Everyone is saying I need a break. I am taking one! I am going on vacation for a week with my family to see the Grand Canyon. My stories are all recorded way in advance so I will have episodes schedules to publish while I'm away. Hopefully when I get back I will be more recharged and I'll be back to my old self.
Please consider cooling it with how judgmental you get when you come back. You are too eager to effectively call someone a bad person over really trivial and petty one time situations. I was shocked by your assessment of story three. It was even worse than the time you said someone's girlfriend should dump him because he wanted her to make him breakfast.
I find it hilarious that Rslash thought we'd disagree with him on the second story, yet everyone is like, "Omg Rslash I can't believe your opinion on story three!"
i disagree with the second cus it's not his obligation to pay for the child, i came here looking for opinions on story 2. buuuut i haven't read story 3 yetlol
if I was op in the second story I would say that he wouldn’t pay untill they got child support. There is no reason the bio dad shouldn’t pay if he can afford it.
For story 3, OP literally just followed social convention of retrieving a lost item. He called and texted, no answer. He goes to the door and asked to get the property he lost. They could have texted back and said that it wasn’t a good time but they didn’t. Plus, as a kid who had an stuffed animal I was completely attached to, had I thought I couldn’t get it back, even for a day, I would have absolutely lost it. In fact I did more than once. Nothing anyone said would have calmed me down. AND with OP and his wife going through a hard time right now it is much easier to get a toy back to calm the kid down than it is to try and coach them through it while they are already emotional. I completely disagree with Rslash here.
Hearing Rslash's take on this story, I came to the comments looking for just this comment. Kiddo forgot a thing at someone else's house, you contact the people in that house to see if you can get it back. If they say "now's not a good time," then you accept that and try to work around it, but if there's no response, I don't see how going to the house is an unacceptable next step. Also, OP didn't "barge" into the house, he asked. The other parent let him in, he found the thing quickly, and left as quietly as possible. Am I really missing something huge here?
Hard to know if a 4 year old has Autism or not. My parents didn’t know I did but they sure did suspect I did after I nearly killed someone over a stuffed toy at the age of 6, no joke. Don’t underestimate the value of stuffed toy
Honestly I think the parents who got left the sleepy dumbo massively overreacted. Even if they’re busy they could’ve been like “We are busy and can’t have you in but we can leave the toy on the door step in a bag for you to come and grab in like 15 mins.” They could’ve worked something out, it’s not the crazy inconvenience they made it out to be.
Yeah, I was thinking their really weird reaction was like them keeping the toy intentionally. And then rSlash just went the entire wrong with with his diatribe like wtf??
@@live_unafraid47 Given that OP knows the child doesn't sleep well without the toy, means he either didn't go in the room upon picking the child up (I'm assuming he's taken control over all of the errands and what not since the wife is a mess right now which is fair) and assumed the toy was in whatever bag the child had for the sleepover. OR he did go in the room, assumed the toy was in the bag and the couple hid it because their own child fell in love with it and that's why she was so mad. Not because he insisted, but because she knew she couldn't keep it since he *had* insisted to come get it.
Update to story 1: Op packed his stuff and left to stay with a friend. After Sarah came home, they had a long conversation where he expressed his feeling and that he wanted to propose. She begged him to stay, but he didn’t. OP said that the main reason he broke up with her is because Sarah aleays favored her friends. She promised that she would change but she didn’t.
She found she screwed up BIG TIME and only then became apologetic. Because before that she and her friends were emotionally dogpiling on OP without a second thought.
If someone ever says "I'll change", most likely they won't. They're only saying it to try and rope you back into the same BS. I know from personal experience
3rd story: it's natural for OP to forget about a toy while worrying about his father in law and clearly stressed wife. Then when he realized that he forgot the toy he sends messages to inform he would try to come by and they don't tell him they're busy. After that the place he found the toy was on the other child's bed so they might of been trying to keep it for their own child and they let him in then say he just barged in.
Look I don't have a job that works from home 24/7. I do have a part time and sell things on the side for my side business. But what I'm not getting is, how's "I'm busy" supposed to mean, "Go away I have important business to tend too!" OP didn't realize the toy wasn't there b/c like you said stressed about his wife and FIL. Texted them, no response. Called them, no response. Texted them again, no response. Called them on the way, no response. Knocked no response. Knocked again and finally got a "I'm busy!" response. Child's having a meltdown in front of the neighbor! OP said they would get the toy and be in and out in under minute. Toy was ON THE BED! So, like they could've grabbed it for them? Then blew up the phone saying that they barraged in when they LET THEM IN TO GET THE TOY?! Am I missing something here?!
The sleepy Dumbo story I think rslash was too harsh Op was showing humility and shame for having to bother those people for a kids toy they could've found in two seconds op wasn't saying oh they should've just let me in and answered their phones how dare they. So where is the entitlement?
The possible entitlement I see is with the other parents. Like if they were that busy they could have answered any of the op's messages saying sorry but it's not a good time, but they just ignored him and had the audacity to get snotty. Like with others I think they wanted to keep the toy. It wasn't on the table in the living room or an easy to reach part of the house, it was in a bedroom.
@@Wolfiechrm ya I saw other people saying that. it was specifically on the other child's bed and I chalked that up to like they both probably slept in that room so when the room got cleaned the toy went on the bed but ya no they Def could've responded to any calls or texts saying it's a bad time.
R/Slash is a father and he should know that if his child needed a toy to help them sleep he and his wife would do ANYTHING to help them settle and it's not like the father just went round banging on the door he texts SEVERAL times and the other parents could have easily replied and you know had a look for the toy and had it ready for the father when he got there I wonder if R/Slash just tells his child "Too bad I can't find your comforter" I don't think so.....He's had some REALLY bad takes lately.
Hey Rslash. You'll probably never see this, but we all want you to know: If we disagree with you, it's not an attack against you. We are just sharing a different perspective that you might, or might not, agree with. Much love
Third story, there could be some missing info but as the story lays out as is it's not really an issue. RSlash I know you're new-er to parenthood but this stuff happens. Parents who believe are closed together act this way and it's possible the other family was not recuperating that engagement. This could effectively make the dad THA but also no fault to anyone as well. All circumstantial.
@@GiordanDiodato there isn't much evidence for that, I mean, OPs' kid probably slept in that room, and if the parents just quickly put the elephant on the bed while tidying it's an honest mistake.
@@GiordanDiodato oh yes I know when I hide things I leave them on my bed out in the open with my bedroom door wide open. That's a super secret place no one ever looks right? I mean that's where I hide my entire retirement savings. Right on my bed only open right next to my pillow.
@@savvystarfire6667 I can't deny that I had a similar thought though. Not the hiding part since it's stupid to 'hide something in plain sight.' But the second the friend didn't want him coming in, I thought "She wants to keep sleepy Dumbo for her own kid." Mind you, I could be wrong and I realize that as there is no proof. It's just a possibility that sprang to mind.
For story 3 I thought to myself “hey that’s pretty reasonable of OP to try to ask before. I don’t understand why the ‘friends’ are so angry” and the second I heard the feedback I swear it was mental whiplash. I get that it can be an inconvenience to go to your friends house to want to pick up something very very important to your child, but OP texted and called first and they didn’t answer. The next logical choice is to go and physically ask. He didn’t barge in, I don’t think he was being entitled. He also recognized he caused an inconvenience so I don’t think he deserved the harshness he got.
Yeah, he didn't got an answer in what appears to be small amount of time so he drove them both. It wasn't an emergency. He should've waited for a response.
@desperate need of scotch That's not necessarily true. My phone is on silent 99% of the time. Unless I look at my phone I'm not going to know you tried to reach me.
@@desperateneedofscotchi wouldnt call it a bad call at all. Taking a few minutes out of your day to let him look for a distressed childs comfort toy isnt that big of a deal or that big of an inconvenience. Lets remember this wasnt exactly a good situation for anybody.
Wow I was completely caught off guard with that third story. It seemed like a stressed father trying to get his child’s comfort object and the other parents imo way overreacted. Rslash’s take on it was way out there lol. When I heard entitled parents mentioned I thought he might have meant the other parents bc they were trying to steal the toy maybe?? But then he called op and his wife terrible people or something
Really? I totally agree with Rslash. Who in their right mind thinks its okay to turn up at someones house during work hours unannounced and uninvited to push the owners to let them into their home to collect something their kid left. the home owners are totally in the right, in my mind. THEN OP's wife starts aggressively texting the kind people that helped them out? OP of the story seems like a nice enough person, but 100% did the wrong thing.
@@ryang58 i disagree, I'm autistic and know how much losing a comfort plushie hurts a child, I've been there, if a child forgot their comfort anything at my house i would allow the parents to look for it even if it was an inconvenience to me Comfort plushies are BIG for little kids, neurodivergent or not
I don't think the parents in story 3 were that bad. When you have a child you get used to playing their games and seeing things that they consider important as very important and you want to give the world to them. He had no way of knowing he couldn't come pick the plushy because they were not picking up. And when they were already there it really was easier to just grab it real fast rather than going back and coming the next day. It's weird how much it affected her that he came to pick up something. But if she feels that way then she's in her right to not want to babysit again I guess.
I got so shocked that I had to check the comment section and rewind I have sensory issues and have ADHD and am being checked for Autism as an adult now I left my toy bear at a hotel and I started freaking the fuck out, I was 11, my mom was lucky that the hotel staff were understanding and very kind about it... To a child that stuffie they have is their whole world, the best friend and the comfort when parents aren't available R/'s take was so bad on it... Like, I never was on the parent side of things but if I was the parent I would do the same thing most likely The couple seems to be weird tho because yes, they did a huge favor to the parents but when you babysit a kid you must be prepared that they might forget something important as they are just kids, they don't know any better
@@digizilla164 Then they should have sent a text saying so They had time to text him why OP was an ass for it so they had time to write "we don't have time rn, come at x:xxpm"
10:37 there's nothing wrong with what op did lol, tbh most people probably would have noticed that OP's kid left something behind and called back to notify op
Also the fact that they ignored txts and calls instead of just being like "hey, I'm working rn, can we set a time later?" And _also_ put the toy on _their_ kid's bed. What? Were they trying to steal from a child??
@@DickboosterOkay, I think that's a bit far, lol. I think that the OP coming to get the toy was not a big deal, but I doubt the other couple were planning some evil toy heist. I think it's more likely the kids either shared the room while he stayed over or their own kid went 'ooh, new toy' and dragged it into their room when OP's kiddo left it there. I mean, the other couple wasn't saying they'd NEVER give it back. They just had a hiss fit about him wanting it NOW. They were most likely gonna give it back later. I would have honestly said NAH if it wasn't for the big hiss fit they threw via text later.
I have never 100% disagreed with Rslash ever on a whole story in the years I've been listening, but the outlook on the Sleepy Dumbo story is insane. They went to retrieve a forgotten item and tried to call. That toy was important to the kid, and they asked politely for it. It was on the bed and the parent was in and out in just like 2 minutes, and was very polite about it. The way that woman reacted to them asking for the forgotten toy is insane, and to give the dad a 2.5 score when I couldn't imagine giving him more than .5 is so strange to me. When Rslash asked if they were on Entitled Parents, I thought he was asking about the mother who answered the door, not the father who just wanted to retrieve his sons toy. EDIT: I should clarify that I've been listening to Rrslash for over 2 years, and I have disagreed with stories before, but I've never had the exact opposite take and usually agree with parts of the story and score. This is the first time I've fully disagreed in over 2 years of missing no uploads. I love Rslash and wish him no ill will in all of this, but this take just baffles me, especially since he has talked so much about loving his family and how much his daughter means to him. I just can't understand the logic. I hope he's ok and not overworked by the daily uploads. If you're reading this Rslash, I love you and don't mean to send you any hate, I really love your videos and you are my favorite Reddit reading channel. I hope you're doing well.
Honestly I can't wait to hear him try and "simply talk to them rationally" with his own kid when she's that age lmfao. The kid's 4, not 14. Rational thought and reasoning skills are still years away from developing. They're far too young to truly grasp ration and reason, especially when they're tired and distraught.
He has said recently that he's noticed he's been missing the mark on some of these stories so I'm not surprised... I do think he might be over working himself that man needs a break he uploads everyday.
@@cartierclips1126 Yeah it definitely is stress inducing. Constant exposure to negative information like on AITA can impact your brain. Like how negative news can have a psychological impact on you.
UPDATE 1ST STORY: He left Sara. Obviously told everything to her. He came with the conclusion that her friends will ALWAYS be there, it felt like a poliamory thing. She begged him to stay but he left.
was that in the comments because all I saw on the thread was the updates: EDIT: This was a planned *anniversary/romantic* trip. I was clear that we have plans for just us two. We've been on other anniversary trips together without her friends there. We did discuss marriage beforehand, so it's not like a proposal wouldn't been out of the blue. MINOR UPDATE: My friends are here at the house and they have been running potential interference, just in case her friends try to bombard and harass me. They've been great and I'm so glad to have them! MINOR UPDATE #2: None of Sarah's friends came by the house or harassed me yesterday/last night, which is good! Sarah hasn't come home yet. I figured out what I want to say and have it written out.
Rslash, I think we as your viewers can all see you're really tired and need a break. A video every day for *years* takes a toll on you. We'll be here when you return, but you really should take some time for yourself and regroup.
Rslash more than deserves a break! Or at the very least to step back and cover some lighthearted subreddits. Daily uploads for years and mostly covering entitled people and just general bad behavior can be incredibly draining!
@@vgmaster-js2zv all of reddit needs to take a break on that 3rd story. The OP got roasted so hard he's got -100 karma despite having 14k up votes on the post he made. I love reddit as a community but when they're wrong they're wrong all the way.
@@Hertacles That's just sad to hear. I hope someone with more (or any) empathy for children, who understands how important comfort items are, messaged OP and told him that the other parents' behaviour is completely off and he wasn't overacting too much. With how those other parents reacted I'm actually worried about how they treat their own children's emotional/mental health. They come across as really harsh to say the least...
Even as an adult, I physically cannot sleep without my current comfort blanket. Please, rSlash, understand that comfort objects can be a matter of a maintaining a good sleep schedule or being seriously sleep-deprived. It's not always a matter of sucking it up. I agree they could have waited until a little later when she wasn't working, but I really do think she blew up over a small inconvenience when it meant the world to the kid.
I don’t have a specific comfort item but I have two comfort “rules” that can make or break my already fragile ability to sleep semi-decently: must have a blanket covering my body(at minimum, just my waist) and a pillow or folded blanket at my side.
if she just texted him back that right then wasn't a good time OP going over there would make OP the asshole. but she ignored him, and thus i honestly think the whole situation had both of them being a bit assholish, but in an justified way. shes working and he has a toddler freaking out. everyone is a bit of a jerk and everyone is justified in being that jerk.
as someone suffering from sleep issues from birth, you can survive without sleep for a day or two. I went without proper sleep for the majority of my life. Americans seem to lack perspective that the majority of this world don't even have the luxury to have comfort toys let alone a safe polace to sleep. It's 1st world problem. I love to see people act like this situation is the end of the world. In the grand scheme of things this situation wasnt even worth a post. I see these ridiculous posts when half of my recommended section is earthquake news from Turkey, children trapped under rubble for 3+ days, having lost not only their comfort toys but their entire homes. Losing a toy is not a tragedy. Like you said yourself, your "current" comfort blanket. Meaning you can get a new one. They shouldve waited and they should never have called and screamed because other people have the right to set boundaries. What happens if they lose the toy next time and it is not retrievable at all? My comfort toys burned down in a house fire when I was 5. If your child can't even handle losing a toy, something is wrong psychologically and a comfort toy/blanket whatever is not a long-term solution. Instead of hoping the entire world accommodates us, we need to work on strategies and solutions to deal with out situation. Why don't the parents have a double of the toy for emergency situations if it's so important is my question.
@@huginug Ah, the classic Suffering Olympics where no one who is even vaguely privileged or “could be worse” aren’t allowed to feel bad about things in their life or seek out some kind of comfort because “I/someone else has it worse”.
@@abiean222 I agree that rslash take was wrong, but even though she didn’t respond to calls, she did tell him to come back later when she opened the door because she was busy and OP kept insisting. That’s where OP got a bit into asshole territory. She might’ve been in a meeting.
I disagree with your rating of OP in story 3. The way the other couple reacted to retrieving a forgotten item is very bizarre. She could have easily texted op and told him she was working and would look for it later instead of just ignoring his calls. The woman was able to send a text no problem telling op how wrong he was, but couldn't send a text tell him she is working and to come by later?? Very weird. The fact that OP text and called multiple times and neither could be bothered to send a text to pick up the item later, is Very bizarre behavior on the couple's part. Not the op for wanting to retrieve his property that was forgotten.
@Sunburst Island The were working FROM HOME. They need to have their phone on because not everything to guaranteed to go through Zoom, Teams, or email.
@@sunburstisland2560 if they had their phones off then there is nothing wrong with op going to their house in the hopes of them being there. But I don't think that's the case because the woman acknowledged that "if they don't answer than it's not a good time", meaning they saw his texts and calls and just ignored him. Instead of just texting him, "it's not a good time", which literally takes 5 secs to text.
Exactly, besides it wasn’t just a stuffed toy, it OPs Property and he had every right to retrieve. If the other parents ignored the texts or had no intention of spending at least a 1min of giving the toy back. That would be theft.
Yikes Rslash, I don’t think that 3rd story was entitled at all, OP asked politely to enter the house for his child’s stuffed animal, it was a quick run in and out. I understand how it feels to sleep without your comfort stuffed animal, I have a comfort blanket that I still have till this day because it makes me feel safe, and I’m a 20 year old woman. You kinda rated them too harshly and you should understand as a father yourself that you’d do anything to make your child not cry and feel safe when going to bed.
The story about the girlfriend needing to learn when to shut up is so true. It sounds like something my parents taught me for so long where you need to always be nice to everyone regardless of how they treat you, and especially if they treat you badly. Except it makes you into a passive doormat that marks you as a punching bag for every bad person in your life and trains you to just deal with abusive partners and friends instead of leaving them to find better. Not to mention that in my book, calling someone slurs opens you up to harsh consequences, including but not limited to: losing a few teeth or getting a bloody eye.
I would highly suggest not starting a fight over what people say no matter what, but that is something to tell an authority figure about. People also tend to not understand forgiveness - forgiveness does not mean that you are letting people not suffer consequences, it’s more of not letting it affect you. If someone is abusive or using you, go ahead and confront them, cut them out of your life, call the cops if needed, etc. But then start the process of moving on and letting go of that pain (which does include forgiving people.) if you really do forgive someone it’s a very freeing feeling because it says “I am finished with these feelings, good and bad”
@@Megamanlanprime That is fair, but there is an appropriate time and place to talk about the concept of forgiveness. The girl said she wants to be a rich president, she’s told she can’t be because she’s a n*****, she has internalized it enough that when interacting with another black kid she told him they can’t be rich. At that time the #1 priority is to help her know that what she was told is wrong, that she can achieve things, that those words were hateful and awful. The girlfriend was clearly not trying to espouse forgiveness for the niece’s sake, she was attempting to defend the boy’s words and actions. The fact she said “statistics back me up” per the OP’s words means she’s actually likely also pretty racist, and or has racist ideas about why wealth inequality exists and hearing this child cry about a obviously racist moment made her very defensive.
Sometimes people don't know how ignorant they are until someone sits them down and explains the differences of privilege to them. Had a black friend do it for me and our relationship has been better for it.
@@mr.dantastic5073 I do also agree that at least it wasn’t the appropriate time to bring it up. There does need to be a discussion about forgiveness with this situation but they aren’t there yet. As to the point that the GF might have some racist views, I can see that point. I just got the feeling from OP that made me feel like he’s against the idea of even saying there needs to be forgiveness… which might be just how I ended up seeing it, although it makes me think or at least wonder if OP believes that forgiving another means letting them off the hook… which that can be part of it but not always and IMO that is only if they are remorseful and even then, it heavily depends on the situation. (This one for example I’d still go and have it reported to an authority, like a teacher or someone to correct the other kid)
@@Megamanlanprime consider this from OP’s perspective: the bully kid’s comment is already affecting one niece and indirectly another relative. The bully’s words are actively scaring and scarring two of his very impressionable young relatives. Then in comes terrible gf to reinforce the bullying-and all of the negative self-worth/esteem that can lead to. He is trying to stamp out trauma that like it’s an out of control wildfire. Forgiveness is a luxury that they can work out *later*. For now, OP has to protect those kids from being scarred for life. Next steps are going to the authorities and ensuring that the bully kid is punished-and learns to never call other kids horrible names. Finally, after that-after wrapping those babies in love, justice, and protection-should OP entertain forgiveness. Calling children racial slurs leaves wounds on their hearts and it’s not right to teach them forgiveness without teaching them how to be whole first. “You cannot pour from an empty cup.”
The sleepy dumbo story was a really odd take on rSlash’s end. Kids forget stuff, man. Hell, I’m 18 now and can remember as late as the time I was like 11 or 12 I would sometimes forget stuff at a friend’s house and need to go grab it. It was never a big deal. It’s just a fact of life that those things happen and the other parents sort of overreacted.
He has been having a tendency to be overly harsh. He even stated it himself. Yea, its a bad time for the other mom, but honestly... the fact that mother couldn't understand the situation is just as bad as OP failing to be responsible about the stuffed animal. Neither are assholes, just a bad situation
Agreed. He gave the same bad guy rating to them as to a the previous story of a dead beat dad, a mother trying to avoid responsibility and a dude who wants the family without the responsibility. Like if these people are bad guys it’s like 0.5. The other mother is acting as if he was laying on the horn honking for 20 mins
You don't know how much it inconvenienced the other couple. They were working from home, not playing around. OP could quite literally be the reason she was fired. To sum it up. It was bad enough that people OP describe as helpful felt the need to stand their ground.
3rd story: NTA Honestly I understand the overwhelming and fearful thoughts when you lose or misplace a comfort item- especially when it's at someone's house and you're a child. Dude tried to be as polite as possibly. I don't think he deserves a butthole score.
What the hell is on with the comments about story 3? If you call me and i don't answer, that means this isn't the time to come to my house. That is a general rule. If it was me i wouldn't even open the door, certainly not for a god damn plushie
@@mohamedbm4293Another general rule is if you take care of someone’s child and that parent calls you after picking up the kid then something was forgotten and you should take 30 seconds to respond
Yeah they are TA, is not like they were missing an Epi pen or something life threatening, they should raise the kid a bit better or have a backup in case this happens.
