Story 2 - She gives the r***st a plausible excuse to be near OP and even spreads rumors about her having a crush on him, which he could use as part of his defense if/when he tries again. Also, the whole thing occurs in a context, where OP would be socially pressured to be friendly and smiling, resulting in lots of witnesses that can testify that OP didn't seem to have any problem with the guy. This "friend" could hardly have done a better job if she was deliberately trying to set up OP for another SA.
You’re right! The “OP has a crush on him” excuse being spread around could make him seem “justified” if/when he does it again. Man- the friend really is a manipulative back stabber.
I can't believe humans are so dumb that they don't just get 100 people together and accuse every major shareholder of something bad. Guess people just love debt.
multiple people without obvious connections. I've seen cases where people with a common connection to a common person conspired. They're rare, but it's minimal effort to investigate and can help prevent locking up an innocent individual. But yes, as long as the individuals only have the one common connection - that is, the accused - there is a good chance they're telling the truth.
Dude. That happened to my mom with student loans. She died after consolidating with NAVIENT. Her total went from almost $500k down to $227k. When she died I sent them her death certificate and they forgave it... Her degrees were not worth her life.
Last story: OP is living my dreams! The hopeless romantic in me is jealous. Like, girl, congratulations! You secured your dream husband right after the first date! Yes, there’s embarrassment from the mistaken text. With that said, I could only hope to find that special someone for me! All’s well that ends well for OP! Props to her! I love the happy stories that get sprinkled in between all of the depressing ones!
As a man, I would LOVE to get that text. Men can obvious and sometimes aren't sure if women are into them, even with direct flirting. This must have made his day. Love how this turned out.
I'd have a heart attack after such a text if it was a girl I was into after 2 dates because my self esteem is in the toilet a lot of times, though in all seriousness I'd assume it was partially a joke too to continue a flirty mood.
There are 2 ways to get through college in the us. 1. Have rich family that are willing to help 2. Work your ass off by working a 40+ hour job while also going to school full time, yet you still have debt that will never go away
No no, it's not a computer error, not forgiving a loan dispite the mother reaching out to have it forgiven (before she even met Betsy), that seems like trying very hard to keep a cash cow.
@lorilancaster5917 tbh there's no way it should have gotten any higher for a 10k loan that had payments made on it. I would REALLY love to hear the rationalization from them. Even if she had been paying on the principal all this time. Fucking predator loans
Yep, that's how they try to handle loans, they know it's wrong and sometimes even illegal, butthey bet that some not ass well informed people might pay
I don't support loan forgiveness. Because it's not "forgiveness", we tax payers still need to pick up what she couldn't. That debt doesn't just get canceled. If you chose to take a loan, you need to pay it back.
Story 2: There are 2 paragraphs more to the story. Tina wrote a nasty text to OP about ruining her marriage, but OP blocked her. OP wants to track down the other women to see whether a case is possible.
@@lenagalaxies There could be a couple of reasons. It's currently summer. If I wanted some time off I'd work overtime and record in advance. So any edits OP made after the fact wouldn't show in the story. The other possibility is that while prepping the story rslash missed the paragraphs. I think the first is most likely considering that there's a time jump from Josh leaves till Tina wrote. Regardless, he always keeps the usernames of the people who wrote it on screen, so it's easy to look up.
Story 2: The very thought of asking my friend to spend any amount of time with their assaulter wouldn't pass through my head. WTF is wrong with Tina? Josh seems like a cool dude, I hope he leaves her.
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
2nd story: imagine if OP didn't talk it out with the fiance. That horrendous lie would've led to Josh and or anyone else in the friend group possibly putting OP in the same space with the rapist because "she has a crush on him". And in the long run this could've spiraled into one of those " she had a crush, he said no, so now she claims r*pe" stories, so in the end not only would people not believe OP but they would actively shun her.
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
Exactly. She's not just being oblivious or disregarding OP's feelings. She's literally helping a r***st get easy access to his victim and providing him with cover for his defense. It's SO messed up.
Story 2: What good does it do to LIE about OP having a "petty girl fight?" and hiding the truth? This girl is a liar and a terrible person, for invalidating OP'S feelings and expect to just suppress her trauma on her wedding. I'd hope Josh calls off the wedding altogether because marrying her would be an absolute nightmare.
What good? She didn't want to look bad by saying she's trying to make her supposedly very good friend cooperate with her attacker. It was easier for bride-to-be to say her friend was causing stupid drama. She didn't think her fiance would like to get involved in that, so her lie wouldn't be exposed. Bridezilla is going to blame her now ex-friend if the wedding doesn't happen, not herself.
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
And if Tina will downplay and undermine the trauma her so called BFF endured for her own sake, imagine what boundaries of Josh’s she’ll ignore to try and get what she wants? And Tina also never gave Josh a heads up about Rod? WTF!
I do think we need more context. I don’t think it should be Tina’s place to tell everyone that that happened to her. I think she should have talked to her first to be like hey can I tell my soon to be husband what happened to you because he doesn’t know and has his best man as the man who assaulted you.
Second story, good on OP for standing up for herself and exposing everything. If Tina was willing to cover for that kind of person, what else is she willing to do for her own gain?
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
Story 3: So, according to Leslie, being nice and helping her out means OP has a crush on her and has ulterior motives.... but then when OP steps back to avoid issues, that also means he has a crush on her and has ulterior motives? Damned if you do and damned if you don't. If he did have a crush on her, he wouldn't willingly bring up stepping back from helping and contact almost entirely at the first sign of a possible miscommunication. Leslie is starting to sound like she's just wanting a pair of private chauffeurs. Therapy is right but, if she can't afford a car, I'm doubtful therapy is approachable for them either so I'm not too confident that will happen. Sounds like some past trauma (likely from "nice guys" who just wanted something in return for being nice) is leading this behavior. Understandable if she has had that experience but, thinking everyone is out to get can make you an eternal victim and/or becoming entitled which pushes people away and kind of feeds into that loop of thinking everyone is abandoning you.
Feels like Lesile is the one who has feelings for OP and is trying to get him to sleep with her and the reason why she's saying that OP has a crush on her is to make him seem like a cheating scumbag so that Emily divorces OP because you know, 'If Lesile can't have OP, then neither can Emily'.
Not even a good partner either. She must’ve known about Josh’s past, and just the blatant disregard for both of their traumas all because it’s her big day. Glad Josh has now seen the light about both her and Rod.
Am I the butthole story or relationship advice? Was one cut or not (I’ve not listened to it yet) Edit: Nvm heard some of the second story if he deleted it before he uploaded
I have a theory about story 2 that the friend secretly wanted Op to date Rob as in "friends dating friends" - Not reporting Rob - Not telling Josh about it - Paring Rob and Op together - Lying that Op has a "crush" on Rob
I think Tina is projecting her own crush on Rob onto Op or is cheating with Rob and is in denial that Op was ever assaulted. Tina wants Op and Rob together so everyone is always together and Tina and Rob could cheat more.
It's difficult to report sexual assault. I have assaulted by numerous men starting when I was a young child and I used to tell, I used to report - NOTHING happened. No one helped me. My last two exes assaulted me in the same way, the last one did so after I confided in him what happened to me, after he seemed safe and willing to listen to me. My body has damage from what they did and having to relive that just for justice is really hard especially when authorities and doctors do nothing.
About 18 years ago, I worked as someone who would administer AWG on federally defaulted student loans. I've seen loans BLOW UP but mostly from continuously consolidating Student Loans. You really need to avoid that because every time you do, you capitalize your interest. Even so, 900K is _shocking_ and even _my_ mind is blown.
Yes, student loans are ridiculous. My 6,000 loan turned into 13,000. They kept selling the loan. The new loan company would then add on all the interest from the year before. Even though that had already been applied. They told me yes, that's not right. But it is legal.
That’s why you track statements and challenge discrepancies. You can’t “double dip” interest. Odds are they never expect people to catch on and challenge it .
@@m95-k6q - What they say and what the law says are two different things. I’ve seen banks and lenders do many illicit things and hope nobody takes them to court. It’s like believing the IRS when they say you owe them…never believe it…have a CPA challenge it. They rely on people caving I. The face of apparent (but not actual) authority.
*Rslash:* Our next post is from r/amithebutthole. *Rslash immediately after the above sentence:* Our next post is from r/relationships. *Me:* !?!?!?!?!?
S2: “Oh, I know what happened to you back then, but I just don’t care. As the bride, I get everything I want no matter what, and that means you and Rod will be together helping and doing stuff for the wedding. Who really gives a crap about what happened to you, anyways? All you gotta do is suck it up and do what you are told cause if you don’t, I’ll tell everyone how horrible you and that you ruined my special day. Thanks for your understanding and cooperation! You’re such a great bestie!”
