I think something this misses (as a severely physically disabled person) is that some of the employment issues have to do with an actual inability to perform jobs. I take some issue with the probably unintentional implication that stigma is wrong because disabled people CAN work and do things. It's wrong because we're people too, not because SOME of us can work. Another reason disabled people are less likely to be married in the US is because we do not have marriage equality- not just because of implicit bias. Benefits we survive on, whether healthcare or SSI/SSDI, are taken away if one gets married because the government thinks your spouse should be able to pay for everything. There's an ongoing issue I see of people writing off disabled experiences and focusing on "inspirational" narratives of "overcoming" disability, which I think is a very able-bodied point of view- it reminds me of people who say people with "special needs" or "differently abled" people. People treat disability and the very real pain of it like a dirty word, like it's something people ought to power through, and that's a reflection of the very American idea that our health is something we have control over (ie. if you diet and exercise surely nothing bad will happen to you) which is false. A lot of us have lost the ability to work- and some of us who do work really shouldn't be, but have to because they'll starve and lose their homes and healthcare otherwise, and hurt themselves in the process.
Yes you are correct. I didn't take in account for a lot of what you have told me! I very much *appreciate this information because I was unable to find this while I was researching for the topic. I never knew that marriage would take away healthcare or SSI/SSDI. And you are right, I didn't take in account that the employment issue could have been due to the inability to perform working jobs or because of how horrible reality of our system is. Thank you for including this! I'm pinning your comment because it's something that I very much agree with and should be seen to others. Thank you again sharing this information that I was very much clueless about! I still find it absolutely horrifying that in general people with disabilities aren't really considered people. No matter if you can or can't work, it's something that isn't right. People should be able to enjoy their lives however they wish without fear of starving, losing their homes, or healthcare
I personally think it doesn’t matter if you have a wheel chair or not. It’s more the concept behind it. It’s kinda sad that our world really only sees the chair rather than the person
Diamonds and diamonds. I'm throwing diamonds because this video is beautiful. I really like that talk about things that I don't normally think about. Like, a physical disability. Its enlightening to see the world from other perspectives.
Thank you very much! While I myself am not disabled, I feel that it’s important to give perspectives on the world through the lenses of the stories we all love. Because these stories came about for a reason and often it’s reflected in society
It’s a tough life. Lots of extra stuff you need to do. But always remember to judge the person not the chair. It goes both ways too, some amazing people in a chair but also some mean people who need therapy.
I agree. Judge a person by who they are as a person and not what they look like or if they use a wheelchair or walking stick. Therapy is always a good thing that I wish was more available for everyone and not locked behind insurance and a pay wall. Everyone should be able to have that right
We are very much told in school not to judge a book by its cover but let’s be honest we totally do. We also judge TH-cam videos by its thumbnail and title. I very much agree that education would solve a lot more issues. The sad part is that even with education people still could have prejudiced. All I can do is hope that maybe one day we can have a society that sees the person in front and not the chair.
Like the same goes, don't judge a book by a couple. But the same definition, this is real life. Of course, you're gonna get bully. Of course, you're gonna get criticized for not being able to do something. And of course, this aint always gonna be perfect but that's life. It can be a gift and it can be a curse but it's truly sometimes random. It's kind of. But l am happy to be here and so have a Good night greeting and also I hope for the best for you up in the future.
I agree. While in the moment, it may seem like your world is over; however, these implications do not change who you are. We indeed live in a world full of flaws, but sometimes that’s the beauty of it. Living in a perfect world would be boring. I love the saying of ‘this world is cruel but also very beautiful.’ It fits very well. And I hope you also have an amazing night!
