I'd prefer her to work if we do not have kids and stay at home if we do, but for only about 3 years, after that she should go back to work. In general - a woman should be busy. If she is idling - the relationship will collapse, brainrot like YT, Instagram and TikTok will make sure of it. Also, I do not think that "staying at home" is "work". When I was single, my 2 bedroom apartment was squeaky clean, and my clothes and sheets were washed and ironed and it all took me a whopping 3 hours per week (ironing them shirts is the most time - consuming). You can't really compare 3 hours per week vs 50+ hours most men do. You just can't. I made breakfasts myself, went out to healthy food restaurants for lunch and in the evening I had healthy snacks after gym. So yeah - a woman absolutely should work and make money.
Taking care of yourself is alot easier than taking care of a few small humans and running a household that consists of more than just yourself. When I lived alone I it was easy to balance having a clean home and having personal time for hobbies. But even living with my husband and our two dogs in a 5 bedroom house is alot. My husband loves fresh food, so I have a garden to look after now, lots of laundry to do, baking homemade bread 2-4 times a week, home cooked meals 5-6 days a week, cleaning the house, booking appointments, grovery shopping, running errands, dog walks, etc. There is almost a zero chance I will return to the workforce full time after we have children because I know I won't have time to do everything I want and need to do.
Thank you for the comment! I do agree with @theescapist_87 that when you add in another person, children, pets, etc. things get A LOT more difficult and time-consuming than when it's just a single person. If there are kids in the picture and both parents are working, in order to keep up with the house cleaning, lawn, meals, caretaking, laundry, personal time, etc. there will likely need to be hired help for it all to get done in a timely manner and without a lot of stress.
I agree with you for the most part. if she does nothing it will most likely hurt the relationship. Eventhough I wouldn't need her money, I do think she should find something that would challenge her. I wouldn't want her to have a very stressful job though. I also agree I don't consider it work if there are no kids involved.
@@Theescapist_87 having a husband to “take care of” doesn’t automatically double the amount of things you do. You do absolutely the same things as you did for yourself - it doesn’t take double the time and effort to cook for 2 vs cooking for 1 (you’re not cooking for Him, you’re cooking for you both at the same time). Same with everything else. It just sounds like you’re terribly inefficient and want excuses to sit at home.
@@rockman967 A man is a biological born male that has lived long enough to become and adult. When people say "what a man is or what a man should do." You're talking about a gender role which people have described as what your role is as it relates to the duties in a marriage. If you are not married are you not a man? Do you only become a man when you have a family to care for? And in this role your only duties is to make your wife happy work and die?
Hi Mr. Jones! Thank you for the comment :) It's interesting how the definition of masculinity morphs over time. Historically, masculinity, or "being a man" was directly associated with protecting, providing, and leading. Today in 2024, of course, women have far more rights than back in the day (across the USA, women weren't able to open a bank account without a male cosigner until 1974!). I think women having far more rights significantly decreases the need for the association between masculinity and protecting, providing, and leading, though it can still be seen as attractive. I hope you have a great day!
Yes I agree, it adds another perspective! A takeaway seems to be that if someone is going to be a stay at home wife they should also prioritize having a hobby / passion.
It's nice to see that guy #1 is getting a positive response! I wasn't sure if what he said would be taken the wrong way and seen as too traditional of a perspective.
I lowkey agree with you about guy #1... if they can actually hold up their end! Lol Sadly, this doesn't work nearly as well with one 30k-60k income, just saying. 😔 🤷🏽♀️
Right, for many couples there simply isn't the option to have one person stay at home. It does seem that more often than not, if a man has the means, he prefers his wife to stay at home.
One good point man #1 makes is that if a woman is working full time and paying 50% of the bills, etc. the man is going to have to make sure he’s really providing/meeting her needs in other areas otherwise, it will be hard for her to stay with him being that she’d likely still be the primary caretaker for the children, primary cleaner, etc.
Guy #3 named jobs that are usually associated with femininity (and are jobs held more by women). Idk it seems weird to want to keep her in “caretaker” mode. I understand wanting her to have no stress, but those are jobs that are quite stressful, for men and women.
