When i met my husband , i was a very confident lady, who love make up,weaves,wear jeans, leggings etc. Years later he changed and said he doesnt like me with make up, i must stop wearing jeans and leggings,stop applying make up. I dont like myself anymore ,i dont look how i want to look, it affected our relationship, i hate him and im always angry . He wud tell me i look btful without all those things😢
This is why after marriage ppl become so free, thets not healthy. Marriage isnt supposed to change you. Seems like you hv lost yourself… be selfish n do wat makes you happy
Hi guys thank you for sharing my motto of life is no matter what happens in life always protect your ex. Never cross the line to destroy them that's low is actually self destruction. Stay loving at a distance and protective be the bigger person for life time
I love this conversation. Ey mina I have a red gown that I have had for years, it is even torn under the armpits, my poor husband is seeing flames with me and that gown. I must do better shame.
Ndivhu i appreciate ur wisdom,you are growing and developing everyday, Love you ladies,love ur questions Queen Rammy ,u asked on our behalf no Ndivhu did justice in those responses ❤❤
This was the realest conversation i ever been exposed to...about love relationship-marriage. Thank you so much. I was tht Jesus girl tht nvr knew i will fall from grace n do sex bfr marriage..ashamed to even mentioned the word.my views or mindset towards sex hv been something else n now i see my childhood traumas hv deep input... One day il heal n i thank God. Now i know i hv hated sex,believe its a shameful,disgusting act...n the same mindset is affecting my partner. Having a parent who wud do the act in ur presence as a child...n you sleeping in the same room,smtyms same bed...different peopl😓😞. Its only now at my 30+ age talking about this. I pray never to put my kids through this trauma
I love the topic beautiful ladies, churches don't address such issues because the church of the Lord Jesus Christ is holier for such truths.Keep up the good work sisters in faith.❤❤❤❤
Very true Christian marriage are suffering because they want to be spiritual even in bedroom and they forget that once your bedroom suffer its the end of your marriage
What a beautiful episode. I have shared this on whatsapp, telling the ladies to come here and listen to this because this is a B.R.U.T.A.L honest. It got me thinking that I wish men can also have something like this, because they too tend to be too comfortable after marriage, don't look after their hair cuts, they don't take care of their bodies, they let themselves gain o thole motho a na le mokhaba wa beer, ( that time we women especially after babies, we become so hard/harsh on ourselves, I need to lose some weight, I need to have a flat tummy. They too need to know that we need them to look attractive all the time too, am not saying they should have six packs, no, but they shouldn't leave themselves, kare motho ke ntate but e sa le o monyane. They should also put in the work, the same guy who used to make sure that they come looking good and smelling good when coming to us, when they were still our boyfriends, they should still do the same thing when they are husbands, smell good and make sure that the hair cut is always up to date. Look sexy for their wives.
I don't care if m attractive to my husband or not,he cheated on me with the most ugliest women and we were preparing for marriage and I found out after the wedding... knowing how much he would compliment their beauty but not a single day have I heard him saying that to me as a result I haven't had a mirror in my house for the longest time ,I look at my face in my car and that's enough unless m going to strangers away from him I can look all good and the compliments are out of this world
The gap in our churches is caused by the fact that families leave everything for the church to do. I believe such conversations about sex, marriage, how to be a good wife or husband should begin at home, the older women should teach the younger ones..stop blaming the church for what the family back home is failing to do. The church should add on the foundations already laid at home. Another thing is that people dont want to invest in themselves by unlearning old habits and learning new ways of doing things. They want to spoonfed everything. We ought to be responsible for our growth, ask the elders for the right path...the new generation dont want to be taught and learn from elders. The older generation didnt have as much information like today but they held down marriages. They understood the purpose of marriage. They built homes, we have homes today because they made so many sacrifices for us, unfortunately we dont learn from their examples. We say their too old fashioned. See where this new fashion of ours has led us..a stubborn generation, that cant learn yet we have examples before us.
So when did she realise that she is suppose to do be wht she became... nd wht changed her to think the way she eventually became.?Coz thats very important for those who still dont believe in it.
But other men when you start upgrading your lingerie,they start being suspicious.They think the woman is cheating.Where have you learned those styles.That's what they say.So it's very hard😮😮
Eish before I got married I used to make it a point that I wear matching underwear Now 3 years in marriage hai sana mix masala or no underwear at all. I need to do better Thank you ladies for this conversation.
I remember I was also told maybe there is an underlying problem.but I will say there is nothing wrong with you an you are not alone.drink seamoss every morning .
