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The School of Life since I've most recently moved from LA to live with my husband in Oslo the past month, my most coveted self representing aspect of this home of ours is the wide window sill counter that spans the entire North facing side from kitchen to living room. The counter acts as the only barrier separating us from the public because it's sort of leveled with pedestrians as they walk into the condo structure. I've arranged what's on display there and it's slowly become an altar to my Mormor (Mom's mom). Plants that please and remind me of home visually and aromatically balance the space alongside candled decorative handmade glass plates and other pretty accessories.
My home is always in chaos, one room stays closed off always cuz I grow weed in there. I sleep in my front room and not my bedroom. Everything is a mess and furniture is not organized in any particular way. My life is all over the place so it makes sense my home is f***ed!
The School of Life I am a horder. When I was living alone, my house was much larger and it was easier to hide the items I brought. Now I live with my partner and the house is a lot smaller.
As an interior designer, I struggle to explain to clients what you have so eloquently laid out. It's not that one style is better than another - style is whatever speaks to your soul. Thank you!
indeed Michelle we are home building designers and itsometimes takes a few consultations for clients to switch from future sell of their homes thinking to how they want to feel in the most precious space in their lives. And then they suddenly get it , relax. dream and enjoy the process of creating their magic space called HOME, where you can think, play , enjoy yourself, relax and be yourself with the people you love
I am a recluse I LOVE MY HOME. I go to work after dealing with people all day I come home to my sanctuary. My secret is is being clean. A clean home feels like a cleansed home.
"its" proper physical container, that is, the personal pronoun its; not the contraction it is - it's. Just mentioning because I copied your comment and then realized the wrong it's was used. Thanks for the comment!!
Honestly, the part where it said that you need to go home to remind yourself of who you are, it really hit hard. I live in a dysfunctional household, everything's messy and everyone in it is horrible to me. I never enjoyed coming home from school, a trip or from a friend's place, it reminded me of everything I hate about myself, including my family. My room isn't even my room, it's everything everyone else wants it to be. I am not myself here. I never felt 'at home' in my own home. Sorry to dampen the mood, I just had to get it off my chest, and if anyone here relates to this, I hope things will work out
My mom was OCD neat and the house was always clean but my mom was always out of sorts. Her temper was short and I couldn't relax because any little thing out of place made her yell. She was verbally and physically abused by a relative that raised her after my mom's mother was murdered (my mom was only 3). My theory is that my mom needed control over her environment (including her children) to feel safe. But it made our lives difficult. She liked to say we never came home from school to a dirty house but we didn't come home to a relaxed loving mother either. I wouldn't have minded a little more mess and a lot more love in the form of affection.
I know how that feels. And I wanna tell you - you will have your own beautiful, safe home you wish for. I have it as well now, took me a long way, but I'm slowly settling. You got this!
I think the word home has become more meaningful to me in the past year. I moved out of my parents house to study in a different city. And first I thought: I don't need anything. I thought decorations are stupid. Pointless. A waste of money. So I had nothing. White walls, a bed, a desk, a wardrobe. But my room felt empty. And I felt empty. I disliked it so much, I could barely eat at this place that was supposed to be my home. I bought more things. I put up some pictures and wall hangings. I got candles and pillows. And I invited friends over. I am only now beginning to feel at home here. And I found out that extreme minimalism just isn't the right thing for me personally.
epitomeOFblueberries well minimalism isn’t about owning nothing but about owning only stuff that truly makes you happy. So if all the things around your home and house make you happy you’re fully a minimalist if you still want to call yourself that.
It's odd, isn't it? Live the minimalist lifestyle and feel clutter and waste free... Yet distant and lonely. While too much can overwhelm. There's just this sweet spot of balance we all need to find that makes us feel good. Thanks for sharing!
Ankita Baruah u r right but i think OSHO teachings can fulfill all such returning back home like our fitted orientations.And perhaps you know Hindi as well so don' miss it.
If you're working class like yours truly, you buy what you can afford, which is not necessarily what you would choose if you had choices. I've had items that were rescued from curb sides. :-) Fortunately, I inherited most of my furniture from family members. It's emotionally mnemonic, and establishes a sense of place, history, and connection. My surroundings are "shabby" in the world's eyes, but it feels comfortable and meaningful.
It sounds like your home is emblematic of you, your practicality and your lineage which, to me, has far more meaning and character than any fashionable home reflecting efforts to 'keep up with the Jones' '. I've seen celebrities' and footballer's houses that just look so soulless, generically opulent and interchangeable so you should cherish your individualistic abode and all its precious contents, Donna. Take care.
I live on a sailboat. I love being on the water and the gentle rocking from the waves. I hate being out in public, and I hate being away from my floating abode. I have few possessions, bit I have everything I need.
@@barbarak2836 I get the sentiment, but don't believe it's sincere. People sigh and groan about all the world's injustices, then cry about paying the tax which works to solve them. Oh dear, look at all these children going hungry, but let's vote on the basis of our own wealth while virtue signalling on social media. It becomes emotionally tiring to read.
@@rogz I have no "wealth," but I know I'm lucky to have a job and a roof over my head. Pardon me, I'm sure you think gratitude for what I have is insincere and very difficult for you. Also, I do not go on social media; it scares me. I realize You Tube IS a kind of social media, but I would never go on Facebook, Instagram, and whatever else there is.
I couldn't have found this video at a better time. I've realized my home is a representation of my inner psyche and I can almost always see my struggles reflected in the rooms I live in. My whole life i have existed in a space, and I never had a space that was truly mine. Even after marriage I saw my house as mainly my husband's and I just existed within to tend and keep more like a maid (severe codependency inherited in childhood, not an overbearing spouse). But I've come to realize I desperately want to find my true identity and express it in my home, and create my desired environment, and that in itself shows that I'm on the path of gaining confidence and learning who I am.
I am past middle age now so I've lived in several homes, and each home had its own personality. One was rustic decor, another a cabin on the beach so was decorated accordingly, another was danish modern, and the most recent was a condo that had a great floor plan but needed to be gutted. When done, I realized it was French Country. Didn't even know I liked that, but apparently I do! I know I've done a good job when I feel completely happy and safe in my little haven. My personal effects remind me of precious people and events in my past and give me great comfort.
The chair I love, the fresh plants, a candle here or there to burn in the evening - these things support the piano which is the heart of my home. From the bench I look out various windows at the forest and I love it. When it rains, it all comes together nicely with a cup of tea.
This would explain why after 20+ years of marriage, I'm desperate to get rid of everything we have and start over. I've grown so much over this time and my house does not reflect this change, it just keeps pulling me into my past. Amazing, I would never have understood this connection.