#1 firstly, this only applies to women who have access to Rich men. Unfortunately, the rest of women don't have that problem, but a lot want it. The first guy, if he were middle class, he wouldn't be talking all that crap, because he would be trying to pay rent and not giving a crap about what masculinity does and doesn't do. Also, the guy from #1 his woman see's him as a tool, to be used to pay for her life and kids. If a woman doesn't want to stay at home, not even the devil will stop her. so this woman just like all the others are doing exactly what they want to do, which their husbands allow, because they have no other choice.. they already have the money, so it doesn't matter if the woman works or not. Unless, you are like the upper middle class guys we saw later in the clip who wanted their woman's help. it's 2024, and we are never going back to 1920's where woman can get married and immediately relax at home. So all this talk about staying at home is really privilege talk in today's time.... ok, so here's the question, what is the point of going to college and graduate school then starting a career as a women (which majority of 21st country women do) just to drop it all once you get married?? why do all that investment to then drop it.... in 2024 when women have been to Space... It was once a right for women to stay at home, but today it's a privilege of the rich-associated, and a fantasy to the rest of women.
@@BishopJr.Smith0 I met a woman like that her husband was a doctor had a house on a lake. Nice house too. The wife had a degree something in sports. I said you could get a job were you could interview athletes like ESPN she look me shook her head I don't want to work. This only works for men making well really good money and that's not all men.
On average I think men are better equipped to handle work/business stress than women. My boyfriend runs a company and although of course it can be stressful, he loves it. I’m in awe by him, doing what he’s doing would be very difficult for me. I take the view that if I’m less stressed I can be his peace and make his life less stressful by taking a lot of things off his plate that he’s less equipped to handle (like cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, caring for the pets and kids, and helping him out with his work if possible). All in all I think leverage each person’s strengths and minimize their weaknesses. What are your thoughts? Do you prefer 50/50 with everything in a relationship?
@@RebelFitz I dont think men are better suited to handle stress and work. I think this is what woman like to say to avoid having to work hard. And I think men and woman convince men they don't have any value other then work and please a woman. What I hear is me. In today's society it is a lot easier to be a stay at home wife than woman in previous generations you don't have to work as hard as they did. You have gadgets to help in always around the house. We have tvs and electronics to occupy kids while you doing something else. It doesn't take 12 hours to clean the house everyday. Woman should work. What happens if or when the relationship ends? What do woman complain about I sacrifice my career knowing you never wanted to work. So know you owe her the house, kids while you the man continue to put in 80 hours a week to now support 2 homes. You the woman should be finding a way to bring in income. Sense your home make soaps, crafts, baked goods. The woman back then used to make things to sell. Know woman are just saying I don't want to work. So then why not leave the work force. If woman believe its a man's duty to work and provide than stop going to colleges racking up debt leave the work force find a husband stay a virgin until you get married. This was all worked out for your benefit in the first place.
She said they were HER kids because in her mind they are. Women believe that children are their property. The man would have said "we" have four children.
You caught that too. The my kids. I had to go to work was thinking about that all morning came back to the video and and you said it. This is a problem when leaving women at home in today's society those kids may not be your kid.
I see what you’re saying. I also think it could just be natural for women to use my instead of our when referring to their kids being that she most likely carried them in her stomach for 9 months, breastfed them, they came out of her body, she’s been the primary caregiver, etc. I think it’s normal for women to feel more attachment to their kids than men for these reasons. I’m sure there are also women who intentionally use my when referring to their kids while next to their husband with bad intent but in this case I’m guessing it was harmless 🤔
I'd prefer her to work if we do not have kids and stay at home if we do, but for only about 3 years, after that she should go back to work. In general - a woman should be busy. If she is idling - the relationship will collapse, brainrot like YT, Instagram and TikTok will make sure of it.