Story 3: It's obvious that OP genuinely felt bad about having to interrupt these people's day. I don't have kids myself, but even I know how hard it is to calm down an upset toddler. This little boy didn't have his go-to comfort item, and not allowing him to have it when it's that important to him sets him up for anxiety issues later in life. OP did what he had to do, and it was just an unfortunate situation. No, people's lives don't revolve around other people's kids, but this sounds like it was a one-time thing and not a habit. He even took responsibility for not making sure his son had his favorite toy, which is a good thing. OP isn't entitled at all. I'd say NAH, since everyone's reaction is understandable--even OP's wife's reaction. She's going through a tough time so of course she's going to overreact and call people names. Dabney, I've been following your channel since you had 100K subs in 2019. I can count on one hand the number of rSlash videos I haven't seen. Your take on the third story was the farthest off base I've ever heard you. I'm genuinely a little concerned for you. You've been pumping out these rSlash videos and, for a while, videos on your other channel, every day for four years now. You're human. Maybe record some episodes ahead of time to release on a schedule and give yourself like, a week off. I think you need to rest and get a fresh perspective before you internalize too much more of Reddit's negativity and it starts spilling into your personal life. Spend some time with your family, get some fresh air, do something to take care of yourself. Working this much ain't it. Your fans will still be here when you get back. Please don't push yourself so hard. ❤
I'd okay with him not uploading videos for a while. People need rest. And he could be overworked or burnt out by now. He needs to take a rest. That aside. I was concerned he will be a terrible father and a husband if he had that kind of view in the third story
did you miss the part where his wife called and screamed at those people for expressing their boundaries? They are perfectly normal boundaries. You think you're allowed to act like this just because life is tough? that is not an excuse. Work is important and your toddler will not die not having his toy for a few hours. He should've texted his problem and asked for an appropriate time to get the toy back. He's not an asshole but his wife is. He should apologize for his wife at least. The fact that she had such an explosive reaction is an indicator of how she acts at home and why the child needs a comfort toy to begin with. IT's a red flag indicating a toxic environment at home.
I think its more of an indicator that she is stressed out in that moment because, yakno, her dad's in the hospital, her kids crying about a Teddy and now someone she thought was a friend is yelling at her for something she wasn't even a part of. sure the kid won't DIE but he definitely won't sleep and is that not also pretty bad and stressful and just something you want to deal with in the day time when getting sleepy dumbo back is a reasonable request to make of your "friends"
3rd story: I know rslash is stuck between a rock and hard place (has child vs works from home) but when his baby becomes a toddler, he's going to look back and think, wow, I can't believe I thought trying to reason with a distressed toddler was good advise lol
Yeah, it doesn’t sound like this dad was demanding to be let in. He was pleading for it with a crying toddler. Not sure how another parent wouldn’t at least have some passing understanding of that, not to mention of having left something behind that her kid needs. We’ve all been there. And plus this lady had to turn around and lord their favor over them. Super rude.
agreed! he's in for an eye opener if he thinks he can just calmly explain reason to a raging 4 year old...plus those poor people were also dealing with a sick older family member, and rslash called them "terrible people" or something similar.
I have 4 kids, now 3 teenagers and 1 adult (i.e. I got through the toddler years, and at one point I had 3 toddlers at the same time), and I think it was good advice. Not because a distressed toddler is going to see reason (and I don't think rslash expects that to happen), but because giving in to a toddler's demands (for this specific toy, right now), and distressing yourself too only perpetuates the problem. But staying calm and allowing the kid to be upset, explaining to them even though they don't understand/accept it at the time (even if it's just to remind yourself why you're doing it), allows them to ultimately learn that being upset is okay, that it will pass, and learn to self-soothe (without the toy that will not always be there and it won't always be the case that the caregiver can go get it).
Entitled parents for wanting their child's property? Maybe a bit rude if she was in a meeting or something they can't be disturbed but I honestly wouldn't text anyone like that.
I listen on Spotify, i admit i had to come here for this one as it's one of the few i honestly disagree with but being flagged autisic i wanted to see if i was way off. Also as a parent of a special needs kid. (And hell we don't know if it was just a young kid and their fave animal or a special needs kid as they are young but extreme reactions to comfort creatures can be an early indication. I am a special needs mom so i could easily be projecting). Also as a mom i would have made SURE any toys brought over were returned on pickup. Especially since taking care of a little one who is not used to seperation you know that OP would have told the babysitting parent hey this is their special toy if they are really upset use this. So to top this off this being on their kids bed, not like it rolled under something and got lost. I am glad i am not the only one who thought R/ was off this time.
Come on rSlash! You've covered plenty of stories about comfort blankets and objects! You should know how important that sleepy dumbo is to that kid! And that mom, who is also a parent, should too! I also hope that if your daughter adopts a comfort object and forgets it somewhere, you do not have the same apathy as you showed in that story!
Before I read the update I had a suspicion that Sarah knew about the proposal but didn’t want to marry OP and wanted to invite and use her friends as a buffer. That theory was proven wrong
Sure sounds like she was trying to put space between herself and boyfriend, but still wanted a free trip. He escaped a real nightmare when she showed her true colors.
OP definitely needs to make her an EX-GF! This is a huge red flag for this relationship. OP will always be second fiddle to her BFFs. How many other special events, that OP plans for just the two of them, will she insist on bringing her flying monkeys along?
3rd story- As someone with high anxiety and would literally have panic attacks (and people that wanted to steal it from me) Happy the hippo was my world and I couldn't sleep or even go anywhere unless I knew where she was. I still have her to this day even though I'm 23 It's a comfort item. And given the child was freaking out, he seems to have anxiety as well
Story 3: as a person who raised a kid who had a sleep item, Rslash, I really hope you either change your mind or your kiddo doesn't need a specific sleep item. If she does, please have at least 2 backups of that sleep item so you don't make a fool of yourself when your wife gets mad because your kid won't go down for bed because you won't go get the sleep item she snuck to daycare and left there on accident. Kids are stupid. They will sneak it and leave it somewhere. Either be a parent and go get it, have a backup, or deal with hours upon hours of tantrums.
THIS! But I wouldn't call them tantrums. I'm autistic and remember vividly how I felt and everything. I was having meltdowns whenever I couldn't sleep with MY plushie at night. I wasn't trying to upset anyone or anything like that. I was genuinely stressed out of my mind and couldn't regulate my feelings! No arguments or explanations could calm me down back then. At one point my mum just hand-washed it after I had puked on it and let it stay with me in bed on a towel because it was soaking wet, just so I would sleep. Dabney's take on this one shocked me to be honest... maybe because I vividly recall bawling my eyes out, feeling overwhelmed and completely helpless at night without MY plushie... For me it wasn't only a comfort a item - it was a friend with its own feelings in some way... and it still is to this day... Also, pro tip to any parents: Switch your child's comfort item with the replacement ones regularly, so that it has at least a similar smell and doesn't smell new/freshly washed and let it get the same/similar used marks. I had replacements of my plushie but they never were the same for me and I couldn't be fooled and had a hard time to settle down with them at night. Mine had super specific marks from years of usage (loss of fur on the head because I literally chewed on its head and carried it around in my mouth as a baby, plus its nose got scratch marks from that as well) and also a very distinct smell that brought me always comfort (and still does over 25 years later)... then again, it also didn't help that the replacements were 3 blue ones and 2 pink ones while mine was yellow (my parents couldn't find another yellow one for me to have as a replacement but were at least able to keep one of each colour in a bag in the closet to show me later in life how they all looked like brand-new - quite different from how they look now to say the least)...
Honestly I think the friend was pissed off because their kid wanted to keep it for themselves. Its the only thing that makes sense. I mean, sure she was working, but honestly I don't even HAVE kids, but I'd sure as heck get the support item back where it belongs. If I found a left behind item I'd text asap, and it's like, even if I was working I'd say as much in a text, and tell them when I was next on break/out of a meeting. The toy was on their kids bed. The parents would have seen it at some point, they're parents themselves, they know what's up.
Eh find there's a difference between a tantrum and a meltdown. Meltdowns are usually far worse and no amount of ignoring, yelling, distracting etc will work. Each to their own, but tough love isn't always the answer. Friends kid you could reason with, but only in advance. Explain that they will have less of X from two sleeps from now, then remind them one sleep, then gradually do the thing less - like, nightlights etc and it's a good way of telling if something won't work. Some adults need light to sleep etc.
You know, I'm leaning into NAH with the third story. It's perfectly reasonable for the friends to be irritated that OP dropped by halfway unannounced(but is it really unannounced if they were ignoring OP?). But it's also perfectly reasonable for OP to go back to the house to retrieve a lost or forgotten item. It's not like he broke in or demanded or argued or shoved his way through the door. He texted, then called, then drove over and politely asked to check. I'm also curious, if the toy was so obviously placed on the bed, why the friends didn't bother texting OP back about forgetting it. But with that in mind, OP should have done a full inventory check of his childs belongings before leaving. So idk, I feel like the friends have a right to be irritated, but i also don't think it's entitled for OP to go back to get the clearly beloved stuffed toy.
I think the wife was trying to stall to keep the toy for her kid. Her handling was very suss. Why not text as soon as you realized the toy was there? Why not say I'm working at home tomorrow, drop by at X time? Why not respond with an available time when OP tried to reach you by phone? Very shady imo.
I completely agree about the toy being on the bed being weird. Like why would you have to look for the toy as she claimed when it's sat on your child's bed? She has a toddler, they definitely didn't make the bed themselves so she for sure knew the toy was there. Suspicious in my opinion.
NO irritation should be found on the part of the 'friend'. It's very telling that the 'friend' mentioned how "the world doesn't revolve around them", which isn't something you say to a real friend who's going through something tough. You made a great point about how the toy was neatly placed on the bed, so it wouldn't have been hard to do the suggestions made by @fdm2155...
Story 2, OP shouldn’t take regular responsibility for the child because if she were to leave OP after a few years he might be held responsible for financial aid for the child. The fact that he’s helping to care for the child at this point shows he’s a great man.
One of my earliest memories is my grandma stealing my blankie from me as a toddler and telling me I was "too old" for it. My parents immediately got me a new one. Rslash clearly needs to reevaluate his take on the third story once Lily gets older, expecting a small child to handle their emotions like an adult when they're extremely distressed is naive. Yes, there are teachable moments, but there are also traumatic moments like that for such young kids.
Also, people need to learn to respect other people's boundaries. If I'm working I can't get up to answer the door or answer my phone. Period. Even if I'm working from home. I could get reprimanded or fired for ditching out of a meeting (we have to have camera and mic on at all times) to help a kid retrieve his toy.
This wouldn't have been traumatic. It would've been a teachable moment for the kid. By not caving into the toddler's demands, Op would've taught him to pay more attention to his things, as well as patience. The toy wouldn't have been gone, just retrieved later.
@@VirgoLeaf Do you think people can freely choose when they are and aren't busy? That's not how the world works, buddy. OP had no right to insist for something so trivial.
Looking at the comments gave me peace of mind about the Sleepy Dumbo one, cause that one definitely wasn't a big deal like slash made it out to be. At worst the dad was a bit rude, but imagine having to deal with a medical emergency in your family while taking care of a child. As I said, a bit rude to intrude on the other family, but getting the toy was a matter of what? 2 minutes? Imagine being called bad people for that.
3rd story, NTA. you're wrong on this one. just wait until your child leaves one of her absolute favourite toys behind. I guarentee any good parent would go back to get that toy, not "sorry sweetie, you may be a little child, but its time to learn to have extreme separation anxiety" because thats how it would go, Rslash. When i was a kid, I've had my favourite toy taken as punishment, hidden if i forgot it somewhere and not given back for days, and i now have extreme separation anxiety with EVERYTHING i own.
Story 3 is very relatable because when I was a kid I left something really important to me somewhere else by accident. I had left my favorite doll my mom had given me at my daycare and I didn't realize it till I got home. When we got back it was closing time but the lady was nice enough to let us look and we ended up finding it and we were on our way. The thing is here the parent was being very polite in trying to get the stuffed animal back not entitled and even if the parents were that busy the thing missing belongs to a kid, have a heart, by the sound of it this kid seems r e a l l y young, it takes two seconds to locate the stuffed animal bring it to them and then go back to doing your oh so busy task everyone is happy, the kid gets his property back and the other parents can go back to working in peace, your take seemed really heartless here man.
Same here, I had a special night light that I left in Nebraska (gross) on a road trip to Mount Rushmore, but my parents backtracked a lot to procure it for me. The hotel staff was so cool about it, too. I was 8 or 9 at the time. R/slash, get TF over your pasty self if you know what's good for you.🖕
It doesn't really matter how long it took to get the toy. You disrupted somebody else's life for something that could easily be retrieved later. By bending over backwards for a toddler, you enable that behavior. I was on your side at first, but than I thought it out, and checked the original post. Most people are on rslash's side, and they have good points. The other wife could've been in an important meeting, or on a call with a client or something. You can't affect someone's work life for something so trivial. I don't think OP was a bad person, and didn't really seem all that entitled, but it was kind of thoughtless to insist on being let in to look for it.
@@mariposa9506 Read this passage in my previous comment: "The other wife could've been in an important meeting, or on a call with a client or something." You leave during something like that, and the only way it could possibly come off as is unprofessional. That could hurt your career. For a mere toy.
Petition for rSlash to take a break or read positive/funny stories. His take on story 3 is really harsh, and I can’t remember the last time he didn’t recommend divorce/breakup for any relationship issue.
I think this is an overreaction. We all have bad takes every so often, whether we're affected mentally or not. I disagree with his take on that particular story, but he's basically been on the mark for me ever since he addressed it a few weeks ago. As for the divorce/breakup stuff, I think if you feel inclined to post your issue to reddit as opposed to first talking it out with your SO, then that's already a bad sign for the relationship. The percentage of relationships doomed to fail is very, very high. I think many of these reddit posts are basically asking for the excuse to break up and advise for doing so. It's more healthy to end a toxic relationship than it is to try and make it work.
The responses to story 2 and 3 really rubbed me the wrong way. When you're in a relationship with someone especially if they have kids you should want to help out but it's not their responsibility. And this is coming from a mom who is in a relationship with children from a previous marriage. As much as he does accept my kids just like the baby we just had doesn't mean I expect him to be financially responsible for my other children especially when their dad is able to take care of his financial part of their responsibilities. And in story number three it wasn't like he barged into their house. He called and explain the situation. It sounds like to me that you don't know how much missing a nap can affect the sleep pattern especially in infants and toddlers. You also don't know if that child has a disability where they need something that comforts them to help them calm down or to go to sleep in the first place. You need to learn how to assess an entire situation before making assumptions like that
Same. I don't expect my exs partner or my partner to be financially responsible for my kids. If they choose to buy things for them awesome but I'm never going to expect it to happen and I'm not going to ask them to buy anything.
@@carterlybarger7885 You are wrong. OP said they met on Tinder and weren't exclusive at the beginning of their relationship (so at the time of conception), so technically it's not cheating. She wasn't exclusive with two men and ended up getting pregnant from the one who she didn't end up being exclusive and in a relationship with. OP's girlfriend's baby daddy has a fiancé though, who seemingly didn't know about the baby and is reconsidering her relationship. Dabney's take on it still was unreasonable. the relationship is still pretty new and they aren't even close to getting married. OP's girlfriend should have gone after the baby daddy for child support right away. If OP and his girlfriend end up dating for several years and maybe even get married he likely will end up buying that child gifts, maybe pay for hobbies, etc. but child support is literally for covering the basic needs of a child. Depending on the country, a child that gets raised without child support CAN successfully as an adult go after their parent for the child support they were supposed to pay for them! OP did everyone involved a favour, especially that baby because now OP's girlfriend will end up getting the money she needs to cover the basic costs for her child (after already realising that she can't raise it with only her own money) and the baby daddy (who seemingly thought that a couple thousand upfront would be enough "child support" for the next 18 years) can't weasel himself out of his legal responsibilities and just never pay for his child again and OP won't possibly have to pay child support for a child that isn't his if their relationship doesn't work out in the end.
@@Larry_Stylinson I love your responses because I felt the same way. Honestly the fact they met on tinder and weren't all that exclusive made me think that OP was just trying to hold his responsibility for getting the woman pregnant. He never said in the post that he loved her or wanted to spend the rest of his life with her. So I understand that upon realizing the kid isn't his that he no longer has to hold any real responsibility towards the kid unless he chooses to be involved.
On the story with the baby daddy, I 100% get why he made it so she HAD to go after the baby daddy. But once she did get child support, I would then start contributing money into the child too. Sometimes you have to be strict to get people to do what they need to do. I had to be firm once with my partner so that they didn't just take advantage of our relationship and instead did what they needed, and the support came from me after they did. You should ALWAYS get child support for your child. ALWAYS. It will help you and your kid so much, and if the other parent didn't want to have a kid, they needed to use protection. Plain and simple.
I agree here op didn’t have to step up at all but he did so the actual father should at least do something. Op may have been a bit selfish I don’t think 2.5 buttholes selfish
I really look forward to that moment when your daughter forgets her best sleep-buddy. And your wife is distracted over some family issue so the daughter is already upset. The calm, informative talk about what's going to happen. Yes, you go on believe that until it happens.
Right?? A child's world revolves around themselves and no amount of adult talk will calm that child down. Children literally are incapable of reason, seeing into the future, or thinking about other equally as they do themselves, their brains just aren't developed enough. A "reasonable talk" works for a teenager, but definitely not a toddler
@@DawnFire05 the absolute youngest that one could have a reasonable talk with someone is like 8 years old, and even then the kid isn't going to get everything and might walk away with a different lesson then the one you wanted them to have because kid's brains and understanding of the world is very alien to adults. i mean, i remember lots of weird conclusions i came to as a kid and they were reasonable to me back then but as an adult i have no clue how i could think that was what was going on.
The point is not that the calm informative talk will make the kid not upset. Yes the kid would have been upset if they hadn't gone to pick up the toy... but that would have been okay. They would have gotten through it, started to learn to deal with being upset, and saw that the world didn't end. If you try to stop kids from ever being upset, they can't learn how to deal with it. And if they don't learn to deal with it, life after childhood is going to be much harder for them.
Y'all need to parent better. Yes, kids have tantrums. But that still doesn't mean they magically get their way all the time. You can NOT invite yourself in to someone else's home because YOU forgot something. It's completely unreasonable. If your kid is so attached to a certain toy that you can't deal with the consequences of it going missing, get a duplicate toy for "emergencies".
Even as a Dad RSlash has obviously never had to deal with a toddler who either didn't have a nap, or had to try to sleep without his sleepy Dumbo/blankie/ whatever comfort item. We're not talking a little grumpy, we're talking about a full on tantrum and nobody sleeping for at least 2 days. Also, the world doesn't revolve around the other moms work schedule either! Sometimes people are going to knock on the door, especially when you work from home! If your kid left a special toy after a sleep-over, and you saw that the people were home, you'd go over there to get it too, don't even try to say different! It's not entitlement, it's doing your best to take care of your family. Entitlement would have been blowing up the phone, and starting a tirade the moment the mom answered the door, immediately accusing her of stealing the toy, demanding money for a new one.
I agree with Rslash. Op missed a valuable opportunity to teach their kid about responsibility and making do with what you have. Instead, op is teaching their child to not to respect other people’s boundaries. Being a good parent means teaching your child thd hard lessons. Sometimes you don’t always get what you want, and you have to make do with what you have. I am sure the kid had other toys. If the kid never wants to lose that toy again, then he should be more responsible. These are valuable lessons that should be instilled at a young age. Op needs to learn how to be a better parent and respect other people’s boundaries. No means no. Not picking up the phone equates to I am busy atm.
Yeah, what the fuck was wrong with rSlash in that diatribe?? He just went off on the dad for no goddamn reason! The other couple could have at LEAST picked up to figure out what was wrong! Things get forgotten, whoop de do! I thought he was gonna go off on the other wife for being entitled because she goddamn was, like wtf?!
Look I understand how badly kids need their dumb stuffies and the world is ending if they don't have them. But I still think coming to someone's house and insisting on going in when they don't want you to it's just disrespectful. Not enough for them to have the reaction they did, but quiet and undisturbed time to WFH is much more important than a Stuffie. I don't agree with how out there Rslash went. To the point of calling OP an entitled parent. I'm not saying either that the kid should suck it up, it's a kid and it doesn't know any better but what's gonna happen if that Stuffie is lost for good for one reason or another?
@@Neuroguy100 it is important to teach that, but you have to pick your battles, and a 4 year old in an emotional state is not going to calm down enough to hear that. It's obvious to me that you haven't had to deal with a small child in that state either.
Yup. I'm autistic and always had the same plushie since I was a baby. I couldn't sleep without it and had meltdowns whenever I didn't had it with me in bed. My grandfather was literally driving in the middle of the night over to my parents to get it because I wouldn't calm down - and this happened multiple times! NEVER were my parents upset about it and my grandfather was never mad about it either. My mum actually bought a few of the same plushie (In total I had at least 3 blue ones, 2 pink ones and 1 yellow one, plus one of each colour in a bag in a closet to NEVER get touched in order to show me later in life how they used to look like when they were bought - quite differently than they are looking now over 25 years later, let me tell you that), so that I had at least one like it whenever I thew up on my plushie and had to sleep without it. I was NEVER fooled by it and I barely could fall sleep with the replacement ones (and it didn't help that mine was the yellow one and thus we didn't have one in the same colour that I could sleep with, plus mine was constantly losing fur on the head because I used to chew on it and carry it around in my mouth as a baby - it even has a scratched up nose because of that). I wasn't trying to upset anyone or anything like that. I was genuinely stressed out of my mind and couldn't regulate my feelings! No arguments or explanations could calm me down back then. At one point my mum just hand-washed it and let it stay with me in bed on a towel because it was soaking wet, just so I would sleep. Heck, I haven't thrown my plushie out of my bed yet and I likely never will. It's a comfort item, helped me through good and bad times - it's basically a friend. It has been with me on several overnight trips with my kindergarten and schools and my boyfriend always has accepted that it's going to be in my bed and even his bed whenever I sleep at his place and he has no problem with it. He knows I literally can't fall asleep without it. Dabney's take on this one shocked me to be honest... maybe because I vividly recall bawling my eyes out, feeling overwhelmed and completely helpless at night without MY plushie. If I feel anxious or overwhelmed it's still my go to comfort item and decreases my stress level like nothing else in just a few seconds... Plus that poor child is only FOUR years old! I can't even understand how that mother's first instinct wasn't to reassure that crying child and offer to look with them for it and reassure the clearly stressed father about it and understanding the situation. It really makes me wonder how she treats her own child's comfort item or even if she's one of those parents, who insist on their child being "too old" for needing one and just throwing it away or donating it...
I can see where rslash is coming from when it comes to interrupting the other family at their home but op expressed regret and apologised for being a hassle, but calling op and his wife "bad people" about it is such a bad take. Also if the kid's grandfather is unwell op's son is gonna be picking up on that and the absence of a comfort item is really gonna heighten the kid's anxiety. EDIT: wow just checked the original post and a LOT of people are giving YTA verdicts omg
@@jackiescookies598 IMO he should have left the opinion it reflects the reddit hivemind on that story, but, basically he was calling the parents entitled for bothering the woman at work and gave her 2.5/5, which seemed quite extreme for a once off thing.