I decorate with my 🎸 guitars, keyboard, tools and camping equipment, kitchen tools displayed, I toss things I don't use or think i may need, a few books of reference and some favorite classics, research etc. I have 3 chairs, two for guitars (no arms) one lazyboy. I have my bedroon as a storage room and food pantry. Other equipment, music displayed on shelves. It's pristine and organized. I'm pretty happy with this set-up.
I once visited a relative overseas. I stayed in their home for 2 months. But I was so tense in it. They had sentimental items, expensive items, and cheap items. I was to scared to touch anything. I wanted to clean some figurines made out of bone china. But I just stared at them everytime I was in the dining room, it made anxious. I also didn't know if I should water the planets, vacuum the rugs, etc. I felt like I should know what to do in my relatives house, but I didn't. When I got home, I was so relaxed. I actually kissed the floor. I picked up a clay figurine, then tossed it in the air letting it land on a cushion. I pushed my secondhand dining table aside, it's full of scratches but it's my most used piece of furniture. I know all my items in my place, and what meaning they have to me.
As I organize and construct furnishings around my home, I feel myself becoming more organized and constructed internally. Thank you for this video! Very introspective
You can sense it when you move out of a house, noticing just how empty a place can feel walking through a school hallway in the evening or an unlit office on a weekend fairground out of season it is usually bustling with life but how lies abandoned and quiet It’s easy to forget that most of your memories happened in places that are still around, the walls mostly unchanged, with even some of the same people, who carry on in your absence. But the world you once knew, and the people you still remember, have long since moved on, replaced by so many others who have passed through these doors. Every house is haunted- even if it was built from scratch and lived in for the first time. . The floorboards may creak with impressions of a beaming baby learning how to walk, the wind may rustle the bedspread-and make it whisper with old conversations. Most of the time, these impressions are mistaken for imagination. But the next time our imagination makes us perceive something puzzling or inexplicable… don’t think about the phantom that floats in the corridors. Think about the experiences that were borne, the smiles that were conjured, the beautiful memories that were summoned. Because we’re not alone.
Thank you! Now I understand why I get so insane figuring out the decoration for my place, why I spend hours comparing objects and why it's so stressing finally picking one. It's so interesting how we act in such symbolic way. These videos are great!
strange I know exactly what I want when I see it, no stress, it's either in or out:)) that said, the thinking will happen when my husband thinks differently then we go on a hunt to find something appealing for both of us equally. there is not one piece of furniture in our house that we don't equally love it.
Great video, this. Essentially talking about how we surround ourselves with art that we identify most with. Lots of people forget that even household objects have an interpretation and an artistry to them.
Indeed. I'd been asked not too long ago why I buy much of my dishware some 60 miles away. I'm not entirely sure what it says about me - (edit: since I'm a guy) but I only really like cutesy-kid designs, particularly simple Japanese ones. So I get them at a thrift store across a toll bridge. My mother was planning on taking her plate set back, and she was a little taken aback when I responded "That means I can replace them with cuter ones!" And I've never understood why furniture in general is so blandly colored. I'm sitting in a children's elementary school chair because I dislike most color choices for adult-sized chairs. (Edit: so it's not that I choose items strictly on function at all, but because they match a particular style.)
I absolutly love this. As a young adult, I often worry about the pulls of a materalistic world where I am sucked in, buying and improving its own sake. This really helped me separate that needless presure from an inherant part of the self that supports me developing, learning myself and gowing. My home is my grounding, my sacred place. I will grow, I will change, and I will need to "buy" things to reflect that. If I view the buying as a reflection of my growth, rather than a conciquence of a capitalist marketing mechanism, then change and improvement is a concious effort rather than an impulsive, subconsious (and potentially unsatisfiable) urge.
Over a hundred houseplants. My personal secret garden. On Sundays I put on some classical or jazz records. Make a pot of tea and spend around two hours tending to my leaf babies. Conversations are had and I am so grounded aftetwards.
My home is divided conceptually. My room is beach style designed with anchors, fish and beach signs. My brothers room is Japanese style made with anime posters, animated cats and Japanese imported figures. Our favorite living room is designed with romantism as my moms wish where decorated with yellow French styled wall lamps, ceiling plant vines and paintings. Well Im glad that our house is so lovely diversely divided. Thanks for the informative video.
I'm clearing my home of clutter. Feeling better each day that I see less and I give away things. Having everything is the end all be all. God, love, nurture, bonding, peace, and simplicity is what is needed most importantly.
It's where the simulated womb, namely the bed, is literally housed. The objects in the house create that familiarity that makes it one's true home, but that place could be anywhere - it's actually a place within. I once read "your house is your larger body", and in a spiritual sense that is certainly true.
Home is where the heart is and it’s a nice feeling and sentiment to call somewhere ‘home’. Having somewhere to call home is so intrinsic and profound to who we are! I sincerely hope everyone has somewhere to call ‘home’ .
Great video as always, SoL. I'd like to add that there are other reasons why our homes feel more endearing and speak to us more than elsewhere: We have total control over them unlike hotels and such, that's where we feel safe the most, and finally that's where our freedom and privacy are at their fullest.
ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS DESCRIPTION OF HOW ENVIRONMENT REFLECTS A PERSONS SENSE OF WELL BEING, INDIVIDUALITY, AND RESPECT......IT ALSO APPLIES TO LIFE IN GENERAL........Thank you.
Exactly that's why I want to become an Architect!!! I want to help people by creating a sanctuary for them, a place where they can be themselves, where they feel themselves. I feel so fulfilled to see that other people share this same exact philosophy!
Interesting, seems you hold that profession in such high regard that you can't help but capitalize the A! :) Kudos to you! You go out there and be the best Architect you can!
Ahmad Mohamad, thank you for thr kind words. I actually wanted to write ARCHITECT, 😂 but I thought I would' ve put to much emphasis . Have a great day!
This is lovely. Whenever I move, it's important for me to unpack asap and hang things on the wall. I start to feel sad and lonely when my space does not feel like my home. It's difficult for me to understand people who are happy to never decorate their homes or can live out of a suitcase for months or years. My home is the only place I feel truly comfortable and protected. It's also a sanctuary that I do not like a lot of intruders that change the energy.
“Like everyone else, I had become a slave to the IKEA nesting instinct. If I saw something clever like the coffee table in the shape of a yin and yang, I had to have it. I would flip through catalogs and wonder, “What kind of dining set defines me as a person?” I had it all. Even the glass dishes with tiny bubbles and imperfections, proof they were crafted by the honest, simple, hard-working indigenous peoples of wherever.” - The Narrator, Fight Club
@@Changetheling My favorite line in fight club is when he is talking about his life being in little self serve containers like sugar packets. Nothing speaks of 'deep meaningful' feelings as little sugar packets. I can't look at them without smiling at the wonder of it all.
