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Being with an older man has its challenges. He forgets a lot | Briefly TV Life
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 3 ก.ค. 2024
- Naledi Madumo is married to a man twice her age. When they first started dating, her family and friends doubted her intentions, believing she was only after his money. She had to pour her heart out to convince them that her love for him was genuine. The situation became even more painful with the harsh judgment from social media and the cold disapproval from his family.
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Age is just a number my darling. I had a 28yr age gap with my late husband and it was THE BEST relationship ever. Met him when i was 20 & he was 48. We built business empires together, traveled the world, he gave me the best lifestyle ever and two of the most beautiful children. Princess treatment all the way👌 Sadly, He passed on in 2021 from covid, i was 42 and he had just turned 70. People will talk either way - just do you baby girl
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I totally disagree and hearing stories of children subjected to this nonsense. How do you marry your dad. Or grandad. You will be the old man’s slave that all. Also the children do not have an opportunity to grow up with their father and their father watch them get married and have children.
Sorry he passed away when you were 42 . Obviously he was an old man now it highly possible you may get married again .
@@michaeloyadeyi6281 . I know many women who lost their young husbands through accidents, crime, and COVID 19 etc.You are being unfair.
Don’t put your relationship and private life online
You will have to live up to your audience
Fame kills the spirit
Wicked man wanted you to leave your child behind that’s a major red flag
I myself couldn't understand why ?!
Right
Agree
yoi can still be a widow at any age..no one knows..you can be married by your age mate and still be a widow..you can be married to your age mate and still separate..all.we need is to trust God and pray❤🙏
This lady is a an angel and a dream come true for older men.
I wish her marriage much success!!
It’s wonderful to see such positive sentiments and well-wishes! 🌟💕
What qualities do you think make her such a great match for her partner?
Why his relatives don't like you is because they themselves are after his money
My husband is also also older. 15 yrs gap .He also forgets alot. Many of his relatives hate me but I've stood strong. Your story has given me more vibe.
Hold on! I don't think 15yrs is that huge😊. It's a normal age gap in most African marriages..
@@Shad701Not most, it's some
Thank you so much for sharing your story! 💕
How have you and your husband navigated the age gap and any challenges you’ve faced?
We need more of these insights , keep teaching us . We are learning from you and your experiences .
Sometimes the forgetting is playing mind games. Some old men get young women and eventually break them down in ways that make them age much more rapidly than they would have had they stayed young.
Age gaps can sometimes amplify certain dynamics, so clear communication and mutual respect are crucial.
How do you think people can address these challenges to build healthier relationships?
Forget about those negative things, and just focus on your marriage, love your husband sister...you don't have to mend anything if they distance them selves, let them..
Your message is so true! Just keep loving your husband and living your best life. Let the haters do their thing.
Congratulations to you sister. I respect the guy. He is my hero. We older men ROCKS😂
I love your Honesty! And its good that you found Happyness
You can never win with people, they were just mocking the first lady because they say she older than the president. Love doesn't know age and women age very quickly. Look at Lac and JZ. Nna i am just gonna love who i love and no one will dictate regarding my life.
Love should indeed be free from societal expectations or judgments.
What do you think is most important in maintaining a loving relationship despite external opinions?
She is not older she just looks older bcos of sickness. People r just cruel
Lovely
I had to google her age during inauguration 😅
Respectfully, I think it's unfair for such old men to pursue these young women.
He's very controlling and selfish. Based off of everything you narrated!!
How could he have even thought of you living ur daughter, with your parents, but wants you to raise his🙄🙄🙄?.. shows he loves you, but not anything that has to do with you!!!.
My thoughts exactly. That definitely would've been a ground for separation/ divorce. If you have no room in your heart for my child, then you damn sure don't love me. TOTAL PACKAGE.