@@Hads-nz idk no matter how busy you are at work you take the time to respond to someone who is repeatedly trying to get you to answer. It could very well have been an emergency is that how they would have responded if it had been their kids school trying to contact them over an emergency? I definitely agree that the parents weren't asshole. The employer would understand if you took a minute to send a quick "i'm in a meeting will get back to you soon" text... rslash has definitely been kind of unhinged lately he should just take a break he's clearly no longer enjoying doing this type of content anymore.
This is unfortunately a common thing on Reddit, people getting hate for doing anything that’s objectively not wrong. I remember a video by Ghost Gum that showed how a kid got bullied because his mom is a sex worker, and everyone was accusing him of being against sex workers as a whole. I feel like he’s just intentionally picking repetitive and obvious posts for clicks, reminds me of a lyric to this song: “And if you’re talentless, yet still desire to thrive, just read some tweets or Reddit posts to stay alive”
Dabney, on Sleepy Dumbo, you really have been in a bad mood the last few months. I’m glad your daughter is easy, but not everyone is lucky. Not all kids cope the same way or are neurotypical. Same with the guy who didn’t want to financially help his girlfriend’s baby. I hope that whatever is going on in your life gets better soon.
Sleepy Dumbo OP is NTA. I know some people have really strict WFH rules or have neurodivergent tendencies that make it hard to be interrupted, but a little compassion for a stressed toddler and an even more stressed friend seems like a reasonably extenuating circumstance to me. It's honestly a bit of whiplash, for them to be so generous as to watch the kiddo earlier and then be so cold when asked for a comparatively small thing later. My guess is that there's a BIG piece of the puzzle that OP isn't aware of.
In story 3, OP is definitely NOT the AH. That father just wanted to get his child his toy. It's his comfort to, he can't sleep without it. He nicely asked, and was being perfectly reasonable. smh
Rslash: Have you had your Wheaties today? Story 3: Any toddler parent understands the situation of a kid wanting their favorite toy. OP and his wife contacted the friends by text and by phone to advise that Dumbo was missing. The toy was sitting on their kid's bed so it's VERY unlikely that they 'didn't realize' they had it. Any sane parent would have taken the toy from the bedroom to someplace near the door. That way they could have advised OP when to drop by and grab it. The babysitters were being ridiculous. They should have texted OP when they found the toy and made arrangements for him to collect it. The fact that they didn't makes the the 'bad guys'. I doubt the wife was SO busy with work that she couldn't take a few minutes to sort this out.
For the 3rd story, in some areas (idk if all) if someone is in possession of YOUR property (sleepy Dumbo) and you make an attempt to inform them that they are in possession of your property, if they so happen to refuse you being able to reclaim your property, you can file a civil lawsuit against them for stolen property.
@@zekia4275 they considered him asking for like 2 mins to search for a toy him "barging" into their home. Not only that but it was found on the kids bed. Safe to say that since they didn't call and was like "hey you forgot something here" they were planning on keeping it. If it turned out that way he damn well could file a lawsuit.
Not only that but he doesn't specify of the child has special needs, I have 2 younger brothers, both special needs who forget stuff a bunch of times. So the child could have special needs, forgot the toy, realised the toy was missing, and started freaking out.
@@pwnnaze4359 anyone insisting on coming into my home at a time inconvenient to me is Barging. And them wanting to keep the toy is a huge over exaggeration. It literally could have just been unnoticed on the bed. My sister has tons of toys and my mom wouldn’t recognize a new or foreign one if you payed her to. It’s literally a TOY
Story 3: I've had one of those bears that emits womb sounds since before I was born. I'm now 22 and I _still_ have him on my bed (granted, he hasn't had batteries since I was little, so he doesn't make noise anymore). I can sleep fine without him when I have to these days, but when I was younger, _absolutely not._ I remember being around 4 or 5 and screaming for my parents simply because the bear fell off my bed and I couldn't see or reach him, so I get what it's like for a kid to have a specific stuffed animal that they simply _can't_ sleep without. I don't think r/slash's kid is a toddler yet, but hoo boy, he'd better be ready for when she is lol
WTAF?! Who has a problem with giving a child their stuffy back? Seriously. It takes less than the time to hit the head. Just wait until this happens to you. This is why I always had TWO or more comfort things for each of my children. But when there was only one available and it got lost? Hell yes I will turn over heaven and earth to find it. Geez Louise!
Hey RSlash, gonna have to disagree on the third story As someone who grew up with a comfort teddy and literally cannot function sometimes without him because of how he helps calm me during my mental health episodes, comfort objects are a lot more important to some people than you realize My parents would literally go above and beyond when I lost my bear, Teddy, because I physically could not sleep or settle without him He was my protector, my best friend, he kept the monsters away and helped me after I had horrible nightmares He even helps me still today with stress and family issues and grief The parent wasn't even rude about getting Sleepy Dumbo back, they were in and out very quickly just like they said they would be Besides, that's *his* property to begin with and any decent person would take the five seconds to just get the stuffed animal and give it back Hell they could've set Sleepy Dumbo on the front porch if they really didn't want to interact with the parent that badly It's five seconds tops of wasted time, if not seconds The fact you were so hostile over this story too makes me a bit worried about what might happen if your own child forgets or misplaces their comfort object at some point because if that's how you feel about something as common and even helpful as comfort toys or items then I'm more than a bit worried
Agreed! I’m 24 years old and when I moved out at 18 I had my mom triple check that I had my favorite stuffed bear I’d had for 13 years at that point. Thank god I’ve been as careful with that bear as I have been because now it’s my sons bear ❤
Yeah, autistic person here who places a lot of value in comfort items which helps me regulate my emotions and anxiety 👋🏼 I thought they handled it so nicely. Like I understand the inconvenience for the other people, but still, OP was nice about it and was quick, so I dont see the big deal
I agree that his take was off on that one. I baby-sit my 2.5 yo niece and also WFH. If she had forgotten a comfort item I would 100% be okay with taking a little break from work and helping look for it. The mom in that story seemed like she wanted to steal Sleepy Dumbo for her kid or something. Very strange.
I'm 24 and still need my plushies to sleep well. Not always, mind you, but I need them to be at home. if Schnuffel ever got lost i would be devastated. Whne I was little I lost a bunny plushie on the Autobahn and cried for days. Another bunny Plushie I lost was Stupsi. I never saw Stupsi again and was really sad when i couldn't find him. But that just makes me keep Schnuffel even closer. I couldn't bear to lose Schnuffel. I need him! I've had him since I was 3. Rslash was really talking nonsense on that story, especially since the kid was small enough for nap time to be necessary. I hope he doesn't end up as an entitled parent who abuses his kid. I am really worried for his dautghter now.
Story 2: OP is definitely not the bad guy. He understood - and r/sash didn't - that as soon as he paid for the first diaper, she would stop trying to hold the father accountable. It absolutely makes sense that OP would want to make sure the father is doing his part. Plus it had the added benefit of making his GF see what a jerk the father is. No one destroyed the father's life; he apparently cheated on his fiance, got another woman pregnant, and then tried to shirk responsibility. That's just consequences.
yeah He needed to make sure that she sued the dad for child care. Rslash should know how much Money a new born costs. Rslash usually supports bounderies and I was really surprised about his reaction
Exactly this. And maybe after a few years of the real father doing his financial part op could maybe start with birthday presents or something. But from zero to 18 paying for someone else kid is just not reasonable.
Yep. If he helped out at all, she'd make him raise the baby. Best course of action would be for him to break up with her. She basically wants to make him raise another man's baby that she had while cheating on him.
2nd story: NTA at all. If the mother isn’t willing to pursue the father for child payments (as per the initial agreement) then why should OP have any financial commitment. Had the girlfriend been willing to seek child support but the father had been dodging it, then it’d be right for him to contribute.
I understand Rslashs point of being an ESH but his score is an overreaction like he is kinda of a buthole for WANTING to raise the kid but not pay for anything but he is not the bio dad soooo
@@janaejoaodosacramento9731 and we all know if he was in the OP's shoes, he wouldn't pay for a kid that wasn't his - his older takes make that abundantly clear.
RSLASH please take a vacation, for your own sanity! You said it yourself, these stories are really getting to you. People who like you and your content will wait for you to come back. TAKE A BREAK AND BREATHE FOR A LITTLE WHILE. I think you'll feel better for it.
You are reading too much in to his commentary. He doesn't need a break and needs people telling him to take one even less. This is his livelihood. If he wants a break he will take it. But we will get a video a day still because he's not literally doing this non stop daily. He does so many videos and has them in the pipeline ready to publish. I guarantee he takes plenty of breaks as it is. Even with his publishing schedule.
@@porter0311 Everyone needs a vacation. He works hard, he subjects himself to some of the ugliest sides of humanity. The suggestion come from a place of concern and an understanding of how much working around that kind if ugliness makes you hateful and jaded.
@@getcreative4434 Too true we all have our bad days for sure. I commented before I even heard story 3. So that is my fault. If I had I probably would have commented something completely different and more understanding to your original comment. Or I would have just not said anything at all.
@@porter0311 Thank you. I also understand where you're coming from, he shouldn't be dictated to by strangers online. However, when even a fan base can tell that something is wrong, it's not uncommon for people to toss in their two cents. I just hope he doesn't let this bleed into his everyday life. It could ruin a lot of things for him.
Yeah the 3rd story had me going "wtf dude?" When he just WENT OFF on them. A lot of times when watching these thing I'm usually the one being harsher about shit people do, but damn that was waaayyy out of left field even for me.
Ans he had the nerve to say OP in story 3 only held themselves accountable for sympathy from Reddit, when he does the exact same thing in his oh so mature apologies
Oh my god I MASSIVELY disagree on story 3. I have a sheepy that I love dearly which I can't sleep without, and as a kid I was inseparable from him. I'm autistic so it's particularly hard for me to be away from him, but even without being neurodivergent a child being away from their comfort item can literally feel like the end of the world. It's absolutely devastating and terrifying to be a child without your comfort item. I had nap time at my school/church as a kid and forgot my sheepy one day. I would not STOP begging to go get him. I was so distraught it felt like the end of the world. Everything to me was wrong and my night was miserable. My dad tried to convince me to go one night without him but emotionally I just couldn't, that was my sheepy, he was my best friend and greatest comfort in the world. He drove me to the church in the middle of the night and my nanny who lived at the church woke up for us and she opened the church up for me because she was so kind and caring towards children. She completely understood that I couldn't be without my sheepy and my dad and my nanny did everything they could to reunite me with him because I was a YOUNG KID. The father showing up to their house just to ask to pick up something he forgot is seriously NO PROBLEM at all. What if he forgot his wallet there? Would your option change, Dabney? Or is he being an entitled person for going over just to PICK UP an important item he left? You've had some hot takes but this one just disgusts me, esp knowing you have a child. All it takes is a "hello I forgot one of my belongings here" "oh yeah come in and take a look" it seriously sacrifices maybe ONE MINUTE of your free time to help a father and child in need. Seriously bad take here.
OMG I'm the same way! I'm also autistic and still have to have my Cowwy to sleep, even at 23 years old. I completely agree with you on story 3, just because it's "just a toy" to neurotypical adults doesn't mean that toy isn't important to someone's mental wellbeing! (I also had a similar incident of leaving my plushie at school when I was 6...yeah, my parents had one hellish night trying to get me to go to sleep, lol)
@@kineticaesthetic6465 I’m also autistic and my comfort toy is a BATIM plush that I’ve had since I was 7, the main reason I never take him to school is because I can’t imagine him being destroyed.
I disagree with you. Someone's work life is far more important than a child's special item, no matter how you look at it. This could've been a great teachable moment that not having things your way really ISN'T the end of the world, even if it might feel that way. One day without it would not have traumatized the child. You can't barge in on somebody's career for that, even if it took a minute or two. And if it was so important, it's OP's fault for not keeping track of it for the kid. That's on him 100%. He's not a bad person, but it was a selfish move.
@Angel Renteria The story was about a father and his son. He'd been having another couple babysit his son, and one night he realized that they'd forgotten their son's toy he needs to sleep with at their house. He was texting and calling and getting no reply so he drove over and knocked on the door. The wife grumpily let him in and come in to look for the toy, they quickly found it on the bed. The couple then started to berate the father for interrupting their work at home and saying the world doesn't revolve around his son. Dabney basically called the father entitled beyond hell, saying that he's the rude one for bothering the couple "about just a toy", that the father should have had a civilized discussion with his toddler, and if I recall scored the father 4/5 assholes. Frankly Dabney deserves that scoring for the ruling on that post. He was saying how entitled the father was and that he deserved to go onto r/entitledparents
RSlash if your daughter ever grows up to rely on a comfort object for her anxiety and has a panic attack if she loses said object then I really hope you don’t have the same viewpoint dealing with her at that moment as you did reading that 3rd story. Yikes.
I don’t understand why he and those other parents were making a big deal over a kid wanting their stuffy back like it took them a few minutes to get Dumbo back. Then they had the nerve to text to both OP and his wife a really rude message. (I don’t blame OP’s wife for being angry.)
Yeah. Rslash is like, just solve it by talking rationally to your child, like that's going to work on a 4 year old. I think this was a no one sucks here situation, cause the other mom has the right to expect her work to not be interrupted, but the father needed to get that comfort object back. Maybe he's deserves a butthole score for forgetting it in the first place, but like, mistakes happen.
@Sailor Star so the friends mom should just drop whatever she's doing in that moment do get a stuffy? Did you miss the part where he barged into that woman's house when she said now is not a good time? I don't think it's gonna be a problem in the future because they will never baby sit for op again.
Geez, did the family in the 3rd story do something to rslash personally? The knee-jerk reaction to drive to a friend's house to get the plushie was understandable; if your SO is having a hard time, maybe its not the time to make a mistake into a teachable moment for your four year old? And while the dad coming in to grab the plushie was maybe annoying, I don't see how it was the massive inconvenience the subsequent text stated it was. Like, geez, rslash. That interpretation of the final paragraph was the least generous one you could have made, and kind of the reason I don't post on AITA. People decide to take a single event and make sweeping condemnations about you as a person, saying your a bad person.
Rslash takes can be wild sometimes, probably read way too many entitled parents stories, but when his daughter does reach the age of kicking and screaming if doesn't have her favorite toy, i can see him a full 180, when he had just married, he was so bad at takes of between boyfriends and girlfriends, siding with the girls even when they were very in the wrong
Like telling OP in story 2 that they should also fit the bill for a child that isn't even theirs even though he's never held that same energy for anyone else. Or the times he victim blames and shames because he himself would handle things differently. Rslash is becoming the very person he always judges.
Story 3: The toy was on the bed, in the open. The other 4 year old didn't put it there. The parents must have. They knew they had it all day and didn't message op saying 'hey your kid left their toy'. If they were really that busy they could have added that op could collect it tomorrow or they'd bring it to school or something. My bet is they were hoping to keep it.
I rarely comment on these videos, but RSlash's reaction to story 3 rubbed me VERY wrong. As a kid, I panicked about my comfort items disappearing. Literal panic attack. I still do to this day, but know I have other things I need to do and push through it cause I'm am adult. The one who is panicking is a child. Sleepy Dumbo is that child's WORLD. Humans are creatures of habit. That child wouldn't have been able to sleep at all until their plush was back. I know I wasn't able to sleep well at hotels without my stuffies (I didn't bring them to avoid this situation exactly). My parents would go above and beyond for me to look for my plushies and if we needed to stop, because we did, I would be inconsolable because again, that plushie is that child's world. And a child's world is very small. Ntm, they took the time to text OP a giant message and not one that said "Busy with work atm. Not a good time." Like....one takes a LOT less time to do.
Hard disagree on the third story. I remember when I was young I had this teddy bear. I remember forgetting it once at my aunt's place. We couldn't pick it up cause she lived too far away. But I was inconsolable I couldn't sleep at all. I understand that as a parent you would want to try and pick the stuffed toy up. It's not something that took hours. They walked to the place where the toy probably was, they got the toy, and left. And honestly I'm surprised the other parents were so angry about it.
It's hardly pestering if they did it once and never again. Also a quick text or phone call is barely an inconvenience, whole process, minus drive time, wouldbtake less than 5 minutes.
I disagree with you. If I’m working on an important work thing, and someone ignored my signs to not be disturbed (not answering phone) and just showed up at my house to demand to be let in, I will be pissed too. A toddler should learn that there are consequences to his actions (leaving toys behind) and learn that throwing a tantrum will NOT get him what he wants. OP could’ve just easily waited until the next day or whenever the friend responded to get the toy. What he did felt extremely intrusive, and if I was the friend, I would not offer to babysit again.
@@MrDoverfield I agree. Why do people act like having a toddler gives you the pass to do whatever you want to do to appease said toddler? People are NOT entitled to entering my house whenever they want just because they want to.
glad i’m not the only one that was taken aback by story 3. he literally asked if he could go in, and they said YES?? how is that rude? it doesn’t bother work that much to slightly open a door. also, you rated a man who got a stuffed animal for his kid and a cheater the same…
holy crap your take on that 3rd story is so far out there. calling a stressed parent entitled because they want their kids super special toy that could reasonably be a 30 second interruption is so ridiculous. ALSO if it’s his actual comfort item, missing it is not something that you can explain to a kid, he was probably in hysterics. From personal experience with kiddos they can’t be reasoned with when they want a comfort item but can’t find it.
Why do parents believe that they’re entitled to anything just because they have a screaming toddler? I dont care if his kid is in hysterics. It’s better he learns that throwing a tantrum will not get him his ways. It’s not a 30second interruption if they have to open the door, talk to the dad, then let him in and lock after them. But even if it’s actually 30seconds, if I’m doing some really important work to the point that I’m not answering my phone. I expect to not be disturbed in my own home for some toddler. This is such an entitled take.
10:42 I completely disagree with you. Yeah, OP was in the wrong, but so was the other couple. They could have texted OP and said “sorry, this is a bad time” or something akin to that. Not to mention that the response that you and the couple gave to OP were so wildy out of proportion to what actually happened
In story 2, you basically shamed this man for doing what you tell other men to do. "It'S nOt yOuR rEsPoNsIbIlItY", followed up with "you're heartless for not taking care of someone else's baby."
*Exactly, there's a big difference between being a step parent for a kid that's not yours vs financially supporting a kid that isn't yours. The baby isn't OP's responsibility, so the fact he even helps at all is a big thing. It's the GF's and the "Friend's" responsibility, he knocked her up and gave her a child. It's his responsibility to financially support the kid, if he's not gonna be in the child's life and it's her responsibility to go after the baby daddy for child support if he's not doing that. Friendship be damned, all that matters is the kid's needs being taken care of. Idk how Rslash came to ETA rating when the only assholes are the irresponsible parents.I like Rslash, but some of the conclusions he comes to baffles my mind. Also side tangent, but this is a prime reason why I wouldn't want to be with someone with a kid, just too much drama.*
@@VergilLover69 Plus acting as even a stepparent, let alone helping out even a little financially, is sufficient for some courts to make YOU pay child support (potentially for life if the kid gets disabled) even if it’s not biologically his. By ‘stepping up’ he’d be accepting hundreds of thousands of dollars of financial liability to help propagate genes that aren’t even his. Yeah screw that.
Especially since the bio dad has the means to pay child support! If he would have paid up, his gf would have never gone after bio dad for child support.
Story 3 is one that I have to highly disagree with, from the stories that my mother has told me my attachment was with a stuffed animal called Blue Dog we went to the beach when I was younger and I forgot him and I didn't realize until it was too late and I left him at the beach house. It was very stressful and I couldn't really sleep during that time until the people who found him eventually sent him back, I was only about 7 or 8 at the time and considering I was stressed over him I wonder what a four-year-old must think. And considering he eventually found sleepy Dumbo within a few minutes I don't think it's that much of a pain to do. If it was so much of a pain why couldn't the parents of the other child send sleepy Dumbo back? All it takes was a drive and a few steps to the front porch of their house to give back something that is extremely valuable to a 4-year-old. This isn't so much about the story as it is about these types of videos but rslash are you doing okay? A lot of people are wondering why you've become more and more bitter as time goes on with these types of videos you said a few videos back that you wanted to take a break and I think it's a good time to do so. These videos are becoming more and more better and hateful to the Op when some of them didn't deserve the sarcasm or the shitty butthole score that you suggest. Especially when it comes to the story I just wonder when your kid turns forward and they begin to attach themselves to Sentimental objects, I wonder what would happen if something ever happened to those sentimental objects like a stuffed animal or something like that.
I remember when I was little, I had a stuffed animal I called 'Cousin Birdie,' and he came *everywhere* with me. Even to the hospital when I was four and a half. But I was also really clumsy with him and he went through a lot. The only ones I remember were dropping him in a mud puddle and throwing up on him, but there were a lot more. Anyway, obviously, my parents would have to clean him up, wash him, whatever, during those times, and I couldn't have him with me while he was soaking wet or drying off. So they got me a similar stuffed animal that I called 'Birdie's Cousin' and I would carry him around when the original had some kind of crisis. So the OP and his wife may want to think about doing something like that. However, yeah, they're definitely not the Aholes. Especially if the "friends" are parents themselves, I can't believe the mother's reaction when she opened the door wasn't, "Okay, take a few minutes to look around, but be quiet. I'm working, otherwise I'd give you a hand. If/when you find him, just see yourselves out, and I'll talk to you later."
Fr dude apologized cause the thought he was harsh on story 2 when I felt like it was a fair assessment. Then pulled this stuff out next story. I was like how is this guy being an asshole by inconveniencing someone whose supposed to be his friend for 5-10 minutes.
Seriously. I hope this is just Rslash being tired and frustrated and not genuinely how he feels. He's talked about how he's getting burned out and tired and that he feels it's making his verdicts harsher than usual because he's getting jaded. A break isn't really possible because TH-cam is his main source of income and the algorithm will screw him over if he does, but I do think he needs to figure something out to rest.
That behavior is not healthy ...only being able to sleep if you have a stuffed animal? Never heard of it, must be an "american kid thing", also freaking out because of a plushie...
They are working. Did you not hear the story? They’re busy working - something adults have to do. If it’s been a few days and they still didn’t return Dumbo that’s a different story. But to immediately just because a toddler is having a tantrum to intrude on somebody’s important work time is extremely entitled. How about the dad teach the kid that they will be able to get it back, but just have to wait and be patient?
3rd story: nta. Kids and parents forget toys. It happens. I don't think rslash has had this happen yet with his baby but trust me when kids forget toys especially ones they sleep with its a big deal. Parents are usually understanding when kids leave stuff behind. Idk why the 2nd set of parents were being sooo rude. OP didn't ask them to look and immediately found sleepy Dumbo and left. The 2nd set of parents are AH for sure.
plus OP called in advance and got no answer. the other parents also didn't call OP and his wife about the toy. it seems obvious the other parents wanted to keep the toy to themselves.