My physical container and everything I love. Its true, when I am on the most wonderful and beautiful holidays i still yearn for my home, not the objects as such but the meaning of it, the humans inside and the animals. Homesickness is a thing
You did it again and this time I'm even more astonished by the timing you have making videos that talk exactly about problems I'm currently puzzling about. When meeting with friends I've always been a person that went a lot more often to the place of others instead that people were drawn to stay with me at my home. As a child it didn't matter much to me but now I live in my own appartment and meet new people but it seems that its starting to develop in similar ways as then. I think it's clear that this is not because of obvious reasons as a hygiene problem but I maybe lack something subconsciously that makes my home look less like home for other people. Maybe it reflects not enough of myself because I didn't spent enough time with my home but instead resided too much in the home of others. I'm glad that I am possible to gain experiences now freely in that matter and can think in new ways thanks to your guiding. Thanks a lot! Again!
You don’t need much money. Shop at thrift stores. Go to the ones near nice neighborhoods. Many thrift stores are half price on saturdays and good things are plentiful. Beautiful throw pillows, curtain panels, curtain rods, art work, etc. If you worry about the pillows or curtains toss them in the laundry on gentle cycle. Pillows will dry within one day in hot weather. You can walk out with an entire house full of cool stuff for $40.
The comment above mentions thrift stores and I would add estate sales, too! :) We've found lots of great/unique stuff shopping at these places for our house (but unfortunately it still feels like a house rather than a home bc most of our money is going toward fixing it up rather than decorating :(
Home is beauty for your soul...contentment, safety all things that make you feel good about who YOU are as a person... love my home, I am a home body completely, and I make my home beautiful everyday, in some creative way...
"It's not a house...it's a home." -The Castle. The Castle is an Australian movie about a family that lives next to an airport. The airport is going to expand. So the government is paying families to move out of their house. But one man says "no." His house looks like a mess of do it your self projects. But it's what makes his house a home. I won't tell you the rest. I suggest everyone watch this lighthearted movie "The Castle."
To me it is one particular room. Recently we moved some furniture and we turned this room into a study/ workshop. Every object in that room feels like a part of me and it is where I spend most of my time
I don't get this feeling. When i stay in a hotel i never want to go home. everything at home ways me down. All i need is me, my dog and the few possesions i brought with me
Maybe time to start offloading the things in your home that weigh you down. I look at it like I'm sculpting. Everything in my home that I don't like goes out the door. I have a cosy minimalist home and everything in it I love:)
That’s an excellent perspective. I’ve never heard anyone put it that way. My cousin was the same way. He was highly educated but always lived in an apartment with minimal furnishings (folding chairs, mattress on the floor). When it was time to move on he didn’t have a bunch of stuff to pack up, he just moved.
You help my life, my children's lives, my husband's life, my friend's lives, my student's lives, my co-workers lives, my trainee's lives...and so on. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Home is not where you live, but who you live with. When my wife and i were traveling, the longest we ever stayed in one place was like 4 days. We slept in new beds almost every night. But since we were together, that felt like home to me. When we came back to our actual house, i didn't feel like we were "coming home" because i had been home the entire time we were in other countries. "A house is made of brick and stone. A home is made of love alone."
Not only the content of your videos, but rather the attitude and structured contexts (as well as the visual quality as the layout of ideas and their order!) are the inspiring part of what you present to the world. And what does the world say to that? The world says "Thank you!".
Nailed this one De Botton! I've been creating a piece about how the home tells stories about our inner and outer lives, really resourceful for me to see this!
Nails it! I've had a few different homes, from single family houses to apartments where I live now. As long as I have my books, my art since I'm a professional artist/composer, my piano which I've had since I was eight, a couple of plants and fresh flowers and a fireplace even an electric one and a kitchen to cook healthy meals in plus my two cats, I'm happy! Along with my grandchildren and my adult children now grown with homes of their own, "home is where the heart is"! My youngest is a real travel bug who is finding out now like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, "there's no place like home"!! Thanks for sharing~
Home is your true safe place, its were your loved ones are, its an extension of your soul, its your family castle, its the one place where you dont have to put up with strangers BS, and its the one place you could truly be yourself with out judgment, i wouldn’t care if everyone had way more then i ever could as long as i could have my home ill be happy
Home to me is walking. I've never felt safe at any home really. I always want to run! But going for a walk, or sleeping on a park bench is comforting to me 💕
J Warren I know, what I mean is they make it seem like your home is such a central part of your identity, you couldn't imagine a second without it. I get their idea and I think it's a good point, but presented somewhat overly dramatic... The question was provocative. I chose my furniture because it's cheap and practical, that doesn't have much 'identity'. Ofc it doesn't mean I don't have an identity..
Jlina A you just contradicted yourself with your other comment. Did I also choose not to have the money to spend more on furniture? By the way, I got high ceilings, I like them but didn't specifically search for a room with one. That's "choice" to you? It's as much free choice as choosing your parents My whole point is, If you have time and money to make yourself a personal home, that can reflect who you are much more than when you don't have these ressources. I wouldn't exactly call lack of money and time a character trait or ascribe it much of an identity...
Our homes are a way of reflecting us. Every home has a special athmosphere that show how everyone is actually thinking different or made up by different conditions. I love this.
In many respects I believe myself to be a rational and practical person, so I've always found it peculiar that when I moved into my already furnished flat, I instinctively wanted to replace things with my own stuff. Why did I buy my own chef's knife when there is one already in the drawer? Why did I take down the artwork on the walls even though they were objectively pretty and I didn't have anything to replace them with? This video made me realize that some of the items that are included in the rent are not symbolic of who I am as a person and therefore aren't welcome. Thank you School of Life for once again allowing me to understand myself a little better.
I actually look at it the opposite way. It's when I'm outside and at work / school engaging with other people I truly feel like myself. Home on the other hand is a comfort zone where you relax after coming home from "war".
most of my best ideas for work solutions are found, not at work.. but in a comfortable place. either just about to fall asleep or waking up or in the shower.
I love this concept, I always knew environment is important but to think of having your own home as a space to help reflect your beliefs and experience is golden. Great motivation to have my own place. Nice video!
Thank you for putting into words (and clever graphics) this entire concept that I long have felt but could not quite explain. Particularly now, having sold my home of 35 years and living in a temporary apartment, with my possessions in self storage, I appreciate what a sense of home means to one's every day life.
