke. When she didn’t I hung up the phone. Turns out it was a dare so it’s ok now lol
One time I told my mom that I’m not really interested in dating and she asked me why, I simply told her that I don’t really know it just generally doesn’t seem interesting to me and she said that it was fine and not everyone is interested in dating.
Hi just gonna share my expirence and identity I'm an aegosexual orchidromantic! Which means i can enjoy sexual things i myself love Yaoi but i myself don't want to have sex ever with anyone! Orchidromantic for me is that i feel romantic attraction but- "HEY THE WHOLE POINT OF AROMANTIC IS THAT THEY EXPIRENCE LITTLE TO NO ROMANTIC ATTRACTION!" Well yes but no... let me finish what i was saying! But i don't have a strong desire or need to have a romantic relationship i don't care for such things or i just feel netural to the whole idea! i don't care either way! However what i do care about is building a pokemon team of awesome people and spending my life with this friend group i don't care if i like them romantically or not that changes nothing! I have no desire or need for a romantic realationship by that i mean no kissing and all that other stuff it's romantic by status and status only! it's the opposite of a queerplatonic relationship! just like orchidromantic is the oppisite of cupidoromantic :)
2:56 I relate to this SO much. Even though I’m some kind of alloromantic (greyromantic or aroflux, I’m not sure), the times when I have no attraction just feel so lonely. I don’t _want_ a relationship, but I long for the experience. I just want to go through such a thrill. I just want to be normal.
I usually watch Aro/Ace tiktoks on days when I have internalized aphobia. If anyone else has those days I have a suggestion to watch a bunch of aro/ace compilations in cartoons or surrounding a character. Saiki K. from "The Disastrous Life of Saiki K." is a really nice one since he's the main character. Just know that when you feel internalized aphobia, you're not alone in your feelings. Just know that you're loved by those surrounding you and you don't need romance to be loved. Sending platonic hearts! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
3:09 BROOO SAME. im lesbian oriented aroace too. it’s really confusing to talk about and just generally confusing for us too. i remember telling my friend that i had a “crush” on her but not exactly a crush but also some type of crush (it’s a long story but it was valentine’s day and my other friend told me she liked the same friend i liked and she liked her back. so no my friend didn’t like me but whatever lol). i don’t think either of them really understood completely tho because later they were confused about it so yeah lol edit: 8:00 the amount of oriented aroace people in here already makes me so happy
This is very validating :> Tbh, I don't meet a lot of ace aros who've genuinely convinced themselves they have crushes then when it works out they go "no no no, this isn't right stooop." And it's nice to see some of these tiktoks mention it
12:59 One of my favorite asexual/aromantic characters of all time are - Todd from Horseman - Alastor from Hazbin Hotel - Peridot from Steven Universe - Saiki K from The disastrous life of Saiki K - Ibuki Mioda from Danganronpa
I was venting to my friend about the fact that I wasn’t ever going to get married or do relationship stuff and she was like “you could just date people.” And I was like “bitch you could just be straight.” Then she said “well I was just saying you just haven’t found the right person yet.” I left her on read and texted my other friend asking “idk if I should be pissed or sad she wasn’t educated”
thank you for this video i was looking for aroace ppl explaining their feelings bc i always see a lot of ppl validating all lgbt+ orientations but always forgetting the non allo one :( we can be happy without having to be attracted by someone else
I'm not sure why this frustrates me so much but can I just clarify: being asexual does not mean you don't want to date; it means you do not want to have s-x. You can still be attracted to people if you are asexual. If you feel like you don't want to date or have s-x, you are aroace (asexual & aromantic) Aromantic means you don't want a romantic relationship but still might want to have s-x with someone while having no feelings toward them. Hope this helps 💖🏳️🌈
I have a friend... They claimed to be pan, but because I sorta felt the same for guys as for girls I decided I'd be bi. BUT I feel the same for non-binary people too? But I didn't wanna copy them so I stuck with bi. Now a few years ago they confessed they're ace, right at the time I was questioning if I were aro. I am still not out if I really am, probably somewhere on the spectrum. All I do know is that these kind of videos make me laugh and comfort me a lot.
Oh yay!!! Validation! This reminded me I need to start decorating my masculinity jacket with controversial-ish patches and aro/act pride patches. And my zodiac cause why the fuck not. I've never befriended another Capricorn. Not that I want to. I was sad when it was over... I actually verbally said "aww it's over?"