Story 2: I’m not making excuses. Tina is absolutely wrong and I hope OP does cut her off for good. But I wonder, did she lie because she didn’t think her husband would believe her. Apparently Rod did this to several girls, and his friend believed him when he said they were all lying. So maybe Tina thought if she had told him that her friend was one of the victims he wouldn’t believe her. Especially given the girl that did reported got treated terribly, with no justice. That’s no excuse, Tina telling her friend to put her trauma aside and Spend months with it alone is enough to kill this friendship. That’s not even getting into the part where OP has to be his date for the wedding, then lying about why she dropped out because she has a crush on that trash, which could’ve made OP’s life worse if it got back to him, then he’ll think he can pursue her. But at least one person understands where OP is coming from and not treating her as if she’s somehow overreacting or selfish.
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
I was trying to come up with some reason why Tina telling her fiance would cause her fiance to break up with her and I couldn't come up with anything even something as the illogical as what you came up with so ya. I was trying to come up with something illogical because obviously there wouldn't be anything completely logical especially the way that the fiance handled the situation by immediately coming over and getting the friends side of the picture.
@@bland9876 the one thing I can think of is she knew but was comfortable being around the monster and letting her boyfriend form a close enough relationship to ask him to be his best man. Given that context, I'd break things off with my SO too.
Ah, no, the friend isn't holding back info from her fiance to not rock the boat. It's obvious OP's friend doesn't actually believe OP was r-worded. She either discounts it as "morning after" regrets, or assumes OP was "asking for it" by being intoxicated. Dump that "friend" forever.
So, I was raped as a small child. I occasionally still have to deal with him, and every single time, I feel sick, shaky, and absolutely terrified. I can't deal with him. I'm a pacifist, and he's the only person I have ever in my entire life threatened with violence. So, that story is absolutely horrifying to me
Yeah because forget the fact that OP was only helping her as a favor from his wife which any rational person would comprehend. No! To Leslie every man wants her and every woman should tend to her
If my friend was cool with their fiancé being a friends with a rapist….id end the friendship. I would go immediate no contact. Why would you even look at your friend who ok with putting you anywhere near this thing. This whole situation is disgusting.
I also knew that I'd marry my husband after my first date with him. Actually... It was pretty early on into that first date. Rewind 5 years and let me take you to St. Patrick's day, 2019. I'd been texting and face-timing with this guy I matched with on a dating app and he was cute and funny and oh so sweet. So we set it up to go out with each other to dinner and then back to one of our places for drinks. The day of, we decided to bail on dinner and just have a couple of drinks at his place instead because even though we had a reservation, the restaurant was too crowded and rowdy with its green beers and drunk college kids. We get to his place and put some music on, pour the wine and then discuss what movie we're gonna watch as we ordered in. This sweet man kept a solid 3 feet of space between us unless I specifically asked him to come closer. After a few drinks, we were sufficiently loosened up enough to cuddle on the couch while we watched a Pulp Fiction (cuz we're cool like that lol). I kept throwing signals that I wanted him to kiss me and he seemed so interested and keen, but would turn my lean-ins into hugs instead. I got frustrated and asked him "Aren't you gonna kiss me?" And he smiled and said "I've been dying to, but you didn't say that I could. You told me that consent meant everything to you... I was trying to be respectful of your wishes." It was in that moment that I knew that he was someone special. I think it was the moment I fell in love with him. Because he remembered something that I mentioned off-handedly when talking about weeks ago. I don't even remember what we were talking about for the context of that to have come up, but I do know that I said it. I've said it to a bunch of my friends before and since. Nothing happened besides a couple of first kisses that night, but I remember that deeply satisfying sigh and looking at him as I walked out his door and climbed into the back of my uber. We've been on countless dates since then, and last year (2023) in July... I married him in front of nearly 200 of our friends and family. My MOH mentioned that she knew I'd marry him by the way I talked about him after my first date with him.... His best man said that he knew we were meant to be because Ben (my husband), couldn't stop talking about "This girl who loves Alice in Chains". His mother knew too. She said that she knew her son was seeing someone special because she's never known him to be so happy all all the time. Ben said that he might have fallen in love with me that night too, because I knew all the words to every song on the Alice in Chain "Dirt" Album ❤
my heart melted with this :'((( how come you guys are so sweet!! the consent part reminded me of a TV show that got cancelled, a guy and a girl were about to get frisky and between kiss and kiss he stopped and looked her in the eyes and carefully asked "is this okay?" she said yes, he kissed her and IDIED. Mindful guys are the best, gentle and caring-- many people would die for I'm so happy for you guys and I hope you two continue to have years and years of happiness together 😢😢😢
@@brunnrunn I agree... Mindfulness is way more attractive than any physical features that any person could ever have. I am so very lucky to have met such a sweet and respectful man. His mother definitely raised him right. I was also a single mother of 3 when I met him. My husband didn't meet them until he and I had been dating for almost a year into dating. He asked my boys "I want to marry you and your mother, but I won't without your blessings... Will you give me your blessings to marry you and your mom?" Before he ever asked even my parents for THEIR blessing... Probably because they were divorced. My mom was so excited that she gave him the ring that I had been admiring from her collection to get a molding of so he could modify it better to my tastes. He took my dad out to dinner and they had a "man to man" chat for hours over non-alcoholic drinks (my dad was an alcoholic who had been clean for over 30 years). My husband proposed in Toronto, as fireworks went off just after the NYE countdown in ASL (I'm deaf). I was so happy that I practically knocked him over when I threw myself at him and gave him the biggest hug and kiss ever. I could barely choke out the words "Yes!!" I immediately called my mom and kids, then my dad, and he called his parents... Everyone was so happy. We didn't want a long engagement and we got married in July of the same year (pure chaos!! Lol) I love him so much that I truly believe that everything that I've ever experienced or endured were lessons that would always lead me to where I was meant to be: With my wonderful husband❤️
I was also sexually assaulted in HS and when i found out my friend was still in contact with the man who attacked me, I just about lost it. To me, it's unforgivable. Even the idea of a friend dating the man who raped me is disgusting. I feel for OP, and hope she's able to heal and find friends who respect her.
Story 3: I knew that crap about her having a bad day was BS, who makes that accusation because they’re having a bad day? OP was already right to keep his distance from her after that accusation, but if your wife didn’t get it, then she most certainly gets it now. And now we know why she apologize to her instead of OP, she was never sorry about the accusation and was certain she was right. Because apparently a guy can’t be nice they have to be a dirty dog. Even then, you were only nice because your wife made you.
Things like the first story happen in America regularly. People being saddled with an unimaginable amount of debt because of interest. And it crushes people. But still you will here countless people screaming about “ you’re the one who took out the loan and pay it back”. “ you just want free hand out pay your loans”. It is pretty much common place for people to pay thousands of dollars towards their debt to the point that they’ve already paid back the loan with interest but STILL owe more then what the original loan was.
I really hope Josh called off the wedding. Tina is a terrible person, plus she lied to her fiancé's face. I was really hoping there'd be an update saying he dumped her.
Story 1, I know nothing about student loans because I was payed for welding since mostly everyone didn’t make enough to afford the class but I feel bad for people who have to work a lot to pay their student loans there whole life Story 2, this is an ugly situation and forcing you to work with someone who did something ugly to you isn’t something you should do especially if it’s your best friend. Story 3, it’s ok to help a friend it’s what friends do for each other. But this is beyond helping and Lesly is taking things to far and I don’t blame op because if he’s blamed for cheating even though he didn’t do anything Story 4, that’s more a jump the shark moment. There’s nothing wrong with having thoughts of marrying someone you’re dating but saying it out after the first date but the op definitely has a keeper and I’m happy there married
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
Miscommunication story: What Leslie doesn't realize, is that OP was never being nice to her, he's still just being nice to his wife. He only ever helped because his wife asked, NOT because Leslie asked.
Last story - I was kind of expecting them to get married after he screws up the proposal by texting her something meant for someone else - planning a distraction for ring-shopping or something along those lines.
I texted my friend saying I may end up marrying this guy after a 1st date too. That was 11 years ago, we've been married for 7 and expecting our 2nd kid next month
Story 2: Jesus fucking christ, where do I begin?... OP, not only should you cut ties with Tina but I hope to god the Josh ends this marriage. I honestly don't know who worse, Rod or Tina, definitely both.
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
I'm so sorry but your typo of "cut eyes with Tina" made me imagine OP swinging a knife at Tina's eyes in revenge for even asking her to be around Rod, never mind wedding plan with him.