Unless you rent. Then the options are rather limited. But throughout the years of moving from place to place I learned that _home_ is wherever you're comfortable.
When i stay at someone elses place, hotel or even camping for whatever reason i feel drain/tired and have a need to go back home as if i need to recharge. weird but at the end of the Day HOME IS HOME yo!
This is a really refreshing video on an interesting topic. I'm a big fan of The School of Life, but lately I've found your videos seem to be rehashing old ground just under different titles; how, in love, we need to remember that we are all children; how we should be conscious of how childhood experiences affect our adult lives. But this video focused on something else entirely and I really appreciated it.
''Let's go home" is probably the phrase most often uttered in movies. I never feel/felt particularly good or comforted by the idea of getting home after a trip/work. As a matter of fact I remember sitting in the train station for an hour before finally making up my mind to complete my journey by going home. No matter how comfy, well and pleasantly decorated my home is, I'd rather be on the move or elsewhere. Home is not where the heart is.
Oh it is easy. So you live in a van? That says you are a free spirited person who doesnt like to stay only 'in one area' all the time. Van is also smaller but you can find anything you need here, you are not complaining.
Never liked decorations, i prefer empty walls and empty spaces, home is a place for privacy, quietness and comfort, few necessary furniture pieces are more than enough.
A sofa/ recliners/ table for social visits and watching movies, a small work space/ work desk, a bed plus a few personal memories and gifts and some plants for the reminder of nature for decoration and I'm all set.
That was just dumb materialism and consumerism in the video, "oh, your furniture isn't just furniture, it reveals who you are", nope, just furniture, any other high concept projected at it is just marketing. I spent a year living in a small two rooms, one bathroom house, where all I had was an old stoven, a small refrigerator a matress on the floor and some place to store my kitchen utensils, my clothes were stored in packages and i didn't even had a table, a sofa or a TV and I steel felt that "home content" whenever I came back to it. It's the privacy, security, and solitude that makes your home a home, the fact that you can act spontaneous in a way you can't in a coleague room and a place for meditation, and for your hobbies (writting in my case).
Gabriel Valeriolete As a person who finds a certain joy in decorating, I agree with you. No object I have in my house 'defines' any aspect of me whatever. It is simply an object I found intriguing, to have a function I needed, or beautiful in some way. And to attach to them any more personally than that I would find unhealthy. And I could go on in my life perfectly fine without them, having none of my personality or virtues lost without my furniture of all things 'reminding' me of who I am. It's ridiculous to think material objects have anything to do with who we are, and to advocate attachment to them on that level is quite horrific. I mean, people are prone enough to gaining a sense of identity from external things (like other people, social media accts, clothing) without feeling it's okay to literally identify with every object in their home as being a representation of their self.
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The School of Life since I've most recently moved from LA to live with my husband in Oslo the past month, my most coveted self representing aspect of this home of ours is the wide window sill counter that spans the entire North facing side from kitchen to living room. The counter acts as the only barrier separating us from the public because it's sort of leveled with pedestrians as they walk into the condo structure.
I've arranged what's on display there and it's slowly become an altar to my Mormor (Mom's mom). Plants that please and remind me of home visually and aromatically balance the space alongside candled decorative handmade glass plates and other pretty accessories.
My home is always in chaos, one room stays closed off always cuz I grow weed in there. I sleep in my front room and not my bedroom. Everything is a mess and furniture is not organized in any particular way. My life is all over the place so it makes sense my home is f***ed!
The cluttered surfaces and bare white walls, my bookcases, couch, and eternally rumpled bed speak volumes about me.
The School of Life I am a horder. When I was living alone, my house was much larger and it was easier to hide the items I brought. Now I live with my partner and the house is a lot smaller.
African Americans have no home...
As an interior designer, I struggle to explain to clients what you have so eloquently laid out. It's not that one style is better than another - style is whatever speaks to your soul. Thank you!
indeed Michelle we are home building designers and itsometimes takes a few consultations for clients to switch from future sell of their homes thinking to how they want to feel in the most precious space in their lives. And then they suddenly get it , relax. dream and enjoy the process of creating their magic space called HOME, where you can think, play , enjoy yourself, relax and be yourself with the people you love
Michelle Cele
must be a shitty interior designer then. bitch.
Eduno Eduno haha haha loser
@@edunoeduno4980 Hahahaa! XD
WTF?!
I am a recluse I LOVE MY HOME. I go to work after dealing with people all day I come home to my sanctuary. My secret is is being clean. A clean home feels like a cleansed home.
Ted Martinez oh a clean home is a secret? Interesting ...
Semper Reformanda you look like the type of guy who's low self esteem deters any confidence to put up ANY pic. #growup
Dan Bee so many dirty homes though
Ted Martinez people live busy lives, its common for their immediate surroundings to be ignored first, just to able to pay for it.
Sophia Anatolios Absolutely 🏠
Home means the place where our soul feels that it has found it's proper physical container.
Love it!
Semper Reformanda that's wonderful Semper. I hope it brings you tons of joy!
"its" proper physical container, that is, the personal pronoun its; not the contraction it is - it's. Just mentioning because I copied your comment and then realized the wrong it's was used. Thanks for the comment!!
Bold of you to assume that's how it feels for everyone. Not everyone is in a happy or a safe environment
Honestly, the part where it said that you need to go home to remind yourself of who you are, it really hit hard.
I live in a dysfunctional household, everything's messy and everyone in it is horrible to me. I never enjoyed coming home from school, a trip or from a friend's place, it reminded me of everything I hate about myself, including my family. My room isn't even my room, it's everything everyone else wants it to be. I am not myself here. I never felt 'at home' in my own home.
Sorry to dampen the mood, I just had to get it off my chest, and if anyone here relates to this, I hope things will work out
I hope you can have your own home and find peace and happiness there.
I hope things are working for you now.
Stay strong. ♡
My mom was OCD neat and the house was always clean but my mom was always out of sorts. Her temper was short and I couldn't relax because any little thing out of place made her yell. She was verbally and physically abused by a relative that raised her after my mom's mother was murdered (my mom was only 3). My theory is that my mom needed control over her environment (including her children) to feel safe. But it made our lives difficult. She liked to say we never came home from school to a dirty house but we didn't come home to a relaxed loving mother either. I wouldn't have minded a little more mess and a lot more love in the form of affection.
i’m so sorry, that must be so hard. one day, i hope you can create your own peace and it will truly feel like home ❤️
I know how that feels. And I wanna tell you - you will have your own beautiful, safe home you wish for. I have it as well now, took me a long way, but I'm slowly settling. You got this!