@Giordan Diodato that's what I'm thinking. My son had a patriots blanket with "tickies" (like those tie blankets with the fringe) and that was my sons comfort item for a long time. He would wrap the tassle around his finger and put it by his nose. When Harvey hit us in 2017 he was devastated we lost it. He had that blanket since he was born. I finally was able to find another one and replace it. My son also stole my valentine avocado blanket a few years back and sleeps with it to this day. Kids have comfort items and it hurts them emotionally when it's gone. The other parents either didn't care that their kiddo lost a comfort item or wanted to give their kid the toy. Either way I agree with OP that I would call and proceed over there to ask for the item back. It's not normal for a parent to answer the door and not care that their kid lost a comfort item. Either way it's a big red flag. Especially the text blowing it out of proportion. I'd personally text OP and say "hey when we don't answer its not a good time to come over. Please just text me or whatever and I'll find the toy"
If your kid ever gets attached to a particular toy, buy 10 of those bad boys. The stress of losing it is too much especially if it's the only toy they like and rely on
Story 3: rSlash, what the hell? You eviscerated a parent for looking out for their kid. You're acting like OP broke into their home to get Dumbo back. I've had plenty of experiences in which 4-year-olds lose something before bed/naptime and they are inconsolable until the item is found. And the fact that Dumbo was on the friend's bed and not in another room, like the kitchen or by the door, leads me to believe that the parents were intentionally trying to keep Dumbo for their kid.
R slash is really hitting the bad takes for story 3. You have a daughter, and while iirc she isn't a full blown toddler yet, you know how hard it is to get kids to sleep. Now imagine your kid has a comfort, and they won't eat or sleep without it. You DON'T want to lose that. The kid will sob and scream and starve themselves and be in that constant state of anger/tantrum. Now you DEFINITELY don't want to lose it. On top of that, it really doesn't take much to let someone inside for 5 minutes to look for that comfort, and you can get back to what you were doing without even looking
@@KomaedasOneTrueHope maybe I'm just time blind lmao. When they can walk and talk at 3/4 is generally when I refer to them as full blown toddlers. 5-12 is a kid, etc
@@thomasj3701So's not having anyone to watch your kid but OPs buddy still watched them. Not allowing someone to take their own possessions they left behind is theft also 😂
I agree, imo Rslash was wrong here, it takes like a few minutes to get the toy and is barely an inconvenience. They even found it on the bed so they knew they forgot it. A simple text or quick phone call would be easy.
In the sleepy dumbo who else gets the vibe that the toy was on the sons bed for a reason and the parents were really mad that they tried to pull a fast one and failed
RSlash, I listen to your videos every single day on the way to work. I love the content. However, I feel as if your commentary is changing in a negative way like you said a little while ago. I’m just saying I wouldn’t be mad if you took a break for your own mental. I’ll keep listening the second you come back.😊
I was thinking the same thing. Like giving the dad of an upset 4 year old an asshole score for going and asking for the kids comfort item back. He's a dad, this one should have been a no brainer but he went full Karen mode instead.
I definitely agree with you. I think he's getting too overwhelmed with this stuff and needs to take a breather. He's gotten a lot less light-hearted and more aggressive with his reactions. And I think that may be due to him constantly uploading.
While i dont agree with the statement, remeber that it was from a kid. The words said was most likely not his words, but the words od the kids parents. My gullible self wants to believe that his girlfriend wanted the poor girl to show kindness to the kid who said it, so he can learn that what he learned from home isnt true.
Highly disagree with story 3 Sleepy dumbo is literally his kids toy and he needs it to even sleep. Clearly the kid has a attachment to sleepy dumbo. It's also likely the other couple wanted to keep it for the friend.
Yeah, if someone’s looking after a child, surely it wouldn’t be that bad if they come back and say ‘hey, forgot something could I just quickly get it then leave’ but idk..
RSlash: apologizes, says he’ll read more positive subreddits and his takes won’t be as harsh Also RSlash: doubles down, continues reading the same subreddits, has even stupider takes
I hate to agree because I love his videos but that was one of the worst takes I have ever seen on a story. I thought at first he was gonna call the other family entitled if anything
Rslash, dude, please, we are *begging you*. Take a break, or at least take a break from family related posts. We will still be here! 🥺 you gotta reground, dude
I think Rslash is gonna be in for a rude awakening when his kid forgets a valued objects somewhere and traumatizes her because he's too lazy to get if for her. Sure it's rude to wander into someones house unannounced but OP didn't waltz in like he owned the place and he didn't tell the other parent to get the toy for him. He got it himself, if the other parent didn't want to be bothered they could have answered one text or call to resolve the issue before even having to meet in person.
I think you're right. Because his kid is so young, he might not realise how emotional and In The Moment kids can be. If a kid feels distressed it feels all consuming because they have no other feelings to compare it to and go "oh compared to xyz this isn't that bad." If they feel panic at a lost beloved object, they think they're going to feel this way forever. The kid was already worried that something had happened to the toy, and in his mind the toy was Gone Forever until he saw proof that it hadn't been thrown out or something. Plus possessions are so valuable to kids because they don't have the money or means to just go out and buy another one the way an adult can if you lose a favourite pen or something. As adults, our most treasured possessions are the ones that are hard to replace, say if its expensive or hard to get, and for helpless kids that's pretty much everything they own because they depend on their parents for everything. I think you're right about the trauma, too. I've met grown adults who are still traumatised about stuff that happened like this as a kid, even if their adult mind knows in hindsight its not a big deal, because they deeply remember how distressing it was at the time. Plus kids take things even more personally than adults do, so in a kid's mind it can VERY quickly become "daddy doesn't care about me."
While I understand wanting to get the toy back, he had no right to come during work hours unannounced and should've respected being denied entry. He should've asked when he can come back to get the toy. Why does someone have to respond to you during work hours? It's not an emergency. He should've never allowed his wife to call, yell and insult those people when they respectfully set boundaries. You act like a toddler not having his comfort toy for one day is the end of the world and dare to call it traumatising? Traumatising is for a 4 year old toddler to lie burried in earthquake rubble for 78 hours, traumatising is seeing your house being washed away in a flood, burnt down in a fire (happened to me when I was 5 and lost ALL my toys, my bed, everything), traumatising is being emotionally neglected by parents, physical abuse. Traumatising is growing up in poverty where your parents can;t afford food let alone toys. Traumatising is growing up with diseases and disabilities in your family. Losing a toy is not traumatising. Your misuse of psychological terms is extremely damaging. You turn medical words into buzzwords and apply them where they don't apply. Get a reality check. If the child feels so unsafe without a toy it means there are bigger problems going on and the wife's immediate reaction to scream and insult people who have the right to be upset gives me an idea what home life looks for that child and why he feels so unsafe.
@Ug N uhmm I can tell you for certain that little things like that can traumatise a child. My 4 year old brother got traumatised seeing a flower he didn't like. To this day he can't be around that flower ot anything that looks like it. Trust me little things like that affect children, they're children. Trying to reason with a screaming toddler is absolute hell. Op called and messaged before going to their house. And asked politely if he could retrieve the missing toy. He felt really bad for interrupting and apologised. I don't see the problem with what he's doing and it didn't take that long. If thinking that way makes me entitled then so be it cause if you left your house keys or wallet you'd do the same. Just because it's a child doesn't mean it doesn't matter, everything matters to the right person. I'm just saying
Story 1 updated effectively after some thought he moved out before she came back. They had a conversation Where he admitted he wanted to propose to her on the vacation, But after inviting her friends for the unteen time after repeatedly telling him She won't do that anymore he realized she never was going to change so instead of a proposal he broke up with her. She wined and cried saying that she was going to change and not to throw away everything they had butt he pretty much said you've proven that I'm not as important as your friends in your life so I'm want to find someone who puts me 1st. The girlfriend only realized how badly she messed up when she realized what OP planned on doing I have no sympathy for her
Story 3: Gonna have to disagree with RSlash about the dad getting the plushie for his child. One this toy is the kid's comfort toy, and those are pretty big deal if the kid literally can't sleep without it. Kids need sleep, naps, and having a tired and panicking child is not good for anyone's health. Even more so for the growing child. Two, Op sent phone calls and texts to the friend and she's working from home. Ya know without a doubt that her phone is right there on her desk and she defiantly saw the texts, cause she knew who was at the door. Op didn't barge into the house, he asked his friend to get the toy first and she kept saying 'I'm at work' and then just let Op in after he begged. Sorry but if the lady had time to open the door, talk to Op, and stand by the door while Op quickly grabbed the toy and left, then that meant she had the time to just grab the toy herself without even letting OP in the house. Hell when she saw the texts she could have grabbed the toy, and then tossed it to Op once he knocked on the door. Save her a butt load of time. I understand that the friend was frustrated, but her text was too harsh. Next time I would have just told them to Make sure to take all of the toys they brought with their kid next time. If she was in a meeting or calls, then tell them that! Don't just say 'I'm working' that doesn't ding to people most of the time that you might be on phone with important people or clients. I work from home and 90% of the time I am just typing out code so O have time to answer the door or go to the kitchen to fix my pets some food. If she was in a meeting then I would get it then, but she didn't even act like she was in a rush. Just pissed. No one is the A-Hole. Op should have made sure he had his child's comfort toy but people make mistakes, even more so if they are a tired just got out of work parent to a toddler.
"Ya know without a doubt that her phone is right there on her desk and she defiantly saw the texts" How do you know she saw them in defiance? How would that even be possible, unless she was forbidden from reading the texts and read them out of defiance?
Second story, no you're definitely not the bad guy. You didn't impregnate her, it's not your responsibility. If they were both so worried about the after math of what was going to happen, then they shouldn't have slept together, plain and simple. Rslash, he's just the BF! Not the father, or her husband. If they were married, I could see the bad guy rating. But they are literally just dating
i'd still say maybe 1/5 because it seems like he's not fully committed, but then again it's not his kid, not his problem. idk this story is kind of all over the place and we might be missing something in it.
But i have to say that OP is weird for not leaving that relationship entirely. He can. He totally can. Some would say "Well he cares for the kid even though said kid isn't his" - doesn't look like that considering the fact that he does bare minimum AT BEST. This is really damn weird.
The whole situation is hella complicated honestly. Since children are a lifelong commitment, expensive, and you have to basically change your entire life for them.
Love you r/! You're literally apart of my daily life but you gotta take a break every once and while. Take a bit to go relax and spend time with your family
RSlash, we love you, your family and your stories, please take a brake and rest. The second and third story sent you waaaaaaaaaaaay above and away. Please take a break.
You are reading too much in to his commentary. He doesn't need a break and needs people telling him to take one even less. This is his livelihood. If he wants a break he will take it. But we will get a video a day still because he's not literally doing this non stop daily. He does so many videos and has them in the pipeline ready to publish. I guarantee he takes plenty of breaks as it is. Even with his publishing schedule.
I haven't watched rSlash's videos in a few months and now, I come back to this hateful commentary. It's a big difference and I'm questioning if *I should stay on the channel. 😕
The sleepy dumbo story reminds me of a time when I left my stuffed bunny at my daycare (my mom’s coworker). She was sweet enough to bring my bunny back because she knew how attached I was. I was also 6/7 at the time. So I get it when a parent is desperate to get their child’s favorite toy or something they need to sleep. I get that it was rude to just go over to the house but a night without your favorite stuffed animal you are completely attached to is really hard. Sure it would have just been for a nap, but the child is 4 and bound to forget things. And the dad didn’t really barge into the house, it didn’t sound like he really bothered her either. He just asked to look for sleepy dumbo. I wonder how rSlash is gonna handle it when his daughter is this age and loses things or leaves something she’s attached to behind at a sleepover.
For story 3 from the kid's reaction and behavior, it sounds like OP's kid could have some form of separation anxiety or other attachment needs that stuffed toys very often fill. It's hard for an adult to understand, but a lot of times something like a toy could register in a child's mind as being a part of themselves, and no amount of reassurance or reasoning will help, especially if the child has any special needs (which is possible but OP didn't state). Also, if Grandpa is recovering from a surgery, it sounds like Mom's already going through a lot of stress for her family, so an inconsolable child is especially urgent. OP called and texted but didn't get any response, so while going straight to a friend's house may have been an intrusion, it really doesn't sound like an entitled parent, just a parent caught in a bad spot and trying to do right by his kid. If anything, if these 'friends' really did care enough to babysit in the first place why are they getting so uppity? If they're busy, the thing to do isn't to just ignore calls and texts, it's to return those calls and texts or set up a dang answering machine.
*edit* I literally was just saying he needs a day off cause he works to hard, I didn't even mention the 3rd story, yall are wack. Hey @rslash, I hope you are doing okay man. I know being a youtuber and pumping out daily content like this is insane work, please take some time to yourself and your family. Even just a few days off work wonders bro, spend some quality time with the kid, wife and doggo. Much love from a fellow father
You are reading too much in to his commentary. He doesn't need a break and needs people telling him to take one even less. This is his livelihood. If he wants a break he will take it. But we will get a video a day still because he's not literally doing this non stop daily. He does so many videos and has them in the pipeline ready to publish. I guarantee he takes plenty of breaks as it is. Even with his publishing schedule.
It's really not, dude reads other people's stories for a few hours on a weekend, has his editor put em together and that's like 2 weeks worth of videos. Not insane workload by any measure
@Porter Johnson you gonna comment on every comment saying he should take a break, maybe it should be more concerning what multiple people are saying. His take on this video just ain't it and people are saying to take a break for a reason.
@@loveless47 Not every. Just a few. Im sure if he needs a break he will take one. It won't affect his release schedule. He has MANY videos ready to go for just such occasions. Just like when he moved. No one even noticed that he actually wasn't making videos for 2 weeks straight. Because he had plenty set to auto-publish during that time. With that said, I had not even heard his comment on story #3 before i made my comment. So that's my fault for not knowing what he said before making my comment. Not all of his commentary is going to be spot on and that one certainly was NOT. But now that I have heard it, I still stick by what I said. He doesn't need people telling him what he needs to do. Its none of any of our business. He could be vacationing now and we wouldn't know it.
@Porter Johnson then his subscriptions will drop, its not just one or two people saying they didn't like what was said. It's multiple, no one is gonna wanna continue to watch someone who gets aggressive in response after reading a post. So yea it might be up to him but he should also listen and hear out what his viewers say and how is he going to do that if people don't speak up, take an l.
sleep dumbo story: rslash, it took me a minute to realize you were NOT joking. idk man, it’s a kid. i was devastated when i lost things as a child. as for the father, i think he handled that fine. could he have come back a different time? sure, but he didn’t “barge in”….he got permission! if the wife really wanted to, she could have said to come back later and closed the door. but she let him in. idk, rslash you’ve really surprised me this time
Kinda shocked with your reaction to the 3rd story. I think OP handled the situation well enough and was just trying to take care of their child. I've been very attached to items I can't function without and losing them throws a wrench in the cogs of my brain. Usually your rating are kinda fair but.. that one took me off guard.
rSlash please read these comments begging you to take a break, and take one. Story 3 has to be one of your most off-base takes yet, and it's clear that the sheer volume of videos you've been making are taking a toll. It'll be alright if you take a few weeks off to spend time with your family and recuperate.
I both agree and disagree at the same time. he's basically committing to being the kids' dad. if op and the gf stay together, that kid is gonna start wondering why Daddy never gets them icecreme or gets them birthday presents. i feel like there's a line, and if the kid was potentially going to literally starve from being out of formula, then i feel like op has some sort of obligation there. just seems really heartless, especially since he claims to love the child.
@@hansolconaway9113 yeah but at the same time their is a boundary he has to make and giving a child ice cream is different then constantly buying diapers
@@hansolconaway9113 Not OP's obligation. If the child is starving that's the mom and her baby daddy's obligation. If the child's father won't pay then it's the mother's duty to obtain payment via child support. Making another man pay for a kid that isn't his just so the actual father doesn't face consequences is twisted and f-ed up.
@@mahra_jabokwoam as I said in another comment thread, he needs to stop doing both AITA and Entitled Parents for a long while and do other subs like AskReddit or MBW.
I've noticed that RSlash's stories lately don't include updates. I've heard the first story with an update about a week or so ago. I assume that RSlash makes episodes in advance in order to post daily. Which is totally okay! It's great that I get an episode every single day and I enjoy listening. I just hope he eventually follows up with story updates in the future.
When I heard Rslash take on the 3rd story, I was shocked by his rating. Op is NOT the ahole. The couple watching his kid were! He texted, he called, and then he came over. If they didn't want him to come over right away, at the very least, text him saying you're busy. But nope! They left him hanging. I would have done the same exact thing. And if I had gotten the same rude text, then yes, I'd then turn into the ahole. I'd tell them to f off and stop being friends with them, when they never even texted me back! Also, I'm not big into stuffed animals. Never have been. Except for one. A little gray bunny that I've had for longer than I can remember. If I lost that, I'd have a full on panic attack, tearing the house apart for it! I think it's been over 17 years since I got it
Agree. Rslash got this one wrong. The other family could have answered a call and express that it’s not a good time. Was OP supposed to be a mind reader?
Hence why it was on their child’s bed and not on the sofa. They could’ve texted OP and wife to say they had sleepy Dumbo but they would need to pick it up after work hours. If OP didn’t oblige then he would be wrong
Okay so I was not the only one who thought that as well because dumb I was on the bed and I know every parent knows what belongs to their kids for it just to be sitting there on the bed they were going to try and keep it
Deadass from my retrospective as an adult thinking look back. There really were some shitty parents or adults who were just infact awful towards kids. The fact Sleepy Dumbo was just sitting their looking pretty on the bed is hella sus
While I don't know if they were trying to steal it, I definitely don't think OP is in the wrong for trying to get something to help his kid when he's already going through a rough time. The most inconvenience he caused the other family was 5-10 minutes worth. I would only call his behavior entitled if he had called over and over or knocked incessantly. From the post it just seems he tried both two or three times.
Story 2: OP isn't the bad guy. He's literally raising someone else's kid. Please tell me out of 100 men, how many would stick around to do that, even if they didn't have to pay for it. I guarantee you'd struggle to find more than 3 so OP is already doing WAY more than what's required of him at this point. Yes, he could just fork out some money, but he's not responsible for picking up the slack of his gf and the father who are both, clearly horrible at making long term life choices
Everyone is saying I need a break. I am taking one! I am going on vacation for a week with my family to see the Grand Canyon.
My stories are all recorded way in advance so I will have episodes schedules to publish while I'm away. Hopefully when I get back I will be more recharged and I'll be back to my old self.
Get some rest man, you earned it.
Well deserved. Have fun and recharge your batteries as much as you need
That's awesome rSlash!! Have a great time, make some memories, and we'll be here when you get back!!
And FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, don't leave anything of Lily's behind! 😜
Please consider cooling it with how judgmental you get when you come back. You are too eager to effectively call someone a bad person over really trivial and petty one time situations. I was shocked by your assessment of story three. It was even worse than the time you said someone's girlfriend should dump him because he wanted her to make him breakfast.
RSlash: Man, I might get dragged for my judgement of Story 2.
Story 3: Allow me to introduce myself.
That's exactly how I think it went.
I think he dropped the ball (or Sleepy Dumbo) on both 2 and 3.
I find it hilarious that Rslash thought we'd disagree with him on the second story, yet everyone is like, "Omg Rslash I can't believe your opinion on story three!"
I can't even remember what the second story was after the third one lol
i disagree with the second cus it's not his obligation to pay for the child, i came here looking for opinions on story 2. buuuut i haven't read story 3 yetlol
if I was op in the second story I would say that he wouldn’t pay untill they got child support. There is no reason the bio dad shouldn’t pay if he can afford it.
For story 3, OP literally just followed social convention of retrieving a lost item. He called and texted, no answer. He goes to the door and asked to get the property he lost. They could have texted back and said that it wasn’t a good time but they didn’t. Plus, as a kid who had an stuffed animal I was completely attached to, had I thought I couldn’t get it back, even for a day, I would have absolutely lost it. In fact I did more than once. Nothing anyone said would have calmed me down. AND with OP and his wife going through a hard time right now it is much easier to get a toy back to calm the kid down than it is to try and coach them through it while they are already emotional. I completely disagree with Rslash here.
I have sensory issues and specifically carried around 1 or 2 stuffies that I was adamantly attached to, only left it once and it was hell for my mom.
Hearing Rslash's take on this story, I came to the comments looking for just this comment. Kiddo forgot a thing at someone else's house, you contact the people in that house to see if you can get it back. If they say "now's not a good time," then you accept that and try to work around it, but if there's no response, I don't see how going to the house is an unacceptable next step. Also, OP didn't "barge" into the house, he asked. The other parent let him in, he found the thing quickly, and left as quietly as possible. Am I really missing something huge here?
This is why you have multiple of the same toy
Hard to know if a 4 year old has Autism or not. My parents didn’t know I did but they sure did suspect I did after I nearly killed someone over a stuffed toy at the age of 6, no joke. Don’t underestimate the value of stuffed toy
Rslash has become the AH a lot lately against the wrong people. Hopefully he has kids and this happens to him one day.
Honestly I think the parents who got left the sleepy dumbo massively overreacted. Even if they’re busy they could’ve been like “We are busy and can’t have you in but we can leave the toy on the door step in a bag for you to come and grab in like 15 mins.” They could’ve worked something out, it’s not the crazy inconvenience they made it out to be.
Especially since it was in plain sight on the bed. Honestly their reaction makes me think it was intentional.
Yeah, I was thinking their really weird reaction was like them keeping the toy intentionally. And then rSlash just went the entire wrong with with his diatribe like wtf??
@@live_unafraid47 Given that OP knows the child doesn't sleep well without the toy, means he either didn't go in the room upon picking the child up (I'm assuming he's taken control over all of the errands and what not since the wife is a mess right now which is fair) and assumed the toy was in whatever bag the child had for the sleepover. OR he did go in the room, assumed the toy was in the bag and the couple hid it because their own child fell in love with it and that's why she was so mad. Not because he insisted, but because she knew she couldn't keep it since he *had* insisted to come get it.
Update to story 1:
Op packed his stuff and left to stay with a friend. After Sarah came home, they had a long conversation where he expressed his feeling and that he wanted to propose. She begged him to stay, but he didn’t. OP said that the main reason he broke up with her is because Sarah aleays favored her friends. She promised that she would change but she didn’t.
Good choice.
She found she screwed up BIG TIME and only then became apologetic. Because before that she and her friends were emotionally dogpiling on OP without a second thought.
If someone ever says "I'll change", most likely they won't. They're only saying it to try and rope you back into the same BS. I know from personal experience
OP made the right call. I wish the best for him.
He dodged a bullet.
3rd story: it's natural for OP to forget about a toy while worrying about his father in law and clearly stressed wife. Then when he realized that he forgot the toy he sends messages to inform he would try to come by and they don't tell him they're busy. After that the place he found the toy was on the other child's bed so they might of been trying to keep it for their own child and they let him in then say he just barged in.
Look I don't have a job that works from home 24/7. I do have a part time and sell things on the side for my side business. But what I'm not getting is, how's "I'm busy" supposed to mean, "Go away I have important business to tend too!"
OP didn't realize the toy wasn't there b/c like you said stressed about his wife and FIL. Texted them, no response. Called them, no response. Texted them again, no response. Called them on the way, no response. Knocked no response. Knocked again and finally got a "I'm busy!" response. Child's having a meltdown in front of the neighbor! OP said they would get the toy and be in and out in under minute. Toy was ON THE BED! So, like they could've grabbed it for them?