No love in that
@@TTee203see arrogance. Where is that baby daddy why didn't he take the so called total package
@derekntim-peasah3316 Who cares. Learn the difference between arrogance and IGNORANCE, then respond. The same way you are IGNORANT to the storyline, you are IGNORANT when it comes to using the correct adjective; or do you even know what an adjective is.🤷♀️ 🤔
The story is always so beautiful to listen to and so inspiring makes me believe so much in love 🥺♥️
That's really heartwarming!
What aspects of their story inspire you the most? ❤️
As long as you love each other. Happiness is here grab it with both hands ❤
Absolutely! Love and happiness are what truly matter.
What's something you both enjoy doing with that brings you the most joy?
You guys look good together.... Don't stress yourself about what people say... As long as you are happy with your family. Congratulations 🎉
Thank you so much! 💕
What's your favorite thing about their journey so far?
The man is very controlling and selfish, he control your time when you go out, he diddnt you stay with your kid yet he want you to raise his. Good luck gal
I am married to a man 20 years years older(I am in my 30’s), what you are describing here is not how older man are like but this is him being controlling to you, my relationship is nothing closer to this, thats your man’s character girl, he is controlling and insecure nyana. Vacation and taking kids out can never be a waste of money, being fetched and dropped so that he can feel secure of where you are is just insane.
Meaning your man is 50s
That's still abit young.
How about those in 70s or 80s
Let us know if you'd like to share your journey.
This is a selfish and controlling man. How can you be happy in this relationship??
I was happily marriedwith ,my old man for years until he started forgetting a lot and We went to the pyschiatrist and he wasdiagnosed with Dimentia young as I was my family together with his family stood by our side until death did us apart. I will forever love my Husband. we did not pay attention to anyone we focused on us
So sorry to hear abut your husband's passing. It is very inspiring hearing how you stood by him and with family's support. Teach others your ways to love!
Stay blessed dear, as long as the two of you are happy in your marriage younger or old we will still judge...
Age is just a number enjoy your marriage der and stay blessed 🙏
Absolutely, focusing on love and blessings can make any marriage stronger.
What do you think makes their marriage particularly inspiring or special?
So he wanted you to leave your child behind to raise his? He thinks spoiling his family is waste of money? He wants to drops and pick you up when doesn't really "approve" of where you are going? Are you sure you are in a loving relationship? Sis don't do anyone any favour but yourself by being true to you.
Exactly all the things I find odd about her older husband but it’s her life 😀
Agree. Some old men are happy about a young mind they can break down to manipulate & control.
To many red flags dear run❤
The most important thing is "Love".If mam,if you really love him,why bother about what people say.
Absolutely, love is indeed the most crucial aspect of any relationship.
When two people genuinely love each other, what others say becomes less significant.
True love is what matters without being fazed by the age gap
Love knows no boundaries!
What’s your favorite memory with your partner that really shows the strength of your bond?
You guys were supposed to sell the man s old house and find a new home for all of you and that home will be a new home for all kids. In saying that, no kid will tell the other kid that's not your home because the home will be a new home for all. No complaints.
And another thing, if that house belongs to the first wife, the mother of those kids. You guys were supposed to move and find something that belongs to you with fresh memories and good past and future .
Do you think she can suggest such a thing to the husband and he will do it? Marrying older men who are already rich can be difficult sometimes, unless he’s madly in love with you
Ppl R bitter.. M glad u could find ua happiness
My Wife is 13 years younger than i and will have 4 childrens together and a happy marriage ❤
That's beautiful! It sounds like you have a loving and happy family.
What's the secret to your successful marriage? 😊
It's not normal to put relationships on line. It depends on values and attitude
So it’s only 15 minutes which is unfortunate… I donl think she could have shared age difference, how they met in detail, how she gave in after three weeks of not speaking and how they told all the kids that they will be raised together. 🥺
This lady looks pretty in and out ❤❤
me too i am dating the lady whose 24yrs younger and she really makes me happy ....since we met we have a child together and ireally love her so much but her family hates me badly they also said shes just after the money
It's wonderful to hear that you and your partner are happy together! ❤️
How do you both handle the challenges that come with having a significant age difference?