I think the word home has become more meaningful to me in the past year. I moved out of my parents house to study in a different city. And first I thought: I don't need anything. I thought decorations are stupid. Pointless. A waste of money. So I had nothing. White walls, a bed, a desk, a wardrobe. But my room felt empty. And I felt empty. I disliked it so much, I could barely eat at this place that was supposed to be my home.
I bought more things. I put up some pictures and wall hangings. I got candles and pillows. And I invited friends over. I am only now beginning to feel at home here.
And I found out that extreme minimalism just isn't the right thing for me personally.
epitomeOFblueberries well minimalism isn’t about owning nothing but about owning only stuff that truly makes you happy. So if all the things around your home and house make you happy you’re fully a minimalist if you still want to call yourself that.
you did good pal.
It's odd, isn't it? Live the minimalist lifestyle and feel clutter and waste free... Yet distant and lonely. While too much can overwhelm. There's just this sweet spot of balance we all need to find that makes us feel good. Thanks for sharing!
epitomeOFblueberries what are you studying?
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Home is where we have the illusion of control over life.
K P or P K
That's an interesting thought..
Exactly!
That is geniously true
Only if when you enter your home, you exit your mind.
We need to return home to remember who we are... Couldn't be more real than this.
Ankita Baruah u r right but i think OSHO teachings can fulfill all such returning back home like our fitted orientations.And perhaps you know Hindi as well so don' miss it.
If you're working class like yours truly, you buy what you can afford, which is not necessarily what you would choose if you had choices. I've had items that were rescued from curb sides. :-)
Fortunately, I inherited most of my furniture from family members. It's emotionally mnemonic, and establishes a sense of place, history, and connection. My surroundings are "shabby" in the world's eyes, but it feels comfortable and meaningful.
It sounds like your home is emblematic of you, your practicality and your lineage which, to me, has far more meaning and character than any fashionable home reflecting efforts to 'keep up with the Jones' '. I've seen celebrities' and footballer's houses that just look so soulless, generically opulent and interchangeable so you should cherish your individualistic abode and all its precious contents, Donna. Take care.
I like the idea of my home supporting me like a friend that knows me well.
"A man's home is his Castle"
I'm sure there's an alternative version.
I live on a sailboat. I love being on the water and the gentle rocking from the waves. I hate being out in public, and I hate being away from my floating abode. I have few possessions, bit I have everything I need.
Yawn
makes you think of all the people who don't have home. :/
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@@mjolninja9358 You don't believe that there are people without homes?
They do t think about me so why should I think about them
@@barbarak2836 I get the sentiment, but don't believe it's sincere. People sigh and groan about all the world's injustices, then cry about paying the tax which works to solve them. Oh dear, look at all these children going hungry, but let's vote on the basis of our own wealth while virtue signalling on social media. It becomes emotionally tiring to read.
@@rogz I have no "wealth," but I know I'm lucky to have a job and a roof over my head. Pardon me, I'm sure you think gratitude for what I have is insincere and very difficult for you. Also, I do not go on social media; it scares me. I realize You Tube IS a kind of social media, but I would never go on Facebook, Instagram, and whatever else there is.
As a video editor, this channel always leaves me in awe with its quality presentation. Hard to emulate, but very inspiring.
3 mill subs you can always hire quality animators.
Love your work Bandit!
everyone is good in their own way.
You also do well with editing, BanditRants
This channel always expresses a healthy interest in arts and the humanities! I definitely appreciate them for that.
I couldn't have found this video at a better time. I've realized my home is a representation of my inner psyche and I can almost always see my struggles reflected in the rooms I live in.
My whole life i have existed in a space, and I never had a space that was truly mine. Even after marriage I saw my house as mainly my husband's and I just existed within to tend and keep more like a maid (severe codependency inherited in childhood, not an overbearing spouse). But I've come to realize I desperately want to find my true identity and express it in my home, and create my desired environment, and that in itself shows that I'm on the path of gaining confidence and learning who I am.
Home is where your Wi-Fi connects automatically.
Lmao truth!
Exactly
Yep
The best new modern cross stitch to have in your home.
And that's why I don't leave my room/house allot
I am past middle age now so I've lived in several homes, and each home had its own personality. One was rustic decor, another a cabin on the beach so was decorated accordingly, another was danish modern, and the most recent was a condo that had a great floor plan but needed to be gutted. When done, I realized it was French Country. Didn't even know I liked that, but apparently I do! I know I've done a good job when I feel completely happy and safe in my little haven. My personal effects remind me of precious people and events in my past and give me great comfort.
The chair I love, the fresh plants, a candle here or there to burn in the evening - these things support the piano which is the heart of my home. From the bench I look out various windows at the forest and I love it. When it rains, it all comes together nicely with a cup of tea.
Nobody cares
It sounds lovely. ignore the other comment, and take pride in the lovely living space you have crafted for yourself :)
I don’t get candles
@@suekennedy1595 this is a fair point.
Your home has to be a place where your enemies can’t intrude. Love from Australia 🇦🇺
Eh?
@@mavis3916 every living creature in Australia want's to kill you, bite you, eat you or poison you and your loved ones.
You have actual enemies?
This would explain why after 20+ years of marriage, I'm desperate to get rid of everything we have and start over. I've grown so much over this time and my house does not reflect this change, it just keeps pulling me into my past. Amazing, I would never have understood this connection.
My home is my sanctuary. It is really linked to my mental well-being. I use harmonious colours and keep negativity to a minimum.
I decorate with my 🎸 guitars, keyboard, tools and camping equipment, kitchen tools displayed, I toss things I don't use or think i may need, a few books of reference and some favorite classics, research etc. I have 3 chairs, two for guitars (no arms) one lazyboy. I have my bedroon as a storage room and food pantry. Other equipment, music displayed on shelves. It's pristine and organized. I'm pretty happy with this set-up.
Hence the phrase " home is where the heart is".
It's a delusion that will ultimately make you unhappy
I once visited a relative overseas. I stayed in their home for 2 months. But I was so tense in it. They had sentimental items, expensive items, and cheap items. I was to scared to touch anything. I wanted to clean some figurines made out of bone china. But I just stared at them everytime I was in the dining room, it made anxious. I also didn't know if I should water the planets, vacuum the rugs, etc. I felt like I should know what to do in my relatives house, but I didn't. When I got home, I was so relaxed. I actually kissed the floor. I picked up a clay figurine, then tossed it in the air letting it land on a cushion. I pushed my secondhand dining table aside, it's full of scratches but it's my most used piece of furniture. I know all my items in my place, and what meaning they have to me.