Then blew up the phone saying that they barraged in when they LET THEM IN TO GET THE TOY?! Am I missing something here?!
The sleepy Dumbo story I think rslash was too harsh Op was showing humility and shame for having to bother those people for a kids toy they could've found in two seconds op wasn't saying oh they should've just let me in and answered their phones how dare they. So where is the entitlement?
The possible entitlement I see is with the other parents. Like if they were that busy they could have answered any of the op's messages saying sorry but it's not a good time, but they just ignored him and had the audacity to get snotty. Like with others I think they wanted to keep the toy. It wasn't on the table in the living room or an easy to reach part of the house, it was in a bedroom.
Apparently Rslash forgot that he called ahead several times to ask about the toy and if he could come over. Cuz y'know. How dare they.
@@Wolfiechrm ya I saw other people saying that. it was specifically on the other child's bed and I chalked that up to like they both probably slept in that room so when the room got cleaned the toy went on the bed but ya no they Def could've responded to any calls or texts saying it's a bad time.
@@JaneDoe1812 true like if it was such a bad time you'd think they'd have answered any other forms of contact
R/Slash is a father and he should know that if his child needed a toy to help them sleep he and his wife would do ANYTHING to help them settle and it's not like the father just went round banging on the door he texts SEVERAL times and the other parents could have easily replied and you know had a look for the toy and had it ready for the father when he got there I wonder if R/Slash just tells his child "Too bad I can't find your comforter" I don't think so.....He's had some REALLY bad takes lately.
Hey Rslash. You'll probably never see this, but we all want you to know: If we disagree with you, it's not an attack against you. We are just sharing a different perspective that you might, or might not, agree with. Much love
Third story, there could be some missing info but as the story lays out as is it's not really an issue. RSlash I know you're new-er to parenthood but this stuff happens. Parents who believe are closed together act this way and it's possible the other family was not recuperating that engagement. This could effectively make the dad THA but also no fault to anyone as well. All circumstantial.
I wonder if the parents hid Dumbo for their own kid
@@GiordanDiodato there isn't much evidence for that, I mean, OPs' kid probably slept in that room, and if the parents just quickly put the elephant on the bed while tidying it's an honest mistake.
@@GiordanDiodato oh yes I know when I hide things I leave them on my bed out in the open with my bedroom door wide open. That's a super secret place no one ever looks right? I mean that's where I hide my entire retirement savings. Right on my bed only open right next to my pillow.
@@savvystarfire6667 I can't deny that I had a similar thought though. Not the hiding part since it's stupid to 'hide something in plain sight.' But the second the friend didn't want him coming in, I thought "She wants to keep sleepy Dumbo for her own kid." Mind you, I could be wrong and I realize that as there is no proof. It's just a possibility that sprang to mind.
@@GiordanDiodato They didn't hide it very well if it was sitting on their kid's bed.
For story 3 I thought to myself “hey that’s pretty reasonable of OP to try to ask before. I don’t understand why the ‘friends’ are so angry” and the second I heard the feedback I swear it was mental whiplash. I get that it can be an inconvenience to go to your friends house to want to pick up something very very important to your child, but OP texted and called first and they didn’t answer. The next logical choice is to go and physically ask. He didn’t barge in, I don’t think he was being entitled. He also recognized he caused an inconvenience so I don’t think he deserved the harshness he got.
Yeah, he didn't got an answer in what appears to be small amount of time so he drove them both. It wasn't an emergency. He should've waited for a response.
@desperate need of scotch That's not necessarily true. My phone is on silent 99% of the time. Unless I look at my phone I'm not going to know you tried to reach me.
@@desperateneedofscotchi wouldnt call it a bad call at all. Taking a few minutes out of your day to let him look for a distressed childs comfort toy isnt that big of a deal or that big of an inconvenience. Lets remember this wasnt exactly a good situation for anybody.
Wow I was completely caught off guard with that third story. It seemed like a stressed father trying to get his child’s comfort object and the other parents imo way overreacted. Rslash’s take on it was way out there lol. When I heard entitled parents mentioned I thought he might have meant the other parents bc they were trying to steal the toy maybe?? But then he called op and his wife terrible people or something
Same. His take was a massive yikes.
Honestly same
Yeah and after he said he was going to try to be more level headed in a previous video, here comes hot take Rslash again.
Really? I totally agree with Rslash. Who in their right mind thinks its okay to turn up at someones house during work hours unannounced and uninvited to push the owners to let them into their home to collect something their kid left. the home owners are totally in the right, in my mind. THEN OP's wife starts aggressively texting the kind people that helped them out? OP of the story seems like a nice enough person, but 100% did the wrong thing.
@@ryang58 i disagree, I'm autistic and know how much losing a comfort plushie hurts a child, I've been there, if a child forgot their comfort anything at my house i would allow the parents to look for it even if it was an inconvenience to me
Comfort plushies are BIG for little kids, neurodivergent or not
I don't think the parents in story 3 were that bad. When you have a child you get used to playing their games and seeing things that they consider important as very important and you want to give the world to them.
He had no way of knowing he couldn't come pick the plushy because they were not picking up. And when they were already there it really was easier to just grab it real fast rather than going back and coming the next day.
It's weird how much it affected her that he came to pick up something. But if she feels that way then she's in her right to not want to babysit again I guess.
Yhea I agree with this
I got so shocked that I had to check the comment section and rewind
I have sensory issues and have ADHD and am being checked for Autism as an adult now
I left my toy bear at a hotel and I started freaking the fuck out, I was 11, my mom was lucky that the hotel staff were understanding and very kind about it...
To a child that stuffie they have is their whole world, the best friend and the comfort when parents aren't available
R/'s take was so bad on it... Like, I never was on the parent side of things but if I was the parent I would do the same thing most likely
The couple seems to be weird tho because yes, they did a huge favor to the parents but when you babysit a kid you must be prepared that they might forget something important as they are just kids, they don't know any better
Sorry but they were working, which is more important than a stuffed animal.
@@digizilla164
Then they should have sent a text saying so
They had time to text him why OP was an ass for it so they had time to write "we don't have time rn, come at x:xxpm"
@@SlavicRat Yeah, this. It would have taken 30 seconds and probably wouldn't have taken nearly as much time from the woman's work.
10:37 there's nothing wrong with what op did lol, tbh most people probably would have noticed that OP's kid left something behind and called back to notify op
The fact that they didn't notify him his kid left something is Hella sus
Also the fact that they ignored txts and calls instead of just being like "hey, I'm working rn, can we set a time later?" And _also_ put the toy on _their_ kid's bed. What? Were they trying to steal from a child??
Yup. I'd probably text and say kid eft Dumbo. I'm working at home tomorrow. These are good times to come grab it...
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@@DickboosterOkay, I think that's a bit far, lol. I think that the OP coming to get the toy was not a big deal, but I doubt the other couple were planning some evil toy heist. I think it's more likely the kids either shared the room while he stayed over or their own kid went 'ooh, new toy' and dragged it into their room when OP's kiddo left it there. I mean, the other couple wasn't saying they'd NEVER give it back. They just had a hiss fit about him wanting it NOW. They were most likely gonna give it back later. I would have honestly said NAH if it wasn't for the big hiss fit they threw via text later.
I have never 100% disagreed with Rslash ever on a whole story in the years I've been listening, but the outlook on the Sleepy Dumbo story is insane. They went to retrieve a forgotten item and tried to call. That toy was important to the kid, and they asked politely for it. It was on the bed and the parent was in and out in just like 2 minutes, and was very polite about it. The way that woman reacted to them asking for the forgotten toy is insane, and to give the dad a 2.5 score when I couldn't imagine giving him more than .5 is so strange to me.
When Rslash asked if they were on Entitled Parents, I thought he was asking about the mother who answered the door, not the father who just wanted to retrieve his sons toy.
EDIT: I should clarify that I've been listening to Rrslash for over 2 years, and I have disagreed with stories before, but I've never had the exact opposite take and usually agree with parts of the story and score. This is the first time I've fully disagreed in over 2 years of missing no uploads.
I love Rslash and wish him no ill will in all of this, but this take just baffles me, especially since he has talked so much about loving his family and how much his daughter means to him. I just can't understand the logic. I hope he's ok and not overworked by the daily uploads.
If you're reading this Rslash, I love you and don't mean to send you any hate, I really love your videos and you are my favorite Reddit reading channel. I hope you're doing well.
Honestly I can't wait to hear him try and "simply talk to them rationally" with his own kid when she's that age lmfao. The kid's 4, not 14. Rational thought and reasoning skills are still years away from developing. They're far too young to truly grasp ration and reason, especially when they're tired and distraught.
He has said recently that he's noticed he's been missing the mark on some of these stories so I'm not surprised... I do think he might be over working himself that man needs a break he uploads everyday.
@@WickedJesss yea because reading stories online all day long is soo stress inducing isn’t it
@@WickedJesss he's consistently miss the mark on stories about being a decent father and a husband. which is concerning
@@cartierclips1126 Yeah it definitely is stress inducing. Constant exposure to negative information like on AITA can impact your brain. Like how negative news can have a psychological impact on you.
UPDATE 1ST STORY:
He left Sara. Obviously told everything to her. He came with the conclusion that her friends will ALWAYS be there, it felt like a poliamory thing. She begged him to stay but he left.
was that in the comments because all I saw on the thread was the updates:
EDIT: This was a planned *anniversary/romantic* trip. I was clear that we have plans for just us two. We've been on other anniversary trips together without her friends there. We did discuss marriage beforehand, so it's not like a proposal wouldn't been out of the blue.
MINOR UPDATE: My friends are here at the house and they have been running potential interference, just in case her friends try to bombard and harass me. They've been great and I'm so glad to have them!
MINOR UPDATE #2: None of Sarah's friends came by the house or harassed me yesterday/last night, which is good! Sarah hasn't come home yet. I figured out what I want to say and have it written out.
@@MjaoZor It was in a separate update post.
Why do I feel like she was only remorseful because she missed out on getting engaged
@@mostar1219 yeah why'd she only apologize and and try being nice after he told her about the proposal
@@samantha8268 I've noticed that in the aftermath of cheater stories too
Rslash, I think we as your viewers can all see you're really tired and need a break. A video every day for *years* takes a toll on you. We'll be here when you return, but you really should take some time for yourself and regroup.
Agreed, take some time to relax. Some of these story's are starting to blend in here. These harsh scores are popping up alot. Time for a break.
Rslash more than deserves a break!
Or at the very least to step back and cover some lighthearted subreddits.
Daily uploads for years and mostly covering entitled people and just general bad behavior can be incredibly draining!
yea he definitely needs a break after the L take on story 3 (sleepy dumbo)
@@vgmaster-js2zv all of reddit needs to take a break on that 3rd story. The OP got roasted so hard he's got -100 karma despite having 14k up votes on the post he made. I love reddit as a community but when they're wrong they're wrong all the way.
@@Hertacles That's just sad to hear. I hope someone with more (or any) empathy for children, who understands how important comfort items are, messaged OP and told him that the other parents' behaviour is completely off and he wasn't overacting too much. With how those other parents reacted I'm actually worried about how they treat their own children's emotional/mental health. They come across as really harsh to say the least...
Even as an adult, I physically cannot sleep without my current comfort blanket. Please, rSlash, understand that comfort objects can be a matter of a maintaining a good sleep schedule or being seriously sleep-deprived. It's not always a matter of sucking it up. I agree they could have waited until a little later when she wasn't working, but I really do think she blew up over a small inconvenience when it meant the world to the kid.
I don’t have a specific comfort item but I have two comfort “rules” that can make or break my already fragile ability to sleep semi-decently: must have a blanket covering my body(at minimum, just my waist) and a pillow or folded blanket at my side.
if she just texted him back that right then wasn't a good time OP going over there would make OP the asshole. but she ignored him, and thus i honestly think the whole situation had both of them being a bit assholish, but in an justified way. shes working and he has a toddler freaking out. everyone is a bit of a jerk and everyone is justified in being that jerk.
as someone suffering from sleep issues from birth, you can survive without sleep for a day or two. I went without proper sleep for the majority of my life. Americans seem to lack perspective that the majority of this world don't even have the luxury to have comfort toys let alone a safe polace to sleep. It's 1st world problem. I love to see people act like this situation is the end of the world. In the grand scheme of things this situation wasnt even worth a post. I see these ridiculous posts when half of my recommended section is earthquake news from Turkey, children trapped under rubble for 3+ days, having lost not only their comfort toys but their entire homes. Losing a toy is not a tragedy. Like you said yourself, your "current" comfort blanket. Meaning you can get a new one. They shouldve waited and they should never have called and screamed because other people have the right to set boundaries. What happens if they lose the toy next time and it is not retrievable at all? My comfort toys burned down in a house fire when I was 5. If your child can't even handle losing a toy, something is wrong psychologically and a comfort toy/blanket whatever is not a long-term solution. Instead of hoping the entire world accommodates us, we need to work on strategies and solutions to deal with out situation. Why don't the parents have a double of the toy for emergency situations if it's so important is my question.
@@huginug Ah, the classic Suffering Olympics where no one who is even vaguely privileged or “could be worse” aren’t allowed to feel bad about things in their life or seek out some kind of comfort because “I/someone else has it worse”.
@@abiean222 I agree that rslash take was wrong, but even though she didn’t respond to calls, she did tell him to come back later when she opened the door because she was busy and OP kept insisting. That’s where OP got a bit into asshole territory. She might’ve been in a meeting.
I disagree with your rating of OP in story 3. The way the other couple reacted to retrieving a forgotten item is very bizarre. She could have easily texted op and told him she was working and would look for it later instead of just ignoring his calls. The woman was able to send a text no problem telling op how wrong he was, but couldn't send a text tell him she is working and to come by later?? Very weird. The fact that OP text and called multiple times and neither could be bothered to send a text to pick up the item later, is Very bizarre behavior on the couple's part. Not the op for wanting to retrieve his property that was forgotten.
Exactly. It's so simple to send "I'm working right now. I'll ask (child) if he saw the toy and call you later"
They could've easily have had their phone off, since they were working.
@Sunburst Island The were working FROM HOME. They need to have their phone on because not everything to guaranteed to go through Zoom, Teams, or email.
@@sunburstisland2560 if they had their phones off then there is nothing wrong with op going to their house in the hopes of them being there. But I don't think that's the case because the woman acknowledged that "if they don't answer than it's not a good time", meaning they saw his texts and calls and just ignored him. Instead of just texting him, "it's not a good time", which literally takes 5 secs to text.
Exactly, besides it wasn’t just a stuffed toy, it OPs Property and he had every right to retrieve. If the other parents ignored the texts or had no intention of spending at least a 1min of giving the toy back. That would be theft.
Yikes Rslash, I don’t think that 3rd story was entitled at all, OP asked politely to enter the house for his child’s stuffed animal, it was a quick run in and out. I understand how it feels to sleep without your comfort stuffed animal, I have a comfort blanket that I still have till this day because it makes me feel safe, and I’m a 20 year old woman. You kinda rated them too harshly and you should understand as a father yourself that you’d do anything to make your child not cry and feel safe when going to bed.
The story about the girlfriend needing to learn when to shut up is so true. It sounds like something my parents taught me for so long where you need to always be nice to everyone regardless of how they treat you, and especially if they treat you badly.
Except it makes you into a passive doormat that marks you as a punching bag for every bad person in your life and trains you to just deal with abusive partners and friends instead of leaving them to find better.
Not to mention that in my book, calling someone slurs opens you up to harsh consequences, including but not limited to: losing a few teeth or getting a bloody eye.
I would highly suggest not starting a fight over what people say no matter what, but that is something to tell an authority figure about.
People also tend to not understand forgiveness - forgiveness does not mean that you are letting people not suffer consequences, it’s more of not letting it affect you. If someone is abusive or using you, go ahead and confront them, cut them out of your life, call the cops if needed, etc. But then start the process of moving on and letting go of that pain (which does include forgiving people.) if you really do forgive someone it’s a very freeing feeling because it says “I am finished with these feelings, good and bad”
@@Megamanlanprime
That is fair, but there is an appropriate time and place to talk about the concept of forgiveness. The girl said she wants to be a rich president, she’s told she can’t be because she’s a n*****, she has internalized it enough that when interacting with another black kid she told him they can’t be rich. At that time the #1 priority is to help her know that what she was told is wrong, that she can achieve things, that those words were hateful and awful. The girlfriend was clearly not trying to espouse forgiveness for the niece’s sake, she was attempting to defend the boy’s words and actions. The fact she said “statistics back me up” per the OP’s words means she’s actually likely also pretty racist, and or has racist ideas about why wealth inequality exists and hearing this child cry about a obviously racist moment made her very defensive.
Sometimes people don't know how ignorant they are until someone sits them down and explains the differences of privilege to them. Had a black friend do it for me and our relationship has been better for it.
@@mr.dantastic5073 I do also agree that at least it wasn’t the appropriate time to bring it up. There does need to be a discussion about forgiveness with this situation but they aren’t there yet.
As to the point that the GF might have some racist views, I can see that point. I just got the feeling from OP that made me feel like he’s against the idea of even saying there needs to be forgiveness… which might be just how I ended up seeing it, although it makes me think or at least wonder if OP believes that forgiving another means letting them off the hook… which that can be part of it but not always and IMO that is only if they are remorseful and even then, it heavily depends on the situation. (This one for example I’d still go and have it reported to an authority, like a teacher or someone to correct the other kid)
@@Megamanlanprime consider this from OP’s perspective: the bully kid’s comment is already affecting one niece and indirectly another relative. The bully’s words are actively scaring and scarring two of his very impressionable young relatives. Then in comes terrible gf to reinforce the bullying-and all of the negative self-worth/esteem that can lead to. He is trying to stamp out trauma that like it’s an out of control wildfire. Forgiveness is a luxury that they can work out *later*. For now, OP has to protect those kids from being scarred for life. Next steps are going to the authorities and ensuring that the bully kid is punished-and learns to never call other kids horrible names. Finally, after that-after wrapping those babies in love, justice, and protection-should OP entertain forgiveness.
Calling children racial slurs leaves wounds on their hearts and it’s not right to teach them forgiveness without teaching them how to be whole first. “You cannot pour from an empty cup.”
The sleepy dumbo story was a really odd take on rSlash’s end. Kids forget stuff, man. Hell, I’m 18 now and can remember as late as the time I was like 11 or 12 I would sometimes forget stuff at a friend’s house and need to go grab it. It was never a big deal. It’s just a fact of life that those things happen and the other parents sort of overreacted.
He has been having a tendency to be overly harsh. He even stated it himself. Yea, its a bad time for the other mom, but honestly... the fact that mother couldn't understand the situation is just as bad as OP failing to be responsible about the stuffed animal. Neither are assholes, just a bad situation
Honestly I think RSlash overreacted too lol
i agree. he kinda overreacted there
Agreed. He gave the same bad guy rating to them as to a the previous story of a dead beat dad, a mother trying to avoid responsibility and a dude who wants the family without the responsibility. Like if these people are bad guys it’s like 0.5. The other mother is acting as if he was laying on the horn honking for 20 mins
You don't know how much it inconvenienced the other couple. They were working from home, not playing around. OP could quite literally be the reason she was fired.
To sum it up. It was bad enough that people OP describe as helpful felt the need to stand their ground.
3rd story: NTA
Honestly I understand the overwhelming and fearful thoughts when you lose or misplace a comfort item- especially when it's at someone's house and you're a child. Dude tried to be as polite as possibly. I don't think he deserves a butthole score.
I don't think he does, but his wife definitely is a major AH, like why is she calling the other couple who babysat names, she's definitely entitled af
What the hell is on with the comments about story 3?
If you call me and i don't answer, that means this isn't the time to come to my house.
That is a general rule.
If it was me i wouldn't even open the door, certainly not for a god damn plushie
@@mohamedbm4293 so if you leave something you need at someones house you call they dont pick up and you need it you won't go back to get it?
@@mohamedbm4293Another general rule is if you take care of someone’s child and that parent calls you after picking up the kid then something was forgotten and you should take 30 seconds to respond
Yeah they are TA, is not like they were missing an Epi pen or something life threatening, they should raise the kid a bit better or have a backup in case this happens.
Story 3: It's obvious that OP genuinely felt bad about having to interrupt these people's day. I don't have kids myself, but even I know how hard it is to calm down an upset toddler. This little boy didn't have his go-to comfort item, and not allowing him to have it when it's that important to him sets him up for anxiety issues later in life. OP did what he had to do, and it was just an unfortunate situation. No, people's lives don't revolve around other people's kids, but this sounds like it was a one-time thing and not a habit. He even took responsibility for not making sure his son had his favorite toy, which is a good thing. OP isn't entitled at all. I'd say NAH, since everyone's reaction is understandable--even OP's wife's reaction. She's going through a tough time so of course she's going to overreact and call people names.
Dabney, I've been following your channel since you had 100K subs in 2019. I can count on one hand the number of rSlash videos I haven't seen. Your take on the third story was the farthest off base I've ever heard you. I'm genuinely a little concerned for you. You've been pumping out these rSlash videos and, for a while, videos on your other channel, every day for four years now. You're human. Maybe record some episodes ahead of time to release on a schedule and give yourself like, a week off. I think you need to rest and get a fresh perspective before you internalize too much more of Reddit's negativity and it starts spilling into your personal life. Spend some time with your family, get some fresh air, do something to take care of yourself. Working this much ain't it. Your fans will still be here when you get back. Please don't push yourself so hard. ❤
I'd okay with him not uploading videos for a while. People need rest. And he could be overworked or burnt out by now. He needs to take a rest.
That aside. I was concerned he will be a terrible father and a husband if he had that kind of view in the third story
did you miss the part where his wife called and screamed at those people for expressing their boundaries? They are perfectly normal boundaries. You think you're allowed to act like this just because life is tough? that is not an excuse. Work is important and your toddler will not die not having his toy for a few hours. He should've texted his problem and asked for an appropriate time to get the toy back. He's not an asshole but his wife is. He should apologize for his wife at least. The fact that she had such an explosive reaction is an indicator of how she acts at home and why the child needs a comfort toy to begin with. IT's a red flag indicating a toxic environment at home.
I think its more of an indicator that she is stressed out in that moment because, yakno, her dad's in the hospital, her kids crying about a Teddy and now someone she thought was a friend is yelling at her for something she wasn't even a part of. sure the kid won't DIE but he definitely won't sleep and is that not also pretty bad and stressful and just something you want to deal with in the day time when getting sleepy dumbo back is a reasonable request to make of your "friends"
@@huginug the wife called the other wife names, it’s not implied she actually yelled at the other wife over the phone, guess you missed that part
@@huginug that's not OP, that's his wife. Plus his wife is under a lot of stress
3rd story: I know rslash is stuck between a rock and hard place (has child vs works from home) but when his baby becomes a toddler, he's going to look back and think, wow, I can't believe I thought trying to reason with a distressed toddler was good advise lol
Yea, he is definitely in for a rude awakening at the very least
Yeah, it doesn’t sound like this dad was demanding to be let in. He was pleading for it with a crying toddler. Not sure how another parent wouldn’t at least have some passing understanding of that, not to mention of having left something behind that her kid needs. We’ve all been there. And plus this lady had to turn around and lord their favor over them. Super rude.
agreed! he's in for an eye opener if he thinks he can just calmly explain reason to a raging 4 year old...plus those poor people were also dealing with a sick older family member, and rslash called them "terrible people" or something similar.
