'When there's no clear path, forge your own.' WOW, gentlemen, that is really impactful. I lost my Mum last month and that's both my parents having died and these past few weeks I've had a knot in the pit of my stomach that something is wrong and, of course, it is...a life-long stability in my life-my parents and, especially, my Mum-is no longer there. So, for me, in my grief, there is 'no clear path' and, having to face proper adulthood for the first time, I do indeed need to forge my own. And, you chaps are so right, it is about your values and what you value. Family, friends, faith, integrity, important impactful work that changes lives for the better. Right now I'm in the centre of a whirlwind of grief but, eventually, I will come out the other side of that and be the man I can be; the man my parents raised me to be. Gentlemen, thank you for your honesty and your vulnerability. It's so, so impactful for us all in your community and, I think, especially for us men. Much love. x
What you guys are going through seems to be a worldwide phenomenon at this point in time. We are all looking inwardly and self examining. The world has been turned upside down since the pandemic. The future is positive and this is a great time to be alive. Best wishes.
Hey there mates. Coming to ya from North Carolina USA. In my 60’s and afraid I’ve seen my better days. But ran across you guys yesterday and the accent hit hard. In 2014, I went “home” to Scotland for the first time. Took 5 wks and traveled to my homeland. By myself, it was an amazing journey. Never felt so at home before. Went to the MacThomas reunion. Not many of us left. Haven’t put my kilt on since. I must drag it out. I couldn’t help but feel it in my bones. U guys are awesome. Not much of a health dude, you touched my heart to a way only Scottish Brogues will understand. Cheers mate! I’ll pour a little Ardbeg for ya.
Dear Kilted coaches, I have watched your video for quite some time. I love Scotland and watching them brings me the atmosphere and idea, I have, about this beautiful land and people. Unfortunately, I have no idea what your names are, but the important thing is that the past is in the past, and we cannot change it. LOVE, LIVE, LEARN n LAUGH are only possible in the present, because they are the best presents, in other words, gifts God gives us. Life is a sequence of challenges and decisions. There is no right or wrong. As you should not judge others, don't punish yourselves. Each decision takes you to a new path, where comes new challenges. We hurt people when we work hard to be ourselves. People hurt us by not accepting us the way we are but … Without LOVE, one cannot LIVE, while living one must LEARN, afterwards we LAUGH, due to the understanding of the fears we have overcome. Learn from every decision you both make. Improve yourselves from that learning, but above all LOVE your haters, because unluckily they cannot understand you, so they envy your happy selves. We must accept whatever comes to our lives as a challenge to make us better. I’m sure you've got lovely fair hearts. LOVE, LIVE, LEARN n LAUGH MAC from Brazil
A prayer by a great saint that I had printed on my ordination cards almost 50 years ago. “ what does it matter, Lord , if the future is dark? To pray now for tomorrow I am not able. Keep my heart only for today. Give me Your protection today. Grant me Your light just for today.” That little prayer has carried me through all my supposed goals, none of which ever worked out as planned. It enlightened a lot of very dark days, but now I know from experience that all will be well. Have no regrets. Everything is a lesson to be learned. Chuck
I am where you are, and the voice is brutal. The path ahead is fogged in. Thank you for your honesty about your own struggle to see the path ahead. It is good to not feel alone.
@@TheKiltedCoaches I guess no matter how much we stress over the future or wonder about the future, all we can ever do is decide where to place the next step. That is what a journey is, I guess. One step. Then the next step. Then the next.
Thanks for another heartfelt message, guys. I think most of us found ourselves nodding in agreement on many points you made here. I know I did. Virtual hug to you both!
Everyone has bumps in the road. Like you guys said, it's how you react and go forth from those bumps and bruises that life hands us. You are strong and sound Rab, you just need some time and you will regain the focus. Some sleep sounds at night might help. Silence can allow us to be too much in our heads at night time. One of your most endearing characteristics is that both of you are able to pick yourselves up, dust off and keep going. I believe in you and so do MANY others. Hugs to you both! :)
Hey guys. I went through very similar bumps and am a over thinker as well but things do get better what you need is time to reconnect and even don’t be afraid to ask for help. In my case it helped me a lot.
Rab, this breaks my heart. I've lived with depression for most of my life (now know it was a symptom of my undiagnosed ADHD). Please speak to your GP or get psychological support. You are doing all the right things, but it really helps to talk to a professional to work through it. Thanks for being honest about your mental health struggles, I wish you all the best.
"My heart knows what the future looks like, but I can't picture it." I know what that feels like, it's my life right now. Compassion with both of you. Thank you again for having the courage and love to share your vulnerability at a time when the world so desperately needs it.
Oh, do give over. Feeling bad about yourself? ABSURD - you are loved, I assure you. Few men are admired and loved as much as you two, around the world as well. Stay safe, be well, and enjoy life. Laughing often and much makes everything better.
Hang in there guys, especially you, Rab. We all make mistakes and have missteps and that little voice in our heads can be a real bastard sometimes. Many of my friends, and frankly myself, say they feel lost right now and are experiencing an undefined concern for their future. Fortunately you guys have your strong friendship! That's a big thing to have when the creeping sadness encroaches on life. Thanks again.
We, as humans, can majorly fuck up, but we aren't our mistakes. Make your apologies and forgive yourself so you can become a better man and continue living. We love you guys. Thanks for sharing and proving we can get through anything
So hard to react from thousands of miles away. You continue to touch my heartstrings you guys! I have made a boatload of mistakes in my 67 years acting from anger or trauma or hurt or fear. But you both have taught me that all I have is now. I can’t change the past but I can be here, fully present, right now, as authentically as I have the courage to be. You have now and your integrity. Listen to your own words and all the help and guidance you have given us. Hugs and much love to you both!
I really love the last 2 videos. I don't need more fitness information. The internet has more fitness "experts" than should be allowed. What I enjoy about you is hearing about your lives and struggles and how you overcome them. Also, the extraordinary beauty of Scotland and YOUR physical beauty make your videos truly unique and incredible enjoyable. I absolutely miss seeing your delicious bottoms at the end of your videos (which wouldn't be appropriate at the end of a heartfelt, emotional video. I know.). You could, however, sneak one in every once in a while. Like it or not, it is the reason I started watching your videos. It shows more than your bottoms. It shows your sense of humour and it answered the question you've been asked millions of times: "What do you wear under your kilts?" Don't forget to have fun. I absolutely love you guys.