I have a few physical disabilities myself and this is a pretty solid video. I feel like dudiligence was definitely made witch is great. I also like that you showed a disabled couple I follow lol. I will say that any problems I have with the video are more like stuff you haven’t unlearned yet and are difficult for me to quite verbalize, such as a general discomfort and tip-toeing while talking about the topic. It’s one of those strange experiences as a disabled person where someone knows you are different, sees you as EXTREMELY different, and is noticeably trying to do everything perfectly. It feels quite isolating and I have a lingering wish you handled things more casually. For example, you seamed to try really hard to only refer to us as “people with disabilities” even in some sentences where would be less clunky to use “disabled.” This is definitively a soft no-no in my opinion. Ableds tend to do this out of some sort of nervousness I think? But it’s just sort of off putting. Nothing in this video was truly harmful accept at the end of the video where you said that some peopel love disabled people because they feel it’s about the inside, not the outside. We are not ugly. Full stop. I understand you have been conditioned to not view our apperences as especially attractive, we all have. But there are people, such as myself, who whole heartedly believe that the most attractive thing a person can be is disabled. As you said, people have different types. For me, my type is 100% disabilities!
Thank you very much for your comment! I really love hearing your perspective. It’s true that I do use the sayings people with disability due to I really don’t want to try to be rude but I can see why to some it can be off putting. And in general I really just wanted to try to be respectful since I don’t have a disability. But I totally understand your perspective and appreciate your feedback
@@theidiotsquarethat kind of language isn’t what we would prefer and is generally the mark of an abled person trying really hard without actually thinking to ask what we would like. It’s a good idea to alternate between person first language ie, person with disability, and disability first language, ie disabled person. Otherwise it draws attention to how far away you feel away from disabled people to the point where you feel as though you have to try really hard to be respectful, instead of just being casual
0:00 I'm a 160cm girl who can barely lift 10kg... If I got into a relationship with someone disabled, and something happened with this person, such as falling, I doubt I'd have the strength to help them. Definitely not a good idea to date someone who may need someone to help, but you can't be that person in the way you should be
I understand where you are coming from. But that is why communication can also be key. To have a plan if something like that would happen. It really is up to the individual and whatnot in the first place. At least for me and my understanding of the manga is the idea of being a supportive presence, even if you physically cannot help them. But what you do say is very valid and definitely something that could be a concern when it comes to these types of relationships
i've been reading the perfect world manga recently and it's honesty opened a new perspective on everything. i feel im taking my ability to do various things for granted so lately i've been more grateful. love this manga so far ❤
I'm glad you are liking the manga so far! And I agree. We do take some of the things we have for granted. I really never thought much about it before I ended up breaking my foot. I was stuck in a boot with crutches. This was my first ever experience with not being able to walk with ease. It opened my eyes
Just wanted to say I subscribed, this was a nice video essay, and I could relate to a lot of points (as a cane user). Having a visible disability really shows you the true colors of people around you and how they treat people.
Thank you very much for the wonderful comment! It’s really sad that these types of things exist in our world when in reality; the fact that you use a cane shouldn’t matter. The cane doesn’t change the person you are inside! I wish the best for you!
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You just earned a Subscriber❤ As someone who recently got a physical disability (CMT) due to genetics and is ambulatory wheelchair user, this is a very good video about the topic most people usually see my wheelchair first than the person who uses it. Everything in this video resonaded with me especially with the Pain of rejection because of my disability and the ignorance i face through high school. Even with it I still persevere even after 3 years,
Thank you very much! While I don’t only do concepts with disabilities, it’s something that exists in our world and people need to be more aware of it. It really is sad that people can’t get past the fact that a person is in a chair. You are you no matter if you were able or not. I really hope that you find someone that accepts you for who you are! This world while it can be cruel, it is also very beautiful. There is definitely someone out there for you and I wish you the best of luck and support!
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I think something this misses (as a severely physically disabled person) is that some of the employment issues have to do with an actual inability to perform jobs. I take some issue with the probably unintentional implication that stigma is wrong because disabled people CAN work and do things. It's wrong because we're people too, not because SOME of us can work. Another reason disabled people are less likely to be married in the US is because we do not have marriage equality- not just because of implicit bias. Benefits we survive on, whether healthcare or SSI/SSDI, are taken away if one gets married because the government thinks your spouse should be able to pay for everything.