I have 4 kids, now 3 teenagers and 1 adult (i.e. I got through the toddler years, and at one point I had 3 toddlers at the same time), and I think it was good advice. Not because a distressed toddler is going to see reason (and I don't think rslash expects that to happen), but because giving in to a toddler's demands (for this specific toy, right now), and distressing yourself too only perpetuates the problem. But staying calm and allowing the kid to be upset, explaining to them even though they don't understand/accept it at the time (even if it's just to remind yourself why you're doing it), allows them to ultimately learn that being upset is okay, that it will pass, and learn to self-soothe (without the toy that will not always be there and it won't always be the case that the caregiver can go get it).
@s0nicfreak I hadn't thought of it this way. 👍
Entitled parents for wanting their child's property? Maybe a bit rude if she was in a meeting or something they can't be disturbed but I honestly wouldn't text anyone like that.
also OP called in advance to ask, but they never answered
Honestly that doesn't feel like entitled behavior. And he didn't just barge in, op asked.
Agreed and rslash réaction was kinda weird at that i was expecting him to go "joking you're not in the wrong"
I feel like if she had been in a meeting, she would have specified.
I listen on Spotify, i admit i had to come here for this one as it's one of the few i honestly disagree with but being flagged autisic i wanted to see if i was way off. Also as a parent of a special needs kid. (And hell we don't know if it was just a young kid and their fave animal or a special needs kid as they are young but extreme reactions to comfort creatures can be an early indication. I am a special needs mom so i could easily be projecting).
Also as a mom i would have made SURE any toys brought over were returned on pickup. Especially since taking care of a little one who is not used to seperation you know that OP would have told the babysitting parent hey this is their special toy if they are really upset use this. So to top this off this being on their kids bed, not like it rolled under something and got lost. I am glad i am not the only one who thought R/ was off this time.
Come on rSlash! You've covered plenty of stories about comfort blankets and objects! You should know how important that sleepy dumbo is to that kid! And that mom, who is also a parent, should too! I also hope that if your daughter adopts a comfort object and forgets it somewhere, you do not have the same apathy as you showed in that story!
Homegirl literally ruined her own proposal😮😮😮
Also, who just randomly invites their friends on a trip, their bf planned?
On you anniversary!
Before I read the update I had a suspicion that Sarah knew about the proposal but didn’t want to marry OP and wanted to invite and use her friends as a buffer. That theory was proven wrong
Sure sounds like she was trying to put space between herself and boyfriend, but still wanted a free trip. He escaped a real nightmare when she showed her true colors.
OP definitely needs to make her an EX-GF! This is a huge red flag for this relationship. OP will always be second fiddle to her BFFs. How many other special events, that OP plans for just the two of them, will she insist on bringing her flying monkeys along?
@@lancerevell5979 Oh, don't worry. OP made some updates; long story short, he moved out, had a long talk with Sarah, and then broke up with her.
3rd story-
As someone with high anxiety and would literally have panic attacks (and people that wanted to steal it from me)
Happy the hippo was my world and I couldn't sleep or even go anywhere unless I knew where she was.
I still have her to this day even though I'm 23
It's a comfort item. And given the child was freaking out, he seems to have anxiety as well
Story 3: as a person who raised a kid who had a sleep item, Rslash, I really hope you either change your mind or your kiddo doesn't need a specific sleep item. If she does, please have at least 2 backups of that sleep item so you don't make a fool of yourself when your wife gets mad because your kid won't go down for bed because you won't go get the sleep item she snuck to daycare and left there on accident. Kids are stupid. They will sneak it and leave it somewhere. Either be a parent and go get it, have a backup, or deal with hours upon hours of tantrums.
THIS! But I wouldn't call them tantrums. I'm autistic and remember vividly how I felt and everything. I was having meltdowns whenever I couldn't sleep with MY plushie at night. I wasn't trying to upset anyone or anything like that. I was genuinely stressed out of my mind and couldn't regulate my feelings! No arguments or explanations could calm me down back then. At one point my mum just hand-washed it after I had puked on it and let it stay with me in bed on a towel because it was soaking wet, just so I would sleep. Dabney's take on this one shocked me to be honest... maybe because I vividly recall bawling my eyes out, feeling overwhelmed and completely helpless at night without MY plushie... For me it wasn't only a comfort a item - it was a friend with its own feelings in some way... and it still is to this day...
Also, pro tip to any parents: Switch your child's comfort item with the replacement ones regularly, so that it has at least a similar smell and doesn't smell new/freshly washed and let it get the same/similar used marks. I had replacements of my plushie but they never were the same for me and I couldn't be fooled and had a hard time to settle down with them at night. Mine had super specific marks from years of usage (loss of fur on the head because I literally chewed on its head and carried it around in my mouth as a baby, plus its nose got scratch marks from that as well) and also a very distinct smell that brought me always comfort (and still does over 25 years later)... then again, it also didn't help that the replacements were 3 blue ones and 2 pink ones while mine was yellow (my parents couldn't find another yellow one for me to have as a replacement but were at least able to keep one of each colour in a bag in the closet to show me later in life how they all looked like brand-new - quite different from how they look now to say the least)...
Honestly I think the friend was pissed off because their kid wanted to keep it for themselves.
Its the only thing that makes sense. I mean, sure she was working, but honestly I don't even HAVE kids, but I'd sure as heck get the support item back where it belongs.
If I found a left behind item I'd text asap, and it's like, even if I was working I'd say as much in a text, and tell them when I was next on break/out of a meeting.
The toy was on their kids bed. The parents would have seen it at some point, they're parents themselves, they know what's up.
Kids need to learn to understand and regulate their emotions. Caving to tantrums isn't going to work out
Eh find there's a difference between a tantrum and a meltdown.
Meltdowns are usually far worse and no amount of ignoring, yelling, distracting etc will work.
Each to their own, but tough love isn't always the answer. Friends kid you could reason with, but only in advance.
Explain that they will have less of X from two sleeps from now, then remind them one sleep, then gradually do the thing less - like, nightlights etc and it's a good way of telling if something won't work.
Some adults need light to sleep etc.
@@Dwights_trash_can not always, but when it's a comfort animal...
You know, I'm leaning into NAH with the third story. It's perfectly reasonable for the friends to be irritated that OP dropped by halfway unannounced(but is it really unannounced if they were ignoring OP?). But it's also perfectly reasonable for OP to go back to the house to retrieve a lost or forgotten item. It's not like he broke in or demanded or argued or shoved his way through the door. He texted, then called, then drove over and politely asked to check. I'm also curious, if the toy was so obviously placed on the bed, why the friends didn't bother texting OP back about forgetting it. But with that in mind, OP should have done a full inventory check of his childs belongings before leaving.
So idk, I feel like the friends have a right to be irritated, but i also don't think it's entitled for OP to go back to get the clearly beloved stuffed toy.
I think the wife was trying to stall to keep the toy for her kid. Her handling was very suss. Why not text as soon as you realized the toy was there? Why not say I'm working at home tomorrow, drop by at X time? Why not respond with an available time when OP tried to reach you by phone? Very shady imo.
I agree. If OP was acting like an entitled parent, OP would have been much more rude to the woman who wanted not to be disturbed while working.
I completely agree about the toy being on the bed being weird. Like why would you have to look for the toy as she claimed when it's sat on your child's bed? She has a toddler, they definitely didn't make the bed themselves so she for sure knew the toy was there. Suspicious in my opinion.
NO irritation should be found on the part of the 'friend'. It's very telling that the 'friend' mentioned how "the world doesn't revolve around them", which isn't something you say to a real friend who's going through something tough. You made a great point about how the toy was neatly placed on the bed, so it wouldn't have been hard to do the suggestions made by @fdm2155...
Story 2, OP shouldn’t take regular responsibility for the child because if she were to leave OP after a few years he might be held responsible for financial aid for the child. The fact that he’s helping to care for the child at this point shows he’s a great man.
One of my earliest memories is my grandma stealing my blankie from me as a toddler and telling me I was "too old" for it. My parents immediately got me a new one. Rslash clearly needs to reevaluate his take on the third story once Lily gets older, expecting a small child to handle their emotions like an adult when they're extremely distressed is naive. Yes, there are teachable moments, but there are also traumatic moments like that for such young kids.
Also, people need to learn to respect other people's boundaries. If I'm working I can't get up to answer the door or answer my phone. Period. Even if I'm working from home. I could get reprimanded or fired for ditching out of a meeting (we have to have camera and mic on at all times) to help a kid retrieve his toy.
@@Ironraven001
tho they had the time to send the text to them afterwards? that tells me that they weren’t as busy as they were claiming to be
This wouldn't have been traumatic. It would've been a teachable moment for the kid. By not caving into the toddler's demands, Op would've taught him to pay more attention to his things, as well as patience. The toy wouldn't have been gone, just retrieved later.
@@VirgoLeaf Do you think people can freely choose when they are and aren't busy? That's not how the world works, buddy. OP had no right to insist for something so trivial.
@@guywholikesgoodmusic well okay, if that's what you want to believe go ahead buddy 🤷
i will still stand on my point lmao
Looking at the comments gave me peace of mind about the Sleepy Dumbo one, cause that one definitely wasn't a big deal like slash made it out to be. At worst the dad was a bit rude, but imagine having to deal with a medical emergency in your family while taking care of a child. As I said, a bit rude to intrude on the other family, but getting the toy was a matter of what? 2 minutes? Imagine being called bad people for that.
Two overworked people blowing this small issue out of proportion That's all it is.
3rd story, NTA. you're wrong on this one. just wait until your child leaves one of her absolute favourite toys behind. I guarentee any good parent would go back to get that toy, not "sorry sweetie, you may be a little child, but its time to learn to have extreme separation anxiety"
because thats how it would go, Rslash. When i was a kid, I've had my favourite toy taken as punishment, hidden if i forgot it somewhere and not given back for days, and i now have extreme separation anxiety with EVERYTHING i own.
Story 3 is very relatable because when I was a kid I left something really important to me somewhere else by accident. I had left my favorite doll my mom had given me at my daycare and I didn't realize it till I got home. When we got back it was closing time but the lady was nice enough to let us look and we ended up finding it and we were on our way. The thing is here the parent was being very polite in trying to get the stuffed animal back not entitled and even if the parents were that busy the thing missing belongs to a kid, have a heart, by the sound of it this kid seems r e a l l y young, it takes two seconds to locate the stuffed animal bring it to them and then go back to doing your oh so busy task everyone is happy, the kid gets his property back and the other parents can go back to working in peace, your take seemed really heartless here man.
Same here, I had a special night light that I left in Nebraska (gross) on a road trip to Mount Rushmore, but my parents backtracked a lot to procure it for me. The hotel staff was so cool about it, too. I was 8 or 9 at the time. R/slash, get TF over your pasty self if you know what's good for you.🖕
It doesn't really matter how long it took to get the toy. You disrupted somebody else's life for something that could easily be retrieved later. By bending over backwards for a toddler, you enable that behavior.
I was on your side at first, but than I thought it out, and checked the original post. Most people are on rslash's side, and they have good points. The other wife could've been in an important meeting, or on a call with a client or something. You can't affect someone's work life for something so trivial.
I don't think OP was a bad person, and didn't really seem all that entitled, but it was kind of thoughtless to insist on being let in to look for it.
@@guywholikesgoodmusic That visit was shorter than a bathroom break. Do you think she doesn't get those?
@@mariposa9506 Read this passage in my previous comment: "The other wife could've been in an important meeting, or on a call with a client or something."
You leave during something like that, and the only way it could possibly come off as is unprofessional. That could hurt your career. For a mere toy.
Petition for rSlash to take a break or read positive/funny stories. His take on story 3 is really harsh, and I can’t remember the last time he didn’t recommend divorce/breakup for any relationship issue.
@ChrisFrederic ❤ I agree with you
Yup, consider that petition signed
My pen is ready!
Absolutely, he said it himself, these daily sad/depressing stories are having a negative effect.
I think this is an overreaction. We all have bad takes every so often, whether we're affected mentally or not. I disagree with his take on that particular story, but he's basically been on the mark for me ever since he addressed it a few weeks ago.
As for the divorce/breakup stuff, I think if you feel inclined to post your issue to reddit as opposed to first talking it out with your SO, then that's already a bad sign for the relationship. The percentage of relationships doomed to fail is very, very high. I think many of these reddit posts are basically asking for the excuse to break up and advise for doing so. It's more healthy to end a toxic relationship than it is to try and make it work.
The responses to story 2 and 3 really rubbed me the wrong way. When you're in a relationship with someone especially if they have kids you should want to help out but it's not their responsibility. And this is coming from a mom who is in a relationship with children from a previous marriage. As much as he does accept my kids just like the baby we just had doesn't mean I expect him to be financially responsible for my other children especially when their dad is able to take care of his financial part of their responsibilities. And in story number three it wasn't like he barged into their house. He called and explain the situation. It sounds like to me that you don't know how much missing a nap can affect the sleep pattern especially in infants and toddlers. You also don't know if that child has a disability where they need something that comforts them to help them calm down or to go to sleep in the first place. You need to learn how to assess an entire situation before making assumptions like that
Same. I don't expect my exs partner or my partner to be financially responsible for my kids. If they choose to buy things for them awesome but I'm never going to expect it to happen and I'm not going to ask them to buy anything.
Dang I'm glad I'm not the only one to see it this way and I thought the gf is story 2 cheated am I wrong?
@@carterlybarger7885 You are wrong. OP said they met on Tinder and weren't exclusive at the beginning of their relationship (so at the time of conception), so technically it's not cheating. She wasn't exclusive with two men and ended up getting pregnant from the one who she didn't end up being exclusive and in a relationship with. OP's girlfriend's baby daddy has a fiancé though, who seemingly didn't know about the baby and is reconsidering her relationship.
Dabney's take on it still was unreasonable. the relationship is still pretty new and they aren't even close to getting married. OP's girlfriend should have gone after the baby daddy for child support right away. If OP and his girlfriend end up dating for several years and maybe even get married he likely will end up buying that child gifts, maybe pay for hobbies, etc. but child support is literally for covering the basic needs of a child. Depending on the country, a child that gets raised without child support CAN successfully as an adult go after their parent for the child support they were supposed to pay for them!
OP did everyone involved a favour, especially that baby because now OP's girlfriend will end up getting the money she needs to cover the basic costs for her child (after already realising that she can't raise it with only her own money) and the baby daddy (who seemingly thought that a couple thousand upfront would be enough "child support" for the next 18 years) can't weasel himself out of his legal responsibilities and just never pay for his child again and OP won't possibly have to pay child support for a child that isn't his if their relationship doesn't work out in the end.
But they are men so they must be assholes! Rslash 2023
@@Larry_Stylinson I love your responses because I felt the same way. Honestly the fact they met on tinder and weren't all that exclusive made me think that OP was just trying to hold his responsibility for getting the woman pregnant. He never said in the post that he loved her or wanted to spend the rest of his life with her. So I understand that upon realizing the kid isn't his that he no longer has to hold any real responsibility towards the kid unless he chooses to be involved.
On the story with the baby daddy, I 100% get why he made it so she HAD to go after the baby daddy. But once she did get child support, I would then start contributing money into the child too. Sometimes you have to be strict to get people to do what they need to do. I had to be firm once with my partner so that they didn't just take advantage of our relationship and instead did what they needed, and the support came from me after they did. You should ALWAYS get child support for your child. ALWAYS. It will help you and your kid so much, and if the other parent didn't want to have a kid, they needed to use protection. Plain and simple.
I agree here op didn’t have to step up at all but he did so the actual father should at least do something. Op may have been a bit selfish I don’t think 2.5 buttholes selfish
I really look forward to that moment when your daughter forgets her best sleep-buddy. And your wife is distracted over some family issue so the daughter is already upset. The calm, informative talk about what's going to happen. Yes, you go on believe that until it happens.
Right?? A child's world revolves around themselves and no amount of adult talk will calm that child down. Children literally are incapable of reason, seeing into the future, or thinking about other equally as they do themselves, their brains just aren't developed enough. A "reasonable talk" works for a teenager, but definitely not a toddler
I was immediately thinking of what he would do with his own kid.
@@DawnFire05 the absolute youngest that one could have a reasonable talk with someone is like 8 years old, and even then the kid isn't going to get everything and might walk away with a different lesson then the one you wanted them to have because kid's brains and understanding of the world is very alien to adults. i mean, i remember lots of weird conclusions i came to as a kid and they were reasonable to me back then but as an adult i have no clue how i could think that was what was going on.
The point is not that the calm informative talk will make the kid not upset. Yes the kid would have been upset if they hadn't gone to pick up the toy... but that would have been okay. They would have gotten through it, started to learn to deal with being upset, and saw that the world didn't end. If you try to stop kids from ever being upset, they can't learn how to deal with it. And if they don't learn to deal with it, life after childhood is going to be much harder for them.
Y'all need to parent better. Yes, kids have tantrums. But that still doesn't mean they magically get their way all the time.
You can NOT invite yourself in to someone else's home because YOU forgot something. It's completely unreasonable.
If your kid is so attached to a certain toy that you can't deal with the consequences of it going missing, get a duplicate toy for "emergencies".
Even as a Dad RSlash has obviously never had to deal with a toddler who either didn't have a nap, or had to try to sleep without his sleepy Dumbo/blankie/ whatever comfort item. We're not talking a little grumpy, we're talking about a full on tantrum and nobody sleeping for at least 2 days. Also, the world doesn't revolve around the other moms work schedule either! Sometimes people are going to knock on the door, especially when you work from home! If your kid left a special toy after a sleep-over, and you saw that the people were home, you'd go over there to get it too, don't even try to say different! It's not entitlement, it's doing your best to take care of your family. Entitlement would have been blowing up the phone, and starting a tirade the moment the mom answered the door, immediately accusing her of stealing the toy, demanding money for a new one.
I agree with Rslash. Op missed a valuable opportunity to teach their kid about responsibility and making do with what you have. Instead, op is teaching their child to not to respect other people’s boundaries. Being a good parent means teaching your child thd hard lessons. Sometimes you don’t always get what you want, and you have to make do with what you have. I am sure the kid had other toys. If the kid never wants to lose that toy again, then he should be more responsible. These are valuable lessons that should be instilled at a young age. Op needs to learn how to be a better parent and respect other people’s boundaries. No means no. Not picking up the phone equates to I am busy atm.
Yeah, what the fuck was wrong with rSlash in that diatribe?? He just went off on the dad for no goddamn reason! The other couple could have at LEAST picked up to figure out what was wrong! Things get forgotten, whoop de do! I thought he was gonna go off on the other wife for being entitled because she goddamn was, like wtf?!
Look I understand how badly kids need their dumb stuffies and the world is ending if they don't have them. But I still think coming to someone's house and insisting on going in when they don't want you to it's just disrespectful. Not enough for them to have the reaction they did, but quiet and undisturbed time to WFH is much more important than a Stuffie. I don't agree with how out there Rslash went. To the point of calling OP an entitled parent. I'm not saying either that the kid should suck it up, it's a kid and it doesn't know any better but what's gonna happen if that Stuffie is lost for good for one reason or another?
@@Neuroguy100 it is important to teach that, but you have to pick your battles, and a 4 year old in an emotional state is not going to calm down enough to hear that. It's obvious to me that you haven't had to deal with a small child in that state either.
Yup. I'm autistic and always had the same plushie since I was a baby. I couldn't sleep without it and had meltdowns whenever I didn't had it with me in bed. My grandfather was literally driving in the middle of the night over to my parents to get it because I wouldn't calm down - and this happened multiple times! NEVER were my parents upset about it and my grandfather was never mad about it either.
My mum actually bought a few of the same plushie (In total I had at least 3 blue ones, 2 pink ones and 1 yellow one, plus one of each colour in a bag in a closet to NEVER get touched in order to show me later in life how they used to look like when they were bought - quite differently than they are looking now over 25 years later, let me tell you that), so that I had at least one like it whenever I thew up on my plushie and had to sleep without it.
I was NEVER fooled by it and I barely could fall sleep with the replacement ones (and it didn't help that mine was the yellow one and thus we didn't have one in the same colour that I could sleep with, plus mine was constantly losing fur on the head because I used to chew on it and carry it around in my mouth as a baby - it even has a scratched up nose because of that). I wasn't trying to upset anyone or anything like that. I was genuinely stressed out of my mind and couldn't regulate my feelings! No arguments or explanations could calm me down back then. At one point my mum just hand-washed it and let it stay with me in bed on a towel because it was soaking wet, just so I would sleep.
Heck, I haven't thrown my plushie out of my bed yet and I likely never will. It's a comfort item, helped me through good and bad times - it's basically a friend. It has been with me on several overnight trips with my kindergarten and schools and my boyfriend always has accepted that it's going to be in my bed and even his bed whenever I sleep at his place and he has no problem with it. He knows I literally can't fall asleep without it.
Dabney's take on this one shocked me to be honest... maybe because I vividly recall bawling my eyes out, feeling overwhelmed and completely helpless at night without MY plushie. If I feel anxious or overwhelmed it's still my go to comfort item and decreases my stress level like nothing else in just a few seconds... Plus that poor child is only FOUR years old! I can't even understand how that mother's first instinct wasn't to reassure that crying child and offer to look with them for it and reassure the clearly stressed father about it and understanding the situation. It really makes me wonder how she treats her own child's comfort item or even if she's one of those parents, who insist on their child being "too old" for needing one and just throwing it away or donating it...
I can see where rslash is coming from when it comes to interrupting the other family at their home but op expressed regret and apologised for being a hassle, but calling op and his wife "bad people" about it is such a bad take.
Also if the kid's grandfather is unwell op's son is gonna be picking up on that and the absence of a comfort item is really gonna heighten the kid's anxiety.
EDIT: wow just checked the original post and a LOT of people are giving YTA verdicts omg
I think the age of people on reddit is on average lower, so likely lots of childless people, combined with the usual reddit hivemind.
I was wondering what rslash had said the entire verdict has been removed.
@@jackiescookies598 IMO he should have left the opinion it reflects the reddit hivemind on that story, but, basically he was calling the parents entitled for bothering the woman at work and gave her 2.5/5, which seemed quite extreme for a once off thing.
@@Hads-nz idk no matter how busy you are at work you take the time to respond to someone who is repeatedly trying to get you to answer. It could very well have been an emergency is that how they would have responded if it had been their kids school trying to contact them over an emergency? I definitely agree that the parents weren't asshole. The employer would understand if you took a minute to send a quick "i'm in a meeting will get back to you soon" text... rslash has definitely been kind of unhinged lately he should just take a break he's clearly no longer enjoying doing this type of content anymore.