Spending time with the person who is an attacker? NO! Hell will freeze over first. (And to lie about having a crush on him? You’re just asking for a black eye.)
Story 1: No, it doesn't feel like it was an error at all. They probably hoped that OP's mom would accept whatever that letter said and keep on giving them money...
I knew pretty quickly I'd be with my husband. We met on Love River in Kaohsiung, Taiwan. In 2009. I came to Taiwan to learn Mandarin. At first I lived in dorms, but after a year, I moved off campus And into a rented house. I then soon adopted a stray puppy who was estimated to be about 2 months old when I found him. (puppy recently passed from old age) I was walking the puppy, but I had let him off the leash cause it was like 11pm and no one was about (or so I thought) to let his puppy energy out. He suddenly darted off around the corner of the bathroom by Jianguo Rd. I chased, and rounded the corner to see him chase a stray cat up a tree and then proceed to start eating something. Turns out it was cat food. There was a guy there and he was feeding the stray cats. I went over to apologize over and over and catch the puppy. We met a few more times over the next couple months. (Initial meeting was in November) In January 2010, I rescued another stray puppy and went out to see if I could find the guy. In my bag I had a piece of paper either my MSN Id on it. He was there. I asked, in my very poor Chinese at the time, if he could post the puppy's info and pics to sites taiwanese use to help find a home. He agreed. By the time I finished my walk with puppies, he had added me. We went out to eat that night .... He chose Stinky Tofu hot pot of all things 😂 About 2 months in, he asked "would you marry me" not in a proposal way, but in a is it something you'd consider way. Also turns out he spoke excellent English 😂😂 I didn't know he spoke ANY English until we'd been dating a while. We've been together since, married 11 years now and 3 kids.
Story 2: unless the assaulter shows up as the wedding pinata, there is NO excuse for exposing a victim to their assaulter 'because they're SUCH A NICE PERSON NOW'. Gross.
Story 3: I wonder if Leslie is the one with a crush on OP and is projecting onto him to remain in denial and make herself believe it's OP that is the issue. I think cutting contact with Leslie was 100% the right thing to do at least for OP maybe discuss with your gf as well cause personally it doesn't sit well with me that she's comfortable with volunteering you to do something (without discussing it with you previously). I don't understand people who make plans that they know they can't be part of and just assume that other people will follow as if they don't have their own lives and priorities. Story4: Aww that's cute
03:11 - rSlash: Our next Reddit post comes from r/AITA. Me: Oh cool, sweet! rSlash immediately after that: Our next Reddit post comes from r/RelationshipAdvice. Me: Wait, what? 😂
American student debt is terrifying, in Scotland what you are loaned is what you pay back, but only once you start earning £15k minimum per year, if you’re earning £15k you are allowed to make the minimum payments. Until you get employment paying at least that much you don’t pay your loan and the amount doesn’t increase, because student loans are very regulated here. We don’t want people in hundreds of thousands in debt for their education, so if you’re a Scot or have lived in Scotland for minimum 5 years then your course fees are paid for and covered by the Scottish government, the student loan is just so you can afford to live whilst studying where this gives you the choice to seek employment if you feel you need the extra funds as opposed to relying on a 40 hour+ a week job to cover rent and bills whilst studying full time! So yeah American student debt is terrifying as it’s predatory and destroys peoples lives.
First story reminds me of the time I got my wisdom teeth removed. I was on disability that covered dental. I checked with them ahead of time to see if they would cover it. They said they would. Fast forward to six months AFTER my removal, and MY MOM gets a "final warning" from the dental office about her owing them money. These guys never contacted us before this letter. My dad is pissed and calls them. Turns out these morons forgot to send the bill to my disability program on time, so they refused to pay it. So they decided to make us pay it. My dad basically told them, "It's not my wife's bill to pay, and it's not our fault you're stupid." They agreed and apologized and never contacted us again.
Story 2: Did tina know about josh's own trauma? because holy shit its one thing to be that much of a POS to ignore your friends trauma and tell them to "put it aside" for your wedding and not inform your partner that rod is confirmed a rapist, but its another thing to be that much of a POS to not have told you're boyfriend/fiancee hes hanging out with someone who raped a friend (or multiple other women) knowing he is also a victim/survivor. thats truly baffling, to call it a petty girl fight and to lie to the person youre about to swear your life with... i hope josh and OP are both okay now and josh has left tina, tina is a parade of redflags.
Last story: This happened to me when my girlfriend and I were starting to date. She sent me a Minnie Mouse GIF where Minnie blew a kiss that turned into a heart. What she DIDN’T know was the words “I love you” appeared in the heart. She was so embarrassed and told her best friend who still to this day reams her for sending it to me. I was a good sport and figured she didn’t know about the GIF’s ending, plus I was really into her. We’re still going strong and getting stronger every day for three years (anniversary next week!) and she and I both poke fun at her for sending the GIF. I love that woman more than words can describe!!! 🤣💚
@@bigjalapeno7061 I’m guilty of it too! Sometimes GIFs won’t show the full animation right away. Other times, people send them without looking cuz they like it 🤷🏽♂️ Lol. Either way, I knew what her intentions were and wasn’t gonna be scared away by it
*Title Story:* My assaulter wants to date me. *Actual Story:* My best friend made me her maid of honour for her wedding and expects me to be work alongside the best man for the duration of the wedding despite her knowing full well that he assaulted me when I was a teenager.
Last story made my husband and I smile. 8 years ago when my husband and I went on our first date I told no one, the only person I was close to was I thought was my best friend of 2 years at that point but didn’t tell her, my husband did tell his roommates. Everyone was really surprised when we announced on facebook the same day. I so wish I had that moment because I knew we were going to get married since high school. We got married 3 years later on our anniversary
it's always wild coming into these videos a little later and hearing "Our next Reddit post comes from [user/subreddit] and the story being cut for one reason or another, and immediately going to the next "Our next Reddit post comes from [user/subreddit]"
Either there's a story missing, or there's an editing mistake in the video. The third story is an AITA story, but it starts a minute after the chapter begins.
@@Wolfie713- A minute doesn’t seem like enough time to have a story from BORU. And the video is almost 18 minute long already. I’m guessing editor mistake.
I'm inclined to agree with you both except that I don't want to, for stubborn reasons. 😁 I mentioned the possibility of a missing story since Dabney has been known to remove a story, comment, and/or commentary from a video but leaving evidence via bad edits. A minute off is likely just bad chapter editing vs a missing story.
2:16 it's the USD0.02 at the end of such a big number, for me😅! Seriously? The 2cents matter? Surprised they didn't make her pay USD400.02 in the end...
Student loans prey on children's dreams. You shouldn't be able to get $100k in loans for a degree that isn't profitable. Some degrees are amazing and very useful, many others are just expensive papers. Education shouldn't cost more than 1 year of increased salary anyways. If getting a degree would increase your income by $30k within 5 years, then the degree should only cost $30k. Idk how we accepted $10k per year as cheap.
That last story If a girl texted me that I'd probably respond with "🍾💍👰" for some other combination of wedding emojis. It would be a compliment if she liked hanging out with me enough that she was wanting to marry me. Depending upon how much I knew of this girl I might even go over with a Ring Pop and fake proposed just as a joke. Lol You know basically just make fun of her for her mistake but in the friendly way.
If I received a letter I owed a million dollars I'd laugh. That amount is so far beyond my ability to pay as to be laughable. If the letter said a hundred thousand than I'd panic, that is an amount that I could painfully repay.
Story 1: Wow some someone made an oopsie (or knew about this yet still charged the mom….or it really was a computer error) but happy it got fixed. Story 2: Title alone is a heck no…but let’s listen *listens* AND STILL IMMEDIATELY NO!!!! Tina knew who had attacked OP….why did she think OP would be fine working with her attacker?! Not to mention the complete lack of empathy and the request for OP to “bury her trauma for the sake of the event”?! Who would ever forego their own comfort to work with their attacker?! Plus the whole “he seems like a great guy” solidifies that Tina is a horrible friend. Josh seems like the only innocent party in this as it seems neither Tina nor his “best friend” Rod ever told him what happened (and Tina lied about why OP backed out…real pathetic). Rod is a total predator as he knew he could get away with it if he just said all the girls who “falsely” accused him were crazy. Ugh….as an assault victim myself…I hope Rod burns and Josh never married Tina. Story 3: Soooo the wife volunteered OP to “help” when in reality it just became “entertain my friend because I’m too busy to.” How is it a “miscommunication” that Emily was so far out of that picture that it basically made OP seem like he was interested in Leslie (who completely misunderstood everything but still). Like this whole thing would have been a non-issue had Emily, Leslie, and OP sat down and talked ahead of time before it got to this point. But then that seemed like a ploy since Leslie wanted to stir the pot so badly by asking or OP repeatedly. Yikes what a miserable person. Story 4: what is this title! At least OP could tell how cringe it was. And holy cow it was a texting mistake!!! I get a great date can leave you on a euphoric high…but always check who you’re texting first. At least the guy was decent about it. Seems like OP still has a chance *update* THE GODS HAVE BLESSED OP WITH A HAPPY ENDING!!!
