☝🏾✨ The crux of the matter. Unfortunately, the people he's talking about are likely obsessed with conformity on some level. Absolutely everything is a competition to them. They don't see that there CAN be different ways to _exist_ as a man (singular) rather than as a monolithic hive clone ("men"). The mindset they've been fed is all about a monolithic version of patriarchal manhood that men compete to perfect, and then either win at (and dominate all "lesser" men) or lose at (and are dominated by their "betters"). Instead of here in reality: where a vast spectrum of ways to exist can be experimented with, abandoned or adopted, tweaked to fit well like a good outfit... allowing men of all shapes and sizes and types to self-express healthily, to live a life of authenticity and freedom, and to collaborate with and form supportive friendships with other men as actual *individuals.*
@@TreeHairedGingerAle isn't trying to be better than other men inherently individualistic? When it comes to hierarchies those too are individualistic. Men find allies, cooperate to get higher place there too! Idk where the idea of men being collectivist even comes from...
You don't need to be all grown up, just in the areas where it's important. And at times, it's important. And then being grown up to know when it's needed 😊
Beautifully said, and as a man,, personally, your content has helped me a lot!! It has given voice to many thoughts i could not articulate and made me feel seen and less alone. I know most men struggle with loneliness and how absolutely psychologically breaking it is, especailly when compounded over our lifetimes, when we as children are not even given the tools necessary to break these emotions down, identify them, and then work through them, this makes loneliness even more horrible because the nature of loneliness is to manipulate you into thinking you deserve to stay in an unhealthy place and not get better. But simply, your takes and your voice consistently remind me that I do deserve better. We all do. And I deserve to have the skills necessary to get past these emotional incompetencies. We ALL do. Yes, dude, even you, the one who felt personally attacked by this honesty. ESPECAILLY you.
Ngl anger can be justifiable. An abused man not feeling any anger against his abuser ever sounds like a mental problem of it's own. Not perpetual anger mind you. Same goes for men who were cut as an infant by "doctors", doubly so if that happened before anastesia was widely used for such a procedure. A procedure that should only be done on any minor of any sex IF there is a medical need. Adults can do whatever they want with their bodies that does not infringe on the rights of others (ideally, even if the law does not respect such a right)
Not feeling anger towards an abuser sounds like manipulation. I don't know how much you know any abuse, but not recognizing abuse as such is part of abuse. I mean, we're not yet there to accept why women don't leave their abuser. And for men it's even way more behind to accept that you can't "just leave".
@@radschele1815 what is easy for men? I think men too have problems leaving their abusers. Especially when it comes to fathers having to either kidnap (legally speaking) the child (merely postponing the abuse by the mother), abandon it with an abuser and pay her for letting her be sole person that has power over the child, or be the living shield. Some men are simply trained to not express or even feel anger towards any woman for any reason. It is screwed up indeed
@@principleshipcoleoid8095 was a typo, sorry, I'll correct that. Generally, anger is still seen as a male feeling. And showing it physically, is somehow seen as male. Which is, of course, bullshit. The only way Film the outside is education. Like... How does abuse start, work generally, and how to protect the victims of it. And legally, the protection of victims of abuse is generally awful. Abusers always seem to have more Power even in the legal system.
As a man who has experienced abuse from both male and female partners. Yes, feeling anger is an important part of the healing process but it's easy to be stuck in a perpetual frustration and mistrust for the world around you. Basically I feel I sometimes get stuck in a victim mentally where the anger doesn't drive me towards positive action but rather I just synically expect failure, hurt and betrail. I'm recognising this in myself so I can work on overcoming it.
I wouldnt describe you as a raging masculine agro. Youre definitely very feminine. As are alot of people. Obviously being feminine doesnt automatically make you female. Plenty of men are feminine, straight and queer alike. What matters is your intentions and i believe yours are sincere and that youre genuinely trying to help people or at least offer them comfort in a very uncomfortable world. I imagine we disagree on certain fundamentals like sports, bathrooms, prisons etc., but we definitely agree that every one of us deserves respect, dignity, and the benefit of the doubt. You keep doing what you think is right, i'll keep smashing the like and dislike buttons accordingly. (tho i wish they would expand the thumbs up/down to include a peace sign for when you disagree but still respect them)✌️
Whoa! This comment is a master class in passive-aggressive transphobia! So many words to say "I hate you and think you should be policed out of the public eye, but like, respect bro!" Get lost, you wolf in sheep's clothing!
@erikthalman wow yours is a masterclass of putting words in someones mouth to slander someone who doesnt agree with you. I swear one could make a bingo card to have a conversation with people like you. ''Dont agree with me? Bigot!'' Check! ''Hitting dislike? Transphobe!'' Check! "Tell me im wrong about my logic? Hate!" Check! "Telling me i deserve dignity and respect? Fake Scumbag!" Check! All i need to complete my bingo card is for your argument to devolve and crumble to the point where all you got left to say is ''Yeah you're right about everything, BUT WHY DO YOU CARE? Proving me wrong with evidence and logic is Hate and Transphobia!" U lose. Thx 4 playing.
I feel like the world would be a better place if we could all accept that "bad" and "not for me" are not the same thing.
☝🏾✨ The crux of the matter.
Unfortunately, the people he's talking about are likely obsessed with conformity on some level. Absolutely everything is a competition to them.
They don't see that there CAN be different ways to _exist_ as a man (singular) rather than as a monolithic hive clone ("men").