This was just too beautiful. But also there are some factors that are just beyond our control as women. In fact let me say me. I got pregnant with my second baby, when I was 3 months pregnant, I kid u not, I just went on a dry spell, for the whole of my pregnancy, I remember this one time, I was like, let me give it to him, because I understood that it was mot fair on him, who got hurt? Me during the penetration. Because remember his D. Is up, and I was just dry, I just wanted him to finish and that was it. Told myself am not going to do this to myself again, because it's not like am doing this on purpose, my libido just switched off, I even asked my gynae if is it normal, he said it's normal. Fine, after giving birth the dry spell continued, my libido came back after a whole year, my baby was now a year old. I was confused myself as to what is going on with me, because it's not like am saying , I don't want to sleep with u, or no am fasting, I don't know how to explain this dry spell, but women go through alot after giving birth, we go through a season that we ourselves don't understand and we get confused ourselves as to what is going on with me, why kante am I not getting horny, why the sudden lost interest in sex. Only after a year, that's when I could feel myself yearning for sex could feel no, my V e batla ntho ya teng. So my thing is, I wish u could invite a gynae, and explain all this. Because I was even googling, researching because I was oncerned myself.
What a conversation ❤ I am married man and can relate🎉 thank you bazalwane bam for this conversation is building and good❤
Thank you for watching ❤
When i met my husband , i was a very confident lady, who love make up,weaves,wear jeans, leggings etc. Years later he changed and said he doesnt like me with make up, i must stop wearing jeans and leggings,stop applying make up. I dont like myself anymore ,i dont look how i want to look, it affected our relationship, i hate him and im always angry . He wud tell me i look btful without all those things😢
My sister, do what makes you happy. If you enjoy make up then wear it.
How did it get here where you choose making him happy more than you are happy?
So sorry you are going through this
Mybe you are really beautiful without makeup my love ,but choosing clothes for you u think he's exactly like my husband controlling and insecure .
If she loves make up, buy it practice the natural look you will see cause really that's what you like
This is why after marriage ppl become so free, thets not healthy. Marriage isnt supposed to change you. Seems like you hv lost yourself… be selfish n do wat makes you happy
Taking notes for when God blesses with marriage💃
Amen 🙏
Same,this was insightful
@@kelebogilemillicent1207 very insightful these two should have weekly episodes regarding topics like these. We learn a lot
Hi guys thank you for sharing my motto of life is no matter what happens in life always protect your ex. Never cross the line to destroy them that's low is actually self destruction. Stay loving at a distance and protective be the bigger person for life time
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I love this conversation. Ey mina I have a red gown that I have had for years, it is even torn under the armpits, my poor husband is seeing flames with me and that gown. I must do better shame.
Please throw it away
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂u are funny
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This husband is very lucky to have her😅❤❤❤
Yebooooo🥰🥰🥰😍😍
True
true
Ladies your personality complement each other ❤
Right? I think it's also because we are way too different😅
Thank you 😊
Ndivhu i appreciate ur wisdom,you are growing and developing everyday,
Love you ladies,love ur questions Queen Rammy ,u asked on our behalf no Ndivhu did justice in those responses ❤❤
Thank you so much ❤️
This was the best podcast yesss the guest is very good xem
Thank you 🙏
I'm taking notes, i need Ndivhu to be my mentor bathong
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She is spit on
I am loving the green outfit.
Thank you 😊
With sweet pink please
Green ❤️
This was the realest conversation i ever been exposed to...about love relationship-marriage. Thank you so much. I was tht Jesus girl tht nvr knew i will fall from grace n do sex bfr marriage..ashamed to even mentioned the word.my views or mindset towards sex hv been something else n now i see my childhood traumas hv deep input... One day il heal n i thank God. Now i know i hv hated sex,believe its a shameful,disgusting act...n the same mindset is affecting my partner. Having a parent who wud do the act in ur presence as a child...n you sleeping in the same room,smtyms same bed...different peopl😓😞. Its only now at my 30+ age talking about this. I pray never to put my kids through this trauma
Thank you so much for sharing , May God heal your hear 👍❤️❤️
Wow those are realities which many fail to come in terms with.
Indeed 💯
I love the topic beautiful ladies, churches don't address such issues because the church of the Lord Jesus Christ is holier for such truths.Keep up the good work sisters in faith.❤❤❤❤
Very true Christian marriage are suffering because they want to be spiritual even in bedroom and they forget that once your bedroom suffer its the end of your marriage
Sad truth 😞
What a beautiful episode. I have shared this on whatsapp, telling the ladies to come here and listen to this because this is a B.R.U.T.A.L honest.