I have reported sexual assault and rape but nothing was done about it. This is in the US btw. They couldn't get DNA so nothing happened. I am mentally scared for life. I was also sexually assaulted as a kid from 4 to 13 by my cousin so nothing was done about that either. I blame my autism for making me to trusting of people. I now have a hard time trusting anyone.
Whilst I understand why people may not want report SA cases, I strongly urge that you give it a go. If there's even a chance you can make your attacker face the consequences, you should attempt to take it. You can stop them from ever being in your life again or hurting anyone else. Stay safe icons, love you all
Story 2: yeah she’s not your real friend if she expects you to be around your attacker, that’s traumatising… and she’s expecting you to just get over that? No, never, that’s disgusting! Gotta wonder if the friends fiance knows what actually happened to OP and if he’d actually support OPs “friend”
I've noticed there's a pretty decent amount of people who have personal libraries. My dad has a personal library, for example (even though he hasn't read half of the books. And he's _still_ buying more books... 🤦♂).
Tina very well didn't want to make waves, but I think she was also a covert narcissist-enabler. And her enabling was of Rod. Poor Josh is about to sell his soul to a Demon in the Sack unless they call it off.
Remember when Rslash used to do the helpful links way back when? Those were the good days. Edit: Changed it to "way back when" instead of "when back when".
Story 2 : " i know you got assaulted by the guy im asking you to work with For me just do it why does what happen to you matter" what tina really meant to say... op shouldve just told her " to lose op number and that they no longer exist to each other..... Josh needs to call of the wedding a lie like this is just the open door policy to other things.. plot twist Tina has a crush on Rod since he assaulted op and didnt know how to express it.. Story 3 : NTA.. i honestly think with how much op wife is having Leslie and op in the same room she wants to try to catch both doing the nasty... op needs to start preparing an exit strategy.. Update : not buying it.. op wife is still hella suspicious.... leslie is just insane... Story 4 : 😆 😆😆😆😆 Update : nice finish...
The last story made me DIE of laughter. I have ADHD. and have done the same thing where I’ll text someone else, rather then the person I was just communicating with because I’ll get distracted BAHA.
Anyone else has the impression that Tina and Rod are having an affair behind Josh's back, and that's why she's lying to Josh and gaslighting OP to protect him? I seriously can't think of any other reason for her behavior.
Story 3: It is weird that I knew what was happening before reaching the end of the story. It sounds like Emily was almost unknowingly setting them up for a cheating opportunity. Also Leslie sounds very r/nice girls to me.
I laughed at the last one! Oh my goodness, we’ve all done that “text” of shame 😳 at least once in our lives! I LOVE how it ended. *I was on Ambien for a bit due to no sleep after my big brother died. I was cooking, cleaning, doing laundry and emailing people in my sleep! It was lovely “waking” up to a clean house, laundry done and folded and food in the fridge but the emails were not! I was brutally honest with people and went scorched earth on them! 🤦♀️ At least I was able to get rid of toxic people in my life 😂. My husband put bells on the bedroom door so he’d wake up to pull me back to bed. I stopped taking the pills shortly after that! I miss the clean house bit but I can live with that! Ugh! Ugh! Ugh!
I loved the last story! Lol and I had a semi similar situation. I met a guy at 16 that I really, really liked. He always said he liked me too but gave bs excuses as to why he didn't want to be "official." Only after I met an amazing man at 18, through the drive thru at work of all places 😂, did he want to be together. When I turned him down, I told him, "No I really like this guy and I'm going to marry him." I don't think at the time I knew that for sure; really I just wanted to rub some salt in the wound. Lol But I refused to be the girl he only wanted when she was no longer at his disposal. As for me, I did marry my drive thru love! We've been together for over 10 years and just had a beautiful baby girl! ❤
Story 2 - She gives the r***st a plausible excuse to be near OP and even spreads rumors about her having a crush on him, which he could use as part of his defense if/when he tries again. Also, the whole thing occurs in a context, where OP would be socially pressured to be friendly and smiling, resulting in lots of witnesses that can testify that OP didn't seem to have any problem with the guy.
This "friend" could hardly have done a better job if she was deliberately trying to set up OP for another SA.
You’re right! The “OP has a crush on him” excuse being spread around could make him seem “justified” if/when he does it again. Man- the friend really is a manipulative back stabber.
Pro tip: If multiple people have accused a person of harming them in a specific way, chances are, they did it.
Agreed.
Especially if those people have no connection to each other and the one they accuse has neither fame nor money.
Once is happenstance. Twice is a coincidence. Thrice is a pattern.
I can't believe humans are so dumb that they don't just get 100 people together and accuse every major shareholder of something bad.
Guess people just love debt.
multiple people without obvious connections. I've seen cases where people with a common connection to a common person conspired. They're rare, but it's minimal effort to investigate and can help prevent locking up an innocent individual. But yes, as long as the individuals only have the one common connection - that is, the accused - there is a good chance they're telling the truth.
Dude. That happened to my mom with student loans. She died after consolidating with NAVIENT. Her total went from almost $500k down to $227k. When she died I sent them her death certificate and they forgave it... Her degrees were not worth her life.
Oh boy, only 227k in debt! Such a deal! (I'm sorry this happened to your family.)
Last story: OP is living my dreams! The hopeless romantic in me is jealous. Like, girl, congratulations! You secured your dream husband right after the first date! Yes, there’s embarrassment from the mistaken text. With that said, I could only hope to find that special someone for me! All’s well that ends well for OP! Props to her! I love the happy stories that get sprinkled in between all of the depressing ones!
As a man, I would LOVE to get that text. Men can obvious and sometimes aren't sure if women are into them, even with direct flirting. This must have made his day. Love how this turned out.
I'd have a heart attack after such a text if it was a girl I was into after 2 dates because my self esteem is in the toilet a lot of times, though in all seriousness I'd assume it was partially a joke too to continue a flirty mood.
“Why don’t many young people see college as a viable road to success anymore?”
Story 1:
That kind of thing seems to be fixable though
@@bigjalapeno7061it’s not unless you come from a wealthy family.
There are 2 ways to get through college in the us.
1. Have rich family that are willing to help
2. Work your ass off by working a 40+ hour job while also going to school full time, yet you still have debt that will never go away
No no, it's not a computer error, not forgiving a loan dispite the mother reaching out to have it forgiven (before she even met Betsy), that seems like trying very hard to keep a cash cow.
Especially considering they would’ve given her more balance statements BEFORE it reached as much as it did.
@lorilancaster5917 tbh there's no way it should have gotten any higher for a 10k loan that had payments made on it. I would REALLY love to hear the rationalization from them. Even if she had been paying on the principal all this time. Fucking predator loans
Yep, that's how they try to handle loans, they know it's wrong and sometimes even illegal, butthey bet that some not ass well informed people might pay
The fact that they could send that letter and apparently not go "this can't be right" shows you how corrupt and inflated college business is
I don't support loan forgiveness. Because it's not "forgiveness", we tax payers still need to pick up what she couldn't. That debt doesn't just get canceled.
If you chose to take a loan, you need to pay it back.
Story 2: There are 2 paragraphs more to the story.
Tina wrote a nasty text to OP about ruining her marriage, but OP blocked her.
OP wants to track down the other women to see whether a case is possible.
Damn why did Rslash skip them
@@lenagalaxiesProbably because they weren’t interesting or were “dry”. He’s been doing that a lot lately.
Maybe prerecorded before the updates showed up?@@lenagalaxies
@@lenagalaxies There could be a couple of reasons. It's currently summer. If I wanted some time off I'd work overtime and record in advance. So any edits OP made after the fact wouldn't show in the story.
The other possibility is that while prepping the story rslash missed the paragraphs.
I think the first is most likely considering that there's a time jump from Josh leaves till Tina wrote.
Regardless, he always keeps the usernames of the people who wrote it on screen, so it's easy to look up.
I can't find this post on Reddit, can you post the link?