This is refreshingly honest and strong. Authentic. I truly admire you guys. And Stephen, you are spot on. As always, very inspiring. Well done gentlemen!!!
Authenticity -- takes inner courage, not necessarily body strength. Thanks for both of your living exampleships with this! In addition to being a rainbow family member, there are so many other multi-dimensional levels of spiritual growth to manage in a male body...that continues to age (and that the reality of aging keeps bringing forward). Keep reaching for your inner Light and wisdom at the center of your heart. Self-forgiveness can't be stressed enough in your daily devotionals. 💜🏋️
Been there, tough couple of years, but transformative, too. I did a lot of work, with help and also on my own. I also was hell to be around for a while, but forgiven, too. With authenticity and courage you will find your way.
I can fully empathise with what you are both saying: I lost my Mother in 2014 after having been her full-time Carer for the last 18 months of her life (although I had cared for her a lot longer than that before she died); I felt as though I hadn't given her the care that she deserved during those last 18 months and, for several years afterwards, I believed that I was a bad person to the point that I couldn't remember my Mother's smile or laughter or the good times that we shared together. I still get emotional now, thinking about it - and yes, tears are flowing down my cheeks as I write this, but now I am able to remember her smiles and the laughter and the good times. Rab, those dark thoughts will fade over time and you will begin to see that you are not the bad person you currently believe yourself to be. 🤗 Stephen, my one purpose in Life was to make sure that my Mother was protected, safe and loved. After her fourth stroke, she became wheelchair-bound and we became as one; I completely lost my own identity as we were seen to be joined at the hip, we went everywhere together; when I was out and about without her, people who knew her asked after her and didn't ask if I was alright and at the time that really hurt. I wasn't at her bedside when she died, but I was at the hospital; I didn't realise it at the time but at the very second that my Mother died I lost my purpose in Life and found myself in this huge, dark void, not knowing if I was ever going to make it out. Not only was I having to learn to deal with losing my Mother, but I also had to find my own identity again and cope with the stress of having to look for a job; at one point, I was in such a state that I even considered suicide - thankfully, it remained only a consideration, but my point is this: when the future looks bleak and the road leads off in to the darkness, it takes only a little hope and courage to see you through the tough times; as night gives way to the dawn, so the dark void will open up to a brighter and better future. 🤗 Almost 9 years on and Life continues to barrage me with 💩, but I have learned to cope better with it because now I have my own identity, I have just got a new job (after having spent the last two years being gainfully unemployed), which I am enjoying and this has given me my new purpose in Life: to be me. Never stop being yourselves, no matter what 💩 life throws at you and thank you for your raw, honest emotion; we are all with you!
This really hits home for me! I have been struggling with my anxiety, feeling lost and wondering where my life is going! I’m a wee bit older than you guys, but still have a lot of living I want to do! I may have said it before, but life has not been easy the past few years with the pandemic and in my case, the unstable conditions currently happening here in the United States. Trying to make sense of things and find some balance is difficult at best! I’ll get there, we all will! Keep being who you are and know you are not alone in the struggle! Much love, big hugs and peace to you both!
In the wise wise words of miley cyrus (kidding on), everyone makes mistakes and everyone has those days. Stephen hit the nail on the head with his response to you Rab 👏
I’m into these new style videos. I think there’s a lot of young guys like me who appreciate yous talking about depressive feelings and finding your way in life.
Big Hug Rabb stick with it mate , depending on what your dealing with maybe see someone external from everything your doing to talk it through someone you don't know.
Rabb, you are a fine human being, no way are you a bad person. We all struggle when things don't seem to be going in the right direction. Too much thinking is our worst enemy. ❤❤❤❤
As life unfolds toward its end and you have a character about you, then you must acknowledge your mistakes, but you must forgive yourself and love yourself so that you can move to a better you ! Bless you both
It is not the things we mistakenly do wrong in life that define who we are, it is the way we seek to right wrongs and repair the damage that those decisions have made. Rab, you may be hurting now but do what you can to make good any issues that have arisen. I hope your journey back to full happiness is a short one. Let's see the Rab who'd not think anything about getting his arse out on YT.
The external world presents many challenges and setbacks, which can be the catalyst for spiritual pursuits (and I don't mean organized religion). It's a whole other world that helps put the sensory world into perspective and shifts the source of happiness to the internal from the external and eliminates the need for fear. It's not for everyone, but teachings like A Course In Miracles have much to offer.
If someone messed over you and apologized, you would forgive them. Time to forgive yourself. Also try vitamin B6 for depression and anxiety. Works for me. Stay strong. You two studs inspire and motivate us.
starting to piece together part of the full(er) picture, and man, i wish i could just be there to give you both a hug. love you guys. Rab, you ARE a good person, don't let those dark thoughts get to you. everyone makes mistakes... the sign of a good person is what they choose to do after they realize they've made a mistake. i fully believe you are doing what's right to help both you and those you love. be strong. just know we're out here thinking of you both and sending you strength and love from afar.
I just want to let you know that I love what you're doing. It takes a lot to show your true authentic self to the world. It means a lot too. Thank you.
Yet another great vid. Love you guys. I've decided to start doing things I enjoyed when I was a kid. I bought a mountain bike and a one man cot tent. I used to ride bike for hours and loved camping out even if it was just in the back yard. I'm still looking for the perfect weight loss plan. I work nights from 2pm - 10:30pm. And some days I even work a double shift and get home around 6:30am. I eat my main meal for breakfast, eat a 400 calorie meal at work. But the problem is when I get home. Most times I'm starving. I always start out eating something low cal, but then go back for seconds, or thirds. I can eat an entire bag of carrots and an hour later, raid the icebox again.
The American novelist John Irving once had a character who survived in life because he kept on "passing the open windows" every time he felt life had kicked him in the teeth. The feeling of failure is just an open window - the secret is just to keep walking past it, rather than stare at it and wonder about disasterous possibilities. I severely injured my spine about 20 years ago and discovering your work helped me learn techniques and exercises that mean I can move around these days. And I'm not the only person you'll hae helped just by existing - so you'll have a lot of psychic energy pulling for you at the moment.