There's an ongoing issue I see of people writing off disabled experiences and focusing on "inspirational" narratives of "overcoming" disability, which I think is a very able-bodied point of view- it reminds me of people who say people with "special needs" or "differently abled" people. People treat disability and the very real pain of it like a dirty word, like it's something people ought to power through, and that's a reflection of the very American idea that our health is something we have control over (ie. if you diet and exercise surely nothing bad will happen to you) which is false. A lot of us have lost the ability to work- and some of us who do work really shouldn't be, but have to because they'll starve and lose their homes and healthcare otherwise, and hurt themselves in the process.
Yes you are correct. I didn't take in account for a lot of what you have told me! I very much *appreciate this information because I was unable to find this while I was researching for the topic. I never knew that marriage would take away healthcare or SSI/SSDI. And you are right, I didn't take in account that the employment issue could have been due to the inability to perform working jobs or because of how horrible reality of our system is. Thank you for including this! I'm pinning your comment because it's something that I very much agree with and should be seen to others. Thank you again sharing this information that I was very much clueless about! I still find it absolutely horrifying that in general people with disabilities aren't really considered people. No matter if you can or can't work, it's something that isn't right. People should be able to enjoy their lives however they wish without fear of starving, losing their homes, or healthcare
I would rather take a building desinged by a person in a wheelchair than a building desinged for normal walking people
I personally think it doesn’t matter if you have a wheel chair or not. It’s more the concept behind it. It’s kinda sad that our world really only sees the chair rather than the person
If he’s cute & he’s 3rd leg is active, that won't stop me. 🤷🏽♀️
That's the spirit and willingness we like to see.
Read the story. His third leg isn’t active.
@@andreaprieto5498 Well damn.
I clicked on this video because I had the exact same thought 😭
And this is why dildo was invented!
as someone with a physical disability this is a great video.
Thank you very much!
Diamonds and diamonds. I'm throwing diamonds because this video is beautiful. I really like that talk about things that I don't normally think about. Like, a physical disability. Its enlightening to see the world from other perspectives.
Thank you very much! While I myself am not disabled, I feel that it’s important to give perspectives on the world through the lenses of the stories we all love. Because these stories came about for a reason and often it’s reflected in society
It’s a tough life. Lots of extra stuff you need to do. But always remember to judge the person not the chair. It goes both ways too, some amazing people in a chair but also some mean people who need therapy.
I agree. Judge a person by who they are as a person and not what they look like or if they use a wheelchair or walking stick. Therapy is always a good thing that I wish was more available for everyone and not locked behind insurance and a pay wall. Everyone should be able to have that right
@ yes. I think good coping skills should even be taught in grade school. I think it could help society in general.
We are very much told in school not to judge a book by its cover but let’s be honest we totally do. We also judge TH-cam videos by its thumbnail and title. I very much agree that education would solve a lot more issues. The sad part is that even with education people still could have prejudiced. All I can do is hope that maybe one day we can have a society that sees the person in front and not the chair.
Like the same goes, don't judge a book by a couple. But the same definition, this is real life. Of course, you're gonna get bully. Of course, you're gonna get criticized for not being able to do something. And of course, this aint always gonna be perfect but that's life. It can be a gift and it can be a curse but it's truly sometimes random. It's kind of. But l am happy to be here and so have a Good night greeting and also I hope for the best for you up in the future.
I agree. While in the moment, it may seem like your world is over; however, these implications do not change who you are. We indeed live in a world full of flaws, but sometimes that’s the beauty of it. Living in a perfect world would be boring. I love the saying of ‘this world is cruel but also very beautiful.’ It fits very well. And I hope you also have an amazing night!
I just stumbled upon this. The quality is simply amazing!
Thank you so much!