2:17 i can add someones i had 13) You hate when your family "ships" you with your best friend whem you just platonicaly love them too much. 14) You think kisses are ugly 15) Sometimes you're tired of watch a happy and sane friendship betwen a boy and girl starting being romantic 16) You din't expect a friend looks you in a romanticaly way and if that happen you don't know what to do
Found out I'm aroace (with the realization that all of my "crushes" was just platonic attraction) and holy shit every single one of these are super relatable
I was raised in a family that ranges from homophobic to "I'm not homophobic, it's just I don't like gays shoving their bedroom activities in my face." In this family, one of my younger cousins came out as lesbian, which earned reactions on a scale of "confused" to "was she sexually abused?" I had only known about being gay for maybe three years, didn't know about other identities beyond gay and straight, was still kinda homophobic but starting to be an ally, and CERTAINLY didn't have any education that said romantic and sexual attraction were different. However, my reaction was to (internally) defend her by saying maybe it wasn't sexual attraction (she was maybe 10 when she came out, so I figured it wasn't ) maybe she only wants relationships with girls. In other words, I really, REALLY should have figured out I was aroace sooner than I did.
i remember watching that one jaiden animations video, where she expressed she's aroace i immediately thought, "wait- that makes sense... i said i was bi- wtf- oh wait.. yeah nvm.. it makes so much sense now.."
I remember coming out as aroace when I was 18 and my frnds told me that its sad cuz I won't find happiness and some told me its cuz of my verbally abusive dad. And I had actually believed that until a while ago.
Question for all the aro/demiaro: I questioning myself about being part of the aro spectrum, but I fall in love for book/movies character and some times for famous people to. Does it happen for you?
I thought I was pan because I genuinely do feel love towards everyone but- yeah... xD not like that I don't wanna fuck nor date anyone, I wanna love them in a way where I take care and help them all, offer them resources, my time and energy, and do whatever I can to make them happy, like a parent/guardian or a sibling
0:40 mannnn. A foggy morning at a cabin in the woods, with a library and a cat, in a cozy bed on a loft, reading books by candlelight. Paradise indeed.
1:37 I relate. I never had crushes in my life. For reference I identify as asexual, aromantic and agender. I only discovered my sexual and romantic orientations when I was 22 years old.
watching this and remiding myself i used to force myself to feel love the way i idealized it to be with every partner i had before i realized "wait this just aint it"
I know nobody asked, but sense some people get confused on how aromantic people have “crushes”, let me explain! (I’m aroace so don’t come at me- ik what I’m talking about) Aromatic is a spectrum, meaning you could be not completely aromantic (such as greyromantic or aroflux) however that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about when an aro person feels “romantic” attraction towards another person. When a complete aro feels “attraction” to another. It’s usually either platonic or aesthetic attraction, which is mistaken for romantic attraction. A lot of aros also select people to like because it’s what society calls “normal”. For I personally, I have mistaken gender envy for a crush and I’ve selected someone to like because I thought I wouldn’t be normal if not. Either way society pressures love onto everyone. and when others can’t feel that kind of love, it makes you feel out of place or lonely. But you’re not alone! Anyways I hope this helps!
2:21 every time I question if I'm ace or not I remember that thinking about fazoli's breadsticks brings out more emotion in me than thinking about attractive people Like... i'd literally rather have bread There is nothing allo about that 😂
To the last tiktok- do the creators who labeled the characters asexual know what asexual even means(cuz they did it to avoid talking further about their sexuality)?? like asexual just means u have no sexual attraction, so the characters could be gay/bi/pan etc while being ace(cuz aces feel romantic attraction). Ace=/=dont like anybody, thats aro-ace. so like 😐😐
Yep it's more so used to just not have to say they have attraction. Also immediately denies any queer identities for them. It's 100% okay if a character is aroace, but people should atleast know what they're doing and they shouldn't misuse the label
I'm aro/ace, but also not sex repulsed, and i'm touch positive, while having gender envy towards men so i just find them more pleasing in terms of aesthetics, and even smell I want to cuddle the hell out of some dudes super platonically, and i'm touch starved beyond all reasonable measures
@@C0NTR0LBABY_ i cant say i envy you cause touch is so casual for everyone and talking about getting funky in a not so innocent way is as well, so i imagine your uncomfy super often but i am the cuddliest bitch i know
I don't know if any ATINY are here, but I just got into ATEEZ and a lot of the fandom like the sexy stuff and I am just like "tHeY lOOk PreTTy" and I find it so funny, it reminds me that people actually think about sex when they say something is sexy or thirst-trapping.