You both experienced the rise and fall of what others have from social media. Many do not have someone they can turn to or who will turn to them and bring them back to reality. Don't know what you've both been through, off camera, but thank God you have each other and you're using what you've experienced to be "true to yourselves" and be able to regain it and hopefully maintain that. I've enjoyed the past videos and the laughs and silliness, " bear necessities"... Lol. I look forward to seeing what you'll do with this new vlog and wish you both the best and God bless your journeys. The first one made me cry too. Much love and prayers to you both from the USA.
Very sorry to hear what you both are going through. Life always throws curve balls at all of us to see how strong we become at the end of it. You have each other there to get through this. Wish you all the best of luck and hope you fine peace and happiness again very soon.
LAUGHTER can be a medicine for many ailments. Get as many doses as you can and know that there are people out here that are cheering you on to a long and happy life. And there are those that will hop a plane or swim an ocean or climb a mountain just to stand with you in any difficulty you face. 😁
@@TheKiltedCoaches Swim in the OCEAN?!! Are ya DAFT, MAN? Do you know what Sea Creatures DO in the Ocean?! They do EVERYTHING in the Ocean!!! ( And I do mean e v e r y t h I n g ). 😵💫 I’d gladly do it for you both but 🤕
When the voices come on, ask yourself, “whats’s your nest thought?”.. when a thought comes on, acknowledge it, give it love, let it go..and ask again, ‘ What’s the next thought? This will put all voices on pause and helps you center yourself. 🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️
never let your dreams die. I see your suffering as we journey on into our life as we age as become older it starts in your 30s and 40s and hits you the hardest in your 50s we look back at former dreams. always reinvent yourself. analyze your past but always make daily and long-term goals as to who you want to be or where you want to be in a 5-year period. but never get alone do not listen to the negative voice that keeps on bringing negative regrets but open a new voice that says I got this and make yourself comfortable and create another goal. never look back at regrets whether it's a drinking situation or a bad habit. do not judge yourself so hard . pick up and keep on going and find new dreams and goals you both are lucky to have such a close friendship. Male friendships and bonding like both men you have in a heterosexual life are what many straight males can not have. or won't allow themself to have. you have your children your wives and you have each other as such close brothers in your friendship. it's a dream American males do not have or harbor. pick up don't let the bad inner voice haunt you and make you not sleep you got this and grow stronger from whatever it is that has you dealing with life issues. always move forward make new goals make new dreams. you both are awesome guys. be at peace.
I am still on a different journey now just as you are but with the diabetes lads. It’s a learning curve and I’m getting there. Big shout out to you both and hope you are well. Enjoyed the vlog. 👍🏻 Beautiful scenery as always. On the overthinking side, I know what you mean.
A wonderful example of friendship 💕Old adage ... a problem shared is a problem halved 💕 ... so I feel this has been a healing exercise both for coaches and those who had the privilege to witness 😘🤗💕 If I may be so bold ... there’s both power and potential in ‘f*cking up’.... and let’s be honest who hasn’t ‘f*cked up’ ?!... it’s all good .... Here’s to f*cking up everyone!! 😂💕🤗
I watched both videos and ya' know, don't beat yourselves up over the past. As a 64 year old male,I was borderline anorexic due to the men in my family being over weight and my father dieing on his 3d heart attack(I was just 16). I chose a job in construction not only because I love it but I got paid for the exercise. I was 27 and saw a picture of myself and while I was a healthy 135 lbs I needed to put 10 lbs to look healthy. (I'm 5'9"). Anyway long story short 5 years ago I had to go on a medication which put 20 lbs on me to 165 lbs so I'm still at my healthy weight but I've learned to relax. I walk every day 4/5 miles a day now that I'm retired. We your viewers enjoy your bantering. It's nice to review your life but don't beat yourself up over it. Love ya all
Rab, please stop torturing yourself! I really feel your pain as I’ve been through a relationship breakdown and it is hard. We all make mistakes but, hopefully, we learn from them. There is light at the end of the tunnel and you will find it. I hope you’re having some counselling as this will help. It is fine talking to friends but professional, independent help is often more helpful. (I’m a counsellor and psychotherapist and would be more than happy to help you online if you wish.). Please remember ‘Every day in every way, things will get bette and better...’ Take care of yourselves. Judi
Rab I wake up every morning and then the reality hits me it's shite mate. Small steps and you will get there , that's what I tell myself. Get the impression that you are going through similar situation that I am.
I think most of us can relate to there being period where we are not proud of who we are, where we hurt others or hid the pain to not hurt others. They say that cowards die a 1000 deaths, but overanalyzers live thru their mistakes 1000s of times. I found counseling to be helpful. I hope you can find some peace.
Hi The Kilted Coaches guys, after seeing many of your videos I would like you to make more training videos, the things you say are very interesting, but I also like to see you exercising, very good job and very entertaining to see you with your kilts. Cheer up keep it up. Thanks.
Every failure is a learning curve to improving, i'm sure you have heard it. It will be your actions that will create the change and as long as you know you aretaking the steps to be that person, there is nothing more that you can do. You will fail at being your genuine self but you'll catch yourself immediately when you're going off the path. It becomes so clear you just stop...because you can't lie to yourself , that's when permanent chage occurs. You've reached that point in your life where you're calling yourself out. It becomes soooo freeing just being comfortable with owning it that it becomes the habit. That's what people will notice first. First and formost ask yourself if your playing the victim card? It's easy to blur that line and there is nothing worse you'just have to ask yourself.Use that voice in your head to check if your keeping up on the change you want to be. Seek outside couseling or mentoring to get back to setting your goals for your channel and do this together, it's easier for a third party to look at everything from the outside unemotional and unbias. Be open to ideas they can leed to greater ones. You'll be in the unknown and out of your comfort zone but that is exactly where you need to be to make sh*t happen. Sorry for the longgggg message. I'm there and have been in the same situation several times the struggle is real everytime but you learn that from this good thing come.💥❤😉
That "voice" inside your head; you can't out run it or out exercise it - it's 'with you' and it will wait until you stop and then it will start up again. A better course is to engage with it - have conversation with it and listen to it - allowing it to have it's say. THEN after you listen to it 'thank it' for it's contribution and assure it that you've heard what it was trying to tell you. Then let it know - tell it that you've 'got this' and you'll work through it. Reassure it that it doesn't need to attack you. A little time out and self-talk can go a long way. Also, it sounds as if the events you have experienced have been profound and earth moving - now might be the time to engage the services of a talking therapist - talking therapy is particularly beneficial and can be really helpful to help remove yourself from a negative cycle of self-hating. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU CAN DO - is treat yourself kindly. Maybe presently a part of yourself does not think your deserve self-kindness due to the 'event(s)' you have been participated in - well now is the time when you need to be really gentle with yourself. We all fuck up - sometimes, we can make amends for those fuck ups - other times, things cannot go back to the way they were; regardless you need to find a way to forgive yourself and trust that you will not repeat the same mistakes again. Give yourself a 'hug' and be gentle with yourself - you are a very worthy man; find your self-worth again.