The mindset they've been fed is all about a monolithic version of patriarchal manhood that men compete to perfect, and then either win at (and dominate all "lesser" men) or lose at (and are dominated by their "betters").
Instead of here in reality: where a vast spectrum of ways to exist can be experimented with, abandoned or adopted, tweaked to fit well like a good outfit... allowing men of all shapes and sizes and types to self-express healthily, to live a life of authenticity and freedom, and to collaborate with and form supportive friendships with other men as actual *individuals.*
@@TreeHairedGingerAle isn't trying to be better than other men inherently individualistic? When it comes to hierarchies those too are individualistic. Men find allies, cooperate to get higher place there too! Idk where the idea of men being collectivist even comes from...
Dude, it doesn't matter that im 20 years older than you. I still wanna be like you when I grow up. If.
If? Are you okay? Or was that a typo?
@@hseeba321 If they choose to grow up
@@Jane-oz7pp ?
You don't need to be all grown up, just in the areas where it's important. And at times, it's important.
And then being grown up to know when it's needed 😊
This isn't for me (a woman) so I'm just here to encourage the algorithm.
Beautifully said, and as a man,, personally, your content has helped me a lot!! It has given voice to many thoughts i could not articulate and made me feel seen and less alone. I know most men struggle with loneliness and how absolutely psychologically breaking it is, especailly when compounded over our lifetimes, when we as children are not even given the tools necessary to break these emotions down, identify them, and then work through them, this makes loneliness even more horrible because the nature of loneliness is to manipulate you into thinking you deserve to stay in an unhealthy place and not get better. But simply, your takes and your voice consistently remind me that I do deserve better. We all do. And I deserve to have the skills necessary to get past these emotional incompetencies. We ALL do. Yes, dude, even you, the one who felt personally attacked by this honesty. ESPECAILLY you.
Shorts like this are so appreciated, man 🙏🏿Bless you
That mad cause you buff dawg ahaha keep doing it to em!
was really hoping this was about short pants. But also love your content, keep it up
Men need a lot of help, keep it up my fellow trans comrade!
Fellas for the fellas god! Men for the men throne!
God bless your mental capacity for compassion, hope you take care of yourself during all this 👍
👏 👏 👏
Ngl anger can be justifiable. An abused man not feeling any anger against his abuser ever sounds like a mental problem of it's own. Not perpetual anger mind you. Same goes for men who were cut as an infant by "doctors", doubly so if that happened before anastesia was widely used for such a procedure. A procedure that should only be done on any minor of any sex IF there is a medical need. Adults can do whatever they want with their bodies that does not infringe on the rights of others (ideally, even if the law does not respect such a right)
Not feeling anger towards an abuser sounds like manipulation.
I don't know how much you know any abuse, but not recognizing abuse as such is part of abuse.
I mean, we're not yet there to accept why women don't leave their abuser. And for men it's even way more behind to accept that you can't "just leave".
@@radschele1815 what is easy for men? I think men too have problems leaving their abusers. Especially when it comes to fathers having to either kidnap (legally speaking) the child (merely postponing the abuse by the mother), abandon it with an abuser and pay her for letting her be sole person that has power over the child, or be the living shield. Some men are simply trained to not express or even feel anger towards any woman for any reason. It is screwed up indeed
@@principleshipcoleoid8095 was a typo, sorry, I'll correct that.
Generally, anger is still seen as a male feeling. And showing it physically, is somehow seen as male.
Which is, of course, bullshit.
The only way Film the outside is education.
Like...
How does abuse start, work generally, and how to protect the victims of it.
And legally, the protection of victims of abuse is generally awful.
Abusers always seem to have more Power even in the legal system.
As a man who has experienced abuse from both male and female partners. Yes, feeling anger is an important part of the healing process but it's easy to be stuck in a perpetual frustration and mistrust for the world around you. Basically I feel I sometimes get stuck in a victim mentally where the anger doesn't drive me towards positive action but rather I just synically expect failure, hurt and betrail. I'm recognising this in myself so I can work on overcoming it.
I wouldnt describe you as a raging masculine agro. Youre definitely very feminine. As are alot of people. Obviously being feminine doesnt automatically make you female. Plenty of men are feminine, straight and queer alike. What matters is your intentions and i believe yours are sincere and that youre genuinely trying to help people or at least offer them comfort in a very uncomfortable world. I imagine we disagree on certain fundamentals like sports, bathrooms, prisons etc., but we definitely agree that every one of us deserves respect, dignity, and the benefit of the doubt. You keep doing what you think is right, i'll keep smashing the like and dislike buttons accordingly. (tho i wish they would expand the thumbs up/down to include a peace sign for when you disagree but still respect them)✌️
Whoa! This comment is a master class in passive-aggressive transphobia! So many words to say "I hate you and think you should be policed out of the public eye, but like, respect bro!" Get lost, you wolf in sheep's clothing!
@erikthalman wow yours is a masterclass of putting words in someones mouth to slander someone who doesnt agree with you. I swear one could make a bingo card to have a conversation with people like you.
''Dont agree with me? Bigot!'' Check!
''Hitting dislike? Transphobe!'' Check!
"Tell me im wrong about my logic? Hate!" Check!
"Telling me i deserve dignity and respect? Fake Scumbag!" Check!
All i need to complete my bingo card is for your argument to devolve and crumble to the point where all you got left to say is ''Yeah you're right about everything, BUT WHY DO YOU CARE? Proving me wrong with evidence and logic is Hate and Transphobia!"
U lose. Thx 4 playing.