Also, I do not think that "staying at home" is "work". When I was single, my 2 bedroom apartment was squeaky clean, and my clothes and sheets were washed and ironed and it all took me a whopping 3 hours per week (ironing them shirts is the most time - consuming). You can't really compare 3 hours per week vs 50+ hours most men do. You just can't. I made breakfasts myself, went out to healthy food restaurants for lunch and in the evening I had healthy snacks after gym.
So yeah - a woman absolutely should work and make money.
Taking care of yourself is alot easier than taking care of a few small humans and running a household that consists of more than just yourself. When I lived alone I it was easy to balance having a clean home and having personal time for hobbies. But even living with my husband and our two dogs in a 5 bedroom house is alot.
My husband loves fresh food, so I have a garden to look after now, lots of laundry to do, baking homemade bread 2-4 times a week, home cooked meals 5-6 days a week, cleaning the house, booking appointments, grovery shopping, running errands, dog walks, etc. There is almost a zero chance I will return to the workforce full time after we have children because I know I won't have time to do everything I want and need to do.
Thank you for sharing! If you don't mind me asking, do you prefer being a stay at home wife to having a formal career?
Thank you for the comment! I do agree with @theescapist_87 that when you add in another person, children, pets, etc. things get A LOT more difficult and time-consuming than when it's just a single person.
If there are kids in the picture and both parents are working, in order to keep up with the house cleaning, lawn, meals, caretaking, laundry, personal time, etc. there will likely need to be hired help for it all to get done in a timely manner and without a lot of stress.
I agree with you for the most part. if she does nothing it will most likely hurt the relationship. Eventhough I wouldn't need her money, I do think she should find something that would challenge her. I wouldn't want her to have a very stressful job though. I also agree I don't consider it work if there are no kids involved.
@@Theescapist_87 having a husband to “take care of” doesn’t automatically double the amount of things you do. You do absolutely the same things as you did for yourself - it doesn’t take double the time and effort to cook for 2 vs cooking for 1 (you’re not cooking for Him, you’re cooking for you both at the same time). Same with everything else. It just sounds like you’re terribly inefficient and want excuses to sit at home.
Real men protect and provide… simple
Thats not what a man is.
@@Mrjones-ed7hi What is a man to you?
@@rockman967 A man is a biological born male that has lived long enough to become and adult. When people say "what a man is or what a man should do." You're talking about a gender role which people have described as what your role is as it relates to the duties in a marriage. If you are not married are you not a man? Do you only become a man when you have a family to care for? And in this role your only duties is to make your wife happy work and die?
Hi Mr. Jones! Thank you for the comment :)
It's interesting how the definition of masculinity morphs over time. Historically, masculinity, or "being a man" was directly associated with protecting, providing, and leading.
Today in 2024, of course, women have far more rights than back in the day (across the USA, women weren't able to open a bank account without a male cosigner until 1974!). I think women having far more rights significantly decreases the need for the association between masculinity and protecting, providing, and leading, though it can still be seen as attractive.
I hope you have a great day!
It's nice hearing from the wives as well.
Yes I agree, it adds another perspective! A takeaway seems to be that if someone is going to be a stay at home wife they should also prioritize having a hobby / passion.
Guy #1 ❤❤❤
It's nice to see that guy #1 is getting a positive response! I wasn't sure if what he said would be taken the wrong way and seen as too traditional of a perspective.
I lowkey agree with you about guy #1... if they can actually hold up their end! Lol Sadly, this doesn't work nearly as well with one 30k-60k income, just saying. 😔 🤷🏽♀️
Right, for many couples there simply isn't the option to have one person stay at home.
It does seem that more often than not, if a man has the means, he prefers his wife to stay at home.
Guy #1 knows what he's talking about
One good point man #1 makes is that if a woman is working full time and paying 50% of the bills, etc. the man is going to have to make sure he’s really providing/meeting her needs in other areas otherwise, it will be hard for her to stay with him being that she’d likely still be the primary caretaker for the children, primary cleaner, etc.
Man #2 is a character
Haha yeah his response is a little sus
Guy #3 named jobs that are usually associated with femininity (and are jobs held more by women).
Idk it seems weird to want to keep her in “caretaker” mode. I understand wanting her to have no stress, but those are jobs that are quite stressful, for men and women.