I’m aroace and I do feel really lonely sometimes because I feel like there’s not nearly enough cannon representation in media and I’ve never met another aroace person in real life. Sorry, didn’t mean to dump, but love y’all (platonically lol) and I hope you have a good day😊
Ah I understand...I hope there will be more representation:)
today is ur lucky day(coming from an aro-ace) there is a jdrama called Koisenu Futari with two main aro-ace characters trying to live as allies/family and then getting slapped in the face with amatonormatovity every second, by colleagues, family, random people.
They even use the term aro-ace and their experiences are freaking accurate(probably due to the fact that the show is made by an asexual and takes inputs from real aroaces)
Please spread the word cuz canon stuff like these is what matters and makes people feel more valid/accepted.(esp for aroaces )
@@devinaghose9318 thanks you!!!!
You are the TV series Angel
Have you read the Heroes of Olympus and Trials of Apollo books? One of the characters is canonically ace, and all of what she said made me go: "Holy Schist, I'm ace".
Heyy!! A fellow aroace here! I feel your pain. Im also gonna dump if u dont mind. I personally dont really have irl friends, im more of an online friend person myself but i havent 'met' another aroace either yet, although i really wanna be in a QPR with another aroace person
when i was 12 i was like "yea why wouldnt i be pan i dont even understand how gender works" and now it turns out im aromantic, asexual, agender and autistic. like damn i really went all-out on the whole "no thanks society" thing huh. call that a AAAA battery
Ahaha samee
The hardest pass humanity has ever seen
hello, same 🫠
Yeah, same story. Turned out I'm still pan tho, but in a "panromantic asexual neurodivergent trans man" way XD
as an aroace person with ADHD i agree
As an aroace who doesn’t even want a relationship, I am thankful for this.
I used to think I was straight, and I had a only one “crush” on a guy in my math class, but then I actually asked myself whether I wanted to do any actual romantic/sexual things with him, and the answer was no, I just wanted to be friends with someone who really enjoys math like me.
OH MY GOD THISS I kept having “crushes” on people but couldn’t actually imagine myself in romantic relationships with them
Same!
Apart from that, in middle school I wondered if I had a crush on this one guy, but then when I actually got to talk to him I realized I felt absolutely nothing at all
And that's how i found out i wasn't straight but aroace
OMG SAME I USED TO MISTAKE SQUISHES FOR CRUSHES AND THE AND THEN I REALISE I JUST WANTED TO BE FRIENDS WITH THEM
Me too! I was sure I had a crush on this one guy but I realized I just wanted to be friends with him and watch Star Wars 😂
I’m demiromantic and demisexual and I always wondered how people looked at a random person on the street and instantly fell for them. Like you don’t know them. How. Just how.
Lust
@@Turnpost2552 Not true!
I wonder the SAME thing too!! Like how? Lol
As a bisexual, we don’t know either. We just sorta roll with it.
Exactly. How could you have sexual and romantic attraction to someone if you don’t know what kind of person they are. (Demiromantic and Demisexual too)
I'm polyamorous and bisexual so almost the opposite of aro-ace lol, but I actually have two aro-ace friends and they are great people!
I support y'all! You are awesome and valid :D
Your comment makes me feel loved thank you some people in the lgbtqia+ community don't think we're valid so thank you
I’m aroace and polyA lmao
Thank you 🥹🥹🥹
Plot twist, you actually stole their attraction
@@cockadoodledoostudios2778 *Shh* they aren't supposed to know
THE PEOPLE REACTING TO ME BEING AROACE IS SO TRUE
Story time...
I was sat in lesson and the person sat next to me said are you attracted to boys or girls (totally out of the blue) because everyone thinks I am gay. I was tired and lacked of sleep so, without thinking said neither. They looked at me and said, oh so your attracted to non-binary people then (they said whilst looking at me in disgust) and i sleepily replied No im just not attracted to anyone (which i instantly regretted saying) and they replied THATS NIT NATURAL, YOU SHOULD REALLY GET IT CHECKED OUT AND THEN CARRIED IN RAMBLING ABOUT 'HOW IT WASN'T NORMAL'.
THEY ABSOLUTELY RUINED MY DAY.
Ugh I hate people like that! I'm sorry you had to deal with their stupidity. I don't know how they think it's not normal to not want to date. They forget that not everyone wants a relationship like they do.