@@TheKiltedCoaches you think so? there's 8 years of documented video evidence to measure to God's own character standards. after 8 years of business partnership and commitment, the results seem pretty clear to me. doing the journey right (according to Him), I think your growth is impressive and something to be proud of 🤜🤛
There is a fine art to being by yourself - you have to entertain your brain with learning new things in various fields. Try finding something else to do while you are working on your business. Hobbies are my salvation. Try losing yourself in making things. Developing a new social network takes time, sociologists say it takes about three years when you move to a new place. Except for work, stay away from social media - it isn't good for your mental health. "The best layer schemes o' Mice an' Men/Gang aft agley," is all too true. Relax, you will find a new and better path.
@@TheKiltedCoaches I hate to see people hurting. I have been there, where there seems to be no hope or vision for the future. All I can say is Stay Strong, stay together as your love for each other is so important right now, and remember that there are so many people who love you and are being helped by your honest sharing. Love and hugs.
I hope to see you guys continue your journey. No matter what happened. 🤗 Hug Hug. (I felt like internal crying too when our path gone seperate way with my bestie.) But hey keep in touch with each other. Okay. 👌
When you’re committed to living life, you will experience making mistakes, learn from them. Moods are usually short lived and is temporary. Don’t despair. When you are in a funk, email me. I’ll help you out of it!
I know the future its terrifying and tragic but much more its wonderful and exciting in expectation of life everlasting , because as a Christian I have the guidance of gods word and faith in God the father and Jesus Christ the messiah
Not in a public forum - but as you review your mistake/decision, you probably need to consider that much, if not all, of your “thinking“ beforehand was actually the result of being guided and targeted by someone else who ultimately wanted that outcome.
Showing your weakness is part of being a man. The shortest verse in the Bible is 'Jesus wept' following the death of his friend. Then look what happened...
Stephen is looking very lean... loss of leg thickness he had before too... Rob looks sad man.... whats going on with you guys? Still great looking men but something seems off....
Please don’t give shit what people think about In happening people live live like miserable than self And try to make other fells the same For me opening from someone it’s unqualified I don’t hear ate all I just ignore tan But I love your guys Make me I appreciate it more
I so the Oder video your guys talking about people, respond, one thing i know a lots off the then they’re in happy with the one live I have a lot does BS every day I give up I even can respond to this question any more I lost my best fiend jump from the Bridge a month from now It’s hard I’m love your guis make me fill enjoy more as I live But I don’t have a good friend to do together But I’m not give up
'When there's no clear path, forge your own.' WOW, gentlemen, that is really impactful. I lost my Mum last month and that's both my parents having died and these past few weeks I've had a knot in the pit of my stomach that something is wrong and, of course, it is...a life-long stability in my life-my parents and, especially, my Mum-is no longer there. So, for me, in my grief, there is 'no clear path' and, having to face proper adulthood for the first time, I do indeed need to forge my own. And, you chaps are so right, it is about your values and what you value. Family, friends, faith, integrity, important impactful work that changes lives for the better. Right now I'm in the centre of a whirlwind of grief but, eventually, I will come out the other side of that and be the man I can be; the man my parents raised me to be. Gentlemen, thank you for your honesty and your vulnerability. It's so, so impactful for us all in your community and, I think, especially for us men. Much love. x
We hope our honesty will inspire others to find the strength to find their smiles with us mathew
@@TheKiltedCoaches It sure will, guys. Thanks!
Prayers up for you. 🙏🏼
What you guys are going through seems to be a worldwide phenomenon at this point in time. We are all looking inwardly and self examining. The world has been turned upside down since the pandemic. The future is positive and this is a great time to be alive. Best wishes.
The future is indeed positive richard, we like that👍🏻
Hey there mates. Coming to ya from North Carolina USA. In my 60’s and afraid I’ve seen my better days. But ran across you guys yesterday and the accent hit hard. In 2014, I went “home” to Scotland for the first time. Took 5 wks and traveled to my homeland. By myself, it was an amazing journey. Never felt so at home before. Went to the MacThomas reunion. Not many of us left. Haven’t put my kilt on since. I must drag it out. I couldn’t help but feel it in my bones. U guys are awesome. Not much of a health dude, you touched my heart to a way only Scottish Brogues will understand. Cheers mate! I’ll pour a little Ardbeg for ya.
Definitely get your kilt back on😃👍🏻
Rab’s adorable self needs a big hug. So honest, so open. Sending you a big, healing bear hug.