@@Briefly_TV_Life it is not easy at first nobody knew that we are dating but when she fell pregnant thatwas the begining of our problems her family hated me they even give hera boyfriend force her toblame him for pregnancy they took her away for a year butl never stop loving her
we still find the way to each others arms
my children do not like because thier uncles told them that shes a gold digger but my eldr daughter' she is happy for us
@@Briefly_TV_Life we are still in love and stronger than before but problems always knocking our door but we pray and we still togerther l love her so much and she too loves me
Please can we stop being delusional,age gap in marriages have got a lot of challenges,most of the time the women or men go for the financial benefits.
Very inspiring to any other love relationship..🙏🏾
Old man are lovely but they will treat you like a child not a partner 😂😂
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It's true that relationships with age gaps can have their unique dynamics.
How do you think couples can balance these differences to build a strong partnership?
It's all about mutual respect and understanding.
What do you think is the key to making such relationships thrive?
Wow, I like the way you feel about the guy nomatter age gap
Age is just a number, right? 😉
All that matters is your happiness,not what people will say about you whoever is not supportive or don't like it there's nothing they can do aboutit.
God bless you guys!
If there is mutual love, mutual respect,no one is using anyone for anything.Thina singenaphi??
Exactly! It's all about love and respect.
What's your favorite thing about their relationship? 💖
Wesisi, wesisi l don't anything wrong with age gaps. Go to Shembe church you'll be shocked. Enjoy your blessings and love. Believe me in your age group you'll not get what you have...stay blessed Mrs.
So true, but it's the society at large that has a problem with age gaps! Re sa tlo tshaba go phela ka baka la "Batho ba tla reng!" 😊😊😊😊😊😊
@@leahlinki5683 True, but one has to strive for happiness and peace of mind & heart.
@@curiousk4083 Exactly! 😉😉👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿
What do you think others can learn from their relationship and journey together?
You're right, societal norms and perceptions can sometimes create challenges, especially when it comes to age gaps in relationships.
How do you think attitudes towards age differences are changing over time?
Great work hope to collaborate with you on TH-cam one day ❤❤❤Namibia 🇳🇦
That sounds fantastic!
What kind of content do you have for us?
He is a little bit controlling, going to a wedding for a limited time or shame uyacinga intanga zakho will take you away from him😂
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It's interesting to hear your perspective!
What advice would you give to someone who feels their partner is being too controlling?
It can happen but l8ke tjat example one has to think well..i suppise we want ppk closer to our age 7yrs is ok but by time its getting to 20 but love is love and hope u stay faithful
Age is just a number what is important is love between both of you as long you are both happy 🙏🙏🎊🎊
So true!y 🙏
It is difficult to handle them.. Lol.. I agree 💯.. I'm also in a similar situation. Prayers do play a big part in it.
Glad you are doing great and owning your relationship too. Keep that love burning. Let us know if you'd like to share more.
So it's relationship of a daughter and a father
Hey there, please explain what you mean by this?
@@Briefly_TV_LifeI totally agree to make it clear for you . This is a daughter marrying their father. It’s not right as she will end up his slave. He will die and she will re-marry as young bride
😅😂 buy him walnuts,fish and omega 3
What do they help with?
@@Briefly_TV_Lifememory and a good well being of the brain
The man doesn't look that old... He's probably in his 50s because his children with his first wife are still teenagers.
Age gaps can add interesting dynamics to relationships.
How do you think their shared experiences and perspectives contribute to their connection despite the age difference?
@@Briefly_TV_Life there might be some age gap, but I don't think he's that old and there's nothing shocking about their union.
At first I thought maybe she was talking about a man who was probably in his 70s or 80s... But that man looks like he could be in his 50s, it's not a big deal as long as he was single or widowed when they got together.