As I organize and construct furnishings around my home, I feel myself becoming more organized and constructed internally. Thank you for this video! Very introspective
You can sense it when you move out of a house, noticing just how empty a place can feel walking through a school hallway in the evening or an unlit office on a weekend fairground out of season it is usually bustling with life but how lies abandoned and quiet It’s easy to forget that most of your memories happened in places that are still around, the walls mostly unchanged, with even some of the same people, who carry on in your absence. But the world you once knew, and the people you still remember, have long since moved on, replaced by so many others who have passed through these doors. Every house is haunted-
even if it was built from scratch and lived in for the first time. . The floorboards may creak with impressions of a beaming baby learning how to walk, the wind may rustle the bedspread-and make it whisper with old conversations. Most of the time, these impressions are mistaken for imagination. But the next time our imagination makes us perceive something puzzling or inexplicable… don’t think about the phantom that floats in the corridors. Think about the experiences that were borne, the smiles that were conjured, the beautiful memories that were summoned.
Because we’re not alone.
beautiful. and true.
10/10. Kickass comment
I know.. it's so unnerving and sad.
Beautifully written.
I love this. 💕
I have often thought of homes as a great works of art, since I feel it holds much information about its occupant.
Thank you! Now I understand why I get so insane figuring out the decoration for my place, why I spend hours comparing objects and why it's so stressing finally picking one. It's so interesting how we act in such symbolic way. These videos are great!
strange I know exactly what I want when I see it, no stress, it's either in or out:))
that said, the thinking will happen when my husband thinks differently then we go on a hunt to find something appealing for both of us equally. there is not one piece of furniture in our house that we don't equally love it.
My home is where I can relax, what I do at home makes me happy.
Great video, this. Essentially talking about how we surround ourselves with art that we identify most with. Lots of people forget that even household objects have an interpretation and an artistry to them.
Indeed. I'd been asked not too long ago why I buy much of my dishware some 60 miles away. I'm not entirely sure what it says about me - (edit: since I'm a guy) but I only really like cutesy-kid designs, particularly simple Japanese ones. So I get them at a thrift store across a toll bridge. My mother was planning on taking her plate set back, and she was a little taken aback when I responded "That means I can replace them with cuter ones!"
And I've never understood why furniture in general is so blandly colored. I'm sitting in a children's elementary school chair because I dislike most color choices for adult-sized chairs. (Edit: so it's not that I choose items strictly on function at all, but because they match a particular style.)
I absolutly love this. As a young adult, I often worry about the pulls of a materalistic world where I am sucked in, buying and improving its own sake. This really helped me separate that needless presure from an inherant part of the self that supports me developing, learning myself and gowing. My home is my grounding, my sacred place. I will grow, I will change, and I will need to "buy" things to reflect that. If I view the buying as a reflection of my growth, rather than a conciquence of a capitalist marketing mechanism, then change and improvement is a concious effort rather than an impulsive, subconsious (and potentially unsatisfiable) urge.
Sam Heywood well said!
Agree!
*Do you hear that?*
It's my bed calling me to sleep.
Mine says: SLEEP IS FOR THE WEAK! XD
And why do I ignore it?
Chaos. My home, much like my life, is a whirriling vortex of chaos. Thanks for your videos! I love them.
Over a hundred houseplants. My personal secret garden. On Sundays I put on some classical or jazz records. Make a pot of tea and spend around two hours tending to my leaf babies. Conversations are had and I am so grounded aftetwards.
My home is divided conceptually.
My room is beach style designed with anchors, fish and beach signs.
My brothers room is Japanese style made with anime posters, animated cats and Japanese imported figures.
Our favorite living room is designed with romantism as my moms wish where decorated with yellow French styled wall lamps, ceiling plant vines and paintings.
Well Im glad that our house is so lovely diversely divided.
Thanks for the informative video.
we need alain de botton as the new voice of siri ...
ismael aissa where is this petition?
Let’s make it happen!😃👍
And that's why The Sims is so awesome.
I'm clearing my home of clutter. Feeling better each day that I see less and I give away things. Having everything is the end all be all. God, love, nurture, bonding, peace, and simplicity is what is needed most importantly.
It's where the simulated womb, namely the bed, is literally housed. The objects in the house create that familiarity that makes it one's true home, but that place could be anywhere - it's actually a place within. I once read "your house is your larger body", and in a spiritual sense that is certainly true.
Home is where the heart is and it’s a nice feeling and sentiment to call somewhere ‘home’. Having somewhere to call home is so intrinsic and profound to who we are! I sincerely hope everyone has somewhere to call ‘home’ .
Great video as always, SoL. I'd like to add that there are other reasons why our homes feel more endearing and speak to us more than elsewhere: We have total control over them unlike hotels and such, that's where we feel safe the most, and finally that's where our freedom and privacy are at their fullest.
My home is cozy, comforting and is my escape from the world. I love it. It has my personality written all over it.
All I need is a home full of positivity
If you seek positivity outside yourself you are gonna have a bad time...
True advice
Me too😔
Good luck
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ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS DESCRIPTION OF HOW ENVIRONMENT REFLECTS A PERSONS SENSE OF WELL BEING, INDIVIDUALITY, AND RESPECT......IT ALSO APPLIES TO LIFE IN GENERAL........Thank you.
Exactly that's why I want to become an Architect!!! I want to help people by creating a sanctuary for them, a place where they can be themselves, where they feel themselves. I feel so fulfilled to see that other people share this same exact philosophy!
Nicoleta Coman wait... architect or interior designer
Ели Architect, I design the building, but the people put their signature into arranging everything else.
Interesting, seems you hold that profession in such high regard that you can't help but capitalize the A! :)
Kudos to you! You go out there and be the best Architect you can!
Ahmad Mohamad, thank you for thr kind words. I actually wanted to write ARCHITECT, 😂 but I thought I would' ve put to much emphasis . Have a great day!
Home sweet home.
It's sanctuary. It's your own little corner of the world. And it's different for everyone. 👍🏻😊
It's a place where you can relax, and have your favorite things around you.
Home = Mother, Family, dog, calm, fantastic childhood, cakes, dinners, beautiful garden, classy interior...... many more 😊
I need to clean up my home, it's in a bit of a mess. I've been here so long now I hardly notice as it builds up slowly over time.
This is lovely. Whenever I move, it's important for me to unpack asap and hang things on the wall. I start to feel sad and lonely when my space does not feel like my home. It's difficult for me to understand people who are happy to never decorate their homes or can live out of a suitcase for months or years. My home is the only place I feel truly comfortable and protected. It's also a sanctuary that I do not like a lot of intruders that change the energy.
Totally agree!