I have a few physical disabilities myself and this is a pretty solid video. I feel like dudiligence was definitely made witch is great. I also like that you showed a disabled couple I follow lol. I will say that any problems I have with the video are more like stuff you haven’t unlearned yet and are difficult for me to quite verbalize, such as a general discomfort and tip-toeing while talking about the topic. It’s one of those strange experiences as a disabled person where someone knows you are different, sees you as EXTREMELY different, and is noticeably trying to do everything perfectly. It feels quite isolating and I have a lingering wish you handled things more casually.
For example, you seamed to try really hard to only refer to us as “people with disabilities” even in some sentences where would be less clunky to use “disabled.” This is definitively a soft no-no in my opinion. Ableds tend to do this out of some sort of nervousness I think? But it’s just sort of off putting.
Nothing in this video was truly harmful accept at the end of the video where you said that some peopel love disabled people because they feel it’s about the inside, not the outside. We are not ugly. Full stop. I understand you have been conditioned to not view our apperences as especially attractive, we all have. But there are people, such as myself, who whole heartedly believe that the most attractive thing a person can be is disabled. As you said, people have different types. For me, my type is 100% disabilities!
Thank you very much for your comment! I really love hearing your perspective. It’s true that I do use the sayings people with disability due to I really don’t want to try to be rude but I can see why to some it can be off putting. And in general I really just wanted to try to be respectful since I don’t have a disability. But I totally understand your perspective and appreciate your feedback
@@theidiotsquarethat kind of language isn’t what we would prefer and is generally the mark of an abled person trying really hard without actually thinking to ask what we would like.
It’s a good idea to alternate between person first language ie, person with disability, and disability first language, ie disabled person. Otherwise it draws attention to how far away you feel away from disabled people to the point where you feel as though you have to try really hard to be respectful, instead of just being casual
Thank you very much for letting me know. I’ll make sure to do this in the future
0:00 I'm a 160cm girl who can barely lift 10kg... If I got into a relationship with someone disabled, and something happened with this person, such as falling, I doubt I'd have the strength to help them. Definitely not a good idea to date someone who may need someone to help, but you can't be that person in the way you should be
I understand where you are coming from. But that is why communication can also be key. To have a plan if something like that would happen. It really is up to the individual and whatnot in the first place. At least for me and my understanding of the manga is the idea of being a supportive presence, even if you physically cannot help them. But what you do say is very valid and definitely something that could be a concern when it comes to these types of relationships
i've been reading the perfect world manga recently and it's honesty opened a new perspective on everything. i feel im taking my ability to do various things for granted so lately i've been more grateful. love this manga so far ❤
I'm glad you are liking the manga so far! And I agree. We do take some of the things we have for granted. I really never thought much about it before I ended up breaking my foot. I was stuck in a boot with crutches. This was my first ever experience with not being able to walk with ease. It opened my eyes
Just wanted to say I subscribed, this was a nice video essay, and I could relate to a lot of points (as a cane user). Having a visible disability really shows you the true colors of people around you and how they treat people.
Thank you very much for the wonderful comment! It’s really sad that these types of things exist in our world when in reality; the fact that you use a cane shouldn’t matter. The cane doesn’t change the person you are inside! I wish the best for you!
Sorry for yapping
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As someone who recently got a physical disability (CMT) due to genetics and is ambulatory wheelchair user, this is a very good video about the topic most people usually see my wheelchair first than the person who uses it. Everything in this video resonaded with me especially with the Pain of rejection because of my disability and the ignorance i face through high school. Even with it I still persevere even after 3 years,
Thank you very much! While I don’t only do concepts with disabilities, it’s something that exists in our world and people need to be more aware of it. It really is sad that people can’t get past the fact that a person is in a chair. You are you no matter if you were able or not. I really hope that you find someone that accepts you for who you are! This world while it can be cruel, it is also very beautiful. There is definitely someone out there for you and I wish you the best of luck and support!