It got me thinking that I wish men can also have something like this, because they too tend to be too comfortable after marriage, don't look after their hair cuts, they don't take care of their bodies, they let themselves gain o thole motho a na le mokhaba wa beer, ( that time we women especially after babies, we become so hard/harsh on ourselves, I need to lose some weight, I need to have a flat tummy. They too need to know that we need them to look attractive all the time too, am not saying they should have six packs, no, but they shouldn't leave themselves, kare motho ke ntate but e sa le o monyane. They should also put in the work, the same guy who used to make sure that they come looking good and smelling good when coming to us, when they were still our boyfriends, they should still do the same thing when they are husbands, smell good and make sure that the hair cut is always up to date. Look sexy for their wives.
Very Important conversation that we need to have, I will suggest it on Rough Cut ✂️ men also relax and get comfortable after marriage.
You ladies looking so good! Yoo it’s really good honestly to have Ndivhu T regularly behind the mic!
Thank you so much for the love , we see you and appreciate you ❤️
Ndivhu is born for the mic good to see you here ❤
Thank you 😊
Thank you my sisters God revealed this indeed because He wants us to enjoy life but our over spiritual destroys our marriages.
So true ❤️👌
This convesation is spot on welldone ladies i hope many ladies should listern
Thank you 😊
Thank you for such a special truth
Thank you 🙏
You look beautiful Ndivhu❤.. i missed this space😅
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Thank you so much ladies for the teachings, I needed this
Thank you so much for watching ❤️
I don't care if m attractive to my husband or not,he cheated on me with the most ugliest women and we were preparing for marriage and I found out after the wedding... knowing how much he would compliment their beauty but not a single day have I heard him saying that to me as a result I haven't had a mirror in my house for the longest time ,I look at my face in my car and that's enough unless m going to strangers away from him I can look all good and the compliments are out of this world
Tjoooo 💔💔🫂🫂🫂
Wow....such an amazing conversation...I love it
Glad you enjoyed it!❤️🙏
I am going to share this episode with my future wife the day she arrives in my life 😂
Definitely 👌 🤣💃
You may live longer. What a lesson to us
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Wow Ndivu the green❤❤❤
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The church has no knowledge when it comes to marriage unfortunately,we are too spiritual.
True that's why Marriages don't last 💔
Am a victim even though we didn't devoce @@SentStudiosProduction
I love everything about you big up girl❤❤❤
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I loved this conversation so much ❤❤❤
Appreciated and thank you for watching 🫂❤️😇👌
please dont sell your dignity and soul to please a mere mortal
A man that loves his wife would want to honour her,
Thats right ✅️ 👏
The gap in our churches is caused by the fact that families leave everything for the church to do. I believe such conversations about sex, marriage, how to be a good wife or husband should begin at home, the older women should teach the younger ones..stop blaming the church for what the family back home is failing to do. The church should add on the foundations already laid at home. Another thing is that people dont want to invest in themselves by unlearning old habits and learning new ways of doing things. They want to spoonfed everything. We ought to be responsible for our growth, ask the elders for the right path...the new generation dont want to be taught and learn from elders. The older generation didnt have as much information like today but they held down marriages. They understood the purpose of marriage. They built homes, we have homes today because they made so many sacrifices for us, unfortunately we dont learn from their examples. We say their too old fashioned. See where this new fashion of ours has led us..a stubborn generation, that cant learn yet we have examples before us.
I really enjoyed this podcast! I even subscribed🥰🥰..
Really enjoyed!! 🤞🤞🤞🤞
Welcome aboard!👌👌🎉🎉
You ladies , u are still far from heaven
... yooh
William 😳🤣
I'm taking notes mukomana wanga❤
Khezwo
So when did she realise that she is suppose to do be wht she became... nd wht changed her to think the way she eventually became.?Coz thats very important for those who still dont believe in it.
Elderly women just make a lot of gumption and are realistic, one of the reasons why I will never marry a lady that's younger than me.❤️
Hmmmm okay
Hahahha loving this real talk 😂
Thank you Letho ❤️❤️❤️
That's very interesting topic, we only live once to be happy...