Story 2: The very thought of asking my friend to spend any amount of time with their assaulter wouldn't pass through my head. WTF is wrong with Tina? Josh seems like a cool dude, I hope he leaves her.
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
@@danielbrant6740there's a few more comments you forgot to post saying the exact same thing...
@@drugsmcsnortington tbh your doing the exact same thing
@@PapaBearIsHere I know lol I'm doing it to be a di©k and mock the stupidity of it...
Traditional Christian values.
Did the perp pay the girl's father 50 shekels though? Cuz that's the one condition.
"Reads title of 2nd story" well I would instantly make them my ex friend if I was in op's position
And I hope Tina became an ex-fiancé after the update.
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
@@danielbrant6740there's a few more comments you forgot to post saying the exact same thing...
@drugsmcsnortington could say the same to you 😂
At least their comment has something of substance 😂
@@JustAStump holy shit you people are daft, couldn't pick up on the mocking/sarcasm?
2nd story: imagine if OP didn't talk it out with the fiance. That horrendous lie would've led to Josh and or anyone else in the friend group possibly putting OP in the same space with the rapist because "she has a crush on him". And in the long run this could've spiraled into one of those " she had a crush, he said no, so now she claims r*pe" stories, so in the end not only would people not believe OP but they would actively shun her.
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
Exactly. She's not just being oblivious or disregarding OP's feelings. She's literally helping a r***st get easy access to his victim and providing him with cover for his defense. It's SO messed up.
@@danielbrant6740there's a few more comments you forgot to post saying the exact same thing...
Story 2: What good does it do to LIE about OP having a "petty girl fight?" and hiding the truth? This girl is a liar and a terrible person, for invalidating OP'S feelings and expect to just suppress her trauma on her wedding. I'd hope Josh calls off the wedding altogether because marrying her would be an absolute nightmare.
What good? She didn't want to look bad by saying she's trying to make her supposedly very good friend cooperate with her attacker. It was easier for bride-to-be to say her friend was causing stupid drama. She didn't think her fiance would like to get involved in that, so her lie wouldn't be exposed. Bridezilla is going to blame her now ex-friend if the wedding doesn't happen, not herself.
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
And if Tina will downplay and undermine the trauma her so called BFF endured for her own sake, imagine what boundaries of Josh’s she’ll ignore to try and get what she wants? And Tina also never gave Josh a heads up about Rod? WTF!
I do think we need more context. I don’t think it should be Tina’s place to tell everyone that that happened to her. I think she should have talked to her first to be like hey can I tell my soon to be husband what happened to you because he doesn’t know and has his best man as the man who assaulted you.
I heard Story 2 on another channel a while ago.
Josh did call off the wedding.
Their wedding motif was "Biiiiiiiitch we got married!" I refuse to believe anything else! Lol 😂
It better have been! That’s the only appropriate thing!
"She went off saying that I'm gonna end up destroying their marriage" Yeah? Good.
Second story, good on OP for standing up for herself and exposing everything. If Tina was willing to cover for that kind of person, what else is she willing to do for her own gain?
Herself
@@Textualgryphon Fixed it, thanks
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
@@danielbrant6740there's a few more comments you forgot to post saying the exact same thing...
Story 3: So, according to Leslie, being nice and helping her out means OP has a crush on her and has ulterior motives.... but then when OP steps back to avoid issues, that also means he has a crush on her and has ulterior motives? Damned if you do and damned if you don't. If he did have a crush on her, he wouldn't willingly bring up stepping back from helping and contact almost entirely at the first sign of a possible miscommunication. Leslie is starting to sound like she's just wanting a pair of private chauffeurs. Therapy is right but, if she can't afford a car, I'm doubtful therapy is approachable for them either so I'm not too confident that will happen. Sounds like some past trauma (likely from "nice guys" who just wanted something in return for being nice) is leading this behavior. Understandable if she has had that experience but, thinking everyone is out to get can make you an eternal victim and/or becoming entitled which pushes people away and kind of feeds into that loop of thinking everyone is abandoning you.
it’s solipsism in it’s purest form
I doubt it's trauma tbh
I dont think its trauma either. If it was she wouldnt claim he still has a crush on her after he stepped back. She sounds like a snake.
Feels like Lesile is the one who has feelings for OP and is trying to get him to sleep with her and the reason why she's saying that OP has a crush on her is to make him seem like a cheating scumbag so that Emily divorces OP because you know, 'If Lesile can't have OP, then neither can Emily'.
I have this feeling she keep saying that because deep down she wants OP. She wants a stable man and she was hoping that OP want her and leave Emily.
"My wife wants to know if you'd like to come over."
"No, I will not be your girlfriend!"
Bruh.
Yeah, that projection was so strong that it could’ve used the moon as the movie screen.
@@improv6132Damn that’s a good way of phrasing that.
@@improv6132🤣🤣
Thats why i dont think its out of trauma. She was looking to stir shit up.
Story 2: NTA. Walk away. She is not a friend.
Shes not even worth being addressed as a person, anything that would say something like that is absolutely worthless.
@@aliawahfallacyI’d argue that they’re even less than worthless.
Not even a good partner either. She must’ve known about Josh’s past, and just the blatant disregard for both of their traumas all because it’s her big day. Glad Josh has now seen the light about both her and Rod.
Am I the butthole story or relationship advice? Was one cut or not (I’ve not listened to it yet)
Edit: Nvm heard some of the second story if he deleted it before he uploaded
Story 1:My God,Who's managing this stuff?
They are clearly not doing a good job
Evidently the people who stand to gain something from it, so, the Schools and Loan company. Privatised Education terrifies me.
underpaid peons more than likely
Student loan companies.
They just see that it says almost a million dollars and they're like "Yea this looks fine"
The Government, that's who.
I have a theory about story 2 that the friend secretly wanted Op to date Rob as in "friends dating friends"
- Not reporting Rob
- Not telling Josh about it
- Paring Rob and Op together
- Lying that Op has a "crush" on Rob
And how they met and “connected” through Tina and Josh. Yeah forget the trauma Rod caused to OP and others if she can fictionalize a love story.
Or, she's worried that OP and Josh will bond over their trauma, and she'll be jealous of OP over that
I think Tina is projecting her own crush on Rob onto Op or is cheating with Rob and is in denial that Op was ever assaulted. Tina wants Op and Rob together so everyone is always together and Tina and Rob could cheat more.
@@BVBGirl-3313Ok, that's a tinfoil hat conspiracy if I've heard one today.
@ArcanineEspeon I mean who else defends a r*pist and not believe they could be a r*pist unless they are consensually getting it from the r*pist.
It's difficult to report sexual assault. I have assaulted by numerous men starting when I was a young child and I used to tell, I used to report - NOTHING happened. No one helped me. My last two exes assaulted me in the same way, the last one did so after I confided in him what happened to me, after he seemed safe and willing to listen to me. My body has damage from what they did and having to relive that just for justice is really hard especially when authorities and doctors do nothing.
That’s awful! It’s really hard to trust people when there are so many messed up people out there! I’m sorry that happened to you!
Oh! That is so heartbreaking. I am so so sorry you had to suffer with this.
I’m so sorry you had to deal with all of that. It sucks that authorities so often do nothing.
*loads doomslayer gun*
Kudos to the reddit detectives for helping OP link up with Betsy. Betsy's a MVP for sure!
About 18 years ago, I worked as someone who would administer AWG on federally defaulted student loans. I've seen loans BLOW UP but mostly from continuously consolidating Student Loans. You really need to avoid that because every time you do, you capitalize your interest.
Even so, 900K is _shocking_ and even _my_ mind is blown.
But how can the loan increase that much, if the moms waiges was garnished?
Yes, student loans are ridiculous. My 6,000 loan turned into 13,000. They kept selling the loan. The new loan company would then add on all the interest from the year before. Even though that had already been applied. They told me yes, that's not right. But it is legal.
That’s why you track statements and challenge discrepancies. You can’t “double dip” interest. Odds are they never expect people to catch on and challenge it .
@@qdllc I did challenge it. They said it was legal
@@m95-k6q - What they say and what the law says are two different things. I’ve seen banks and lenders do many illicit things and hope nobody takes them to court. It’s like believing the IRS when they say you owe them…never believe it…have a CPA challenge it. They rely on people caving I. The face of apparent (but not actual) authority.
*Rslash:* Our next post is from r/amithebutthole.
*Rslash immediately after the above sentence:* Our next post is from r/relationships.
*Me:* !?!?!?!?!?
Glad I’m not the only one! I want to know if the first was cut out or if he misread the sub or what!
@@Mikustan39 might be an editing error from the editor when splicing the footage.
*touches the ground*
Something terrible happened here..