What are you talking about then is in his 70’s
Lol
I like what I discern
Black society n their issues though in this part of world every body does what feels right to them 🇵🇱
It's interesting how societal norms and individual choices can sometimes clash.
How do you think these issues can be navigated or understood better?
Age is just a figure love is the matter heart❤
How do we find Naledi's channel
Not all older men are the same. I’m 51, look 35, built like 28, and can go for hours and hours. I don’t date women younger than 35 or over 65, but enjoy women anywhere in that range.
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Cap 🧢😂😂😂😂
Cap 🧢😂😂😂
I'm 50 now. Got married to this Scottish chick 2001 and we had 3 kids.
Got separated and I was watching world Cup 2006 and this chick came over spike to me she said she was 21. We started messaging and she later admitted she was 17. I was 33
Best girlfriend I've been with ever. Honest, sensible and so on. Even met and slept at her parents many times with the parents there
I missed her so much for a while😢😢 But now I'm happy
It sounds like you've had quite a journey with relationships, with ups and downs along the way.
Finding happiness is important, and it seems you've found a positive outlook now.
You blessed❤❤
she is laughing while mdala is controlling chilee
Crazy stuff I tell you 🫠
😂@@Reign_255
My friend boyfriend was 20 she was50 soon as she turnt70 he cheated got babies with younger girls and she now sick and can't even get around like she used too and he's on Facebook trying too pickup woman45 ain't nothing wrong with dating someone 30 years younger just don't married him or her the only girl or boy who dates much older either homeless,been in and out prisons or have a sex problem or drinking problem or never had a stable childhood so like I said just have fun enjoy the sex but don't fool yourself thinking he's gonna be there forever
Vacation is a waste of money 😅
Vacations can be seen as a luxury, but many people find them rejuvenating and essential for mental and emotional well-being.
What's your perspective on how vacations impact your life?
So easy to get here just with sending her to buy washing powder
Right? 😅
Thank you for sharing your story. We all do forget @ times. Old men do feel that they've won a jackpot with these young women and are unnecessarily overprotective because of insecurity.
Every relationship has its own challenges despite age. Ignorance of each others temperament in most relationships is the cause of some unnecessary misunderstandings, not necessarily age.
Me, I walk shamelessly with mine! Half my age 😂
Every relationship indeed has its unique dynamics, and understanding each other's temperament is crucial.
How did you two meet?
May God bless you l
Thank you!
I don't care about age gaps but something here sounds problematic. He doesn't like her socialising and doong things she likes like travel. Hmmm
It all depends on character. There are younger men who are just as unsociable.
@@tshepotau5754 exactly. I see a controlling character here besides their age difference
It's crucial for both partners to communicate openly about boundaries and expectations.
Have you found it helpful to discuss these concerns openly with your partner?
Absolutely, personality and individual traits play a significant role in how someone behaves in a relationship, regardless of age.
Have you found open communication to be helpful in managing these kinds of challenges?
It's important for both partners in a relationship to support each other's interests and activities.
Have you seen similar situations before, and how did they resolve such issues?
Is it just me or Ausi looks like Ntokozo Mbambo the gospel musician?
How old is the Man, n how old are u .
Sounds like a live in hha to me
Is it me or does the video look like there's some parts missing to the story. Example she explained that she met him but then jumped to getting married what happened in between seeing each other did you guys not get engadged or jumped straight to the wedding?
It's common for videos to condense stories to focus on key moments.
Sometimes, details like engagements or specific milestones might not be fully covered.
What do you think about their connection so far?
Who is she? Which platform can we view her on?
Gwaan with your big man queen love all over him🗣️🗣️🥰🥰🥰🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲
You met him when he was20 and you was48 so 20 years later where is he now ?
If the woman is older than her husband I mean 9 years will it be easy
Every relationship is unique, and the success of a marriage often depends on factors like mutual respect, communication, and shared values rather than just age.
Have you experienced or seen relationships with age differences that worked well?