This is unfortunately a common thing on Reddit, people getting hate for doing anything that’s objectively not wrong. I remember a video by Ghost Gum that showed how a kid got bullied because his mom is a sex worker, and everyone was accusing him of being against sex workers as a whole.
I feel like he’s just intentionally picking repetitive and obvious posts for clicks, reminds me of a lyric to this song:
“And if you’re talentless, yet still desire to thrive, just read some tweets or Reddit posts to stay alive”
Dabney, on Sleepy Dumbo, you really have been in a bad mood the last few months. I’m glad your daughter is easy, but not everyone is lucky. Not all kids cope the same way or are neurotypical. Same with the guy who didn’t want to financially help his girlfriend’s baby. I hope that whatever is going on in your life gets better soon.
Sleepy Dumbo OP is NTA. I know some people have really strict WFH rules or have neurodivergent tendencies that make it hard to be interrupted, but a little compassion for a stressed toddler and an even more stressed friend seems like a reasonably extenuating circumstance to me. It's honestly a bit of whiplash, for them to be so generous as to watch the kiddo earlier and then be so cold when asked for a comparatively small thing later. My guess is that there's a BIG piece of the puzzle that OP isn't aware of.
In story 3, OP is definitely NOT the AH. That father just wanted to get his child his toy. It's his comfort to, he can't sleep without it. He nicely asked, and was being perfectly reasonable. smh
Rslash: Have you had your Wheaties today? Story 3: Any toddler parent understands the situation of a kid wanting their favorite toy. OP and his wife contacted the friends by text and by phone to advise that Dumbo was missing. The toy was sitting on their kid's bed so it's VERY unlikely that they 'didn't realize' they had it. Any sane parent would have taken the toy from the bedroom to someplace near the door. That way they could have advised OP when to drop by and grab it. The babysitters were being ridiculous. They should have texted OP when they found the toy and made arrangements for him to collect it. The fact that they didn't makes the the 'bad guys'. I doubt the wife was SO busy with work that she couldn't take a few minutes to sort this out.
For the 3rd story, in some areas (idk if all) if someone is in possession of YOUR property (sleepy Dumbo) and you make an attempt to inform them that they are in possession of your property, if they so happen to refuse you being able to reclaim your property, you can file a civil lawsuit against them for stolen property.
But they didn’t refuse him the ability to reclaim it. She told him not right now…you can come at a time I see fit when im not busy.
@@zekia4275 they considered him asking for like 2 mins to search for a toy him "barging" into their home. Not only that but it was found on the kids bed. Safe to say that since they didn't call and was like "hey you forgot something here" they were planning on keeping it. If it turned out that way he damn well could file a lawsuit.
Not only that but he doesn't specify of the child has special needs, I have 2 younger brothers, both special needs who forget stuff a bunch of times. So the child could have special needs, forgot the toy, realised the toy was missing, and started freaking out.
@@pwnnaze4359 anyone insisting on coming into my home at a time inconvenient to me is Barging. And them wanting to keep the toy is a huge over exaggeration. It literally could have just been unnoticed on the bed. My sister has tons of toys and my mom wouldn’t recognize a new or foreign one if you payed her to. It’s literally a TOY
Story 3: I've had one of those bears that emits womb sounds since before I was born. I'm now 22 and I _still_ have him on my bed (granted, he hasn't had batteries since I was little, so he doesn't make noise anymore). I can sleep fine without him when I have to these days, but when I was younger, _absolutely not._ I remember being around 4 or 5 and screaming for my parents simply because the bear fell off my bed and I couldn't see or reach him, so I get what it's like for a kid to have a specific stuffed animal that they simply _can't_ sleep without. I don't think r/slash's kid is a toddler yet, but hoo boy, he'd better be ready for when she is lol
WTAF?! Who has a problem with giving a child their stuffy back? Seriously. It takes less than the time to hit the head. Just wait until this happens to you.
This is why I always had TWO or more comfort things for each of my children. But when there was only one available and it got lost? Hell yes I will turn over heaven and earth to find it. Geez Louise!
Hey RSlash, gonna have to disagree on the third story
As someone who grew up with a comfort teddy and literally cannot function sometimes without him because of how he helps calm me during my mental health episodes, comfort objects are a lot more important to some people than you realize
My parents would literally go above and beyond when I lost my bear, Teddy, because I physically could not sleep or settle without him
He was my protector, my best friend, he kept the monsters away and helped me after I had horrible nightmares
He even helps me still today with stress and family issues and grief
The parent wasn't even rude about getting Sleepy Dumbo back, they were in and out very quickly just like they said they would be
Besides, that's *his* property to begin with and any decent person would take the five seconds to just get the stuffed animal and give it back
Hell they could've set Sleepy Dumbo on the front porch if they really didn't want to interact with the parent that badly
It's five seconds tops of wasted time, if not seconds
The fact you were so hostile over this story too makes me a bit worried about what might happen if your own child forgets or misplaces their comfort object at some point because if that's how you feel about something as common and even helpful as comfort toys or items then I'm more than a bit worried
Agreed! I’m 24 years old and when I moved out at 18 I had my mom triple check that I had my favorite stuffed bear I’d had for 13 years at that point. Thank god I’ve been as careful with that bear as I have been because now it’s my sons bear ❤
Yeah, autistic person here who places a lot of value in comfort items which helps me regulate my emotions and anxiety 👋🏼
I thought they handled it so nicely. Like I understand the inconvenience for the other people, but still, OP was nice about it and was quick, so I dont see the big deal
Agree 100%
I agree that his take was off on that one. I baby-sit my 2.5 yo niece and also WFH. If she had forgotten a comfort item I would 100% be okay with taking a little break from work and helping look for it. The mom in that story seemed like she wanted to steal Sleepy Dumbo for her kid or something. Very strange.
I'm 24 and still need my plushies to sleep well. Not always, mind you, but I need them to be at home. if Schnuffel ever got lost i would be devastated. Whne I was little I lost a bunny plushie on the Autobahn and cried for days. Another bunny Plushie I lost was Stupsi. I never saw Stupsi again and was really sad when i couldn't find him. But that just makes me keep Schnuffel even closer. I couldn't bear to lose Schnuffel. I need him! I've had him since I was 3. Rslash was really talking nonsense on that story, especially since the kid was small enough for nap time to be necessary. I hope he doesn't end up as an entitled parent who abuses his kid. I am really worried for his dautghter now.
All i wanna say im happy more people are calling out RSlash for some bad/questionable calls.
Story 2: OP is definitely not the bad guy. He understood - and r/sash didn't - that as soon as he paid for the first diaper, she would stop trying to hold the father accountable. It absolutely makes sense that OP would want to make sure the father is doing his part. Plus it had the added benefit of making his GF see what a jerk the father is. No one destroyed the father's life; he apparently cheated on his fiance, got another woman pregnant, and then tried to shirk responsibility. That's just consequences.
1000% correct here.
yeah He needed to make sure that she sued the dad for child care.
Rslash should know how much Money a new born costs. Rslash usually supports bounderies and I was really surprised about his reaction
Exactly this. And maybe after a few years of the real father doing his financial part op could maybe start with birthday presents or something. But from zero to 18 paying for someone else kid is just not reasonable.
Yep. If he helped out at all, she'd make him raise the baby. Best course of action would be for him to break up with her. She basically wants to make him raise another man's baby that she had while cheating on him.
R/slash is a simp.
2nd story: NTA at all. If the mother isn’t willing to pursue the father for child payments (as per the initial agreement) then why should OP have any financial commitment. Had the girlfriend been willing to seek child support but the father had been dodging it, then it’d be right for him to contribute.
I understand Rslashs point of being an ESH but his score is an overreaction like he is kinda of a buthole for WANTING to raise the kid but not pay for anything but he is not the bio dad soooo
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@@janaejoaodosacramento9731 and we all know if he was in the OP's shoes, he wouldn't pay for a kid that wasn't his - his older takes make that abundantly clear.
Meh, rSlash is becoming more and more a simp with the passing days.
You can’t say you want raise a child and then not help pay for the child lmao. OP is an asshole too.
Rslash, we all love you and your channel. If you can, please take a break from this. This all seems to be hitting you harder than ever before
RSLASH please take a vacation, for your own sanity!
You said it yourself, these stories are really getting to you. People who like you and your content will wait for you to come back.
TAKE A BREAK AND BREATHE FOR A LITTLE WHILE. I think you'll feel better for it.
You are reading too much in to his commentary. He doesn't need a break and needs people telling him to take one even less. This is his livelihood. If he wants a break he will take it. But we will get a video a day still because he's not literally doing this non stop daily. He does so many videos and has them in the pipeline ready to publish. I guarantee he takes plenty of breaks as it is. Even with his publishing schedule.
@@porter0311 Everyone needs a vacation. He works hard, he subjects himself to some of the ugliest sides of humanity. The suggestion come from a place of concern and an understanding of how much working around that kind if ugliness makes you hateful and jaded.
@@getcreative4434 Too true we all have our bad days for sure. I commented before I even heard story 3. So that is my fault. If I had I probably would have commented something completely different and more understanding to your original comment. Or I would have just not said anything at all.
@@porter0311 Thank you. I also understand where you're coming from, he shouldn't be dictated to by strangers online. However, when even a fan base can tell that something is wrong, it's not uncommon for people to toss in their two cents.
I just hope he doesn't let this bleed into his everyday life. It could ruin a lot of things for him.
@@porter0311 TH-camrs still make money on their videos even if they haven’t posted one in a while.
Oh boy, can't wait for the next video's intro where Rslash apologizes yet again for his bad takes.
Yeah the 3rd story had me going "wtf dude?" When he just WENT OFF on them. A lot of times when watching these thing I'm usually the one being harsher about shit people do, but damn that was waaayyy out of left field even for me.
I had to skip through the rest of his rant but then went back to listen after the comments… like damn… so harsh 👀
@@fallendeus same
100% agree dude and just wait until his daughter is that age and losses at Comfort item he's going to think back to this like wow I was way too harsh
Ans he had the nerve to say OP in story 3 only held themselves accountable for sympathy from Reddit, when he does the exact same thing in his oh so mature apologies
Oh my god I MASSIVELY disagree on story 3. I have a sheepy that I love dearly which I can't sleep without, and as a kid I was inseparable from him. I'm autistic so it's particularly hard for me to be away from him, but even without being neurodivergent a child being away from their comfort item can literally feel like the end of the world. It's absolutely devastating and terrifying to be a child without your comfort item. I had nap time at my school/church as a kid and forgot my sheepy one day. I would not STOP begging to go get him. I was so distraught it felt like the end of the world. Everything to me was wrong and my night was miserable. My dad tried to convince me to go one night without him but emotionally I just couldn't, that was my sheepy, he was my best friend and greatest comfort in the world. He drove me to the church in the middle of the night and my nanny who lived at the church woke up for us and she opened the church up for me because she was so kind and caring towards children. She completely understood that I couldn't be without my sheepy and my dad and my nanny did everything they could to reunite me with him because I was a YOUNG KID. The father showing up to their house just to ask to pick up something he forgot is seriously NO PROBLEM at all. What if he forgot his wallet there? Would your option change, Dabney? Or is he being an entitled person for going over just to PICK UP an important item he left? You've had some hot takes but this one just disgusts me, esp knowing you have a child. All it takes is a "hello I forgot one of my belongings here" "oh yeah come in and take a look" it seriously sacrifices maybe ONE MINUTE of your free time to help a father and child in need. Seriously bad take here.
OMG I'm the same way! I'm also autistic and still have to have my Cowwy to sleep, even at 23 years old. I completely agree with you on story 3, just because it's "just a toy" to neurotypical adults doesn't mean that toy isn't important to someone's mental wellbeing!
(I also had a similar incident of leaving my plushie at school when I was 6...yeah, my parents had one hellish night trying to get me to go to sleep, lol)
@@kineticaesthetic6465 I’m also autistic and my comfort toy is a BATIM plush that I’ve had since I was 7, the main reason I never take him to school is because I can’t imagine him being destroyed.
I disagree with you. Someone's work life is far more important than a child's special item, no matter how you look at it. This could've been a great teachable moment that not having things your way really ISN'T the end of the world, even if it might feel that way. One day without it would not have traumatized the child. You can't barge in on somebody's career for that, even if it took a minute or two.
And if it was so important, it's OP's fault for not keeping track of it for the kid. That's on him 100%. He's not a bad person, but it was a selfish move.
Can someone PLEASE tell me what rSlash said on the 3rd story, he cut the post so now his commentary on it is gone.
@Angel Renteria The story was about a father and his son. He'd been having another couple babysit his son, and one night he realized that they'd forgotten their son's toy he needs to sleep with at their house. He was texting and calling and getting no reply so he drove over and knocked on the door. The wife grumpily let him in and come in to look for the toy, they quickly found it on the bed. The couple then started to berate the father for interrupting their work at home and saying the world doesn't revolve around his son. Dabney basically called the father entitled beyond hell, saying that he's the rude one for bothering the couple "about just a toy", that the father should have had a civilized discussion with his toddler, and if I recall scored the father 4/5 assholes. Frankly Dabney deserves that scoring for the ruling on that post. He was saying how entitled the father was and that he deserved to go onto r/entitledparents
RSlash if your daughter ever grows up to rely on a comfort object for her anxiety and has a panic attack if she loses said object then I really hope you don’t have the same viewpoint dealing with her at that moment as you did reading that 3rd story. Yikes.
I don’t understand why he and those other parents were making a big deal over a kid wanting their stuffy back like it took them a few minutes to get Dumbo back. Then they had the nerve to text to both OP and his wife a really rude message. (I don’t blame OP’s wife for being angry.)
Yeah. Rslash is like, just solve it by talking rationally to your child, like that's going to work on a 4 year old. I think this was a no one sucks here situation, cause the other mom has the right to expect her work to not be interrupted, but the father needed to get that comfort object back. Maybe he's deserves a butthole score for forgetting it in the first place, but like, mistakes happen.
@@PhilDomo1 Rslash sucks here because we are starting to see what type of douchebag he really is.
R slash said he would use it as a teaching moment, to be careful with your things...also you can't always get what we want.
@Sailor Star so the friends mom should just drop whatever she's doing in that moment do get a stuffy? Did you miss the part where he barged into that woman's house when she said now is not a good time? I don't think it's gonna be a problem in the future because they will never baby sit for op again.
Geez, did the family in the 3rd story do something to rslash personally?
The knee-jerk reaction to drive to a friend's house to get the plushie was understandable; if your SO is having a hard time, maybe its not the time to make a mistake into a teachable moment for your four year old?
And while the dad coming in to grab the plushie was maybe annoying, I don't see how it was the massive inconvenience the subsequent text stated it was.
Like, geez, rslash. That interpretation of the final paragraph was the least generous one you could have made, and kind of the reason I don't post on AITA. People decide to take a single event and make sweeping condemnations about you as a person, saying your a bad person.
Being honest Rslash should really take a break, the stories are starting to really get to him and affect his mentality
Rslash takes can be wild sometimes, probably read way too many entitled parents stories, but when his daughter does reach the age of kicking and screaming if doesn't have her favorite toy, i can see him a full 180, when he had just married, he was so bad at takes of between boyfriends and girlfriends, siding with the girls even when they were very in the wrong
Like telling OP in story 2 that they should also fit the bill for a child that isn't even theirs even though he's never held that same energy for anyone else.
Or the times he victim blames and shames because he himself would handle things differently.
Rslash is becoming the very person he always judges.
Honestly his comments became more of a rant than opinionmaking in last few months; I find myself just closing video halfway thru because of that
Yeah this is alittle concerning I think r/slash isn’t being impartial anymore he’s actively taking werid takes
Story 3:
The toy was on the bed, in the open. The other 4 year old didn't put it there. The parents must have. They knew they had it all day and didn't message op saying 'hey your kid left their toy'. If they were really that busy they could have added that op could collect it tomorrow or they'd bring it to school or something. My bet is they were hoping to keep it.
They could have put it in their mailbox or something and told OP where it would be so he wouldn’t have had to come knocking and interrupting them! !!
I rarely comment on these videos, but RSlash's reaction to story 3 rubbed me VERY wrong.
As a kid, I panicked about my comfort items disappearing. Literal panic attack. I still do to this day, but know I have other things I need to do and push through it cause I'm am adult.
The one who is panicking is a child. Sleepy Dumbo is that child's WORLD. Humans are creatures of habit. That child wouldn't have been able to sleep at all until their plush was back. I know I wasn't able to sleep well at hotels without my stuffies (I didn't bring them to avoid this situation exactly).
My parents would go above and beyond for me to look for my plushies and if we needed to stop, because we did, I would be inconsolable because again, that plushie is that child's world. And a child's world is very small.
Ntm, they took the time to text OP a giant message and not one that said "Busy with work atm. Not a good time." Like....one takes a LOT less time to do.
Hard disagree on the third story. I remember when I was young I had this teddy bear. I remember forgetting it once at my aunt's place. We couldn't pick it up cause she lived too far away. But I was inconsolable I couldn't sleep at all. I understand that as a parent you would want to try and pick the stuffed toy up. It's not something that took hours. They walked to the place where the toy probably was, they got the toy, and left. And honestly I'm surprised the other parents were so angry about it.
@@AJDRAGON01 important work calls don’t exist? I guess the normal thing to do is to pester the people who have done you massive favor.
It's hardly pestering if they did it once and never again. Also a quick text or phone call is barely an inconvenience, whole process, minus drive time, wouldbtake less than 5 minutes.
I disagree with you. If I’m working on an important work thing, and someone ignored my signs to not be disturbed (not answering phone) and just showed up at my house to demand to be let in, I will be pissed too. A toddler should learn that there are consequences to his actions (leaving toys behind) and learn that throwing a tantrum will NOT get him what he wants. OP could’ve just easily waited until the next day or whenever the friend responded to get the toy. What he did felt extremely intrusive, and if I was the friend, I would not offer to babysit again.
@@MrDoverfield I agree. Why do people act like having a toddler gives you the pass to do whatever you want to do to appease said toddler? People are NOT entitled to entering my house whenever they want just because they want to.
@@MeMe-tw4xb "a toddler should learn that there are consequences to his actions", that one cracked me up. You clearly don't have kids.
glad i’m not the only one that was taken aback by story 3.
he literally asked if he could go in, and they said YES?? how is that rude?
it doesn’t bother work that much to slightly open a door.
also, you rated a man who got a stuffed animal for his kid and a cheater the same…
holy crap your take on that 3rd story is so far out there. calling a stressed parent entitled because they want their kids super special toy that could reasonably be a 30 second interruption is so ridiculous. ALSO if it’s his actual comfort item, missing it is not something that you can explain to a kid, he was probably in hysterics. From personal experience with kiddos they can’t be reasoned with when they want a comfort item but can’t find it.
I'm a nanny. They call this a lovey and discuss its role in child development in nanny training.
Wait till Rslash learns this the heard way when his daughter gets old enough
RSlash Clearly hasn't reached this point in parenthood and think he understands it all because he has one still in diapers 🙄
Why do parents believe that they’re entitled to anything just because they have a screaming toddler? I dont care if his kid is in hysterics. It’s better he learns that throwing a tantrum will not get him his ways.
It’s not a 30second interruption if they have to open the door, talk to the dad, then let him in and lock after them. But even if it’s actually 30seconds, if I’m doing some really important work to the point that I’m not answering my phone. I expect to not be disturbed in my own home for some toddler. This is such an entitled take.
@@MeMe-tw4xb could’ve saved all that time with the five seconds it takes to text “sorry, not a good time”
10:42 I completely disagree with you. Yeah, OP was in the wrong, but so was the other couple. They could have texted OP and said “sorry, this is a bad time” or something akin to that. Not to mention that the response that you and the couple gave to OP were so wildy out of proportion to what actually happened
In story 2, you basically shamed this man for doing what you tell other men to do. "It'S nOt yOuR rEsPoNsIbIlItY", followed up with "you're heartless for not taking care of someone else's baby."
*Exactly, there's a big difference between being a step parent for a kid that's not yours vs financially supporting a kid that isn't yours. The baby isn't OP's responsibility, so the fact he even helps at all is a big thing. It's the GF's and the "Friend's" responsibility, he knocked her up and gave her a child. It's his responsibility to financially support the kid, if he's not gonna be in the child's life and it's her responsibility to go after the baby daddy for child support if he's not doing that. Friendship be damned, all that matters is the kid's needs being taken care of. Idk how Rslash came to ETA rating when the only assholes are the irresponsible parents.I like Rslash, but some of the conclusions he comes to baffles my mind. Also side tangent, but this is a prime reason why I wouldn't want to be with someone with a kid, just too much drama.*
@@VergilLover69 Plus acting as even a stepparent, let alone helping out even a little financially, is sufficient for some courts to make YOU pay child support (potentially for life if the kid gets disabled) even if it’s not biologically his. By ‘stepping up’ he’d be accepting hundreds of thousands of dollars of financial liability to help propagate genes that aren’t even his. Yeah screw that.
@@EarthIsNotFlat *Further reason why he's NTA* 🤷🏿
Especially since the bio dad has the means to pay child support! If he would have paid up, his gf would have never gone after bio dad for child support.
I mean, he has a point. The OP is basically being a father without actually supporting his woman and child, he's having it both ways.
Story 3 is one that I have to highly disagree with, from the stories that my mother has told me my attachment was with a stuffed animal called Blue Dog we went to the beach when I was younger and I forgot him and I didn't realize until it was too late and I left him at the beach house. It was very stressful and I couldn't really sleep during that time until the people who found him eventually sent him back, I was only about 7 or 8 at the time and considering I was stressed over him I wonder what a four-year-old must think. And considering he eventually found sleepy Dumbo within a few minutes I don't think it's that much of a pain to do. If it was so much of a pain why couldn't the parents of the other child send sleepy Dumbo back? All it takes was a drive and a few steps to the front porch of their house to give back something that is extremely valuable to a 4-year-old. This isn't so much about the story as it is about these types of videos but rslash are you doing okay? A lot of people are wondering why you've become more and more bitter as time goes on with these types of videos you said a few videos back that you wanted to take a break and I think it's a good time to do so. These videos are becoming more and more better and hateful to the Op when some of them didn't deserve the sarcasm or the shitty butthole score that you suggest. Especially when it comes to the story I just wonder when your kid turns forward and they begin to attach themselves to Sentimental objects, I wonder what would happen if something ever happened to those sentimental objects like a stuffed animal or something like that.
I remember when I was little, I had a stuffed animal I called 'Cousin Birdie,' and he came *everywhere* with me. Even to the hospital when I was four and a half. But I was also really clumsy with him and he went through a lot. The only ones I remember were dropping him in a mud puddle and throwing up on him, but there were a lot more. Anyway, obviously, my parents would have to clean him up, wash him, whatever, during those times, and I couldn't have him with me while he was soaking wet or drying off. So they got me a similar stuffed animal that I called 'Birdie's Cousin' and I would carry him around when the original had some kind of crisis. So the OP and his wife may want to think about doing something like that.