Men - Do you PREFER a stay at home wife or a woman who works?
Women - Do you PREFER to stay home or to make your own money?
#1 firstly, this only applies to women who have access to Rich men. Unfortunately, the rest of women don't have that problem, but a lot want it. The first guy, if he were middle class, he wouldn't be talking all that crap, because he would be trying to pay rent and not giving a crap about what masculinity does and doesn't do. Also, the guy from #1 his woman see's him as a tool, to be used to pay for her life and kids. If a woman doesn't want to stay at home, not even the devil will stop her. so this woman just like all the others are doing exactly what they want to do, which their husbands allow, because they have no other choice.. they already have the money, so it doesn't matter if the woman works or not. Unless, you are like the upper middle class guys we saw later in the clip who wanted their woman's help. it's 2024, and we are never going back to 1920's where woman can get married and immediately relax at home. So all this talk about staying at home is really privilege talk in today's time.... ok, so here's the question, what is the point of going to college and graduate school then starting a career as a women (which majority of 21st country women do) just to drop it all once you get married?? why do all that investment to then drop it.... in 2024 when women have been to Space... It was once a right for women to stay at home, but today it's a privilege of the rich-associated, and a fantasy to the rest of women.
@@BishopJr.Smith0 I met a woman like that her husband was a doctor had a house on a lake. Nice house too. The wife had a degree something in sports. I said you could get a job were you could interview athletes like ESPN she look me shook her head I don't want to work. This only works for men making well really good money and that's not all men.
Yes for me, the less stress in my life, the better.
@@RebelFitz So what about any stress on your husband? He is suppose to handle his own stress and your just so you can have less?
On average I think men are better equipped to handle work/business stress than women. My boyfriend runs a company and although of course it can be stressful, he loves it. I’m in awe by him, doing what he’s doing would be very difficult for me.
I take the view that if I’m less stressed I can be his peace and make his life less stressful by taking a lot of things off his plate that he’s less equipped to handle (like cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, caring for the pets and kids, and helping him out with his work if possible).
All in all I think leverage each person’s strengths and minimize their weaknesses.
What are your thoughts? Do you prefer 50/50 with everything in a relationship?
@@RebelFitz I dont think men are better suited to handle stress and work. I think this is what woman like to say to avoid having to work hard. And I think men and woman convince men they don't have any value other then work and please a woman. What I hear is me. In today's society it is a lot easier to be a stay at home wife than woman in previous generations you don't have to work as hard as they did. You have gadgets to help in always around the house. We have tvs and electronics to occupy kids while you doing something else. It doesn't take 12 hours to clean the house everyday. Woman should work. What happens if or when the relationship ends? What do woman complain about I sacrifice my career knowing you never wanted to work. So know you owe her the house, kids while you the man continue to put in 80 hours a week to now support 2 homes. You the woman should be finding a way to bring in income. Sense your home make soaps, crafts, baked goods. The woman back then used to make things to sell. Know woman are just saying I don't want to work. So then why not leave the work force. If woman believe its a man's duty to work and provide than stop going to colleges racking up debt leave the work force find a husband stay a virgin until you get married. This was all worked out for your benefit in the first place.
She said they were HER kids because in her mind they are. Women believe that children are their property. The man would have said "we" have four children.
@@bctrader-jg5gb They may not be his kids. The only one that knows is the woman.
You caught that too. The my kids. I had to go to work was thinking about that all morning came back to the video and and you said it. This is a problem when leaving women at home in today's society those kids may not be your kid.
I see what you’re saying. I also think it could just be natural for women to use my instead of our when referring to their kids being that she most likely carried them in her stomach for 9 months, breastfed them, they came out of her body, she’s been the primary caregiver, etc.
I think it’s normal for women to feel more attachment to their kids than men for these reasons.
I’m sure there are also women who intentionally use my when referring to their kids while next to their husband with bad intent but in this case I’m guessing it was harmless 🤔
I appreciate the comment!
The key word is RICH
If finances weren't an issue, would it be easy for you to say you prefer a stay at home woman?