So what if we don't have a crush on anyone? We don't need a relationship to be happy. Friends, family, and pets are enough. I feel like people only say that because they want to continue their family's bloodline. That's cool and all but I would prefer if they just kept us out of it. It's our choice if we want to have kids/ be in a relationship or not.
That’s terrible! I’m so sorry you went through that! AroAce and even though it happened long ago, FUCK THEM FOR NOT CONSIDERING YOUR FEELINGS! You are Perfectly Unique since being “normal” is overrated
A good test for asexuality: would you rather give up seggs or good food. I personally could not live without garlic bread and cheese.
Nobody can live without food. Food is good
How can you give uo sex if you are asexual and don't have sex? Get a life snowflake
Well, that means everyones ace then
@@The_Knight_IsTheVillain yes that is actally the truth because people would die without food
@@jacepawplayz Wow people would die without food!?!?! Thank you for confirming!
omg!!! thank u so much for this. as someone who’s aroace i’ve been rlly struggling w seeing myself in content and media lately so this means sm
I'm glad! Aroace's deserve recognision
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Yo I’m aro ace too!!!
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Yes! And all the romance songs are just annoying! 🧡💛🤍💙
Love the fruity vibes we’ve created in the studio today
Ofcourse ofcourse 🤌
Yes yes 👏👏👏
I'm an Aroace who started aro, had one extremely abusive relationship and felt every desire disappear overnight . This was during a time when those labels didnt exist so saying I wasnt interested even decades later, is STILL being called a mental illness. Glad to know the label DOES exist. I'm AroAce and that relationship was a disaster pretty much from day one. There is no conflict between my orientation and my mental disorder. Im sure the two are NOT connected. I was Aro, long before my disorder kicked in. Sorry guys but it was here first!
3:28 props to her for being supportive of his identity and apologetic for making him uncomfortable when she asked him out. We love a sweetheart like that.
I used to think that thinking something was aesthetically attractive was a crush
this makes me very happy as an aroace person 🥺
I'm glad!!!
AND you're agender? I love you you're all of the As of the community and I respect you because you were born, looked at the world and just said no/lh
@@nyx5661 fun fact! There’s another A! It stands for abrosexual or abroromantic!! It means your attraction is fluid! This is my letter!! /nm
@@certifiednerd542oh yeah you're right I forgot sorry!! Also I love your flag :) /g
I'm acearo and I'm also non binary. I haven't figured out what label I want to use yet - if I use one - but it is funny that when God created some people he just said no.
"but I just can't date" *I relate to that so much* 😭
I personally don't want to, I don't find dating beneficial at all
@@The_Knight_IsTheVillainSame
I like fictional romances than real life anyway 😁😂
6:03 this really depends on the person. I'm aroace but also LOVE hugs and physical touch (provided it's platonic obviously). It's just good to ask! Everyone is different.
Yes! Agreement!
Same; I'm aroace, but also a very platonically huggy/affectionate person. xP
I have some questions, asexual to me was I thought you didn't want to participate in any sexual interaction, like kissing, sex, or stuff like that, but hugging and just cuddling is different. You still feel attraction, but not sexual attraction. Is this right?
@@bugadoodledoo1394 It's not an internal, inherent drive to have sex for asexuals. Some are more sex favorable, where sex is something they're willing to compromise on, but they don't feel like they need it and would be just as happy to never have it in their life. Or some might want other things, like children, so they're willing to have sex for that goal, but they don't want the sex itself. It's more about the lack of an internal, inherent desire to sexually connect with another person that makes one ace, not necessarily that they'd never participate.
I like hugs, high-fives, fist-bumps, handshakes, and I got a talent for giving head massages
EVERYONE IS VALID!!
YEAH!
0:47-this phrase describes me perfectly ,,Alone but not lonely"
This video made me emotional, I'm on a journey to try and understand if I'm aro/ace and this videos made me feel understood and seen, because understanding that asexuality and aromanticism is a spectrum and everybody can have a different experience is making me emotional in a good way because I feel like this is helping me finding myself. It's hard to understand if you have never or partially felt something.
You may be both!
The video at 1:24 makes me feel so valid. There are times I get self courses and think "I'm just doing it to get attention" or "Maybe I just haven't met them yet" but I relate to literally everything they listed. It's just a reminder to me and every other AroAce that we are valid, we are real, and we are amazing!