However, yeah, they're definitely not the Aholes. Especially if the "friends" are parents themselves, I can't believe the mother's reaction when she opened the door wasn't, "Okay, take a few minutes to look around, but be quiet. I'm working, otherwise I'd give you a hand. If/when you find him, just see yourselves out, and I'll talk to you later."
Fr dude apologized cause the thought he was harsh on story 2 when I felt like it was a fair assessment. Then pulled this stuff out next story. I was like how is this guy being an asshole by inconveniencing someone whose supposed to be his friend for 5-10 minutes.
Seriously. I hope this is just Rslash being tired and frustrated and not genuinely how he feels. He's talked about how he's getting burned out and tired and that he feels it's making his verdicts harsher than usual because he's getting jaded. A break isn't really possible because TH-cam is his main source of income and the algorithm will screw him over if he does, but I do think he needs to figure something out to rest.
That behavior is not healthy ...only being able to sleep if you have a stuffed animal? Never heard of it, must be an "american kid thing", also freaking out because of a plushie...
They are working. Did you not hear the story? They’re busy working - something adults have to do.
If it’s been a few days and they still didn’t return Dumbo that’s a different story. But to immediately just because a toddler is having a tantrum to intrude on somebody’s important work time is extremely entitled.
How about the dad teach the kid that they will be able to get it back, but just have to wait and be patient?
3rd story: nta. Kids and parents forget toys. It happens. I don't think rslash has had this happen yet with his baby but trust me when kids forget toys especially ones they sleep with its a big deal. Parents are usually understanding when kids leave stuff behind. Idk why the 2nd set of parents were being sooo rude. OP didn't ask them to look and immediately found sleepy Dumbo and left. The 2nd set of parents are AH for sure.
plus OP called in advance and got no answer. the other parents also didn't call OP and his wife about the toy.
it seems obvious the other parents wanted to keep the toy to themselves.
@Giordan Diodato that's what I'm thinking. My son had a patriots blanket with "tickies" (like those tie blankets with the fringe) and that was my sons comfort item for a long time. He would wrap the tassle around his finger and put it by his nose. When Harvey hit us in 2017 he was devastated we lost it. He had that blanket since he was born. I finally was able to find another one and replace it. My son also stole my valentine avocado blanket a few years back and sleeps with it to this day. Kids have comfort items and it hurts them emotionally when it's gone. The other parents either didn't care that their kiddo lost a comfort item or wanted to give their kid the toy. Either way I agree with OP that I would call and proceed over there to ask for the item back. It's not normal for a parent to answer the door and not care that their kid lost a comfort item. Either way it's a big red flag. Especially the text blowing it out of proportion. I'd personally text OP and say "hey when we don't answer its not a good time to come over. Please just text me or whatever and I'll find the toy"
@@GiordanDiodato Yes, that was what I was thinking exactly!
When a kid doesn’t have their comfort item it can be a nightmare, OP was 1000% NTA. Rslash is entirely wrong here
I'm not a parent and even I was thinking on these lines
If your kid ever gets attached to a particular toy, buy 10 of those bad boys. The stress of losing it is too much especially if it's the only toy they like and rely on
Story 3:
rSlash, what the hell? You eviscerated a parent for looking out for their kid. You're acting like OP broke into their home to get Dumbo back. I've had plenty of experiences in which 4-year-olds lose something before bed/naptime and they are inconsolable until the item is found. And the fact that Dumbo was on the friend's bed and not in another room, like the kitchen or by the door, leads me to believe that the parents were intentionally trying to keep Dumbo for their kid.
@desperate need of scotch it actually takes nothing to send a quick text of acknowledgment
R slash is really hitting the bad takes for story 3. You have a daughter, and while iirc she isn't a full blown toddler yet, you know how hard it is to get kids to sleep. Now imagine your kid has a comfort, and they won't eat or sleep without it. You DON'T want to lose that. The kid will sob and scream and starve themselves and be in that constant state of anger/tantrum. Now you DEFINITELY don't want to lose it. On top of that, it really doesn't take much to let someone inside for 5 minutes to look for that comfort, and you can get back to what you were doing without even looking
Lily is quite literally around 2 or 3 (She was born in like 2020/2021)
@@KomaedasOneTrueHope maybe I'm just time blind lmao. When they can walk and talk at 3/4 is generally when I refer to them as full blown toddlers. 5-12 is a kid, etc
That really sounds like a "you" problem though right?
@@thomasj3701So's not having anyone to watch your kid but OPs buddy still watched them. Not allowing someone to take their own possessions they left behind is theft also 😂
I agree, imo Rslash was wrong here, it takes like a few minutes to get the toy and is barely an inconvenience. They even found it on the bed so they knew they forgot it. A simple text or quick phone call would be easy.
In the sleepy dumbo who else gets the vibe that the toy was on the sons bed for a reason and the parents were really mad that they tried to pull a fast one and failed
RSlash, I listen to your videos every single day on the way to work. I love the content. However, I feel as if your commentary is changing in a negative way like you said a little while ago. I’m just saying I wouldn’t be mad if you took a break for your own mental. I’ll keep listening the second you come back.😊
Yeah same here
That's why I'm currently going through the comment section and upvote every single post that tells him to take a beak.
Yeah I agree, made my own comment about and told me to take a breather and go to other light hearted subreddits or other content
I haven't listen to his videos in a few months and I come back to this hateful commentary. WTF happened to rSlash?!
I was thinking the same thing. Like giving the dad of an upset 4 year old an asshole score for going and asking for the kids comfort item back. He's a dad, this one should have been a no brainer but he went full Karen mode instead.
rSlash, please take a break. We will all still be here for you. You need to take some time to yourself and to your family. Reground yourself. Please
Yeah, he sounds like he kinda needs one.
I definitely agree with you. I think he's getting too overwhelmed with this stuff and needs to take a breather. He's gotten a lot less light-hearted and more aggressive with his reactions. And I think that may be due to him constantly uploading.
He's slipping on both readings and reactions
Totally agree!!!!
Yeah I think it's about time.
As we used to say back in the day, you need to take a chill pill. Holy moly that take on story 3 was outrageous
*Before reading the fourth story*
Rslash: Telling the gf to STFU is kind of extreme...
*After reading*
Rslash: Girl, STFU.
Perfect.
While i dont agree with the statement, remeber that it was from a kid. The words said was most likely not his words, but the words od the kids parents. My gullible self wants to believe that his girlfriend wanted the poor girl to show kindness to the kid who said it, so he can learn that what he learned from home isnt true.
Highly disagree with story 3
Sleepy dumbo is literally his kids toy and he needs it to even sleep. Clearly the kid has a attachment to sleepy dumbo. It's also likely the other couple wanted to keep it for the friend.
No kidding. Wait until his daughter gets to be 4. How in the world does he think you can reason with a cranky 4 year old. This take was horribly mean.
I also noticed rslash getting more and more bitter with each upload. Don't know him but I get the feeling something is up. Good vibes to you, Bailey!
@@christinrichter9610 yeah he said he'd work on it a few weeks ago but honestly? It's not really working like he wants it to.
Yeah, if someone’s looking after a child, surely it wouldn’t be that bad if they come back and say ‘hey, forgot something could I just quickly get it then leave’ but idk..
@@Selmatrixie agreed
RSlash: apologizes, says he’ll read more positive subreddits and his takes won’t be as harsh
Also RSlash: doubles down, continues reading the same subreddits, has even stupider takes
I hate to agree because I love his videos but that was one of the worst takes I have ever seen on a story. I thought at first he was gonna call the other family entitled if anything
Rslash, dude, please, we are *begging you*. Take a break, or at least take a break from family related posts. We will still be here! 🥺 you gotta reground, dude
I think Rslash is gonna be in for a rude awakening when his kid forgets a valued objects somewhere and traumatizes her because he's too lazy to get if for her. Sure it's rude to wander into someones house unannounced but OP didn't waltz in like he owned the place and he didn't tell the other parent to get the toy for him. He got it himself, if the other parent didn't want to be bothered they could have answered one text or call to resolve the issue before even having to meet in person.
I think you're right. Because his kid is so young, he might not realise how emotional and In The Moment kids can be. If a kid feels distressed it feels all consuming because they have no other feelings to compare it to and go "oh compared to xyz this isn't that bad." If they feel panic at a lost beloved object, they think they're going to feel this way forever. The kid was already worried that something had happened to the toy, and in his mind the toy was Gone Forever until he saw proof that it hadn't been thrown out or something. Plus possessions are so valuable to kids because they don't have the money or means to just go out and buy another one the way an adult can if you lose a favourite pen or something. As adults, our most treasured possessions are the ones that are hard to replace, say if its expensive or hard to get, and for helpless kids that's pretty much everything they own because they depend on their parents for everything. I think you're right about the trauma, too. I've met grown adults who are still traumatised about stuff that happened like this as a kid, even if their adult mind knows in hindsight its not a big deal, because they deeply remember how distressing it was at the time. Plus kids take things even more personally than adults do, so in a kid's mind it can VERY quickly become "daddy doesn't care about me."
While I understand wanting to get the toy back, he had no right to come during work hours unannounced and should've respected being denied entry. He should've asked when he can come back to get the toy. Why does someone have to respond to you during work hours? It's not an emergency. He should've never allowed his wife to call, yell and insult those people when they respectfully set boundaries. You act like a toddler not having his comfort toy for one day is the end of the world and dare to call it traumatising? Traumatising is for a 4 year old toddler to lie burried in earthquake rubble for 78 hours, traumatising is seeing your house being washed away in a flood, burnt down in a fire (happened to me when I was 5 and lost ALL my toys, my bed, everything), traumatising is being emotionally neglected by parents, physical abuse. Traumatising is growing up in poverty where your parents can;t afford food let alone toys. Traumatising is growing up with diseases and disabilities in your family. Losing a toy is not traumatising. Your misuse of psychological terms is extremely damaging. You turn medical words into buzzwords and apply them where they don't apply. Get a reality check. If the child feels so unsafe without a toy it means there are bigger problems going on and the wife's immediate reaction to scream and insult people who have the right to be upset gives me an idea what home life looks for that child and why he feels so unsafe.
@Ug N uhmm I can tell you for certain that little things like that can traumatise a child. My 4 year old brother got traumatised seeing a flower he didn't like. To this day he can't be around that flower ot anything that looks like it. Trust me little things like that affect children, they're children. Trying to reason with a screaming toddler is absolute hell. Op called and messaged before going to their house. And asked politely if he could retrieve the missing toy. He felt really bad for interrupting and apologised. I don't see the problem with what he's doing and it didn't take that long. If thinking that way makes me entitled then so be it cause if you left your house keys or wallet you'd do the same. Just because it's a child doesn't mean it doesn't matter, everything matters to the right person. I'm just saying
Story 1 updated effectively after some thought he moved out before she came back. They had a conversation Where he admitted he wanted to propose to her on the vacation, But after inviting her friends for the unteen time after repeatedly telling him She won't do that anymore he realized she never was going to change so instead of a proposal he broke up with her. She wined and cried saying that she was going to change and not to throw away everything they had butt he pretty much said you've proven that I'm not as important as your friends in your life so I'm want to find someone who puts me 1st.
The girlfriend only realized how badly she messed up when she realized what OP planned on doing I have no sympathy for her
Story 3:
Gonna have to disagree with RSlash about the dad getting the plushie for his child.
One this toy is the kid's comfort toy, and those are pretty big deal if the kid literally can't sleep without it. Kids need sleep, naps, and having a tired and panicking child is not good for anyone's health. Even more so for the growing child.
Two, Op sent phone calls and texts to the friend and she's working from home. Ya know without a doubt that her phone is right there on her desk and she defiantly saw the texts, cause she knew who was at the door. Op didn't barge into the house, he asked his friend to get the toy first and she kept saying 'I'm at work' and then just let Op in after he begged. Sorry but if the lady had time to open the door, talk to Op, and stand by the door while Op quickly grabbed the toy and left, then that meant she had the time to just grab the toy herself without even letting OP in the house. Hell when she saw the texts she could have grabbed the toy, and then tossed it to Op once he knocked on the door. Save her a butt load of time.
I understand that the friend was frustrated, but her text was too harsh. Next time I would have just told them to Make sure to take all of the toys they brought with their kid next time. If she was in a meeting or calls, then tell them that! Don't just say 'I'm working' that doesn't ding to people most of the time that you might be on phone with important people or clients. I work from home and 90% of the time I am just typing out code so O have time to answer the door or go to the kitchen to fix my pets some food. If she was in a meeting then I would get it then, but she didn't even act like she was in a rush. Just pissed.
No one is the A-Hole. Op should have made sure he had his child's comfort toy but people make mistakes, even more so if they are a tired just got out of work parent to a toddler.
"Ya know without a doubt that her phone is right there on her desk and she defiantly saw the texts"
How do you know she saw them in defiance? How would that even be possible, unless she was forbidden from reading the texts and read them out of defiance?
Second story, no you're definitely not the bad guy. You didn't impregnate her, it's not your responsibility. If they were both so worried about the after math of what was going to happen, then they shouldn't have slept together, plain and simple. Rslash, he's just the BF! Not the father, or her husband. If they were married, I could see the bad guy rating. But they are literally just dating
i'd still say maybe 1/5 because it seems like he's not fully committed, but then again it's not his kid, not his problem. idk this story is kind of all over the place and we might be missing something in it.
But i have to say that OP is weird for not leaving that relationship entirely. He can. He totally can.
Some would say "Well he cares for the kid even though said kid isn't his" - doesn't look like that considering the fact that he does bare minimum AT BEST.
This is really damn weird.
Yea but he didn't break up with her even though he fully knew it wasn't his kid
The whole situation is hella complicated honestly. Since children are a lifelong commitment, expensive, and you have to basically change your entire life for them.
@@BadassHater1 maybe he's blinded by "love" who knows lol
Love you r/! You're literally apart of my daily life but you gotta take a break every once and while. Take a bit to go relax and spend time with your family
RSlash, we love you, your family and your stories, please take a brake and rest. The second and third story sent you waaaaaaaaaaaay above and away. Please take a break.
You are reading too much in to his commentary. He doesn't need a break and needs people telling him to take one even less. This is his livelihood. If he wants a break he will take it. But we will get a video a day still because he's not literally doing this non stop daily. He does so many videos and has them in the pipeline ready to publish. I guarantee he takes plenty of breaks as it is. Even with his publishing schedule.
@@porter0311 you don't know anything about him aside from what your told - therefore you have no right to make these proclamations
@@porter0311 You sound selfish
I haven't watched rSlash's videos in a few months and now, I come back to this hateful commentary. It's a big difference and I'm questioning if *I should stay on the channel. 😕
@@whatteamwildcats4033 Hypocrite much?What I know is what he himself has mentioned in his videos about himself. So no I am NOT wrong.
The sleepy dumbo story reminds me of a time when I left my stuffed bunny at my daycare (my mom’s coworker). She was sweet enough to bring my bunny back because she knew how attached I was. I was also 6/7 at the time. So I get it when a parent is desperate to get their child’s favorite toy or something they need to sleep. I get that it was rude to just go over to the house but a night without your favorite stuffed animal you are completely attached to is really hard. Sure it would have just been for a nap, but the child is 4 and bound to forget things. And the dad didn’t really barge into the house, it didn’t sound like he really bothered her either. He just asked to look for sleepy dumbo.
I wonder how rSlash is gonna handle it when his daughter is this age and loses things or leaves something she’s attached to behind at a sleepover.
Story 2 and 3 HARD disagree you way missed the mark when the these imo
For story 3 from the kid's reaction and behavior, it sounds like OP's kid could have some form of separation anxiety or other attachment needs that stuffed toys very often fill. It's hard for an adult to understand, but a lot of times something like a toy could register in a child's mind as being a part of themselves, and no amount of reassurance or reasoning will help, especially if the child has any special needs (which is possible but OP didn't state). Also, if Grandpa is recovering from a surgery, it sounds like Mom's already going through a lot of stress for her family, so an inconsolable child is especially urgent. OP called and texted but didn't get any response, so while going straight to a friend's house may have been an intrusion, it really doesn't sound like an entitled parent, just a parent caught in a bad spot and trying to do right by his kid. If anything, if these 'friends' really did care enough to babysit in the first place why are they getting so uppity? If they're busy, the thing to do isn't to just ignore calls and texts, it's to return those calls and texts or set up a dang answering machine.
*edit* I literally was just saying he needs a day off cause he works to hard, I didn't even mention the 3rd story, yall are wack.
Hey @rslash, I hope you are doing okay man.
I know being a youtuber and pumping out daily content like this is insane work, please take some time to yourself and your family.
Even just a few days off work wonders bro, spend some quality time with the kid, wife and doggo.
Much love from a fellow father
You are reading too much in to his commentary. He doesn't need a break and needs people telling him to take one even less. This is his livelihood. If he wants a break he will take it. But we will get a video a day still because he's not literally doing this non stop daily. He does so many videos and has them in the pipeline ready to publish. I guarantee he takes plenty of breaks as it is. Even with his publishing schedule.
It's really not, dude reads other people's stories for a few hours on a weekend, has his editor put em together and that's like 2 weeks worth of videos. Not insane workload by any measure
@Porter Johnson you gonna comment on every comment saying he should take a break, maybe it should be more concerning what multiple people are saying. His take on this video just ain't it and people are saying to take a break for a reason.
@@loveless47 Not every. Just a few. Im sure if he needs a break he will take one. It won't affect his release schedule. He has MANY videos ready to go for just such occasions. Just like when he moved. No one even noticed that he actually wasn't making videos for 2 weeks straight. Because he had plenty set to auto-publish during that time. With that said, I had not even heard his comment on story #3 before i made my comment. So that's my fault for not knowing what he said before making my comment. Not all of his commentary is going to be spot on and that one certainly was NOT. But now that I have heard it, I still stick by what I said. He doesn't need people telling him what he needs to do. Its none of any of our business. He could be vacationing now and we wouldn't know it.
@Porter Johnson then his subscriptions will drop, its not just one or two people saying they didn't like what was said. It's multiple, no one is gonna wanna continue to watch someone who gets aggressive in response after reading a post. So yea it might be up to him but he should also listen and hear out what his viewers say and how is he going to do that if people don't speak up, take an l.
sleep dumbo story: rslash, it took me a minute to realize you were NOT joking. idk man, it’s a kid. i was devastated when i lost things as a child. as for the father, i think he handled that fine. could he have come back a different time? sure, but he didn’t “barge in”….he got permission! if the wife really wanted to, she could have said to come back later and closed the door. but she let him in. idk, rslash you’ve really surprised me this time
Kinda shocked with your reaction to the 3rd story. I think OP handled the situation well enough and was just trying to take care of their child. I've been very attached to items I can't function without and losing them throws a wrench in the cogs of my brain. Usually your rating are kinda fair but.. that one took me off guard.
Story 3: it’s a sleepover?
That’s not a favor, that’s for their kid’s benefit as much as OP’s.
Yup. Young kids distract each other so mom and dad don't spend all day playing with them
After that third story, I feel like Rslash needs to take a break from r/AITA and read some stories from some more wholesome subreddits.
Jeez man, I hope your kid never leaves something at another person's house. That kid is not getting it back
rSlash please read these comments begging you to take a break, and take one. Story 3 has to be one of your most off-base takes yet, and it's clear that the sheer volume of videos you've been making are taking a toll. It'll be alright if you take a few weeks off to spend time with your family and recuperate.
Story 2: Completely out of touch RSlash. He made his financial boundaries clear, and has no responsibility to provide money
He needs a break or to cover more lighthearted subs as his takes are getting more jaded or like you said, just completely out of touch.
I both agree and disagree at the same time. he's basically committing to being the kids' dad. if op and the gf stay together, that kid is gonna start wondering why Daddy never gets them icecreme or gets them birthday presents. i feel like there's a line, and if the kid was potentially going to literally starve from being out of formula, then i feel like op has some sort of obligation there. just seems really heartless, especially since he claims to love the child.
@@hansolconaway9113 yeah but at the same time their is a boundary he has to make and giving a child ice cream is different then constantly buying diapers
@@hansolconaway9113 Not OP's obligation. If the child is starving that's the mom and her baby daddy's obligation. If the child's father won't pay then it's the mother's duty to obtain payment via child support. Making another man pay for a kid that isn't his just so the actual father doesn't face consequences is twisted and f-ed up.
@@mahra_jabokwoam as I said in another comment thread, he needs to stop doing both AITA and Entitled Parents for a long while and do other subs like AskReddit or MBW.
I've noticed that RSlash's stories lately don't include updates. I've heard the first story with an update about a week or so ago. I assume that RSlash makes episodes in advance in order to post daily.
Which is totally okay! It's great that I get an episode every single day and I enjoy listening. I just hope he eventually follows up with story updates in the future.
When I heard Rslash take on the 3rd story, I was shocked by his rating. Op is NOT the ahole. The couple watching his kid were! He texted, he called, and then he came over. If they didn't want him to come over right away, at the very least, text him saying you're busy. But nope! They left him hanging. I would have done the same exact thing. And if I had gotten the same rude text, then yes, I'd then turn into the ahole. I'd tell them to f off and stop being friends with them, when they never even texted me back! Also, I'm not big into stuffed animals. Never have been. Except for one. A little gray bunny that I've had for longer than I can remember. If I lost that, I'd have a full on panic attack, tearing the house apart for it! I think it's been over 17 years since I got it
Disagree on story 3 - the other parents were 100% trying to steal Dumbo for their kid.
Agree. Rslash got this one wrong. The other family could have answered a call and express that it’s not a good time. Was OP supposed to be a mind reader?
Hence why it was on their child’s bed and not on the sofa. They could’ve texted OP and wife to say they had sleepy Dumbo but they would need to pick it up after work hours. If OP didn’t oblige then he would be wrong
Okay so I was not the only one who thought that as well because dumb I was on the bed and I know every parent knows what belongs to their kids for it just to be sitting there on the bed they were going to try and keep it
Deadass from my retrospective as an adult thinking look back. There really were some shitty parents or adults who were just infact awful towards kids. The fact Sleepy Dumbo was just sitting their looking pretty on the bed is hella sus
While I don't know if they were trying to steal it, I definitely don't think OP is in the wrong for trying to get something to help his kid when he's already going through a rough time. The most inconvenience he caused the other family was 5-10 minutes worth.
I would only call his behavior entitled if he had called over and over or knocked incessantly. From the post it just seems he tried both two or three times.
Rslash you were real harsh on the dad in story 3. As a parent, I pray you never end up in a situation like that.
Story 2: OP isn't the bad guy. He's literally raising someone else's kid. Please tell me out of 100 men, how many would stick around to do that, even if they didn't have to pay for it. I guarantee you'd struggle to find more than 3 so OP is already doing WAY more than what's required of him at this point. Yes, he could just fork out some money, but he's not responsible for picking up the slack of his gf and the father who are both, clearly horrible at making long term life choices