Lol yea
I smelt an unpopular take that got excised.
S2: “Oh, I know what happened to you back then, but I just don’t care. As the bride, I get everything I want no matter what, and that means you and Rod will be together helping and doing stuff for the wedding. Who really gives a crap about what happened to you, anyways? All you gotta do is suck it up and do what you are told cause if you don’t, I’ll tell everyone how horrible you and that you ruined my special day. Thanks for your understanding and cooperation! You’re such a great bestie!”
If she has kids then she'll fit perfectly in Entitled Parents
Story 2: I’m not making excuses. Tina is absolutely wrong and I hope OP does cut her off for good. But I wonder, did she lie because she didn’t think her husband would believe her. Apparently Rod did this to several girls, and his friend believed him when he said they were all lying. So maybe Tina thought if she had told him that her friend was one of the victims he wouldn’t believe her. Especially given the girl that did reported got treated terribly, with no justice.
That’s no excuse, Tina telling her friend to put her trauma aside and Spend months with it alone is enough to kill this friendship. That’s not even getting into the part where OP has to be his date for the wedding, then lying about why she dropped out because she has a crush on that trash, which could’ve made OP’s life worse if it got back to him, then he’ll think he can pursue her.
But at least one person understands where OP is coming from and not treating her as if she’s somehow overreacting or selfish.
honestly, it's probably a mix of convenience, fear, being a bad person, and probably a bit of not believing OP. Tina is a horrid person
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
@@danielbrant6740there's a few more comments you forgot to post saying the exact same thing...
I was trying to come up with some reason why Tina telling her fiance would cause her fiance to break up with her and I couldn't come up with anything even something as the illogical as what you came up with so ya.
I was trying to come up with something illogical because obviously there wouldn't be anything completely logical especially the way that the fiance handled the situation by immediately coming over and getting the friends side of the picture.
@@bland9876 the one thing I can think of is she knew but was comfortable being around the monster and letting her boyfriend form a close enough relationship to ask him to be his best man. Given that context, I'd break things off with my SO too.
Ah, no, the friend isn't holding back info from her fiance to not rock the boat. It's obvious OP's friend doesn't actually believe OP was r-worded. She either discounts it as "morning after" regrets, or assumes OP was "asking for it" by being intoxicated. Dump that "friend" forever.
Lmao the way R/slash said "Biiiiiiitch" 😂😂😂
So, I was raped as a small child. I occasionally still have to deal with him, and every single time, I feel sick, shaky, and absolutely terrified. I can't deal with him. I'm a pacifist, and he's the only person I have ever in my entire life threatened with violence. So, that story is absolutely horrifying to me
I'm so sorry you have to still deal with that person
@@littlemau1360 At this point, it is what it is. He'll likely be moving across the country from me soon enough anyway
I do appreciate it, though.
I am so sorry you have to deal with that person. I am grateful never had to do that.
Why do you still have to deal with him? If you do then you should reconsider your pacifism
@@bigjalapeno7061 Unfortunately, there's a fairly large focus on family with my relatives.
Leslie was absolutely testing the waters to see if OP would start an affair with her.
Yeah because forget the fact that OP was only helping her as a favor from his wife which any rational person would comprehend. No! To Leslie every man wants her and every woman should tend to her
Story #2 NTA...But that girl is not your friend, there's no way in hell I'd let the attacker of a friend of mine be anywhere near my friend or Me ‼️
If my friend was cool with their fiancé being a friends with a rapist….id end the friendship. I would go immediate no contact. Why would you even look at your friend who ok with putting you anywhere near this thing. This whole situation is disgusting.
The last story does seem like a poorly written romcom…..but we all need sappy romance once in awhile!!
I love happy endings!!
It's really cute that RSlash thinks this was a computer mistake and not completely intentional extortion
I also knew that I'd marry my husband after my first date with him. Actually... It was pretty early on into that first date.
Rewind 5 years and let me take you to St. Patrick's day, 2019.
I'd been texting and face-timing with this guy I matched with on a dating app and he was cute and funny and oh so sweet. So we set it up to go out with each other to dinner and then back to one of our places for drinks. The day of, we decided to bail on dinner and just have a couple of drinks at his place instead because even though we had a reservation, the restaurant was too crowded and rowdy with its green beers and drunk college kids.
We get to his place and put some music on, pour the wine and then discuss what movie we're gonna watch as we ordered in. This sweet man kept a solid 3 feet of space between us unless I specifically asked him to come closer. After a few drinks, we were sufficiently loosened up enough to cuddle on the couch while we watched a Pulp Fiction (cuz we're cool like that lol). I kept throwing signals that I wanted him to kiss me and he seemed so interested and keen, but would turn my lean-ins into hugs instead. I got frustrated and asked him "Aren't you gonna kiss me?" And he smiled and said "I've been dying to, but you didn't say that I could. You told me that consent meant everything to you... I was trying to be respectful of your wishes."
It was in that moment that I knew that he was someone special. I think it was the moment I fell in love with him. Because he remembered something that I mentioned off-handedly when talking about weeks ago. I don't even remember what we were talking about for the context of that to have come up, but I do know that I said it. I've said it to a bunch of my friends before and since.
Nothing happened besides a couple of first kisses that night, but I remember that deeply satisfying sigh and looking at him as I walked out his door and climbed into the back of my uber.
We've been on countless dates since then, and last year (2023) in July... I married him in front of nearly 200 of our friends and family. My MOH mentioned that she knew I'd marry him by the way I talked about him after my first date with him.... His best man said that he knew we were meant to be because Ben (my husband), couldn't stop talking about "This girl who loves Alice in Chains". His mother knew too. She said that she knew her son was seeing someone special because she's never known him to be so happy all all the time.
Ben said that he might have fallen in love with me that night too, because I knew all the words to every song on the Alice in Chain "Dirt" Album ❤
my heart melted with this :'((( how come you guys are so sweet!!
the consent part reminded me of a TV show that got cancelled, a guy and a girl were about to get frisky and between kiss and kiss he stopped and looked her in the eyes and carefully asked "is this okay?" she said yes, he kissed her and IDIED.
Mindful guys are the best, gentle and caring-- many people would die for
I'm so happy for you guys and I hope you two continue to have years and years of happiness together 😢😢😢
@@brunnrunn I agree... Mindfulness is way more attractive than any physical features that any person could ever have.
I am so very lucky to have met such a sweet and respectful man. His mother definitely raised him right.
I was also a single mother of 3 when I met him. My husband didn't meet them until he and I had been dating for almost a year into dating. He asked my boys "I want to marry you and your mother, but I won't without your blessings... Will you give me your blessings to marry you and your mom?" Before he ever asked even my parents for THEIR blessing... Probably because they were divorced.
My mom was so excited that she gave him the ring that I had been admiring from her collection to get a molding of so he could modify it better to my tastes. He took my dad out to dinner and they had a "man to man" chat for hours over non-alcoholic drinks (my dad was an alcoholic who had been clean for over 30 years).
My husband proposed in Toronto, as fireworks went off just after the NYE countdown in ASL (I'm deaf). I was so happy that I practically knocked him over when I threw myself at him and gave him the biggest hug and kiss ever. I could barely choke out the words "Yes!!"
I immediately called my mom and kids, then my dad, and he called his parents... Everyone was so happy. We didn't want a long engagement and we got married in July of the same year (pure chaos!! Lol)
I love him so much that I truly believe that everything that I've ever experienced or endured were lessons that would always lead me to where I was meant to be:
With my wonderful husband❤️
I was also sexually assaulted in HS and when i found out my friend was still in contact with the man who attacked me, I just about lost it. To me, it's unforgivable. Even the idea of a friend dating the man who raped me is disgusting. I feel for OP, and hope she's able to heal and find friends who respect her.
6:57 she didn't tell him? Are you kidding me? There was no reason, no riem, no self term gain from withholding that vary critical information
Story 3: I knew that crap about her having a bad day was BS, who makes that accusation because they’re having a bad day? OP was already right to keep his distance from her after that accusation, but if your wife didn’t get it, then she most certainly gets it now. And now we know why she apologize to her instead of OP, she was never sorry about the accusation and was certain she was right.
Because apparently a guy can’t be nice they have to be a dirty dog. Even then, you were only nice because your wife made you.
Leslie seems to be a classic case of 'Main Character Syndrome.' I wonder why the father left her?
Things like the first story happen in America regularly. People being saddled with an unimaginable amount of debt because of interest. And it crushes people. But still you will here countless people screaming about “ you’re the one who took out the loan and pay it back”. “ you just want free hand out pay your loans”.