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I love how most of aroaces I met (me included) thought they were pan at first because it's the same type of attraction towards all genders
i think one of the funniest parts of being aroace is having people guess your sexual/romantic orientation because im arocae and have known/heard way too many people who think im gay or bi because i like rainbows and kinda act like a bi person (which i somewhat am, im biromantic, and the easiest way to describe is that i'm aro, but if i ever fell in love i wouldn't mind if it was a girl or a boy. im never having sex tho so don't get me started on that). haha, no, im aroace
3:23 SAIKI the trans Aroace icon for anime people ✨
me questioning: watches this video
aroaces: garlic bread
me again: I'm listening
The timing of this. I'm questioning if I'm on the aro spectrum and I already know I'm ace so haha crisis
same im just using aroace flux idk anymore i-
@@intend_o_switch402 that's such a mood😭
@@nyx5661 honestly ToT like why i just found out wut lithosexual and apothisexual are TOT
same, am I a lesbian or am I just lonely? who knows by this point 😭😭
Polyamorous panromantic aegosexual orchidromantic here! if like... anyone knows what that means take this: 🎖
Hello, fellow aroaces! Anyone else recently find out that “drooling over someone” isn’t literal? Haha anyways 😶
xD
wait what hUh? it isnt?
Wait WHAT!!!!
WHAT?! WHAT
Wai' what?
Bert and Ernie being in a qpr is not the take i was expecting to see in this vid, but I am all here for it
Aroace over here HAPPY PRIDE MONTH GUYS
This feel amazing sometimes to just look up your sexuality and just feel validated. Growing up I felt pressured to just get a life with a different family (kids, husband or wife), but I didn't want that. My mom makes it seem like it'll be lonely without them when I'm okay with just friends.(I'm aromatic/ageosexual)
No! Saiki will never be so kind! He'd just say no, push her out of the way, go to wherever he's going, and have coffee jelly
During the early years of primary school my friends started doing that cute thing of having a crush on someone in our year, probably because barbie mentioned it in a movie or something, and my friends had their secret crushes. I didn’t want to feel left out so I kinda just picked a random guy and said to myself “I will have a crush on him”. It’s probably insignificant but looking back I think it’s a clear point in my childhood which indicates that I was at least Aromantic. I also only wanted to marry a prince because my friends did and it would’ve made me a princess
I’ve been questioning if I’m on the aromatic spectrum lately. I think I only genuinely crushed on someone once. All my other relationships or “crushes” were forced or obsession, not real attraction. I’ve only recently started coming to terms with this, but it’s really difficult. I don’t feel normal, I want to feel attraction like everyone else does and I hate that I can’t
You could be demiromantic or greyromantic
A lot of my friends just say “she doesn’t date people.” Whenever we are talking about dating and stuff and it sucks because most of them think I just don’t want to be in a relationship when I’m reality I can’t force myself to love people that way. The end sorry I needed to get that out of my head
Also the other day my friend asked me out and it was over the phone and I sat there dead silent for a good 30 seconds waiting for her to say it’s a joke. When she didn’t I hung up the phone. Turns out it was a dare so it’s ok now lol
One time I told my mom that I’m not really interested in dating and she asked me why, I simply told her that I don’t really know it just generally doesn’t seem interesting to me and she said that it was fine and not everyone is interested in dating.
Hi just gonna share my expirence and identity
I'm an aegosexual orchidromantic! Which means i can enjoy sexual things i myself love Yaoi but i myself don't want to have sex ever with anyone! Orchidromantic for me is that i feel romantic attraction but- "HEY THE WHOLE POINT OF AROMANTIC IS THAT THEY EXPIRENCE LITTLE TO NO ROMANTIC ATTRACTION!" Well yes but no... let me finish what i was saying! But i don't have a strong desire or need to have a romantic relationship i don't care for such things or i just feel netural to the whole idea! i don't care either way! However what i do care about is building a pokemon team of awesome people and spending my life with this friend group i don't care if i like them romantically or not that changes nothing! I have no desire or need for a romantic realationship by that i mean no kissing and all that other stuff it's romantic by status and status only! it's the opposite of a queerplatonic relationship! just like orchidromantic is the oppisite of cupidoromantic :)
I got an ad about safe sex in the middle of the video 😭😭😭 TH-cam didn't understand the assignment
2:56 I relate to this SO much. Even though I’m some kind of alloromantic (greyromantic or aroflux, I’m not sure), the times when I have no attraction just feel so lonely. I don’t _want_ a relationship, but I long for the experience. I just want to go through such a thrill. I just want to be normal.