“Like everyone else, I had become a slave to the IKEA nesting instinct. If I saw something clever like the coffee table in the shape of a yin and yang, I had to have it. I would flip through catalogs and wonder, “What kind of dining set defines me as a person?” I had it all. Even the glass dishes with tiny bubbles and imperfections, proof they were crafted by the honest, simple, hard-working indigenous peoples of wherever.” - The Narrator, Fight Club
Of course somebody was gonna quote Fight Club out of context, eventually.
Some people are more easily enslaved than others on certain trends.
@@Changetheling My favorite line in fight club is when he is talking about his life being in little self serve containers like sugar packets. Nothing speaks of 'deep meaningful' feelings as little sugar packets. I can't look at them without smiling at the wonder of it all.
Well I am an European and I dont have in my home any item from Ikea... and I am still alive 😆
Not like everyone...
I am not a fan of Ikea. I like things that are sturdy and can be passed on to my decendants.
This video shows why a messy home is a messy mind.
And an empty home means an empty mind?
hey! it being just gently implied sufficed for me
if my room is messy, figure the confusion has happened in my mind.
My home is heavenly and perfect for me !
My physical container and everything I love. Its true, when I am on the most wonderful and beautiful holidays i still yearn for my home, not the objects as such but the meaning of it, the humans inside and the animals. Homesickness is a thing
THIS IS THE BEST CHANNEL ON TH-cam
Definitely!
You did it again and this time I'm even more astonished by the timing you have making videos that talk exactly about problems I'm currently puzzling about. When meeting with friends I've always been a person that went a lot more often to the place of others instead that people were drawn to stay with me at my home. As a child it didn't matter much to me but now I live in my own appartment and meet new people but it seems that its starting to develop in similar ways as then. I think it's clear that this is not because of obvious reasons as a hygiene problem but I maybe lack something subconsciously that makes my home look less like home for other people. Maybe it reflects not enough of myself because I didn't spent enough time with my home but instead resided too much in the home of others. I'm glad that I am possible to gain experiences now freely in that matter and can think in new ways thanks to your guiding.
Thanks a lot! Again!
I guess it says that I don't have any money
Damn you stole my comment lol
You read my mind!
You don’t need much money. Shop at thrift stores. Go to the ones near nice neighborhoods. Many thrift stores are half price on saturdays and good things are plentiful. Beautiful throw pillows, curtain panels, curtain rods, art work, etc. If you worry about the pillows or curtains toss them in the laundry on gentle cycle. Pillows will dry within one day in hot weather. You can walk out with an entire house full of cool stuff for $40.
The comment above mentions thrift stores and I would add estate sales, too! :) We've found lots of great/unique stuff shopping at these places for our house (but unfortunately it still feels like a house rather than a home bc most of our money is going toward fixing it up rather than decorating :(
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Home is beauty for your soul...contentment, safety all things that make you feel good about who YOU are as a person... love my home, I am a home body completely, and I make my home beautiful everyday, in some creative way...
"It's not a house...it's a home." -The Castle. The Castle is an Australian movie about a family that lives next to an airport. The airport is going to expand. So the government is paying families to move out of their house. But one man says "no." His house looks like a mess of do it your self projects. But it's what makes his house a home. I won't tell you the rest. I suggest everyone watch this lighthearted movie "The Castle."
This is just so beautifully true.
Everytime I watch your videos, I especially enjoy the voice of the reader. It's wonderful and relaxing. Thank you.
To me it is one particular room. Recently we moved some furniture and we turned this room into a study/ workshop. Every object in that room feels like a part of me and it is where I spend most of my time
I don't get this feeling. When i stay in a hotel i never want to go home. everything at home ways me down. All i need is me, my dog and the few possesions i brought with me
Me too. Except I don't have a dog.
Your dog and your few possessions are the things that make your home and remind you of who you are then.
Maybe time to start offloading the things in your home that weigh you down. I look at it like I'm sculpting. Everything in my home that I don't like goes out the door. I have a cosy minimalist home and everything in it I love:)
Original G then your Home should reflect your feelings
That’s an excellent perspective. I’ve never heard anyone put it that way. My cousin was the same way. He was highly educated but always lived in an apartment with minimal furnishings (folding chairs, mattress on the floor). When it was time to move on he didn’t have a bunch of stuff to pack up, he just moved.
You help my life, my children's lives, my husband's life, my friend's lives, my student's lives, my co-workers lives, my trainee's lives...and so on. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Home is not where you live, but who you live with.
When my wife and i were traveling, the longest we ever stayed in one place was like 4 days. We slept in new beds almost every night.
But since we were together, that felt like home to me. When we came back to our actual house, i didn't feel like we were "coming home" because i had been home the entire time we were in other countries.
"A house is made of brick and stone. A home is made of love alone."
Jayce Evans that’s very nice :)
Not only the content of your videos, but rather the attitude and structured contexts (as well as the visual quality as the layout of ideas and their order!) are the inspiring part of what you present to the world. And what does the world say to that? The world says "Thank you!".
Nailed this one De Botton! I've been creating a piece about how the home tells stories about our inner and outer lives, really resourceful for me to see this!
Nails it! I've had a few different homes, from single family houses to apartments where I live now. As long as I have my books, my art since I'm a professional artist/composer, my piano which I've had since I was eight, a couple of plants and fresh flowers and a fireplace even an electric one and a kitchen to cook healthy meals in plus my two cats, I'm happy! Along with my grandchildren and my adult children now grown with homes of their own, "home is where the heart is"! My youngest is a real travel bug who is finding out now like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, "there's no place like home"!! Thanks for sharing~
Enlightening, indeed ! Now, I see my home differently ! And why I can fuss for hours because things don't seem to be in the right place and so on!!!
Home is where my dog stays.
I have learned so much. Thank you.
BUT CAN YOU DO THIS??!!! 3:36
Glenn B. hehehehe mannneeeeee!!!!!
Glenn B. 399!
was thinking of that
hahaha :D ONLY 399!
I don't think so...
Home is your true safe place, its were your loved ones are, its an extension of your soul, its your family castle, its the one place where you dont have to put up with strangers BS, and its the one place you could truly be yourself with out judgment, i wouldn’t care if everyone had way more then i ever could as long as i could have my home ill be happy
Yesterday, I emptied my place because it didn't felt like a home. Now, this video appears...
Home to me is walking. I've never felt safe at any home really. I always want to run! But going for a walk, or sleeping on a park bench is comforting to me 💕
...within our constraints of time, space, and money to create that home.
J Warren so poor students actually have no identity?