It is pretty much common place for people to pay thousands of dollars towards their debt to the point that they’ve already paid back the loan with interest but STILL owe more then what the original loan was.
I really hope Josh called off the wedding. Tina is a terrible person, plus she lied to her fiancé's face. I was really hoping there'd be an update saying he dumped her.
I remember the last story. Her "library" was a couple of bookshelves in the corner of her apartment. I absolutely adored her for that.
Story 1, I know nothing about student loans because I was payed for welding since mostly everyone didn’t make enough to afford the class but I feel bad for people who have to work a lot to pay their student loans there whole life
Story 2, this is an ugly situation and forcing you to work with someone who did something ugly to you isn’t something you should do especially if it’s your best friend.
Story 3, it’s ok to help a friend it’s what friends do for each other. But this is beyond helping and Lesly is taking things to far and I don’t blame op because if he’s blamed for cheating even though he didn’t do anything
Story 4, that’s more a jump the shark moment. There’s nothing wrong with having thoughts of marrying someone you’re dating but saying it out after the first date but the op definitely has a keeper and I’m happy there married
If I remember correctly OP decided to reach out to Rod’s other victims to help make a case against him, but though I’m fuzzy on the specifics.
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
Still taking out loans for college is madness!
Lose that friend who wants you to be around your assaulter
Miscommunication story: What Leslie doesn't realize, is that OP was never being nice to her, he's still just being nice to his wife. He only ever helped because his wife asked, NOT because Leslie asked.
Last story - I was kind of expecting them to get married after he screws up the proposal by texting her something meant for someone else - planning a distraction for ring-shopping or something along those lines.
That would've definitely happened in the movie version
I texted my friend saying I may end up marrying this guy after a 1st date too. That was 11 years ago, we've been married for 7 and expecting our 2nd kid next month
Story 2: Jesus fucking christ, where do I begin?...
OP, not only should you cut ties with Tina but I hope to god the Josh ends this marriage.
I honestly don't know who worse, Rod or Tina, definitely both.
The way that Josh went to get answers from OP herself about the reason for dropping out of the wedding party instead of simply believing Tina suggests that this isn't the first big lie he was told by her.
Plot twist: Rod and Tina end up marrying each other
@bigjalapeno7061 Honestly, it wouldn't surprise me 😒
I'm so sorry but your typo of "cut eyes with Tina" made me imagine OP swinging a knife at Tina's eyes in revenge for even asking her to be around Rod, never mind wedding plan with him.
Spending time with the person who is an attacker? NO! Hell will freeze over first. (And to lie about having a crush on him? You’re just asking for a black eye.)
Story 2. OPs friend is evil for trying to make her work with him. She must hate OP for trying that.
Story 1: Betsy is amazing for helping people with student loan debt. New person to add to the list of charities.
Story 1: No, it doesn't feel like it was an error at all. They probably hoped that OP's mom would accept whatever that letter said and keep on giving them money...
And they wouldn't have cared if she died from the stress
I knew pretty quickly I'd be with my husband.
We met on Love River in Kaohsiung, Taiwan. In 2009.
I came to Taiwan to learn Mandarin. At first I lived in dorms, but after a year, I moved off campus And into a rented house. I then soon adopted a stray puppy who was estimated to be about 2 months old when I found him. (puppy recently passed from old age)
I was walking the puppy, but I had let him off the leash cause it was like 11pm and no one was about (or so I thought) to let his puppy energy out.
He suddenly darted off around the corner of the bathroom by Jianguo Rd. I chased, and rounded the corner to see him chase a stray cat up a tree and then proceed to start eating something.
Turns out it was cat food. There was a guy there and he was feeding the stray cats.
I went over to apologize over and over and catch the puppy.
We met a few more times over the next couple months. (Initial meeting was in November)
In January 2010, I rescued another stray puppy and went out to see if I could find the guy. In my bag I had a piece of paper either my MSN Id on it.
He was there. I asked, in my very poor Chinese at the time, if he could post the puppy's info and pics to sites taiwanese use to help find a home.
He agreed.
By the time I finished my walk with puppies, he had added me.
We went out to eat that night .... He chose Stinky Tofu hot pot of all things 😂
About 2 months in, he asked "would you marry me" not in a proposal way, but in a is it something you'd consider way.
Also turns out he spoke excellent English 😂😂 I didn't know he spoke ANY English until we'd been dating a while.
We've been together since, married 11 years now and 3 kids.
Story 2: unless the assaulter shows up as the wedding pinata, there is NO excuse for exposing a victim to their assaulter 'because they're SUCH A NICE PERSON NOW'. Gross.
Story 3: I wonder if Leslie is the one with a crush on OP and is projecting onto him to remain in denial and make herself believe it's OP that is the issue. I think cutting contact with Leslie was 100% the right thing to do at least for OP maybe discuss with your gf as well cause personally it doesn't sit well with me that she's comfortable with volunteering you to do something (without discussing it with you previously). I don't understand people who make plans that they know they can't be part of and just assume that other people will follow as if they don't have their own lives and priorities.
Story4: Aww that's cute
Story 1: if education isn't just free, loans should at least be 0% interest.
First time hearing rslash cussing absolutely BEAUTIFUL 😭😭😭
03:11 - rSlash: Our next Reddit post comes from r/AITA.
Me: Oh cool, sweet!
rSlash immediately after that: Our next Reddit post comes from r/RelationshipAdvice.
Me: Wait, what? 😂
2nd story shes not really your friend.
OMG. I'm glad this video ended on a wholesome note, because story #2 almost broke me. That's not friend behaviour. I hope Josh ended the engagement.
American student debt is terrifying, in Scotland what you are loaned is what you pay back, but only once you start earning £15k minimum per year, if you’re earning £15k you are allowed to make the minimum payments. Until you get employment paying at least that much you don’t pay your loan and the amount doesn’t increase, because student loans are very regulated here. We don’t want people in hundreds of thousands in debt for their education, so if you’re a Scot or have lived in Scotland for minimum 5 years then your course fees are paid for and covered by the Scottish government, the student loan is just so you can afford to live whilst studying where this gives you the choice to seek employment if you feel you need the extra funds as opposed to relying on a 40 hour+ a week job to cover rent and bills whilst studying full time!
So yeah American student debt is terrifying as it’s predatory and destroys peoples lives.
The student loan industry is criminal, and the executives of those companies should all be in prison.
First story reminds me of the time I got my wisdom teeth removed. I was on disability that covered dental. I checked with them ahead of time to see if they would cover it. They said they would. Fast forward to six months AFTER my removal, and MY MOM gets a "final warning" from the dental office about her owing them money. These guys never contacted us before this letter. My dad is pissed and calls them. Turns out these morons forgot to send the bill to my disability program on time, so they refused to pay it. So they decided to make us pay it. My dad basically told them, "It's not my wife's bill to pay, and it's not our fault you're stupid." They agreed and apologized and never contacted us again.
That's insurance companies for ya
Story 2: Odds are good, Tina thought it was OP's fault.
Story 2: Did tina know about josh's own trauma? because holy shit its one thing to be that much of a POS to ignore your friends trauma and tell them to "put it aside" for your wedding and not inform your partner that rod is confirmed a rapist, but its another thing to be that much of a POS to not have told you're boyfriend/fiancee hes hanging out with someone who raped a friend (or multiple other women) knowing he is also a victim/survivor.
thats truly baffling, to call it a petty girl fight and to lie to the person youre about to swear your life with... i hope josh and OP are both okay now and josh has left tina, tina is a parade of redflags.
Last story: This happened to me when my girlfriend and I were starting to date. She sent me a Minnie Mouse GIF where Minnie blew a kiss that turned into a heart. What she DIDN’T know was the words “I love you” appeared in the heart. She was so embarrassed and told her best friend who still to this day reams her for sending it to me. I was a good sport and figured she didn’t know about the GIF’s ending, plus I was really into her. We’re still going strong and getting stronger every day for three years (anniversary next week!) and she and I both poke fun at her for sending the GIF. I love that woman more than words can describe!!! 🤣💚
Lol why did she send the gif without looking at it?
@@bigjalapeno7061 I’m guilty of it too! Sometimes GIFs won’t show the full animation right away. Other times, people send them without looking cuz they like it 🤷🏽♂️ Lol. Either way, I knew what her intentions were and wasn’t gonna be scared away by it
*Title Story:* My assaulter wants to date me.
*Actual Story:* My best friend made me her maid of honour for her wedding and expects me to be work alongside the best man for the duration of the wedding despite her knowing full well that he assaulted me when I was a teenager.