@@Briefly_TV_Life yes I have my cousin she is older than me, but then my problem here is I talk if something is wrong and am quick to apologize if am wrong.
But then for him if I say something no am trying to control him and he is too proud to take responsibility.
Worse he is too insecure of me at work or in public, questions like why was that guy looking at you or why were you looking at him.
Why are you taking long to come from work, the way I dress there are questions why, who is speak to on the phone or not and if it's male then it's a problem with women is still the problem.
Social media if people respond with hearts it's a problem. So am not enjoying the relationship like I hoped so, he is too much. He can argue over an old man worse things that happen 5 years ago.
And if a decision doesn't come from him he will argue about it and the next day he will say exactly what I said yesterday.
It's like you can be happy and laugh in the morning at during the day or a few minutes he moods changes it's too much.
My wife is 11 years younger than me. We've been married 5 years.
Would you like to share how your journey has been?
@@Briefly_TV_Life We met online. She was 4,500 miles from Texas, in Ireland. I flew there and then she came to Texas. She came on a K-1 visa or fiance visa and we had to get married within 90 days. She just got her U.S.Citizenship last week. We are planning on selling the house and traveling all over the motherland. A long 5 year journey.✈✈✈✈
Yeah yeah yeah 🙄
How old is Anele so I can know how old the husband is
The niece might not approve your relationship because they feel like you don’t love an old man and you want money.
You did yourself a good favour. The old man gives you love, can you imagine the hell you might have gone through if u were in love with someone of your age growing like me…
Relationships can indeed face challenges based on age gaps, but genuine love and understanding can overcome many obstacles.
What do you think are the most important factors in navigating such situations with understanding and respect?
One thing we don't speak about is how long it takes a man to grow into maturity and wealth so he can treat a woman the way she loves and deserves to be treated.
That's a great point! The journey to maturity and financial stability can indeed take time, and it's not often discussed.
What are your thoughts on how society can better support men in this journey?
@@Briefly_TV_Life on our journey to equality, we diminished the role of men in society and still expect them to perform their duties as men in society. Even girls who hate absent fathers don't see the need for her child to be fathered just because he can't provide. For some reason we can always listen to a woman cry but men have to figure it out.
Woman are the prize biologically but economically it's not possible. And the cycle won't end until we learn this. It'll stop men from feel unworthy in an economy that doesn't favor them and I hope women will understand, sympathize and support men.
I hope I make sense.
What is age gap between two of you?
Frget about inlawrsNothing wrong to dating big man. Even me I dating old man lam 60 and he is 70. Is long you love each other
It sounds like you're happy in your relationship, which is what truly matters.
If there's anything else you'd like to talk about, feel free to share!
Age just a number but I meet a32 man and 60 I wouldn't married him becauses ain't no young man's gonna be with no old woman when he's 40 and she90
You sound bully. This man has put himself into trouble. They must part ways
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's important to have open and respectful discussions about relationships.
What do you think are some key factors in maintaining a healthy and happy relationship?
The reality is he will die and she will take his money and re-marry this is what you get particularly woman from a life of poverty. Why would you not be close to your in laws you are younger than his adult children
It's important for couples to build trust and understanding, especially when there are age differences and complex family relationships involved.
How do you believe she should navigate this?
Awwwww🥹. Sweet love story. But you didn't mention the age gap so we don't have the full picture or context.
How do you think the age gap influences their relationship?
I'm happy it works for her. But it may not work for everyone. She mentioned that he picks her up when she's out chilling. That level of control of someone may not work for everyone.Its also easier to control and abuse someone who's younger. But if she's happy, I'm happy for her.
This ma is your grandfather . She married her grandfather
The reality is he will die and she will take his money and re-marry this is what you get particularly woman from a life of poverty. Why would you not be close to your in laws you are younger than his adult children
Who are you to judge?Let her be!
@@LadyT06you don’t know what your talking about. This woman is joking . The old man is on his last legs