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Dear Kilted coaches, I have watched your video for quite some time. I love Scotland and watching them brings me the atmosphere and idea, I have, about this beautiful land and people. Unfortunately, I have no idea what your names are, but the important thing is that the past is in the past, and we cannot change it. LOVE, LIVE, LEARN n LAUGH are only possible in the present, because they are the best presents, in other words, gifts God gives us. Life is a sequence of challenges and decisions. There is no right or wrong. As you should not judge others, don't punish yourselves. Each decision takes you to a new path, where comes new challenges. We hurt people when we work hard to be ourselves. People hurt us by not accepting us the way we are but … Without LOVE, one cannot LIVE, while living one must LEARN, afterwards we LAUGH, due to the understanding of the fears we have overcome. Learn from every decision you both make. Improve yourselves from that learning, but above all LOVE your haters, because unluckily they cannot understand you, so they envy your happy selves. We must accept whatever comes to our lives as a challenge to make us better. I’m sure you've got lovely fair hearts. LOVE, LIVE, LEARN n LAUGH MAC from Brazil
Love live and laugh😃👍🏻
A prayer by a great saint that I had printed on my ordination cards almost 50 years ago. “ what does it matter, Lord , if the future is dark? To pray now for tomorrow I am not able. Keep my heart only for today. Give me Your protection today. Grant me Your light just for today.” That little prayer has carried me through all my supposed goals, none of which ever worked out as planned. It enlightened a lot of very dark days, but now I know from experience that all will be well. Have no regrets. Everything is a lesson to be learned. Chuck
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Both of you are good people take care
Thank you Alan🙏
I am where you are, and the voice is brutal. The path ahead is fogged in. Thank you for your honesty about your own struggle to see the path ahead. It is good to not feel alone.
Its not, but we can soldier on and endure that voice knowing it will get quieter in time
@@TheKiltedCoaches I guess no matter how much we stress over the future or wonder about the future, all we can ever do is decide where to place the next step. That is what a journey is, I guess. One step. Then the next step. Then the next.
Thanks for another heartfelt message, guys. I think most of us found ourselves nodding in agreement on many points you made here. I know I did. Virtual hug to you both!
Thanks Talos x
Sorry to hear. Sending good vibes from Minnesota, USA
Thank you🙏
Everyone has bumps in the road. Like you guys said, it's how you react and go forth from those bumps and bruises that life hands us. You are strong and sound Rab, you just need some time and you will regain the focus. Some sleep sounds at night might help. Silence can allow us to be too much in our heads at night time. One of your most endearing characteristics is that both of you are able to pick yourselves up, dust off and keep going. I believe in you and so do MANY others. Hugs to you both! :)
Thanks joel, your words mean a lot
Hey guys. I went through very similar bumps and am a over thinker as well but things do get better what you need is time to reconnect and even don’t be afraid to ask for help. In my case it helped me a lot.
Rab, this breaks my heart. I've lived with depression for most of my life (now know it was a symptom of my undiagnosed ADHD). Please speak to your GP or get psychological support. You are doing all the right things, but it really helps to talk to a professional to work through it.
Thanks for being honest about your mental health struggles, I wish you all the best.
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"My heart knows what the future looks like, but I can't picture it." I know what that feels like, it's my life right now. Compassion with both of you. Thank you again for having the courage and love to share your vulnerability at a time when the world so desperately needs it.
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Oh, do give over. Feeling bad about yourself? ABSURD - you are loved, I assure you.
Few men are admired and loved as much as you two, around the world as well.
Stay safe, be well, and enjoy life. Laughing often and much makes everything better.
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Hang in there guys, especially you, Rab. We all make mistakes and have missteps and that little voice in our heads can be a real bastard sometimes. Many of my friends, and frankly myself, say they feel lost right now and are experiencing an undefined concern for their future. Fortunately you guys have your strong friendship! That's a big thing to have when the creeping sadness encroaches on life. Thanks again.
Thank you dario
We, as humans, can majorly fuck up, but we aren't our mistakes. Make your apologies and forgive yourself so you can become a better man and continue living. We love you guys. Thanks for sharing and proving we can get through anything
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So hard to react from thousands of miles away. You continue to touch my heartstrings you guys! I have made a boatload of mistakes in my 67 years acting from anger or trauma or hurt or fear. But you both have taught me that all I have is now. I can’t change the past but I can be here, fully present, right now, as authentically as I have the courage to be. You have now and your integrity. Listen to your own words and all the help and guidance you have given us. Hugs and much love to you both!
Thank you kathleen x
I really love the last 2 videos. I don't need more fitness information. The internet has more fitness "experts" than should be allowed. What I enjoy about you is hearing about your lives and struggles and how you overcome them. Also, the extraordinary beauty of Scotland and YOUR physical beauty make your videos truly unique and incredible enjoyable. I absolutely miss seeing your delicious bottoms at the end of your videos (which wouldn't be appropriate at the end of a heartfelt, emotional video. I know.). You could, however, sneak one in every once in a while. Like it or not, it is the reason I started watching your videos. It shows more than your bottoms. It shows your sense of humour and it answered the question you've been asked millions of times: "What do you wear under your kilts?" Don't forget to have fun. I absolutely love you guys.
Thank you, next vlog out this friday
This is refreshingly honest and strong. Authentic. I truly admire you guys. And Stephen, you are spot on. As always, very inspiring. Well done gentlemen!!!
Thank you michael
Authenticity -- takes inner courage, not necessarily body strength. Thanks for both of your living exampleships with this! In addition to being a rainbow family member, there are so many other multi-dimensional levels of spiritual growth to manage in a male body...that continues to age (and that the reality of aging keeps bringing forward). Keep reaching for your inner Light and wisdom at the center of your heart. Self-forgiveness can't be stressed enough in your daily devotionals. 💜🏋️
Absolutely- authenticity takes courage
You both are good people and the TH-cam community knows it
We hope so
There is nothing I can say that these thoughtful and caring commenters haven't already said. You are amazing men. A great deal of love to both of you.
Thansk Rob
Been there, tough couple of years, but transformative, too. I did a lot of work, with help and also on my own. I also was hell to be around for a while, but forgiven, too. With authenticity and courage you will find your way.