I have a theory about story 2 that the friend secretly wanted Op to date Rob as in "friends dating friends"
Last story was funny and sweet. Still loling at how R/slash said "biiiiiiiitch" 😂
Yea and it was uncensored too lol
Last story made my husband and I smile. 8 years ago when my husband and I went on our first date I told no one, the only person I was close to was I thought was my best friend of 2 years at that point but didn’t tell her, my husband did tell his roommates. Everyone was really surprised when we announced on facebook the same day. I so wish I had that moment because I knew we were going to get married since high school. We got married 3 years later on our anniversary
it's always wild coming into these videos a little later and hearing "Our next Reddit post comes from [user/subreddit] and the story being cut for one reason or another, and immediately going to the next "Our next Reddit post comes from [user/subreddit]"
3:15 rSlash doing a Double Take :p
Either there's a story missing, or there's an editing mistake in the video. The third story is an AITA story, but it starts a minute after the chapter begins.
@@Wolfie713Hmmm it seems more like an editing mistake
@@Wolfie713- A minute doesn’t seem like enough time to have a story from BORU. And the video is almost 18 minute long already. I’m guessing editor mistake.
I'm inclined to agree with you both except that I don't want to, for stubborn reasons. 😁
I mentioned the possibility of a missing story since Dabney has been known to remove a story, comment, and/or commentary from a video but leaving evidence via bad edits. A minute off is likely just bad chapter editing vs a missing story.
Story 5: Good guy. Good story to tell others since. Congrats on the wedding.
2:16 it's the USD0.02 at the end of such a big number, for me😅! Seriously? The 2cents matter? Surprised they didn't make her pay USD400.02 in the end...
Student loans prey on children's dreams. You shouldn't be able to get $100k in loans for a degree that isn't profitable. Some degrees are amazing and very useful, many others are just expensive papers.
Education shouldn't cost more than 1 year of increased salary anyways. If getting a degree would increase your income by $30k within 5 years, then the degree should only cost $30k. Idk how we accepted $10k per year as cheap.
That last story If a girl texted me that I'd probably respond with "🍾💍👰" for some other combination of wedding emojis. It would be a compliment if she liked hanging out with me enough that she was wanting to marry me.
Depending upon how much I knew of this girl I might even go over with a Ring Pop and fake proposed just as a joke. Lol You know basically just make fun of her for her mistake but in the friendly way.
YOU CAN’T CONSENT IF YOU’RE UNDER THE INFLUENCE
If I received a letter I owed a million dollars I'd laugh. That amount is so far beyond my ability to pay as to be laughable. If the letter said a hundred thousand than I'd panic, that is an amount that I could painfully repay.
Story 1: Wow some someone made an oopsie (or knew about this yet still charged the mom….or it really was a computer error) but happy it got fixed.
Story 2: Title alone is a heck no…but let’s listen *listens* AND STILL IMMEDIATELY NO!!!! Tina knew who had attacked OP….why did she think OP would be fine working with her attacker?! Not to mention the complete lack of empathy and the request for OP to “bury her trauma for the sake of the event”?! Who would ever forego their own comfort to work with their attacker?! Plus the whole “he seems like a great guy” solidifies that Tina is a horrible friend. Josh seems like the only innocent party in this as it seems neither Tina nor his “best friend” Rod ever told him what happened (and Tina lied about why OP backed out…real pathetic). Rod is a total predator as he knew he could get away with it if he just said all the girls who “falsely” accused him were crazy. Ugh….as an assault victim myself…I hope Rod burns and Josh never married Tina.
Story 3: Soooo the wife volunteered OP to “help” when in reality it just became “entertain my friend because I’m too busy to.” How is it a “miscommunication” that Emily was so far out of that picture that it basically made OP seem like he was interested in Leslie (who completely misunderstood everything but still). Like this whole thing would have been a non-issue had Emily, Leslie, and OP sat down and talked ahead of time before it got to this point. But then that seemed like a ploy since Leslie wanted to stir the pot so badly by asking or OP repeatedly. Yikes what a miserable person.
Story 4: what is this title! At least OP could tell how cringe it was. And holy cow it was a texting mistake!!! I get a great date can leave you on a euphoric high…but always check who you’re texting first. At least the guy was decent about it. Seems like OP still has a chance *update* THE GODS HAVE BLESSED OP WITH A HAPPY ENDING!!!
16:26 omg they are so cute together edit OMG IM SO HAPPY THEY GOT MARRIED sorry lol im a sucker for stuff like that
15:40 😅 kind of cute since it's obvious it wasn't meant for him!
I have reported sexual assault and rape but nothing was done about it. This is in the US btw. They couldn't get DNA so nothing happened. I am mentally scared for life. I was also sexually assaulted as a kid from 4 to 13 by my cousin so nothing was done about that either. I blame my autism for making me to trusting of people. I now have a hard time trusting anyone.
Had my math exam today, which was way too hard but at least I get to listen to a new r/slash video :)
Whilst I understand why people may not want report SA cases, I strongly urge that you give it a go. If there's even a chance you can make your attacker face the consequences, you should attempt to take it. You can stop them from ever being in your life again or hurting anyone else. Stay safe icons, love you all
Story 2: yeah she’s not your real friend if she expects you to be around your attacker, that’s traumatising… and she’s expecting you to just get over that? No, never, that’s disgusting! Gotta wonder if the friends fiance knows what actually happened to OP and if he’d actually support OPs “friend”
Is it... truly so impossible to think a man _just_ wants to be friends with a woman? A family friend at that?
Title story I heard this one before. With friends like these.
Last story: This girl has a library??????
I've noticed there's a pretty decent amount of people who have personal libraries. My dad has a personal library, for example (even though he hasn't read half of the books. And he's _still_ buying more books... 🤦♂).
Tina very well didn't want to make waves, but I think she was also a covert narcissist-enabler. And her enabling was of Rod. Poor Josh is about to sell his soul to a Demon in the Sack unless they call it off.
Remember when Rslash used to do the helpful links way back when? Those were the good days.
Edit: Changed it to "way back when" instead of "when back when".
Story 2 : " i know you got assaulted by the guy im asking you to work with For me just do it why does what happen to you matter" what tina really meant to say... op shouldve just told her " to lose op number and that they no longer exist to each other.....
Josh needs to call of the wedding a lie like this is just the open door policy to other things.. plot twist Tina has a crush on Rod since he assaulted op and didnt know how to express it..
Story 3 : NTA.. i honestly think with how much op wife is having Leslie and op in the same room she wants to try to catch both doing the nasty... op needs to start preparing an exit strategy..
Update : not buying it.. op wife is still hella suspicious.... leslie is just insane...
Story 4 : 😆 😆😆😆😆
Update : nice finish...
Can we start getting these happy endings more often?
The last story made me DIE of laughter. I have ADHD. and have done the same thing where I’ll text someone else, rather then the person I was just communicating with because I’ll get distracted BAHA.
Second story: Op, you deserve better friends.
Anyone else has the impression that Tina and Rod are having an affair behind Josh's back, and that's why she's lying to Josh and gaslighting OP to protect him?
I seriously can't think of any other reason for her behavior.
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who thought of this possibility too.
Story 3: It is weird that I knew what was happening before reaching the end of the story. It sounds like Emily was almost unknowingly setting them up for a cheating opportunity. Also Leslie sounds very r/nice girls to me.
I laughed at the last one! Oh my goodness, we’ve all done that “text” of shame 😳 at least once in our lives! I LOVE how it ended. *I was on Ambien for a bit due to no sleep after my big brother died. I was cooking, cleaning, doing laundry and emailing people in my sleep! It was lovely “waking” up to a clean house, laundry done and folded and food in the fridge but the emails were not! I was brutally honest with people and went scorched earth on them! 🤦♀️ At least I was able to get rid of toxic people in my life 😂. My husband put bells on the bedroom door so he’d wake up to pull me back to bed. I stopped taking the pills shortly after that! I miss the clean house bit but I can live with that! Ugh! Ugh! Ugh!
2nd story is a reminder to be careful when you decide to drink or get high
Sounds like Leslie got too entitled with the free help.
I loved the last story! Lol and I had a semi similar situation. I met a guy at 16 that I really, really liked. He always said he liked me too but gave bs excuses as to why he didn't want to be "official." Only after I met an amazing man at 18, through the drive thru at work of all places 😂, did he want to be together. When I turned him down, I told him, "No I really like this guy and I'm going to marry him."
I don't think at the time I knew that for sure; really I just wanted to rub some salt in the wound. Lol But I refused to be the girl he only wanted when she was no longer at his disposal.
As for me, I did marry my drive thru love! We've been together for over 10 years and just had a beautiful baby girl! ❤