You are normal the way you are, it's ok to not (always) feel attraction
@@The_Knight_IsTheVillain thanks for this
A lot of these are new! Nice! I didn't realize it's almost 4 in the morning. I need to go to bed. 🧡💚💙
Haha yeah go to bed! ❤
i’m doing an all nighter even though i’m going back to school tmr 😚😚
Ha! For me it’s around 2, I’m glad I have people in the same boat!!
I'm 11 and i am aroace and i always hear, "when you grow up and have a husband" 💀
They trying to be acting like time travelers. Weren’t even close, were they?
@@someoneontheinternet072 what
I usually watch Aro/Ace tiktoks on days when I have internalized aphobia. If anyone else has those days I have a suggestion to watch a bunch of aro/ace compilations in cartoons or surrounding a character. Saiki K. from "The Disastrous Life of Saiki K." is a really nice one since he's the main character.
Just know that when you feel internalized aphobia, you're not alone in your feelings. Just know that you're loved by those surrounding you and you don't need romance to be loved.
Sending platonic hearts! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
3:09 BROOO SAME. im lesbian oriented aroace too. it’s really confusing to talk about and just generally confusing for us too. i remember telling my friend that i had a “crush” on her but not exactly a crush but also some type of crush (it’s a long story but it was valentine’s day and my other friend told me she liked the same friend i liked and she liked her back. so no my friend didn’t like me but whatever lol). i don’t think either of them really understood completely tho because later they were confused about it so yeah lol
edit: 8:00 the amount of oriented aroace people in here already makes me so happy
This is very validating :>
Tbh, I don't meet a lot of ace aros who've genuinely convinced themselves they have crushes then when it works out they go "no no no, this isn't right stooop." And it's nice to see some of these tiktoks mention it
YES THE GARLIC BREAD SWORDS
💚💜🖤
💙💛🧡
10:34 yesss!!! Finally an aroace character that's not a frickin sponge or a robot... 😂
3:17 Yay! Oriented Aroace representation! Hello to my fellow oriented aroaces
I never met any non-binary cause I was in a homophobic house so I thought I was bi but if I was around non binary a I’d probably think I was pan
12:59
One of my favorite asexual/aromantic characters of all time are
- Todd from Horseman
- Alastor from Hazbin Hotel
- Peridot from Steven Universe
- Saiki K from The disastrous life of Saiki K
- Ibuki Mioda from Danganronpa
Alastor 👌
I was venting to my friend about the fact that I wasn’t ever going to get married or do relationship stuff and she was like “you could just date people.” And I was like “bitch you could just be straight.” Then she said “well I was just saying you just haven’t found the right person yet.” I left her on read and texted my other friend asking “idk if I should be pissed or sad she wasn’t educated”
Compilations like this are hard to find, thank you💜🖤💚
No problem! ❤
True.
thank you for this video
i was looking for aroace ppl explaining their feelings bc i always see a lot of ppl validating all lgbt+ orientations but always forgetting the non allo one :( we can be happy without having to be attracted by someone else
that saiki comic was so cute omg i never knew i needed that
I'm not sure why this frustrates me so much but can I just clarify: being asexual does not mean you don't want to date; it means you do not want to have s-x. You can still be attracted to people if you are asexual.
If you feel like you don't want to date or have s-x, you are aroace (asexual & aromantic)
Aromantic means you don't want a romantic relationship but still might want to have s-x with someone while having no feelings toward them.
Hope this helps 💖🏳️🌈
Oh btw being sexual means that you don’t feel sexual attraction, not that you don’t want sex. There are sex-positive and high libido aces.
@@someoneontheinternet072 that's what I meant sorry but thanks for clarifying
I have a friend...
They claimed to be pan, but because I sorta felt the same for guys as for girls I decided I'd be bi. BUT I feel the same for non-binary people too? But I didn't wanna copy them so I stuck with bi.
Now a few years ago they confessed they're ace, right at the time I was questioning if I were aro. I am still not out if I really am, probably somewhere on the spectrum.
All I do know is that these kind of videos make me laugh and comfort me a lot.
And ofc I'm not gonna confess it because I have no need to atm 😅 no one asks me out anyway because I'm always inside and don't really meet people.
@@user-es6qi2se1i me fr. I don't even bother in say it like... no one's gonna ask me out so..