J Warren I know, what I mean is they make it seem like your home is such a central part of your identity, you couldn't imagine a second without it. I get their idea and I think it's a good point, but presented somewhat overly dramatic...
The question was provocative. I chose my furniture because it's cheap and practical, that doesn't have much 'identity'. Ofc it doesn't mean I don't have an identity..
Yes, cuz I sure would like a new desk and higher ceilings!
gado so you are cheap and practical, that's the point. You chose....
Jlina A you just contradicted yourself with your other comment. Did I also choose not to have the money to spend more on furniture? By the way, I got high ceilings, I like them but didn't specifically search for a room with one. That's "choice" to you? It's as much free choice as choosing your parents
My whole point is, If you have time and money to make yourself a personal home, that can reflect who you are much more than when you don't have these ressources. I wouldn't exactly call lack of money and time a character trait or ascribe it much of an identity...
Athena's temple home was also a focal point, a place to ask for help/favours and be grateful.
We hate clutter. Years ago a woman visited us and, looking around, said "Where's all your stuff?" We still chuckle about that.
Our homes are a way of reflecting us. Every home has a special athmosphere that show how everyone is actually thinking different or made up by different conditions. I love this.
Wow this video conveys so well why I want a certain type of rug and not just any rug from home depot; something my husband just doesn't get.
In many respects I believe myself to be a rational and practical person, so I've always found it peculiar that when I moved into my already furnished flat, I instinctively wanted to replace things with my own stuff. Why did I buy my own chef's knife when there is one already in the drawer? Why did I take down the artwork on the walls even though they were objectively pretty and I didn't have anything to replace them with? This video made me realize that some of the items that are included in the rent are not symbolic of who I am as a person and therefore aren't welcome. Thank you School of Life for once again allowing me to understand myself a little better.
I actually look at it the opposite way. It's when I'm outside and at work / school engaging with other people I truly feel like myself. Home on the other hand is a comfort zone where you relax after coming home from "war".
eww extroverts
most of my best ideas for work solutions are found, not at work.. but in a comfortable place. either just about to fall asleep or waking up or in the shower.
Megan May 😂😂👍. no offense True, I just suspect many introverts dwell here
Yes, I agree. I feel more myself when I am out. I don't think of life as a war, though. I think of it more like a long pilgrimage.
I love this concept, I always knew environment is important but to think of having your own home as a space to help reflect your beliefs and experience is golden. Great motivation to have my own place. Nice video!
my life:
-25% school
-15% somewhere else
-60% house (especially my room)
Plants. Plants everywhere. Cozy pillows and blankets. That’s home to me :)
as long as it doesn't say anything about me behind my back
Home for me is old-world and filled with plants. Another fantastic nugget from the School of Life! Thank you x
Home is my favorite place, especially my tranquil bedroom...... I even find it difficult to leave
Thank you for putting into words (and clever graphics) this entire concept that I long have felt but could not quite explain. Particularly now, having sold my home of 35 years and living in a temporary apartment, with my possessions in self storage, I appreciate what a sense of home means to one's every day life.
As always, a wonderful take on our subconscious reasonings. Thank you!
Actually Alan my home is more sumptuous than any hotel. Took a lot of work to get it that way. I love it v
Earth is my home,, can't wait to get on the road again.
Unless you rent. Then the options are rather limited. But throughout the years of moving from place to place I learned that _home_ is wherever you're comfortable.
When i stay at someone elses place, hotel or even camping for whatever reason i feel drain/tired and have a need to go back home as if i need to recharge. weird but at the end of the Day HOME IS HOME yo!
This is a really refreshing video on an interesting topic. I'm a big fan of The School of Life, but lately I've found your videos seem to be rehashing old ground just under different titles; how, in love, we need to remember that we are all children; how we should be conscious of how childhood experiences affect our adult lives. But this video focused on something else entirely and I really appreciated it.
I sold most of my stuff and moved into an RV. Wish I'd done it years ago. LOVE it! I HATED owning a big house.
the school of life videos give me certain satisfacion and calm
Jokes on you ... I don't have a home....
but u have a phone or conputer
true... and a little bit of money and a house " department " but not a home ...
OSHO
Sagaris is a smart one, never heard of a public library before.
Home is where the heart is! ;)
''Let's go home" is probably the phrase most often uttered in movies. I never feel/felt particularly good or comforted by the idea of getting home after a trip/work. As a matter of fact I remember sitting in the train station for an hour before finally making up my mind to complete my journey by going home. No matter how comfy, well and pleasantly decorated my home is, I'd rather be on the move or elsewhere. Home is not where the heart is.
So, what does my van down by the river say about me?
Drizzleize That you love Chris Farley also
It says"fuck it!"
It says you’re lazy. You want life to be easy. Homes make work.
Oh it is easy. So you live in a van? That says you are a free spirited person who doesnt like to stay only 'in one area' all the time. Van is also smaller but you can find anything you need here, you are not complaining.
You guys are so good, I am in some ways envious of how well you articulate these thoughts!
Never liked decorations, i prefer empty walls and empty spaces, home is a place for privacy, quietness and comfort, few necessary furniture pieces are more than enough.
Abdulla Almuhairi hm. you're describing my childhood home which I hated
A sofa/ recliners/ table for social visits and watching movies, a small work space/ work desk, a bed plus a few personal memories and gifts and some plants for the reminder of nature for decoration and I'm all set.
That was just dumb materialism and consumerism in the video, "oh, your furniture isn't just furniture, it reveals who you are", nope, just furniture, any other high concept projected at it is just marketing. I spent a year living in a small two rooms, one bathroom house, where all I had was an old stoven, a small refrigerator a matress on the floor and some place to store my kitchen utensils, my clothes were stored in packages and i didn't even had a table, a sofa or a TV and I steel felt that "home content" whenever I came back to it. It's the privacy, security, and solitude that makes your home a home, the fact that you can act spontaneous in a way you can't in a coleague room and a place for meditation, and for your hobbies (writting in my case).
hi, meet your polar opposite.. me :D
Gabriel Valeriolete As a person who finds a certain joy in decorating, I agree with you. No object I have in my house 'defines' any aspect of me whatever. It is simply an object I found intriguing, to have a function I needed, or beautiful in some way. And to attach to them any more personally than that I would find unhealthy. And I could go on in my life perfectly fine without them, having none of my personality or virtues lost without my furniture of all things 'reminding' me of who I am. It's ridiculous to think material objects have anything to do with who we are, and to advocate attachment to them on that level is quite horrific. I mean, people are prone enough to gaining a sense of identity from external things (like other people, social media accts, clothing) without feeling it's okay to literally identify with every object in their home as being a representation of their self.