Thanks angus
I can fully empathise with what you are both saying: I lost my Mother in 2014 after having been her full-time Carer for the last 18 months of her life (although I had cared for her a lot longer than that before she died); I felt as though I hadn't given her the care that she deserved during those last 18 months and, for several years afterwards, I believed that I was a bad person to the point that I couldn't remember my Mother's smile or laughter or the good times that we shared together. I still get emotional now, thinking about it - and yes, tears are flowing down my cheeks as I write this, but now I am able to remember her smiles and the laughter and the good times. Rab, those dark thoughts will fade over time and you will begin to see that you are not the bad person you currently believe yourself to be. 🤗
Stephen, my one purpose in Life was to make sure that my Mother was protected, safe and loved. After her fourth stroke, she became wheelchair-bound and we became as one; I completely lost my own identity as we were seen to be joined at the hip, we went everywhere together; when I was out and about without her, people who knew her asked after her and didn't ask if I was alright and at the time that really hurt. I wasn't at her bedside when she died, but I was at the hospital; I didn't realise it at the time but at the very second that my Mother died I lost my purpose in Life and found myself in this huge, dark void, not knowing if I was ever going to make it out. Not only was I having to learn to deal with losing my Mother, but I also had to find my own identity again and cope with the stress of having to look for a job; at one point, I was in such a state that I even considered suicide - thankfully, it remained only a consideration, but my point is this: when the future looks bleak and the road leads off in to the darkness, it takes only a little hope and courage to see you through the tough times; as night gives way to the dawn, so the dark void will open up to a brighter and better future. 🤗
Almost 9 years on and Life continues to barrage me with 💩, but I have learned to cope better with it because now I have my own identity, I have just got a new job (after having spent the last two years being gainfully unemployed), which I am enjoying and this has given me my new purpose in Life: to be me.
Never stop being yourselves, no matter what 💩 life throws at you and thank you for your raw, honest emotion; we are all with you!
Thank you
Thank you guys… ❤️
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This really hits home for me! I have been struggling with my anxiety, feeling lost and wondering where my life is going! I’m a wee bit older than you guys, but still have a lot of living I want to do! I may have said it before, but life has not been easy the past few years with the pandemic and in my case, the unstable conditions currently happening here in the United States. Trying to make sense of things and find some balance is difficult at best! I’ll get there, we all will! Keep being who you are and know you are not alone in the struggle! Much love, big hugs and peace to you both!
Thanks peggy, we hope you find you way alongside us x
In the wise wise words of miley cyrus (kidding on), everyone makes mistakes and everyone has those days. Stephen hit the nail on the head with his response to you Rab 👏
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lovely environment great for walks
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I’m into these new style videos. I think there’s a lot of young guys like me who appreciate yous talking about depressive feelings and finding your way in life.
As long as it helps👍🏻
Big Hug Rabb stick with it mate , depending on what your dealing with maybe see someone external from everything your doing to talk it through someone you don't know.
Thanks graham🙏 much appreciated
Thanks for being real and transparent, it really did speak to my heart. Forgiveness is powerful and most powerful when you can forgive yourself.
Absolutely Scott, glad it could help
Rabb, you are a fine human being, no way are you a bad person. We all struggle when things don't seem to be going in the right direction. Too much thinking is our worst enemy. ❤❤❤❤
Thank you mike
As life unfolds toward its end and you have a character about you, then you must acknowledge your mistakes, but you must forgive yourself and love yourself so that you can move to a better you ! Bless you both
Always allan, recognise errors and do your best to correct them
It is not the things we mistakenly do wrong in life that define who we are, it is the way we seek to right wrongs and repair the damage that those decisions have made. Rab, you may be hurting now but do what you can to make good any issues that have arisen. I hope your journey back to full happiness is a short one. Let's see the Rab who'd not think anything about getting his arse out on YT.
Been a long time since we saw him🙄
The external world presents many challenges and setbacks, which can be the catalyst for spiritual pursuits (and I don't mean organized religion). It's a whole other world that helps put the sensory world into perspective and shifts the source of happiness to the internal from the external and eliminates the need for fear. It's not for everyone, but teachings like A Course In Miracles have much to offer.
Certainly worth looking into 🙏👍🏻
If someone messed over you and apologized, you would forgive them. Time to forgive yourself. Also try vitamin B6 for depression and anxiety. Works for me. Stay strong. You two studs inspire and motivate us.
Thanks Thomas 🙏
starting to piece together part of the full(er) picture, and man, i wish i could just be there to give you both a hug. love you guys. Rab, you ARE a good person, don't let those dark thoughts get to you. everyone makes mistakes... the sign of a good person is what they choose to do after they realize they've made a mistake. i fully believe you are doing what's right to help both you and those you love. be strong. just know we're out here thinking of you both and sending you strength and love from afar.
Thanks as always frank x
Virtual hugs and love to both of you
Thanks annie x
I just want to let you know that I love what you're doing. It takes a lot to show your true authentic self to the world. It means a lot too. Thank you.
Thank you christa for all the support over the years- means a lot
You guys are awesome. Be good to each other and love life!💪
Yet another great vid. Love you guys. I've decided to start doing things I enjoyed when I was a kid. I bought a mountain bike and a one man cot tent. I used to ride bike for hours and loved camping out even if it was just in the back yard. I'm still looking for the perfect weight loss plan. I work nights from 2pm - 10:30pm. And some days I even work a double shift and get home around 6:30am. I eat my main meal for breakfast, eat a 400 calorie meal at work. But the problem is when I get home. Most times I'm starving. I always start out eating something low cal, but then go back for seconds, or thirds. I can eat an entire bag of carrots and an hour later, raid the icebox again.
Why not come check out our membership again robert? Www.thekiltedcoaches.com
You trust us enough to show us inside you ... reality.
Just keeping it real
Your message today definitely resonates. Thank you both for being you. Keep shining your light. Love and hugs💓😊
Thanks Cheryl, we hope you are keeping well x
The American novelist John Irving once had a character who survived in life because he kept on "passing the open windows" every time he felt life had kicked him in the teeth.
The feeling of failure is just an open window - the secret is just to keep walking past it, rather than stare at it and wonder about disasterous possibilities.
I severely injured my spine about 20 years ago and discovering your work helped me learn techniques and exercises that mean I can move around these days.
And I'm not the only person you'll hae helped just by existing - so you'll have a lot of psychic energy pulling for you at the moment.
Interesting concept, passing open windows, will def look into that
Good things ,M' Lads ⭐⭐
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Next episode should be out friday
You both experienced the rise and fall of what others have from social media. Many do not have someone they can turn to or who will turn to them and bring them back to reality. Don't know what you've both been through, off camera, but thank God you have each other and you're using what you've experienced to be "true to yourselves" and be able to regain it and hopefully maintain that. I've enjoyed the past videos and the laughs and silliness, " bear necessities"... Lol. I look forward to seeing what you'll do with this new vlog and wish you both the best and God bless your journeys. The first one made me cry too. Much love and prayers to you both from the USA.