As an aroace person, I am so lucky that my friends have all been other LGBTQIA+ people or really anyone who knew what it was like to be not normal
Oh yay!!!
Validation!
This reminded me I need to start decorating my masculinity jacket with controversial-ish patches and aro/act pride patches.
And my zodiac cause why the fuck not. I've never befriended another Capricorn. Not that I want to.
I was sad when it was over...
I actually verbally said "aww it's over?"
Haha! Sadly it ended, but there'll be more of these soon
2:17 i can add someones i had
13) You hate when your family "ships" you with your best friend whem you just platonicaly love them too much.
14) You think kisses are ugly
15) Sometimes you're tired of watch a happy and sane friendship betwen a boy and girl starting being romantic
16) You din't expect a friend looks you in a romanticaly way and if that happen you don't know what to do
Found out I'm aroace (with the realization that all of my "crushes" was just platonic attraction) and holy shit every single one of these are super relatable
As an oriented aroace, I am valid I think and it does get lonely sometimes but that’s why I remember I still have friends who do love me😅
what does it mean to be an oriented aro ace? i’ve seen a few people say that but i don’t know what it means!
@@alistair_yippeethey feel a diffrent lgbtq attraction that isn’t romantic or sexual
I was raised in a family that ranges from homophobic to "I'm not homophobic, it's just I don't like gays shoving their bedroom activities in my face." In this family, one of my younger cousins came out as lesbian, which earned reactions on a scale of "confused" to "was she sexually abused?" I had only known about being gay for maybe three years, didn't know about other identities beyond gay and straight, was still kinda homophobic but starting to be an ally, and CERTAINLY didn't have any education that said romantic and sexual attraction were different. However, my reaction was to (internally) defend her by saying maybe it wasn't sexual attraction (she was maybe 10 when she came out, so I figured it wasn't ) maybe she only wants relationships with girls.
In other words, I really, REALLY should have figured out I was aroace sooner than I did.
i remember watching that one jaiden animations video, where she expressed she's aroace
i immediately thought, "wait- that makes sense... i said i was bi- wtf- oh wait.. yeah nvm.. it makes so much sense now.."
I remember coming out as aroace when I was 18 and my frnds told me that its sad cuz I won't find happiness and some told me its cuz of my verbally abusive dad. And I had actually believed that until a while ago.
Question for all the aro/demiaro: I questioning myself about being part of the aro spectrum, but I fall in love for book/movies character and some times for famous people to. Does it happen for you?
Yeah, it happens to me
@@johnyjane9862 thank you
@@pjo_neeks3215aw thanks
Aegoromantic perhaps? It's where you enjoy the idea of being in a romantic relationship than to actually be in one.
@@evarinagarmguardian113 thank you, you really helped me
as an ace aro, ppl in my highschool kept asking me how hot they were on a scale of 1-10 and i always rated it on their aesthetic attraction
My favorite part of being aroace and really confidant with my self is turning down anyone who says i like you
It's nice to see all the good ones in one place. Thank you!
I’m greysexaul and aromantic and I enjoyed this 🪄
Yassss! Finally an aroace one!!!✨✨✨🙏thank you
The “put a finger down” thing left me without any fingers. Less than no fingers.
I’m about to ruin childhood for everyone who’s reading this. Burt and Ernie from Sesame Street are brothers
I thought I was pan because I genuinely do feel love towards everyone but- yeah... xD not like that
I don't wanna fuck nor date anyone, I wanna love them in a way where I take care and help them all, offer them resources, my time and energy, and do whatever I can to make them happy, like a parent/guardian or a sibling
I'm a panromantic orchidromantic and yeah i relate to that a lot!
0:40 mannnn. A foggy morning at a cabin in the woods, with a library and a cat, in a cozy bed on a loft, reading books by candlelight. Paradise indeed.
its the "right after i get into a relationship i lose feelings right away" for me
I promise I'll come out to my parents before I turn 18, so I have about 2 years to go
You got this! Just make sure to have your PowerPoint presentation presentation because nobody understands what we are. Anyways good luck again!
I just love seeing AroAce content to show my love to all of the Aromantics, Asexuals, and AroAces! Y’all valid!
My mom says stuff like “when you grow up how are gonna find a husband that can deal with you?”