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Wisdom right there 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Thank you 😊
I enjoyed this ladies
Thank you so much for watching 🙏👌😇
Please remind them every now n then.. they forget
Halala 🔊🔊🔊🔊🔊
Ndivhu ❤️❤️
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You have gained a new follower 🎉
Thank you 🙏
Ndivhu ❤ i love you so much😘😘😘😘
Thank you so much ☺️
Thank you for the convo, im always on my phone watching podcasts and stuff, always not in the mood 4 sex
Fire let there be a revival 🤣🤣🤣🙆♀️🙆♀️🙆♀️
Christian's marriages are falling seriously
Truth 👏👏🙏🙏
But other men when you start upgrading your lingerie,they start being suspicious.They think the woman is cheating.Where have you learned those styles.That's what they say.So it's very hard😮😮
Trust and communication Lebo ❤️
Eish before I got married I used to make it a point that I wear matching underwear
Now 3 years in marriage hai sana mix masala or no underwear at all. I need to do better
Thank you ladies for this conversation.
Thank you for sharing, remember it's never too late to start over and afresh.
There's always room for improvement
Guys nibahle vha❤❤❤you are so beautiful ❤️
Siyabonga ❤️
Interesting we are learning a lot❤
Glad to hear that
Great and informative conversation
Thank you 😊
Let 😊 Me Send The Link to My Future Wife 😀 I'm not even sure 😂 whether She'll Open it But Let Hope ❤
Did love the Conversation 🎉
Please do!
Ladies your outfits 👌👌❤️❤️
Thank you 😊
I love the topic.. ❤
Thank you for watching 🙏 ♥️
The best one
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yoh ladies i wish i can talk to one of you one on one. Thank you for this conversation
You can DM 1 of us ❤️❤️
Kenna the snorer keee🤪😭😂
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me and my wife got caught doing it in the car by the police, 8 years now and we still talk about about
Yoooh 😂😂😂
Kante were we sent to this world for sex bazakes. Yazi me I don't even wanna hear this word.
No 🤣🤣🤣
Truth
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Big up basadi
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And mirror on the waredrope
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Be Spider-Man 😂 27:58
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@@SentStudiosProduction 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Mina im no more interested in sex i dnt know weather its menopause na ,yey i get angry whn my hubby ask for sex
How old are you? Maybe there’s an underlying issue that could be solved ❤️
🤣 eish… askies
I remember I was also told maybe there is an underlying problem.but I will say there is nothing wrong with you an you are not alone.drink seamoss every morning .
What is seemos? and where to get it
Go see a practioner or gynecologist as soon as possible
Das true sex drive marriage without it the marriage is not there anymore
Indeed ❤️
😂😂😂😂😂 I'm dying 😂😂
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Hello there
I see my life when am 40 xem
Ja neh
this topic 😂😂😂😂😂
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Upu are s child of God and your husband partner thats not biblical therefore its wrong
Well noted
My dear I am shocked at what woman would stoop to for the sake of pleasing a mere mortal
😂😂😂 9pm
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Kubalulekile ukubhebhana bafazi
Indeed 👌
Pastor Khathide once said and i code" Uma ningabhebhani uSathane uzongen". Close code
I don't think you should do sex everyday as Christians.
Not everyday
If you want why not you're married
@@siphomahlalela7092 Corinthians 7:5
Read it my bro
Why not dear😢
This was just too beautiful. But also there are some factors that are just beyond our control as women. In fact let me say me.
I got pregnant with my second baby, when I was 3 months pregnant, I kid u not, I just went on a dry spell, for the whole of my pregnancy, I remember this one time, I was like, let me give it to him, because I understood that it was mot fair on him, who got hurt? Me during the penetration. Because remember his D. Is up, and I was just dry, I just wanted him to finish and that was it. Told myself am not going to do this to myself again, because it's not like am doing this on purpose, my libido just switched off, I even asked my gynae if is it normal, he said it's normal. Fine, after giving birth the dry spell continued, my libido came back after a whole year, my baby was now a year old. I was confused myself as to what is going on with me, because it's not like am saying , I don't want to sleep with u, or no am fasting, I don't know how to explain this dry spell, but women go through alot after giving birth, we go through a season that we ourselves don't understand and we get confused ourselves as to what is going on with me, why kante am I not getting horny, why the sudden lost interest in sex. Only after a year, that's when I could feel myself yearning for sex could feel no, my V e batla ntho ya teng.
So my thing is, I wish u could invite a gynae, and explain all this. Because I was even googling, researching because I was oncerned myself.
Ja neh, tk think of it hearing from a professional could be an Eye opener.
But thank you for sharing your journey 🙏
But they are not the same 😂🫣🤭 20:59
At all 🤪🤪😅😅😅