Thanks Kirk
I forgot to say thank you... horrible of me... Thank you both.
Very sorry to hear what you both are going through. Life always throws curve balls at all of us to see how strong we become at the end of it. You have each other there to get through this. Wish you all the best of luck and hope you fine peace and happiness again very soon.
Thanks Bill, what does not kill us will only make us stronger hey😃👍🏻
@@TheKiltedCoaches That is very true my friends. sending you both big hugs and lots of love from Edmonton Canada
LAUGHTER can be a medicine for many ailments. Get as many doses as you can and know that there are people out here that are cheering you on to a long and happy life. And there are those that will hop a plane or swim an ocean or climb a mountain just to stand with you in any difficulty you face. 😁
Might hold you to that ocean swim😂😜
@@TheKiltedCoaches Swim in the OCEAN?!! Are ya DAFT, MAN? Do you know what Sea Creatures DO in the Ocean?! They do EVERYTHING in the Ocean!!! ( And I do mean e v e r y t h I n g ). 😵💫 I’d gladly do it for you both but 🤕
Hi Guys, sending love ❤️ from New York.
Sending hugs to new york
When the voices come on, ask yourself, “whats’s your nest thought?”.. when a thought comes on, acknowledge it, give it love, let it go..and ask again, ‘
What’s the next thought? This will put all voices on pause and helps you center yourself. 🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️
Shall try that👍🏻
never let your dreams die. I see your suffering as we journey on into our life as we age as become older it starts in your 30s and 40s and hits you the hardest in your 50s we look back at former dreams. always reinvent yourself. analyze your past but always make daily and long-term goals as to who you want to be or where you want to be in a 5-year period. but never get alone do not listen to the negative voice that keeps on bringing negative regrets but open a new voice that says I got this and make yourself comfortable and create another goal. never look back at regrets whether it's a drinking situation or a bad habit. do not judge yourself so hard . pick up and keep on going and find new dreams and goals you both are lucky to have such a close friendship. Male friendships and bonding like both men you have in a heterosexual life are what many straight males can not have. or won't allow themself to have. you have your children your wives and you have each other as such close brothers in your friendship. it's a dream American males do not have or harbor. pick up don't let the bad inner voice haunt you and make you not sleep you got this and grow stronger from whatever it is that has you dealing with life issues. always move forward make new goals make new dreams. you both are awesome guys. be at peace.
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Rabs got to allow himself some room for forgiveness.. even if he feels it’s unworthy.
It’ll just take time👍🏻
I’ll agreed with move on away negative, be positive way to love your soul and goals toward daily every minutes and hour to future…..
Thanks james
Thank you! I am grateful for your sharing. It is inspiring. Words I need to hear.
I am still on a different journey now just as you are but with the diabetes lads.
It’s a learning curve and I’m getting there.
Big shout out to you both and hope you are well.
Enjoyed the vlog. 👍🏻
Beautiful scenery as always.
On the overthinking side, I know what you mean.
Stay strong and move on, we all make mistakes, I know that 🙄❤️
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U learn from them, sometimes the hard way but it makes u stronger, unfortunately it can hurt other people ❤️
A wonderful example of friendship 💕Old adage ... a problem shared is a problem halved 💕 ... so I feel this has been a healing exercise both for coaches and those who had the privilege to witness 😘🤗💕
If I may be so bold ... there’s both power and potential in ‘f*cking up’.... and let’s be honest who hasn’t ‘f*cked up’ ?!... it’s all good .... Here’s to f*cking up everyone!! 😂💕🤗
Thanks beebee.. and yes a problem shared is absolutely halved
I watched both videos and ya' know, don't beat yourselves up over the past. As a 64 year old male,I was borderline anorexic due to the men in my family being over weight and my father dieing on his 3d heart attack(I was just 16). I chose a job in construction not only because I love it but I got paid for the exercise. I was 27 and saw a picture of myself and while I was a healthy 135 lbs I needed to put 10 lbs to look healthy. (I'm 5'9"). Anyway long story short 5 years ago I had to go on a medication which put 20 lbs on me to 165 lbs so I'm still at my healthy weight but I've learned to relax. I walk every day 4/5 miles a day now that I'm retired. We your viewers enjoy your bantering. It's nice to review your life but don't beat yourself up over it. Love ya all
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Rab, please stop torturing yourself! I really feel your pain as I’ve been through a relationship breakdown and it is hard. We all make mistakes but, hopefully, we learn from them. There is light at the end of the tunnel and you will find it. I hope you’re having some counselling as this will help. It is fine talking to friends but professional, independent help is often more helpful. (I’m a counsellor and psychotherapist and would be more than happy to help you online if you wish.). Please remember ‘Every day in every way, things will get bette and better...’ Take care of yourselves. Judi
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Do some fun stuff its fun watching you guys at this pandemic times we need fun
We will bring back the fun we promise
@@TheKiltedCoaches relax and just have fun 😊 🇵🇭 🍻
Rab I wake up every morning and then the reality hits me it's shite mate. Small steps and you will get there , that's what I tell myself. Get the impression that you are going through similar situation that I am.
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Rab, may I suggest that you write a Gratitude List? Make a list of the things you are grateful for.
He has done that👍🏻
I think most of us can relate to there being period where we are not proud of who we are, where we hurt others or hid the pain to not hurt others. They say that cowards die a 1000 deaths, but overanalyzers live thru their mistakes 1000s of times. I found counseling to be helpful. I hope you can find some peace.
I like that cowrds/over analysers quote😃👍🏻
@@TheKiltedCoaches the 2nd half (about over analyzers) 100% Judith.
Try not to be too hard on yourself Rab.
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The Kilted Coaches guys, after seeing many of your videos I would like you to make more training videos, the things you say are very interesting, but I also like to see you exercising, very good job and very entertaining to see you with your kilts. Cheer up keep it up. Thanks.
We used to make a lot of training vids back in the day, we can include more training in the vlogs no problem though
@@TheKiltedCoaches Thanks guys really I like your style of training, advice, explanations, good work friends.