Me: *nervous sweating*
3:09 that is honestly my brain telling me what I should do with my love life💀
Me: *Aroace*
Also me: *listens to some romance songs*
I’m demiromantic and grey ace, but I support y’all and stand with you 🧡💜
i hope u reach to 10k keep up the good work
Yeaah thxx Lt!
1:37 I relate. I never had crushes in my life.
For reference I identify as asexual, aromantic and agender. I only discovered my sexual and romantic orientations when I was 22 years old.
In tears at the "But I just can't date" one holy shit yes
4:39 I’ve never dated anyone but I would do this. I’m ace and autistic and a comfort jumper would 100% be what I would where
Lol I can't believe I actually thought I was Pan because everyone felt the same, and now I'm like FCK THAT, I'M AROACE HAH
I’m aroace and pansexual. Most people my age are trying to get into relationships while I’m here playing Minecraft
watching this and remiding myself i used to force myself to feel love the way i idealized it to be with every partner i had before i realized "wait this just aint it"
I just realised I’m aroace and all the “crushes” I had/have are ppl I just wanna be friends/roommates 😭
Its like everyone arguing and aroaces Just Sitting in the corner Amusing ourselves
While eating bread and talking about world domination?
@@someoneontheinternet072 thought that was obvious :D
0:20 is so relatable.
I know nobody asked, but sense some people get confused on how aromantic people have “crushes”, let me explain!
(I’m aroace so don’t come at me- ik what I’m talking about)
Aromatic is a spectrum, meaning you could be not completely aromantic (such as greyromantic or aroflux) however that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about when an aro person feels “romantic” attraction towards another person.
When a complete aro feels “attraction” to another. It’s usually either platonic or aesthetic attraction, which is mistaken for romantic attraction. A lot of aros also select people to like because it’s what society calls “normal”. For I personally, I have mistaken gender envy for a crush and I’ve selected someone to like because I thought I wouldn’t be normal if not.
Either way society pressures love onto everyone. and when others can’t feel that kind of love, it makes you feel out of place or lonely. But you’re not alone! Anyways I hope this helps!
Tysm for this !!
2:21 every time I question if I'm ace or not I remember that thinking about fazoli's breadsticks brings out more emotion in me than thinking about attractive people
Like... i'd literally rather have bread
There is nothing allo about that 😂
YES thank you!
No problem :D
Omgg i love the saiki k one!!
I'm so embarrassed at how happy I got towards the news about Bert and Ernie LMAOO
*dances in ace demi-romantic*
Tysm for the video I’ve never seen that much videos like these, I’m recipro aroace btw
No problem!
Yessss love this thank you
To the last tiktok- do the creators who labeled the characters asexual know what asexual even means(cuz they did it to avoid talking further about their sexuality)??
like asexual just means u have no sexual attraction, so the characters could be gay/bi/pan etc while being ace(cuz aces feel romantic attraction). Ace=/=dont like anybody, thats aro-ace.
so like 😐😐
Yep it's more so used to just not have to say they have attraction. Also immediately denies any queer identities for them. It's 100% okay if a character is aroace, but people should atleast know what they're doing and they shouldn't misuse the label
@@ellabella001 yeah , and the fact that they're avoiding making them queer by just making them aroace is just- oof its problematic in so many ways.
I'm aro/ace, but also not sex repulsed, and i'm touch positive, while having gender envy towards men so i just find them more pleasing in terms of aesthetics, and even smell
I want to cuddle the hell out of some dudes super platonically, and i'm touch starved beyond all reasonable measures
i mean this in the best way possible but you are literally my alter ego if i had one😭 im aroace but sex repulsed and hate psychical touch
@@C0NTR0LBABY_ i cant say i envy you cause touch is so casual for everyone and talking about getting funky in a not so innocent way is as well, so i imagine your uncomfy super often
but i am the cuddliest bitch i know
@@Sleepy_Sunshine there’s only like 3 people i know very well who i let touch/cuddle me if they wanted to😭
@@C0NTR0LBABY_ lucky mfs, i tell you that, you seem like a gem
i cuddle all my friends
@@Sleepy_Sunshine thank you!! you’re a cool person
I don't know if any ATINY are here, but I just got into ATEEZ and a lot of the fandom like the sexy stuff and I am just like "tHeY lOOk PreTTy" and I find it so funny, it reminds me that people actually think about sex when they say something is sexy or thirst-trapping.
After we invade Denmark, what contry should we invade next?
1:26 is my life-
13:43 omg I never expected to hear that out loud about gonzo 😂💀