Every failure is a learning curve to improving, i'm sure you have heard it. It will be your actions that will create the change and as long as you know you aretaking the steps to be that person, there is nothing more that you can do. You will fail at being your genuine self but you'll catch yourself immediately when you're going off the path. It becomes so clear you just stop...because you can't lie to yourself , that's when permanent chage occurs. You've reached that point in your life where you're calling yourself out. It becomes soooo freeing just being comfortable with owning it that it becomes the habit. That's what people will notice first. First and formost ask yourself if your playing the victim card? It's easy to blur that line and there is nothing worse you'just have to ask yourself.Use that voice in your head to check if your keeping up on the change you want to be. Seek outside couseling or mentoring to get back to setting your goals for your channel and do this together, it's easier for a third party to look at everything from the outside unemotional and unbias. Be open to ideas they can leed to greater ones. You'll be in the unknown and out of your comfort zone but that is exactly where you need to be to make sh*t happen. Sorry for the longgggg message. I'm there and have been in the same situation several times the struggle is real everytime but you learn that from this good thing come.💥❤😉
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That "voice" inside your head; you can't out run it or out exercise it - it's 'with you' and it will wait until you stop and then it will start up again.
A better course is to engage with it - have conversation with it and listen to it - allowing it to have it's say. THEN after you listen to it 'thank it' for it's contribution and assure it that you've heard what it was trying to tell you. Then let it know - tell it that you've 'got this' and you'll work through it. Reassure it that it doesn't need to attack you. A little time out and self-talk can go a long way.
Also, it sounds as if the events you have experienced have been profound and earth moving - now might be the time to engage the services of a talking therapist - talking therapy is particularly beneficial and can be really helpful to help remove yourself from a negative cycle of self-hating.
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU CAN DO - is treat yourself kindly.
Maybe presently a part of yourself does not think your deserve self-kindness due to the 'event(s)' you have been participated in - well now is the time when you need to be really gentle with yourself. We all fuck up - sometimes, we can make amends for those fuck ups - other times, things cannot go back to the way they were; regardless you need to find a way to forgive yourself and trust that you will not repeat the same mistakes again.
Give yourself a 'hug' and be gentle with yourself - you are a very worthy man; find your self-worth again.
Thank you john
Art moves your focus as well...time changes...
Time absolutely changes
bromance breaking up? separating portfolios? it happens guys. thanks for the 8 great years ❤️
I think you’ve misread this series entirely 🙄
@@TheKiltedCoaches you think so? there's 8 years of documented video evidence to measure to God's own character standards. after 8 years of business partnership and commitment, the results seem pretty clear to me. doing the journey right (according to Him), I think your growth is impressive and something to be proud of 🤜🤛
No i meant we arent separating the business🙄
There is a fine art to being by yourself - you have to entertain your brain with learning new things in various fields.
Try finding something else to do while you are working on your business. Hobbies are my salvation. Try losing yourself in making things.
Developing a new social network takes time, sociologists say it takes about three years when you move to a new place.
Except for work, stay away from social media - it isn't good for your mental health.
"The best layer schemes o' Mice an' Men/Gang aft agley," is all too true. Relax, you will find a new and better path.
We will find a new and better path indeed👍🏻
❤ ...tears... what can we do to help from afar?
Just keep doing what youre doing by showing your support, sharing, commenting really x
@@TheKiltedCoaches I hate to see people hurting. I have been there, where there seems to be no hope or vision for the future. All I can say is Stay Strong, stay together as your love for each other is so important right now, and remember that there are so many people who love you and are being helped by your honest sharing. Love and hugs.
Really appreciate this john
Be well
Thank you
Are you fine gentlemen going to be okay this winter? I'm reading dire warnings about fuel shortages.
We hope so. Extra thick jumpers when the cold hits
Those kilts might be a little drafty
I hope to see you guys continue your journey. No matter what happened. 🤗 Hug Hug.
(I felt like internal crying too when our path gone seperate way with my bestie.)
But hey keep in touch with each other. Okay. 👌
Absolutely
The waterfall looks familiar...take your kilts off and stand in front of it...♥
😂 you first
When you’re committed to living life, you will experience making mistakes, learn from them. Moods are usually short lived and is temporary. Don’t despair. When you are in a funk, email me. I’ll help you out of it!
Cheers len
I know the future its terrifying and tragic but much more its wonderful and exciting in expectation of life everlasting , because as a Christian I have the guidance of gods word and faith in God the father and Jesus Christ the messiah
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Since we don’t get to communicate in private, I will say this very succinctly.
1) Rab, you were targeted.
2) Stephen, it’s called faith.
And don’t you lads ever forget, I love you.
Targeted? How do you mean?
Not in a public forum - but as you review your mistake/decision, you probably need to consider that much, if not all, of your “thinking“ beforehand was actually the result of being guided and targeted by someone else who ultimately wanted that outcome.
Always brush ur teeth Coach no matter ur time. :)
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#TEAMJOCKANDBAWBAG! Sending reiki. : )
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Random question. Are you guys 6'4?
6ft & 5ft 10
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HllOOw frKyiv UA!!! Awsme!!!
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Showing your weakness is part of being a man. The shortest verse in the Bible is 'Jesus wept' following the death of his friend. Then look what happened...
Very true
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Stephen is looking very lean... loss of leg thickness he had before too... Rob looks sad man.... whats going on with you guys? Still great looking men but something seems off....
We are going through some tough times terry, but things will get better👍🏻
@@TheKiltedCoaches Anything I can do to help i will... email ya if so .. .serious
to many commercials. lost interest waiting 7 minutes. sorry!
Did you not just hit skip after 5 secs?
I wanna to move to Scotland
Do it
Please don’t give shit what people think about
In happening people live live like miserable than self
And try to make other fells the same
For me opening from someone it’s unqualified I don’t hear ate all I just ignore tan
But I love your guys
Make me I appreciate it more
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I so the Oder video your guys talking about people, respond, one thing i know a lots off the then they’re in happy with the one live
I have a lot does BS every day
I give up
I even can respond to this question any more
I lost my best fiend jump from the Bridge a month from now
It’s hard
I’m love your guis make me fill enjoy more as I live
But I don’t have a good friend to do together
But I’m not give up
Never give up